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Hi Rebecca, I appreciate the information you have given us! I noticed you partner with better help.. Well maybe you can help THEM (better help) because I used their services for 6 months less time then I spent watching you! They were very little help to me. I felt the therapist were attacking me.. I was able to get better advice FOR FREE from you here and mental healthiness also a RUclips channel. Just an FYI thank you soooo much for your help!
From my experience... 1. Being told no 2. Letting others have opportunities, i.e., not being in control 3. Sharing attention 4. Being accountable for behavior 5. Being without supply/being ignored 6. Growth: narcs are dull, grey, ugly people ... hate criticism and humor
@@RebeccaZungEsq Yes all these and more. One other, very peculiar thing my ex did was resist any mention of his childhood. Is that common among narcissists?
Yes, that expression on their faces like they've just been hit with a sack of wet dirt when you say no would be priceless if it wasn't for the drama and tantrums afterwards.
WHEN IT'S TIME TO GO: #1. 1:31 Can't handle being ignored #2. 3:10 Can't handle criticism #3. 4:55 Can't handle not being in control #4. 6:09 Can't handle being rejected #5. 8:35 Can't handle feeling inferior #6. 10:15 Can't handle change.
@@dblack8141 that's all true. But these traits have to be part of their core personality. Unfortunately, you have to get to know them before you truly recognize that these traits are with them all the time. Since there are easier ways to ID a narcissist, these traits aid one in negotiating with them.
@@Inquisitor6321 the point being the pot calls the kettle black. Not even that. The void being is projecting at the cleanest of peoples. Inquiring mind.. You speak as if you are absolute expert but failed to realize tge obvious. A bit narcissistic dont you think? Conforming to the monolith is humility? Anyone not a inperialist official is not worthy? Worship the beast. Schools hospitals and courthouses are filled. Full and overflowing 🐷
Narcissist have temporary friends. These friends come and shower him with attention. Then after they see his true self, they fall like leaves. One by one disappear. From my experience : - dont want to be told NO - dont want to be criticized with his wrong behaviours - dont want to listen - pushes blame even if he is the cause of the chaos - never apologizes. Will only act like nothing happened after a few days - will always guilt trip to get his wants, wishes and needs - he will take take and take things from you (when you ask for your own needs, he turns deaf and blind) - people with no remorse, so will not ever change. (Even with old age)
I work with a narcissist that HATES me so much she can't talk to me without spitting her words, talks about me while I'm sitting next to her and tells our boss lies on a weekly basis hoping to get me fired. Fortunately I've had witnesses so far to back me up. Hoping her real self is exposed SOON. Would love it if she moved on and soon but I will probably have to leave my job because I don't know how much longer I can grin and bear it.
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Cara - I am so sorry that you are being subjected to such abuse, bullying and torment. You should not have to endure this on a daily basis at your workplace. This is wrong on so many levels. It has to be affecting you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. This is heartbreaking. I am not sure if you are in therapy, yet if you are, I hope you are sharing with your therapist so her/him have it all noted in their records. They can also support you with a letter about how deeply this is affecting you. The same with your doctor. If you haven't seen your doctor about this, then I recommend you do. You deserve all the support you can get. This is affecting a huge portion of your life. If anyone should have to leave your workplace, it is this cruel bully. You deserve to be treated with respect, kindness, loyalty, and dignity. Your peace of mind and well being also deserve to be at the top of your priority list! I pray that things get better for you sooner rather than later. You matter! Never ever forget this. 🙏💗🙏💗🙏💗
When you are silent, unless they ask you point blank (which they rarely do), the narcissist has no idea whether that means you are telling them, "no." They have no idea whether you have a critical mindset toward them. They have no idea whether the situation is under their control. They have no idea whether you are rejecting them. They have no idea when you make a superior move outside their knowledge. They have no idea how, behind the scenes, things are changing on them. They have no idea they are about to be exposed. Let their egos carry the day for them - in your absence. Eventually, they may ask point blank questions, but you can feed them back the same types of evasive answers they use, and then exit. Turn their own game back on them.
They can't handle other people's joy, success, happiness, smile, laughter, good relations, relation to your family, friends, losing board game, having smaller ice cream, older car, house, phone...
My daughter is in process of divorcing a malignant narcissist after 13 years. Took 13 years for any of us to see this! He is currently in jail due to multiple contempts of breaking full stay away order. He has second attempt next week to take a plea which would grant him immediate release on ankle bracelet, curfew, no social media, mandatory psychiatric evaluation and treatment, domestic violence classes and once compliant can begin visitation with his children under direct supervision with a psychiatrist. He will be required to be on probation for three years and my daughter and her children will have a five year stay away order with a carve out. He still doesn’t understand the gravity of of the situation and judge and his last own attorney stated he is completely out of touch with reality. He had had three of his retained attorneys “fire” him because he is impossible to represent. We will see if he decides to take plea next week or make a stupid decision on his part to have a trial. We are quite fearful if he does get out next week, as he has 24 hours to obtain the ankle bracelet. We will all be on high alert as the DV advocate states he is unhinged, as we have been aware of. Your videos have been extremely helpful and so spot on. We have learned so much. My daughter has learned to have so much strength due to therapy and all the support she has. She was diagnosed with ptsd and the two oldest children are in therapy as well. The oldest is 14 with Asperger’s, which makes it a bit more confusing for him to deal with his emotions. My 11 year old granddaughter has so much anger. She states she hates her father and doesn’t want to see him again. The 3 year old, he never even bonded with. Such a sad situation. Divorces are ugly and messy, but this one has been over the top! It didn’t have to be like this. But after realizing what a horrible narcissist we found him to be, completely explains everything that’s been going on.
The narcissist person I have meet recently felt that he could break the rules when he chose to . He became hostile when he was asked very direct questions and fired back with what could be called a threat towards me and my family. After he was served a demand letter from our lawyer he isn't cooperating anymore. I don't feel bad for him. Thank Rebecca for helping myself and my family . I have listened and appreciate what you have said. I kept every message that went between him and my family which I know will help us. Your words are definitely helping now Rebecca.
The ex always needs to be center of attraction. Can’t handle criticism at all but can dish it out. Thinks he’s the cats meow! He’s egotistical. He then gets verbally and physically aggressive. He needs to control everyone and everything. Don’t do what he says he flips out! He started multiple smear campaigns against me esp now bc I left him. Lies through his teeth. He stalks has ppl terrorize me his friend recently grabbed and bruised my arm. I Fell in love with the good guy. Still love the good guy. But the bad alter ego killed the good man I love.
Sounds like a textbook narcissist. I'm glad to always hear that you've moved on and away from this person. Your inputs/comments are much appreciated! Stay strong, Carmen!
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Oh Boy, do I need this! I am 51 and just realized I was raised by a Malignant Narcissist, my Mom. The loss of my Dad & Sister, started a ball rolling. Especially my sisters death. She often says our Cousin doesn’t deserve to live because of all of the drugs he has done. I KNEW she was trying to hint to me and that is really her opinion of me, she’s told me so. She also told me that she never formed a bond with me as a baby. I have NEVER HEARD THAT! I am still in shock a year later. @51 this blindsided me as I grew up as I was ALWAYS TOLD how special I was. So much so, I think that could have presented some issues to my life. wreckless She has put on a lotta weight, has stopped exercising. I was addicted to pain medicine I was on & I am 8 years clean and sober. I’ve noticed since I’m not sitting back quiet in the corner, my opinion is ignored… THell, it’s not even heard… She cuts off EVERYTHING I SAY! No Exaggeration! She my adoptive mother and I couldn’t love her anymore than I do today. I had to live with her in 2019 for 2 years afterI lost my Home to a Fire. It had just become worse as I have gotten older. My Mom took over the Mom role while my Son had to live with her for almost 2 years. I have Lupus and WAS in the Hospital a lot, 🙏🏼🙏🏼 but no more 🙏🏼! She did more than Play Mom, she informed him of every bad behavior of mine. And there were many. I have totally changed, I am probably more afraid of telling a lie than getting caught in it!!! But most important I want to live my best life, as I am able. I never could figure her out. I am a Highly Sensitive Person with Emotional Recognition, I absolutely have no business being around my Mom! I will however do what is expected of me, because that is what I would hope my children would do for me. Boy did it F me UP!
So sorry you had to go through all that! The great thing is you can always move forward, be your best self (for you and your son), and live a life of freedom, possibility, and purpose! As you know, moving on and away from the narcissist is not going to be easy but I'm here to tell you that YOU CAN DO IT! YOU can beat the narcissist! Stay strong and if you need extra support, send us an email at support@rebeccazung.com. YOU GOT THIS! 🙏💪
@@RebeccaZungEsq Thank you so for your wonderful advice, not just today! I appreciate your time and kindness in being so personable. I have developed a strong relationship with God and my faith pulls me through! & 🎶 🎵 Music 🎶 sweet , sweet Music! I almost feel selfish I’ve done so much work on myself. Practicing patience, with my Mom. I believe she has some Dementia, as her Dad did. That’s probably the hardest is her telling me I’m crazy because, she’s the narc…. I have recorded her and played it back. If I ask her to watch, she won’t. Won’t go to counseling, very typical I am starting to understand!!! I’ll break down what she says and repeat it back and ask if she’d like the same treatment, ETC. ETC. ETC… Thank you Ms. Zung You have twice so much in such a short period of time! 🙌🙌🙌 I will be at the conference, for sure! Please don’t feel you need to reply, I just wanted to tell you how grateful I am! Best Regards,
I remember having a narc around until about 6 years ago when I had enough of all his bullshit and started plotting things with my friend. The narc had lied about being an expert at computers, he even got fired because he was "too good" according to him. My friend has worked for Apple, but since I warned him the day before, he kept a straight face until he started bragging about, then my friend started talking about coding on a level this person could not understand and after that, he shut up about that. Shortly after, I got a mail from the narc, where he threatened to "go apeshit" for the fifty-eleventh time, then quickly apologized. However, I had gotten fed up by then and told him "Well go apeshit somewhere else, you've gone bullshit so many times that I'm not valuing you anymore, goodbye!" That felt better than really good sex! I've known this person for many many years and he has always used the "apeshit-card" on people, that or just farting, burping or acting straight out immature towards my other friends, hoping they wouldn't want to be with me anymore. When I told him to piss off, I felt that was almost the best thing I've ever done! The best thing I've ever done has been to educate myself about narcissism and finding out what to avoid. Thanks for all your inspiring videos, I believe they have potential to make people grow mentally and eventually leave these toxic beings
If you can't handle the pressure escape the situation,if it's a threat to your existence,do something about it.If you ignore them they will go away,if they feel rejected,they could react badly as a result,but the golden rule should be applied to almost all situations ❌🆘🚩💲✔️☢️
@@RebeccaZungEsq A control freak couldn't handle criticisms,and will abuse and mistreat people,and possibly use a smear campaign of slander,to mislead the public against you,it will trigger their insecuries if they feel ineffective,they can't handle it if they feel inferior.You've exposed them and now they get bad karma for their evil intentions towards you ❌🆘🚩☢️✔️💲
@@Jackgritty28 Some narcissists are dangerous. Jails are full of narcissists. Don't let them intimidate you. Most narcissists are cowards who prey on nice people who they see as weak in order to make themselves feel more important and powerful. Don't cave to them. Eventually, most will move on to easier prey.
Renting from one now. Gave notice. Calls me names, threatens me, tantrums etc. Cant be ignored. Worst thing I ever encountered. Living with a 2 year old.
#4 listed everything my husband's ex malignant narcissist girlfriend did to us, plus she called my places of employment- a weight from that trauma was lifted from me just listening to this video and having you describe what she did. I had no idea people could be like that until that traumatic experience of narcissistic abuse. Thank you so much!
I did this "Time to go" 22mnths ago & everything your talking about is down to an art!!! Even refusing a coffee, l got abused... Thnku for all your video's 🙂
Exactly. Mine keeps writing me threatening emails, letters, wanting Mr to abandon my house . They found someone else to control , mainly her ex and youngest son. Spreading lies about me
I once told my narc husband I liked his hair when he wore it much shorter and he got so defensive. And got angry. Kept saying so you don't like my hair?? Huh. Don't like it? Lol
Good grief...where were you 2 years ago?!. Love your uploads. I've been ignoring but the person still comes around. I'll keep ignoring and love your advise!!!!
All true. Finally divorced almost a year but can’t get my daughters (not his biological) and my things. Two years on an air mattress and he still won’t give us our bed, clothing and furniture that I came into the marriage with. It’s so toxic. He’s taken everything and loves it. He filed for divorce and made me pay for it from my retirement. I lost it all. Funny, while watching this video to remind me of my power he called. To just reiterate his control. I just want to stop hurting and move on. Feels like it’s impossible. I won’t give up getting my possessions because I know that in the end I will win my life back.
I FINALLY figured it out for myself researching on the computer what the he-- was WRONG with my twin sister...when I learned what a narcissist was..BINGO! Hit the nail on the head exactly...too bad it took 5 years of crying with me TRYING to figure things out with her..then when I looked back on all the years of CRAP she did to her own family (that I'd always say, Well that's ODD)...I NOW KNEW WHY! SHES A NARCISSIST!
Ms Rebecca, your videos give me hope. It gives me a sense on how to handle my daughters mother. I try my hardest not to knock her teeth out for the disrespect she does towards me, my kids, or even towards my mother. After watching your videos and other videos that describe why she is the way she is, it started from her childhood. I knew all the women in her family and they were toxic. So your videos are on point on how to handle these crazy ass situations. Thank you Ms. Rebecca.
Thank you, I've learned a lot, I've always that it was me, you don't know what relief you've given me. I appreciate you and the information you have given me today.
Yes, my first wife, at the time I didn't know she was a toxic, malignant narcissist. I was working on a model airplane and it was late at night. You know, all my chores where done. For crying out loud. She was so gelous I thought. She also couldn't stand to see me happy Ignoring her. I would talk at the same time to her. But, that wasn't good enough for Beth. Oh did I say Beth? Yes, Elizabeth.
I would say NO to sex because something never feel right with my spirit n I said NO to marriage!!...he wanted marriage but he was married 6 times n shared with me he married 1 woman to make another jealous?!??! What?!?!...
What’s your suggestion on a narcissistic coworker always complaining and making the office temperature so warm complaining about it being so 🥶 cold. Though it’s 🥵 hot and it’s not a battle I want to take on. The negotiation passed and the person got her way with the boss?
I sure wish my son could afford you as his attorney, he is only allowed to see his baby's 2hours a week and has to pay 120 each time he sees them with a provider. He has always had a bond with his children. Don't know what to do it's just so sad. Im hoping the children are safe with her, I can only pray for them.
I believe I'm being stalked. In the relationship the narc never rode by where I hangout . Last week the narc in new supply rode by my relatives home! Is that stalking
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Thank you so much for the information so very helpful
Yes MA’AM!
Hi Rebecca, I appreciate the information you have given us! I noticed you partner with better help.. Well maybe you can help THEM (better help) because I used their services for 6 months less time then I spent watching you! They were very little help to me. I felt the therapist were attacking me.. I was able to get better advice FOR FREE from you here and mental healthiness also a RUclips channel. Just an FYI thank you soooo much for your help!
... Theres lots of things people cant handle. Wow. Woah. Omgoodness. Hold up. Woah. Woah. Woah. Hold up. Hold up. Woah. Hold up. Omg. 💣
From my experience...
1. Being told no
2. Letting others have opportunities, i.e., not being in control
3. Sharing attention
4. Being accountable for behavior
5. Being without supply/being ignored
6. Growth: narcs are dull, grey, ugly people ... hate criticism and humor
Thanks for sharing these. These things so much describes a narcissist for sure!
@@RebeccaZungEsq Yes all these and more. One other, very peculiar thing my ex did was resist any mention of his childhood. Is that common among narcissists?
People who censor comments are the evil people
Yes, that expression on their faces like they've just been hit with a sack of wet dirt when you say no would be priceless if it wasn't for the drama and tantrums afterwards.
WHEN IT'S TIME TO GO:
#1. 1:31 Can't handle being ignored
#2. 3:10 Can't handle criticism
#3. 4:55 Can't handle not being in control
#4. 6:09 Can't handle being rejected
#5. 8:35 Can't handle feeling inferior
#6. 10:15 Can't handle change.
It's all about them. Their world and no one else's.
Ignoring justice is usually a problem. Being criticized by corrupt people is also a problem. Being subverted and controled by evil.. yep.. Problem.
@@dblack8141 that's all true.
But these traits have to be part of their core personality. Unfortunately, you have to get to know them before you truly recognize that these traits are with them all the time.
Since there are easier ways to ID a narcissist, these traits aid one in negotiating with them.
Part of #6- Can't handle being exposed
@@Inquisitor6321 the point being the pot calls the kettle black. Not even that. The void being is projecting at the cleanest of peoples. Inquiring mind.. You speak as if you are absolute expert but failed to realize tge obvious. A bit narcissistic dont you think? Conforming to the monolith is humility? Anyone not a inperialist official is not worthy? Worship the beast. Schools hospitals and courthouses are filled. Full and overflowing 🐷
Responsibility of Any kind
For sure!
Narcissist have temporary friends. These friends come and shower him with attention. Then after they see his true self, they fall like leaves. One by one disappear.
From my experience :
- dont want to be told NO
- dont want to be criticized with his wrong behaviours
- dont want to listen
- pushes blame even if he is the cause of the chaos
- never apologizes. Will only act like nothing happened after a few days
- will always guilt trip to get his wants, wishes and needs
- he will take take and take things from you (when you ask for your own needs, he turns deaf and blind)
- people with no remorse, so will not ever change. (Even with old age)
I work with a narcissist that HATES me so much she can't talk to me without spitting her words, talks about me while I'm sitting next to her and tells our boss lies on a weekly basis hoping to get me fired. Fortunately I've had witnesses so far to back me up. Hoping her real self is exposed SOON. Would love it if she moved on and soon but I will probably have to leave my job because I don't know how much longer I can grin and bear it.
They are creepy things!
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disgusting people..gtfo, run..no job is worth that BS
Perhaps the universe is telling you that a far better job is available this moment.
Cara - I am so sorry that you are being subjected to such abuse, bullying and torment. You should not have to endure this on a daily basis at your workplace. This is wrong on so many levels. It has to be affecting you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. This is heartbreaking. I am not sure if you are in therapy, yet if you are, I hope you are sharing with your therapist so her/him have it all noted in their records. They can also support you with a letter about how deeply this is affecting you. The same with your doctor. If you haven't seen your doctor about this, then I recommend you do. You deserve all the support you can get. This is affecting a huge portion of your life. If anyone should have to leave your workplace, it is this cruel bully. You deserve to be treated with respect, kindness, loyalty, and dignity. Your peace of mind and well being also deserve to be at the top of your priority list! I pray that things get better for you sooner rather than later. You matter! Never ever forget this. 🙏💗🙏💗🙏💗
When you are silent, unless they ask you point blank (which they rarely do), the narcissist has no idea whether that means you are telling them, "no." They have no idea whether you have a critical mindset toward them. They have no idea whether the situation is under their control. They have no idea whether you are rejecting them. They have no idea when you make a superior move outside their knowledge. They have no idea how, behind the scenes, things are changing on them. They have no idea they are about to be exposed. Let their egos carry the day for them - in your absence. Eventually, they may ask point blank questions, but you can feed them back the same types of evasive answers they use, and then exit. Turn their own game back on them.
A person being happy.
They can't handle other people's joy, success, happiness, smile, laughter, good relations, relation to your family, friends, losing board game, having smaller ice cream, older car, house, phone...
Especially when they are using little precious children
That one is a terrible tactic. Ugh!
@@RebeccaZungEsq yes it is.
Yep. In this situation now.
Same here I have a he right of my life for custody of my son
My daughter is in process of divorcing a malignant narcissist after 13 years. Took 13 years for any of us to see this! He is currently in jail due to multiple contempts of breaking full stay away order. He has second attempt next week to take a plea which would grant him immediate release on ankle bracelet, curfew, no social media, mandatory psychiatric evaluation and treatment, domestic violence classes and once compliant can begin visitation with his children under direct supervision with a psychiatrist. He will be required to be on probation for three years and my daughter and her children will have a five year stay away order with a carve out. He still doesn’t understand the gravity of of the situation and judge and his last own attorney stated he is completely out of touch with reality. He had had three of his retained attorneys “fire” him because he is impossible to represent. We will see if he decides to take plea next week or make a stupid decision on his part to have a trial. We are quite fearful if he does get out next week, as he has 24 hours to obtain the ankle bracelet. We will all be on high alert as the DV advocate states he is unhinged, as we have been aware of. Your videos have been extremely helpful and so spot on. We have learned so much. My daughter has learned to have so much strength due to therapy and all the support she has. She was diagnosed with ptsd and the two oldest children are in therapy as well. The oldest is 14 with Asperger’s, which makes it a bit more confusing for him to deal with his emotions. My 11 year old granddaughter has so much anger. She states she hates her father and doesn’t want to see him again. The 3 year old, he never even bonded with. Such a sad situation. Divorces are ugly and messy, but this one has been over the top! It didn’t have to be like this. But after realizing what a horrible narcissist we found him to be, completely explains everything that’s been going on.
You were very lucky that it took 13 years to spot it.
IT TOOK ME 35 YEARS TO FIGURE HIM OUT.
VERY HARD TO SPOT THEM, THERE VERY CLEARER.
That's why they make everything chaotic. It is definitely time to go🏃♀
Definitely!
They are addicted to.chaos...
The narcissist person I have meet recently felt that he could break the rules when he chose to . He became hostile when he was asked very direct questions and fired back with what could be called a threat towards me and my family. After he was served a demand letter from our lawyer he isn't cooperating anymore. I don't feel bad for him. Thank Rebecca for helping myself and my family . I have listened and appreciate what you have said. I kept every message that went between him and my family which I know will help us. Your words are definitely helping now Rebecca.
The ex always needs to be center of attraction. Can’t handle criticism at all but can dish it out. Thinks he’s the cats meow! He’s egotistical. He then gets verbally and physically aggressive. He needs to control everyone and everything. Don’t do what he says he flips out! He started multiple smear campaigns against me esp now bc I left him. Lies through his teeth. He stalks has ppl terrorize me his friend recently grabbed and bruised my arm. I Fell in love with the good guy. Still love the good guy. But the bad alter ego killed the good man I love.
Sounds like a textbook narcissist. I'm glad to always hear that you've moved on and away from this person. Your inputs/comments are much appreciated! Stay strong, Carmen!
@@RebeccaZungEsq stronger everyday tyvm! Yes textbook narc. It’s almost like he read the book and emulates EVERYTHING. Scary!
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This reads great!
You do not attract toxic relationships, they target you
I've been reading up on narcissist and it is spot on every detail is what's happening to me with the two narcs that I'm dealing with it's so pathetic
We don't need this shit I'm dealing with 2 myself
TIME TO GO. I love her delivery.
Oh Boy, do I need this!
I am 51 and just realized I was raised by a Malignant Narcissist, my Mom. The loss of my Dad & Sister, started a ball rolling. Especially my sisters death. She often says our Cousin doesn’t deserve to live because of all of the drugs he has done.
I KNEW she was trying to hint to me and that is really her opinion of me, she’s told me so. She also told me that she never formed a bond with me as a baby.
I have NEVER HEARD THAT!
I am still in shock a year later.
@51 this blindsided me as I grew up as I was ALWAYS TOLD how special I was. So much so, I think that could have presented some issues to my life. wreckless She has put on a lotta weight, has stopped exercising.
I was addicted to pain medicine I was on & I am 8 years clean and sober. I’ve noticed since I’m not sitting back quiet in the corner, my opinion is ignored…
THell, it’s not even heard… She cuts off EVERYTHING I SAY! No Exaggeration!
She my adoptive mother and I couldn’t love her anymore than I do today. I had to live with her in 2019 for 2 years afterI lost my Home to a Fire. It had just become worse as I have gotten older.
My Mom took over the Mom role while my Son had to live with her for almost 2 years. I have Lupus and WAS in the Hospital a lot, 🙏🏼🙏🏼 but no more 🙏🏼!
She did more than Play Mom, she informed him of every bad behavior of mine. And there were many. I have totally changed, I am probably more afraid of telling a lie than getting caught in it!!!
But most important I want to live my best life, as I am able.
I never could figure her out.
I am a Highly Sensitive Person with Emotional Recognition, I absolutely have no business being around my Mom!
I will however do what is expected of me, because that is what I would hope my children would do for me.
Boy did it F me UP!
So sorry you had to go through all that! The great thing is you can always move forward, be your best self (for you and your son), and live a life of freedom, possibility, and purpose! As you know, moving on and away from the narcissist is not going to be easy but I'm here to tell you that YOU CAN DO IT! YOU can beat the narcissist! Stay strong and if you need extra support, send us an email at support@rebeccazung.com. YOU GOT THIS! 🙏💪
@@RebeccaZungEsq Thank you so for your wonderful advice, not just today! I appreciate your time and kindness in being so personable. I have developed a strong relationship with God and my faith pulls me through!
& 🎶 🎵 Music 🎶 sweet , sweet Music! I almost feel selfish I’ve done so much work on myself. Practicing patience, with my Mom. I believe she has some Dementia, as her Dad did.
That’s probably the hardest is her telling me I’m crazy because, she’s the narc…. I have recorded her and played it back. If I ask her to watch, she won’t. Won’t go to counseling, very typical I am starting to understand!!! I’ll break down what she says and repeat it back and ask if she’d like the same treatment, ETC. ETC. ETC… Thank you Ms. Zung
You have twice so much in such a short period of time! 🙌🙌🙌
I will be at the conference, for sure!
Please don’t feel you need to reply, I just wanted to tell you how grateful I am!
Best Regards,
“Time to goo”!!!!
I remember having a narc around until about 6 years ago when I had enough of all his bullshit and started plotting things with my friend. The narc had lied about being an expert at computers, he even got fired because he was "too good" according to him. My friend has worked for Apple, but since I warned him the day before, he kept a straight face until he started bragging about, then my friend started talking about coding on a level this person could not understand and after that, he shut up about that. Shortly after, I got a mail from the narc, where he threatened to "go apeshit" for the fifty-eleventh time, then quickly apologized. However, I had gotten fed up by then and told him "Well go apeshit somewhere else, you've gone bullshit so many times that I'm not valuing you anymore, goodbye!" That felt better than really good sex!
I've known this person for many many years and he has always used the "apeshit-card" on people, that or just farting, burping or acting straight out immature towards my other friends, hoping they wouldn't want to be with me anymore. When I told him to piss off, I felt that was almost the best thing I've ever done! The best thing I've ever done has been to educate myself about narcissism and finding out what to avoid. Thanks for all your inspiring videos, I believe they have potential to make people grow mentally and eventually leave these toxic beings
Time to go
Yes!
The truth
You bet!
😒 why didn't I realise SOO SOO many years ago... I have waisted so much of my life letting them bully and beat me down. I'm exhausted. 😪
TIME TO GO!!!!! I'm so glad that I did, too!!! LOL!
Time to go! I left 3 weeks ago and he went into a rage and already has a new supply/girlfriend.
Can’t live of function on their own. Emotionally stunted and unable to cope.
They need their narcissistic supply - always!
TIME TO GO
Time to go !!!
You bet!
Thank you Rebecca! I’m
Hoping so much to soon be done with a 4 year long legal battle with my ex. Thank you for your videos!!
We're rooting for you! You can do this! 🙏🙌
If you can't handle the pressure escape the situation,if it's a threat to your existence,do something about it.If you ignore them they will go away,if they feel rejected,they could react badly as a result,but the golden rule should be applied to almost all situations ❌🆘🚩💲✔️☢️
@@RebeccaZungEsq A control freak couldn't handle criticisms,and will abuse and mistreat people,and possibly use a smear campaign of slander,to mislead the public against you,it will trigger their insecuries if they feel ineffective,they can't handle it if they feel inferior.You've exposed them and now they get bad karma for their evil intentions towards you ❌🆘🚩☢️✔️💲
@@Jackgritty28 Some narcissists are dangerous. Jails are full of narcissists. Don't let them intimidate you. Most narcissists are cowards who prey on nice people who they see as weak in order to make themselves feel more important and powerful. Don't cave to them. Eventually, most will move on to easier prey.
Do ya have kids together?
Hope you're feeling good today ❤
You too!
Renting from one now. Gave notice. Calls me names, threatens me, tantrums etc. Cant be ignored. Worst thing I ever encountered. Living with a 2 year old.
LMAO. I’m doing all of it. This is my new favorite video.
#4 listed everything my husband's ex malignant narcissist girlfriend did to us, plus she called my places of employment- a weight from that trauma was lifted from me just listening to this video and having you describe what she did. I had no idea people could be like that until that traumatic experience of narcissistic abuse. Thank you so much!
I did this "Time to go" 22mnths ago & everything your talking about is down to an art!!! Even refusing a coffee, l got abused...
Thnku for all your video's 🙂
The new guy or girl is always the most important person in the room. It's our job to help them see that they can stay.
Your videos have helped me get insights into 'difficult people'. Thanks for all you do.👍
They also don't like rejection, not sure if you mention that ,good info from you thanks
time to go
Thank you Rebecca for all the valuable information, first time listener.
Exactly. Mine keeps writing me threatening emails, letters, wanting Mr to abandon my house . They found someone else to control , mainly her ex and youngest son.
Spreading lies about me
My freaky neighbors dont understand boundaries
Join my free webinar and I'll share tips and tricks on how to communicate with these toxic personalities! You got this!
I know that one.
It's time to go, I never saw the signs just a person that she thought she was entitled never a narcissist
Thank you so much 💜 Great job what you do!!! 💯
Awesome video! Thank you!
Thank YOU!
I'll print that out, hopefully that will guide me in the right direction, to end with this divorce that he keeps delaying.
I wish I knew this prior.
Narcissists don't like change? Could have fooled me.. mine moved on quick as fuck to some one else weeks after our 5 year relationship.
I once told my narc husband I liked his hair when he wore it much shorter and he got so defensive. And got angry. Kept saying so you don't like my hair?? Huh. Don't like it? Lol
Good grief...where were you 2 years ago?!. Love your uploads.
I've been ignoring but the person still comes around. I'll keep ignoring and love your advise!!!!
All true. Finally divorced almost a year but can’t get my daughters (not his biological) and my things.
Two years on an air mattress and he still won’t give us our bed, clothing and furniture that I came into the marriage with.
It’s so toxic. He’s taken everything and loves it.
He filed for divorce and made me pay for it from my retirement. I lost it all.
Funny, while watching this video to remind me of my power he called. To just reiterate his control.
I just want to stop hurting and move on. Feels like it’s impossible. I won’t give up getting my possessions because I know that in the end I will win my life back.
Time to GO!
Quite interesting 🤔
Blessings always
TIME TO GO!
I workef for one of these for over 5 years. A nightmare. If only I had recognised this sooner!
So respectful of your strength ❤️🙏
The insight is appreciated thank you, GOD BLESS
definitely, time to go baby!
The best way to kill someone legally is to ignore them
Also the best way to get leverage over someone - I'd like to put it 😉
Look right thru them like a pain of glass, like they don't exist. Very satisfying!!! Takes enormous self control. It is soooo worth it!!!!!
Pane of glass* oops
its time to go they tried to frame me more than once
Time to go! Thanks
So true my sister
Hi Rebecca. You are truly ❤ fabulous 👌.
Time to GO
Time to go!
I am glad that you mention those signs l have seen those signs a lot from my X
I have seen and heard all of what you say and recovering
Super incisisive analysis ❤️🙏
I FINALLY figured it out for myself researching on the computer what the he-- was WRONG with my twin sister...when I learned what a narcissist was..BINGO! Hit the nail on the head exactly...too bad it took 5 years of crying with me TRYING to figure things out with her..then when I looked back on all the years of CRAP she did to her own family (that I'd always say, Well that's ODD)...I NOW KNEW WHY! SHES A NARCISSIST!
Ms Rebecca, your videos give me hope. It gives me a sense on how to handle my daughters mother. I try my hardest not to knock her teeth out for the disrespect she does towards me, my kids, or even towards my mother. After watching your videos and other videos that describe why she is the way she is, it started from her childhood. I knew all the women in her family and they were toxic. So your videos are on point on how to handle these crazy ass situations. Thank you Ms. Rebecca.
Time to Go
For sure!
Time to go. Oh yes.
time to go!!
Yep time to go
Yes!!! 🏃♀
Time to go 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️
I NEED TO GO
Ignore them
He's about to find out just how NOT special he is.
Right 💪 HIGH TIME TO GO. 🎉
Thank you, I've learned a lot, I've always that it was me, you don't know what relief you've given me. I appreciate you and the information you have given me today.
We don't even have the money to be expending on this 3 year divorcio.
Time to go !!!... Soooo long ago
Yes, my first wife, at the time I didn't know she was a toxic, malignant narcissist. I was working on a model airplane and it was late at night. You know, all my chores where done. For crying out loud. She was so gelous I thought. She also couldn't stand to see me happy Ignoring her. I would talk at the same time to her. But, that wasn't good enough for Beth. Oh did I say Beth? Yes, Elizabeth.
I would say NO to sex because something never feel right with my spirit n I said NO to marriage!!...he wanted marriage but he was married 6 times n shared with me he married 1 woman to make another jealous?!??! What?!?!...
Spot on. 6 out of 6.
Thank you
From south africa
This sounds like reactions to having been cheated on and lied to and stolen from by a narcissist...
Sounds like my boss I've been at my job for 25 years I feel guilty if I leave as I get bribed to stay he's 82 years old I feel stuck
Time To Go
My husband demolish my prayer house.
What’s your suggestion on a narcissistic coworker always complaining and making the office temperature so warm complaining about it being so 🥶 cold. Though it’s 🥵 hot and it’s not a battle I want to take on. The negotiation passed and the person got her way with the boss?
I've seen all of that in supermarkets
I sure wish my son could afford you as his attorney, he is only allowed to see his baby's 2hours a week and has to pay 120 each time he sees them with a provider. He has always had a bond with his children. Don't know what to do it's just so sad. Im hoping the children are safe with her, I can only pray for them.
Time to go he told my son 38 yrs old something my son won’t answer my calls 😢
I believe I'm being stalked. In the relationship the narc never rode by where I hangout . Last week the narc in new supply rode by my relatives home! Is that stalking
Some people were just dying to go into The lake of fire someday
I told him that I hope to move out soon I can't being with him anymore I need to move I told my oldest find me a place to room to start
Time to go 🕺
Shoot, after being abused by my ex narc husband, I feel like I can’t handle this stuff either 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️😂😂
So how can I help others see that they are dealing with a narcissist?