The Highs And Hardships Of Interracial Marriage And Raising A Mixed Child | Go Off Sis | Refinery29
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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- One of our favorite bloggers and entrepreneurs, Freddie Harrel talks us through the highs and hardships of her interracial marriage, what it's like to raise a Black son with a white husband, and why it's worth it-despite the critics.
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As a mixed race person living in South Africa this made me cry so so hard. People make me want to choose a side, and this woman wants her son to be proud of both. Thank you so much for being such a loving mother.
Im raising two 2year old mixed race kids in South Africa. I'm in an interracial marriage. I don't want my kids to ever pick a side because they are the product of two people coming together in love. We used to live in a small town where many didn't believe in nor had they seen an interracial couple with mixed kids.
@@ese19 I am sorry you lived like that. And thank you too for being a wonderful mamma.
Just be you babe.
I have a biracial child and from day 1! I have told him to not like something was to not like one of us. He is a part of us and we him. There is no choosing.
I am mixed race/biracial. I don`t pick a side because I`m a mixture of both. Irefuse to throw one of my parents under the bus to make others happy or accept me. I`ve accepted myself.
Irrelevant from the video but SIS IM LIVING FOR THAT HAIR
My thoughts too
She has a line of afro hair pieces and wigs...
Why!!! Was i thinkn the same thing before i saw your comment...wow...but yes hunny that hair is living!!!!!
Sela she has the most mesmerizing ‘fro!!! Like I almost couldn’t focus on what she was saying b/c her hair is so beautiful!!!
Joanna Busby lmfao and your point is!?! Even if she does wear wigs why do you care? I swear when black women wear straight weave/wigs it’s a problem, when they wear weave/wigs that resembles their hair it’s also a problem. Smfh.
Her Accent is So Cute
🤗
Very.
tatenda I agree amazing accent and hair.
how she says "problematic" is so cool, I've never heard it pronounced like that before
@@parisgraves7367 It's because we have the same word in french that means the same thing so it's even harder to make that word sound english
youtube needs to develop a love button.
I 100% agree
Like Instagram
its called the like button smh
its literally the like button.......no point in making a heart shaped button if it has the same purpose as a like button
Exactly my thought
I love how she speaks about telling boys of color that their energy, imagination, being outspoken, etc is a problem, but with caucasian boys they are told that is their boldness and knowing what they want etc when displaying the same childhood traits. Imagine being told since the age of 2 that your creative drive and imagination is a problem. How many artists, businessmen, business owners, etc have we stifled because of this double standard? Not only is this woman gorgeous and intelligent but she will most definitely be raising a well rounded young man. She should be a public speaker, if she's not already.
You deserve more likes....
Amen
She's done a Ted Talk
Caucasian boys aren't told that. They are usually told they are naughty and misbehaving and to stop it.
Davina Emmanuel what is it called?
She's just perfect, she's one of those people you cant help but love them, her energy, her words, her attitude everything and btw their son is so cute and the way she talk about him and her husband
I'm in love with her accent 😍
Isnt she the cutest.
xoxogossipgirl09 we know .....
Thank you...'people fall in love...that's it'
Literallllllly
“Use both heritages to elevate both races”. I’m mixed and I know a lot of mixed people who are very focused on fitting into one community (white or black). The thing is, we never fully will. We a lot of the time have privileges that many in the black community do not have and deal with certain things those in the white community may not understand. But because of that.. we’re able to relate on some level to both sides. I love this video💗
My sister is mixed. She doesn't have an issue of fitting in. I find that the confusion is when the mom is white or some other race.
@@janetcousins7250 you can't distance yourself because you can't stop people from seeing you the way they want to. People make assumptions based off of skin color about whether or not someone is dangerous, kind, educated...so many things. You can't control people's thoughts.
@@fatimah230 👏👏👏👏
Exactly 👏🏽👏🏽💯💯
I live on America latina pretty much everyone is mixed here.
She beautiful, intelligent and socially conscious!!! We need more people like her on social media ❤️
+yearite 100%!!
Steve Polychronopolous no, the Girl
What a vibrant human being!
Do yourself a favour and watch her "The Skin Deep" interview. Its beautiful.
Duquesa Fabiana, you have one long name.
Fabiana Ribeiro do Nascimento oooooooooo
yes!
I didn’t think happiness was contagious until right now
The way she speaks is so wonderful, the seven minutes flew by
Aydet Mendoza Hyper verbal and pressured speech, love the energy
Her hair!!!!😍😍😍😍😍
+rachelannwells #hairgoals
That's her business clip in afro extensions
Can we say LIFE!!! HER hair is EVERRRYTHANG
@@madjoonya ,if they are extensions well that is awesome that she is wearing our Wool type hair extensions. And not that longer silky Lace Wigs or hair extensions that does not match her Wool hair.
Last Days yeah it’s her hairline like the person above said ...check it out ! bighairnocare on insta
I love the fact you're raising your boy as bilingual. It gives him a huge advantage in life and gives him the ability to live in more places without struggling with the language.
Her smile! Her everything! 😍😍😍
Was not planning on watching this whole video. But I'm glad I did. Very lovely lady. I love her energy.
Her energy is amazing!!
She is just a delight to watch. Love you Freddie.
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damn her son is gorgeous
Yesss I was searching for this comment he is so cute
He is crazy adorable. But hell, her and her husband are WOW level of good looking, so i guess it was baked in from the get go.
@@Rabidanti how?
You should see my Son. Hes super handsome
Black King no one asked
From now on, I will now be pronouncing "problematic" the way she said it: P R O B L E M A T I Q U E
😄
I'm SO struggling to pronounce it like her! But, I'm certain she's sayin it the correct way and I must conquer it!😂😂💯
@@trynatural23 pra-blem-a-teek . Make the K sound at the end very sharp. hope that helps :)
That's French pronunciation as she's Camerounaise 😍
I want to date a black man because I want to teach my dark skin daughter what I wish I was taught. But at the same time love is colorless. So I don't know what's going to happen. But I swear I will adopt a dark-skinned girl if I have to. 😂 I did not learn how to do this 4C hair for nothing
"I did not learn how to do this 4c hair for nothing" 😂😂😂
Exactly, black love is beautiful. If you had to explain every thing to your partner, that would be exhausting.
SAME!!!!!!!
@Sudan Nutella No, you're in love with everyone on the planet. The other night, you would believe the dream I just had about you and me! I called you up, but you were gone with the breeze!
@Sudan Nutella 😊 I was taught we are equal and no one is better. So I've been conditioned already to be attracted to whomever that is good to me.
You have my favorite comment. What a mood.
“People fall in Love, that’s it...”
Perfectly spoken.
Great choice of a subject for this- sometimes this conversation can be dominated by a North American sentiment, so it's great to see an Afro -European take😊
Extremely true
Je suis tout a fait d'accord finally someone who represents me!
I'm AfricanAmerican but I totally agree.
why u have to put an afro before everything, ure also not afro camerunian.
@@CallMeCarolyn sorry... I don't understand your comment.. at least I hope I don't
She needs a youtube channel ASAP!!!!
She has one :) Freddie Harrel :)
refinery wrote this "Big Hair No Care, Freddie Harrel"
I have always enjoyed, and followed Freddie Harrel’s style. I now however, have a greater appreciation for her as a person. Her honesty, and “realness” regarding her husband, and handsome son, are forthcoming and amazing! You go girl!! ✌🏾✌🏻=❤️
Absolutely love your hair - simply gorgeous. 💗💗💕💕
my goal in life is to be able to speak french as fluently, eloquently and fearlessly as this lady speaks english, what a gorgeous family and stunning video
Allez! Quel bon but. Je suis prof de français. Ça prend du temps mais il vaut la peine.
As a black woman from the US, I'm happy that she has found love. I wish them much happiness!
I love how their isn’t any gender roles in their relationship she is the one working while he’s taking care of their son and supporting her dreams which I think is beautiful 🥰
I love it too💓 it literally made me smile😆
I LOVE this video! 💓💕
Her hair is beautiful
Nia I know you!!! You had all that hair and you had a video on Facebook about your hair routine.
Nia The Light I follow u on Ig. My name is sunshinejamiyla. It's awesome to see us beautiful spirits in familiar spaces. Much love Queen ❤️
me too!
I too love her and her story.
I love her hair so much 😍😍!!! #hairgoals
+nini_awesome So do we!
It’s clip ins. She has a hair line Big Hair No Care
Nini_ awesome,I love her hair to😉. We rocked afros in the 70's an i see where their making a comeback😎. Natural is beautiful for my sisters😍
You are a gorgeous, intelligent, analytically poignant lady and should always do and love what and who ever you want to. All the best to you and your hubby ♥
@@calderone5559 if she was bald and free of all makeup shed still be a baddie!
Omg your child is SO ADORABLE
when she's talking about how her son is going to be when he grows up.......im crying. so much love. so cute.
She spoke of "higher self" and consciousness.
Yup! She's a Goddess❤
I loved this. I love her bubbly personality and she's well spoken. I'm glad this video was made.
It’s so beautiful to see how excited she gets when talking about her family 😊💕
Her baby is just the most adorable bundle of sweetness, I could just cry😍😭 I know both parents are going to raise him well, and educate him about both sides of the racial spectrum, that's what the upcoming generation is going to need.
@James Bond that is a noble wish, but our world cannot work like that. We need people, ALL PEOPLE , to acknowledge race because different races exist, whether we like it or not. We can't go around pretending the world is in black and white when there is color everywhere. People need to understand and respect the struggles people of different ethnicities and walks of life have went through and accomplishments they have made, because if we dont, we will be erasing history. And a foolish country that doesnt remember its history it doomed to repeat it, which we dont want. What would be a better wish is to hope that one day, everyone will be able to see other races face to face and acknowledge their struggles and uplift each others accomplishments, instead of ignoring them and holding hate. That's what I'm hoping for, anyways🙂🙂
Loved how you broke this topic down! Glad I decided to watch this video💕
She’s beautiful inside and out!💕
When she’s talking about her son’s personality and how it’s perceived by people, it’s very similar how black children are perceived in the states by prejudice people.
Yoh. Everytime I see Freddie my breath is taken away by her beauty.
I love this woman
the video
her husband
the whole story !!!!
and Refinary29
+gsun This makes us so happy!
@@refinery29 🙏🏽❤💐 Thank you.
All the power to do more y'all!
She is everything 🔆💕. Many blessings to her and her family!
What an amazing lady! Could listen to you talk about this subject for longer than 7 minutes!
+shalomewestberg Us too!
I clicked because of her hair💜
My uncle always told me: "Love who loves you." She simply fell in love with who loves her.
If we're ever going to get to the Star Trek level of exploration, we've got to fully explore, and then evolve our archaic constructs of what it's like to be "human."
Only when we've done that will the keys to the stars be fully made aware to us, which will most likely be through the aid of our future selves.
I had to log back in and comment... I love what your wise uncle said!!! Your post touched my soul.
@Sudan Nutella There aren't different races of humans, dude. If we were, we couldn't propagate. There are only ETHNIC differences. Sorry, that's merely science. Have a good life with your archaic notions of humanity, and stuff!
the way she speaks is a gift
This was AMAZING! She is so beautiful and full of grace and amazing energy. Gorgeous family.
More of her!!!
As a black woman married to a white man and expecting our 1st child, u r such an inspiration to me. U r so intelligent and a role model for women. I love how strong u r. Gives me hope . Thank u
Love this! This woman’s energy is everything! Beautiful family! Thank you R29!
Your vibe is everything.....hair,accent,the way you talk about your husband and son......pure joy.
So lovely. Thank you for allowing her a literal space to do that which she is speaking about 💕
This is an honest and refreshing video about this topic.
This is so cute and wholesome and positive omg I love it 💕
I’m like tearing up lol
The video
She is so self-aware. Her son is beautiful!
im in absolute LOVE with her! what an amazing video!
I'm white and am not privalaged. I have had next to nothing. I dont feel like someone is privalaged just because of their race. I believe some peoples families have money and some don't. Their are rich Chinese, Asian, African American, Spanish, Hispanic, Latino, Native Americans and many more that are rich. Some are poor. It is how you deal with the situation. Find a way to bring your yourself out of debt.
that's rear though I got poor whites but they are treated differently than poor black .
I feel what you're saying but people judge the outside alot so dont act like white privilege doesnt exist or racism it very much does
First of all can we talk about that amazingly beautiful MANE of hers!!! FRO CRUSH!!! Second, HER SMILE 😍 her smile is beautifully infectious and her aura as a whole is very inviting, comforting even! She’s someone I would want to know!
Respect to this blogger for sitting for an interview. It is a difficult line to toe. There’s acknowledging privilege; tuning out from the comments of others who vilify your life choices; and finding joy in the happiness of your life and partner. I hope we all can get closer to joy...however way it comes.
She’s provoking thoughts we all need to be thinking and aware of, thank you
I love her and what shes saying is so important
I really love this video and Freddie. The way she explains her story and her perspective def will touch a lot of people’s heart and hit home for some. I’m raising a mixed daughter, so I appreciated a lot of what she shared. Beautiful
Haha I also met my husband on OkCupid! We're also an interracial couple too!! I can heavily relate your story!
+starcherry That's so sweet!!
Same! Haha. I met my hubby in Okcupid as well and we're interracial. Like Freddie, we're also from 2 countries, he's English and I'm American.
Refinery29 seems like i will be downloading that app
I met mine on Plenty of Fish .com. I am Indian, he is Dutch :-)
Hope W American 😭😂 that’s basic as shit ain’t shit special bout being from America 😂😂
She’s beautiful.. she made me SMILE none stop throughout the entire video
Her hair is everything!!!❤😍😍❤
You do you. Without equivocation or apology. We are only given one life to find our truth and to live our truth and no one else can influence that. The power resides in ourselves and ourselves alone.
I love how she speaks - accent and content.
I'm mixed race too. I love the fact that I have two races. My mum is white, mixed with French and Irish. My late Father is Ghanaian. My mum was abandoned outside a church when she was less than a month old. In those days 1937, things were hard for people. She has never met her biological parents. She met my dad when she was young. He took her under his wing and taught her everything she knows like cooking etc. She always wanted to be a nurse and when she was 16 and with my dads support she did everything she had to and by the age of 18-19 she had qualified. My parents went through a lot. My dad made sure he gave her the best life she could have wished for. They had houses, cars, travelled and did so much. Being in a interracial relationship was hard then and still hard today. People don't seem to except things like this. Being a 'product' of a interracial couple is the most beautiful thing. We get to experience so much. I don't think we should choose one side, meaning the black or white side, we are one, well, that's how I see myself! Now that I am an adult and because of my parents struggles it's made me a determined woman and now that I have children, my husband and I have taught them to be strong because things are not easy. You would think things would get easier from back in the day but talking to my mum she says things haven't changed much as there is still a lot of racism around. The only thing that is different is that people mix with each other but get into an argument with them and they will let you know what they really think of you! I'm married to a black man. Continue to bring your son up to be the strong man he is going to and don't ever let him back down. My sons are very strong minded and go for what they want. You can not tell them your going to do something or give them something and not because they will hold you to it lol. They are driven in every way and if they think what you are telling them isn't right they will tell you so! They don't mind if you are a CEO if what you're saying is not making sense they will tell you. Not disrespectfully but in a way for them to know they are not a push over. Having strong minded children is important in this day and age. We have to as parents, make them strong and determined. You and your husband are doing a wonderful job in raising your son. Gosh, I never realized how much I've written lol. When it comes to my family I am very passionate 😂😂. Hope you enjoy reading my story..lol
You have very beautiful soul and a beautiful smile. I've subscribed to your channel. May watch some more of your videos now. take care hunni and stay safe. Sending you and everyone else Prayers during this lockdown. From London UK 😘😘
Let’s just take a moment to appreciate those earrings. Fire. 👌🏾
Love is pure and kind and we attract what is within us and at the end of the day I'm so happy for you and all who choose to allow love to lead and embrace all that LOVE has come to teach us. This is to become the best possible version of our authentic self. That we may be of greater service to our household, our community, our country and collectively our world that we get to live in by the grace and mercy of whatever higher power we acknowledge as our source of being.
Amazing video thanks for uploading refinary29❤
You Said it Yourself, "People Fall in LOVE, that's it""""""
I LOVE Freddie!!! She’s amazing!
i always love it when French people speak English. I like their accent when they say " problematic" and " positive.
My ex-boss is French who married a Chinese woman.
A beautiful family with two beautiful and handsome kids.
Meet the guy's parents and they are very amazing people.
By the way, her accent reminds me of this amazing French movie titled Intouchables starring Omar Sy.
Its a must watch French movies, one of the best.
MashAllah 😍🌸 May Allah bless you and your family health and happiness. 💕
Wow she's so outspoken and shared a bucket load of wise words. I'm glad she is aware and is spreading that awareness to even the little that she has an influence on. It really does take one step, one person and even one conversation to change the world because of all of us are making these single steps then we are making many steps. It's true what they say, being passive and quiet does no good but support the problems we rather choose to refrain from talking about due to some frivolous reason like "it's awkward" as if being awkward is our main issue out here.
I love that she is helping her husband to be aware and her son as well. Beautiful Family!! ❤
Her hair, smile, and attitude 😍🌸 she is everything! 💕
THIS is what happened with H&M! I'm telling you, he started to SEE and said nah, we're not raising our son in THIS.
My husband is white and he also has learned since we have had kids to see the world completely different. Now having a son of color has made him hyper aware.
I need to swirl like that yasss girl I'm here for it ...just beautiful couple!!!!!
Yaaaaassss! I love this video! When we educate ourselves without having on blinders, we learn to appreciate human relationships!
Love is love.
Here we are.
Living on this tiny spec of dust in the middle cold darkness.
And we are worried about the color of someone’s epidermis.
Interesting.
I don't discriminate either, if you're fine, you're fine, no matter your race.
@Sudan Nutella No, you don't discriminate, and you love everyone. You've been scared of love and what it did to you! You don't have to run, I know what you've been through! Just a simple touch, and it can set you free! You don't have to rush, when you're alone with me!
The way she says "problematic" is everything
Her hair and accent are gorgeous! They’re such a gorgeous couple! I hope they’re able to live and love forever and they can have a happy family and raise their amazing little boy!
They are so beautiful together.
This video makes me proud to be of hybrid (Korean/Swedish/Czech) heritage! Thank you Freddie for teaching your son to fully love and embrace all aspects of himself.
Omg Freddie !!!! I love her ❤️❤️❤️ and her hair!!!
@Refinery29, you bring beautiful important stories to light, amazing work truly. It's what we need in this twenty-first century
This video is a great example!❤️❤️❤️
My boyfriend is white. I never went out the way to be with a white person. I’m glad that I didn’t listen to people’s opinion of us being “different” and together because I’m so happy and he is so supportive of me and has made me even more comfortable in myself. This is great, I hope that me and my boyfriend will grow into this when we are older!
Her hair is gorgeous and her son is beautiful and looks exactly like her 😍
I loved their love story and the way she said it shows how in love she is!!! She seems such a sweet person ❤️
At the end of the day do you. No black woman is obligated to follow cultural traditions, stereotypes, and rules. If your happy stay happy and those who judge aren't god. Make wealth together and big it back to both cultures. ok k k k k k .
Thank you for this video this made me cry so much . I’m originally from South America Guyana I’m not used to racism so being in America is so hard . I’m dating a wonderful white man he’s so warm-hearted and loving. He accepts my culture and me all together and I just love it. I love being Guyanese but most of all I love being black
I love this! I love her spirit. I also really love how even though she is married to a white man she doesnt disown her blackness.
Your story is so important and should be TOLD........Keep them coming!!!