How to Navigate A Narcissist (If You Can't Leave Them)
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- Опубликовано: 8 июн 2024
- Dealing with a narcissist can be incredibly challenging, especially if you can't leave them. In today’s video, we’ll explore how to navigate a narcissist and maintain your sanity. Whether it’s a partner, family member, or colleague, understanding how to cope with their behavior is crucial.
We’ll share practical strategies for managing interactions with a narcissist, setting boundaries, and protecting your mental health. Learn how to recognize their tactics and respond in ways that reduce conflict and preserve your well-being.
Disclaimer: This video is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. If you know someone struggling with a narcissist disorder or if you are struggling with your relationship with them or are in an abusive situation, we highly advise you to seek help from a qualified mental health professional.
#narcissist #npd
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congratulation on 12M subs!!
We did it altogether! :D
@@Psych2go congratulations on 12 millions subs
@@Psych2goThank you so much for your fabulous content. I have found it genuinely helpful. Recovering after being married to a covert narcissist for 23 years and being subjected to psychological domestic violence for 15 years. So much happier being alone and being me ❤
@@Psych2goCould you Please do a video on showing the difference between a narcissist ( in childhood symptoms ) and a child who has a overly ambitious dream to work had to achieve a glamorous goal ( such as be the best singer in the world Or country's leader ~ two ambitions I'm guilty of having as a kid ) .
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@@Friendship1nmillion uhm being best singer need nice voice but we can become country's leader you may support him if he want to be that (depends on country)
Sometimes I overthink im a narcissist and I call myself an asshole🗿
Yeah I feel that man 😭
Maybe you are
If it makes you feel better, I'd be more than happy to call you an @@@hole lol 😆😆😆
yea but some narcissistic people dont even realise that they are and that’s the worst
Atleast you figured yourself out (:
Keeping your cool is often the hardest part lol. My mom’s the biggest narcissist, it’s EXHAUSTING. She gaslit me my whole childhood and it took me a half- decade long depressive episode to start from rock bottom again. I can assure u they never change, so don’t waste your time with them. Keep your distance as much as u can, and spend time with other people who get you. If you’re in a similar situation, we can get through this!
I won’t even give them the time of day it’s not worth it
I need to hear this more since I keep trying to help, and I keep thinking she has changed when she never has and she always ends up gaslighting, guilt-tripping and stonewalling me when I naively try to have a grown up dialogue about our issues 🫠. It’s just who they are, it’s incomprehensible but it’s just who they are.
I’m so afraid that I’ll become like her. Been abused all my life by my narcissistic mother, always playing cool around my other family members about my mom bc i don’t wanna enrage her. Constantly walking on eggshells around her, getting into relationships too quickly just bc i secretly hoped I’d be married and living in another place far away from her. Nothing I ever do is enough, I have chronic illnesses that prevent me from working full time which means she is my only support. 22 years of this abuse and I’m so tired of it. I don’t know how or what I can do to escape her. Tried to k.m.s multiple times bc she makes me think my life is worthless and that im a mistake. Never taught me how to be a woman so now im like a child in a woman’s body. Everyone is getting married, graduating college while I’m just trying to survive. I don’t know how much longer I can take this. I just wish I had a mom
Three decades on, I’m just too burnt out to keep trying to forge my own path… 😓
(There’s no safety net outside the parental unit, and the damage to my personal life is too extensive, that it’s gonna take a miracle to even have a window to try again… 👤)
@@Raphael25_29Your feelings are valid and you are worthy of a happy, healthy life. I hope you can escape this darkness and find unconditional love. Speaking of unconditional love, pets are a scientifically prove to reduce cortisol (stress hormone) by simply petting our furry friends. If you do not own a pet, maybe visit a friend and their furry four-legged love bug? I wish you all the love and happiness. We can do it!
How to Navigate a Narcissist: Don't.
When possible, go no/low contact or gray/yellow rock with them.
I went no contact with my narc parents almost 2 years ago and it's the best thing I've ever done for my health and my family's safety. It was heartwrenching and necessary.
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You're so right
Timestamp!
-0:28 Compliment the narcissist sincerely
-1:04 Dont owe them favours
-1:40 Keep your cool
-2:20 Be on their side
-2:49 Ask them about their dreams
Just walk alway. You don't have to walk in eggshells just to keep someone happy.
@@geserdasilva3815are you telling me that because you are the one who wants to make timestamps?
if you don't like what I'm doing just don't tell me that and ignore me😊
"how to navigate someone with a narcissistic personality disorder?"
LEAVE!
kind regards,
a survivor of parental narcisstic abuse
(update: everyone has some degree of narcissism and there is something called "healthy narcissism" = self-love. But unhealthy narcissism also known as narc personality is not curable and can't be changed. That's the difference. You can be narc and grow into being more emphathetic and thinking of others too. It's a balance.=
As somebody who is currently living with a narcissistic mother who also happens to be cripplingly bipolar, a former alcoholic, and manifestly sexist, while I also have to do most of the heavy lifting when it comes to taking care of my three younger siblings (one of which has ADHD that my mom does not understand how to handle), I can safely say that your sentiment is 100% correct.
Narcissists are draining, unsympathetic people, and are-regardless of circumstance-to be avoided as much as possible.
giveing someone up is a daft choice ... is beaing a narci an excuse for you to not help someone grow ?
@@BeelzeKid It's true that every situation is different and that the nuance needs to be respected. I think it's important to recognize that staying with a narcissist most often means giving up on someone: yourself. In these situations there can be a fine line between compassionate self-sacrifice and allowing oneself to be abused.
@lantern9817, wow, must have been through a lot
I hope you find happiness
If narcissists had a "Greatest Hits" album, these would be the top tracks:
1. "Can You Do Me a Favor (Involving Money)?"
2. "Do It For Me."
3. "Do It Now."
4. Silent Treatment
5. "You Never Loved Me."
6. Gaslighting
7. Catfishing
8. Deflecting
9. Dishonesty
10. Playing the Victim
Do this if the narcissistic person is someone you can't avoid (like a family member) if not you are not forced to stay by♡
So refreshing to see a video without a pointless intro that just goes directly into the content.
Personally, I would prefer not to have any type of relationship with a narcissist, but these tips are very useful if you have to interact with one.
Watching this to see how to manage being around my dad when I go visit him for the whole month in June 🙏
Same except it's for 3 months for me!
You've got this, remember to take care of yourself 👐
Same except I live with him
I think it’s also important not to date a alcoholic cuz they have so many mood swings you never know which person you gonna get , one moment they kind and calm next moment they paceing back and forth talking crazy , my coworker is like this and even tho I had a crush on him at first now i just stay out of his way cuz he clearly has problems , he spoke of getting drunk very often .
Too exhausting
Distance is better then disrespect
My mother is a narcissist. She uses me as a punching bag. She is the reason my wife is leaving me even though she loves me.
oh my god dude... I'm young and i might not fully understand but.. I've been into something similiar, One of the reasons i left my boyfriend was because of his mom, she is horrible, she sabotaged us a whole lot of times, And I don't think he did enough to stand against her for us, She calls me a demon and a "manipulator" even though I'm literally a minor and she's 40, it's embarrassing to think about how a grown woman like that is saying horrible things to a "child" Compared to her, And i did nothing wrong this entire time
I fully understand this because I’m dealing with narcissists myself , they use people as a shield then when they no longer need them they turn on them and try to stir up trouble , I’ve learned that the best way to deal with a narcissist is to act like they don’t exist , they are cowards who just use and abuse people.
@@SylisDaCheesCakeGoat And for me it was impossible to just pretend she doesn't exist when she were literally the reason i didn't see him personally for months.. And she was the star of our conversations everyday cause she does nothing but make his life miserable every single day
@@CordadePink , I'm 43 already. I was absorbed into my family business just after I graduated in the year 2006. I was made Director and Partner without any assessment for qualification. The stupidest thing I did was to look at the rosy picture of comfort and luxury, while my parents were busy attracting liabilities by over-trading an unflyable project.
I got married in the year 2011 and my father expired in the year 2012.
This brought an avalanche of liabilities solely on my shoulders as my narcissist mother conveniently side stepped expecting her son to perform magic and clean up the mess she and my father created. I also get viciously reprimanded if I fail. I have been doing so sacrificing my prime, and now I have developed the steely resolve to resettle in my life, earlier the better.
My wife has been a rock by my side for the last 14 years but her patience is running thin. She also cannot bear to see her husband who she loves being treated as a man servant when not working by his narcissist mother ending up in shouting matches. Finally she has almost left me.
So now I am juggling: my career bouncing from job to job and striving hard to resettle in my life, away from mom, managing the closure of a sick company and carrying out the responsibilities of a husband and a son much against the advance of my psychiatrist/councillor.
Sorry
I can’t even make this up you just explained my father all the way
For me it‘s very simple: as Iam confident myself, I don’t subdue myself to ego-bloated others. Iam not surrounding myself with arrogant people. I don’t give attention.
For people involved with narcissistic relationships: as now Iam very well educated, it‘s best for you to plan your escape route as soon as you can. This ain’t no real love. You deserve a real relationship where you can trust. You are more than worthy of that! Show yourself some love and draw your attention to people you can trust and who value you.
Life is complicated enough to waste it on „complicated“ relationships too. Love yourself ❤
I feel like Psych2Go always knows how I am feeling. My narcissistic mother is trying to come back into my life and getting others from my past involved to find me. At first, this news made my emotions run wild, and I couldn't stay calm. However, after I talked to a friend, I realized that I was giving my narcissistic mother all my attention and reacting to her, instead of staying calm and focusing on myself.
I might be a narcissist person because I don't have any close friends around my age. Meanwhile, they really need to learn how to rely on themselves more often.
What if we are the narcissist person 😭😭
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Answer these questions:
Do you empathize with others?
Do you see yourself as the most important person on the planet or the entire universe?
If you knew that you were mentally ill, would you admit that you were so to people?
Do you manipulate others a lot?
Do you see others as mere tools to achieve your goals, and then you would get rid of them if possible?
Do you love your children like any father or mother?
Are you arrogant and arrogant?
Do you always look for appreciation and attention from your relationships and do not give anything in return except for the purpose of interest?
I wouldn't say I'm a narcissist because one thing about me, I always admit when I'm wrong and I'm always looking to improve and be successful but without bragging or seeking attention because why treat a person like crap❤.
my friend is a narcissist. i can’t stand it. Best to just leave but in my case we have been friends for 10 years and my only friend. Wish me luck.
I had two university friends whom I knew for 38 years. One was always fairly self centred and narcissistic but fun (mostly) and the other was quieter and (I thought) mostly like me. The first told me we could still be friends but had moved and would nor give me an address (all I wanted to do was send birthday/Christmas cards 😢 not visit). I ended up finding the business address by accident and told him. He went ballistic and the second backed him up. It hurt me but I just walked away. When friends deliberately hurt you they're not friends anymore, it's an attempt at control. Be yourself, many hugs and the very best of luck ❤
@@joannecunliffe8067I’m sorry this happened to you and I can already see the similarities with our “friends”. I’m glad you were able to walk away. It’s impossible to try and reason with them. So many excuses and turning everything against you. It’s so exhausting.
Thanks for this🌹
I really needed that to know how to deal with my mom and dad
Once made friends with someone and took a road trip to follow around one of both our favorite bands.
Over the course of the rosd trip I realized the dude was a total self centered narcissist.
After the trip i went 100% no contact with him after hanging out maybe one more time and eventually i never heard from him again after a while of him trying to throw breadcrumbs to get back in.
Honestly if you find out they are a narcissist just leave them tbh
Timestamps
1). Compliment the narcissist sincerely 0:28
2). Don't owe them favours 1:02
3). Keep your cool 1:39
4). Be on their side 2:18
5). Ask them about dreams 2:47
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I LOVE your channel❤ you give so much great tips!
Thank you so much!! Whats your fave topic so far?
Thank you🔥
I love your channel it helps me so much
Watching this to see how manage being around my collegue! God, i need it! I don’t want to change my job because of her, but its impossible to count how many times she made me cry. Narcissistic person can be so unpredictable
I love your videos and your voice.
good vid ... its verry supportive and aproatches the topic non hostile ... i draw my hat !
Dr. Grande!
I love my wife dearly and forever, but boy is it tough sometimes. This vid will help. Thanks Psy!
12M🎉 Congrats you guys!😁
Oh, I think I'm a narcissist-
Bruh same like, whatdoidonow 🏃♀️🏃♀️
Hey you both are aware that's the first step I'm cheering for you both that you both can figure it out
Nice
Honestly if you’re thinking it, there’s a good chance you’re not
Same
Thank you. 🙏🏽💝🙏🏽
You are so welcome
You know, first of all it is tiring to play mind games with narcissist since you are the only one putting efforts to not hurt them, to not make them angry, to please them? While they bluntly say things that hurt you, or twist actions you did to get you do something for them indefinitely. It’s hard to be around them..🙄
Verified channel without replies? Imma fix that!!
This will help me when I meet my father again after a 7 year no contact following a divorce from a 20 year marriage. Even when everything blew up, despite my rage and resentment towards him, I know I still love him and miss him, and I still want a relationship with him. I have my own goals to reach before seeing him; getting buff (doing this for myself and i'm doing good with it), working out my demons and mental illnesses (depression, anxiety, dpdr). I know I'm not ready currently, because my anger starts rising when I look at pictures of him. Sry, didn't mean for this to get so long.
Finished Durvasula Ramani new book, it was good tool.
This sums up my dad. An emotionally abusive narcissist.
Undiagnosed but I just think that maybe 3/5 of my core family member have narcissistic behaviour. "Don't owe them favours" or "don't give them chance to abuse you" & the "keep calm" are some of the most effective so far. Anyway, I refuse to be manipulated so I'll avoid be on their side except it's clear that it would be a win-win solution for us, not just one sided. Compliment will just boost their pride no matter how fake & asking them about dreams could make them worse.
Dr. Grande ftw 🤘
Hey psych2go, thank you as always for creating this awesome content.
Can you make some advice/tips on how to recover or deal with this kind of parents if we chose to leave or put boundaries to them by not affecting also how people see us through their judgement as we put boundaries/chose to no-contact relation they tend to label us as ungrateful bastards of society? I know that we should just ignore them but it will still hurt and haunt us emotionally & spiritually ....
Honestly what i need is a video on how to support a friend who is dating/married to a narcissist/abuser
Narcissist act like the main character in our world xD my brother is a narc and schizo (audio) and over the many decades of growing up with it. It's made me put more holes in my walls and fights I wish I could escape from. But they have more rights then you do
Hi Psych2go! I always love your video's and I'm a big fan, but this one got me a bit confused.. can you guys maybe explain why you encourage adapting yourself for the sake of a narcisist? Isn't it better to stay away from toxic people and/or set firm boundries? Please let me know!♡
I would love to see some videos on how to cope with having a relationship with someone who has BPD. Do many of those relationships end up being highly toxic/ abusive no matter how understanding you try to be?
Fun another upload ^^
Thank you for your support!
Proud to be one of them
It’s a dangerous game to play with someone who doesn’t have your best interest at heart. One of the lessons I’ve learned from narcissism is to pull away from being a people pleaser, it’s cool to be nice and all but some people mindsets already set for them if you get what I’m trying to say.
As an empath, narcissistic abuse is seriously so damaging. I’m trying to rediscover myself in my early 20s, everyday is a challenge
Navigating a narcissist: Make a 180 degree turn on your heels, & RUN! I dated a narcissist, & left him, after a few months. What a miserable experience!
Wanna share this with you:
Recently i saw ad for a used coffee maker as give away. I went to pick it up, owner was a beautiful lady with an amazing smile.
Next week she informed me about a toaster as give away, i went there and brought her a wine as thanks. She is so nice
She is perfect With the best smile. I really love her. Like i need her
Every night i walk in her street and cry a little.
life would be very nice, if i had her.
Like it would worth living, worth trying.
I would work hard to buy her stuff.
I dont deserve her i get it. Way outa my league, Im not gonna even try, but like why i cry? What is this?!
Yeah i plan to live 4 more years maybe it gets better.
I'd rather not deal with them.
Found that out myself but it has taken more than half a lifetime of being a doormat and 23 miserable years being married to a narcissist (15 years of psychological domestic violence) to get through my thick skull 😢 My best advise to others about narcissists? 180 degree turn and keep walking!
I was a narcissist friend 2 weeks ago, we arent friends anymore because i killed her in an online game, she said she didnt want to be friends anymore, although i want to reconcile with her, i dont know how. Shes avoiding me aswell.
Coincidences and observations:
1. Today's "The Daily Laws" book May 13 entry: Recognize Deep Narcissists before You Fall for Them.
2. Baggage Claim just released a video titled just: Are Narcissist Happy?
3. This video is the only one that focuses on ways to deal with narcissists.
Doc Grande mentioned
I ain’t cheering my little bro on being a brat😭 i’ll try to stay calm and walk away tho… maybe that’ll tone down his high and fragile ego
I really love your videos! I also need help with something.... My friends class got a temporary teacher and the thing is hes only one year older then me!! Ikn its bad ikn but hes fr so attractive and im not the only one who thinks that! I dont have any lessons with him thankfully. Im also finishing school this summer and starting work after summer as well! I just dont know how to start up a conversation or should i even talk to him? I have noticed when he first started working there that he keept looking at my direction when we walked pass eachother and he always smiles at me. I just really dont know what to do. Cause i really want to talk to him before its summer and i miss to even talk to him or get to know him! I fr need help! Also im 21 and hes around 22 / 23! Im also super scared of being rejected cause that would be sooo embarrassing! 😄
I believe everyone has multiple traits, including negative and positive ones! I guess what makes someone fall under a certain category is when they demonstrate a certain trait to a high level, and thus they get diagnosed as such!
That's my 2 cents! Take care!
Hello! Can you do a "Signs your parents are having a divorce/separation"?
Please?
It’s hard tho because while these are great strategies for keeping them from making your life miserable short term, long term, these behaviors can kind of enable theirs and make it worse in the long run. Ie. Being on their side when they’re mad at you or compliment them even if it’s genuine when there ego doesn’t need to inflated any more than it already is.
why are narcissists portrayed as monsters in here, I feel like that's just a personality that is ruder than others, but this video makes it feel like its wrong and they need help?
they are not monsters and we know that, but that’s exactly how they act in reality and it is draining to be around them
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Leave leave leave oof I spent 4 years with someone like that and what a torture it literally drains you
Watching this to make sure I'm not a narcissistic even though I'm the person I hate the most 💪💪
Im pretty sure my little cousin is a narcissist, it freaking sucks i absolutely hate her, and not top of that i live with her because i live with my auntie
Can you please make videos or more videos about sensory processing disorder and misophonia? ❤
Why would you want to compliment them? This just enables the behavior. I will not do that. They don't deserve compliments.
Guys, is it smarter to let go of a relationship that's getting more and more toxic or is it smarter to try and try till you're all tapped out. Till you know you gave it your all and can walk away without regrets?
These are all very good tips, but for everybody watching please still note. If the relationship with the narcissist is taking a toll on your mental health, there is nothing wrong with keeping a bit of distance between you and the narcissist. You have boundaries to and even if the narcissist doesn't like it. He still has to respect them.
I'm gonna add one more advice :
Run !
Relate to me I been dealing with a guy his my boyfriend for more than a month now I’m trying myself to be cool he is adhd too and it’s to hard to handle him I’m going crazy but I stay coz I wanna help him but I think I can’t😢 he blame me for everything even I’m doing my best for him Cooked and do nice things for him and still blame like poison him he said and I feel down I would never win at the same time I’m sad coz his been tru a lot but my mental health is dragging me down😢😢
How deal I with people who have a lot of anxieties without making myself their babysitter?
My english isnt that good. What is narcissist?
Im completely mentally unstable how to fix, actually insane
My neighbour is a narcissist
The favor I owe a narcissist is my life cuz they birthed me ☹️
Sometimes I think my ex partner is a narcissist, other times I think I am. I'm really not sure
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Hey Psych2Go, can you make a video like "How to get motivation" and the points is like something common
"Example: think of your crush" or smth like that lmao
I made a groom called "friends : D" and my "friend", ******** asked me if she could change the pfp, and I told her "I already changed it" and she said "you know I asked you before right? >:/" an I said "I'm sorry pls don't get mad for saying that T_T" and she was SO FRIGGIN SASSY SHE SAID "yeah yeah😒🙄"and I said "it's not like you control my life" things like that coz I was feeling too bad. And she was like"🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄" "yeah yeah" so I apologized to her if that could help but idk yet.
How to make a narcissist a better person:
Step one: discretely plant self doubt.
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I really think this is not the right way. You should have said that the best thing is avoidance
What if the narcissist is your mom? :(
I don't think I'd let a narcissist anywhere near my pets. They are mostly unable to be empathetic to animals. Dangerous.
How to deal with narsslstic family
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Its pretty easy to get out of it
Just break up
If u says it their the onw whos heart broken
She was most narcissist girl and i charmed her so much but she didn't get in my way
Is Narcissism curable?
My sister is one. I just avoid her.
That’s why narcissists win bruh!
This isn’t that important but you said DSM-5 when the screen said DSM-IV(4)
Anime is really cute.
Keep me my eyes closed
I want to know how to navigate femme supremacist feminism.
Thanks for the tips, but it's not that simple. These type of people can be very toxic to healthy individuals.
1. Compliment the narcissist sincerely
2. Don't owe them favors
3. Keep your cool
4. Be on their side
5. Ask them about their dreams
None of them. Walk away, never contact them again.