I agree that natural hair is beautiful, but not every black woman, including myself, has the type of hair that is easier to manage. I just slap on a wig and go most days since I don't have the time to keep doing my hair every damn morning and night going to bed. Wigs that are texture is not a good go for me either when I just put the slick weave into a ponytail dealing with my kiddos at work. Not to mention, some guys don't even look our way when we wear our natural hair out if we want to date. It's just that this issue is going to keep being an issue, and the issue is never going to go anywhere. We bring each other down no matter if we pro natural or pro weaves, because unfortunately, we all don't see eye to eye. In my opinion, just keep being you no matter if you like your natural hair or wearing weave. At the end of the day, it is what makes you happy.
I'm Brazilian and here Most women have curly and afro hair. More than 50% of Brazilians are African descent. The Brazilian media tries to sell Brazil as a white country, but this is a lie. Indeed, In Brazil, women with curly and afro hair are taught to straighten their hair.
This unfortunately is very common in the Hispanic community too. So many of us grow up with parents that don’t know how to take care of our hair and teach us to straighten it etc.
@@CyberPunk-de7ri Thanks ❤️ Come visit Salvador Bahia in Brazil, it is the blackest city outside of Africa. You will love it! It's the city where Michael Jackson recorded the video They don't care about us.
@tarrylove9414 👀👀 Wow imagine that, our collective, self-hatred is someone else's collective, self-investment. You just gave me food for thought...... 🤔🤔
@@rewbi2196 they wanna “switch it up” but refuse to wear hair, that matches their hair texture, but in the same breath say they love their natural hair it makes no sense. 😭
And don’t compare yourselves. There is a reason for Afrohair. It’s unique and has a purpose and beautiful heritage. It’s litteraly how you know someone is from your ancestry. Our hair connects us all to Africa. Let’s not hate Africas beauty and genes 🧬 . It’s the original human gene. It’s unique and different and it needs to be treated as such. Beautifully designed by God himself. No comparisons from now on.❤🙏🏾🙏🏾
I see how uncomfortable and intimidated the frontal warriors get when I wear my natural hair and get attention and love . I’m there like bih you got the same thing on your head go and whip it out 😂😂
We’re not meant to ever be the beauty standard in a white world. We have to push our beauty as the beauty standard in our community- between each other and not give a damn how our men feel about it.
Finally somebody gets it. We need to embrace it by force because it is psychological warfare. We need to resist the Beauty Standard and push ours through! We have so much power.💪🏾 ❤
@@QueenSamiyah Yeah, I've seen that too. There are also the ones that don't care for it, but the point should be to embrace our natural hair regardless of whether or not they like it. Our hair is for us, not them.
I realised the other day that I haven't worn wigs in 2 months now. My wigs are kinky curly or kinky straight but I watched a video from another creator and I decided to wear my hair out regularly. In the past two months, I've washed my hair weekly and spent just 3 hours of my Saturday morning washing and styling my hair for the week, so far chunky twists and updo are my go to and I've realised that contrary to popular beliefs, it is actually not hard.
Thank you, for promoting natural beauty. I see so many young beautiful black woman wearing wigs. That look unrealistic taking away from their beauty. My moms freind started wearing wigs in her teens up to her late 50s. It damaged her hair she now has alopecia. Seeing so many young girls wearing wigs so early is sad. Wigs use to be for older women , or women who had damaged hair or bald.
Even in miss universe ,there’s weave everywhere.many black women instead of seeing weave as an accessory( cause we are very creative and unlike others we know how to SLAY a weave ) ,they see it as their own hair that grows from the scalp
@@Porter7317- it stops being ‘fun’ when you are addicted to wearing straight hair all day every day, as so many black women are. I remember KsC saying that she was seeing 12 year old black girls wearing wigs to go to school years ago.
@@ChocoBeauty8yes and I think it’s okay to say this😂 doesn’t mean we hate ourselves LMAO. But we had these sameeee convos back in the Og natural hair days of 08-12 . I’m tired chile. Everybody just do what you want at this point. It’s a never ending cycle
@hetaliangarbage My hair is natural, and I was natural from 07-15 and have been natural since 2016. I'm currently rocking a mini fro with tapered sides.
@@ChocoBeauty8 I don’t appreciate other black women making it seem like natural hair is a burden to care for. That’s what most of those videos imply. I have natural hair & it’s past my underarms. I truly believe that proper hair care helps
Agreed! I have another creator for you… I do not know ppls names it channel names 😅 when I find her I’ll post it here for you Edit: check out ‘Mayowa’s World’ if you haven’t seen any of her stuff before.
Head wraps have helped me greatly in appreciating my natural hair. Due to the climate where I live and certain qualities about my hair, I can’t achieve a consistent twist out or braid out every day without spending too much time manipulating my hair, and even doing regular updos puts a lot of stress on my hair. I've learned to let go of the idea that my hair needs to be loose and down every day. On most days, I keep it in a semi-protective style where the front part is untwisted to form a fringe (asymmetrical bangs?) that peek out of my scarf while the rest is twisted and protected by the scarf. It's a very quick and easy hairstyle to do in the morning, while still looking elegant and allowing me to show some of my hair. Towards the end of the week, I untwist all of my hair and wear it in a twist out or braid out for the weekend. This routine has helped me to keep my hair more easily moisturizerized with less breakage while still getting to enjoy having my hair out on a fairly regular basis.
Girl i deleted my instagram in 2023 and threw away my flawless $900 wig and im still struggling but in the past year my hair has grown from my jawline to touching my shoulders and collarbone when stretched. I wear box braids and do them myself bc im in hawaii now and this climate is a nightmare for my hair lol
@@meanssnothingg girl it took me a year to find a job after i moved here. i have a degree but im a server/bartender right now bc there are no jobs on the big island. the humidity here is always at least 60%, but its nothing like the phillipinnes or french polynesia. so, kinda similar to florida. i do love the people and the culture here, it is a heartwarming environment
Watching influencers talking about practically going bald because they never took care of their hair while putting on wig after wig really taught me that a lot of us have been taught to do "beauty" at our own expense😢
Unfortunately this is true so many curly haired women are not taught how to properly take care of their hair so they don’t because they don’t know how to
She's so lucky that her mother is teaching her how to do hair. My mom refused, and i didn't have any one to show me. Now I'm adult trying to figure it out.
My mom is biracial with straight type 1 hair. I also had to learn on my own as an adult, but I eventually learned what my hair likes and it’s healthy and thriving.
Naw the revolution began in 08 😂 and got dismantled by the mixed chicks. And the same thing will happen again and again . The revolution is not coming lol
I believe if parents taught their kids from a young age that black hair is beautiful and put an effort to make their natural curls/coil look pretty, then there will be no more self-hate. I personally hated my curly hair for many years cuz having it "done" (ie. straightening) took some time. Then when I started to care for it, I disliked my tight curls (3c/4a) and wished I had looser curls. But seeing many influencers with stunning 3c and 4a hair gave me so much confidence. Now no matter what anyone says, I deeply believe that our hair is beautiful
I don’t wear fake hair. But I do flat iron my real hair. I’m working on wearing it natural. My Japanese husband asked me why I didn’t wear my hair naturally curly.
Y’all are literally so cute🥰🫶🏾 btw I hope I’m not being rude by asking but how is it going with his family? Ik Asian families don’t usually agree with their children dating outside their race or even their demographic so I wanted to know how is it going for you if that’s okay
@@kathydelarosa1286yes a lot of non black men love the God given beauty God bestowed upon us- except for BW themselves and some BM. you would think otherwise but surprisingly they do
Black people have been conditioned to hate everything that represents blackness. We have been brainwashed from beauty standards on what looks attractive, religion ect. I'm so glad someone finally sees the light. I 💯 support your channel my sister. Black is beautiful.
LMAO I finally accepted a FT from an IG friend and the 1st thang he said was “why yo hair not straight?”. Mind you, all 27 of my posts show me in braids, even my stories. When it’s not braid season (in texas) I wear it in a wash & go. My hair is straight about 3x a year for a trim. People are a *trip*
@@JammyLatte I'm very happy that you put the word friend in quotations, because we all know that actual friends wouldn't do something like that. That's messed up!
Whenever I try to talk to black women about their obsession with straight wigs, they give me the 3 most common excuses: "Its s protective style" Yet they choose a straight weave. "Wigs gives a variety of hairstyles" Yet they choose the same 2-3 wig hairstyles with the adult hairs slick down, looking like clones. And my current favourite; "I dunno where you live but black women mainky wear natural hair" The biggest lie ever. I live in one of America's biggest city snd 95% of black women wear straight weaves. Many times im the only natural in the crowd of black ppl in a black neighborhood. The cognitive dissonance black women remain in to wear their hair hats is tragic.
@CaribbeanGlow Hey girl, hey!! 😆😆 You have made points, YET again. (・з・) The delusion is too real and too deep with these women, they always have a excuse for something. We're about to be in the Gregorian year of 2025; they H A T E their hair and what it represents (their racial/ethnic identity), das it. 🤷🏾♀🤷🏾♀
@@mazelovesosa nothing wrong with weave, the issue is the texture of the weave. It's always straight and not our own texture..if we all switched to type 4 wigs, it would fitting but black women in general prefer straight hair thus straight weave.
I literally just seen a youtuber who I stopped watching because she did relaxed hair content and i'm not relaxed so i didn't see the point but she popped back up in my algorithm and she did a big chop and cut her hair GIRLLLL when I tell you she looked so much more beautiful like relaxed hair didn't do her justice natural hair really does suit bw the best
Tbh, I’ve been natural for over a decade at this point and the first go around I straightened it all the time. I loved it and it was half way down my back. Big chopped and allowing it to grow again without the heat so see the full potential of my curls this time. Ladies, it’s your hair. Straightened or curly let it be yours because it’s truly beautiful
I tried wearing type 1-2 lace front wigs once. After that day, I couldn’t stand the feeling of wearing a wig. Felt like a helmet. Idk how women do this on a daily basis!
@@ChocoBeauty8 My maternal grandfather is 75% white and had curly hair still. My paternal grandmother had a 75% Irish mother who still had curly hair. So how can a black person have naturally straight hair? That doesn’t make sense . I guess it all depends on what you mean by black.
I have 4b hair that’s at my shoulders in the natural state, and at the middle of my back once stretched. I completely stopped wearing any type of fake hair in may/June this year. Even when I wore fake hair, it was always curly/kinky hair that was similar or matched my hair. It was hard going all natural at first, but I love it! Any hairstyle I want to do, I simply do it with my own hair. I embrace my shrinkage, frizz, and texture. My hair has also grown longer and thicker. I’ve NEVER gotten so many compliments on my beauty and hair like this! I’m constantly called a black queen by customers at my job and I had a client ask me how I got my wig like that (it was a twist out lol). 🤭
Even on trips, I’ve worn my hair out! I went to Panama a few months ago and was heavily contemplating a protective style like box braids and etc. I decided to challenge myself and went with a twist out. Each day I tried something new with it even as it shrunk. I even went swimming on the beach a few months back and my shrunk ALL the way up 😂 but it feels good to just be me!
Qhemet Biologics is the best hair care brand for type 4 hair!! The amla & olive heavy cream is the best product I’ve ever bought, keeps my super dry hair moisturized for at least 3 days straight.
Thank you for your videos Tati. I feel much more confident leaving my house in mini braids no extensions and notice that I still turn heads even without having long hair (barely neck length braids 😂) thank you for helping me let go of the fake hair and love myself more!
I was reading this book and the author described mini braids as an elaborate hairstyle (which they are) and the character wore them for her wedding. Our standards for what is considered to be beautiful and elaborate needs to start from there and I think our perspectives would change vastly.
Actually, love my "type 4" kinky hair and never had a problem with it in a professional setting. Attitude, confidence, and mindset are remarkable assets in most situations.
6:20 I stopped watching her,she doesn’t get it men DO care why do y’all think they say stuff about most black women looking like drag queens with wigs and heavy makeup and edges touching their brows? Not to mention they actually WEAR their own hair texture it’s what they aren’t getting. But wort even get Into that,every time I watch black women talking about glowing up seeing past pictures all they did was put on a curly wig and learned makeup,y’all not glowing up at all,you’re looking like everyone else.
most bm do care,they hold most black women up to ghetto standards,you don’t wear a 15 inch (whatever inch) buss down? You’re broke,you wear weave that makes you look like a damn drag queen? You look stupid,you wear braids for too long they start lifting? They notice that,wearing a wig and the edges don’t match your skintone? (The makeup color) they notice,they do care. And it isn’t black men’s job to install black womens hair in a positive let’s let’s be honest,and you made this whole paragraph about black men,this isn’t about them black women need to step up and take responsibility,and if a bm is dating in or outside his race isn’t anyone’s business.
@SaabirahofAnavahI’m sorry but I have to disagree. I was a teenager in the eighties, we straighten our hair, a lot. Relaxers were very much the thing to do. It was not the norm to ‘do your edges’.
Thank you for your content. All the things you express about women of color with coils is valid. I have been natural for many years teaching myself how to do and style my hair. I would use heat to dry it and i saw no length retention. This year i came across a youtuber Napp Queen (may she RIP) she made me think differently about my hair. I stopped blow drying my hair and decided to love my hair and myself. My routine is very different now and i moisturize it 3 to 4 times a week. I finger detangle and only use a pic to detangle when washing, the growth is amazing. I actually have a relationship with my hair i give it what it needs and it thrives. It takes time but anything you put time and love into yields positive results. I actually apologize for all the years of mistreatment to my hair because i was not taught to love it growing up. I love that you are so passionate about natural hair. I love your content you are right our hair is beautiful. It looks like trees and clouds and so many other things in nature.
I 10000% agree with this MESSAGE!!! every time I wear natural hair on my RUclips channel, my videos do much better overall! I'm no longer blind to the natural beauty of natural hair styles. you were so correct when you said that it matches our features and that is so true! Keep pouring into us because the truth is the truth!
8:49 YES KEEP THEM . I HATE this idea that black women can’t have those goals cause “ it’s a Eurocentric “ but wearing these types of weave aren’t .pleassssse stop the cap
My theory is it’s because growing long hair is harder for most black women due to processing/rough haircare and the naturally slow progression of visible length retention when you have kinky hair. It’s far quicker and easier to go buy a long type 1-3 wig so of course they’d defend that practice and vilify the one that is farther out of reach.
@@BlueVeins-k6b- growing long hair isn’t hard at all once you learn what your hair likes. The real problem is that most black women don’t like their own hair type and therefore have to spend a lot of time & money trying to make it look closer to 3c.
this popped up my fyp on the right time!! i don't remember the last time i had my natural hair , its been just weaves and braids for the longest. thank you genuinely so much for this video 💓🤞🏾
It’s so sad that that when we think of natural hair we don’t think about hairstyles. Afro hair doesn’t have to be a long afro to be seen as beautiful. Locs, cornrows, braids, we can do so many beautiful hairstyles rather than just let it out ! I feel like this is how it is meant to be (a beautiful afro or bun is really cute also ofc), in braids or cornrows.
I do sat roller set and two strand twist only and soft corn rows hair only so I don't get breakage. I notice my hair grows healthier and very little breakage.
I literally look at my hair everyday in awe. I hope we as a collective can get to this point. Loving my hair has enabled me to reach the goals i want. I havnt even worn a different hair texture in years.
Did a shave almost to the scalp now my hair is under my shoulder blades. All races of men stop and look, like in their tracks. Saying that your jealous of those girls with certain hair textures is down right embarrassing. No i do not wear extensions and I am still learning to style my natural hair in updos but I think that I am doing great considering that I only started to learn how to care and love my hair since 2016. Lived most of my life with processed hair. Great video.🩷🩷🩷🩷
@@SaraYasmeen25I used to watch my cousins getting their hair done and it looked sooo painful. The endless tangles (and the way the freshly detangled hair just tangles back into itself), the crying, and the tightly pulled/high heat styles (complete with forehead and ear burns). I was lucky that despite my black family not explicitly saying I had “good hair”, they definitely didn’t do that stuff to my hair.
I love extensions and I wear them occasionally to match my hair texture. I used to straighten my hair every 2 weeks and it started breaking off. I didn’t even realize why I needed my hair straight to feel pretty. It’s not healthy for the hair
I used to relax my hair. Growing up, my mom relaxed my hair. Now I'm natural. I love my natiral hair. I've been natural for three and balf years now. I didn't even know how to take care ofy hair before then.
You hair looks so beautiful. Ever since I started wearing my natural hair, first I'm waaay less stressed and uptight and my confidence levels are high asf knowing I don't have to worry about sweating or the new growth frizzing etc, these things are SOOO damn stressful and limiting, I can now enjoy moments of life with waaay more ease, the weight of chasing a beauty standard u were not meant to have shows on your FACE right when u step out the door, unravelling braids and doing a cute hairstyle is NO stress and u step out your door looking relaxed and rested and radiating ease, while when u spend 90% of the morning in front of the mirror trying to have someone else's type of hair you radiate stress and resentment and uptightness. ❤❤ Thank you for your different content, and thank you for being real. ❤❤
Same. It makes me even more sad that these BW truly believe their weaves look "realistic". Realistic to who? Who do they believe they're fooling? Loose textured wigs on BW all look like costumes to me at this point. I don't wear them, and I would never lie to another BW and tell her it looks good when I know it's actually taking from her beauty!
Can you talk about the financial freedom of wearing your own hair or similar textured hair!!! I’ve literally saved hundreds if not thousands ( judging by the way these hair stylist charge) this past year by doing my own hair and wearing half wigs. Society has put so much financial restraints on us all because many want proximity to baddie culture and other other ethnicities. 💔
Here is my experience this year : Personnally I wore my natural 4C hair at least 5 months this year because I needed a break and wanted to embrace my natural beauty. My hair’s lenght is past my shoulder when stretched and my go to hairstyles were twists, braid out or just putting my hair in a bun. I’ve made head turn, but only when my hair was stretched or if my curls were defined and only when my make up was done perfectly. If my hair and face were in their most natural state, I felt like people had a negative perception of me. Also I loved wearing my natural hair but my family kept saying that my hair wasnt done, even if I had twist or braid out. They made me feel like I was neglecting myself. Now, I’ve planned to do a silk press for the first time this winter ☺️ but the hairdresser isnt available and I cant let someone else touch my hair. So in the meantime, I have decided to do a yaki straight sew in. I will definetly come back to my natural hair but my mental health makes me feel like I need to do something new and I’m someone who loves changing my hairstyle every two months. Even if I love my natural hair, changing my hair as much as I want to is a part of me and my cameroonian culture 🙂
I get hair textures that match mine now, yaki straight, yaki or kinky straight & even when I have straight bundles I take some left over kinky straight hair and blend it with my leave out !!! GAME CHANGERRRRTR fr. The best think I ever did was start texture matching & everyday don’t gotta worry about no damn leave out or edges.
I'm natural and swing between braids, mini braids and afro. I remember once telling a colleague that I don't own a wig and she was shocked and *concerned*
Love your videos on natural hair ❤ you encourage us to walk in power vs doing a bunch of call outs/ or complaining. You def played a part in me viewing my natural hair in a more powerful way.
You just teach and give knowledge to the history of hair and how loving it, your own, will create the natural beauty every woman craves. Realistically, who wants to take their hair off.
It took Japanese men making Afros trendy for me to love my 4c hair and see its potential for versatility. It’s the markets that are cashing in off our insecurities that we need to take over as a people. Before weave it was relaxer, right now we have a lot more options.
I don’t think weave or extensions are inherently good or bad, it’s just black women have a complicated relationship with it due to our hair being negatively stereotyped until this very day. I wish that hair wasn’t a political statement but it is. I’ve always loved cosmetology and I adore all the ways that hair can look and how different styles can signify so many different things. In my eyes it is akin to personal style. It is just a way to play around with your look. The issue is that straight hair has become the default and many people put straight hair on a pedestal. People should do what they want with their hair but they need to be careful about sending and internalizing harmful messages about our beautiful natural kinky hair.
At this point in my evolution, my problem with the idea that it’s okay to participate in these things as long as one appreciates their true self is that I believe if you truly appreciate your true self, there wouldn’t be a desire in the first place to cover that or alter that (ie by using wigs, makeup, etc.). I feel that it sends a message when you participate in these things, regardless. It sends the message that you are not enough. I believe people use the mentality that you can use it as a tool and still be confident in yourself to cover up that wanting to use these things is still rooted in programming in the first place.
I’m so grateful for this video. Not enough people are talking about this. As more women are seeking to enter their feminine era, it appears that they are associating femininity with a certain aesthetic (European-like). I hardly ever see black influencers with Afros and hair in their natural state claiming they are resting in their femininity. It’s almost as if society is saying that black women can’t be or look feminine without stripping themselves of their ethnic qualities. Again, I appreciate you discussing this topic. I hope more people can call it what it is.
You have a valid point. I love my natural hair but my toxic trait is im not patient enough with my hair and weave feels more manageable in a short time. Honestly I just need to learn to take care of my real hair, idk what works right now
In 12 grade I started wearing wigs and I started feeling ugly without it and depressed. When I met my spouse he encouraged me to wear my natural hair and now 6 years later I'm still wearing it. #microlocs
May I say thank you and I appreciate ur soft approach to this issue. Other bw are so harsh to bw who struggle with embracing their hair. Ppl forget that we have been programmed since childhood that our hair is inferior. I would get burned getting my hair braided while watching the L’Oréal white girls have their hair blowing in the wind. That already put in my mind their hair is so much easier to deal with. Or I would get my hair relaxed and burned there too, and not have the same bounce as the girls on the box. And the majority of love interest and the symbol of femininity always had long flowing hair or loosely curled. For me it has always been a struggle of texture and length.
my hair has been my biggest insecurity my whole life and I finally took the step a few months ago to start embracing by 4C hair and stop relaxing it and I’ve never been happier! like genuinely once i started seeing my hair as a bleed rather than a curse it truly changed my perspective!
I’ve been locced since 2010 🙌🏾 I never felt comfortable wearing bone straight weave. I always felt wigs and weaves were suppose to be undetectable. Course yaki had me in a chokehold
I noticed my hair grows a lot longer when I wear glue less wigs (because of cornrows). I think many women wear wigs because even though it’s their cornrows making their hair grow longer not the wig itself I know many women including myself don’t really like the style of cornrows. Whether my hair was long or short or any other texture, I still hate cornrows so I would put a wig on, but I stopped wearing wigs that aren’t close or the same to my natural hair texture. If you wear wigs try to wear the ones closer to your hair texture!!
**Heavy, deep, negro sigh*** I remember these same convos from Tumblr back in 2013-2014. It’ll never end tbh. I actually predict it’s going to get worse again, before it gets better. I’m 26 and it is what it is, this has been happening my entire life. It’s never going to change.
I remember I jumped in a pool with my Locs and this white girl asked me why my hair still looks the same when it’s wet…she had thin hair that wouldn’t grow past her shoulders. She only did that to make me feel some type of way about the texture of my hair. When my hair began growing she told me she didn’t like that it was getting longer than hers. I’ve always been scared of wigs, I just lowkey felt like I had to accept that black women love them and I shouldn’t put them down for wearing wigs. The things that I’ve been told by black women for talking down on wigs made me feel like I wasn’t being understanding when really most of the reasons were excuses.
I love wearing my natural hair, I just started trying a wig at 24 years old. I decided they come in handy sometimes. The only time I’ll wear a wig is if I wanna switch up and have a hairstyle that’s straight or body waved, a different color or bangs. All of these things I can’t do to my natural hair because I don’t want to damage it as I’ve worked very hard to keep it healthy. I decided to get 3 wigs and that’s it and most of the time they sit there and I don’t wear them cause I’m not used to them and I’m too lazy and would rather just wear my hair or some mini twists lol
Thank you for making this video. I’m trying to love my hair and it hasn’t been an easy task. I’ve spent my life wearing box braids and I started wearing my natural hair out a few years back. I’m still trying to get used to it. I have a question for you, tho? How do you love your hair and still have hair goals? I’m having trouble loving my hair.
Well the way I started loving my hair is realizing we’re the only group of women with natural 4a,b,c hair and no other race of women have that type of hair so it makes me feel special
I'd follow/subscribe to women whose hair looks like mine. There's a plethora of natural hair accounts with thick,thin,short,long hair. Also, pinterest can be helpful for finding inspo
What helped me was that i didn’t compare my hair to other people and i followed black women who wear their natural hair and have the same length that i’m at, also surround yourself with people who love their hair also because if you don’t then subconsciously you’ll start to hate it.
@@kpopisawesome9343I’ve met naturally type 4a Irish and Italians, so you’re not the only ones with it, but it is far more prevalent and it’s majority an African feature.
All so true. Black women set so many trends. To embrace 4 type hair would absolutely reset the standard to include natural 4 type hair!! I get it that the pressure is high to fit into the "accepted" norm for beauty. All hair types can be high maintenance so that's no excuse. Broadening the standard is worth the work.
I remember the sheabutter tumblr these convos used to go crazyyyy omg it was crazy in that 2010-2014 era . That’s why I just do me because it’s alllll so cyclical
I have never been into wigs, fake hair or nails and use very little makeup.My own natural hair is waist length. I make my own haircare products so that I know what's in it.
Black hair is literally an antennae to receive msgs from source. I’ve recently taken a chill pill from these wigs in real life and started treating my hair like a plant 🪴 cause that’s what it is. It’s your crown. I personally like blonde and I’m never bleaching my curls ever again! Soooo yeah lol also, That girl speaking in the beginning has the textures most girls buy soooo her opinion is skewed 🫤 great video! ❤️
Ok so my kids have been pretty isolated from society bc of my job and lack of family support. And although generally I know that's not a good thing but one positive thing about it is none of them struggle with this problem. There was never even a white doll in my house until maybe 2 yrs ago (my oldest 13) and we don't watch alot of tv. My kids literally had no odea this existed. And unfortunately they are starting to find out now but fortunately I do feel like the idea they have about themselves is pretty set in stone already. I know everyone isn't able to isolate their kids away from the world the way I was but I do feel like surrounding your kids with as much positive black beauty as you can while they are young and cutting them off from tv while they are young could be very beneficial. I feel it's been vitally important in them having a positive image of themselves before the world ever had a chance to tell them anything else.
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I agree that natural hair is beautiful, but not every black woman, including myself, has the type of hair that is easier to manage. I just slap on a wig and go most days since I don't have the time to keep doing my hair every damn morning and night going to bed. Wigs that are texture is not a good go for me either when I just put the slick weave into a ponytail dealing with my kiddos at work. Not to mention, some guys don't even look our way when we wear our natural hair out if we want to date. It's just that this issue is going to keep being an issue, and the issue is never going to go anywhere. We bring each other down no matter if we pro natural or pro weaves, because unfortunately, we all don't see eye to eye. In my opinion, just keep being you no matter if you like your natural hair or wearing weave. At the end of the day, it is what makes you happy.
🙌🏿👑🙌🏿
Thank you ❤
@@CoolStoryBro2829it sounds like you hate your natural hair and just lazy
I'm Brazilian and here Most women have curly and afro hair. More than 50% of Brazilians are African descent. The Brazilian media tries to sell Brazil as a white country, but this is a lie. Indeed, In Brazil, women with curly and afro hair are taught to straighten their hair.
This unfortunately is very common in the Hispanic community too. So many of us grow up with parents that don’t know how to take care of our hair and teach us to straighten it etc.
I love your culture in Brazil. And how you all have been able to hold on to yourAfrican roots. I hope to visit one day! Much Love from the States 💜
@@CyberPunk-de7ri Thanks ❤️ Come visit Salvador Bahia in Brazil, it is the blackest city outside of Africa. You will love it! It's the city where Michael Jackson recorded the video They don't care about us.
@@carolmarques1748 Thanks so much for the recommendation! I've seen some great travel videos on Bahia. Can't wait to visit ☺
Yes ! And that’s why I use y’all’s hair product ! 😅❤
Hating our hair is big money. A lot of ppl wouldn’t be able to go to college or get Louis bags, if we stop buying weaves and wigs
@tarrylove9414 👀👀 Wow imagine that, our collective, self-hatred is someone else's collective, self-investment. You just gave me food for thought...... 🤔🤔
Time to change that!
especially influencers with aliexpress hair companies
Talk it sis. This is truth ! We need to appreciate the way we were made
Big facts !
Why can’t we just wear extensions that match our hair. Like seeing 4c girls put on a type 1 ponytail just makes me so confused.
Exactly sis
There are kinky-straight ponytails they can use.
@AbianahTheGemini It's "self-expression" according to them, they wanna "switch things up". 🙄🙄
Yes! Wear extensions that match your root
@@rewbi2196 they wanna “switch it up” but refuse to wear hair, that matches their hair texture, but in the same breath say they love their natural hair it makes no sense. 😭
my pinterest is now filled with girlies with long 4c hair, i'm falling more and more in love with my natural hair ❤
I feel like pinterest has been a huge help with that for me
@@preciousmatlapeng9497it helps a lot
That’s awesome! My hair is 4B and high porosity and it’s in locs until I grow my hair the length I want it to be.
And don’t compare yourselves. There is a reason for Afrohair. It’s unique and has a purpose and beautiful heritage. It’s litteraly how you know someone is from your ancestry. Our hair connects us all to Africa.
Let’s not hate Africas beauty and genes 🧬 . It’s the original human gene. It’s unique and different and it needs to be treated as such. Beautifully designed by God himself.
No comparisons from now on.❤🙏🏾🙏🏾
i love pinterest it's like having a personal scrapbook
the mental gymnastics we do to justify wearing wigs 24/7 and claim we still love our hair is insane to me.
"Wicked Weave of the West" is SO GOOD oh my god
Thxxxx
@moongem4489 That sounds like a horror movie. 😃😃
@@rewbi2196needs to be a movie like that "bad hair" movie or something. Can a movie writer see this❤
It’s fits perfectly to the wicked promo that’s happening rn😂
@jessycaone4276 LOL I was just thinking of that too.
I’ve gotten accused of throwing shade for embracing my natural beauty. This how bad its got.
Hahahaha….. that’s like coming for a fitness coach cuz they are throwing shade at out of shape people.
Be prouder. 😁
Let them get mad.
Deep inside you are uplifting them.❤
Yessss I see this all the time
@@JenzJoenot even a fitness coach, just a regular degular fit person existing 😪 their choice to be fit and eat healthy is throwing shade
I see how uncomfortable and intimidated the frontal warriors get when I wear my natural hair and get attention and love . I’m there like bih you got the same thing on your head go and whip it out 😂😂
We’re not meant to ever be the beauty standard in a white world. We have to push our beauty as the beauty standard in our community- between each other and not give a damn how our men feel about it.
Finally somebody gets it.
We need to embrace it by force because it is psychological warfare. We need to resist the Beauty Standard and push ours through! We have so much power.💪🏾 ❤
But our men actually love our natural beauty in my experience
This the one ✨
@@QueenSamiyah Yeah, I've seen that too. There are also the ones that don't care for it, but the point should be to embrace our natural hair regardless of whether or not they like it. Our hair is for us, not them.
@@QueenSamiyahnot all of them 😂😂.
I've started doing 3 days wig 4 days natural just to help me get use to it
Look into wigs that also match you4 texture or close to it. It will give you length while still getting used to your texture
@@jasminscarbrough2596 do u recommend any websites that have good 4c hair wigs? i was looking into clip ins, but the prices on them is high :(
This is a great place to start! You got this! I agree a next step would be fully switching to wigs that match your texture for those days
So happy for you sis. Start somewhere. It will get very normal soon.
@@bibaolaitan5189 definitely
I am not doomed. I do not hate my hair. In fact. I love my 4c hair.
Sometimes, 4c hair grows faster than others
want a cookie?
@ I have cookies.
🍪@@tariqziyad8062
@@tariqziyad8062yea she can get one I’m glad she love her natural hair and don’t wear them hideous helmets
I realised the other day that I haven't worn wigs in 2 months now. My wigs are kinky curly or kinky straight but I watched a video from another creator and I decided to wear my hair out regularly.
In the past two months, I've washed my hair weekly and spent just 3 hours of my Saturday morning washing and styling my hair for the week, so far chunky twists and updo are my go to and I've realised that contrary to popular beliefs, it is actually not hard.
Haven't worn a lace frontal In 4 years it feels great! I get so many compliments in my 3c4a hair
Thank you, for promoting natural beauty. I see so many young beautiful black woman wearing wigs. That look unrealistic taking away from their beauty. My moms freind started wearing wigs in her teens up to her late 50s. It damaged her hair she now has alopecia. Seeing so many young girls wearing wigs so early is sad. Wigs use to be for older women , or women who had damaged hair or bald.
Even in miss universe ,there’s weave everywhere.many black women instead of seeing weave as an accessory( cause we are very creative and unlike others we know how to SLAY a weave ) ,they see it as their own hair that grows from the scalp
@shanellmiller-c2t Right. :-(( I hope in future Miss Universe events, more women don their natural hair textures and do away with the rest. ✨✨
We really don’t it’s just fun to wear our hair in different styles. We are not required to wear our hair a certain way because you say so.
Baby we do weave, wigs, braids, afros, curls, dreads, gold beads and hair cuffs. One thing about us is our hair is never boring
@@far6311 plz yall only do weave🤣
@@Porter7317- it stops being ‘fun’ when you are addicted to wearing straight hair all day every day, as so many black women are.
I remember KsC saying that she was seeing 12 year old black girls wearing wigs to go to school years ago.
I actually scroll past most "straight natural" videos, bc the undertone is always "straight hair is easier to manage."
It is easier to manage honestly imo.
@@ChocoBeauty8It’s really not, just get some locs or something
@@ChocoBeauty8yes and I think it’s okay to say this😂 doesn’t mean we hate ourselves LMAO. But we had these sameeee convos back in the Og natural hair days of 08-12 . I’m tired chile. Everybody just do what you want at this point. It’s a never ending cycle
@hetaliangarbage My hair is natural, and I was natural from 07-15 and have been natural since 2016. I'm currently rocking a mini fro with tapered sides.
@@ChocoBeauty8 I don’t appreciate other black women making it seem like natural hair is a burden to care for. That’s what most of those videos imply. I have natural hair & it’s past my underarms. I truly believe that proper hair care helps
You love black women and afro textured hair more than any other RUclipsr that I've seen so far
@jojon4272 For real and I truly respect her for that.
Agreed! I have another creator for you… I do not know ppls names it channel names 😅 when I find her I’ll post it here for you
Edit: check out ‘Mayowa’s World’ if you haven’t seen any of her stuff before.
The og natural was on this wave in the early days, but then the movement got dismantled lol
Actually Julie, Coily Cuties, Heal with Marie are good too
@@introvertednigeriangirl4865 Actually Julie is another one of my faves.
Comparison is the killer of joy, that’s what my grandma said. You are unique, embrace it.
That comparison is what breeds hate. Then people will lash out at other women who they deem to have a better texture than their own.
This ain’t for you girlie, sit this convo out 😂
Head wraps have helped me greatly in appreciating my natural hair. Due to the climate where I live and certain qualities about my hair, I can’t achieve a consistent twist out or braid out every day without spending too much time manipulating my hair, and even doing regular updos puts a lot of stress on my hair. I've learned to let go of the idea that my hair needs to be loose and down every day. On most days, I keep it in a semi-protective style where the front part is untwisted to form a fringe (asymmetrical bangs?) that peek out of my scarf while the rest is twisted and protected by the scarf. It's a very quick and easy hairstyle to do in the morning, while still looking elegant and allowing me to show some of my hair. Towards the end of the week, I untwist all of my hair and wear it in a twist out or braid out for the weekend. This routine has helped me to keep my hair more easily moisturizerized with less breakage while still getting to enjoy having my hair out on a fairly regular basis.
Yes I love a good braid out! I section my hair and wrap each section around with a scrunchie to achieve heartless stretched hair.
To me that is still low key hiding the roots. Lol
@@BeautifulEvaCrochetsthat is still trying to change the texture but in a low key way
You can also get stronger hold products. I live in NYC where it’s always humid and my twists outs last for a good 5-7 days
Girl i deleted my instagram in 2023 and threw away my flawless $900 wig and im still struggling but in the past year my hair has grown from my jawline to touching my shoulders and collarbone when stretched. I wear box braids and do them myself bc im in hawaii now and this climate is a nightmare for my hair lol
oh wow, how’s hawaii been for you ?
@@meanssnothingg I’m in Honolulu and weather is beyond perfect for natural hair ❤
@@757Princess Oh, nice ! i’m in Florida is the weather similar to that humid type beat ?
@@meanssnothingg girl it took me a year to find a job after i moved here. i have a degree but im a server/bartender right now bc there are no jobs on the big island. the humidity here is always at least 60%, but its nothing like the phillipinnes or french polynesia. so, kinda similar to florida. i do love the people and the culture here, it is a heartwarming environment
Watching influencers talking about practically going bald because they never took care of their hair while putting on wig after wig really taught me that a lot of us have been taught to do "beauty" at our own expense😢
We are not aware of psychological warfare of this white world.
We stopped resisting and started to participate in anti-blackness.
Unfortunately this is true so many curly haired women are not taught how to properly take care of their hair so they don’t because they don’t know how to
She's so lucky that her mother is teaching her how to do hair. My mom refused, and i didn't have any one to show me. Now I'm adult trying to figure it out.
My mom is biracial with straight type 1 hair. I also had to learn on my own as an adult, but I eventually learned what my hair likes and it’s healthy and thriving.
Girl you’re starting a revolution
You’re so pretty
Naw the revolution began in 08 😂 and got dismantled by the mixed chicks. And the same thing will happen again and again . The revolution is not coming lol
@@Daydreamerr13wigs has existed since middle age it’s forever gonna be there
@lipsticklullaby007 thank you girly
I love that you call our hair our "winning strategy." ❤
I believe if parents taught their kids from a young age that black hair is beautiful and put an effort to make their natural curls/coil look pretty, then there will be no more self-hate. I personally hated my curly hair for many years cuz having it "done" (ie. straightening) took some time. Then when I started to care for it, I disliked my tight curls (3c/4a) and wished I had looser curls. But seeing many influencers with stunning 3c and 4a hair gave me so much confidence. Now no matter what anyone says, I deeply believe that our hair is beautiful
If black men stop wearing their hair, like little black girls, it could start
I don’t wear fake hair. But I do flat iron my real hair. I’m working on wearing it natural. My Japanese husband asked me why I didn’t wear my hair naturally curly.
Y’all are literally so cute🥰🫶🏾 btw I hope I’m not being rude by asking but how is it going with his family? Ik Asian families don’t usually agree with their children dating outside their race or even their demographic so I wanted to know how is it going for you if that’s okay
It’s crazy because non black men fall in love with our natural qualities.
@@kathydelarosa1286yes a lot of non black men love the God given beauty God bestowed upon us- except for BW themselves and some BM. you would think otherwise but surprisingly they do
@@kathydelarosa1286they adore our blackness
This is so sweet 💗😭
Black people have been conditioned to hate everything that represents blackness. We have been brainwashed from beauty standards on what looks attractive, religion ect. I'm so glad someone finally sees the light. I 💯 support your channel my sister. Black is beautiful.
The simple things keep us hating ourselves. Black women, I love you, I pray you all heal and can exist in your natural beauty.
Amen❤
LMAO I finally accepted a FT from an IG friend and the 1st thang he said was “why yo hair not straight?”. Mind you, all 27 of my posts show me in braids, even my stories. When it’s not braid season (in texas) I wear it in a wash & go. My hair is straight about 3x a year for a trim. People are a *trip*
Omd a ‘friend’ refused to post me cause I wore my natural hair In a high bun for my birthday😬
@@JammyLatte I'm very happy that you put the word friend in quotations, because we all know that actual friends wouldn't do something like that. That's messed up!
Whenever I try to talk to black women about their obsession with straight wigs, they give me the 3 most common excuses:
"Its s protective style"
Yet they choose a straight weave.
"Wigs gives a variety of hairstyles"
Yet they choose the same 2-3 wig hairstyles with the adult hairs slick down, looking like clones.
And my current favourite;
"I dunno where you live but black women mainky wear natural hair"
The biggest lie ever. I live in one of America's biggest city snd 95% of black women wear straight weaves. Many times im the only natural in the crowd of black ppl in a black neighborhood.
The cognitive dissonance black women remain in to wear their hair hats is tragic.
@CaribbeanGlow Hey girl, hey!! 😆😆 You have made points, YET again. (・з・) The delusion is too real and too deep with these women, they always have a excuse for something. We're about to be in the Gregorian year of 2025; they H A T E their hair and what it represents (their racial/ethnic identity), das it. 🤷🏾♀🤷🏾♀
@@CaribbeanGlow yupppp been this way for decades lolol
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wearing wigs. My only issue is when we never see their natural hair, or even box braids or anything
@@mazelovesosa nothing wrong with weave, the issue is the texture of the weave. It's always straight and not our own texture..if we all switched to type 4 wigs, it would fitting but black women in general prefer straight hair thus straight weave.
@@CaribbeanGlow yeah I understand totally. I got type 3 hair so I love me some curly wigs that looks like my own hair, straight ones are boring anyway
I literally just seen a youtuber who I stopped watching because she did relaxed hair content and i'm not relaxed so i didn't see the point but she popped back up in my algorithm and she did a big chop and cut her hair GIRLLLL when I tell you she looked so much more beautiful like relaxed hair didn't do her justice natural hair really does suit bw the best
Who is the RUclipsr so I can follow too
@ Octavia B 😊
@@joimonae4090 lol I thought you were talking about Seun Okimi, she did the same thing
Black women with thick natural kinky hair 😍😍💋
Tbh, I’ve been natural for over a decade at this point and the first go around I straightened it all the time. I loved it and it was half way down my back. Big chopped and allowing it to grow again without the heat so see the full potential of my curls this time. Ladies, it’s your hair. Straightened or curly let it be yours because it’s truly beautiful
I tried wearing type 1-2 lace front wigs once. After that day, I couldn’t stand the feeling of wearing a wig. Felt like a helmet. Idk how women do this on a daily basis!
When BW women continue to wear straight hair in any form, it's only keep the whyte beauty standard alive and pushing out black beauty standards.
Nah, it's black women raising their daughters to hate their that keeps this shit alive.
@@ChocoBeauty8girl. Stop…..
@@ChocoBeauty8 My maternal grandfather is 75% white and had curly hair still. My paternal grandmother had a 75% Irish mother who still had curly hair. So how can a black person have naturally straight hair? That doesn’t make sense . I guess it all depends on what you mean by black.
@@ChocoBeauty8 Do they represent the majority??
No because yt beauty standards will still be the world standard despite what we do
I have 4b hair that’s at my shoulders in the natural state, and at the middle of my back once stretched. I completely stopped wearing any type of fake hair in may/June this year. Even when I wore fake hair, it was always curly/kinky hair that was similar or matched my hair. It was hard going all natural at first, but I love it! Any hairstyle I want to do, I simply do it with my own hair. I embrace my shrinkage, frizz, and texture. My hair has also grown longer and thicker. I’ve NEVER gotten so many compliments on my beauty and hair like this! I’m constantly called a black queen by customers at my job and I had a client ask me how I got my wig like that (it was a twist out lol). 🤭
Even on trips, I’ve worn my hair out! I went to Panama a few months ago and was heavily contemplating a protective style like box braids and etc. I decided to challenge myself and went with a twist out. Each day I tried something new with it even as it shrunk. I even went swimming on the beach a few months back and my shrunk ALL the way up 😂 but it feels good to just be me!
Qhemet Biologics is the best hair care brand for type 4 hair!! The amla & olive heavy cream is the best product I’ve ever bought, keeps my super dry hair moisturized for at least 3 days straight.
I saw that product recommended on curly hair chemistry or something like that.
@dmystfy Thank you for the recommendation, I'll check em out!! :-))
I appreciate this video 🥰 Wearing my natural hair is and ALWAYS will be the move!
Omg your profile photo is fire🔥
@ thank you! One of my all time favorite photos of myself 😭🤭🥰
@@janayflowersmedia8817ur hair is beautiful, I want to learn more styles because all I can wear is puffs
Thank you for your videos Tati. I feel much more confident leaving my house in mini braids no extensions and notice that I still turn heads even without having long hair (barely neck length braids 😂) thank you for helping me let go of the fake hair and love myself more!
I was reading this book and the author described mini braids as an elaborate hairstyle (which they are) and the character wore them for her wedding. Our standards for what is considered to be beautiful and elaborate needs to start from there and I think our perspectives would change vastly.
Ty for being brave enough to do this video. I agree so much. So so so so much as a 4c girlie. 🎉🎉
Actually, love my "type 4" kinky hair and never had a problem with it in a professional setting. Attitude, confidence, and mindset are remarkable assets in most situations.
6:20 I stopped watching her,she doesn’t get it men DO care why do y’all think they say stuff about most black women looking like drag queens with wigs and heavy makeup and edges touching their brows? Not to mention they actually WEAR their own hair texture it’s what they aren’t getting. But wort even get Into that,every time I watch black women talking about glowing up seeing past pictures all they did was put on a curly wig and learned makeup,y’all not glowing up at all,you’re looking like everyone else.
@HandleBerries Ding ding ding!!
most bm do care,they hold most black women up to ghetto standards,you don’t wear a 15 inch (whatever inch) buss down? You’re broke,you wear weave that makes you look like a damn drag queen? You look stupid,you wear braids for too long they start lifting? They notice that,wearing a wig and the edges don’t match your skintone? (The makeup color) they notice,they do care. And it isn’t black men’s job to install black womens hair in a positive let’s let’s be honest,and you made this whole paragraph about black men,this isn’t about them black women need to step up and take responsibility,and if a bm is dating in or outside his race isn’t anyone’s business.
@SaabirahofAnavahI’m sorry but I have to disagree. I was a teenager in the eighties, we straighten our hair, a lot. Relaxers were very much the thing to do. It was not the norm to ‘do your edges’.
Bm don’t like natural hair they constantly say it and show it with their actions so please stop it.
Bm don’t even like natural hair the way they make fun of it shows they don’t like it. Also a man who cares about hair is probably into something else
Thank you for your content. All the things you express about women of color with coils is valid. I have been natural for many years teaching myself how to do and style my hair. I would use heat to dry it and i saw no length retention. This year i came across a youtuber Napp Queen (may she RIP) she made me think differently about my hair. I stopped blow drying my hair and decided to love my hair and myself. My routine is very different now and i moisturize it 3 to 4 times a week. I finger detangle and only use a pic to detangle when washing, the growth is amazing. I actually have a relationship with my hair i give it what it needs and it thrives. It takes time but anything you put time and love into yields positive results. I actually apologize for all the years of mistreatment to my hair because i was not taught to love it growing up. I love that you are so passionate about natural hair. I love your content you are right our hair is beautiful. It looks like trees and clouds and so many other things in nature.
I 10000% agree with this MESSAGE!!! every time I wear natural hair on my RUclips channel, my videos do much better overall! I'm no longer blind to the natural beauty of natural hair styles. you were so correct when you said that it matches our features and that is so true! Keep pouring into us because the truth is the truth!
8:49 YES KEEP THEM . I HATE this idea that black women can’t have those goals cause “ it’s a Eurocentric “ but wearing these types of weave aren’t .pleassssse stop the cap
My theory is it’s because growing long hair is harder for most black women due to processing/rough haircare and the naturally slow progression of visible length retention when you have kinky hair. It’s far quicker and easier to go buy a long type 1-3 wig so of course they’d defend that practice and vilify the one that is farther out of reach.
@@BlueVeins-k6b- growing long hair isn’t hard at all once you learn what your hair likes.
The real problem is that most black women don’t like their own hair type and therefore have to spend a lot of time & money trying to make it look closer to 3c.
this popped up my fyp on the right time!! i don't remember the last time i had my natural hair , its been just weaves and braids for the longest. thank you genuinely so much for this video 💓🤞🏾
It’s so sad that that when we think of natural hair we don’t think about hairstyles. Afro hair doesn’t have to be a long afro to be seen as beautiful. Locs, cornrows, braids, we can do so many beautiful hairstyles rather than just let it out !
I feel like this is how it is meant to be (a beautiful afro or bun is really cute also ofc), in braids or cornrows.
I do sat roller set and two strand twist only and soft corn rows hair only so I don't get breakage. I notice my hair grows healthier and very little breakage.
Stop putting yourself in CHASE mode! This applies to so many things in life.
I literally look at my hair everyday in awe. I hope we as a collective can get to this point. Loving my hair has enabled me to reach the goals i want. I havnt even worn a different hair texture in years.
Did a shave almost to the scalp now my hair is under my shoulder blades. All races of men stop and look, like in their tracks. Saying that your jealous of those girls with certain hair textures is down right embarrassing. No i do not wear extensions and I am still learning to style my natural hair in updos but I think that I am doing great considering that I only started to learn how to care and love my hair since 2016. Lived most of my life with processed hair. Great video.🩷🩷🩷🩷
Sometimes I wish 4c hair didn’t exists it’s so mean 😭😭
@@SaraYasmeen25HUH?? Go heal please, what is this comment?? I truly hate that you made me see this and now someone else might too. (｡ì _ í｡)
@connieholmes4853 I agree with your comment and I hope that you continue loving your hair. :-)) Good luck on your journey!! xx
@@SaraYasmeen25 Then the majority of the black collective wouldn't exist either because 4C hair is inherently black...
@@SaraYasmeen25I used to watch my cousins getting their hair done and it looked sooo painful. The endless tangles (and the way the freshly detangled hair just tangles back into itself), the crying, and the tightly pulled/high heat styles (complete with forehead and ear burns). I was lucky that despite my black family not explicitly saying I had “good hair”, they definitely didn’t do that stuff to my hair.
I love extensions and I wear them occasionally to match my hair texture. I used to straighten my hair every 2 weeks and it started breaking off. I didn’t even realize why I needed my hair straight to feel pretty. It’s not healthy for the hair
I started wearing a fro for a month now. I’ve noticed that when they see me they start flipping or playing in their hair and looking at me.
That’s typical for ww
I love your positivity about our gorgeous natural hair!!! You go girl!!! 😍
Can I still wear weaves that mimic my hair texture, because I am not yet comfortable with my hair length
@@feline_star yep!
thank you, I asked before reaching that part of the video 😂😂😂
Everytime I catch myself feeling insecure about my hair, I watch your videos ❤ they are so helpful
I used to relax my hair. Growing up, my mom relaxed my hair. Now I'm natural. I love my natiral hair. I've been natural for three and balf years now. I didn't even know how to take care ofy hair before then.
You hair looks so beautiful. Ever since I started wearing my natural hair, first I'm waaay less stressed and uptight and my confidence levels are high asf knowing I don't have to worry about sweating or the new growth frizzing etc, these things are SOOO damn stressful and limiting, I can now enjoy moments of life with waaay more ease, the weight of chasing a beauty standard u were not meant to have shows on your FACE right when u step out the door, unravelling braids and doing a cute hairstyle is NO stress and u step out your door looking relaxed and rested and radiating ease, while when u spend 90% of the morning in front of the mirror trying to have someone else's type of hair you radiate stress and resentment and uptightness. ❤❤
Thank you for your different content, and thank you for being real. ❤❤
it makes me sad to see black women in wigs 🫢
Same. It makes me even more sad that these BW truly believe their weaves look "realistic". Realistic to who? Who do they believe they're fooling? Loose textured wigs on BW all look like costumes to me at this point. I don't wear them, and I would never lie to another BW and tell her it looks good when I know it's actually taking from her beauty!
@ it technically is a cosplay of another woman’s phenotype
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682Some of them do be looking good tho
@@cctv318But other women wanna look like us and black people can have fine hair too. Stop shaming women who wear wigs and weaves
I buy kinky or Afro textured wigs❤
I learned this wearing locs. Your hair can be easy dont feel afraid to wear it.
Can you talk about the financial freedom of wearing your own hair or similar textured hair!!!
I’ve literally saved hundreds if not thousands ( judging by the way these hair stylist charge) this past year by doing my own hair and wearing half wigs.
Society has put so much financial restraints on us all because many want proximity to baddie culture and other other ethnicities. 💔
THE WICKED WEAVE OF THE WEEEST!? 😂😂😂😂 Tatiana that's genius!
Here is my experience this year : Personnally I wore my natural 4C hair at least 5 months this year because I needed a break and wanted to embrace my natural beauty. My hair’s lenght is past my shoulder when stretched and my go to hairstyles were twists, braid out or just putting my hair in a bun.
I’ve made head turn, but only when my hair was stretched or if my curls were defined and only when my make up was done perfectly. If my hair and face were in their most natural state, I felt like people had a negative perception of me. Also I loved wearing my natural hair but my family kept saying that my hair wasnt done, even if I had twist or braid out. They made me feel like I was neglecting myself.
Now, I’ve planned to do a silk press for the first time this winter ☺️ but the hairdresser isnt available and I cant let someone else touch my hair. So in the meantime, I have decided to do a yaki straight sew in.
I will definetly come back to my natural hair but my mental health makes me feel like I need to do something new and I’m someone who loves changing my hairstyle every two months. Even if I love my natural hair, changing my hair as much as I want to is a part of me and my cameroonian culture 🙂
I get hair textures that match mine now, yaki straight, yaki or kinky straight & even when I have straight bundles I take some left over kinky straight hair and blend it with my leave out !!! GAME CHANGERRRRTR fr. The best think I ever did was start texture matching & everyday don’t gotta worry about no damn leave out or edges.
I'm natural and swing between braids, mini braids and afro. I remember once telling a colleague that I don't own a wig and she was shocked and *concerned*
Love your videos on natural hair ❤ you encourage us to walk in power vs doing a bunch of call outs/ or complaining. You def played a part in me viewing my natural hair in a more powerful way.
Bingo! Yes to everything! Thank you for this, our community needed this! 💞
You just teach and give knowledge to the history of hair and how loving it, your own, will create the natural beauty every woman craves. Realistically, who wants to take their hair off.
It took Japanese men making Afros trendy for me to love my 4c hair and see its potential for versatility. It’s the markets that are cashing in off our insecurities that we need to take over as a people. Before weave it was relaxer, right now we have a lot more options.
I refuse to wear these hair of another race.
I’m a teacher and I’m very happy to see that all the black girls at my job wear natural hairstyles.
I don’t think weave or extensions are inherently good or bad, it’s just black women have a complicated relationship with it due to our hair being negatively stereotyped until this very day. I wish that hair wasn’t a political statement but it is. I’ve always loved cosmetology and I adore all the ways that hair can look and how different styles can signify so many different things. In my eyes it is akin to personal style. It is just a way to play around with your look. The issue is that straight hair has become the default and many people put straight hair on a pedestal. People should do what they want with their hair but they need to be careful about sending and internalizing harmful messages about our beautiful natural kinky hair.
I agree with you to an extent but only very few look at our hair as a political statement especially if you’re dressed classy
At this point in my evolution, my problem with the idea that it’s okay to participate in these things as long as one appreciates their true self is that I believe if you truly appreciate your true self, there wouldn’t be a desire in the first place to cover that or alter that (ie by using wigs, makeup, etc.). I feel that it sends a message when you participate in these things, regardless. It sends the message that you are not enough. I believe people use the mentality that you can use it as a tool and still be confident in yourself to cover up that wanting to use these things is still rooted in programming in the first place.
@@Tatianaclicksnot true most ppl look at it as some type of civil right statement especially in high society
Exactly 😊
The only thing I don’t like about this video is that it’s too short. We need this to be an hour long or more documentary.
Coming soon
@@Tatianaclickswaiting ❤
I’m so grateful for this video. Not enough people are talking about this. As more women are seeking to enter their feminine era, it appears that they are associating femininity with a certain aesthetic (European-like). I hardly ever see black influencers with Afros and hair in their natural state claiming they are resting in their femininity. It’s almost as if society is saying that black women can’t be or look feminine without stripping themselves of their ethnic qualities. Again, I appreciate you discussing this topic. I hope more people can call it what it is.
You have a valid point. I love my natural hair but my toxic trait is im not patient enough with my hair and weave feels more manageable in a short time. Honestly I just need to learn to take care of my real hair, idk what works right now
In 12 grade I started wearing wigs and I started feeling ugly without it and depressed. When I met my spouse he encouraged me to wear my natural hair and now 6 years later I'm still wearing it. #microlocs
May I say thank you and I appreciate ur soft approach to this issue. Other bw are so harsh to bw who struggle with embracing their hair. Ppl forget that we have been programmed since childhood that our hair is inferior. I would get burned getting my hair braided while watching the L’Oréal white girls have their hair blowing in the wind. That already put in my mind their hair is so much easier to deal with. Or I would get my hair relaxed and burned there too, and not have the same bounce as the girls on the box. And the majority of love interest and the symbol of femininity always had long flowing hair or
loosely curled. For me it has always been a struggle of texture and length.
my hair has been my biggest insecurity my whole life and I finally took the step a few months ago to start embracing by 4C hair and stop relaxing it and I’ve never been happier! like genuinely once i started seeing my hair as a bleed rather than a curse it truly changed my perspective!
Im starting a hair product business one day and i truly feel like im finally settling in my self-love journey for my hair
I never thought I needed this video but I definitely did. I appreciate the tips and encouragement to love your natural hair.
9:26 our hair gets big and THEN drops down
lmao you literally said it right as i posted my comment
5:48 don’t care or don’t know 👀 because it matches their texture 🍵
I’ve been locced since 2010 🙌🏾 I never felt comfortable wearing bone straight weave. I always felt wigs and weaves were suppose to be undetectable. Course yaki had me in a chokehold
I noticed my hair grows a lot longer when I wear glue less wigs (because of cornrows). I think many women wear wigs because even though it’s their cornrows making their hair grow longer not the wig itself I know many women including myself don’t really like the style of cornrows. Whether my hair was long or short or any other texture, I still hate cornrows so I would put a wig on, but I stopped wearing wigs that aren’t close or the same to my natural hair texture. If you wear wigs try to wear the ones closer to your hair texture!!
**Heavy, deep, negro sigh***
I remember these same convos from Tumblr back in 2013-2014. It’ll never end tbh. I actually predict it’s going to get worse again, before it gets better. I’m 26 and it is what it is, this has been happening my entire life. It’s never going to change.
I remember I jumped in a pool with my Locs and this white girl asked me why my hair still looks the same when it’s wet…she had thin hair that wouldn’t grow past her shoulders. She only did that to make me feel some type of way about the texture of my hair. When my hair began growing she told me she didn’t like that it was getting longer than hers. I’ve always been scared of wigs, I just lowkey felt like I had to accept that black women love them and I shouldn’t put them down for wearing wigs. The things that I’ve been told by black women for talking down on wigs made me feel like I wasn’t being understanding when really most of the reasons were excuses.
I love wearing my natural hair, I just started trying a wig at 24 years old. I decided they come in handy sometimes. The only time I’ll wear a wig is if I wanna switch up and have a hairstyle that’s straight or body waved, a different color or bangs. All of these things I can’t do to my natural hair because I don’t want to damage it as I’ve worked very hard to keep it healthy. I decided to get 3 wigs and that’s it and most of the time they sit there and I don’t wear them cause I’m not used to them and I’m too lazy and would rather just wear my hair or some mini twists lol
I’m so tired of hearing women hate their hair. I’m exhausted by it.
Thank you for making this video. I’m trying to love my hair and it hasn’t been an easy task. I’ve spent my life wearing box braids and I started wearing my natural hair out a few years back. I’m still trying to get used to it. I have a question for you, tho?
How do you love your hair and still have hair goals? I’m having trouble loving my hair.
Well the way I started loving my hair is realizing we’re the only group of women with natural 4a,b,c hair and no other race of women have that type of hair so it makes me feel special
I'd follow/subscribe to women whose hair looks like mine. There's a plethora of natural hair accounts with thick,thin,short,long hair. Also, pinterest can be helpful for finding inspo
What helped me was that i didn’t compare my hair to other people and i followed black women who wear their natural hair and have the same length that i’m at, also surround yourself with people who love their hair also because if you don’t then subconsciously you’ll start to hate it.
@@kpopisawesome9343I’ve met naturally type 4a Irish and Italians, so you’re not the only ones with it, but it is far more prevalent and it’s majority an African feature.
All so true. Black women set so many trends. To embrace 4 type hair would absolutely reset the standard to include natural 4 type hair!! I get it that the pressure is high to fit into the "accepted" norm for beauty. All hair types can be high maintenance so that's no excuse. Broadening the standard is worth the work.
Social media is at fault. I never fell into wearing hair that didn’t match my hair type. I’ve done it and now I’m looking for clip in 4c hair
She is speaking the truth
Needs to be said, am still lost sometimes and i have locs
I remember the sheabutter tumblr these convos used to go crazyyyy omg it was crazy in that 2010-2014 era . That’s why I just do me because it’s alllll so cyclical
Those lace front wigs look strange in person. I’ve never seen one that looks good.
Thank you for this video, this is so true I hope it goes viral love u!!! Straight facts u are very educated!!!!
I have never been into wigs, fake hair or nails and use very little makeup.My own natural hair is waist length. I make my own haircare products so that I know what's in it.
Black hair is literally an antennae to receive msgs from source. I’ve recently taken a chill pill from these wigs in real life and started treating my hair like a plant 🪴 cause that’s what it is. It’s your crown. I personally like blonde and I’m never bleaching my curls ever again! Soooo yeah lol also, That girl speaking in the beginning has the textures most girls buy soooo her opinion is skewed 🫤 great video! ❤️
Loved this video ❤ your tone is so beautiful and calm.
Ok so my kids have been pretty isolated from society bc of my job and lack of family support. And although generally I know that's not a good thing but one positive thing about it is none of them struggle with this problem. There was never even a white doll in my house until maybe 2 yrs ago (my oldest 13) and we don't watch alot of tv. My kids literally had no odea this existed. And unfortunately they are starting to find out now but fortunately I do feel like the idea they have about themselves is pretty set in stone already. I know everyone isn't able to isolate their kids away from the world the way I was but I do feel like surrounding your kids with as much positive black beauty as you can while they are young and cutting them off from tv while they are young could be very beneficial. I feel it's been vitally important in them having a positive image of themselves before the world ever had a chance to tell them anything else.
your channel is so needed, thank you ♥️
I don't think you're doomed to hate your hair, but the acceptance works needs to come from internally
I love doing Al types of hair. Cornrows,braids,weaves,wigs..you name it! The problem is when you feel you’re only pretty when you look a certain way.