It might take some DIY skills, but you can turn those sentimental items into something else - for instance, clothes into blankets (like quilting). Doesn't have to be spectacular workmanship. I always need sheets and light blankets all over my house for blocking areas, or making a cozy corner, or to fill space while I'm sitting so that my arms don't feel weird.
I just moved to my own apt for the first time alone and I’m getting so much anxiety. I thought I prepared myself but here I am on my first day with anxiety. 😅 thank for the helpful reminders.
for the task of deciding what to keep and take with you when moving, and later for packing efficiently, especially for clothes but actually it applies to every physical thing, i highly recommend using the konmari method. i am on the spectrum myself and even though i am not moving this year, doing this very structured method was very freeing and if i decide to move, i will have sorted out exactly what i need and love anyway and have everything folded neatly already. it is such a great method for autistics in my opinion... ok unless someone has alexithymia but all others will love it.
(2nd comment) 4:51 HAHA 🤣 You know, when my cousin who is thinking I'm not autistic and I just lack confidence, I think about you Nathan!! The problem is she doesn't understand English... Anyway! I'm happy i'm not the only one caring too much about objects ^^ But really this was hard for me when I had to back home from Japan at the end of my University year out there...
(Oh no you cut your hair 😭haha I love when your hair grows long! But haircut is inevitable at one point ^^) . Moving house is pretty hard for me. When I moved in a new house as an adult 10 years ago (my parent's) I had a meltdown cause I couldn't find some things in the new house, cause they were tidied up somewhere... I also have difficulties throwing away stuff, and I also love to carry many things with me. . This was a huge problem when I went studying in Japan for a year. Both when going to Japan and both going back home... I have a lot of stuff and this makes moving houses really difficult even if I was only a student back then. I'm scared of moving out of my parents too right now, but I know I will eventually need too, since my diagnosis results are getting near... . And I'm not even talking about relationships... I'm really bad at social relationships... So I have to create new ones... Again, I failed badly in Japan, although I did my best! I don't think there was anything more I could do☺ . Oh. BTW. You might be autistic if... Your friends and classmates tells you are bringing your whole home with you everywhere. . (why is RUclips deleting the space between lines!!! 😡This triggers me, literally! I'm writing a lot so space is essential, I don't know why they do that... Hint guys: use one point on the line each time you leave a space! 😉
Yea i realy realy want to get a place of my own and live with my fiance. Im a 28 yo female and i have been with my fiance for 11 years now. Every time i start with looking for a place of our own i get realy nerves and scared/overwhelmed. I also haven't been diagnosed yet but i do think im autistic. What also dousn't help is that still living with my parent's makes me feel like ik failijg at being an adult. That and i still have no lisence or a steady job...
I didn’t get my license till I was 32 (34 now). When I didn’t drive I would finally tell myself I’m being eco friendly by not adding pollution. I also barely moved to an apartment which will be the first time living alone and away from family members. I used to think I was a failure too. And sometimes those thoughts still bombard me. I always feel like I’m really behind in life. But it’s not true! We are going at just the right pace for ourselves. It’s society that’s backwards with its weird time laws. I hope you’ve been doing well!
Thanks for your message:) and yea i have been doing well since then:D. I hope you have a nice apartment and your right about being eco friendly by not driving a car:p. I have learned alot since then but i always have to tell my adhd side it's okay im doing the best i can and sometimes (or alot) of times i just expect way to much of myself:). Thank you for your kind message and i hope you are doing well aswell:).
It's so weird,it's like we got haircuts at the same time.
I haven't moved living spaces in a while, but I can vividly remember the stress of change. hope your move goes as planned as possible!
This is great timing, it's my first night in my new house
It might take some DIY skills, but you can turn those sentimental items into something else - for instance, clothes into blankets (like quilting). Doesn't have to be spectacular workmanship. I always need sheets and light blankets all over my house for blocking areas, or making a cozy corner, or to fill space while I'm sitting so that my arms don't feel weird.
as a man with aspburgers thanks as my wife and I will be moving in the next few years to our first house.
Dude, the attachment thing is real for me as well.
I just moved to my own apt for the first time alone and I’m getting so much anxiety. I thought I prepared myself but here I am on my first day with anxiety. 😅 thank for the helpful reminders.
Update 11 months later: I'm absolutely loving living on my own! It's so much less stressful because I can clean and stim in my own time and space.
for the task of deciding what to keep and take with you when moving, and later for packing efficiently, especially for clothes but actually it applies to every physical thing, i highly recommend using the konmari method. i am on the spectrum myself and even though i am not moving this year, doing this very structured method was very freeing and if i decide to move, i will have sorted out exactly what i need and love anyway and have everything folded neatly already. it is such a great method for autistics in my opinion... ok unless someone has alexithymia but all others will love it.
(2nd comment) 4:51 HAHA 🤣 You know, when my cousin who is thinking I'm not autistic and I just lack confidence, I think about you Nathan!! The problem is she doesn't understand English... Anyway! I'm happy i'm not the only one caring too much about objects ^^ But really this was hard for me when I had to back home from Japan at the end of my University year out there...
(Oh no you cut your hair 😭haha I love when your hair grows long! But haircut is inevitable at one point ^^)
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Moving house is pretty hard for me. When I moved in a new house as an adult 10 years ago (my parent's) I had a meltdown cause I couldn't find some things in the new house, cause they were tidied up somewhere... I also have difficulties throwing away stuff, and I also love to carry many things with me.
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This was a huge problem when I went studying in Japan for a year. Both when going to Japan and both going back home... I have a lot of stuff and this makes moving houses really difficult even if I was only a student back then. I'm scared of moving out of my parents too right now, but I know I will eventually need too, since my diagnosis results are getting near...
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And I'm not even talking about relationships... I'm really bad at social relationships... So I have to create new ones... Again, I failed badly in Japan, although I did my best! I don't think there was anything more I could do☺
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Oh. BTW. You might be autistic if... Your friends and classmates tells you are bringing your whole home with you everywhere.
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(why is RUclips deleting the space between lines!!! 😡This triggers me, literally! I'm writing a lot so space is essential, I don't know why they do that... Hint guys: use one point on the line each time you leave a space! 😉
Yea i realy realy want to get a place of my own and live with my fiance. Im a 28 yo female and i have been with my fiance for 11 years now. Every time i start with looking for a place of our own i get realy nerves and scared/overwhelmed. I also haven't been diagnosed yet but i do think im autistic.
What also dousn't help is that still living with my parent's makes me feel like ik failijg at being an adult. That and i still have no lisence or a steady job...
I didn’t get my license till I was 32 (34 now). When I didn’t drive I would finally tell myself I’m being eco friendly by not adding pollution. I also barely moved to an apartment which will be the first time living alone and away from family members. I used to think I was a failure too. And sometimes those thoughts still bombard me. I always feel like I’m really behind in life. But it’s not true! We are going at just the right pace for ourselves. It’s society that’s backwards with its weird time laws. I hope you’ve been doing well!
Thanks for your message:) and yea i have been doing well since then:D. I hope you have a nice apartment and your right about being eco friendly by not driving a car:p.
I have learned alot since then but i always have to tell my adhd side it's okay im doing the best i can and sometimes (or alot) of times i just expect way to much of myself:). Thank you for your kind message and i hope you are doing well aswell:).