Toxic Women who want to control the dynamic of a relationship

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  • @nuday777
    @nuday777 2 года назад +8

    I agree 💯- I want a man who stands in his Masculine energy. I am secure enough to know that he is not controlling me but is leading in a respectful, not controlling way. I was married to a Feminine male (broken and toxic). Learned the hard way, but I learned. I know my position in a relationship now.

  • @tattianasky469
    @tattianasky469 2 года назад +19

    I am a woman am I completely agree with everything that you have said in this video. Im old fashioned and I can't believe how the world has come. I know so many evil vindictive woman who are lound obnoxious and takes the man for everything. And thanks to all the woman who are Luke this, who give WOMAN a bad name. Thank you for putting this video out there cause I don't think men Today have a clue about how things should be. Thank you brother!

    • @primalway1317
      @primalway1317 2 года назад +2

      I commend you and thank you for your honesty.

  • @user-gp5yh7eg4z
    @user-gp5yh7eg4z 2 года назад +24

    Even in the best of relationships they also bring their baggage that creates the dynamic. Everyone is accountable in a relationship.

    • @harryheath9928
      @harryheath9928 2 года назад

      My sons mother called me a loser cheat on me with her new boyfriend I'd have to go with the police to pick up my son finally I couldn't put up was it didn't pick him up cause she was calling me loser now I'm the first curse breaker in my family

  • @ElephantInTheRoom777
    @ElephantInTheRoom777 2 года назад +5

    Never let a woman harness me again.

  • @susanbarnyak7393
    @susanbarnyak7393 2 года назад +6

    You are right about peace. I have been married for 30 years and we were together for 6 years before we got married. For peace you sacrifice but that is how you win and have a happy marriage. You need to know when to open your mouth and when to keep silent. You do not own that other person. Another thing that keeps peace is how you say your words. Be kind always and you can keep the peace easier. Learn to choose your battles and have a long engagement beforehand so you can see the person in every kind of situation. Anyone can put on a show for 6 months.

  • @SpiritOwlofSeptember
    @SpiritOwlofSeptember 2 года назад +6

    🧿Oh I agree. So many women walk in their masculinity rather then femininity. I can't tell you how many times my heart has ached for the guy. When the woman has completely emasculated the man in public and he....just ...takes it.......its abuse plain and simple......its that Jezebel spirit. The man obvi needs to heal from a childhood wound of some kind.🧿

  • @gavinspeaks
    @gavinspeaks 2 года назад +10

    “If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” - Milton Berle
    💜 Heart-Based Manifestation RUclipsr

  • @ATeaNTea
    @ATeaNTea 2 года назад +9

    Thank you cause their toxicity needs to be exposed thanks it goes both ways

  • @victoriasrandomthoughts8698
    @victoriasrandomthoughts8698 2 года назад +8

    Your damn right!!! Controlling people are a serious problem. I really feel like it should just be easy flowing situation or it's not a relationship. You gotta love who your with and trust that person. I've always been the giver.

    • @kisigma1011
      @kisigma1011 Год назад

      Yeah same I stop giving people are selfish

  • @andrewtyrrell505
    @andrewtyrrell505 2 года назад +6

    The fakery is so real though. You need x-ray eyes to see through the facade
    Its like a mirage in the dessert sometimes

  • @maddyblackier8953
    @maddyblackier8953 2 года назад +2

    Yes! I agree 💯 with this take. I have seen alot of toxic woman controlling their relationship and it's not pretty. I would rather fix my issues with myself first then bring my baggage onto a good man. The man should be the alpha not the woman. If someone gets offended by this video she's probably guilty of this.

  • @primalway1317
    @primalway1317 2 года назад +9

    One of the wisest things I've ever heard was when TJJ said " the way out of being a narcissist is ACCOUNTABILITY "
    Amazing . There is power in simplicity. People need to be accountable in every way and they'll avoid almost every pitfall in life...basically it's love your neighbor..

    • @laugh1583
      @laugh1583 2 года назад

      Accountability seems like a very non existent trait of modern people sadly. No one can seem to take Accountability for their actions, but instead they seem to only make endless excuses.

  • @datdapgotskip
    @datdapgotskip 2 года назад +3

    Man I've said the same thing. Maybe an 8, but as soon as they speak 2! Or they are trying to look good on the outside because they don't feel good on the inside. An never will

  • @dominicpalmer2515
    @dominicpalmer2515 2 года назад +1

    I agree with TJ on this one ... definitely can't be going for that gotta stand for what you believe ...And what is right ....Men are to take leadership roles so that a woman wants to submit to the relationship and let the man do the labor

  • @chelseasmith9242
    @chelseasmith9242 2 года назад

    Yes, you're 100% correct and I appreciate your honesty and transparency. It takes two people to make a relationship work, as well as it takes two people to make a marriage work. Both people in the relationship and/or marriage, are responsible for their actions and behaviors and we all are accountable for our actions and behaviors.

  • @Grail434
    @Grail434 2 года назад +1

    Best video yet ♥️

  • @stevemarc7349
    @stevemarc7349 2 года назад +7

    I’ll tell u what he’s right about certain ones bringing toxicity into ur life n he’s also DOBA with saying u can see or be with an 8 n soon as she she opens her mouth she’s a 2. He’s definitely DOBA n for those who don’t know DOBA = Dead On Balls Accurate

  • @JESUSISGREATEST
    @JESUSISGREATEST 2 года назад +1

    Never allow anyone to control your life. Take their opinions with a filtering mindset.

  • @jamainedingle4639
    @jamainedingle4639 2 года назад +1

    You did it again! Another amazing video

  • @primalway1317
    @primalway1317 2 года назад +3

    TJJ, you literally hit it out of the park in how you explain the dynamic with narcs..I got gutted by a narc repeatedly because I refused to wake up and take action..until now...it's tough, it's damaging and I'm sure I'll be hurting for a while....it's a war trying to detach from a narc...a long brutal war...
    Anyway, .seriously brother, you are helping alot of people out...you also relate to vampires with those glasses brother...lol
    Thanks again

  • @JamesHawkeYouTube
    @JamesHawkeYouTube 2 года назад +2

    Not "opposite " but complementary. One complements the other. One's strengths lift the other. Both ways. Balanced. Harmonic. Natural. As God intended. Peace.

  • @veronican.h4337
    @veronican.h4337 2 года назад +4

    I agree. I'm not going to take offense to the single mother comment because it's hard enough to go thru just the pregnancy by yourself imagine having the baby or talking over the person because it would be stupid considering I understand my circumstances and myself. I know what it's like to have a healthy relationship with the opposite sex. I'm had plenty of them. Where there's no cheating lying deceit or even physical or mental abuse that you are constantly having to forgive. I agree with all you're saying. There's nothing better than finding someone you can have a good relationship with. It's the best thing sometimes you part ways for different reasons that you don't have control over but that's life. As far as ending up a single parent sometimes you think it'd be good to meet another person even if you're pregnant and to be honest I think its best not to seek it and just tough it out and be alone with your baby for a while rather than try and find completion with someone else. That word peace. If someone can bring peace into your life it's almost as someone bringing magic into your life. Nothing else like it. When it's just you and them. Not you them and 50 thousand other women and lies and no accountability whatsoever for anything other than calling everything a mistake. After 50 mistakes how many of those were decisions? Peace is everything. Honesty. Why wouldn't you want to find that person for yourself? Some of my best relationships/friendships with males have been those. Nothing else compares.

  • @sheamalvasio2832
    @sheamalvasio2832 2 года назад +1

    Great video!! So true...Very accurate

  • @michaeltodd7405
    @michaeltodd7405 2 года назад +5

    Jesus Christ will send the right person into your life. If you're a real angel then you are connected to the spirit world and see into the spiritual. Your soulmate will come along soon, just believe in it

  • @star3006
    @star3006 2 года назад

    Its equal respect ✊ towards male & female Be someone’s Rock ....not someone ‘s insanity 👺👿

  • @ion216
    @ion216 2 года назад +7

    One thing I can say is that I don't think relationships can be based on control freaks I think what more people need is more gladiators we hardly have any gladiators at least nowadays at all peace be with you and God bless

    • @primalway1317
      @primalway1317 2 года назад +1

      It's not control that TJJ is promoting. It's ORDER and purpose of the positions in that order. Men and women should COMPLETE each other and NOT COMPETE with each other.
      We are complimentary organisms with form and function in a ORDER that was laid out for us.

    • @primalway1317
      @primalway1317 2 года назад

      @Reverend X it's men's fault for not leading. Just like the owner of a rabid pitbull attacking everyone is responsible....men are to blame for this mess...

    • @primalway1317
      @primalway1317 2 года назад

      @Reverend X exactly. Cooperation with in a power structure that is overall headed by a man. But the inside structure (home) is built and ran from the leadership of a woman. We are role players. We need each other.

  • @joshuawood1428
    @joshuawood1428 2 года назад +2

    God bless you bro

  • @SurroundedByClowns1926
    @SurroundedByClowns1926 2 года назад +2

    You know you're on the right path involving the opposite sex when despite whatever battles us MEN face in life we can laugh it off even if we do come across as emotionally unavailable/withdrawn

  • @margaretklidas4085
    @margaretklidas4085 2 года назад +1

    ... His and our peaceful place❣

  • @bettermanchannel770
    @bettermanchannel770 2 года назад +1

    Yes sir, the dynamics of a relationship are yin and yang. When I increase you decrease and vice versa, chaos and order guys.

  • @SpiritOwlofSeptember
    @SpiritOwlofSeptember 2 года назад +1

    🧿I honestly couldn't agree more or have said it better myself. I know of women who beat their men. Some were sickly and unable to fight back or just watched the same dynamic growing up with their parents an assumed it was right. Both the men that I speak of have got away and are doing the inner work needed to heal. Sadly, the women have not done any inner work and are choosing to find another victim or supply. For a healthy relationship to exist the "healthy" not ~toxic~ ( I say this because a toxic man should not be allowed in the woman's life she needs to get away from him as fast as she can as well) man has to be able to .. Lead. I have heard it described two ways. By allowing the "healthy" man to lead balance is restored. Analogy 1: It is like an umbrella the woman is the rod that supports and brings comfort to the man by building him up. The man is the covering that leads, watches over, protects, and shields from the rain. The children learn and grow from both they are the hook. Analogy 2: Its like a triangle. The man on one bottom corner the woman on the other bottom corner. ABBA, GOD or (Your Higher Power) at the top corner of the triangle. The closer the man or woman is to ABBA the closer they are to each other. Here is a real shiny lol nugget of wisdom. With a triangle it goes both ways. The further away the man or woman is from ABBA the further away they are from each other as well. 😏simply Genuis I know.🕊️cant take credit gotta give credit where credit is due. Pastor David and his wife Amy taught me that🕊️How is that for some inner work Mister😘 By the way I wanted to say I'm so PROUD OF ya for quitting caffeine thats a Beast in and of itself. Mad Luv and my hat goes off to ya❤️ Going live Today later this afternoon central time gonna be discussing The Fruits of the Spirit and Being Meek. And being Meek doesn't mean Weak quite the contrary The Meek shall inherit the earth my friend😏🧿.

  • @amyj.4992
    @amyj.4992 2 года назад

    It takes two people to love, not one. And the healthy masculine that can lead, gets the secure power bottom to follow. Without making the masculine feel weary of her wandering eye, or like she Gon be laid up with someone else in their bed 🥰

  • @jamierobinson7394
    @jamierobinson7394 2 года назад +1

    Definitely the truth...I have a cousin just as you explain it... Works my nerves thinks she knows every damn thing... She's poison alot of times.

  • @star3006
    @star3006 2 года назад +1

    Spot on yet again 💯👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👍🏼great video 💥

  • @newluden1111
    @newluden1111 2 года назад +8

    Relationships and love are not about control. On either side. It is a mutual compromise of teamwork and respect coming from both sides. Control is not love. Not taking somebody's shit and knowing your worth is. Love for one self.
    In order to love someone else the right way, you must first love yourself.
    It sounds to me, that you think the Man should always dominate, and the woman should always be submissive.
    That is manipulation. I'm probably close to up to decade older than you, and speaking from experience. You don't know what you're talking about. Sorry. Not sorry.

    • @SurroundedByClowns1926
      @SurroundedByClowns1926 2 года назад +2

      We're to deny ourselves from ourselves so that GOD/JESUS CHRIST thus making our love not of the self rather from GOD/JESUS CHRIST self love equals pride

    • @SurroundedByClowns1926
      @SurroundedByClowns1926 Год назад

      And in answer to your question it isn't manipulation on Terry's behalf at all
      Ephesians 5:22 - 5:24
      22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
      23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
      24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
      1 Peter 3:1 - 3:7
      1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
      2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
      3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
      4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
      5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
      6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
      7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
      1 Peter 3:7 - Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
      1 Timothy 2:11 - 2:12
      11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.
      12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
      Genesis 3:16 - Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
      Ephesians 5:22 - Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
      Ephesians 5:22 - 5:33
      22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
      23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
      24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
      25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
      26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
      27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
      28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
      29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
      30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
      31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
      32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
      33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
      Ephesians 5:21 - Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
      Titus 2:9 - Exhort servants to be obedient unto their own masters, and to please them well in all things; not answering again;
      Galatians 3:28 - There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.
      1 Corinthians 11:3 - But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
      Colossians 3:18 - Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
      Hebrews 13:17 - Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.
      Genesis 2:18 - And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

  • @chelseasmith9242
    @chelseasmith9242 2 года назад

    We always want to be a better person today, than we were yesterday, as far as a healthy human being and healthy human growth, as well 🙂😊. Also, love is and equals respect, without respect there is no such thing as love.

  • @margaretklidas4085
    @margaretklidas4085 2 года назад +1

    You Do!

  • @alex1701waller
    @alex1701waller 2 года назад +2

    Okay this one was decent

  • @candyosborne214
    @candyosborne214 2 года назад +1

    Yep you are right, it's how things are - or should be. It gets thrown off balance when either party is off or lacking or wrong. 🤯u get tricked sometimes and when u realize things you're in deep.

  • @ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan
    @ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan Год назад

    How my father can allow sas long term abuse and work his ass off for her ! 😢

  • @michaeltodd7405
    @michaeltodd7405 2 года назад

    I'm an incarnated angel and my girlfriend is an angel too and we row because sometimes she gets in the way but I love her with every fibre of my heart. I couldn't be without her

  • @fckinasshoe17
    @fckinasshoe17 2 года назад

    Nobody wants to do the work. Im still working 😭..

  • @AbsoluteMdot
    @AbsoluteMdot 2 года назад +1

    Nothing but the Jezebel Spirit!!!!

  • @angelfeather6762
    @angelfeather6762 2 года назад

    I'm a woman. I 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 your video. Keep up the good work👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 thank you

  • @ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan
    @ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan Год назад

    You are my pet you are my best quality supplies you are my love ! No toxic girls shall be around me bro ! It's completely wrong ! I can't be around negative energies bro ! I just can't be around negative energies in general !

  • @jameschambers3171
    @jameschambers3171 2 года назад +4

    Theirs both yea men and 👠 narcs to it's probably 50%, 💅 😈

  • @katehampstead6024
    @katehampstead6024 2 года назад

    This was excellent.

  • @deansamuel6029
    @deansamuel6029 2 года назад +1

    Amen too you ☺️🙏☮️

  • @dominiquerzee
    @dominiquerzee 2 года назад +6

    Would love to hear you talk about men and women, bc all this focus on women makes you sound toxic and lacking in knowledge due to age 😬

    • @hth54
      @hth54 2 года назад +7

      He's a man. He should talk about women. And it's very important in these feminist times.

    • @bettermanchannel770
      @bettermanchannel770 2 года назад +1

      Dynamics and polarities exist to compliment

    • @victoriat8481
      @victoriat8481 2 года назад +2

      It’s his lack of experience unfortunately.
      He wants a woman who will submit to him. He’s not going to find it, he has a lot of learning to do.

    • @victoriat8481
      @victoriat8481 2 года назад

      @@hth54 😆😂

    • @hth54
      @hth54 2 года назад

      @@bettermanchannel770 that's an ideal view on the things but it's never like that. Everyone opposes.

  • @pennydavies5439
    @pennydavies5439 2 года назад +1

    😂😂😂 Feeling the love 😂😂👻

  • @blackpillaudrius3015
    @blackpillaudrius3015 2 года назад

    I never was a guy who controlled woman , they did I get soft and sweet around some which I never did in the past,

  • @LauraB86284
    @LauraB86284 2 года назад

    100% agree

  • @violetfrankson5924
    @violetfrankson5924 2 года назад +1

    😇

  • @pk2359
    @pk2359 2 года назад

    yup

  • @margaretklidas4085
    @margaretklidas4085 2 года назад +1

    💛

  • @arizonaaudit3674
    @arizonaaudit3674 2 года назад

    BOOM!!!

  • @denisehoffman2817
    @denisehoffman2817 2 года назад

    Jesus says that the man is the head of the wife. If he said it he knows what he is talking about. How can there truly be love any other way?

  • @hide_and_go_sikh
    @hide_and_go_sikh 2 года назад

    Tell Jesus Christ to give me my crown and tell the devil and all his minions to come over and worship me.

  • @clairefeltsman4767
    @clairefeltsman4767 Год назад

    I want you to lead if your my man I just want to be with you it doesn’t matter to me as long as we are together and you treat me right ❤ and we are happy together , because I would rather that we happy together then right or wrong I just want us to laugh through life together and have a healthy happy relationship forever and be good to one another nothing else matter to me

  • @chicago_beats
    @chicago_beats 2 года назад

    It's not pretty at all. Seen my ex father being controlled nd my ex tried to continue what her parents did. I got out of there.
    The games women play. Whatever the truth is her mom told to my ex in front of me 🙄 she never mentioned it. She always clowned me in the nicest way. She just had anger problems. Every relationship run differently. Idk what happened but ik my ex father was beta he said he used to be like me I believe him

  • @hr3800
    @hr3800 2 года назад +1

    🍀🌟☀️✊🌟☀️🍀

  • @fckinasshoe17
    @fckinasshoe17 2 года назад

    Ugh at this point ur my therapist🤷‍♀️

  • @Lord_Daniel___
    @Lord_Daniel___ 2 года назад

    Do you listen to Tom Leykis?

  • @angelameyer6088
    @angelameyer6088 2 года назад +3

    ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

  • @ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan
    @ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan Год назад

    Men haters are producted since the day one ! Don't let them get into my head ! The intellectual head !

  • @obamas.7963
    @obamas.7963 2 года назад +1

    Where the chains at

  • @margaretklidas4085
    @margaretklidas4085 2 года назад +1

    👍👍👍👍🌟⭐🌟👍😊😷

  • @margaretklidas4085
    @margaretklidas4085 2 года назад +1

    👍❤❤❤👍💙💚

  • @MikeThompson14
    @MikeThompson14 2 года назад

    Preach king Joel 👑

  • @rainbowbgood
    @rainbowbgood 2 года назад

    Rating women on a scale of 1 to 10 is definitely so healthy. So so so healthy. We should all do that! We should all talk like that!

  • @rubydragonrider3072
    @rubydragonrider3072 2 года назад

    Power and control. The root of all narcissism. The millions of dollars for therapy. If a person doesn't choose to be around you of their own free will and you feel the need to "capture". You need fucking help. Same with a dog. If you aren't pleasant enuf to be around, that a dog wants to hang with you, Capture it! Shoot it! Put it in a cage. Lol. I kinda hate hearing your young ppl problems. It makes me supersad. But, hey, at least you are on top of it and teaching others! Woot woot!

    • @rubydragonrider3072
      @rubydragonrider3072 2 года назад

      Chosen is chosen. Don't feel sorry for puppets. Get your dustpan out and sweep that doodoo caca in the street......doodoo caca. Funny, huh? Famous words of Micheal Jackson.

  • @pamelagunn234
    @pamelagunn234 2 года назад

    There's no role. Women and men are humans not objects. The right relationship will have both people following God and happy

  • @brendaleverick3655
    @brendaleverick3655 2 года назад

    If you had admitted to being married the first time I flirted with you, I would not have become toxic. But, you let me flirt with you, while abusing me verbally. You didn't need to exploit me for your own financial and social gain. You just wanted to do that. You exploited the crap out of me, all while hiding wifey until a freaking year had passed.

  • @victoriat8481
    @victoriat8481 2 года назад +6

    Terry I’m stilll going to comment brother. there’s PLENTY of toxic men out there.
    I’m not a “mad” woman, I just find it interesting and I’m sorry “you don’t care”.
    Doesn’t seem right to label your video based simply on toxic “women”.
    Maybe try “toxic people” next time 👍🏼
    There’s crazy women out there for sure but you’ve clearly had issues with women lately?
    13:52

    • @badassnachos7051
      @badassnachos7051 2 года назад

      You are toxic people at least 5 of them lmfao 😂😂😂