The can stacking says, "autism". The hilarious banter says,"comedian". The compassion and empathy with which you do this very needful work says, "good human". ❤
My aunt retired and just moved in with me, 45 years of stuff she brought with her. She is a Hoarder, but now I'm helping her to get rid of things. Pray for me!
I am apparently a stage 3 hoarder. Depression, PTSD, low self esteem, anxiety, suicidal ideation, all that fun stuff.. And watching these videos has done SO much for me in looking at how I hold onto stuff. I never understood that gut feeling of fear and dread whenever my mum wanted me to throw things away. But now I do, and I can look at that feeling and tell it to f*ck off. This is my life, my home, and I'm not going to let myself get worse.
Does a hoarder actually know how much stuff they have? Or is the hoarding in the acquisition of things". Once in the house if the item.is not used what purpose does it serve?
@@trishf2184 Tricky to answer as not everyone who hoards is the same. It depends what stage they are at too. But in my personal experience, most people who hoard are aware on some level that they are unable to part with things to the extent that it adversely impacts their lives, but most have complex defence mechanisms in place around that awareness. It's unusual to see someone entering therapy until they are ready to explore what underpins their relationship with their stuff. The purpose the items serve is about the *feeling* it creates (or prevents) for the person. There are often themes of loss, grief, deprivation, control and externalised self worth. Hoarding disorder takes many years to build and many years to dismantle. I just have so SO much admiration for anyone willing to face down the pain of hoarding disorder.
I concur. I also tell people that don’t understand that THINGS will never leave you, they will never talk back or degrade you. At some point, it becomes a lot about protecting yourself from the outside world, even family. They aren’t able to understand that these things are literally trash, or can kill you. Sometimes they refuse to believe that they have a rat/mouse, or bug infestation. He explains in some episodes that the frontal lobes that control emotion and major decision making would not light up on an mri the same way as a normal brain. He says that throwing out trash feels more like you’re throwing away a pet or a family member.
I remember back 40 years ago when my Dad and Brother went into my storage unit and threw away what they 'thought' I didn't need and it was just basic household stuff, most of or which I had previous to getting married 2 years before. Then 21 years later my Dad went out to the back barn where I had things stored and ordered a dumpster and started loading it up with my property. I'll never forget the phone call I received on my way home one night, when he said that I might want to stop by the dumpster and see if there was anything in it that I wanted to keep. I wasn't a hoarder then, both of those times (20 years apart) I had recently moved and just had my things stored in boxes. But something happened in the years since, and now I could probably be defined as one now. And the hardest thing I can do is bring myself to throw away something. I was never like that before, but I guess the helpless feeling of losing my things over and over to someone who took it upon themselves to play God, did that to me. I'm glad you understand that someone throwing your things away is traumatic. It still haunts me almost 40 years later.
@TheMinimalistTherapist Thank you for that explanation and insight. We all deal with trauma differently. As a person struggling with trauma myself, your explanation seems spot on. Thank you.
The analogy of the drowning and getting them out of the water FIRST, then giving a towel was a brilliant analogy ! Especially for peeps who think they need to do ALL of it.
Agree. I am suffering from depression for almost 4 years now and still remains undiagnosed and unmedicated. When I heard that analogy in this channel, I cried. I realized I need to clean my space too.
I also heard about just doing a part of something. For instance when I have a lot of washing dishes, I just soak a bunch and clean that. That way the second part is already smaller to start with. That way i can do the seemingly humongous task in a couple doable tasks. Still better to have done something in three days instead of being frozen and not doing it for a week. Worked wonders for me!
@@1dertitajazmin I hired a once every two weeks cleaning. And it has been a year and a half and I am never going back. I hope you are doing well. Ask for help people really do want to help you
My mom was an orphan who lived on a cookie and milk she bought at school for a nickel and starved on the weekends until social services finally stepped in. That kind of experience really changes your relationship to food. This lady has my sympathy and encouragement!
I have an uncle who had a similar raising in an orphanage and has shown food hoarding tendencies over the years, but he mostly has severe OCD. Learning about their past is definitely a paradigm shift.
I know a fortyish Ukrainian woman who hoards food like nobody's business. If you've ever read about the Ukrainian Holomodor you'll know why. She had family that went through it.
My grandparents who were teenagers and young adults during the Great Depression didn't hoard food, but my grandparents who were children then did. Not in a disorderly way, but their pantry was always at maximum capacity.
Eating disorders do it too! I tend to hoard food often as a result of it. I didn't even realize I was doing it until someone pointed it out. Its crazy how any type of starvation will completely alter your outlook on food.
I didn't grow up an orphan, but my mom was single, and we were poor, and to this day, even though I am fairly well off now, I still have to watch myself with food hoarding tendencies. My fridge and pantry are usually stuffed "just in case." Luckily I am able to keep it to just the fridge and pantry, but I have to be very careful not to let it ever get out of hand.I'm also a neat freak partly because of my mom's hoarding, so that helps. I do think a lot of people who grew up poor are probably this way, like your mother.
Yep. Shame free zone. Remember, the affluent have the unspoken (passive aggressive) advantage of huge homes, huge basements, huge garages, forest slaying You-Store-its, large fenced yards with sheds, and even multiple properties. And even they end up with this issue!
I wish people get help before they get to this point. But that's not realistic, usually people just let it go. One day we might get mental health problems care as people with diabetes. I don't see anyone ashamed to tell others they are diabetic. Never mind, that some times or many times it is our fault. Diet make us diabetic. Mental health not, you are born like that and trauma triggers the problem. I am not sure how many people are born with diabetes, maybe 20%? It is about time to us not to be ashamed of having mental illness. Temporary or not.
Even without therapy- the homeowner taking the step to admit she needs help and seek out therapy as well as allowing you into her home to begin the cleaning process is HUGE!!!
Yes! I’m so impressed that she has already dealt with any pest infestations-definitely a challenge in this kind of situation, but a great step towards making her home more livable.
For the new fridge fund…couldn’t figure out how to round up to 50 on my iPad! You are an incredible guy and love the compassion you show when helping those who need it.
My grandmother used to take her bacon grease to the food pantry to donate. I’ve always imagined the poor volunteers there not being able to tell her that they couldn’t take it, so they just would just smile, take the jars, then dispose of them after they left.
I have been helping a hoarder for the last few years. I can tell the exact year their hoarding started by the date on papers, and it is when their parent threw out their entire childhood home, and retired in another country. Everything was gone and they felt like their parent had thrown them (my friend) in the trash too. And because of the trauma of that, they responded by starting to hoard everything. I totally understand not wanting to feel such heartbreak again, 💔😢when though the hoarding is of course a misguided way to avoid that pain. Their home is becoming more and more usable/livable and nice to stay in. They do have a tendency to bring in new stuff, but they are cutting down on it.
How compassionately you talked about this woman and her working to overcome hoarding behaviors actually made me feel a little weepy. She has a lot of people rooting for her now, I'm sure. You've spin kicked me right in the feels. Edit to add: I was shocked at how much you are spending on supplies, so yeah, now I'm I'm a member so I can help out in a small way.
I love Ur understanding + compassion in serving her needs. No judgment ever + U make sure we the overall picture. Anyone with hoarding issues listening to this vlog would be blessed. Thx . Besides, I'm on team Jason + that shirt 2 days in a row was offensive!
God bless you for showing such compassion and empathy for this lady. Our world needs more people like you. You make me stop and think about how I react to some of this at first glance. I want to thank you for that.
This is basically what I wish 'hoarders' the tv show was: Meaningfully supporting someone as they make a transition in their life and helping them with the hard parts OVER TIME. You are so respectful of the people you clean for AND their items, Ole Glove Putting On Johnny ❤
That hoarders show gets me mad. Before they start they say the person is going to be respected and dont throw anything away until the person says okay to throw it out. They do the opposite.
I hate those shows where the crew shows up determined to throw 99% away. I hate when they don't understand that things have meaning. When they force the hoarders past their breaking points!!
@@willworkforyarn4893 i agree, like when the person says multiple times they want to keep something and they say why they want ro keep it. The expert help keeps on and on trying to make them throw it away or donate. They spend to much time almost bullying. They need to listen and just move on cleaning.its annoying.or when someone says oh that was already broken. They break stuff and lie. The person that owns it says No it was not broken. I always believe them.
To the owner- unresolved trauma is a beast. It takes away will and focus. At times it takes away perception of your own reality. I remember waking up one fine April morning and thinking "Hey! I should prolly take the Christmas tree down." It's existence just didn't register with me.
I remember being shocked an overnight guest saw the massive doom pile in the foot and a half of space between the left side of my bed and the wall when I didn’t even give up my usual spot in the right side. To me it was invisible.
You and the other cleaning channels on youtube are not only helping the people whose houses you clean, but also the viewers. Ever since I discovered these types of videos I've learned a lot, it inspires me to clean. I used to ALWAYS have a sink full of dishes and junk laying around my kitchen, and now I make it point to always wash dishes daily. It's a slow process but I am getting my house cleaner every day! Thank you!
@@DerrickMims actually I believe it was the FlyLady who began that idea to 'Shine Your Sink' . I am down-sizing now ( I'm also dealing w/depression; recovering from spine surgery) Yesterday I cleaned about 80% of my kitchen & when I woke up today it made me feel SO great to see my clear counters & my empty Shiny Sink, that even before making coffee I got out my mop & mopped the entire kitchen ( yay ! big win for me! 🥳 so just seeing & feeling a small area decluttered really motivates & spurs you on to do MORE !
Does it help you at all to want to purge the stuff when he explains? He is amazing isn’t he?! I do hope it’s helping you. I love you say you want to own the mess. But are you wanting it to change ?
Thank you for your encouragement and for asking after my progress. Absolutely. I've been working at it at my own pace, but progress really is being made, not only in the purging and cleaning, but also in the habits necessary to keeping it up.
We've just started our journey to reclaiming our house. Over 20 man hours on the kitchen alone. It's so exhausting and embarrassing. :( Here's hope to your journey and mine. I've found some things easier to get done because I do it "his way" instead of trying to do it my own. "The way I've always done it" isn't working and hasn't been for years.
You have got to be one of the kindest human beings on the planet. So sweet of you to even consider replacing her refrigerator to assist her in recovering from this horrible disorder she has. You’re amazing and such a blessing to so many.
Thank you for sharing this video because I have depression and my home is usually embarrassing dirty. I’m embarrassed to have guests. I have had guest over but I can’t spontaneously invite people over. I need 48 hours minimum notice to tackle all the rooms to be guest ready. I’m in therapy, I been going for about 4 months haven’t missed a session and watching your videos along with my therapy has been helping me find the motivation to clean. I’m starting to have a cleaning routine and my house is starting too stay cleaner and cleaner. Soon I’ll be able to invite guest or have guest pop up whenever and not be ashamed of my dirty house because it will be clean, sanitary and presentable.
I have depression, a serious problem. I am medicated, not doing therapy right now. But I never live in a duty unkempt house. Please, find help for your problem. It is not only depression. My depression doesn't overcome my OCD. I pray you find psychological help. You can live much better life and don't be embarrassed or ashamed. Be well, and fight to get help, even if you get government insurance. I have no right for help, but I know most Americans qualify for. God bless you!
I’m a hoarder getting therapy now. I consider these videos as part of my therapy and education. I’ve begun this month to tackle one closet at a time. You are adding to my motivation. Thank you for creating this channel. I’m sad to see the cases and cases of soda pop the lady has built up. Why, because it expires and tastes flat. I have a close friend who buys cases and cases when they are on sale. She serves us flat pop several times a year when we visit. I don’t belittle her for doing this - she’s slowly curbing her over shopping. God Bless the channel, lady and viewers.
90% of the reasons I watch these videos (other than giving myself a break from cleaning) is for the narrating and the background cleaning sounds. Please don’t take those away lol
Before my mom had to go to a nursing home, her house was like this. I would go once a week to clean it for her, but it was a neverending battle. There would always be pills all over her floor just like this lady. Thank you for helping people and being so understanding and non-judgemental. I hope this lady is able to find some relief with therapy.
Same with me and my mom. Anything that fell on the floor just stayed there until I did my weekly. Food, pills, soiled, clothing etc. I always had to take a deep breath before I entered and bite my tongue so I didn’t lecture. As someone who is a neat freak, it wasn’t easy.
Yes, that's exactly how her house was. I have to agree, it was very, very hard to keep quiet because I'm also a neat freak, in part because I grew up with her being this way, but I just had to remind myself that it wasn't her fault. It is hard to deal with.
Does pills on the floor mean needed meds are not being taken? Or do they just fall & the person leaves them and takes a replacement amount from the bottle?
@@tonyabrookes9931 Most of the time my mom just ignored what she dropped and took another dose from the bottle. Then when she ran out before it could be refilled she was mystified by it.
I’m proud to report that I’ve started cleaning my home with enthusiasm and technique, thanks to your videos. ❤ You’re dope! Thank you for all that you do.
❤ I cleaned my kitchen dishes re-watching this!!! They're done, and the counters are wiped down. It didn't take a long time, and now when I get up tomorrow, I'll be able to breathe freely knowing that I'm making coffee in a tidy space. Yay!!!!!❤
My new house rule (I live alone) is empty sinks before I go up to bed. Two weeks in and I’ve been accountable to myself. I’m determined to make slow and only positive change.
Came for the cleaning satisfaction, stayed for the hilarious banter, teared up for the little message to the owner in the middle. You really do such good work, and the empathy and compassion you show to the people you help… you sir are a gift. Bravo.
As a Cleaning Business Owner I have done many of these houses. Once I did one that took 8 days (8-10 hours a day). After the cleaning she was so Happy 😀 I then went out monthly to keep the house clean ❤
Wow, I knew you spent some money on cleaning supplies, but I never imagined you might spend upwards of $400 for dumpsters, extra products etc, all to help someone out. You're a gem!
Working on trying harder to get away from the hoarding of food, clothes and household items. It’s hard but I’m slowly getting there doing this without professional help. Your talks about hoarding have really helped me more than you know. Every video I’m able to take away a message that makes me spin kick this out of the park. Thanks 🙏🏽
You've got this! In the words of my fiancé "tiny progress is still progress. If you're working on something and you don't think the work you put in is noticeable, give it time and you'll start to see how far you've come. You're not improving for anyone but you, so don't look for validation in anyone who doesn't acknowledge your fight or thinks your pace isn't good enough. Everyone has a different journey." ❤
Just keep going, any progress is great. You’ll get better at it and that way you might need to work hard for not “falling back” in to your hoarding tendencies, but you will feel better!
Thank you for not using a shovel! Shows made for tv were extremely harsh on the hoarders. I remember one woman saying she felt like she had been "mugged" at the end of the episode. Some of my Mom's relatives would have tremendous anger whenever you tried to throw something out. Kudos to the gal who is facing the trauma and beginning to work through it and yes, it will take time but will be so worth it. God Bless!
the shows I have a feeling they do this for the drama. Hoarding disorder does not magically disappear in 3 days. I wonder how many of these hoarders were *worse* after the show.
yes, even some people being more understanding can be harsh on them (I know a Frenhc guy on youtube using a shovel but... still being careful about paper and thing. Also, what he cleans is worst that the video we see here, since often the floor is filled with poop. but about the big mdia shows... whe they force them to throw things, like "but it is useless" being like "I think there is only one good way to think and I will "help" you forcing you to do my way" it breaks my heart. Because even if I am not with that disorder, I kneq loss, depression, how I need my stuffs as "bubble" to make my home mine, a safe place, and how I feel really bad if someone disturbs that. If someone would do that to me, I would be in very high anxiety I think, needing time to make my home "mine" again, and for these people I guess this means more hoarding to compensate, as he explains so well in an other video.
To be fair, a lot of the people on the shows are in situations where they’re facing eviction or severe living conditions and need a quick radical change. They say they offer therapy after the show is over, but a lot of people still refuse the help. I think most of the people on the show aren’t ready for the help, but are forced into it by their living situation.
@@biffm.2806them having their hands forced is part of it, for sure. But the traumatizing nature of their initial "therapy" would absolutely put people off of future therapy, too
I have been doing volunteer work with seniors since March to assist them to stay in their homes. A recent female I was assigned to her home is almost exactly same as what you are handling right down to the entire sink full of black water from weeks of silverware sitting in sink. I spent 6 hours first day just to get dishes, countertop and floor to some sort of cleanliness level. I was overwhelmed for first two hours then zoned out and kept going. I am determined to return to pick away sections by section to make her home livable, not perfect but perfect for her. I thank you for your videos , kind work to those in need in your area but especially this one as I have watched a few times to pick up any suggestions, methods and get inspiration to continue.
Watching and listening reminds me of something I tell my students. College math teacher here, and I often get asked, "How am I ever going to use this?" I tell them math teaches life skills like 1.make a plan and follow through. 2. Pay attention to detail. 3. Use previous knowledge in a new context, 4. Organize logically. Etc...
That little message you said to the owner of the house - "If you're watching this, don't be ashamed, etc." - broke my cold, dead heart once again and I teared up, as that was super sweet! Yet again, it just shows how much of an angel you're, not by how you treat everyone you help with kindness, but also by doing the work you do *gestures wildly at the amazing house transformations* Also, I can't believe that Jason was extra filth and left you all alone to work on this! *shakes fist at filthy Jason in my best Grandpa Simpson impression*
I love the analogy of throwing a person a towel when they are drowning vs pulling a person out of the water. That is so accurate! I’m excited for the homeowner! Therapy is so awesome, and being able to address trauma while slowly getting your home into a place that is comforting is so wonderful!
Your compassion for the home owner is true kindness. And we see it every time you go into a hoarder home. Yes, get her out of the water, and hopefully the towel will be from therapy.
I can hardly believe what you accomplished in 12 hours, AND without getting rid of anything that wasn’t obvious trash. You are such a blessing to these folks and I’m sending her so many well-wishes on her healing journey. ❤
I just want to thank you for making these videos. I am a 25 year old woman on the spectrum who’s special interest is also cleaning, my dad passed away last November at 52. He was so funny like you. He was my best friend, and the best grandpa ever. Your videos help me so much
Billy. Bob. Baddass. The determination and resolve you show in not becoming overwhelmed is impressive. Guts and experience, no doubt, are a big part of that. Still, remaining calm and cool in the midst of a swirling cauldron of chaos up to your hips is a SERIOUS talent. You have, again, earned my respect and admiration. Carry on. Son.
I don't usually comment on videos, but you have helped give me more explanation on why my grandfather does what he does. There are so many similarites between these homes and ours (when not in college, i live with my grandparents). My grandfather has recieved so much genuine hatred and judgement from some of our family because of the way our house is, which isn't fair. He's a vet and you've explained all of these tendencies in a way that sounds super familiar and understandable. From a stressed college kid, thank you for what you do :) you're unbelievably kind and understanding, being extremely respectful to those of whom these homes belong to.
@@annoravetz5908 well, lucky for me, break is coming up very soon! By next week, actually. And I'd love to do that with him, as I believe that talking through the items will be a lot more helpful than just tossing them, like so many family members would want to do. Thanks for your advice :)
Twenty years ago, I cleaned homes for elderly, disabled, and one was a hoarder house whose wife had passed away. Now that I'm in my sixty's and semi disabled myself, I enjoy your videos and the sound of your voice 😂! The hoarder house was the worst, I found rat droppings and the skeleton of a dead rat. I had never met the wife before she passed, but I can relate. It's an illness that someone needs therapy for. I also have a grandchild who is mildly autistic. He clovers his ears at noises. Keep the videos coming, I love watching 😊.
I love your sense of humor!! Also, I love how you compared her being embarrassed about her mental health to embarrassed about the flu. That is so accurate, but I’ve never heard anyone put it that way. Love watching your videos!
Almost all of our dirt and clutter is an outer reflection of our inner turmoil and mental health challenges. Love your mission and your humorous take on life.
You have such a fabulous way of explaining not only what your purpose is but the struggle with which your clients are dealing. Really love your videos.
What I like about your channel is that most of your videos do not have music. I like the simplicity. I would rather have those "messed up sounds" than music. I often associate music to past memories so sometimes I need to be careful which channels I watch. This is my favorite cleaning channel.
Like someone said on comment on an other video, I also listen to what you say and find it interesting, I love the way you approach it, considering the human, respecting the person, like really, not like "well they are disabled so lets decide for them we know better" or looking down at them, but really understanding and respecting them as full human, as yourself, not as "worth less because disabled". Thank you !
Hi again Mr. Neck. Decided to shampoo my couch and rugs today. I did what you suggested, took a break and continued. This actually was something my father used to do. Work on a project, stop, have a beer and so on. He also would say, “gotta have a clear work field before you start”. Very true and helpful.Thanks Mr. Neck for reminding me of my Dad😊
Your kindness and empathy touch me so much. What a good man you are. When I see someone like you, willing to give your time and energy to someone who needs it, it melts my heart
Same! It brought tears to my eyes when he talked about how brave she us and how proud he is of her. What a kind generous and understanding human, in this era of selfishness and meanness… this is just the attitude we need. Be kind to each other.. ❤
I don’t consider myself a hoarder, but after watching a few of your videos, I feels like a hoarder. Food, gardening supplies, tools. I would say my hoarding is a level two or three. I gotta let it go. But I have gotten my dishes under control. I have a service for two since I live alone.
My parents home is extremely cluttered, I didn't know what to do or how to start attacking it... this video REALLY gave me some insight into exactly how to clean a super crowded home. Thank you so much!
@kyahholmes444 what an educational video in both the illness and the compassion it takes to manage it. Was grandma's home always like this? What are your thoughts about this process❤
When it comes to food, covid pushed many of us into food, toilet paper, and disinfectant hoarding. For folks who already had the tendency it just multiplied! I am sure she will feel much better when she sees what she has done. People don’t realize what they could afford if they quit shopping such as repairs, cleaning services, paint, flooring. Besides therapy, which will have to be ongoing, she needs prayers.
I've been cleaning for 30+ years and every house has WAY too much stuff in it! I was born in the Midwest but moved to Hawaii almost 40 years ago. Love to see how other people clean and that it's not all that different from cleaning here. You are a saint for doing these free cleanings for people! I know how hard it is to deal with that much clutter, not fun, but so satisfying to make things a little better for the people living there. Good job!
I’m so glad I found this channel. You are doing such great work for people that really need the kindness and understanding without any judgement. It also makes me go through my house every other week and get rid of stuff I don’t need. I go through one room every other week. That includes returns, checking pantry for expired stuff, paperwork, etc, I needed that inspiration. You can get overwhelmed so easily. Thank you. Much support. ❤️👏🏻✌️
To need help and seek it is the beginning of healing. Once you have a cluter free house your mind will feel so free and clutter free. God bless you dear lady and a good man doing God's love for humanity.
Respect for you & the way you help this homeowner. Respect for the homeowner for seeking help. Respect for Mr. Clean for acknowledging your awesomeness! Congratulations on your success! Hope there's a future follow up video to show the progress this person is making.
I've become obsessed with Mr. Clean Clean Freak because of his channel. Annnnnnnnnd, his APC too but I couldn't remember his recipe so I had to look up one and make my own. I have to say, I just spent the last few days last week removing things out of our 2-car, fenced in, covered driveway to get rid of things. I TRULY understand what he's doing because I'm doing it myself at home. Massive clutter but a different kind of clutter because I've dealt with it for years. Our clutter is what I call a somewhat organized clutter in totes. Since I'd done this from Mar. 2018-September 2018 to do: our bedroom closet, our 2 car, fenced in, covered patio, our 'back building' that's at least 500sq feet, plus our teeny 800sq ft house-teeny kitchen, dining room, bathroom, our bedroom, hallway, living room & laundryroom. I then made a promise to myself to do my papers. 7 file cabinet drawers FILLED to the rim of papers, finished it ALL in 3 weeks, downsized it to 5 4" binders. Tossed SO many papers! Then tackled my email that was horrendous-main email out of 4 emails had over 83k emails. 43k emails alone in the inbox of just that ONE email and at least 40k emails in the junk/spam folder. I did all the decluttering in 2018 (Mar-Nov. 2nd 2018-including having AND setting up HUGE yard sale. What didn't sell, I gave to this couple. What they didn't take went to the curb.) Then took a couple months off, in Jan. 2019, did the paper work, finished in 3 weeks. Then did the emails. I did 99.999% of this all by myself. The ONLY thing that 'needed' to be finished was my beloved craft room. 2019-2023 threw huge wrenches my way. Loss of family, friends, depression, etc. Got the patio redone with better shelving for things I'm still wanting to get through from main 'big' declutter in 2018. However, after helping so many others throughout the years, we didn't help ourselves. So things got recluttered. In just this past week last week, I re-decluttered our patio-by myself. Omgosh, seriously, I give this guy props MCM. Seriously because *I* know they crazy amount of work it takes and our house is small. So for just doing our house (redoing it all over again due to helping others for so, so many years), I KNOW how hard it is to do all of this. Many prayers to you, many props to you because you're an Angel to people that surely need it. Stay so, so, sooooooo blessed!!!!!!!!! Seriously, I'm so obsessed with watching your videos. You're such a blessing to so many!!!!! Wish I could pick your brain for small craft room ideas!!!!! (that's the LAST room I need to get done!) We will be taking a LOT to some places to donate more to. I can't wait to clear it out of the way! Thank you AGAIN for all you do for others like this because there needs to be much more folks like you with such compassion!
I feel most sad seeing the hospice bed, cartons of Marlboros and all the medications. I hope more than just the hoarding, she can get her physical health in check. Overcoming a smoking addiction can be difficult but lifesaving. It's great of you to help her get started on her journey.
While I am not a hoarder, I do have too much stuff. I have decided to organize one little area at a time ... one or two small areas a day (so as not to get overwhelmed)which has been very successful. Still have the closet which is haunting me. Your sense of humor is fantastic and watching your videos gives me great ideas as well as inspiration. I am so glad I found your channel.
The little puzzlething - the story of my life right now.... I used to be a carpet cleaner and did an awful lot of cleaning. Still getting the buzz from the before and after. Until my mother passed away lasat year I was her caretaker for the three years prior. Its just now after 16 months I am starting to be able to clear and clean the house - tiny bit by tiny bit. Thank you for your channel!!!
Thank-you for helping this lady and if this lady is reading these comments, well done for taking the first step - I am so proud of you! You are in safe hands with this fella. He will help you every step and of the way! And we are all rooting for you! Can't wait for next week!!!❤
Just found your amazing channel. I’m in awe. I love how you combine the hardship with the humor. You crack me up and then you say something profound. You have a gift. We’re retired now and I’m lucky enough to have cleaning girls twice a month. But now I’m wanting to get rid of a bunch of stuff I don’t need or use anymore. Watching your videos makes me want to clean out a closet and get rid of a lot of stuff. I say I don’t want to leave this junk for my kids to get rid of. So glad I found you. You’re a treasure. ❤
I so understand that lady!! How many things I have purchased to ‘organize’ and store my stuff that never got used because when you try, for some reason you just can’t. There are tons of HOPE attached to everything she brings into the house. Thank you for the support and help you provide. Great video!! I wish I was 6’4”, lol! Love y’all ❤🐾
This was amazing, I laughed so hard on some parts of the narration and it helped me a lot cause I was having a bad week. Your work is so meaningful. Thank you for doing this all.
I can’t help but wonder how many people take your comments towards your children in a bad light not realizing, it’s actually a show of affection and love you make me laugh every time ,and I love the work you do
The thing I love most about you is your honesty. It's not in the new American way of just land blasting someone out of nowhere and shaming them. I LOVE YOUR HONESTY IN THE FACT THAT YOU CAN DO THIS AND IT WONT, "STICK" FOR SOME PEOPLE! You might be tinkerbelles ass kicking cousin, but you speak the ugly truth....sometimes, ONLY SOMETIMES people won't change. And you accept that and do just what you did and just carry on. BECAUSE THE NEXT ONE WILL RISE UP LIKE AN EPIC BATTLE FROM HELL AND BE THE ULTIMATE IN BLINDING APC GLORY!!🎉🎉🎉
You sir have a true gift! Your patience and the judgment-free help you offer is a true gift you give to others. Every person has struggles and talents or gifts, and you choose to share your talents with very vulnerable/traumatized humans. God Bless you for what you do and how kind and gentle you are towards those vulnerable people. 👏🕊❤️
Sue Wolfe- It's wonderful that you see that there is a "cause" for why people struggle with hoarding and don't judge. I agree that they will rebuy things because they can't find what they originally bought. I saw this first hand when my sister and I cleaned out my mother's house and filled a black trash bag with knee-high hose! It was so sad! It's a symptom of a bigger problem. Keep up the great work and dedication in helping others!
When my mom went into a nursing home for dementia, she thought everyone was stealing her reading glasses. She would buy a new pair every week when I came to take her to breakfast and go shopping. After she passed, the nursing staff collected up all the readers hidden around her room to keep them from being stolen.....
You are amazing for doing this! I can't even imagine. I can't even imagine going into a house like this, for free, and washing 4000 plus flatware. I hate dishes. It's the 'right' thing, but it would be too much for me.
I love what you said to the home owner we all need help at some point in our lives. I would also say that allowing you to film the process can help someone else out there to have the courage to reach out and get help, or like me I clean along with you so it’s a win win win 😃
crying right now... my house is sort of cluttered like this, but I am too ashamed to get help or so, plus I think I caused it myself so I have to resolve it myself, but I don't know where to start! Scared when I hear the doorbell, I don't want anyone to come inside (and I don't let anyone!) Please keep up the good work, and credits to the woman who searched help!
So am I. - I could be your twin here in Canada! Yes we are too damned independent. And too stubborn to ask for help because we feel so responsible for our situation. I buy organizing supplies and cleaning supplies and they add to the clutter, while I sit here watching cleaning videos! No one has been inside my place in over five years….
Give yourself some grace and do as he does while cleaning, tackle one area at a time it doesn't all have to be done in one day and take mini breaks. And I find watching his shows I put it on pause and get up and tackle one thing then watch some more pause the video and go do something else. He gives such good advice on cleaning. My biggest challenges are a love seat that becomes the parking station for everything that comes in the house and my kitchen table tonight while watching this I tackled the love seat and have almost everything put away where it should be and the 2 empty boxes that were sitting on it have been taken out to the recycle can. Blessings to you, you can do this. Anna In Ohio
What a good person you are, and so compassionate about the reasons behind hoarding. Since the AC was going and the house was so hot, the filter should be checked. It's probably clogged with dust and ash and the unit is struggling.
I've been putting these on while I clean. We have a large family, and collect clutter. Kids not throwing trash away and actively saving it is a problem. When watching other videos on the Stages of hoarding, the kids all placed the house between a 2 and three (with some rooms being worse). I know my mental health has played a large roll in it's condition and then my husband had an accident that left me his sole carer during months of recovery and that made things worse. I've been working on my kitchen for two days and it's almost clean. Over 20 man hours to get it to where it is and it's just one room. It's exhausting and embarrassing, Thank you for the compassion you have for people like me. I know I have hoarding tendencies and habits from a lifetime of abuse and poverty. I'm a work in progress.
Been cleaning and decluttering and made me some cleaning fluid. I labelled it MMC APC. 😂😍 I love the humor in your voice overs. It always motivates me to enjoy cleaning and get more done. Thanks, Can Stacking Johnny!!😂😂
You are doing God’s work and I appreciate you. You need to put a PO Box in your description do we can mail donations directly to you for these kinds of situations. You will be a good steward of any donations I’m sure. Thank you, you spin kicking filthy guy! ❤️🙏
I love watching your videos - Hoarders without all the drama-with the added benefit of your quirky sense of humor that makes me chuckle. Kudos to you for being able to do this regardless of your autism. That's got to be challenging at times.
So very satisfying! I spend 3 days redoing closets in my house...i feel 20lbs lighter. My OCD is screaming to do more but my back is SHOT! Love watching you!
She couldn't have found a better person to handle this for her. You are better known as compassionate thoughtful Johnny! Wishing her all the best in getting to the other side of this illness. Great work here! See you next time, God bless you.
I kept wanting you to reach behind you and start that grandfather clock. Just give the pendulum a push! But you're rescuing a drowning homeowner, not setting her clocks. Bless you for what you do and reminding those of us living with this disorder in a family member that it IS a disorder (a broken leg or the flu) and not willful messiness.
The can stacking says, "autism". The hilarious banter says,"comedian". The compassion and empathy with which you do this very needful work says, "good human". ❤
oh, he is autistic ? is that an autistic things to like to clean like that ? (I do that to, it calms me down when I am stressed)
@@mimosal3767 yes, he's mentioned in some of his other videos he's on the AS. ☺️
Yep, he was around 40 when he was actually diagnosed.
Can stacking isn’t really solely an autistic trait. In this instance, it’s organizing.
I’ll bet his nickname in high school was “Can Stacking Johnny.” Just how he rolls, son.
My aunt retired and just moved in with me, 45 years of stuff she brought with her. She is a Hoarder, but now I'm helping her to get rid of things. Pray for me!
It will be hard, and you will get yelled at probably, but she’ll feel better if it’s done right.
Sending you prayers and positive energy to have great patience with your Aunt❤️
Bleach will get the stains out of the counters.
Just said a Hail Mary for this special intention.
You can do it. We are with you!!!!
I am apparently a stage 3 hoarder. Depression, PTSD, low self esteem, anxiety, suicidal ideation, all that fun stuff.. And watching these videos has done SO much for me in looking at how I hold onto stuff.
I never understood that gut feeling of fear and dread whenever my mum wanted me to throw things away. But now I do, and I can look at that feeling and tell it to f*ck off. This is my life, my home, and I'm not going to let myself get worse.
Oh dear, I hope you find medical care for your trauma. Fight, but get help!
You are so strong. Yes, swear at those dreaded thoughts that get you off track. Whatever it takes.
Bravo!! Sounds like you've taken that first dreaded step! Kudos!!
Well done!! 🎉 A bunch of people are with you in this! 💪💪 We're cheering for u!! ❤
I'm a therapist. THANKYOU for understanding and explaining that disposing of items without the home owners consent deepens the trauma. ❤
Does a hoarder actually know how much stuff they have? Or is the hoarding in the acquisition of things". Once in the house if the item.is not used what purpose does it serve?
@@trishf2184 Tricky to answer as not everyone who hoards is the same. It depends what stage they are at too. But in my personal experience, most people who hoard are aware on some level that they are unable to part with things to the extent that it adversely impacts their lives, but most have complex defence mechanisms in place around that awareness. It's unusual to see someone entering therapy until they are ready to explore what underpins their relationship with their stuff. The purpose the items serve is about the *feeling* it creates (or prevents) for the person. There are often themes of loss, grief, deprivation, control and externalised self worth. Hoarding disorder takes many years to build and many years to dismantle.
I just have so SO much admiration for anyone willing to face down the pain of hoarding disorder.
I concur. I also tell people that don’t understand that THINGS will never leave you, they will never talk back or degrade you. At some point, it becomes a lot about protecting yourself from the outside world, even family. They aren’t able to understand that these things are literally trash, or can kill you. Sometimes they refuse to believe that they have a rat/mouse, or bug infestation. He explains in some episodes that the frontal lobes that control emotion and major decision making would not light up on an mri the same way as a normal brain. He says that throwing out trash feels more like you’re throwing away a pet or a family member.
I remember back 40 years ago when my Dad and Brother went into my storage unit and threw away what they 'thought' I didn't need and it was just basic household stuff, most of or which I had previous to getting married 2 years before. Then 21 years later my Dad went out to the back barn where I had things stored and ordered a dumpster and started loading it up with my property. I'll never forget the phone call I received on my way home one night, when he said that I might want to stop by the dumpster and see if there was anything in it that I wanted to keep.
I wasn't a hoarder then, both of those times (20 years apart) I had recently moved and just had my things stored in boxes. But something happened in the years since, and now I could probably be defined as one now. And the hardest thing I can do is bring myself to throw away something. I was never like that before, but I guess the helpless feeling of losing my things over and over to someone who took it upon themselves to play God, did that to me. I'm glad you understand that someone throwing your things away is traumatic. It still haunts me almost 40 years later.
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Thank you for that explanation and insight. We all deal with trauma differently. As a person struggling with trauma myself, your explanation seems spot on. Thank you.
The analogy of the drowning and getting them out of the water FIRST, then giving a towel was a brilliant analogy ! Especially for peeps who think they need to do ALL of it.
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Agree. I am suffering from depression for almost 4 years now and still remains undiagnosed and unmedicated. When I heard that analogy in this channel, I cried. I realized I need to clean my space too.
I also heard about just doing a part of something. For instance when I have a lot of washing dishes, I just soak a bunch and clean that. That way the second part is already smaller to start with. That way i can do the seemingly humongous task in a couple doable tasks. Still better to have done something in three days instead of being frozen and not doing it for a week. Worked wonders for me!
Yes very good image. And then after you save them from drowning and then Get them dry and then teach them to swim.
@@1dertitajazmin I hired a once every two weeks cleaning. And it has been a year and a half and I am never going back. I hope you are doing well. Ask for help people really do want to help you
My mom was an orphan who lived on a cookie and milk she bought at school for a nickel and starved on the weekends until social services finally stepped in. That kind of experience really changes your relationship to food. This lady has my sympathy and encouragement!
I have an uncle who had a similar raising in an orphanage and has shown food hoarding tendencies over the years, but he mostly has severe OCD. Learning about their past is definitely a paradigm shift.
I know a fortyish Ukrainian woman who hoards food like nobody's business. If you've ever read about the Ukrainian Holomodor you'll know why. She had family that went through it.
My grandparents who were teenagers and young adults during the Great Depression didn't hoard food, but my grandparents who were children then did. Not in a disorderly way, but their pantry was always at maximum capacity.
Eating disorders do it too! I tend to hoard food often as a result of it. I didn't even realize I was doing it until someone pointed it out. Its crazy how any type of starvation will completely alter your outlook on food.
I didn't grow up an orphan, but my mom was single, and we were poor, and to this day, even though I am fairly well off now, I still have to watch myself with food hoarding tendencies. My fridge and pantry are usually stuffed "just in case." Luckily I am able to keep it to just the fridge and pantry, but I have to be very careful not to let it ever get out of hand.I'm also a neat freak partly because of my mom's hoarding, so that helps. I do think a lot of people who grew up poor are probably this way, like your mother.
Dear Lady whose house this is, like Johnny Putting on Gloves said, don't feel embarrassed. You should feel proud you're getting help! That is so brave
Absolutely brave and admirable. So many of us never face our trauma. Rescuing yourself is hard.
Yep. Shame free zone. Remember, the affluent have the unspoken (passive aggressive) advantage of huge homes, huge basements, huge garages, forest slaying You-Store-its, large fenced yards with sheds, and even multiple properties. And even they end up with this issue!
I wish people get help before they get to this point. But that's not realistic, usually people just let it go. One day we might get mental health problems care as people with diabetes. I don't see anyone ashamed to tell others they are diabetic. Never mind, that some times or many times it is our fault. Diet make us diabetic. Mental health not, you are born like that and trauma triggers the problem. I am not sure how many people are born with diabetes, maybe 20%? It is about time to us not to be ashamed of having mental illness. Temporary or not.
I love how empathetic you are in explaining the hoarding. No judgement, no criticism-just compassion. Thank you
Even without therapy- the homeowner taking the step to admit she needs help and seek out therapy as well as allowing you into her home to begin the cleaning process is HUGE!!!
This is my grandmas home. Thank you for the kind words. It means the world to her!
Life and learning is all about one step at a time and having the bravery to take the first.
Absolutely!!! ❤
Yes! I’m so impressed that she has already dealt with any pest infestations-definitely a challenge in this kind of situation, but a great step towards making her home more livable.
For the new fridge fund…couldn’t figure out how to round up to 50 on my iPad! You are an incredible guy and love the compassion you show when helping those who need it.
Thank you SO MUCH!!! ❤️❤️❤️
You are very kind and generous.🇬🇧
Thanks so much for doing this!!
Walking the walk...very kind!
Something iambs, throwing a towel, pose them into shore Well, then grabbing onto you and pulling you under the water
My grandmother used to take her bacon grease to the food pantry to donate. I’ve always imagined the poor volunteers there not being able to tell her that they couldn’t take it, so they just would just smile, take the jars, then dispose of them after they left.
I have been helping a hoarder for the last few years. I can tell the exact year their hoarding started by the date on papers, and it is when their parent threw out their entire childhood home, and retired in another country. Everything was gone and they felt like their parent had thrown them (my friend) in the trash too.
And because of the trauma of that, they responded by starting to hoard everything.
I totally understand not wanting to feel such heartbreak again, 💔😢when though the hoarding is of course a misguided way to avoid that pain.
Their home is becoming more and more usable/livable and nice to stay in.
They do have a tendency to bring in new stuff, but they are cutting down on it.
I can totally understand that emotional damage too. Nothing like having your life/identity vanquished.
How compassionately you talked about this woman and her working to overcome hoarding behaviors actually made me feel a little weepy. She has a lot of people rooting for her now, I'm sure. You've spin kicked me right in the feels. Edit to add: I was shocked at how much you are spending on supplies, so yeah, now I'm I'm a member so I can help out in a small way.
I love Ur understanding + compassion in serving her needs. No judgment ever + U make sure we the overall picture. Anyone with hoarding issues listening to this vlog would be blessed. Thx . Besides, I'm on team Jason + that shirt 2 days in a row was offensive!
God bless you for showing such compassion and empathy for this lady. Our world needs more people like you. You make me stop and think about how I react to some of this at first glance. I want to thank you for that.
Yay! Another victim, um, er, member!!! 😉
Flat footed flip and spin kick!😂
God bless you for showing support for the channel ❤❤
This is basically what I wish 'hoarders' the tv show was: Meaningfully supporting someone as they make a transition in their life and helping them with the hard parts OVER TIME.
You are so respectful of the people you clean for AND their items, Ole Glove Putting On Johnny ❤
That hoarders show gets me mad. Before they start they say the person is going to be respected and dont throw anything away until the person says okay to throw it out. They do the opposite.
@@melissabyrd1310 I've read that while the therapists are legitimately trying to help, the producers are actively trying to create issues and drama.
I hate those shows where the crew shows up determined to throw 99% away. I hate when they don't understand that things have meaning. When they force the hoarders past their breaking points!!
@@casbrin9373 probably true!
@@willworkforyarn4893 i agree, like when the person says multiple times they want to keep something and they say why they want ro keep it. The expert help keeps on and on trying to make them throw it away or donate. They spend to much time almost bullying. They need to listen and just move on cleaning.its annoying.or when someone says oh that was already broken. They break stuff and lie. The person that owns it says No it was not broken. I always believe them.
To the owner- unresolved trauma is a beast. It takes away will and focus. At times it takes away perception of your own reality. I remember waking up one fine April morning and thinking "Hey! I should prolly take the Christmas tree down." It's existence just didn't register with me.
Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️
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I must take it down today 🎄😇🙏🏽
I remember being shocked an overnight guest saw the massive doom pile in the foot and a half of space between the left side of my bed and the wall when I didn’t even give up my usual spot in the right side. To me it was invisible.
You and the other cleaning channels on youtube are not only helping the people whose houses you clean, but also the viewers. Ever since I discovered these types of videos I've learned a lot, it inspires me to clean. I used to ALWAYS have a sink full of dishes and junk laying around my kitchen, and now I make it point to always wash dishes daily. It's a slow process but I am getting my house cleaner every day! Thank you!
Was it Clutterbug Cas who said to make it a goal not to go to bed with a full sink? Such a simple tip but life-improving for me. 😊
@@DerrickMims actually I believe it was the FlyLady who began that idea to 'Shine Your Sink' . I am down-sizing now ( I'm also dealing w/depression; recovering from spine surgery) Yesterday I cleaned about 80% of my kitchen & when I woke up today it made me feel SO great to see my clear counters & my empty Shiny Sink, that even before making coffee I got out my mop & mopped the entire kitchen ( yay ! big win for me! 🥳 so just seeing & feeling a small area decluttered really motivates & spurs you on to do MORE !
I think you are right about the source. 😃 Great job on making a little change that changes the tone of the morning!@@wordgirl6267
As a hoarder, myself, who is trying to take ownership of her own mess, I very much appreciate your explaining your process.
When I saw her "portal to heaven", I was reminded there is hope for her and for me.
Does it help you at all to want to purge the stuff when he explains? He is amazing isn’t he?! I do hope it’s helping you. I love you say you want to own the mess. But are you wanting it to change ?
Thank you for your encouragement and for asking after my progress. Absolutely. I've been working at it at my own pace, but progress really is being made, not only in the purging and cleaning, but also in the habits necessary to keeping it up.
@@denisesmelley8546keep strong you're doing it.
We've just started our journey to reclaiming our house. Over 20 man hours on the kitchen alone. It's so exhausting and embarrassing. :( Here's hope to your journey and mine. I've found some things easier to get done because I do it "his way" instead of trying to do it my own. "The way I've always done it" isn't working and hasn't been for years.
You have got to be one of the kindest human beings on the planet. So sweet of you to even consider replacing her refrigerator to assist her in recovering from this horrible disorder she has. You’re amazing and such a blessing to so many.
I totally agree!!
So well said! 🥰
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Agree! 🙌🏽
Thank you for sharing this video because I have depression and my home is usually embarrassing dirty. I’m embarrassed to have guests. I have had guest over but I can’t spontaneously invite people over. I need 48 hours minimum notice to tackle all the rooms to be guest ready. I’m in therapy, I been going for about 4 months haven’t missed a session and watching your videos along with my therapy has been helping me find the motivation to clean. I’m starting to have a cleaning routine and my house is starting too stay cleaner and cleaner. Soon I’ll be able to invite guest or have guest pop up whenever and not be ashamed of my dirty house because it will be clean, sanitary and presentable.
I have depression, a serious problem. I am medicated, not doing therapy right now. But I never live in a duty unkempt house. Please, find help for your problem. It is not only depression. My depression doesn't overcome my OCD. I pray you find psychological help. You can live much better life and don't be embarrassed or ashamed. Be well, and fight to get help, even if you get government insurance. I have no right for help, but I know most Americans qualify for. God bless you!
I’m a hoarder getting therapy now. I consider these videos as part of my therapy and education. I’ve begun this month to tackle one closet at a time. You are adding to my motivation. Thank you for creating this channel.
I’m sad to see the cases and cases of soda pop the lady has built up. Why, because it expires and tastes flat. I have a close friend who buys cases and cases when they are on sale. She serves us flat pop several times a year when we visit. I don’t belittle her for doing this - she’s slowly curbing her over shopping.
God Bless the channel, lady and viewers.
90% of the reasons I watch these videos (other than giving myself a break from cleaning) is for the narrating and the background cleaning sounds. Please don’t take those away lol
Same I listen to this at the end of the day to wind down, surprisingly it gives me motivation for the next day, and his voice is calming to me! ❤
Before my mom had to go to a nursing home, her house was like this. I would go once a week to clean it for her, but it was a neverending battle. There would always be pills all over her floor just like this lady. Thank you for helping people and being so understanding and non-judgemental. I hope this lady is able to find some relief with therapy.
Same with me and my mom. Anything that fell on the floor just stayed there until I did my weekly. Food, pills, soiled, clothing etc. I always had to take a deep breath before I entered and bite my tongue so I didn’t lecture. As someone who is a neat freak, it wasn’t easy.
Yes, that's exactly how her house was. I have to agree, it was very, very hard to keep quiet because I'm also a neat freak, in part because I grew up with her being this way, but I just had to remind myself that it wasn't her fault. It is hard to deal with.
Exact same thing here.
Does pills on the floor mean needed meds are not being taken? Or do they just fall & the person leaves them and takes a replacement amount from the bottle?
@@tonyabrookes9931 Most of the time my mom just ignored what she dropped and took another dose from the bottle. Then when she ran out before it could be refilled she was mystified by it.
I’m proud to report that I’ve started cleaning my home with enthusiasm and technique, thanks to your videos. ❤ You’re dope! Thank you for all that you do.
Me too
Me three!
❤ I cleaned my kitchen dishes re-watching this!!! They're done, and the counters are wiped down. It didn't take a long time, and now when I get up tomorrow, I'll be able to breathe freely knowing that I'm making coffee in a tidy space. Yay!!!!!❤
My new house rule (I live alone) is empty sinks before I go up to bed. Two weeks in and I’ve been accountable to myself. I’m determined to make slow and only positive change.
Came for the cleaning satisfaction, stayed for the hilarious banter, teared up for the little message to the owner in the middle. You really do such good work, and the empathy and compassion you show to the people you help… you sir are a gift. Bravo.
As a Cleaning Business Owner I have done many of these houses. Once I did one that took 8 days (8-10 hours a day). After the cleaning she was so Happy 😀 I then went out monthly to keep the house clean ❤
Awesome 😊
My bedroom is overwhelming to me, after watching this and you saying just move things around I feel I can manage it now.
Wow, I knew you spent some money on cleaning supplies, but I never imagined you might spend upwards of $400 for dumpsters, extra products etc, all to help someone out. You're a gem!
Working on trying harder to get away from the hoarding of food, clothes and household items. It’s hard but I’m slowly getting there doing this without professional help. Your talks about hoarding have really helped me more than you know. Every video I’m able to take away a message that makes me spin kick this out of the park. Thanks 🙏🏽
Theses vids also help me have hope
Good luck! 😍
You've got this! In the words of my fiancé "tiny progress is still progress. If you're working on something and you don't think the work you put in is noticeable, give it time and you'll start to see how far you've come. You're not improving for anyone but you, so don't look for validation in anyone who doesn't acknowledge your fight or thinks your pace isn't good enough. Everyone has a different journey." ❤
Just keep going, any progress is great. You’ll get better at it and that way you might need to work hard for not “falling back” in to your hoarding tendencies, but you will feel better!
Thank you for not using a shovel! Shows made for tv were extremely harsh on the hoarders. I remember one woman saying she felt like she had been "mugged" at the end of the episode. Some of my Mom's relatives would have tremendous anger whenever you tried to throw something out. Kudos to the gal who is facing the trauma and beginning to work through it and yes, it will take time but will be so worth it. God Bless!
the shows I have a feeling they do this for the drama. Hoarding disorder does not magically disappear in 3 days. I wonder how many of these hoarders were *worse* after the show.
yes, even some people being more understanding can be harsh on them (I know a Frenhc guy on youtube using a shovel but... still being careful about paper and thing. Also, what he cleans is worst that the video we see here, since often the floor is filled with poop.
but about the big mdia shows... whe they force them to throw things, like "but it is useless" being like "I think there is only one good way to think and I will "help" you forcing you to do my way" it breaks my heart.
Because even if I am not with that disorder, I kneq loss, depression, how I need my stuffs as "bubble" to make my home mine, a safe place, and how I feel really bad if someone disturbs that.
If someone would do that to me, I would be in very high anxiety I think, needing time to make my home "mine" again, and for these people I guess this means more hoarding to compensate, as he explains so well in an other video.
To be fair, a lot of the people on the shows are in situations where they’re facing eviction or severe living conditions and need a quick radical change. They say they offer therapy after the show is over, but a lot of people still refuse the help. I think most of the people on the show aren’t ready for the help, but are forced into it by their living situation.
@@biffm.2806them having their hands forced is part of it, for sure. But the traumatizing nature of their initial "therapy" would absolutely put people off of future therapy, too
I have been doing volunteer work with seniors since March to assist them to stay in their homes. A recent female I was assigned to her home is almost exactly same as what you are handling right down to the entire sink full of black water from weeks of silverware sitting in sink. I spent 6 hours first day just to get dishes, countertop and floor to some sort of cleanliness level. I was overwhelmed for first two hours then zoned out and kept going. I am determined to return to pick away sections by section to make her home livable, not perfect but perfect for her. I thank you for your videos , kind work to those in need in your area but especially this one as I have watched a few times to pick up any suggestions, methods and get inspiration to continue.
“Zoned out and kept going.” Yeah. Bless you.
🙏God Bless you!💞
Watching and listening reminds me of something I tell my students. College math teacher here, and I often get asked, "How am I ever going to use this?" I tell them math teaches life skills like 1.make a plan and follow through. 2. Pay attention to detail. 3. Use previous knowledge in a new context, 4. Organize logically. Etc...
That little message you said to the owner of the house - "If you're watching this, don't be ashamed, etc." - broke my cold, dead heart once again and I teared up, as that was super sweet! Yet again, it just shows how much of an angel you're, not by how you treat everyone you help with kindness, but also by doing the work you do *gestures wildly at the amazing house transformations*
Also, I can't believe that Jason was extra filth and left you all alone to work on this! *shakes fist at filthy Jason in my best Grandpa Simpson impression*
Don’t forget about Thug!❤
@@sross54 that's very true! Filthy thugs, the pair of them 😂
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I love the analogy of throwing a person a towel when they are drowning vs pulling a person out of the water. That is so accurate!
I’m excited for the homeowner! Therapy is so awesome, and being able to address trauma while slowly getting your home into a place that is comforting is so wonderful!
I love the way you talk to us. like calling us "son"! you make it so much more fun to watch than most other cleaning videos.
Your compassion for the home owner is true kindness. And we see it every time you go into a hoarder home. Yes, get her out of the water, and hopefully the towel will be from therapy.
I can hardly believe what you accomplished in 12 hours, AND without getting rid of anything that wasn’t obvious trash. You are such a blessing to these folks and I’m sending her so many well-wishes on her healing journey. ❤
I just want to thank you for making these videos. I am a 25 year old woman on the spectrum who’s special interest is also cleaning, my dad passed away last November at 52. He was so funny like you. He was my best friend, and the best grandpa ever. Your videos help me so much
I’m so sorry for your loss 😢🙏🙏
Sorry for your loss- your message brought me to tears
😢❤
Billy. Bob. Baddass. The determination and resolve you show in not becoming overwhelmed is impressive. Guts and experience, no doubt, are a big part of that. Still, remaining calm and cool in the midst of a swirling cauldron of chaos up to your hips is a SERIOUS talent. You have, again, earned my respect and admiration. Carry on. Son.
I don't usually comment on videos, but you have helped give me more explanation on why my grandfather does what he does. There are so many similarites between these homes and ours (when not in college, i live with my grandparents).
My grandfather has recieved so much genuine hatred and judgement from some of our family because of the way our house is, which isn't fair. He's a vet and you've explained all of these tendencies in a way that sounds super familiar and understandable.
From a stressed college kid, thank you for what you do :) you're unbelievably kind and understanding, being extremely respectful to those of whom these homes belong to.
@@annoravetz5908 well, lucky for me, break is coming up very soon! By next week, actually. And I'd love to do that with him, as I believe that talking through the items will be a lot more helpful than just tossing them, like so many family members would want to do.
Thanks for your advice :)
I just love all the click click clack noises when you make the cleaning videos. They're so satisfying!
You handle these situations with respect, we love that.
I can just imagine how much better it smells as he works his way through the house.
Twenty years ago, I cleaned homes for elderly, disabled, and one was a hoarder house whose wife had passed away. Now that I'm in my sixty's and semi disabled myself, I enjoy your videos and the sound of your voice 😂! The hoarder house was the worst, I found rat droppings and the skeleton of a dead rat. I had never met the wife before she passed, but I can relate. It's an illness that someone needs therapy for. I also have a grandchild who is mildly autistic. He clovers his ears at noises. Keep the videos coming, I love watching 😊.
I love your sense of humor!! Also, I love how you compared her being embarrassed about her mental health to embarrassed about the flu. That is so accurate, but I’ve never heard anyone put it that way. Love watching your videos!
So awesome that she’s going to start counseling! Good for her! ☮️❤️👏👏👏👏👏
This is my grandmas home. Thank you for the kind words. It means the world to her!
Almost all of our dirt and clutter is an outer reflection of our inner turmoil and mental health challenges. Love your mission and your humorous take on life.
What a lovely message to this homeowner-- It's the physical manifestation of trauma. So well said. WHERE ROOTING FOR YOU, SWEETY
WOW THOSE AFTER PHOTOS!!!! WOW OWOWOWOWOWOW
You have such a fabulous way of explaining not only what your purpose is but the struggle with which your clients are dealing. Really love your videos.
Bless you sir for helping someone in need. You are a gem.
What I like about your channel is that most of your videos do not have music. I like the simplicity. I would rather have those "messed up sounds" than music. I often associate music to past memories so sometimes I need to be careful which channels I watch. This is my favorite cleaning channel.
Like someone said on comment on an other video, I also listen to what you say and find it interesting, I love the way you approach it, considering the human, respecting the person, like really, not like "well they are disabled so lets decide for them we know better" or looking down at them, but really understanding and respecting them as full human, as yourself, not as "worth less because disabled".
Thank you !
Big congrats to this lady for reaching out for help! That takes courage. Healing takes time and we're super proud of her!
Hi again Mr. Neck. Decided to shampoo my couch and rugs today. I did what you suggested, took a break and continued. This actually was something my father used to do. Work on a project, stop, have a beer and so on. He also would say, “gotta have a clear work field before you start”. Very true and helpful.Thanks Mr. Neck for reminding me of my Dad😊
Your kindness and empathy touch me so much. What a good man you are. When I see someone like you, willing to give your time and energy to someone who needs it, it melts my heart
Same! It brought tears to my eyes when he talked about how brave she us and how proud he is of her. What a kind generous and understanding human, in this era of selfishness and meanness… this is just the attitude we need. Be kind to each other.. ❤
Likes cans, Dr Pepper, in Marlboro cigarettes. Expired, flat and stale
I am so impressed that you are doing this alone. Both organizing and cleaning without throwing out more than trash. Wow! Respect from Norway.
I don’t consider myself a hoarder, but after watching a few of your videos, I feels like a hoarder. Food, gardening supplies, tools. I would say my hoarding is a level two or three. I gotta let it go. But I have gotten my dishes under control. I have a service for two since I live alone.
My parents home is extremely cluttered, I didn't know what to do or how to start attacking it... this video REALLY gave me some insight into exactly how to clean a super crowded home. Thank you so much!
Yes! It takes lots of courage to deal with our trauma history. I’m so proud of her!!! Therapy rocks!!! You can do this!!! 💪💪💪💪💪❤
This is my grandmas home. Thank you for the kind words. It means the world to her!
We are praying for her and people like her!🙏🏻
@kyahholmes444 what an educational video in both the illness and the compassion it takes to manage it. Was grandma's home always like this? What are your thoughts about this process❤
I gotta say, I would have anxiety through the roof, if faced with this hoarding situation. You're an amazing guy to tackle this with such equanimity.
When it comes to food, covid pushed many of us into food, toilet paper, and disinfectant hoarding. For folks who already had the tendency it just multiplied! I am sure she will feel much better when she sees what she has done. People don’t realize what they could afford if they quit shopping such as repairs, cleaning services, paint, flooring. Besides therapy, which will have to be ongoing, she needs prayers.
I've been cleaning for 30+ years and every house has WAY too much stuff in it! I was born in the Midwest but moved to Hawaii almost 40 years ago. Love to see how other people clean and that it's not all that different from cleaning here. You are a saint for doing these free cleanings for people! I know how hard it is to deal with that much clutter, not fun, but so satisfying to make things a little better for the people living there. Good job!
Stuff. If there’s stuff in heaven, I don’t want to go there lol
@@HeidiSue60 Love it! lol
@@HeidiSue60There will be no stuff, definitely🙏Only joy🙏
Maybe some tears…😢
I’m so glad I found this channel. You are doing such great work for people that really need the kindness and understanding without any judgement. It also makes me go through my house every other week and get rid of stuff I don’t need. I go through one room every other week. That includes returns, checking pantry for expired stuff, paperwork, etc, I needed that inspiration. You can get overwhelmed so easily. Thank you. Much support. ❤️👏🏻✌️
I start decluttering every time I watch one of these videos. I wish he had more of them weekly. Anna In Ohio
You are an absolute sweetheart!
Thank you for all you do.❤
To need help and seek it is the beginning of healing. Once you have a cluter free house your mind will feel so free and clutter free. God bless you dear lady and a good man doing God's love for humanity.
Respect for you & the way you help this homeowner. Respect for the homeowner for seeking help. Respect for Mr. Clean for acknowledging your awesomeness! Congratulations on your success! Hope there's a future follow up video to show the progress this person is making.
Awesome clean up. Going to get a bottle of Mr Clean Freak. Set it on the table and watch it do it's thing! Hoping so, anyway. 🤢🤗
@@billrobbins5874 Me too!!
I've become obsessed with Mr. Clean Clean Freak because of his channel. Annnnnnnnnd, his APC too but I couldn't remember his recipe so I had to look up one and make my own. I have to say, I just spent the last few days last week removing things out of our 2-car, fenced in, covered driveway to get rid of things. I TRULY understand what he's doing because I'm doing it myself at home. Massive clutter but a different kind of clutter because I've dealt with it for years. Our clutter is what I call a somewhat organized clutter in totes. Since I'd done this from Mar. 2018-September 2018 to do: our bedroom closet, our 2 car, fenced in, covered patio, our 'back building' that's at least 500sq feet, plus our teeny 800sq ft house-teeny kitchen, dining room, bathroom, our bedroom, hallway, living room & laundryroom. I then made a promise to myself to do my papers. 7 file cabinet drawers FILLED to the rim of papers, finished it ALL in 3 weeks, downsized it to 5 4" binders. Tossed SO many papers! Then tackled my email that was horrendous-main email out of 4 emails had over 83k emails. 43k emails alone in the inbox of just that ONE email and at least 40k emails in the junk/spam folder. I did all the decluttering in 2018 (Mar-Nov. 2nd 2018-including having AND setting up HUGE yard sale. What didn't sell, I gave to this couple. What they didn't take went to the curb.) Then took a couple months off, in Jan. 2019, did the paper work, finished in 3 weeks. Then did the emails. I did 99.999% of this all by myself. The ONLY thing that 'needed' to be finished was my beloved craft room. 2019-2023 threw huge wrenches my way. Loss of family, friends, depression, etc. Got the patio redone with better shelving for things I'm still wanting to get through from main 'big' declutter in 2018. However, after helping so many others throughout the years, we didn't help ourselves. So things got recluttered. In just this past week last week, I re-decluttered our patio-by myself. Omgosh, seriously, I give this guy props MCM. Seriously because *I* know they crazy amount of work it takes and our house is small. So for just doing our house (redoing it all over again due to helping others for so, so many years), I KNOW how hard it is to do all of this. Many prayers to you, many props to you because you're an Angel to people that surely need it. Stay so, so, sooooooo blessed!!!!!!!!! Seriously, I'm so obsessed with watching your videos. You're such a blessing to so many!!!!! Wish I could pick your brain for small craft room ideas!!!!! (that's the LAST room I need to get done!) We will be taking a LOT to some places to donate more to. I can't wait to clear it out of the way! Thank you AGAIN for all you do for others like this because there needs to be much more folks like you with such compassion!
I feel most sad seeing the hospice bed, cartons of Marlboros and all the medications. I hope more than just the hoarding, she can get her physical health in check. Overcoming a smoking addiction can be difficult but lifesaving. It's great of you to help her get started on her journey.
I never saw that many cartons of cigarettes.....
I really appreciate the empathy you have for the people you are cleaning for
While I am not a hoarder, I do have too much stuff. I have decided to organize one little area at a time ... one or two small areas a day (so as not to get overwhelmed)which has been very successful. Still have the closet which is haunting me. Your sense of humor is fantastic and watching your videos gives me great ideas as well as inspiration. I am so glad I found your channel.
I appreciate you educating your audience regarding Hoarding and Trauma and illness
"Getting out of the water." That is just a perfect way to put it.
I swear your commentary is just golden, thank you for whatever came into your mind at 8:17 😂 made me laugh harder than I can remember
The little puzzlething - the story of my life right now.... I used to be a carpet cleaner and did an awful lot of cleaning. Still getting the buzz from the before and after. Until my mother passed away lasat year I was her caretaker for the three years prior. Its just now after 16 months I am starting to be able to clear and clean the house - tiny bit by tiny bit. Thank you for your channel!!!
They call him ‘real good Jonny’ back in Hoarder county cos he’s ‘real good’ at what he does ❤
Thank-you for helping this lady and if this lady is reading these comments, well done for taking the first step - I am so proud of you! You are in safe hands with this fella. He will help you every step and of the way! And we are all rooting for you! Can't wait for next week!!!❤
This is my grandmas home. Thank you for the kind words. It means the world to her!
Just found your amazing channel. I’m in awe. I love how you combine the hardship with the humor. You crack me up and then you say something profound. You have a gift. We’re retired now and I’m lucky enough to have cleaning girls twice a month. But now I’m wanting to get rid of a bunch of stuff I don’t need or use anymore. Watching your videos makes me want to clean out a closet and get rid of a lot of stuff. I say I don’t want to leave this junk for my kids to get rid of. So glad I found you. You’re a treasure. ❤
I so understand that lady!! How many things I have purchased to ‘organize’ and store my stuff that never got used because when you try, for some reason you just can’t. There are tons of HOPE attached to everything she brings into the house. Thank you for the support and help you provide. Great video!! I wish I was 6’4”, lol! Love y’all ❤🐾
Nothing like a good old fashioned pan of liquid onions and potatoes. Yummy!!
I recently learned I didn't need to organize, I needed to downsize.
I love that you don't judge them. Mental health is seen as a cop out when that isn't true at all. Love your channel.
This was amazing, I laughed so hard on some parts of the narration and it helped me a lot cause I was having a bad week. Your work is so meaningful. Thank you for doing this all.
I can’t help but wonder how many people take your comments towards your children in a bad light not realizing, it’s actually a show of affection and love you make me laugh every time ,and I love the work you do
The thing I love most about you is your honesty. It's not in the new American way of just land blasting someone out of nowhere and shaming them. I LOVE YOUR HONESTY IN THE FACT THAT YOU CAN DO THIS AND IT WONT, "STICK" FOR SOME PEOPLE! You might be tinkerbelles ass kicking cousin, but you speak the ugly truth....sometimes, ONLY SOMETIMES people won't change. And you accept that and do just what you did and just carry on. BECAUSE THE NEXT ONE WILL RISE UP LIKE AN EPIC BATTLE FROM HELL AND BE THE ULTIMATE IN BLINDING APC GLORY!!🎉🎉🎉
Your apc formula so easy
Lambasting?
You're also shaming people right now. If you're that against it, maybe don't do it.
@@katphish30 Who???
@katphish30 seriously who am I shaming?
Just call him Johnny the superhero with a heart of Gold! God Bless you, Mr. Midwest.
You sir have a true gift! Your patience and the judgment-free help you offer is a true gift you give to others. Every person has struggles and talents or gifts, and you choose to share your talents with very vulnerable/traumatized humans. God Bless you for what you do and how kind and gentle you are towards those vulnerable people. 👏🕊❤️
Came for the satisfying cleaning, stayed for the antics. ❤❤😂😂
I have a “massive, giant, enormous amount” of appreciation for your resiliency on this one. Your words😂!
Sue Wolfe- It's wonderful that you see that there is a "cause" for why people struggle with hoarding and don't judge. I agree that they will rebuy things because they can't find what they originally bought. I saw this first hand when my sister and I cleaned out my mother's house and filled a black trash bag with knee-high hose! It was so sad! It's a symptom of a bigger problem. Keep up the great work and dedication in helping others!
When my mom went into a nursing home for dementia, she thought everyone was stealing her reading glasses. She would buy a new pair every week when I came to take her to breakfast and go shopping. After she passed, the nursing staff collected up all the readers hidden around her room to keep them from being stolen.....
You are amazing for doing this! I can't even imagine. I can't even imagine going into a house like this, for free, and washing 4000 plus flatware. I hate dishes. It's the 'right' thing, but it would be too much for me.
I love what you said to the home owner we all need help at some point in our lives. I would also say that allowing you to film the process can help someone else out there to have the courage to reach out and get help, or like me I clean along with you so it’s a win win win 😃
crying right now... my house is sort of cluttered like this, but I am too ashamed to get help or so, plus I think I caused it myself so I have to resolve it myself, but I don't know where to start! Scared when I hear the doorbell, I don't want anyone to come inside (and I don't let anyone!) Please keep up the good work, and credits to the woman who searched help!
So am I. - I could be your twin here in Canada! Yes we are too damned independent. And too stubborn to ask for help because we feel so responsible for our situation. I buy organizing supplies and cleaning supplies and they add to the clutter, while I sit here watching cleaning videos! No one has been inside my place in over five years….
Wishing you all the best and sending you love and prayers. I hope you are able to get help dear. I’ve helped folks before who had these issues. 🙏🏻❤️
Just find a section to work on and get started.
Give yourself some grace and do as he does while cleaning, tackle one area at a time it doesn't all have to be done in one day and take mini breaks. And I find watching his shows I put it on pause and get up and tackle one thing then watch some more pause the video and go do something else. He gives such good advice on cleaning. My biggest challenges are a love seat that becomes the parking station for everything that comes in the house and my kitchen table tonight while watching this I tackled the love seat and have almost everything put away where it should be and the 2 empty boxes that were sitting on it have been taken out to the recycle can. Blessings to you, you can do this. Anna In Ohio
@@margaretmcnarry4298 you ARE my twin! I also buy organizing and cleaning supplies 🙈 why do we do this???
What a good person you are, and so compassionate about the reasons behind hoarding. Since the AC was going and the house was so hot, the filter should be checked. It's probably clogged with dust and ash and the unit is struggling.
Yes, the hvac filter should be changed. Maybe he can buy that , before the refrigerator. Much lower costs, and gives her positive results sooner!
I've been putting these on while I clean. We have a large family, and collect clutter. Kids not throwing trash away and actively saving it is a problem. When watching other videos on the Stages of hoarding, the kids all placed the house between a 2 and three (with some rooms being worse). I know my mental health has played a large roll in it's condition and then my husband had an accident that left me his sole carer during months of recovery and that made things worse. I've been working on my kitchen for two days and it's almost clean. Over 20 man hours to get it to where it is and it's just one room. It's exhausting and embarrassing, Thank you for the compassion you have for people like me. I know I have hoarding tendencies and habits from a lifetime of abuse and poverty. I'm a work in progress.
I got overwhelmed just looking at the kitchen. Glad that she’s getting the help she needs. Awesome work as always and always love your sense of humour
Been cleaning and decluttering and made me some cleaning fluid. I labelled it MMC APC. 😂😍
I love the humor in your voice overs. It always motivates me to enjoy cleaning and get more done. Thanks, Can Stacking Johnny!!😂😂
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You are doing God’s work and I appreciate you. You need to put a PO Box in your description do we can mail donations directly to you for these kinds of situations. You will be a good steward of any donations I’m sure. Thank you, you spin kicking filthy guy! ❤️🙏
I love watching your videos - Hoarders without all the drama-with the added benefit of your quirky sense of humor that makes me chuckle. Kudos to you for being able to do this regardless of your autism. That's got to be challenging at times.
Not sure if you will read this but I think you are a very special human being to do what you do to help others, it makes my heart full❤
So very satisfying! I spend 3 days redoing closets in my house...i feel 20lbs lighter. My OCD is screaming to do more but my back is SHOT! Love watching you!
She couldn't have found a better person to handle this for her. You are better known as compassionate thoughtful Johnny! Wishing her all the best in getting to the other side of this illness. Great work here! See you next time, God bless you.
I kept wanting you to reach behind you and start that grandfather clock. Just give the pendulum a push! But you're rescuing a drowning homeowner, not setting her clocks. Bless you for what you do and reminding those of us living with this disorder in a family member that it IS a disorder (a broken leg or the flu) and not willful messiness.
That message to the lady who lives in the house warmed my heart
I love how you are helping people who are drowning in their hoard. Such a healing for them! 👼