Sometimes it isn't always the abused that ends up dead. The abuser can end up dead by the very person he's abusing. I know from personal experience. No one wins it's better to get out and run and not look back. Too this day 38 years later I can honestly say I was left with no choice but to do what I did. I knew God forgave me as well as his family. The hardest part was forgiving myself.
Exactly, I told her you better Thank the Lord for intervening. Found out that someone at her church was going to pursue her but when he saw that she dating the other guy he backed off.
@@melmel3703 I beg to differ, there are ways her family could have gotten involved without rousing her husband's suspicions. They could have all join together to plan her and her son's escape and into safety.
@@naturistfred yeah ok- you can’t force a person to leave anyone- but hey you go ahead. I’m not risking my life over foolishness/ if family members want to die- so be it, but they WILL go alone.
You can believe in marriage but I’m sure the lord didn’t choose that man for her. I didn’t want to let my ex husband go but when he strangled me in beat me in front of my daughter I could not remain married to that.
Amen too I'm a survivor too sadly once you have been abused we still have to watch it men can smell it who are not right it like they have a gps that sense they can abuse I pray God will send you comfort and peace and love that is everlasting I went through it and it hurts in a way folks will never known
Domestic Abuse doesn’t just mean getting beat on physically. You can be MENTALLY ABUSED as well!! It’s ALL the same, GET HELP!! PRAYERS TO THE FAMILY OF THE BEREAVED 🙏🏾
It’s many layers, my mother says she wasn’t physically abused but my step father was a cheater and perverted even flirting with family and friends n front of her and women sending pics of him in their beds but she says he never abused her physically. My mom and many women with though the same with men so I feel like my mom was not taught to view herself worthy. My mom came from a who started birthing kids from 13 and he father was abusive I believe sexually. People stay because they are also embarrassed to divorce. Many Christians teach people not to divorce also so that’s another story. When I divorced my ex husband the lord starting showing me the man who is my husband.
@@Coreof143 The spouse is allowed to divorce only if the spouse continue to commit adultery. Also if a spouse leaves abusive marriage, she is to stay single until that spouse dies. Then she's free to marry again but it's best to wait on God. 1 Corinthians 7:39.
@@SouthSideLadyWright The only way a husband committs adultery is if he sleeps with a woman espoused to another man. Other then that its lawful. Deuteronomy 21:15-17 King James Version 15 If a man have two wives, one beloved, and another hated, and they have born him children, both the beloved and the hated; and if the firstborn son be hers that was hated: 16 Then it shall be, when he maketh his sons to inherit that which he hath, that he may not make the son of the beloved firstborn before the son of the hated, which is indeed the firstborn: 17 But he shall acknowledge the son of the hated for the firstborn, by giving him a double portion of all that he hath: for he is the beginning of his strength; the right of the firstborn is his.
Yes, she does! And, I can almost guarantee she and her uncle were close before that husband. There aren't just great aunts out there! But, great uncles as well. Prayers for this family. 🙏🏾
@@SouthernbellaPe the way he's talking, I'm sure they were extremely close. He keeps saying stay in their business even if they get mad. Seems like they probably had words about him. Pray he doesn't feel guilty. Wasn't his fault at all.
And a "threat on your life" includes emotional, mental, spiritual and financial abuse....any kind of hurtful toxic behavior. LOVE.... DOESN'T....HURT! 💜
I agree, but sadly and too often love does hurt & when it does this can happen sad to say, & I wish the family healing & may the Neice & her child rip🌹
Facts!!! Bcuz that's just how the shyt starts. Disrespect, maltreatment, being emotionally unavailable acting like your the enemy...this is all to common. Just so sad.
Love hurts like a MF. You must be a child or young adult, keep living, you’ll see. Talk to your dad or uncle and quit trying to gain knowledge off some quote you saw on social media.
@@rjohnson7416 Your type is so weird, wtf is this video about ? Ok let’s stick to the topic🤦🏾♀️it’s obvious that some men get abused by women too but that has nothing to do with this specific video🙄 “she will too” let this woman R.I.p!!
Disrespect comes before the abuse. Whenever I started a relationship I made sure to convey that I would not tolerate disrespect. In my 45 years I’ve NEVER had anyone that I was in a relationship with even call me out of my name. I didn’t even allow anyone I dated to even call other women the “b” word in my presence. Boundaries are essential.
Right, they forget that part. I never heard of a guy just wake up one day and start beating you....the disrespect led up to that. The first time a guy you dating or sleeping with disrespect you, that's when those females should leave and stay away 🤷🏾♀️ but I guess that's just us lol but I LOVE GOD way more so I know my worth
Say that again Sis. I don’t tolerate it either. I’ll speak up in a NY minute. I hate when females call each other that. It’s sad. SMH Thankfully I’ve never been addressed as such, Mi head might do a whole 360•
Absolutely. I’ve never experienced an abusive relationship because my tolerance is ZERO when it come to disrespect. Prayers to this family. So heartbreaking 💔
So sad. Her self esteem was shattered long before by the husband before he killed her. Our precious black sisters are under attack 24 hours being killed/murdered. We need a lot of protection and support. It’s okay to ask for help sisters. Your life may depend on it. RIP🌺
This Domestic violence against colour women been in silence speak up get help get out ASAP these's men never change its getting out of hand now 2021 everyday boyfriend or husband killed there women the DEVIL working over-time with these's anger in these's GUYS.
One of my old coworkers came to work one day with bruises in her eyes because her husband beat on her so badly every time I look up at her face I feel the pain my own eyes 😓😓😓 but I'm so glad they're not together anymore because one time she left her phone in their apartment after as soon as she got to work she realized it and used someone else phone to call and he threatened to leave their son outside by himself simply because she left her phone behind and this young lady was white and as black women we have to stop hiding and covering up our pain
Ladies, it's all bad for us. These men are either gay, undercover gay or just plain murderers. I am remaining single.!! R.I. P to the mother and her son.
You can date but ask God to show you his heart...he will always reveal....an do not stay if something is off an pay attention to things he says n does 🙏🙏🙏
@@rubylimey7614 Yes 👍🏾 I definitely will and do ask the Lord to send me someone that is just for me and that he sees for to be with me. Yes I stay on point, I’m very observant about everything. Thank you for your kind and informative words Queen 👑. You stay safe 🙏🏾
If the mother can’t protect herself . She will struggle to keep her children safe. Usually that will prompt the mother leave . If having her children removed doesn’t provoke her to leave the man. Nothing will.
One jumped on me and I was out of town away from ny family..he begged me not to leave..he had never did that before..he said " its Christmas time baby don't leave, Im sorry Ill never hit you again..I for gave him only to get hit again...my plan was to get a family member to help me get me and by 1 year old a Greyhound ticket..the day he said I love Ada and he went to work that was the day I left! (See my family said "if you leave then stay there"..Don't ever say that to a young lady!)...when I got Home they said he called Crying say he love me ..I told my Aunt and grandma I did him good I LEFT!....
@@jazzyred3833 - So proud of you ! I'm happy that you were smart enough and strong enough to leave him - please don't EVER return to him . You are an inspiration to other abused women that they too can leave . Praying for your continued safety and happiness 🙏🏾🥰🙏🏾
Ladies love yourself enough to leave and your kids as well. Don’t accept any type of disrespect, verbally, mentally or physically. Stop keeping things behind closed doors. Let the world to see what type of monsters really exist.
BEWARE Of The RED FLAGS Ladies. He do not love you if he has to beat on you etc. He do not love you nor respect you. He also do not care about the children.
@@misbinky2947 proud of you and praying God gives you the strength to not go back!! Know your Beauty and worth and don’t ever accept less for you and your children again. Please
I totally disagree.....God is the one ordained marriage, it's about putting God first and everything ,Whether it be in your marriage your children your job etc. He will surely take care of the rest.. yes you will have differences and disagreements. but again when you put God first in it , he will help you through it, No matter what the situation may be. Marriage was ordained to replenish the Earth (to honor God). The word of God also States "that a man that findeth , a wife findeth a good thing, and it's giving favor of the Lord " but we must understand that this man that the word is talking about have connection with God .in order to find that good thing. ( Wife ).And that woman who is a good thing, her heart is toward God as well . She's able to see him when he comes... All in all you must know that this marriage is of God , Seek Counseling and be honest with one another before you get married God bless ! 🤗
I just pray for people like you. It’s some sort of disconnect you people have with these victims that amazes me. In her instance it could be anything. Domestic violence can happen anytime. You also can’t control another persons reaction. You may not allow something but something may have to take place in order for that to truly be known... and the outcome can be unknown. Just pray for yourself and others. Cause speaking on what you’d never allow you might just open the door to be tested.💯🙏🏾
@@TheBlackMadonna222 that's not true. If you are in a situation like hers you never stay. Your responsibility is you and your children. Don't tell anyone to stand down to violence. You get rid of them by any means necessary.
@ChiPhiChi Crysalis the word is “allowed” people often times speak as if the abused victim just laid down and got beat and I don’t like that. People don’t know what others do to stay away. Not all domestic situations should be looked at as what was allowed or not. That’s all I’m saying. Don’t speak on the victim and what she allowed it’s almost like saying these people be asking to get murdered
Too many woman think they can change a man ( hoping things will one day get better they never get better, they get worse! LEAVE, THE LIFE YOU SAVE may be YOUR OWN!
No person can change another person’s Spirit, Soul & Beliefs. If someone thinks they can change a persons ways think again it could mean Your life sadly is in jeopardy when it comes to domestic violence & matters of the Heart. God Rest In Peace the Young Lady & Child. The perpetrator will answer to God now.
To any woman that may be suffering abuse, I just want you to know that you can find help. Your life is precious and you're worthy of being loved, but it starts with you loving yourself first. Your children are a precious gift of life continuing. Don't allow anyone to harm them. I pray for you today, just as someone prayed for me. May you find the courage and the strength you need to save your life!!
Leave for your kids...I did! Who Iam today, my value and worth came much later!! Nothing before my children except for Christ🙏🙏🙏 Thank God!!! Children should not think this is normal...
When I was in my late teens and very early twenties I fell in love with a guy. I loved him so much... all it took was a joke on a television about a domestic dispute that made me pack my bags. He insinuated it would be us one day, I got up and went straight to the room and started packing. He said “are you serious?!” I said “I don’t play like that, I have no room to take those kinds of chances.” And left. I never looked back. The girl was getting beaten so badly on tv. My mother met him and said “as soon as I met him that’s what I pictured.” He was so sweet I couldn’t believe he would even joke like that it made no sense
Any woman that subjects her CHILDREN to a VIOLENT household, is not someone that truly loves them. Children are at the mercy of their parents and when you see your household in turbulence, it is YOUR DUTY to protect those children!
@KC Chiefs Fan Hit DOGS are always barking. 🙄 Any other time your kind will claim children as your sole responsibility. I guess that's only applicable when you don't look lame for not protecting them.
@KC Chiefs Fan well with your mindset- that’s why we shall meet again tomorrow with the same news, and the day after, and after, for the next 10000 years
This is absolutely heartbreaking because this story happens way too often. I thank God Almighty that l was able to get away from an abusive marriage relationship with my 2 sons in tow. Yes, it was hard, but God took care of us & l'm alive today to testify about it. Thank you Lord for being so good to me! Praying for this family🙏🏽
What gets missed is married or not, too many women and men lose their lives to unstable people. My uncle was killed when I was 12 by his wife, he asked for a divorce and moved out, 4 months later she showed up on his job and as he was going to his vehicle to leave she ran over him an two coworkers, injured coworkers severely but killed him. My neighbors son died 4 days ago. His girlfriend stabbed him with a ice pic because she wanted him to deactivate his Facebook🤔😡, they had been arguing in the middle of the street and his sister’s beat her up but she came back and they were in the car and they started fighting and she stabbed him in the neck , he was 25. Let go people, but don’t laugh crazy off. His sisters said she was crazy.
@@melmel3703 she got out on bond, they put it off and damn near 2 years later , she comes up married and pregnant.6 months after giving birth, she was ttook a plea to involuntary manslaughter, did 3 years and her and my uncle had three boys and she has never tried to have a relationship with them from the day she killed my uncle. My grandma raised them and her family wanted the life insurance money, if they couldn’t get the money they didn’t want them,my grandma got lawyer to put money in a trust for them.She was so evil, they got older and they tried to question her about why she did what she did, she attacked the oldest and had the nerve to ask them have they gotten their money from their daddy.like b😡tch you the reason he’s no longer here.
This epidemic of men killing women is all around the world and is getting worst . Prophecies written in the bible as a sign of last days we are living today . 2 Timothy 3:3 "having no natural affection , no open to any agreement ,slanderes ,without self- control ,fierce, without love of goodness ". Women nowdays better start taking care of themself ,because men are getting more aggressive and due that things are getting harder out there ...men are loosing control more easy...some women too...I was victim of domestic abuse and my daughter ended also abusing me. And people don't change. Is us that have to learn to put an end and walk away for good without looking back. I'm glad that I did it ...so far 10 years and happy with God . The only one I allow to control my life now.
If the man was abusive, it wasn’t out of being private as a reason she didn’t talk. The man would not let her talk to others. Plus if she is a mother with under aged kids you are somewhat stuck because you don’t want to leave your kids alone with this abusive person if you divorce. The court system does not offer protection when you tell them the dad is abusive. Then CPS is a whole other joke. They told me if no visible bruises nothing could be done until the child began to display mental disturbances. Women like this are stuck.
When my dad passed away my husband of 17 years started to abuse me he choked me twice and I divorced him I left a $300,000 house we had two children together I went to a domestic violence shelter for classes and I divorced his ass because once they start it will not stop it's just a matter of time before they strike again it maybe you or the kids or someone on the job. But they will strike again. Be careful ladies because women have the tendency to date the same type of men.
"for better or for worse" does NOT mean lose your life OR allow your children to be expose to such violence. Learn how to truly love someone SO much you are at peace with letting them go 🤍. Stop trying to "save" people, that's what *Jesus Christ* is for.
Women have to start seeing & admitting to themselves about what they see in these violent men after they start dating OR after they marry. GET OUT of both situations IMMEDIATELY! STOP trying to "make it work".
Her uncle stated she wanted the marriage but the husband probably cheating and she called him out on it. But there's been domestic violence at the house before. But she wanted the marriage. It's like she had low self esteem to put up with his abuse and to want to stay.
@@kennethpaige5776 , so did that call for killing the children too, or her life for that matter? I'll answer my own question. No he was just born a coward, lived as a coward and died a coward. Soulless, demon seed, the babies didn't choose him they were innocent in the situation.
Naw , don’t get involved . You will be the one getting killed and the “victim” will reconcile with their partner over and over again, leaving you to be the one looking like the fool or the troublemaker. Tell them to call the cops at most, then go on about your day. Victims and abusers gravitate to each other and people are mostly victims and abuser at the same time , they just put a spin on the story for you.
I had just given birth to Triplets❤❤❤...they was 8 months old...I had no family in my city...so I LEFT ONE DAY WHEN. HE WENT TO WORK...I struggled BUT I NEVER LOOKED BACK....he had already choked me out..MY KIDS NEEDED ME TO LIVE💯....I wish she would have atleast left for the kids!
What is up with these abusive, weak ass men?? I'm so over hearing how they decide they're going to be the judge, jury & executioner over ANOTHER person's life. So sad & angry at this...
Marriage ain't worth saving when there's violence, what is worth saving is ur lives and ur children's lives. IF UR GOING THROUGH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE WITH UR PARTNER GET THE HELL OUT BEFORE U END UP 6 FEET DEEP.
My daughter is experiencing this with her boyfriend. I have got involved and everything. She have paper work to get a restraining order just waiting on the judge to sign off. I'm so scared for my child. I'm praying I don't have to go through what I just seen on here. So sorry for the family lost.
That's the first step. Has your daughter thought about owning and receiving firearms training or martial arts training. You, other family members and friends need to be careful also. Some abusers will attack the loved ones or anyone helping. May you daughter receive victory over this situation!
‘A motive to kill‘ your wife and child? What does it matter... the motive? A husband in this case has gone off the ‘deep end’ and two people that he was supposed to protect and care about, are dead by his hands! There is no reason that can justify or even explain this, in any way shape or form! A family is now in ruins...
She had low self esteem and was scared to lose the lifestyle! God had given her the signs she asked for and she chose to stay.. with that, the remaining children will suffer
@KC Chiefs Fan please. We can blame them all we want. At some point personal accountability needs to kick in. You can only control your actions. Obviously (& also implied by the uncle) this was ongoing. He didn't just wake up one day & become a demon. She made a choice to ignore signs and paid for it with her life. I'm so sorry that this happened but it's time we stop lying. Women (who look like us) are being killed left and right by their significant others. These men are all going to prison so there is them being held responsible for their actions. But an ounce of protection is worth more than a pound of cure. Women should never let it get that far. We have to start saving ourselves.
The sad part… when we get involved and they go back we waste time!! You can’t save the adults sadly.. they have to make decisions themselves.. but the kids.. TAKE THEM!!
Went to school with this beautiful young lady..My condolences to her family. I to have suffered in silence with an abusive spouse..Its hard ..but i am still struggling aswell ..She didnot deserve to be killed nor abused.😞 ...Lets raise awareness and save our selves beatiful black women...R.I.P...beautiful SOUL...May THE MOST HIGH GOD .be with you.💙💙💙
So sad. "As they were there for the wellness check, gunshots were heard." If they only knew what was going on in that house!!!! Police were right outside of house. Prayers are lifted for the lady's family. Really: all families involved. Such a tragedy.
Fk that.. I grew up in a domestic violence household. Bio father, then step father. BELIEVING IN AND WANT YOUR MARRIAGE ISN'T ENOUGH.. STAYING BECAUSE Y'ALL HAVE KIDS.. IS NOT ENOUGH REASON.. TO STAY... RISKING YOUR KIDS &/OR YOUR LIFE.. THANK GOD.. I GOT OUT OF MY ABUSIVE MARRIAGE A LIVE. NEVER TELL AN ABUSER YOU'RE LEAVING.. SECRETLY SAVE MONEY, GET OUT FAST AS YOU CAN.. GO INTO HIDING. BECAUSE THEY WILL COME LOOKING FOR YOU/KIDS AND WILL KILL YOU.. WHEN FOLK SHOW AND/ OR TELL YOU WHO THEY ARE BELIEVE THEM.. GET AWAY FROM THEM.M HAVING A MAN/MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP ISN'T WORTH YOUR LIFE. IF YOU'RE GOING THRU ANY LEVEL OF ABUSE. BE IT VERBALLY OR PHYSICALLY.. GET IT OUT NOW..
I totally agree. A woman should never tell a man that she's leaving especially an abusive man. It's too risky. Just leave..abs go to a Domestic violence shelter if you have to. Sometimes it really is a matter of life or death.
She wanted her marriage, huh? Well, look where the hell that idea got her? This man was obviously abusive for years, and she did little or nothing, to remove herself or her child from this situation! Children almost always pay the price for their parent's lack of good sense! It's rediculous!7
I think alot of time women don't get out of these type of relationship is because women have been condition to save the marriage and family look over things even if someone is putting their paws on you.Women feel like it's their fault if the marriage fell. The church tell you don't remarry it's adultery.you will cause someone to commit it if they marry you, so women stay in toxic relationships. This is a major cause of this mess. If you are in a toxic relationship Flee! Run! getaway! Never go back! God didn't tell you to let someone take your life and mistreat you! He didn't bless you with evil! God is love, peace,harmony, joy, and happiness. You aren't getting that with the devil!
Greetings. I'm so sorry. Sir please don't beat yourself up. Because until she was ready, there's nothing you or anyone else could've done. Situations like this , you have to wait until they want help. If not, they get mad at you, and run back to that bum.
This is devastating and sad. But she couldn't have been a dedicated mother if she didn't think to keep her children safe. She put herself first to keep her marriage. You don't stay with a man who puts you and your children in danger.
This is such an unfair statement! The uncle, not anyone else, said that the husband abused the children. In many domestic issues, the issues are strictly between the husband and wife. Yes, her son was killed alongside her. But please don't just automatically assume that this lady was allowing her children to be abused. May she and her son RIP😥
@@patriciadavis3549 even if he didn't physically abuse them its mental abuse hearing your mom get her a## beat on the regular. Its mental abuse seeing your mom with a black eye or buises on her. Its mental abuse possibly hearing your mom screaming while getting beat in the next room but feeling like you're to little to help her. Even though if he didn't physically abuse the kids they were mentally abused by their mother being beat and them not being able to help her.
@@ambitiousbeauty1013 that is very true! But I am hoping that the children were not exposed to the abuse of the mom. I have known of cases where the abuser is careful not to act out in sight of or in ear shot of the children. Thus way there are no witness to the abuse. Also all abusers do not leave Visible physical marks. Some of these abusers will beat you in your body under your clothes where no one can see, for example a punch to the ribs. So that the children don't see the results, a lot of abused women are skilled at putting on makeup to cover up. I have seen this scenario from a 14 year marriage my older cousin was in. I was a teenager, 16, at the time. She was a branch manager at a bank. I and the rest of the family never understood why she stayed. It is really sad! She finally divorced him. She remarried some years later to a wonderful man who treated her and her two daughters so well😊
@@patriciadavis3549 this particular step father killed the mother and her child. I'm sure if he killed the child that child saw abuse in the household. That child most likely saw him in his angry rages. Most violent men don't have a schedule to only be angry and violent when kids are not home.
@@ambitiousbeauty1013 you are trying to be funny by saying they don't have a schedule. You are dead damn wrong about some of them. The manipulative and demonic ones know when and where do they do not look like the bad guy. The same goes for a lot of men who are verbally abusive. All abusive men are not out of control. Many of these men are manipulative and deceitful to the rest of the world. Remember Blair Underwood's character in 'Madea's Family Reunion'. The more intelligent ones can do this for years. This man who killed this woman and Her child, not His children. That just shows another layer of his evil and depravity! The reporter said the other two children, who were probably His biological children, were out in the yard when officers arrived. Domestic Violence comes in a plethora of forms, faces, personalities and income and education levels. And yes, when someone threatens or hits you the First Time, you need to be formulating a plan for getting away from that situation. Even if the abuser comes back and apologizes, please know that this probably won't be the only time ever. Narcissists and Sociopaths are real in this world! They are also some of the most dangerous domestic Violence abusers in all levels, physical, emotional and mental.
Condolences to this family! I wanted my marriage as well - but when the other individual does not want you - you need to LET THEM GO - PEACEFULLY! You DON'T NEED TO BLOW A TRUMPET! TURN IT LOOSE! My heart HURTS to hear these DEATH STORIES DAY AFTER DAY, WEEK AFTER WEEK, AND MONTH AFTER MONTH! PLEASE SEEK GOD IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS! THE GOD OF ABRAHAM, ISAAC, and JACOB can HEAL AND DELIEVER US FROM ANY AND EVERYTHING!
Is having a man worth being a human punching bag? SMH I haven't met a man with a penace worth that! #imjustsaying This is one of her fb posts 2011 how come nobody listened 👂
@Lillian Lee Get your panties out of a bunch. I am not shaming anyone. Sometimes people need to provide insightful correction. The stripes similar to that of a track suit does not in my opinion present a professional look. It is too casual for presenting the news.
Domestic abusers often hide who they are. Look for clues. Someone who seems to make unreasonable demands and is jealous will only get worse. Before we buy a car we learn everything about the car . We should do the same thing with potential love interests. Some people are incapable of engaging in loving relationships . No amount of prayer and faith will change that .
I wonder what’s Kevin Samuel response to this a women that didn’t leave her husband knowing there were 🚩 RIP TO THE angels that lost there lives 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
My family went through this in 2006. My sister husband killed her and their unborn child because she wanted a divorce. He was also abusive. We tried to help. He drove himself and the other 3 kids to Mississippi to his parents house then he killed himself. This tore our hearts to pieces. My she was my best friend. The grief is on another level. It took Jesus for us to get through this. So I know what this family is going through. 🙏
Never, never stay with a man that disrespects you. It comes easy with words but I know it is hard to do. But I would say I wouldn’t stand to this day had I not. Believe in yourself and be strong; it takes time and determination. Always find yourself as #1 before you step in #2 ladies. RIP beautiful souls
....The deal breaker for any relationship 1) one or both people put their hands on another... 2) When someone says they will hurt or kill the other or another's family ... "Out of the heart the mouth speaks"... Leave... Just leave... You have to understand it gets no better... If you can't get along - part... Also, to the initial reporter in the beginning, have some professionalism about yourself... What the **** did you have on?... Reporters should not be on tv looking like hoochies...
even kill the babies😪😳sometimes know matter what you do to help people is going to do what they want but at least try. I will never understand just move on praying for the family😣😳😥
Oh my GOD I just hate commenting on stories like these knowing my beloved sister married her abuser. Its rather disappointing and extremely heartbreaking to comment about a black Queen dying by the hands of her abuser! Oh my GOD I've always assumed for as long as I could remember that at no given time should love ever really hurt or be as painful to the point that you're enduring bodily injuries from the person who professes to love you day after day. I just hate writing and commenting on painful stories like these because I know in my heart there's a thin line between LOVE and HATE!
There is no excuse for staying in an abusive relationship, I don't give a damn what the stakes are! Was she THAT worried about what the neighbors were going to say? So she traded her life for the reputation of her sorry marriage! Was it worth dying??
This is like a Broken Record! It keeps repeating over and over again! I am so grateful that I survived Domestic violence, because I got out and stayed out! PEOPLE PLEASE realize that you cannot fix another person! You cannot change another person‘s behavior! You have to love yourself more!
I worked with Victims of DV. Getting out is so much tougher than people believe or can comprehend. It's not that easy folks when you have kids and finances entwining you, and in her case "vows" that she was taught should be adhered to. Godspeed to her Spirit's homecoming. ⚘💜⚘
A victim can take the threats seriously. But does the criminal justice system do anything when complaints are made? Restraining orders only do so much. Hell! A missing person reports takes 48 to 72 hours to be considered..
So sad, but you Cannot make a relationship work when you are dealing with an evil being . Marriage can be wonderful - BUT with the Right person. If not you have NOTHING. Go find yourself someone else who is sane. You Cannot fix someone so Seaverly broken, you are hurting yourself & innocent children because of Your Need to fix a toxic insane person. You cannot make them into what you need or want them to be. This is the outcome, not to be mean & uncaring bc l do care but my words are truth & people Better start choosing better bc there are LOTS of big bad wolves in sheep's clothing out there. Better think twice if you like living & take your time in choosing a mate. Bad rushed decisions are costly bc just bc you are a decent person doesn't mean they are. Stop & think bc you are hurting loved ones as well as yourself. RIP to the mom & child so sorry & condolences to the family. Just please leave these deadbeats alone they DONT want what You want, they don't know how to truly Love like you do they are not capable & besides they don't want too if they could. Go find someone else - what's the rush? God Bless.
Hey , the sad thing is that a man will marry a woman to become her abuser and this happens all the time , marriage suppose to honorable but most of the time is it? This is why some men get upset when women turn them down for marriage or even a relationship, he had evil plans that she dodged knowingly or unknowingly.. Because some things suppose to be good are not always good, the devil does put on different faces..
This woman suffered in silence, private and didn't want to get her relatives involved, sounds all too common. RIP.
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Sometimes it isn't always the abused that ends up dead. The abuser can end up dead by the very person he's abusing.
I know from personal experience. No one wins it's better to get out and run and not look back. Too this day 38 years later I can honestly say I was left with no choice but to do what I did. I knew God forgave me as well as his family. The hardest part was forgiving myself.
@@norascales5203
Brave and courageous🙏🙏🙏
Not me first time your family will need a GoFundMe. Rt.
@@joharilarosa6230
Gofindhim!
Lol
My daughter just called off her wedding because the fiance was showing signs of abuse. Prayer for the family
So it is when we do not allow the Lord to choose our spouse
Exactly, I told her you better Thank the Lord for intervening. Found out that someone at her church was going to pursue her but when he saw that she dating the other guy he backed off.
There is no better result than letting God handle your love life.
SHE did the right thing
It will get wirst
Smart girl
'If there's a threat on your life, take it seriously' and speak up! No truer words
His first advice will get others killed- talking about get involved- no sir
@@melmel3703 I beg to differ, there are ways her family could have gotten involved without rousing her husband's suspicions. They could have all join together to plan her and her son's escape and into safety.
@@naturistfred yeah ok- you can’t force a person to leave anyone- but hey you go ahead. I’m not risking my life over foolishness/ if family members want to die- so be it, but they WILL go alone.
@@melmel3703 I agree 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💯. That person has to want help. Don’t get killed meddling calling it help. 🤷🏽♀️
Or at least get your children away from the threat.
You can believe in marriage but I’m sure the lord didn’t choose that man for her. I didn’t want to let my ex husband go but when he strangled me in beat me in front of my daughter I could not remain married to that.
Thank You Lord for Deliverance 🙏🏾
I'm so glad you got out and are safe now and I pray you and your daughter remain safe and healthy. 🙏🏾💜
Amen too I'm a survivor too sadly once you have been abused we still have to watch it men can smell it who are not right it like they have a gps that sense they can abuse I pray God will send you comfort and peace and love that is everlasting I went through it and it hurts in a way folks will never known
Big facts
Yes. I 'm glad that you removed yourself and child from that situation.
Domestic Abuse doesn’t just mean getting beat on physically. You can be MENTALLY ABUSED as well!! It’s ALL the same, GET HELP!!
PRAYERS TO THE FAMILY OF THE BEREAVED 🙏🏾
It’s many layers, my mother says she wasn’t physically abused but my step father was a cheater and perverted even flirting with family and friends n front of her and women sending pics of him in their beds but she says he never abused her physically. My mom and many women with though the same with men so I feel like my mom was not taught to view herself worthy. My mom came from a who started birthing kids from 13 and he father was abusive I believe sexually. People stay because they are also embarrassed to divorce. Many Christians teach people not to divorce also so that’s another story. When I divorced my ex husband the lord starting showing me the man who is my husband.
@@Coreof143 Yes, there are MANY layers!! Lord Have Mercy on ANYONE that feels stuck in it!!
#ImASURVIVOR
#ThankULord
Gee thanks for stating the obvious
@@Coreof143 The spouse is allowed to divorce only if the spouse continue to commit adultery. Also if a spouse leaves abusive marriage, she is to stay single until that spouse dies. Then she's free to marry again but it's best to wait on God. 1 Corinthians 7:39.
@@SouthSideLadyWright The only way a husband committs adultery is if he sleeps with a woman espoused to another man. Other then that its lawful.
Deuteronomy 21:15-17
King James Version
15 If a man have two wives, one beloved, and another hated, and they have born him children, both the beloved and the hated; and if the firstborn son be hers that was hated:
16 Then it shall be, when he maketh his sons to inherit that which he hath, that he may not make the son of the beloved firstborn before the son of the hated, which is indeed the firstborn:
17 But he shall acknowledge the son of the hated for the firstborn, by giving him a double portion of all that he hath: for he is the beginning of his strength; the right of the firstborn is his.
They have some strong genes. She looks like her uncle. Beautiful woman. May you and your son rest in peace.
Yes she looks like her uncle so very much.
Yes! May she Rest In Peace
Yes, she does! And, I can almost guarantee she and her uncle were close before that husband. There aren't just great aunts out there! But, great uncles as well. Prayers for this family. 🙏🏾
@@SouthernbellaPe the way he's talking, I'm sure they were extremely close. He keeps saying stay in their business even if they get mad. Seems like they probably had words about him. Pray he doesn't feel guilty. Wasn't his fault at all.
And a "threat on your life" includes emotional, mental, spiritual and financial abuse....any kind of hurtful toxic behavior.
LOVE.... DOESN'T....HURT! 💜
I agree, but sadly and too often love does hurt & when it does this can happen sad to say, & I wish the family healing & may the Neice & her child rip🌹
Facts!!! Bcuz that's just how the shyt starts. Disrespect, maltreatment, being emotionally unavailable acting like your the enemy...this is all to common. Just so sad.
Love hurts like a MF. You must be a child or young adult, keep living, you’ll see. Talk to your dad or uncle and quit trying to gain knowledge off some quote you saw on social media.
Big facts 💪🏽💪🏽💯💯
@@126missday if it hurts it's not love
If he hits you once he'll do it again
she will too
@@rjohnson7416 that's true some chiks don't play
@@rjohnson7416 Your type is so weird, wtf is this video about ? Ok let’s stick to the topic🤦🏾♀️it’s obvious that some men get abused by women too but that has nothing to do with this specific video🙄 “she will too” let this woman R.I.p!!
Don't allow him to get away with hitting you‼️
Exactly
Disrespect comes before the abuse. Whenever I started a relationship I made sure to convey that I would not tolerate disrespect. In my 45 years I’ve NEVER had anyone that I was in a relationship with even call me out of my name. I didn’t even allow anyone I dated to even call other women the “b” word in my presence. Boundaries are essential.
Right, they forget that part. I never heard of a guy just wake up one day and start beating you....the disrespect led up to that. The first time a guy you dating or sleeping with disrespect you, that's when those females should leave and stay away 🤷🏾♀️ but I guess that's just us lol but I LOVE GOD way more so I know my worth
Say that again Sis. I don’t tolerate it either. I’ll speak up in a NY minute. I hate when females call each other that. It’s sad. SMH Thankfully I’ve never been addressed as such, Mi head might do a whole 360•
Absolutely. I’ve never experienced an abusive relationship because my tolerance is ZERO when it come to disrespect. Prayers to this family. So heartbreaking 💔
True fortunately for me I had older son and his siblings who wouldn't have it.
Charles Gilmer, the uncle interviewed, provided some very sobering thoughts. Such a tragic event.
Yeah- he also provided a way for others to get killed- talking about get involved. Oh no sir !
@Anastasia Beaverhausen right
Yeah Big Unk Preached This Sunday With A Heart Full of Pain and Eyes Full of Tears
@@davidmileage9287 , I'm sorry about you lose brother. Please accept my condolences. May the Lord comfort all of her love ones.
So sad. Her self esteem was shattered long before by the husband before he killed her.
Our precious black sisters are under attack 24 hours being killed/murdered.
We need a lot of protection and support. It’s okay to ask for help sisters. Your life may depend on it.
RIP🌺
This Domestic violence against colour women been in silence speak up get help get out ASAP these's men never change its getting out of hand now 2021 everyday boyfriend or husband killed there women the DEVIL working over-time with these's anger in these's GUYS.
One of my old coworkers came to work one day with bruises in her eyes because her husband beat on her so badly every time I look up at her face I feel the pain my own eyes 😓😓😓 but I'm so glad they're not together anymore because one time she left her phone in their apartment after as soon as she got to work she realized it and used someone else phone to call and he threatened to leave their son outside by himself simply because she left her phone behind and this young lady was white and as black women we have to stop hiding and covering up our pain
When you are in a dangerous relationship understand that the abuser will continue to control and hurt you as long as you stay.
The danger continues even after some leave. Js
@@myafreeton9431 He would have to find me and when he do come up on me SMITH & WESSON will do the greeting instead.
Ladies, it's all bad for us. These men are either gay, undercover gay or just plain murderers. I am remaining single.!! R.I. P to the mother and her son.
You are exactly right it’s scary to think about what we as women are up against
Well Gods willing that's not your entire outlook. Those men do exist so does other men who don't fit those qualities. Good luck
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😥
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼exactly
Staying single omg lord i’m afraid to date it’s horrible out here. These men are going nuts, or are nuts already 🤦🏾♀️😬✌🏾
I swear I just had this same thought!! This is too much!! I’d rather have peace of mind any day over this madness.😔
@@lynnmorris8659 Amen 🙏🏾 Queen 👑
You can date but ask God to show you his heart...he will always reveal....an do not stay if something is off an pay attention to things he says n does 🙏🙏🙏
@@rubylimey7614 Yes 👍🏾 I definitely will and do ask the Lord to send me someone that is just for me and that he sees for to be with me. Yes I stay on point, I’m very observant about everything. Thank you for your kind and informative words Queen 👑. You stay safe 🙏🏾
I agree !! My sister I'm single an happy 😊 these's young woman are getting killed everyday Due to domestic violence 💔😢 its epidemic .
Omg, this is my sister's coworker. My sister is so torn over this.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
TELL you're sister to just pray.
Condolences 🙏🙏🙏
💔🙏🏾
Praying for yall 💞💞💞💞
If the mother can’t protect herself . She will struggle to keep her children safe. Usually that will prompt the mother leave . If having her children removed doesn’t provoke her to leave the man. Nothing will.
Very sad
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One jumped on me and I was out of town away from ny family..he begged me not to leave..he had never did that before..he said " its Christmas time baby don't leave, Im sorry Ill never hit you again..I for gave him only to get hit again...my plan was to get a family member to help me get me and by 1 year old a Greyhound ticket..the day he said I love Ada and he went to work that was the day I left! (See my family said "if you leave then stay there"..Don't ever say that to a young lady!)...when I got Home they said he called Crying say he love me ..I told my Aunt and grandma I did him good I LEFT!....
@@jazzyred3833 - So proud of you ! I'm happy that you were smart enough and strong enough to leave him - please don't EVER return to him . You are an inspiration to other abused women that they too can leave .
Praying for your continued safety and happiness 🙏🏾🥰🙏🏾
@@slowjag yup.
Ladies love yourself enough to leave and your kids as well. Don’t accept any type of disrespect, verbally, mentally or physically. Stop keeping things behind closed doors. Let the world to see what type of monsters really exist.
BEWARE Of The RED FLAGS Ladies. He do not love you if he has to beat on you etc. He do not love you nor respect you. He also do not care about the children.
I left
@@misbinky2947 proud of you and praying God gives you the strength to not go back!! Know your Beauty and worth and don’t ever accept less for you and your children again. Please
This is not our fault we need a guaranteed basic income so we can leave!!!!!!!!!!
@@ina1815 what do you mean by guaranteed income ?
Marriage is not worth it anymore
I agree some what
With God all things are possible
I totally disagree.....God is the one ordained marriage, it's about putting God first and everything ,Whether it be in your marriage your children your job etc. He will surely take care of the rest.. yes you will have differences and disagreements. but again when you put God first in it , he will help you through it, No matter what the situation may be. Marriage was ordained to replenish the Earth (to honor God). The word of God also States "that a man that findeth , a wife findeth a good thing, and it's giving favor of the Lord " but we must understand that this man that the word is talking about have connection with God .in order to find that good thing. ( Wife ).And that woman who is a good thing, her heart is toward God as well . She's able to see him when he comes... All in all you must know that this marriage is of God , Seek Counseling and be honest with one another before you get married God bless ! 🤗
@@janettemckinney1440 who is GOD?
@@janettemckinney1440 marriage is a business contract, nothing else.
This poor woman and her son lost their lives over something senseless may they rest in paradise 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I just pray for people like you. It’s some sort of disconnect you people have with these victims that amazes me. In her instance it could be anything. Domestic violence can happen anytime. You also can’t control another persons reaction. You may not allow something but something may have to take place in order for that to truly be known... and the outcome can be unknown. Just pray for yourself and others. Cause speaking on what you’d never allow you might just open the door to be tested.💯🙏🏾
@@TheBlackMadonna222 that's not true. If you are in a situation like hers you never stay. Your responsibility is you and your children. Don't tell anyone to stand down to violence. You get rid of them by any means necessary.
@ChiPhiChi Crysalis the word is “allowed” people often times speak as if the abused victim just laid down and got beat and I don’t like that. People don’t know what others do to stay away. Not all domestic situations should be looked at as what was allowed or not. That’s all I’m saying. Don’t speak on the victim and what she allowed it’s almost like saying these people be asking to get murdered
Too many woman think they can change a man ( hoping things will one day get better they never get better, they get worse! LEAVE, THE LIFE YOU SAVE may be YOUR OWN!
So True. Lord Jesus
No person can change another person’s Spirit, Soul & Beliefs. If someone thinks they can change a persons ways think again it could mean Your life sadly is in jeopardy when it comes to domestic violence & matters of the Heart. God Rest In Peace the Young Lady & Child. The perpetrator will answer to God now.
She didn't want to change her husband, she wanted her marriage. She loved her husband she wanted her family. God bless her soul.
Exactly
It’s clear as day, trying to save her marriage caused her HER LIFE!
This is sad 😞,don’t know what’s going on out here with all them woman 👩 getting killed.by the bf an husband 🤦♀️🙏🏽
Demons
It Ain't nothing but the Devil 😈 out to Destroy
So sad
Women need to start being aware of who they dealing with, people are coming with Mask on, family an friends,no matter who there they are .
Ever since the pandemic it's just more deaths... Their stuck under their abusers.
To any woman that may be suffering abuse, I just want you to know that you can find help. Your life is precious and you're worthy of being loved, but it starts with you loving yourself first. Your children are a precious gift of life continuing. Don't allow anyone to harm them. I pray for you today, just as someone prayed for me. May you find the courage and the strength you need to save your life!!
Prayers going out to the family and friends of this young lady.
Most of these men are very lazy and the women take care of them like they are one of their children. R I P good soul
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In my country/culture we are encouraged to see our husband's as our first borns. We are told not to stress about them.
Facts 💯
Exactly
@@bravefaery135 What country/culture are you from?
Leave for your kids...I did!
Who Iam today, my value and worth came much later!!
Nothing before my children except for Christ🙏🙏🙏
Thank God!!!
Children should not think this is normal...
Amen
@@yolandaharrison906
Amen🙏
Amen 🙏🏾
@@BolinasRoyalBurks
Amen... Sis
@@RealLadi228 Yes Queen 👑
When I was in my late teens and very early twenties I fell in love with a guy. I loved him so much... all it took was a joke on a television about a domestic dispute that made me pack my bags. He insinuated it would be us one day, I got up and went straight to the room and started packing. He said “are you serious?!” I said “I don’t play like that, I have no room to take those kinds of chances.” And left. I never looked back. The girl was getting beaten so badly on tv. My mother met him and said “as soon as I met him that’s what I pictured.” He was so sweet I couldn’t believe he would even joke like that it made no sense
Same here in the 90s he put a phone cord around my neck!! The First and last time a man has put their hands in me!!
I Applaud U, if I may I like to ask you a question, with all due respect, growing up in life when were young who discipline you the most?
THIS BLESSED ME!....I KNOW YA RIGHT...TAKE IT FROM 'no one'...
#LiveLife_
@@shirley9209 my mother
@@TheBlackMadonna222 Thank GOD for MOTHERS and GOOD DAUGHTER such as yourself. Take Care, SHIRLEY
Any woman that subjects her CHILDREN to a VIOLENT household, is not someone that truly loves them.
Children are at the mercy of their parents and when you see your household in turbulence, it is YOUR DUTY to protect those children!
@KC Chiefs Fan Hit DOGS are always barking. 🙄
Any other time your kind will claim children as your sole responsibility.
I guess that's only applicable when you don't look lame for not protecting them.
Thank you !!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@nikkinic2269 thank you again
@KC Chiefs Fan well with your mindset- that’s why we shall meet again tomorrow with the same news, and the day after, and after, for the next 10000 years
Nikki Nic, perfectly worded 🎯🎯 the whole truth and nothing but the truth!!
It’s scary being in a relationship with Someone You can not trust, that you fear, and are afraid of.
You will have Anxiety and Depression in an violent relationship run 🏃♀️ladies run leave ASAP these's men don't change.
EXACTLY
"TRUST NO MAN" sounds familiar.
@ChiPhiChi Crysalis save your fucking judgement
@ChiPhiChi Crysalis 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I pray for the family and her kids. I am so sorry for their loss🙏🏾🙏🏾Ladies please see the signs and put your well being first.
Precisely why I left my husband…I saw that crazy shriek. He would’ve definitely killed me.
This is absolutely heartbreaking because this story happens way too often. I thank God Almighty that l was able to get away from an abusive marriage relationship with my 2 sons in tow. Yes, it was hard, but God took care of us & l'm alive today to testify about it. Thank you Lord for being so good to me! Praying for this family🙏🏽
What gets missed is married or not, too many women and men lose their lives to unstable people. My uncle was killed when I was 12 by his wife, he asked for a divorce and moved out, 4 months later she showed up on his job and as he was going to his vehicle to leave she ran over him an two coworkers, injured coworkers severely but killed him. My neighbors son died 4 days ago. His girlfriend stabbed him with a ice pic because she wanted him to deactivate his Facebook🤔😡, they had been arguing in the middle of the street and his sister’s beat her up but she came back and they were in the car and they started fighting and she stabbed him in the neck , he was 25. Let go people, but don’t laugh crazy off. His sisters said she was crazy.
Oh wow!!! Sorry to hear about both
What ever happened with your uncles wife? Please tell me she’s still in prison
@@melmel3703 she got out on bond, they put it off and damn near 2 years later , she comes up married and pregnant.6 months after giving birth, she was ttook a plea to involuntary manslaughter, did 3 years and her and my uncle had three boys and she has never tried to have a relationship with them from the day she killed my uncle. My grandma raised them and her family wanted the life insurance money, if they couldn’t get the money they didn’t want them,my grandma got lawyer to put money in a trust for them.She was so evil, they got older and they tried to question her about why she did what she did, she attacked the oldest and had the nerve to ask them have they gotten their money from their daddy.like b😡tch you the reason he’s no longer here.
@@djames251 oh wow !!! Are your cousins ok? That’s the craziest mess I’ve ever heard
@@melmel3703 They are, its difficult but my granny and aunts really stepped up but it must effect them internally.
This is happening way too much IT'S A LOT TO PROCESS!!
You right !! It's an epidemic
This epidemic of men killing women is all around the world and is getting worst . Prophecies written in the bible as a sign of last days we are living today .
2 Timothy 3:3
"having no natural affection , no open to any agreement ,slanderes ,without self- control ,fierce, without love of goodness ".
Women nowdays better start taking care of themself ,because men are getting more aggressive and due that things are getting harder out there ...men are loosing control more easy...some women too...I was victim of domestic abuse and my daughter ended also abusing me. And people don't change. Is us that have to learn to put an end and walk away for good without looking back. I'm glad that I did it ...so far 10 years and happy with God . The only one I allow to control my life now.
How dod your daughter abuse you?
How's the relationship between you & it daughter now?
Feminism will do that
If the man was abusive, it wasn’t out of being private as a reason she didn’t talk. The man would not let her talk to others. Plus if she is a mother with under aged kids you are somewhat stuck because you don’t want to leave your kids alone with this abusive person if you divorce. The court system does not offer protection when you tell them the dad is abusive. Then CPS is a whole other joke. They told me if no visible bruises nothing could be done until the child began to display mental disturbances. Women like this are stuck.
My boyfriend told me…. That the kids will be fine, he will be in jail, but I will be 6 feet under. I knew it was time to end it immediately
When my dad passed away my husband of 17 years started to abuse me he choked me twice and I divorced him I left a $300,000 house we had two children together I went to a domestic violence shelter for classes and I divorced his ass because once they start it will not stop it's just a matter of time before they strike again it maybe you or the kids or someone on the job. But they will strike again. Be careful ladies because women have the tendency to date the same type of men.
No price to high for your safety or freedom!!
Bravo!
"for better or for worse" does NOT mean lose your life OR allow your children to be expose to such violence. Learn how to truly love someone SO much you are at peace with letting them go 🤍. Stop trying to "save" people, that's what *Jesus Christ* is for.
Women have to start seeing & admitting to themselves about what they see in these violent men after they start dating OR after they marry. GET OUT of both situations IMMEDIATELY! STOP trying to "make it work".
I think she wanted out of the marriage, but he didnt why else would he kill his family.
Crazy has no reason for what they do
Her uncle stated she wanted the marriage but the husband probably cheating and she called him out on it. But there's been domestic violence at the house before. But she wanted the marriage. It's like she had low self esteem to put up with his abuse and to want to stay.
Or he found out she was playing him
@@cuteandred1 I believe she was tried of his control and decided to leave. That is when the oppressors decide to kill because they are losing control
@@kennethpaige5776 , so did that call for killing the children too, or her life for that matter? I'll answer my own question. No he was just born a coward, lived as a coward and died a coward. Soulless, demon seed, the babies didn't choose him they were innocent in the situation.
Bw are told to just get married! I'll take die alone for 100. No matter what happens she will be blamed. Told to choose better or something.
Right❤️ everyone is saying she didn’t wait on the Lord... that sounds crazy.
Naw , don’t get involved . You will be the one getting killed and the “victim” will reconcile with their partner over and over again, leaving you to be the one looking like the fool or the troublemaker. Tell them to call the cops at most, then go on about your day. Victims and abusers gravitate to each other and people are mostly victims and abuser at the same time , they just put a spin on the story for you.
You are right.
You are absolutely insane
I had just given birth to Triplets❤❤❤...they was 8 months old...I had no family in my city...so I LEFT ONE DAY WHEN. HE WENT TO WORK...I struggled BUT I NEVER LOOKED BACK....he had already choked me out..MY KIDS NEEDED ME TO LIVE💯....I wish she would have atleast left for the kids!
What is up with these abusive, weak ass men?? I'm so over hearing how they decide they're going to be the judge, jury & executioner over ANOTHER person's life. So sad & angry at this...
These sorry men.....😫
Then they ask us why black women are single and not married RIP MY SISTER.
Marriage ain't worth saving when there's violence, what is worth saving is ur lives and ur children's lives. IF UR GOING THROUGH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE WITH UR PARTNER GET THE HELL OUT BEFORE U END UP 6 FEET DEEP.
My daughter is experiencing this with her boyfriend. I have got involved and everything. She have paper work to get a restraining order just waiting on the judge to sign off. I'm so scared for my child. I'm praying I don't have to go through what I just seen on here. So sorry for the family lost.
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That's the first step. Has your daughter thought about owning and receiving firearms training or martial arts training. You, other family members and friends need to be careful also. Some abusers will attack the loved ones or anyone helping. May you daughter receive victory over this situation!
‘A motive to kill‘ your wife and child? What does it matter... the motive? A husband in this case has gone off the ‘deep end’ and two people that he was supposed to protect and care about, are dead by his hands! There is no reason that can justify or even explain this, in any way shape or form! A family is now in ruins...
She had low self esteem and was scared to lose the lifestyle! God had given her the signs she asked for and she chose to stay.. with that, the remaining children will suffer
This character down here is running through the comments proving they are one of the weak ones who keep getting roughed up
@KC Chiefs Fan please. We can blame them all we want. At some point personal accountability needs to kick in. You can only control your actions. Obviously (& also implied by the uncle) this was ongoing. He didn't just wake up one day & become a demon. She made a choice to ignore signs and paid for it with her life. I'm so sorry that this happened but it's time we stop lying. Women (who look like us) are being killed left and right by their significant others. These men are all going to prison so there is them being held responsible for their actions. But an ounce of protection is worth more than a pound of cure. Women should never let it get that far. We have to start saving ourselves.
The sad part… when we get involved and they go back we waste time!! You can’t save the adults sadly.. they have to make decisions themselves.. but the kids.. TAKE THEM!!
Went to school with this beautiful young lady..My condolences to her family. I to have suffered in silence with an abusive spouse..Its hard ..but i am still struggling aswell ..She didnot deserve to be killed nor abused.😞 ...Lets raise awareness and save our selves beatiful black women...R.I.P...beautiful SOUL...May THE MOST HIGH GOD .be with you.💙💙💙
How can you dedicate your life to your family and at the same to allow them to be abused and/or see you get abused?
I guess the husband thought he would have power over them in death too, bet he ain't smirking now. Rest in peace beautiful mother with your children.
So sad. "As they were there for the wellness check, gunshots were heard." If they only knew what was going on in that house!!!! Police were right outside of house. Prayers are lifted for the lady's family. Really: all families involved. Such a tragedy.
Fk that.. I grew up in a domestic violence household. Bio father, then step father.
BELIEVING IN AND WANT YOUR MARRIAGE ISN'T ENOUGH.. STAYING BECAUSE Y'ALL HAVE KIDS.. IS NOT ENOUGH REASON.. TO STAY... RISKING YOUR KIDS &/OR YOUR LIFE..
THANK GOD.. I GOT OUT OF MY ABUSIVE MARRIAGE A LIVE.
NEVER TELL AN ABUSER YOU'RE LEAVING.. SECRETLY SAVE MONEY, GET OUT FAST AS YOU CAN.. GO INTO HIDING. BECAUSE THEY WILL COME LOOKING FOR YOU/KIDS AND WILL KILL YOU..
WHEN FOLK SHOW AND/ OR TELL YOU WHO THEY ARE BELIEVE THEM.. GET AWAY FROM THEM.M HAVING A MAN/MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP ISN'T WORTH YOUR LIFE.
IF YOU'RE GOING THRU ANY LEVEL OF ABUSE. BE IT VERBALLY OR PHYSICALLY.. GET IT OUT NOW..
I totally agree. A woman should never tell a man that she's leaving especially an abusive man. It's too risky. Just leave..abs go to a Domestic violence shelter if you have to. Sometimes it really is a matter of life or death.
Wtf is going on with these husband's and ex boyfriends killing women and children 😐 😒 My God!!!
Beautiful home ppl get attached to material procession and money but those things cannot save your life....👿
She wanted her marriage, huh? Well, look where the hell that idea got her? This man was obviously abusive for years, and she did little or nothing, to remove herself or her child from this situation! Children almost always pay the price for their parent's lack of good sense! It's rediculous!7
My condolences to the family ❤️🙏🏼
I think alot of time women don't get out of these type of relationship is because women have been condition to save the marriage and family look over things even if someone is putting their paws on you.Women feel like it's their fault if the marriage fell. The church tell you don't remarry it's adultery.you will cause someone to commit it if they marry you, so women stay in toxic relationships. This is a major cause of this mess. If you are in a toxic relationship Flee! Run! getaway! Never go back! God didn't tell you to let someone take your life and mistreat you! He didn't bless you with evil! God is love, peace,harmony, joy, and happiness. You aren't getting that with the devil!
So tragic. My heart breaks for this family.
My condolences and prayers go out to the kids and family 🙏🏾
Sad. SHE WAS GOOD PEOPLE...when we were young.
I'm so sorry for this family's tremendous loss. My prayers are with the families involved.🙏🏽
Greetings. I'm so sorry. Sir please don't beat yourself up. Because until she was ready, there's nothing you or anyone else could've done. Situations like this , you have to wait until they want help. If not, they get mad at you, and run back to that bum.
yep that's what happens when you try to help.
Right! I understand he’s hurting- but he should never have told others to get involved. I’m not dying over no family member whose caught up in mess
This is devastating and sad. But she couldn't have been a dedicated mother if she didn't think to keep her children safe. She put herself first to keep her marriage. You don't stay with a man who puts you and your children in danger.
This is such an unfair statement! The uncle, not anyone else, said that the husband abused the children. In many domestic issues, the issues are strictly between the husband and wife. Yes, her son was killed alongside her. But please don't just automatically assume that this lady was allowing her children to be abused. May she and her son RIP😥
@@patriciadavis3549 even if he didn't physically abuse them its mental abuse hearing your mom get her a## beat on the regular. Its mental abuse seeing your mom with a black eye or buises on her. Its mental abuse possibly hearing your mom screaming while getting beat in the next room but feeling like you're to little to help her. Even though if he didn't physically abuse the kids they were mentally abused by their mother being beat and them not being able to help her.
@@ambitiousbeauty1013 that is very true! But I am hoping that the children were not exposed to the abuse of the mom. I have known of cases where the abuser is careful not to act out in sight of or in ear shot of the children. Thus way there are no witness to the abuse. Also all abusers do not leave Visible physical marks. Some of these abusers will beat you in your body under your clothes where no one can see, for example a punch to the ribs. So that the children don't see the results, a lot of abused women are skilled at putting on makeup to cover up. I have seen this scenario from a 14 year marriage my older cousin was in. I was a teenager, 16, at the time. She was a branch manager at a bank. I and the rest of the family never understood why she stayed. It is really sad! She finally divorced him. She remarried some years later to a wonderful man who treated her and her two daughters so well😊
@@patriciadavis3549 this particular step father killed the mother and her child. I'm sure if he killed the child that child saw abuse in the household. That child most likely saw him in his angry rages. Most violent men don't have a schedule to only be angry and violent when kids are not home.
@@ambitiousbeauty1013 you are trying to be funny by saying they don't have a schedule. You are dead damn wrong about some of them. The manipulative and demonic ones know when and where do they do not look like the bad guy. The same goes for a lot of men who are verbally abusive. All abusive men are not out of control. Many of these men are manipulative and deceitful to the rest of the world. Remember Blair Underwood's character in 'Madea's Family Reunion'. The more intelligent ones can do this for years. This man who killed this woman and Her child, not His children. That just shows another layer of his evil and depravity! The reporter said the other two children, who were probably His biological children, were out in the yard when officers arrived. Domestic Violence comes in a plethora of forms, faces, personalities and income and education levels. And yes, when someone threatens or hits you the First Time, you need to be formulating a plan for getting away from that situation. Even if the abuser comes back and apologizes, please know that this probably won't be the only time ever. Narcissists and Sociopaths are real in this world! They are also some of the most dangerous domestic Violence abusers in all levels, physical, emotional and mental.
Condolences to this family! I wanted my marriage as well - but when the other individual does not want you - you need to LET THEM GO - PEACEFULLY! You DON'T NEED TO BLOW A TRUMPET! TURN IT LOOSE! My heart HURTS to hear these DEATH STORIES DAY AFTER DAY, WEEK AFTER WEEK, AND MONTH AFTER MONTH! PLEASE SEEK GOD IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS! THE GOD OF ABRAHAM, ISAAC, and JACOB can HEAL AND DELIEVER US FROM ANY AND EVERYTHING!
Is having a man worth being a human punching bag? SMH I haven't met a man with a penace worth that! #imjustsaying
This is one of her fb posts 2011 how come nobody listened 👂
Damn.
Thank you sir..May God bless you and console your heart.. Bless all who are part of this family 🙏🙏
Lady, is that a formal track suit? Really as a news caster you would wear that?
@Lillian Lee Get your panties out of a bunch. I am not shaming anyone. Sometimes people need to provide insightful correction. The stripes similar to that of a track suit does not in my opinion present a professional look. It is too casual for presenting the news.
Domestic abusers often hide who they are. Look for clues. Someone who seems to make unreasonable demands and is jealous will only get worse. Before we buy a car we learn everything about the car . We should do the same thing with potential love interests.
Some people are incapable of engaging in loving relationships . No amount of prayer and faith will change that .
Esp. when they tell you EVERY woman in their past has filed restraining orders& rape & molestation charged against them?
Listen to your inner voice people AND speak up 🙏🙏🙏
I wonder what’s Kevin Samuel response to this a women that didn’t leave her husband knowing there were 🚩 RIP TO THE angels that lost there lives 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
He probably going to flip in n still blame her
@@Ray-hv1hg You absolutely correct
My family went through this in 2006. My sister husband killed her and their unborn child because she wanted a divorce. He was also abusive. We tried to help. He drove himself and the other 3 kids to Mississippi to his parents house then he killed himself. This tore our hearts to pieces. My she was my best friend. The grief is on another level. It took Jesus for us to get through this. So I know what this family is going through. 🙏
Sorry for your loss. 🙏🏾
That's so true, DV hurts everyone involved in that dead 😢💔persons life!
Never, never stay with a man that disrespects you. It comes easy with words but I know it is hard to do. But I would say I wouldn’t stand to this day had I not. Believe in yourself and be strong; it takes time and determination. Always find yourself as #1 before you step in #2 ladies. RIP beautiful souls
....The deal breaker for any relationship 1) one or both people put their hands on another... 2) When someone says they will hurt or kill the other or another's family ... "Out of the heart the mouth speaks"... Leave... Just leave... You have to understand it gets no better... If you can't get along - part...
Also, to the initial reporter in the beginning, have some professionalism about yourself... What the **** did you have on?... Reporters should not be on tv looking like hoochies...
So devastating and tragic... my heart n prayers go to her remaining Children and their family/loved ones. Good words from the Uncle. 🧡🧡🧡😥
God rest their souls
Amen
God didn't care about them.
@@eveharris30 oh go somewhere and out some clothes on
even kill the babies😪😳sometimes know matter what you do to help people is going to do what they want but at least try. I will never understand just move on praying for the family😣😳😥
💜💜💜💜💜🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 prayers are sending up for Everyone who has been through it ❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾God bless to you
Condolences to the family and friends 🙏🏾
Please stop keeping it quiet
Say something earlier!!!
My condolences and prayers to the family
To many idolize and value marriage more than their lives and the lives of their children.
Oh my GOD I just hate commenting on stories like these knowing my beloved sister married her abuser. Its rather disappointing and extremely heartbreaking to comment about a black Queen dying by the hands of her abuser! Oh my GOD I've always assumed for as long as I could remember that at no given time should love ever really hurt or be as painful to the point that you're enduring bodily injuries from the person who professes to love you day after day. I just hate writing and commenting on painful stories like these because I know in my heart there's a thin line between LOVE and HATE!
so sad 😞 sorry for yall loss of yall love ones sending prayers to the family and friends may they all rest in peace. from Baltimore M.D
women if a man hit you one time, run and never look back.
These bih’s don’t listen, this the same ole story
GOD BLESS THE MOTHER AND HER CHILDRENS SOUL..FOR THE FAMILY...WE SEND OUR DEEPEST CONDOLENCES FOR YOUR LOSS..
Thanks for sharing
My Condolences prayers for your family
Prayers for God to comfort and protect the family.... In Jesus name
Never understand someone that hate themselve but kill innocent love ones that love them. Sickening.
There is no excuse for staying in an abusive relationship, I don't give a damn what the stakes are! Was she THAT worried about what the neighbors were going to say? So she traded her life for the reputation of her sorry marriage!
Was it worth dying??
This is like a Broken Record! It keeps repeating over and over again! I am so grateful that I survived Domestic violence, because I got out and stayed out! PEOPLE PLEASE realize that you cannot fix another person! You cannot change another person‘s behavior! You have to love yourself more!
He killed his son😡
I worked with Victims of DV. Getting out is so much tougher than people believe or can comprehend. It's not that easy folks when you have kids and finances entwining you, and in her case "vows" that she was taught should be adhered to. Godspeed to her Spirit's homecoming. ⚘💜⚘
It's easier than you think #1 Forget Vows, #2 Don't pay no Bills, #3 Save my Kids and Myself.
This happens a lot in the black community. More awareness needs to be put out.
Lies!
@@NS-ju7vz Well said
@@moebetta6194 lol well said @ lies. Truth hurts.
REALLY ?????
The awareness need to be put out everywhere then .I don't know what rock you been under !!!
A victim can take the threats seriously. But does the criminal justice system do anything when complaints are made? Restraining orders only do so much. Hell! A missing person reports takes 48 to 72 hours to be considered..
So sad, but you Cannot make a relationship work when you are dealing with an evil being . Marriage can be wonderful - BUT with the Right person. If not you have NOTHING. Go find yourself someone else who is sane. You Cannot fix someone so Seaverly broken, you are hurting yourself & innocent children because of Your Need to fix a toxic insane person. You cannot make them into what you need or want them to be. This is the outcome, not to be mean & uncaring bc l do care but my words are truth & people Better start choosing better bc there are LOTS of big bad wolves in sheep's clothing out there. Better think twice if you like living & take your time in choosing a mate. Bad rushed decisions are costly bc just bc you are a decent person doesn't mean they are. Stop & think bc you are hurting loved ones as well as yourself. RIP to the mom & child so sorry & condolences to the family. Just please leave these deadbeats alone they DONT want what You want, they don't know how to truly Love like you do they are not capable & besides they don't want too if they could. Go find someone else - what's the rush? God Bless.
Hey , the sad thing is that a man will marry a woman to become her abuser and this happens all the time , marriage suppose to honorable but most of the time is it? This is why some men get upset when women turn them down for marriage or even a relationship, he had evil plans that she dodged knowingly or unknowingly.. Because some things suppose to be good are not always good, the devil does put on different faces..