It’s exhausting and unnecessary. I’ve spent 47 years worrying about what other people think because I didn’t wanna hurt their feelings and I don’t want them to be uncomfortable. Not anymore.
@@LeahIsHereNowit's a genuinely toxic mindset that stems from prioritizing social optics over all else, which is already a stupid thing to do that's worth pity(if not apathy) towards those who genuinely do prioritize social optics over all else
Watch the people who make you the butt of the joke. Pay attention to the content of the joke, don't let them convince you that it's "Just a joke". There's always a bit of truth in every joke.
“It’s just a joke” is the biggest deflection statement. Not only does it instantaneously diminish someone’s feelings but it also completely evades any accountability for hurting people. Lowkey narcissistic.
True. In my experience, weak people, who follow the latest trends, fail to take responsibility for their own lives, and try to bring down anybody who is trying to build their own lives, really do hate the truth and anyone who tells the truth, because it exposes all their failures.
your perspective on embracing your 'villain era' to reclaim personal power and boundaries is a compelling reminder of the strength in authenticity. It’s important to remember that sometimes, standing firm in our truth may not please everyone, but it fosters genuine respect and self-growth. 💪
I discovered your channel a few weeks ago and it truly has awakened me. You are right the narcissists are the ones that try to to make you feel small and when you confront them they show their true colors. Those true colors show how empty these people are and decided to cut off the wrong people in my life. I am a asian male I hope you get more asian male viewers in the future because your messages are truly inspiring.
Wow…absolute chicken soup for my soul 😭 I can’t thank you enough, Mae. ❤️ 26 years of being kicked and thrown around by my own people pleasing and fawn response and it’s been a tough path but reminders like this give me such a huge burst of confidence again!
19:17 This is so true, I'm 18 years old and when I was a child my mother and I used to keep things that weren't useful to us, in such a way that we accumulated them, so one day I decided to throw them away and since then I always avoid that from happening again
your introduction literally spoke deep down in my soul. My toxic relatives have painted the absolute worst imagery out of me and its not who I am because even god truly knows how pure my intentions are, I just dislike the fact people want to be against me when I did absolutely nothing but stand up for myself when I was being disrespected, and when I did "i became the bad guy"
Omg! Im so happy I found you today! I resonate wholeheartedly with every single thing you share here. Thank you for your brave and for sharing some harsh realities of what it means to be a human, in this day and age. 💕
I wish I had seen this video sooner. I regret the way I acted before. I went crazy while I had an argument with my ex-friend and she was like oh look you're the bad guy I did nothing. I feel so bad right now but I'm glad that I found you.
They need to hurry up and invent time travel and send your videos back to 1985 in the After School Special timeslot for my whole Gen-X latchkey kid generation to watch while we were sitting at home without any guidance. Your generation of women is going to change the world for the better. Keep doing what you're doing.
Everything that you says resonate on me and this is truly helpful. It seems like the universe sent you to me in order to learn more wisdom that I can apply in my life. I wish you all the best in life! You're a smart and pretty woman! I appreciate you and I love youuu❤️❤️❤️
Wow, you are amazing! I really needed this! As I start my senior year of high school, I can't help but think back to my junior year, when I was caught up with someone who turned out to be a manipulative narcissist. They took advantage of my naivety and often humiliated me in front of their friends. I felt like I was tiptoeing around, constantly trying to please everyone. Just when I thought things couldn’t get any worse, my closest friend revealed herself to be completely insincere. After a being alone in my room that day, feeling like nobody really cared, I made a promise to myself that as we move into 2025, I would focus on manifesting my own dreams and setting my own goals. Now, as I stand in front of the mirror, still working on my physical appearance and proud of what I'm doing, I’m filled with joy reflecting on my mental growth. It’s incredible to see myself achieving things I once thought impossible and reaching goals that others deemed ridiculous. I am so excited about my future. I’m READY to embrace my villain era!
I love this! I feel like all of these advice videos are usually the same but with you it makes me feel like actually sitting down with someone who genuinly wants to help you.
Every time I would tell the truth assertively I was pointed at being rude while Deep down I'd be so annoyed feeling guilty like a fool and confused outside but now I see it, by watching your video. You're so right! Like Bob Proctor says "YOU DO YOU!"
6:50 I totally agree with this! It’s about finding this balance between feeling your emotions and reacting logically, it helps me to deal with situations that hurt me
Yessss! Mae I'm new here. However I want to say Thank fir your direct honesty! I need friends like this in my life. I speak truth and alot of times those around me may admire it but in personal relationships it seems I'm not finding someone who can offer it back which I need. I like what you stated about not everyone needs the vulnerable side of me. I'm a big giver. However I find I get hurt because I need to take alot more time, ask more questions, not assume others want the same. I enjoy your videos!!!! ❤
I had to tell my truth to my family, and I’m not gonna go deep into it since it’s a very personal matter. But my mother didn’t like it although she understood where I came from, but she kinda made it about herself and what she felt like what was left for her to do. That was actually my first time giving someone in my family the honesty that I wanted to tell them. Let alone giving anyone my honesty that hurts but is looking out for them at the same time. Thank you for uploading this although I was a little iffy about the “villain” concept. 😂
this is one of very rare chanels where I subrscribe immediately after watvhing not even ONE WHOLE video. like middle of it i'm like yeah i need her in my life then I went to add some of your other videos to watch later and realized I added every single one so.. thanks girlie!!
Its crazy that you said people will leave when your truth triggers them. They will leave then pretend like you are the issue, try to guilt trip and gaslight!
Mae, you are the wise, supportive, boss BFF I've always needed. I don't normally comment on people's videos but I have on the two videos of yours that I have watched so far as I really, truly want to thank you for being you & sharing your wisdom & support to the world. In the past, I would have never thought I'd find real & raw advice/support from a stranger's videos, but I have with you & want to thank you again for making these videos & sharing yourself to the world. We need it now more than ever! 🕊🌎🫶🏼 I truly appreciate you, Mae! ❤ Thank you!🙏🙏🙏
i love your videos so much. your voice is soothing and I like to clean my room while listening to you. i hope you'll make a makeup tutorial too, im curious on what products you use :o pretty girls rise up!
i love your words Mae!!! im going trough shit, my narcissist boyfriend has new supply, my close family ejected me as I am too much for them, even when im quiet. and thats fine. I have nothing left to lose:)
Truth speaking people often labeled as bad people. I totally relate to the confrontation of family members. Despite I love them, as i knew they lived a miserable life that made them to do that. But still it makes me furious that they can't even accept those truth or right confrontations and why they made a choice to make it miserable for me too. I will surely never make a choice to my child. That's true though, why are you letting the past define you?? But as i kid or adult self, I can't help just to make myself small or always hearing voices of them like " a girl should be humbled " or staying untrue to myself to protect me. Idk, if someone on their very young age will see this, but to them i want to share what i used to say to myself, " If i see the worst things happen in my life, i won't die until i live the best life to the fullest." This is new perspective shift to me, "Not everybody deserves the VULNERABLE YOU". I used think differently like it will make masking our own self ,for example, if i can't react to bait then its just like making me people pleaser but now i know they don't even deserve my attention in the first place. But this is so good, Thanks MAE ♥. This is always true, "Assumption is not fact unless its proven to be true". I can also relate to walking away from job opportunities, I can't take a debt for going to therapist everyday just by getting high paid job which isn't meant for me. I also have big respect for people who does things what they want amidst of the societal and family pressure. I also get it like some of the big supporters are total strangers, Not everyone wants best for you , they want best for them, so they don't want you to grow as they can't accept your change in their life. "Convince yourself to be who you are"," You need to stand up for yourself because if you don't then who will?","Make someone angry just by existing is not a problem, its the power","Put your boundaries and self respect first". Love the last affirmation part when the whole video is full of affirmation ♥
Thankyou for the beautiful insight into strength, wisdom, love. I grew up very difficult and poor and found the hoarding too as something to work on even today. However i seek self help, healing & learning to learn what the dream really can be. Someone i found i want to share who helped was Marissa Peer. She teaches I am Enough. It helped me let go of many things. Yet i still enjoy nice things i relearn that beauty is from within. Im a perfume lover! I dream of having a collection as i watch many reviewers have a life i only dream of having. I appreciate the kindness and nurturing words that are so uplifting in your videos. Thanks!
This is honestly such a good video. You covered so many things and provided good examples that everyone needs to hear. You’re a blessing to the platform and world. Keep doing you. ❤️
I love this video so much! I just found your channel today and I know its going to play such a good role in my healing journey. Thank you for this, please continue to make these videos 🥰🥰🥰🥰
You have so much wisdom for someone so young. I've learned this by being in several toxic, narcissistic relationships but you've put it all together so eloquently. ☺️
As someone who was also raised by narcissists, I am so glad I came across your channel. Subscribed instantly. I love hearing your thoughts on this and you’re so pretty btw 🙌🏼
okay but besides the topic of this video, your voice is so nice to listen to lol i can’t watch videos and stay intrigued if the persons voice is annoying or bland 😭
this is advice that I live my entire by, because walking on eggshells isn't mentally healthy for anyone
It’s exhausting and unnecessary. I’ve spent 47 years worrying about what other people think because I didn’t wanna hurt their feelings and I don’t want them to be uncomfortable. Not anymore.
@@LeahIsHereNowit's a genuinely toxic mindset that stems from prioritizing social optics over all else, which is already a stupid thing to do that's worth pity(if not apathy) towards those who genuinely do prioritize social optics over all else
As a 27 year old guy, i want to become a bad B.
Haha!
rooting on you, man !!
Time to become the baddest b at 21
Haha we got you ❤😂
got sell your a h in san francisko or gurggle eezz in LA
The people who hate us the most are the ones who see our talents the most!!!
I like this perspective ❤
@@Learning-ej3mr It makes sense doesn't it?
@@bumblebee_ms It does .. People they don't feel safe and hate us
@@Learning-ej3mr And that is what makes us stay away from them in the end.
From scapegoat to villain lol, they target us because we are the strongest emotionally and can look within, heal and manifest anything we desire!
exactly!!
Thiss
@@MaeAliceSuzukiyou’re my best friend I really like you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@@MaeAliceSuzukiyou’re very pretty
@@MaeAliceSuzukiomg I once had a cat that looked just like yours named Edna
I don’t mind being the villain in their story because they are clowns in mine.
Watch the people who make you the butt of the joke. Pay attention to the content of the joke, don't let them convince you that it's "Just a joke". There's always a bit of truth in every joke.
Ty!
Yup
“It’s just a joke” is the biggest deflection statement. Not only does it instantaneously diminish someone’s feelings but it also completely evades any accountability for hurting people. Lowkey narcissistic.
“That’s not your problem, that’s your power” 🤯 well said!!! ❤
I love this! And I love when you said..."You're a villain😈 in their mind. And they are a 🤡 Clown in your mind." 😌
True. In my experience, weak people, who follow the latest trends, fail to take responsibility for their own lives, and try to bring down anybody who is trying to build their own lives, really do hate the truth and anyone who tells the truth, because it exposes all their failures.
Literally needed this. People will use whatever narrative so they don’t feel bad for the things they’ve done to you
wtf… this is so crazy. this is exactly what i needed right now. its resonates with me a lot. damn… the universe really does have a lot to offer.
your perspective on embracing your 'villain era' to reclaim personal power and boundaries is a compelling reminder of the strength in authenticity. It’s important to remember that sometimes, standing firm in our truth may not please everyone, but it fosters genuine respect and self-growth. 💪
I literally manifested this video because I'm in the villain era right now lol 😭 you're awesome!
so corny
When Your Light Irritates Other People's Demons. Don't dim your shine; great power comes with great responsibility.
I discovered your channel a few weeks ago and it truly has awakened me. You are right the narcissists are the ones that try to to make you feel small and when you confront them they show their true colors. Those true colors show how empty these people are and decided to cut off the wrong people in my life. I am a asian male I hope you get more asian male viewers in the future because your messages are truly inspiring.
i am listening to this while declutterring my closet and cleaning my room😭😭😭 thank you so much for this
You're extremely motivational! Thank you ✨
happy to hear it☺️💪
I just wanted to thank you. You became the voice the realization period of many lives of people who are waking up.
Wow…absolute chicken soup for my soul 😭 I can’t thank you enough, Mae. ❤️ 26 years of being kicked and thrown around by my own people pleasing and fawn response and it’s been a tough path but reminders like this give me such a huge burst of confidence again!
I’ve listened to every video you have posted in the past two days …. I am not ashamed 😂 you really helped me ass
🫶🫶
19:17 This is so true, I'm 18 years old and when I was a child my mother and I used to keep things that weren't useful to us, in such a way that we accumulated them, so one day I decided to throw them away and since then I always avoid that from happening again
your introduction literally spoke deep down in my soul. My toxic relatives have painted the absolute worst imagery out of me and its not who I am because even god truly knows how pure my intentions are, I just dislike the fact people want to be against me when I did absolutely nothing but stand up for myself when I was being disrespected, and when I did "i became the bad guy"
Omg! Im so happy I found you today! I resonate wholeheartedly with every single thing you share here. Thank you for your brave and for sharing some harsh realities of what it means to be a human, in this day and age. 💕
Thanks Mae. Your message inspires people to trust themselves
Thank you so much❤️ Your content is so valuable, i’m so happy you’re blowing up!!!
thank you!!☺️🫶
I wish I had seen this video sooner. I regret the way I acted before. I went crazy while I had an argument with my ex-friend and she was like oh look you're the bad guy I did nothing. I feel so bad right now but I'm glad that I found you.
They need to hurry up and invent time travel and send your videos back to 1985 in the After School Special timeslot for my whole Gen-X latchkey kid generation to watch while we were sitting at home without any guidance. Your generation of women is going to change the world for the better. Keep doing what you're doing.
You will reach 100k keep going and keep impacting the 🌎.
So glad I found this channel 🙌
I love your voice so much and how you don't have filler ahs or ohs. And the quality message you provide. Thanks
wow mae you spit so much wisdom per minute. thank you. you’re beautiful btw :)
You absolutely Nailed It!!!! I believe you incarnated in this lifetime to help teach and share the Truth! We have Divine Assignments. Love & Light
✨🩵✨
You are super duper amazing your advise is internet gold standard I actually feel a big weight lifted of my body and mind lifted of me
Everything that you says resonate on me and this is truly helpful. It seems like the universe sent you to me in order to learn more wisdom that I can apply in my life. I wish you all the best in life! You're a smart and pretty woman! I appreciate you and I love youuu❤️❤️❤️
You broke this down perfectly. Great video!
FIRST!!!
yay love u 💜!
I have to say that I've had no energy since morning today but when I wanted like 3 or more videos of yours it got me energized and I appreciate this ❤
Wow, you are amazing! I really needed this! As I start my senior year of high school, I can't help but think back to my junior year, when I was caught up with someone who turned out to be a manipulative narcissist. They took advantage of my naivety and often humiliated me in front of their friends. I felt like I was tiptoeing around, constantly trying to please everyone. Just when I thought things couldn’t get any worse, my closest friend revealed herself to be completely insincere. After a being alone in my room that day, feeling like nobody really cared, I made a promise to myself that as we move into 2025, I would focus on manifesting my own dreams and setting my own goals. Now, as I stand in front of the mirror, still working on my physical appearance and proud of what I'm doing, I’m filled with joy reflecting on my mental growth. It’s incredible to see myself achieving things I once thought impossible and reaching goals that others deemed ridiculous. I am so excited about my future. I’m READY to embrace my villain era!
your makeup look today is just so beautiful and is so satisfying to look at. I can't stop staring at it you are so so pretty💐💐💐💐
You are a big sister to me, thank you so much🫶🏻
Your personal power is radiant and I love it!
omg you're speaking to my entire soul, literally crying ;_; tysm!!!
I love this! I feel like all of these advice videos are usually the same but with you it makes me feel like actually sitting down with someone who genuinly wants to help you.
Every time I would tell the truth assertively I was pointed at being rude while Deep down I'd be so annoyed feeling guilty like a fool and confused outside but now I see it, by watching your video. You're so right! Like Bob Proctor says "YOU DO YOU!"
6:50 I totally agree with this! It’s about finding this balance between feeling your emotions and reacting logically, it helps me to deal with situations that hurt me
Yessss! Mae I'm new here. However I want to say Thank fir your direct honesty! I need friends like this in my life. I speak truth and alot of times those around me may admire it but in personal relationships it seems I'm not finding someone who can offer it back which I need. I like what you stated about not everyone needs the vulnerable side of me. I'm a big giver. However I find I get hurt because I need to take alot more time, ask more questions, not assume others want the same. I enjoy your videos!!!! ❤
I had to tell my truth to my family, and I’m not gonna go deep into it since it’s a very personal matter. But my mother didn’t like it although she understood where I came from, but she kinda made it about herself and what she felt like what was left for her to do.
That was actually my first time giving someone in my family the honesty that I wanted to tell them. Let alone giving anyone my honesty that hurts but is looking out for them at the same time.
Thank you for uploading this although I was a little iffy about the “villain” concept. 😂
Exactly what I needed 🎉🎉
this is one of very rare chanels where I subrscribe immediately after watvhing not even ONE WHOLE video. like middle of it i'm like yeah i need her in my life
then I went to add some of your other videos to watch later and realized I added every single one so..
thanks girlie!!
I binge eat and hoard a lot, I relate to your content a lot so I really appreciate what you do
Thank you I really needed this truly grateful 🙏
Thanks for the words of encouragement I really needed this today ❤
Its crazy that you said people will leave when your truth triggers them. They will leave then pretend like you are the issue, try to guilt trip and gaslight!
Girl I love your voice!!
Loving this! ❤ im def entering my villian era and so excited about it
You have a brave and loving personality!! It’s so clear and such clarity to be your audience.
super inspiring and motivating content !
omg we're so similar I'm out here living my best villain life too, I've had a lot of the same issues with family being the main cause of abuse
girl you're so prettyyyy 😍😍
There is no doubt that she is very gergeous.
Mae, you are the wise, supportive, boss BFF I've always needed. I don't normally comment on people's videos but I have on the two videos of yours that I have watched so far as I really, truly want to thank you for being you & sharing your wisdom & support to the world. In the past, I would have never thought I'd find real & raw advice/support from a stranger's videos, but I have with you & want to thank you again for making these videos & sharing yourself to the world. We need it now more than ever! 🕊🌎🫶🏼 I truly appreciate you, Mae! ❤ Thank you!🙏🙏🙏
i love your videos so much. your voice is soothing and I like to clean my room while listening to you. i hope you'll make a makeup tutorial too, im curious on what products you use :o pretty girls rise up!
thank you for the love 💜 i’ll try to film one soon :D 💋
@@MaeAliceSuzuki can't wait 💘
You are just too beautiful. You can literally say anything and we'll watch you.
Words are free and people dish out lies like candy
Hii I just wanna say that u r so beautiful and ur voice is so relaxing
love your content glad i found this channel❤️
Your videos mean so much to me, thank you.
This girl is truly a bad b how her videos just of her talking for ab 20 minutes becomes so interesting and intertaining i think its amazing B
i love your words Mae!!! im going trough shit, my narcissist boyfriend has new supply, my close family ejected me as I am too much for them, even when im quiet. and thats fine. I have nothing left to lose:)
You are so brilliant and wise! Thank you
That reminds me I have to clean my room. Thanks 4 that! 😊
THANM YOU SO MUCH ❤❤❤
MORE BLESSINGS TO YOOU ✨💫💖
I need a friend like you Mae!
this inspired me so much, thank you so much!
Don't be afraid of being a villain someone else's story, because they will only be a clown in yours❤
My new favorite RUclips's
🥹💜 thank youu
Truth speaking people often labeled as bad people. I totally relate to the confrontation of family members. Despite I love them, as i knew they lived a miserable life that made them to do that. But still it makes me furious that they can't even accept those truth or right confrontations and why they made a choice to make it miserable for me too. I will surely never make a choice to my child. That's true though, why are you letting the past define you?? But as i kid or adult self, I can't help just to make myself small or always hearing voices of them like " a girl should be humbled " or staying untrue to myself to protect me. Idk, if someone on their very young age will see this, but to them i want to share what i used to say to myself, " If i see the worst things happen in my life, i won't die until i live the best life to the fullest." This is new perspective shift to me, "Not everybody deserves the VULNERABLE YOU". I used think differently like it will make masking our own self ,for example, if i can't react to bait then its just like making me people pleaser but now i know they don't even deserve my attention in the first place. But this is so good, Thanks MAE ♥. This is always true, "Assumption is not fact unless its proven to be true". I can also relate to walking away from job opportunities, I can't take a debt for going to therapist everyday just by getting high paid job which isn't meant for me. I also have big respect for people who does things what they want amidst of the societal and family pressure. I also get it like some of the big supporters are total strangers, Not everyone wants best for you , they want best for them, so they don't want you to grow as they can't accept your change in their life. "Convince yourself to be who you are"," You need to stand up for yourself because if you don't then who will?","Make someone angry just by existing is not a problem, its the power","Put your boundaries and self respect first". Love the last affirmation part when the whole video is full of affirmation ♥
This girl needs a podcast !!!!!!
Thankyou for the beautiful insight into strength, wisdom, love. I grew up very difficult and poor and found the hoarding too as something to work on even today. However i seek self help, healing & learning to learn what the dream really can be. Someone i found i want to share who helped was Marissa Peer. She teaches I am Enough. It helped me let go of many things. Yet i still enjoy nice things i relearn that beauty is from within. Im a perfume lover! I dream of having a collection as i watch many reviewers have a life i only dream of having. I appreciate the kindness and nurturing words that are so uplifting in your videos. Thanks!
I am a heterosexual male and I am expressing that your advice, delivery, wisdom is a blessing to all of us.
fr
What does this video have anything to do with your orientation?
Your voice is so beautiful and i love your videos
“How can this opportunity be a stepping stone to something else” a great way to look at things
Thank u, you are Wonderful, i understand very well, all you say is real; Light always win!
This is honestly such a good video. You covered so many things and provided good examples that everyone needs to hear. You’re a blessing to the platform and world. Keep doing you. ❤️
I love this video so much! I just found your channel today and I know its going to play such a good role in my healing journey. Thank you for this, please continue to make these videos 🥰🥰🥰🥰
These are like the big sister chats I never had
NEED an affirmation video from you.!!
Thank you, Mae!
Thank you sohhhhh much for your videos. Much ❤ from Kentucky USA😊
I needed this!!!!
I love your content your energy is really match mine
mae, your videos and knowledge really resonate with me, thank you
You have so much wisdom for someone so young. I've learned this by being in several toxic, narcissistic relationships but you've put it all together so eloquently. ☺️
Charisma, Uniqueness, Nerve & Talent 😂 girl..
UGH I LOVE THIS VIDEO THANK YOU SO MUCH
Thank you Mae!!❤❤
OMG I LOVE UR VIDS I JUST STUMBLED ON IT ON MY NEW FOR YOU! KEEP IT UP!!!! I
love this, love you 🩵🩵
As someone who was also raised by narcissists, I am so glad I came across your channel. Subscribed instantly. I love hearing your thoughts on this and you’re so pretty btw 🙌🏼
Omg you are fr soo beautiful, and you have the magic aura woman can dream about
I loveeee this content, it inspires me so much
Thank u girlll
I am grateful for you❤
okay but besides the topic of this video, your voice is so nice to listen to lol i can’t watch videos and stay intrigued if the persons voice is annoying or bland 😭
no shade haha