Make sure your mental health is good too, dad! It’s hard juggling everyone else’s emotions along with yours too. Good job on making sure mama and baby are doing good and taken care of also ❤
Matt you truly are an amazing support system for Abby! Please don’t let postpartum take Abby away from you and your family. Please don’t let postpartum take Abby away from HERSELF!! God bless
⚠️‼️⚠️‼️⚠️‼️⚠️‼️⚠️ Hey you wild and crazy little lovebirds, don't forget; You _CAN_ get pregnant while breastfeeding.⛔️ 😉😋 CONGRATULATIONS!!! And happy belated birthday and welcome to the world, sweet little one! ❤🥰🥳
No. Stop exploiting your kids! The child can’t even make out his parents features yet, and you have a camera shoved in his face, and are over sharing details about HIS life already. Gross! This needs to stop. Abby is wising up. The sooner she kicks this overgrown man child to the curb…and/or makes him stop…the better (the fact he uploaded this at all tells me he wasn’t impressed by anything but what the footage would do for/provide him)! She could do so much better for herself, and for her boys!
One of the strangest things that happen after giving birth is that nobody says hi to you anymore. They just grab the baby and give it a whole lot of loving and you’re left standing in the doorway saying hi to the walls.
Sad truth. Reason why i don't wanna have a kid. It's like they take care of you, protect you like an object that's gonna break soon, give you all the things you love to eat etc... when I realise that all these special treatings are not because they love you who was living for years but, for an unborn human that hasn't even form a relationship with. It's so sad. This is the reason why I don't want a kid. It's never worth it (for me). I hate it so much. But, I still support mamas. I was born alone, I am alone and then people love me, and at the end you are again alone when a baby comes. You'll just hate it, i mean idk about others but, surely i will hate it. No thanks i'll never get pregnant just to satisfy others. I'll have a baby using the new techno way but, still i will treat everyone equally and never mind if they don't care for me because at least i will not feel sad for enduring a pain for more than a year (including pregnancy)
@@nery_alfaro My life is my life. It's all about me. But, i won't get pregnant and that will remain the same. Edit:- why do people hate me when i say my opinion tho 😬 i mean everyone are different so why do others give me a sh*t. Some type hate comments towards my opinion which won't even affect them, but, they act like i'm living from their money and does a bad effect for their lives. I don't understand why others are like this.
@mothertrucker936 I always tell my friends that the moment they have a baby, we will no longer be the friends we were before. We will still be friends but unfortunately I'm not going to get all wrapped up in their kids lives. I have a tone of nieces and nephews and I'm burnt out on people thinking that their kids run everyone now and now i have to adjust my adult life for their kids. No thanks. My best friend had a baby and she said "you weren't joking". I said "sure wasn't". Your going to have to find some mom friends now.
I got sent home alone, as a first time mum, on my own and breastfeeding and had to walk the entire length of the hospital out less than 24hrs after an emergency c section. C sections are no joke! It's so lovely that she and baby have you there supporting them ❤️
Judging by your mum spelling you’re either British or Aussie and as a Brit I’m really surprised they let you go home that early. Usually hospitals will keep you for 2 nights at least sometimes up to 4.
It’s so crazy because he’s expressing how hard this journey has been and on top of that he’s filming it from multiple angles!! It’s wild to me that people can even think about picking up a camera in moments like this. 🤯🤯🤯
It's their job. And if they're comfortable and able, isn't it a good thing to see the RAW and REAL of starting a family, giving birth, etc.? So many young couples are struggling because they're not told the truth about life, and just how hard it can be and how many feel worthless because of COMPLETELY NORMAL feeling they're having in the moment. But go ahead and find something wrong with it.
@@lunamoona1505Its normal to feel that way, cos everyone is tending to the baby, and she's in pain, and extremely emotional. Matt was sleep deprived as well, and also had many other things to take care of, as well as support Abby, he did AMAZING, and I'm sure he was there helping and trying to make her feel loved and comfortable, as much as possible. He always does. And compared to some dads, he's a GEM.
The way that you're seemingly putting your experience on the same level as hers is wild. She just had surgery, her hormones are all over the place from creating a whole human, and lastly she's sleep deprived. You're sleep deprived. I hope that's not getting twisted.
Right? Like, obviously this will have a major impact on him too, but don't say "we" when you're talking about your partner literally getting cut open and pumped full of drugs.
he did went through emotional struggles as well, and that’s okay. Abby obviously didn’t say a thing in the video, so it’s all Matt‘s POV. Of course it’s gonna be about him, I’m sure once Abby feels better she’s gonna share a lot of stuff that could be seen as a POV as well. This is a couple channel, if Abby would have not felt like this video was okay, they wouldn’t have uploaded it in the first place.
@@einfachalinaThe new podcast he says he didn't talk to Abby for two days shortly after she gave birth. 😢 Seems like more than an understandable struggle.
As always. He has always done this, but the young fans don't spot it because they are young. I don't mean any offense to young fans, but with life experience comes the ability to spot damaging behavior and recognize patterns of behavior. He puts his BEST self forward and spins thing to make himself look like husband/father of the year, and you can STILL notice a bunch of things that absolutely scream textbook narcissistic.
@@einfachalina the problem is that Matt's POV is strategically designed to paint himself as a saint while shifting blame and character attacking others. When there is no way to twist things, he shares blame as to make himself seem enlightened and honest. Otherwise, he does sneaky little things to embarass, put down, and shift blame on abby. Evvverrrything he does is carefully calculated to continue recieving adoration from young fans online, regardless of how dogshit his behavior and actions are. Matt is dangerous and unhealthy, he is not what any young person should hope for themselves in terms of a partner. I wish there was a better way to understand other than "with age and experience comes the ability to recognize this stuff." The people calling out his behavior aren't hating, we are continually observing a very distinct pattern of behaviors that suggest he is a narcissist, and because narcissists are dangerous, we call it out to inform others.
@@nikki1400 maybe you’re right, I mean you aren’t the only one that explained it that way to me/trying to put it as respectfully as possible. So there definitely must be something about it. In regards of the fight they had where they didn’t talk to each other right after birth I simply thought „it’s better to remove yourself from a situation than let is escalate“, trying to make a excuse on their behalf.. but y’all are definitely right. I can’t really spot all of the damaging behaviour you mentioned YET but I’ll be careful with what I say in the future since I’m well aware that I’m kind of romanticising their online personas. :)
It’s so emotional seeing her not having to go through it by herself, it’s hard to recover from those wounds physically and mentally when your partner thinks it’s mom’s problem alone. I’m so happy for you and I wish nothing but a calm recovery. You got this!! ❤❤❤
@@gondametzger6146 exactly, all he wanted to do was shove a camera in her face and play happy families for RUclips content not support her because he was having a meltdown about his ‘career’. Abby deserves more.
@@rileymannfeld8741There are many other comments saying at, he said in his podcast at he gave her for two days the silent treatment right after the C-Section.😢
@@rileymannfeld8741 he admitted to ignoring her and giving her the silent treatment for two days. Because the baby being born interrupted his music career plans 😮💨 he interrupted her to defend that he didn't do anything wrong. It's on the podcast
Matt couldn’t put his little music career on hold for a day after Abby gave BIRTH. He ignored her for TWO DAYS after she gave birth. He’s lucky she didn’t leave him. He doesn’t even acknowledge that her pain is 1000x worse than his. It’s not “us” it’s HER.
@@crystalyousefi7266apparently he does pdcasts and on one of them he said how he gave her the silent treatment for two days because his career was interrupted by the GODDAMN BABY BEING BORN. Also hes apparently been posting a couple of vids(shorts) that gloos over the fight they had about breastfeeding and basically bad talking her for trying to breastfeed the baby. (He tried to put it on formula but that apparently makes it very difficult to start breastfeeding since its so much harder than a bottle.) Ofc, take this with a grain of salt, im not the most informed, but thats the gist of what ive seen so far.
@@crystalyousefi7266 It was in one of the recent podcasts, he outright admitted to ignoring her and he was just so dismissive. Plus this video and some others, he just will not recognize that his difficulties were insignificant compared to Abby, how difficult birth is. He’s kind of bullying her at this point
😂😂 exactly! A planned c-section where he more than likely got a full nights sleep the night before and a chilled out morning heading to hospital and then to sit on his bum on a stool in theatre while the baby was born 😂 it wasn’t like she was in Labour days! With my second I was in hardcore Labour 4 days neither me nor my husband got any sleep so he was almost as exhausted as I was as he was supporting me!
Yes him too, the emotional damage of his wife in pain. What do you want your husband to not care about you?? Feminism is so focused the hatred of men that what you're complaining about don't even make sense anymore.💀🤦🏾♀️
So hes not allowed to have feelings or be exhausted. He ahd to watch his wife in pain for hours and when a new baby comws constantly be worried something will go wrong
While a man is in a different state after watching his wife give birth, the use of “recovery for us” is not correct. Abby is the one who did work for 9 months, had her body cut and now has to continue to work for her recovery and feeding her baby. Matt, it’s all about Abby at the moment.
Yes she went through a lot but they went through it together and Matt obviously went through his own issues as well. He worded it right, it acknowledges BOTH of their journeys .
@@amazingwrldofkaylah8575the problem here is that its implying his problem is the same as hers. His wife is the one dealing with it. Hes just sleep deprived
if she felt overlooked why would you film all of this instead of being in the moment with her? this is about her health and well-being, not clicks or internet fame
For real. People forget that giving birth is a literal *life or death* situation for both the mom & baby. Even if the pregnancy is healthy with no complications, anything can happen. This was Abby’s second birth in less than 2 years. I’m mad he even brought the camera out while she was in so much pain.
“It wasn’t the physical pain that wrecked US” says the man who did absolutely nothing physical in this situation besides being present. Maybe Abby’s emotions are stemming from ALSO being extremely uncomfortable from a major surgery. I felt emotional 2months pp when I had my gallbladder removed. It was hard not grabbing my baby and moving easily, and that wasn’t even directly after birth.
Ah. Focus on one statement that you can zone in on and hate. But ignore the whole rest of the video where he's being very respectful about both his experience and hers. Also would you rather hom speak FOR her? Or what
@succyamum4127 the man admitted on the podcast that when he was filming this from multiple angles & moaning about broken sleep.... he'd stopped talking to her because she was getting too much attention. Vile behaviour.
Beeing in exact the same Situation i can tell you he speaks the truth. The pain from the c section gets better in a view days but the emotional Part is very Hard and a dad has limited things he can do. It was horror in the Hospital where they come whenever they want.
I will forever be grateful to my husband after my c section. Hospital staff was very low and he had to look after me and our newborn. I was very sick. He slept on a hard hospital chair, that didn’t recline, for 4 days… and never complained once. To the men who have been through this, you’re hero’s 😊 It’s always about the mother and babies during this time and I feel like our partners don’t always get the recognition. Big love to you guys, our silent knights in shining armour 💓
Men like your husband are so rare. I’ve seen many who make it al about them as if their partner didn’t just have a whole ass child and major pain and changes to their body (be it vaginal or c section delivery). I hope I find a guy like that. We need more men like him.
I am so grateful for your honesty about what it's like to have a newborn. Women are fed this story of sunshine and rainbows when in reality, it's stitches, diapers for both mom and baby, exhaustion, fear, emotional rollercoaster, physical pain, etc. Yes people get through it but I think it would be easier if they had an idea of what it's really like.
I had amazing nurses after my delivery except for one. She left me crying, overwhelmed alone while my husband was getting stuff for us at home. She gave me the “figure it out” kind of attitude. This phase is so so hard. Take things one day at a time.❤️
This is why we (my mom and I) sent my husband home after the birth. He was already sleep deprived and we decided it was best if one of us was well rested when we got home. My mom was much better equipped to help me through that first night anyway.
seriously can’t believe somebody would give another human being the silent treatment for days, let alone someone who didn’t even do anything, let alone someone they love, let alone the person that birthed their child, let alone not regretting it 😦😦 i always thought they were such a wholesome couple but now i’m feeling bad for abby, not only for what he did but there are significantly higher rates of postpartum depression after a c section maybe i’m just some rando that doesn’t know anything about their life but jeez man
And this folks is why you don't have babies back to back. Your body needs time to rest, doctors reccomend 2 years at least. Please be careful and make sure you have a strong support system yall
Dude shut up like any man who feels like they are with the mother in all experiences of a birth or pregnancy is greatttt half the men I see won’t even stay awake during any of it I give him props cause he’ll it does hit him too that’s his wife his love if she’s hurting so is he
@@bryannamilligan4139he ignored her. Full silent treatment FOR TWO DAYS. So he showed up, he made it about him the whole time because he was upset the baby "took time from his music career" after acting like the most supportive person on the Internet when they found out they were expecting so soon after their first. He literally interrupted her when she was talking about the 2 day silent treatment to say he didn't feel like it was wrong.
I’m sorry but in these circumstances, the only thing that is important is the health of mom and baby. You guys have that. Everything else will fall into place. I’ve been there, I know and I had twins. Don’t loose sight of what is important. Nothing but love
I feel for women who have c-sections. The amount of stress and pain our bodies go through normally then that on top. Sending our love to you guys from 🇦🇺🤗🤗
Matt you keep saying “us” yet I didn’t see you on the table having a c-section, or go through 9 months of pregnancy, or the rush of hormones through all of the pregnancy and birth…. You quite literally did nothing but ignore your wife AFTER SHE GAVE BIRTH TO YOUR CHILD because you were sad and thought you couldn’t continue your music career
Agree. “It felt like the world was ending” is a cruddy thing to say about bringing your child into the world. If anything it’s a new beginning, and he should be expecting it considering he chose to have a second child for content. Matt wouldn’t even have a platform to promote his music career if it weren’t for his wife and kids.
So husbands aren’t allowed to feel fear, anxiety and other emotions around the idea of a new child? Don’t get me wrong Abby went through the most, but is the husband meant to just shut up and bottle away their feelings, concerns and etc?
@@bruhmoment6275when their wife was literally cut in half to bring a human to the world, the least a husband can do i sick it up for a while. It's called being a father
@@claudiaescoe7861weird how his solution to knowing his wife was in immense pain physically and emotionally was to give her the silent treament like a toddler. It's because he wasn't thinking about her and he was thinking about HIS music career. While his wife is still recovering from major surgery and his new baby has just been born this is the moment he throws a tantrum and ponders that his music career might be over. Dude had 9 months to plan for this and did it right after the birth of his child. Selfish and wouldn't be surprised if this type of behavior continues.
@@claudiaescoe7861 him “being a team” consisted of him ignoring her for 48 hours and practically telling her she was starving their newborn because he was fussy with latching. Definitely doesn’t sound like teamwork to me when he left her in the hospital to go get himself food. And didn’t bring her anything back, or adding more stress on his wife that just had a c section because he was sad his non existent music career was pushed to the side FOR HIS CHILD
@@henri-hugoparik3982well i don’t know all the details, but ive heard matt gave her the silent treatment for 2 days after she had the C section because he thought the baby was effecting his career or something. he confirmed this on the podcast too its not just rumors.
I had an emergency c-section and my baby went straight to the NICU. I didn’t get to hold him until 18 hours later. That was really tough. 15 days later he came home and now he’ll be 11 in two weeks!
If you don't get up and walk it can lead to blood clots which can lead to death. Honestly it helps the recovery time so much as well, the sooner you can get up and walk the easier your recovery will be, at least in my experience and I've had to go through this twice.
as a nursing student this is not the way we should look at this situation! I agree that women’s pain is often overlooked in clinical settings, but in this instance, her nurses are having her get up and walk around to avoid developing something called a deep vein thrombosis - aka a blood clot. DVTs are most often caused by immobility, so early annulation after surgeries is standard procedure, and we try to medicate the patient as much as we can to minimize their pain while they’re walking. believe me, nurses don’t love making people get up and walk while they’re clearly in pain. we’d love to let you rest as long as you need to, but we’re also trying to weigh complications that you haven’t considered!
I couldn’t walk the day after having a C-section because of complications, and when that happens, they put these things on your legs that shake them every fifteen minutes so that you don’t get blood clots. Try sleeping with those things on. Would much rather have walked the day after. Perhaps my experience wasn’t typical, but the pain just wasn’t all that bad for me.
Well, he actually ignored her for the first 48h of the baby being there so i don’t know about that. If you wanna hear them say it, listen to the podcast where they talk about the birth
I remember that about my c sections. They bother you constantly. I’m like “just let me sleep!”❤ it will get better. Prayers for a safe and speedy recovery.
Such sensitive babies in the comments! This video was from his point of view and he was respectful and supportive to his wife and you guys find some fault!
Matt...I truely appreciate your honesty, humility, and maturity when talking about this. No shade, but a LOT of men (and women) could do with understanding this !!! Thank you for sharing your experiences....and congratulations to all of you, beautiful wee family !!! 🌟🙏🌟
Most new parents have no clue how much their lives will change over night. But you adjust and get to hold this beautiful baby. The love a parent feels for their child is not like anything you've ever felt before. It's actually painful. ❤️
Thank you for sharing the reality of not just the highs but the lows as well💕 that’s really brave and you’re being so supportive to all of the new parents by letting them know it’s okay and normal if things aren’t all sunshine and rainbows right after having a baby
Congratulations beautiful parents! Tell Abby she’s a star. Prayers of quick healing and support going your way. Both of you sleep when the baby sleeps. Don’t worry about anything, accept help when offered it will help you out in a big way. Hugs and Live 🤩
Even with all the help I got from my husband and mom after my emergency c-section, I seriously felt like the world was ending. Childbirth is so hard, the hormone crash is so hard, caring for a newborn while healing is so hard. But it helps tremendously when you have a support system.
You guys are so sweet!!! Btw, I didn't know this until my third birth, but you can usually refuse those night time check ups. My rockstar nurse offered to put a 'do not disturb' sign on my door (or however they word it). It was so helpful!
I think for a C-section they check more often cause it’s major surgery. Like trapped air or gas after a C-section is a really big deal. Blood clots and not being about to use your bowls can also happen.
Yes, here too. I had to stay 3 weeks in the hospital after my emergency c section because my daughter was born 7 weeks prematurely. When I could shower by myself and pee they changed rooms and let me stay and sleep in one room with my baby who was laying in the incubator. If I wanted to rest I could put up a sign at the door and they were very respectful of our privacy as long as my baby health was allowing it. They also taught us how to take care of such a little baby and we noticed the more we could do ourselves, the less they needed to come in. Sometimes they would only take a peek through the door and see how we did and left.
I remember sobbing in my hospital room because I felt so alone and overwhelmed. My husband was great but we had other children and I was in too much pain to hold and bond with my babies. The recovery absolutely sucked and I had a c section and twins.
I know it’s hard but you will get through this, and once all of this pain is over you will look back and remember how much of a blessing it was to have auggie🤗
It is definitely hard recovering from a C Section. When I had my first Son in 2002 it was so painful, when I had my second Son, I was cut more, and my third Son I was cut from hip to hip. My Second Son was an extremely high risk pregnancy from us being exposed to Carbon Monixide Poisoning. It killed my Fiance and our 2 year old Son. I was lucky to survive from that and my unborn Son survive also. My OBGYN at that time told me that he had done research on a pregnant woman child surviving. He didn't find any because there's not a pregnant who was pregnant and her unborn baby survive. So I'm extremely blessed to be alive and my Son's also. I'm a Single Mother and took care of my Son's while recovering from a C Section. I'm praying for you guy's. I'm so happy and excited that you had a healthy baby. And safe delivery. Children are a Gift from God and our little miracles. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I love Jim Gaffigans line about people asking him what it’s like having 5 kids. He said, imagine you’re drowning and someone hands you a baby. To me, that’s what it felt like with each one!
I feel you, I had one that wasn't planned at all. Natural birth is painful when baby comes out as via a c-section but after that the pains are soo brutally, feeling like your organs are coming out, when trying to move a bit or so more during walking. My body needed long recovery had to stay in hospital for two weeks.😢 Luckily that was 17yrs ago. But at I always needed help to breastfeeding my newborn felt so bad at I couldn't do it all by myself. 🥺 And the milk, I had was alot at I had even to pump much of it cause my body was producing milk so much it did hurt as well and they took my pumped milk for mothers, who couldn't breastfeeding their newborns which made me feel better. The nurses called me the cowgirl.😅😮
I had to have an emergency c-section with my last one, during the pandemic. It was rough, to say the least. It's so beautiful to watch you two support and love each other. ❤
I just lost my new born baby. I hope instead of feeling sorry for yourself for the “emotional pain” of having a baby, you will think about your blessings and see things in perspective.
😂😂😂, I loved how he said, recovery hit US! There is NO "us" when your the one being cut open, birthing a baby, being sewn closed, waking up for feeds, forbtests, when baby moves, all while healing from a surgical wound. Lol US... yeah... 😂😂😂
Given the recent tragedy regarding social media influencer Ruby Franke’s arrest for child abuse, it’s time to enact legislation to protect minors who are being filmed by their parents in these for-profit family vlogs. There are strict guidelines for child stars in the tv and film industry. The same protections should be afforded to minors (like yours) who are often unwilling participants in their parents’ quest for internet fame and the money that comes with it I hope something is done soon.
A huge congratulations! If only all partners were this nice! Some Dad's forget that birth especially csection recovery is brutal for a new mom, and leave her all alone for the whole process, went through that 4 times. Not fun. Would be a lot easier with a loving partner. So to all the good partners out there, you don't know how much you are appreciated!
Thank you for sharing this kind of content. I’m reaching 30 and I feel this immense pressure from my friends and family to have kids and I’m truly just NOT READY. For the reasons you mentioned. And that’s OK!! ❤
I’m 24 and 6 weeks pregnant, crying and watching all of your videos. I’m saving them all to a playlist to watch again because they’re so real and helpful and relatable…all of which I am going to need as part of my support because I’m living abroad with my husband currently. I’m also so inspired of Abby’s resilience, I hope to learn from it and push myself to be healthy like that postpartum! Thank y’all 💖
I know the feeling Man. I had a C Section too. Was beautiful. I remember after he was born I couldn't stop shaking. They told me it's normal. I wasn't in pain. I was soar a little. But I remember I had to go to the bathroom really bad. They wanted me to use a bed pan. But I wanted to use the restroom. They said if I can make it there. I did with the help of my Mama holding onto her arm. I walked it wasn't hard but I did it. And used the restroom. Thankful for Mom's. The next day I walked the hallway. My son was born at 4:46am I was bombarded with visitors. My Mom took care of my son for me. Wanted me to sleep. I couldn't sleep with so many visitors. Finally evening came I had peace. My Mom left to go get herself some food. She told me if I need help for the bathroom change his diaper anything to buzz my nurse. I wanted to do it by myself. I didn't want any help. My son was crying I wanted to see him. Even tho I was in bed everyone was bringing him to me. I breastfed him. He was in his cradle. I got up walked to him by myself holding onto the bed. This boy was so beautiful. I did it and I changed his diaper. I was so proud to be his Mom. Now he's 11 years old. He will be 12 in December. I do miss his baby stages.
I understand that this experience affected him in many ways, but the best thing he could do is be there for her. Clearly it sounds like he wasn’t in the beginning if she feels overlooked and was ignored for two days. Dude come on this experience obviously affected her way more than you…
Omg the constant nurse visits is what sent me and my husband over the edge. While we knew it was (mostly) necessary, it was so irritating. You guys did amazing.
Awww the poor baby with his sleep mask so he gets his beauty rest… ICKKK! My husband barely slept at ALL for FIVE DAYS after my c section so I could sleep between feeds for my daughter. Your wife was just cut open after carrying a baby for nine months.. this really shows your immaturity in so many ways and it’s very narcissistic. I feel bad for your wife ….
I was wàlking about 2 -3 hours after birth. This was 42 yrs ago. I cheated and asked for general anesthesia. At that time spinal block kept you layed out flat for 24 hours. Found out I had a girl first birth and a boy the second. Pain was easy not bad. Not everyone is the same and giving birth is different for everyone. For me - I hated being pregnant but love my kids. Had tubes tides at 21 because I hated it so much. Congrats on your baby, enjoy every moment.
One of the MANY reasons I am childfree. I like my freedom and don't want to raise a human being. It takes a special personality and a big heart to do that. ❤ I'm too selfish.
Matt, wdym “US” I am absolutely sure that you are tired I mean staying awake and the adrenaline will do that to anyone but your wife just gave birth there is no comparison.
Hes a narcissist and gave her the silent treatment for two days bcus he didnt have attention, felt like his life ended, and the baby ruined his music career
@@loriminick7 I understand the 'try doing it alone!' statement. But try doing it with someone who is supposed to love you but instead ignores you for 2 days! Doing it alone is absolutely hard! I will not deny that. But for the person you trust, and love.. It's hard if he starts to ignore you... And okay he was taking care of the baby and she has her mom and mom in law but it's not the same as your partner...!
This is for any c-section moms out there who might have felt alone or dehumanized in the hospital after their c-sections like I did… After my c-section, they made me get up as soon as my spinal tap wore off and I could feel my legs again. They had me get up and walk to the bathroom and I thought I was going to die. I made it to the bathroom and they got me on the toilet, they told me what a great job I did, because most moms passed out halfway to the bathroom or collapsed. They stripped me down to change me into my nursing gown, I started vomiting from the pain, which only made the pain worse (all of this happened about 30 minutes after being given strong pain killers through my IV). And the hardest part was, the bathroom door was wide open, my husband sitting directly across from me, holding our newborn baby, and watching all of this with the most pained look on his face because there was nothing he could do to help me in the moment. At the end of it, I felt like an animal in a zoo on display that had been injured and was being fixed. It was so dehumanizing for me. I had to keep reminding myself, as hard as it was, that the nurses were genuinely there to help me, and they did just that. They were so sweet, and so kind, and so helpful, and so willing to do anything and everything we asked of them. They even offered to help me shower, since my c-section was a full hip-to-hip incision due to some minor complications the surgeon ran into with my uterus. But my husband was the first to say “how about you guys hang out with the baby for a few minutes while I help my wife shower” because he knew I desperately needed that quiet and healing moment with him as my husband and partner. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to go through, but it was also so beautiful, and I’m eternally thankful for all of it❤
Gives me the ick when husbands openly complain or talk about how their wife's struggles impacts them after experiencing childbirth. Ofcourse it's absolutely human to feel exhaustion or frustration but I would hate it if my husband talk about it as if he is experiencing the same thing as me.
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Make sure your mental health is good too, dad! It’s hard juggling everyone else’s emotions along with yours too. Good job on making sure mama and baby are doing good and taken care of also ❤
Matt you truly are an amazing support system for Abby! Please don’t let postpartum take Abby away from you and your family. Please don’t let postpartum take Abby away from HERSELF!! God bless
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Hey you wild and crazy little lovebirds, don't forget; You _CAN_ get pregnant while breastfeeding.⛔️
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CONGRATULATIONS!!! And happy belated birthday and welcome to the world, sweet little one! ❤🥰🥳
No. Stop exploiting your kids! The child can’t even make out his parents features yet, and you have a camera shoved in his face, and are over sharing details about HIS life already. Gross! This needs to stop. Abby is wising up. The sooner she kicks this overgrown man child to the curb…and/or makes him stop…the better (the fact he uploaded this at all tells me he wasn’t impressed by anything but what the footage would do for/provide him)! She could do so much better for herself, and for her boys!
Dude. You ignored her for 2 days. You need therapy and to grow up a bit. I feel so bad for your wife.
One of the strangest things that happen after giving birth is that nobody says hi to you anymore. They just grab the baby and give it a whole lot of loving and you’re left standing in the doorway saying hi to the walls.
Sad truth. Reason why i don't wanna have a kid. It's like they take care of you, protect you like an object that's gonna break soon, give you all the things you love to eat etc... when I realise that all these special treatings are not because they love you who was living for years but, for an unborn human that hasn't even form a relationship with. It's so sad. This is the reason why I don't want a kid. It's never worth it (for me). I hate it so much. But, I still support mamas. I was born alone, I am alone and then people love me, and at the end you are again alone when a baby comes. You'll just hate it, i mean idk about others but, surely i will hate it. No thanks i'll never get pregnant just to satisfy others. I'll have a baby using the new techno way but, still i will treat everyone equally and never mind if they don't care for me because at least i will not feel sad for enduring a pain for more than a year (including pregnancy)
@@Fnb-cb-200yes please don't have children. This is such a selfish outlook on life. Life isn't about you and sadly you were taught that.
@@nery_alfaro My life is my life. It's all about me. But, i won't get pregnant and that will remain the same.
Edit:- why do people hate me when i say my opinion tho 😬 i mean everyone are different so why do others give me a sh*t. Some type hate comments towards my opinion which won't even affect them, but, they act like i'm living from their money and does a bad effect for their lives. I don't understand why others are like this.
@@nery_alfaroHer life *is* about her.
@mothertrucker936 I always tell my friends that the moment they have a baby, we will no longer be the friends we were before. We will still be friends but unfortunately I'm not going to get all wrapped up in their kids lives. I have a tone of nieces and nephews and I'm burnt out on people thinking that their kids run everyone now and now i have to adjust my adult life for their kids. No thanks. My best friend had a baby and she said "you weren't joking". I said "sure wasn't". Your going to have to find some mom friends now.
I got sent home alone, as a first time mum, on my own and breastfeeding and had to walk the entire length of the hospital out less than 24hrs after an emergency c section. C sections are no joke! It's so lovely that she and baby have you there supporting them ❤️
F that... I was there 5 days after my emergency c
Breastfeeding is also sooo much harder after csections! Hoping for a vbac just so I can hold my baby without being in pain 😩
Judging by your mum spelling you’re either British or Aussie and as a Brit I’m really surprised they let you go home that early. Usually hospitals will keep you for 2 nights at least sometimes up to 4.
Where were your parents are siblings
If i had known u i would have came and helped u. U poor new momma
It’s so crazy because he’s expressing how hard this journey has been and on top of that he’s filming it from multiple angles!! It’s wild to me that people can even think about picking up a camera in moments like this. 🤯🤯🤯
It’s their job, so he kinda has to remember it lol. Not like us normal folks who don’t do this for a living😂
It's their job. And if they're comfortable and able, isn't it a good thing to see the RAW and REAL of starting a family, giving birth, etc.? So many young couples are struggling because they're not told the truth about life, and just how hard it can be and how many feel worthless because of COMPLETELY NORMAL feeling they're having in the moment. But go ahead and find something wrong with it.
Right? I wonder why she felt overlooked.
@@lunamoona1505Its normal to feel that way, cos everyone is tending to the baby, and she's in pain, and extremely emotional. Matt was sleep deprived as well, and also had many other things to take care of, as well as support Abby, he did AMAZING, and I'm sure he was there helping and trying to make her feel loved and comfortable, as much as possible. He always does. And compared to some dads, he's a GEM.
@@succyamum4127no they weren’t comfortable lol, the podcast apparently she was not happy bout this recording
I'm 110% here for everyone roasting Matt. Keep doing the lords work yall.
not him taking ownership of HER pain lmfao
dude his videos piss me off
@@lolainocencio8041 honestly
I love them but him saying "WE are pregnant" ...... no you're not dude
@@poorlenore fr! “We are expecting” or “we are having a baby” is more appropriate
The way that you're seemingly putting your experience on the same level as hers is wild. She just had surgery, her hormones are all over the place from creating a whole human, and lastly she's sleep deprived. You're sleep deprived. I hope that's not getting twisted.
Right? Like, obviously this will have a major impact on him too, but don't say "we" when you're talking about your partner literally getting cut open and pumped full of drugs.
You just had to make it all about you matt 🙄
he did went through emotional struggles as well, and that’s okay.
Abby obviously didn’t say a thing in the video, so it’s all Matt‘s POV. Of course it’s gonna be about him, I’m sure once Abby feels better she’s gonna share a lot of stuff that could be seen as a POV as well.
This is a couple channel, if Abby would have not felt like this video was okay, they wouldn’t have uploaded it in the first place.
@@einfachalinaThe new podcast he says he didn't talk to Abby for two days shortly after she gave birth. 😢 Seems like more than an understandable struggle.
As always. He has always done this, but the young fans don't spot it because they are young. I don't mean any offense to young fans, but with life experience comes the ability to spot damaging behavior and recognize patterns of behavior. He puts his BEST self forward and spins thing to make himself look like husband/father of the year, and you can STILL notice a bunch of things that absolutely scream textbook narcissistic.
@@einfachalina the problem is that Matt's POV is strategically designed to paint himself as a saint while shifting blame and character attacking others. When there is no way to twist things, he shares blame as to make himself seem enlightened and honest. Otherwise, he does sneaky little things to embarass, put down, and shift blame on abby. Evvverrrything he does is carefully calculated to continue recieving adoration from young fans online, regardless of how dogshit his behavior and actions are. Matt is dangerous and unhealthy, he is not what any young person should hope for themselves in terms of a partner. I wish there was a better way to understand other than "with age and experience comes the ability to recognize this stuff." The people calling out his behavior aren't hating, we are continually observing a very distinct pattern of behaviors that suggest he is a narcissist, and because narcissists are dangerous, we call it out to inform others.
@@nikki1400 maybe you’re right, I mean you aren’t the only one that explained it that way to me/trying to put it as respectfully as possible.
So there definitely must be something about it.
In regards of the fight they had where they didn’t talk to each other right after birth I simply thought „it’s better to remove yourself from a situation than let is escalate“, trying to make a excuse on their behalf.. but y’all are definitely right. I can’t really spot all of the damaging behaviour you mentioned YET but I’ll be careful with what I say in the future since I’m well aware that I’m kind of romanticising their online personas. :)
It’s so emotional seeing her not having to go through it by herself, it’s hard to recover from those wounds physically and mentally when your partner thinks it’s mom’s problem alone. I’m so happy for you and I wish nothing but a calm recovery. You got this!! ❤❤❤
Well done amazing people ❤
He did ignore her for 2 days after the birth
You sound like you're speaking from experience. Hope you're doing ok! ❤️
I know the feeling. This makes me happy too. I want the best for women as they go through their postpartum recovery, so seeing them well supported.
@@gondametzger6146 exactly, all he wanted to do was shove a camera in her face and play happy families for RUclips content not support her because he was having a meltdown about his ‘career’. Abby deserves more.
I have never seen a man make his wife's difficult postpartum more about HIM..... especially since I hear he's the one who made it difficult for her
preach
What did he do??
@@rileymannfeld8741There are many other comments saying at, he said in his podcast at he gave her for two days the silent treatment right after the C-Section.😢
@@rileymannfeld8741 he admitted to ignoring her and giving her the silent treatment for two days. Because the baby being born interrupted his music career plans 😮💨 he interrupted her to defend that he didn't do anything wrong. It's on the podcast
@@chaysethebadger that’s honestly so sad and messed up.
Matt couldn’t put his little music career on hold for a day after Abby gave BIRTH. He ignored her for TWO DAYS after she gave birth. He’s lucky she didn’t leave him. He doesn’t even acknowledge that her pain is 1000x worse than his. It’s not “us” it’s HER.
WAIT WHAT????? what happened???
@@crystalyousefi7266apparently he does pdcasts and on one of them he said how he gave her the silent treatment for two days because his career was interrupted by the GODDAMN BABY BEING BORN. Also hes apparently been posting a couple of vids(shorts) that gloos over the fight they had about breastfeeding and basically bad talking her for trying to breastfeed the baby. (He tried to put it on formula but that apparently makes it very difficult to start breastfeeding since its so much harder than a bottle.)
Ofc, take this with a grain of salt, im not the most informed, but thats the gist of what ive seen so far.
@@crystalyousefi7266 It was in one of the recent podcasts, he outright admitted to ignoring her and he was just so dismissive. Plus this video and some others, he just will not recognize that his difficulties were insignificant compared to Abby, how difficult birth is. He’s kind of bullying her at this point
@@alicedodobirb2808 wow…. i thought he was a good man. that’s so embarrassing for him.
@@lachatte307 abby deserves better than this.
Hit “US” like a train!? Boy….
😂😂 exactly! A planned c-section where he more than likely got a full nights sleep the night before and a chilled out morning heading to hospital and then to sit on his bum on a stool in theatre while the baby was born 😂 it wasn’t like she was in Labour days! With my second I was in hardcore Labour 4 days neither me nor my husband got any sleep so he was almost as exhausted as I was as he was supporting me!
Hey, ordering door dash while listening to your wife scream through labour is EXHAUSTING.
Yes him too, the emotional damage of his wife in pain. What do you want your husband to not care about you?? Feminism is so focused the hatred of men that what you're complaining about don't even make sense anymore.💀🤦🏾♀️
So hes not allowed to have feelings or be exhausted. He ahd to watch his wife in pain for hours and when a new baby comws constantly be worried something will go wrong
@dengar96 she got a c section not a reg birth. So she didnt feel anything when giving birth
While a man is in a different state after watching his wife give birth, the use of “recovery for us” is not correct. Abby is the one who did work for 9 months, had her body cut and now has to continue to work for her recovery and feeding her baby. Matt, it’s all about Abby at the moment.
You're asking an adult man child to consider the emotional state of someone other than himself. You might as well ask a rock to solve calculus.
Yeah as a man, this guy's not all there.
@@dengar96well humans don’t read minds and not everyone is the same ! Just saying ! I’m sure even a grown man screws up
Yes she went through a lot but they went through it together and Matt obviously went through his own issues as well. He worded it right, it acknowledges BOTH of their journeys .
@@amazingwrldofkaylah8575the problem here is that its implying his problem is the same as hers. His wife is the one dealing with it. Hes just sleep deprived
if she felt overlooked why would you film all of this instead of being in the moment with her? this is about her health and well-being, not clicks or internet fame
For real. People forget that giving birth is a literal *life or death* situation for both the mom & baby. Even if the pregnancy is healthy with no complications, anything can happen. This was Abby’s second birth in less than 2 years. I’m mad he even brought the camera out while she was in so much pain.
Hit "us" like a train. Pretty sure it was just one of you who had their insides pulled out and then a baby. But sure "we" recovered
she will be back again pregnant after 6 month😂😂😂
@@dglvr2006don't worry he is not African so she is happy with him
Pretty harsh having to watch that happen to your wife, don't you think?
@@dglvr2006Must be a feminist. They're happy together. Let them be happy. No pregnancy is planned.
@@pecker1217this pregnancy was not planned actually
“It wasn’t the physical pain that wrecked US” says the man who did absolutely nothing physical in this situation besides being present. Maybe Abby’s emotions are stemming from ALSO being extremely uncomfortable from a major surgery. I felt emotional 2months pp when I had my gallbladder removed. It was hard not grabbing my baby and moving easily, and that wasn’t even directly after birth.
Ah. Focus on one statement that you can zone in on and hate. But ignore the whole rest of the video where he's being very respectful about both his experience and hers. Also would you rather hom speak FOR her? Or what
@succyamum4127 the man admitted on the podcast that when he was filming this from multiple angles & moaning about broken sleep.... he'd stopped talking to her because she was getting too much attention. Vile behaviour.
Beeing in exact the same Situation i can tell you he speaks the truth. The pain from the c section gets better in a view days but the emotional Part is very Hard and a dad has limited things he can do. It was horror in the Hospital where they come whenever they want.
Why is that what you’re choosing to focus on in this entire video? 🙄
Are you sure you are okay?
Narcissist sensor alerted‼️ 🚨 RED FLAGS ALL OVER THIS AND AN ADDITIONAL VIDEO SHORT I SAW OF THIS COUPLE. Don’t know her but praying for you Abby.
I will forever be grateful to my husband after my c section. Hospital staff was very low and he had to look after me and our newborn. I was very sick. He slept on a hard hospital chair, that didn’t recline, for 4 days… and never complained once. To the men who have been through this, you’re hero’s 😊 It’s always about the mother and babies during this time and I feel like our partners don’t always get the recognition. Big love to you guys, our silent knights in shining armour 💓
Men like your husband are so rare. I’ve seen many who make it al about them as if their partner didn’t just have a whole ass child and major pain and changes to their body (be it vaginal or c section delivery). I hope I find a guy like that. We need more men like him.
US??? HER 👏🏻
Oh Abby you are a miracle that's created a miracle. Hold fast sis you are seen and heard
She felt overlooked cause u GAVE HER THE SILENT TREATMENT FOR 2 DAYS. Like u said on ur podcast matt.
Why the f did he do that?!
@@Minadori123he said he felt like his life was over so he was frustrated
@@Minadori123yea he also was talking about his goals and how he has to put everything aside for the baby’s and just didn’t talk to her. Narcissist
Wow I thought the really wanted to be a dad..
wtf i thought these dudes were wholesome
I am so grateful for your honesty about what it's like to have a newborn. Women are fed this story of sunshine and rainbows when in reality, it's stitches, diapers for both mom and baby, exhaustion, fear, emotional rollercoaster, physical pain, etc.
Yes people get through it but I think it would be easier if they had an idea of what it's really like.
I had amazing nurses after my delivery except for one. She left me crying, overwhelmed alone while my husband was getting stuff for us at home. She gave me the “figure it out” kind of attitude. This phase is so so hard. Take things one day at a time.❤️
This is why we (my mom and I) sent my husband home after the birth. He was already sleep deprived and we decided it was best if one of us was well rested when we got home. My mom was much better equipped to help me through that first night anyway.
Mama’s are built different!
My sister-in-law ended up with postpartum psychosis. That was one heck of a roller coaster ride for everybody involved.
seriously can’t believe somebody would give another human being the silent treatment for days, let alone someone who didn’t even do anything, let alone someone they love, let alone the person that birthed their child, let alone not regretting it 😦😦
i always thought they were such a wholesome couple but now i’m feeling bad for abby, not only for what he did but there are significantly higher rates of postpartum depression after a c section
maybe i’m just some rando that doesn’t know anything about their life but jeez man
And this folks is why you don't have babies back to back. Your body needs time to rest, doctors reccomend 2 years at least. Please be careful and make sure you have a strong support system yall
Lol 2 years is a long time, c sections back to back would be hard tho
@@stajia4694 Her first was a vaginal delivery.
I had 11 months between 2 c-sections....it wasn't easy but I coped as mum's do.
@@stajia4694she had one reg labor and one c section
Well even though they have a channel, they could put the camera down. That would have probably helped too.
Hit us? You did nothing! 🙄
Dude shut up like any man who feels like they are with the mother in all experiences of a birth or pregnancy is greatttt half the men I see won’t even stay awake during any of it I give him props cause he’ll it does hit him too that’s his wife his love if she’s hurting so is he
Hell^
@@bryannamilligan4139he ignored her. Full silent treatment FOR TWO DAYS. So he showed up, he made it about him the whole time because he was upset the baby "took time from his music career" after acting like the most supportive person on the Internet when they found out they were expecting so soon after their first. He literally interrupted her when she was talking about the 2 day silent treatment to say he didn't feel like it was wrong.
Narcissists have to make things about him. He apparently gave her the silent treatment too, right after giving birth. More narcissistic abuse.
EXACTLY
Of course she felt over looked as you didn’t talk to her for 2 days
Why??😢
@@rimisingh6648 he was upset that the baby has paused his non existing music career
What?! Really? I’m actually surprised by this. Why did he do that?
Genuinely curious, how did you know he didn't talk to her for 2 days
@@myheartwillstopinjoy8142 he apparently talked about it on their podcast
Post-maternal care in Korea is THE BEST! Recovery is focused in mom and the baby gets 24hr care by super nurses.
Caffeine is your friend, patience is your motto, and love is your gift to give. Stay strong it gets way better!
I’m sorry but in these circumstances, the only thing that is important is the health of mom and baby. You guys have that. Everything else will fall into place. I’ve been there, I know and I had twins. Don’t loose sight of what is important. Nothing but love
I cannot imagine giving birth in a hospital setting where they just wont give you a break to rest.
I feel for women who have c-sections. The amount of stress and pain our bodies go through normally then that on top. Sending our love to you guys from 🇦🇺🤗🤗
Abby is one tough cookie! You go MAMA!
Matt you keep saying “us” yet I didn’t see you on the table having a c-section, or go through 9 months of pregnancy, or the rush of hormones through all of the pregnancy and birth…. You quite literally did nothing but ignore your wife AFTER SHE GAVE BIRTH TO YOUR CHILD because you were sad and thought you couldn’t continue your music career
Agree.
“It felt like the world was ending” is a cruddy thing to say about bringing your child into the world. If anything it’s a new beginning, and he should be expecting it considering he chose to have a second child for content. Matt wouldn’t even have a platform to promote his music career if it weren’t for his wife and kids.
So husbands aren’t allowed to feel fear, anxiety and other emotions around the idea of a new child? Don’t get me wrong Abby went through the most, but is the husband meant to just shut up and bottle away their feelings, concerns and etc?
@@bruhmoment6275when their wife was literally cut in half to bring a human to the world, the least a husband can do i sick it up for a while. It's called being a father
@@claudiaescoe7861weird how his solution to knowing his wife was in immense pain physically and emotionally was to give her the silent treament like a toddler. It's because he wasn't thinking about her and he was thinking about HIS music career. While his wife is still recovering from major surgery and his new baby has just been born this is the moment he throws a tantrum and ponders that his music career might be over. Dude had 9 months to plan for this and did it right after the birth of his child. Selfish and wouldn't be surprised if this type of behavior continues.
@@claudiaescoe7861 him “being a team” consisted of him ignoring her for 48 hours and practically telling her she was starving their newborn because he was fussy with latching. Definitely doesn’t sound like teamwork to me when he left her in the hospital to go get himself food. And didn’t bring her anything back, or adding more stress on his wife that just had a c section because he was sad his non existent music career was pushed to the side FOR HIS CHILD
Just know this is gonna blow up
Ikr lol ❤
Frfr
Matt is absolutely tearing their relationship apart
Why?!?!
@@henri-hugoparik3982well i don’t know all the details, but ive heard matt gave her the silent treatment for 2 days after she had the C section because he thought the baby was effecting his career or something. he confirmed this on the podcast too its not just rumors.
@@henri-hugoparik3982 he ignored abby for 2 days after she gave birth
I had an emergency c-section and my baby went straight to the NICU. I didn’t get to hold him until 18 hours later. That was really tough. 15 days later he came home and now he’ll be 11 in two weeks!
awww!
Honestly, it feels wrong to make anyone walk right after a surgery like that. Women's pain is typically overlooked :/
They have you walk around to help avoid getting blood clots.
It's not wrong. They do it for good reasons.
If you don't get up and walk it can lead to blood clots which can lead to death. Honestly it helps the recovery time so much as well, the sooner you can get up and walk the easier your recovery will be, at least in my experience and I've had to go through this twice.
as a nursing student this is not the way we should look at this situation! I agree that women’s pain is often overlooked in clinical settings, but in this instance, her nurses are having her get up and walk around to avoid developing something called a deep vein thrombosis - aka a blood clot. DVTs are most often caused by immobility, so early annulation after surgeries is standard procedure, and we try to medicate the patient as much as we can to minimize their pain while they’re walking. believe me, nurses don’t love making people get up and walk while they’re clearly in pain. we’d love to let you rest as long as you need to, but we’re also trying to weigh complications that you haven’t considered!
I couldn’t walk the day after having a C-section because of complications, and when that happens, they put these things on your legs that shake them every fifteen minutes so that you don’t get blood clots. Try sleeping with those things on. Would much rather have walked the day after. Perhaps my experience wasn’t typical, but the pain just wasn’t all that bad for me.
I'm really happy you're there for each other. Big adjustments go better with the kindness you show each other.
Well, he actually ignored her for the first 48h of the baby being there so i don’t know about that. If you wanna hear them say it, listen to the podcast where they talk about the birth
I remember that about my c sections. They bother you constantly. I’m like “just let me sleep!”❤ it will get better. Prayers for a safe and speedy recovery.
Such sensitive babies in the comments! This video was from his point of view and he was respectful and supportive to his wife and you guys find some fault!
Matt...I truely appreciate your honesty, humility, and maturity when talking about this. No shade, but a LOT of men (and women) could do with understanding this !!! Thank you for sharing your experiences....and congratulations to all of you, beautiful wee family !!! 🌟🙏🌟
Most new parents have no clue how much their lives will change over night. But you adjust and get to hold this beautiful baby. The love a parent feels for their child is not like anything you've ever felt before. It's actually painful. ❤️
Thank you for sharing the reality of not just the highs but the lows as well💕 that’s really brave and you’re being so supportive to all of the new parents by letting them know it’s okay and normal if things aren’t all sunshine and rainbows right after having a baby
Congratulations beautiful parents! Tell Abby she’s a star. Prayers of quick healing and support going your way. Both of you sleep when the baby sleeps. Don’t worry about anything, accept help when offered it will help you out in a big way. Hugs and Live 🤩
Abby is AMAZING!!! God bless you both!
Even with all the help I got from my husband and mom after my emergency c-section, I seriously felt like the world was ending. Childbirth is so hard, the hormone crash is so hard, caring for a newborn while healing is so hard. But it helps tremendously when you have a support system.
I’m so happy Abby is recovering well and Auggie is healthy!! 💗
I’m so happy for you guys and i hope that the recovery process goes well
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You guys are so sweet!!! Btw, I didn't know this until my third birth, but you can usually refuse those night time check ups. My rockstar nurse offered to put a 'do not disturb' sign on my door (or however they word it). It was so helpful!
WHAT?!? Is this true??? Why do I always find out valuable info through the internet Lol 😅. I just gave birth 4 weeks ago.
I think for a C-section they check more often cause it’s major surgery. Like trapped air or gas after a C-section is a really big deal. Blood clots and not being about to use your bowls can also happen.
@@Lola84794 that makes sense
Yes, here too. I had to stay 3 weeks in the hospital after my emergency c section because my daughter was born 7 weeks prematurely. When I could shower by myself and pee they changed rooms and let me stay and sleep in one room with my baby who was laying in the incubator. If I wanted to rest I could put up a sign at the door and they were very respectful of our privacy as long as my baby health was allowing it. They also taught us how to take care of such a little baby and we noticed the more we could do ourselves, the less they needed to come in. Sometimes they would only take a peek through the door and see how we did and left.
I remember sobbing in my hospital room because I felt so alone and overwhelmed. My husband was great but we had other children and I was in too much pain to hold and bond with my babies. The recovery absolutely sucked and I had a c section and twins.
Having had twins first, your emotions are all OVER the place! I commend her for getting up so quickly to move!! That HURTS!! Congrats too!🎉
Soo proud of you both. God bless❤
This is the transparency all parents need! Congratulations on your baby boy, may God Bless your children. 🩵🩵
I know it’s hard but you will get through this, and once all of this pain is over you will look back and remember how much of a blessing it was to have auggie🤗
It is definitely hard recovering from a C Section. When I had my first Son in 2002 it was so painful, when I had my second Son, I was cut more, and my third Son I was cut from hip to hip. My Second Son was an extremely high risk pregnancy from us being exposed to Carbon Monixide Poisoning. It killed my Fiance and our 2 year old Son. I was lucky to survive from that and my unborn Son survive also. My OBGYN at that time told me that he had done research on a pregnant woman child surviving. He didn't find any because there's not a pregnant who was pregnant and her unborn baby survive. So I'm extremely blessed to be alive and my Son's also. I'm a Single Mother and took care of my Son's while recovering from a C Section. I'm praying for you guy's. I'm so happy and excited that you had a healthy baby. And safe delivery. Children are a Gift from God and our little miracles. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I love that you aren’t just saying all the good things. You’re being real.
I love Jim Gaffigans line about people asking him what it’s like having 5 kids.
He said, imagine you’re drowning and someone hands you a baby.
To me, that’s what it felt like with each one!
It's always sunshine and roses till the pain meds go away 😭😭 you guys look amazing ❤❤
I had 2 under 2. Both c-sections. They are now 5 and 4 and best friends! It was the hardest time of my life but it’s so worth it!
I’ve had 3 c-sections and they are no joke! You’re one strong mommy Abby and I’m praying for a speedy recovery 🙏🏾
I feel you, I had one that wasn't planned at all. Natural birth is painful when baby comes out as via a c-section but after that the pains are soo brutally, feeling like your organs are coming out, when trying to move a bit or so more during walking. My body needed long recovery had to stay in hospital for two weeks.😢 Luckily that was 17yrs ago. But at I always needed help to breastfeeding my newborn felt so bad at I couldn't do it all by myself. 🥺 And the milk, I had was alot at I had even to pump much of it cause my body was producing milk so much it did hurt as well and they took my pumped milk for mothers, who couldn't breastfeeding their newborns which made me feel better. The nurses called me the cowgirl.😅😮
Your one strong mama too 💗
I had to have an emergency c-section with my last one, during the pandemic. It was rough, to say the least. It's so beautiful to watch you two support and love each other. ❤
You guys are soooo strong!!, love you both❤
To see Bella in tears and Happy for you guys. She's a real friend!! With a big heart
I just lost my new born baby. I hope instead of feeling sorry for yourself for the “emotional pain” of having a baby, you will think about your blessings and see things in perspective.
😂😂😂, I loved how he said, recovery hit US! There is NO "us" when your the one being cut open, birthing a baby, being sewn closed, waking up for feeds, forbtests, when baby moves, all while healing from a surgical wound. Lol US... yeah... 😂😂😂
Given the recent tragedy regarding social media influencer Ruby Franke’s arrest for child abuse, it’s time to enact legislation to protect minors who are being filmed by their parents in these for-profit family vlogs. There are strict guidelines for child stars in the tv and film industry. The same protections should be afforded to minors (like yours) who are often unwilling participants in their parents’ quest for internet fame and the money that comes with it I hope something is done soon.
I missed seeing you guys glad your back
Oh have 2 more it will get better ❤ happy first baby !
Y’all got this!!! ❤️❤️
Abby is doing so good considering she just gave birth
A huge congratulations! If only all partners were this nice! Some Dad's forget that birth especially csection recovery is brutal for a new mom, and leave her all alone for the whole process, went through that 4 times. Not fun. Would be a lot easier with a loving partner. So to all the good partners out there, you don't know how much you are appreciated!
Fyi Matt ignore Abby for 2 days after the birth
He ignored her
Nothing nice about not talking to your wife for two days after she just gave birth.
@@ericay3225 no not nice
He was not loving and he did forget that c section recovery is brutal. He left her all alone for 2 days giving her the silent treatment
Thank you for sharing this kind of content. I’m reaching 30 and I feel this immense pressure from my friends and family to have kids and I’m truly just NOT READY. For the reasons you mentioned. And that’s OK!! ❤
I’m 24 and 6 weeks pregnant, crying and watching all of your videos. I’m saving them all to a playlist to watch again because they’re so real and helpful and relatable…all of which I am going to need as part of my support because I’m living abroad with my husband currently. I’m also so inspired of Abby’s resilience, I hope to learn from it and push myself to be healthy like that postpartum! Thank y’all 💖
You didn't take care of your wife or baby.....the nurses did. I had a C-section in my 40's.😊
I know the feeling Man.
I had a C Section too.
Was beautiful.
I remember after he was born I couldn't stop shaking. They told me it's normal.
I wasn't in pain. I was soar a little.
But I remember I had to go to the bathroom really bad. They wanted me to use a bed pan.
But I wanted to use the restroom.
They said if I can make it there. I did with the help of my Mama holding onto her arm. I walked it wasn't hard but I did it. And used the restroom.
Thankful for Mom's. The next day I walked the hallway.
My son was born at 4:46am I was bombarded with visitors. My Mom took care of my son for me. Wanted me to sleep. I couldn't sleep with so many visitors. Finally evening came I had peace.
My Mom left to go get herself some food.
She told me if I need help for the bathroom change his diaper anything to buzz my nurse.
I wanted to do it by myself. I didn't want any help.
My son was crying I wanted to see him.
Even tho I was in bed everyone was bringing him to me. I breastfed him.
He was in his cradle.
I got up walked to him by myself holding onto the bed. This boy was so beautiful. I did it and I changed his diaper. I was so proud to be his Mom.
Now he's 11 years old. He will be 12 in December.
I do miss his baby stages.
I understand that this experience affected him in many ways, but the best thing he could do is be there for her. Clearly it sounds like he wasn’t in the beginning if she feels overlooked and was ignored for two days. Dude come on this experience obviously affected her way more than you…
YOU ARE YOUNG !!!🎉🎉❤❤❤❤YOU GOT IT.!
❤😢❤ Wishing Abby a speedy recovery!!! Congratulations on your new baby 🍼❤
You always make these things seem like hell. I’ve been through it, you do it for the views. It’s going to catch up to you.
Omg the constant nurse visits is what sent me and my husband over the edge. While we knew it was (mostly) necessary, it was so irritating. You guys did amazing.
Now imagine doing all this with actual jobs instead of broadcasting it on RUclips?
Please don't forget that mom exists just because the baby has arrived.
You are both troopers.Kudòs to you you both.
Awww the poor baby with his sleep mask so he gets his beauty rest… ICKKK! My husband barely slept at ALL for FIVE DAYS after my c section so I could sleep between feeds for my daughter. Your wife was just cut open after carrying a baby for nine months.. this really shows your immaturity in so many ways and it’s very narcissistic. I feel bad for your wife ….
I appreciate he said recovering from major surgery
I was wàlking about 2 -3 hours after birth. This was 42 yrs ago. I cheated and asked for general anesthesia. At that time spinal block kept you layed out flat for 24 hours. Found out I had a girl first birth and a boy the second. Pain was easy not bad. Not everyone is the same and giving birth is different for everyone. For me - I hated being pregnant but love my kids. Had tubes tides at 21 because I hated it so much. Congrats on your baby, enjoy every moment.
Having wanted a child for most of my life and not getting one, all I can think is "cry louder".
One of the MANY reasons I am childfree. I like my freedom and don't want to raise a human being. It takes a special personality and a big heart to do that. ❤ I'm too selfish.
Matt, wdym “US” I am absolutely sure that you are tired I mean staying awake and the adrenaline will do that to anyone but your wife just gave birth there is no comparison.
How could she feel overlooked when Matt was more than there to take care of baby and mom, try doing it alone!!!!!
She felt overlooked cause he ignored her for 2 days!! (Abby tells this in the podcast)
Because he was taking care of the baby and her!!!! Seems selfish AF! Like I said try doing it alone!!!!
She has Matt full time, her parents, baby sitter and Matt’s mom, a cleaning lady and many more!!!! She is trippin
Hes a narcissist and gave her the silent treatment for two days bcus he didnt have attention, felt like his life ended, and the baby ruined his music career
@@loriminick7 I understand the 'try doing it alone!' statement. But try doing it with someone who is supposed to love you but instead ignores you for 2 days! Doing it alone is absolutely hard! I will not deny that. But for the person you trust, and love.. It's hard if he starts to ignore you... And okay he was taking care of the baby and she has her mom and mom in law but it's not the same as your partner...!
This is for any c-section moms out there who might have felt alone or dehumanized in the hospital after their c-sections like I did…
After my c-section, they made me get up as soon as my spinal tap wore off and I could feel my legs again. They had me get up and walk to the bathroom and I thought I was going to die. I made it to the bathroom and they got me on the toilet, they told me what a great job I did, because most moms passed out halfway to the bathroom or collapsed. They stripped me down to change me into my nursing gown, I started vomiting from the pain, which only made the pain worse (all of this happened about 30 minutes after being given strong pain killers through my IV). And the hardest part was, the bathroom door was wide open, my husband sitting directly across from me, holding our newborn baby, and watching all of this with the most pained look on his face because there was nothing he could do to help me in the moment.
At the end of it, I felt like an animal in a zoo on display that had been injured and was being fixed. It was so dehumanizing for me. I had to keep reminding myself, as hard as it was, that the nurses were genuinely there to help me, and they did just that. They were so sweet, and so kind, and so helpful, and so willing to do anything and everything we asked of them. They even offered to help me shower, since my c-section was a full hip-to-hip incision due to some minor complications the surgeon ran into with my uterus. But my husband was the first to say “how about you guys hang out with the baby for a few minutes while I help my wife shower” because he knew I desperately needed that quiet and healing moment with him as my husband and partner.
It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to go through, but it was also so beautiful, and I’m eternally thankful for all of it❤
Mama Abby is a trooper
Much happiness😊
I really just dont like this guy. He seems so selfish and childish sometimes.
Emotions are fundamentally physical.
The fact that he said us is crazy
Third! Make a chain
Gives me the ick when husbands openly complain or talk about how their wife's struggles impacts them after experiencing childbirth. Ofcourse it's absolutely human to feel exhaustion or frustration but I would hate it if my husband talk about it as if he is experiencing the same thing as me.