Diagnosed ADHD Andy here. This is so fucking empowering dude. I've always had the mindset that getting distracted itself is a failure. But this at least gives you leeway
One has to also keep in mind that learning this is a skill like any other, the level of your expertise just shows differently. Meaning getting better in painting stuff shows in better pictures, getting better at this shows in more days/hours/minutes you can manage to function well or better than you normally do. Fails will always come, you will just have less of them over time as you get better. So if you fail, don’t beat yourself up, it’s part of the journey
@pattidepra4434 I should have specified more, my apologies. I was speaking from a perspective where I have already gotten my medication and have become a nearly functional human being. And I'm really sorry if you have felt discouraged from this vid. It's a fucking nightmare and I know exactly what you mean when you say it doesn't work, it didn't work for me before I took the pills, it felt like it was physically impossible to command my actions. Even now it doesn't work 100%, but all I can do is itty bitty improvements overtime, even if it takes years it's better than when I was depressed all day drowning in porn and RUclips .
this is the GOOD SHIT. i struggled to meditate because everyone told me to clear my mind and i never could, and i struggled until someone said exactly this. the end point is to clear your mind, but in the beginning, focus simply on letting thoughts and feelings move through you, in and out, without latching on. my focus is shit from my depression and anxiety, and this is a good reminder to bring meditation back in.
Wait isn't this the opposite of what he said. He's saying focus on one thing. You're saying focus on nothing/everything? I'm not being rude actually confused
@@jujutalley I believe what he is trying to say is he struggled with distraction and took it as he was failing meditation however he realized that distraction isn’t failure and it takes time to learn to clear your mind.
I found meditation before healthy gamer and was diagnosed with adhd at the age of 26, this video is absolutely my experience. Meditation practice, preferably daily, might be the single most important thing I've ever done in my life.
@@vonvonkarmz There might be recommendations in the longer video this short is cut from, but I like using a mantra, or just counting my breathing (making my exhales longer than my natural inhales instead of trying to fit my breaths into a proscribed number). I also tried chanting meditation with hand movements once and it did something extra for my brain but I'm too embarrassed to do it with my current thin apartment walls. lol ; - D
The cost of loosing focus in my case is falling tremendously behind in class because you cant rewind a live lecture. And I don't know about other subjects but the information density in Computer Science is incredible. I love it, and I can focus fine about 70% of the time, missing that last 30% almost cost me my degree. I had no choice but to get on medications and it saved my academic career.
Seconded. Ask your professor to record their lectures or for permission to record. If you have a diagnosis, your college or high school should be required to provide such support when asked for. At least, it's that way around here. Best of luck to you!
When I learned that I had ADHD (at 60 years old!) and tried meditation as Dr K taught, it worked SO FAST. Now I have this skill: return my mind to a deep breath. I can do it any time, it does not require any time committment, it does not include any "empty your mind" meaningless advice. Practice this skill so you can use it when you need it.
That's because you forget, which is why this doesn't work for many people (🤚🏽 me). I still don't remember what I opened RUclips for. This is what is what frustrates me about this video. And now I don't remember anything he said except for how I disagree....
After fing around for years I'm now going back to school. My focus is so much better now. It used to be going from place to place in high school and before. Now I can snap back within seconds. Focus seems to be even better than peers to be honest. I have full control now.
@@Muhluri Balanced diet Excercise (especially excercise I like a lot) Decent sleep Meditation(does really work for me) Watch my technology use Get older Clean my to-do list. Don't procrastinate so there is not many things in the back of my head. Be aware of when I shift attention Stop daydreaming Deliberately shift attention to something else once an hour or so for a few minutes almost like taking a break but not relaxing Mix up my day so I preferably don't spend any longer on a task I dislike then one or two hours. Practice, practice, practice. Also some stuff with motivation.
This makes so much sense! I always felt like multitasking was helpful to me and it didn't make sense -- everyone always told me that I was giving myself more opportunities to get distracted, that I could never be as productive as if I worked on one thing at a time. I had always felt that I was GOING to get distracted anyway, so by multitasking I was giving myself a second task that would fill in the distractions with short bursts of something that I could complete in less than a minute, and once that was complete, it didn't have the power to keep holding my attention. Hearing this information about how meditation helps makes another thought click into place about this: By choosing a second task that I could use like this, I was training myself to recover from distractions quickly.
I discovered the same thing! When I had homework to do, I would do text roleplay at the same time- basically writting a book with a friend. I would do homework until they replied and I would stop to reply to them. Each reply took around 15 minutes, making it much easier for me to do homework for 15 minutes without feeling the need for more dopamine, cus I knew I would be able to do something fun in a few minutes
He's right, it's about making a choice to refocus. Which works with everything. Over-consuming with ADHD really puts you in a negative spiral. You have to choose to return to the things you left and complete them, and it's okay having to do that over and over. As long as you're making that choice.
I started to do this. Even with videos, movies, shows etc, if I missed something I’ll rewind it and put on subtitles. Same with reading too. Sometimes sitting still is difficult but going back to finish a page and highlighting useful information helps
I thought it's another generic motivation video before I saw the video but the video is fresh. he explained it well with meditation stuff. he didn't say "just focus" or "just do it". he said bring back foxus again and again. that's new thing and interesting to me. thx.
Wow, this is exactly the journey i had to do -learning to return from a distraction-, I never heard someone put it into words like this It feels good hearing that you consider it a better use of energy than learning to resist tje distraction, as I still have a lot of shame regarding not being able to do that. thanks!
Yeah, what we strengthen when we do what he’s saying is our executive function. To keep bringing yourself back like that, you strengthen your ability to step in & take control, and that’s a major deficiency with ADHD.
Dang, I needed to hear this! I've been wanting to meditate, but can't focus on doing it. Now I know I kind of don't have to, it's the returning to focus that's the goal, not the actual focus.
My issue with meditation is actually getting myself to be consistent with it, usually I can last about a week and then life gets in the way one day and I don't come back to it for like a month
It’s so easy to forget that getting distracted once for 45 minutes is way worse than getting distracted 10 times in 45 minutes but it means there is some productivity. It’s just so hard to realize that
Hi! ADHD meditator here! Like others in the comments, this has absolutely been my experience, and I'm relieved to see a reminder that it's not a failing on my part when i inevitably lose focus.
tbh Im pretty sure this is why meditation helped me so much when I first learned it years ago. I remember doing a headspace meditation that explained about coming back and something just CLICKED and got better from there.
*busting out stopwatch" I may be easily distracted, but now I understand that I can reduce the time spent being distracted. It wasn't clear why meditation is necessary, but now it's super clear 😂
@@ditteryU did not just say that like that, when the video topic is adhd. If its that easy people would have just done that a long time ago. It like telling someone with depression to just stop being depressed. Not sure, if u ment it that way.....I hope not.😶🌻
We all know attention is usually not the only problem, a lot of it is also motivation. I found that doing a lot of focused attention is essential for me, because it clears up your mind. But also adding a good amount of non meditation styles is important to "feel like doing things". And even then medication is probably the baseline some people need to be able to do anything at all.
i can 100% confirm this. there are times absolutely NOTHING will help me get back into a productive state, not even adderall etc. the ONLY thing that can do it is what i call „focus meditation“, where i start meditating in a relaxed state, and then transition into an intense, laser-like focus mode within a few seconds, and then relax again every 5secs or so. its like a very intense and even painful exercise for the frontal cortex. do this for 5minutes at a time as often as you need it during the day (=everytime you „fall off“ from productive work). after a few days you become a productivity monster and work 10h days with no distraction.
this is why time boxing works so much better for me than regular studying, when I'm feeling lazy I'll work really focused for 15 minutes or so then good around for 5, when I'm feeling energetic I'll do 25/5
This is exactly my experience. I thought maybe I didn’t have adhd because I was still all over the place but just faster. Turns out I have all of the adhd there is and I will never not be in a constant state of frenetic energy, but now that I have my meds, I no longer spiral downward with intrusive thoughts and I am able to pivot and transition much more seamlessly. I have a system that works for me now. I follow the dopamine every day and don’t judge myself too harshly if I say, completely reworked my backyard in two days all by myself, instead of folding the laundry on the table.
I thought I just watched a video that said not to think about your breathing, or mindfulness because that's meditation that's suited for neuro-typicals, and ADHDers crave new things, so it will just continue being boring. Anyhow, you're explanation makes sense and I do find I come back to my equilibrium faster after doing 5 minutes meditation everyday. But I just tried the "aum" exercise for the first time, and although I didn't get a sense of the vibration inside me something did feel a bit different when I came out my room and looked at my picture.. then I tried to sleep and had a weird, almost fever dream about the sound in context with other variables/factors.. it's interesting and I'm keen to try again.
@@SnailHatan I love how you presume to know what I do no I never whine they do about all these problems they have and I get annoyed because I tell them solutions and they give me excuses
Not everyone is just like you and have tge exact same challenges in the exact same amount and just fail at them while you succeed. Don't assume it's just excuses.
@@tymondabrowski12 ya I don't understand why you think you can guys can attack me when first you don't know the first thing about me or whom I'm talking about second it sounds like you are projecting your insecurities on to me when you try and give up that's failure don't make excuses for yourself I'm not some superhuman that can do something you can't believe in yourself and make it happen and if you they don't want my answer then why do they always come and complain to me is it somehow my fault because you won't fix your problem because if so I don't care anymore
or you could just quit trying to be "normal" embrace that and become your intended self. I never plan on doing one thing, I am doing five at all times. I set myself up to be distracted by other things I need to do. Very few things in life are so urgent that they need to be done before the end of the day and even fewer of those things are items that you become aware of the day they need to be done. You have the ability to be distracted, so channel it into productivity instead of trying to force it to act like everyone else. I work one of the most mundane ADHD hell jobs with tons of pointless paperwork, I get it done because I do it all at once instead of one at a time. My only rule is that it doesn't leave my desk until it is done and if I pick it up I have to do something to get it finished. We are really good at picking up where we left off due to pattern recognition, this is super useful because as I get tired of one problem I can pick up any paper on my desk and jump into a new problem my mind almost instantly remembers where I left off, what needs to be done, and then I just do it. I really don't understand how people don't look at ADHD traits and think about how these synergize together to make a productive system of success.
I've been doing this for years. Over and over. It gets easier, but it is still exhausting. You slip once and you are back at the start. I am still harming my health and career.
Diagnosed and medicated at 27 years old, this is exactly Adderall does for me; akin to " shifting at the right time in a manual transmission" don't driving up a hill in high gear
There is a method called the junebug method. It's a method to help with cleaning (cuz cleaning is the WORST with adhd) So basically. In your head, you assign a certain task as the main task. You are gonna get distracted. That's okay. Just remember, like the junebug, eventually you are gonna have to return to the main task. It doesn't matter how much time passed, or how long it takes. A june bug always hmgies back to what it set its mind on. I guess the same thing applies in other areas too. For example, meditation.
wow i never would have guessed that my issues focusing could be fixed by focusing! next you'll tell me i can fix depression by caring about myself or diabetes by not eating sugar. truly a genius mind
I did meditation for 3-4 days and it surely makes one tough mentally. It reduces the unwanted noise in the brain which causes stress and anxiety. You can feel the calmness in the brain and I'm not even exaggerating. Just sit straight with legs folded, close your eyes and don't think about anything. Its works like magic ✨
Yes, this is what I'm working on as a fairly recently diagnosed 29 year old ADHDer😅 (he said while doomscrolling RUclips shorts.. I'll stop now and get back on track with my tasks😅)
Focusing on one thing is easy. Ive woked 18hrs . Fell asleep woke up and immediately started that thing again. Its just you have no control over what that is. Lucky for me its normally building something. Most the time its usful or sold for a profit. But not allways.
I don't deny it's true but it's straight up stressful and strenuous to do so my brain wants to avoid it at all costs. I prefer to do meditation that's for people with ADHD. Most of which is meant for relaxing the mind and accepting the chaos while not being controlled by it.
And what to do with "invisible walls"? It feels like there's a thin glass-like thing in my head between me who thinks and feels and the do-task-button. And it seems as if they were made from ice, appearing at random one day and disappearing another. I was able to bash through them about three years ago, but now it's unbearable. They do seem to be dependant on mental and physical surroundings, but I'm yet to figure out how to influence them directly
Sounds like executive dysfunction, maybe that's worth looking into? For me, even though I still have times where it gets the better of me, what helped is realizing that it's NOT actually random. There tends to be some kind of trigger (the most common ones I know from both myself and others are: 1. Being stuck on a decision, 2. Feeling like you need to complete one task before you can start the next one (i.e. I need to study, but I told myself I'd do the laundry first so now if I can't do the laundry for some reason, I won't be able to study), and 3. Not knowing how to approach a task). So what you need to do is pay attention and start recognizing those triggers, and then you can start working around them. Idk if this is actually what you mean, but it's definitely how I described the feeling before I knew the term for it so hopefully you get something out of this.
@@MothOnAString I can definitely tell that №2 resonates with me. I often plan and get lost into the preparations before something important. Yet there are completely polar cases of days worth of work done without any struggle. The bigger question is if I’m doing with this distinction as a symptom of something bigger or if it is a problem itself.
My bf has self proclaimed adhd. But i think that he's just a victim of short attention span due to social media because he spends alot of time on it. I've been wanting to get him to meditate since his attention span is so short. I hope it would help
So, it's not about sustaining a complete perfect focus. It's that we have the tool to always be able to return. It's ok too lose foocus. It's improved because I cen return
Good for destiny, Honestly no one talks about meditation enough in these adhd discussions. The world is a much, much more stimulating place then it was 50 or even 20 years ago and there are even religions built around manually tempering impulsivity. Its hard to say d is taking the emotional position when adhd symptoms overlap with 90% of human behaviour in the first world. While I wouldnt throw out the idea of medicating adhd, destiny is absolutely justified in wanting to try alternative, organic strategies first.
bet. stopped the short right after you said "45 minutes go by" to do something other than watch more shorts. you're one of the few diamonds in the rough that I feel I can just understand.
This doesn't help though, in my last job role it was highly set tasks with no variety and I'd have to force myself to focus, it ended up exhausting me and constantly felt like my brain was screaming and trying to claw its way out of my skull. Sure I was already in body deterioration point of unknown burnout but the amount of energy required to constantly put your brain on something that it gets a negative draining response too isn't good.
Kind of forgot I was looking at a vid on medition and thought it was just another guy going "just don't have adhd" Turns out it wasn't, knowing the expectation of how it'll go should be great. So tyty
But then how do I combat the feeling of FOMO that comes with ADHD? Returning to the original task is easy for me. It's the FOMO, with the lack of view history with the algorithm is what gets me.
45 minutes? A whole day for me Should I do a dopamine detox? I don't do anything but watch shorts, videos and drugs I want to completely change my life but always fail, maybe because I'm alone? It would be better to have someone to help me.
Full video: 01:32:27 -
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Thank you for making this! It makes so much more sense now!
Yo, could you maybe fix the link? N/A on twitch.
This link doesn't work anymore. I had to type it out on my phone and copy+paste in my browser. It says the content is unavailable.
Diagnosed ADHD Andy here. This is so fucking empowering dude. I've always had the mindset that getting distracted itself is a failure. But this at least gives you leeway
One has to also keep in mind that learning this is a skill like any other, the level of your expertise just shows differently. Meaning getting better in painting stuff shows in better pictures, getting better at this shows in more days/hours/minutes you can manage to function well or better than you normally do. Fails will always come, you will just have less of them over time as you get better. So if you fail, don’t beat yourself up, it’s part of the journey
@pattidepra4434 I should have specified more, my apologies. I was speaking from a perspective where I have already gotten my medication and have become a nearly functional human being. And I'm really sorry if you have felt discouraged from this vid. It's a fucking nightmare and I know exactly what you mean when you say it doesn't work, it didn't work for me before I took the pills, it felt like it was physically impossible to command my actions. Even now it doesn't work 100%, but all I can do is itty bitty improvements overtime, even if it takes years it's better than when I was depressed all day drowning in porn and RUclips .
If you forget what task you were doing... this doesn't work
It does, you get better at remembering what you were doing. Plus, you can use other tools like post it's or timers to remind you.@@Heyu7her3
this is the GOOD SHIT. i struggled to meditate because everyone told me to clear my mind and i never could, and i struggled until someone said exactly this. the end point is to clear your mind, but in the beginning, focus simply on letting thoughts and feelings move through you, in and out, without latching on. my focus is shit from my depression and anxiety, and this is a good reminder to bring meditation back in.
Lol.😅
Wait isn't this the opposite of what he said. He's saying focus on one thing. You're saying focus on nothing/everything? I'm not being rude actually confused
@@jujutalley I believe what he is trying to say is he struggled with distraction and took it as he was failing meditation however he realized that distraction isn’t failure and it takes time to learn to clear your mind.
@@jujutalley You can get distracted when you focus on everything like being caught up in fantasy or thought, so it can be an object of focus
I found meditation before healthy gamer and was diagnosed with adhd at the age of 26, this video is absolutely my experience. Meditation practice, preferably daily, might be the single most important thing I've ever done in my life.
what are some of your favorite practices? ive been wanting to try it but i feel kinda lost
@@vonvonkarmz There might be recommendations in the longer video this short is cut from, but I like using a mantra, or just counting my breathing (making my exhales longer than my natural inhales instead of trying to fit my breaths into a proscribed number).
I also tried chanting meditation with hand movements once and it did something extra for my brain but I'm too embarrassed to do it with my current thin apartment walls. lol ; - D
Exactly...
I meditate from time to time but not regularly I now feel like as if my adhd symptoms improved but I still can't say I have completely overcame it
Hey Jaxson can you tell me more about how mediation has helped you. I also have ADD and I’m curious.
The cost of loosing focus in my case is falling tremendously behind in class because you cant rewind a live lecture. And I don't know about other subjects but the information density in Computer Science is incredible. I love it, and I can focus fine about 70% of the time, missing that last 30% almost cost me my degree. I had no choice but to get on medications and it saved my academic career.
Why not record your lectures?
Seconded. Ask your professor to record their lectures or for permission to record. If you have a diagnosis, your college or high school should be required to provide such support when asked for. At least, it's that way around here. Best of luck to you!
When I learned that I had ADHD (at 60 years old!) and tried meditation as Dr K taught, it worked SO FAST. Now I have this skill: return my mind to a deep breath. I can do it any time, it does not require any time committment, it does not include any "empty your mind" meaningless advice. Practice this skill so you can use it when you need it.
the irony of me checking my phone during this vid and it looping like 3 times before i notice lmao
the irony of Dr K saying "45 minutes go by" as my Bluetooth earbuds interrupt with "BATTERY LOW" because I've been on RUclips for hours oof
That's because you forget, which is why this doesn't work for many people (🤚🏽 me). I still don't remember what I opened RUclips for. This is what is what frustrates me about this video. And now I don't remember anything he said except for how I disagree....
meditation is gold, meditate literally cured 80% of my depression
After fing around for years I'm now going back to school. My focus is so much better now. It used to be going from place to place in high school and before. Now I can snap back within seconds. Focus seems to be even better than peers to be honest. I have full control now.
What did you do to change it?
@@Muhluri
Balanced diet
Excercise (especially excercise I like a lot)
Decent sleep
Meditation(does really work for me)
Watch my technology use
Get older
Clean my to-do list. Don't procrastinate so there is not many things in the back of my head.
Be aware of when I shift attention
Stop daydreaming
Deliberately shift attention to something else once an hour or so for a few minutes almost like taking a break but not relaxing
Mix up my day so I preferably don't spend any longer on a task I dislike then one or two hours.
Practice, practice, practice.
Also some stuff with motivation.
Best of luck to you ❤
@@bigbadlara5304 sounds like you have Executive Functioning Disorder, not ADHD
@@bigbadlara5304how did you stop daydreaming? that's the biggest one for me
This makes so much sense! I always felt like multitasking was helpful to me and it didn't make sense -- everyone always told me that I was giving myself more opportunities to get distracted, that I could never be as productive as if I worked on one thing at a time. I had always felt that I was GOING to get distracted anyway, so by multitasking I was giving myself a second task that would fill in the distractions with short bursts of something that I could complete in less than a minute, and once that was complete, it didn't have the power to keep holding my attention.
Hearing this information about how meditation helps makes another thought click into place about this: By choosing a second task that I could use like this, I was training myself to recover from distractions quickly.
I discovered the same thing! When I had homework to do, I would do text roleplay at the same time- basically writting a book with a friend. I would do homework until they replied and I would stop to reply to them. Each reply took around 15 minutes, making it much easier for me to do homework for 15 minutes without feeling the need for more dopamine, cus I knew I would be able to do something fun in a few minutes
He's right, it's about making a choice to refocus. Which works with everything. Over-consuming with ADHD really puts you in a negative spiral. You have to choose to return to the things you left and complete them, and it's okay having to do that over and over. As long as you're making that choice.
I started to do this. Even with videos, movies, shows etc, if I missed something I’ll rewind it and put on subtitles.
Same with reading too. Sometimes sitting still is difficult but going back to finish a page and highlighting useful information helps
I thought it's another generic motivation video before I saw the video but the video is fresh. he explained it well with meditation stuff. he didn't say "just focus" or "just do it". he said bring back foxus again and again. that's new thing and interesting to me. thx.
Wow, this is exactly the journey i had to do -learning to return from a distraction-, I never heard someone put it into words like this
It feels good hearing that you consider it a better use of energy than learning to resist tje distraction, as I still have a lot of shame regarding not being able to do that. thanks!
Thanks bro you legit just told me to focus
Yeah, what we strengthen when we do what he’s saying is our executive function. To keep bringing yourself back like that, you strengthen your ability to step in & take control, and that’s a major deficiency with ADHD.
I find listening to my body and taking frequent breaks to be the best way to accomplish tasks, forcing myself to focus stresses me out too much
Dang, I needed to hear this! I've been wanting to meditate, but can't focus on doing it. Now I know I kind of don't have to, it's the returning to focus that's the goal, not the actual focus.
... yeah this still doesn't make sense
The concept of focus, or the concept of returning your attention when your mind wanders?@@Heyu7her3
My issue with meditation is actually getting myself to be consistent with it, usually I can last about a week and then life gets in the way one day and I don't come back to it for like a month
I might try this, the reason I hate to meditate is because i get impatient but if this can teach to come back I feel more motivated
It’s so easy to forget that getting distracted once for 45 minutes is way worse than getting distracted 10 times in 45 minutes but it means there is some productivity. It’s just so hard to realize that
Your content has been and continues to be deeply impactful in my life, thank you Dr K!!
I need to see more of this when I'm browsing shorts subscribed 😅
Hi! ADHD meditator here! Like others in the comments, this has absolutely been my experience, and I'm relieved to see a reminder that it's not a failing on my part when i inevitably lose focus.
Youre a guru, a light along a that path at night, thabk you for the clarity you bring ❤
tbh Im pretty sure this is why meditation helped me so much when I first learned it years ago. I remember doing a headspace meditation that explained about coming back and something just CLICKED and got better from there.
*busting out stopwatch" I may be easily distracted, but now I understand that I can reduce the time spent being distracted. It wasn't clear why meditation is necessary, but now it's super clear 😂
I definitely need to get back into mediation
Same. Do it!
Stop procrastinating. now or never
@@ditteryso deep bro ✌🏼
Don't bother as ug krishnamurti once said meditation is evil.
@@ditteryU did not just say that like that, when the video topic is adhd. If its that easy people would have just done that a long time ago. It like telling someone with depression to just stop being depressed. Not sure, if u ment it that way.....I hope not.😶🌻
Meditation changed my brain. Before my diagnosis with ADHD. 185 hours in half a year did permanent reconstruction. The ADHD is still strong.
I will take this advice to heart and hope to see a difference as time goes on, thank you for this video ❤
We all know attention is usually not the only problem, a lot of it is also motivation. I found that doing a lot of focused attention is essential for me, because it clears up your mind. But also adding a good amount of non meditation styles is important to "feel like doing things". And even then medication is probably the baseline some people need to be able to do anything at all.
i can 100% confirm this. there are times absolutely NOTHING will help me get back into a productive state, not even adderall etc. the ONLY thing that can do it is what i call „focus meditation“, where i start meditating in a relaxed state, and then transition into an intense, laser-like focus mode within a few seconds, and then relax again every 5secs or so. its like a very intense and even painful exercise for the frontal cortex. do this for 5minutes at a time as often as you need it during the day (=everytime you „fall off“ from productive work). after a few days you become a productivity monster and work 10h days with no distraction.
this is why time boxing works so much better for me than regular studying, when I'm feeling lazy I'll work really focused for 15 minutes or so then good around for 5, when I'm feeling energetic I'll do 25/5
This is exactly my experience. I thought maybe I didn’t have adhd because I was still all over the place but just faster. Turns out I have all of the adhd there is and I will never not be in a constant state of frenetic energy, but now that I have my meds, I no longer spiral downward with intrusive thoughts and I am able to pivot and transition much more seamlessly. I have a system that works for me now. I follow the dopamine every day and don’t judge myself too harshly if I say, completely reworked my backyard in two days all by myself, instead of folding the laundry on the table.
You’re sooo good at delivering info. Thank you!!
this is great advice to all people, with or without ADHD
I thought I just watched a video that said not to think about your breathing, or mindfulness because that's meditation that's suited for neuro-typicals, and ADHDers crave new things, so it will just continue being boring. Anyhow, you're explanation makes sense and I do find I come back to my equilibrium faster after doing 5 minutes meditation everyday.
But I just tried the "aum" exercise for the first time, and although I didn't get a sense of the vibration inside me something did feel a bit different when I came out my room and looked at my picture.. then I tried to sleep and had a weird, almost fever dream about the sound in context with other variables/factors.. it's interesting and I'm keen to try again.
I was just recently diagnosed, this is a great tip
I love the way you describe that I have been trying to get people to meditate for years but everyone gives the same excuses
I love the way that you push your behaviors onto others and then whine when they don’t want to do them.
@@SnailHatan I love how you presume to know what I do no I never whine they do about all these problems they have and I get annoyed because I tell them solutions and they give me excuses
Not everyone is just like you and have tge exact same challenges in the exact same amount and just fail at them while you succeed. Don't assume it's just excuses.
@@tymondabrowski12 ya I don't understand why you think you can guys can attack me when first you don't know the first thing about me or whom I'm talking about second it sounds like you are projecting your insecurities on to me when you try and give up that's failure don't make excuses for yourself I'm not some superhuman that can do something you can't believe in yourself and make it happen and if you they don't want my answer then why do they always come and complain to me is it somehow my fault because you won't fix your problem because if so I don't care anymore
@@SnailHatanI like how we dont try to fix ourselves or own our shortcomings. Instead of playing the cards we are dealt, we complain and stay messed up
So true. Thank you Dr. K
Invaluable insight.
Thank you for this, Doc. 🧡😊👍✨
Love his practical advice. ❤
Thank you very much for the information 😊
or you could just quit trying to be "normal" embrace that and become your intended self. I never plan on doing one thing, I am doing five at all times. I set myself up to be distracted by other things I need to do. Very few things in life are so urgent that they need to be done before the end of the day and even fewer of those things are items that you become aware of the day they need to be done. You have the ability to be distracted, so channel it into productivity instead of trying to force it to act like everyone else. I work one of the most mundane ADHD hell jobs with tons of pointless paperwork, I get it done because I do it all at once instead of one at a time. My only rule is that it doesn't leave my desk until it is done and if I pick it up I have to do something to get it finished.
We are really good at picking up where we left off due to pattern recognition, this is super useful because as I get tired of one problem I can pick up any paper on my desk and jump into a new problem my mind almost instantly remembers where I left off, what needs to be done, and then I just do it.
I really don't understand how people don't look at ADHD traits and think about how these synergize together to make a productive system of success.
True!!!!! I have used/ tried this.
thanks for clarifying
When I’m at work and forced to sit down for hours I get this extreme anger and frustration inside me
I've been doing this for years. Over and over. It gets easier, but it is still exhausting. You slip once and you are back at the start. I am still harming my health and career.
Diagnosed and medicated at 27 years old, this is exactly Adderall does for me; akin to " shifting at the right time in a manual transmission" don't driving up a hill in high gear
There is a method called the junebug method. It's a method to help with cleaning (cuz cleaning is the WORST with adhd)
So basically. In your head, you assign a certain task as the main task. You are gonna get distracted. That's okay. Just remember, like the junebug, eventually you are gonna have to return to the main task. It doesn't matter how much time passed, or how long it takes. A june bug always hmgies back to what it set its mind on.
I guess the same thing applies in other areas too. For example, meditation.
wow i never would have guessed that my issues focusing could be fixed by focusing! next you'll tell me i can fix depression by caring about myself or diabetes by not eating sugar. truly a genius mind
I did meditation for 3-4 days and it surely makes one tough mentally. It reduces the unwanted noise in the brain which causes stress and anxiety. You can feel the calmness in the brain and I'm not even exaggerating. Just sit straight with legs folded, close your eyes and don't think about anything. Its works like magic ✨
Yes, this is what I'm working on as a fairly recently diagnosed 29 year old ADHDer😅 (he said while doomscrolling RUclips shorts.. I'll stop now and get back on track with my tasks😅)
want to come back to this
Meanwhile I have to work in 4 hours and am still watching RUclips shorts. Thanks to this one I will now go to sleep
I never thought I'd see the real Raj Koothrapalli on RUclips.
Focusing on one thing is easy. Ive woked 18hrs . Fell asleep woke up and immediately started that thing again.
Its just you have no control over what that is. Lucky for me its normally building something. Most the time its usful or sold for a profit. But not allways.
Thank you.
I don't deny it's true but it's straight up stressful and strenuous to do so my brain wants to avoid it at all costs. I prefer to do meditation that's for people with ADHD. Most of which is meant for relaxing the mind and accepting the chaos while not being controlled by it.
The problem with this is, we burn more energy doing this. Relsulting in less productive time.
I love this guy
The ashes of those who perished by my flame. Give me a hand. And I will give you a moment's joy in battle.
And what to do with "invisible walls"? It feels like there's a thin glass-like thing in my head between me who thinks and feels and the do-task-button.
And it seems as if they were made from ice, appearing at random one day and disappearing another. I was able to bash through them about three years ago, but now it's unbearable. They do seem to be dependant on mental and physical surroundings, but I'm yet to figure out how to influence them directly
Sounds like executive dysfunction, maybe that's worth looking into?
For me, even though I still have times where it gets the better of me, what helped is realizing that it's NOT actually random. There tends to be some kind of trigger (the most common ones I know from both myself and others are: 1. Being stuck on a decision, 2. Feeling like you need to complete one task before you can start the next one (i.e. I need to study, but I told myself I'd do the laundry first so now if I can't do the laundry for some reason, I won't be able to study), and 3. Not knowing how to approach a task). So what you need to do is pay attention and start recognizing those triggers, and then you can start working around them.
Idk if this is actually what you mean, but it's definitely how I described the feeling before I knew the term for it so hopefully you get something out of this.
@@MothOnAString I can definitely tell that №2 resonates with me. I often plan and get lost into the preparations before something important. Yet there are completely polar cases of days worth of work done without any struggle.
The bigger question is if I’m doing with this distinction as a symptom of something bigger or if it is a problem itself.
My bf has self proclaimed adhd. But i think that he's just a victim of short attention span due to social media because he spends alot of time on it. I've been wanting to get him to meditate since his attention span is so short. I hope it would help
So, it's not about sustaining a complete perfect focus. It's that we have the tool to always be able to return. It's ok too lose foocus. It's improved because I cen return
Right on the money!!!
Medication is the best
Is there a full video on this? Causeeee please link it 🙏
Very good tip.
REVELATION OMG! Thank you
Good for destiny, Honestly no one talks about meditation enough in these adhd discussions.
The world is a much, much more stimulating place then it was 50 or even 20 years ago and there are even religions built around manually tempering impulsivity.
Its hard to say d is taking the emotional position when adhd symptoms overlap with 90% of human behaviour in the first world.
While I wouldnt throw out the idea of medicating adhd, destiny is absolutely justified in wanting to try alternative, organic strategies first.
bet. stopped the short right after you said "45 minutes go by" to do something other than watch more shorts. you're one of the few diamonds in the rough that I feel I can just understand.
It changes the ability 2 focus!😂
This doesn't help though, in my last job role it was highly set tasks with no variety and I'd have to force myself to focus, it ended up exhausting me and constantly felt like my brain was screaming and trying to claw its way out of my skull.
Sure I was already in body deterioration point of unknown burnout but the amount of energy required to constantly put your brain on something that it gets a negative draining response too isn't good.
How would you rate hypnotherapy for ADHD and Complex PTSD. Yes my double whammy 😢
Ug krishnamurti_no freewill no thoughts or actions you can call your own and meditation is evil.
Kind of forgot I was looking at a vid on medition and thought it was just another guy going "just don't have adhd"
Turns out it wasn't, knowing the expectation of how it'll go should be great. So tyty
Does someone know where is this from? Like the video?
whats the original video?
""By the way, I'm aware of the irony of appearing on YT Shorts in order to decry it, so don't bother pointing that out."
this is 100% true
That is exactly what is happening with me
Not me getting distracted watching this shorts.
Excellent
Love that
But then how do I combat the feeling of FOMO that comes with ADHD?
Returning to the original task is easy for me.
It's the FOMO, with the lack of view history with the algorithm is what gets me.
holy shit I've never thought of that
Some good advice
that’s how i learned how to read :)
You are so smart.
full video link
What video is this from?
link to full vid?
It's on the description
You'd think that bit of information about refocusing would be emphasized a bit more..
I really wish i could see the full video in the pinned comments on these shorts
exactly did you find he video?
It's in the description
this is a short bro wheres the description @@bendekbotond4707
45 minutes? A whole day for me
Should I do a dopamine detox? I don't do anything but watch shorts, videos and drugs
I want to completely change my life but always fail, maybe because I'm alone? It would be better to have someone to help me.
Focus on the flame 🔥
Focus on breath
Focus on 💗 beat
Focus on sensation
~~~
Come back to your senses!
Be sensual
Be sensational
Anyone know what the full video is called?
In the description
I just challenge my self to do it in a set time
Shit i was trying to watch a guided meditation not shorts i have to go ❤