What I’m dealing with now. My husband has no boundaries with his family so it forces me to make changes . I know there is someone out there that will choose me/ our family and prioritize me as a spouse ❤
Rose, you have EVERYTHING & still not grateful... This is so sad to watch...Remember what happens to ungrateful people...Everything is not about you.. You've created something amazing, and if you continue on this road....This is painful to watch. I pray God intervenes and you listen.
Don’t be sad! Look at yourself in the mirror! You are beautiful & you have created a beautiful family! Girl be proud! You just keep being the best mother & wife you can be! God got you!
It seems her mother loves her first 2. Don’t know about the 3 with her ex husband who live in Ohio. But 2/3 kids who lived with her isn’t that bad. Considering. And she may think poorly of Rose’s father. These issues are complicated. My family is the exact same.
Rose's mother has to do some healing as well. Some people don't know how to love Rose breaks that generation's curse so sad you can't enjoy the rewards that you work so hard for one minute you're up next minute you're down find your balance
Most of us never heal our inner job we believe that we have but we just compartmentalize, and we focus on other things most of us going to relationships with packed baggage… we just have to realize once we’re old enough that our parents did the best that they could at the time and with the tools they were given, have to just be grateful that our parents kept us birth to us and kept us alive and healthy if we can just focus on that and get past everything else we can live in the present there’s no point in living in the past we all have memories and trauma to deal with, and it affects our current, but we need to let that go, there is really no healing. It’s just about acceptance, they were all humans that are damaged and frail and we do what we can at the time sometimes we could’ve done better but we have to go through that to understand and learn but the fact that you’re here and you’re amazing stop living that is my personal opinion just move forward because you could have no parents at all or you could’ve been in a foster home or what have you so if you think about those things, it will help you focus on what you do have and love and blessings
Oh Rose, you had me in tears. Missing that motherly love is hard, but toxicity is worse. Love on YOU. Stay away from your mom. (I know that seems wrong) but its the truth. Love on yourself and those who love you. You remind me so much of my daughter. ❤
You are a wonderful mom from what I can tell,and that’s part of your healing not repeating the same mistakes as your parents. And it easy to forgive and forward when the person or people that hurt you change. But if they don’t change you have to because you deserve to be happy. My mom died with me wanting her to love me and I forgave her because I needed to move on. It still hurt because my siblings cry because they lost her and I cried because I was never going to that love. Please find someone to help you deal with your feelings.
Her light is so bright that she's blinded by reality...once social media stops paying her Brett's gone ..and where's his daughter.. his daughter wants nothing absolutely nothing to do with these people 😂😂😂😂rose has deep issues
Rose I see you cry each time you talk about your mom and she knows the way you feels and she does nothing to change it that’s so sad, I get emotional and I’m not the one going thru it so I’m a very sad for you but I hope it becomes easier as time goes by.
Sometimes, the Lord wants you to be separated from your family. Your family are the curse breakers. Your family are chosen. YOUR family. YOUR mixed babies. YOUR white husband. YOU are chosen. Do not cry . The world wishes they could film themselves crying n get paid baby girllllllllllll 🥰
As much as it hurts, and it DOES, I'm happy you're healing now. This IS healing. Talking about your feelings and understanding the whys is what heals. You're insightful, and you're changing your world and subsequently THE world by breaking generational trauma via open communication, loving your kids the way you deserved to be loved, and modeling that that is more than ok, you deserve it, they deserve it, we all do. I love the work you’re doing Rose, the tears are real and NOT stupid, and the fact that you bond so easy with others and that others gravitate to you speaks volumes. Keep letting it out, and please try to understand that the way people treat you says more about them than it does about you, so it's ok to let some of it go when you’re ready. Own your worth completely. So some unhealed, sad people tried to bring you down when they shouldve and couldve just loved you proper instead? They missed out. How dare they cause such deep wounds for you. Take THAT mindset, if it helps. Brett clearly has supportive parents and the 2 of you together are raising the next generation, stay close. ❤
This is why it’s so important to be extremely intentional on how we love our children, because these situations and scenarios stick with us and affect us as we grow older. Don’t worry Rose, you are doing a great job, and unfortunately we can’t change ppl even if it’s our own parents. Keep doing you do you! 😘
I feel the same as you, sis. I never see my family, they never come out, I sense jealousy since I'm doing better financially. It all hurts. You just want people to love you and care about you and they don't even know how. Sending love, darling.
She's married she can grow away. Problems are in lots of families. Once you get your own family it's sometimes meant to go separate ways. Just because we are born into a family, doesn't mean we are truly family. Every spirit is different, sad but true. Blessings to all that can hel together and blessing to those who heal apart... healthy ❤❤❤
Childhood Trauma i tell you , is not talked about enough. We try to protect our families ( what goes on in this house stay in this house) We have to heal ourselves and not let this follow us or run on to our kids.
Rose those tears are not stupid they are very valid. The reason you can’t understand them is because you would never put your children through what you went through. This is the reason why you strive so hard to be the best mom. And you are succeeding.❤ sadness is valid just make sure it does not tear you down. Feel your emotions and the get back up and continue being the light of your family prayers to you.
It's not the same however many of us care, love, and support you. I also support the suggestion to consider therapy to help guide and support you as you struggle to cope with these family issues.
Therapy is a good thing actually I’ve seen a few therapist and even though black families don’t talk about mental health, Black people battle with mental health a lot and a lot of childhood trauma issues surface in our current present future . when life is lifing and you are in a loving , healthy relationship so you should be able to heal in those errors of trauma because you have a great amazing support system through your husband and his family. They love you the way you should be loved the way people are supposed to be love and it’s not About color it’s genuine just love.
Therapy is a good thing actually I’ve seen a few therapist and even though black families don’t talk about mental health, Black people battle with mental health a lot and a lot of childhood trauma issues surface in our current present future . when life is lifing and you are in a loving , healthy relationship so you should be able to heal in those errors of trauma because you have a great amazing support system through your husband and his family. They love you the way you should be loved the way people are supposed to be love and it’s not About color it’s genuine just love.
Don't let those jealous people out there bring no tears to your eyes you are a very strong black woman and a darn good mother and you have a very handsome white man and they're just jealous cuz they ain't got what you got so you stay strong and keep your head high
Thank you for sharing, Rose. This breaks my heart. My family treats me in a similar way and I hate to think of how it'd feel having children and having to deal with how they treat my family.
I’m so sorry Rose that you have to feel this way about your mother I’ve been going thru the same thing all my life with mines well at least from my teen years and now I’m 49 she only speaks to one of my kids the eldest whose 31 she doesn’t pay the others any attention and has always been this way. We lived 3 hours from one another when I decided to move upstate New York out of nyc. She barely came to visit and when she did she would just be so judgy towards things in my home. I finally decided to do what was best for my kids and I moved to Arizona 11 years ago. My mother had something to say about that too. I pray for you Rose. I hope things get better for you sometimes we just have to walk away even when it’s family.
On the contrary! Even though some people don't care to listen, there are root causes to these situations. Now even though chattel slavery may not be the exact reason, there are things that are passed down from it that still plague generations in the hereafter. Just like racism. People are not born racist, they are taught it from other racist. People say seek therapy and that's a great thing to suggest now because therapist look like us. Let's take a person from another race back in the day, how were they going to help our grands, great grands and great great grands who had traumas but didn't have the resources to get help, especially from people that hated us or had implicit bias? So, guess what happens? It manifests and that trauma is passed down from generation to generation. If a child has 1 parent who's an alcoholic, it's said that child has a 50% chance of becoming an alcoholic as well. So imagine 400 years of racism, colorism, gentrification, massacres, rape, being falsely imprisoned, your daughters innocence taken upon arrival to a plantation, your husband having his genitalia cut off in front of you and your children, and people holding picnics so they can watch someone who looks like you get hanged and any other monstrous, vile thing you can think a person can do to another human being socially, environmentally, financially, economically, medically, (if you haven't read Jim Crow, you might want to pick it up), absolute psychological warfare. What do you think that type of carnage is going to have on future generations? It's interesting how so many people take on accepting the plights of others such as domestic violence, rape, alcoholics and opioid addicts, etc and say these people are victims, they need help and we need to help them but no one says that about black people? We can't even trace our roots because it was stolen from us and all we get from people is get over it but people remember 9/11, the Columbine and Sandy hook killings, hell, we live in a country that make serial killers infamous and associate gay rights with civil rights...but heaven forbid a black person talk about their plights and people's panties start bunching up and riding up their 🍑. Now, you make that make sense.
Love it is just straight biblical that the effects of slavery would disadvantage further generations of black folks that was the whole point. We’re not saying slavery is always the answer or excuse. But it is ever so present in the effects on the black community.
The saddest part is when we become the parent who treated us bad; when we repeat what was done to us to our kids because we haven't healed. It's good that you are talking about it and realizing that it wasn't your fault. You've got a good man and family now. You've got his parents too. I hope you two never separate because you can tell this man loves you to the moon and back.
This really touched my soul 😢. Rose, I commend you for your strength and perseverance. Your mother and anyone else who does you no good, doesn’t deserve to know your beautiful soul. How dare her not want to have a relationship with ALL of her grandchildren. 🤯 You, Brett, and the boys will continue to be blessed beyond measure 🙌♥️
If I had a chance to start life all over again I would do it just like you! It’s okay to cry, you are doing an amazing job as a black married wife and mother! I definitely understand how you feel, but you have a great family with your husband and his family! I have learned to love who is loving me! Forget the rest!!
Rose I have watch so many times. I have a new love and understanding for you. Let me tell you how good God is...he holds us closer just knowing what you have been through. He will put things in place for you babygirl. Continue to order your steps through him. Love your children your husband and most importantly yourself. You are beautiful amazing and strong❤👑💪🏽Go Rose! You rock💯
Rose you got me crying god bless you baby. I'm praying for you and those kids . I can play gma to those kids the more the merrier I have 9 grandkids and 2 great grandkids and I have at least 2 4 of my grandkids everyday . Please don't cry. Love you Rose.
It has nothing to do with her kids I believe her and mom didn't bond enough with her and she looks and act like her father, probably, so it reminds her mom of that and Rose dad may have not treated the mom so well and she "probably ", take it out on Rose😊
they’re envious of you rose don’t let it get to you. if they talk about you that much but don’t want to acknowledge your accomplishments they’re clearly trying to put you down
What's there to be jealous of??? Her kids whiteness huh? Some of us are proud of being Black. All of us don't suffer from self hatred and mental instability.
@@James-ro2jv the fact you jump to the assumption that i’m talking about being jealous about her white husband says more about your own internal issues than my comment and i’m not the one to argue with anyone or change their perspective i love my peace have a blessed life
Rose, you're so loved over here. It's ok to cry. It's cleansing. Be encouraged Hun. You have your immediate Fam and in-Laws who love you lots!!! Love, Love, ❤ Love!!!
Rose don't trip you are the chosen one we all have similar experiences everything you went through with your first husband I did the same and with my mom enjoy your life they miserable
You did it for your health and your family’s well being and peace. Good for you Rose! Be happy! It’s hurtful, but your in-laws are showing you LOVE, UNCONDITIONALLY!! That feeling will subside in time. Live FREE of drama, even from family. It really calms the anxiety. You look happier. Sometimes it takes removing yourself from drama that causes stress and anxiety. ❤
Every video or short from this channel has been lively, upbeat and very happy. This one made me tear up. I don't like to see her unhappy. I am sorry you are going through this but I'm glad you are getting in out in the open. Childhood trauma is the cause for a lot of families not getting along after adulthood. May you heal that inner child. Sending you love and light 🙏💫🌌🌠🙌🏼.
I suggested professional therapy to help sort through your obvious unresolved issues w/ your mother awhile ago, and you shot it down and said there weren't any issues . Mental health is as important as physical health and poc ,especially Black people tend to be more closed minded to therapy due to false stereotypes. You have a platform. I hope you consider using it to show people, especially Black people, that professional therapy isnt a sign of weakness, it's a sign of desiring better for one's self. No different than your dedication to your physical health/fitness.
@YouCantDimMyLight You’re doing the exact same thing as well. Yapping on the internet. People are entitled to their opinion just as you are. She puts her life out there on a public platform for everyone to see.
Aww that is so heartbreaking I’m so sorry about that. It’s the saddest thing when it’s family but sometimes space is the Best thing. And sometimes to be healthy it’s a hard decision. Sorry you have to go through that😢
GOD HAS HIS HAND OVER YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN LIVES! That pain was just apart of mental muscle! Emotional intelligence enhanced with each tear! He made you a warrior! Your blessing is YOU, YOUR CHILDREN, YOUR HUSBAND, YOUR FAMILY! I pray you heal the babygirl that still lies deep within you! So far she’s doing an amazing job! KEEP IT UP ROSE WE BELIEVE IN YOU QUEEN! 👸🏽💕
Do not allow anyone to drain your energy. You are a beautiful soul and you keep going forward. Don’t look back. They are missing out. Send them love from a distance and that’s all is needed. You all continue to live love and laugh. I’m happy for you all. Stay positive and keep shining your Light bright! ✝️💜🌞
Stay away from things that hurt and hold you back, but don't lose the family you have in your in-laws. They care and they show it. Tears releases the pain, go on, and cry.
Aww, I can tell you almost start crying after you said your mom won't come see your house. Get it out girl, don't hold onto that. Ik the feeling when family act like they ain't family. All i have is me & my girls rn. It's sad not having no one to support you. I love your family that you're creating w Brett. Thank you for sharing w us. 🫶🏾
Hi Rose, don’t cry baby they just jealous of you. The most important thing is it sounds like you tried really hard sometimes you have to walk away. Take care of your family they Love U!
Oh hon, I am so sorry for your pain. Gosh darn it. Why do mom’s have so much power over us? It really sucks but I really hope it gets better for you. I was ALWAYS trying to just have my mom’s love and it finally happened in the end. But I pray you and your mom are able to heal a lit sooner. ❤
You break my heart. Sweet girl, you have a beautiful family,. Just focus on your kids and your new family. Brett and his mom and dad are amazing people. Your mom probably is dealing with her own issues. She can't be there for you. I just want to give you a big hug and squeeze the pain right out. Tears cleanse your soul. Release them every now and then. God bless you
Misery loves company as the saying goes. Enjoy your beautiful family and keep doing what provides you happiness, good health let the haters kick rocks!
You have been blessed with a whole family from Bret, dry your eyes baby girl. You’re not alone with the hurt from family, it’s their loss and if they haven’t already realised they will realised how much they need you. YOUR BLESSED TO HAVE PEOPLE THAT APPRECIATE YOU AROUND YOU❤
You're a beautiful person Rose. Allow God to heal your heart and keep going for your immediate family. It hurts but you can't let it keep you stuck in pain. Keep rising to the top!
Felt this! 😢 I deeply relate to what you're going through with your family challenges. I'm so sorry you have to deal with your unaccepting mother-it's truly unfair. Remember to focus on your new life and the wonderful family you have in Hawaii. You are incredibly blessed to be surrounded by people who love and appreciate you for who you are. Lean on them for support and cherish the positive energy they bring into your life. Stay strong and keep looking forward.
Bless your heart! Your tears are not stupid they are from your heart! And when you hurt you need to express it some sort away so that you don’t store it in your body! Keep going
Awe rose I wish I could give you a hug.. Sending hugs from North Carolina… God got youhunny! I love how Bretts family genuinely treats you like their own.. God bless you and your beautiful family ❤❤
I knew something was going on with Rose.. When you were talking about your mom it was like hearing myself.. You’re doing good sis !!! Drama always comes when you’re happy!! Don’t let NOBODY steal your joy !! You and Your family are AMAZING ❤love y’all 🥰
Your mother is not going to change. I have to loose my parents because they are very toxic. It's not easy but it's ultimately for the best for me and my family.
Aweee rose your holding back tears this breaks my heart ! I’ve heard you speak of your mom and family members this made me tear up sending you love & light 💕
My heart breaks for you. But I'm also so proud of the woman you've chosen to be in spite of what you've been through and continue to go through. You have a whole big family out here whether you realise it or not, even though we may never meet, and we love you and your family. I wish i could give you the biggest hug. Hang in there. You've got this. The one over of advice i do have got you for your own healing is to let go. I mean, let go of any notion of having a relationship with her. Mourn the loss so you can grieve and move on. We all want our moms. But sometimes, they don't want to show up. I dealt with the same with my dad for a long time. The only thing that helped me through those times was letting go. Love her from a distance. Pray for her. Know that you're going to be okay. Look at all you did without her. As a fellow mom, I know you may doubt yourself sometimes. But as someone seeing you on the outside, you're doing an AMAZING job. You're a GREAT mom. Keep it up.
Big hugs sweetie pie..... Keep going in prayer and supplication. The silent tears speak volume babe. Continue living in Love. God is guiding you! Those tears are real that is your heart speaking truth. Forgive and keep moving. God is protecting you and Family! Doing a good job in Life. Peace and Love, ❤😊
Beautiful lady, you can't focus on your past or let negative influences hinder you building and raising your family! Sometimes people get resentful if they think you're moving forward but they're not focusing on their own move forward. May God bless you and your family! 😇🙏💪❤️💛🙌🌹💯
I feel you Rose I did the same thing, moved all the way from TN to AZ to get away from the toxicity of my family drama too. Honestly it was the best decision I ever made in my life. I took a leap of faith with my daughter and dog, and now I'm married, with 3 children, a house, great career. Please see a therapist, I still do and they really do help you sort through stuff you can't change and help you work through it. Sending love from AZ, don't let your family steal your joy, you're doing great ❤
I think I had seen a video with Rose, hanging out with her mother and the previous mothsr in law? Didn't Rose's sister visit and babysit the children some time last year? The way Rose is talking about so many people on the Internet she has probably said some things about them offline. Sometimes we have to think about what part we play when relationships go wrong. Everyone isn't jealous.
Baby I don’t know much about you but I see your shorts consistently and I love them. I love seeing you love on your husband and your children. You are beautiful my love and you are deserving of having a family who treats your children with the same love and respect as you give. It’s nothing wrong with cutting off family or anyone who serves no meaningful purpose in your life even if it is your mom. You are strong you are beautiful you are brave and for that I commend you. Keep your head up my love bc things will only get better from here. You do what u need to do to heal. There’s no time limit on it. Be blessed ❤
Rose you can't pick the family you were born into. You can create as you have done, the beautiful family you now have. I have watched your journey and you are a fighter and a survivor. Stay strong beautiful queen.
Rose it hurts love, but your happiness surrounds the family that you’ve created. I can see your hurt. I went thru similar situations with mines. The moment that I truly broke ties was the moment I really flourished. It make take sometime to get use too but embrace your family you’ve created and leave the idea open for those who wants to share the beauty of family that you’ve created.
Rose, your tears are not stupid! I feel your hurt, and I admire your strength! Live your life! Your mom has to answer for how she has made you feel as a child. The child within you has the tears...let them fall and cleanse your soul! I love your spirit!! Peace and continued blessings to you, Brett and your children!!❤❤❤❤❤❤
Its easier said than done. No matter what, you feel it the gap..especially when you see other families who are close knit. Pray she recovers, and heal fast, for the sake of her beautiful family.❤
It's just wanting genuine love from someone who was supposed to give you love from the start... If you haven't been through it you may never fully understand the pain
I'm just seeing this, and I can totally relate to how you're feeling. I'm in a very similar situation and my family doesn't like me neither. they think that I think I'm better than everyone else which is not true at all. I even put everyone on my phone plan to help them and they got to the point they felt that they could just ignore my calls because they didn't care to talk to me in less I was doing something for them. it took a while, but I took everyone off my plan and I'm now living my life without them. yes, it hurts but when people are jealous of you that's not your problem its there's. Don't cry that's what the devil wants, he wants to destroy your happiness. I really wish i would've seen this sooner. stay strong Rose. I'll be your big sister praying for your strength.
Rose please be Strong, you are an amazing young woman and you have an amazing husband/ family and your in laws are Super awesome Fantastic! People especially Family are so shady and very mean when they can’t control or have say so in your life, they do love you I’m sure, you’re just being the best you you can be and that’s a threat to most…. But you keep rising beautiful young lady , some wish they could be as open and free spirit as you are 🙏🏽💞✝️✌🏽💪🏽
So tough it’s a lot of trauma in families with different parents. I just got through having a convo with dad today my brother and I share the same parents dad has 3other children. I had to tell my dad today we will neverrrr be close I respect them as his children but the different parent is a real thing🙏 ❤ healing to you love it can be a lifetime of unresolved pain.
Don't cry Rose, i know it's difficult not to have your family's support but you have love from your in laws. Sometimes people are toxic and you don't need them anyway. Sending hugs your way!
Rose you brought tears to my eyes...Without giving details...I understand very much how you feel...but you can't run far enough away from blood family...See a Therapist and maybe stay near your in-laws for the sake of your kids...and explain to the older boys the situation as best you can and what they would understand!...Dry your tears, stand strong and raise your boys in love, and unity!...Be Blessed🙏🏽🥰💕👍💕
Don’t let the family you came from..Ruin the family you created…
Amen 🙏!
What I’m dealing with now. My husband has no boundaries with his family so it forces me to make changes . I know there is someone out there that will choose me/ our family and prioritize me as a spouse ❤
@@CC-zi5fbyou married him
@@AnimatedBlast true, but it wasn’t like this prior to marriage.
Exactly
😢Some families can be so hurtful. Jealousy is a hell of a thing😢
They're racist they don't like Brett because his White it's obvious. At least she has her in-laws who love rose and the kids they're great.
Rose, you have EVERYTHING & still not grateful... This is so sad to watch...Remember what happens to ungrateful people...Everything is not about you.. You've created something amazing, and if you continue on this road....This is painful to watch. I pray God intervenes and you listen.
Don’t be sad! Look at yourself in the mirror! You are beautiful & you have created a beautiful family! Girl be proud! You just keep being the best mother & wife you can be! God got you!
Preach girl!! Please believe you are so blessed, Rose! Keep living! God has got you!! ❤🙏🏼😇
Rose loves her children so much she is having a difficult time understanding why her mother can't show her love.
EXACTLY!!!!😢
It seems her mother loves her first 2. Don’t know about the 3 with her ex husband who live in Ohio. But 2/3 kids who lived with her isn’t that bad. Considering. And she may think poorly of Rose’s father. These issues are complicated. My family is the exact same.
Same here rose
@aprilsview2795You're welcome. 😊
Rose's mother has to do some healing as well. Some people don't know how to love
Rose breaks that generation's curse so sad you can't enjoy the rewards that you work so hard for one minute you're up next minute you're down find your balance
Rose seems like your father in law is a ear of a blessing.
Yeah rose needs to heal her inner child def needs to talk to someone
Yes she do need to talk to someone about this its really taken a toll on her
Most of us never heal our inner job we believe that we have but we just compartmentalize, and we focus on other things most of us going to relationships with packed baggage… we just have to realize once we’re old enough that our parents did the best that they could at the time and with the tools they were given, have to just be grateful that our parents kept us birth to us and kept us alive and healthy if we can just focus on that and get past everything else we can live in the present there’s no point in living in the past we all have memories and trauma to deal with, and it affects our current, but we need to let that go, there is really no healing. It’s just about acceptance, they were all humans that are damaged and frail and we do what we can at the time sometimes we could’ve done better but we have to go through that to understand and learn but the fact that you’re here and you’re amazing stop living that is my personal opinion just move forward because you could have no parents at all or you could’ve been in a foster home or what have you so if you think about those things, it will help you focus on what you do have and love and blessings
Yes. Weekly therapy does wonders!
I pray she gets that help I’m currently doing therapy to to heal my inner child as well
Maybe she is. But maybe her speaking in this setting is helping her heal. Sometimes healed people are the most open about their experiences.
Oh Rose, you had me in tears. Missing that motherly love is hard, but toxicity is worse. Love on YOU. Stay away from your mom. (I know that seems wrong) but its the truth. Love on yourself and those who love you. You remind me so much of my daughter. ❤
You are a wonderful mom from what I can tell,and that’s part of your healing not repeating the same mistakes as your parents. And it easy to forgive and forward when the person or people that hurt you change. But if they don’t change you have to because you deserve to be happy. My mom died with me wanting her to love me and I forgave her because I needed to move on. It still hurt because my siblings cry because they lost her and I cried because I was never going to that love. Please find someone to help you deal with your feelings.
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You cannot runway from the issue ! Face it ! Liv your life!!!!
Rose need healing bc she’s doing the SAME ABUSE to her children
Your light is TOO BRIGHT for them…but you created a community that loves you and your family to PIECES🌹🌹WE LOVE YOU ROSE❤️❤️❤️
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
THIS THE ONE!!!
Her light is so bright that she's blinded by reality...once social media stops paying her Brett's gone ..and where's his daughter.. his daughter wants nothing absolutely nothing to do with these people 😂😂😂😂rose has deep issues
@@dontbesurpriseditsjusme123How do you know that? Do you know them personally? Or is that just your observation?
@@dontbesurpriseditsjusme123 what daughter?
Tears are never stupid. Your tears are your truth as well as your smiles.
Aww don’t cry I’m literally crying for you …I pray things gets better🙏🏾
Same here. My heart goes out to Rose. I feel protective of her and wish I had a daughter like her. Thankful she has Brett.
I’m glad Rose has Brett’s family that she can open up too.❤
Rose I see you cry each time you talk about your mom and she knows the way you feels and she does nothing to change it that’s so sad, I get emotional and I’m not the one going thru it so I’m a very sad for you but I hope it becomes easier as time goes by.
From experience..it never gets easier. 😢🙏🏼
Youre not alone. People are intimidated by others they cant belittle
Sometimes, the Lord wants you to be separated from your family. Your family are the curse breakers. Your family are chosen. YOUR family. YOUR mixed babies. YOUR white husband. YOU are chosen. Do not cry . The world wishes they could film themselves crying n get paid baby girllllllllllll 🥰
It’s ok grieve the family you had and love the family your creating
Sending you some love sista 🫶🏾 God got you! 🙏🏾
As much as it hurts, and it DOES, I'm happy you're healing now. This IS healing. Talking about your feelings and understanding the whys is what heals. You're insightful, and you're changing your world and subsequently THE world by breaking generational trauma via open communication, loving your kids the way you deserved to be loved, and modeling that that is more than ok, you deserve it, they deserve it, we all do. I love the work you’re doing Rose, the tears are real and NOT stupid, and the fact that you bond so easy with others and that others gravitate to you speaks volumes. Keep letting it out, and please try to understand that the way people treat you says more about them than it does about you, so it's ok to let some of it go when you’re ready. Own your worth completely. So some unhealed, sad people tried to bring you down when they shouldve and couldve just loved you proper instead? They missed out. How dare they cause such deep wounds for you. Take THAT mindset, if it helps. Brett clearly has supportive parents and the 2 of you together are raising the next generation, stay close. ❤
Yes Lord
You’re an Amazing Mom and Wife. Don’t worry or give a second thought what Others have to Say. You will always Have resistance When Your Doing Right.
This is why it’s so important to be extremely intentional on how we love our children, because these situations and scenarios stick with us and affect us as we grow older. Don’t worry Rose, you are doing a great job, and unfortunately we can’t change ppl even if it’s our own parents. Keep doing you do you! 😘
Problems dont go away
I feel the same as you, sis. I never see my family, they never come out, I sense jealousy since I'm doing better financially. It all hurts. You just want people to love you and care about you and they don't even know how. Sending love, darling.
Those problems with your family will still be there you can't run away from
She's married she can grow away. Problems are in lots of families. Once you get your own family it's sometimes meant to go separate ways. Just because we are born into a family, doesn't mean we are truly family. Every spirit is different, sad but true. Blessings to all that can hel together and blessing to those who heal apart... healthy ❤❤❤
She’s doesn’t have to settle for feeling less than deserving of her families love! Glad you moved there.
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Childhood Trauma i tell you , is not talked about enough. We try to protect our families ( what goes on in this house stay in this house) We have to heal ourselves and not let this follow us or run on to our kids.
My God, all of this wisdom in these comments.
Right but then she expresses her true feeling and the clowns wanna try to beat her down . Like this is real shit.
It’s not ideal (my family is similar), but she isn’t a victim of abuse. There are much much much worse families out there.
Rose those tears are not stupid they are very valid. The reason you can’t understand them is because you would never put your children through what you went through. This is the reason why you strive so hard to be the best mom. And you are succeeding.❤ sadness is valid just make sure it does not tear you down. Feel your emotions and the get back up and continue being the light of your family prayers to you.
That man wasn’t listening to her smh she needs a therapist
Talk with a therapist it doesn't make you crazy. Sorry you are going through this.
It's not the same however many of us care, love, and support you. I also support the suggestion to consider therapy to help guide and support you as you struggle to cope with these family issues.
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Therapy is a good thing actually I’ve seen a few therapist and even though black families don’t talk about mental health, Black people battle with mental health a lot and a lot of childhood trauma issues surface in our current present future . when life is lifing and you are in a loving , healthy relationship so you should be able to heal in those errors of trauma because you have a great amazing support system through your husband and his family. They love you the way you should be loved the way people are supposed to be love and it’s not About color it’s genuine just love.
Therapy is a good thing actually I’ve seen a few therapist and even though black families don’t talk about mental health, Black people battle with mental health a lot and a lot of childhood trauma issues surface in our current present future . when life is lifing and you are in a loving , healthy relationship so you should be able to heal in those errors of trauma because you have a great amazing support system through your husband and his family. They love you the way you should be loved the way people are supposed to be love and it’s not About color it’s genuine just love.
Don't let those jealous people out there bring no tears to your eyes you are a very strong black woman and a darn good mother and you have a very handsome white man and they're just jealous cuz they ain't got what you got so you stay strong and keep your head high
I cringe when people call black wonen strong. It’s a racism sterotype. We are soft and in need of love, not 💪🏽 strong.
Thank you for sharing, Rose. This breaks my heart. My family treats me in a similar way and I hate to think of how it'd feel having children and having to deal with how they treat my family.
I’m so sorry Rose that you have to feel this way about your mother I’ve been going thru the same thing all my life with mines well at least from my teen years and now I’m 49 she only speaks to one of my kids the eldest whose 31 she doesn’t pay the others any attention and has always been this way. We lived 3 hours from one another when I decided to move upstate New York out of nyc. She barely came to visit and when she did she would just be so judgy towards things in my home. I finally decided to do what was best for my kids and I moved to Arizona 11 years ago. My mother had something to say about that too. I pray for you Rose. I hope things get better for you sometimes we just have to walk away even when it’s family.
Slavery has nothing to do with ur story. Ur family has their own reasons for how they behave.
She's crazy ... rose can stay in Hawaii...who cares 😂😂😂😂
On the contrary! Even though some people don't care to listen, there are root causes to these situations. Now even though chattel slavery may not be the exact reason, there are things that are passed down from it that still plague generations in the hereafter. Just like racism. People are not born racist, they are taught it from other racist. People say seek therapy and that's a great thing to suggest now because therapist look like us. Let's take a person from another race back in the day, how were they going to help our grands, great grands and great great grands who had traumas but didn't have the resources to get help, especially from people that hated us or had implicit bias? So, guess what happens? It manifests and that trauma is passed down from generation to generation. If a child has 1 parent who's an alcoholic, it's said that child has a 50% chance of becoming an alcoholic as well. So imagine 400 years of racism, colorism, gentrification, massacres, rape, being falsely imprisoned, your daughters innocence taken upon arrival to a plantation, your husband having his genitalia cut off in front of you and your children, and people holding picnics so they can watch someone who looks like you get hanged and any other monstrous, vile thing you can think a person can do to another human being socially, environmentally, financially, economically, medically, (if you haven't read Jim Crow, you might want to pick it up), absolute psychological warfare. What do you think that type of carnage is going to have on future generations? It's interesting how so many people take on accepting the plights of others such as domestic violence, rape, alcoholics and opioid addicts, etc and say these people are victims, they need help and we need to help them but no one says that about black people? We can't even trace our roots because it was stolen from us and all we get from people is get over it but people remember 9/11, the Columbine and Sandy hook killings, hell, we live in a country that make serial killers infamous and associate gay rights with civil rights...but heaven forbid a black person talk about their plights and people's panties start bunching up and riding up their 🍑. Now, you make that make sense.
Slavery has a lot to do with broken black families
The remnants of enslavement and the colorization stigma has everything to do with things
Love it is just straight biblical that the effects of slavery would disadvantage further generations of black folks that was the whole point. We’re not saying slavery is always the answer or excuse. But it is ever so present in the effects on the black community.
Shadow work baby girl. You need to heal 7 year old Rose
The saddest part is when we become the parent who treated us bad; when we repeat what was done to us to our kids because we haven't healed. It's good that you are talking about it and realizing that it wasn't your fault. You've got a good man and family now. You've got his parents too. I hope you two never separate because you can tell this man loves you to the moon and back.
You are so strong and resilient, everybody cant go where God is taking you and your beautiful family sis. Keep elevating ❤
This really touched my soul 😢. Rose, I commend you for your strength and perseverance. Your mother and anyone else who does you no good, doesn’t deserve to know your beautiful soul. How dare her not want to have a relationship with ALL of her grandchildren. 🤯
You, Brett, and the boys will continue to be blessed beyond measure 🙌♥️
If I had a chance to start life all over again I would do it just like you! It’s okay to cry, you are doing an amazing job as a black married wife and mother! I definitely understand how you feel, but you have a great family with your husband and his family! I have learned to love who is loving me! Forget the rest!!
Rose I have watch so many times. I have a new love and understanding for you. Let me tell you how good God is...he holds us closer just knowing what you have been through. He will put things in place for you babygirl. Continue to order your steps through him. Love your children your husband and most importantly yourself. You are beautiful amazing and strong❤👑💪🏽Go Rose! You rock💯
Rose you got me crying god bless you baby. I'm praying for you and those kids . I can play gma to those kids the more the merrier I have 9 grandkids and 2 great grandkids and I have at least 2 4 of my grandkids everyday . Please don't cry. Love you Rose.
It has nothing to do with her kids I believe her and mom didn't bond enough with her and she looks and act like her father, probably, so it reminds her mom of that and Rose dad may have not treated the mom so well and she "probably ", take it out on Rose😊
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A lot of wisdom in these comments.
they’re envious of you rose don’t let it get to you. if they talk about you that much but don’t want to acknowledge your accomplishments they’re clearly trying to put you down
What's there to be jealous of??? Her kids whiteness huh? Some of us are proud of being Black. All of us don't suffer from self hatred and mental instability.
@@James-ro2jv the fact you jump to the assumption that i’m talking about being jealous about her white husband says more about your own internal issues than my comment and i’m not the one to argue with anyone or change their perspective i love my peace have a blessed life
Of what? Rose is a damn mess 😢
Rose, you're so loved over here. It's ok to cry. It's cleansing. Be encouraged Hun. You have your immediate Fam and in-Laws who love you lots!!! Love, Love, ❤ Love!!!
God bless you. Don’t be sad. You are an inspiration. God has you in the palm of His hand. 🙏🏻✝️
Don’t cry awe…. You got me in tears we are such sags omg
Rose don't trip you are the chosen one we all have similar experiences everything you went through with your first husband I did the same and with my mom enjoy your life they miserable
Don’t cry rose god got you and things going to work out
Amen
God 🙏🏾
You did it for your health and your family’s well being and peace. Good for you Rose! Be happy! It’s hurtful, but your in-laws are showing you LOVE, UNCONDITIONALLY!!
That feeling will subside in time.
Live FREE of drama, even from family. It really calms the anxiety.
You look happier. Sometimes it takes removing yourself from drama that causes stress and anxiety. ❤
Every video or short from this channel has been lively, upbeat and very happy. This one made me tear up. I don't like to see her unhappy. I am sorry you are going through this but I'm glad you are getting in out in the open. Childhood trauma is the cause for a lot of families not getting along after adulthood. May you heal that inner child. Sending you love and light 🙏💫🌌🌠🙌🏼.
This is true healing being able to see it, articulate, and heal the pain. WE LOVE YOU. LOVE HOW BRETT'S DAD DOESN'T RUN ❤
I suggested professional therapy to help sort through your obvious unresolved issues w/ your mother awhile ago, and you shot it down and said there weren't any issues .
Mental health is as important as physical health and poc ,especially Black people tend to be more closed minded to therapy due to false stereotypes.
You have a platform. I hope you consider using it to show people, especially Black people, that professional therapy isnt a sign of weakness, it's a sign of desiring better for one's self.
No different than your dedication to your physical health/fitness.
@@toyakeys7920Did you not hear when said that in her live.
@@toyakeys7920 How about you go back and watch her last 2 videos
@@toyakeys7920There is no other side. Many mothers are narcissists.
@YouCantDimMyLight
You’re doing the exact same thing as well. Yapping on the internet. People are entitled to their opinion just as you are. She puts her life out there on a public platform for everyone to see.
Are you a licensed professional?
Aww that is so heartbreaking I’m so sorry about that. It’s the saddest thing when it’s family but sometimes space is the Best thing. And sometimes to be healthy it’s a hard decision. Sorry you have to go through that😢
GOD HAS HIS HAND OVER YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN LIVES! That pain was just apart of mental muscle! Emotional intelligence enhanced with each tear! He made you a warrior! Your blessing is YOU, YOUR CHILDREN, YOUR HUSBAND, YOUR FAMILY! I pray you heal the babygirl that still lies deep within you! So far she’s doing an amazing job! KEEP IT UP ROSE WE BELIEVE IN YOU QUEEN! 👸🏽💕
Awwww rose ❤ love on the family you created god has you
I love your honesty Rose. I grieve the relationship I wish I had with my father so I relate. You’re doing amazing, mama!
You seriously need COUNSELING! Please get help!!!
Do not allow anyone to drain your energy. You are a beautiful soul and you keep going forward. Don’t look back. They are missing out. Send them love from a distance and that’s all is needed. You all continue to live love and laugh. I’m happy for you all. Stay positive and keep shining your Light bright! ✝️💜🌞
Rose I feel u on this... It's sad when a mother has no love for her child because of that child's dad 😢 stay strong.
Stay away from things that hurt and hold you back, but don't lose the family you have in your in-laws. They care and they show it. Tears releases the pain, go on, and cry.
Aww, I can tell you almost start crying after you said your mom won't come see your house. Get it out girl, don't hold onto that. Ik the feeling when family act like they ain't family. All i have is me & my girls rn. It's sad not having no one to support you. I love your family that you're creating w Brett. Thank you for sharing w us. 🫶🏾
Hi Rose, don’t cry baby they just jealous of you. The most important thing is it sounds like you tried really hard sometimes you have to walk away. Take care of your family they Love U!
Oh hon, I am so sorry for your pain. Gosh darn it. Why do mom’s have so much power over us? It really sucks but I really hope it gets better for you. I was ALWAYS trying to just have my mom’s love and it finally happened in the end. But I pray you and your mom are able to heal a lit sooner. ❤
You break my heart. Sweet girl, you have a beautiful family,. Just focus on your kids and your new family. Brett and his mom and dad are amazing people. Your mom probably is dealing with her own issues. She can't be there for you. I just want to give you a big hug and squeeze the pain right out. Tears cleanse your soul. Release them every now and then. God bless you
Misery loves company as the saying goes. Enjoy your beautiful family and keep doing what provides you happiness, good health let the haters kick rocks!
You have been blessed with a whole family from Bret, dry your eyes baby girl. You’re not alone with the hurt from family, it’s their loss and if they haven’t already realised they will realised how much they need you. YOUR BLESSED TO HAVE PEOPLE THAT APPRECIATE YOU AROUND YOU❤
You're a beautiful person Rose. Allow God to heal your heart and keep going for your immediate family. It hurts but you can't let it keep you stuck in pain. Keep rising to the top!
I wish i could just hug you. God is with you sis. He loves you like no imperfect human can. ❤
Felt this! 😢 I deeply relate to what you're going through with your family challenges. I'm so sorry you have to deal with your unaccepting mother-it's truly unfair.
Remember to focus on your new life and the wonderful family you have in Hawaii. You are incredibly blessed to be surrounded by people who love and appreciate you for who you are. Lean on them for support and cherish the positive energy they bring into your life.
Stay strong and keep looking forward.
Bless your heart! Your tears are not stupid they are from your heart! And when you hurt you need to express it some sort away so that you don’t store it in your body! Keep going
Awe rose I wish I could give you a hug.. Sending hugs from North Carolina… God got youhunny! I love how Bretts family genuinely treats you like their own.. God bless you and your beautiful family ❤❤
Sending big hug You have a amazing husband and family ,You be proud of what you have accomplisedx
I knew something was going on with Rose.. When you were talking about your mom it was like hearing myself.. You’re doing good sis !!! Drama always comes when you’re happy!! Don’t let NOBODY steal your joy !! You and Your family are AMAZING ❤love y’all 🥰
Your mother is not going to change. I have to loose my parents because they are very toxic. It's not easy but it's ultimately for the best for me and my family.
I definitely understand and go through the same thing... Hope all is well with your peace of mind❤
Aweee rose your holding back tears this breaks my heart ! I’ve heard you speak of your mom and family members this made me tear up sending you love & light 💕
My heart breaks for you. But I'm also so proud of the woman you've chosen to be in spite of what you've been through and continue to go through. You have a whole big family out here whether you realise it or not, even though we may never meet, and we love you and your family. I wish i could give you the biggest hug. Hang in there. You've got this. The one over of advice i do have got you for your own healing is to let go. I mean, let go of any notion of having a relationship with her. Mourn the loss so you can grieve and move on. We all want our moms. But sometimes, they don't want to show up. I dealt with the same with my dad for a long time. The only thing that helped me through those times was letting go. Love her from a distance. Pray for her. Know that you're going to be okay. Look at all you did without her. As a fellow mom, I know you may doubt yourself sometimes. But as someone seeing you on the outside, you're doing an AMAZING job. You're a GREAT mom. Keep it up.
Beautiful words
I am so sorry. 😢You are going to be just fine.
This really hit my ❤… I will never understand how a parent can treat their child like this. I have a SD father so I get that.
u pulled on my heartstrings. your story brought tears 2my eyes. talking about our stories helps us emotionally. ur beautiful spirit
We love you Rose, you're doing wonderful building a family❤
Big hugs sweetie pie.....
Keep going in prayer and supplication.
The silent tears speak volume babe. Continue living in Love. God is guiding you!
Those tears are real that is your heart speaking truth. Forgive and keep moving.
God is protecting you and Family!
Doing a good job in Life.
Peace and Love, ❤😊
Beautiful lady, you can't focus on your past or let negative influences hinder you building and raising your family! Sometimes people get resentful if they think you're moving forward but they're not focusing on their own move forward. May God bless you and your family! 😇🙏💪❤️💛🙌🌹💯
I feel you Rose I did the same thing, moved all the way from TN to AZ to get away from the toxicity of my family drama too. Honestly it was the best decision I ever made in my life. I took a leap of faith with my daughter and dog, and now I'm married, with 3 children, a house, great career. Please see a therapist, I still do and they really do help you sort through stuff you can't change and help you work through it. Sending love from AZ, don't let your family steal your joy, you're doing great ❤
😢 I’ve experienced this myself. It hurts but God provides family for the widow and orphan, likewise he provided you a family who love you regardless❤
I think I had seen a video with Rose, hanging out with her mother and the previous mothsr in law? Didn't Rose's sister visit and babysit the children some time last year? The way Rose is talking about so many people on the Internet she has probably said some things about them offline. Sometimes we have to think about what part we play when relationships go wrong. Everyone isn't jealous.
Baby I don’t know much about you but I see your shorts consistently and I love them. I love seeing you love on your husband and your children. You are beautiful my love and you are deserving of having a family who treats your children with the same love and respect as you give. It’s nothing wrong with cutting off family or anyone who serves no meaningful purpose in your life even if it is your mom. You are strong you are beautiful you are brave and for that I commend you. Keep your head up my love bc things will only get better from here. You do what u need to do to heal. There’s no time limit on it. Be blessed ❤
It's called jealousy, sweetie. People don't like it when you are doing well for yourself. ❤❤❤❤
Rose you can't pick the family you were born into. You can create as you have done, the beautiful family you now have. I have watched your journey and you are a fighter and a survivor. Stay strong beautiful queen.
Rose I had the same problem growing up. Keep GOD first. It makes you so much stronger. Im praying for you sweetheart.
Rose it hurts love, but your happiness surrounds the family that you’ve created. I can see your hurt. I went thru similar situations with mines. The moment that I truly broke ties was the moment I really flourished. It make take sometime to get use too but embrace your family you’ve created and leave the idea open for those who wants to share the beauty of family that you’ve created.
Rose, your tears are not stupid! I feel your hurt, and I admire your strength! Live your life! Your mom has to answer for how she has made you feel as a child. The child within you has the tears...let them fall and cleanse your soul! I love your spirit!! Peace and continued blessings to you, Brett and your children!!❤❤❤❤❤❤
All i can say is therapy has been such a tremendous help for me, i think it can be for you too♥️
Why do you wait for your mum or family approval? You have a good family so EMBRACE it ♥️♥️
Its easier said than done.
No matter what, you feel it the gap..especially when you see other families who are close knit.
Pray she recovers, and heal fast, for the sake of her beautiful family.❤
It's just wanting genuine love from someone who was supposed to give you love from the start... If you haven't been through it you may never fully understand the pain
Please stop crying u making me cry I get it seeing u cry break my heart ❤️
I'm so glad you explained this it makes so much sense now ... ❤️🔥💪🏽💋 Keep living your beautiful life
I'm just seeing this, and I can totally relate to how you're feeling. I'm in a very similar situation and my family doesn't like me neither. they think that I think I'm better than everyone else which is not true at all. I even put everyone on my phone plan to help them and they got to the point they felt that they could just ignore my calls because they didn't care to talk to me in less I was doing something for them. it took a while, but I took everyone off my plan and I'm now living my life without them. yes, it hurts but when people are jealous of you that's not your problem its there's. Don't cry that's what the devil wants, he wants to destroy your happiness. I really wish i would've seen this sooner. stay strong Rose. I'll be your big sister praying for your strength.
Rose please be Strong, you are an amazing young woman and you have an amazing husband/ family and your in laws are Super awesome Fantastic! People especially Family are so shady and very mean when they can’t control or have say so in your life, they do love you I’m sure, you’re just being the best you you can be and that’s a threat to most…. But you keep rising beautiful young lady , some wish they could be as open and free spirit as you are 🙏🏽💞✝️✌🏽💪🏽
So tough it’s a lot of trauma in families with different parents. I just got through having a convo with dad today my brother and I share the same parents dad has 3other children. I had to tell my dad today we will neverrrr be close I respect them as his children but the different parent is a real thing🙏 ❤ healing to you love it can be a lifetime of unresolved pain.
I can't say don't feel bad family can be the ones that hurt you the most keep shinning hun
Don't cry Rose, i know it's difficult not to have your family's support but you have love from your in laws. Sometimes people are toxic and you don't need them anyway. Sending hugs your way!
I'm so sorry, Rose, but you can't run away from all your problems. I hope you are able to heal...
I can see the sadness in your eyes Rose!
We L❤ve you!
Rose you brought tears to my eyes...Without giving details...I understand very much how you feel...but you can't run far enough away from blood family...See a Therapist and maybe stay near your in-laws for the sake of your kids...and explain to the older boys the situation as best you can and what they would understand!...Dry your tears, stand strong and raise your boys in love, and unity!...Be Blessed🙏🏽🥰💕👍💕