ANGELSSS HIIIII!!!!!! I ran a poll on IG of whether you wanted MERCH OR A MEET AND GREET for when we hit 100k and majority voted for MERCH!!! So I am getting to work on that ASAP being that we are SO CLOSE TO 100K!!! TAG ME ON INSTAGRAM AND SHARE MY VIDEOS!!!! I will repost it on my Instagram!!! I answer a ton of my DMS all the time!!! I appreciate you angels SO MUCH!!!!! I am confident that we will reach our goal in no time!!!! if we know better we can do better and that's why this channel exists!!! 😘
I learned my lesson. Never give a man more than what he can give you. Don't allow his "potential" to be what you consider setting the bar high. Don't invest in a man's dreams while you have dreams that no one is investing in. If he can't provide for you w/out complaining then you have no business with him. Never again!
Im older and had 2 wealthy ex fiances. Word of advice, never sign a pre nup. Have a kid quickly.......only when married. Rich guys are alot of work too. The other women flirting, always keeping your game on physically and mentally so no-one steals him. Putting up with alot of crap because these guys have a certain personality. Hence their success.... My advise make your own money and have a strong yet feminine personality. They love that.
Wait - what!? Men with money (i.e. - independently wealthy men) will never marry without a pre-nuptial agreement. These guys will call off the engagement if women refuse their signature - Real Talk. There's no way an intelligent and savvy man will marry without any safeguards to his fortune. It's a sucker move and there's just no way a man who demands a pre-nup will marry without such an important document in place to secure the marriage. Not only that, the smart man will implement safeguards to minimize challenging the agreement in case of divorce. Best practice is to sit down with independent and individual attorneys and work out an equitable and satisfactory package PRIOR to marriage in the event of divorce. There's no reason to leave a marriage empty-handed, but there's just no way a wealthy man will leave his fortune and his future unprotected just because he wants marriage, kids, and family...it's much easier to find a woman who has no issues with pre-nuptial agreements. For high-value and top-tier men, women are replaceable and it's too easy to find a much more willing and cooperative life-mate.
@@kevinc3342 Both my ex fiances are extremely successful. The 1st one has 2 LAW firms......neither asked for a pre nup so you're wrong.. BILLIONS of men in the world not ALL think like you......btw I broke up with both of them......
Oh ya ladies I forgot, not ALL rich guys are generous. Don't settle for a cheap one. I have a good one now and I'm 50!!! Don't go by race and be gentle in the looks dept. Get turned on by their mind. A man is a man..........period
I totally agree. I grow up very poor but my mother always said "dont go anywhere acting like you've been nowhere". She meant a lot by that and I took all of the lesson's my mother was able to give me. That didnt mean being rude or ungrateful ofcourse. I've been happily married to a man that still tries to impress me.
My ex and I broke up 1 month ago..he was 23 and I am 21...he was broke and I had to do the 50/50 syndrome...now am focused on leveling up physically, emotionally and psychologically so that I can attract a provider for myself...I recently enrolled in makeup classes to learn how to make myself up,and I started buying some dresses and heels to look more feminine, been reading books on controlling emotions, and being more fermine, it's not easy being alone but I have made up my mind to be single till the man worthy of me comes along....thank u asha your videos helps alot.
This makes me cry 😢 I am so proud of you !!!!!! I really am !!!! That was one of the best decisions you have made so far because now you know you will not tolerate and be a pick me patty and hope for something that you clearly see doesn’t work ! Good for your babe focus on yourself and leveling up on your own ♥️
My mom never worked. She stayed at home with us four kids while my dad paid all the bills. Seeing this growing up made me realize that this is the type of marriage I want but more because my dad is by no means rich. I want my parents’ relationship but upgraded lol 😂 👌🏼
I was raised the Same way !!!! I KNOW it’s possible ! Girls are doing it today, tomorrow and until kingdom comes ! So who ever may have an issue good for them but let the people who choose to live differently be !
@@euclidredpill7277 smartest men who sit on RUclips all day trolling women that would never give them a second look? Y'all idolize Elliot Rodger...no more needs to be said.
MovieMemes ok you try cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, washing dishes, doing laundry, raising kids, bathing them, entertains them, helping them with their homework, running errands and be a sex kitten for the hubby at night. Let’s see if you can pull it off. That is not being lazy. That’s multiple jobs in itself.
*What irritates me, is that more women get angry at this! Like I get it: You give it away freely, but why getting mad when other women secure the bag? This is why I cut all of these Pick-Meshas.* 🤷♀️
allahloves faryaalmakhdoom Men search for a wife, too. Sure they get the sex free, but obce they sense a potential partner, they will spend the money! In sha Allah! 😉
Hypergamy will create more single women; those who will be affected the most are older and conventionally unattractive women. There are not enough wealthy providers to go around for all women. Why would a wealthy man want to be with an older unattractive woman who is past her prime? When he can get a younger, pretty and fertile woman at a discount.
Hypergamy means trading in better models, not going for the guy the woman perceives as best. In fact, in the wealthy world and from what I’ve seen, men do this more than women.
Period! That’s what I say too! I have yet to ever live with a man and I doubt I would until married. I am not having an intimate relationship with a man and then coming to the table equally when it comes to finances, sounds crazy! Almost feels like paying a man to get in your underwear too .... i think not!
Seeing most of the women in my family have men who would live in their house and not play any bills confined to me at a Young age that if your man isn’t provide for you he has no purpose in your life. Also hey Asha 👋🏾
@@arielxx8771 1.) If a woman is not giving her 50% towards living expenses: She has no purpose in life! 2.) If a woman expect to marry a rich man; and has no money of her own: She has no purpose in life! A majority of women( like yourself) believe, it is a man's moral duty to pay for everything, while she contributes a measly 10% on finances. Any woman who has to depend on a man's income, like a comatose patient hooked up to life support, is morally dead; therefore, the plug needs to be pulled! Justice has been served! As we exit -- the Female Twilight Zone!
@@Mr.Meme1885 It's not about marrying rich and that's what you guys are failing to realize. It's about having a support system. A spouse who has the means to provide for you in case of sickness or unemployment. Especially when children are involved. I will not accept anything less. I need to know if we were to have children and I pass that they will be fine with or without me. Guys get away with doing so little and expect the most from us. Yes you have a job but what else are you doing beyond that? 9/10 a guy will expect a wife to be his therapist, nurse, mom, accountant. Why are we not allowed to want 1/4 of it reciprocated?
So ladies,while we are having high standards and all,thats great.. But make sure you are your spec’s spec..Are you desirable to the man you desire? Cos you cant have your bread buttered on both sides sis! PS..much love darlings from another brown skinned RUclipsr with great content as well❤️
I understand that but let's keep it 100 and not get it twisted..most men do not care about a woman's degree or salary...they care more about her femininity and looks and how that elevates his status among other men. If they do happen to ascribe those things to her value, its still not at the top of the list or a means for her to get chosen over someone else.
Please.I say this even if hes a walmart worker and she works there too they have the same money so as a man who wants to lead..u should provide get a better job..too many women wear the pants and u guys love it because u use her money for lack of ambition..if u have a good traditional wife that loves u and not your money you can provide or at least do 70℅she do 30% if not u are a roomate..men need go back to school and be bosses and not depend on the women or baby mamas ..women who are afraid to be alone go for that 50-50 bullshit or worse the women paying and the men keep there money.. If u both make the same and yal live together u need to pay more .I'm not talking about hoes who aint ur woman but ur wife ur girlfriend u been with foreva ur baby mama u live with...u guyw great grandma and everyone before had men provide ..were ur grandmas hoes..we are there kids
Make sure you put yourself on the “ 80percent off” sale rack ladies. We don’t want y’all marketing a used 2nd hand / something you given away for free at full price
I would rather be SINGLE than be with a '50/50 split the bills right in half' type of guy. My mom did that thankless role. Taken for granted, not appreciated. NOPE. No thanks I'll pass.
Scarlet Rose if you just want your man to provide for you and for you to do nothing your nothing but an object. Your just a leech off of his checkbook be something more
I honestly never even noticed you were using a phone. your videos are more about the content and the message anyway than having razor sharp quality. your phone must be really good though cos i just always assumed you were using a decent camera.
bescuit Well if they’re so influenced by us I guess we’re trendsetters, personally I’d tell them to get a mind of their own and that their choices are on them only
Absolutely on point!, I am not a woman but I agree with 100% of everything you are saying. Woman deserve the alpha masculine in relationships. DO NOT settle for anything less.
Nae Bae Keep telling yourself that. As we both get older, who’s opinion do you think is more likely to change on this. I’ll give you a hint, based on experience, observation, and not wishful thinking. The first one to hit the wall will change their mind.
Nae Bae here the thing. You should believe your the prize. You could be a prize, I don’t know you personally. However to disregard the fact that any high value man is in fact a prize will be to your detriment. Any women can get some dick. Getting a man who not only has options but either comes from one of two sides of the coin (1. He has always been high value and has always had options because women have always picked him above most other men 2.His status is new to him and he’s getting used to having options and enjoying it) will take more then I am the prize mindset. Because without a doubt, if he has any kind of self esteem, he will know his worth. And that worth will only continue to grow as long as he’s about his business.
Yup! That's right! And when a woman don't look their best because of all the everyday stress they carry, the first person who's ready to leave out the door for that hot chick down the street is their dusty husband. It's really sad
My mother always told me you can just as easily marry a nice, kind and considerate man with money as a nice and considerate man without money. You can fall in love with a man of means or a man without means. Why pick the later? My family NEVER advocated marrying down. If a man doesn't have money, he should at least be ambitious towards making some. I truly believe that women who settle for dusty men with no ambition are: 1) women with no ambition; 2) don't think they deserve better or 3) believes certain quality men are out of their league. I've met women who feel more secure with men who are financially and socially beneath their status. And just like Niki Minaj, they'll get upset if you suggest that they can do better. What kind of man you choose and what kind of crap you put up with in a relationship , shows how you view yourself.
bescuit We’re obviously referring to initial attraction. And if you knew anything about sensible investing and maturity no one would “go broke”. There wouldn’t be so many current rich people in the world if it were that hazardous even with their crazy frivolousness. You’re looking at the unstable ones.
Remember ladies you have to offer something in return if a man is spending his income on supporting you. Make sure you look good, take care of the household, femininity, cook, clean, kids, nurturing, bringing peace and not chaos to his life etc. You can't be selfish when in a realtionship you have to think about the man to and know that he is investing in you and it has to be worth it. If he wants 50/50 though then he can go 50/50 on household as well. If you want a provider you have to have more to offer than looks and your presence in most cases. You have to meet certain criteria as well as him. Get your stuff together first and work on yourself. Also never fully depend on a man you never know if you might break up or come into money issues so always have a backup and savings.
You should do a video on *how to keep a provider interested in a long term relationship/marriage* Lots of channels always tell women that they should get these type of men and how to get them but never how to keep him/things interesting or any long term advice.
brittney smith Hell yeah thats always been the problem ....woman want that $$$$ man ...... which is fine but it come with a price , you are right how can you keep this guy ??? Hell its like that with a man who isn't blessed with alot of money, he will still judge you based off of how you are as a woman.
1950's Woman: Does all the cooking and cleaning Man's response: Ok Man: cover all the financial problems Woman's response: Ok 2021 Woman: If he's hungry, he better go make something for himself. I ain’t his slave. Man's response:Ok Man: She should contribute to financial situations Woman's response: How dare he, what have men become?
Its hard for me to get rid of my dusty first love. My mum didnt exactly teach me about this due to her own failures in relationships. I know this man is not gonna deliver but I love him so much and hes already wasted half of my twenties and I'm tired of resenting him for not delivering his part as a man. On top of that, I rely on him way too much as I come from a dysfunctional home. I put all my Hope's on him to rescue and protect me and carry many other roles in my life including that of a father. It's unfair to him and to myself to expect someone to be all that for me, especially when they still haven't gotten their life together
@@AshaChristinaFoster thank you. I'm binge watching your videos and that of many other lovely ladies teaching about hypergamy for black women in particular. In the mean time I'll work on loving myself more and building my self confidence before I actively date again
Can you please do video on how to ask for stuff from your man? I've never asked for anything but don't know how to. Like, if you wanted your nails done but want your man to pay for it. Lol
Asha C. Thanks! I can't wait to watch it if you end up making the video. 🖤 i feel like men will always do the bare minimum unless you ask but I just don't know how to. Too independent I guess but to my own detriment lol 🤦🏼♀️
“Can I borrow your card? I want to get my xyz done for you tomorrow”. Give him back his card afterward, but overtime increase what you ask for and don’t return his card until he needs it. After a while he’ll just start giving it to you/ leaving it out for you.
MakeupBae Lici to me if I have to ask i really don’t want it. I found myself asking this but my daddy told me like “ don’t you stay with your hair/nails/makeup done? Don’t you like to brunch with ur girlfriends every Saturday? Don’t you take yourself shopping frequently? Well if a man comes into your life & you already do those things on the regular he should want to keep it going for you. You should never ask” Granted ik some men just like to be asked for an ego boost or whatever the case, but since my dad put that in my head I won’t deal with someone who i have to ask for it for. It’s nothing wrong with asking but I’m just above that now my daddy gassed my head up 😂😂
The problem with most ladies today is, they are going for men with money not providers. lets note there is difference between a rich guy and a provider.
Yes, I notice the dusties get the two mixed up too as is common with people from a certain social pool compared to others who may be more sophisticated
I agree with this video 💯 True happiness comes from knowing who you truly are, being ok with that and not being afraid to present that to the world - especially when it comes to dating. We will get what we truly deserve once we start being true to ourselves.
*From a 19 year old perspective* I've always told myself I would marry a provider. Although I'll be working and making my own money, I still feel that men should live up to their expected God- appointed position. If a man doesn't want to do that, then are they really a man? Btw young women can be independent and hardworking like myself but still want a guy to value her and see her as his responsibility. However I expect nothing from anyone and thank God I was raised that way because some of these men really don't see the significance of being responsible and family oriented. Mind you, a lot of women are doing everything financially and men are doing nothing. So there comes a point where women begin to look for men who actually want to take their role /responsibly seriously. I've witnessed a lot of women who did everything in the household financially and otherwise while men do nothing. Thank God I have my whole life ahead of me and can learn from their mistakes. When I get older/married one day I will not be taken advantage of by any man, especially men of today. I have no problem paying for my own stuff or anything in the house but when men begin to use women which I have witnessed it's so disgusting and becomes a burden on the woman.
Women are naturally more spiritually in touch so they are usually fine as they are. Men are more “extra” in terms of emotions and divinity. I say this from experience, transcendence and ancient studies. People often mix it up with duality, but really it’s the less extreme and more extreme version of the force of nature (which in itself is a balance of duality). Men’s divinity is therefore to care for the woman. Caring goes both ways of course, but masculinity is of that extra necessary passion and protectiveness that should come naturally.
@@DW-zd7sc To be a support system. Support can come in many different ways. Genesis 2:18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
My mom raised me by herself and now I'm watching her raise my two little sisters (2, and 5) all alone. The father is less than an hour away and won't pick up his phone. My 5 year old sister constantly crying or blaming my mom for why she can't see her dad. It's even unfair to me because I'm 18 and can't go to the college I want because it's too far and I need to be able to help my mom take on some of the responsibilities the father should be doing. My mother is amazing but she can't take on all these responsibilities and still be perfect. People in this generation will shame women for having "high" standards and not wanting to have casual sex and in the same sentence, make fun of girls who end up pregnant alone. Birth control took a lot from me, I wasn't happy, sex drive was so low I didn't enjoy sex, I gained wait, felt dirty. So I stopped. I'm just waiting and I'm fine with that. I'm still being shamed though by guys I like. Can't have a relationship today unless your giving it up.
A man doesn't have to be rich. As long as he can provide food, water, electricity and a house for you it's good. Not every man works these high paid office jobs you see in tv shows.
@@starrix4712 What you say has nothing to do with my comment. Any type man might be able to provide these things for you. I said A man not WHAT KIND OF man.
Naila Kamana You are God’s true woman, you see how you spill truth and they still speak of the devils money and what they want from men? Gold diggers with no hearts they are! You remain true to yourself! Love and blessings
I think the stigma of women expecting a provider is deeply imbedded in current Black culture, where by and large Black men conception of masculinity and alpha had little to do with being providers. This can also be reflected globally among Black diaspora. In fact, every study and research shows Black women are the provider in their communities and many settle for gamma men (who don't even provide protection) who expect to be catered to, while pretending to be 'men' of the house. Other non-Black cultures, by and large still have their men providing to them, marry them, in exchange for their women looking young or plastic version of being youthful. Obviously there are exception, but the less BW stop using the exception as the standard, the better their access to quality men will be.
Thank God for Islam! This is literally what is recommended for couples in my religion. It isn’t the woman’s responsibility AT ALL to lift a finger to pay a bill, and if she does it would be counted as a charity and she gets rewarded for it in the eyes of God. What’s his is for both of you, and what’s yours is yours ❤️
Girl l love you ! I am really meeting so many women on my same wave and feels soo good !! Life is only going to get better for us ladies ! We are the prize !! And yaaasssss “I like what I like too girl “!! ❤️😊☺️
I realized I wanted to be provided for a year into the relationship. I sat us down, talked about it, and he actually really liked the idea!! He’s not rich so im not living a super lavish lifestyle, but he is paying for much more than before- and he really really enjoys it!! And although he got everything ‘for free’ the first year, he still understood that my standards have upped and I have changed, and that is a reason for him to change. So i dont think all guys who used to get it ‘for free’ wont provide. If they dont want to lose you, they’ll do it. I think this stuff only works with men who want it, honestly. I was lucky
I honestly love your approach. It's funny and tactful. The first video of yours I watched was the hygiene video, and it made me realize how much more I could be doing, and now.. my life is forever changed. Thank you, bb.
Traditional men DO provide. But not to just anyone who asks. They provide, for the MOTHER of their CHILDREN. And also traditionally, to a woman who ISN'T the mother of SOMEONE ELSE'S children. That's tradition, that's providing. But providing is food, shelter, bills. Not shopping, not tourism, not shoes and handbags.
Ladies you can always raise ur prices! Even if u started out wrong, u can always raise ur quality && price. If u started out free u can jump to 3k. Your life, your body and your energy.
I Remember when i got called "RUBI" BY my ex DUSTY RUBI IS A Character played by BARBARA MORI." SPANISH SOAP OPERA. RUBI GREW UP ON A POOR NEIGHBORHOOD BUT SURROUNDING HERSELF WITH RICH FRIENDS, RICH MAN ONLY. AT 22 YEARS OLD I TOOK IT AS AN INSULT NOW 27 I REALIZED HE WAS JUST A DUSTY WHO COULDN'T PROVIDE MY LIFESTYLE 🤣🤣🤣 YES I LOVE RICH MEN AND I WILL NEVER SETTLE FOR A BROKE MEN..
Love when you make videos,❤ people don't think its possible to have someone who treats you well AND be a provider who is also rich lol they try to make you pick between being treated right while dating a poor man and being treated like trash while dating a rich man.
Love it! Growing up my dad was the provider. He knew what he suppose to do for his family. That I admired and I expect it from my partner. Period. 💯 you look great by the way!❤️
I’m so excited you’re about to get to 100k!!! All the female empowerment youtubers I watch have been growing and it’s so inspiring to see that women are learning to see their worth
Look at how he takes care of himself first, does he concern himself about his future? his health? mental and spiritual fitness?... a man won't do anything for you that he isn't doing for himself Stop looking at what a man can do for you and look at what he can and is doing for himself usually men can't fake such things ..
@@David-ej1ps okay thats good information, I generally don't know and never yet even attempted to seek what a man can do for me. I generally have come across the 50/50 type of guys who insist on financial assistance. Just never got involved with them tbh, so generally didn't know how to tell them apart.
I find pleasure in finding the key words in all her videos. Today it was “Honestly “ and “Arguably” lol idk why I’m like this!! but I loved the video and the message ❤️
Thaaaannnkkkk youuuu!!! I learned this the hard way but now being with an awesome provider I feel freedom and that not everything is resting on my shoulders!!
i grew in the house hold where my dad pay the bills and I think you should have your own money just in case but trust me men who are with their dream girl don't make them pay bills
I just want to add that you've gotta make sure you're stacking up your own money, though. Complete dependence will leave you devastated if they leave 💛
I don’t know how I came across this video, but I’m glad I did 👍🏽 I just got out of a relationship a few days ago where everything was 50/50 and there was little effort from him. I didn’t realize it bothered me until we broke up 😌
You’re basically doing a man a disservice by allowing him to bum around. If you don’t push him to rise to the occasion and earn you, he will get complacent. He has sex and companionship at a very low price, and why would he want to every do any better ? By settling for minimal behavior, you’re devaluing yourself and ENABLING him! STOP!
Wow!!! This was so good. I appreciate Asha saying that “women are more stressed then men !! Absolutely correct. I’m definitely listening to all this advice.
Back in the day women sought after providers because women did not have the right to work. Now that we have the right to work men want half screw that. I’m single with no kids and I’ll probably stay that way until I meet a man who is a provider period.
In that situation i would provide 100% (so you dont have to work), but if you do choose to work 50% of that paycheck goes to me (to invest in proven plans). Is this going to be a problem?
Isaiah Smith it’s a problem if I have to do all the cooking , cleaning and not to mention be a step mother in training possibly and satisfy sexual needs...Keep my body up plus my appearance. If I come with no baggage, why should I have to help pay half to help build something that I could achieve on my own. Thats why I want an already made man. That 50/50 is out of the question for women over 30 in my opinion.
Hi Asha C, The examples you gave- of what life different women want to create was well said. I want to be financially comfortable where money isn’t a worry or concern. To travel the world and have my own gym. I’m not bothered about name brand clothes or things of that nature. However I wouldn’t say no to it either. Great video. Sending blessings from the 🇬🇧 UK.
truthfully this video should have been up around 12:30 but me and technology have a difficult relationship and this video took legit over 3 hours to upload lol sooo back to apple I go !
I will never understand why average women want above-average men, but they themselves look like 6.5s and 7.3s.... step your game up if you want a six-figure man. It's the same idea how a man that makes 30k a year cannot attract a woman that is a 10 in the looks department.. usually she is looking at 6 figure men. Six-figure men are looking at 9.5 or higher women. Get real about your range...
Wonderful as always Asha!!! Totally agree with you, if you started out with low expectations how can you expect him to change? He’s used to doing the bare minimum. 🤷🏾♀️
Ladies need to understand the context in general regardless. My dad worked and my mom stayed home and raised me and my sister. Nothings wrong with being a stay at home parent but this is something needs to be addressed: 1.) being a stay at home parent didn’t stop my mom from having a job working from home because of the simple fact that she doesn’t need to depend on anyone. She hated not having money. It’s called independence. 2.) Men being providers is a social construct. Men are supposed to be there for his lady and support same as vise versa. Half of you don’t even want a man, you just want a sponsor. Nothings wrong with wanting nice things but people just don’t wanna work for it. They like things handed out to them. 3.) Giving your children the world is something a parent should do regardless. A loving parent would want their kids to be happy. I was spoiled but I knew that if I wanted something, I had to work for it from both of my parents. Main verdict of what I am saying is, yes never settle for less but don’t become reliant on another person to do things for you when you are capable of doing it.
what you forgot to mention is there aren't that many rich men. Less than 1% are rich, good looking, good to be around, etc. I happen to be a rich man, very few of us around. You're giving women false hope, but I agree with you mostly. Go after what you want.
I swear belonging to this women Angel group has been the best thing it's like us just chatting about the nonsense we put up with and saying no more blowing kisses ladies am in my early 20's and am learning so much.
I loved this video. You touched on so many important facts. Wow. I also love that you said provider and not a wealthy or rich man because not all men that have money will provide for you and there are men that may not have all the money in the world but they will give you the shirt off of their backs and work hard to make sure that you are comfortable.
I understand your thoughts because you are trying to put yourself as a highly value woman, but most women are going to cling to know what they know. Both people should be putting the equal amount of work.
Both people should be putting equally amount of work. Very happy to hear that. Why am I not surprised this logical statement came from someone brought up in a different culture.
ANGELSSS HIIIII!!!!!! I ran a poll on IG of whether you wanted MERCH OR A MEET AND GREET for when we hit 100k and majority voted for MERCH!!! So I am getting to work on that ASAP being that we are SO CLOSE TO 100K!!! TAG ME ON INSTAGRAM AND SHARE MY VIDEOS!!!! I will repost it on my Instagram!!! I answer a ton of my DMS all the time!!! I appreciate you angels SO MUCH!!!!! I am confident that we will reach our goal in no time!!!! if we know better we can do better and that's why this channel exists!!! 😘
Maybe a vision board notebook?
If you don’t put “Are you well?” On a shirt I’ll be disappointed 😂
@@aliciarivers21 She HAS to! I cant wait to get it! 😁
@@quitecontrary23 great idea
Asha C. are you dating someone or are you married just asking that all thank you
I learned my lesson. Never give a man more than what he can give you. Don't allow his "potential" to be what you consider setting the bar high. Don't invest in a man's dreams while you have dreams that no one is investing in. If he can't provide for you w/out complaining then you have no business with him. Never again!
Never Again!!!
Whewww never again!!!
Amen, sis! NEVER again!
preeeeeeach!
ugh girl you just read my life for filth. NEVER AGAIN!!!
Im older and had 2 wealthy ex fiances. Word of advice, never sign a pre nup. Have a kid quickly.......only when married.
Rich guys are alot of work too. The other women flirting, always keeping your game on physically and mentally so no-one steals him. Putting up with alot of crap because these guys have a certain personality. Hence their success....
My advise make your own money and have a strong yet feminine personality. They love that.
Good advice babe
Wait - what!? Men with money (i.e. - independently wealthy men) will never marry without a pre-nuptial agreement. These guys will call off the engagement if women refuse their signature - Real Talk. There's no way an intelligent and savvy man will marry without any safeguards to his fortune. It's a sucker move and there's just no way a man who demands a pre-nup will marry without such an important document in place to secure the marriage. Not only that, the smart man will implement safeguards to minimize challenging the agreement in case of divorce. Best practice is to sit down with independent and individual attorneys and work out an equitable and satisfactory package PRIOR to marriage in the event of divorce. There's no reason to leave a marriage empty-handed, but there's just no way a wealthy man will leave his fortune and his future unprotected just because he wants marriage, kids, and family...it's much easier to find a woman who has no issues with pre-nuptial agreements. For high-value and top-tier men, women are replaceable and it's too easy to find a much more willing and cooperative life-mate.
@@kevinc3342
Both my ex fiances are extremely successful. The 1st one has 2 LAW firms......neither asked for a pre nup
so you're wrong.. BILLIONS of men in the world not ALL think like you......btw I broke up with both of them......
Oh ya ladies I forgot, not ALL rich guys are generous. Don't settle for a cheap one. I have a good one now and I'm 50!!! Don't go by race and be gentle in the looks dept. Get turned on by their mind. A man is a man..........period
I'm a nurse with my own business. I'm not a free loader just like men with lots of ambition and are not lazy. They enjoy my mind.
I totally agree. I grow up very poor but my mother always said "dont go anywhere acting like you've been nowhere". She meant a lot by that and I took all of the lesson's my mother was able to give me. That didnt mean being rude or ungrateful ofcourse. I've been happily married to a man that still tries to impress me.
My ex and I broke up 1 month ago..he was 23 and I am 21...he was broke and I had to do the 50/50 syndrome...now am focused on leveling up physically, emotionally and psychologically so that I can attract a provider for myself...I recently enrolled in makeup classes to learn how to make myself up,and I started buying some dresses and heels to look more feminine, been reading books on controlling emotions, and being more fermine, it's not easy being alone but I have made up my mind to be single till the man worthy of me comes along....thank u asha your videos helps alot.
Good for you! Would love to hear your books you’re reading !
What books are you reading?
milamonster asha has a whole video on books, check it out!! 😊😊
This makes me cry 😢 I am so proud of you !!!!!! I really am !!!! That was one of the best decisions you have made so far because now you know you will not tolerate and be a pick me patty and hope for something that you clearly see doesn’t work ! Good for your babe focus on yourself and leveling up on your own ♥️
Yes yes yes I doooooo☺️
Learn to walk away ladies.
Charisma Wright ...the ultimate power!
This most underrated yet most important life skill!!
when you said “be intentional about the life you want to create for yourself,” I’ve literally told myself the same thing too. It’s so important!!
This is true
My mom never worked. She stayed at home with us four kids while my dad paid all the bills. Seeing this growing up made me realize that this is the type of marriage I want but more because my dad is by no means rich. I want my parents’ relationship but upgraded lol 😂 👌🏼
Gina Lienn this!! It doesn’t matter what happens in my household my mum doesn’t touch a damn bill lol
I was raised the Same way !!!! I KNOW it’s possible ! Girls are doing it today, tomorrow and until kingdom comes ! So who ever may have an issue good for them but let the people who choose to live differently be !
MovieMemes yes exactly
@@euclidredpill7277 smartest men who sit on RUclips all day trolling women that would never give them a second look? Y'all idolize Elliot Rodger...no more needs to be said.
MovieMemes ok you try cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, washing dishes, doing laundry, raising kids, bathing them, entertains them, helping them with their homework, running errands and be a sex kitten for the hubby at night. Let’s see if you can pull it off. That is not being lazy. That’s multiple jobs in itself.
*What irritates me, is that more women get angry at this! Like I get it: You give it away freely, but why getting mad when other women secure the bag? This is why I cut all of these Pick-Meshas.* 🤷♀️
allahloves faryaalmakhdoom Men search for a wife, too. Sure they get the sex free, but obce they sense a potential partner, they will spend the money! In sha Allah! 😉
Hypergamy will create more single women; those who will be affected the most are older and conventionally unattractive women. There are not enough wealthy providers to go around for all women. Why would a wealthy man want to be with an older unattractive woman who is past her prime? When he can get a younger, pretty and fertile woman at a discount.
Men go to Asia and get the same thing for pennies on the dollar. Smh
The wall is undefeated
Hypergamy means trading in better models, not going for the guy the woman perceives as best. In fact, in the wealthy world and from what I’ve seen, men do this more than women.
50% of the bills? That’s a roommate
pretty Pretti false you can pay 50 or 100 percent.
MrPrettyBoyChina then you’re looking for a roommate there because you cannot pay 100% of the bills
Cool Chicka Vlogs 😂😂😂
Not the women here. There are plenty of feminists who are more than willing to date you.
Period! That’s what I say too! I have yet to ever live with a man and I doubt I would until married. I am not having an intimate relationship with a man and then coming to the table equally when it comes to finances, sounds crazy! Almost feels like paying a man to get in your underwear too .... i think not!
I definitely like what I like , and sis I would prefer crying in a Bentley and using money as tissue to wipe the tears 😂😂😂🤦🏾♀️🙌🏾🙌🏾
Yessss 😂😂😂
*dabs eye with an 100 dollar bill inside limo*
MovieMemes they'll definitely be using their vaginas!!!!!! Not love sweetie.
Are you Bentley material sis? Don’t take advice from a conventionally attractive girl IF you know you’re NOT a wealthy provider’s type.
@@Prescotmills8732 oh shutup roy
I grew up in a house where my father paid all the bills
Same babe !!!! ♥️👸🏽
Yup. My dad would literally hand my mom his pay check every week lol.
The way it should be 💯
phyllis dawkins is your daddy still alive? That’s a man right there 👏👏👏👏
@@luxuryqueen42 yes
Seeing most of the women in my family have men who would live in their house and not play any bills confined to me at a Young age that if your man isn’t provide for you he has no purpose in your life. Also hey Asha 👋🏾
hiiiii angel ❤️❤️❤️
This is exactly what I've been trying to get my sister to understand
@@arielxx8771 1.) If a woman is not giving her 50% towards living expenses: She has no purpose in life!
2.) If a woman expect to marry a rich man; and has no money of her own: She has no purpose in life!
A majority of women( like yourself) believe, it is a man's moral duty to pay for everything, while she contributes a measly 10% on finances. Any woman who has to depend on a man's income, like a comatose patient hooked up to life support, is morally dead; therefore, the plug needs to be pulled! Justice has been served! As we exit -- the Female Twilight Zone!
@@Mr.Meme1885 It's not about marrying rich and that's what you guys are failing to realize. It's about having a support system. A spouse who has the means to provide for you in case of sickness or unemployment. Especially when children are involved. I will not accept anything less. I need to know if we were to have children and I pass that they will be fine with or without me. Guys get away with doing so little and expect the most from us. Yes you have a job but what else are you doing beyond that? 9/10 a guy will expect a wife to be his therapist, nurse, mom, accountant. Why are we not allowed to want 1/4 of it reciprocated?
Also...why is it acceptable for a man to live off of a woman ? I noticed you had nothing to say about that.
So ladies,while we are having high standards and all,thats great..
But make sure you are your spec’s spec..Are you desirable to the man you desire?
Cos you cant have your bread buttered on both sides sis!
PS..much love darlings from another brown skinned RUclipsr with great content as well❤️
Trafik Rant With Neze :NezeVille thats a very wise thing to say.. running 🏃♀️ to check out your channel
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Men are also not attracted to us for the same reasons we are attracted to them..ie degrees and money.
intentionalgreatness dont get it twisted sis.. men are long term-attracted also to who they can derive value from..
I understand that but let's keep it 100 and not get it twisted..most men do not care about a woman's degree or salary...they care more about her femininity and looks and how that elevates his status among other men. If they do happen to ascribe those things to her value, its still not at the top of the list or a means for her to get chosen over someone else.
I’m am loving this hypergamous wave 👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾lets make this a whole movement let’s force these men to get it together by leveling up our standards!!
Yes yes yessss♥️♥️♥️
Wow smh
@MovieMemes right
Please.I say this even if hes a walmart worker and she works there too they have the same money so as a man who wants to lead..u should provide get a better job..too many women wear the pants and u guys love it because u use her money for lack of ambition..if u have a good traditional wife that loves u and not your money you can provide or at least do 70℅she do 30% if not u are a roomate..men need go back to school and be bosses and not depend on the women or baby mamas ..women who are afraid to be alone go for that 50-50 bullshit or worse the women paying and the men keep there money.. If u both make the same and yal live together u need to pay more .I'm not talking about hoes who aint ur woman but ur wife ur girlfriend u been with foreva ur baby mama u live with...u guyw great grandma and everyone before had men provide ..were ur grandmas hoes..we are there kids
Euclid MGTOW that is just sad tbt... also women that are after marriage are traditional...
Look at yourself as investment. Got it 😊
😉
It doesnt work like that but It sounds good tho
Make sure you put yourself on the “ 80percent off” sale rack ladies. We don’t want y’all marketing a used 2nd hand / something you given away for free at full price
Our parents do the best that they can. It's up to us to do the rest. Let's break these generational curses
In JESUS CHRIST NAME AMEN
Yes Amen to that 🙏🏽
I would rather be SINGLE than be with a '50/50 split the bills right in half' type of guy. My mom did that thankless role. Taken for granted, not appreciated. NOPE. No thanks I'll pass.
You'd rather take advantage of guys then? 😂😂
Women have no self awareness
YOU. WILL BE. ALONE. AND HORNY AS HELL
@Only 2 genders then I believe women should live to serve me like olden times. Get back In the kitchen and watch you're mouth 😂😂
Scarlet Rose if you just want your man to provide for you and for you to do nothing your nothing but an object. Your just a leech off of his checkbook be something more
So him paying 100% would change all of that hell it would probably make it worse
I honestly never even noticed you were using a phone. your videos are more about the content and the message anyway than having razor sharp quality. your phone must be really good though cos i just always assumed you were using a decent camera.
Awwww thank you !!!! I am happy that the message gets across anyways ! I just want to have a better aesthetic ♥️☺️
@@AshaChristinaFoster well good on you for levelling up but it really wasn't noticeable. x
Midwest Kandi Iphone xs im assuming
Makeup is looking cute!Great advice don’t be so quick to be impressed by the little efforts from men
Soon everyone will be playas and love will be lost forever
bescuit Well if they’re so influenced by us I guess we’re trendsetters, personally I’d tell them to get a mind of their own and that their choices are on them only
Absolutely on point!, I am not a woman but I agree with 100% of everything you are saying. Woman deserve the alpha masculine in relationships. DO NOT settle for anything less.
Know your value ladies and NEVER forget that we ARE the prize🎯
These boys outChea think they are the prize, 🗣no ma’am ‼️
Excellent video sis❤️
who lied to u ? wait untill u hit the wall we would see who is the prize.
Nae Bae
Keep telling yourself that. As we both get older, who’s opinion do you think is more likely to change on this. I’ll give you a hint, based on experience, observation, and not wishful thinking. The first one to hit the wall will change their mind.
They have all this expectations until they ran into the walls of the Hooveer Dam.
Your the prize (in your head) till about 35.
Nae Bae here the thing. You should believe your the prize. You could be a prize, I don’t know you personally. However to disregard the fact that any high value man is in fact a prize will be to your detriment. Any women can get some dick. Getting a man who not only has options but either comes from one of two sides of the coin (1. He has always been high value and has always had options because women have always picked him above most other men 2.His status is new to him and he’s getting used to having options and enjoying it) will take more then I am the prize mindset. Because without a doubt, if he has any kind of self esteem, he will know his worth. And that worth will only continue to grow as long as he’s about his business.
Yup! That's right! And when a woman don't look their best because of all the everyday stress they carry, the first person who's ready to leave out the door for that hot chick down the street is their dusty husband. It's really sad
true after u paying bills he still cheats
My mother always told me you can just as easily marry a nice, kind and considerate man with money as a nice and considerate man without money. You can fall in love with a man of means or a man without means. Why pick the later? My family NEVER advocated marrying down. If a man doesn't have money, he should at least be ambitious towards making some. I truly believe that women who settle for dusty men with no ambition are: 1) women with no ambition; 2) don't think they deserve better or 3) believes certain quality men are out of their league. I've met women who feel more secure with men who are financially and socially beneath their status. And just like Niki Minaj, they'll get upset if you suggest that they can do better. What kind of man you choose and what kind of crap you put up with in a relationship , shows how you view yourself.
You can be rich and go broke and vise versa whats your point?
bescuit We’re obviously referring to initial attraction. And if you knew anything about sensible investing and maturity no one would “go broke”. There wouldn’t be so many current rich people in the world if it were that hazardous even with their crazy frivolousness. You’re looking at the unstable ones.
Remember ladies you have to offer something in return if a man is spending his income on supporting you. Make sure you look good, take care of the household, femininity, cook, clean, kids, nurturing, bringing peace and not chaos to his life etc. You can't be selfish when in a realtionship you have to think about the man to and know that he is investing in you and it has to be worth it. If he wants 50/50 though then he can go 50/50 on household as well. If you want a provider you have to have more to offer than looks and your presence in most cases. You have to meet certain criteria as well as him. Get your stuff together first and work on yourself. Also never fully depend on a man you never know if you might break up or come into money issues so always have a backup and savings.
Im a simple girl. I See a notification from Asha. I click 😊
you are the BEST❤️😘
MovieMemes How does this get rid of the concept of “teamwork”? It doesn’t. It’s just a natural and logical and attractive trait to want.
Omg I was looking for something to watch and Asha posted!!! YASSS 🙌🏽💅🏽💅🏽💅🏽
I felt it!!!! I read your mind 😉❤️
@@AshaChristinaFoster yes, you did girl!! I loved the video, fantastic content as always! No more settling for less. 🤷🏾♀️❤️❤️
You should do a video on *how to keep a provider interested in a long term relationship/marriage* Lots of channels always tell women that they should get these type of men and how to get them but never how to keep him/things interesting or any long term advice.
brittney smith Hell yeah thats always been the problem ....woman want that $$$$ man ...... which is fine but it come with a price , you are right how can you keep this guy ??? Hell its like that with a man who isn't blessed with alot of money, he will still judge you based off of how you are as a woman.
Continue doing what you did to get them.
I made this mistake. But it was all a lesson learned.
"When a King marries a women she becomes a Queen. When a Queen marries a man, he's still a man" - Patrice O'Neal
Please do a video about haters/ how to deal with hate/ jealous people
lucija m I agree, I've got a pair of jealous witches ganging up on me. Haters
Ignore them and live your best life.
YES
@@ozmaiqbal7912 same :(
ignore them and smile.
Asha: I much rather cry in a Bentley
Me: What's a Bently
I have a lot to learn lol
Aww it’s ok babe a Bentley is a luxury car ! Google it ! They are beautiful 🥰
Wow me too
Its ok you can learn everything!! But Bentley its a heck of a car!!!
It’s a high end car!
Sorry asha, but that wasn’t a bentley you were sitting in. Lol
1950's
Woman: Does all the cooking and cleaning
Man's response: Ok
Man: cover all the financial problems
Woman's response: Ok
2021
Woman: If he's hungry, he better go make something for himself. I ain’t his slave.
Man's response:Ok
Man: She should contribute to financial situations
Woman's response: How dare he, what have men become?
i used to dream of being the strong man for the girl I like and being her provider and protector, now women these days make me wanna live single lmao
@@hakimmihoubi8544 same dude
@@hakimmihoubi8544💯
My type of topic lol I have been waiting on this thanks xoxo love u 🥰😘
love you more!!!!
Its hard for me to get rid of my dusty first love. My mum didnt exactly teach me about this due to her own failures in relationships. I know this man is not gonna deliver but I love him so much and hes already wasted half of my twenties and I'm tired of resenting him for not delivering his part as a man.
On top of that, I rely on him way too much as I come from a dysfunctional home. I put all my Hope's on him to rescue and protect me and carry many other roles in my life including that of a father. It's unfair to him and to myself to expect someone to be all that for me, especially when they still haven't gotten their life together
its time to move on love you more than you love enabling your hurt❤️
Kanatshi stop feeling guilty & leave boo! Pick up a hobby fast to keep him off your mind but you will thank yourself when you leave him!
@@AshaChristinaFoster thank you. I'm binge watching your videos and that of many other lovely ladies teaching about hypergamy for black women in particular. In the mean time I'll work on loving myself more and building my self confidence before I actively date again
@@kgoddess2017 thank you so much for your encouragement. I will act upon it ♡
Girl you still in your twenties... get out there Girl! If its been that long he will be no different. With the next... I pray it all works out
Can you please do video on how to ask for stuff from your man? I've never asked for anything but don't know how to. Like, if you wanted your nails done but want your man to pay for it. Lol
Ahhh I like this !
Asha C. Thanks! I can't wait to watch it if you end up making the video. 🖤 i feel like men will always do the bare minimum unless you ask but I just don't know how to. Too independent I guess but to my own detriment lol 🤦🏼♀️
Great question but from experience I know that a real one won’t have you asking. They already know what needs to be done and initiates it
“Can I borrow your card? I want to get my xyz done for you tomorrow”. Give him back his card afterward, but overtime increase what you ask for and don’t return his card until he needs it. After a while he’ll just start giving it to you/ leaving it out for you.
MakeupBae Lici to me if I have to ask i really don’t want it. I found myself asking this but my daddy told me like “ don’t you stay with your hair/nails/makeup done? Don’t you like to brunch with ur girlfriends every Saturday? Don’t you take yourself shopping frequently? Well if a man comes into your life & you already do those things on the regular he should want to keep it going for you. You should never ask”
Granted ik some men just like to be asked for an ego boost or whatever the case, but since my dad put that in my head I won’t deal with someone who i have to ask for it for. It’s nothing wrong with asking but I’m just above that now my daddy gassed my head up 😂😂
I aint trying to cry period - Bentley or honda accord.
Lol lol
Facts!
The problem with most ladies today is, they are going for men with money not providers. lets note there is difference between a rich guy and a provider.
Yes, I notice the dusties get the two mixed up too as is common with people from a certain social pool compared to others who may be more sophisticated
You need money to provide ...
I agree with this video 💯 True happiness comes from knowing who you truly are, being ok with that and not being afraid to present that to the world - especially when it comes to dating. We will get what we truly deserve once we start being true to ourselves.
*From a 19 year old perspective*
I've always told myself I would marry a provider. Although I'll be working and making my own money, I still feel that men should live up to their expected God- appointed position. If a man doesn't want to do that, then are they really a man?
Btw young women can be independent and hardworking like myself but still want a guy to value her and see her as his responsibility. However I expect nothing from anyone and thank God I was raised that way because some of these men really don't see the significance of being responsible and family oriented.
Mind you, a lot of women are doing everything financially and men are doing nothing. So there comes a point where women begin to look for men who actually want to take their role /responsibly seriously. I've witnessed a lot of women who did everything in the household financially and otherwise while men do nothing. Thank God I have my whole life ahead of me and can learn from their mistakes. When I get older/married one day I will not be taken advantage of by any man, especially men of today. I have no problem paying for my own stuff or anything in the house but when men begin to use women which I have witnessed it's so disgusting and becomes a burden on the woman.
What is your God appointed position as a women?
Women are naturally more spiritually in touch so they are usually fine as they are. Men are more “extra” in terms of emotions and divinity. I say this from experience, transcendence and ancient studies. People often mix it up with duality, but really it’s the less extreme and more extreme version of the force of nature (which in itself is a balance of duality). Men’s divinity is therefore to care for the woman. Caring goes both ways of course, but masculinity is of that extra necessary passion and protectiveness that should come naturally.
No one has to be anything but I go for men who embody this divine masculine that has been twisted through the history of occultism.
@@DW-zd7sc To be a support system. Support can come in many different ways. Genesis 2:18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
Alejandra María Mora 80% of y’all are not support systems, that’s the problem
My mom raised me by herself and now I'm watching her raise my two little sisters (2, and 5) all alone. The father is less than an hour away and won't pick up his phone. My 5 year old sister constantly crying or blaming my mom for why she can't see her dad.
It's even unfair to me because I'm 18 and can't go to the college I want because it's too far and I need to be able to help my mom take on some of the responsibilities the father should be doing. My mother is amazing but she can't take on all these responsibilities and still be perfect.
People in this generation will shame women for having "high" standards and not wanting to have casual sex and in the same sentence, make fun of girls who end up pregnant alone. Birth control took a lot from me, I wasn't happy, sex drive was so low I didn't enjoy sex, I gained wait, felt dirty. So I stopped. I'm just waiting and I'm fine with that. I'm still being shamed though by guys I like. Can't have a relationship today unless your giving it up.
A man doesn't have to be rich. As long as he can provide food, water, electricity and a house for you it's good. Not every man works these high paid office jobs you see in tv shows.
Of course he doesn’t have to be rich but their is nothing wrong with wanting that. Especially if you have what he wants.
You’re acting like we have a huge pool of what we find attractive when some of us have smaller pools of interest than others
@@starrix4712 What you say has nothing to do with my comment. Any type man might be able to provide these things for you. I said A man not WHAT KIND OF man.
@@kristysmith4990 I feel like that's just being demanding. Money means a lot in this world but it's nothing in the afterlife.
Naila Kamana You are God’s true woman, you see how you spill truth and they still speak of the devils money and what they want from men? Gold diggers with no hearts they are! You remain true to yourself! Love and blessings
I think the stigma of women expecting a provider is deeply imbedded in current Black culture, where by and large Black men conception of masculinity and alpha had little to do with being providers. This can also be reflected globally among Black diaspora. In fact, every study and research shows Black women are the provider in their communities and many settle for gamma men (who don't even provide protection) who expect to be catered to, while pretending to be 'men' of the house. Other non-Black cultures, by and large still have their men providing to them, marry them, in exchange for their women looking young or plastic version of being youthful. Obviously there are exception, but the less BW stop using the exception as the standard, the better their access to quality men will be.
Huda Ahmed 70% of what you just stated absolutely made no sense. Learn English and how to string together thoughts that make a story.
OMG!!!! PREACH IT SIS!!! This entire video was so on point! The ABSOLUTE Truth Spoken! Being a Woman is not easy
♥️♥️♥️♥️
Yes to that intro energy!!! No need to watch if your highly sensitive. Speak your truth girl!
Thank God for Islam! This is literally what is recommended for couples in my religion. It isn’t the woman’s responsibility AT ALL to lift a finger to pay a bill, and if she does it would be counted as a charity and she gets rewarded for it in the eyes of God. What’s his is for both of you, and what’s yours is yours ❤️
Chimmy Q I said the same thing! That’s the true teachings of Islam on the roles of a man/husband and that of a woman/wife❤️
Girl l love you ! I am really meeting so many women on my same wave and feels soo good !! Life is only going to get better for us ladies ! We are the prize !! And yaaasssss “I like what I like too girl “!! ❤️😊☺️
oh my goodness your hair and makeup are perfect in this video
Omg awww thank youuuu
I realized I wanted to be provided for a year into the relationship. I sat us down, talked about it, and he actually really liked the idea!! He’s not rich so im not living a super lavish lifestyle, but he is paying for much more than before- and he really really enjoys it!! And although he got everything ‘for free’ the first year, he still understood that my standards have upped and I have changed, and that is a reason for him to change. So i dont think all guys who used to get it ‘for free’ wont provide. If they dont want to lose you, they’ll do it.
I think this stuff only works with men who want it, honestly. I was lucky
So glad you are here, high standards, High maintenance , everything HIGH , love your videos 💕💕
I honestly love your approach. It's funny and tactful. The first video of yours I watched was the hygiene video, and it made me realize how much more I could be doing, and now.. my life is forever changed. Thank you, bb.
Aww thank you babe !
Traditional men DO provide. But not to just anyone who asks. They provide, for the MOTHER of their CHILDREN. And also traditionally, to a woman who ISN'T the mother of SOMEONE ELSE'S children. That's tradition, that's providing. But providing is food, shelter, bills. Not shopping, not tourism, not shoes and handbags.
Ladies you can always raise ur prices! Even if u started out wrong, u can always raise ur quality && price. If u started out free u can jump to 3k. Your life, your body and your energy.
Yes girl! 🌷🌷🌷🤍🤍💗
I'm a mother and agree with all of these experiences. It's deeper than it sounds 💯❤️
I Remember when i got called "RUBI" BY my ex DUSTY RUBI IS A Character played by BARBARA MORI." SPANISH SOAP OPERA. RUBI GREW UP ON A POOR NEIGHBORHOOD BUT SURROUNDING HERSELF WITH RICH FRIENDS, RICH MAN ONLY. AT 22 YEARS OLD I TOOK IT AS AN INSULT NOW 27 I REALIZED HE WAS JUST A DUSTY WHO COULDN'T PROVIDE MY LIFESTYLE 🤣🤣🤣 YES I LOVE RICH MEN AND I WILL NEVER SETTLE FOR A BROKE MEN..
Millie Damus I’m obsessed with that show lmao don’t understand a word but I get the vibe 😂
Millie Damus gold digger
Hi babe,your amazing I'm thankful for your videos love from the UK 40 something mum xXx🤗👌🏾🙏🏾
thank you so much babe!!!!❤️
Love your content! Can you make a video on how to actually date wealthy men. More Dos than donts if you haven’t already xoxo
another FLAWLESS look🥵💓
awww thank youuuu
Please do more hypergamous videos!
You got it ;)
You are very smart asha
Thank you babe ♥️♥️♥️
@@AshaChristinaFoster thank you so much for helping us women
Love when you make videos,❤ people don't think its possible to have someone who treats you well AND be a provider who is also rich lol they try to make you pick between being treated right while dating a poor man and being treated like trash while dating a rich man.
Because it's the truth, for the most part. Why would a rich man waste resources on a woman, who ages, when he can trade her in for someone younger?
Love it! Growing up my dad was the provider. He knew what he suppose to do for his family. That I admired and I expect it from my partner. Period. 💯 you look great by the way!❤️
Your videos are my strength! Everytime my standards, values, and boundaries get weaken I rewatch your videos 😁
Awww babe !!!!! This makes me so happy !!!!♥️♥️♥️
I’m ready to receive this message!!!!
that's the first step !!! I am proud of you ❤️😘
Get a job lol
bescuit I’ve got one thanks xxx
I’m so excited you’re about to get to 100k!!! All the female empowerment youtubers I watch have been growing and it’s so inspiring to see that women are learning to see their worth
How do you know if a guy is a genuine provider what are the signs to look for?
Look at how he takes care of himself first, does he concern himself about his future? his health? mental and spiritual fitness?... a man won't do anything for you that he isn't doing for himself
Stop looking at what a man can do for you and look at what he can and is doing for himself usually men can't fake such things ..
@@David-ej1ps okay thats good information, I generally don't know and never yet even attempted to seek what a man can do for me. I generally have come across the 50/50 type of guys who insist on financial assistance. Just never got involved with them tbh, so generally didn't know how to tell them apart.
Sarina Karim when he offers and you don’t have to constantly ask.
@@carnishaxo1836 hmm I see
Hes not attractive
I find pleasure in finding the key words in all her videos. Today it was “Honestly “ and “Arguably” lol idk why I’m like this!! but I loved the video and the message ❤️
Awwwww this made me laugh because I understand exactly what you mean 😂♥️
Lol my personal favorite is “are you well?”, although “arguably” is now a close second 😂😂♥️♥️
I love what you are doing for us❤️
I feel so loved ugh you guys are my everything !!!! thank you for your support ❤️
Yesss!!
you amaze me, you are so young but yet so wise, keep it up sister x
Thaaaannnkkkk youuuu!!! I learned this the hard way but now being with an awesome provider I feel freedom and that not everything is resting on my shoulders!!
PT hope you’re doing your part as well if he’s financially providing.
A B Absolutely...men need their needs met too (btw I don’t expect the man to pay for EVERYTHING either)
i grew in the house hold where my dad pay the bills and I think you should have your own money just in case but trust me men who are with their dream girl don't make them pay
bills
Men who are with their dream girl should pay bills together. Don't just throw debts on the man and believe women deserve the reward.
I love rich men!!!!
you and I both 😉
Rich in character too, above all.
SP Glaze Stewart you’re not rich. Go home.
SP Glaze Stewart rich men don’t watch videos like this because they know the women they like have these standards point blank period. Dust Be Gone.
Ten 25 “dust begone” 😂😂
I just want to add that you've gotta make sure you're stacking up your own money, though. Complete dependence will leave you devastated if they leave 💛
yes stack HIS money and start your own business
First video of yours I've watched, unrelated, but GIRL U LOOK GUD!!! whatever you're doin, clearly somethin's working :-)
I don’t know how I came across this video, but I’m glad I did 👍🏽 I just got out of a relationship a few days ago where everything was 50/50 and there was little effort from him. I didn’t realize it bothered me until we broke up 😌
for your merch please add the saying " I DIDNT MAKE THIS UP" hahaha
Omg ok ! I’m about to post on my ig got suggestions !!!! 😂
I'm so happy you touched on being a mother. I'm a young mom and have started to level up. Love you!!
You’re basically doing a man a disservice by allowing him to bum around. If you don’t push him to rise to the occasion and earn you, he will get complacent. He has sex and companionship at a very low price, and why would he want to every do any better ? By settling for minimal behavior, you’re devaluing yourself and ENABLING him! STOP!
Thank God you posted, I was just thinking about when your next video would come out! Amazing advice queen! 💞 God bless you 🌼
thank you babe!!!❤️😘
Wow!!! This was so good. I appreciate Asha saying that “women are more stressed then men !! Absolutely correct. I’m definitely listening to all this advice.
"You cannot be your best with ALL these other pressures"! The STRUGGLE becomes the kill!!
Yes yes yes !!!
This applies to men also 🤔
Yes Asha I’m 22 and it played with my thoughts
Finally, someone who thinks like me!
🥰
I fuck with you🔥 Never change that mindset lil baby never settle for less
Back in the day women sought after providers because women did not have the right to work. Now that we have the right to work men want half screw that. I’m single with no kids and I’ll probably stay that way until I meet a man who is a provider period.
In that situation i would provide 100% (so you dont have to work), but if you do choose to work 50% of that paycheck goes to me (to invest in proven plans).
Is this going to be a problem?
Isaiah Smith it’s a problem if I have to do all the cooking , cleaning and not to mention be a step mother in training possibly and satisfy sexual needs...Keep my body up plus my appearance. If I come with no baggage, why should I have to help pay half to help build something that I could achieve on my own. Thats why I want an already made man. That 50/50 is out of the question for women over 30 in my opinion.
Hi Asha C, The examples you gave- of what life different women want to create was well said. I want to be financially comfortable where money isn’t a worry or concern. To travel the world and have my own gym. I’m not bothered about name brand clothes or things of that nature. However I wouldn’t say no to it either.
Great video. Sending blessings from the 🇬🇧 UK.
You made me feel so much better love. Thank you for this timely message 🖤
You’re so welcome babe ♥️♥️♥️
First like! 💗💗💗 love you!
I love you more!❤️
Girl... idk why, but you seem like you would make a good lawyer! Just saying...
love your videos
Been waiting for days ❤
truthfully this video should have been up around 12:30 but me and technology have a difficult relationship and this video took legit over 3 hours to upload lol sooo back to apple I go !
I will never understand why average women want above-average men, but they themselves look like 6.5s and 7.3s.... step your game up if you want a six-figure man. It's the same idea how a man that makes 30k a year cannot attract a woman that is a 10 in the looks department.. usually she is looking at 6 figure men. Six-figure men are looking at 9.5 or higher women. Get real about your range...
Wonderful as always Asha!!! Totally agree with you, if you started out with low expectations how can you expect him to change? He’s used to doing the bare minimum. 🤷🏾♀️
You look really good. Thanks for the awesome and informative vids!
AWWWW thank youuuuu
Ladies need to understand the context in general regardless. My dad worked and my mom stayed home and raised me and my sister. Nothings wrong with being a stay at home parent but this is something needs to be addressed:
1.) being a stay at home parent didn’t stop my mom from having a job working from home because of the simple fact that she doesn’t need to depend on anyone. She hated not having money. It’s called independence.
2.) Men being providers is a social construct. Men are supposed to be there for his lady and support same as vise versa. Half of you don’t even want a man, you just want a sponsor. Nothings wrong with wanting nice things but people just don’t wanna work for it. They like things handed out to them.
3.) Giving your children the world is something a parent should do regardless. A loving parent would want their kids to be happy. I was spoiled but I knew that if I wanted something, I had to work for it from both of my parents.
Main verdict of what I am saying is, yes never settle for less but don’t become reliant on another person to do things for you when you are capable of doing it.
what you forgot to mention is there aren't that many rich men. Less than 1% are rich, good looking, good to be around, etc. I happen to be a rich man, very few of us around. You're giving women false hope, but I agree with you mostly. Go after what you want.
I swear belonging to this women Angel group has been the best thing it's like us just chatting about the nonsense we put up with and saying no more blowing kisses ladies am in my early 20's and am learning so much.
I loved this video. You touched on so many important facts. Wow. I also love that you said provider and not a wealthy or rich man because not all men that have money will provide for you and there are men that may not have all the money in the world but they will give you the shirt off of their backs and work hard to make sure that you are comfortable.
Marissa Chapman then you’ll tell those men you see them as friends😂.
I understand your thoughts because you are trying to put yourself as a highly value woman, but most women are going to cling to know what they know. Both people should be putting the equal amount of work.
Both people should be putting equally amount of work. Very happy to hear that.
Why am I not surprised this logical statement came from someone brought up in a different culture.
Make sure you know how to show that man you’re even worth providing FOR.
I love your videos! They have helped increase my confidence so much :) lots to still work on but these help