As a 35 year old guy looking at the younger generation here is what I have learned. 1. Walk with your shoulders straight and your eyes looking forward. This is a display of confidence. 2. When appropriate smile, no need to look angry all the time. 3 Be nice to people, introduce yourself to people, be helpful when you can. 4 Stand up for yourself, you don't need to always completely loose your head but saying no I won't do that or shut up, is completely fine. 5. make eye contact, it's hard at first but people take you more serious when you say something while making eye contact also make eye contact when listening to show you are engaged in the conversation. 6. Take chances, no is a part of life but sometimes people say yes too. 7. Stop complaining, if you are failing at something over and over, it's time to look within as it's likely YOU doing something wrong. 8. Speak intelligently, DO no use expletives constantly if you want to be taken seriously. Think about what you want to say before you say it and how to best express it. 9. Think about what you have going for you instead of what you are lacking. 10. Be dependable. 11. I've been married for many years, when you approach a women, treat them like a person not an object, just talk and more importantly listen. Remember no means no, not to keep trying. One bad person of the opposite sex does not mean they are all like that, so chill. 12. Here is the big one that no one ever tells you. Fake it until you make it, if you have no idea what you are doing, just pretend to be confident in the matter 9/10 times you will catch on. 13. Be unapologetic when it comes to being yourself. Don't pretend to be what anyone wants, or you think people want you to be. Some people won't like you but trust me if you are you most will. 14. Laugh at yourself, you ain't perfect kid. If you just tripped over those laces you refused to tie and everyone saw you do it, just laugh along.
Why are YOU not making a RUclips video counseling the many men who listen to angry entitled males who have been rejected or passed over because of their aggressive attitudes and backward attitudes towards women? You speak sense! And on a quick reflection...you could speak to humans, men and women who feel they are more important, who wish to manipulate and bully to get what they feel they deserve. You know the types...toxic men and toxic women. Every one of your points can be applied to both sexes. For point #4 women need not look at a man as a meal ticket...treat him like you would want to be treated and listen to him. All this from one so young. Someone did something to raise you right Sir! Thank you for your words of wisdom
Never been a pushover. Had looks, success, and a drive and didn't get why I couldn't get most pretty women. I found out I was needy and had low EI. I am not needy anymore but, I'm still working on my EI. I've gotten better over the years because I didn't grow up with many friends until late high school. But despite all this, I had the most success and came to love a pretty shy, awkward, and principled girl. Because I understood her better. I have a cool side and played sports but, I'll never be some jock. It's just not who I am. But neediness still has to go for any girl and being a pushover is never ok. EI is big too but, I feel like it's not as bad when you're with a nerdy girl. I pick up on cues now. I didn't as a freshman in college, but 4 years ok it got me together. However, I still tell bad jokes every now and then but I am getting funnier. I have gotten better at carrying on conversations but, my convos will always be better with a smart and nerdy girl who I can relate to.
Yeah be yourself unless yourself is perceived as being low value or you actually are low value then try to be someone your not or perceived as being someone your not. Do yourselves a favor, give up the game. If you want companionship get a dog. If you want a woman rent one for a while, it will be much cheaper and less stressful and you both get what you want out of the deal.
i rarely judge others, but when i do, it is when i keep hearing their "negative" opinions about me, even in their silent minds; behavior/whichever. and that is, when the competition in all aspects, and etc, begins. now who are the judges now?
@@roserevancroix2308 I have two nieces that have mastered their emotions. Both are doing very well. And they have taught their husbands to be the kind of man they want them to be. There husbands have also mastered their emotions.
Sorry to interrupt But do please tell me what is a great man if it’s you from your prospective who decides? So if you spot a guy who isn’t hard on himself makes him small? And if you spot one the other way around, does that makes him great? What is “small”? what is “great” in your definition Who exactly are those “others”? It varies, it is never the same equation, your sentence is way too generalized.
I would agree, makes sense. Also certain lows in our lives correspond to low perceived value while the opposite also seems to be true. But consistency is key here.
1. Low Emotional Intelligence 2. Being a Pushover 3. Excessive Neediness from females 4. Doesn’t value his own opinion I’ll add: 5. Body Language/Posture
@@ilai7893 Red Pill community is almost 100% pro-capitalist, anti-socialist, conservative or fascist. And indeed not only the community, but the RP "philosophy" itself is crypto-fascist, glorifies dark triad traits, celebrates domination, etc.
A note for all the guys, if the interesting girl gets attracted to the wrong guy, the bad boy as you call it, she also got a problem... avoid her lol A smart attractive women evaluates the guy 100% before considering him ... a high value women by nature is not easily convinced
Women attracted to “bad boys” are too rude, obnoxious and mean...that’s why that type of “bad boy” sticks around and the girl will too. He talks down to her and she accepts it because he actually keeps her around even though she’s mean. The guy does the same. He will keep disrespecting her like he does. They feed off each others insecurities
It is not the badness on the boys that attaract females, it's the alphaness in them. A goodboy that has acquired alpha traits will equally attract as many females as the badboy.
but this video does not tell you to be yourself. this video tell you to be the "alpha" that love to fight over anything and always say "no" to everything.
The trust yourself is one that too many of my peers tend to fail with. The social pressure around them is too much, so they conform and regurgitate popular speaking points. And when they do have the courage to be themselves, their peers actually harp on that and see them as strange, inappropriate, or just wrong (leading to the video's point about pleasing society, ignorant to the fact that society is fucked up).
@@StageInTheSkyCreations That's why you need to be a Leader in your own right and show the way even if no one is following you. The majority are weak and puny sheeps and you do not want to be one of them. Stay in the precious minority.
"I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them." --Oscar Wilde. Indeed, any interaction is ~70% Emotional Intelligence 🖖
I have good emotional intelligence and I don't get why he wouldn't show himself mercy.. its OK to lose control of our emotions, it's OK to scream when we are angry..its OK to enjoy ourselves, being dominant over our pr other's emotions is unhealthy.
We do tend to treat people how we treat ourselves... so if he was trying to control the amygdala response he would fail..cause you can't control that. I asked doctors to remove mine lol
Don't think its quite as simple as just viewing yourself as the prize. You also have to become a prize in the first place otherwise you're just deluded.
Watching a video that pretty much sums up my entire life and scrolling down to the comments, hoping that I’m not alone, reading your comment first- thank you for taking the time to leave that.
Pro-tip: Be valuable to yourself, your friends, and your family. Don't try to be valuable just because you want things from others, and don't allow others who see value in you to try to claim it for themselves. It's yours. Set boundaries with others and be consistent in maintaining those boundaries.
Yes, I wrote on a small notepad/white board to "be an ass...or an asset." and propped it by my night stand. My life revolves around a very small number of people. And, at the end of the day I will have to answer to ( at a minimum) myself when I look in the mirror. @Kevin
I don't think that's true. Only a narcissist or a sociopath doesn't care at all. Everyone else cares on varying levels. I think a person with high value cares how others view them, but only to a point. Not so much that it dictates their life. And definitely not if the others are the kind of people he doesn't want to be. Like a Millennial peer who has nothing going for himself, criticizing me for spending my free time in the gym and writing short stories. I care, but at the same time, I don't want to be that guy, so I'm good.
@@StageInTheSkyCreations You are wrong.A confident person DOES NOT NEED APPROVAL.They will go it alone,if they fail. They will own it. They are NOT AFRAID of a negative opinion of them. The person who expresses such about them had better know their stuff. They are dealing with a person WHO KNOWS THEMSELVES and will FULLY EXPECT them to provide VALID reasons for their opinion. He DID NOT SAY they dont care ABOUT others He said he does not care for their OPINION of him.
@@StageInTheSkyCreations Well, narcissists want all the attention and validation, so you are wrong. Narcissists are people oriented, so do their sneaky tactics.
Best qualities of my man: he's a good person, he has alot of empathy for others, hardworker, romantic, manages money well, concerned about my well-being. ..etc.
Some keys to success in life: 1. Be carefree 2. Take action straight away and sooner rather than later 3. Don’t let fear of failure hold you back 4. Know your worth 5. Act like an Alpha male 6. Be selfish and do what is best for you 7. Live your dreams 8. Don’t take no nonsense from anyone 9. Surround yourself with people who push you to greatness 10. Live Fearlessly
Some keys to success in life: 1 2. Take EFFECTIVE action, AT THE RIGHT TIME 3. Don’t let fear of failure hold you back, BUT ACT AS WELL AS THE INFORMATION YOU GOT AT THE MOMENT, ADJUST AS NEW INFO COMES IN. 4. 5. Act ON THEI THINGS YOU KNOW TO BE TRUE 6. Be selfish and do what is best for you, WITHOUT DAMAGING OTHERS UNNECESSARILY 7. Live your dreams, BUT CHOOSE THEM WELL 8. Don’t take no nonsense from anyone, UNLESS THEY KNOW BETTER THAN YOU 9. Surround yourself with people who push you to greatness, THUS YOU MIGHT HAVE TO TAKE SOME CORRECTION FROM THEM 10. Live Fearlessly, BUT WISELY, NO STUPID CHALLENGES FOR THE SAKE OF DANGER. 11- READ YOUR WHOLE LIFE, EVER INCREASING DIFFICULT BOOKS. 12- GET RID OF ALL STUPID OR NONSENSICAL CHILDHOOD IDEA
My valued increase from heartbreaks, failure's, family abuse being to nice... Everyone I grew up with considered me to be Mean, evil and having a bad attitude 🤷. Why? Because I want be manipulated anymore by them, nor feed into their misery.....
That thing about "being too afraid of conflict" has a lot of caveats... some people love conflict, and yet "save" nothing. It is not enough to "not be afraid of conflict", you also have to know HOW to face conflict and the different types of conflict there are, there is no point of being an asshole and going to your boss and telling him to stop being a cheap bastard and pay you more, you will NOT get more, but might get fired, etc etc
Nice way to put it. I did have a black-and-white view of the idea of "being afraid of conflict". I was thinking "fight or flight". But you're right. Find balance in the conflict. Present your idea to your boss in a more professional way. The conflict is still happening, but the integrity of what you're doing will be far greater than getting the outcome you want. Thanks for this share, because I don't like conflict, but I'm learning to like it. A human needed to read this. LoL!!
@@NoNickname9090 Do you know what they call a man who NEVER backs down from ANY conflict?? Dead. I have been in places where the shit goes down, and my woman tells me to get into it to not be afraid, etc etc, but it is one of me and four or five of them... so I say fuck her and walk. A conflict you KNOW you're going to lose is suicide, and if you lose your girl will leave you anyhow. So conflict has to be evaluated RAPIDLY in that instant, and act accordingly, now, it it were my brother in danger and five guys are coming, I stand with him and do my best, but to face those odds just to get some pussy or impress her is stupid, she is likely to monkey branch at some point anyhow. This is true of almost any situation with conflict, in business you cannot go directly against Amazon, you must find your niche and go after it, but the people ALREADY doing it will NOT just welcome you with pen arms, you still need to find a way to do it without pissing them off and survive at least the initial stages of ANY business, then have some strategy to face the conflict sure to come and survive; if they hadn't noticed you they will as you grow, so facing the WELL ESTABLISHED people in that area is sure to give you a good story of how you LOST your business. If you make mistakes conflict arises, but the solution is NOT to deny you made a mistake... I was driving and cut a guy off by mistake he bought up to me at the next red light, he said something, I answer "I know man, I didn't see you but it was all my wrong, my bad my mistake, and sorry about it" I kept looking at him in the eye as I said these things; he looked at me and said something else that I didn't hear well, so I said "it was my mistake, I already admitted it and I told you I am sorry... what the fuck else do you want me to do?? and what do you want to do yourself?? I told you I'm sorry that's all I can do now, fortunately there was no wreck or I'd have to pay for you for it" He looked at me and looked straight ahead, as he made a gesture saying "YEA, whatever" but it was over. Admit your mistake with courage; apologise without degrading yourself, or putting yourself down, if it was an honest mistake. Conflict is a thing women like, but will leave you anyhow if you fail.
@@ggrthemostgodless8713 Yeah women are famous for saying "let's you and him fight." For wise people, conflict is more about peaceful resolution than "winning;" and simply leaving when this isn't possible.
@@SovereignStatesman women love to see men fighting (competing), they provoke as much of it as they can, and then going after the winners. Women rather share a winner than be with one of the "losers" even if they were fighting for her. So I rather walk and not be her hero than fight and lose and risk but knowing that if I lost she'd leave me anyhow. Men still have to shoulder all the traditional responsibilities, but women have shaken off most of their traditional responsibilities.... they just want more and more and more RIGHTS but not the responsibilities that come with those rights. And al of this trying and fighting just to get our dick wet, for pussy?? and then the "privilege" of working your ass off all day to provide and try to keep that nagging thing at home happy?? hell no, no fucking way. I prefer boredom than that sort of company. Once she has a kid, which she will convince you YOU wanted it, she will have all encompassing excuse to not do a damn ting either for the house or for you, including denying you that pussy you fought so hard to get in the first place. Oh they are so damn overrated!! special by themselves. Just look how a young woman walks around everywhere like she owns the world and the place she happens to be in at that moment; they are insufferable. I love to get laid, but then I cannot stand them.
@blyat5555 not true... what you forgot to mention is how you take out your frustration from losing your job and being beaten up on the woman you're with expecting her to stay and put up with your insecurities instead of focusing on just moving on, getting a new job or start a business and get a damn good lawyer and learn some self defence to protect yourself. A lot of you all don't admit how you let your lower confidence push your woman away and then blame it on hypergamy...women adopt blind disabled pets and children all the time.
@Radical, Junior hm, beast is wolf, lion, tiger, bear, jaguar etc.... many of them are beasts, especially the ones who are in charge of their own lives and don't afraid anyone... meaning - you are focused, working on your goals, don't let bad people influence you etc... my spirit animal is wolf/beast. Beast - animal, especially a large or dangerous!
1 low emotional intelligence A how well you can read other people B how well you can read yourself C how well you can manage social cues Signs of low ei A erratic behavior B can control emotions C difficulty reading social cues 2 Bing a push over 3 Excessive neediness around women A being a pushover 99 % of the time B being too passive C resorts to being passive aggressive Avoid A stop being afraid of conflict 4 doesn’t value his own opinion A have you own system of values you must trust your own judgment Stop fearing opinions of others
Take a 3 month's up to a year and work on yourself. Hardly talk to many women. Women will always be in this world. They aren't going anywhere. Do what was said in this video and add in investing and money. Also work on your health and your body. Come out from the 3 months to a year and start talking to women and you will see a positive change. Even with talking to others. Also learn some female nature
In High School it was all about who has looks, cool haircut and clothes now adulthood is all about who has a job, house, car and looks. You're right bro it's all about STATUS/COOL
I've never been afraid of getting into Conflict , what I'm mostly afraid of is that everytime I get into a Conflict I end up hurting the other person so much that I end up winning the arguments but loosing the other person as a friend , colleague , woman I'm trying to meet etc,etc,etc ...!!!!
My emotions won't be controlled when someone disrespect me and was already warned about it; will turn into a monster for sure. Just happened the other day
Try to cut contact with anybody that doesn't respect you so that your animal doesn't come out. If they are a colleague or somebody you can't avoid then keep communication to a minimal. Also learn to control yourself and handle disrespect without losing your shit
I pretend to have low value when out in public. That way, I can succeed without people putting obstacles in my way, that perceive me as a threat. So I workout in rags, wear plain clothes when shopping for great clothes (to wear to important events).
Lol. Are you a man or a woman? I do the same thing. I have to unfortunately because people in general are really kind of trash but you have to be careful that you don’t get stuck like that. It’s a bit harder for me as a woman but I just don’t say anything and work on myself in private as much as I can.
@@Gh0zT-777 - it isn't "over thinking it." It is wise based on experience. I went from moving in the circles of the British aristocracy to being homeless. I learned to blend in based on my surroundings. You don't want to look like you have had any sort of wealth if you have to stay in a homeless shelter. Nothing to do with "over thinking" anything.
I just avoid all this by withdrawing from society as much as possible. I've been pretty successful professionally, and almost all social interactions, even the really positive ones, are a net negative in my life. I'm very content and satisfied with how my life has progressed. I'll be even more content and satisfied when I retire in the not-too-distant future, and can isolate even further. God help the marlin and tuna in baja when that happens :)
Well, some people are naturally self-sufficient. I've been told I'm very self-sufficient, but I think not nearly as much as you are. I still am a social animal, even if not always good at it - but I've gotten a lot better over the years.
We never know how others actually perceive us. Once we realize our intrinsic value, we no longer concern ourselves with how others view us... therefore; the way to enact the most positive change in the world, is to ascribe higher values to people who do not recognize their own value. If you can look at another human, recognizing value in them, which they are unaware of, then make them feel more valued, then you have made everyone better... in return, your perceived value will also rise!
You made one of the best posts ive seen,recognizing a person's value is one of the most important things a individual can do. And once that person realizes their potential. They will be Loyal to that person. And it's also paying it forward.
hey man your content is really amazing and inspiring , you are helping guys a lot out here to improve their lives, even I am a small youtuber where I talk about human psychology basically
For FarFromAverage: I think your 4 signs are correct but I think they need better wording. My four would be 1. Agreeableness. Lots of guys when they see a pretty girl or someone they admire tend always agree with everything they are saying and not being honest. Guys do this in the hope that the other person likes them more when in fact, honest, disagreeably people are more likely to be admired as it shows they value their own opinions over others giving themselves a higher value. The secret is that in social situations the only person who can give you higher value is yourself not your peers. This is why people are confused when bad boys tend to be more attractive towards women. Its because women value guys who value themselves higher who are more disagreeable and mentally tougher. 2. Excessive Neediness from females. Ye I agree. Some guys put too much value on pretty girls. If a girl can tell that you are valuing her more because of her looks off the bat, normally they will see this as a sign that your values are all in the looks and not mental toughness (high value). This doesn't always lead them to believe that you are a low value person however, it normally puts a red flag over you instantly. The best way to tackle this is to value all girls from looks the same. This will signify to them that your values lie in the mental toughness or personality of the them. 3. Not being Authentic. This rule applies everywhere in life. Humans are rubbish at hiding emotions. Hiding them, shows to everyone that you are trying to be a different person therefor not valuing yourself. You must value your whole package if you want to be a high value person. Meaning all of your nervousness, anger and genuine emotion. By trying to look strong you make yourself look weaker. Displaying your emotions shows to everyone that you arnt afraid of how other people will perceive you. Therefor displaying high value. 4. High performing/ confidence. By making the first move and putting yourself out there in social situations, shows that you are a doer. This doesn't really correlate with high or low value which is great because it means anyone can do it. People will always admire those who put themselves into an uncomfortable socially for their or other's long term benefit. Stuff like asking your boss for a raise or being the first to make conversation when meeting someone new. People who have these traits are more likely to become successful in their life with friends loves ones and careers.
That was an example. Now replace the hot girl with a hot woman you love. If you still pick the car... dude you are not ready for a relationship. Just cherish the car and spare the girls.
The quarter mill car is a lot cheaper than the hot girl. Fellas just take the car and forget the hot chick. At the end of the day. How do you make 1 million dollars? Start with 2 million get married and you will have a million left.
Because ultimately it is a very controversial topic and it wouldn't fit in with the values that the world currently want men to believe. The world or mainly western countries are in the process of transforming all men, we can't rely on education or government anymore to help us see the world in a way which will elevate us. We have only ourselves to rely on for that, and if we're lucky we might have a father figure who can teach us.
Meditation and nofap are two of the biggest things that helped strengthen and discover myself. Back in mid 2019 I was on a low and wasn't getting any girls. Now i'm getting girls that a year ago I would have thought would be way out of my grasp. Meditate, go on semenretention for a while and workout!
So, you basically worship at the altar of vagina and the validation that you receive from women is the gauge of your worth as a man. Yeh, sounds like you're a real, self-actualized man now.
The famous actor Robin Williams has 'high value'. But we know what happened to him after his divorce. If he remained a low-value guy, he would have never gotten divorced, and he would still be alive to this day. Moral of the story = stay low value = stay happy = live a long life.
All I'm hearing is I must change myself to other's needs. Thats not going to happen Take me as I am or leave me alone. Changing yourself to suit others never works because you're not being genuine to yourself and when it doesn't work you'll only blame yourself because you didn't act on your genuine feelings 💯
None of this is true.... When people see you as a threat, they will try to bring you down. If they don't see you as a threat, they will be you friend. That is how people are going to value you. If you have greatness within you, then people will hate you.
Agreed. I hate to say it, but i think the video's advice is for ordinary, average, normal people. Not saying there's anything wrong with that. Because there's so many subtleties and deception when it comes to "society's value" on a person. They could appear to like you, while secretly hoping your downfall. They could appear to be your friend and want to hang out with you, because they want something in return, like the entertainment and satisfaction of being there when you fail. And for me to even mention these scenarios seem unbelievable and implausible to normal people, because they have no idea what it's like to be different. They'll say they're different. Society's been pushing this idea that it's cool to be different...but those of us who truly are will tell you, it's easier to be just like everyone else, than something else...like a 33-year-old virgin who's waiting till marriage to have sex, values God's opinion or that of man's, worked his ass off to lose 168lbs, and spends his free-time writing essays and books as a published author.
I use to be those type of guy who is so damn low value, full of insecurities, have social anxiety, inferior complex to my friends and a pushover but when i started to work on myself, workout, watch vids like this, have a solid everyday routine in my life, everything starts to change. People told me i become better of myself, many girls say they have crush on me, have a wide social group now, and my mind is now abundant. I am now a person who can go to everything, not afraid to go out to the world even if the world judges me, who cares now. I have now my passion and ambition, and im not afraid of who is more dominant or not. Im now the protagonist of my life.
After watching this video I just realized that this use to be me, some of these things I’m still trying to work on so I can increase my value as a man.
I have problems with the second one. I am always afraid from conflicts and don't talk a lot. This allows other people to control me. But I am doing my best to change myself because I see how this makes me low value even though it is very hard.
To be precise here we all know we can't do anything about what other's think... Why not give up!?? Expectations are a heavy burden. Just remember to be confident look down on everyone around you. *it's not a bad thing
I am a natural Aggressive type of man. The biggest issues I have seen with friends that I have is having value for themselves and standing up for themselves. When you lack these you also lack confidence. When you get in a relationship you mostly will be taking advantage of by always being the "YES MAN" and when you are so use too saying "YES" and one day you decide to say a "NO" you will be look at like you crazy. Your partner would just override that and continue to do what they want not what you want. Know your worth and start by loving yourself..
Honestly wished I learnt this in high school and my first year at uni but all the points your brought up are correct. I actually had to make changes to all of them but now I feel amazing 🔥 hope someone can take the most out of the video as well 👌🏽
It's possible to have a really effed up system of values by default. In that case, listening to the opinions of others expands one's worldview and might actually be beneficial.
I really think each situation is unique. You have to approach each and every situation with your wits. If you need a check list put your checklist down and feel your emotions about a person and feel what your emotions are telling you.
"They rarely make decisions for themselves and constantly allow other men OR EVEN WOMEN to make decisions for them" It's clear he doesn't mean it the way some people will perceive it. That being said, I loled. Nice video!
I like how he breaks things down. My main problem certainly used to be low EI. I'm not sure if I have improved it all that much, but I've figured out how not to rely too much on understanding subtle cues. I've built some kind of set of rules on how I approach each situation, and that seems to work well enough.
-Most people with low E.I. usually have a genious level I.Q. Just food for thought. -A lot of people who are consider "passive" or are just sitting back watching could just be accessing the situation waiting to make his move on whatever situation he may be in. Not necessarily a negative trait. -As far as treating women good, I agree to a certain extent. Treating them well dosnt mean you are needy, it means you have acctual values. Just dont be nice to the point you get stepped on. -last one, just dont be a door mat. Take this video and its opinions at face value and just be yourself. If yourself isn't good enough for whatever female you are chasing, then it probably isn't worth it. Find someone who appreciates your positives and understands you have negatives too. We are all human and you dont need a video that's basically teaching you that the only way to attract the opposite sex is to be a narcissist. 👍
What you got to keep in mind is that having low value is not a bad thing. A lot of people don't mention that. Since value needs to be "perceived" there will be moments when individuals cannot (are simply unable) to perceive your value. Think of it as you trying to judge a fish for it's ability to ride a bike.
Im seeing that most people watching these videos, including myself, are introverts. Just to put it bluntly, most women don't like introverted traits. Thats ok though, work on yourself, practice being more sociable, make some money, every so often just go out on the town, say hi to a female or two, the right gal will come along eventually 😉
a woman can be shy, active, and many other things and it wont matter as long as she's not hideous. men on the other hand have to be attractive, succesfull, confident, calm, and the list keeps going on...
This is by far one of your best videos. Therapy and Ayahuasca has really increased my emotional intelligence. You should look into Ayahuasca as emotional therapy.
That yin & yang symbol made me think about something I had to suffer from when I was younger (I'm still young, 24 years now). It represents the balance between two opposite forces that control ourselves. In my case, it was confidence (yin) and insecurity (yang). Something happened when I was 11 years old and that brought the balance between those two heavily out of control; the insecurity overwhelmed the confidence and it took me 9 years of lifetime to discover something able to restore it. Back then, I really believed I was like that, that insecurity was a major part of my personality, but now I believe that everyone of us has confidence and insecurity in ourselves. It just has to be in balance so that your true inner personality will express itself because otherwise it is heavily influenced by either overwhelming confidence or insecurity. It's good to have confidence, but I guess too much of it can also be a bad thing, that's why I'm talking about a balance between those two. Finding out who you truly are based on your own knowledge about yourself and what path in life is yours to take is something I learned to be very helpful to give yourself value as an individual, not dependent on what kind of label other people or society give to your personality, because when they have never talked to you, they can only "think" things about you, they will never "know" things.
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.” ― Harvey Fierstein
One way to surround yourself around females is get into dancing. Ever since I got into social dancing, I had more females partners than I could dream of. It totally changed my life. You become more confident. You are not needy because there are so many females to choose from. And you get to experience so many different girls. I am not talking about grinding as dancing, I am talking about ballroom dance, or latin dances.
You can increase your perceived value by following a few simple steps: 1. Create a code of conduct for your ideal self. Is he brave? Smart? Witty? Honest? 2. Judge yourself by how you adhered to that code of conduct. Realise that neediness is caring more about what others think of you than what you think of yourself, but if you have no standards for yourself, you'll have no clear opinions on yourself. Without a clear opinion of how well you live up to your own standards, you instinctively defer to others and their standards for you.
A self-proclaimed narcissist is really nothing to be proud of. You're only enabling your conceded nature to make up for lack of true self confidence, and there is a thin line between the two.
No. I just want a white chubby honest girl in her late 20s. Blonde, easy going, weird, happy, loves travelling, fast cars, loves to eat, loves conversations
I purposely dress down outside work, same for my cars and truck, I purposely by slightly used and a non premium brand. Last thing I want is to have someone interested in me for things. Long live the free and happy men.
I agree. Life is too short to spend it trying to live up to everyone else's expectations. I live by what I know is right,and if that isn't good enough for everyone else, they can go fck themselves!?
5:53 I think you might be putting the cart before the horse on this point. I get the whole idea of the backwards law. Stop caring so much about how pretty a girl is and she'll feel more like a person around you. She'll feel like you don't want to be with her just for her looks. If you rewire your brain with a dopamine detox, you'll take more joy in simple pleasures and not be neurochemically spent. But I'd be lying if I didn't say (especially on nofap) that it isn't difficult to suddenly have experiences with attractive women if you only have had a very limited pool of relationships in your past. It's a tightrope walk, do I care or do I not care? How do I show interest without coming off as needy? I get the idea from Patrice O'Neal that you can't be afraid to lose a potential catch. He also has this analogy that goes like this: imagine you are racing against the woman you are trying to get. And you start behind her in a narrow one way street. If there's no way to pass her and show your value then there really isn't anything you can do to convince her to be with you. There might be a breakthrough where you meet her again down the line and you've worked on yourself to excite her, but in the moment you try to get her and start off behind, you'll never catch up instantly. That first impression will be brutal and it will constantly be stuck in her mind if she doesn't find you an "option". Because we are only options to these girls. Many guys today are like that: they want to be with the girls they see but know for a fact that they are starting behind them, they aren't as well put together as the women they want seem to be. We men have to build a giant value machine that entices someone to sleep with us. Girls have to look pretty and have a pussy. What is this f@cking world we live in? What I have trouble with is that this exact point you don't really have any insight or references on how to maximize your chances with a girl. It's just: "well once you do get one, then you become experienced bro!" We live in a hypergamous society where the sexual marketplace is deregulated. The highest value male gets many options. The second to mid level guy doesn't get girls in their same caliber. And the lowest levels give up and screw their waifu pillows.
I know all about low EI. I'm 56 and it's getting worse, not better. I've also never enjoyed conflict. I cannot just 'simply' change. I think it's too late anyway.
I would like to add that not everyone has the same personality type. Some of these things will be more difficult for certain individuals. I know that I am definitely more emotional than most people. I definitely need to work on getting to know myself more and not care what other people think of me.
Was totally thinking of this! My personality type; I definetly agree with it. I listen and find solutions for people way too much and never care to know myself. I don't even know what I want ^^;
As a 35 year old guy looking at the younger generation here is what I have learned.
1. Walk with your shoulders straight and your eyes looking forward. This is a display of confidence.
2. When appropriate smile, no need to look angry all the time.
3 Be nice to people, introduce yourself to people, be helpful when you can.
4 Stand up for yourself, you don't need to always completely loose your head but saying no I won't do that or shut up, is completely fine.
5. make eye contact, it's hard at first but people take you more serious when you say something while making eye contact also make eye contact when listening to show you are engaged in the conversation.
6. Take chances, no is a part of life but sometimes people say yes too.
7. Stop complaining, if you are failing at something over and over, it's time to look within as it's likely YOU doing something wrong.
8. Speak intelligently, DO no use expletives constantly if you want to be taken seriously. Think about what you want to say before you say it and how to best express it.
9. Think about what you have going for you instead of what you are lacking.
10. Be dependable.
11. I've been married for many years, when you approach a women, treat them like a person not an object, just talk and more importantly listen. Remember no means no, not to keep trying. One bad person of the opposite sex does not mean they are all like that, so chill.
12. Here is the big one that no one ever tells you. Fake it until you make it, if you have no idea what you are doing, just pretend to be confident in the matter 9/10 times you will catch on.
13. Be unapologetic when it comes to being yourself. Don't pretend to be what anyone wants, or you think people want you to be. Some people won't like you but trust me if you are you most will.
14. Laugh at yourself, you ain't perfect kid. If you just tripped over those laces you refused to tie and everyone saw you do it, just laugh along.
Why are YOU not making a RUclips video counseling the many men who listen to angry entitled males who have been rejected or passed over because of their aggressive attitudes and backward attitudes towards women? You speak sense! And on a quick reflection...you could speak to humans, men and women who feel they are more important, who wish to manipulate and bully to get what they feel they deserve. You know the types...toxic men and toxic women. Every one of your points can be applied to both sexes. For point #4 women need not look at a man as a meal ticket...treat him like you would want to be treated and listen to him. All this from one so young. Someone did something to raise you right Sir! Thank you for your words of wisdom
AMAZING! Thank you.
You sound like a great guy. Thanks for posting.
@Tony Read 3 and 7. What you say is what your grandparents' generation was saying about yours too.
Our generation is not doomed. It is only different.
Thank you
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde
every white girls' bio
Nope , u can become much higher value than those taken girls boyfriends
Never been a pushover. Had looks, success, and a drive and didn't get why I couldn't get most pretty women. I found out I was needy and had low EI. I am not needy anymore but, I'm still working on my EI. I've gotten better over the years because I didn't grow up with many friends until late high school.
But despite all this, I had the most success and came to love a pretty shy, awkward, and principled girl. Because I understood her better. I have a cool side and played sports but, I'll never be some jock. It's just not who I am. But neediness still has to go for any girl and being a pushover is never ok. EI is big too but, I feel like it's not as bad when you're with a nerdy girl.
I pick up on cues now. I didn't as a freshman in college, but 4 years ok it got me together. However, I still tell bad jokes every now and then but I am getting funnier. I have gotten better at carrying on conversations but, my convos will always be better with a smart and nerdy girl who I can relate to.
Ghey
Yeah be yourself unless yourself is perceived as being low value or you actually are low value then try to be someone your not or perceived as being someone your not. Do yourselves a favor, give up the game. If you want companionship get a dog. If you want a woman rent one for a while, it will be much cheaper and less stressful and you both get what you want out of the deal.
Yep trust your own judgement, and hey, if you’re wrong, just accept that you’re wrong and be humble.
Humility is there as a safety net to keep you from looking like the massive as that you ARE if you LET yourself be.
When was the last time you saw a female being "humble"? Yea never
said no women ever
Being humble is actually realizing that everyone is potentially the same
i rarely judge others, but when i do, it is when i keep hearing their "negative" opinions about me, even in their silent minds; behavior/whichever. and that is, when the competition in all aspects, and etc, begins. now who are the judges now?
When you master your emotions you master yourself.
Truth be spoked
Yes man thats first thing
Best one, mate.
So no female is a master of herself then=)
@@roserevancroix2308 I have two nieces that have mastered their emotions. Both are doing very well. And they have taught their husbands to be the kind of man they want them to be. There husbands have also mastered their emotions.
"A great man is hard on himself, a small man is hard on others". Confucius
Edit: Ty all for the likes :)
Instruction unclear, confused boner moment
Wow
truth
💚🙌🌟😎
Sorry to interrupt
But do please tell me what is a great man if it’s you from your prospective who decides?
So if you spot a guy who isn’t hard on himself makes him small?
And if you spot one the other way around, does that makes him great?
What is “small”? what is “great” in your definition
Who exactly are those “others”?
It varies, it is never the same equation, your sentence is way too generalized.
At some point every guy goes through all these low value cringey stages to evolve into a high value man.
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I would agree, makes sense. Also certain lows in our lives correspond to low perceived value while the opposite also seems to be true. But consistency is key here.
101%_True
Truth be spoked again
Zero is the starting point.
1. Low Emotional Intelligence
2. Being a Pushover
3. Excessive Neediness from females
4. Doesn’t value his own opinion
I’ll add:
5. Body Language/Posture
There are many sociopaths in high functioning jobs.
@victoria zabaras Here here! Too bad the red pill crowd has not the slightest clue.
@@alan2102X what does this have to do with RP?
As well as being too materialistic
@@ilai7893 Red Pill community is almost 100% pro-capitalist, anti-socialist, conservative or fascist. And indeed not only the community, but the RP "philosophy" itself is crypto-fascist, glorifies dark triad traits, celebrates domination, etc.
A note for all the guys, if the interesting girl gets attracted to the wrong guy, the bad boy as you call it, she also got a problem... avoid her lol
A smart attractive women evaluates the guy 100% before considering him ... a high value women by nature is not easily convinced
Women attracted to “bad boys” are too rude, obnoxious and mean...that’s why that type of “bad boy” sticks around and the girl will too. He talks down to her and she accepts it because he actually keeps her around even though she’s mean. The guy does the same. He will keep disrespecting her like he does. They feed off each others insecurities
I'm not attracted to bad boy and the one I avoided. Lol
It is not the badness on the boys that attaract females, it's the alphaness in them. A goodboy that has acquired alpha traits will equally attract as many females as the badboy.
"a high value women by nature is not easily convinced" That's a hell of a good point. Thank you for that.
So is a high value man
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson
awesome quote, man
Think its "To remain yourself in a world that is constantly changing is the greatest accomplishment"
NO one here knows who they "truly" are.
but this video does not tell you to be yourself.
this video tell you to be the "alpha" that love to fight over anything and always say "no" to everything.
Trust yourself
Care less what others think
Boundaries
Be Assertive
Stop being Passive
Stand up for yourself
All propaganda to reduce western birth rates.
The trust yourself is one that too many of my peers tend to fail with. The social pressure around them is too much, so they conform and regurgitate popular speaking points. And when they do have the courage to be themselves, their peers actually harp on that and see them as strange, inappropriate, or just wrong (leading to the video's point about pleasing society, ignorant to the fact that society is fucked up).
Easier said then done
@@StageInTheSkyCreations That's why you need to be a Leader in your own right and show the way even if no one is following you. The majority are weak and puny sheeps and you do not want to be one of them. Stay in the precious minority.
This is true low esteem is such a turn off 😒
"I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them." --Oscar Wilde. Indeed, any interaction is ~70% Emotional Intelligence 🖖
And the rest is simply conscious effort in the right direction.
I needed to read this today
I have good emotional intelligence and I don't get why he wouldn't show himself mercy.. its OK to lose control of our emotions, it's OK to scream when we are angry..its OK to enjoy ourselves, being dominant over our pr other's emotions is unhealthy.
We do tend to treat people how we treat ourselves... so if he was trying to control the amygdala response he would fail..cause you can't control that. I asked doctors to remove mine lol
Basically don’t be a simp and view yourself as the prize 💯
Also, stop using the word simp.
atom don’t tell me what to do you goddamn simp
@@chadrickbasedman987 lol you're easy to trigger 🤣
atom ok
Don't think its quite as simple as just viewing yourself as the prize. You also have to become a prize in the first place otherwise you're just deluded.
To everyone that is reading this you are great remember that
Appreciate it, you too.
Sometimes I just need someone to tell me that, thanks, you are great too good man
Watching a video that pretty much sums up my entire life and scrolling down to the comments, hoping that I’m not alone, reading your comment first- thank you for taking the time to leave that.
Thank you i needed this today 💚
Thanks mate.
Your mindset, character and habits determine if you're a high value man or a low value man not your luxuries, possessions or how many chicks you get.
No? Damn i have to start again...
Or how much money you have because if you have that then you can just point at any female you like.
That's why the narrator put the emphasis on the word 'perceived'
@@roserevancroix2308 lol probably not a high value woman that you are pointing at
All women want is money you have enough money you can land any women.
'Have the courage to live a life true to yourself, not the life others expect of you'.
Pro-tip: Be valuable to yourself, your friends, and your family. Don't try to be valuable just because you want things from others, and don't allow others who see value in you to try to claim it for themselves. It's yours. Set boundaries with others and be consistent in maintaining those boundaries.
Yes, I wrote on a small notepad/white board to "be an ass...or an asset." and propped it by my night stand. My life revolves around a very small number of people. And, at the end of the day I will have to answer to ( at a minimum) myself when I look in the mirror. @Kevin
A person with high value doesn't care how others view them
I don't think that's true. Only a narcissist or a sociopath doesn't care at all. Everyone else cares on varying levels. I think a person with high value cares how others view them, but only to a point. Not so much that it dictates their life. And definitely not if the others are the kind of people he doesn't want to be. Like a Millennial peer who has nothing going for himself, criticizing me for spending my free time in the gym and writing short stories. I care, but at the same time, I don't want to be that guy, so I'm good.
@@StageInTheSkyCreations You are wrong.A confident person DOES NOT NEED APPROVAL.They will go it alone,if they fail.
They will own it.
They are NOT AFRAID of a negative opinion of them.
The person who expresses such about them had better know their stuff.
They are dealing with a person WHO KNOWS THEMSELVES and will FULLY
EXPECT them to provide VALID reasons for their opinion.
He DID NOT SAY they dont care ABOUT others
He said he does not care for their OPINION of him.
@@LProfesorr Never take youtube comments seriously...
@@StageInTheSkyCreations Well, narcissists want all the attention and validation, so you are wrong. Narcissists are people oriented, so do their sneaky tactics.
Can’t high value without being low value first ! Validate yourself
Best qualities of my man: he's a good person, he has alot of empathy for others, hardworker, romantic, manages money well, concerned about my well-being. ..etc.
And all this is next to trash when a bad boy is back in town.
Guess Who 😂😂
you got him well trained
@@guesswho6038 bad boy will likely be on parole so one call and he is back in prison. Problem solved.
@@guesswho6038 - work on your self-esteem. What you wrote tells others YOUR weaknesses, no one else's.
Some keys to success in life:
1. Be carefree
2. Take action straight away and sooner rather than later
3. Don’t let fear of failure hold you back
4. Know your worth
5. Act like an Alpha male
6. Be selfish and do what is best for you
7. Live your dreams
8. Don’t take no nonsense from anyone
9. Surround yourself with people who push you to greatness
10. Live Fearlessly
100% agree. I live by these rules.
True good stuff 👍😎
Some keys to success in life:
1
2. Take EFFECTIVE action, AT THE RIGHT TIME
3. Don’t let fear of failure hold you back, BUT ACT AS WELL AS THE INFORMATION YOU GOT AT THE MOMENT, ADJUST AS NEW INFO COMES IN.
4.
5. Act ON THEI THINGS YOU KNOW TO BE TRUE
6. Be selfish and do what is best for you, WITHOUT DAMAGING OTHERS UNNECESSARILY
7. Live your dreams, BUT CHOOSE THEM WELL
8. Don’t take no nonsense from anyone, UNLESS THEY KNOW BETTER THAN YOU
9. Surround yourself with people who push you to greatness, THUS YOU MIGHT HAVE TO TAKE SOME CORRECTION FROM THEM
10. Live Fearlessly, BUT WISELY, NO STUPID CHALLENGES FOR THE SAKE OF DANGER.
11- READ YOUR WHOLE LIFE, EVER INCREASING DIFFICULT BOOKS.
12- GET RID OF ALL STUPID OR NONSENSICAL CHILDHOOD IDEA
@@ggrthemostgodless8713 That's my guy! You are indeed a wise dude, sir. I would love to share a beer and talk life experiences with the likes of you.
@@cassius573
Well, if you're ever in Mexico... send a message here.
My valued increase from heartbreaks, failure's, family abuse being to nice... Everyone I grew up with considered me to be Mean, evil and having a bad attitude 🤷. Why? Because I want be manipulated anymore by them, nor feed into their misery.....
You want to be manipulated?
92kosta he mean wont i guess xd
I've never understood why anybody would want popularity
they need attention
That thing about "being too afraid of conflict" has a lot of caveats... some people love conflict, and yet "save" nothing. It is not enough to "not be afraid of conflict", you also have to know HOW to face conflict and the different types of conflict there are, there is no point of being an asshole and going to your boss and telling him to stop being a cheap bastard and pay you more, you will NOT get more, but might get fired, etc etc
Nice way to put it. I did have a black-and-white view of the idea of "being afraid of conflict". I was thinking "fight or flight". But you're right. Find balance in the conflict. Present your idea to your boss in a more professional way. The conflict is still happening, but the integrity of what you're doing will be far greater than getting the outcome you want.
Thanks for this share, because I don't like conflict, but I'm learning to like it. A human needed to read this. LoL!!
@@NoNickname9090
Do you know what they call a man who NEVER backs down from ANY conflict?? Dead.
I have been in places where the shit goes down, and my woman tells me to get into it to not be afraid, etc etc, but it is one of me and four or five of them... so I say fuck her and walk. A conflict you KNOW you're going to lose is suicide, and if you lose your girl will leave you anyhow. So conflict has to be evaluated RAPIDLY in that instant, and act accordingly, now, it it were my brother in danger and five guys are coming, I stand with him and do my best, but to face those odds just to get some pussy or impress her is stupid, she is likely to monkey branch at some point anyhow. This is true of almost any situation with conflict, in business you cannot go directly against Amazon, you must find your niche and go after it, but the people ALREADY doing it will NOT just welcome you with pen arms, you still need to find a way to do it without pissing them off and survive at least the initial stages of ANY business, then have some strategy to face the conflict sure to come and survive; if they hadn't noticed you they will as you grow, so facing the WELL ESTABLISHED people in that area is sure to give you a good story of how you LOST your business. If you make mistakes conflict arises, but the solution is NOT to deny you made a mistake... I was driving and cut a guy off by mistake he bought up to me at the next red light, he said something, I answer "I know man, I didn't see you but it was all my wrong, my bad my mistake, and sorry about it" I kept looking at him in the eye as I said these things; he looked at me and said something else that I didn't hear well, so I said "it was my mistake, I already admitted it and I told you I am sorry... what the fuck else do you want me to do?? and what do you want to do yourself?? I told you I'm sorry that's all I can do now, fortunately there was no wreck or I'd have to pay for you for it" He looked at me and looked straight ahead, as he made a gesture saying "YEA, whatever" but it was over.
Admit your mistake with courage; apologise without degrading yourself, or putting yourself down, if it was an honest mistake.
Conflict is a thing women like, but will leave you anyhow if you fail.
@@ggrthemostgodless8713 Yeah women are famous for saying "let's you and him fight."
For wise people, conflict is more about peaceful resolution than "winning;" and simply leaving when this isn't possible.
@@SovereignStatesman
women love to see men fighting (competing), they provoke as much of it as they can, and then going after the winners.
Women rather share a winner than be with one of the "losers" even if they were fighting for her. So I rather walk and not be her hero than fight and lose and risk but knowing that if I lost she'd leave me anyhow. Men still have to shoulder all the traditional responsibilities, but women have shaken off most of their traditional responsibilities.... they just want more and more and more RIGHTS but not the responsibilities that come with those rights. And al of this trying and fighting just to get our dick wet, for pussy?? and then the "privilege" of working your ass off all day to provide and try to keep that nagging thing at home happy?? hell no, no fucking way. I prefer boredom than that sort of company. Once she has a kid, which she will convince you YOU wanted it, she will have all encompassing excuse to not do a damn ting either for the house or for you, including denying you that pussy you fought so hard to get in the first place. Oh they are so damn overrated!! special by themselves. Just look how a young woman walks around everywhere like she owns the world and the place she happens to be in at that moment; they are insufferable. I love to get laid, but then I cannot stand them.
@@ggrthemostgodless8713 You're absolutely right with regards to conflict. This video comes off as simping for women.
MEN NEED TO HEAL THEIR INNER CHILD! So do most women, we all need to love ourselves unconditionally! We will all be so much happier if we do this!
Agreed!
@blyat5555 not true... what you forgot to mention is how you take out your frustration from losing your job and being beaten up on the woman you're with expecting her to stay and put up with your insecurities instead of focusing on just moving on, getting a new job or start a business and get a damn good lawyer and learn some self defence to protect yourself. A lot of you all don't admit how you let your lower confidence push your woman away and then blame it on hypergamy...women adopt blind disabled pets and children all the time.
You don't need to love yourself, you just need to not hate yourself.
Loving yourself serves no purpose and honestly just sounds narcissistic.
blyat5555 lol 😂 not everyone women is like that. Some women are actually loyal and don’t care about money.
shadowsintox9 interesting 🤔
What do you call a dinosaur fart?
A blast from the past.
I actually chuckled at this.
🤣🤣🤣 I actually found it funny!
Yeah, not a bad joke actually.
ass extinction event
When I laughed I knew I was doomed
@@joeyrullo9544 I thought it was funny too
Be yourself - be the beast (your own version of yourself and don’t let others to manipulate you)
@Radical, Junior hm, beast is wolf, lion, tiger, bear, jaguar etc.... many of them are beasts, especially the ones who are in charge of their own lives and don't afraid anyone... meaning - you are focused, working on your goals, don't let bad people influence you etc... my spirit animal is wolf/beast. Beast - animal, especially a large or dangerous!
@Radical, Junior learn true definition of the beast my friend!
1 low emotional intelligence
A how well you can read other people
B how well you can read yourself
C how well you can manage social cues
Signs of low ei
A erratic behavior
B can control emotions
C difficulty reading social cues
2 Bing a push over
3 Excessive neediness around women
A being a pushover 99 % of the time
B being too passive
C resorts to being passive aggressive
Avoid
A stop being afraid of conflict
4 doesn’t value his own opinion
A have you own system of values you must trust your own judgment
Stop fearing opinions of others
"Chase the money, and the girls will follow" ~Some Guy
jukijunk girls that want want your money will follow, in other words they are not interested in your personality , just what they can get from you...
There mom's should have taught them better/more concrete values!
I personally would only date self made rich women. Don’t want me at my lowest so why should I be so forgiving when I’m at my best.
@@chris7285 Gold digging people ARE ruthless...U and anyone!👿
@@chris7285 Can u offer in equal,WHAT u r looking 4?
Truth is, it doesn't matter how people perceive you as long as you're happy.
workplace feels like a bigger professional highschool especially some adults still act like a child
Take a 3 month's up to a year and work on yourself. Hardly talk to many women. Women will always be in this world. They aren't going anywhere. Do what was said in this video and add in investing and money. Also work on your health and your body. Come out from the 3 months to a year and start talking to women and you will see a positive change. Even with talking to others. Also learn some female nature
Adults are just highschoolers that got older, in some cases age came with new experiences, &consequently knew insights, un other cases no
Too much truth
Don't get me started with big mouthed adults.
In High School it was all about who has looks, cool haircut and clothes now adulthood is all about who has a job, house, car and looks. You're right bro it's all about STATUS/COOL
No. High school barely registered for some of us.
I've never been afraid of getting into Conflict , what I'm mostly afraid of is that everytime I get into a Conflict I end up hurting the other person so much that I end up winning the arguments but loosing the other person as a friend , colleague , woman I'm trying to meet etc,etc,etc ...!!!!
My emotions won't be controlled when someone disrespect me and was already warned about it; will turn into a monster for sure. Just happened the other day
Try to cut contact with anybody that doesn't respect you so that your animal doesn't come out. If they are a colleague or somebody you can't avoid then keep communication to a minimal. Also learn to control yourself and handle disrespect without losing your shit
very hard sometimes
I pretend to have low value when out in public. That way, I can succeed without people putting obstacles in my way, that perceive me as a threat. So I workout in rags, wear plain clothes when shopping for great clothes (to wear to important events).
Overthinking it lol
Lol. Are you a man or a woman? I do the same thing. I have to unfortunately because people in general are really kind of trash but you have to be careful that you don’t get stuck like that. It’s a bit harder for me as a woman but I just don’t say anything and work on myself in private as much as I can.
@@Gh0zT-777 - it isn't "over thinking it." It is wise based on experience. I went from moving in the circles of the British aristocracy to being homeless. I learned to blend in based on my surroundings. You don't want to look like you have had any sort of wealth if you have to stay in a homeless shelter. Nothing to do with "over thinking" anything.
I just avoid all this by withdrawing from society as much as possible. I've been pretty successful professionally, and almost all social interactions, even the really positive ones, are a net negative in my life. I'm very content and satisfied with how my life has progressed. I'll be even more content and satisfied when I retire in the not-too-distant future, and can isolate even further. God help the marlin and tuna in baja when that happens :)
God made hookers for a reason.
@Korniljus Popaj I mean thats kind of the point of a hooker.
@@EndingTimes0 better to spend that energy doing constructive things still even though it's sometimes tough
Well, some people are naturally self-sufficient. I've been told I'm very self-sufficient, but I think not nearly as much as you are. I still am a social animal, even if not always good at it - but I've gotten a lot better over the years.
The word simp comes to my mind... Omg... Sorry...
by having to say you're Sorry, already makes u a simp also..
say what u think & always be unapologetic
Think before you speak, especially if you're the president.
Simps don't see themselves as simps. This is part of the problem.
Lol something tells me you are a simp yourself. I used to be a simp and that realisation is already a huge leap forward.
@@ellitestar not really. If you're in the wrong, it's natural, and manly to apologise. If you aren't in the wrong, then don't apologise.
I hope you all have a great weekend!!
We never know how others actually perceive us. Once we realize our intrinsic value, we no longer concern ourselves with how others view us... therefore; the way to enact the most positive change in the world, is to ascribe higher values to people who do not recognize their own value. If you can look at another human, recognizing value in them, which they are unaware of, then make them feel more valued, then you have made everyone better... in return, your perceived value will also rise!
You made one of the best posts ive seen,recognizing a person's value is one of the most important things a individual can do. And once that person realizes their potential. They will be Loyal to that person. And it's also paying it forward.
hey man your content is really amazing and inspiring , you are helping guys a lot out here to improve their lives, even I am a small youtuber where I talk about human psychology basically
2:47 The dinosaur joke is actually funny.
For FarFromAverage:
I think your 4 signs are correct but I think they need better wording.
My four would be
1. Agreeableness. Lots of guys when they see a pretty girl or someone they admire tend always agree with everything they are saying and not being honest. Guys do this in the hope that the other person likes them more when in fact, honest, disagreeably people are more likely to be admired as it shows they value their own opinions over others giving themselves a higher value. The secret is that in social situations the only person who can give you higher value is yourself not your peers. This is why people are confused when bad boys tend to be more attractive towards women. Its because women value guys who value themselves higher who are more disagreeable and mentally tougher.
2. Excessive Neediness from females. Ye I agree. Some guys put too much value on pretty girls. If a girl can tell that you are valuing her more because of her looks off the bat, normally they will see this as a sign that your values are all in the looks and not mental toughness (high value). This doesn't always lead them to believe that you are a low value person however, it normally puts a red flag over you instantly. The best way to tackle this is to value all girls from looks the same. This will signify to them that your values lie in the mental toughness or personality of the them.
3. Not being Authentic. This rule applies everywhere in life. Humans are rubbish at hiding emotions. Hiding them, shows to everyone that you are trying to be a different person therefor not valuing yourself. You must value your whole package if you want to be a high value person. Meaning all of your nervousness, anger and genuine emotion. By trying to look strong you make yourself look weaker. Displaying your emotions shows to everyone that you arnt afraid of how other people will perceive you. Therefor displaying high value.
4. High performing/ confidence. By making the first move and putting yourself out there in social situations, shows that you are a doer. This doesn't really correlate with high or low value which is great because it means anyone can do it. People will always admire those who put themselves into an uncomfortable socially for their or other's long term benefit. Stuff like asking your boss for a raise or being the first to make conversation when meeting someone new. People who have these traits are more likely to become successful in their life with friends loves ones and careers.
LagiNaLangAko23 embrace it and don’t hide that you are like that be open about it etc.
Please never ever compare a female that looks cute to A quarter million dollar car.
Ikr!!
Damani Campbell 😂 facts
Choice hot girl or hot car ? No choice for any guy we are taking the car
That was an example. Now replace the hot girl with a hot woman you love. If you still pick the car... dude you are not ready for a relationship. Just cherish the car and spare the girls.
The quarter mill car is a lot cheaper than the hot girl.
Fellas just take the car and forget the hot chick.
At the end of the day.
How do you make 1 million dollars?
Start with 2 million get married and you will have a million left.
Since this is so important to understand, why don´t we learn this in school? Seriously, this should be a subject in school!
Because ultimately it is a very controversial topic and it wouldn't fit in with the values that the world currently want men to believe. The world or mainly western countries are in the process of transforming all men, we can't rely on education or government anymore to help us see the world in a way which will elevate us. We have only ourselves to rely on for that, and if we're lucky we might have a father figure who can teach us.
Me: can I learn to be valuable?
USA: Hahahahah education system go brrrr
Meditation and nofap are two of the biggest things that helped strengthen and discover myself. Back in mid 2019 I was on a low and wasn't getting any girls. Now i'm getting girls that a year ago I would have thought would be way out of my grasp. Meditate, go on semenretention for a while and workout!
Truth be spoked again
So, you basically worship at the altar of vagina and the validation that you receive from women is the gauge of your worth as a man. Yeh, sounds like you're a real, self-actualized man now.
The famous actor Robin Williams has 'high value'. But we know what happened to him after his divorce. If he remained a low-value guy, he would have never gotten divorced, and he would still be alive to this day. Moral of the story = stay low value = stay happy = live a long life.
All I'm hearing is I must change myself to other's needs.
Thats not going to happen
Take me as I am or leave me alone.
Changing yourself to suit others never works because you're not being genuine to yourself and when it doesn't work you'll only blame yourself because you didn't act on your genuine feelings 💯
None of this is true....
When people see you as a threat, they will try to bring you down. If they don't see you as a threat, they will be you friend.
That is how people are going to value you.
If you have greatness within you, then people will hate you.
What your experiencing is basically the difference between social construction and evolutionary biology
Agreed. I hate to say it, but i think the video's advice is for ordinary, average, normal people. Not saying there's anything wrong with that. Because there's so many subtleties and deception when it comes to "society's value" on a person. They could appear to like you, while secretly hoping your downfall. They could appear to be your friend and want to hang out with you, because they want something in return, like the entertainment and satisfaction of being there when you fail. And for me to even mention these scenarios seem unbelievable and implausible to normal people, because they have no idea what it's like to be different. They'll say they're different. Society's been pushing this idea that it's cool to be different...but those of us who truly are will tell you, it's easier to be just like everyone else, than something else...like a 33-year-old virgin who's waiting till marriage to have sex, values God's opinion or that of man's, worked his ass off to lose 168lbs, and spends his free-time writing essays and books as a published author.
This correct brotherly 🙏🙏
projection level ^99
Well Said!
Human organs are really expensive, if you are a normal human then you are valuable
Hes talking about value in relation to other people (societal value), not economic or existential value.
I use to be those type of guy who is so damn low value, full of insecurities, have social anxiety, inferior complex to my friends and a pushover but when i started to work on myself, workout, watch vids like this, have a solid everyday routine in my life, everything starts to change. People told me i become better of myself, many girls say they have crush on me, have a wide social group now, and my mind is now abundant. I am now a person who can go to everything, not afraid to go out to the world even if the world judges me, who cares now. I have now my passion and ambition, and im not afraid of who is more dominant or not. Im now the protagonist of my life.
After watching this video I just realized that this use to be me, some of these things I’m still trying to work on so I can increase my value as a man.
Being perceived by others as valuable doesn't doesn't make you valuable. Viewing yourself as valuable inadvertently makes you valuable to others.
I have problems with the second one. I am always afraid from conflicts and don't talk a lot. This allows other people to control me. But I am doing my best to change myself because I see how this makes me low value even though it is very hard.
To be precise here we all know we can't do anything about what other's think... Why not give up!??
Expectations are a heavy burden.
Just remember to be confident look down on everyone around you. *it's not a bad thing
Value is subjective you can be high value to some and low to others
I am a natural Aggressive type of man. The biggest issues I have seen with friends that I have is having value for themselves and standing up for themselves. When you lack these you also lack confidence. When you get in a relationship you mostly will be taking advantage of by always being the "YES MAN" and when you are so use too saying "YES" and one day you decide to say a "NO" you will be look at like you crazy. Your partner would just override that and continue to do what they want not what you want. Know your worth and start by loving yourself..
great content, condensed everything into this; "don't be a simp"
Probably the most important information I needed to hear to evolve myself. Thank you🙏🏼
Number 5: Being so addicted to a completely relative concept of value.
Just live your life folks and don't apologize for it.
Embracing conflict...so good advice!
Honestly wished I learnt this in high school and my first year at uni but all the points your brought up are correct. I actually had to make changes to all of them but now I feel amazing 🔥 hope someone can take the most out of the video as well 👌🏽
Wow, this information is incredible! Thanks for the eye opener!
It's possible to have a really effed up system of values by default. In that case, listening to the opinions of others expands one's worldview and might actually be beneficial.
I really think each situation is unique. You have to approach each and every situation with your wits. If you need a check list put your checklist down and feel your emotions about a person and feel what your emotions are telling you.
Instructions unclear, asked girl what you call a dino fart and got bitch slapped. 😭
I can see that you take pride in your work. Because, the informative self improving content is amazing, like the animation.
"They rarely make decisions for themselves and constantly allow other men OR EVEN WOMEN to make decisions for them" It's clear he doesn't mean it the way some people will perceive it. That being said, I loled. Nice video!
I like how he breaks things down. My main problem certainly used to be low EI. I'm not sure if I have improved it all that much, but I've figured out how not to rely too much on understanding subtle cues. I've built some kind of set of rules on how I approach each situation, and that seems to work well enough.
-Most people with low E.I. usually have a genious level I.Q. Just food for thought.
-A lot of people who are consider "passive" or are just sitting back watching could just be accessing the situation waiting to make his move on whatever situation he may be in. Not necessarily a negative trait.
-As far as treating women good, I agree to a certain extent. Treating them well dosnt mean you are needy, it means you have acctual values. Just dont be nice to the point you get stepped on.
-last one, just dont be a door mat.
Take this video and its opinions at face value and just be yourself. If yourself isn't good enough for whatever female you are chasing, then it probably isn't worth it. Find someone who appreciates your positives and understands you have negatives too. We are all human and you dont need a video that's basically teaching you that the only way to attract the opposite sex is to be a narcissist. 👍
What if yo
@R Cruz it's called research. You can obviously read so feel free to do the research yourself.
@Banda Straight I should proof read a little more, geez. Haha
What you got to keep in mind is that having low value is not a bad thing. A lot of people don't mention that. Since value needs to be "perceived" there will be moments when individuals cannot (are simply unable) to perceive your value. Think of it as you trying to judge a fish for it's ability to ride a bike.
If you are listening to this content and are enlightened by it, you are still in the matrix.
amazing video
i feel like alot of men may need to see this
growth of course goes far beyond school
Im seeing that most people watching these videos, including myself, are introverts.
Just to put it bluntly, most women don't like introverted traits. Thats ok though, work on yourself, practice being more sociable, make some money, every so often just go out on the town, say hi to a female or two, the right gal will come along eventually 😉
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Great video, didn't like the blurry illustrations and the slow effects, but leaving a thumb up regardless.
a woman can be shy, active, and many other things and it wont matter as long as she's not hideous. men on the other hand have to be attractive, succesfull, confident, calm, and the list keeps going on...
One of the best advices I ve heard about this topic is the one from Jordan peterson "stand up straight with your shoulders back"
Girls .... I already knew it... Why every video you make is all about Girls .... Like there is nothing more valueable/important in life
Looooooooool
Psychology.. Only those who mate pass on their genes and the cycle continues
I LIKE MY SELF. if you believe that, others will also
Man: be a high value man, be a alpha male, become high social status
Woman: be pretty
This is by far one of your best videos. Therapy and Ayahuasca has really increased my emotional intelligence. You should look into Ayahuasca as emotional therapy.
That yin & yang symbol made me think about something I had to suffer from when I was younger (I'm still young, 24 years now). It represents the balance between two opposite forces that control ourselves. In my case, it was confidence (yin) and insecurity (yang). Something happened when I was 11 years old and that brought the balance between those two heavily out of control; the insecurity overwhelmed the confidence and it took me 9 years of lifetime to discover something able to restore it. Back then, I really believed I was like that, that insecurity was a major part of my personality, but now I believe that everyone of us has confidence and insecurity in ourselves. It just has to be in balance so that your true inner personality will express itself because otherwise it is heavily influenced by either overwhelming confidence or insecurity. It's good to have confidence, but I guess too much of it can also be a bad thing, that's why I'm talking about a balance between those two. Finding out who you truly are based on your own knowledge about yourself and what path in life is yours to take is something I learned to be very helpful to give yourself value as an individual, not dependent on what kind of label other people or society give to your personality, because when they have never talked to you, they can only "think" things about you, they will never "know" things.
Yin is black (Female/negative) and has the characteristic of passivity, Yang is white (Male/positive) and has the characteristic of assertiveness.
Excellent video.....a few points I never thought of before
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.”
― Harvey Fierstein
Really needed this today
When your able to make the difference between social construction and evolutionary biology you ´ll go way ahead
u have set a new standard for me internally from your videos
thank you
My brain got twisted at the end when he kepts talking about value value
same here
That dinosaur joke tho lol. Definitely my new opener thanks for the tip boom 👊
One way to surround yourself around females is get into dancing. Ever since I got into social dancing, I had more females partners than I could dream of. It totally changed my life. You become more confident. You are not needy because there are so many females to choose from. And you get to experience so many different girls. I am not talking about grinding as dancing, I am talking about ballroom dance, or latin dances.
Interesting insight.. Writing this down for further research purposes
You can increase your perceived value by following a few simple steps:
1. Create a code of conduct for your ideal self. Is he brave? Smart? Witty? Honest?
2. Judge yourself by how you adhered to that code of conduct.
Realise that neediness is caring more about what others think of you than what you think of yourself, but if you have no standards for yourself, you'll have no clear opinions on yourself. Without a clear opinion of how well you live up to your own standards, you instinctively defer to others and their standards for you.
Rule number 1
Be a High value man💎💎
Very enlightening video...I love these videos
I'm a narcissist, girls kind of offer themselves to me. Often I feel to busy to commit to any kind of relationship or even to call them back later.
Timoteo García same thought bro
OMG. I thought I was the only one. There are others out there! Good to know you guys exist!
same the only reason im with my girl is cause we have a kid
A self-proclaimed narcissist is really nothing to be proud of. You're only enabling your conceded nature to make up for lack of true self confidence, and there is a thin line between the two.
Being a narcissist is nothing to be proud of.
No. I just want a white chubby honest girl in her late 20s. Blonde, easy going, weird, happy, loves travelling, fast cars, loves to eat, loves conversations
Well, I'm not going to let other people get the better part of me.
Yep
My personality makes me actively seek misconceptions and mistakes in other’s words. As a result, my opinions is to destroy someone else’s opinion
I purposely dress down outside work, same for my cars and truck, I purposely by slightly used and a non premium brand. Last thing I want is to have someone interested in me for things. Long live the free and happy men.
I agree. Life is too short to spend it trying to live up to everyone else's expectations. I live by what I know is right,and if that isn't good enough for everyone else, they can go fck themselves!?
5:53 I think you might be putting the cart before the horse on this point. I get the whole idea of the backwards law. Stop caring so much about how pretty a girl is and she'll feel more like a person around you. She'll feel like you don't want to be with her just for her looks. If you rewire your brain with a dopamine detox, you'll take more joy in simple pleasures and not be neurochemically spent. But I'd be lying if I didn't say (especially on nofap) that it isn't difficult to suddenly have experiences with attractive women if you only have had a very limited pool of relationships in your past. It's a tightrope walk, do I care or do I not care? How do I show interest without coming off as needy? I get the idea from Patrice O'Neal that you can't be afraid to lose a potential catch. He also has this analogy that goes like this: imagine you are racing against the woman you are trying to get. And you start behind her in a narrow one way street. If there's no way to pass her and show your value then there really isn't anything you can do to convince her to be with you. There might be a breakthrough where you meet her again down the line and you've worked on yourself to excite her, but in the moment you try to get her and start off behind, you'll never catch up instantly. That first impression will be brutal and it will constantly be stuck in her mind if she doesn't find you an "option". Because we are only options to these girls.
Many guys today are like that: they want to be with the girls they see but know for a fact that they are starting behind them, they aren't as well put together as the women they want seem to be. We men have to build a giant value machine that entices someone to sleep with us. Girls have to look pretty and have a pussy. What is this f@cking world we live in? What I have trouble with is that this exact point you don't really have any insight or references on how to maximize your chances with a girl. It's just: "well once you do get one, then you become experienced bro!" We live in a hypergamous society where the sexual marketplace is deregulated. The highest value male gets many options. The second to mid level guy doesn't get girls in their same caliber. And the lowest levels give up and screw their waifu pillows.
i can't watch porn or even do porn like others and couples do, all night or all day, almost every day? they have no problems.
I know all about low EI. I'm 56 and it's getting worse, not better. I've also never enjoyed conflict. I cannot just 'simply' change. I think it's too late anyway.
5:58 thats called SIMP
I would like to add that not everyone has the same personality type. Some of these things will be more difficult for certain individuals. I know that I am definitely more emotional than most people. I definitely need to work on getting to know myself more and not care what other people think of me.
Was totally thinking of this! My personality type; I definetly agree with it. I listen and find solutions for people way too much and never care to know myself. I don't even know what I want ^^;