I was so against that method until I tried it out (I was so tired and desperate I tried it) and it worked PERFECTLY! I didn't do the 5,10,15 minutes thing, I just let him cry out the fist night for 15 minutes then he felt asleep by his own and that was it!!! First days I was so scared cuz I thought I was "psychologically hurting him", but in the morning he was SO calmed, happy, easy going baby! He even wake up chatting and not asking for us to get him... So NO harm for sure! Letting them cry in some situations it's not bad for them, my baby is the happiest baby on earth and he feels so secure and loved.Thank you for standing up even if some people is gonna dislike it because of wrong ideas, the same wrong idea I had at the beginning before trying it Thank you for being honest and yourself
+Burus Mx I was the same as you against it but then got to breaking point and once I had done it - I wondered why I didn't sooner. We did it from day 1 with my second son and he is an amazing sleeper xx
I was the same! It’s amazing how much happier they are when they learn the skill of sleeping. When I would feed on demand all night with co-sleeping, he eventually got so demanding that he wanted to nurse constantly, and even that became not enough. He was in control, and he didn’t feel safe without Mommy giving boundaries.
Joanna Janina that’s dumb as hell. Cry it out method doesn’t mean make ur baby cry so much that they’re turning red and coughing etc. To ignorant to even fully understand the method.
i started this tonight. my son is 8 months and just got a new crib. but either way he's always been a bad sleeper. im exhausted. the sleep deprivation since his birth has me depressed all day and now, it's effecting my health. in having migraines and heart palpitations which are triggering anxiety. my relationship it's stressed, and i am beginning to resent the baby. now i know that this issue has to be corrected for the sanity and wellbeing of the entire family. crying never killed a baby.
+MindCalmASMR Aw you sound exactly like I did when my first was little, I was a zombie!!! I really hope it all goes well for you - the first few days are hard but I promise i gets better xx
Thank you so much for this. I tried this method last night and it was a rough night but tonight was much better. My toddler fell asleep in minutes and is still sleeping 6 hours later. He has never slept so long. He usually gets up about every 2 or 3 hours to nurse. Wish I could buy you a cup of coffee for this. :)
2mammaR OMG that is such brilliant news!!!! SO pleased - I know the first night is horrendous I cried so much a second guessed myself. By night 5 onwards he was self settling and sleeping through. Thanks for the virtual coffee xx
I use to be against this method but my husband and I are getting no sleep! I always admire moms who had routines and can take care of themselves. They all tell me they did this method and their life has changed!!! I've tried EVERYTHING that doesn't involve crying and we still can't get any sleep. I have no time for anything, myself, to make videos, NOTHING! I love rocking my baby to sleep but it's getting so hard to do anything! It's so bad she doesn't nap that much during the day so I'm always exhausted! I'm desperate and living off coffee! I'm so doing this when my husband takes off work! Thanks Emily
+Joy Ferrell Aw Joy - I totally feel for you I was the exact same. I always thought I'd never let my baby cry but once I took huge step to do this method my baby sleeps through! It is a really hard 3 - 5 nights but then that's it forever. You don't want to be rocking your baby to sleep when they;re 4! xx
Its going to kill me! Im woke now just thinking about it, but I don't know what else to do! I do love rocking her and holding her and I get nervous I won't be able to bond with her other ways. I just feel overwhelmed, but I get no sleep and my hubby and I are also so sleepy!!!
Try this method! And do not forget, we are the ones initiating the attachment problem and perpetuating it. You'll be doing your baby a huge favour training them now how to sleep alone, does not imply in the slightest you are abandoning them or not catering to their needs (that's why the whole padding them on the tummy every 5 min until they fall asleep).
I need to thank you massively for all your tips on how to get your baby to sleep all night, my 7 month old has slept through all month and I'm putting it down to listening to you! And your routine videos have helped me so much too, your a true inspiration and an amazing Mum ❤️
I tried it on Friday and it is working. He is going to sleep on his own for naps too. He almost didn't cry, I was really surprised. Apparently he was ready for it.
I love this...I love how you said you don't like to call it the "cry-it-out method" because it's a skill that is GOOD for them to learn. I've basically done this with my older two children but have mistakenly waited until they were much older. hoping I can make it happen with baby number 3 in a few months when she is a bit older. Thanks for the tips!
Just wanted to say thankyou for this Emily. There's alot of pressure on mums not to do sleep training and just to tough it out but at 6 months I couldn't cope any longer and we did a similar method to the one you described. Knowing that you did it too and are such a long and caring mum and your boys are clearly so happy and healthy makes me feel so much better. So thankyou!! xx
Thank you Emily for sharing this! I was so afraid of this method but we were at the point when my 9 month old son won't fall asleep on the breast anymore and was fighting me when I was sitting next to him and singing him songs / rubbing his back to help him fall asleep. I spent hours to get him fall asleep and was exhausted and he would wake up again in 40 minutes or so. Then I watched your video and you kind of reassured me to try Ferber as you are such a loving mother and if it worked for you I was happy to try it. It made such a difference! In a weeks time my son got the hang of falling asleep without me. He now sleeps so much better and I am happier too. Thank you for that!!
Thank you so much for this video! We’ve just tried this method tonight with my 10 month old son who also has sleep association due to his reflux we’ve always rocked him and held him to sleep but we can’t cope with the lack of sleep anymore! After 23 minutes he has fell asleep on his own in his crib for the first time ever! There was a lot of tears (on both end) but thank you so much it helps knowing other mums have done this I don’t feel so guilty now!
Great method, thank you so much! It is a second day and my little one falls asleep for 10 minutes 😍I decided to implement it first for the day naps and the evening bed routine, consequently will do so for the night wake-ups.
I know that this was posted two years ago but this video has helped me so much! Thank you Emily! :) My baby girl was waking up every two to three hours at night and went straight back to sleep during feeding. This went on for three months until I found this video :) after making sure she was well fed and ready to go to sleep I picked her up so that she was awake before I put her back in her cot and it worked like a charm on the first night. Now she sleeps throughout the night (even for 12 hrs!) and needs feeding only once.
Thank you so much for the tips! We tried the ferber method and it worked for us. My little guy sleeps 7 hours, feeds once and sleeps another 4.5 hours!!
Hiya Emily / Ladies ! 🤗 I really want to do this but I'm worried it'll psychologically/ emotionally alter my child in anyway 😫 Certain doctors say their brains are still developing and subjecting babies to high levels of cortisol (stress hormone) could cause certain parts of the brain to not develop properly. And that they only go silent because 'normally, when humans feel threatened, our bodies flood with stress hormones and we go into ‘fight’ or ‘flight’. However, babies can’t fight and they can’t flee, so they communicate their distress by crying. When infant cries are ignored, this trauma elicits a ‘freeze’ or ‘defeat’ response' ⁉️⁉️ Am I worrying too much ? I breastfeed and my 3 month old obviously has a sleep association ! It's tiring and stressful ! How are your babies emotional well-being? I really need to know guys ! Thanks so much for all responses ! 💜
I was dead against CIO, but my daughter just won’t SLEEP! I’m trying Ferber and it’s working great. I do feel awful when she cries and nothing works, but it’s working 🙌🏻 she’s still not sleeping through the night, but she’s getting there.
Came over from your q&a(loved it😉) ... will try this on my sweet 4month old baby. She sleeps so well through the night and are happy to soothe with a pacifier during the night, but at bedtime she needs to be on my chest for at least 2 hours before I can put her to bed and then soothe with pacifier at least 2 to 3 times. Maybe not such a huge problem, but I do need to be available for my other 3 older children for their bedtimes too.
Jaspy still isn't sleeping through but he's gone from 5 traumatic wake ups a night to 1 or 2 self settling ones and I already feel like a different person! You're so right about routine being key, I need to gives ours a bit more structure and hope that does the job! Fab video lovely 😊
Jessica Thornton So pleased for you - What a difference just getting up once makes! At least that is manageable :-) Yes, my boys (and I) love a routine xx
I used this method aswell. and it was so sad and hard but it really did work. it took us nearly 2 weeks though. I was like you I had to wait till I new he wasn't hungry or anything else wrong.
I used this method with my second child and it worked like a charm, it took about 4 days to work with each day getting easier for him to fall asleep. I was against it with my first child and ended up having all kinds of sleep problems with him. Definitely worth a try if nothing els is working for you.
Glad you had such a success! I've heard a long time ago about a great book, so I started reading it when my girl was born and thankfully I knew these tricks from the beginning. The book is Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child, love it, really helped us a lot and my girl is sleeping very well knocking on wood!
I love hearing different methods on getting your baby to sleep through the night! I am a first time mom and my LO has been sleeping through the night since he was 8 weeks old! Thanks for sharing!
I think we are at the end of our rope to be honest with you :) yesterday she was up until 5am from 12!:) thanks God it wasn't working day for me but it was for daddy:( and he was really cranky this morning :) so keep fingers cross for our little Zoe.
Pursuit of Felicity Thanks I am really pleased - it will look even better soon, it has a bit of animation that won't work until I upgrade my software (which I am doing soon :-) xx
Hi Emily! how the Ferber method worked for you during the day time? Thank you so much for sharing your experience, you help us alot! Much love to you and your family.
25 minutes into Night One of trying this. My son is nearly 4 months old and up till now had to be nursed or rocked to sleep. No sign of self-soothing yet but I will persist. One week of trauma for a lifetime of good sleeping for him and for me has to be worth it.
Kv Denko that's bullshit. If she is giving the baby PLENTY of attention and love and affection in the waking hours and does the method correctly that gets washed away. Humans are a lot more resilient than you give them credit for. If we weren't, we would never make it this far as a species. I'm POSITIVE this mom loves her baby and gives it her best. And what is best for baby is a WELL functioning and loving parent, not a sleep depraved zombie who starts hating her life and her child. That's why sleep deprivation is a go to torture method. It really is a horrible thing.
Hi Emily, my first Bub is 4 months old and I'm exhausted he's exclusively breastfed and has a feed to sleep issue so it's hard when you have to do it all. He won't nap or sleep at night. We are going to start this method this weekend, wish me luck! I'm running on empty x
I really love all your videos Emily. Thanks for always sharing tips and giving me new ideas. We are expecting our first baby girl in December and your videos really help give me an idea on how to handle everything to come. Can't wait. Xxx
Lol - I wrote this then realised I was subscribed on my husband's account - my husband is not pregnant - Iol - I am! I am pregnant with my first child and just watched this video. I see there are comments here that go against this method. Why do those people who hold that view feel its bad for a baby? I genuinely want to know why its not good so I can form my own opinion. How else would you get a baby to sleep who associates sleep with being on their mother's breast or being rocked to sleep etc? Wouldn't it be worse for a baby to not get enough sleep on all fronts that it break the cycle? I really want to know what it does to a child. I'm feeling Im missing something because long term I see a happy child who is getting enough sleep?
I need advice! I have a 7 week old baby girl who will not rest at night. I have two boys that are 6 and 8 years old, and I did the crying out method with them and it worked well. My daughter is a different story! She will scream and is completely inconsolable from about 9 PM until 3 AM (on average) everyday. I'm exhausted! I have tried everything from vibrating swings, front packs, swaddling, white noise, an auto-rocker, crying it out...you name it. I have given gas drops and gripe water, done babty massage and bicycle legs, checked temperature and taken her to the Doc to check for ear infection, she's fine. She will not sleep. She will cry in her room (or mine) for hours without stopping. What can I do??? Thanks in advance from a fried mum!
Tabitha Miller It sounds a bit odd but reminds me of my baby at about 6 weeks old. It might be. alright spourt? She might be still too young for sleep training. I wish I had better advice. I hope it gets better. Hang in there. It will.
Hi Emily. Currently i been having problem during daytime. My baby doesn't want to be left alone and only have short naps like less than hour during the day. This disrupts my errands during the day like cooking and cleaning up which ends up making me very tired by the evening. I am running out ideas how to comfort and makes him sleep longer during the day. He's 3 months old now. Tried baby wearing , it somehow doesn't work for me with my hot and humid climate.
Watching in 2022 and thinking about giving this a go for my 12 week old. I have a 4 year old daughter who I’m worried about him waking at night because his cries are so loud. Any tips for this? Xx
Thank you Emily for this video! If we're not feeding them as often anymore, does that mean we're over feeding them? How early can we implement this method?
There’s actually no solid evidence to suggest that this method causes any damage. In fact even NHS say that its safe to do. There’s a lot of sensationalism stating that it causes emotional damage but that’s simply not true.
Hi, Emily! I found this video very helpful. And I hope it will really help me with my newborn. I just feel exactly the same exhausted 😴 You’ve got nice hair in this video! But your long hair I love more )))
Great that you referred to this vid! Ive been trying this but it breaks my heart... he does sleep ill put him down at 730 or 8 he sleeps for 4 hours solid, then he wakes up around 1 i feed him and he goes back, but he wakes every 4 hrs 😞 he is almost 8 months and I cant find the courage to do this method... my older son have never had a problem with sleep.
very informative video Emily !!! Thanksss.. I had the E X C A T situation as you from 3-9 month😫dead on my feet😣... but what is the ideal time to do the ferber method crying out?? asking for my next baby
How did you make naps work ? We are going to start this on Friday. I've gotten his crib set up now and I'm getting him a mesh crib liner and a "Glow Worm" for the process. Ha ha wish of us
I love your channel! I'm a first time mom with an 8 month old...wish I found you a few months ago lol. My baby sleeps through the night most nights, not sure why she wakes up when she does but it's getting better. My question is how did you get him to sleep till 7am? My daughter wakes up at 5/5:30am without fail. 7am sounds like a dream! Any tips?
U pretty much described my current situation. My son is 4and half months, just wondering is it a good idea to start now.. Or shd I wait.. We cosleep as easier for breast feeding. Any suggestions are welcome. Thanks again for ur video..
from what age do you think i could start to try this? my baby boy is just 5 weeks old and sleeps a few hours at a time before being breastfed back to sleep again every time
Do you follow the same method for day naps & when they wake through the night? My daughter is 10months - definitely has sleep association because I let her fall asleep on the breast then put her into bed with is if she wakes up through the night. How should I drop night feeds as well as teaching to self sooth? I'm happy to do this method, as I think it is effective.
I realise this is an old video Emily, but Im watching this in desperation haha! My 18 month old has been laid in his cot awake since he was weeks old, and he goes to sleep a dream! BUT, he has always been a bad sleeper and will wake up every 2 hours in a foul mood, even now. Ive been trying the Frober method since he was 6 months, and still no luck. :(
Hi Emily, I have been following your channel and love how you are so real, sweet and cheery ☺️ I recently found this video that you did some time back on the Ferber method.. Im wondering if you had to do the same with Caleb & Jacks or were they good sleepers or did you use other methods from the get go which worked all the way? I have two boys ages 3.5 years & 9 months, and I love having boys, they are so much fun 😍. Anyway, my first was a terrible sleeper from the start, waking up the minute he is put down, and every 15mins or so...i was working full time in the day and rocking him to sleep full time at night 😧 we got so tired we co -slept with him until he was 2. My 2nd one was a much better sleeper, sleeping through the night from the early days...up till now... For the past 2 months he has been waking up every 2-3 hours, at first it was teething, then sickness, then hunger coz he also started rejecting the bottle when I'm at work, then teething and sickness again. Now I don't know if he will ever go back to sleeping through the night or if I need to do something about it. I do a bedtime routine of bath books and feed, and usually put him down drowsy but not asleep. But recently by the time we're done with dinner and getting both boys to bed, he's too tired and falls asleep while feeding. I think he has a sleep association to breastfeeding now and I don't know how to break it. How do you cope with teething /sickness nights, and how do you get then to go back to sleeping through the night again? I totally agree with you when you say you are a whole new person and a better happier person when your child sleeps through the night and you get enough sleep too! ☺️ I soooo need it now... 😜
yes! it concerns every single type of sleep,so every time baby goes to bed-he needs to have same thing routine no matyer what,otherwise it's gonna be confusing and will ruin everything (sorry for answering for Emily,I'm just a Mom who had that experience and it worked out perfect,since day 3 for us,one more thing-the sooner you star this method -thw the better and easier it will be,they say after 1 year old it's so much harder.....)
Was it harder when you did this with Fraser at 9 months vs your other boys younger? I need to sleep train my 8mo old daughter but now that she is mobile and can stand in crib I feel like it’ll be so much harder! Should have done this from the get go!
I’m exactly where you were, my daughter is 9 months old and she hasn’t slept through once yet I have to nurse her every 3 hours-ish through the night and I’m gearing myself up to do this so I can finally get some much needed sleep😩 I was just wondering tho, when she wakes in the night i feel I’ll need to nurse her at least once to wean her off it but she will fall asleep on me so is it best to wake her and do the whole crying method at 1am & 4am😭 too or can I put her down asleep and just concentrate on teaching her when I put her to bed? Please say yes, I don’t know if I can handle all that crying 😭
Emily PLEASE help... my son is 9 months old and he has fallen asleep on my breast every night of his life. when I put him in his crib awake and walk away he cries. when I go to check on him he is standing up holding on to the edge of the crib. I know you're not supposed to pick up the child or make eye contact. should I lay him back down each time I go in or do I wait and see if he figures out to lay down on his own? I'm afraid that he's going to get tired out from crying and end up getting hurt.
Would you recommend having a night light as i feel like when my baby was newborn everytime i turned the light off he cried but with this method should i have no light or keep it if hes used to it..? Please advise me emily my son is 1 year old and im still struggling :(
It's going alright -- taking less than 20 minutes to go down and still waking ~4 times, 2 of those times I'm nursing him since he's used to the boob all night. Plan on weaning him off of that later.... I haven't started naps however and I have NO CLUE how to do that. Initially we tried doing The same with naps but he went an entire day without napping which was hell
But how you do like 3am in the morning when your other child sleeping and neighbors too, how then to make all self settling thing to work. My little one wake up like 3 time at night and screams then he wake up all street and neighbors puppies and ect. usually i take to my bed:( then he stops crying. I know its not the best thing to do, but I just worried to much about people around:(
Same here I have 3 other kids and am terrified of them all waking up from the baby so I just nurse her back to sleep. But the sleep deprivation is reeeeeaaal around here 😫. A friend told me she put her baby in a playpen downstairs and a baby monitor in her room and that way she could hear baby but if she let her cry it wouldn’t wake up the other kids. I’m not brave enough to try that yet but it may need to come to that!
My baby is 3months and her interal clock is set for 9pm. We wake her every 4half hours to feed and change her. And i never let her cry why stress her out?
I'm trying this with my 4.5 month old at the moment but I've been told to do every 2 mins at this age and not increasing? Am I not doing it properly? Tonight will be night 4, first two nights were good he actually slept 5hrs! (After constantly waking up every 90min-2hrs for weeks and weeks) but last night he only slept 3 hrs and wouldn't settle for 20 minutes or so. Does it get worse before it gets better?
What is your bedtime routine? How do you know he isn’t hungry in the middle of the night if you don’t pick him up? -Not judging, just sincerely curious.
I struggled with this a lot because my baby is sleeping 12 hours at 6 weeks old... and I thought how can’t he be hungry! I felt like I was neglecting him! But I asked the doctor, midwife, and my mom and they all said that it’s ok because they will eat more during the day (also as long as they are gaining weight it’s all good)
I want to now defiantly try this with my 13 month old. But he keeps standing up in the crib, so should I just lay him down every time I go in? Also in south Africa we don't have heating in our house's, so how do you cover your child with blankets again when he falls asleep? Cos when I check on him at night and do see he has rolled out of the blankets and I do cover him he wakes up. And its beginning of spring now but still really cold at night like between -4°C to 2°C. So I think if he is not covered he will wake up from cold again. I'm breastfeeding him to sleep now every time. But he only sleeps 2-3 hours at a time. So really want to get this done now and not have to wait till summer comes to do it.
my baby is able to fall asleep by herself but she still wakes up during the night at least 4 times, I don't know what to do because I tried to wait before getting her but she would just cry more until I pick her up!
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My son only gets more worked up the longer he cries, so we decided to cosleep and try again at 18 months, and that's ok for us!
Watching this amazing woman in 2020 ... she is such an inspiration... thank you Emily 🥰
I was so against that method until I tried it out (I was so tired and desperate I tried it) and it worked PERFECTLY! I didn't do the 5,10,15 minutes thing, I just let him cry out the fist night for 15 minutes then he felt asleep by his own and that was it!!! First days I was so scared cuz I thought I was "psychologically hurting him", but in the morning he was SO calmed, happy, easy going baby! He even wake up chatting and not asking for us to get him... So NO harm for sure! Letting them cry in some situations it's not bad for them, my baby is the happiest baby on earth and he feels so secure and loved.Thank you for standing up even if some people is gonna dislike it because of wrong ideas, the same wrong idea I had at the beginning before trying it Thank you for being honest and yourself
+Burus Mx I was the same as you against it but then got to breaking point and once I had done it - I wondered why I didn't sooner. We did it from day 1 with my second son and he is an amazing sleeper xx
He didnt ask for you in the morning to get him ,because he knew there is no use to,when parents dont care about him
I was the same! It’s amazing how much happier they are when they learn the skill of sleeping. When I would feed on demand all night with co-sleeping, he eventually got so demanding that he wanted to nurse constantly, and even that became not enough. He was in control, and he didn’t feel safe without Mommy giving boundaries.
@@joannajanina5712 spot on
Joanna Janina that’s dumb as hell. Cry it out method doesn’t mean make ur baby cry so much that they’re turning red and coughing etc. To ignorant to even fully understand the method.
i started this tonight. my son is 8 months and just got a new crib. but either way he's always been a bad sleeper. im exhausted. the
sleep deprivation since his birth has me depressed all day and now, it's effecting my health. in having migraines and heart palpitations which are triggering anxiety. my relationship it's stressed, and i am beginning to resent the baby. now i know that this issue has to be corrected for the sanity and wellbeing of the entire family. crying never killed a baby.
+MindCalmASMR Aw you sound exactly like I did when my first was little, I was a zombie!!! I really hope it all goes well for you - the first few days are hard but I promise i gets better xx
MindCalmASMR I'm on the same boat dear
How are you now?
Thank you so much for this. I tried this method last night and it was a rough night but tonight was much better. My toddler fell asleep in minutes and is still sleeping 6 hours later. He has never slept so long. He usually gets up about every 2 or 3 hours to nurse. Wish I could buy you a cup of coffee for this. :)
2mammaR OMG that is such brilliant news!!!! SO pleased - I know the first night is horrendous I cried so much a second guessed myself. By night 5 onwards he was self settling and sleeping through. Thanks for the virtual coffee xx
Rewatched this video for my second baby as it worked a treat first time round! I’ve also shared it with friends. Thanks Emily! Xxx
Thank you that is so kind of you! Thank you for watching x
I use to be against this method but my husband and I are getting no sleep! I always admire moms who had routines and can take care of themselves. They all tell me they did this method and their life has changed!!! I've tried EVERYTHING that doesn't involve crying and we still can't get any sleep. I have no time for anything, myself, to make videos, NOTHING! I love rocking my baby to sleep but it's getting so hard to do anything! It's so bad she doesn't nap that much during the day so I'm always exhausted! I'm desperate and living off coffee! I'm so doing this when my husband takes off work! Thanks Emily
+Joy Ferrell Aw Joy - I totally feel for you I was the exact same. I always thought I'd never let my baby cry but once I took huge step to do this method my baby sleeps through! It is a really hard 3 - 5 nights but then that's it forever. You don't want to be rocking your baby to sleep when they;re 4! xx
Its going to kill me! Im woke now just thinking about it, but I don't know what else to do! I do love rocking her and holding her and I get nervous I won't be able to bond with her other ways. I just feel overwhelmed, but I get no sleep and my hubby and I are also so sleepy!!!
Try this method! And do not forget, we are the ones initiating the attachment problem and perpetuating it. You'll be doing your baby a huge favour training them now how to sleep alone, does not imply in the slightest you are abandoning them or not catering to their needs (that's why the whole padding them on the tummy every 5 min until they fall asleep).
Joy Ferrell
I so needed to read this today. My 8 months old sleep has gone from bad to horrific!!! Going to give it a go. Thanks Emily
I need to thank you massively for all your tips on how to get your baby to sleep all night, my 7 month old has slept through all month and I'm putting it down to listening to you! And your routine videos have helped me so much too, your a true inspiration and an amazing Mum ❤️
I tried it on Friday and it is working. He is going to sleep on his own for naps too. He almost didn't cry, I was really surprised. Apparently he was ready for it.
chaputime Wow! That is amazing so pleased for you xxx
I love this...I love how you said you don't like to call it the "cry-it-out method" because it's a skill that is GOOD for them to learn. I've basically done this with my older two children but have mistakenly waited until they were much older. hoping I can make it happen with baby number 3 in a few months when she is a bit older. Thanks for the tips!
Just wanted to say thankyou for this Emily. There's alot of pressure on mums not to do sleep training and just to tough it out but at 6 months I couldn't cope any longer and we did a similar method to the one you described. Knowing that you did it too and are such a long and caring mum and your boys are clearly so happy and healthy makes me feel so much better. So thankyou!! xx
Thank you Emily for sharing this! I was so afraid of this method but we were at the point when my 9 month old son won't fall asleep on the breast anymore and was fighting me when I was sitting next to him and singing him songs / rubbing his back to help him fall asleep. I spent hours to get him fall asleep and was exhausted and he would wake up again in 40 minutes or so. Then I watched your video and you kind of reassured me to try Ferber as you are such a loving mother and if it worked for you I was happy to try it. It made such a difference! In a weeks time my son got the hang of falling asleep without me. He now sleeps so much better and I am happier too. Thank you for that!!
Thank you so much for this video! We’ve just tried this method tonight with my 10 month old son who also has sleep association due to his reflux we’ve always rocked him and held him to sleep but we can’t cope with the lack of sleep anymore! After 23 minutes he has fell asleep on his own in his crib for the first time ever! There was a lot of tears (on both end) but thank you so much it helps knowing other mums have done this I don’t feel so guilty now!
Great method, thank you so much! It is a second day and my little one falls asleep for 10 minutes 😍I decided to implement it first for the day naps and the evening bed routine, consequently will do so for the night wake-ups.
I know that this was posted two years ago but this video has helped me so much! Thank you Emily! :) My baby girl was waking up every two to three hours at night and went straight back to sleep during feeding. This went on for three months until I found this video :) after making sure she was well fed and ready to go to sleep I picked her up so that she was awake before I put her back in her cot and it worked like a charm on the first night. Now she sleeps throughout the night (even for 12 hrs!) and needs feeding only once.
Thank you so much for the tips! We tried the ferber method and it worked for us. My little guy sleeps 7 hours, feeds once and sleeps another 4.5 hours!!
Hiya Emily / Ladies ! 🤗 I really want to do this but I'm worried it'll psychologically/ emotionally alter my child in anyway 😫 Certain doctors say their brains are still developing and subjecting babies to high levels of cortisol (stress hormone) could cause certain parts of the brain to not develop properly. And that they only go silent because 'normally, when humans feel threatened, our bodies flood with stress hormones and we go into ‘fight’ or ‘flight’. However, babies can’t fight and they can’t flee, so they communicate their distress by crying. When infant cries are ignored, this trauma elicits a ‘freeze’ or ‘defeat’ response' ⁉️⁉️ Am I worrying too much ? I breastfeed and my 3 month old obviously has a sleep association ! It's tiring and stressful ! How are your babies emotional well-being? I really need to know guys ! Thanks so much for all responses ! 💜
Ooh from a mom to a mom I appreciate this video thank you so much 😊
Thank you again Emily. Have just rewatched this (first watched it when pregnant) and now baby is 6 months old. Love your videos! Nammi
I was dead against CIO, but my daughter just won’t SLEEP! I’m trying Ferber and it’s working great. I do feel awful when she cries and nothing works, but it’s working 🙌🏻 she’s still not sleeping through the night, but she’s getting there.
Emily, you look so beautiful with this hair style!! You should cut your hair like that again! I love it!
Came over from your q&a(loved it😉)
... will try this on my sweet 4month old baby. She sleeps so well through the night and are happy to soothe with a pacifier during the night, but at bedtime she needs to be on my chest for at least 2 hours before I can put her to bed and then soothe with pacifier at least 2 to 3 times. Maybe not such a huge problem, but I do need to be available for my other 3 older children for their bedtimes too.
Jaspy still isn't sleeping through but he's gone from 5 traumatic wake ups a night to 1 or 2 self settling ones and I already feel like a different person!
You're so right about routine being key, I need to gives ours a bit more structure and hope that does the job!
Fab video lovely 😊
Jessica Thornton So pleased for you - What a difference just getting up once makes! At least that is manageable :-) Yes, my boys (and I) love a routine xx
I used this method aswell. and it was so sad and hard but it really did work. it took us nearly 2 weeks though. I was like you I had to wait till I new he wasn't hungry or anything else wrong.
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I used this method with my second child and it worked like a charm, it took about 4 days to work with each day getting easier for him to fall asleep. I was against it with my first child and ended up having all kinds of sleep problems with him.
Definitely worth a try if nothing els is working for you.
Watching in 2018 😁 Expecting my 5th baby and brushing up on baby sleeping tips lol. Love you Emily! Thank you for sharing your beautiful life X
Glad you had such a success! I've heard a long time ago about a great book, so I started reading it when my girl was born and thankfully I knew these tricks from the beginning. The book is Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child, love it, really helped us a lot and my girl is sleeping very well knocking on wood!
That's so great! Wish I was as organised as you were! Xx
I love hearing different methods on getting your baby to sleep through the night! I am a first time mom and my LO has been sleeping through the night since he was 8 weeks old! Thanks for sharing!
I'm going back to work on Monday after my maternity leave and we are definitively going to try out this method!
+Kasia Czulak It is really tough to make the decision but nice to get rest for you and your baby xx
I think we are at the end of our rope to be honest with you :) yesterday she was up until 5am from 12!:) thanks God it wasn't working day for me but it was for daddy:( and he was really cranky this morning :) so keep fingers cross for our little Zoe.
did this work for you in the end?
Those are great tips and clues and ideas. Thank you Emily. You did the research for me 😁😀😊
Thanks so much for sharing your experience and amazing that you could get him sleeping so much better in just 4-5 days :)
Love how the new opening turned out. :) xx
Pursuit of Felicity Thanks I am really pleased - it will look even better soon, it has a bit of animation that won't work until I upgrade my software (which I am doing soon :-) xx
Hi Emily! how the Ferber method worked for you during the day time? Thank you so much for sharing your experience, you help us alot! Much love to you and your family.
25 minutes into Night One of trying this. My son is nearly 4 months old and up till now had to be nursed or rocked to sleep. No sign of self-soothing yet but I will persist. One week of trauma for a lifetime of good sleeping for him and for me has to be worth it.
dustybluebells did it end up working?
4 months is wayyy too early :( one week of trauma=trauma later on. Sorry. Not sorry.
Kv Denko that's bullshit. If she is giving the baby PLENTY of attention and love and affection in the waking hours and does the method correctly that gets washed away. Humans are a lot more resilient than you give them credit for. If we weren't, we would never make it this far as a species. I'm POSITIVE this mom loves her baby and gives it her best. And what is best for baby is a WELL functioning and loving parent, not a sleep depraved zombie who starts hating her life and her child. That's why sleep deprivation is a go to torture method. It really is a horrible thing.
Hi Emily, my first Bub is 4 months old and I'm exhausted he's exclusively breastfed and has a feed to sleep issue so it's hard when you have to do it all. He won't nap or sleep at night. We are going to start this method this weekend, wish me luck! I'm running on empty x
Jess Mabey wishing you luck! Im going to start it as well.
is this working for you?
I really love all your videos Emily. Thanks for always sharing tips and giving me new ideas. We are expecting our first baby girl in December and your videos really help give me an idea on how to handle everything to come. Can't wait. Xxx
Thank you for this. I’m going to try this at 6 months and if it doesn’t work I’ll try again at 9!
Currently dealing with this issue. Thank you for the helpful tips!
Thanks Emily for your video, we’ve done a similar thing with our little girl and it made such a positive difference 😊👍
We are gonna try this today! THANK YOU FOR THE ADVICE, I hope it will work.
Benny44 did it work for you ? And how old is your baby ?
@@cnyapule5860 it is getting better. We still wake up sometimes, but it is doing wonders. Our girl is over a year old. Wish you best of luck.
I have wanted to do this method for a while now but still scared to haha .. might give it a try tomorrow!?! thank you for sharing. xx
Small Steps Ooh the first night is the hardest, I found it helped to get my hubby onboard so he could help me! :-) Good luck xxx
Lol - I wrote this then realised I was subscribed on my husband's account - my husband is not pregnant - Iol - I am! I am pregnant with my first child and just watched this video. I see there are comments here that go against this method. Why do those people who hold that view feel its bad for a baby? I genuinely want to know why its not good so I can form my own opinion. How else would you get a baby to sleep who associates sleep with being on their mother's breast or being rocked to sleep etc? Wouldn't it be worse for a baby to not get enough sleep on all fronts that it break the cycle? I really want to know what it does to a child. I'm feeling Im missing something because long term I see a happy child who is getting enough sleep?
I need advice! I have a 7 week old baby girl who will not rest at night. I have two boys that are 6 and 8 years old, and I did the crying out method with them and it worked well. My daughter is a different story! She will scream and is completely inconsolable from about 9 PM until 3 AM (on average) everyday. I'm exhausted! I have tried everything from vibrating swings, front packs, swaddling, white noise, an auto-rocker, crying it out...you name it. I have given gas drops and gripe water, done babty massage and bicycle legs, checked temperature and taken her to the Doc to check for ear infection, she's fine. She will not sleep. She will cry in her room (or mine) for hours without stopping. What can I do??? Thanks in advance from a fried mum!
Tabitha Miller It sounds a bit odd but reminds me of my baby at about 6 weeks old. It might be. alright spourt? She might be still too young for sleep training. I wish I had better advice. I hope it gets better. Hang in there. It will.
Hi Tabitha, the inconsolable cry could be from colic. Worth to investigate since she is only 7 weeks old.
Hi Emily. Currently i been having problem during daytime. My baby doesn't want to be left alone and only have short naps like less than hour during the day. This disrupts my errands during the day like cooking and cleaning up which ends up making me very tired by the evening. I am running out ideas how to comfort and makes him sleep longer during the day. He's 3 months old now. Tried baby wearing , it somehow doesn't work for me with my hot and humid climate.
Watching in 2022 and thinking about giving this a go for my 12 week old. I have a 4 year old daughter who I’m worried about him waking at night because his cries are so loud. Any tips for this? Xx
Going to try this! THANK YOU 😊
You just described my baby
thanks so much for your video! I'm just telling myself if somebody wants to argue with me about this topic --> "haters gonna hate" :-)
I love you and your videos but this breaks my heart and I can't believe you're encouraging others.
Hi Emily, how did you do with the naps during the day?
Just wondering, would this work for daytime naps too?
Thank you Emily for this video! If we're not feeding them as often anymore, does that mean we're over feeding them? How early can we implement this method?
I just LOVE your videos, Emily! Thank you!!
Thank you, Emily! I think I'll be trying this out this week.
did it work?
There’s actually no solid evidence to suggest that this method causes any damage. In fact even NHS say that its safe to do. There’s a lot of sensationalism stating that it causes emotional damage but that’s simply not true.
Hi, Emily! I found this video very helpful. And I hope it will really help me with my newborn. I just feel exactly the same exhausted 😴
You’ve got nice hair in this video! But your long hair I love more )))
Great that you referred to this vid! Ive been trying this but it breaks my heart... he does sleep ill put him down at 730 or 8 he sleeps for 4 hours solid, then he wakes up around 1 i feed him and he goes back, but he wakes every 4 hrs 😞 he is almost 8 months and I cant find the courage to do this method... my older son have never had a problem with sleep.
Thank you so much for this information. You are a life saver!
Also I'm sorry for anyone who is exhausted from not getting sleep at all or much sleep. Good luck with sleep training if you do it.
very informative video Emily !!! Thanksss.. I had the E X C A T situation as you from 3-9 month😫dead on my feet😣... but what is the ideal time to do the ferber method crying out?? asking for my next baby
iv just started watching your videos and you are amazing mum :) this video has helped me alot x
Thank you!
How did you make naps work ? We are going to start this on Friday. I've gotten his crib set up now and I'm getting him a mesh crib liner and a "Glow Worm" for the process. Ha ha wish of us
I love your channel! I'm a first time mom with an 8 month old...wish I found you a few months ago lol. My baby sleeps through the night most nights, not sure why she wakes up when she does but it's getting better. My question is how did you get him to sleep till 7am? My daughter wakes up at 5/5:30am without fail. 7am sounds like a dream! Any tips?
Hi...can I try this method during the daytime naps on my 3 month old so that later night time will be easier
This is great Emily! Thanks :)
Do you have an upto date video Please? Xx
Do you do this even in the day time if they wanna sleep? Because my baby has got used to rocking 🥺....
Is it necessary to use this method for the day naps as well to make it work?
U pretty much described my current situation. My son is 4and half months, just wondering is it a good idea to start now.. Or shd I wait.. We cosleep as easier for breast feeding. Any suggestions are welcome. Thanks again for ur video..
from what age do you think i could start to try this? my baby boy is just 5 weeks old and sleeps a few hours at a time before being breastfed back to sleep again every time
+Emily Setten (Milly Grace) I don't think I had a real routine until about 10 weeks xx
Emily Setten this is completely normalllll behavior for a five week old! It can be detrimental for your supply as well.
Do you follow the same method for day naps & when they wake through the night? My daughter is 10months - definitely has sleep association because I let her fall asleep on the breast then put her into bed with is if she wakes up through the night. How should I drop night feeds as well as teaching to self sooth? I'm happy to do this method, as I think it is effective.
i love your hair and your voice!
I realise this is an old video Emily, but Im watching this in desperation haha! My 18 month old has been laid in his cot awake since he was weeks old, and he goes to sleep a dream! BUT, he has always been a bad sleeper and will wake up every 2 hours in a foul mood, even now. Ive been trying the Frober method since he was 6 months, and still no luck. :(
Hi Emily, I have been following your channel and love how you are so real, sweet and cheery ☺️
I recently found this video that you did some time back on the Ferber method.. Im wondering if you had to do the same with Caleb & Jacks or were they good sleepers or did you use other methods from the get go which worked all the way?
I have two boys ages 3.5 years & 9 months, and I love having boys, they are so much fun 😍. Anyway, my first was a terrible sleeper from the start, waking up the minute he is put down, and every 15mins or so...i was working full time in the day and rocking him to sleep full time at night 😧 we got so tired we co -slept with him until he was 2.
My 2nd one was a much better sleeper, sleeping through the night from the early days...up till now... For the past 2 months he has been waking up every 2-3 hours, at first it was teething, then sickness, then hunger coz he also started rejecting the bottle when I'm at work, then teething and sickness again. Now I don't know if he will ever go back to sleeping through the night or if I need to do something about it.
I do a bedtime routine of bath books and feed, and usually put him down drowsy but not asleep. But recently by the time we're done with dinner and getting both boys to bed, he's too tired and falls asleep while feeding. I think he has a sleep association to breastfeeding now and I don't know how to break it.
How do you cope with teething /sickness nights, and how do you get then to go back to sleeping through the night again?
I totally agree with you when you say you are a whole new person and a better happier person when your child sleeps through the night and you get enough sleep too! ☺️
I soooo need it now... 😜
what about daytime naps? is the cry out method also applicable? thanks
yes! it concerns every single type of sleep,so every time baby goes to bed-he needs to have same thing routine no matyer what,otherwise it's gonna be confusing and will ruin everything (sorry for answering for Emily,I'm just a Mom who had that experience and it worked out perfect,since day 3 for us,one more thing-the sooner you star this method -thw the better and easier it will be,they say after 1 year old it's so much harder.....)
Hi Emily what age should you look to implement this?
Was it harder when you did this with Fraser at 9 months vs your other boys younger? I need to sleep train my 8mo old daughter but now that she is mobile and can stand in crib I feel like it’ll be so much harder! Should have done this from the get go!
I’m exactly where you were, my daughter is 9 months old and she hasn’t slept through once yet I have to nurse her every 3 hours-ish through the night and I’m gearing myself up to do this so I can finally get some much needed sleep😩 I was just wondering tho, when she wakes in the night i feel I’ll need to nurse her at least once to wean her off it but she will fall asleep on me so is it best to wake her and do the whole crying method at 1am & 4am😭 too or can I put her down asleep and just concentrate on teaching her when I put her to bed? Please say yes, I don’t know if I can handle all that crying 😭
Wonderful video. Thank you for sharing!
Thanks Ashley so glad you like it xx
Emily PLEASE help... my son is 9 months old and he has fallen asleep on my breast every night of his life. when I put him in his crib awake and walk away he cries. when I go to check on him he is standing up holding on to the edge of the crib. I know you're not supposed to pick up the child or make eye contact. should I lay him back down each time I go in or do I wait and see if he figures out to lay down on his own? I'm afraid that he's going to get tired out from crying and end up getting hurt.
Thanks for sharing your method! Did Fraser have a dummy? I’m wondering if our baby has sleep association with his dummy...
Would you recommend having a night light as i feel like when my baby was newborn everytime i turned the light off he cried but with this method should i have no light or keep it if hes used to it..? Please advise me emily my son is 1 year old and im still struggling :(
Is this the only sleeping method you've used? Did this work qith Jackson? Xoxo thanks !
It's going alright -- taking less than 20 minutes to go down and still waking ~4 times, 2 of those times I'm nursing him since he's used to the boob all night. Plan on weaning him off of that later.... I haven't started naps however and I have NO CLUE how to do that. Initially we tried doing
The same with naps but he went an entire day without napping which was hell
But how you do like 3am in the morning when your other child sleeping and neighbors too, how then to make all self settling thing to work. My little one wake up like 3 time at night and screams then he wake up all street and neighbors puppies and ect. usually i take to my bed:( then he stops crying. I know its not the best thing to do, but I just worried to much about people around:(
rita p some people can do it some can't I can't let my baby cry cause i got another 3 kids alseep then will have everyone crying 😂
Same here I have 3 other kids and am terrified of them all waking up from the baby so I just nurse her back to sleep. But the sleep deprivation is reeeeeaaal around here 😫. A friend told me she put her baby in a playpen downstairs and a baby monitor in her room and that way she could hear baby but if she let her cry it wouldn’t wake up the other kids. I’m not brave enough to try that yet but it may need to come to that!
My baby is 3months and her interal clock is set for 9pm. We wake her every 4half hours to feed and change her. And i never let her cry why stress her out?
I'm trying this with my 4.5 month old at the moment but I've been told to do every 2 mins at this age and not increasing? Am I not doing it properly? Tonight will be night 4, first two nights were good he actually slept 5hrs! (After constantly waking up every 90min-2hrs for weeks and weeks) but last night he only slept 3 hrs and wouldn't settle for 20 minutes or so. Does it get worse before it gets better?
Hi Emily! I'm actually curious where your necklace is from? It's beautiful 😊
What do you do if the baby wakes up during the night ? Do you pat them them let them cry for the same pattern ? I.e 5, 10 mins ?
Worked for my son. Not for my daughter-shes always vomited on crying. 20 months and still wakes up to feed...
Does this method work for a 2-year old? And does this work if you co-sleep?
Anybody knows?
Emily,does this method help to stop breastfeedingat night?
What is your bedtime routine? How do you know he isn’t hungry in the middle of the night if you don’t pick him up?
-Not judging, just sincerely curious.
I struggled with this a lot because my baby is sleeping 12 hours at 6 weeks old... and I thought how can’t he be hungry! I felt like I was neglecting him! But I asked the doctor, midwife, and my mom and they all said that it’s ok because they will eat more during the day (also as long as they are gaining weight it’s all good)
❤️love ur video so much !
I want to now defiantly try this with my 13 month old. But he keeps standing up in the crib, so should I just lay him down every time I go in? Also in south Africa we don't have heating in our house's, so how do you cover your child with blankets again when he falls asleep? Cos when I check on him at night and do see he has rolled out of the blankets and I do cover him he wakes up. And its beginning of spring now but still really cold at night like between -4°C to 2°C. So I think if he is not covered he will wake up from cold again. I'm breastfeeding him to sleep now every time. But he only sleeps 2-3 hours at a time. So really want to get this done now and not have to wait till summer comes to do it.
my baby is able to fall asleep by herself but she still wakes up during the night at least 4 times, I don't know what to do because I tried to wait before getting her but she would just cry more until I pick her up!
hello emily can u plzz give written recipes for my baby he not eating every thing i always trying but now i m tired give me an ideas and recipies
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At what age do you think it's safe to start this? I'm a first time mum and not had my boy yet, so just researching :)