A whore is a whore. She slept with different men and gave someone else another man child in the first place. She brought the problem and this will continue to hurt them forever. No matter what they say, the woman is a disgrace and whoever gives another man someone else child is a disgrace
When? She owed her daughter to conceive her in wedlock. She owed her the truth about who her father is. How she gon say the father didn’t want to tell her yet? It’s up to her fornicating behind, the one who carried & delivered the child to tell her who her father is & she kept it from her on purpose. She set all of this in motion and still tryna put the responsibility on others.
@@ramiyna That's the truth and someone is saying she is accountable. Her sleeping with different people is her decision but lying about the child father is unacceptable
@@muhammadcollins9275 She made a choice between giving her child to someone who was willing and able to love and care for her, or traumatizing the child by raising her in a household where her sibling got all of the love and attention from a father, while she wondered about hers. I think the mother made the decision she thought was best at the time. It was a no-win situation, no matter what choice she made.
@@bmichelle7402 The choice she made was a terrible choice. My elder brother mother lied about aborting the pregnancy and gave birth to him and my father never knew until my brother was 19 years. A whore is a whore because that's why she was sleeping around. I see no reason to justify her actions
@@bmichelle7402 The man was still willing to be in her child life because he is a good man and not because she made a good choice after lying to the man for 2 years. Do you imagine the pain the man passed through when he knew the child he loved was not hers and what the child passed through and still suffering because of her mother actions. You want someone to be your child father, then don't sleep around and have sex with only the person you want to be your children father.
Exactly illegitimate parents. Just straight messy having an affair having affairs with married men and all this nonsense then you bring a child in the world and they do treat the child different because it’s a product of their affair and they feel some type of way because the father doesn’t wanna be bothered but what did they really expect that he’s gonna leave his wife for them it’s just these mothers are messy and I really feel sorry for that daughter
Thank you. This case hit home. My mom claims she doesn't know why it's hard to love me, but still won't admit it has anything to do with losing her first love and fiancé b/c they cheated on each other while he was deployed and she was away at college. They could get past each other cheating, yet he couldn't get past her having another man's child from it, and I honestly think that's why she gave up, never tried to get to know me, and sent us to live with family members when I was a week old. She doesn't see the connection, but the fact that she was able to love her husband's kids, but not me should tell her something. I honestly think when children come from unfavorable messes that illegitimate parents create, then it's better to give them up for adoption into a suitable family who will love them rather than bouncing around with family you burden them with and foster care - they're usually treated like throw away children in circumstances like that, so if these illegitimate parents aren't man and woman enough to treat the children right, then just give them to a family who actually wants them and will treat them right right...
@@startinajackson606maybe she expected him to be an adult and take care of his child. A cheating man isn’t a prize to a mistress and definitely not to a wife. If he’ll lie to his wife , he’ll lie to his daughter. It’s not just the mothers that’s messy , it’s the fathers too and the women that supports there bad decisions.
My perspective changed when the young lady said she’s not working yet has her own child…. Makes me wonder if she just taking advantage of her mom who obviously enables her. Depression is very real , excuses are real, & manipulative ppl are also 🤷🏽♂️ who knows. Glad Judge helped her out I wish them well.
The girl almost flipped when her mom said she would not babysit until she got the rest of her money! I am sure her mom doesn't even charge for babysitting! Yet, she has to bring the girl to court to get what is owed to her. Tough love would stop the babysitting until the girl started paying her back or require payment UP FRONT for babysitting!
Glad to see a case where it still worked out for both mom and daughter. I applaud the mother for taking responsibility for her actions. And I'm glad to see the daughter trying to overcome her past, God put a hedge around her.
The daughter is still harboring feelings from her early childhood and has trust issues. It makes her come off as cold and nonchalant. Hopefully she will seek therapy so she can heal.
@@novembrluv u would love that either way it bothers u how ? But for the record head of household have my two kids and my wonderful wife with me lml. But come again lol
The daughter can't keep using that excuse for everything. She's gown now and need to do things to progress and get help if she need it. She's very ungrateful and need some maturing.
@@eternaltrav3885 yeah it was clear pops was stepping out convince his side chic to stay quiet until he was ready to be introduced to her and he getting off with zero blame
My brother did that to my dad. Got a DNA test to prove I was my dads child. I’m black they are white! After that kicked me to the curb. 😂😂😂 I’m cool on it. I saw what it was.
To the entire “sneaky link” culture of 2023…please do not create a child with your sneaky link. The kid will be impacted by your bad decision for their entire life.
She keeps using that pity train to make her mother feel guilty so she can keep getting money out of her. She’s using every excuse to not do anything with her life. Depression is hard but it is manageable you just have to have the determination. I really pray that the Judge’s support will push her to do better & appreciate her mother more. Mother’s don’t live forever and once she’s gone, the daughter will realize that no one in this world will be there for her like her mother.
Exactly I had the exact same situation and I was mature enough not to make my parents suffer. That family member had no right. She wasn’t mistreated 🙄.
Yes I as a parent, is in a very similar situation and as a single parent I mistakenly overcompensated as well. My 25 year old is manipulative and makes excuses not to take care of herself, claiming depression. I've decided to cut her off. Because I've been continuously rescuing her since she became an adult. I'll be 50 this year, I'm not stressing out this year.
So the Defendant felt favoritism after she was told the truth. She chose to be angry instead of grateful that a man stepped up. Her real Dad dgaf. I hear excuses. Her family loved her.
Very ungrateful because not only did she have 1father, she had 2 but wants to focus on her mother's decision to not tell her until she was mature and clearly this is why, because how she is behaving now.
Man I was so happy when he said they gonna put her in Cosmetology school I think he felt her pain especially with the depression knowing what his daughter went through.I loved this episode
I was ok until the daughter LIED on her Mother. SHAME ON HER!!! I wish them both the best. Young people REMEMBER that you only have one Mother and when she's gone you have really lost someone.
When he found out when she was 2, you could’ve told her from that day! She was so young and it would’ve been ok(her mom’s husband is just a step dad and that’s ok). ❤The girl is hurt and I’m with the child.
The daughter has a LOT of excuses! SMDH I went through abandonment from both of my parents, raised my damn self, lived in the hoods of Detroit Michigan, was traumatized, sexually assaulted, dealt and still trying to heal from depression and anxiety having panic attacks etc. I finished high school and graduated from college and got my bachelors degree so all these excuses are just that!!! You have to WANT better for your life. I don’t have sympathy for anyone who keeps making excuses. Hell many of us went through worse than that and still came out on top not sitting around wallowing in being a bum! SMDH I don’t want to hear it. I was shifted from household to household as a young tween and teen and slept on the floor and couches. Sorry. If I can do it, everyone can! I don’t have no compassion for the damn excuses! 😑✋🏽🙄Hell no! I can’t even finish this episode. This seems forced like hell.
She didn't work through her issues and so she keeps being upset. She is also still young. I've been a victim of MANY traumatic experiences. Some too horrible to name here. Therapy talking with people who had similar experiences and other tools helped me. Your post seems really upset and Im guessing some of that has nothing to do with her. I wish you healing from the things you went through.
@@jaydub4661AND?!?! I was THREE when the assaults started! So you can move around and miss me with more excuses for someone you don’t know who sounds like she is trying to get smooth over and just sounds like a spoiled brat! She said absolutely nothing that warrants anything. She is FULL OF EXCUSES and TOO damn grown to not WORK and take care of her kid! PERIOD!
Favoritism is REAL. Parents try to act dumb to it, and aloof kids are not dumb they feel and see the Favoritism. Usually the kid that's favored end up being the one that abandon the parent in old age 😆. Folk if you HAVE KIDS TREAT THEM LIKE THEY'RE YOURS
Truth. It's 3 girls including me. I'm the middle but haven't spoken to my mother for 3 years now. The eldest sister is the golden child. One min they joke, laugh, talk about other ppl, etc then the eldest sister called my younger sister (speaker phone) calling our mom every bad name in the book because the mother went talking behind my eldest sister back
I think if a parent has 2+ children, each child is going to get a different version of that parent 🤷🏽♀️ 1 child watching the parent with the other child, I think it's human nature to get envious to a degree but ultimately once we mature and start having our own children, it's then that we understand 😉
The mother’s daughter is clearly ungrateful and using the excuse to be mad at her mom and the world bc her father wasn’t in her life. Look how the tables have turned. The daughter baby father isn’t in her child’s life, but got the grandmother babysitting.
An probably feel like she shouldn't pay her mom to keep her grandchild...If the mother wasn't in ur life she would have to pay someone else or bring her to school or work
I’m so happy for Judge Mathis addressing the mental health issues that plague our community because of trauma that most of us have experienced during our lives.
I feel sorry for the Mom. She’s still trying to make up to the daughter which the daughter is a Mom now & needs to get therapy & meds & stop making her Mom feel bad. Tomorrow’s not promised to no one 😢
The mother caused her trauma, how do you feel to know the father you know and sees as your father is not because your mother lied to you. The mother that is supposed to protect you
The mother said she may not love her dad but she love what she made…come on now, make that make sense. How can you love your child if you don’t love the person they came from?
It's soooo many hurt/bitter/ mentally lost young girls out here walking the earth💯 she choosing a profession that's flooded with competition like a nail n hair tech instead of finishing up her criminal justice degree! I guess anything is better than what she has now, which is NOTHING💯
I understand the mother bc the love you have for your child is the most beautiful/scariest thing in the world. But depression is real and I am sure the young girl feels like she is alone in the world ..
Same here. Super blessed. I did some college but didn’t graduate. I have a job making over 6 figures. Sometimes a basic understanding of something can open great doors
yes I never understood why jm always says you can’t get a good job with just a diploma that’s just not true i know people with degrees that are struggling it just depends on the situation
It’s sad seeing parents sue their kids. My mom would never! Like that’s your child, and if you feel like they’re taking advantage of you and using you for your money, then stop helping them and teach them tough love. Idk I wouldn’t sue my child.
@@kandylaland I don’t have nothing all wrong because I wouldn’t sue my kids. My mom raised me w/ respect,responsibility and she spoiled me because I earned it. I’m grown and she always tells me if I need her let her know however I don’t use my mother nor ask her for money even the times I was struggling for a time period because she did her part already by raising me which is why I said in my comment stop helping your kid if you notice a pattern in them using you or not learning responsibility. However I still wouldn’t sue my kid, I just wouldn’t help them financially anymore.
An absent parent can spew a life time of trauma. 1st by not being present, next by telling the child lies about the active parent. They are never there to see the results of the trauma caused.
Just because the daughter said it don't make her no more truthful than the mother but JM berating the mother as a lier..he never disappoints so predictable.
These moms do what they can to provide and protect these kids. They turn into ungrateful adults and want to play victim. Judge Mathis was a little bit of an enabler on this case. Call your mom poor, yet you have no job, a baby and a man that doesn't show up. If your biological dad wanted to be in your life he would have. He is a coward. I pray she gets the help she needs because as a Black woman we rarely have the luxury of being victims, we are warriors!
Sometimes we are victims, though. This trope that Black women have to be "warriors" all the time is part of the reason so many sisters are depressed out here. I'm not saying the daughter has made all the right decisions in life, because she clearly needs to get herself together and do better, but teenagers say and do dumb things--that doesn't make them any less victims of parents' poor decisions.
Of course we are victims often, but when you heal, you become a survivor! You have to want that. Yes, we deserve to take our capes off, and the sooner you let go of the pain,, you can do so.I just don't think she should have treated her mom so badly for doing her best. It's the same as when I hear so many blaming their moms for absent dads. Most women don't chose that.
@Monique Shuntae I totally get what you're saying about wanting to heal. And I certainly think that absent fathers are solely responsible for their decisions to be absent. But I'd also wager that a woman who is having unprotected sex with a married man is aware that she is making a choice that will likely harm any potential offspring of that union, whether it's in regard to child support or physical presence. The mother here seems like she has been supportive of her daughter and I really respect and appreciate that. I definitely don't think she's one of those demon mothers. I just wish more people would give credit to the fact that you don't just reach the age of adulthood and suddenly have no negative feelings toward the things that hurt you when you were a minor. Most Black folks don't talk about the importance of therapy and mental health wellness, so I can't be mad at her for not knowing how to stop feeling victimized and be a "warrior". She never even finished high school. She couldn't really vocalize a general plan for how she was going to get from point A to B in her life, so I suspect that she doesn't even think about wanting to heal; she just lives in the moment [and then makes bad decisions].
The daughter is so ungrateful. She needs to take accountability for her own actions, I hope she takes advantage of the free school and get her life together for her and her kid.
The daughter is playing the entitled victim card and her mother must really love her to continue to enable this foolery. By the daughter moving out to live with a girlfriend, make a baby with a dead beat, not complete school, and not have a job means she has a proven track record of just not being responsible.
Clinical depression is a beast. Left untreated it can get worse and negatively impact every area of one's life. Folks tend to minimize it at their own peril.
I saw a post on Facebook last year of someone asking men how could they disrespect the woman who brought them into the world and one man had said his mom mistreated him growing up because he looked like his dad
There is a difference between being depressed and suffering from depression. I think this girl wants to do what she wants to do when she wants to do it. I imagine that she definitely was traumatized but she is using that trauma imho.
....And the daughter is wondering why she's going thru Hard Times.... She feels entitled, and she's manipulative. She acts as if the Wolrd owes her something. But she Better remember she has a daughter now, With No Father. and None to step up, at least her step dad did when her real coward biological one didn't want anything to do with her at birth.
I believe the mom tried her best and loves her daughter.......the daughter is a beautiful young lady well spoken and a go getter but needs therapy to heal............
The mom didn't try her best. One of the most important decisions you can make for your child is who you create them with. The mother slept with a married man and brought forth a child. We give our black mothers every excuse, smh. The standars in our community are low.
This was annoying as hell. “Love is bigger than money” so you take advantage of your moms love and money and think you shouldn’t pay because you were brought into this world from an affair, girl bye. And the using depression as an excuse for everything is getting old and tired! She said it didn’t “stick” meaning she wasn’t interested anymore like lmao judge Mathis be falling for the bs all the time.
This girl is trying to make her mom feel guilty of her past all the while the dad don’t want nothing to do with her and she thinks the world of him. This girl is blaming everyone for her short comings , she gets in trouble and then she runs to her mom to help her . This girl needs to get herself together and stop all of this pity party mess
The Defendant is using her past as an excuse to not be productive. She ain't that depressed. She put herself together real nice today. Girl, take your behind to cosmetology school and get licensed. She ain't depressed. Her attitude is 💩'y! You're NOT getting it JM. Okay you been through something we all have. That's life. Don't wallow in it. That's why these kids are so LAZY! Don't make excuses for her. Her Mother wasn't on crack WTH is he talking about 🙄
@ 10:25 - I mean, WERE they poor? .. I may be wrong for this, but I resent my mom a bit b/c we were lower middle class growing up … I just believe that parents should make money BEFORE they make kids so that their child’s childhood is reasonably comfortable
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I was so happy to hear judge Mathis say they would help her pay for cosmetology school. That literally put a big smile on my face.
She not gone go 😂
@@zenatellsthetruth8457thank you, I was looking for this comment
Same ❤❤
The way her mom got happy for her and started clapping for outta happiness she’s going back to school🥰✨
For what? Have her "girlfriend" pay for it
MOM HELD HERSELF ACCOUNTABLE AND THAT WAS A BLESSING! HELP THEM LORD! IM GLAD JUDGE SAID HE WAS GOING TO HELP HER!
I agree, I hope they get everything straightened out.
A whore is a whore. She slept with different men and gave someone else another man child in the first place. She brought the problem and this will continue to hurt them forever. No matter what they say, the woman is a disgrace and whoever gives another man someone else child is a disgrace
When? She owed her daughter to conceive her in wedlock. She owed her the truth about who her father is. How she gon say the father didn’t want to tell her yet? It’s up to her fornicating behind, the one who carried & delivered the child to tell her who her father is & she kept it from her on purpose. She set all of this in motion and still tryna put the responsibility on others.
@@ramiyna That's the truth and someone is saying she is accountable. Her sleeping with different people is her decision but lying about the child father is unacceptable
She didn't.
the mom is sweet at heart and love her child. I see it in her. She tried to do the right thing in her eyes not knowing it was hurting her daughter
Giving another man someone else child is what is right or what. She is a disgrace and not at all sweet. She caused the child problem
@@muhammadcollins9275 she didn’t know mf that’s my mom watch your mouth
@@muhammadcollins9275 She made a choice between giving her child to someone who was willing and able to love and care for her, or traumatizing the child by raising her in a household where her sibling got all of the love and attention from a father, while she wondered about hers. I think the mother made the decision she thought was best at the time. It was a no-win situation, no matter what choice she made.
@@bmichelle7402 The choice she made was a terrible choice. My elder brother mother lied about aborting the pregnancy and gave birth to him and my father never knew until my brother was 19 years. A whore is a whore because that's why she was sleeping around. I see no reason to justify her actions
@@bmichelle7402 The man was still willing to be in her child life because he is a good man and not because she made a good choice after lying to the man for 2 years. Do you imagine the pain the man passed through when he knew the child he loved was not hers and what the child passed through and still suffering because of her mother actions. You want someone to be your child father, then don't sleep around and have sex with only the person you want to be your children father.
I'm so happy the situation turned into a blessing for the daughter.
Thats what I thought too
Me 2
There's no such thing as illegitimate children, only illegitimate parents.
Preach bro...this here FACTS
That’s facts!
Exactly illegitimate parents. Just straight messy having an affair having affairs with married men and all this nonsense then you bring a child in the world and they do treat the child different because it’s a product of their affair and they feel some type of way because the father doesn’t wanna be bothered but what did they really expect that he’s gonna leave his wife for them it’s just these mothers are messy and I really feel sorry for that daughter
Thank you. This case hit home. My mom claims she doesn't know why it's hard to love me, but still won't admit it has anything to do with losing her first love and fiancé b/c they cheated on each other while he was deployed and she was away at college.
They could get past each other cheating, yet he couldn't get past her having another man's child from it, and I honestly think that's why she gave up, never tried to get to know me, and sent us to live with family members when I was a week old.
She doesn't see the connection, but the fact that she was able to love her husband's kids, but not me should tell her something. I honestly think when children come from unfavorable messes that illegitimate parents create, then it's better to give them up for adoption into a suitable family who will love them rather than bouncing around with family you burden them with and foster care - they're usually treated like throw away children in circumstances like that, so if these illegitimate parents aren't man and woman enough to treat the children right, then just give them to a family who actually wants them and will treat them right right...
@@startinajackson606maybe she expected him to be an adult and take care of his child. A cheating man isn’t a prize to a mistress and definitely not to a wife. If he’ll lie to his wife , he’ll lie to his daughter. It’s not just the mothers that’s messy , it’s the fathers too and the women that supports there bad decisions.
Much respect to JM for paying for her to go to school. That was very nice of him
He could see the sadness all over her it covers her like a blanket because of the mothers sins it literally makes me sick.
My perspective changed when the young lady said she’s not working yet has her own child…. Makes me wonder if she just taking advantage of her mom who obviously enables her. Depression is very real , excuses are real, & manipulative ppl are also 🤷🏽♂️ who knows. Glad Judge helped her out I wish them well.
Yes I have 25 y/o like this thats very manipulative. I've overcompensated as well as a sing mom.
The girl almost flipped when her mom said she would not babysit until she got the rest of her money! I am sure her mom doesn't even charge for babysitting! Yet, she has to bring the girl to court to get what is owed to her. Tough love would stop the babysitting until the girl started paying her back or require payment UP FRONT for babysitting!
Generational curses..BREAK EVERY CHAIN!
Glad to see a case where it still worked out for both mom and daughter. I applaud the mother for taking responsibility for her actions. And I'm glad to see the daughter trying to overcome her past, God put a hedge around her.
A hedge around me too.... Please God
her mom is a sweet heart
So glad JM offered to pay for cosmetology school. What a blessing!
I'M NOT TALKING TO YOU!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
The end had me laughing.. what she need a baby sitter for if she’s unemployed?? Lol
I was just sitting here saying the same thing. What she need a baby sitter for? Can’t even pay her mom
Back. Unemployed and in the streets.
Where baby daddy at?
@@Mariahhh72 sometimes need a babysitter to go to interviews or job searches. Also, you can’t pay somebody if you don’t have a job or income 😊
Right because I’m sure she was going on interviews 😉
@@SRT_DRE she said he not around at all smh
Great job, Judge. God bless you young lady. Keep your head up.
Judge Mathis is a blessing!!!!! He is so sweet!!! All it takes is one person to see something in you!!!
Sweet???? Yeah right.
The daughter is still harboring feelings from her early childhood and has trust issues. It makes her come off as cold and nonchalant.
Hopefully she will seek therapy so she can heal.
Clear sign of clinical depression. If there's a chemical imbalance, medication along with therapy may be in order.
She has a beautiful strong mother so do I better appreciate her while she’s still here!!!
This girl has NO life plans at all! She has an excuse for everything. 20 years down the line she'll still have excuses. It isn't all on the mom.
I agree, she should do the work to let the grudge go . All three parents made the decision not to tell her until later
That’s 96% of females tho
@@Orlandoloc83 you're either gay or by yourself.
@@novembrluv u would love that either way it bothers u how ? But for the record head of household have my two kids and my wonderful wife with me lml. But come again lol
@@Orlandoloc83 👏. Your comment was stupid, just thought I'd let you know.
Wow I’m glad the judge was looking out for both parties.🙏🏽
Omgggggggggg thank you Judgeeeeee she needed this! 🥰🗣️ YOU GOT THIS BABY GIRL😚
This is not a foster care or crack case....move on Judge.
Right I was so confused when he brought that up
Prayers for both of them, their situation and relationship 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Mom seems a little touched.
In Jesus name🙏🏾✨🙏🏾
Aww love the ending 🙏🏾hopefully this neva happens again with the both of them
Girl , never ask the man. They seem to always leave the important details out😅😂
Yes
The daughter can't keep using that excuse for everything. She's gown now and need to do things to progress and get help if she need it. She's very ungrateful and need some maturing.
Yeah nah sounds like she had problems with her mom and used find out about her father as method of get back
Glad to see someone else can see that.
@@eternaltrav3885 yeah it was clear pops was stepping out convince his side chic to stay quiet until he was ready to be introduced to her and he getting off with zero blame
My brother did that to my dad. Got a DNA test to prove I was my dads child. I’m black they are white! After that kicked me to the curb. 😂😂😂 I’m cool on it. I saw what it was.
Mom is a blessing and everyone makes mistakes, it’s how you deal with it.
To the entire “sneaky link” culture of 2023…please do not create a child with your sneaky link. The kid will be impacted by your bad decision for their entire life.
And both parents will tell you when you are grown to get over it! Pure craziness to bring a child in this world like that. My story!
@couleuredgirl6314 that's because what's done is done. What else can they do besides continue to love on you and wait for you to mature 🤔
She keeps using that pity train to make her mother feel guilty so she can keep getting money out of her. She’s using every excuse to not do anything with her life. Depression is hard but it is manageable you just have to have the determination. I really pray that the Judge’s support will push her to do better & appreciate her mother more. Mother’s don’t live forever and once she’s gone, the daughter will realize that no one in this world will be there for her like her mother.
Exactly I had the exact same situation and I was mature enough not to make my parents suffer. That family member had no right. She wasn’t mistreated 🙄.
She needed to pay her mother back. That shows her lack of character. Mom don’t do anything else for her monetarily. She is using her mother.
I'm glad somebody said it. She is grown now. Your life is your responsibility.
I hope y’all never have kids
Yes I as a parent, is in a very similar situation and as a single parent I mistakenly overcompensated as well. My 25 year old is manipulative and makes excuses not to take care of herself, claiming depression. I've decided to cut her off. Because I've been continuously rescuing her since she became an adult. I'll be 50 this year, I'm not stressing out this year.
So the Defendant felt favoritism after she was told the truth. She chose to be angry instead of grateful that a man stepped up. Her real Dad dgaf. I hear excuses. Her family loved her.
Exactly my thoughts!!
Very ungrateful because not only did she have 1father, she had 2 but wants to focus on her mother's decision to not tell her until she was mature and clearly this is why, because how she is behaving now.
Man I was so happy when he said they gonna put her in Cosmetology school I think he felt her pain especially with the depression knowing what his daughter went through.I loved this episode
I was ok until the daughter LIED on her Mother. SHAME ON HER!!! I wish them both the best. Young people REMEMBER that you only have one Mother and when she's gone you have really lost someone.
Meh, unfortunately all mother's aren't cut from the same cloth. Some are highly abusive and toxic. So, let's keep that in mind as well.
Have a blessed and prosperous day!!
Same to you
You too beautiful
Thank you and you have a beautiful blessed day also queen 👑..
When he found out when she was 2, you could’ve told her from that day! She was so young and it would’ve been ok(her mom’s husband is just a step dad and that’s ok).
❤The girl is hurt and I’m with the child.
The daughter has a LOT of excuses! SMDH I went through abandonment from both of my parents, raised my damn self, lived in the hoods of Detroit Michigan, was traumatized, sexually assaulted, dealt and still trying to heal from depression and anxiety having panic attacks etc. I finished high school and graduated from college and got my bachelors degree so all these excuses are just that!!! You have to WANT better for your life. I don’t have sympathy for anyone who keeps making excuses. Hell many of us went through worse than that and still came out on top not sitting around wallowing in being a bum! SMDH I don’t want to hear it. I was shifted from household to household as a young tween and teen and slept on the floor and couches. Sorry. If I can do it, everyone can! I don’t have no compassion for the damn excuses! 😑✋🏽🙄Hell no! I can’t even finish this episode. This seems forced like hell.
She didn't work through her issues and so she keeps being upset. She is also still young. I've been a victim of MANY traumatic experiences. Some too horrible to name here. Therapy talking with people who had similar experiences and other tools helped me. Your post seems really upset and Im guessing some of that has nothing to do with her. I wish you healing from the things you went through.
Everyone goes through trauma differently, period.
@@jaydub4661AND?!?! I was THREE when the assaults started! So you can move around and miss me with more excuses for someone you don’t know who sounds like she is trying to get smooth over and just sounds like a spoiled brat! She said absolutely nothing that warrants anything. She is FULL OF EXCUSES and TOO damn grown to not WORK and take care of her kid! PERIOD!
Favoritism is REAL. Parents try to act dumb to it, and aloof kids are not dumb they feel and see the Favoritism. Usually the kid that's favored end up being the one that abandon the parent in old age 😆. Folk if you HAVE KIDS TREAT THEM LIKE THEY'RE YOURS
I hope your statement applies to the "some" parents that show favoritism.
@@sereneamani1713 don't be slow, it's implied, it doesn't have to be stated.
Truth. It's 3 girls including me. I'm the middle but haven't spoken to my mother for 3 years now. The eldest sister is the golden child. One min they joke, laugh, talk about other ppl, etc then the eldest sister called my younger sister (speaker phone) calling our mom every bad name in the book because the mother went talking behind my eldest sister back
@@JessicaSmith-yd2nm sad it should never be a golden one. Now I understand if a parent distance themselves from one that cause havoc
I think if a parent has 2+ children, each child is going to get a different version of that parent 🤷🏽♀️ 1 child watching the parent with the other child, I think it's human nature to get envious to a degree but ultimately once we mature and start having our own children, it's then that we understand 😉
The mother’s daughter is clearly ungrateful and using the excuse to be mad at her mom and the world bc her father wasn’t in her life. Look how the tables have turned. The daughter baby father isn’t in her child’s life, but got the grandmother babysitting.
An probably feel like she shouldn't pay her mom to keep her grandchild...If the mother wasn't in ur life she would have to pay someone else or bring her to school or work
I’m so happy for Judge Mathis addressing the mental health issues that plague our community because of trauma that most of us have experienced during our lives.
I wish the mom and daughter nothing but the best.
I feel sorry for the Mom. She’s still trying to make up to the daughter which the daughter is a Mom now & needs to get therapy & meds & stop making her Mom feel bad. Tomorrow’s not promised to no one 😢
Yall need to stop acting like children gotta forgive their parents just because theyre their parents.
You love your parents but sometimes they can be toxic to you.
@@Hi-nl2jg ikr I'm not going
The mother caused her trauma, how do you feel to know the father you know and sees as your father is not because your mother lied to you. The mother that is supposed to protect you
The mother said she may not love her dad but she love what she made…come on now, make that make sense. How can you love your child if you don’t love the person they came from?
Judge Mathis ALWAYS HAS ME ROLLIN WHEN HE STARTS TELLING THEM THEY SMOKE CRACK🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I pray for this mother and daughter, to grant them peace and continued love.
Not the "entanglement" being the direct result of her daughter's existence and then blaming the daughter for her own dysfunction
It's soooo many hurt/bitter/ mentally lost young girls out here walking the earth💯 she choosing a profession that's flooded with competition like a nail n hair tech instead of finishing up her criminal justice degree! I guess anything is better than what she has now, which is NOTHING💯
I LIKE HOW THAT ENDED, GOD BLESS YOU BOTH.
I hope she does well in cosmetology school! I'm glad they were able to be friendly at the end--hope their relationship gets/stays healthy.
everybody’s face when she said entanglement 😂
😳😹😹😹🤦🏾♀️
She's gonna show up to class all of 1 week...😂😅
Paying her mom would’ve been the right thing to do.
I understand the mother bc the love you have for your child is the most beautiful/scariest thing in the world. But depression is real and I am sure the young girl feels like she is alone in the world ..
Alone in the world how?
Family members can be so messy
The mom and married man were messier.
@@jennevamadison3803 but the family members had no right to telling her
@@jennevamadison3803 yall always blame the woman what abt the man that was MARRIED
Mom made a mistake and is owning up to it. Daughter is ungrateful clearly mom is trying her best to compensate her.
Beautiful young lady . God bless her.
"I'M NOT TALKING TO YOU!" 😂😂😂😂
Ma'am, just be quiet!
I got fortunate to land my current job with nothing other than a high school diploma. I don't make a ton of money but it's well above minimum wage.
Same here. Super blessed. I did some college but didn’t graduate. I have a job making over 6 figures. Sometimes a basic understanding of something can open great doors
yes I never understood why jm always says you can’t get a good job with just a diploma that’s just not true i know people with degrees that are struggling it just depends on the situation
God Bless You Judge Mathis you are such a blessing. You are such a great judge. You are such a great judge.
How she get pregnant but has a “girl” friend?! Make it make sense
The partner identifies as a female, at least that's what I heard.
Could be bi-sexual
Some people are bisexual.
Women have girlfriends as friends, no sex.
she ment her Best Friend
Her daughter is beautiful
It’s sad seeing parents sue their kids. My mom would never! Like that’s your child, and if you feel like they’re taking advantage of you and using you for your money, then stop helping them and teach them tough love. Idk I wouldn’t sue my child.
You got it all wrong.. it's called accountability! At some point she needs to be responsible!
@@kandylaland I don’t have nothing all wrong because I wouldn’t sue my kids. My mom raised me w/ respect,responsibility and she spoiled me because I earned it. I’m grown and she always tells me if I need her let her know however I don’t use my mother nor ask her for money even the times I was struggling for a time period because she did her part already by raising me which is why I said in my comment stop helping your kid if you notice a pattern in them using you or not learning responsibility. However I still wouldn’t sue my kid, I just wouldn’t help them financially anymore.
An absent parent can spew a life time of trauma. 1st by not being present, next by telling the child lies about the active parent. They are never there to see the results of the trauma caused.
Just because the daughter said it don't make her no more truthful than the mother but JM berating the mother as a lier..he never disappoints so predictable.
This was a good episode
He just got done encouraging her and then here comes here mother with a damn story about Motel 6 that has nothing to do with nothing.
Yesss thank you Judge !! Hopefully she takes advantage of it and finish ! That’s exciting 🙌🏽
The mess we make when we lie and deceive.
These moms do what they can to provide and protect these kids. They turn into ungrateful adults and want to play victim. Judge Mathis was a little bit of an enabler on this case. Call your mom poor, yet you have no job, a baby and a man that doesn't show up. If your biological dad wanted to be in your life he would have. He is a coward. I pray she gets the help she needs because as a Black woman we rarely have the luxury of being victims, we are warriors!
Very well said Queen. ♥️
Sometimes we are victims, though. This trope that Black women have to be "warriors" all the time is part of the reason so many sisters are depressed out here. I'm not saying the daughter has made all the right decisions in life, because she clearly needs to get herself together and do better, but teenagers say and do dumb things--that doesn't make them any less victims of parents' poor decisions.
Of course we are victims often, but when you heal, you become a survivor! You have to want that. Yes, we deserve to take our capes off, and the sooner you let go of the pain,, you can do so.I just don't think she should have treated her mom so badly for doing her best. It's the same as when I hear so many blaming their moms for absent dads. Most women don't chose that.
@Monique Shuntae I totally get what you're saying about wanting to heal. And I certainly think that absent fathers are solely responsible for their decisions to be absent. But I'd also wager that a woman who is having unprotected sex with a married man is aware that she is making a choice that will likely harm any potential offspring of that union, whether it's in regard to child support or physical presence. The mother here seems like she has been supportive of her daughter and I really respect and appreciate that. I definitely don't think she's one of those demon mothers. I just wish more people would give credit to the fact that you don't just reach the age of adulthood and suddenly have no negative feelings toward the things that hurt you when you were a minor. Most Black folks don't talk about the importance of therapy and mental health wellness, so I can't be mad at her for not knowing how to stop feeling victimized and be a "warrior". She never even finished high school. She couldn't really vocalize a general plan for how she was going to get from point A to B in her life, so I suspect that she doesn't even think about wanting to heal; she just lives in the moment [and then makes bad decisions].
The daughter is so ungrateful. She needs to take accountability for her own actions, I hope she takes advantage of the free school and get her life together for her and her kid.
The daughter is playing the entitled victim card and her mother must really love her to continue to enable this foolery. By the daughter moving out to live with a girlfriend, make a baby with a dead beat, not complete school, and not have a job means she has a proven track record of just not being responsible.
Exactly 😅
Exactly!!
She is doing well, taking care of her daughter,own apartment and working.
Clinical depression is a beast. Left untreated it can get worse and negatively impact every area of one's life. Folks tend to minimize it at their own peril.
Frfr
I wish the best for this young lady!
I had a friend that hates her son cause he looks like the dad. The dad cheated on her and had another family. Lord bless them!
I saw a post on Facebook last year of someone asking men how could they disrespect the woman who brought them into the world and one man had said his mom mistreated him growing up because he looked like his dad
@@quentinjones6877 that’s awful 😢
Almost died wen mom said she wudnt baby sit lmaoooo
There is a difference between being depressed and suffering from depression. I think this girl wants to do what she wants to do when she wants to do it.
I imagine that she definitely was traumatized but she is using that trauma imho.
Yes JM be saying some real things but then he be dragging on to the point I be LOST 😂
🎉 We need an update JM! ❤
The daughter is gorgeous 🎉 hope she’s doing well regardless what she looks like or how she lives
There goes that word "entanglement" to take the place of the word "cheating" again.
🎉🎉🎉🎉 i hope to see her on the big screen doing celebrity nails
Wow, thus brought tears 😢😢😢and I'm at work . She really loves ❤️ her, and the daughter does too they just need some counseling
....And the daughter is wondering why she's going thru Hard Times....
She feels entitled, and she's manipulative.
She acts as if the Wolrd owes her something.
But she Better remember she has a daughter now, With No Father.
and None to step up, at least her step dad did when her real coward biological one didn't want anything to do with her at birth.
I believe the mom tried her best and loves her daughter.......the daughter is a beautiful young lady well spoken and a go getter but needs therapy to heal............
The mom didn't try her best. One of the most important decisions you can make for your child is who you create them with. The mother slept with a married man and brought forth a child. We give our black mothers every excuse, smh. The standars in our community are low.
Hmmm. The daughter acting like money’s not important - until she needs it…
I would never go on TV court with my mom. She's too much of a Dingbat.
This was annoying as hell. “Love is bigger than money” so you take advantage of your moms love and money and think you shouldn’t pay because you were brought into this world from an affair, girl bye. And the using depression as an excuse for everything is getting old and tired! She said it didn’t “stick” meaning she wasn’t interested anymore like lmao judge Mathis be falling for the bs all the time.
This girl is trying to make her mom feel guilty of her past all the while the dad don’t want nothing to do with her and she thinks the world of him. This girl is blaming everyone for her short comings , she gets in trouble and then she runs to her mom to help her . This girl needs to get herself together and stop all of this pity party mess
Would never sue my child for any amount...ever.
For real especially on tv !
The Defendant is using her past as an excuse to not be productive. She ain't that depressed. She put herself together real nice today. Girl, take your behind to cosmetology school and get licensed. She ain't depressed. Her attitude is 💩'y!
You're NOT getting it JM. Okay you been through something we all have. That's life. Don't wallow in it. That's why these kids are so LAZY! Don't make excuses for her. Her Mother wasn't on crack WTH is he talking about 🙄
I hope she goes Judge cause her attitude 😒........wooooooo
No parent is perfect and she clearly loved and cared for her daughter and tried to help her. The daughter was an ungrateful brat and a liar.
I hope the young lady finds her way in Life
Idk why but I instantly started crying when the girl started talking about Criminal Justice and depression.. same girl 😪
This is so common in our society its painful. The judge did the right thing. They have all the signs of a Brooklyn NY family.
Definitely not ONLY in Brooklyn
@@sereneamani1713 Not the issue. The energy, demeanor, swag, tone, accent.
I don’t understand parents taking their child to court to pay them back. My parents would NEVER
Everything happens for a reason. In this case, now the child gets to attend school for free
and you probably aren't disrespectful to your parents either and pay back your debts
I have a problem when people say I never said I would pay you back. When they know they should.
This young lady looking her mom in the eyes and lying in front of a judge has nothing to do with her father issues.
Was gonna jump the gun n say the mom is a bad person but you can tell she genuinely loves her & her child.
Guess you cant be mad at a judge for being nothing but judgmental
I wish them both well ❤
Great contract, Judge!!!
And she knows she owe her mom that money
@ 10:25 - I mean, WERE they poor? ..
I may be wrong for this, but I resent my mom a bit b/c we were lower middle class growing up … I just believe that parents should make money BEFORE they make kids so that their child’s childhood is reasonably comfortable