I had said things out of anger that I have regretted later and couldn't take back. The people who were my true friends accepted my apologies and we remained friends and move on from the incident. I realized that the ones who didn't accept my apologies for what I had said out of anger, weren't my true friends, Even though I deeply apologized to them they've never spoke to me again. That's when I finally learned to be slow to anger and slow to speak. I learned a sad and valuable lesson from this and the lesson I learned was to think, before I speak. Especially if wanting to have a good relationship and remain on good terms with others.
It can depend on what you said doesn’t mean that they weren’t your true friends just may had meant some people have standard and don’t tolerate abusive language from others (not saying you personally just in general)*
There is a famous saying: 'Those who are meant to be in your life shall stay with you no matter the ups and downs while those who are not meant to be in your life, they shall repel you even in the greatest moments.' So, try to be yourself-the best version of yourself- and don't worry about peoples acceptance of you because your acceptance of you is what really counts!
I believe that persons know exactly what they are saying and doing. If someone apologises and I get the feeling that they are insincere that's it. Before I speak I ask myself "if someone told me this how would I feel?"
@@HiImAmazing123 I would have been excited if anyone ever came to me to apologize for their rudeness, they never did. My new friends now never do rude things.
AlbumLeViola I said I can't stand you, find someone who will. She had gotten on my nerves because she was so controlling with me. We didn't even met but planned to.
Those who are secure are mature enough to feel sorry for the one who said something foolish. When someone says they are sorry it should fix everything. The problem now days is that people act pretty awful a lot and don't ever feel bad they did it. I have gone to people to ask what I did when I didn't say anything rude, but they would blow it off in favor of remaining angry. When someone desires to hang onto bogus wrong, then they are making the choice to dislike us. My good friends do not take my opinions about many things as a personal attack. That has been my problem more than anything said regarding them personally. Gossipers do not belong in the life of someone who does not act like that.
I’ve said some hurtful things to the person I wanna be with and it wasn’t the first time I’ve said this, my second.. I don’t blame him for not wanting to be with me anymore I just hope he forgives me and realize it’s just something I’ve said out of anger and no action was taken 😔 it involves our sons and it’s been stressful because I know his past relationship done things worse and I never want him to compare me to her..
I said something I deeply regret to a camper on Roblox Piggy. Ik it may sound stupid and that person probably forgot but I keep thinking about the negative. Because After I said the thing I regret I left the game out of anger. So I can’t really apologize to that person and idk what they said after...
I don't like to apologize. Nobody does. Duh. But, I also don't like people apologizing to me. It EXTREMELY RARELY happens. But, that does not change the fact that I don't like others apologizing to me. I want them to CHANGE their behavior or logic. But apologizing is rather pointless. I guess I care only about observable testable quantifiable results.
Can i get your help personally??.. My teacher scolded me, i know he was saying for my good. But my mind wasn't working that time and i texted him and said those things which i didn't want to send him...but I'm regretting..even he stop to talking me...i just can't tolerate that much ignorance from him, i want him to talk to him😭
Can you please give some advice on dealing with friends who take jokes too far like tease about outfits and the style of car or phone you have. i seem to be a magnet to these people but i have no idea why. my phone is a newer version so i dont know why they act like its tacky and trash (or why it even matters!) ive already dropped friends like this and i only have a few left and now THESE friends are doing this too!! why?! so frustrating and i leave every conversation feeling lesser if i bring it up , they will probably say sorry, but most likely do it again
They are trying to find something that you are sensitive about. If it is not your phone, it will be something else. They are trying to get under your skin to get a rise out of you, to make themselves feel superior. Just let these comments roll off your back... don't even give them a second thought, don't give these types a reaction at all. Simply move on to another subject. And also, try to find friends who are secure in themselves and don't feel the need to bring anyone else down. I know, easier said than done! But really make the effort. Start talking a little more to acquaintances, and as you develop new friendships, you can slowly distance yourself from these people.
I have said something to my friends friends no I hate him and then said no he is just a friend and I am really scared if they tell and then he gets angry or something
This is amazing advice from you Marie! I want to ask a question (maybe you recorded something like that before, if yeah then I will be appreciated to get the link). So: people sometimes wants some help from me online regarding work I am doing. We are calling eachother and I am helping them. And after that they are starting to making friendship with me. I helped them, that's it. I am not searching for new friendships and how do I need to tell them about it to not look rude?
I Iove your videos, which I have been watching for years. I am a fan of your work. If I may ask with your permission, are you a counselor or doctor? You always give great advice, which makes perfect sense. God Bless.
@@mariedubuque Your kids are very blessed to have a shrewd, intelligent, and caring mom as yourself. You remind me of my mom who is also very smart and loves for everything to be fair, which means you may get along with my mom. Thanks for quick response. God Bless.
Hi, do you have a pool? I've been watching your videos for a long time and my wife and I thought you might have a pool based on the position of windows and stairs in the room, as well as the decorating style which my wife described as "Floridian". Thanks in advance. Love the videos.
Hello ma'am so this is my story with a friend..long story short I have a friend who I love dearly but the person constantly on and off for years would flip on me verbally and I would always forgive and go back to talking . Well last week I snapped and verbally let her have it ..I feel bad she isn't talking to me and all our mutual friends are not talking to me either because she is putting her spin on it. She is also a alcoholic and verbal goes off ands want s u to forgive her but she can't it seems
I know you feel bad about lashing out at her, but it seems she did/said something to trigger your reaction and now she is blaming you and making you feel guilty. This pattern will likely continue until you distance yourself from her.
Hi Marie! This advice is great! Thank you! ^^ I was wondering, one of my friends is really lonely and I'm too far to meet them. Our only contact is social media due to the pandemic. But they're hurting and they don't want to talk to anyone. Should I message them? I worry for them. Or should I be patient, it's been a week, and we've never been out of touch for this long for years. I don't want to spam them with texts and hope to give them space. But maybe they don't need space, and actually need someone to talk to, as they hate being lonely. So confused. Thanks. Wishing the best.
Sometimes the one who wont accept apology is thrilled that finally relationship is over..waited for that moment.
It's only the self important people that love drama and attention and won't forget. Humble people have empathy and respect for people.
Marie Williams Wise words ❤️
i said something really bad to my friend without even thinking about how it would effect them im so disgusted with myself
I had said things out of anger that I have regretted later and couldn't take back. The people who were my true friends accepted my apologies and we remained friends and move on from the incident. I realized that the ones who didn't accept my apologies for what I had said out of anger, weren't my true friends, Even though I deeply apologized to them they've never spoke to me again. That's when I finally learned to be slow to anger and slow to speak. I learned a sad and valuable lesson from this and the lesson I learned was to think, before I speak. Especially if wanting to have a good relationship and remain on good terms with others.
It can depend on what you said doesn’t mean that they weren’t your true friends just may had meant some people have standard and don’t tolerate abusive language from others (not saying you personally just in general)*
There is a famous saying:
'Those who are meant to be in your life shall stay with you no matter the ups and downs while those who are not meant to be in your life, they shall repel you even in the greatest moments.'
So, try to be yourself-the best version of yourself- and don't worry about peoples acceptance of you because your acceptance of you is what really counts!
Exactly, thank you!
I like this! But what about those people who do show the best versions of themselves and they aren’t the nicest!?
OMG I just had a similair accident and I felt soooooo guilty
Thanks you're like the best friend that gives me the right advice that I never had ❤
I believe that persons know exactly what they are saying and doing. If someone apologises and I get the feeling that they are insincere that's it. Before I speak I ask myself "if someone told me this how would I feel?"
Not everyone can. Emotions make logic illogical.
Thank you, this came into the most perfect time.
This girl blocked me everywhere after I said hurful words to her :/
I reached out 2 days after and she said that it's too late, she found someone else..
@@HiImAmazing123 I would have been excited if anyone ever came to me to apologize for their rudeness, they never did. My new friends now never do rude things.
Gwendolyn Wehage Exactly, we should be around people who don't make things go tense..
@@HiImAmazing123 what did u say to her if i may kno?
AlbumLeViola I said I can't stand you, find someone who will. She had gotten on my nerves because she was so controlling with me. We didn't even met but planned to.
Those who are secure are mature enough to feel sorry for the one who said something foolish. When someone says they are sorry it should fix everything. The problem now days is that people act pretty awful a lot and don't ever feel bad they did it. I have gone to people to ask what I did when I didn't say anything rude, but they would blow it off in favor of remaining angry. When someone desires to hang onto bogus wrong, then they are making the choice to dislike us. My good friends do not take my opinions about many things as a personal attack. That has been my problem more than anything said regarding them personally. Gossipers do not belong in the life of someone who does not act like that.
I agree completely.
I’ve said some hurtful things to the person I wanna be with and it wasn’t the first time I’ve said this, my second.. I don’t blame him for not wanting to be with me anymore I just hope he forgives me and realize it’s just something I’ve said out of anger and no action was taken 😔 it involves our sons and it’s been stressful because I know his past relationship done things worse and I never want him to compare me to her..
Girl how do you always know what I need to be told I swear the universe sent you right now
I love when someone says send them a text or what have you, um yeah they blocked you! There is no way in, no social media, nothing.
I can't talk to them because they were a stranger on the internet. I just gotta hope they are ok.
I've tired, but you can't argue with a narcissist...she will hold grudges forever.😞
I said something I deeply regret to a camper on Roblox Piggy. Ik it may sound stupid and that person probably forgot but I keep thinking about the negative.
Because After I said the thing I regret I left the game out of anger. So I can’t really apologize to that person and idk what they said after...
I love this lady.. thank u so muchh💜💜💜
I don't like to apologize. Nobody does. Duh.
But, I also don't like people apologizing to me. It EXTREMELY RARELY happens. But, that does not change the fact that I don't like others apologizing to me. I want them to CHANGE their behavior or logic. But apologizing is rather pointless. I guess I care only about observable testable quantifiable results.
Can i get your help personally??..
My teacher scolded me, i know he was saying for my good. But my mind wasn't working that time and i texted him and said those things which i didn't want to send him...but I'm regretting..even he stop to talking me...i just can't tolerate that much ignorance from him, i want him to talk to him😭
Can you please give some advice on dealing with friends who take jokes too far like tease about outfits and the style of car or phone you have. i seem to be a magnet to these people but i have no idea why. my phone is a newer version so i dont know why they act like its tacky and trash (or why it even matters!) ive already dropped friends like this and i only have a few left and now THESE friends are doing this too!! why?! so frustrating and i leave every conversation feeling lesser if i bring it up , they will probably say sorry, but most likely do it again
They are trying to find something that you are sensitive about. If it is not your phone, it will be something else. They are trying to get under your skin to get a rise out of you, to make themselves feel superior. Just let these comments roll off your back... don't even give them a second thought, don't give these types a reaction at all. Simply move on to another subject. And also, try to find friends who are secure in themselves and don't feel the need to bring anyone else down. I know, easier said than done! But really make the effort. Start talking a little more to acquaintances, and as you develop new friendships, you can slowly distance yourself from these people.
I have said something to my friends friends no I hate him and then said no he is just a friend and I am really scared if they tell and then he gets angry or something
This is amazing advice from you Marie! I want to ask a question (maybe you recorded something like that before, if yeah then I will be appreciated to get the link). So: people sometimes wants some help from me online regarding work I am doing. We are calling eachother and I am helping them. And after that they are starting to making friendship with me. I helped them, that's it. I am not searching for new friendships and how do I need to tell them about it to not look rude?
I said society isn’t okay w white woman and black men being together and they made it seem like it was horrible
I Iove your videos, which I have been watching for years. I am a fan of your work. If I may ask with your permission, are you a counselor or doctor? You always give great advice, which makes perfect sense. God Bless.
Thank you, you too. No, I am certified as a life coach, but am not a counselor or a doctor. Mostly it is just "Mom" advice.
@@mariedubuque Your kids are very blessed to have a shrewd, intelligent, and caring mom as yourself. You remind me of my mom who is also very smart and loves for everything to be fair, which means you may get along with my mom. Thanks for quick response. God Bless.
i need this thank you so much
Hi, do you have a pool? I've been watching your videos for a long time and my wife and I thought you might have a pool based on the position of windows and stairs in the room, as well as the decorating style which my wife described as "Floridian". Thanks in advance. Love the videos.
No, we don't, but you are right, we love Florida, and have a pond in our backyard. Reminds us a little of the Gulf-Of-Mexico!
You are so attractive!
I constantly do this. Lmao
marie can u make a video on how to get attention the right way without being outrageous. thx u 🖤
That is a good one. I will have to do it. Thank you and stay safe.
@@mariedubuque yes plz marie dont forget!!! u always give the best advice 🖤🖤🖤🖤
Can you help me in smth please?
Hello ma'am so this is my story with a friend..long story short I have a friend who I love dearly but the person constantly on and off for years would flip on me verbally and I would always forgive and go back to talking . Well last week I snapped and verbally let her have it ..I feel bad she isn't talking to me and all our mutual friends are not talking to me either because she is putting her spin on it. She is also a alcoholic and verbal goes off ands want s u to forgive her but she can't it seems
I know you feel bad about lashing out at her, but it seems she did/said something to trigger your reaction and now she is blaming you and making you feel guilty. This pattern will likely continue until you distance yourself from her.
Hi Marie! This advice is great! Thank you! ^^ I was wondering, one of my friends is really lonely and I'm too far to meet them. Our only contact is social media due to the pandemic. But they're hurting and they don't want to talk to anyone. Should I message them? I worry for them. Or should I be patient, it's been a week, and we've never been out of touch for this long for years. I don't want to spam them with texts and hope to give them space. But maybe they don't need space, and actually need someone to talk to, as they hate being lonely. So confused. Thanks. Wishing the best.
send them a short thoughtful message. theyll like it just dont write an essay of overly emotional text, itll overwhelm them
@@AlbumLeViola you're right. Thank you. ^^
I love u ♒
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