The abroad system is the worst for the children. The African system is the best , just balance it. In Kenya we have psychological counselors in schools, I can attest that Europe had started damaging my children, I took them to Kenya and now they are flourishing. Don't worship the abroad system, Africa is best.
I did same for my son. He is a better person now. The UK educational system doesn’t recognise the active/badly behaved black boy so a lot lot of them drop off the educational system just because of behaviour but in Africa the child is trained while the behaviour is checked. A very small percentage drop out of school in Africa.
We can predict the future by the society we create today. I have lived in the United States for few years now but I haven't seen a man and a lady in their wedding attire more than a few times. We are fast degenerating than I thought. MEN abroad now avoid marriages like plagues. In fact, many Nigerian men now settle for ladies from other ethnic nationalities for the sake of peace. They no longer want to adhere to the notion of preserving the nitty-gritty of their heritage. Again, current statistics shows that the Black Lady is the least in consideration for marriage among other races in western world. How many Baby MaMas have been recorded among the Asian ladies, Caucasian ladies and many more? Statistics are there! We need to be careful. We are losing it.
God bless you! Watch how Nigerian men who are married to whites. Some of them suddenly become perfect gentlemen,they bend down backwards, they help with household chores, actively participate in raising the kids
@@princelucianoogaga686 . How do they behave please ?. Please marry your sister from same parents with you and treat her like shit the way you treat our sisters . Narcissism need to stop 🛑 !. Dish out what you can only accept.
This is a complete single story. If you are a Nigerian man who is not ready to abide by the laws of the land then don’t bother to travel abroad. The laws in the UK works. The reason why a man will be asked to leave his home is if there is an evidence that the life of the woman and her children is in danger or that the man has been causing harm to his wife. It is however not something permanent. If the man takes steps to seek reconciliation and is willing to cooperate and change from his violent ways, he can be reinstated back into his home. The fact they a man is asked to leave temporarily does not in itself mean that the man has lost his home. He can seek additional legal advise to know what his true position is. Not only men are asked to leave his matrimonial home, if a woman hits her husband, she can be arrested. This also applies to not only married couples but also in your general day to day living. It is against the laws of the land to hit anybody. It is battery /assault and if found guilty, you will go in for it and this can earn you a criminal record. The laws here is no respecter of persons. Be warned: if you beat up your wife and children of course the laws are there to protect them because they are vulnerable . In the same way, don’t think you don’t have a right as a man , you do. . If your wife is guilty of beating you up or hitting you, if you can evidence it, your wife too will be apprehended. Don’t transport the lawlessness you enjoy in Nigeria to another country where the laws are enforceable because the law is unto you. Be ware. Be warned.
I have people over there, some of these men are toxic,narcissistic and not raised in doing chores. We both go to work and you expect me to come home, do chores, cook and still look after kids. It is insane. Am not condoling their action but these men should do better
@@godwinjames4477 you be mumu woman rapper.opportunistic olodo who wants to jump upon a woman who is rebelling against her man.what makes you think you are a better man
As a lawyer I can confirm this like my fellow learned colleague said here as well but the anger is that some Nigerian women wants to be treated with equality but they are not ready to share equal responsibilities and consequences. If you are not ready for marriage, leave being married. There are Asians, Chinese, Vietnamese, Indians, etc. whose men are worse and nasty than the Nigerian men, yet they stay and hearken together. The African children in Diaspora are the children that knife each other on the streets of London in knife culture. The absence of one partner affects the children's lives.
There has to be a balance always. My children have never been to Naija but are so aware of cultural differences. My husband and I were raised with that Naija mentality of my opinion is correct because I am the parent. We made a conscious effort and intentional decision of listening and talking to and with our children. Understanding that they have feelings too. Does not mean that they are spoilt, they know and understand boundaries an have understood that Naija 👀 look. 😂.
Best sort of videos from freeze for me. I think you need to focus more on society than religion. Your societal talks are pure gem. Some Nigerians support the European system of raising family only because they believe anything that comes from Europe or Britain is superior but you daddy freeze won't accept a so called superior system, you bring everything to the same level to analyse. Very good!
Not true. Daddy Freeze only visit abroad and had never lived there or raised children, so his opinion is to buttress his line of understanding. Beating or slap changes nothing... Look at our society, the reflection of our government is part of our upbringing, lies, deceitful and fear. I'm not saying abroad has no problems but it's far better standard.
This is a great video because is exactly what is going on in the Nigeria community and is now rampant. Most of these men just jump on a plane go back home and bring a woman who later becomes a stranger. Many lives have been lost too because of incidents like this. Why is it we are the ones is happening to than other Africans?.
It's not only wives that drives their husband away from the house. I am a nurse Iiving in USA. I remember working extra shifts not wanting to sleep in the house because of a nagging husband. It's vice-versa.
That wan no be husband na woman in man form. Also I know theirs money in health care and a lot of Nigerian women want to rack as much as their body permit but that's not right. We should give time to our marriages and enjoy it. We don't need to be working long hours na one life we get
@@williamsolawale4208 God bless you my brother. A lot of our sisters want to pack all the money in the World once they get to the US or UK. Working 12 hours a day, forgetting that the Home, marriage and Children need our parental attention. I've seen so many broken homes because of this very thing. Not to mention the Laws in these countries do not favour us (migrants) at all. Plus all this feminism nonsense and jobless "friends" giving our sisters terrible advise. Birds of a feather flock together... It's sad
Hmmm to my understanding 98% of individual who leave Nigeria to aboard the UK and US turned to do great but watch those that were raised over there dens to do bad why? Do you know the trending issues now most kids abroad are taken back home to study mostly
Are you not an adult? So you can't discuss your pain with your man. Men will not understand if you don't talk. They are Not sensitive like women. Know this and know peace.
Nigerian system of raising kids is by far better than that abroad. Again majority of our women come here and become more English than the white man, then start raising kids like what I don’t know. Why don’t Chinese, Jewish & Indian kids get emotional like Nigerian kids abroad? Abroad is not Nigeria but you must raise your kids with our standards, that’s who we are. I’m not a white man and cannot raise my kids like a white man. There are some good things to take & apply but our good culture must be foundation.
I live in this UK; all these talks about their ways being superior is all hogwash.....we see their kids, are they way better than ours??? Let's be real Naija just like copying other ppl esp if they are oyinbo.....be firm with kids, treat them with respect and listen to them.....not allow them run riot around and over you.....see them fighting over pronouns and identifying as a butterfly.....our parents raised us the best way they know, we are strong-willed and confident we can survive anything....now they want us to be raising snowflakes and jelly-livered kids to adulthood....that is why they struggle with their identity thinking they are caucasians until those ones show them they ain't part of them......then it dawns on them in their early 20s.....The best things to happen to these kids in diaspora is Afrobeats, at least now they are intrigued about their culture and roots....hopefully small sense will enter in the process.....we copy oyinbo marriage with divorce rate of circa 60%.....our own so called 'toxic marriages' still have a far lower divorce rate......
That's a very sensible contribution. Our women don't really understand what is going on. They think the oyinbo way gives the freedom without knowing that the agenda is to create a weak society. Then a lot of people become lonely, children become drug and porn addicts, depression increases and the big pharmaceutical companies smile to the bank. The police arrests the druggies and kills the depressed and the lonely is left sad and depressed as she watches her life fizzle out. These women need to wake up. God arranged everything for a purpose. Ignoring the arrangement will lead to nothing but destruction.
Have lived in Scandinavia for 12 years already. My wife and children are in Nigeria, I visit them 3 to 4 times every year. I love her very much. She and the kids adore me like God. I’ll move back to my lovely wife in Africa once our kids are grown while your feminist wife is arguing back and forth here with you. Na mumu dey carry woman go Europe/America. …but what do I know?
If a child is damaged emotionally and psychologically as a result of physical and emotional abuse, that can go a long way to shape the life of that child negatively especially on their future relationships. Childhood trauma goes a long way to destroy a person when they become adults.
The only thing that can sustain marriage in abroad is the determination to make it work both sides, always telling those that japa that both husband and wife should be determined that no matter the situation am not leaving my wife and am not leaving my husband because frustration will kick in ,and they don't listen to people's negative advice and keep minimal friends
A lot of Nigerian women are fond of saying "Drop the Nigerian mentality". Can you tell oyinbo to drop their mentality when they live in Nigeria? Is it possible that Nigeria has a culture or conventions that are completely barbaric? The oyinbo mentality that majority copy is the reason there are many broken marriages, fatherless children and weak societies. Many Nigerian women easily key into this mentality without understanding the agenda being driven. Some say Nigerian men want to be king. They hate the position of a man over them so abroad gives them the muscle to PUNISH the man for being the husband. Generally, many Nigerian men are in trouble abroad because of their wives, and the single men are now afraid to marry Nigerians whose language and culture they understand. Some are even scared of marrying at all because all men are generally in trouble now.
No go mumu for love I personally know someone who is now paying child support , keep ur wife in Nigeria here , once she goes abroad she will grow wings
Don't make it look like majority of men or our culture encourages men to beat their wives. Most men are also dying and suffering from depression from uncompromised toxic women who are the most easily deceived race on the planet...
It’s crazy, but majority of our women are the worst to marry in this time. Why? Some of them forget our culture due to inferiority issue & identity crises. Indians, Chinese, Jews, etc retain their culture and they don’t have problems in their marriage. But some of our women are deceived by some westernized women who have messed up their marriage already, they ll take advantage of the law over their husband and abuse it(especially in the winter) Even the people that made the law don’t really use it on majority of their men who are irresponsible, but ours don’t just use it, they abuse it. Here in America most of their men don’t want to marry their women anymore, they just make babies anyhow from different men, that’s the future that some of these our women are molding for themselves and their children. For our men that are abusive, they must learn to stop, if they don’t, the law here will teach them, because many of the women will get worse when they come here, so a man that has no self control will be pushed to foolishly react to his weakness and he ll learn the hard way. In all, they make marriage scary now.. Hell is marrying the wrong person. I cannot raise my children abroad, it’s one of the worst mistake. No place like home and our beautiful culture. Marriage and parenting is scary abroad
Nigeria should expect millions of kids from broken homes in the next ten years. These irresponsible men and women will eventually trade blames when the monsters they failed to raise become a problem to the society. Which way Naija? All the irresponsible women should also learn from what happened to Mercy Johnson's husband. The wife thought it was over with him in America. When God finally showed him Mercy, the Delilah came fighting. She is still a single mother in America, while the guy is happily married.
Remember you can only give what you have, if you learn beating na beating you go sabi teach and so it goes from generation to generation. Stop abusing children period. Both physically emotionally and spritually. As an adult do you do everything right?even with all the beatings you get from your parents so who go come beat you now, dont you learn thing as the day goes?
Daddy freeze u r experienced. I disagree with the system that create more monster in them. I see a lot here abroad. My own be say I go send u back to Naija if u misbehave
I don’t see some women mellowing down because the law support what they do. All I tell the men is to play the fool or relocate to where he will have peace. I have mediated in some cases but can’t give details line. Whatever a Naija man is doing, he should save to establish himself in Africa while visiting the family if the wife allows. I come in peace.
Daddy Freeze God bless u, Oyibo create unnecessary emotions and many thinks their ways of raising kids are the best.anything about oyibo to many are best...we are in serious trouble,many who japa here are gonna soon realised something..marriage go scatter and kids turn druggies and the systems will rejoice and say we have damaged these.-1 down
YOU START FROM SPEAKING YOUR NATIVE LANGUAGE FROM BIRTH. NOT ENGLISH LANGUAGE. OTHER NATIONALITIES SPEAK THEIR LANGUAGE TO THEIR CHILDREN. THEY ALSO INTRODUCE THEIR CULTURE TO THEM. WE ARE RAISING A LOST GENERATION. VERY VERY SAD.
Because naija men and women understands each other's culture etc. See finish. But they won't dare treat women from other countries like that because there's cultural barrier, language etc so they tend to do everything to make it work to avoid being labeled.
I think it's more like those women stand up for themselves and do not take BS, they are open minded before coming to west bc where they come from it was very Cosmo, plus those women also go out ND party with their husbands.
Titus 2:5 King James Version 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. When women no longer know their place the end result is blasphemy
Yes the Nigerian system may not be right but the abroad system is not the correction. You as the parent will definitely be the first or final victim of your child
With raising children, it's about communication with their children. I I agree with you DF in in terms of "!emotional destructions" the Western system creates in children. The reason they cannot deal with the slightest of challenges in life they encounter because they are "emotionally and mentally fragile"!
There are times "physical chastisement" is necessary. The lady at the bottom right hand corner, next to the man, needs to understand that she is talking about parents who takes matters to the extreme. Parents must study their child's interests and help to nature their interests.
Agree with DF, there should be a good balance between the Western and Naija way of raising children. Depending on the child and situation talking and/or small spanking could be necessary.
There is nothing like Nigerian mentality. You people are just plain daft to say this. Now let me explain "Nigerian mentality" to you! My late father (a typical man with Nigerian mentality) was 100% responsible for the upkeep of his family. My late mother never bought gas (fuel) in her car while my father was alive. My father did way too much to make us very comfortable and my mother simply had to focus on her teaching job and used her income to buy minor details in the house! Is this Naija mentality? GREAT MENTALITY!! Currently I am married to a Nigerian woman, who is working very hard at home! She has not earned more than $5000.00 OUTSIDE THE HOUSE in her entire working career abroad because we agreed that we should give the kids enough attention. She is having a blast! This rubbish you people do abroad is simply because you are copying a model that isn't yours and comes from a place of stupidity. If you won't respect your husband because you help with the house bills, please take your bag and go to your father's house assuming your father has a house. Dear men, please know where the balance of power is. Stop playing Sisi with these people. Whenever they start their bullshit, which many actually do, ask her to leave immediately. Her best friend might be her replacement within a year, and she is likely to end up very alone and miserable. Do not abuse women under any circumstance but do not accept disrespect simply because you now live abroad. Stupid people everywhere! When he is in Nigeria catering to your entire needs, you didn't see Nigerian mentality. Because of the stupid money you think you earn! Stop making these people powerful, simply walk away or throw her out!!
The question I always ask is when they send their men packing, what do they (women) settle for? Do they stay alone and experiment with different men (many of whom see them as low hanging fruit) or do they find themselves in respectful committed relationships?
These days, so many Nigerian men don't take their wives abroad again because of these attitude. Except she hustles her way abroad..if not she go remain her o
Costs of living is so much more in diaspora and therefore longer work hours in a different system. Family dynamics change and parents don't understand. Parenting skills need transition. Mentality is different. It's complex
The lady in the bottom right hand corner of the screen talked little sense but loads of rubbish. For example, telling your child not to interrupt or not to badge in when adults are are talking is not a bad thing. Another nonsense she said was "primary carer" - both parents are primary carers of the children, there's a father and mother. The lady on the bottom left hand corner of the screen who left made more sense. The lady at the top right hand corner that moved momentarily to the bottom left made sense against the lady at the bottom right. The man that said foreign woman that Nigerian men marry, such as Zimbabwean etc don't push men out of the house, while l agree it's not as rampant like our Nigerian women, some of those women are copying behaviours of those Nigerian women.
We are quick to comment when we see cases of domestic violence online. Have we ever stopped to think about what causes men and women to be violent? It is exactly what was modelled to them by their parents growing up. Whatever you exemplify to a child , that child will grow up replicating that same behaviour. All cases of violence by a perpetrator starts from their upbringing. If you teach a child that each time they do something wrong you just scream, shout , hit and beat up that child including calling him names , you are setting a model for that child to do the same when he or she grows up. When a child experiences violence either directly or watches a father beat up and maltreat his mother, you are setting a bad example for that child to follow. A lot of abusers have faulty foundations. Violence is never the right way to raise children. Stop the cycle of domestic violence. It starts from your home. Door to door. The best way to get a child to listen to you is by loving that child. Also, start training a child in the way he should go from a very young age so that by the time the child is a teenager, you have already moulded that child to grow up responsibly. Setting a good example is also very important, practice what you preach.
MEN IF U ARE ABROAD STOP BRINGING THIS WOMEN OVERSEAS.. IF SHE CANT STAY BACK HOME FORGET ABOUT IT...THIS TREND AMONG AFRICAN WOMEN WONT STOP.. LOOK AT ASIANS WOMEN NO DIVORCES THEY STICK TO CULTURE AND WAY OF LIFE BACK HOME...MEN GET SENSE..
How are Asians and other Africans able to teach their children abroad and the kids understand the culture but Nigeria's own is different? Daddy Freeze is very correct at 24:46 and that is what makes us resilient as Africans.
What sort of Nigerians have you been relating with? The low lives? Look closer and you will see many Nigerian families doing well and raising their family without any issues.
The main question is that, WHY is it that Nigerian women normally honour and respect their husbands inside Nigeria??, Where some of these couples have been married and stays together for probably couples of decades before, And all of a sudden they became WILD against their husbands in the western world, Especially whenever they secured their documents in the western world???.
The problem is, people don't marry their friends, someone they both understand each other. The foundation of many relationship is based on lies, and laziness in people irritates their partners, but it's it's difficult to accept that Nigerians are lazy. I once shared a flat with a guy who was always messing up the flat, and would never put a hand in cleaning. Yet, they want to impose their filthy life on you, that's where the problems always erupted
In all honesty, women can't manage influence. when once there are a little bit rich, they begin to act manipulative and commanding. Is so unfortunate how we got here, but of the truth, even as a young man that i am, i fear even relationship now not to talk of marriage. women feel so entitled and feel it should all be just them. some will even want to control who u give money and who not. But their families everything is okk. Greedy people everywhere. But in all, there are still good women. A man marries a broke ass lady today, respects you love and all what not, but 95% of women today, sorry to say respect their spouses base on the money there have and spend on them. Is a pitty.
Imagine one of the women says Nigerian men brought Nigerian mentality, is the same with the Nigerian women period. Infact it is worst with the women no cap... so make everybody stays single
The latest now is , after you bring them to the West, they decide to bring their own siblings , mothers and then kick you out from your own house you suffered to buy.
Nigerian system has "k leg", whereas the oyibo system has "bow leg", could that be part of why they open their legs in oyibo system much easier with no shame than the Nigerian system??😂
Africans also open leg accept it's hidden, secretive same with everything else pretending pretending, let's not slag everything bad is oyinbo when we ourselves are full of fakeness with evils behind closed doors.
@@tombimashri8149 soo true but have you seen oyibo people in action before? If we're talking about things that happen behind closed doors then that one is all over as I had hinted already but then again, have you seen the one that's in your face? I have never seen it in Africa before but it's littered all over the streets in oyibo country, even kids in iyabo system can see it by mistake. Balenciaga are even beginning to prove it as well and everywhere is quite or try to suppress it due to the level of wokeness, sorry was meant to say due to the level of there wickedness. Meanwhile, if I'm correct I think the conversation in this clip anchors more on raising "kids". "Oyibo pepper" as we used to sing it in Africa when we were kids, without knowing what we were singing🙆🏿♀️
Laugh now but remain lonely in your old age. The first reaction is always an emotional one from our women. do they think of the kids? I see people commenting like the issue of domestic abuse is isolated to Nigerian men. What sort of Nigerians have you been relating with? The low lives? Look closer and you will see many Nigerian families doing well and raising their family without any issues (at least in the UK). Why all of a sudden is this clarion call (especially from single, and angry women) to destroy the family unit? Once our women leave the shores of Nigeria and realise the "advantage" their new base in Europe and America offers them, they lose their focus and decide the best way to deal with domestic issues is to legally banish the man from the house? Even the uneducated ones have improved on their vocabulary with words like "misogyny, toxic masculinity, etc" - words that the media have drummed into their heads . Are we all aware there are lots of men facing terrible abuse from their women too? The difference is that men are least likely to cry out about misandry. Did you know that?
The abroad system is the worst for the children. The African system is the best , just balance it. In Kenya we have psychological counselors in schools, I can attest that Europe had started damaging my children, I took them to Kenya and now they are flourishing. Don't worship the abroad system, Africa is best.
I did same for my son. He is a better person now. The UK educational system doesn’t recognise the active/badly behaved black boy so a lot lot of them drop off the educational system just because of behaviour but in Africa the child is trained while the behaviour is checked. A very small percentage drop out of school in Africa.
We can predict the future by the society we create today. I have lived in the United States for few years now but I haven't seen a man and a lady in their wedding attire more than a few times. We are fast degenerating than I thought. MEN abroad now avoid marriages like plagues. In fact, many Nigerian men now settle for ladies from other ethnic nationalities for the sake of peace. They no longer want to adhere to the notion of preserving the nitty-gritty of their heritage.
Again, current statistics shows that the Black Lady is the least in consideration for marriage among other races in western world. How many Baby MaMas have been recorded among the Asian ladies, Caucasian ladies and many more?
Statistics are there!
We need to be careful. We are losing it.
Do the Nigerian men treat the other women from other nationalities the way they treat our own women?
God bless you! Watch how Nigerian men who are married to whites. Some of them suddenly become perfect gentlemen,they bend down backwards, they help with household chores, actively participate in raising the kids
Do women from other nationalities behave like "our own" Nigerian women?
Exactly!!!! They are so respectful to other women.
Such a good question ; we treat aliens with more love and respect; it’s a Nigerian thing both home and abroad
@@princelucianoogaga686 . How do they behave please ?. Please marry your sister from same parents with you and treat her like shit the way you treat our sisters . Narcissism need to stop 🛑 !. Dish out what you can only accept.
Remi dey enter our eye..oh, she is calm, soft, smooth with a gentle voice....more of her abeg
I swear
This is a complete single story. If you are a Nigerian man who is not ready to abide by the laws of the land then don’t bother to travel abroad. The laws in the UK works. The reason why a man will be asked to leave his home is if there is an evidence that the life of the woman and her children is in danger or that the man has been causing harm to his wife. It is however not something permanent. If the man takes steps to seek reconciliation and is willing to cooperate and change from his violent ways, he can be reinstated back into his home. The fact they a man is asked to leave temporarily does not in itself mean that the man has lost his home. He can seek additional legal advise to know what his true position is.
Not only men are asked to leave his matrimonial home, if a woman hits her husband, she can be arrested.
This also applies to not only married couples but also in your general day to day living. It is against the laws of the land to hit anybody. It is battery /assault and if found guilty, you will go in for it and this can earn you a criminal record.
The laws here is no respecter of persons. Be warned: if you beat up your wife and children of course the laws are there to protect them because they are vulnerable . In the same way, don’t think you don’t have a right as a man , you do. .
If your wife is guilty of beating you up or hitting you, if you can evidence it, your wife too will be apprehended. Don’t transport the lawlessness you enjoy in Nigeria to another country where the laws are enforceable because the law is unto you. Be ware. Be warned.
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You are just everywhere trolling
The guy is absolutely right as an adult when ever you are speaking to your child always bring your self to their level.
I have people over there, some of these men are toxic,narcissistic and not raised in doing chores. We both go to work and you expect me to come home, do chores, cook and still look after kids. It is insane. Am not condoling their action but these men should do better
Bless you.
Please remi Sand me your number I from yoruba I'm single I live in Europe
@@godwinjames4477 you be mumu woman rapper.opportunistic olodo who wants to jump upon a woman who is rebelling against her man.what makes you think you are a better man
Thanks for this comment 👍
Exactly, they want a slave as a wife.
As a lawyer I can confirm this like my fellow learned colleague said here as well but the anger is that some Nigerian women wants to be treated with equality but they are not ready to share equal responsibilities and consequences. If you are not ready for marriage, leave being married. There are Asians, Chinese, Vietnamese, Indians, etc. whose men are worse and nasty than the Nigerian men, yet they stay and hearken together. The African children in Diaspora are the children that knife each other on the streets of London in knife culture. The absence of one partner affects the children's lives.
There has to be a balance always. My children have never been to Naija but are so aware of cultural differences. My husband and I were raised with that Naija mentality of my opinion is correct because I am the parent. We made a conscious effort and intentional decision of listening and talking to and with our children. Understanding that they have feelings too. Does not mean that they are spoilt, they know and understand boundaries an have understood that Naija 👀 look. 😂.
Daddy Freeze you said it all. The Nigerian system has "K" and the western culture is definitely not a remedy. Gbam
Best sort of videos from freeze for me. I think you need to focus more on society than religion. Your societal talks are pure gem. Some Nigerians support the European system of raising family only because they believe anything that comes from Europe or Britain is superior but you daddy freeze won't accept a so called superior system, you bring everything to the same level to analyse. Very good!
So, the fact that your culture and society supports women's suppression is a good culture?.
Not true. Daddy Freeze only visit abroad and had never lived there or raised children, so his opinion is to buttress his line of understanding. Beating or slap changes nothing... Look at our society, the reflection of our government is part of our upbringing, lies, deceitful and fear.
I'm not saying abroad has no problems but it's far better standard.
This is a great video because is exactly what is going on in the Nigeria community and is now rampant. Most of these men just jump on a plane go back home and bring a woman who later becomes a stranger. Many lives have been lost too because of incidents like this. Why is it we are the ones is happening to than other Africans?.
It's not only wives that drives their husband away from the house. I am a nurse Iiving in USA. I remember working extra shifts not wanting to sleep in the house because of a nagging husband. It's vice-versa.
You're right. My husband told me to leave also
That wan no be husband na woman in man form. Also I know theirs money in health care and a lot of Nigerian women want to rack as much as their body permit but that's not right. We should give time to our marriages and enjoy it. We don't need to be working long hours na one life we get
@@williamsolawale4208 God bless you my brother. A lot of our sisters want to pack all the money in the World once they get to the US or UK. Working 12 hours a day, forgetting that the Home, marriage and Children need our parental attention. I've seen so many broken homes because of this very thing. Not to mention the Laws in these countries do not favour us (migrants) at all. Plus all this feminism nonsense and jobless "friends" giving our sisters terrible advise. Birds of a feather flock together...
It's sad
Aawwhh.
That's your own side story sha
Thank you Daddy Freeze for all you do🙏🏿. The “emotionalization” in the abroad is a problem!!!
Hmmm to my understanding 98% of individual who leave Nigeria to aboard the UK and US turned to do great but watch those that were raised over there dens to do bad why? Do you know the trending issues now most kids abroad are taken back home to study mostly
Africa ways of raising kids are the best!! Did I hear you say Africa kids grow up timid??? Are you timid??
I will marry from another African country in the UK as a Nigerian man.
How many Nigeria 🇳🇬 men know their wife to know when the wife is in pain! Especially when the woman does not have income
Thanks for this. They treat you like shit
Are you not an adult? So you can't discuss your pain with your man. Men will not understand if you don't talk. They are Not sensitive like women. Know this and know peace.
If you make your husband your best friend, support good plans he has and honour him, he WILL treat you better than you deserve!
Nigerian system of raising kids is by far better than that abroad.
Again majority of our women come here and become more English than the white man, then start raising kids like what I don’t know.
Why don’t Chinese, Jewish & Indian kids get emotional like Nigerian kids abroad?
Abroad is not Nigeria but you must raise your kids with our standards, that’s who we are. I’m not a white man and cannot raise my kids like a white man. There are some good things to take & apply but our good culture must be foundation.
I live in this UK; all these talks about their ways being superior is all hogwash.....we see their kids, are they way better than ours??? Let's be real Naija just like copying other ppl esp if they are oyinbo.....be firm with kids, treat them with respect and listen to them.....not allow them run riot around and over you.....see them fighting over pronouns and identifying as a butterfly.....our parents raised us the best way they know, we are strong-willed and confident we can survive anything....now they want us to be raising snowflakes and jelly-livered kids to adulthood....that is why they struggle with their identity thinking they are caucasians until those ones show them they ain't part of them......then it dawns on them in their early 20s.....The best things to happen to these kids in diaspora is Afrobeats, at least now they are intrigued about their culture and roots....hopefully small sense will enter in the process.....we copy oyinbo marriage with divorce rate of circa 60%.....our own so called 'toxic marriages' still have a far lower divorce rate......
That's a very sensible contribution. Our women don't really understand what is going on. They think the oyinbo way gives the freedom without knowing that the agenda is to create a weak society. Then a lot of people become lonely, children become drug and porn addicts, depression increases and the big pharmaceutical companies smile to the bank. The police arrests the druggies and kills the depressed and the lonely is left sad and depressed as she watches her life fizzle out. These women need to wake up. God arranged everything for a purpose. Ignoring the arrangement will lead to nothing but destruction.
You have said it all bro...
Best comment of all you are the best I swear ❤
Have lived in Scandinavia for 12 years already. My wife and children are in Nigeria, I visit them 3 to 4 times every year. I love her very much. She and the kids adore me like God. I’ll move back to my lovely wife in Africa once our kids are grown while your feminist wife is arguing back and forth here with you.
Na mumu dey carry woman go Europe/America. …but what do I know?
You are a wise man. Very few people understand the concept. Even though distant relationship is fraught with danger.
Daddy freeze God bless you sir. Please do more videos on this topic, this is so educational
If a child is damaged emotionally and psychologically as a result of physical and emotional abuse, that can go a long way to shape the life of that child negatively especially on their future relationships.
Childhood trauma goes a long way to destroy a person when they become adults.
Nigerian mentality........,but no Indian mentality
Indians do the same
Established Truth From You All... Bless You Ladies...
Handling kids with a balance is the best for them.
The only thing that can sustain marriage in abroad is the determination to make it work both sides, always telling those that japa that both husband and wife should be determined that no matter the situation am not leaving my wife and am not leaving my husband because frustration will kick in ,and they don't listen to people's negative advice and keep minimal friends
A lot of Nigerian women are fond of saying "Drop the Nigerian mentality". Can you tell oyinbo to drop their mentality when they live in Nigeria? Is it possible that Nigeria has a culture or conventions that are completely barbaric? The oyinbo mentality that majority copy is the reason there are many broken marriages, fatherless children and weak societies. Many Nigerian women easily key into this mentality without understanding the agenda being driven. Some say Nigerian men want to be king. They hate the position of a man over them so abroad gives them the muscle to PUNISH the man for being the husband. Generally, many Nigerian men are in trouble abroad because of their wives, and the single men are now afraid to marry Nigerians whose language and culture they understand. Some are even scared of marrying at all because all men are generally in trouble now.
No go mumu for love I personally know someone who is now paying child support , keep ur wife in Nigeria here , once she goes abroad she will grow wings
Some of these men are too violent. If you beat your wife then you deserve to be kicked out. Simple. We need the same in Nigeria.
Don't make it look like majority of men or our culture encourages men to beat their wives. Most men are also dying and suffering from depression from uncompromised toxic women who are the most easily deceived race on the planet...
It’s crazy, but majority of our women are the worst to marry in this time.
Why?
Some of them forget our culture due to inferiority issue & identity crises.
Indians, Chinese, Jews, etc retain their culture and they don’t have problems in their marriage.
But some of our women are deceived by some westernized women who have messed up their marriage already, they ll take advantage of the law over their husband and abuse it(especially in the winter)
Even the people that made the law don’t really use it on majority of their men who are irresponsible, but ours don’t just use it, they abuse it.
Here in America most of their men don’t want to marry their women anymore, they just make babies anyhow from different men, that’s the future that some of these our women are molding for themselves and their children.
For our men that are abusive, they must learn to stop, if they don’t, the law here will teach them, because many of the women will get worse when they come here, so a man that has no self control will be pushed to foolishly react to his weakness and he ll learn the hard way.
In all, they make marriage scary now.. Hell is marrying the wrong person.
I cannot raise my children abroad, it’s one of the worst mistake. No place like home and our beautiful culture.
Marriage and parenting is scary abroad
Nigeria should expect millions of kids from broken homes in the next ten years. These irresponsible men and women will eventually trade blames when the monsters they failed to raise become a problem to the society. Which way Naija? All the irresponsible women should also learn from what happened to Mercy Johnson's husband. The wife thought it was over with him in America. When God finally showed him Mercy, the Delilah came fighting. She is still a single mother in America, while the guy is happily married.
Remember you can only give what you have, if you learn beating na beating you go sabi teach and so it goes from generation to generation.
Stop abusing children period. Both physically emotionally and spritually.
As an adult do you do everything right?even with all the beatings you get from your parents so who go come beat you now, dont you learn thing as the day goes?
Hahahahaha, 😅 🤣 to be honest, that slap can reset your brain 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Daddy freeze u r experienced. I disagree with the system that create more monster in them. I see a lot here abroad. My own be say I go send u back to Naija if u misbehave
I don’t see some women mellowing down because the law support what they do. All I tell the men is to play the fool or relocate to where he will have peace. I have mediated in some cases but can’t give details line. Whatever a Naija man is doing, he should save to establish himself in Africa while visiting the family if the wife allows. I come in peace.
Daddy Freeze God bless u, Oyibo create unnecessary emotions and many thinks their ways of raising kids are the best.anything about oyibo to many are best...we are in serious trouble,many who japa here are gonna soon realised something..marriage go scatter and kids turn druggies and the systems will rejoice and say we have damaged these.-1 down
God bless you for this.... More wisdom
Same thing in US...lol..western society is not for traditional marriage
My brother was kicked out 2wks ago in the UK
YOU START FROM SPEAKING YOUR NATIVE LANGUAGE FROM BIRTH.
NOT ENGLISH LANGUAGE.
OTHER NATIONALITIES SPEAK THEIR LANGUAGE TO THEIR CHILDREN.
THEY ALSO INTRODUCE THEIR CULTURE TO THEM.
WE ARE RAISING A LOST GENERATION.
VERY VERY SAD.
Because naija men and women understands each other's culture etc. See finish. But they won't dare treat women from other countries like that because there's cultural barrier, language etc so they tend to do everything to make it work to avoid being labeled.
I think it's more like those women stand up for themselves and do not take BS, they are open minded before coming to west bc where they come from it was very Cosmo, plus those women also go out ND party with their husbands.
Titus 2:5
King James Version
5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
When women no longer know their place the end result is blasphemy
Yes the Nigerian system may not be right but the abroad system is not the correction. You as the parent will definitely be the first or final victim of your child
With raising children, it's about communication with their children. I
I agree with you DF in in terms of "!emotional destructions" the Western system creates in children. The reason they cannot deal with the slightest of challenges in life they encounter because they are "emotionally and mentally fragile"!
There are times "physical chastisement" is necessary. The lady at the bottom right hand corner, next to the man, needs to understand that she is talking about parents who takes matters to the extreme.
Parents must study their child's interests and help to nature their interests.
This Remi is beautiful and classy
Agree with DF, there should be a good balance between the Western and Naija way of raising children. Depending on the child and situation talking and/or small spanking could be necessary.
Daddy freeze who no like u na him we no go see but not in death o
There is nothing like Nigerian mentality. You people are just plain daft to say this. Now let me explain "Nigerian mentality" to you! My late father (a typical man with Nigerian mentality) was 100% responsible for the upkeep of his family. My late mother never bought gas (fuel) in her car while my father was alive. My father did way too much to make us very comfortable and my mother simply had to focus on her teaching job and used her income to buy minor details in the house! Is this Naija mentality? GREAT MENTALITY!!
Currently I am married to a Nigerian woman, who is working very hard at home! She has not earned more than $5000.00 OUTSIDE THE HOUSE in her entire working career abroad because we agreed that we should give the kids enough attention. She is having a blast!
This rubbish you people do abroad is simply because you are copying a model that isn't yours and comes from a place of stupidity. If you won't respect your husband because you help with the house bills, please take your bag and go to your father's house assuming your father has a house.
Dear men, please know where the balance of power is. Stop playing Sisi with these people. Whenever they start their bullshit, which many actually do, ask her to leave immediately. Her best friend might be her replacement within a year, and she is likely to end up very alone and miserable. Do not abuse women under any circumstance but do not accept disrespect simply because you now live abroad. Stupid people everywhere! When he is in Nigeria catering to your entire needs, you didn't see Nigerian mentality. Because of the stupid money you think you earn! Stop making these people powerful, simply walk away or throw her out!!
Daddy freeze is correct
The question I always ask is when they send their men packing, what do they (women) settle for? Do they stay alone and experiment with different men (many of whom see them as low hanging fruit) or do they find themselves in respectful committed relationships?
It's Men's Selfishness...
Daddy Frizz please I'll like to participate in ur next episode
These days, so many Nigerian men don't take their wives abroad again because of these attitude. Except she hustles her way abroad..if not she go remain her o
Costs of living is so much more in diaspora and therefore longer work hours in a different system. Family dynamics change and parents don't understand. Parenting skills need transition. Mentality is different. It's complex
Hardly will you find Indians and Chinese with all these sorts of issues...
na man wey no get handwork
It's very risky to carry Nigeria woman come abroad. It doesn't end well most time. But they are always loyal before dem begin make money here
I 100% agree with Daddy Freeze on this topic.
Na only husband's wey no sabi wetin dem dey do, no dey safe....And the situation in Canada is not half as bad as that of the UK
Did these ladies leave Nigerian mentality at the airport
The lady in the bottom right hand corner of the screen talked little sense but loads of rubbish. For example, telling your child not to interrupt or not to badge in when adults are are talking is not a bad thing. Another nonsense she said was "primary carer" - both parents are primary carers of the children, there's a father and mother. The lady on the bottom left hand corner of the screen who left made more sense.
The lady at the top right hand corner that moved momentarily to the bottom left made sense against the lady at the bottom right.
The man that said foreign woman that Nigerian men marry, such as Zimbabwean etc don't push men out of the house, while l agree it's not as rampant like our Nigerian women, some of those women are copying behaviours of those Nigerian women.
My own opinion... Everything said here on the show is right but life isn't balance which makes it wrong somewhere else. Just a thought
Spare the rod and spoil the child, this is what I believe
Na mumu dey carry woman go abroad
Na mumu woman dey wait for man to bring her abroad. I came abroad by myself
@@peacecdaniel8946 same here oh,I carry myself go Ireland.
Them never born the man well way go treat me any how.
We know them. I came into the UK as a student over 10 years ago
@@jenny-he2pr marry oyibo na
@7:55 who is that BIMBO in eye glasses that said if they had a wonderful marriage
We are quick to comment when we see cases of domestic violence online. Have we ever stopped to think about what causes men and women to be violent? It is exactly what was modelled to them by their parents growing up. Whatever you exemplify to a child , that child will grow up replicating that same behaviour.
All cases of violence by a perpetrator starts from their upbringing. If you teach a child that each time they do something wrong you just scream, shout , hit and beat up that child including calling him names , you are setting a model for that child to do the same when he or she grows up. When a child experiences violence either directly or watches a father beat up and maltreat his mother, you are setting a bad example for that child to follow.
A lot of abusers have faulty foundations.
Violence is never the right way to raise children. Stop the cycle of domestic violence. It starts from your home. Door to door.
The best way to get a child to listen to you is by loving that child. Also, start training a child in the way he should go from a very young age so that by the time the child is a teenager, you have already moulded that child to grow up responsibly.
Setting a good example is also very important, practice what you preach.
I think is all about understanding of both parties. That is not to say that some people are not mischievous.
MEN IF U ARE ABROAD STOP BRINGING THIS WOMEN OVERSEAS.. IF SHE CANT STAY BACK HOME FORGET ABOUT IT...THIS TREND AMONG AFRICAN WOMEN WONT STOP.. LOOK AT ASIANS WOMEN NO DIVORCES THEY STICK TO CULTURE AND WAY OF LIFE BACK HOME...MEN GET SENSE..
How are Asians and other Africans able to teach their children abroad and the kids understand the culture but Nigeria's own is different? Daddy Freeze is very correct at 24:46 and that is what makes us resilient as Africans.
What sort of Nigerians have you been relating with? The low lives? Look closer and you will see many Nigerian families doing well and raising their family without any issues.
Who told you that?, do you live with them?
@@GoodLuck-cv6xk statistics don't lie
My Nigerian brothers pls don’t get married to Nigerian women or girl in Uk hear me ooo
The main question is that,
WHY is it that Nigerian women normally honour and respect their husbands inside Nigeria??,
Where some of these couples have been married and stays together for probably couples of decades before,
And all of a sudden they became WILD against their husbands in the western world,
Especially whenever they secured their documents in the western world???.
If you look deeply in your own question you will find your answer. Its right there infront of you.
You are the only one who has asked the right question.
Abeg una dey marry the wrong men jhor. Abeg free nigerian women
How can the Nigerian mentality work in the wester world , when Nigerian mentally does not work.even in Nigeria
I think is poverty mindset
The problem is, people don't marry their friends, someone they both understand each other. The foundation of many relationship is based on lies, and laziness in people irritates their partners, but it's it's difficult to accept that Nigerians are lazy. I once shared a flat with a guy who was always messing up the flat, and would never put a hand in cleaning. Yet, they want to impose their filthy life on you, that's where the problems always erupted
In all honesty, women can't manage influence. when once there are a little bit rich, they begin to act manipulative and commanding. Is so unfortunate how we got here, but of the truth, even as a young man that i am, i fear even relationship now not to talk of marriage. women feel so entitled and feel it should all be just them. some will even want to control who u give money and who not. But their families everything is okk. Greedy people everywhere. But in all, there are still good women. A man marries a broke ass lady today, respects you love and all what not, but 95% of women today, sorry to say respect their spouses base on the money there have and spend on them. Is a pitty.
What is Naija mentality please?
I don't think anyone can explain this succintly but we Naija ppl just know our own mentality.....😛😛😛😛
I am to Africa to get married abroad woman not good
awon feminist
Is airing your "community dirty laundry" a Nigerian passtime or hobbie now ?
Imagine one of the women says Nigerian men brought Nigerian mentality, is the same with the Nigerian women period. Infact it is worst with the women no cap... so make everybody stays single
The latest now is , after you bring them to the West, they decide to bring their own siblings , mothers and then kick you out from your own house you suffered to buy.
Nigerian system has "k leg", whereas the oyibo system has "bow leg", could that be part of why they open their legs in oyibo system much easier with no shame than the Nigerian system??😂
Africans also open leg accept it's hidden, secretive same with everything else pretending pretending, let's not slag everything bad is oyinbo when we ourselves are full of fakeness with evils behind closed doors.
@@tombimashri8149 soo true but have you seen oyibo people in action before? If we're talking about things that happen behind closed doors then that one is all over as I had hinted already but then again, have you seen the one that's in your face? I have never seen it in Africa before but it's littered all over the streets in oyibo country, even kids in iyabo system can see it by mistake. Balenciaga are even beginning to prove it as well and everywhere is quite or try to suppress it due to the level of wokeness, sorry was meant to say due to the level of there wickedness. Meanwhile, if I'm correct I think the conversation in this clip anchors more on raising "kids". "Oyibo pepper" as we used to sing it in Africa when we were kids, without knowing what we were singing🙆🏿♀️
Why would you put your hands on your child....you've lost control and it's violent
That is your opinion. If you listen to DF with an open mind, he made a lot of sense that I agree with.
daddy freeze all the women you bring in will do the same thing, they have the same character
Laugh now but remain lonely in your old age. The first reaction is always an emotional one from our women. do they think of the kids?
I see people commenting like the issue of domestic abuse is isolated to Nigerian men. What sort of Nigerians have you been relating with? The low lives? Look closer and you will see many Nigerian families doing well and raising their family without any issues (at least in the UK).
Why all of a sudden is this clarion call (especially from single, and angry women) to destroy the family unit? Once our women leave the shores of Nigeria and realise the "advantage" their new base in Europe and America offers them, they lose their focus and decide the best way to deal with domestic issues is to legally banish the man from the house? Even the uneducated ones have improved on their vocabulary with words like "misogyny, toxic masculinity, etc" - words that the media have drummed into their heads .
Are we all aware there are lots of men facing terrible abuse from their women too? The difference is that men are least likely to cry out about misandry. Did you know that?
They never think of the kid's it's always about how they feel.
They don't, very dull gender
Very deep