Spot on! Walk away because their drama, trauma and chaos will drain you to the extreme. It’s unbearable. Narcisists are relentless . They are like terminators from the movie. They won’t stop until they get what they want and once they get it they will get bored with it and start chasing something else.
It’s not just that they’re always in crisis, it’s that it’s coupled with nastiness, sabotage, and contemptuous disregard for your life and happiness while you’re helping them.
My Mother who is a 89 year old narcissist constantly brings up people who have been horrible too her. Many have been dead for decades. I tell her move on. People are not perfect and remind her of her own behavior and how she has treated people in her life. Her reaction is always to tell me she has never done that too anyone. My response is “really Mom”. She then has a tantrum.
Run I fell for it and ended up broke homeless and jail I was a fool today I control my emotions and I will run fast if I meet another narcissist may the next man have God with him real talk
I would say "me too" because we shared similar troubles and she would say "it's not about you". Yep, she's now married and pregnant with another dude after 5 months dating. Poor dude has no idea
So true all the empathy In the world and they have more problems, more drama, more issues in which in every single case they are always always the victim. When I brought In objective views, they got passive aggressive very quick, then It became clear to me they wanted a pity party and my narc supply 😂 see ya later alligator 😂
❤😊 You're so right.I've been to the same thing I've been through.I saw exactly what you mean because I wondered why and then you can see the pattern cycle vicious pattern vicious cycle
I didnt think for a minute that i was playing the "Saviour" but years later when it was over, many others in my life expressed that a lot of people saw it that i was being the saver. This was actually very challenging to work through.
Encountered this , thanks to my NARCDAR going off following several explosive and bizarre episodes , and a hostile attitude towards helping herself I ended it quickly . Ofcourse since then I have been blanked and branded two faced ,...no , aware and educated ! ❤
So true. I held him in my arms while my heart broke from the things he told me. I now realize he was the one running to spread lies on those people in his childhood. He was a liar and still is. Now, he is doing the samething to me, running to tell people how I'm treating him badly and not love him enough, or not getting enough respect as he needs. Whole time you taking care of this man and the kids more than you take care of yourself. How I understand, and now I know how to handle this situation.
Please share because although we are thankfully divorced he's still doing ALL OF THIS. For 20 years THEY were the bad guys . Then he ganged them up on me ! Too bad. Now they get what jealousy- driven losers they are🤷🤪🤣
Ya, I think it's ok to level with each other, in the sense that we can sometimes grow from sharing character during these hard times. Maybe the way you handled it was stoic, or worthy of praise. We all like good feelings you know. But when you see the person using emotion to make gains, catch a leg up, or convince people they're different now, without good evidence I would definitely suspect them of manipulating. So when I have a relationship now, if my partner were still totally wrapped up on the past, I would see a RED FLAG. See, if a person is being smart, trying, and keeping it on the level, you'll see evidence of it, despite the hardship. 😊✨💯
Yes! and hello, Jill that's a tough one. I have a situation like that I'm watching. Even if it had made it to a point of romance it would be a big regret but along the way I noticed usually there would be a reference to not one but two of her deceased children right before some crazy favor. Yep a pattern you're right "at first" the last time she pulled this, I asked about the child that is alive. Pretty much a one-line response and change the subject. She has been trying to exploit access through a co-worker thanks for the affirmation sometimes they will have already exploited us with their tactics counting on a long future of supply.
That's all she knows. Teach her to change her narrative and learn from the past. I heard a woman say how she would not have her family at her wedding or present when she has a child, how sad. I hope she realizes she can change the narrative, she is in charge.
If this happens in the first six months, run. Pay attention to if they ever talk of there part in things. If not, run. The victims always blame others. Fun ? Not really !
O you are so on point with everything I thank God I found you. Alot of others that talk about this don't completely understand all of it. You have it down to the exact 💯 things that o am going through. God bless you finally someone who really knows and understands what they are really doing. It's horrible and very damaging, it's gonna take me year's to be the man I once was. I stayed 25 year's the first 10 good. The last 15 I'm lucky I'm not in prison from the physical financial and mental abuse. She completely destroyed our family my family her family and all of our children and the grandkids. Truly a nightmare that I'm still trying to get away from. Everyone else completely does not even speak to her and haven't in year's. Unfortunately we aren't divorced yet I am working on that and then I will never interact with her again. But for now I have to deal with her. The years went by and she got worse as time passed. And now is nothing less than a witch completely evil and heartless. Thank you for the knowledge 🙏.
I had a female boss like this. She would flip to victim mode after all of the threats and intimidation outplayed themselves. Her victim mode was pitiful because it was so obviously fake. There is such a difference to someone truly hurting and trying to heal versus someone shedding fake tears and embodying victim mode the moment things don’t go their way. It’s always a power play game with narcissists, never a genuine intention to connect.
Don't know any females But Do know a male who whined all the time as a victim. 15 yrs of BS. I think he believed his own stories as they blended with normal life.
This can occur in either gender, and there are some who ARE targeted, in addition to, victimized repeatedly. This is no joke, especially if someone keep trying with not only their own situation, but assists others, yet the brutality continues, it is terrible.
I really have to say I feel like you and I connect!! you get this you get me!!! i watch your videos and I see the caring in your eyes your voice you care!!! I know there are nice people in this world like you!!! please keep making videos!!! PLEASE!!! I know now where i GET my empathy and compassion from my MOTHER!!! she is extremely empathetic like me but she's a stronger personality therefore she was never abused!!! LIKE HER DAUGHTER WAS!!! I don't want to write a novel here but my female narc she shared all kinds of horrific things in her past!!! she told me she was raped by her father at 16!!! and of course I felt bad!!! and she knew it!!! I WAS THE little fly that caught in her spider's web!!! MALE NARCS TOO my male narc tried to be me he would repeat what I said I have a story about a resident that froze to death at one of the nursing homes I WAS AT JILL HOW HORRIBLE
Woke up today to find i'm on the right path because after being told i wasn't due to shared fantasy and after walking through WW narc III i am. This was due to planning and hard work. After borderline B drama and brainwashing sometimes it's okay to be bored.
Whoa! After listening to probably hundreds of videos about narcissists and narcissistic abuse… This is the first one that has me scratching my head and wondering if "I" am the narcissist. Well sort of, and sort of not. I mean all of these things you say to describe the narcissist are things that I "feel"as a victim of narcissistic abuse. I don't go around "saying" this to every random person in my life or playing the "poor me" card but I have to admit that anger "is" one of many difficult emotions that come up around the fact that I lost so much of my life as a result, the fact is I was deeply hurt and anger is part of the fallout..and if someone who claimed to care about me took the side of the narcissist, I know that would be too much for me to keep this person in my intimate circle.. So does this automatically make me a narcissist? I'm thinking it surely must be far more nuanced than this. Think about it. All of the gas lighting and invalidation and manipulated flying monkeys that a victim of narcissistic abuse has undoubtedly been torn apart by. As a result, I think most of us end up hypersensitive to anything that resembles the same....and we NEED to know it's safe to be real with our nearest and dearest
The best way to deal with it is to go no contact.. no explanation.. just get a safe distance away and stop responding to everyone involved or you’ll be trapped like everyone else involved.
I would caution people to be careful not to judge others. Anyone who grew up in a narcissistic family - with narcissistic parents, and/ or narcissistic siblings - and then choose a narcissistic partner out of familiarity/ unhealed dysfunctional patterns could easily be judged in this way before they've healed/ been able to improve their lives. Think about it. Be kind. Don't judge others harshly. ❤
Precisely I've always said it's not my job or place to listen to trauma repeatedly. Once or 2x maybe but not almost every other conversation. It's alot especially when I have my own trauma. I can only listen to negativity but for so long. Seek a mental health professional.
Part 2 so you don't get a migraine!!! she was in memory care she wanted out broke the door and got out and froze to death!!! my male narc held me cried and it was all a fake act that's how they trap you!!! my female narc has an obsession with the grid going down this is what she shared with me and I only brought politics into it!!! IT HAS NO PLACE HERE BUT I HAD TO PAINT THE WHOLE PICTURE HERE!!! she grabbed me by the face one day and said when the grid is taken out!!! the peasants like us will all die!!! the elite will run to their bunkers with their food and water their safety and we will all die!!! they won't even give us a moldy loaf of bread to eat BECKY!!! she said we both own guns for safety!!! she said she would teach me how to kill myself and my parents and my 2 dogs and she will do the same!!! commenting on this is making me I'll!!! but this what I endured for 6 moths with her!!! yes the elite will always be ok she's right about that!!! I am done trying to fix people like her with baggage because what you do JILL WILL NEVER BE ENOUGH NEVER!!! your kindness they use and take and take and take and take and give nothing in return for you!!! that's why I am done with the CLEVELAND BROWNS TOO I CAN'T support an elite like their owner!!! when the grid goes out he will be ok!!! SOMETIMES I WISH I WAS BORN A PEASANT I WOULD OF NEVER MET NARCS AND I WOULD OF BEEN DEAD BY NOW!!! to show you how she ruined my body too what abuse does to your body!! I thought I was done with my monthly you know I WAS ALL HAPPY BUT BECAUSE OF ALL HER STRESS AND TALK SHE GAVE ME I GOT IT!!! ALL THE STRESS BROUGHT IT ON!!! AND THE GAGGING AND ALL OF IT!!! MY kindness to her and my empathy meant nothing to her!!! and she always told me no black man would ever want to date me because I AM TO SKINNY!!! THEY DON'T LIKE SKINNY WOMEN!!! ALL the people who stand in judgement of the poor victims walk in our shoes a day!!! IT'S HELL
Can a narcissist ever be able to be healed ?!? Any kind of names under narcissistic conditions eg covert narcissist ?!? Or any kind of branches under narcissistic condition ?!?
Spot on! Walk away because their drama, trauma and chaos will drain you to the extreme. It’s unbearable. Narcisists are relentless . They are like terminators from the movie. They won’t stop until they get what they want and once they get it they will get bored with it and start chasing something else.
It’s not just that they’re always in crisis, it’s that it’s coupled with nastiness, sabotage, and contemptuous disregard for your life and happiness while you’re helping them.
Exactly! Smoke and move on and refuse to engage in conversation except for situations that deal specifically with you.
My Mother who is a 89 year old narcissist constantly brings up people who have been horrible too her. Many have been dead for decades. I tell her move on. People are not perfect and remind her of her own behavior and how she has treated people in her life. Her reaction is always to tell me she has never done that too anyone. My response is “really Mom”. She then has a tantrum.
Run I fell for it and ended up broke homeless and jail I was a fool today I control my emotions and I will run fast if I meet another narcissist may the next man have God with him real talk
You are spot on ...her name was Kelly and I fell for her bs hook line and sinker...now I feel the broken 💔
I would say "me too" because we shared similar troubles and she would say "it's not about you". Yep, she's now married and pregnant with another dude after 5 months dating. Poor dude has no idea
He definitely does by now but if not maybe you should leave a note but tell him you do not ever want her broken butt never ever again!
@Mastermechanicman oh I did. Face to face
@@ejparker13 good for him not many people care about others in today’s age glad to hear it
@Mastermechanicman glad to hear that a man has been preyed upon?
@@Mastermechanicman they won't believe you anyways
Run, Run, Run!!!
I appreciate you and what you talk to us about. I think those are my favorite glasses on you!
THANK YOU!!🙏 I'm very familiar with this pain. 😭😩💔❤️🩹
So true all the empathy In the world and they have more problems, more drama, more issues in which in every single case they are always always the victim.
When I brought In objective views, they got passive aggressive very quick, then It became clear to me they wanted a pity party and my narc supply 😂 see ya later alligator 😂
I called my wife out for being the victim and she said "i hate when you and my mom say that"
You are so right 😩😀
❤😊 You're so right.I've been to the same thing I've been through.I saw exactly what you mean because I wondered why and then you can see the pattern cycle vicious pattern vicious cycle
So true
So true and real 💯
Thank you for all you do
I didnt think for a minute that i was playing the "Saviour" but years later when it was over, many others in my life expressed that a lot of people saw it that i was being the saver. This was actually very challenging to work through.
Encountered this , thanks to my NARCDAR going off following several explosive and bizarre episodes , and a hostile attitude towards helping herself I ended it quickly . Ofcourse since then I have been blanked and branded two faced ,...no , aware and educated ! ❤
Thank you 😊😊
Yup. 100 percent.
Spot on
Oh we need to always remember she has cancer even though she's been free of it since 2014.
Yes 💯🎯
So true. I held him in my arms while my heart broke from the things he told me. I now realize he was the one running to spread lies on those people in his childhood. He was a liar and still is. Now, he is doing the samething to me, running to tell people how I'm treating him badly and not love him enough, or not getting enough respect as he needs. Whole time you taking care of this man and the kids more than you take care of yourself. How I understand, and now I know how to handle this situation.
Please share because although we are thankfully divorced he's still doing ALL OF THIS. For 20 years THEY were the bad guys . Then he ganged them up on me ! Too bad. Now they get what jealousy- driven losers they are🤷🤪🤣
Ya, I think it's ok to level with each other, in the sense that we can sometimes grow from sharing character during these hard times. Maybe the way you handled it was stoic, or worthy of praise. We all like good feelings you know. But when you see the person using emotion to make gains, catch a leg up, or convince people they're different now, without good evidence I would definitely suspect them of manipulating. So when I have a relationship now, if my partner were still totally wrapped up on the past, I would see a RED FLAG. See, if a person is being smart, trying, and keeping it on the level, you'll see evidence of it, despite the hardship. 😊✨💯
How true
Always the hero, mostly the victim
Never the villain
Yessss!👍
Some people wish they could recount their past
Her favorite rebuttal is when I would challenge her regarding inconsistencies in tragic stories of which she would say
"I never said that." BUSTED😂
Yes! and hello, Jill that's a tough one. I have a situation like that I'm watching. Even if it had made it to a point of romance it would be a big regret but along the way I noticed usually there would be a reference to not one but two of her deceased children right before some crazy favor. Yep a pattern you're right "at first" the last time she pulled this, I asked about the child that is alive. Pretty much a one-line response and change the subject. She has been trying to exploit access through a co-worker thanks for the affirmation sometimes they will have already exploited us with their tactics counting on a long future of supply.
That's all she knows. Teach her to change her narrative and learn from the past. I heard a woman say how she would not have her family at her wedding or present when she has a child, how sad. I hope she realizes she can change the narrative, she is in charge.
If this happens in the first six months, run. Pay attention to if they ever talk of there part in things. If not, run. The victims always blame others. Fun ? Not really !
O you are so on point with everything I thank God I found you. Alot of others that talk about this don't completely understand all of it. You have it down to the exact 💯 things that o am going through. God bless you finally someone who really knows and understands what they are really doing. It's horrible and very damaging, it's gonna take me year's to be the man I once was. I stayed 25 year's the first 10 good. The last 15 I'm lucky I'm not in prison from the physical financial and mental abuse. She completely destroyed our family my family her family and all of our children and the grandkids. Truly a nightmare that I'm still trying to get away from. Everyone else completely does not even speak to her and haven't in year's. Unfortunately we aren't divorced yet I am working on that and then I will never interact with her again. But for now I have to deal with her. The years went by and she got worse as time passed. And now is nothing less than a witch completely evil and heartless. Thank you for the knowledge 🙏.
I'm now autistic 😂 Therapy for life! WOOO!
Amen Amen Amen Amen Thankyou God That Belong Now In The Past 2024 HALLELUJAH IT'S ALL Over Now
Amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Yep- abuse accusations. Then the smear campaign.
I had a female boss like this. She would flip to victim mode after all of the threats and intimidation outplayed themselves. Her victim mode was pitiful because it was so obviously fake. There is such a difference to someone truly hurting and trying to heal versus someone shedding fake tears and embodying victim mode the moment things don’t go their way. It’s always a power play game with narcissists, never a genuine intention to connect.
Yup. Got my azz. Lesson learned
Don't know any females But Do know a male who whined all the time as a victim. 15 yrs of BS. I think he believed his own stories as they blended with normal life.
Lot's of males do this!!!!
This can occur in either gender, and there are some who ARE targeted, in addition to, victimized repeatedly. This is no joke, especially if someone keep trying with not only their own situation, but assists others, yet the brutality continues, it is terrible.
I really have to say I feel like you and I connect!! you get this you get me!!! i watch your videos and I see the caring in your eyes your voice you care!!! I know there are nice people in this world like you!!! please keep making videos!!! PLEASE!!! I know now where i GET my empathy and compassion from my MOTHER!!! she is extremely empathetic like me but she's a stronger personality therefore she was never abused!!! LIKE HER DAUGHTER WAS!!! I don't want to write a novel here but my female narc she shared all kinds of horrific things in her past!!! she told me she was raped by her father at 16!!! and of course I felt bad!!! and she knew it!!! I WAS THE little fly that caught in her spider's web!!! MALE NARCS TOO my male narc tried to be me he would repeat what I said I have a story about a resident that froze to death at one of the nursing homes I WAS AT JILL HOW HORRIBLE
Not just a female thing
It is draining 😪 😫 😞
just can'ts take it NO MO 🙃
Woke up today to find i'm on the right path because after being told i wasn't due to shared fantasy and after walking through WW narc III i am. This was due to planning and hard work. After borderline B drama and brainwashing sometimes it's okay to be bored.
Very true! You are always wrong and they always must be right!
❤
Whoa! After listening to probably hundreds of videos about narcissists and narcissistic abuse… This is the first one that has me scratching my head and wondering if "I" am the narcissist. Well sort of, and sort of not.
I mean all of these things you say to describe the narcissist are things that I "feel"as a victim of narcissistic abuse.
I don't go around "saying" this to every random person in my life or playing the "poor me" card but I have to admit that anger "is" one of many difficult emotions that come up around the fact that I lost so much of my life as a result, the fact is I was deeply hurt and anger is part of the fallout..and if someone who claimed to care about me took the side of the narcissist, I know that would be too much for me to keep this person in my intimate circle.. So does this automatically make me a narcissist? I'm thinking it surely must be far more nuanced than this.
Think about it. All of the gas lighting and invalidation and manipulated flying monkeys that a victim of narcissistic abuse has undoubtedly been torn apart by. As a result, I think most of us end up hypersensitive to anything that resembles the same....and we NEED to know it's safe to be real with our nearest and dearest
The best way to deal with it is to go no contact.. no explanation.. just get a safe distance away and stop responding to everyone involved or you’ll be trapped like everyone else involved.
She did,i tried to save her
I would caution people to be careful not to judge others. Anyone who grew up in a narcissistic family - with narcissistic parents, and/ or narcissistic siblings - and then choose a narcissistic partner out of familiarity/ unhealed dysfunctional patterns could easily be judged in this way before they've healed/ been able to improve their lives. Think about it. Be kind. Don't judge others harshly. ❤
It gets old. They are habitual victims.
This is one of those grey areas between borderline and narcissism. They’re both cluster B so I guess no surprise here.
Precisely I've always said it's not my job or place to listen to trauma repeatedly. Once or 2x maybe but not almost every other conversation. It's alot especially when I have my own trauma. I can only listen to negativity but for so long. Seek a mental health professional.
Big mistake talking about an ex.
These bauty filters makes these clips unwatchable
Part 2 so you don't get a migraine!!! she was in memory care she wanted out broke the door and got out and froze to death!!! my male narc held me cried and it was all a fake act that's how they trap you!!! my female narc has an obsession with the grid going down this is what she shared with me and I only brought politics into it!!! IT HAS NO PLACE HERE BUT I HAD TO PAINT THE WHOLE PICTURE HERE!!! she grabbed me by the face one day and said when the grid is taken out!!! the peasants like us will all die!!! the elite will run to their bunkers with their food and water their safety and we will all die!!! they won't even give us a moldy loaf of bread to eat BECKY!!! she said we both own guns for safety!!! she said she would teach me how to kill myself and my parents and my 2 dogs and she will do the same!!! commenting on this is making me I'll!!! but this what I endured for 6 moths with her!!! yes the elite will always be ok she's right about that!!! I am done trying to fix people like her with baggage because what you do JILL WILL NEVER BE ENOUGH NEVER!!! your kindness they use and take and take and take and take and give nothing in return for you!!! that's why I am done with the CLEVELAND BROWNS TOO I CAN'T support an elite like their owner!!! when the grid goes out he will be ok!!! SOMETIMES I WISH I WAS BORN A PEASANT I WOULD OF NEVER MET NARCS AND I WOULD OF BEEN DEAD BY NOW!!! to show you how she ruined my body too what abuse does to your body!! I thought I was done with my monthly you know I WAS ALL HAPPY BUT BECAUSE OF ALL HER STRESS AND TALK SHE GAVE ME I GOT IT!!! ALL THE STRESS BROUGHT IT ON!!! AND THE GAGGING AND ALL OF IT!!! MY kindness to her and my empathy meant nothing to her!!! and she always told me no black man would ever want to date me because I AM TO SKINNY!!! THEY DON'T LIKE SKINNY WOMEN!!! ALL the people who stand in judgement of the poor victims walk in our shoes a day!!! IT'S HELL
Can a narcissist ever be able to be healed ?!? Any kind of names under narcissistic conditions eg covert narcissist ?!? Or any kind of branches under narcissistic condition ?!?