i've not been doing well
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- Опубликовано: 12 сен 2024
- a very candid chat about what's been going on with me recently, as well as a general catch up x
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THE SHOWERING. OH MY GOD LITERALLY EXACTLY. adhd sucks everything is just harder to do :(
FOR REAL!!
6:12- I feel so heard by this(I dont do it with showering, but I do it with brushing my teeth, which is similar in my brain)
AND EVERYTHING IS MULTIPLE STEPS
Every task is a million tasks that are perceived as the same size as the collective task would be to a neurotypical person
yeah literally!! and having THAT many tasks to do is sooo overwhelming oof
I really struggle with brushing my teeth as well. Especially if I have ni plans to go out for the day
10:00 this is so real. I have a distinct memory of my mom and i at a Christmas market and i hated the busy crowds and the loud noises ( i had recently been diagnosed w autism) and i wanted to leave because it was too much and she told me that i never used to react like that but a few years later I've realised that i finally started to say something because i knew i was valid and it made sense to be reacting that way. Before i would just try and cope but after getting a diagnosis i understood why i reacted like that and its such a relief to be able to know why you do and feel certain things differently and that's okay. Compared to a few years ago i probably do struggle with things more and need more arrangements but that's because i know it can help me to deal with things better and also, i have more to deal with as i get older than i did a few years ago and i need more support
yes!!! it can be quite a strange feeling when you always struggled with something but pushed through anyways, to then be able recognise that you struggled and not have people around you understand the ‘sudden change’ even though it’s something you always experienced! but i agree i think it can be validating at least for yourself, thanks for sharing!!
omg thank you for talking about this, i also just got an adhd diagnosis and have been dealing with a lot of similar realisations and problems ❤️
it can be proper tough can’t it!! but i hope the diagnosis helps you 💓
Omgg ilysmm and im so proud and happy for you for finally getting a diagnosis!!! Ik it can be hard but i honestly think you are surrounded by great people and i believe u can pull urself out of the dark times when they get hard, youve got this and im so proud of you
🥺🥺🥺 thank u so much!!
I don't have adhd so I don't fully relate to you, but I have a chronic disease that makes me extremely tired and people always think I'm just lazy!! So I do really relate to that in some way. Like stfu, u don't know what it feels like to struggle like that😭
Anyways, I love that you're super open, it makes the channel feel like such a comforting place. Please keep making videos as I LIVE FOR THEMMM (but ofc don't overwork yourself girly❤)
right?? it’s so annoying that people brush stuff like this off when they have no idea what it’s like!
thank u so much i love that you find it a comforting place!! means a lot 🥺💓
also this may be a bit late to mention now as i forgot to mention in my first comment but the stuff u said abour ADHD is bang on and so so true and makes me feel so heard and understood thankyou for even existing!
ahhh i’m so glad to have helped in any way i can! :)
not me watching this on sunday morning getting ready for church, so Christian of me🤪 love you bin 😭🥹
omg christian legend!!! love u binnie 💓
One of my hobbies is gardening 😅 even just having plants in pots, it can be so rewarding plus it gets you outside touching grass lmao
omfg i was actually gonna start!! our garden has gotten really over grown in winter and i needed to get out there and de-weed, maybe i’ll add some cute lil plants too! :)
i am waiting for my assessment but i feel this so much and when you mentioned the sensory thing with the shower and temperature.. SAME! literally never heard anybody else mention it before but it’s such a thing for me. i’m okay when i’m in there and wet lmao but the kind of having to get dry and the weird in between i hate so much :c
YES!! honestly it puts me off doing it so much
Omg your skin has gone so clear!! 👏👏👏
WEEE thanks!!!
you know it’s a good day when Adam posts
So glad your able to talk about your ADHA
Love you adam ❤❤
so true!!! hehehe, and thank u sm, ily 💓
Girlie I have been juggling autism #jugglequeen and getting a diagnosis and loads of stuff you said was soooo relatable and it’s so nice to hear that I relate to a RUclipsr for once!! #baddies🎉
I appreciate you talking about your ADHD I myself have dyslexia and I used so struggle in school a lot but for me personally getting the diagnosis has helped me and I’m doing better and I recently got diagnosed with dyscalculia which is like dyslexia with numbers that’s the easiest way I can describe it but since I just got diagnosed quite recently I do still struggle to find ways to help
i agree i think the diagnosis is very helpful and affirming almost? i hope these recent diagnosis’ help too!! 💓
I related so much to some of this. I expressed my concern that i may have ADHD but yk women and ADHD right. Anyway I tried to get help via my school for this because it was effecting my performance but also my personal life. I kid you not their "diagnosis process" was aitting me down googling the symptoms and asking me "well do you relate to that?" And spewing a bunch of bs that I already knew because I've done my research. Anyway they said "oh you're just anxious" and sent me on my way. It's still so difficult and I feel like my parents have seen so many typical male displays of ADHD that they think it's impossible for me to have it. I really relate to that whole Lazy feeling thing also just the constant overwhelmed feeling I have in my own head and never being able to properly interact socially the way everyone else can. I love my family but im kinda desperate to get out on my own so I can try to get help for this.
ugh yeah i know adhd is so under diagnosed in women and girls, i’m sorry to hear you’re struggling :( it sucks when people around you aren’t willing to listen and validate your feelings but just keep fighting for it! until you’re properly assessed no one is allowed to rule it out for you - and even then because of the way the assessment is so heavily biased towards boys and men i know plenty of women who have had to go through several people until they had a proper comprehensive assessment and they finally got their diagnosis. it’s annoying the loopholes you have to jump through but if you think it proper affects you it is so worth it to fight for it, you’ve got this!! 🩷
thanks for sharing - we have a lot in common and it’s nice to hear someone talk about these things. i’ve found a lot of people brush adhd off. it’s very real, and has a huge impact on our lives.
thank you for listening!! :) yeah it’s frustrating that people don’t see how difficult it can be sometimes!!
The way you describe yourself it's like you're describing myself. Anyway for hobbies I like to paint because even if it's a bit shit it doesn't really matter because it's subjective and it's relaxing in a way if you stick some music on. Anyway ily adam and i hope you have had a good day xx
we’re in this together!!
@AdamZayden I used to do that too. Especially as atm I'm doing art gcse. But I'm kinda learning that it doesn't always have to be perfect. Bit I always look kn pintrest for inspo.
you dont owe anyone an explination!! you're so brave for this though, i know times are probably tough but you're doing great :) we're all proud of you babe x
thank you so much 🥺💓
missed you so much bae 😔 sorry i wasn’t as fast as i could be but seriously hoping your okay and looking after yourself as much as you can!! i recently got my anxiety tablets rlly hoping they work !!
omg don’t worry babes just the fact that you’re here in general is swag 😎 thank u sm babes, yeah i hope they help for sure!!!
Thank you for opening up! you’re amazing
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love ya adam, ur makeup is always such a massive slay and im so happy u finally got a diagnosis
ahhh thank u so much!!
love you so much
ily!! it’ll be so worth it if you fight for the diagnosis, thank u for listening ✨
Okay girly.. YOUR SKIN LOOKS AMAZINGGG❤❤
AHH THANK U!!
tbf youtube is my favourite hobby. video editing is so fun
innit!!! so fun
Such a nice video. I enjoyed watching.
thank u babe!!
adam your skin is looking amazing?? its glowing ❤️❤️❤️
ahhh thank u!!!
you’re welcome love ❤️
SOOOOO RELATABLE!!! I went to get diagnosed with anxiety and I came out with a diagnosis of autism and an ed lol
hahaha yeah it seems like a lot of these things go hand in hand … hope you’re okay my love!
this video hit very close to home today xx luv u lots & hope u feel okay soon!!
thank u babe, sending love your way too!💓
Your skin looks soooo clear recently !
ahhh thank you!! i actually got prescribed something from my doctor and i defo think it has been helping for sure! :)
everything you said about ADHD and autism is SPOT FUCKING ON omgggg!!!! like screaming at yourself in your head like just get tf up and do it and your body is just like how about naaaahhh is so infuriating and I beat myself up about it as well. I am in the limbo stage of I obviously absolutely have ADHD but I am waiting on my assessment appt and I also am pretty sure I'm autistic. love and miss you
YES!!! honestly the struggle is real, the waitlists are longgg but it’ll be worth it for sure! love n miss you too babe!
LITERALLY I JUST STAY IN BED THINKING ABOUT SHIT I NEED TO DO AND I GET SO FRUSTRATED AND OVERWHELMED IN MY HEAD
18:02 - that’s sooooo ADHD 😂
POV: my internal monologue every time I’m going anywhere (I’m late a lot)😅
hahahaha literally i do it EVERY TIME!
HI ADAM I LOVE YOU I hope u feel better soon 💞💞💞💞
LOVE YA!! thank u 💓
21:13 I’m sorry I keep commenting, but I’m a Christian, and this is exactly how I feel about hateful, condemning people who use religion as an excuse to be hateful. Thanks for talking about this 😊🫶🏽
omg never apologise for commenting 🤪 yeah this is what i mean! i’ve seen religion be celebrated in such a wonderful way and i hate that there’s so many people that taint it!
@@AdamZayden yes! Thank you!
I collect mental illnesses like infinity stones too 🤣and I joke about it which makes people feel really uncomfortable but that's just how I deal with it all I guess. I have OCD, ADHD, anxiety, depression, PTSD & autism lets just say my head isn't the most pleasant place at times
hahahah we’re in this together then!!😎🩷
off topic but your skin looks so good!!
thank u sm!! 💓
i am trying to get diagnosed with adhd, but i genuinely dont feel like people are listening to me..as you said, daily tasks are harder to do but my mom does not understand and i dont feel like she is willing to. she just classifies it as "teenage brain" and laziness, im so tired. i am 17 btw so i am not exactly in the very early teen years if that makes sense.
yeah that really sucks, again i think it comes with such a lack of understanding and awareness of what struggles really come with adhd. it sounds like it would really be worth looking into it if you can!
@@AdamZayden thank you ❤️
hope you're feeling better babes xx also i think that was my question about who you're living with haha xx
thank u babe!! slay well i’m glad to have answered your question 😎
Youre amazing always🩷🩷🩷
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Almost every time I see anyone, who's also got quite the collection of brain conditions, I'm like. that is SOOO me when I...
But you do get like a "many in one deal" with mental health conditions. I'm 18 and have been finding out about the existence of mental health conditions since I was 14. I have discovered that I'm infact NOT lazy, weird, stupid or annoying. I just happen to be autistic, have adhd, anxiety disorder, binge ed, cptsd and maybe possibly depression because of all of that. Idk if I'm depressed tho or if that's just all the executive dysfunction and sensory issues and gender dysphoria stressing and severely upsetting me..
hahaha honestly same sometimes i hear other people talk about their stuff and i’m like … wow this is relatable!
yeah i feel like i’ve just slowly been picking them up from my teenage years too hahaha, but again i find that getting these diagnoses can validate you like you say, you realise you’re not all of those things you just have conditions and/or disabilities!
Missed you bestie
🥺🩷!!!!!
your doing amazing i can see the growth of you i am so proud of u 💕this video helps me so much x
"comment below what your relig is" 😭ily hope you're well 😙
also omg love the lip colour
hahaha i’m such a deeply unserious person 😭😭
thank you!!
i looove having silly hobbies like am i reading 1984? yes! but am i also playing dress to impress on roblox? U CAN BET UR ASS I AM XX
HAHAHAHAHA we love the dualities of people xx
Omg luv you so much ❤
ily 💓
i love you so much
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do ya love me rump pam pam pam pam pam
periodt!! 😎
do the patchacuti 💃🕺
yasss horrible histories slays 😎
21:03 Well since you asked, my *relig* is quite a lovely one IMO. I'm a member of The Satanic Temple, so my religion doesn't allow any bigotry. No hate allowed, just gotta be nice, rational and always live by what science says. The way I be upcycling all my old clothes and all the old clothes I get my hands on is so satanic, upcycling is very good for nature. TST in my country fights for LGBTQ rights, esp trans rights. I joined immidiately when I found out about TST :)
oh wow that honestly sounds like a great religion to go by tbh!!
sertraline made me feel the exact same way!
omg twinzies!!xo
@@AdamZayden 👯♀️
Doctors had a 4 for the price of 1 special on
LMAOOO
im muslim! love your vids xxx
slay slay!! thank u sm
I dont know wether or not I have adhd or autism but two counsellors ( one being my best friends ((dont ask he talks about me in therapy no clue why)) ) but they both have said I could have adhd or autism but I dont know how to actually get anywhere to actually get tested.. im only 15 and I have no clue whatsoever. pls help🤣🤣
for me i booked an appointment with my GP and just asked to get referred! and then i was put on a waitlist and eventually got an appointment! can be a bit of a faff but it’s defo worth it if you suspect!!
@@AdamZayden oh my god thank you so so much for replying I didnt see this!! I love you and thanks for the advice
ADHD is a superpower, but it’s a really crap one. 😂
Like we have an overactive imagination and remember lots of random stuff, but on the other hand everything sucks. The paralysis, the overstimulation, the mini-tasks in every “single “ task, forgetting to eat, the stress, mental blocks, the zone-outs, forgetfulness, etc
It’s so tiring. Doing the same thing as a neurotypical person can be absolutely draining for us. We just need to figure out what works for us 😅
yeah i agree completely! don’t get me wrong i can appreciate the good parts like you’ve said, i think not enough people know about the harder parts though for sure, the struggle is real!!
she sounds like what fergie was trying to do during her national anthem performance
(this is a compliment)
wait who? hahahahhaa
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