i'm not nigerian i'm american of congolese origin but after 20 years outside africa this short gives me a lesson i could never forget. I am 30 years old I am convinced that Nigeria would be a country of law. nigeria counted before the strong and rich men. Today Nigerian women most women are rich, intellectual, intelligent and strong
August 24th 2019, my husband proposed and agreed to marry me then we both planned for the wedding. Our wedding was to be held on September 27th. We had a little misunderstanding and he left me for another girl. I almost committed suicide. which lead to our break up. I was not myself again, I felt so empty inside me, my love and financial situation became worse, until a close friend of mine told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too his name is Doctor Sandy. I emailed the spell caster and I told him my problem and I did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. Before I knew what was happening, less than two days ago my husband gave me a call and told me that he was coming back to me. I was so happy to have him back to me. The most interesting part of the story is that I am pregnant. Thanks to Doctor Sandy for saving my marriage and for also saving others' own too. Continue your good work, If you are interested to contact the great spell caster email address: dr.sandyspelltemple@gmail.com call WhatsApp Number +2349154145362 Get your problem solved !!!!!
Beat and cheat..give it one more chance. Let the woman bring belly for another man all hell will break loose. I'm not surprised women could be in hell and naija ppl will tell the wife to endure and go back to the husband 😒. Mad ppl everywhere.
Girl, if leaving this man is what you want to do, go right ahead..life is too short is suffer in a miserable relationship...and the judge seems bias from get...
Same thing with me I shared tears for her how can a virgin woman still be facing sure fertility problem,I pray for her to have her own baby soon IJN Amen.
Only a foolish person can't see reason in this judge's verdict. The judge promised to involve marriage counsellors in this case which has never been done before. It's not every argument that one has with the partner warrant parents to be involved
We no some men’s use to abuse their wife’s but some it always start how the wife behavior or the words she use to insult the man n we are Africans not western world
...so he slapped her and the judge said it was wrong to call her sister's husband?? Wrong how? He's a man and can protect her from her husband of she needs it
As in, I was so confused by that. Here is someone feeling threatened and unsafe and you say she shouldn't have called someone? What is in this marriage that people are always hiding inside sef, covering up so many nonsense all in the name of "no third party"? Until somebody dies and they begin to say "why didn't she/he speak out earlier'?
Thank you! I thought i was the only one that heard that! Incredulous! Someone feels threatened and calls her family and the judge says that was a wrong move??? Not happy with that phrase from her
Wait! Did the judge just say it’s a wrong move for her to call her family after she got slapped??? Please what’s really going on here? I sincerely do not agree with this judgment! Give another chance for what now 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
Ikr. It was absolutely the right thing to do. Let him try and slap a man. I don’t know what this judge was thinking in this case. Just wrong on so many levels.
I am so disappointed with this episode and how the Judge handled the situation. The Judge needs to educate on domestic violence. I feel she should have been strict with the husband about him even slapping but she wasn’t. She needs more experience
The judges decision was to protect her. If wife insist on divorce and the husbande does not want, he will kill her and the judge knows this. It happens a lot in America. Divorce initiated by wife means the wife will soon die.
@@sophiao5855 I don’t think that was the case. Cause they have been separated and living apart for a while and she came to court to make it official. Even if that was the case, she should have condemned the violence which she didn’t.
When a woman is fed up, she’s fedup. Why insist that she goes back to her abuser. This Judge should only do small claim cases not divorce cos she’s not equipped for it.
Exactly..I saw another case where the man beat the wife frequently and she said the womsn still loved him and she should give him another chance. The wife wanted to go. She is not equipped to oversee marital issues at all.
You are ignorant and know nothing about marriage. Do you know the consequences of divorce especially in the HOLY Scriptures? You people proclaimed Christianity without knowing the rudiments.
August 24th 2019, my husband proposed and agreed to marry me then we both planned for the wedding. Our wedding was to be held on September 27th. We had a little misunderstanding and he left me for another girl. I almost committed suicide. which lead to our break up. I was not myself again, I felt so empty inside me, my love and financial situation became worse, until a close friend of mine told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too his name is Doctor Sandy. I emailed the spell caster and I told him my problem and I did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. Before I knew what was happening, less than two days ago my husband gave me a call and told me that he was coming back to me. I was so happy to have him back to me. The most interesting part of the story is that I am pregnant. Thanks to Doctor Sandy for saving my marriage and for also saving others' own too. Continue your good work, If you are interested to contact the great spell caster email address: dr.sandyspelltemple@gmail.com call WhatsApp Number +2349154145362 Get your problem solved !!!!!
Shame on you @Naturalbeauty for the nonsense you wrote here. The man and woman are separated already, the judge did not say they should get back together. The Judge only advised them to seek help from marriage professional to which both man and woman agreed. Judge also told them that after counselling they should come back if their position on divorce does not change. What is wrong in that? Which other court in the world grants divorce within an hour you show up in court without understanding the problem and making initial attempt to fix the problem?
Shame on you that is still growing and dont want to learn that there is what we call dispute resolution also , shame on you, that you dont have an opened mind.... Next time, watch your utterance
@@patiencebello5552 shame on you that you took the time to type this rubbish. I think you should go find a life and maybe a job so you have something to do other than typing nonsense. I said what I said.
Thank God you're not a judge. You're too emotional. You think it's easy for such a woman judge who probaby had endured a lot to get to were she is in life including her own marriage to grant such request? So the one month grace and training which may make these couple rediscover their weaknesses is not enough?
@@patiencebello5552 this judge in this case was unprofessional.... She has every right to call whoever she wants if someone hits her.. She should have called the police and put him in jail. Should we wait till she's in hospital before she speaks out....
D judge did a fantastic job Wehdone ma'am💯 Dey shud see a counselor if afta 6weeks nd d story remains d same den she cn dissolved d union Fantastic job judge❤💯
@@bernedettekuteyi3843 did you hear what the man said, that his wife and her family believe that he is the one with problems. Hence, no pregnancy. She was wrong and the Judge pointed it out that the woman was wrong going to inform her family about everything in their marriage.
@@oluakinwale4859. My problem with our people, they tend to go out and tell people their business. Even if some advice may be good or bad, places I wouldn't go to is Church, family and social media.
Adultery with a child outside his marriage, physical and emotional abuse, neglect..... yet the woman has to endure against her wish. Please your honour ma, do better next time
I dont think the judge said the wrong thing here my dear. The decision is very right. Before anything else these two people once loved eachother. Judge Funmi didnt say they should live together so put any chance for violence away and think objectively. This is marriage not courtship. I am amazed at the judge's counselling and solution to help it work again before striking her final decision. Very inspiring for aspiring judges.
@@fabier2404 If she moves back in his bad behavior would likely continue because he never took accountability and probably doesn't feel like what he did is wrong.
The only counseling the husband need is to spend time in jail for assaulting her. The guy is a complete jerk. Separation is best; he could end up killing her. I felt so bad for her.
The Husband seem to be a Police Officer.. Judge is also worried about her judgement that might get the man dismissed and therefore forfeit his gratuity. It's tough getting a divorce in Nigeria without exhausting all options
@ Lurman Nesbary - l agree with you to an extent. But that's the reason the Judge is a "Judge" they look at the circumstances of the situation and the likelihood of it happening again. And the result she advised "Anger Management" classes to help the man. Can you put your hands on your chest and say you have never created (it does not have to be physical) out of anger or frustration or attempted to? Jesus said in the Bible and l quote " if anyone of you have never sinned before be the first person to "cast" or throw the stone". He was referring to the lady that the Israelite wanted to Stone to death for committing an act of "adultery". I rest my case.
This judge practically agrees with domestic violence.... She has every right to call her family if he hits her... She should have called the police and locked him up... You never hit anyone
Very unfortunate episode! I grief in my heart for the pain this woman pass through.. I imagine her as my sister and I am pained! Especially the barrenness part? Omg😭😭😭 I wept! She deserved to be happy, am not saying the man can't make her happy again but I need to see accountability and a remorseful attitudes from him knowing he hurts the one he loves! And please Madam, if it's true that ur family are unnecessarily interfering in your marriage, please give that a good check! I love to see a smile on your face okay? You deserve it...
For some people that think the judge is biased, she did the right thing regardless who is at fault. For me both sides have got their blame, she needs to start keeping her martial issues between her and the husband either current or new one or else she would have the same problem in her new relationship. And the man has some anger issues that needs to be sorted before it becomes deadly. Lastly, marriage or even living with someone is not as easy as people make on the social media, remember your siblings action then think of such things happen in 10 or 20 times, that's marriage, sometime sweet or sometimes bitter. They both need counselling.
@@4c_Hijabi First, I'm not in the position to judge who made the wrong decision first,what am saying is both sides have made serious mistakes and the judge don't seems to be biased. Understand this if you don't know, marriage is not a game of hurt me I hurt you in return, marriage is meant to be filled of good memories. If your wife, husband or partner hurt you, you don't have to take to revenge to score point, best solution is sort the situation or bow out peacefully. In this life we are not meant to make things difficult for each other.
Keeping issues to yourself doesn't work all the time, that's a wrong advice given to women. Everytime women still get blamed keep quiet or talk is the same outcome.
I could feel her pain when she said, 'it was a distress call'. Judge, you are dismissing the FEAR that comes with abuse, saying, she made a mistake by calling. This is when people end up dead by not telling someone. I am disappointed in you today, you are a sensible judge and do not take kindly to domestic violence.
@Nomvula Nkoro What if the man in question had committed suicide due to depression from the much abuses from the woman's family? Judge from that angle too please.
This judge has divine wisdom, she can easily dissolve the marriage if she followed the laws and rights but she gave them one last chance because any decision made in angry mood comes with regretting at last. Judge Funmi your wisdom is like that of king Solomon in the Bible
I genuinely feel bad for the woman. She's in tears, literally begging to be freed from her physically and emotionally abusive, cheating husband but is literally being forced to reconcile her "marriage" with counseling. Sad!
That man is a liar,the judge is a wolf in sheep clothing, she the judge dosend like women, the only thing left for her to say to the man is to go home and finish her off, the lady needs to get out
The husband has moved on and impregnated another woman, there physically abuse and the wife is begging for divorce, why is the court recommending couple counseling?
Why is she even still begging,I didn’t need anyone to tell me when I was going through my trauma even with a daughter,my ex husband’s people were pouring fuel into the fire n it was a life n death matter I just left one day with my daughter,that’s how they keep professing love to you n still stick a knife to your heart without looking back
*SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE* Mr Man, you have no excuse! When your spouse hits you once, please run and don't look back. *LEAVE TO LIVE* Life has no duplicate
@@amaechikingzo8367 good adviser, watch your daughters beaten to death by their husbands since your idea of managing your home is pummeling your wife/wives.
Nobody is going to be beaten much less to death with this judgment, they are living apart already, she knows him inside out, she claimed to have known him as an angry man before marrying him, he has beaten her three times in fifteen years which I condemn but he may be able to improve on himself after the marriage counseling, they are adults, the judge left the line open to grant a divorce if the marriage counseling has no positive influence. Good judgment
@@debbiebalogun8803 The wife admitted her husband slapped her 3 times in 15 years. Is that what you referred to as beaten to death? I am sure you have been slapped more than 3 times in 15 years and you are here advising wives to run out of their marriages. Nobody encourages domestic violence but encourage people to seek help to manage their differences.
What causes violenc is also dangerous than the violence she should work on her self someone should advance that woman to put happyness on herself so child will come people like that always get angry out of nothing may God bless her Amen
I agree with you....I think her 'Africanness' overshadow her position some times. In my opinion, this woman is in serious pains...she obviously is not as expressive as the man and the man somehow swayed the honourable Judge to his side. Women suffer so much and do not have words to explain the situation most times...we just cry and cry and hurt...a fellow woman should know...but then The Judge is the expert , what can I say?...'Equity haaan
This is not a criminal court its a civil court and besides these people want the judge to resolve issues not send their spouse to prison, i f they want to send them to prison, they will go to criminal court
@@Blessing.O.A Nigeria law mandates the judge to first reconcile couples before granting divorce which is what the Judge has done. Its the first step towards divorce in Nigeria. Secondly the couple are not living together so no one is endangered, thirdly on the issue of violence, this can only be tried at the criminal court. The wife is obviously not ready to jail her husband she would have gone to the criminal court, the Judge is smart to see through this. The judge can only grant what is sought for. The judge told her to come back after six weeks for divorce if things does not change, that's what the law mandates her to do
@@bankiex7129 what universe are you operating that you would think a battered woman , who’s fed up and stated she’s is done with her relationship, would want the judge to simply resolve her issues with her abusive husband and sending her back to him?
Those of you blaming the Judge need to understand how the Nigerian court system works in marital situations. Judges are always reluctant to pass a divorce judgment even when it's obvious. It would help if you find out how much it costs in Nigeria to process a divorce. The idea is to discourage couples and find common ground to make the relationship work.
Eeeish thank God I'm not Nigerian. The judges force you to remain married to a wife batterer.........the man sounds VERY angry and this teeth kissing is very rude. They can't go back to same place......after she got pregnant he even refused her and yet he impregnated a concubine and believed it was his? He is evil....
If you listen to both parties, whenever they have issues, the wife involved her relatives to come in, but the man has never involved a third party when they have issued. We should learn not to involve a third party in our marital affairs.
Justice court ever since i came across this channel OMG,iam learning more about law,thanks so much for this good teaching channel its really good work u give us❤❤🎉🎉🎉
This judge needs to change her old fashion way of thinking..... abuse should not be tolerated. This judge is soo pro-marriage, she will encourage women to suffer in a marriage.
@@oluwagbengaayanmakinwa2950 Scripture says that a husband should love his wife as Christ loves the Church, this man has physically and emotionally abused his wife. God does not bless this behavior. Scripture also says that divorce is permissible in cases of adultery. Once again, this man has given his wife permission to leave the marriage. If you are going to talk about the word of God, know what He said on the subject.
@@YT4Me57 Divorce is permissible in the case of adultery but they are rules also to that effect. They must remained unmarried except one of them is dead. So, to this effect you must understand that if he or she remarries another, he or she commits adultery. And if you sleep with another, it is also a sin. But the scriptures said, love is the greatest commandment: thus we must forgive to be forgiven. If GOD forgives our trespasses, why not forgive those who wronged you too so that you can also be forgiven your trespasses? GOD is faithful even when we gave him every reason to turn HIS back on us. Like the scriptures said, For GOD so love the world that he gave HIS Son as a propitiation for our sakes. As it is also written: But GOD commended HIS love towards us while we were yet sinners not when we were perfect.
The conditions mean that, GOD is not interested in divorce but reconciliation and forgiveness which leads to perfection. What if that temptation is what you need to overcome to make heaven? Will you allow your wife or husband to make you loose heaven because of egotism and worldly wisdom?
Seeing this woman's story is so beautiful and her stoic demeanour brought tears to my eyes. While I was relieved to see that humanity still exists in the comments I also felt a touch saddened by the multitude of criticism of the Judge's advice. Everyone is looking for someone to blame, when I think the problem of inequality is very complex and cannot be solved from the outside looking in. Often third world countries have a complete political system which needs to be dismantled. It's like complaining about the spec of dust in someone else's eye without seeing the entire log in ones own. Stories like this are the price we pay for living in our relatively sheltered bubbles. How many of the people disapproving of the Judge's advice know anything about the rich tapestry of Nigerian culture and traditions? I am not saying every Nigerian is affected by the socio-economic issues that arise with poverty (fun fact; Nigeria is the richest country in Africa). But we know domestic violence is common internationally in lower demographics. You can't judge this case by western culture and ideals, the woman is not coming over to a 2nd or 1st world country where her survival is less dependant on customs and traditions, or her ability to bare child (albeit, I have heard that Nigerian culture is fast evolving).
This is funny . Pls what are you saying at the end of your write up ? That domestic violence is not an issue because it’s common in Africa ? Do women die as a result of domestic violence ? Or not many enough have died yet for it to be a concern ? I’m just lost . The judge advising them to take Counseling is ok. She hasn’t forced them to live together that’s wise too . But condoning domestic violence and saying she shouldn’t have called anyone is just wrong please
She noticed that the kitchen is dirty and clean it up.. that's the heart of a real woman..they makes u comfortable even when they are not.. .. I believe this family can still work things out..... together.
Obviously, the lady is most upset about the fact that the gentleman had a child outside of wedlock. The guys seems ok and can make amendments with anger management sections. In my observation, there are too much external family tension going on here especially from the lady side. The lady found her family as where she can get comfort and seem like her family is not helping her with the comfort that she needed rather they are creating unhealthy tension and steering her relationship towards destruction. Usually, when a marriage is lack offspring, that seems to create lots of tension, agitation, insecurities, trust problems... it takes love and understanding to work together in such toxic environments. Lady, my advise for you is to give it another chance, forgive your husband for his mistakes, take the child into your heart and allow the child in your life. Please stop letting your family steer your relationship, its unhealthy for you both and your marriage. I understand that your family loves you but they are not in the best position to help your problem. Man, please make it the last time you will hit your woman, you offended her. Find a way to show her love, give her comfort so that she will not have reason to go back to her family for advise. Wish you guys luck. Lawal.
This judge is very biased. She let the man speak for a very long time, yet any time the woman spoke she cut her off and didn't believe her. I hope she just plays a judge on TV and not real life.
Its obvious that the woman is at fault.......Telling others About martial problem is the first mistake she make....its better u talk to a counselor than friends or family...they will tell u what they feel is best without knowing the real problem
I think the judge is not biased, she did the right thing regardless who is at fault. For me both sides have got their blame, she needs to start keeping her martial issues between her and the husband either current or new one or else she would have the same problem in her new relationship. And the man has some anger issues that needs to be sorted before it becomes deadly. Lastly, marriage or even living with someone is not as easy as people make on the social media, remember your siblings action then think of such things happen in 10 or 20 times, that's marriage, sometime sweet or sometimes bitter. They both need counselling.
@@optimusworld pls stop. If he beats and abuses her emotionally why should she die in silence? She did the right thing. the Nigerian culture promotes women suffering and smiling in marriage. How can a man get another woman pregnant, beat, insult, and mistreat his wife...& the only thing u can mention is tht she should keep it a secret between them. She’s in pain and needs help. Who else can she go to for it but her family? Or should she commit suicide to please u people? Ridiculous. The judge is terrible to tell this woman to reconcile with her abuser.
@@lucybee3361 She listens but this is a civil court , the abuse can only be tried at the criminal court and once the wife chose not to go to the criminal court its obvious they don't want to jail their husband. I don't think its right for the judge to complicate marital issues brought to her for resolution. The law requires the judge to first try and reconcile couples before granting divorce. Divorce is not automatic in Nigeria
Thanks Judge, I admired the way you handle your cases. I hope other Judges will watch your programs and follow suit. Bravo and thanks for the good job.
What do you mean. The judge did the right thing. She supposed to do as a judge. People like you are the reason why. Nigeria can not be good There is always a second or even Third chance in marriage. So stop talking trash
I agree with you. Someone that is sleeping with other women bringing STDs , HIV plus evil spirits from side witches. I don't condone divorce but this lady needs help. I am deeply troubled that all their dirty laundry can be seen by everybody. Let us be realistic, some marriages can't be saved. Titi Arowolo will still be alive today if she had left. No you are not the reason Nigeria is bad.
I agree violence is non negotiable but we need to take into consideration that the couple are no longer staying together and the judge did not ask her to move back, they are to go for marriage counseling and if they still feel it can't work, the judge said the marriage will be dissolved once they come back
This Channel is the best thing to have ever happened to Nigerians. This is what happens in sane climes. Let's learn good manners and behaviors while we unlearn the bad habits !!! Kudos to Judge Funmi Asaolu.
Must a man ask a woman to leave before she knows she is in a bad situation. Please judge go and study more about abuse and Narcissist Personality disorder. You do well with judging on debts and seem so biased on abusive marriages. Thanks.
I understand this judge.God bless her.God doesn't like divorce.the judge does not want this divorce on her hands.I see the woman is in pain but I agree with the judge to give it a go at least once more time.may the two of them find peace with each other
@@hmcdaniels I rebuke this statement in the name of Jesus what makes you think an individual can't change with God all things are possible.this statement is what is wrong with society today.always the negative.I rebuke this statement.they will have a wonderful marriage in the name of Jesus.
@@hmcdaniels I disagree with you, they don't live together again and the judge did not ask them to start living together so how can he hit her? Get your facts right. This is not western world but Nigeria, Nigeria law does not encourage divorce, the law mandates a judge to first reconcile couples and where it fails she can grant divorce. That's what the judge has done. Issue of domestic violence can only be tried at the criminal court and its obvious the wife does not want to send her husband to jail that's why she refused to press charges at criminal court. This judge is smart and highly competent. I advice you to get yourself familiar with Nigeria law
Yeah...Me too after he hits the floor. Men think we can't or won't fight back. Foolishness. Lack of a baby doesn't give him permission to put his hands on her.
On point and good remarks. Don't look back babe. But don't ever insult or disrespect your man because the day you disrespect him is the day he will show you the door.
@ Ozioma O- don't let your emotions cloud your sense of reasoning/judgements. He did not cheat on her for 15 years. That was never said in court not even by the woman! So where did you get your own information from? The child they are talking about is 9 months old and they have been married for 15 years. The man said the reason he went out was because his wife and her family believed he was the one with a problem and he was being insulted because of that. Hence, he tried another woman and she becamepregnant. Whilst l do not condone what the man did l can understand his predicaments. And the insults were not coming from members of his own family but from his own wife and his wife's sister! The woman never once said in court that her husband's family insulted her for not bearing a child for her husband or did she? We need to be careful with comments we post and not to be narrow minded about a situation or go the "gender" way which is typical of most women.
This our judge is doing a double job here. She judge nd try to reconcile marriage but this man did so badly by calling her a barren!!. Aaaaa!!!. It is God that bless the womb not human beings.
August 24th 2019, my husband proposed and agreed to marry me then we both planned for the wedding. Our wedding was to be held on September 27th. We had a little misunderstanding and he left me for another girl. I almost committed suicide. which lead to our break up. I was not myself again, I felt so empty inside me, my love and financial situation became worse, until a close friend of mine told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too his name is Doctor Sandy. I emailed the spell caster and I told him my problem and I did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. Before I knew what was happening, less than two days ago my husband gave me a call and told me that he was coming back to me. I was so happy to have him back to me. The most interesting part of the story is that I am pregnant. Thanks to Doctor Sandy for saving my marriage and for also saving others' own too. Continue your good work, If you are interested to contact the great spell caster email address: dr.sandyspelltemple@gmail.com call WhatsApp Number +2349154145362 Get your problem solved !!!!!
It seems the man is manipulative. He impregnated another lady but not remorseful. The woman is not perfect too. I guess they have a huge age gap. That man should be in his early 50s. Considering our environment, the husband's age when he married, and for him to have waited for 14 years before he misbehaved, it means he truly loves his wife, but some frustrations came in along the line. The wife's family interfered too much. I guess the cause of that was that the woman married him at a tender age and she had to rely so much on her family for guidance.
The judge didn’t mention anything about the man’s infidelity.., let’s turn the table here. What do you think would ve happened if This woman got pregnant for another man during one year of living apart. Please someone drop your opinion.
The man is simply frustrated..woman way no fine still see man way wan help her, she still dey do anyhow. She for go call their village people to cum put mouth for her marriage.
I believe it was a fair judgment. He's been given 6 weeks to revive their vow, while its her chance to see what she saw in him before marriage. It may seem easy when judging with sentiment. She's been through a lot, but I'll advise her to access their entire marriage, both the good times and the bad times, then decide without the influence of her mother and sister.
@Honorable Justice Funmi Asaolu, you are so delectable, lovely, and cerebral. I can confidently say that away from being a Judge, the wisdom you dispense shows how gifted you are in handling disputes. You are all a society needs.
The man is a Terrible LIAR and Narcissist if he wants them to settle why did he call or try to meet her when she left ,why is he abusing her He just want to look like a good person when he is the bad person
Everyone is condemning the judgement....but why? I see the judge to be very diplomatic. This is marriage of 15 years. Na shakara both of them dey make. I can still see love wan te te between them. There are so many things to be considered on what they say. The woman couldn't look at the face of the man, she is looking at the other side and smiling. If it wasn't court she will hug the man and kiss him. She separated from the husband but she ran to the brother of the man, (that means she wants begging) "if you want me to come back home go and beg my mother and my sister" Is that the woman that wants to go? Man, you know best what exactly pleases your omoge, some like cooking with goat meat, some like gifts of Gucci, Versace, Fendi etc or taking them out on holiday.... Where are they going to start from.... at their age? I want to move on with my life ......Na shakara! Her age mates in men already settle with wives anyone that will come to her is not interested in marriage but just want to "exchange oil" as far as Naija is concern......Am sure you get my gist abi?
These couples still love eachother. The woman is hurt, the man is hurt. You could tell love is still there by the way they talk about eachother. This judge is not a home breaker. A chance to make things work is not a bad thing.
Anybody getting beat/hit in a relationship need to leave... Judge Funmi get her butt whooped and still stay with her husband... What the heck did I just watch... I like the realness of how it is. Judge Funmi come into the court room like she ain't got time for no mess.
I think the problem of this man is anger management. The woman also made a mistake of always reporting their case to her family at any slightest issue.
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I don’t understand how you say it’s wrong for a woman to call for help when she’s been beat up
Marriage counsellor is not a bad idea . But honestly a court condoning domestic violence is just a shock !!!!
I am shocked by this ruling. Shocked and disappointed! I was thrilled with previous videos but this is far from ideal
Please, thank you Justice courts. Really enjoy all your episodes.
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i'm not nigerian i'm american of congolese origin but after 20 years outside africa this short gives me a lesson i could never forget. I am 30 years old I am convinced that Nigeria would be a country of law. nigeria counted before the strong and rich men. Today Nigerian women most women are rich, intellectual, intelligent and strong
Merci🙏
She deserves to be happy. I'm glad she found her words and spoke her truth. I'm in prayer for her recovery from this abuse and trauma.
August 24th 2019, my husband proposed and agreed to marry me then we both planned for the wedding. Our wedding was to be held on September 27th. We had a little misunderstanding and he left me for another girl. I almost committed suicide. which lead to our break up. I was not myself again, I felt so empty inside me, my love and financial situation became worse, until a close friend of mine told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too his name is Doctor Sandy. I emailed the spell caster and I told him my problem and I did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. Before I knew what was happening, less than two days ago my husband gave me a call and told me that he was coming back to me. I was so happy to have him back to me. The most interesting part of the story is that I am pregnant. Thanks to Doctor Sandy for saving my marriage and for also saving others' own too. Continue your good work, If you are interested to contact the great spell caster email address: dr.sandyspelltemple@gmail.com
call WhatsApp Number +2349154145362
Get your problem solved !!!!!
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I feel her pain
I just want to give that woman a big hug. Women please be careful who you give your self too...it matters oooooo
Yes oo
She needs it , a lot on her mind
Depression is real
Is not easy jare until someone got into the marriage before one knew
Beat and cheat..give it one more chance. Let the woman bring belly for another man all hell will break loose. I'm not surprised women could be in hell and naija ppl will tell the wife to endure and go back to the husband 😒. Mad ppl everywhere.
Sad. Valid viewpoint
Very disgraceful
I don't get it so he should stay with out a child just because his wife can't or is it because he didn't get himself second wife
@@chibestkingfrancis947 i was also thinking so
True but hilarious 😂
Girl, if leaving this man is what you want to do, go right ahead..life is too short is suffer in a miserable relationship...and the judge seems bias from get...
@honey baby, that lady has moved out of the house and the judge was not telling her to move back.
I share tears 😢 when the woman was crying and I ask God to bless her with one child that she can call her own.
Same thing with me I shared tears for her how can a virgin woman still be facing sure fertility problem,I pray for her to have her own baby soon IJN Amen.
Even me expecially when she said he called her barren woman on the street
Hopefully, not from her husband 🙏🙏
Only a foolish person can't see reason in this judge's verdict. The judge promised to involve marriage counsellors in this case which has never been done before. It's not every argument that one has with the partner warrant parents to be involved
This is best judge I had ever known. Judge Asaolu, you are fulfilling God's mind on earth. May God continually bless you ma.
Madam Judge, it is unacceptable to suggest that the poor woman should not have called for help when she was attacked by the man.
I was saying the same thing..and why she telling her to work it out for 6 weeks kmt 😒 that lady is done and over him 😑
This is ridiculous telling her not to call for help, when she was been abused. Wow what a judge lol
The woman is tired she needs a break..beating abusing her barren.no way. Move on sis
Didn't u listen?
Move to where?
Didn't you listen
Moving on is not the best but marriage canceling
@@spenserspenser1332 move on to cancelling before making any decision
..ik90n
That's right..protect your life not the society stupid opinions.. they will always run their mouth and help nobody.
Lol that man is aggressive and a lair.He will definitely pretend to be good for few days just to win her back then maltreat her again.
Exactly,l don't trust him,he is cunning (simply an abuser)
The man said he is an Urobo man. Which means that is their own way of life aggressive
We no some men’s use to abuse their wife’s but some it always start how the wife behavior or the words she use to insult the man n we are Africans not western world
She better not go back o. Domestic violence is no joke. It's not like dealing with a broke man. Na abuser we dey talk. I'll tell anyone to run
Most patient judge I've seen.
The woman is so eloquent with words.
Gosh!😭
These Nigerian men are never ready for divorce as long as they continue to eat their cake and still have it.
Period.
You are right
We are Africans we are not ppl that marries animals and woods
...so he slapped her and the judge said it was wrong to call her sister's husband?? Wrong how? He's a man and can protect her from her husband of she needs it
Tell me o. That judge is biased
Because in marriage three is a crowd
@@kennethchukwukadibie7828 what about in death? Everyone will then blame her if something goes wrong and someone gets hurt.
As in, I was so confused by that. Here is someone feeling threatened and unsafe and you say she shouldn't have called someone? What is in this marriage that people are always hiding inside sef, covering up so many nonsense all in the name of "no third party"? Until somebody dies and they begin to say "why didn't she/he speak out earlier'?
Thank you! I thought i was the only one that heard that! Incredulous! Someone feels threatened and calls her family and the judge says that was a wrong move??? Not happy with that phrase from her
Wait! Did the judge just say it’s a wrong move for her to call her family after she got slapped??? Please what’s really going on here?
I sincerely do not agree with this judgment! Give another chance for what now 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
Ikr. It was absolutely the right thing to do. Let him try and slap a man. I don’t know what this judge was thinking in this case. Just wrong on so many levels.
I got so pissed when she said that. This lady told you that she made a distress call and you telling she shouldn’t have. Jezzz
@@onyinyeodiaka3168 a lot of things are just messed up..We cant even look up to women for support
Same to me
please dear, the judge is so right in her judgement
I am so disappointed with this episode and how the Judge handled the situation. The Judge needs to educate on domestic violence. I feel she should have been strict with the husband about him even slapping but she wasn’t. She needs more experience
Thanks a lot, me too
I agree with you.
She said she should not have called her sisters husband when the man slapped her😨...absolutely disgusting!
The judges decision was to protect her. If wife insist on divorce and the husbande does not want, he will kill her and the judge knows this. It happens a lot in America. Divorce initiated by wife means the wife will soon die.
@@sophiao5855 I don’t think that was the case. Cause they have been separated and living apart for a while and she came to court to make it official. Even if that was the case, she should have condemned the violence which she didn’t.
Why are u forcing her to marry dis man
Allow d lady to go and have peace
Do you want to marry her? There is no perfect marriage. Be reasonable
When a woman is fed up, she’s fedup. Why insist that she goes back to her abuser. This Judge should only do small claim cases not divorce cos she’s not equipped for it.
Exactly..I saw another case where the man beat the wife frequently and she said the womsn still loved him and she should give him another chance. The wife wanted to go. She is not equipped to oversee marital issues at all.
You are ignorant and know nothing about marriage. Do you know the consequences of divorce especially in the HOLY Scriptures? You people proclaimed Christianity without knowing the rudiments.
That is why you should always know GOD'S mind before jumping into marriages hence, you can not endure abuse in marriage.
@@oluwagbengaayanmakinwa2950 ah! This fanatics have come again. Come and carry yourself away from here.
@@oluwagbengaayanmakinwa2950 yeah right. As if you know God’s mind.
Words hurt, I can relate with that, very aggressive man.
Pls cHange ur ways if u can relate to this violent dangerous man
You don't know how much words the woman has told the man. Stop and rethink
god please give this women just one kid
Amen 🙏🏾
Amen!!!!!
Amen 🙏
Amen 🙏🏾
Give her a child with her next husband.
She needs to be free from the trapped marriage
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Poor judgment on the judge's part. Shame on you judge. No man should lay his hands on a woman. Please move on with your life and find your peace.
Shame on you @Naturalbeauty for the nonsense you wrote here. The man and woman are separated already, the judge did not say they should get back together. The Judge only advised them to seek help from marriage professional to which both man and woman agreed. Judge also told them that after counselling they should come back if their position on divorce does not change. What is wrong in that? Which other court in the world grants divorce within an hour you show up in court without understanding the problem and making initial attempt to fix the problem?
For every action their vis an action
The judge did a good job 😂
Shame on you that is still growing and dont want to learn that there is what we call dispute resolution also , shame on you, that you dont have an opened mind....
Next time, watch your utterance
@@patiencebello5552 shame on you that you took the time to type this rubbish. I think you should go find a life and maybe a job so you have something to do other than typing nonsense. I said what I said.
When someone says they had enough listen, bad judgment. Period you do not force people.
at camille...show me where she forced her?atlist you can hear when she said she did not force her.
Both of them must be willing to go their separate ways before the court will granted the divorcement, go and learn about civils law.....
Thank God you're not a judge. You're too emotional. You think it's easy for such a woman judge who probaby had endured a lot to get to were she is in life including her own marriage to grant such request? So the one month grace and training which may make these couple rediscover their weaknesses is not enough?
Why did the judge choose to play psychologist instead of enforcing the law?
This case broke my heart, this man will not change.
Judges don't enforce laws. They only interpret laws n pass judgments
@@CLEFFJOE - Well, she interpreted the law poorly in this case.
@@MrOu83 I am sure you are not familiar with Nigeria law and legal procedure on marital issue, if you did, you will admire the Judge in this case.
This is a civil court not a criminal court. She can move to Criminal court to report the part of violence.
@@patiencebello5552 this judge in this case was unprofessional.... She has every right to call whoever she wants if someone hits her.. She should have called the police and put him in jail. Should we wait till she's in hospital before she speaks out....
I'm watching from Dubai, so amazed by the judge's wisdom. I hail you ma'am. I would like to seek your counsel on something about marriage.
Lol..you woman back home don dey give you peper ni
D judge did a fantastic job
Wehdone ma'am💯
Dey shud see a counselor if afta 6weeks nd d story remains d same den she cn dissolved d union
Fantastic job judge❤💯
I felt that “Am tired!!!” 😭😢 There’s no reason for her to stay
Her husband baby is hers also
I pray this brave woman leave the house and go. But why go out and get a woman pregnant?
@@bernedettekuteyi3843 did you hear what the man said, that his wife and her family believe that he is the one with problems. Hence, no pregnancy. She was wrong and the Judge pointed it out that the woman was wrong going to inform her family about everything in their marriage.
@@fatimamusa9398 l understand your point, but many women don't see it that way.
@@oluakinwale4859. My problem with our people, they tend to go out and tell people their business. Even if some advice may be good or bad, places I wouldn't go to is Church, family and social media.
God bless Judge Funmi, I'm enjoying your judgments. Thank you for uplifting the image of the Nigerian judiciary.
Adultery with a child outside his marriage, physical and emotional abuse, neglect..... yet the woman has to endure against her wish. Please your honour ma, do better next time
I dont think the judge said the wrong thing here my dear. The decision is very right.
Before anything else these two people once loved eachother. Judge Funmi didnt say they should live together so put any chance for violence away and think objectively. This is marriage not courtship. I am amazed at the judge's counselling and solution to help it work again before striking her final decision. Very inspiring for aspiring judges.
@@fabier2404 on point!!!
Exactly I don’t know why she’s encouraging this toxicity to be frank her response to DV is quite alarming
@@fabier2404 If she moves back in his bad behavior would likely continue because he never took accountability and probably doesn't feel like what he did is wrong.
That’s why therapy for anger management was recommended 🙏
The only counseling the husband need is to spend time in jail for assaulting her. The guy is a complete jerk. Separation is best; he could end up killing her. I felt so bad for her.
The Husband seem to be a Police Officer.. Judge is also worried about her judgement that might get the man dismissed and therefore forfeit his gratuity. It's tough getting a divorce in Nigeria without exhausting all options
@@donaldekpo1817 You are right; there are many things to consider thanks for your insight.
I agree 100% with your opinion.
There was no physics abuse...
@ Lurman Nesbary - l agree with you to an extent. But that's the reason the Judge is a "Judge" they look at the circumstances of the situation and the likelihood of it happening again. And the result she advised "Anger Management" classes to help the man. Can you put your hands on your chest and say you have never created (it does not have to be physical) out of anger or frustration or attempted to?
Jesus said in the Bible and l quote " if anyone of you have never sinned before be the first person to "cast" or throw the stone". He was referring to the lady that the Israelite wanted to Stone to death for committing an act of "adultery".
I rest my case.
This judge practically agrees with domestic violence.... She has every right to call her family if he hits her... She should have called the police and locked him up... You never hit anyone
My take too
What if she keeps quiet and die in the process, the man will just cover up and move on
Yes it's true.....will you wait for him to kill you before you call your family?!
She’s using African method
OMG true!!
yes! and she's always talking about couples counselling
Very unfortunate episode! I grief in my heart for the pain this woman pass through.. I imagine her as my sister and I am pained! Especially the barrenness part? Omg😭😭😭 I wept! She deserved to be happy, am not saying the man can't make her happy again but I need to see accountability and a remorseful attitudes from him knowing he hurts the one he loves! And please Madam, if it's true that ur family are unnecessarily interfering in your marriage, please give that a good check! I love to see a smile on your face okay? You deserve it...
Exactly she is so pained, showing all over her … I hope she won’t end up depressed may God heal her broken heart
For some people that think the judge is biased, she did the right thing regardless who is at fault. For me both sides have got their blame, she needs to start keeping her martial issues between her and the husband either current or new one or else she would have the same problem in her new relationship. And the man has some anger issues that needs to be sorted before it becomes deadly. Lastly, marriage or even living with someone is not as easy as people make on the social media, remember your siblings action then think of such things happen in 10 or 20 times, that's marriage, sometime sweet or sometimes bitter. They both need counselling.
@@4c_Hijabi First, I'm not in the position to judge who made the wrong decision first,what am saying is both sides have made serious mistakes and the judge don't seems to be biased. Understand this if you don't know, marriage is not a game of hurt me I hurt you in return, marriage is meant to be filled of good memories. If your wife, husband or partner hurt you, you don't have to take to revenge to score point, best solution is sort the situation or bow out peacefully. In this life we are not meant to make things difficult for each other.
Keeping issues to yourself doesn't work all the time, that's a wrong advice given to women. Everytime women still get blamed keep quiet or talk is the same outcome.
She did the right thing, she is intelligent I love hee
Very true 💯
Well said
Mom judge...... u are a gud listener. I really appreciate u patience n understanding. May u never lack gud tins in life
I could feel her pain when she said, 'it was a distress call'. Judge, you are dismissing the FEAR that comes with abuse, saying, she made a mistake by calling. This is when people end up dead by not telling someone. I am disappointed in you today, you are a sensible judge and do not take kindly to domestic violence.
@Nomvula Nkoro What if the man in question had committed suicide due to depression from the much abuses from the woman's family? Judge from that angle too please.
This judge has divine wisdom, she can easily dissolve the marriage if she followed the laws and rights but she gave them one last chance because any decision made in angry mood comes with regretting at last.
Judge Funmi your wisdom is like that of king Solomon in the Bible
I genuinely feel bad for the woman. She's in tears, literally begging to be freed from her physically and emotionally abusive, cheating husband but is literally being forced to reconcile her "marriage" with counseling. Sad!
That man is a liar,the judge is a wolf in sheep clothing, she the judge dosend like women, the only thing left for her to say to the man is to go home and finish her off, the lady needs to get out
The husband has moved on and impregnated another woman, there physically abuse and the wife is begging for divorce, why is the court recommending couple counseling?
Why is she even still begging,I didn’t need anyone to tell me when I was going through my trauma even with a daughter,my ex husband’s people were pouring fuel into the fire n it was a life n death matter I just left one day with my daughter,that’s how they keep professing love to you n still stick a knife to your heart without looking back
Wow women are really something else.
She wasn't forced and she did not ask them to stay together.
Honestly I was watch American 🇺🇸 court. I don’t have any idea Nigeria have their own. I am so happy 😁 .
*SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE*
Mr Man, you have no excuse!
When your spouse hits you once, please run and don't look back.
*LEAVE TO LIVE*
Life has no duplicate
Hmmm. Bad Advicer
That's y we have many divorces in Nigeria
People can't manage their home very well
@@amaechikingzo8367 good adviser, watch your daughters beaten to death by their husbands since your idea of managing your home is pummeling your wife/wives.
This comment is just useless. I believe you will find sense as you walk through life
Nobody is going to be beaten much less to death with this judgment, they are living apart already, she knows him inside out, she claimed to have known him as an angry man before marrying him, he has beaten her three times in fifteen years which I condemn but he may be able to improve on himself after the marriage counseling, they are adults, the judge left the line open to grant a divorce if the marriage counseling has no positive influence. Good judgment
@@debbiebalogun8803 The wife admitted her husband slapped her 3 times in 15 years. Is that what you referred to as beaten to death? I am sure you have been slapped more than 3 times in 15 years and you are here advising wives to run out of their marriages. Nobody encourages domestic violence but encourage people to seek help to manage their differences.
Today is my first day to come across this channel and I love it
🙄🙄🙄 Don't mind me!! Am rolling my eyes.. These men never run out of excuses!!!
Hello everyone, I started following the cases n I find it interesting..please I what to know if all these cases are true ??
I love the Nigerian court show that I found on youtube..I only watch the American ones..but I like this Judge..she is very fair and firm.
I don't know if you edited other parts but I feel like in this episode you didn't hear her side of the story
This judge does not take domestic violence seriously. This is dangerous.
What causes violenc is also dangerous than the violence she should work on her self someone should advance that woman to put happyness on herself so child will come people like that always get angry out of nothing may God bless her Amen
I agree with you....I think her 'Africanness' overshadow her position some times.
In my opinion, this woman is in serious pains...she obviously is not as expressive as the man and the man somehow swayed the honourable Judge to his side.
Women suffer so much and do not have words to explain the situation most times...we just cry and cry and hurt...a fellow woman should know...but then The Judge is the expert , what can I say?...'Equity haaan
This is not a criminal court its a civil court and besides these people want the judge to resolve issues not send their spouse to prison, i f they want to send them to prison, they will go to criminal court
@@Blessing.O.A Nigeria law mandates the judge to first reconcile couples before granting divorce which is what the Judge has done. Its the first step towards divorce in Nigeria. Secondly the couple are not living together so no one is endangered, thirdly on the issue of violence, this can only be tried at the criminal court. The wife is obviously not ready to jail her husband she would have gone to the criminal court, the Judge is smart to see through this. The judge can only grant what is sought for. The judge told her to come back after six weeks for divorce if things does not change, that's what the law mandates her to do
@@bankiex7129 what universe are you operating that you would think a battered woman , who’s fed up and stated she’s is done with her relationship, would want the judge to simply resolve her issues with her abusive husband and sending her back to him?
Those of you blaming the Judge need to understand how the Nigerian court system works in marital situations. Judges are always reluctant to pass a divorce judgment even when it's obvious. It would help if you find out how much it costs in Nigeria to process a divorce. The idea is to discourage couples and find common ground to make the relationship work.
Eeeish thank God I'm not Nigerian. The judges force you to remain married to a wife batterer.........the man sounds VERY angry and this teeth kissing is very rude. They can't go back to same place......after she got pregnant he even refused her and yet he impregnated a concubine and believed it was his? He is evil....
Then there should be a change. A living single woman is better than a dead married woman.
Mt goodness what is this?? Their cup runneth over!
If you listen to both parties, whenever they have issues, the wife involved her relatives to come in, but the man has never involved a third party when they have issued. We should learn not to involve a third party in our marital affairs.
The guy is a good story teller 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👏🏾
😂
She push me, I now slap her 😅
She is a wise Judge because the woman still love her husband and the judge caught that.
The woman is tired. He treats her appallingly
😁😁"when she got that slap"
I really feel for this lady. May God bless her with the fruit of the womb.
Justice court ever since i came across this channel OMG,iam learning more about law,thanks so much for this good teaching channel its really good work u give us❤❤🎉🎉🎉
The judge is so beautiful. I love her smile and gentle style of listening to the parties
This judge needs to change her old fashion way of thinking..... abuse should not be tolerated.
This judge is soo pro-marriage, she will encourage women to suffer in a marriage.
Do you understand the consequences of divorce especially in the HOLY Scriptures? You are just ignorant.
@@oluwagbengaayanmakinwa2950 Scripture says that a husband should love his wife as Christ loves the Church, this man has physically and emotionally abused his wife. God does not bless this behavior. Scripture also says that divorce is permissible in cases of adultery. Once again, this man has given his wife permission to leave the marriage. If you are going to talk about the word of God, know what He said on the subject.
Exactly!! I dont think she gave a fair judgement this time! Poor lady. I hope Olufunke gets pregnant and stays away from that wife beater!
@@YT4Me57
Divorce is permissible in the case of adultery but they are rules also to that effect. They must remained unmarried except one of them is dead. So, to this effect you must understand that if he or she remarries another, he or she commits adultery. And if you sleep with another, it is also a sin. But the scriptures said, love is the greatest commandment: thus we must forgive to be forgiven. If GOD forgives our trespasses, why not forgive those who wronged you too so that you can also be forgiven your trespasses? GOD is faithful even when we gave him every reason to turn HIS back on us. Like the scriptures said, For GOD so love the world that he gave HIS Son as a propitiation for our sakes. As it is also written: But GOD commended HIS love towards us while we were yet sinners not when we were perfect.
The conditions mean that, GOD is not interested in divorce but reconciliation and forgiveness which leads to perfection. What if that temptation is what you need to overcome to make heaven? Will you allow your wife or husband to make you loose heaven because of egotism and worldly wisdom?
These childless women must rejoice, because mother nowadays are having a rough time with these children
True ooo my sister
That doesn't mean anything, having a child is a joy no One should be rejoicing for not having a child.
I can't believe the judges comments. Is she ok?
Seeing this woman's story is so beautiful and her stoic demeanour brought tears to my eyes. While I was relieved to see that humanity still exists in the comments I also felt a touch saddened by the multitude of criticism of the Judge's advice. Everyone is looking for someone to blame, when I think the problem of inequality is very complex and cannot be solved from the outside looking in. Often third world countries have a complete political system which needs to be dismantled. It's like complaining about the spec of dust in someone else's eye without seeing the entire log in ones own. Stories like this are the price we pay for living in our relatively sheltered bubbles. How many of the people disapproving of the Judge's advice know anything about the rich tapestry of Nigerian culture and traditions? I am not saying every Nigerian is affected by the socio-economic issues that arise with poverty (fun fact; Nigeria is the richest country in Africa). But we know domestic violence is common internationally in lower demographics. You can't judge this case by western culture and ideals, the woman is not coming over to a 2nd or 1st world country where her survival is less dependant on customs and traditions, or her ability to bare child (albeit, I have heard that Nigerian culture is fast evolving).
This is funny . Pls what are you saying at the end of your write up ? That domestic violence is not an issue because it’s common in Africa ? Do women die as a result of domestic violence ? Or not many enough have died yet for it to be a concern ? I’m just lost . The judge advising them to take Counseling is ok. She hasn’t forced them to live together that’s wise too . But condoning domestic violence and saying she shouldn’t have called anyone is just wrong please
Are you saying since its Africa women should just tolerate domestic violence??
Married women without children goes through alot
Wow a new court show from another country
She noticed that the kitchen is dirty and clean it up.. that's the heart of a real woman..they makes u comfortable even when they are not.. ..
I believe this family can still work things out..... together.
First time of seeing this channel.
I’m really proud of Nigerians
Obviously, the lady is most upset about the fact that the gentleman had a child outside of wedlock. The guys seems ok and can make amendments with anger management sections. In my observation, there are too much external family tension going on here especially from the lady side. The lady found her family as where she can get comfort and seem like her family is not helping her with the comfort that she needed rather they are creating unhealthy tension and steering her relationship towards destruction. Usually, when a marriage is lack offspring, that seems to create lots of tension, agitation, insecurities, trust problems... it takes love and understanding to work together in such toxic environments. Lady, my advise for you is to give it another chance, forgive your husband for his mistakes, take the child into your heart and allow the child in your life. Please stop letting your family steer your relationship, its unhealthy for you both and your marriage. I understand that your family loves you but they are not in the best position to help your problem. Man, please make it the last time you will hit your woman, you offended her. Find a way to show her love, give her comfort so that she will not have reason to go back to her family for advise. Wish you guys luck.
Lawal.
This judge is very biased. She let the man speak for a very long time, yet any time the woman spoke she cut her off and didn't believe her. I hope she just plays a judge on TV and not real life.
Typical Nigerian in power
@@houston10 I wonder if she would give her daughter the same advice 🤔
Its obvious that the woman is at fault.......Telling others About martial problem is the first mistake she make....its better u talk to a counselor than friends or family...they will tell u what they feel is best without knowing the real problem
I think the judge is not biased, she did the right thing regardless who is at fault. For me both sides have got their blame, she needs to start keeping her martial issues between her and the husband either current or new one or else she would have the same problem in her new relationship. And the man has some anger issues that needs to be sorted before it becomes deadly. Lastly, marriage or even living with someone is not as easy as people make on the social media, remember your siblings action then think of such things happen in 10 or 20 times, that's marriage, sometime sweet or sometimes bitter. They both need counselling.
@@optimusworld pls stop. If he beats and abuses her emotionally why should she die in silence? She did the right thing. the Nigerian culture promotes women suffering and smiling in marriage. How can a man get another woman pregnant, beat, insult, and mistreat his wife...& the only thing u can mention is tht she should keep it a secret between them. She’s in pain and needs help. Who else can she go to for it but her family? Or should she commit suicide to please u people? Ridiculous. The judge is terrible to tell this woman to reconcile with her abuser.
This poor woman is traumatized. The judge never acknowledged the effects on her.
I like the judge but she needs to listen when women talk of abuse.
@@lucybee3361 She listens but this is a civil court , the abuse can only be tried at the criminal court and once the wife chose not to go to the criminal court its obvious they don't want to jail their husband. I don't think its right for the judge to complicate marital issues brought to her for resolution. The law requires the judge to first try and reconcile couples before granting divorce. Divorce is not automatic in Nigeria
Very true. Nigerians underestimate the effect of trauma.
Thanks Judge, I admired the way you handle your cases. I hope other Judges will watch your programs and follow suit. Bravo and thanks for the good job.
First time I've disagreed with the judgement. Violence is non-negotiable!
What do you mean. The judge did the right thing. She supposed to do as a judge. People like you are the reason why. Nigeria can not be good
There is always a second or even Third chance in marriage. So stop talking trash
@@amaechikingzo8367
You must beat on your spouse too 😒
I agree with you. Someone that is sleeping with other women bringing STDs , HIV plus evil spirits from side witches. I don't condone divorce but this lady needs help. I am deeply troubled that all their dirty laundry can be seen by everybody. Let us be realistic, some marriages can't be saved. Titi Arowolo will still be alive today if she had left. No you are not the reason Nigeria is bad.
@@amaechikingzo8367 give me a second and third chance to knock your head.
I agree violence is non negotiable but we need to take into consideration that the couple are no longer staying together and the judge did not ask her to move back, they are to go for marriage counseling and if they still feel it can't work, the judge said the marriage will be dissolved once they come back
"I know him as an angry man" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. This man is indeed an angry man 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
The judge is full of wisdom
God bless her
Set her free,he has a baby now and wants to rule over her ,he’s a bragger and makes her miserable.
Dang, how long is she going to let him talk?
Ikr 🤣😂
Smh for real
How did this come on my list to watch 😂. This is as good as watching original Naija movie.
This Channel is the best thing to have ever happened to Nigerians. This is what happens in sane climes.
Let's learn good manners and behaviors while we unlearn the bad habits !!!
Kudos to Judge Funmi Asaolu.
Only a woman knows when she's had enough. Please listen to her
story's ,are you trying to say ,we don't have abusive women ,or narcissistic women or wat ....or women are now Saint ?
@@knix9014 However you want to interpret it is okay with me dude. Pick your battles 🤨🤗🤔
@@knix9014 You are a wise guy bro
Must a man ask a woman to leave before she knows she is in a bad situation. Please judge go and study more about abuse and Narcissist Personality disorder. You do well with judging on debts and seem so biased on abusive marriages. Thanks.
Men don’t know too right ? Ewu
This is the first time, lam seeing this show. Judge Funmi you’re incredible, l love your program. Welldone Ma
I understand this judge.God bless her.God doesn't like divorce.the judge does not want this divorce on her hands.I see the woman is in pain but I agree with the judge to give it a go at least once more time.may the two of them find peace with each other
HELL TO THE NAW! 1 MORE CHANCE FOR HIM TO HIT HER AND POSSIBLY KILL HER! WHAT WILL THE JUDGE SAY THEN......
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@@hmcdaniels I rebuke this statement in the name of Jesus what makes you think an individual can't change with God all things are possible.this statement is what is wrong with society today.always the negative.I rebuke this statement.they will have a wonderful marriage in the name of Jesus.
@@hmcdaniels I disagree with you, they don't live together again and the judge did not ask them to start living together so how can he hit her? Get your facts right. This is not western world but Nigeria, Nigeria law does not encourage divorce, the law mandates a judge to first reconcile couples and where it fails she can grant divorce. That's what the judge has done. Issue of domestic violence can only be tried at the criminal court and its obvious the wife does not want to send her husband to jail that's why she refused to press charges at criminal court. This judge is smart and highly competent. I advice you to get yourself familiar with Nigeria law
@@bankiex7129So very sorry the marriage didn't last. Peace & blessings❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Judge Funmi the wisest lawyer ever. God bless you and all your loved ones forever and ever.
This judge is a bit too eager to defend these nonsense men. The day a man raises his hand to me is the day I’m out the door.✌🏾
Yeah...Me too after he hits the floor. Men think we can't or won't fight back. Foolishness. Lack of a baby doesn't give him permission to put his hands on her.
Personal
On point and good remarks. Don't look back babe. But don't ever insult or disrespect your man because the day you disrespect him is the day he will show you the door.
@@patiencebello5552 The man insulted/disrespected himself by getting someone else pregnant.
Just Re-read your comments again and again and listen 👂 to yourself
Girl, move on!! You will have baby with another man o. Please!
No accountability!! He blamed everything on her and the in-laws even though he cheated and hit her. 15 years of torture?! Never!
@ Ozioma O- don't let your emotions cloud your sense of reasoning/judgements. He did not cheat on her for 15 years. That was never said in court not even by the woman! So where did you get your own information from? The child they are talking about is 9 months old and they have been married for 15 years. The man said the reason he went out was because his wife and her family believed he was the one with a problem and he was being insulted because of that. Hence, he tried another woman and she becamepregnant. Whilst l do not condone what the man did l can understand his predicaments. And the insults were not coming from members of his own family but from his own wife and his wife's sister! The woman never once said in court that her husband's family insulted her for not bearing a child for her husband or did she? We need to be careful with comments we post and not to be narrow minded about a situation or go the "gender" way which is typical of most women.
Very blind comment
If you check Ozioma well, she never marry o. Or she don scatter her own marriage, or her husband is living in hell with her.
@@oluakinwale4859 perfectly said
So these one done comment like these ooo
That lady deserves instant divorce
She have been abused in so many different ways n that man is so angry 😡
Poor lady. That judge is only prolonging her agony.
This our judge is doing a double job here. She judge nd try to reconcile marriage but this man did so badly by calling her a barren!!. Aaaaa!!!. It is God that bless the womb not human beings.
This judge is crazy he don't want her hasn't made any effort to get her back.
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God blessed u this judge 👩⚖️ more blessings on you
this judge is going to "one more chance" somebodys daughter to an early grave. every time counselling in the face of domestic violence
that is the law madam do you want her to lose are profession. please research before making conclusion
Thanks so much anuty funmi you are such an amazing justice ⚖ ❤
It seems the man is manipulative. He impregnated another lady but not remorseful. The woman is not perfect too. I guess they have a huge age gap. That man should be in his early 50s. Considering our environment, the husband's age when he married, and for him to have waited for 14 years before he misbehaved, it means he truly loves his wife, but some frustrations came in along the line. The wife's family interfered too much. I guess the cause of that was that the woman married him at a tender age and she had to rely so much on her family for guidance.
Quality analysis right there
The judge didn’t mention anything about the man’s infidelity.., let’s turn the table here. What do you think would ve happened if This woman got pregnant for another man during one year of living apart. Please someone drop your opinion.
They both love each other but have also both wronged each other however I think the lady needs to go to start afresh
The man looks so rude
The man is simply frustrated..woman way no fine still see man way wan help her, she still dey do anyhow. She for go call their village people to cum put mouth for her marriage.
How is he rude? That is south south for you. That is a frustrated man.
He is not rude, as a matter of fact he is well mannered.
Typical warri man!(wears bullet proof vest😷)
Expressive man is not equal rude bro
I believe it was a fair judgment. He's been given 6 weeks to revive their vow, while its her chance to see what she saw in him before marriage. It may seem easy when judging with sentiment. She's been through a lot, but I'll advise her to access their entire marriage, both the good times and the bad times, then decide without the influence of her mother and sister.
This judge is a pastor too.... Excellent judgement!
I love this Judge. She is a mother indeed.
When a woman is feed up!
Nothing you can do to change her mind🤦♀️
Her "Am Tired" is a whole lot🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I'm tired because somebody have had a child for the man...
If I were to be a rich man, I would've buy judge Funmi a private Jet. How I wish all Nigerian Judges are like you ma
Yes, you need a court for divorce. But you don't need a court for separation..Get out if you are in danger...period.
Marriage no be by force.
No to domestic violence. The lady loves you so much but you betrayed her.
But is not easy most men can not bear but my prayer God should bless that woman
@@fumbaby322 not easy. Hitting is not the way.
@Honorable Justice Funmi Asaolu, you are so delectable, lovely, and cerebral. I can confidently say that away from being a Judge, the wisdom you dispense shows how gifted you are in handling disputes. You are all a society needs.
May God bless this Judge with more wisdom. I doff my cap for you ma'am.
The man is a Terrible LIAR and Narcissist if he wants them to settle why did he call or try to meet her when she left ,why is he abusing her He just want to look like a good person when he is the bad person
Everyone is condemning the judgement....but why? I see the judge to be very diplomatic. This is marriage of 15 years. Na shakara both of them dey make. I can still see love wan te te between them. There are so many things to be considered on what they say. The woman couldn't look at the face of the man, she is looking at the other side and smiling. If it wasn't court she will hug the man and kiss him. She separated from the husband but she ran to the brother of the man, (that means she wants begging) "if you want me to come back home go and beg my mother and my sister" Is that the woman that wants to go? Man, you know best what exactly pleases your omoge, some like cooking with goat meat, some like gifts of Gucci, Versace, Fendi etc or taking them out on holiday.... Where are they going to start from.... at their age? I want to move on with my life ......Na shakara! Her age mates in men already settle with wives anyone that will come to her is not interested in marriage but just want to "exchange oil" as far as Naija is concern......Am sure you get my gist abi?
These couples still love eachother. The woman is hurt, the man is hurt. You could tell love is still there by the way they talk about eachother. This judge is not a home breaker. A chance to make things work is not a bad thing.
Anybody getting beat/hit in a relationship need to leave... Judge Funmi get her butt whooped and still stay with her husband... What the heck did I just watch... I like the realness of how it is. Judge Funmi come into the court room like she ain't got time for no mess.
I think the judge wants to make sure the lady is sure of what she wanted
THEN LET THE WOMAN DIVORCE HIM IF THE HUSBAND CANNOT DIVORCE HER. COZ THEY WILL KILL EACH OTHER IF SOMEONE WILL BE FORCED
Can we talk about how cute it was that the man blushed when saying she cleaned my kitchen😂🙌
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He's an animal
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Mtcheeeew
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I think the problem of this man is anger management. The woman also made a mistake of always reporting their case to her family at any slightest issue.