Dave is a powerhouse and the supportive parent that a lot of men and women never had. I think he led her exactly in the direction she needs to go. Excellent advice.
There are a LOT of single mothers who have had little or no education and very little in the way of finances and have DONE VERY WELL in life, far better than you and I.
@@BboyDaquack It was in the 90's. Being broke probably feels the same no matter when it is. I only had 2 pair of pants when I went to school. There were a couple times I had no money for gas and God intervened and helped me. God did a lot of miracles for me but I was the one who persisted and got my degree.
@We who are about to die salute you yeah I mean I'm not hating and saying her struggle wasn't real. But look at the math. Money back then had more value. Not to say being broke still ain't hard. It's just more difficult in 2019. Esp if you don't have any skilled experience where you'd have to work as like a cashier, burger flipper, etc. But the people that grind out of those things are the ones that have more mental fortitude. My mom had her first son (oldest brother) while she was in nursing school full time and working full time. Granted my dad was in the picture. But still. Not easy things to do. These days people cave too easily under pressure. The good ol snowflake generation. And before people freak out. I am gen Z
@marconuts God has shown His love for me over and over and over! I see God's activity in my life everyday! I will pray for God to reveal Himself to you so you can know God too!
I don't understand men that get a woman pregnant and won't support them. I think they are the worst human beings. Give your child enough money, not what you are ordered to pay. Make sure your child has a good life.
Right! She shouldn't be getting all this hate because she chose to have her child and be a present parent. The man should be getting dragged not a single mom who made adjustments for her child.
@@ronneshabutler4651 it doesn't matter who opened legs and who didn't. Takes two people and if you are a man not a b...ch you will need to take care of your kids. That is the bottom line.
@@agentsmith9851you don’t know their situation. All we know is , she coulda been a b*tch to him and decided to run off with the child , we don’t know. I know many men that want to be in their child’s lives and want to raise them and have full custody. And the mother shuns them , takes them to court and puts them on child support. That’s how it goes majority of the time.
The judgemental comments are disgusting. All of a sudden y'all are perfectly crystal clear with no flaws and no past mistakes. Happy for her she's doing something about her situation. Go ahead baby girl. You got this 😊🤗😀💖
Agree, My husband died suddenly when my son was only 4. Thankfully, I was already a teacher by that point. Also, thankful my husband had not worked under the table and had contributed to social security. Until my son was 18, I could count on about $700-$800 a month from social security survivor's benefits for my son. That is a heck of a lot more than the $250 she is getting from her child's dad.
dropout0110 Yeah either that or move in with some friends and split the rent. Also try to get a side hustle for some extra money. Sell some of the things she doesn’t need. 🤷🏽♀️
she doesn't seem to have enough ambition to get a better job; her dream job was being a receptionist and she owes her parents 10k this is a nightmare i would move far away to another state
Sounds like she's living in the moment which is somewhat typical when your that age. But she needs to structure her life and plan it out, not only for herself but for the little one. The man in her life would have took on that role but being a single mom she needs to organize herself. My recommendation on top of the salary increase is to start writing out 5 year, 10 year plans and following them.
I wonder how many conservative pro lifers are in these comments making these judgemental comments. Kudos to this mother for adjusting for her child. Kudos to her job for helping a single mom. I pray she is able to find a good career with good pay and affordable child care for her child.& kudos to her for seeking advice from Dave
What if you have no family? I have none! Like literally no one that will help with my daughter... my family live less than 8 min away from me... it's just her and i...
Easier said than done. Move where, with what resources? Is a job guaranteed when you get there or will you have to hunt for work for months as someone new to the area? What if you can't easily get childcare for that new job? It's easy to make sweeping suggestions when you don't have to be the one to iron out the details.
$250 dollars is literally 3 packs of diapers and some food. :\ The child support system sucks so bad. I am happy she is trying to do better and turn her life around for the better! I love seeing strong women !!
If strong she needs no handours. Furthermore she wouldn't of had a divorce. The child will have issues for life because as you say....... mommy is strong.
@jmscoopy try taking a care of a child on your own then and the woman pay you $250 dont be crying when the child needs to see a doctor, food,etc, sports and you no longer have money to spend on prostitutes
@@brittneyyoung1882 I know three single dads none of the moms are paying child support and haven't been in there kids lives. In fact, the state can give two cents about single dads. The mom can be a street demon spawn and the dad can have a house and a job and the court still is against the father for custody
@@brittneyyoung1882 Everyone's not running on fumes financially. You don't know @jmscoopy's situation...he could be a very high earning man. He could give the $250 to his son for spending money.
People are too judgement making. I swear RUclips has turned into a debate table. At the end of the day it takes two to tango and regardless of a woman being independent, a man should be present.
Maybe pursue some kind of paralegal qualification - not full on law school but a 12 month qualification that will produce a decent income. Or, as Dave says, a trade.
Difficult is an underestimate. You do get the pro of being in too notch shape at least but in all honesty yes it’s very difficult unless you have your priorities together.
@@jacob_gangVery few of these "single mothers" actually have THIER s....t together to get far in life because the ability to live by a code of conduct conducive to personal enrichment is a responsibility that doesn't care about your "trauma" or "personal problems". This STUPID girl was a where she is because SHE'S been coddled all her life and now being spaced out and clueless is coming to bite her. SHE decided to have a child while being financially insecure.
Some of these comments are disgusting! Who are we to judge??? I pray that the people who are speaking negatively never end up in this situation. Or if you guy examine yourself and make sure the mother of your child is not in this situation. No woman ever dreams of being a single mother. Sometimes that’s how life pans out. As a single mother a lot of you people could not walk a mile in our shoes!!!
It may not be a dream for women to become single mothers, but their choices and behavior usually is whats put them in that situation. Widows and Victims are excluded. Women chose who they lay with and choose to produce/birth a child. There are plenty of circumstances that are out of our control but becoming a single mother(with previously stated exclusion) isn't one of them. Convicted criminals don't dream of going to prison but they choose to commit acts that will land them in prisons. Single mothers do the same. Also, a lot of people could walk in your shoes but they choose not to. Its about making smart decisions.
LOL----exactly my thoughts. Dave thinks nothing of enlisting grandma as free full-time baby sitter while daughter works 100 hrs/week to work off the $10K owed to the grandparents.
People are talking about her being a single mom and generalizing single moms as a whole. But she called him for financial advice, many older than her still haven’t realized that they make bad financial/life decisions smh🤦🏾♀️🙄 You gotta start somewhere🤷🏾♀️
big matt How do single moms become single moms? By NEITHER party using birth control; Dad left because he didn't want the responsibility; or Dad is in the picture and doesn't uphold his end. It really is a two-way street.
@@sharyn4271 They become single moms by making poor decisions(widows and victims excluded). Or because of the bias court system she doesnt allow him around his children. Or he could be doing a perfect job and they are co parenting.
@ Yeah, men use that line all the time. Trust me, women don't want to breed mental retardation into their bloodline. In that case they will gladly keep their legs closed for you😁
@@noirfit9721 There are certain women that are unbearable to be with you just because you have a child with somebody does not mean you have to spend the rest of your life with him. However that father has an obligation to that son & that’s it I think he needs to pay more towards child support to make sure that child is taken care of.
Dave just unintentionally insulted all the receptionists out there. Especially those who work at the VA. I work at the VA and some of those girls actually like being receptionists.
I really don’t get all the hate being spewed at single women with children. The people being judgemental def need a heart check and some inner healing because you sound wounded and jaded in your perspectives. Men are commenting hurtful and harsh things about women who take care of the children but these same people don’t comment on the men being better. That’s a problem. After all we’re all here because of a woman (biologically speaking).
did you not listen at all? The girl is in a very bad situation, if Grandma can watch the kid for a year, maybe she can get more education, a better career, pay off some debt, and get to a point where she can responsibly watch the child.
You need to CHeck yourself. I myself am a single parent but my mother was not. And they dropped me off at grandparents every day. G-parents would come at 5-6am , watch us eat breakfast and take us to their house where we would stay for the whole day until parents came to get us. Both my parents worked. Good jobs too. And they dropped us there, at least until we were able to go to school.
The thing people don’t realize is that most single mothers don’t have proper educations and or are only working minimum wage jobs. Minimum wage is 10/12$ an hour and babysitters are 10-20$ an hour. THIS is why he is saying this. Check your self.
Unless you actually work at home.... that's a false dream. My aunt works from home. She is still WORKING. She can't build a spread sheet while also doing her house's bills, helping her son with his homework and grocery shopping. She can't take a conference call while bleaching the bathroom, and vacuuming. Either you have a low view of what being a mother and running a house actually entails, and maybe you should consider what it takes to do it well. Or you think they're giving away money for little actual work.
@@kellyalen1 I'm a single mom of one, and work 20 hours a week at a hospital 4 miles away, and when I'm home, I'm totally home. I didn't say work from home can't be done. I said it doesn't cheat time. You're still "absent" during your work hours
@Paul Dybala>>I'm sensing sarcasm. I only work 5 days in a pay period (two weeks). Yes, I'm not worth much when I get home in the evening at 4pm. I have help (grandparents) who take my daughter to school those days. So in the school year, she doesn't notice I'm gone at work. In the summer I get a little break from kids and she gets summer art classes, which her grandparents take her to. I am able to get the household chores done and rest on my days off. From the perspective of someone trying to do it all, I can say that "doing/having it all" isn't really possible. It's a lie that breeds dissatisfaction. I don't have the money full-time working women have. But that's OK, because I have time off. My stay-at-home sister-in-law is considering homeschooling. I don't feel I have that option. Even though I'm home 9 days out of 14, I don't think I have the mental energy to either be working at the hospital or running a homeschool, without a day off. But, I have more money than her, and can afford a private school instead. Saturday I picked up the niece and nephew and took them, with my daughter, to Home Depot's free kids project, bought hot-dogs for lunch and had a walk through their garden nursery. I did my house chores later while they played in the yard. After niece and nephew went home, I took my daughter to Aunt Sue's house and we cleaned for one hour. My daughter learned how to vacuum corners with the hose attachment, and pick shoes up to vacuum underneath (she is 7 years old). She and I cleaned for one hour, so she could earn $15, which is her spending money. Then I let my 15 year old cousin drive us home, so he could practice driving. We rode our bikes ALL the way to McDonalds and grocery shopping, and back again. After dinner my daughter joined a block party with a bounce house, so after a few more house chores, I stood around chatting with other parents so my daughter could play..... Obviously my day was not "efficient." But that wasn't the point of my day. We stayed off the TV all day, and that was the point. We met with the cousins, and helped Aunt Sue, and learned that money comes from work. She still can't ride without training wheels, and needs the practice. My kid will be over in the neighbors' yard again this summer, playing with their kids, so I need to get in touch again....And my point is, where is the time for me to run a business? I suppose a mother could work from home during the school year, while the kids are out of the house. But how is a mother supposed to run a business with a 2 year old at home? You cannot actually be watching/interacting with the kids AND thinking great thoughts. And if a woman is sitting at a desk for 5 hours a day while the kids are at school, I guess that leaves maximum 2 hours a day to grocery shop, laundry, yard work, vacuum, bleach bathrooms, pets, bills, buy/wrap birthday presents, volunteer at school/church, bible study.... No one is actually earning $100,000/year from a laptop getting free WiFi from a McDonalds play place in between changing diapers, nap time, and interrupting children. Running a business from home, or flex working from home as an employee, requires dedicated mental energy and time blocks without interruption. Which is why even women who work from home send their children to school or daycare or hire a nanny, and still pay to have their house cleaned. Women can do a lot, but not ALL.
@@ludwigvonmiseswasright4380 I'm sorry but in Belgium we work at 38h or 40h. I AM also present for my kids. And both of thrm have dyslexia & ADD. So they need extra help. Again you are making excuses for everything. If you want more you need to do more. But it's ok if you want to work 20h a week and be there fit your child. That's fine to. No judgement. 😉😊💕
This was very good & well explained🙌🏽🙌🏽 I’m in a place of starting over, rebuilding🙏🏽!!! I left a job behind that no longer served me well or had my best interest, I felt used and it was starting to drain my PEACE which is why I left. I will NOT ALLOW anything or anyone touch my peace or use me up giving me nothing in return but a under paid paycheck & a hard way to go. The pandemic was surely an eye opener to life is precious & short🙏🏽
lower your tax withdrawals, talk to judge about child support them choosing to give isn't good. find out what you want to do in your life that makes money. making choices to stay close to the father is not even an option.
@@liamwelsh5565 Yes, parents can suggest higher education or urge her to think about what she wants to do in 10 yrs time but ultimately it comes down to the individual to want to do it. If my parents told me that they'd pay for me to study law, I'd probably fail all my classes and not care bc it wasn't MY decision to study law
Anthony Bush Working the minimum to get the benefits is not something that should be praised. I live in Wisconsin and I’ve met multiple single moms who refuse to work more because they’ll pay more in section 8 or lose their benefits.
@@elmagnificodep Right. Because if I work like 70 hours a week, I will lose my housing subsidy but I still will barely cover my rent, my doctor bills for Lyme Disease, my son's food and clothes (we don't get child support even though it is COURT ORDERED). You don't get it. You either stay on benefits, or make at LEAST $60,000 a year and make it WORTH it to get off them. I'm a certified teacher and can't get hired in a suburban district that will pay me at least $60,000.
Binduspire Shouldn’t of had kids if you couldn’t afford them. I don’t even have a degree and neither does my wife. Our household income is $120,000. However I used to be homeless and didn’t bring children into this world I couldn’t afford.
Binduspire P.S. Certified teacher? What kind of made up title is that? Is that a daycare worker? If you were a teacher for public school you would just say teacher. Go get better job skills if you want more money.
Having Grandma take care of the kid daily? They have a father. I live in Wisconsin and single fathers never get to see their kids. The court system is geared to support women.
I understood that she moved to be closer to kid's dad. I was not asking about his visitation privilege or lack thereof. What I was asking essentially is since she lives close to 'dad' can the kid's dad be trusted to watch the kid every day for 5,6 as many as 8 hours so she can take another job or baring that, so she can take classes.
Yeah, I think Dave's forgotten what it's like to chase a toddler around all day everyday, if he ever did. even if it is "only for a year" hilarious!. Grandparents deserve to be able to visit and be able to leave on their own schedule.
elmagnificodep my ex didn’t want to have set visitation so I could plan work schedules around visits to save in day care he just wanted to blow in to see his son like the wind just when ever or not at all his excuse was “ no I’m not gonna baby sit to help you” so it got to the point after tax all my income was going to daycare and I lost the apartment
On top of that....there are approximately 13 methods available to women.... if they can't figure out how not to get pregnant with so many methods.... I don't know what to tell them.
@@jeffreystern5886 What if you go on the pill, assume you are safe, but then get pregnant by accident because it didn't work for you? No one is on all 13 birth controls at once. Accidents happen. Don't put this all on women, you idiot.
After you have one.... it doesn't really change anything to have more. One is just as hard as several in many ways. At least when you have several they play with each other. When you have one, they want to always interact with mom. And it's not like taking one kid to the park is any more or less time-consuming than taking several. Either way, you can't go to work.
Or quit choosing the bad boys and banging right out of the gate and suddenly you don't need the crystal ball cos you're only banging your husband (who you've gotten to know over several years).
I started watching Dave Ramsey because we’re in the process of buying a house. Our mortgage is 39% of our take home pay and we didn’t put much of a down payment down. Any suggestions in the comments?? Lol. We make 102k and right now I’m paying off silly debts that I should’ve been paying long ago 😭 wishing we had saved more for a down payment, but hoping to refinance in a few years. What do y’all think
Do you have kids? Even if you don't, make a list of all the free activities available to you. $1 movie at the library? Free story time (if you have kids). A Park nearby? Gardening? Discount hour at the play place? Get a $1 coffee at McDonalds and use their WiFi. Read a book. After you have discovered all the free things, start doing them. You will soon realized you don't need the memberships or the $20 per person day at the zoo. If you fill your leisure time with enjoyable free activities, you won't feel deprived, you'll feel busy. Start "shopping" the curb on trash day and cleaning/repairing items for a garage sale. This isn't for making money, its for something to do. Good if you have kids, to teach them money comes from work. Do the same with food. Eggs are healthy and cheap. How many ways do you know how to prepare them? Do you know how to make tasty beans/legumes? Also cheap and healthy. Learn to prepare cheap, healthy food and put it on the calendar so you're making the recipes often. You won't have time to eat out as much, and this will cut in half the days you have available for eating expensive foods. Saving money is a game. There is a fascinating world available in books. You don't have to travel to broaden your mind, and in many ways traveling does nothing for you, if you haven't learned about the place first. Maybe you can cancel your cable, internet, or nice phone plan, now that you don't use them so much? Cancel your season tickets, and sell your second car. Realize you "need" less, and you don't have to be deprived. You just have to fill your days with cheaper activities.
Sarah Isles I appreciate this post!! Nope, no children. Just me and my husband. We have about 5-6 months left before our house is finished being built, and in the meantime, we’re saving as much as we can so that our down payment can be $20,000! I created a budget and am doing the best I can. We have little debt compared to most people I’d say. I only have $400 on my credit card and my husband has 10k in student loans. We’re trying to bring this down before we get the house lol. Idk why I feel like we’ll be house poor even though I know we won’t be 😭 these horror stories got me scared lol
How does anything you said change her situation now? Are you a time traveler? Can you turn back time to make her not be a single mom anymore? Teach me your sorcery.
@@chelseahancock6933 All she had to do is check and see what happens to other women like her..... and then decide.... "I know... I Won't Do THAT....".... there must be hundreds of examples around her. Use your Women's Intuition.... and don't pick jerks to mate with.
And maybe the farther cannot afford to pay more, oh wait they both made babies her more than him why because once she's pregnant he has zero paternal rights, but yeah he needs to be on the streets while he works around the clock to support child and ultimately her, his responsibilities her choices oyyyy vehhh
L. G. No he doesn’t complain but I also haven’t heard from him or seen him in 6 months so I have no idea what his cost of living or quality of life is. Recently he’s been voluntarily sending more money than normal though but he still ignores me when I try to reach out for him to see the kids. So it’s a rather confusing situation.
michael weyenberg not true. I’m in the process of a divorce & im basically in her situation. Except we have 2 kids, I’m an LPN and have no support. My parents have been deceased & my soon to be ex husband got on drugs & doesn’t support any. This can happen to anybody
Doesn't she know single moms are not accepted in the DR community (hence the comments). He also has no practical advice for us; aside from find a job making $100,000 and move near family. Problem is people without higher education dont typically make 100k. And many people's families arent supportive. Id tell her to pursue nursing school with as many loans she can get her hands on. But Dave is delusional to think a single mom can cash flow a college education while attending school full time, and while working full time. He gives good advice for people in debt but NOT poor people.
Ladies...you don’t have to let every man...you know what this is Dave Ramsey’s channel. She needs to get in shape, be pretty, Learn how to be feminine, and get a man who’s willing to take on her liability WITHOUT getting pregnant unless he marries her. 88% of millionaires are married. Women’s fastest path to wealth is marriage. DO IT!!!
Lol yeah until he cheats on you with someone younger or is emotionally abusive or picks up gambling or blah blah blah. Women need to be able to provide on their own for their kids or they can end up stuck in a terrible situation. Heck what if your husband gets in a car accident? Always have a way to make an income if marriage falls through or if there is an emergency.
$250/mo, while better than nothing, is ridiculous if she truly has the kid 90% of the time. My guess is the dad is a loser. Also, this is why I don't date single moms. Not worth it.
@@juliettezea9507 No first hand experience but I've heard that single mothers are really loose with their private parts. They also move quickly to take advantage of every minute of free time. No waiting and no negotiating for the guy. I'm not saying it's right...just what I've heard from guys who target single mothers.
An unmarried single mother is different than a divorced woman with children.. Obviously for both want to go after the father for support. But you can't lump both of them in the same basket, situations are different. Love or perceived love changes over time and people don't always pick the best partners.
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@@ChrisMFlorida and the whit knight jumps in! lol pathetic enabler
Wow. Just wow. Until you’ve been scared for your safety from your own husband and have to divorce for your own safety, you have no idea what a single mom is like. Look to your peers, sir and chide them for being terrible husbands and dads. Figure out a way to influence them and maybe then you’ll see fewer single moms out here.
My ex husband cheated on me continuously for 6 months straight with a co worker. I stayed with him 2 years after that. I made more money than he did yet we were always broke because he had terrible money managment skills. We all make mistakes mine was picking the wrong husband. I am not a bad person. You can think what you want.
That will land you in prison. If morals go out the window just because things get a little tight then no wise people will ever trust you again. Character matters.
Dave is a powerhouse and the supportive parent that a lot of men and women never had. I think he led her exactly in the direction she needs to go. Excellent advice.
Hello ☺️
Couldnt agree more. What an maxing human being.
This!
Single motherhood will bankrupt you unless you have the capacity and education to make a lot of money w/ flexibility
Not unless she's getting child support.
@@DrogoBaggins987 Its not free, its your and mine money she is receiving. State sponsorship of single motherhood should stop ASAP.
@@DrogoBaggins987 If the Government was giving me money for NOTHING I'd also be laughing!
There are a LOT of single mothers who have had little or no education and very little in the way of finances and have DONE VERY WELL in life, far better than you and I.
@@carojames6776 i never received any help and i did just fine ALL BY MYSELF bc i was never too lazy to get up and go to work.
I was 24 when I had my son and I was a single mom. I went to nursing school and it was worth all the hard work and being broke for a while.
@We who are about to die salute you No help from anyone except of course God. He helped me all the way through!
What year was it? 2019 is very different from 1980s
@@BboyDaquack It was in the 90's. Being broke probably feels the same no matter when it is. I only had 2 pair of pants when I went to school. There were a couple times I had no money for gas and God intervened and helped me. God did a lot of miracles for me but I was the one who persisted and got my degree.
@We who are about to die salute you yeah I mean I'm not hating and saying her struggle wasn't real. But look at the math. Money back then had more value. Not to say being broke still ain't hard. It's just more difficult in 2019. Esp if you don't have any skilled experience where you'd have to work as like a cashier, burger flipper, etc. But the people that grind out of those things are the ones that have more mental fortitude. My mom had her first son (oldest brother) while she was in nursing school full time and working full time. Granted my dad was in the picture. But still. Not easy things to do. These days people cave too easily under pressure. The good ol snowflake generation. And before people freak out. I am gen Z
@marconuts God has shown His love for me over and over and over! I see God's activity in my life everyday! I will pray for God to reveal Himself to you so you can know God too!
I don't understand men that get a woman pregnant and won't support them. I think they are the worst human beings. Give your child enough money, not what you are ordered to pay. Make sure your child has a good life.
Right! She shouldn't be getting all this hate because she chose to have her child and be a present parent. The man should be getting dragged not a single mom who made adjustments for her child.
@@ronneshabutler4651 it doesn't matter who opened legs and who didn't. Takes two people and if you are a man not a b...ch you will need to take care of your kids. That is the bottom line.
@@agentsmith9851 exactly! People are so judgmental
Preach! A real man doesn’t even allow himself to be put in a situation where he is absent. It’s sad how some grown boys are these days
@@agentsmith9851you don’t know their situation. All we know is , she coulda been a b*tch to him and decided to run off with the child , we don’t know. I know many men that want to be in their child’s lives and want to raise them and have full custody. And the mother shuns them , takes them to court and puts them on child support. That’s how it goes majority of the time.
The judgemental comments are disgusting. All of a sudden y'all are perfectly crystal clear with no flaws and no past mistakes.
Happy for her she's doing something about her situation. Go ahead baby girl. You got this 😊🤗😀💖
Her problem started mainly with her vajg, birth control, stray diyqkc 👌 and phfruqk'n the wrong man 👍
it's amazing how some people try to improve their life and other don't
SUPER amazing
I hope some of you guys don’t end up in the same situation as her. Your life can change at any moment, so be careful. These comments are disgusting.
Agree, My husband died suddenly when my son was only 4. Thankfully, I was already a teacher by that point. Also, thankful my husband had not worked under the table and had contributed to social security. Until my son was 18, I could count on about $700-$800 a month from social security survivor's benefits for my son. That is a heck of a lot more than the $250 she is getting from her child's dad.
If it’s possible she should move back in with her parents. Just until she gets a better job
dropout0110 Yeah either that or move in with some friends and split the rent. Also try to get a side hustle for some extra money. Sell some of the things she doesn’t need. 🤷🏽♀️
she doesn't seem to have enough ambition to get a better job; her dream job was being a receptionist and she owes her parents 10k this is a nightmare i would move far away to another state
It sounds like there are no jobs in her hometown.
Vanessa's World Unfortunately, some don't have that option
What about remote jobs ? As long as she has a reliable computer and internet connection
Sounds like she's living in the moment which is somewhat typical when your that age. But she needs to structure her life and plan it out, not only for herself but for the little one. The man in her life would have took on that role but being a single mom she needs to organize herself. My recommendation on top of the salary increase is to start writing out 5 year, 10 year plans and following them.
Preach!!!!! This is crucial especially during single moms/dads/caretakers. Vision boards work!
I wonder how many conservative pro lifers are in these comments making these judgemental comments. Kudos to this mother for adjusting for her child. Kudos to her job for helping a single mom. I pray she is able to find a good career with good pay and affordable child care for her child.& kudos to her for seeking advice from Dave
I can’t believe Dave told this girl to work 100 hours in a week.
Yeah completely disregarding the time she won’t be spending with her child. I swear single moms go through the hardest time in this society
It's because he can't fathom what it's like
@@bringontherainbows8369 close their legs, problem solved
100 hours is too much, but maybe she can do 60.
@@MarksTournamentsyeah take your own advice
Switch one of your jobs with higher hourly pay like waiting tables and move closer to family 👨👨👦👦😀
What if you have no family? I have none! Like literally no one that will help with my daughter... my family live less than 8 min away from me... it's just her and i...
@@racheltyree4879 that is sad 😢
Easier said than done. Move where, with what resources? Is a job guaranteed when you get there or will you have to hunt for work for months as someone new to the area? What if you can't easily get childcare for that new job? It's easy to make sweeping suggestions when you don't have to be the one to iron out the details.
$250 dollars is literally 3 packs of diapers and some food. :\ The child support system sucks so bad. I am happy she is trying to do better and turn her life around for the better! I love seeing strong women !!
If strong she needs no handours. Furthermore she wouldn't of had a divorce. The child will have issues for life because as you say....... mommy is strong.
@jmscoopy try taking a care of a child on your own then and the woman pay you $250 dont be crying when the child needs to see a doctor, food,etc, sports and you no longer have money to spend on prostitutes
@@brittneyyoung1882 I know three single dads none of the moms are paying child support and haven't been in there kids lives. In fact, the state can give two cents about single dads. The mom can be a street demon spawn and the dad can have a house and a job and the court still is against the father for custody
@@brittneyyoung1882 Everyone's not running on fumes financially. You don't know @jmscoopy's situation...he could be a very high earning man. He could give the $250 to his son for spending money.
People are too judgement making. I swear RUclips has turned into a debate table. At the end of the day it takes two to tango and regardless of a woman being independent, a man should be present.
Maybe pursue some kind of paralegal qualification - not full on law school but a 12 month qualification that will produce a decent income. Or, as Dave says, a trade.
Did she say what her two
part time jobs were? I’d like to know what job allows you to bring your child with you every day.
Probably works at a daycare or a gym that has a daycare in there
Get the debt paid down then hopefully it will give you some room in your budget 🤷♂️👍
Wow I would hate to be a single mother. So difficult. So heartbreaking. 😔
Difficult is an underestimate. You do get the pro of being in too notch shape at least but in all honesty yes it’s very difficult unless you have your priorities together.
@@jacob_gangVery few of these "single mothers" actually have THIER s....t together to get far in life because the ability to live by a code of conduct conducive to personal enrichment is a responsibility that doesn't care about your "trauma" or "personal problems". This STUPID girl was a where she is because SHE'S been coddled all her life and now being spaced out and clueless is coming to bite her. SHE decided to have a child while being financially insecure.
Some of these comments are disgusting! Who are we to judge??? I pray that the people who are speaking negatively never end up in this situation. Or if you guy examine yourself and make sure the mother of your child is not in this situation. No woman ever dreams of being a single mother. Sometimes that’s how life pans out. As a single mother a lot of you people could not walk a mile in our shoes!!!
It may not be a dream for women to become single mothers, but their choices and behavior usually is whats put them in that situation. Widows and Victims are excluded.
Women chose who they lay with and choose to produce/birth a child. There are plenty of circumstances that are out of our control but becoming a single mother(with previously stated exclusion) isn't one of them.
Convicted criminals don't dream of going to prison but they choose to commit acts that will land them in prisons. Single mothers do the same.
Also, a lot of people could walk in your shoes but they choose not to. Its about making smart decisions.
next week mom calls in cuz she tired of being a built-in babysitter. dave tells her everyman for themselves lol kick her out
Yes! Been there- babysitting for free. I quit that zero income job.
LOL----exactly my thoughts. Dave thinks nothing of enlisting grandma as free full-time baby sitter while daughter works 100 hrs/week to work off the $10K owed to the grandparents.
No kidding. The mom could be 50 and still working full-time herself. @@Swedetwin
People are talking about her being a single mom and generalizing single moms as a whole. But she called him for financial advice, many older than her still haven’t realized that they make bad financial/life decisions smh🤦🏾♀️🙄 You gotta start somewhere🤷🏾♀️
Is it really generalizing? Statistics don't lie about single mothers
big matt How do single moms become single moms? By NEITHER party using birth control; Dad left because he didn't want the responsibility; or Dad is in the picture and doesn't uphold his end.
It really is a two-way street.
@@sharyn4271 They become single moms by making poor decisions(widows and victims excluded). Or because of the bias court system she doesnt allow him around his children. Or he could be doing a perfect job and they are co parenting.
Negative zero?
"Dream past survival" -DR
👍
We really need to stop incentivizing these horrible decisions.
I support abortion
Personal responsibility can mean abortion
@@whitneyw.7919 ever notice how everyone who speaks up against abortion is either a beta male or mentally slow. Watch him backpedal😂
@ Yeah, men use that line all the time. Trust me, women don't want to breed mental retardation into their bloodline. In that case they will gladly keep their legs closed for you😁
@@whitneyw.7919 what if you someone aborted you? Why take the life of someone else who didn't open their legs up.
The breakdown of the western family unit. Too many single moms.
Too many no good for nothing men leaving women to be single moms. What has happened to our men?? They are turning out to be grown boys
@@noirfit9721 - Right! God is going to judge America!
As the family goes, there goes society.
@@noirfit9721 There are certain women that are unbearable to be with you just because you have a child with somebody does not mean you have to spend the rest of your life with him.
However that father has an obligation to that son & that’s it I think he needs to pay more towards child support to make sure that child is taken care of.
@@noirfit9721 You don’t want men.
When she said negative zero... that's all I needed to hear 🙄
Why should a mother of a 2.5 year old work 100 hours/week...? Poor child!
Because she is in a mess and needs to get out. Short term sacrifice can mean a long-term improvement on her life as well as her child’s.
Where do you find a job that makes 90000 a year because in my area they don't really exist? Here in Indiana 40-60,000 is considered making good money.
At 90k a year, she would not have time to raise her kid. The ones that pay close to six figures, you will have blood sweat and tears for it.
My cousin lives in Indiana. Makes 180k as an engineering manager.
Amanda make one!
But you also live in low cost state. So that $40000 goes a long way compare to Cali , NY , etc.
I make over 200k a year in san jose ca
-0 doesn’t exist but okay kid
That's how she does math.
But it also doesn't not exist. o.-
My thought exactly when she said that. Lol.
JaySavage did 15 people really take that as anything other than obvious joke.
Jeff Cooper Did you really not take my joke as an obvious joke about her obvious joke?
Dave just unintentionally insulted all the receptionists out there. Especially those who work at the VA. I work at the VA and some of those girls actually like being receptionists.
I really don’t get all the hate being spewed at single women with children. The people being judgemental def need a heart check and some inner healing because you sound wounded and jaded in your perspectives. Men are commenting hurtful and harsh things about women who take care of the children but these same people don’t comment on the men being better. That’s a problem. After all we’re all here because of a woman (biologically speaking).
Hello Gab☺️
Surprised there's not more hate for the father who's only paying up $250. I mean, that bloke should take some more responsibility.
My friend sent this to me..........knowing my family doesnt help. Ugh yea 😐😐😐😐😐😐
Lol yeah I'm in the same boat!
100 hours a week is not possible and not healthy.
It is possible but not healthy at all.
You haven't been desperate so easy for you to say that!
@@albs1448 true I’m not desperate and won’t mess up my life to be
I feel the same way as this girl except I don’t have family support at all
Nooo Dave. Watching the grandkids every day is not the grandmothers responsibility!!
did you not listen at all? The girl is in a very bad situation, if Grandma can watch the kid for a year, maybe she can get more education, a better career, pay off some debt, and get to a point where she can responsibly watch the child.
@@shahmask Again, not the Grandparents responsibility. They are not free daycare service because mommy can't handle the choices she's made.
You need to CHeck yourself. I myself am a single parent but my mother was not. And they dropped me off at grandparents every day. G-parents would come at 5-6am , watch us eat breakfast and take us to their house where we would stay for the whole day until parents came to get us. Both my parents worked. Good jobs too. And they dropped us there, at least until we were able to go to school.
The thing people don’t realize is that most single mothers don’t have proper educations and or are only working minimum wage jobs. Minimum wage is 10/12$ an hour and babysitters are 10-20$ an hour. THIS is why he is saying this. Check your self.
for one year? why on earth not unless she works full-time.
$250????????????????????????????????
TheMelloMan I read this in the Soulja boy voice 🤣🤦🏾♀️
She can become a Virtual Assistant. Look at the website: the work at home wife.
Unless you actually work at home.... that's a false dream. My aunt works from home. She is still WORKING. She can't build a spread sheet while also doing her house's bills, helping her son with his homework and grocery shopping. She can't take a conference call while bleaching the bathroom, and vacuuming. Either you have a low view of what being a mother and running a house actually entails, and maybe you should consider what it takes to do it well. Or you think they're giving away money for little actual work.
@@ludwigvonmiseswasright4380 just more excuses. I'm a single mom of 2. Have 2 businesses &I Work from home. 🙄 Invest in timemanagement.
@@kellyalen1 I'm a single mom of one, and work 20 hours a week at a hospital 4 miles away, and when I'm home, I'm totally home. I didn't say work from home can't be done. I said it doesn't cheat time. You're still "absent" during your work hours
@Paul Dybala>>I'm sensing sarcasm. I only work 5 days in a pay period (two weeks). Yes, I'm not worth much when I get home in the evening at 4pm. I have help (grandparents) who take my daughter to school those days. So in the school year, she doesn't notice I'm gone at work. In the summer I get a little break from kids and she gets summer art classes, which her grandparents take her to. I am able to get the household chores done and rest on my days off. From the perspective of someone trying to do it all, I can say that "doing/having it all" isn't really possible. It's a lie that breeds dissatisfaction. I don't have the money full-time working women have. But that's OK, because I have time off. My stay-at-home sister-in-law is considering homeschooling. I don't feel I have that option. Even though I'm home 9 days out of 14, I don't think I have the mental energy to either be working at the hospital or running a homeschool, without a day off. But, I have more money than her, and can afford a private school instead.
Saturday I picked up the niece and nephew and took them, with my daughter, to Home Depot's free kids project, bought hot-dogs for lunch and had a walk through their garden nursery. I did my house chores later while they played in the yard. After niece and nephew went home, I took my daughter to Aunt Sue's house and we cleaned for one hour. My daughter learned how to vacuum corners with the hose attachment, and pick shoes up to vacuum underneath (she is 7 years old). She and I cleaned for one hour, so she could earn $15, which is her spending money. Then I let my 15 year old cousin drive us home, so he could practice driving. We rode our bikes ALL the way to McDonalds and grocery shopping, and back again. After dinner my daughter joined a block party with a bounce house, so after a few more house chores, I stood around chatting with other parents so my daughter could play..... Obviously my day was not "efficient." But that wasn't the point of my day. We stayed off the TV all day, and that was the point. We met with the cousins, and helped Aunt Sue, and learned that money comes from work. She still can't ride without training wheels, and needs the practice. My kid will be over in the neighbors' yard again this summer, playing with their kids, so I need to get in touch again....And my point is, where is the time for me to run a business?
I suppose a mother could work from home during the school year, while the kids are out of the house. But how is a mother supposed to run a business with a 2 year old at home? You cannot actually be watching/interacting with the kids AND thinking great thoughts. And if a woman is sitting at a desk for 5 hours a day while the kids are at school, I guess that leaves maximum 2 hours a day to grocery shop, laundry, yard work, vacuum, bleach bathrooms, pets, bills, buy/wrap birthday presents, volunteer at school/church, bible study.... No one is actually earning $100,000/year from a laptop getting free WiFi from a McDonalds play place in between changing diapers, nap time, and interrupting children. Running a business from home, or flex working from home as an employee, requires dedicated mental energy and time blocks without interruption. Which is why even women who work from home send their children to school or daycare or hire a nanny, and still pay to have their house cleaned. Women can do a lot, but not ALL.
@@ludwigvonmiseswasright4380 I'm sorry but in Belgium we work at 38h or 40h. I AM also present for my kids. And both of thrm have dyslexia & ADD. So they need extra help. Again you are making excuses for everything. If you want more you need to do more. But it's ok if you want to work 20h a week and be there fit your child. That's fine to. No judgement. 😉😊💕
This was very good & well explained🙌🏽🙌🏽 I’m in a place of starting over, rebuilding🙏🏽!!! I left a job behind that no longer served me well or had my best interest, I felt used and it was starting to drain my PEACE which is why I left. I will NOT ALLOW anything or anyone touch my peace or use me up giving me nothing in return but a under paid paycheck & a hard way to go. The pandemic was surely an eye opener to life is precious & short🙏🏽
Hello gorgeous nice meeting you.
Hope you're keeping safe.
@@berrycollins9900 bruh that certainly ain't you in the profile picture
I love this episode I wish here more just like this
Agree….This was a very good !!!!
Allot of Dave Ramsey's on the feed.
lower your tax withdrawals, talk to judge about child support them choosing to give isn't good. find out what you want to do in your life that makes money. making choices to stay close to the father is not even an option.
Her parents gave her $10 000 yet they didn't give her any money to go to school? Sounds like they can afford it.
Not their responsibility...
@jmscoopy I'm just saying why would her parents not pay for her college but were willing to give her $10 000 afterward when she has no money?
@@liamwelsh5565 bc she has no goals in life and has no real vision of being anything that uni can give her atm
@@manarioomanarioo7331 That's her parents fault just as much as hers. They clearly didn't help guide her into a successful future in anyway at all.
@@liamwelsh5565 Yes, parents can suggest higher education or urge her to think about what she wants to do in 10 yrs time but ultimately it comes down to the individual to want to do it. If my parents told me that they'd pay for me to study law, I'd probably fail all my classes and not care bc it wasn't MY decision to study law
She needs to change her tax exemption
A $6600 tax return? Yuck! “Earned” Income Credit. Pay $1000-$2000, get $6600 back.
Anthony Bush Working the minimum to get the benefits is not something that should be praised. I live in Wisconsin and I’ve met multiple single moms who refuse to work more because they’ll pay more in section 8 or lose their benefits.
@@elmagnificodep Right. Because if I work like 70 hours a week, I will lose my housing subsidy but I still will barely cover my rent, my doctor bills for Lyme Disease, my son's food and clothes (we don't get child support even though it is COURT ORDERED). You don't get it. You either stay on benefits, or make at LEAST $60,000 a year and make it WORTH it to get off them. I'm a certified teacher and can't get hired in a suburban district that will pay me at least $60,000.
Binduspire Shouldn’t of had kids if you couldn’t afford them. I don’t even have a degree and neither does my wife. Our household income is $120,000. However I used to be homeless and didn’t bring children into this world I couldn’t afford.
Binduspire P.S. Certified teacher? What kind of made up title is that? Is that a daycare worker? If you were a teacher for public school you would just say teacher. Go get better job skills if you want more money.
elmagnificodep I never got more in a tax return than what I put in when I was a single mom what loophole is this?
Having Grandma take care of the kid daily? They have a father. I live in Wisconsin and single fathers never get to see their kids. The court system is geared to support women.
I'm wondering if 'dad' can be trusted to keep the kid for some hours so she can work more.
wheel-man She moved to be closer to the dad. That probably means the court gave him like 1 weekday every other week and every other weekend.
I understood that she moved to be closer to kid's dad. I was not asking about his visitation privilege or lack thereof. What I was asking essentially is since she lives close to 'dad' can the kid's dad be trusted to watch the kid every day for 5,6 as many as 8 hours so she can take another job or baring that, so she can take classes.
Yeah, I think Dave's forgotten what it's like to chase a toddler around all day everyday, if he ever did. even if it is "only for a year" hilarious!. Grandparents deserve to be able to visit and be able to leave on their own schedule.
elmagnificodep my ex didn’t want to have set visitation so I could plan work schedules around visits to save in day care he just wanted to blow in to see his son like the wind just when ever or not at all his excuse was “ no I’m not gonna baby sit to help you” so it got to the point after tax all my income was going to daycare and I lost the apartment
Birth control is CHEAP, people.
On top of that....there are approximately 13 methods available to women.... if they can't figure out how not to get pregnant with so many methods.... I don't know what to tell them.
Not your business
Jeffrey Stern Tell men to use them then.
vigorlilover
Guy, you’re an idiot! “13 methods available FOR WOMEN. “
@@jeffreystern5886 What if you go on the pill, assume you are safe, but then get pregnant by accident because it didn't work for you? No one is on all 13 birth controls at once. Accidents happen. Don't put this all on women, you idiot.
Step 1. Don't have anymore kids, you can't afford it.
step 2. obtain crystal ball so you'll know if your mating w a financially responsible individual who'll never depart from his morals.😂
After you have one.... it doesn't really change anything to have more. One is just as hard as several in many ways. At least when you have several they play with each other. When you have one, they want to always interact with mom. And it's not like taking one kid to the park is any more or less time-consuming than taking several. Either way, you can't go to work.
Or quit choosing the bad boys and banging right out of the gate and suddenly you don't need the crystal ball cos you're only banging your husband (who you've gotten to know over several years).
@@luminous6969 news flash husbands leave too
@Austin Martín Hernandez the cost increases in diminishing increments. It's not a linear relationship
Excellent advice Dave
These single mamas need to figure it out, quick.
Honestly appalled at some of these comments. Some of y'all should be ashamed of yourselves.
I'd rather forgive the 10k than watch my grandbaby everyday for a year.
I would forgive the $10k and would love to watch my grandchild for a year. What an wonderful job that would be!!!
😂😂😂 sounds like something my pops would say
I’m hollering 😂😂😂😂😂
You people in these comments are sad
Real Vessel not as sad as broke single moms.
Brad Nope, just sadder and self hating.
I started watching Dave Ramsey because we’re in the process of buying a house. Our mortgage is 39% of our take home pay and we didn’t put much of a down payment down. Any suggestions in the comments?? Lol. We make 102k and right now I’m paying off silly debts that I should’ve been paying long ago 😭 wishing we had saved more for a down payment, but hoping to refinance in a few years. What do y’all think
Do you have kids? Even if you don't, make a list of all the free activities available to you. $1 movie at the library? Free story time (if you have kids). A Park nearby? Gardening? Discount hour at the play place? Get a $1 coffee at McDonalds and use their WiFi. Read a book. After you have discovered all the free things, start doing them. You will soon realized you don't need the memberships or the $20 per person day at the zoo. If you fill your leisure time with enjoyable free activities, you won't feel deprived, you'll feel busy. Start "shopping" the curb on trash day and cleaning/repairing items for a garage sale. This isn't for making money, its for something to do. Good if you have kids, to teach them money comes from work.
Do the same with food. Eggs are healthy and cheap. How many ways do you know how to prepare them? Do you know how to make tasty beans/legumes? Also cheap and healthy. Learn to prepare cheap, healthy food and put it on the calendar so you're making the recipes often. You won't have time to eat out as much, and this will cut in half the days you have available for eating expensive foods.
Saving money is a game. There is a fascinating world available in books. You don't have to travel to broaden your mind, and in many ways traveling does nothing for you, if you haven't learned about the place first.
Maybe you can cancel your cable, internet, or nice phone plan, now that you don't use them so much? Cancel your season tickets, and sell your second car. Realize you "need" less, and you don't have to be deprived. You just have to fill your days with cheaper activities.
Sarah Isles I appreciate this post!! Nope, no children. Just me and my husband. We have about 5-6 months left before our house is finished being built, and in the meantime, we’re saving as much as we can so that our down payment can be $20,000! I created a budget and am doing the best I can. We have little debt compared to most people I’d say. I only have $400 on my credit card and my husband has 10k in student loans. We’re trying to bring this down before we get the house lol. Idk why I feel like we’ll be house poor even though I know we won’t be 😭 these horror stories got me scared lol
@@ludwigvonmiseswasright4380 Name checks out.
How many times can you say ummmmm
Hello Nakatani☺️
Hello.
The thing is... To not be a single mom in the first place.. 😂
Josh well Josh I’m sure that wasn’t her intention.
How does anything you said change her situation now? Are you a time traveler? Can you turn back time to make her not be a single mom anymore? Teach me your sorcery.
@@chelseahancock6933 All she had to do is check and see what happens to other women like her..... and then decide.... "I know... I Won't Do THAT....".... there must be hundreds of examples around her. Use your Women's Intuition.... and don't pick jerks to mate with.
Well we’re all human and make life mistakes. Just because you make a mistake doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve help dealing with that mistake.
Good advice 🌞🎩
Thank you. All great advice. I especially like that Dave didn't say to go get the child support raised.
She should. $250 is appallingly low. The guy must be worthless if that's all he was made to pay.
@@neolithic3 if she isn't pursuing his involvement, she shouldn't pursue his money.
And maybe the farther cannot afford to pay more, oh wait they both made babies her more than him why because once she's pregnant he has zero paternal rights, but yeah he needs to be on the streets while he works around the clock to support child and ultimately her, his responsibilities her choices oyyyy vehhh
@@neolithic3 yeah that's true men are always commodities not companions to you women his only real value to you is his level of resources
@C B that's right I forget he accountable for the situation not her she's just a victim
She should go after the ex for more child support, $250 a month isn't enough, if this guy is only paying $250, he must be a real loser.
I get zero
Wow 😮
I get the same amount as her but I have twins.
L. G. No he doesn’t complain but I also haven’t heard from him or seen him in 6 months so I have no idea what his cost of living or quality of life is. Recently he’s been voluntarily sending more money than normal though but he still ignores me when I try to reach out for him to see the kids. So it’s a rather confusing situation.
Don't think any person could work a hundred hours a week
How can I call Dave Ramsey?
Hello gorgeous nice meeting you.
Wonder if she was ever married.
What if she wasn't? You have too much negative energy inside yourself.
@@true_love_lera Because it explains why she's in this situation.
michael weyenberg not true. I’m in the process of a divorce & im basically in her situation. Except we have 2 kids, I’m an LPN and have no support. My parents have been deceased & my soon to be ex husband got on drugs & doesn’t support any. This can happen to anybody
Guy not making much either
Hi Kristal☺️
When she is at home babysitting her kid, start doing money making stuff online.
Hjb Productions like what?
Love this! I hope my videos helps people like these do!
Good plug! Lol
Good advice Dave, but your going to push away alot of people you can help with that attitude and prejudice.
Should of invested in Condoms lol
Doesn't she know single moms are not accepted in the DR community (hence the comments). He also has no practical advice for us; aside from find a job making $100,000 and move near family. Problem is people without higher education dont typically make 100k. And many people's families arent supportive. Id tell her to pursue nursing school with as many loans she can get her hands on. But Dave is delusional to think a single mom can cash flow a college education while attending school full time, and while working full time. He gives good advice for people in debt but NOT poor people.
Im a 39 year old pt retired guy .I own my 300k house and have 20k in bank. What can i do more to be productive to society
BANDS WILL MAKE HER DANCE!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Nobody ever mentions adoption. It's an option. Period.
Hello. Im a Guy i love single mom
I'm interested single mom
I stay in Malaysia
Ladies...you don’t have to let every man...you know what this is Dave Ramsey’s channel. She needs to get in shape, be pretty,
Learn how to be feminine, and get a man who’s willing to take on her liability WITHOUT getting pregnant unless he marries her. 88% of millionaires are married. Women’s fastest path to wealth is marriage. DO IT!!!
Yeah ask Jeff bezos ex wife
ron sylvia you know what’s funny. Most women who are billionaires are there because of their husbands.
ron sylvia well he’s the one he cheated on her
Lol yeah until he cheats on you with someone younger or is emotionally abusive or picks up gambling or blah blah blah. Women need to be able to provide on their own for their kids or they can end up stuck in a terrible situation. Heck what if your husband gets in a car accident? Always have a way to make an income if marriage falls through or if there is an emergency.
So basically, the man should get the responsibility of being with a women that his children, but none of the benefits?
$250/mo, while better than nothing, is ridiculous if she truly has the kid 90% of the time.
My guess is the dad is a loser. Also, this is why I don't date single moms. Not worth it.
Well being only 24 your probaly not making much
bhs nobody cares who you wanna date dude
@@chelseahancock6933 You must care since you took the time to comment. Keep pumping those kids out big mama.
Single mothers always find a man though, it seems is women without kids have a harder timer
@@juliettezea9507 No first hand experience but I've heard that single mothers are really loose with their private parts. They also move quickly to take advantage of every minute of free time. No waiting and no negotiating for the guy. I'm not saying it's right...just what I've heard from guys who target single mothers.
single mothers are a modern day plague
That's cold.
Marriage isn't what it used to be 🤷♂️
@@ChristyQQ1 no one said that you should tattoo Everlast on your chest and like him go to town. Just don't get into that spot to begin with.
An unmarried single mother is different than a divorced woman with children.. Obviously for both want to go after the father for support. But you can't lump both of them in the same basket, situations are different. Love or perceived love changes over time and people don't always pick the best partners.
@@ChrisMFlorida and the whit knight jumps in! lol pathetic enabler
I'm gonna say it, Only Fans might be an option.
If she is hot, she can just marry a rich guy
@jmscoopy there are blue pill simpers out there that'll do it. She's just gotta get in his head
Sorry I just would not entertain this woman - attention all single guys ... stay well clear
It's disgusting that people brag about being a single mom. Basically you're a terrible person.
they're the terrible person? Or the father that abandoned them is a terrible person?
Derek Schwartz my mom became a single mom when my dad died. Did that make her a terrible person? 🙄 people can be so incentive
Wow. Just wow. Until you’ve been scared for your safety from your own husband and have to divorce for your own safety, you have no idea what a single mom is like. Look to your peers, sir and chide them for being terrible husbands and dads. Figure out a way to influence them and maybe then you’ll see fewer single moms out here.
My ex husband cheated on me continuously for 6 months straight with a co worker. I stayed with him 2 years after that. I made more money than he did yet we were always broke because he had terrible money managment skills. We all make mistakes mine was picking the wrong husband. I am not a bad person. You can think what you want.
Hey Dave making cash for survival legal and moral goes out the window
That will land you in prison. If morals go out the window just because things get a little tight then no wise people will ever trust you again. Character matters.
@@DrogoBaggins987 I don't understand. Pole dancing and stripping is legal.