Shalom👋, not Jewish but Christian rather, but I’m really beginning to appreciate this Rabbi’s point of view. The way he nonchalantly delivers such profound biblical wisdom so effortlessly is quite astounding.
Vs I love you. Cuz I see myself in you. And I love myself so I love u, I found my soul mate.. I don’t need u for anything , I just enjoy being with u and Sharing my life
How can marriage be BASE on respect? I can respect someone I love but I can't love someone I respect. So marriage should be the base on Love not respect
IDK... Saying that you will know if he/she/it is "The ONE" if you end up getting married is a little too much like saying you will know if the gun is loaded by pulling the trigger.
@@Thelittleclipstorei think that's why even rhe ancient rabbis understood that divorce is a thing that can happen, but as many steps should be taken to make sure it doesn't get to that point
What if a person gets married and within a short span of time,the spouse dies,was that person from God to get married to or was that a man made decision? Please answer Rabbi, thank you!
So after being divorced for 18 years now I still haven't found another one that I feel like I could spend the rest of my life with. At 64 I wonder what's the point now.
GoatRoper911 ok so divorce is practice?? Again how do I know if I have the one...I have been married for 10 yrs first and only wife...but if I get tired or bored in marriage does that mean she is not the right one? I am DEFINITELY not bored or tired however some people do...so if that leads to a divorce then for 10 yrs was I only practicing?? ?? Pls I am not challenging just really would like to know....
The way I understood it, from other discussions as well, is that you're dealing with a separate issue. There is "the one" destined for you, but you also were created with free choice. Which means you can make a mistake. That is why the Bible has laws for divorce. It doesn't mean it's a commandment for everyone to get divorced, rather if you do make a mistake, this is how you fix it properly. Hope this helps
@ETERNAL HOME I don’t think anyone is destined at all. It’s just that if you start looking at your partner as “The One” for you, your marriage will work and god will help those who trust. The distinction between married and unmarried couples is just because your partner has free will too, and you can’t force them to love you back. But if you are married, it means it’s mutual, so you both have what it takes to make it last.
Because G-d respects our free choice even in marriage, and many do not have this wisdom that everyone is important therefore they don't truly focus on loving the one they are with, they only focus on satisfying their need for love.
She may have been the right one for that time of ur life but once u feel u can no longer be toggehr ur meant to move on and that was probably not ur ultimate soul mate. This rabbi seems to be missing something when it comes to being in love with ur true soul mate and he probably hasn’t found his.
So I heard some people talking about the marriages of today that the couple of the day are not the couple that supposed to be with one another like they need they didn't find the right person for them so instead of doing a big war in the world so God decided the couple that living with each other and they're not supposed to be with each other so they will just be a part , be just apart you know in time , slowly so and that's will replace the war that should have come what, are you talking what's your thought about this?
Yes that makes sense, I believe soon more n more couples with divorce. Ye it’s like a war cuz most people are living with the wrong ppl for the wrong reasons. They live out of fear or security reasons together.. and this has to change. This rabbi seems to be trying to keep ppl stay married for no good reason . Just cuz , he’s logical and traditional , which is overriding his intuition and feelings .. marriages come from heart . Love is all. Nobody can break apart a a couple in love. It’s too powerful. Love will soon show the world what it can do.
Maybe non.. but each one Is right for that moment. Each relationships helps us find ourselves more , we grow more. The more u know urself the more likely u will find ur true soul mate. The more quickly u will pickup on who is good for u, who is enhancing ur life and who u need to move on from. It’s about trusting ur intuition and becoming confident and then u will just know
Well… I know a person who told me “God told me this woman will be my wife.” This man is spiritual but not Christian or Jewish. I found out a bit about this man and his wife. They are married still but there is this underlying selfishness that he and his wife have that seem to drive people away from them. Like… his wife is like him in all the wrong ways. So when he told me “God told me I would marry this woman.” I believe him. God gave him exactly what he desired. How it will end is yet to be seen, but ultimately what you are seeking in life is also seeking you. The celebrities that have been married 5 times, don’t marry to up lift their spouse, they marry because it makes them feel good to be with an attractive spouse and the media eat it up. After the sparks wear off, the marriage fails, and they try again with someone else. So yes, even if you are looking for all the wrong reasons you will be given EXACTLY what you are looking for, it won’t end well, but it is path that is free to be chosen.
Amazing video! Thank you Rabbi. A very off topic question: I feel like the holocaust was too big an event to not be mentioned in scripture, I myself do not know very much scripture but I am getting there, but does the Bible mention the holocaust or anything remotely similar?
If all marriages are right then why is laws in Torah saying not to marry outside the faith? Why is there a cap on wives for the King in the Torah? Not all marriages are right.
Marriage for man is like going to a casino and betting everything on a 50/50 chance and if you win you get nothing but if you loose u loose everything. Literally idiocy. There is not even one reason to get married.
It’s not about middos it’s about is it urs or not.. if someone is urs u will have the capacity to influence them deeply and they will change . If it’s not urs u will not have influence or not enough and it’s not ur match so move on.
Okey Rab, but what exactly do you mean with "marriege"? You mean de ritual thing? Oor something just having kids? Thats enough to say you have a marriege?
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Earth is only one tiny planet among millions other suns and planets. And all those universe has been around since milions years ago. We live on earth with 8 billions other human beings. Not to mention we have billions and billions of human being who have died since millions years ago on earth. Are you sure you know the creator of this huge gigantic universe (if any) ? Are you sure HE talks to you? The only thing we can do to HIM is just being thankful and be good human being while still alive. Once we try to understand HIM or to say things on behalf of HIM, we are doing blasphemy.
Blimey, couldnt sleep for two weeks obviously not down to someone asking you that question i'm sure...it was because you were having bed time fun with someone, werent u? lol a certain woman who you featured in a music video with, who has a hot body, lol. I am assuming that where you mentioned the subject on marriage in that God intervenes to ensure one marries the right spouse, you are talking exclusively about Jews? because i hear of people (obviously non Jews) those that i've worked with also people that i know of, whose marriages failed and they got divorced, which i hear of a lot, so surely God is not intervening with them (matchmaking, lol).
Jajaja, god never abandons… say that to the Palestinian children and perhaps everyone in this planet. Is laughable when a human tríes to enlighten with cheap philosophy. No one truly know the answer of why things happen, and to pretend to know is ridiculous .
Thank you Rabbi! Learning from your videos has made me a better person 😊
I feel likewise :)
Shalom👋, not Jewish but Christian rather, but I’m really beginning to appreciate this Rabbi’s point of view. The way he nonchalantly delivers such profound biblical wisdom so effortlessly is quite astounding.
I love Rabbi Friedman wisdom
Rabbi, your videos are eye-openers. Thank you!
Love is caring respect responsibility sharing and persistence with loved ones
You are the literal greatest Rabbi Friedman
Just brilliant. Love your conviction.
Mr_E_Man 007
What if a Jewish girl marries a non Jew ,
Is that meant to be Gd’s plan ?
Genius ❤
Thank you Rabbi Manis Friedman. 5:04
I adore this
This was stunning
Thank you very much my teacher.
Wow! I have such a confirmation bias from this video! That's how I always felt myself about this topic without ever reading a Tora!
I love you = I see you as a best candidate to satisfy my own need for love.
not bad anabel :)
Vs I love you. Cuz I see myself in you. And I love myself so I love u, I found my soul mate.. I don’t need u for anything , I just enjoy being with u and Sharing my life
Thank you.
A marriage should be based on Respect..not Love.
How can marriage be BASE on respect? I can respect someone I love but I can't love someone I respect. So marriage should be the base on Love not respect
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Actually..I need Both. I cannot love someone I don’t respect.
@@kathleenwharton2139 that's my point. So Love should be the base, then respect, communication, etc
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With me..Respect comes First. I cannot Love someone I do not respect.
@@kathleenwharton2139 you lack comprehension. Where in the world, (in term of courtship) can you respect someone without first loving them?
thanks rabbi😊
IDK... Saying that you will know if he/she/it is "The ONE" if you end up getting married is a little too much like saying you will know if the gun is loaded by pulling the trigger.
Ye it doesn’t make sense.
To the test. Shalom.
Hit me soooooo hard
It is possible to marry for the wrong reasons, and thereby marry the wrong one. This IS possible.
If you learned something out of that marriage... was it really wrong? Or are you know more knowledgeable about yourself?
Right I would rather say it was meant to be at that time and it taught u lessons but it still isn’t ur soul mate ur other half so to speak.
In today's society where the government steps in yes. If we could keep government away, probably less so.
@@Thelittleclipstorei think that's why even rhe ancient rabbis understood that divorce is a thing that can happen, but as many steps should be taken to make sure it doesn't get to that point
No doubt but that doesn't mean the selection process should be weak or wrong.
Marrying for the wrong reason isn't part of the Rabbis advice.
I'm more like "yes I'm the right one, just find me."
I'm a Lady.
The Man has to find me.
It seems like he is not looking...
@@haseebakram5496 for your knowledge. The father of my kids doesn't even live in the same country of us!
What's the connection to a window? I'm divorced
We can know each other if you don't mind
@@liffazsays9790 are you Jewish? Do you live in a Chabad way your life? This is the only match man for me :-) thank you anyway
Hasem is in control lol oops mis spelled. I am here to grow..
What if a person gets married and within a short span of time,the spouse dies,was that person from God to get married to or was that a man made decision?
Please answer Rabbi, thank you!
So after being divorced for 18 years now I still haven't found another one that I feel like I could spend the rest of my life with. At 64 I wonder what's the point now.
5:26 now I am confused 🤷♂️ 😎
But what if you get divorced 3-4x’s?? Which one was THE ONE?? All or none or should I STILL wait for THE ONE while being married?
God is sending you the right one and you have been practising for her. Shalom.
GoatRoper911 ok so divorce is practice?? Again how do I know if I have the one...I have been married for 10 yrs first and only wife...but if I get tired or bored in marriage does that mean she is not the right one? I am DEFINITELY not bored or tired however some people do...so if that leads to a divorce then for 10 yrs was I only practicing?? ?? Pls I am not challenging just really would like to know....
The way I understood it, from other discussions as well, is that you're dealing with a separate issue. There is "the one" destined for you, but you also were created with free choice. Which means you can make a mistake. That is why the Bible has laws for divorce. It doesn't mean it's a commandment for everyone to get divorced, rather if you do make a mistake, this is how you fix it properly.
Hope this helps
@@aizikfriedman Very well said Aizik.
@ETERNAL HOME I don’t think anyone is destined at all. It’s just that if you start looking at your partner as “The One” for you, your marriage will work and god will help those who trust.
The distinction between married and unmarried couples is just because your partner has free will too, and you can’t force them to love you back. But if you are married, it means it’s mutual, so you both have what it takes to make it last.
The beginning. Lol
mind blowing, thank you so much. I could see myself having revelation listening to your wisdom!
Then why do some get divorced ?????
Was she the right one or not ????
Obviously not ????
Because G-d respects our free choice even in marriage, and many do not have this wisdom that everyone is important therefore they don't truly focus on loving the one they are with, they only focus on satisfying their need for love.
She may have been the right one for that time of ur life but once u feel u can no longer be toggehr ur meant to move on and that was probably not ur ultimate soul mate. This rabbi seems to be missing something when it comes to being in love with ur true soul mate and he probably hasn’t found his.
Amen
Should i accept the first purpose of marriage? Is that the right one? Or i should put it down and wait for a better guy??
So I heard some people talking about the marriages of today that the couple of the day are not the couple that supposed to be with one another like they need they didn't find the right person for them so instead of doing a big war in the world so God decided the couple that living with each other and they're not supposed to be with each other so they will just be a part , be just apart you know in time , slowly so and that's will replace the war that should have come what, are you talking what's your thought about this?
Yes that makes sense, I believe soon more n more couples with divorce. Ye it’s like a war cuz most people are living with the wrong ppl for the wrong reasons. They live out of fear or security reasons together.. and this has to change. This rabbi seems to be trying to keep ppl stay married for no good reason . Just cuz , he’s logical and traditional , which is overriding his intuition and feelings .. marriages come from heart . Love is all. Nobody can break apart a a couple in love. It’s too powerful. Love will soon show the world what it can do.
I wanna talk with rabbi is there any way I could do that?
Mohib Sohail Sure there is a coaching option on the Rabbis website
Shalom Rabi!😊🙋♀️👋🤗,,,There is people that marry mor than 3 times who's the right one?🤔
Maybe non.. but each one Is right for that moment. Each relationships helps us find ourselves more , we grow more. The more u know urself the more likely u will find ur true soul mate. The more quickly u will pickup on who is good for u, who is enhancing ur life and who u need to move on from. It’s about trusting ur intuition and becoming confident and then u will just know
What about marriages that end in divorce?
Well… I know a person who told me “God told me this woman will be my wife.” This man is spiritual but not Christian or Jewish. I found out a bit about this man and his wife. They are married still but there is this underlying selfishness that he and his wife have that seem to drive people away from them. Like… his wife is like him in all the wrong ways. So when he told me “God told me I would marry this woman.” I believe him. God gave him exactly what he desired. How it will end is yet to be seen, but ultimately what you are seeking in life is also seeking you. The celebrities that have been married 5 times, don’t marry to up lift their spouse, they marry because it makes them feel good to be with an attractive spouse and the media eat it up. After the sparks wear off, the marriage fails, and they try again with someone else. So yes, even if you are looking for all the wrong reasons you will be given EXACTLY what you are looking for, it won’t end well, but it is path that is free to be chosen.
Yip that's the one 🕐
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Amazing video! Thank you Rabbi.
A very off topic question: I feel like the holocaust was too big an event to not be mentioned in scripture, I myself do not know very much scripture but I am getting there, but does the Bible mention the holocaust or anything remotely similar?
If all marriages are right then why is laws in Torah saying not to marry outside the faith? Why is there a cap on wives for the King in the Torah? Not all marriages are right.
Jay Richards you are right. All marriages that the Torah allowed are right.
Marriage for man is like going to a casino and betting everything on a 50/50 chance and if you win you get nothing but if you loose u loose everything.
Literally idiocy.
There is not even one reason to get married.
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Thanks, but if you married to an abuser, or if you married to a bitch, is it also "supposed to be my shidduch?"
It’s not about middos it’s about is it urs or not.. if someone is urs u will have the capacity to influence them deeply and they will change . If it’s not urs u will not have influence or not enough and it’s not ur match so move on.
@@Thelittleclipstore thanks
Okey Rab, but what exactly do you mean with "marriege"? You mean de ritual thing? Oor something just having kids? Thats enough to say you have a marriege?
this is best watched, in the hashtag "Landscape Mode"
ampersand the RUclips App ("underpants" +"pulled up")
_•[on your mobile device]*
fer (sic)King G-D in the Land of Israel 🇮🇱
🙏
Earth is only one tiny planet among millions other suns and planets. And all those universe has been around since milions years ago.
We live on earth with 8 billions other human beings. Not to mention we have billions and billions of human being who have died since millions years ago on earth.
Are you sure you know the creator of this huge gigantic universe (if any) ?
Are you sure HE talks to you?
The only thing we can do to HIM is just being thankful and be good human being while still alive.
Once we try to understand HIM or to say things on behalf of HIM, we are doing blasphemy.
i was truly happy until "god and jebus" entered your monologue.
Blimey, couldnt sleep for two weeks obviously not down to someone asking you that question i'm sure...it was because you were having bed time fun with someone, werent u? lol a certain woman who you featured in a music video with, who has a hot body, lol. I am assuming that where you mentioned the subject on marriage in that God intervenes to ensure one marries the right spouse, you are talking exclusively about Jews? because i hear of people (obviously non Jews) those that i've worked with also people that i know of, whose marriages failed and they got divorced, which i hear of a lot, so surely God is not intervening with them (matchmaking, lol).
Sorry. This is not, cannot, be true. Of course people can marry the wrong "one".
Totally agree can’t belive he’s saying this
Miley Cyrus is the one
Until she dont have a visible halo ring above her head she is not the right. Just joking 😂 love2all love4ever 🙏
Jajaja, god never abandons… say that to the Palestinian children and perhaps everyone in this planet. Is laughable when a human tríes to enlighten with cheap philosophy. No one truly know the answer of why things happen, and to pretend to know is ridiculous .