Impulse, the fact you talk about regretting missing PRACTICES is huge. Many kids don't have parents that even go to their games/competitions/meets. My dad was always so busy and hates free time, but I don't remember him being gone 90% of the time. I remember how even with how busy he always is, he coached my soccer team and came to my swim meets and encouraged me to try new things. Kids remember the quality of the time over the quantity, too.
I don't know if you guys read comments back on old episodes, but i just started watching your podcast and wanted to put this out there. I think that this thing that you guys do is amazing, it might be useful to so many people and even though i'm not a parent, it was helpful for me too. I can now see my parents perspective more and why they did what they did, and take some of this knowledge for my future. And it's not only about this episode, this podcast is inspiring and preceptive, at least for me. Keep it up guys, love your podcast so far!
I started to do that, if my kids ask to play, or snuggle or look at something, i just remember skizz and say "yes". Laundry, dishes, cleaning can be done later, this moment with them is fleeting.
The topic of saying "yes" to your kids when they ask for attention resonates very strongly with myself. We have a 10 year old and a 1 year old and our 10 year has had "Only Child Syndrome" and he has it bad. One thing that we started doing was actively trying to do more things with him. Not only did it help his attitude and behavior but it really does help us (my wife and I) to continue to create those moments with him even with a young one.
Skizz, I live a ways away from my parents and 3 months after moving out I became very sick. I'm still struggling with it, but I remember how much it hurt my parents that they couldn't come to physically be with me when I was having trouble. But what they did do was exactly what I needed. They would sit on a call with me until I fell asleep some nights, they'd send me home with lots of snacks and frozen homecooked meals when I'd be able to visit, and most importantly they taught me how to find strength in myself. I was able to advocate for myself with my teachers, figure out how to eat a whole new way, and exchange favors with friends. (For example, my mom gave me the idea to proofread their papers while they hauled my laundry up and down the 6 flights of stairs when I couldn't get out of bed but needed socks.) Physically being there for your child is great, but when they're far away you have to take comfort in the fact that you taught your child resiliency and resourcefulness, so they need you more for moral support and advice than for actual caretaking. That means you've raised a really good adult.
I am late to the party. Just found your podcast since Limited Life, and trying to watch all of them. This one really sticks with me. I am a widow almost 9yrs now. I can't tell you how bad I have felt for not being able to stop and give my kids time when they ask and not being able to do group things or sports. Yes sometimes it was funds but working full time and one child with learning disability really I had nothing left to give. Sometimes I would wake up for work the next mirning still wearing my work clothes while having slept sitting up on the couch trying to fold laundry. I know I have done the best I can but the guilt of missed opportunity really hurts. I love my kids and they say they understand but forgiving yourself is very hard to do. They were young when we lost dad. Love your podcasts. On you the next episode!
U know what. My dad wasn't always in agreance with the law, but when i was born, he promised himself not to go to jail anymore and he hasnt. I'm proud to know that 😊
Thank you Skizz on your perspective on parenting. Creating memories. I will move forward with this mind in regards to my children. I also agree on priorities on creating memories with your children vs trivials tasks/chores. The latter can be done at a later time, memories, you don't always have the luxury for a do-over. If i may, two other points of advice i would to add to what you guys have shared. 1- (kinda similar to what is been said)... nuture one's curiosity. It help a child's ability to want to discover, to learn and grow. It feeds the imagination and creativity. There is a whole world to discover. I know not everyone has the means, however; If you do, do your best to nuture it. 2- Do not impose your fears onto your child. Fear is a road block to one's growth. Diminishes the ability to be open-minded and to discover. It limits their potential. This can be done in respect to one's self without installing the fear onto others. My mom was a good example to this. She hated snakes. Never once she taught me to fear them, however she taught to respect her limits with the animal. Because of that, i was never afraid of snakes. Because of my fascination for them, i even managed to instill courage to my mom to touch one. It changed her initial thoughts about them.. but she still doesn't like them. 😁 Bottom line, don't project your fears onto others. You are not helping anyone... including yourself. 😊
Hey, I know this'll be an odd take on this, but. As not a parent, but a kid: thank you for this perspective. My parents and I have been fairly close, to the point that when I took a year off college to work full time to save, I was living with them still. Even college itself was only about an hour's drive away, and so I think at some point I started...taking for granted that there would always still be things to do together, and memories to make. That they would always be within reach. And this puts into context that maybe I need to make those happen. Not long after listening to this episode, I got an email from my mom asking if I wanted to go to a standup comedy show with her. I'm not that into standup (format's just not usually my thing), but I thought about this podcast, and you guys saying to never pass on a chance to make a memory with your kid. It's probably that same emotion that made her reach out to invite me. So I'm gonna say yes, and go with her, because even if the show's not good for me, spending time with her is. Thank you guys.
I wish my folks were like that. My mom tries her best, I see that and I love her for it. My step dad was and is a bit of a jerk, and a constant source of negativity and often ridiculous criticism. I can't wait to get away from him for good, which should be pretty soon. Wish it could've been different.
My dad nearly died (heart attack) when I was 13, he was 45 only. He had always worked hard and at that point in time I didn't see him that much. I wasn't a fan of my dad at that point in time and had he died then, I would've had a way different eulogy for him than I now will in the future when his time actually comes. This thing was a wake up call to him and he had to stop working, but also started doing more stuff with my mum and with us. My dad got softer and I really love the dude he is now. He is a great dad now and really made up for it. I don't blame him, now I'm an adult I get it. Especially when we lost my mum about 10 years after my dad's heart attack, we were like: we are so lucky we got that second chance and really appreciated doing stuff together
An opportunity to create a fun memory with your kids? YES! Yep. Parents of grown kids still worry. Prayers every night before bed are said, prayers on ‘mother’s sixth sense’ going off, prayers at meal times…..yep.
I would've loved to have parents like you two, and I wish my parents had done more of the 'yes to memory making.' I remember that back around the time of my 14th birthday I was hoping my dog (who had cancer) wouldn't die on or before my birthday, not because it would make me sad and not want to do what I had planned, but because my parents would pretty much forget it was my birthday. I think about that dog a lot actually, I wanted a dog too but I didn't want my parents to prioritise her over me and it makes me sad for everything I missed out on because she was the favourite 'child' of my parents. She actually died three days after my birthday so I sometimes wonder if she held out because she knew what would happen.
Love the idea of saying yes to creating memories with your kiddos. You guys are lucky that you were able to have kiddos at an age where you can enjoy them. Being in the same age classification as the two of you, we are just now looking into adoption and this resonated with me. I agree that you want your kiddos to have better than you and as an only child, my parents were often too busy to take the time. It makes the child feel they are an inconvenience and I don't want that for the kiddos that will eventually be in our home. We already want the best for them and are praying for the right opportunity to come along next year when we are able to move forward and are further along in Financial Peace University.
Heya Imp and Skizz. I am going back through podcasts of yours I've missed and came across this one. I'm a parent, nursery teacher and wannabe content creator. I am always knackered 😂 and I did find myself saying 'no' or 'not this time' to my 5 YO son, who just wanted to play with me. Since this video I have said yes more to opportunities with him. I feel so much better for trying and my son has been super happy about it. Thank you for your wisdom and have a lovely day ❤
I am loving these podcasts so many topics i can relate to 2 .... my nephew just face timed me and all i could see was the top of his head and a wall lol the fact that skizz just mentioned not seeing his daughters face made it so much funnier xx
I’m 28 and my mom is 59. Now I’m on the side “every time mom wants to talk I’m gonna do it even when I’m tired as heck”. Sadly we can only talk via apps, because I’m in a different country, but I’m planning on introducing her to Minecraft so we can go on adventures together and be silly little geese
Decided to binge thru every episode, and I’ve got to say.. listening to this while entertaining my 2mo (firstborn) gave me a good laugh😂 he usually fills his diaper right after his dad leaves for work or right before he gets home🥹 not quite sure exactly what I’m getting at, but definitely love momlife 😍
27:37 I find that intresting you belive that as any time I've been on a team or part of a group people treat me like a punching bag. Verbally, physically, whatever. I always do my best to be kind and helpful to everyone so I'm not sure why i get treated the way i do. It's just always been that way my whole life. I can help people with stuff and they'll even thank me and then they'll turn around and start treating me like shit. What I've learned is that being in a group is overrated. Usually it's more pain than just being alone. At least alone i don't have people treating me like i don't matter or worse.
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Impulse, the fact you talk about regretting missing PRACTICES is huge. Many kids don't have parents that even go to their games/competitions/meets. My dad was always so busy and hates free time, but I don't remember him being gone 90% of the time. I remember how even with how busy he always is, he coached my soccer team and came to my swim meets and encouraged me to try new things. Kids remember the quality of the time over the quantity, too.
I don't know if you guys read comments back on old episodes, but i just started watching your podcast and wanted to put this out there. I think that this thing that you guys do is amazing, it might be useful to so many people and even though i'm not a parent, it was helpful for me too. I can now see my parents perspective more and why they did what they did, and take some of this knowledge for my future. And it's not only about this episode, this podcast is inspiring and preceptive, at least for me. Keep it up guys, love your podcast so far!
Well said
I started to do that, if my kids ask to play, or snuggle or look at something, i just remember skizz and say "yes". Laundry, dishes, cleaning can be done later, this moment with them is fleeting.
Skizz, your son wants to spend time with you, yes, but he also wants to care for you in a way that mirrors your care for him. Let him do it 🙂
Bro, I started to tear up at the softball bit 😭
The topic of saying "yes" to your kids when they ask for attention resonates very strongly with myself. We have a 10 year old and a 1 year old and our 10 year has had "Only Child Syndrome" and he has it bad. One thing that we started doing was actively trying to do more things with him. Not only did it help his attitude and behavior but it really does help us (my wife and I) to continue to create those moments with him even with a young one.
I swear, these podcasts are like therapy for me.
Skizz, I live a ways away from my parents and 3 months after moving out I became very sick. I'm still struggling with it, but I remember how much it hurt my parents that they couldn't come to physically be with me when I was having trouble. But what they did do was exactly what I needed. They would sit on a call with me until I fell asleep some nights, they'd send me home with lots of snacks and frozen homecooked meals when I'd be able to visit, and most importantly they taught me how to find strength in myself. I was able to advocate for myself with my teachers, figure out how to eat a whole new way, and exchange favors with friends. (For example, my mom gave me the idea to proofread their papers while they hauled my laundry up and down the 6 flights of stairs when I couldn't get out of bed but needed socks.) Physically being there for your child is great, but when they're far away you have to take comfort in the fact that you taught your child resiliency and resourcefulness, so they need you more for moral support and advice than for actual caretaking. That means you've raised a really good adult.
I am late to the party. Just found your podcast since Limited Life, and trying to watch all of them. This one really sticks with me. I am a widow almost 9yrs now. I can't tell you how bad I have felt for not being able to stop and give my kids time when they ask and not being able to do group things or sports. Yes sometimes it was funds but working full time and one child with learning disability really I had nothing left to give. Sometimes I would wake up for work the next mirning still wearing my work clothes while having slept sitting up on the couch trying to fold laundry. I know I have done the best I can but the guilt of missed opportunity really hurts. I love my kids and they say they understand but forgiving yourself is very hard to do. They were young when we lost dad. Love your podcasts. On you the next episode!
U know what. My dad wasn't always in agreance with the law, but when i was born, he promised himself not to go to jail anymore and he hasnt. I'm proud to know that 😊
Thank you Skizz on your perspective on parenting. Creating memories. I will move forward with this mind in regards to my children. I also agree on priorities on creating memories with your children vs trivials tasks/chores. The latter can be done at a later time, memories, you don't always have the luxury for a do-over.
If i may, two other points of advice i would to add to what you guys have shared.
1- (kinda similar to what is been said)... nuture one's curiosity. It help a child's ability to want to discover, to learn and grow. It feeds the imagination and creativity. There is a whole world to discover. I know not everyone has the means, however; If you do, do your best to nuture it.
2- Do not impose your fears onto your child. Fear is a road block to one's growth. Diminishes the ability to be open-minded and to discover. It limits their potential. This can be done in respect to one's self without installing the fear onto others. My mom was a good example to this. She hated snakes. Never once she taught me to fear them, however she taught to respect her limits with the animal. Because of that, i was never afraid of snakes. Because of my fascination for them, i even managed to instill courage to my mom to touch one. It changed her initial thoughts about them.. but she still doesn't like them. 😁 Bottom line, don't project your fears onto others. You are not helping anyone... including yourself. 😊
Hey, I know this'll be an odd take on this, but. As not a parent, but a kid: thank you for this perspective.
My parents and I have been fairly close, to the point that when I took a year off college to work full time to save, I was living with them still. Even college itself was only about an hour's drive away, and so I think at some point I started...taking for granted that there would always still be things to do together, and memories to make. That they would always be within reach. And this puts into context that maybe I need to make those happen.
Not long after listening to this episode, I got an email from my mom asking if I wanted to go to a standup comedy show with her. I'm not that into standup (format's just not usually my thing), but I thought about this podcast, and you guys saying to never pass on a chance to make a memory with your kid. It's probably that same emotion that made her reach out to invite me. So I'm gonna say yes, and go with her, because even if the show's not good for me, spending time with her is.
Thank you guys.
I wish my folks were like that. My mom tries her best, I see that and I love her for it. My step dad was and is a bit of a jerk, and a constant source of negativity and often ridiculous criticism. I can't wait to get away from him for good, which should be pretty soon. Wish it could've been different.
My dad nearly died (heart attack) when I was 13, he was 45 only. He had always worked hard and at that point in time I didn't see him that much. I wasn't a fan of my dad at that point in time and had he died then, I would've had a way different eulogy for him than I now will in the future when his time actually comes. This thing was a wake up call to him and he had to stop working, but also started doing more stuff with my mum and with us. My dad got softer and I really love the dude he is now. He is a great dad now and really made up for it. I don't blame him, now I'm an adult I get it. Especially when we lost my mum about 10 years after my dad's heart attack, we were like: we are so lucky we got that second chance and really appreciated doing stuff together
An opportunity to create a fun memory with your kids? YES!
Yep. Parents of grown kids still worry. Prayers every night before bed are said, prayers on ‘mother’s sixth sense’ going off, prayers at meal times…..yep.
I would've loved to have parents like you two, and I wish my parents had done more of the 'yes to memory making.' I remember that back around the time of my 14th birthday I was hoping my dog (who had cancer) wouldn't die on or before my birthday, not because it would make me sad and not want to do what I had planned, but because my parents would pretty much forget it was my birthday. I think about that dog a lot actually, I wanted a dog too but I didn't want my parents to prioritise her over me and it makes me sad for everything I missed out on because she was the favourite 'child' of my parents. She actually died three days after my birthday so I sometimes wonder if she held out because she knew what would happen.
Love the idea of saying yes to creating memories with your kiddos. You guys are lucky that you were able to have kiddos at an age where you can enjoy them. Being in the same age classification as the two of you, we are just now looking into adoption and this resonated with me. I agree that you want your kiddos to have better than you and as an only child, my parents were often too busy to take the time. It makes the child feel they are an inconvenience and I don't want that for the kiddos that will eventually be in our home. We already want the best for them and are praying for the right opportunity to come along next year when we are able to move forward and are further along in Financial Peace University.
Heya Imp and Skizz. I am going back through podcasts of yours I've missed and came across this one. I'm a parent, nursery teacher and wannabe content creator. I am always knackered 😂 and I did find myself saying 'no' or 'not this time' to my 5 YO son, who just wanted to play with me. Since this video I have said yes more to opportunities with him. I feel so much better for trying and my son has been super happy about it. Thank you for your wisdom and have a lovely day ❤
This is such a good and underrated podcast
I am loving these podcasts so many topics i can relate to 2 .... my nephew just face timed me and all i could see was the top of his head and a wall lol the fact that skizz just mentioned not seeing his daughters face made it so much funnier xx
I’m 28 and my mom is 59. Now I’m on the side “every time mom wants to talk I’m gonna do it even when I’m tired as heck”. Sadly we can only talk via apps, because I’m in a different country, but I’m planning on introducing her to Minecraft so we can go on adventures together and be silly little geese
This is about parenting. I knew you were gonna say parenthood the second you talked about movies.
Decided to binge thru every episode, and I’ve got to say.. listening to this while entertaining my 2mo (firstborn) gave me a good laugh😂 he usually fills his diaper right after his dad leaves for work or right before he gets home🥹 not quite sure exactly what I’m getting at, but definitely love momlife 😍
Did you talk about the podcast with your respective families after it came out?
Is Skizz's mic volume low? Seems like Impulse's mic volume is louder. It could be just Skizz's voice fluctuating in volume.
27:37
I find that intresting you belive that as any time I've been on a team or part of a group people treat me like a punching bag.
Verbally, physically, whatever.
I always do my best to be kind and helpful to everyone so I'm not sure why i get treated the way i do.
It's just always been that way my whole life.
I can help people with stuff and they'll even thank me and then they'll turn around and start treating me like shit.
What I've learned is that being in a group is overrated.
Usually it's more pain than just being alone.
At least alone i don't have people treating me like i don't matter or worse.
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