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In the past all the female singers/entertainers were not sexualized, Dianna Ross, Doris Day, Joan Baez, Janis Joplin, Aretha Franklin, Joni Mitchell, Dusty Springfield, Dionne Warwick the list is endless.
That realization that little girls are trying so hard to grow up fast while those little girls that grew up (like myself who couldn’t wait to grow up) are now finding every effort to hold onto what’s left of their youth before it’s too late😅😂
That’s so true. I see my nieces wanting to grow up so fast and my mom wondering when she crossed into another decade. Meanwhile I’m sitting at 40 like… God is good!!!! 😅
I stopped watching television. I no longer even own a television. I enjoy RUclips, but television is so hyper-sexualized, and they push all the SICK agendas.
I’ve been feeling like this since I could walk & talk.. I remember being 5 omw to school, listening to the radio with my mom. I asked her “why is all the music about love” now that I’m adult the question still stands
GUYS😭 a guy i met wanted to shoot his shot and so i gave him a chance to get to know him, I asked him what kind of music he's into ykno thinking it's a innocent question YKNO tell me why he sends me a rap video of poeple having sex, ORGASM AND ALL.😭 Rapping about how he's gonna do this and that😭 I went from casually eating to mortified with no appetite☠
I've been saying this for so long but honestly the artists don't deserve all the blame. Most sexual songs go viral while the songs about other things just don't. People are just too h0rny these days💀
@@obsessednoodle yeah like indie/non label artists are doing a lot of non sex songs while the biggest label ones tend to do songs about it just because their label wants them to profit off it, so they go with the classic. but yeah, people be too into it these days
Right, where's the love. I feel like no matter what genre I see, it's sexual. Rap became sexual, when it was originally about experience. R&B used to be loving, now it's sexual. Pop music is becoming more sexual, it's getting old. I've decided to go into older songs and maybe some alternative music.
As a teen who never got attention from men i think im starting to realise it isn't really a bad thing and it's so relieving to finally stop thinking about the male gaze.
But that doesnt mean you are ugly or something, you look cute and really pretty. I think same goes with me, I think i'm somewhat pretty but hadnt had attention either
I feel you, I'll be 17 in 3 months and I have never been in a relationship and crushes have never really happened to me (I had one in 6th grade and once in freshman year 😭) but I never let it get any farther than a crush. I have never really felt the need for romance or relationships. let me tell you it took long enough for me to understand that it's ok for me to not be in a relationship and that Just bc everyone else is in one doesn't mean I have to. Only God knows what the future will hold for me but for now I am at peace also because I'm one of those ppl who loves solitude. Sorry I went on a rant but your comment was very relatable for me and it felt nice seeing someone around my age think and feel the same
@@itzelpalafox1380 girl, like honestly, I felt like that too, I turned 18 this year and I haven't been in a relationship or ever felt the necessity to have one in all my teenage years, I wouldn't say I had crushes in those years but your comment is so relatable to me
I think people get the "empowerment" that comes from getting attention popularity and money from horni men as genuinely empowering instead of actually empowering things for women.
and bringing this up only results in the people who indulge in the oversexualized culture and even participate in it themselves get mad bc they feel like a fool lmao
Becoming an adult and entering my woman hood I’m becoming aware of this pressure of being sexy. I don’t wanna be sexualized. I just want to be cute n lovely and respected.
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Me except a teen! The girls my age are posting themselves with an extreme push to their breast and it’s extremely concerning…😭 keep in mind I’m in middle school..😶 And its such a norm and i feel so bad they’ve been pressured into showing off their butt in leggings, forcing the recoil of their chest and butt is so sad to see. And its so obvious their doing it for validation and to be seen by the boys in our school😭 Anyways, im the total opposite from that. Im not loud, clothes wise and voice wise, or personality. Im not a softie or aesthetic preppy but i just wanna be cute and were shorts and leggings, and my favourite long sleeve shirts (its kind of “tight” to the point it shows ur figure). I just wanna enjoy short nails, “revealing” clothes, makeup without being bashed or sexualized. I literally have to wear long sweaters and a jacket that covers my bottom cause literally all these girls and boys in my school say to girls or boys with a butt is gyat.😐 Ive heard it to many times, my walk is altered to stiff😭.
Yeah it’s sick. Young girls are pressured to expose themselves like this in order to be even worth of existing. At least that’s how it feels. Im a girl and don’t do this, but I know others who do and while I respect that choice, it’s sad.
I remember this pressure in my early 20s. Now you just get hit with this energy like you're kind of boring as a woman, and people do not support you anything like how they do these celebrities. The men will still forcefully bang you whether you want to or not anyway, so i don't see a point in trying to advertise myself so to speak. 🫠🤷🏾♀️
I just try my best not to interact with that typa content in any way. I don’t click on it, like it, and if it’s suggested I mark it as “uninteresting.” So now I’m suggested mostly inspirational reels to improve your life, and recipes lol.
As a 15 year old, it feels like I'm pressured to do sexualizing dances, wear revealling clothes, wear makeup, all to be accepted and liked by people I don't know. It's like women are still objectified- just futurized, and I'm so tired of it, our world is so sick and twisted.
Yup totally understand. Just remember to stay rooted in God's word, and never give into temptation. Jesus is with you always and u don't need to dress immodest to feel grown, or even be attractive. Modesty is so beautiful. 🎀🧸💕
To my young girls under this post: Please please pleaseeee do not do it it is not worth it. You may obtain some social success but at the end of the day you have to deal with the repercussions of conforming to these pressures and standards. Being accepted is not worth by superficial standards and people. Being yourself will get you so much farther than trying to be what everyone around you wants you to be especially your peers. Women and young women are more than our bodies and sex appeal. You are your own person your own woman. Conforming to these overall sexual preferences will make you miserable and forget who you are.
Remember - the internet is forever. If you send racy photos to someone, you never know where they will end up. No one on this earth has a naked picture of me and I will always keep it that way. It's never worth it!
I completely reject the idea that dressing sexually is empowering. The way you know it's BS is because it's only encouraged for ppl who are young and attractive.
And women. It's only encouraged for women. I just thought of that. No guy is considered empowered If they show their ass, actually that's considered gay. Because the gaze that it's catering to is the male cisgendered straight guy.
It's women telling other women this stuff. Not men. But it's evil men who do it, right? "Don't tell me what to do with my body, my body my choice." Women and men don't tell those girlies what to do with their bodies. They simply say, if you do it, you know what what the consequences are.
And I also hate it when people say "its not these women's fault at all" like no, they are also at fault and PLENTY of them like this. Lets not act like they're all innocent victims and whatnot. Women seggsualize themselves too and they just like it, like the attention and so on. They could just say NO and not do it. But they do it for fun and money and attention :)
Anti black by definition and denotation not connotation means opposed or hostile towards black people. So we see this a lot of places globally but if that’s not what it is that’s not what it is also.
I feel that this “empowerment” ultimately benefits the male gaze. The second these women do not mirror the beauty standard, get old, change shape, skin etc.. they will stop benefitting from it. We are always the object, not the subject, in this matter
@@kooldawg why tho? If you're going to make claims like this, you need to justify your argument. Otherwise I will dismiss it as another opinion somebody pulled out of their behinds.
@@Ralooca They both are wrong because instead of women (collectively) making an uproar and putting their feet down at the unjust treatment and exploitation, they cave and allow themselves to be solicited. As a result, the men will be comfortable in their disrespectful behavior and abuse of power as long as it's tolerated. That's pretty obvious.
I’d add Sabrina Carpenter to this list as well. She has 5 albums out now and while her vocals have been amazing since she started she blew up for her live performances of her very sexual “Nonsense” outros and more recently her new sexual image. She’s even come out in interviews saying she’s not nearly as sexual irl as she portrays herself on stage but that it “works”. She’s been grinding for years it’s not a coincidence she’s just now being recognized.
Exactly, I liked her album Eyes Wide Open and 'Can't blame a girl for trying' was the first song I heard of hers that I really liked. Unfortunately her "normal" albums didn't get much attention.
I'm 16, and i remember i spoke to my friend about how it's hard to find genuine love songs or simply songs that dont have anything to do with sex and another girl in my class called me a prude 😭. It sucks how we, as the youth, feel so pressured to be so sexual by others and our peers. This hypersexualisation is so normalized nowadays its actually frustrating like why do we have 13 year olds talking about how they wanna be babymommas 😭 [Sorry if this doesnt make sense or its structured weird] Edit: Thanks for the recommendations yall 🩷
I would recommend listening to old Disney artists like Aly & Aj, Hilary Duff, Cheetah Girls, Vanessa Hudgens, Hannah Montana, Selena Gomez, Jesse McCarthy (old songs) and even other artists like The Maine, A Rocket to the Moon, Justin Bieber, Ariana Grande, Avril Lavigne, Michelle Branch, Boys Like Girls, Panic! At the Disco, Fall Out Boy, Gym Class Heroes, Cobra Starship, We the Kings, There for Tomorrow, Sleeping with Sirens, VersaEmerge, and You Me At Six. Specifically all of their old songs, especially the popular ones. Making this list just reminded me of some songs I haven't heard in a while, so I'm going to take a trip down memory lane. Lol Enjoy
Can we talk about the unwanted seggulization of women’s sports?! I really hate that anytime I try to watch female athletes the comments are always gross or misogynistic. Also hearing talented female athletes talk about how they can’t just be talented they have to be talented and have a certain look for anyone to care is actually really sad
Yeah like when it comes to gymnastics videos or long jumping vids (mostly that), here comes the "men of culture" to "show appreciation" of the female athletes. But then they turn around and complain about how biased certain sites are, like Twitch, whenever female twitch streamers play the same game these same men support (both literally and figuratively). Lol
Also i see female long jump and tripple jump and sprinters get sexuakised for what they are wearing. Apparently it helps increase performance because you can open your legs as wide as you want so it is less restrictive but don't men wear them. Some people say women athletes are forced others say that they choose
The music industry is literally just another branch of the porn industry. The lines are so blurred now. I feel so bad for anyone who struggles with a porn addiction. The temptations to fall back into bad habits is everywhere!!
In the nicest way possible i feel like a lot of women don't want to accept that a man wanting to sleep with you is not always a compliment. Sometimes they are coming at you with that flirtatious energy because they think you're easy and will just give it up for them and they are actually looking down on you. Hell, there are men who will literally sleep with women they think are ugly just because they're addicted to sex
If you think most women don't already know that men can and will use and manipulate us for sex then you really need to get a grip and stop talking down to women and speaking over our experiences.
yep so true i had way more attention when i was bigger than smaller because men saw me as low risk to approach and an easy fck i remember this one guy trying to get a place for the night with me bc he missed his train and none were coming, i messaged him the next day asking if he was ok and he just ranted at me that he had to wait til 5 am to get a train 🤣 as if i owed him a night with me for being fat and easy
If you think that women don't already know this then you are condescending at best and downright ignorant at worst. Stop talking down to women and assuming you know more about us regarding our own experiences. We do not need you to baby us and hold our hands and most of us know quite well the lengths men will go and the extremes they will take to use, abuse, and ultimately discard us. And also stop deleting/reporting my comments like a coward. Every time I come here my comment is deleted, just because you can't handle someone calling you out on your very blatant and obvious misogyny. That's not fair.
AINT NO WAY Y’ALL COULDN’T TELL SHE WAS SINGING ABOUT HIM MAKING HER WET!? How is “make me sweat, make me hotter, make me lose my breath, make me water.” GIVE YOU A “family vibe” WTF??!
I hate hate hate that black culture is exclusively overtly sexual. I know it’s not a good comparison but there is no ‘Black Taylor swift’. Even tyla who is Indian but black presenting didn’t get famous until her extremely provocative water song
controversial take but i wholeheartedly agree, black culture is overtly sexual! And I understand the comparison, because there is no black female artist that is similar to taylor swift, olivia rodrgio etc. that has the same level of fame. if a black female artist came out making songs like taylor swift she would be clowned unfortunately , I hope that changes soon
it's like we have to show more skin than our white counterparts to be perceived (in the context of the patriarchy and white supremacy) as attractive or sexy as them with more clothes on smh. i hate this false perception and i feel its one that many hold subconsciously
@@NkirukasWrldit’s disingenuous to pretend that Taylor swift doesn’t try to be se*y go look at videos from her concerts she’s tried to do the chair dances and shake her tail but it doesn’t gain her the same attention also a lot of her tour looks the leotards and stuff aren’t deemed sex* because she has a smaller figure a lot of black artists wear similar things to her and it’s automatically seen as more provocative. Also let’s be real no black artists period is going to reach the level of success that Taylor swift has simply because they aren’t white. Taylor’s marketability relies on her being this relatable figure and her parasocial relationship with fans. Non-black audiences aren’t going to attempt to relate to a black performer in that way in order to get them to that status. Also a black performer wouldn’t be able to get away with her mediocre performances and music and still gain support
Girl not only in USA, but in Brazil we have a terrible s*xualization culture, especially inside music industry. Children and teens here are extremely exposed to it and they learn real fast that showing body, acting and learning sexy dance moves are ''fun'' or simply a positive thing to draw attention. They don't take it seriously or don't realize how terrible this is, we know what can happen next. Yeah I'm talking about funk, if you ever heared about Pablo Vitar or Anitta they are s*xualized icons, not only that, but a lot of male singers uses the same lyrics formula that speaks of free s*x, drugs and ostentation
Brazilian here, yes this is true. Just like they said, the sexualization doesn't happen only with grown women, but mostly with female kids and teenagers, what is even more scary. I'm glad lately there has been more people speaking up against modern funk, years ago the genre was not only about sexual stuff, but nowadays 90% of the songs are.
@@moonamoonz É bizarro, o que mais me assusta é a galera que defende com unhas e dentes, alegando ser a expressão cultural do povo brasileiro. O problema está justamente nos holofotes para a pior parte da cultura brasileira kk
Can we also talk about how almost every tv show has sex scenes? Most of them are unnecessary and add nothing to the plot. As much as I love Issa I had to stop watching insecure because every 5 secs somebody’s ass crack is on screen.
Fr. Like, I was walking in the theater w/my dad to watch OPPENHEIMER. Excuse me ma’am, OPPENHEIMER, a film about a goddamn SCIENTIST!! And there were sex scenes. I was shocked and just stared at the floor 😂 but seriously. Why does a scientist biography need sex scenes 😭
I agree back then tv shows used to cut scenes and just leave it to imagination. Fast forward to now they show EVERYTHINGGGGGGGGGGGGG from straight to gay they showing it allllll
As a Muslim girl that gets shamed and judged just for being modest its really good to see someone talking sensible and bring it to an audience, women are not just their bodies, they are functional humans with their choice
I feel you. I’m no Muslim I’m Indian, but raised to dress modestly. And I love wearing actual clothes, but I’ve noticed men will look at me but not approach me, but will approach the girl who is half naked. It’s almost as if wearing clothes makes you unapproachable or sends some sort of signal that I have yet to decipher exactly. But what I have managed to come up with is either they think you’re “high standards” (I’m not even wearing designer labels- nor do I care), sexually inexperienced, maybe not fun 🤷♀️.
@@ZitaSenora Those men are not for you, they are for the naked ones. The person who respects you will approach you, and you will always be respected over a naked woman
I also feel like when a woman is displaying sexual expression, a lot of people only support it as being empowerment if the girl has a body that aligns with media beauty standards. If the woman isn’t what’s viewed as the ideal, it’s negatively viewed as
Or if the woman is straight/doing it for heterosexual male appeal. Lesbian sexuality isn't allowed to exist unless it's repackaged for male pleasure because women are seen as sexual objects who exist for men in this society, and everything we do must be done to entice them.
I'm 18 and Christian. I had this male friend that told me wanting a husband and being modest at a young age is boring and I'm wasting the best years of my life. It's pretty sad
Literally look at ice spice. When you look at her performances, its only MEN , with their phones out,and only screaming when she shakes her bum. Except that its completely SILENT. that gurl is only present because ppl like when she shakes it. Like that's it. And when you say that, ppl are so ready to call you "hater" or "jealous". Yall cant just accept the truth and that's it😂
I went to wireless festival last year and when she performed it was all men at the main stage. I was there with my girlfriends and none of the men knew the words to her songs (except the boys a liar) and would only scream and pay attention when she shaked her ass. Someone behind me was screaming for her to sit on his face 🥴
"Your appearance should not dictate your readiness for adulthood", gutted me alive, spoke to me in deep levels, made me dizzy made me spiral, altered my brain chemistry
@@bakedpotato1717 I always always had really wide hips and a smaller waist. I would cringe when growing would tell me as a little girl that I was going to be a banger when I grow up and I had baby making hips. So cringe. Men at the gas station will literally tell me let me put a baby inside of you as a compliment. Cringe. 🤢 It is insane. We need to bring back shame.
Unpopular opinion: I’m not even surprised that it was SexyRed and Sukihana’s idea to be walked like dogs in that one music video because the thing is (and may be off-topic) but when women call themselves “bitches,” not even men, whether you say it with a positive connotation or not it still means “female dog.” The self-degradation along with the overt sexuality is showing how women overtime have been taught that all this is somehow “empowering” when it’s the epitome of disrespecting ourselves and lowering our values. One of the biggest misconceptions out here today.
the fact that a woman, any woman is ok with someone referring to her as a bitch is crazy. Especially when they’re in a relationship with that person. I notice that men love to call their girlfriend “my bitch” and the women are just ok with it. It’s truly sad
I’ve been talking about this for forever. There’s no such thing as “taking back a slur”. It’s still a slur and it’s still degrading, and all it does is lower your own self worth down to whoever said that slur. The same thing with gays saying the f slur as a joke.. maam it’s still a slur. You’re still calling a member of your own community something that’s made to degrade you.
I agree with you but the 'bitch' word just hits different when its coming from another woman in a positive tone. I can't get rid of it out of my vocabulary as well.
It’s the opposite of empowerment. Because when you get your power from external things, then your power depends on others. And therefore is out of your control. Few women are empowered like this
This reminds me of this one singer who became an overnight sensation at 19 for singing an incredibly suggestive song. She later admitted that she had had no idea about the sexual connotations as she was so young and inexperienced and only did what she was told. She became depressed and after a long break, essentially restarted her career as an indie artist and totally disengaged from the sexy image she had been signed early in her career... I don't know, I think this kind of success is not really worth it, when you're not even yourself but just doing what you're told...how long can you maintain that? You can be pushed around at 19 but to still be at it at 30 or 40?! That's just so degrading
We shouldn't ignore the fact that men are not entirely to blame for this. Women are half of society. We also listen to these female rappers and singers. You yourself said you like Sexyred. We do the water dance, we dance to WAP. We dress however we like, we don't live in the 1950's. We don't support the amazing female artists who are actually good influences and choose not to dress sexually. We play a very active role in consuming and supporting this media. We don't protect the young girls being exposed to and influenced by this media which they have no business consuming at they're young age. We are not dolls nor are we stupid. And we should acknowledge the fact that we contribute to this culture instead of shifting all the blame onto men.
There was this quote by a youTuber named Wildheart Waves (she’s amazing, I recommend anyone to go check her out) that goes: “As black women, we dance to our own degradation.” I think that sums up this whole situation perfectly. Ever since I heard her say that, I’ve never been into the new music that’s been coming out since. I stopped entirely and indulge in more positive things.
Yup! EXACTLY!! This isn’t an era of men completely controlling the narrative, women choose to uplift and highlight degeneracy and then act all picachu faced
I think that Doja Cat realized this too. Do you all remember before she went full illumaniti-trool, how she shaved her head and started to go towards a more alternative look? Overnight, she was met with so much criticism and "she's gone crazy!" Comments. The 4th of July, that year, she wore a wig and swimsuit and people were like "Doja's back!" Her music doesn't get nearly as much attention as it did before, and I wonder how much of that is because she isn't "sexy" in the mainstream way anymore.
thats exactly why.. people call her ugly now and even when they arent explicitly stating that they liked her old self for her looks, it shows. its so obvious when older videos of her are reshared when she was "conventionally pretty" its always "i miss her old self" "back when she was better blah blah blah"// the music's the same, her looks arent appealing to her "fans" the way she was before. and i think that fact was made clear to her when she was dissing her fans last year.. i think it a lot of it was valid looking at in now bc she was really criticizing her fake fans or whatever.
@@celestialbunny she literally has always been a weirdo haha! It's why some fans really love her! It's crazy to me that when she started to embody that quirkiness by shaving her head and dressing in unconventionally attractive ways, people act like she's this hugely different person. It goes to show how being "sexy" and fitting into a certain look really has an effect on someone's musical success. I think she was right to call people out, and I feel like all the criticism and pressure is causing her to give up a little on her career. She definitely isn't getting "Say So" or "Best Friend" promotion.
This was very well said. Immediately she stopped conforming to ideal standards you have hundreds of videos saying 'they miss the old her'. Then her music noticeably got less streams and attention until recently when she released Agora Hills which was kind of explicit.
Same thing is happening in the book world too. I am a writer and if I write a character-driven book without a lot of smex it will not chart or do well. Readers these days don't seem to want to read books unless its straight up p orn.
I feel you, I’m currently working on a fantasy wlw story where the main character is asexual. I really don’t understand why everyone (on a book tok, at least) are obsessed with these ‘dark romances’, I personally watch videos about them just for cringe😂
I'm not anti sex, but dang, there's a time and a place. If sex is supposed to be empowering, then I think over using it makes it lose its impact. Compared to past sex icons, they were sexy and enticing. They still managed to be classy and respected, it's a balance.
@kruggyy maybe not then, but she is now. Can't deny the impact she had, especially with all that try to imitate her. Even people today got mad about Kim ruining her dress. She's an icon now.
@kruggyy I'm sorry. Did you not read my original comment? Yes, I know that, I was just comparing how sex icons were then to how people try to be sexy now. Are you confused about what the topic is? Genuinely asking.
And lust has a right to exist, that's for sure! But it shouldn't be omnipresent, and it shouldn't be at the expense of women's bodily autonomy and inherent dignity.
@@imthebossmermaid3648 What are you saying? I know it is natural to sin, but what are you saying? 😭 And I agree, it shouldn't have to be at the expense of a woman's body.
The pressure is real. I’m a regular gym goer and gym culture has everyone thinking you have to be in short shorts and a sports bra to workout. Me going in leggings and a tshirt, I cannot compete with that. And I totally get the whole pressure to ‘keep up’. all these girls lookin like a snack but you just want to be comfortable and do squats without your stomach hanging out tf lmaooooo
And a face full of makeup. I always wonder how they looked so good after it. They just do like 2 sets and go home. They stay if the gym is full and leave when it’s empty
@@Natttttttttt One thing is to be social, and the other is to be sheep. Adult women should be mature enough to not fall into vain, dumb consumerist trends.
The same is happening with books. A lot of the trending books are trending because of smut. I saw a comment under a video of a girl recommended non-smut books that said "if there's no smut, it's not even a good book". It wasn't a teenager. It was a freaking adult woman
I commented "let's not normalise smut" under an instagram reel and got so hated for no reason. I just meant let's not make it seem like everyone reads SMUT as most readers don't even know what it is.
it's so sad how teens are shamed for looking more and more mature but they are actually pressured to look like that in the same time, teen girls just can't win
@Iserenityy At this point, their parents are just narcissistic people especially mothers who are just seeking out to exploit them. That was sadly the same case with my sister and I, even though now we are grown.
@@missstranger7697 I don't think it's always parents wanting to exploit them. I think some parents see all the other kids doing it and their kid wanting to fit in and the parents thinks this is the normal way for kids to dress now, just like how likely when those parents were younger they probably thought their parents were too prude in not letting them wear a spaghetti strap top or a miniskirt or something so they think it's the same thing. But they don't realise how sexualised kids are because the parents probably aren't watching the TikToks these kids are watching.
I'm gonna be 17 in 3 months and I dress and act how most would say is "weird kid activities" when I'm just wearing regular clothes and definitely not revealing. Think of how people would dress in 2021 and 2020 with the mushrooms, frogs, and moons with stars bc they're fun and whimsical which is exactly what what I hope to be seen as, but with today's society of materialistic ppl, overconsumption, and maturing too fast I'm deemed weird and childish ESPECIALLY with the interests that I have.
The showing off of woman’s body leads to such unrealistic expectations of both women and men. Men expect women to be overall sensual from what they are seeing online. Makes me feel like I can’t compete with the insta baddies and celebrities
Be wise and don't compete at all. "Baddie" types never last long in a relationship nor are taken seriously by men (they have higher rates of attracting bad types of men). If you present yourself as more modest and humble you'll score yourself a catch. Make use of my words that I shared with you, since you didn't have the wisdom yourself. If I was in the dating market and I didn't want to be only used for my body, I wouldn't advertise it like that at all. you're only competing with baddies if your goal is to be objectified and used.
@@LovelyLittleLilliesI agreed with you up until "If you present yourself as more modest and humble, you'll score yourself a catch." Humble girlies are out here struggling to to find the right partner. Most women who are viewed as good women are often overlooked. I type all this to say, it doesn't really matter how you present yourself as a woman when most can't find their match.
@@MaisonMargiela-ch9coThis you can be the most modest and innocent looking and you can still get played 🤷🏾♀️. Nobody has the high ground or low ground in this age of dating just try your best.
Chloe x Halle are a example. They are insane with their talent and vocals. Can play instruments, write amazing music and produce. Their first album wasn’t received well due to their style, but once they decided to show skin they got all the attention. Especially Chloe. And now people aren’t supporting her music but are supporting any sexy pics she shows.
My ex calling me “old fashioned” and “conservative” because I didn’t have the desire to wear booty shorts or crop tops. I don’t want random men staring me down in public. I’m 26! Bro was 32. I’m glad to be rid of him.
AURORA is an artist i love that isn't overtly sexual, but gets a lot of flac from haters who think her dances or themes to her music are weird. Just because she dances in a more animalistic manner and is always very covered. She's always been my favorite artist and i loved that she went viral for Cure For Me a while back!
Dude I love AURORA! She sang for a video game I used to play all the time! I love “This could be a dream” and “All is soft inside”. Her voice is beautiful, and her music is powerful, it’s amazing
@@LocalGooberGoobs Sky COTL? But seriously, her music is beautiful, and she’s beautiful, and I like the way she’s not cramming explicit lyrics or skimpy clothes in her music and videos. And she doesn’t need to, her music is easily good enough to get her a fan base without needing those
I remember when IG first came out, people would post selfies to capture moments with family, friends or post a beautiful view from their hike. It was never to show anything off, it didn’t feel self centered. But in the past years I personally feel like it has become a place to glorify oneself, to show off your status, body, and it’s become full of nudity. I had to delete it for my own personal sanity and wellbeing, and it’s been the best decision.
Exactly! It's either about how hot you look, how big your bbl booty is, or how much wealth you have. It's become a dystopian reality of human's worst qualities.
As a man I'm glad people are realizing this. I often remind myself "that person is not super attractive... they are just the most naked one in the room".
Billie Eilish also did her photoshoot in underwear right after she became 18. The audience didn't respond well and only that saved her from signing up to this esthetic.
And also, there is also this controversy about" YOU control what your kids watch, the women have nothing to do with it." The problem, is that you see "nudity" EVERYWHERE. TV commercials, like posters, movies, music videos. Like how do you want us to ignore it if it's everywhere. Literally, all movies and series have unnecessary s3xual scenes, stuff that the whole family could watch .
Exactly, I understand their sentiment, but it really is everywhere these days. Not to mention, people are getting more bold with what they show in public so even if it’s not in media, it’s in real life.
EXACTLY, with the rise of social media, it is literally unavoidable. Tf they want the parents to do, sit there like a shadow, monitoring every move their child makes? Then those same ppl gonna call that toxic and abusive, so now what? Not to mention, their friends could easily show them that content without you knowing. Now what, should we ban kids from having friends? I'd rather have children living in a safe society and environment than grown adults being happy about getting off to their gross explicit content they put in everything.
@@user-qb8wv5et8ihonestly yes you can, I get that it's everywhere but I believe when bringing a kid to thto this world you should be ready for what is happening or what ever would happen, I didn't know alot of things till I left highschool or at my senior year, I knew classmates talking about somethings but I never heard of it before , because my parents controlled the things I watch and did I wasn't even allowed to leave the house until I went to university
How about thinking about the word "liberation" Sounds good huh? But liberation of the drug market isnt good for all either. How about we do what all of history did and stop this sexual liberation BS? Its a nobrainer.
Yep. The default became catering to the male gaze and making ourselves more accessible to men. How is any of that sexually liberating, when you boil it down to its core it’s really the same misogynistic behavior and standard as it’s always been, but now they’ve misconstrued it as something that’s empowering. Nah sis, men don’t have to show their ass to feel empowered. You can’t have any agency in something that’s inherently exploitive.
Ima be so for real I’m a grown married woman and I thought maybe she was saying like water like make me melt like my heart melts because I love you so much 😭I am so mad I have so much faith in the world lmao
a month late but i have suspicions it's because in a white world where black people weren't treated as humans for so long, sexualization of women, that I'd consider is a form of objectification, is more applicable to people you don't view as human. sure black people entertain the idea too, but it seems like it's also rooted from getting "positive" reactions from people because unless you are the object of their sexual fantasies, you're just nothing. in a way it just means you're worth nothing if you're not sexual, never a human deserving bare minimal respect. like it's either you're nothing or sexy and rich
Cz in africa this is their culturale dance.. like us arab we have belly dancers.. african have this twerk and stuff.. white people dont do it because i think gje culture is not helping.. their culture is more classic and elegant.. while the african one is energitic and vibing.. but it toke a wrong way in turning fun to sex.. sex will never be somthing funny in public like that its discusting.. its like walking in a corn world..
@@mgueye2mgueye261the way we defend degeneracy by saying the black man and woman has no choice is astounding. But unsurprising. A people with no culture or code of conduct cannot stand up for themselves as a collective because everybody is in their own selfish self-serving minds.
@@mgueye2mgueye261let’s not act like Whitney Huston , Lauren hill , Jennifer Hudson , and Aretha Franklin , Tina turner , Donna summer ,Dianna Ross ,Toni Braxton , Sade and many more don’t exist , we don’t “ have to “ ppl blk people especially chose to support raunchy “artist”.
It’s not about that people naturally do what others do also just gain some knowledge about these thing research they not called INFLUENCERS for no reason
as soon as you have an audience of any kind, you have a responsibility, period. its not jake pauls job to raise kids either, but his audience is young and therefore he has a responsibility, and other people are rightfully calling him out if he promotes something inappropriate or dangerous. dont act dense and miss the point.
@@ajlee2168it’s still the parents of the kids responsibility to monitor what their kids consume though. You can’t control everything your kids see but you’re supposed to teach them what they should take away from content. Anyone can be influenced by anything but it’s a parent’s job to teach values and morals
A lot of people shame me for dressing modest because “You’re covering up for men! You’re a pick me!” Dude….I’m asexual. And I’m doing it for the girlies and God. Get it right.
I've been thinking that I might be asexual too but I'm so conflicted because I still kinda feel sexual urges ? (Like to masturb-) and stuff but I never feel the urge to do anything sexual with anyone and the thought makes me sick
This! Why have we started shaming women who want to be modest? I personally dress modest for wanting to feel safe and comfortable. I’ve known Muslim women were absolutely stunning and gorgeous and they never had to show their bits for it to be true.
i am 17 and can agree that i am so over this narrative! ive been pushed to be older since middle school (2018). i loved everything you said in this video. the only thing that’s praised are bodies, no creativity or talent is even recognized usually.
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Let’s talk about it. I’m 14 and a Caribbean girl and I have noticed a trend. African and Caribbean culture has been demonized and sexualized as it does not fit the norm of OUR culture (which is crazy because it’s not even ours). Tyla does Bacardi a south African dance style which, yes, involves gyration, but who made that sexual? Water was a sexual song but she’s been doing this since her ballad songs like to last and it is a crazy notion that she wasn’t big just because Americans didn’t hear about her. She got big for being racially ambiguous and still having enough of that “exotic” appeal (yes people have called her such). I just think it’s crazy how we continue to hypersexualize those who aren’t even overly sexual and how we do such to our culture. I honestly think it’s a response to assimilation.
As an african girl, we have dances where we gyrate our hips to the rythm of drums. We do it since childhood as it is not sexual at all. I hate when westerners sexualize my culture. We are just having fun and tbh having a strong waistline is praised where I'm from.
Oh please, darling. I saw a video of how explicit dancing was at clubs in the Caribbean countries (outright mimicking inter course). What do white people have to do with that? Black people brought that explicitness to the West - who else introduced dances like whining and twerking? It was not a white man's creation. and I doubt white people have as much influence on a fully Black country like the Caribbean. Y'all keep blaming outsiders for your own people chosing to present themselves in an explicit, negative manner. Go look at African countries, many dress modestly and favour a certain discipline.
I took a class on how bodies have been viewed throughout American history and it was eye-opening. We went from a society where they had literal zoos displaying black people so people could judge how different their appearance was, to a society entirely striving to achieve that exact body shape, no matter the cost. We went from ankles being scandalous to displaying everything being normal or expected. It’s really baffling how much things have changed even over the last decade or two.
The situation is worsening, and not just in America but all over the world. People believe that this is a form of empowerment, but it profoundly affects women everywhere, reducing them to objects. I recall a memory of being on a bus and overhearing a conversation among high school girls who appeared to be about 13-14 years old. They were discussing their "body count," and it was incredibly disheartening.
yeah nothings empowering about selling yourself as a product. being seen as something to buy because of onlyfans and stuff like this is why women get objectified still. lets get real.
Let’s make more effort to openly support each other and the girls (and women) who dress modest, as much as we support the women who enjoy being conventionally sexy. We need to stop pressuring each other to pick a “right” side so predatory media can stop taking advantage of us
Honestly even the kids are doing it. You'll have hood kids showing up to school with designer clothes and they'll bully tf out of the actual normal kids for like, liking Hello Kitty and not having a 12 step skincare routine
i agree! i will never police a woman's body however, we are all not the same. there is no way that everyone wants to be overtly sexual and display themselves in the same manner
It’s sad because Tyla who is South African and Indian wanted to represent her culture in her music, but people only listen to her because they want to see her body or just because she’s pretty and not because she has a beautiful voice or because of how good her new song is.
Tyla isn't Indian, she's colored (A ethnic group mixed with many races). Y'all need to stop with that shit. EDIT: (I made a typo in the original post, I know she isn't a Indian)
i found new music. i never liked the old music but every other kid was listening to it so thats what i did. i love vocaloid and video game based songs. one girl who was my friend made fun kf me for kistening for video game songs and i said" atleast i dont listen to music with people skaing their behind in my face"
One of the hardest lessons to learn, especially if you grew up without pretty privilege, is that being sexually desired by a lot of men is not the prize you think it is. And I wish more women of influence would tell that too young girls. Because some men will literally dog walk you (as shown) because that’s exactly what they think of women, whether they sexualize themselves or not. It’s been advertised as liberty and freedom but the truth is, it is still objectification and exploitation. The man lusting over you doesn’t care that you chose to show him your hooha, instead of him choosing to look at it without your permission. He doesn’t care. He was going to look and think all of his thoughts anyway. And it’s incredibly sad. Sad that it’s been centuries of women treated like this.
The best advice my mother gave me is to choose the right people to be around, and that’s includes things on the internet. Choose wisely what you are viewing. Once you get consumed in all this media and you’re on the internet 24/7, when you get dressed/do your makeup etc, you start questioning why it doesn’t turn out like the other people, and these other people being people from the internet, not from what’s around you. I almost went down this hole a couple months ago, glad I came back to my senses and realised social media just isn’t for me
Yes, I don't think women should turn themselves into a sexually desired product. We are more than just our face and body! We are humans with a brain, with a heart and with talents ❤
Unfortunately part of being a woman and getting older is realizing the only thing stopping men from going even younger than 18 is the threat of prison, and even then, some will just travel to other countries where they DO allow jt 🤢
@@sativadiva2389honestly the majority of men are just normal dude's minding their own business and they get lumped up together with these pigs. But DAMN the minority are loud. Making themselves known. From the age of 12 I had grown men with beards and children hitting on me🙂😭
@@chidiogoikeh4550'them' HAHA keep blaming men 😂 Most men literally respect that 18 is the legal age and follow the law with no complaints and there shouldn't be no complaints, obviously. Why dont women take responsibility and cover themselves well? I see many 15-16 yr old at my school exposing themselves then blame older men for being attracted LOL...
i'm so so sick of society. i used to blame being an introvert as to why i didn't connect with people but it's honestly just the standards we have in society as to why i can't relate with people. it all seems so fake and i really can't take it, it's truly depressing. edit: this world is so full of evil and sin... it's right before our very eyes and way too many people are complicit. all of these corn websites, onlyf4nz, and the thirst traps on social media platforms, don't give into it. behind the scenes these people are struggling heavy, and those who consume it will too. this is NOT normal and anyone who tries to condemn you for not giving into the devils foolery will see the truth soon enough. i pray they find it before it's too late.
Become muslim bro there's a true air of joy and innocence due to the demand of respect nad honour people are given and just true love and brother or sisterhood trust me and visit a mosque once even if its for vibes lol its open to everyone
My mom told me that showing this much skin isn’t empowerment. It just adds less value to your personal body. You’re basically selling it at this point.
@@rosea2350not really. Female is an adjective and woman is a noun. They aren’t the same thing and shouldn’t be used interchangeably. The only people who do are usually misogynistic individuals who don’t refer to men the same way
As a 16 year old girl who’s body is small, this kind of content makes me feel like I should where they’re at. Especially because certain people treat me younger then I am, they point it out constantly. I always felt jealous of the girls who looked their age because I know I’d never be able to look like tjis girls. This jealously died off after I deleted ig 😭
Shes a great dancer and performer but when i watched the video for greedy, if just felt…off. The dance was unnecessarily sexual and overt and little try hard. Like it didnt…need to be?
I have always liked Tate's music and still do, but I noticed this as well and found it sad and got thrown off by it. Like her music is catchy and could blow up on its own, she didnt need to sexualize her image imo
Tyla is 22, skinny and young ohh and mixed Most men will love her. The reason u wont compare her to lets say nicki cause she has an innocent look and is small, no big boobs or butt. Thats why people wont sexualize her as much. Skinny girls always get away with it. If tyla was thicker the reception will be different. But she no different that the REST
Maybe it is colorism, it feels like if her skin was a bit lighter, maybe there would not be any backlash against Sexyy… Or if she was lighter skinned as IceSpice..she would be perceived as gorgeous, slay, and hyper feminine instead of de feminized or ultra masculinized..
@@mariamart_0 😂Defeminised & masculine. What hater put your feminine self esteem in toilet 🚽like that!? Dark woman 👩🏾 or light woman 👩🏻 , all men know you’re still a woman with a vagina 😂 They don’t even equate studs as men among them. Because they have no testes & aren’t REAL men!!!
Not in my book. I perceive Caresha, Redd, Meg Thee Stallion and Nicki Minaj in the same trifling light. Also Meg is doing just fine showing her behind and she's dark.
@@labelmeposhMegan, Nicki and caresha are all golden light skin tones. Sexy red is milk cholate fenty 420. Megan is not dark skin she’s defo a fenty 370-390. Open your eyes. And plus Megan is creole she’s mixed and calls herself a redbone herself. If Megan was much darker who knew where she would be. Even caresha too I believe her skin tone is another reason why she is praised and worshipped.
I saw a comment saying "Tyla is not loved for being Tyla, she is being loved for being naked". I was surprised to see this comment is coming from a western. And I saw the other comments how everyone was praising for her dance moves in Water and I got it why everyone can't stop loving her.
@@urmumsbenchprI would love to become a content creator doing cosplay, I adore cosplay and I make my own and I won some awards for it, but I just cant get attention or followers because I always cosplay men I never cosplay sexual or do sexually charged photoshoots. It’s really really demotivating when I enter another woman’s cosplay account and it’s all basically porn. Even in instagram. And I know it’s not their fault, it’s market, but it’s really disappointing because I will never do sexually things but at the same time it pains me because I really want to become a professional cosplayer.
as a girl who cosplays, i’m literally too scared to even cosplay female characters because of how some people are so most of my cosplays are mainly all male characters
I would like to use this moment to promote up and coming music artist Baby Storme! She is a goth black singer who's presentation isn't hypersexual. She's herself and she's a big inspiration to me!
can i also recommend other blk artists i listen to? Hemlocke Springs, an indie singer with a rlly quirky aesthetic that y'know, released her popular single Girlfriend
It is sad that our value is based on how sexy we are now instead of how smart or good of a person we are. I want cute and normal looking to be beautiful, not sexy to be beautiful
love this !! i remember someone saying that black women in the limelight are more sensual/sexual so they can be viewed as 'feminine' so we do everything in our power to be viewed as that :/
😂Who said that! We are women & that fact can’t be denied. 😂 The whole world knows the black woman birthed & mothered humanity. 😂 Brainwashed haters are out here working hard to make you believe you’re less than others because of color.
Never been so happy with all the flaws I have after deleting instagram and all social media like I dont need to see girls that literally all look alike 😐
As a hijabi the title of this vd kinda healed me! Us hijabis, specifically those like me who don't wear makeup and wear baggy clothes that are more modest, we get treated differently! The disrespect is realllllll. Some ppl they don't treat u like human! Like dang I don't need u to kiss the ground I walk on just treat me like a human being! Why are u looking disgusted
I agree women need to cover up but unfortunately if not for muslim women covering up the muslim men would be just as bad. The ideal would be women dressing normal and men seeing women as people and valuable without her being naked OR having to cover her hair and ankles
so glad to see someone talking about this. It's a conversation I've mainly had amongst kpop fans and the results are usually me getting called a prude and religious conservative. I'm not religious, not even american, I just don't want every piece of media I consume to be about sex. It's what drew me into kpop in the first place, but now even kpop is becoming overrun with it with the recent push for westernisation from international fans and companies wanting to follow the money.
Some Kpop idols from the start of the 1st generation were literally embroiled in prostitution,scams etc....idols were and are seen below artists. In asia cute concepts are still sexualized (lolita, young and pure) and idols sell sex by faking being cute and single...kpop industry is just like any other industry and even worse because they keep on working to the bone minors.
YES!! i was viewing this video also with the perspective of seeing oversexualisation in kpop. not only the hypersexualisation of young girls in girl groups but also the boys in boy groups, that as soon as they turn 18, there's an expectation from them to start revealing their bodies more (its worse for girl groups as they could be minors but you cant tell because of the way their dressed/portrayed) and it's just so upsetting to see.
😢true America and UK and australia and new Zealand are losing they're boybands like one direction,backstreetboys etc but kpop is becoming popular because of boy bands and girl bands to the point they are getting westernized to gain bad attention and that is why I quit kpop genre, 1. The fans are toxic, I could not make 1 friend with them unless they make me as a gossip thrower 2. Kpop idols only care about the money and the companies don't care about fans getting broke 3.kpop idols are not as nice as people think, 1 said he will not marry his "fans" because he is a idol aka he is a cash grabber not fans therapist like bang Chan and its sad to say, kpop idols don't really care about they're fans they are just like Hollywood stars Like Kylie Jenner and Hailey beiber that's why I quit Kpop it has gotten worse music is also to repetitive as I got older its not even meaningiful to listen to.
@@EdonaComadahoutieI agree with everything. Not to mention how idols from small companies have to perform for private VIP parties and "cater" to clients to pay off their agencies. There was an ex kpop idol who opened up about these very sketchy private parties when the idols are minors.
Whitney, my beloved. She was always so beautiful, graceful, elegant and feminine, and NEVER needed to show off her body to let you know how gorgeous her voice was and how gorgeous SHE was. Ain't nobody of today reaching her level, never.
i remember some girls in high school shaming me for looking ''to childish'' because i wasn't very sexual. All I did was not showing my body on insta and using more closed clothes. Im barely 19 years old. It's not that I look childish, I just (and WANT to) look my age
In part 3, ur points are so real. I’ve seen way too many adults justify sexualizing minors by saying “oh they’re physically mature how was I supposed to know?!” when the ‘maturity’ in question was just developing quicker than their peers
I hate oversexualisation… I mean I feel like not only the pop industry is getting sexualised, but the kpop industry as well for example LE SSERAFIM (Smart. They have a minor doing the smart dance (Eunchae)) or NewJeans…
Maybe it’s just me coming from a different culture but what exactly is sexual about the dance and also hasn’t the K-pop world been sexualized from like the early 2000s
@@gabriellehughes1788 Idk if the kpop world has been sexualised since the 2000s, because I just came a kpop fan 2022. I think the sexual think about LE SSERAFIM’s smart is their choreography, not just in Smart, but in Perfect Night aswell. In both choreographies they are twerking and that’s controversial, because they have a minor (Eunchae), and sexualising (in my opinion)
@@txr4lovesu I understand the minor part however when comes to K-pop and dancing overrall in my opinion they are not doing in a sexual manner or form I think it’s more of them doing it as trendy thing like following the water dance which I also think is not sexual it’s more about how ppl look at them I feel like it’s very easy for Americans cause how they look at twerking however personally it’s not even like traditional twerking cause they’re not bend over with their hands on their knees they literally just moving their hips in a circle nothing sexual about it
I think these days a lot of ppl tend to look at things in a sexual way because how sexual our media has been these past few years however that has now translated into ppl thinking the most innocent have sexual meanings or is sexual
Thanks for speaking on this! I don’t listen to a lot of the music these days because of the explicit lyrics and innuendos. Tyla’s “water” song always made me cringe lmao… because little kids were singing it with their parents, and absolutely NO ONE understood what the lyrics were about. This whole era of women being more overtly seggsual/sensual is disappointing to me. I wish we could all be our beautiful unique selves without conforming to this one hyper sexual identity.
But I think this has always been a thing in the entertainment industry because even when I was younger the songs used to be explicit for example Ego by Beyonce I didn't know what it meant then but I do now so I think it's always been an issue but it's increasing at a higher rate these days which is sad because if you try to speak on it the public views u as a bad person
@@JoJo-fc2ol I think the difference is 10-20 years ago, there was a variety of mainstream artists to listen to. Young girls had so many women in the industry to look up to with music that was not explicit. Destiny’s Child, Alicia Keys, JoJo, Kesha, Pink, Nelly Furtado, Ashanti, even Beyoncé and Rihanna back in 2004-2010 had many popular songs that weren’t explicit. Now MOST mainstream female artists present as hyper sexual with explicit lyrics. There’s not much variety outside of Taylor Swift.
Ironically, I was missing Ella Mai the other day. I wonder if her being less visible as of late stems from a refusal to become more sexual in her appearance or just the standard cycle of the music industry.
Ooh, Ella Mai! I discovered her song "This Is," and immediately fell in love with it. She's got a lovely voice and the lyrics are also solid. Lyrics are such a big thing for me, especially as a writer, ha. And it's refreshing to find love songs that actually have a real sense of substance to them.
28:37 I remember my older white high-school English teacher telling me in 9th grade how I had baby birthing hips and how one day he could help me do a home birth if I needed. I hated that so much because as a child who was SA I hated my developed body cuz I was scared I would get abused again. So to hear those words made me want to saw off my thighs and legs.
@@anyaaa2801Unfortunately, I didn't. One thing I did not have back then was a voice. But as an adult who's now a teacher myself, I'll be damned if I allow something like that to be said to my students.
Oh my goodness.... I'm so sorry you had to go through that, hopefully you told someone . NO ONE should ever make such a stupid comment like that to you ever Please stay safe, stay away from that POS and tell someone ❤
It is crazy how much people expect their women to be sexy and sexualized at all times. Look at the actress Amewudah-Rivers, who is getting called ugly for not being a feminine stereotype. She's not ugly at all, she's just not traditionally feminine and the way that people are used to seeing over and over and over again. I have seen so many men say "let's just be for real, let's be honest, she's ugly" Not being attracted to someone doesn't make them ugly, obviously.
I'm so glad that i grew up in an era where at 13, i was still basically a baby, dressed as such and was not aware of the beauty standards, no pressure, didn't think make up was a necessity even in my early 20s, looking back now at 27, I'm so glad that i was allowed to grow up, like truly grow up slowly at a great pace. Its so sad to see very young girls nowadays stress about how they look, the body, the aesthetic etc they can't even go outside without putting makeup on, a pimple is enough to send them spiraling, and with all these idols they have now who are selling really high and unattainable beauty standards. While we had idols that were childlike and age appropriate for us. I honestly wish we all heal and find peace in every path we seek.
there was a girl that made fun of me for covering up. she was i think 13...im 15. she literally tries to go to school in those shorts you go tk the gym in
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In the past all the female singers/entertainers were not sexualized, Dianna Ross, Doris Day, Joan Baez, Janis Joplin, Aretha Franklin, Joni Mitchell, Dusty Springfield, Dionne Warwick the list is endless.
This video is so true ,I cried
@@tubester4567 what shifted?
Young girls - pressured into maturity
Mature women - ridiculed for aging
Scary!
That realization that little girls are trying so hard to grow up fast while those little girls that grew up (like myself who couldn’t wait to grow up) are now finding every effort to hold onto what’s left of their youth before it’s too late😅😂
@hano women over 30 feel that way. Women 18-30 winning nnah-ku7gf
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That’s so true. I see my nieces wanting to grow up so fast and my mom wondering when she crossed into another decade. Meanwhile I’m sitting at 40 like… God is good!!!! 😅
@@sandriais okay 40 looking like 25
The sex in EVERYTHING is sooo overdone now! The movies, the songs etc. I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE 😭😭😭
I stopped watching television. I no longer even own a television. I enjoy RUclips, but television is so hyper-sexualized, and they push all the SICK agendas.
Euphoria is a prime example of this 😭 I watched the first episode and was like nah that’s too much for me and I’m grown 😂
I’ve been feeling like this since I could walk & talk.. I remember being 5 omw to school, listening to the radio with my mom. I asked her “why is all the music about love” now that I’m adult the question still stands
GUYS😭 a guy i met wanted to shoot his shot and so i gave him a chance to get to know him, I asked him what kind of music he's into ykno thinking it's a innocent question YKNO tell me why he sends me a rap video of poeple having sex, ORGASM AND ALL.😭 Rapping about how he's gonna do this and that😭 I went from casually eating to mortified with no appetite☠
It's literally plastered everywhere I'm tired what happened to literally enjoying songs
The sex thing is getting so old now, every song is just sex. Like we get it can we get something else now? 😭
Or they're flexing their wealth (that's okay but it gets really tiring)
I've been saying this for so long but honestly the artists don't deserve all the blame. Most sexual songs go viral while the songs about other things just don't. People are just too h0rny these days💀
@@obsessednoodle yeah like indie/non label artists are doing a lot of non sex songs while the biggest label ones tend to do songs about it just because their label wants them to profit off it, so they go with the classic. but yeah, people be too into it these days
Right, where's the love. I feel like no matter what genre I see, it's sexual. Rap became sexual, when it was originally about experience. R&B used to be loving, now it's sexual. Pop music is becoming more sexual, it's getting old. I've decided to go into older songs and maybe some alternative music.
This is why I listen to indie music
As a teen who never got attention from men i think im starting to realise it isn't really a bad thing and it's so relieving to finally stop thinking about the male gaze.
But that doesnt mean you are ugly or something, you look cute and really pretty. I think same goes with me, I think i'm somewhat pretty but hadnt had attention either
But yeah it is relieving
@@Voltariana thank youu. And yes im sure you're gorgeous, beauty standards and men's opinions about the way we look shouldn't matter to us.
I feel you, I'll be 17 in 3 months and I have never been in a relationship and crushes have never really happened to me (I had one in 6th grade and once in freshman year 😭) but I never let it get any farther than a crush. I have never really felt the need for romance or relationships. let me tell you it took long enough for me to understand that it's ok for me to not be in a relationship and that Just bc everyone else is in one doesn't mean I have to. Only God knows what the future will hold for me but for now I am at peace also because I'm one of those ppl who loves solitude. Sorry I went on a rant but your comment was very relatable for me and it felt nice seeing someone around my age think and feel the same
@@itzelpalafox1380 girl, like honestly, I felt like that too, I turned 18 this year and I haven't been in a relationship or ever felt the necessity to have one in all my teenage years, I wouldn't say I had crushes in those years but your comment is so relatable to me
hypersexualisation ≠ empowerment and I really need we start getting right with that
I think people get the "empowerment" that comes from getting attention popularity and money from horni men as genuinely empowering instead of actually empowering things for women.
Empowerment should be knowing your worth without showing your body naked for the whole world to see. We need to teach modesty instead.
So true
and bringing this up only results in the people who indulge in the oversexualized culture and even participate in it themselves get mad bc they feel like a fool lmao
most of the time it's just exploitation
Becoming an adult and entering my woman hood I’m becoming aware of this pressure of being sexy. I don’t wanna be sexualized. I just want to be cute n lovely and respected.
100% 💕💕💕
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Me except a teen!
The girls my age are posting themselves with an extreme push to their breast and it’s extremely concerning…😭 keep in mind I’m in middle school..😶
And its such a norm and i feel so bad they’ve been pressured into showing off their butt in leggings, forcing the recoil of their chest and butt is so sad to see.
And its so obvious their doing it for validation and to be seen by the boys in our school😭
Anyways, im the total opposite from that. Im not loud, clothes wise and voice wise, or personality.
Im not a softie or aesthetic preppy but i just wanna be cute and were shorts and leggings, and my favourite long sleeve shirts (its kind of “tight” to the point it shows ur figure). I just wanna enjoy short nails, “revealing” clothes, makeup without being bashed or sexualized.
I literally have to wear long sweaters and a jacket that covers my bottom cause literally all these girls and boys in my school say to girls or boys with a butt is gyat.😐
Ive heard it to many times, my walk is altered to stiff😭.
Yeah it’s sick. Young girls are pressured to expose themselves like this in order to be even worth of existing. At least that’s how it feels. Im a girl and don’t do this, but I know others who do and while I respect that choice, it’s sad.
I remember this pressure in my early 20s. Now you just get hit with this energy like you're kind of boring as a woman, and people do not support you anything like how they do these celebrities. The men will still forcefully bang you whether you want to or not anyway, so i don't see a point in trying to advertise myself so to speak. 🫠🤷🏾♀️
After deleting IG I forgot all these girlies existed lol
i stopped following all of them until Instagram suggested her to me lol
Yeah like literally this people only exist on social media, that why exposure to it can cause so much body dysmorphia
Same
I just try my best not to interact with that typa content in any way. I don’t click on it, like it, and if it’s suggested I mark it as “uninteresting.” So now I’m suggested mostly inspirational reels to improve your life, and recipes lol.
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As a 15 year old, it feels like I'm pressured to do sexualizing dances, wear revealling clothes, wear makeup, all to be accepted and liked by people I don't know. It's like women are still objectified- just futurized, and I'm so tired of it, our world is so sick and twisted.
Yup totally understand. Just remember to stay rooted in God's word, and never give into temptation. Jesus is with you always and u don't need to dress immodest to feel grown, or even be attractive. Modesty is so beautiful. 🎀🧸💕
Yup sick of society expectation tired of trying to fit in all the time, but insecure enough to not do anything about it
Girl same I'm 15 too and it's frustrating
To my young girls under this post:
Please please pleaseeee do not do it it is not worth it. You may obtain some social success but at the end of the day you have to deal with the repercussions of conforming to these pressures and standards. Being accepted is not worth by superficial standards and people. Being yourself will get you so much farther than trying to be what everyone around you wants you to be especially your peers. Women and young women are more than our bodies and sex appeal. You are your own person your own woman. Conforming to these overall sexual preferences will make you miserable and forget who you are.
Remember - the internet is forever. If you send racy photos to someone, you never know where they will end up.
No one on this earth has a naked picture of me and I will always keep it that way. It's never worth it!
I completely reject the idea that dressing sexually is empowering. The way you know it's BS is because it's only encouraged for ppl who are young and attractive.
Yup!!!!!!
And only for woman , if it was truly empowering men would be doing it the same amount as other woman do.
And women. It's only encouraged for women. I just thought of that. No guy is considered empowered If they show their ass, actually that's considered gay. Because the gaze that it's catering to is the male cisgendered straight guy.
That’s where the male gaze comes in!
I genuinely don’t give a fuck and dress how I want to (yes also sexually) and I feel great!☺️💕
I'll just say that if you revolve your entire personality around just sex, I don't think I want anything to do with you
I hate hipersexualization on the internet like were something empowerment
Hyper-sexualization**
Hyper*
It's women telling other women this stuff. Not men. But it's evil men who do it, right? "Don't tell me what to do with my body, my body my choice."
Women and men don't tell those girlies what to do with their bodies. They simply say, if you do it, you know what what the consequences are.
And I also hate it when people say "its not these women's fault at all" like no, they are also at fault and PLENTY of them like this. Lets not act like they're all innocent victims and whatnot. Women seggsualize themselves too and they just like it, like the attention and so on. They could just say NO and not do it. But they do it for fun and money and attention :)
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Slightly may be off topic but, Notice how they no longer put *"explicit"* in music video titles anymore?!
This!!!
FACT
Very good point!!
Holy shit I didn't even notice that. Deranged.
Exactly!!
You’re not ugly, you’re just trying find value in yourself through someone else’s eyes. You won’t.
louderrr
True
facts
real
realest shi i've read all day
but when I say it they try to pull the anti black card! I’m tired of the hypersexualization of black women in media!
same 😩
It’s bc yt ppl control the media and yt media is racist
hey siete!!!
I mean you can still be anti-black, while being black.
Anti black by definition and denotation not connotation means opposed or hostile towards black people. So we see this a lot of places globally but if that’s not what it is that’s not what it is also.
I feel that this “empowerment” ultimately benefits the male gaze. The second these women do not mirror the beauty standard, get old, change shape, skin etc.. they will stop benefitting from it. We are always the object, not the subject, in this matter
This is it! It is the male gaze in "empowered" clothes. Same product with a different packaging to be able to sell it to a different customer.
Except the product is womens bodies, which is so damaging and really really sad.
Fr it’s not empowering, it’s dehumanising
absolutely, i couldn’t agree more. It’s like either way we loose
THANK YOU
funny how it's always "women sleep their way to the top" and not "men withhold promotions until they receive s** favours"
They both wrong tho
@@kooldawg why tho? If you're going to make claims like this, you need to justify your argument. Otherwise I will dismiss it as another opinion somebody pulled out of their behinds.
@@Ralooca it’s evidence of both claims being true tho
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@@Ralooca They both are wrong because instead of women (collectively) making an uproar and putting their feet down at the unjust treatment and exploitation, they cave and allow themselves to be solicited. As a result, the men will be comfortable in their disrespectful behavior and abuse of power as long as it's tolerated. That's pretty obvious.
I’d add Sabrina Carpenter to this list as well. She has 5 albums out now and while her vocals have been amazing since she started she blew up for her live performances of her very sexual “Nonsense” outros and more recently her new sexual image. She’s even come out in interviews saying she’s not nearly as sexual irl as she portrays herself on stage but that it “works”. She’s been grinding for years it’s not a coincidence she’s just now being recognized.
Thank you! I've been feeling this way too, it's a pity because I love her earlier albums as well and I wish they could've gotten the same recognition
Exactly, I liked her album Eyes Wide Open and 'Can't blame a girl for trying' was the first song I heard of hers that I really liked. Unfortunately her "normal" albums didn't get much attention.
I'm 16, and i remember i spoke to my friend about how it's hard to find genuine love songs or simply songs that dont have anything to do with sex and another girl in my class called me a prude 😭. It sucks how we, as the youth, feel so pressured to be so sexual by others and our peers.
This hypersexualisation is so normalized nowadays its actually frustrating like why do we have 13 year olds talking about how they wanna be babymommas 😭
[Sorry if this doesnt make sense or its structured weird]
Edit: Thanks for the recommendations yall 🩷
no girl i totally get it
I would recommend listening to old Disney artists like Aly & Aj, Hilary Duff, Cheetah Girls, Vanessa Hudgens, Hannah Montana, Selena Gomez, Jesse McCarthy (old songs) and even other artists like The Maine, A Rocket to the Moon, Justin Bieber, Ariana Grande, Avril Lavigne, Michelle Branch, Boys Like Girls, Panic! At the Disco, Fall Out Boy, Gym Class Heroes, Cobra Starship, We the Kings, There for Tomorrow, Sleeping with Sirens, VersaEmerge, and You Me At Six. Specifically all of their old songs, especially the popular ones.
Making this list just reminded me of some songs I haven't heard in a while, so I'm going to take a trip down memory lane. Lol Enjoy
Check out jeff buckley!
My go to is Mariah Carey's stuff from the 90's makes me swoon. Absolutely incredible 😭
Being called a prude as a six-year-old is crazy as hell to me. I’m a grown up and this is very very very disturbing to me.
Can we talk about the unwanted seggulization of women’s sports?! I really hate that anytime I try to watch female athletes the comments are always gross or misogynistic. Also hearing talented female athletes talk about how they can’t just be talented they have to be talented and have a certain look for anyone to care is actually really sad
Yes please
I play tennis and this is impelled a lot due to the clothing that is required of us to wear.
Right
Yeah like when it comes to gymnastics videos or long jumping vids (mostly that), here comes the "men of culture" to "show appreciation" of the female athletes. But then they turn around and complain about how biased certain sites are, like Twitch, whenever female twitch streamers play the same game these same men support (both literally and figuratively). Lol
Also i see female long jump and tripple jump and sprinters get sexuakised for what they are wearing.
Apparently it helps increase performance because you can open your legs as wide as you want so it is less restrictive but don't men wear them. Some people say women athletes are forced others say that they choose
The music industry is literally just another branch of the porn industry. The lines are so blurred now. I feel so bad for anyone who struggles with a porn addiction. The temptations to fall back into bad habits is everywhere!!
Exactly 😊
Right
For real 👏👏
Frrrr
Exactly😢🎯
I hate how if I dress in baggy clothes suddenly im “ insecure “💀….
Fr, like bro insecure about what. Is it not ok to wear baggy clothings like, seriously?
Fr. Same goes to modest fashion. Like, no we ain't insecure.
Yeah no insecure is when ppl show off their whole body for validation from other people
@@CarnationValarie-u3h Real.
Fr, you're either "insecure" or "too lazy to dress up" it's infuriating. I just want to wear comfortable clothing, women can't even have that.
In the nicest way possible i feel like a lot of women don't want to accept that a man wanting to sleep with you is not always a compliment. Sometimes they are coming at you with that flirtatious energy because they think you're easy and will just give it up for them and they are actually looking down on you. Hell, there are men who will literally sleep with women they think are ugly just because they're addicted to sex
You think most women aren’t aware that men just want to use our bodies? Think again.
so true
If you think most women don't already know that men can and will use and manipulate us for sex then you really need to get a grip and stop talking down to women and speaking over our experiences.
yep so true
i had way more attention when i was bigger than smaller because men saw me as low risk to approach and an easy fck
i remember this one guy trying to get a place for the night with me bc he missed his train and none were coming, i messaged him the next day asking if he was ok and he just ranted at me that he had to wait til 5 am to get a train 🤣 as if i owed him a night with me for being fat and easy
If you think that women don't already know this then you are condescending at best and downright ignorant at worst. Stop talking down to women and assuming you know more about us regarding our own experiences. We do not need you to baby us and hold our hands and most of us know quite well the lengths men will go and the extremes they will take to use, abuse, and ultimately discard us. And also stop deleting/reporting my comments like a coward. Every time I come here my comment is deleted, just because you can't handle someone calling you out on your very blatant and obvious misogyny. That's not fair.
AINT NO WAY Y’ALL COULDN’T TELL SHE WAS SINGING ABOUT HIM MAKING HER WET!? How is “make me sweat, make me hotter, make me lose my breath, make me water.” GIVE YOU A “family vibe” WTF??!
😂😂😂😂😂
I guess it's about making a family?
@@tomie7699 naaaah, at least thinking that would elude to sex, but that idiot was acting like it had nothing to do with sex at all.
Meh, I wasn't paying that attention to it
cause everybody and their moms was participating in that challenge
I hate hate hate that black culture is exclusively overtly sexual. I know it’s not a good comparison but there is no ‘Black Taylor swift’. Even tyla who is Indian but black presenting didn’t get famous until her extremely provocative water song
controversial take but i wholeheartedly agree, black culture is overtly sexual! And I understand the comparison, because there is no black female artist that is similar to taylor swift, olivia rodrgio etc. that has the same level of fame. if a black female artist came out making songs like taylor swift she would be clowned unfortunately , I hope that changes soon
it's like we have to show more skin than our white counterparts to be perceived (in the context of the patriarchy and white supremacy) as attractive or sexy as them with more clothes on smh. i hate this false perception and i feel its one that many hold subconsciously
Tyla is mixed with Zulu and a few other things not just Indian babes ❤️
Tyla is mixed indian and black
@@NkirukasWrldit’s disingenuous to pretend that Taylor swift doesn’t try to be se*y go look at videos from her concerts she’s tried to do the chair dances and shake her tail but it doesn’t gain her the same attention also a lot of her tour looks the leotards and stuff aren’t deemed sex* because she has a smaller figure a lot of black artists wear similar things to her and it’s automatically seen as more provocative.
Also let’s be real no black artists period is going to reach the level of success that Taylor swift has simply because they aren’t white. Taylor’s marketability relies on her being this relatable figure and her parasocial relationship with fans. Non-black audiences aren’t going to attempt to relate to a black performer in that way in order to get them to that status. Also a black performer wouldn’t be able to get away with her mediocre performances and music and still gain support
Girl not only in USA, but in Brazil we have a terrible s*xualization culture, especially inside music industry. Children and teens here are extremely exposed to it and they learn real fast that showing body, acting and learning sexy dance moves are ''fun'' or simply a positive thing to draw attention. They don't take it seriously or don't realize how terrible this is, we know what can happen next. Yeah I'm talking about funk, if you ever heared about Pablo Vitar or Anitta they are s*xualized icons, not only that, but a lot of male singers uses the same lyrics formula that speaks of free s*x, drugs and ostentation
Mexico too :(
Brazilian here, yes this is true. Just like they said, the sexualization doesn't happen only with grown women, but mostly with female kids and teenagers, what is even more scary. I'm glad lately there has been more people speaking up against modern funk, years ago the genre was not only about sexual stuff, but nowadays 90% of the songs are.
@@moonamoonz É bizarro, o que mais me assusta é a galera que defende com unhas e dentes, alegando ser a expressão cultural do povo brasileiro. O problema está justamente nos holofotes para a pior parte da cultura brasileira kk
Can we also talk about how almost every tv show has sex scenes? Most of them are unnecessary and add nothing to the plot. As much as I love Issa I had to stop watching insecure because every 5 secs somebody’s ass crack is on screen.
oh yikes , fr ?? I never watched; I wouldn't have expected that from my understanding of her as a creator and that creation.
The last sentence made me crack up 😂 (pun intended)
Fr. Like, I was walking in the theater w/my dad to watch OPPENHEIMER. Excuse me ma’am, OPPENHEIMER, a film about a goddamn SCIENTIST!! And there were sex scenes. I was shocked and just stared at the floor 😂 but seriously. Why does a scientist biography need sex scenes 😭
I agree back then tv shows used to cut scenes and just leave it to imagination. Fast forward to now they show EVERYTHINGGGGGGGGGGGGG from straight to gay they showing it allllll
Yo facts like not every show needs a sex scene tf
As a Muslim girl that gets shamed and judged just for being modest its really good to see someone talking sensible and bring it to an audience, women are not just their bodies, they are functional humans with their choice
Wearing a hijab doesn’t make u modest. I’ve walked in on hijabis doing sexual things with their boyfriends in uni classrooms before.
I feel you. I’m no Muslim I’m Indian, but raised to dress modestly. And I love wearing actual clothes, but I’ve noticed men will look at me but not approach me, but will approach the girl who is half naked. It’s almost as if wearing clothes makes you unapproachable or sends some sort of signal that I have yet to decipher exactly. But what I have managed to come up with is either they think you’re “high standards” (I’m not even wearing designer labels- nor do I care), sexually inexperienced, maybe not fun 🤷♀️.
@@ZitaSenorau also have to have a really pretty face a man will come up if your beautiful clothes or no clothes
@@ZitaSenora Those men are not for you, they are for the naked ones. The person who respects you will approach you, and you will always be respected over a naked woman
salaam sister, love youuuu
I also feel like when a woman is displaying sexual expression, a lot of people only support it as being empowerment if the girl has a body that aligns with media beauty standards. If the woman isn’t what’s viewed as the ideal, it’s negatively viewed as
Yes!!!
Ooh that's a good point!
There ya go 💯
Or if the woman is straight/doing it for heterosexual male appeal. Lesbian sexuality isn't allowed to exist unless it's repackaged for male pleasure because women are seen as sexual objects who exist for men in this society, and everything we do must be done to entice them.
Ya that’s common sense 😂
I'm 18 and Christian. I had this male friend that told me wanting a husband and being modest at a young age is boring and I'm wasting the best years of my life. It's pretty sad
Relate as a Muslim woman
Wow
Do not listen to him! You will thank yourself later..avoid a lot of unnecessary trauma and nonsense
Do not listen what they say. Never.
He's an idiot
Literally look at ice spice. When you look at her performances, its only MEN , with their phones out,and only screaming when she shakes her bum. Except that its completely SILENT. that gurl is only present because ppl like when she shakes it. Like that's it. And when you say that, ppl are so ready to call you "hater" or "jealous". Yall cant just accept the truth and that's it😂
I remember this when she first came out 😂 Like that alone speaks volumes as an artist
On god Flo milli is so much better than
@SpiritVines ikr, then ppl keep saying" then stream her music then" we already are, yall just can't value ACTUAL talent 🙄
@@MsElizaRae lmao I would rather call her an entertainer 😭😂
I went to wireless festival last year and when she performed it was all men at the main stage. I was there with my girlfriends and none of the men knew the words to her songs (except the boys a liar) and would only scream and pay attention when she shaked her ass. Someone behind me was screaming for her to sit on his face 🥴
"Your appearance should not dictate your readiness for adulthood", gutted me alive, spoke to me in deep levels, made me dizzy made me spiral, altered my brain chemistry
I wish I could have said this to everyone who told me about my “baby making hips”
@@bakedpotato1717 eww... i'm so sorry
@@bakedpotato1717 that is so disgusting??? Some people should just be in jail fr, I'm sorry you had to hear that
fr
@@bakedpotato1717 I always always had really wide hips and a smaller waist. I would cringe when growing would tell me as a little girl that I was going to be a banger when I grow up and I had baby making hips. So cringe. Men at the gas station will literally tell me let me put a baby inside of you as a compliment. Cringe. 🤢 It is insane. We need to bring back shame.
Unpopular opinion: I’m not even surprised that it was SexyRed and Sukihana’s idea to be walked like dogs in that one music video because the thing is (and may be off-topic) but when women call themselves “bitches,” not even men, whether you say it with a positive connotation or not it still means “female dog.” The self-degradation along with the overt sexuality is showing how women overtime have been taught that all this is somehow “empowering” when it’s the epitome of disrespecting ourselves and lowering our values. One of the biggest misconceptions out here today.
It's just music, not that deep
@@ernestkhalimov748it is that deep lmao the music industry is one of the richest most influential industries in the world
the fact that a woman, any woman is ok with someone referring to her as a bitch is crazy. Especially when they’re in a relationship with that person. I notice that men love to call their girlfriend “my bitch” and the women are just ok with it. It’s truly sad
I’ve been talking about this for forever. There’s no such thing as “taking back a slur”. It’s still a slur and it’s still degrading, and all it does is lower your own self worth down to whoever said that slur. The same thing with gays saying the f slur as a joke.. maam it’s still a slur. You’re still calling a member of your own community something that’s made to degrade you.
I agree with you but the 'bitch' word just hits different when its coming from another woman in a positive tone. I can't get rid of it out of my vocabulary as well.
It’s the opposite of empowerment. Because when you get your power from external things, then your power depends on others. And therefore is out of your control. Few women are empowered like this
I guess you have a point there, but mm they are getting millions so they ain’t too worried about it.
YES! Love this valid point. I'm 100% with you
Ouuu wee
This reminds me of this one singer who became an overnight sensation at 19 for singing an incredibly suggestive song. She later admitted that she had had no idea about the sexual connotations as she was so young and inexperienced and only did what she was told. She became depressed and after a long break, essentially restarted her career as an indie artist and totally disengaged from the sexy image she had been signed early in her career...
I don't know, I think this kind of success is not really worth it, when you're not even yourself but just doing what you're told...how long can you maintain that? You can be pushed around at 19 but to still be at it at 30 or 40?! That's just so degrading
We shouldn't ignore the fact that men are not entirely to blame for this. Women are half of society. We also listen to these female rappers and singers. You yourself said you like Sexyred. We do the water dance, we dance to WAP. We dress however we like, we don't live in the 1950's. We don't support the amazing female artists who are actually good influences and choose not to dress sexually. We play a very active role in consuming and supporting this media. We don't protect the young girls being exposed to and influenced by this media which they have no business consuming at they're young age. We are not dolls nor are we stupid. And we should acknowledge the fact that we contribute to this culture instead of shifting all the blame onto men.
This!! We aren't totally blameless, and it's better to take accountability for what we haven't done then leave it up to situations out of our control!
I agree, you said it.👌Men do play a huge part, but we women are the future! And if we want to see change, WE have to be the change that we seek!💯✨
There was this quote by a youTuber named Wildheart Waves (she’s amazing, I recommend anyone to go check her out) that goes: “As black women, we dance to our own degradation.”
I think that sums up this whole situation perfectly. Ever since I heard her say that, I’ve never been into the new music that’s been coming out since. I stopped entirely and indulge in more positive things.
Yup! EXACTLY!! This isn’t an era of men completely controlling the narrative, women choose to uplift and highlight degeneracy and then act all picachu faced
Actually, you can blame it all on women in this topic because all these singers and rappers fan bases are majority women
I think that Doja Cat realized this too. Do you all remember before she went full illumaniti-trool, how she shaved her head and started to go towards a more alternative look? Overnight, she was met with so much criticism and "she's gone crazy!" Comments. The 4th of July, that year, she wore a wig and swimsuit and people were like "Doja's back!" Her music doesn't get nearly as much attention as it did before, and I wonder how much of that is because she isn't "sexy" in the mainstream way anymore.
thats exactly why.. people call her ugly now and even when they arent explicitly stating that they liked her old self for her looks, it shows. its so obvious when older videos of her are reshared when she was "conventionally pretty" its always "i miss her old self" "back when she was better blah blah blah"// the music's the same, her looks arent appealing to her "fans" the way she was before. and i think that fact was made clear to her when she was dissing her fans last year.. i think it a lot of it was valid looking at in now bc she was really criticizing her fake fans or whatever.
@@celestialbunny she literally has always been a weirdo haha! It's why some fans really love her! It's crazy to me that when she started to embody that quirkiness by shaving her head and dressing in unconventionally attractive ways, people act like she's this hugely different person. It goes to show how being "sexy" and fitting into a certain look really has an effect on someone's musical success. I think she was right to call people out, and I feel like all the criticism and pressure is causing her to give up a little on her career. She definitely isn't getting "Say So" or "Best Friend" promotion.
She stills shakes her booty in her music video right? Men won't care if you are ugly as long as you are woman you'll still be sexualized
This was very well said. Immediately she stopped conforming to ideal standards you have hundreds of videos saying 'they miss the old her'. Then her music noticeably got less streams and attention until recently when she released Agora Hills which was kind of explicit.
@@hannahheacock7522her being weird was why I loved her acc
I'm so fed up with body parts shaking in my face. It's weird
@AlbertNewton-bf6cr you're weird too
@AlbertNewton-bf6cr imagine asking the same random question over and over in the same comment section then deleting it when somebody responded lol
@@korkinalina what did they ask
@@Nezumi_Yasu something about do i have a boyfriend or not
@@korkinalina thats random
Same thing is happening in the book world too. I am a writer and if I write a character-driven book without a lot of smex it will not chart or do well. Readers these days don't seem to want to read books unless its straight up p orn.
I feel you, I’m currently working on a fantasy wlw story where the main character is asexual. I really don’t understand why everyone (on a book tok, at least) are obsessed with these ‘dark romances’, I personally watch videos about them just for cringe😂
P0rn addictions and it’s consequences
Omg yes like I always ask for recommendations and all I get books which are p*rn on paper no plot, no good characters nothing really.
I love to read, but HATE when there is more than a tiny amount of sex in a book/story. I prefer no sex, lol.
@@noorelmasri9803 Girlll booktok is crazy
I'm not anti sex, but dang, there's a time and a place. If sex is supposed to be empowering, then I think over using it makes it lose its impact.
Compared to past sex icons, they were sexy and enticing. They still managed to be classy and respected, it's a balance.
Marilyn Monroe was not respected lol
@kruggyy maybe not then, but she is now. Can't deny the impact she had, especially with all that try to imitate her. Even people today got mad about Kim ruining her dress. She's an icon now.
@@justfandomtings to this day, people see her as a sex object lol
@kruggyy I'm sorry. Did you not read my original comment? Yes, I know that, I was just comparing how sex icons were then to how people try to be sexy now.
Are you confused about what the topic is? Genuinely asking.
@@kruggyynot really
Lust is everywhere in the media. Hollywood, music, social media...everywhere
And lust has a right to exist, that's for sure! But it shouldn't be omnipresent, and it shouldn't be at the expense of women's bodily autonomy and inherent dignity.
Because the devil owns the entertainment industry
@@imthebossmermaid3648it’s a sin that gonna lead many people to hell yall Jesus is coming back soon repent and turn to him b4 it’s too late
@@imthebossmermaid3648 What are you saying? I know it is natural to sin, but what are you saying? 😭 And I agree, it shouldn't have to be at the expense of a woman's body.
@@marisantiago6287 Unfortunately but that is true. I want to sing, but I don't plan on selling my soul.
The pressure is real. I’m a regular gym goer and gym culture has everyone thinking you have to be in short shorts and a sports bra to workout. Me going in leggings and a tshirt, I cannot compete with that. And I totally get the whole pressure to ‘keep up’. all these girls lookin like a snack but you just want to be comfortable and do squats without your stomach hanging out tf lmaooooo
Same 😂
Why are you trying to compete with them? I thought women dressed for themselves 🧐
And a face full of makeup. I always wonder how they looked so good after it. They just do like 2 sets and go home. They stay if the gym is full and leave when it’s empty
@@anavasquez5231 humans are very social animals and have natural instincts to conform especially women.
@@Natttttttttt One thing is to be social, and the other is to be sheep. Adult women should be mature enough to not fall into vain, dumb consumerist trends.
The same is happening with books. A lot of the trending books are trending because of smut. I saw a comment under a video of a girl recommended non-smut books that said "if there's no smut, it's not even a good book". It wasn't a teenager. It was a freaking adult woman
Wow
the porn epidemic in booktok is crazy
Unfortunately i'm like that, i used to read books/fanfics with actual plot and depth, but nowadays i'm only interested in +18 stuff 😭
I commented "let's not normalise smut" under an instagram reel and got so hated for no reason. I just meant let's not make it seem like everyone reads SMUT as most readers don't even know what it is.
it's so sad how teens are shamed for looking more and more mature but they are actually pressured to look like that in the same time, teen girls just can't win
Yeah. It’s either ‘stop dressing like that, you’re not an adult yet’ or ‘stop dressing like a child, you aren’t one’
Teen girls are considered young women. That is why they get so much shame.
@Iserenityy At this point, their parents are just narcissistic people especially mothers who are just seeking out to exploit them. That was sadly the same case with my sister and I, even though now we are grown.
@@missstranger7697 I don't think it's always parents wanting to exploit them. I think some parents see all the other kids doing it and their kid wanting to fit in and the parents thinks this is the normal way for kids to dress now, just like how likely when those parents were younger they probably thought their parents were too prude in not letting them wear a spaghetti strap top or a miniskirt or something so they think it's the same thing. But they don't realise how sexualised kids are because the parents probably aren't watching the TikToks these kids are watching.
I'm gonna be 17 in 3 months and I dress and act how most would say is "weird kid activities" when I'm just wearing regular clothes and definitely not revealing. Think of how people would dress in 2021 and 2020 with the mushrooms, frogs, and moons with stars bc they're fun and whimsical which is exactly what what I hope to be seen as, but with today's society of materialistic ppl, overconsumption, and maturing too fast I'm deemed weird and childish ESPECIALLY with the interests that I have.
The showing off of woman’s body leads to such unrealistic expectations of both women and men. Men expect women to be overall sensual from what they are seeing online. Makes me feel like I can’t compete with the insta baddies and celebrities
You literally should not. It's not worth it. Just look for a relationship
Be wise and don't compete at all. "Baddie" types never last long in a relationship nor are taken seriously by men (they have higher rates of attracting bad types of men). If you present yourself as more modest and humble you'll score yourself a catch. Make use of my words that I shared with you, since you didn't have the wisdom yourself. If I was in the dating market and I didn't want to be only used for my body, I wouldn't advertise it like that at all. you're only competing with baddies if your goal is to be objectified and used.
@@LovelyLittleLilliesThis! Prettier girls may get more but they also have more dangers. It's better to just be cute 😂
@@LovelyLittleLilliesI agreed with you up until "If you present yourself as more modest and humble, you'll score yourself a catch." Humble girlies are out here struggling to to find the right partner. Most women who are viewed as good women are often overlooked. I type all this to say, it doesn't really matter how you present yourself as a woman when most can't find their match.
@@MaisonMargiela-ch9coThis you can be the most modest and innocent looking and you can still get played 🤷🏾♀️. Nobody has the high ground or low ground in this age of dating just try your best.
Chloe x Halle are a example. They are insane with their talent and vocals. Can play instruments, write amazing music and produce. Their first album wasn’t received well due to their style, but once they decided to show skin they got all the attention. Especially Chloe. And now people aren’t supporting her music but are supporting any sexy pics she shows.
I wish people were known for talent alone 😭
and their music together was sooo good!!! those older songs are bangers
Smh
For awhile, Chloe seemed like she was trying way too hard to be sexy.
@@dii-N-sd she still does
My ex calling me “old fashioned” and “conservative” because I didn’t have the desire to wear booty shorts or crop tops. I don’t want random men staring me down in public. I’m 26! Bro was 32. I’m glad to be rid of him.
AURORA is an artist i love that isn't overtly sexual, but gets a lot of flac from haters who think her dances or themes to her music are weird. Just because she dances in a more animalistic manner and is always very covered. She's always been my favorite artist and i loved that she went viral for Cure For Me a while back!
Aurora is just being her authentic self. So she doesn't need to be sexual to be selling music. She is an artist. She does it for the art.
i absolutely love her style of dance, it’s interesting because it’s similar to indigenous and native culture dance styles.
Dude I love AURORA! She sang for a video game I used to play all the time! I love “This could be a dream” and “All is soft inside”. Her voice is beautiful, and her music is powerful, it’s amazing
@@LocalGooberGoobs Sky COTL? But seriously, her music is beautiful, and she’s beautiful, and I like the way she’s not cramming explicit lyrics or skimpy clothes in her music and videos. And she doesn’t need to, her music is easily good enough to get her a fan base without needing those
Been listening to her for years, will forever love her for not changing who she is
I remember when IG first came out, people would post selfies to capture moments with family, friends or post a beautiful view from their hike. It was never to show anything off, it didn’t feel self centered. But in the past years I personally feel like it has become a place to glorify oneself, to show off your status, body, and it’s become full of nudity. I had to delete it for my own personal sanity and wellbeing, and it’s been the best decision.
2012-2016 was the best years for IG. Now certain hashtags won't even work properly and they give you the old ones from 2017 2018
Exactly! It's either about how hot you look, how big your bbl booty is, or how much wealth you have. It's become a dystopian reality of human's worst qualities.
Bingo
As a man I'm glad people are realizing this. I often remind myself "that person is not super attractive... they are just the most naked one in the room".
💯 Love man like you
U have to remind urself ? 💀
@@wendyev310 lol... sometimes a naked women is like a visual brain freeze to us guys.
@@dudejoe8390 that's honestly kinda pathetic
@@isolated_bunnythey're literally ruled by lust and act like they're leaders when they can't even control themselves most of the time
Billie Eilish also did her photoshoot in underwear right after she became 18. The audience didn't respond well and only that saved her from signing up to this esthetic.
But her new main single it's about sex 😅
I feel bad for her
And also, there is also this controversy about" YOU control what your kids watch, the women have nothing to do with it." The problem, is that you see "nudity" EVERYWHERE. TV commercials, like posters, movies, music videos. Like how do you want us to ignore it if it's everywhere. Literally, all movies and series have unnecessary s3xual scenes, stuff that the whole family could watch .
Exactly, I understand their sentiment, but it really is everywhere these days. Not to mention, people are getting more bold with what they show in public so even if it’s not in media, it’s in real life.
@user-qb8wv5et8i ikrr, like I've seen some ppl promote their only fans, in a PUBLIC GYM. Like don't you have shame?😭
EXACTLY, with the rise of social media, it is literally unavoidable. Tf they want the parents to do, sit there like a shadow, monitoring every move their child makes? Then those same ppl gonna call that toxic and abusive, so now what? Not to mention, their friends could easily show them that content without you knowing. Now what, should we ban kids from having friends?
I'd rather have children living in a safe society and environment than grown adults being happy about getting off to their gross explicit content they put in everything.
@@user-qb8wv5et8ihonestly yes you can, I get that it's everywhere but I believe when bringing a kid to thto this world you should be ready for what is happening or what ever would happen, I didn't know alot of things till I left highschool or at my senior year, I knew classmates talking about somethings but I never heard of it before , because my parents controlled the things I watch and did I wasn't even allowed to leave the house until I went to university
a perfect example was elsagate…
Sexually liberation in any way should be having the choice on how you express your sexuality, instead of the same hypersexualized formula for everyone
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
How about thinking about the word "liberation"
Sounds good huh? But liberation of the drug market isnt good for all either.
How about we do what all of history did and stop this sexual liberation BS?
Its a nobrainer.
Yep. The default became catering to the male gaze and making ourselves more accessible to men. How is any of that sexually liberating, when you boil it down to its core it’s really the same misogynistic behavior and standard as it’s always been, but now they’ve misconstrued it as something that’s empowering. Nah sis, men don’t have to show their ass to feel empowered. You can’t have any agency in something that’s inherently exploitive.
This and it should also be within your boundaries and not over done
Correct
“Make me sweat, make me hotter, make me lose my breath, make me water” yeeeeeah i definitely knew what those lyrics were actually about 🤦🏿♀️
No shit I thought it was talking about actual water 💧 😭
Ima be so for real I’m a grown married woman and I thought maybe she was saying like water like make me melt like my heart melts because I love you so much 😭I am so mad I have so much faith in the world lmao
@@salty_4275 lordddd
I didn't realize this until now D:
@@salty_4275 yeah, you're not alone 😂😂 I also thought it's about water
another thing is: why is it only women of colour (black women) who are the ones that have to show their bodies in order to go up in the industry???
a month late but i have suspicions it's because in a white world where black people weren't treated as humans for so long, sexualization of women, that I'd consider is a form of objectification, is more applicable to people you don't view as human. sure black people entertain the idea too, but it seems like it's also rooted from getting "positive" reactions from people because unless you are the object of their sexual fantasies, you're just nothing. in a way it just means you're worth nothing if you're not sexual, never a human deserving bare minimal respect. like it's either you're nothing or sexy and rich
Nah I agree especially black women
Cz in africa this is their culturale dance.. like us arab we have belly dancers.. african have this twerk and stuff.. white people dont do it because i think gje culture is not helping.. their culture is more classic and elegant.. while the african one is energitic and vibing.. but it toke a wrong way in turning fun to sex.. sex will never be somthing funny in public like that its discusting.. its like walking in a corn world..
@@israe3384 completely agree these dances are not sexualized in those cultures but ppl use these things to turn it into sex
Adele and Sia probably the only recently popular artists who’s defined by her voice and actual artistry
They are white they don’t have to. There a reason why pink pantheres isn’t having the same fame as ice spice
@@mgueye2mgueye261black women ‘have to’? Why?
@@mgueye2mgueye261the way we defend degeneracy by saying the black man and woman has no choice is astounding. But unsurprising. A people with no culture or code of conduct cannot stand up for themselves as a collective because everybody is in their own selfish self-serving minds.
@@mgueye2mgueye261let’s not act like Whitney Huston , Lauren hill , Jennifer Hudson , and Aretha Franklin , Tina turner , Donna summer ,Dianna Ross ,Toni Braxton , Sade and many more don’t exist , we don’t “ have to “ ppl blk people especially chose to support raunchy “artist”.
@@LisePlansandJournalsbecause black women aren’t respected or admired as easily
People are so weird for expecting celebrities to raise THEIR KIDS. You had those kids. It's no one's responsibility but yours.
What are you people talking about?
It’s not about that people naturally do what others do also just gain some knowledge about these thing research they not called INFLUENCERS for no reason
ALSO I AM TIRED OF SEEING NAKED PEOPLE /BOOTY ON MY Ig !!!!!!
as soon as you have an audience of any kind, you have a responsibility, period. its not jake pauls job to raise kids either, but his audience is young and therefore he has a responsibility, and other people are rightfully calling him out if he promotes something inappropriate or dangerous. dont act dense and miss the point.
@@ajlee2168it’s still the parents of the kids responsibility to monitor what their kids consume though. You can’t control everything your kids see but you’re supposed to teach them what they should take away from content. Anyone can be influenced by anything but it’s a parent’s job to teach values and morals
A lot of people shame me for dressing modest because “You’re covering up for men! You’re a pick me!”
Dude….I’m asexual. And I’m doing it for the girlies and God. Get it right.
Ikr, I'll get called a prude
I've been thinking that I might be asexual too but I'm so conflicted because I still kinda feel sexual urges ? (Like to masturb-) and stuff but I never feel the urge to do anything sexual with anyone and the thought makes me sick
“I’m doing it for the girlies and God” PERIOD
amen!
This! Why have we started shaming women who want to be modest? I personally dress modest for wanting to feel safe and comfortable. I’ve known Muslim women were absolutely stunning and gorgeous and they never had to show their bits for it to be true.
My friends tell me to put myself out there . I do not want to.
Get new friends
Maybe get a new friend
be yourself hun, maybe get new friends or talk to them ab it? sending love 💐🥰
i am 17 and can agree that i am so over this narrative! ive been pushed to be older since middle school (2018). i loved everything you said in this video. the only thing that’s praised are bodies, no creativity or talent is even recognized usually.
I’m literally in the same boat.
From time to time, you kinda can get a creative thing
Embrace your blossoming 🌸 into this side of womanhood by staying pure in body & mind. Don’t consume perverse sexual content from various media sources. Stay away from lecherous men & lecherous pickme women. Surround yourself with truly classy career women not trash 🚮 with💰a trust fund. Educate yourself 👩🏽🎓 , Make a living 💰 doing what you love, Protect Yourself 🥋, Travel ✈️, & Experience Earth’s 🌎 Majesty. Don’t get caught up 🪤 with 🤨😏people’s BS 💩either. They must fix their problems NOT You!
Yeah and pretty faces
Same girl
Let’s talk about it. I’m 14 and a Caribbean girl and I have noticed a trend. African and Caribbean culture has been demonized and sexualized as it does not fit the norm of OUR culture (which is crazy because it’s not even ours). Tyla does Bacardi a south African dance style which, yes, involves gyration, but who made that sexual? Water was a sexual song but she’s been doing this since her ballad songs like to last and it is a crazy notion that she wasn’t big just because Americans didn’t hear about her. She got big for being racially ambiguous and still having enough of that “exotic” appeal (yes people have called her such). I just think it’s crazy how we continue to hypersexualize those who aren’t even overly sexual and how we do such to our culture. I honestly think it’s a response to assimilation.
As an african girl, we have dances where we gyrate our hips to the rythm of drums. We do it since childhood as it is not sexual at all. I hate when westerners sexualize my culture. We are just having fun and tbh having a strong waistline is praised where I'm from.
Oh please, darling. I saw a video of how explicit dancing was at clubs in the Caribbean countries (outright mimicking inter course). What do white people have to do with that? Black people brought that explicitness to the West - who else introduced dances like whining and twerking? It was not a white man's creation. and I doubt white people have as much influence on a fully Black country like the Caribbean. Y'all keep blaming outsiders for your own people chosing to present themselves in an explicit, negative manner. Go look at African countries, many dress modestly and favour a certain discipline.
This is extremely important to notice!! Thank you for bringing it to light.
Exactly like tylas dance for water is called bacardi we do it for fun it's not even sexual to us 😅
Caribbean girlie here and I wholeheartedly agree. The sexualization makes it harder to enjoy certain aspects of our culture, and I hate it😐🧍🏾♀️
Getting off the internet is what everyone needs to do or at least not spend the average screen time of 7 hours coming from US statistics.
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You ain’t lyingggggg 😭
Facts
Harsh truth right there...👌
I did some research and black and Hispanic kids are on social media more compared to white kids
I took a class on how bodies have been viewed throughout American history and it was eye-opening. We went from a society where they had literal zoos displaying black people so people could judge how different their appearance was, to a society entirely striving to achieve that exact body shape, no matter the cost. We went from ankles being scandalous to displaying everything being normal or expected. It’s really baffling how much things have changed even over the last decade or two.
It seems like a transformation but in truth, bIàck bodies are still displayed in zoos.
The zoos are just called music videos now.
@leonfrancis3418 lawd you're right 😭 😫
The situation is worsening, and not just in America but all over the world. People believe that this is a form of empowerment, but it profoundly affects women everywhere, reducing them to objects. I recall a memory of being on a bus and overhearing a conversation among high school girls who appeared to be about 13-14 years old. They were discussing their "body count," and it was incredibly disheartening.
This is so sad. I wish these girls knew that those men they slept with don't give a damn
yeah nothings empowering about selling yourself as a product. being seen as something to buy because of onlyfans and stuff like this is why women get objectified still. lets get real.
Thats sad.
Nowadays you’ll get called a pr-word for saying that teens shouldn’t be involving themselves in s•• at all
Let’s make more effort to openly support each other and the girls (and women) who dress modest, as much as we support the women who enjoy being conventionally sexy. We need to stop pressuring each other to pick a “right” side so predatory media can stop taking advantage of us
Honestly even the kids are doing it. You'll have hood kids showing up to school with designer clothes and they'll bully tf out of the actual normal kids for like, liking Hello Kitty and not having a 12 step skincare routine
@@sativadiva2389 Damn. Thats so disheartening to hear.. I loved my Sanrio phase. The adultification of (black) children could be a whole other video 😢
@@sativadiva2389 No hood kid is coming to school with designer. I don't know why you guys have the urge to lie like this.
@@milkflavoredAnd the way that you just have to say black. This is why nobody likes you.
Like H.E.R.! She makes great r&b music and she dresses modest :)
I'm all about being comfortable in your body but not when it's become the norm for every woman (if that makes sense)
i agree! i will never police a woman's body however, we are all not the same. there is no way that everyone wants to be overtly sexual and display themselves in the same manner
It's empowering, isn't it?
Being comfortable in your own body doesn't mean you have to show it to everyone.
And being comfortable in your body doesn't necessarily mean showing it off
@@las9582But if they want too they can. Y'all are way to worried about grown women who don't represent the majority of women.
I'm a person who always believed that the word s*xy doesn't suggest you as provocative or too much skin popping out
For example, people engaged passionately in a hobby I find sexy. Like watching someone create anything
It’s sad because Tyla who is South African and Indian wanted to represent her culture in her music, but people only listen to her because they want to see her body or just because she’s pretty and not because she has a beautiful voice or because of how good her new song is.
Tyla isn't Indian, she's colored (A ethnic group mixed with many races). Y'all need to stop with that shit.
EDIT:
(I made a typo in the original post, I know she isn't a Indian)
@@ligoodberry6794huh?
@@jennah5990It would not be a Tyla comment if ppl don't get her race wrong or fight each other because of it.
@@beewest5704 you exotics are so oppressed 😭😢
Well she is the one attracting immense attention to her body instead of her music.
This is why i stopped watching music videos. I dont need the assault on my eyes. I just watch lyric videos.
not all of them are like that
@@joey.thanes majority are, particularly mainstreamed and popular songs.Makes it okay to generalise here
@@Saniesaniexei you won't really know if you know
They also have waaay too many jump cuts
i found new music. i never liked the old music but every other kid was listening to it so thats what i did. i love vocaloid and video game based songs. one girl who was my friend made fun kf me for kistening for video game songs and i said" atleast i dont listen to music with people skaing their behind in my face"
One of the hardest lessons to learn, especially if you grew up without pretty privilege, is that being sexually desired by a lot of men is not the prize you think it is. And I wish more women of influence would tell that too young girls. Because some men will literally dog walk you (as shown) because that’s exactly what they think of women, whether they sexualize themselves or not. It’s been advertised as liberty and freedom but the truth is, it is still objectification and exploitation. The man lusting over you doesn’t care that you chose to show him your hooha, instead of him choosing to look at it without your permission. He doesn’t care. He was going to look and think all of his thoughts anyway. And it’s incredibly sad. Sad that it’s been centuries of women treated like this.
In other words men are the problem.
They have a depr@ved mind.
Well said. Thank you.
The best advice my mother gave me is to choose the right people to be around, and that’s includes things on the internet. Choose wisely what you are viewing. Once you get consumed in all this media and you’re on the internet 24/7, when you get dressed/do your makeup etc, you start questioning why it doesn’t turn out like the other people, and these other people being people from the internet, not from what’s around you. I almost went down this hole a couple months ago, glad I came back to my senses and realised social media just isn’t for me
You're five people/friends around you
Yes, I don't think women should turn themselves into a sexually desired product. We are more than just our face and body! We are humans with a brain, with a heart and with talents ❤
i turned 18 recently and i agree so many women are so sexualised and that in this day and age as young girls we are expected to grow up earlier
Same
Unfortunately part of being a woman and getting older is realizing the only thing stopping men from going even younger than 18 is the threat of prison, and even then, some will just travel to other countries where they DO allow jt 🤢
@@sativadiva2389honestly the majority of men are just normal dude's minding their own business and they get lumped up together with these pigs. But DAMN the minority are loud. Making themselves known. From the age of 12 I had grown men with beards and children hitting on me🙂😭
@@sativadiva2389fr. The way I’ve seen soooo many of them be like “well it’s legal”. The only thing stopping them from going younger is the law
@@chidiogoikeh4550'them' HAHA keep blaming men 😂 Most men literally respect that 18 is the legal age and follow the law with no complaints and there shouldn't be no complaints, obviously. Why dont women take responsibility and cover themselves well? I see many 15-16 yr old at my school exposing themselves then blame older men for being attracted LOL...
crazy how we went from making people famous for their talent, to making people famous for shaking their ass.
Its all a popularity contest and showing ass gets you popular
Fr
As a woman, I feel prettiest wearing something that compliments my body without sexualizing myself.
i'm so so sick of society. i used to blame being an introvert as to why i didn't connect with people but it's honestly just the standards we have in society as to why i can't relate with people. it all seems so fake and i really can't take it, it's truly depressing.
edit: this world is so full of evil and sin... it's right before our very eyes and way too many people are complicit. all of these corn websites, onlyf4nz, and the thirst traps on social media platforms, don't give into it. behind the scenes these people are struggling heavy, and those who consume it will too. this is NOT normal and anyone who tries to condemn you for not giving into the devils foolery will see the truth soon enough. i pray they find it before it's too late.
You’re definitely not the only one over it all
Become muslim bro there's a true air of joy and innocence due to the demand of respect nad honour people are given and just true love and brother or sisterhood trust me and visit a mosque once even if its for vibes lol its open to everyone
Same here
@@free_the_0ppressed too many people use Islam to enact cruelty and oppress people, much like other religions.. sorry but I’ll pass
Let’s not shame the girlies that are making money with this please!
My mom told me that showing this much skin isn’t empowerment. It just adds less value to your personal body. You’re basically selling it at this point.
I agree and disagree... that's not an invitation to be SAd
But then again we live in a male drivin world so it'll appear that way @@enfpgirl
I don’t think she’s trying to say that she’s trying to say that youre giving up your body for everyone to see when your more than your body
@@riyahhh7671 yeah thats one of her points
That's true
I do really like you that you say “women” and not “female”
@AlbertNewton-bf6crwhat are you doing Mr Albert please go somewhere else this ain’t no dating app
They’re the same thing 😹
@@rosea2350No they’re actually not. Women is for humans, female is for animals….lmao….
@@rosea2350I get what u mean, it’s just a lot of sexist people say female ALL the time and it seems dehumanizing.
@@rosea2350not really. Female is an adjective and woman is a noun. They aren’t the same thing and shouldn’t be used interchangeably. The only people who do are usually misogynistic individuals who don’t refer to men the same way
As a 16 year old girl who’s body is small, this kind of content makes me feel like I should where they’re at. Especially because certain people treat me younger then I am, they point it out constantly. I always felt jealous of the girls who looked their age because I know I’d never be able to look like tjis girls. This jealously died off after I deleted ig 😭
Quick question what’s ig??
ig means I guess
@@Totallytoob-y734_47 in this context it means instagram
@@LiAb-sr3pkI think instagram
@@Totallytoob-y734_47 I think she meant ig as in Instagram
Adding Tate Mcrae to the list. She started when she was a jid but as she turned 18 her image became sexual almost immediately
Yerp
THIS
Shes a great dancer and performer but when i watched the video for greedy, if just felt…off. The dance was unnecessarily sexual and overt and little try hard. Like it didnt…need to be?
SOO TRUE, i waited for her to add tate mcrae on the list.
I have always liked Tate's music and still do, but I noticed this as well and found it sad and got thrown off by it. Like her music is catchy and could blow up on its own, she didnt need to sexualize her image imo
Tyla is 22, skinny and young ohh and mixed Most men will love her. The reason u wont compare her to lets say nicki cause she has an innocent look and is small, no big boobs or butt. Thats why people wont sexualize her as much. Skinny girls always get away with it. If tyla was thicker the reception will be different. But she no different that the REST
These guys were saying if they ever get with her, they're getting her pregnant immediately. It's so gross all of this.
Now that u think abt it, that's completely true,
But please don't forget she is EXCEPTIONALLY talented...
Nicki is made of plastic
@KrissyKayyy yes perfect example. They get away cause they look innocent and thin...less sexualized.
@@razemander🤢 everyday I regret being a straight woman
don’t forget colorism makes ppl perceive sexy red differently
Maybe it is colorism, it feels like if her skin was a bit lighter, maybe there would not be any backlash against Sexyy…
Or if she was lighter skinned as IceSpice..she would be perceived as gorgeous, slay, and hyper feminine instead of de feminized or ultra masculinized..
Yea people find her repulsive and too sexual while people love ice spice
@@mariamart_0
😂Defeminised & masculine. What hater put your feminine self esteem in toilet 🚽like that!? Dark woman 👩🏾 or light woman 👩🏻 , all men know you’re still a woman with a vagina 😂 They don’t even equate studs as men among them. Because they have no testes & aren’t REAL men!!!
Not in my book. I perceive Caresha, Redd, Meg Thee Stallion and Nicki Minaj in the same trifling light. Also Meg is doing just fine showing her behind and she's dark.
@@labelmeposhMegan, Nicki and caresha are all golden light skin tones. Sexy red is milk cholate fenty 420. Megan is not dark skin she’s defo a fenty 370-390. Open your eyes. And plus Megan is creole she’s mixed and calls herself a redbone herself. If Megan was much darker who knew where she would be. Even caresha too I believe her skin tone is another reason why she is praised and worshipped.
I saw a comment saying "Tyla is not loved for being Tyla, she is being loved for being naked". I was surprised to see this comment is coming from a western. And I saw the other comments how everyone was praising for her dance moves in Water and I got it why everyone can't stop loving her.
All the comments on her videos/shorts/tiktoks are about how beautiful she is and her body, and mens saying she looks so "pure" or "naive/innocent" 😂
@@Lucid.24 yes!!!!!, and the comment i talked about was by a Man too. That's why I believed that.
Honestly...as a female cosplayer, this really applies. Like really.
@@urmumsbenchprI would love to become a content creator doing cosplay, I adore cosplay and I make my own and I won some awards for it, but I just cant get attention or followers because I always cosplay men I never cosplay sexual or do sexually charged photoshoots.
It’s really really demotivating when I enter another woman’s cosplay account and it’s all basically porn. Even in instagram. And I know it’s not their fault, it’s market, but it’s really disappointing because I will never do sexually things but at the same time it pains me because I really want to become a professional cosplayer.
Belle Delphine and Jessica Nigri immediately come to mind, and Delphine also did nsfw cosplays of child characters like Kanna Kamui 😅
@@urmumsbenchpr thats exactly what theyre doing lol it kinda predatory of them
as a girl who cosplays, i’m literally too scared to even cosplay female characters because of how some people are so most of my cosplays are mainly all male characters
I would like to use this moment to promote up and coming music artist Baby Storme! She is a goth black singer who's presentation isn't hypersexual. She's herself and she's a big inspiration to me!
Ooo that sounds really cool!! I’ll check her out!
I LOVE BABY STORME ❤❤❤
can i also recommend other blk artists i listen to?
Hemlocke Springs, an indie singer with a rlly quirky aesthetic that y'know, released her popular single Girlfriend
@@Janal_HoeOmg I LOVE Chenayder!!! Ahhh I'm gonna check out these other artists! Thank you! ❤
THIS CITY IS A GRAVEYARD 🔥🔥🔥🗣🗣🗣
I'm so glad someone is talking about this 💚
no problem! after reading comments from my last video I realized I needed to make a part 2!
It is sad that our value is based on how sexy we are now instead of how smart or good of a person we are. I want cute and normal looking to be beautiful, not sexy to be beautiful
love this !! i remember someone saying that black women in the limelight are more sensual/sexual so they can be viewed as 'feminine' so we do everything in our power to be viewed as that :/
😂Who said that! We are women & that fact can’t be denied. 😂 The whole world knows the black woman birthed & mothered humanity. 😂 Brainwashed haters are out here working hard to make you believe you’re less than others because of color.
And yet there are still ppl online calling these beautiful black women ugly and mannish.
This is such a smart take. It's like black women have to compensate for being "less feminine."
Never been so happy with all the flaws I have after deleting instagram and all social media like I dont need to see girls that literally all look alike 😐
Same girl, it's getting to a point we're a lot of artists all look the same and act the same
Some of them even did plastic surgery dont worry its not even real the bodytyp they have.
i use insta for crocheting projects. just avoid those stuff and find innocent stuff to watch
As a hijabi the title of this vd kinda healed me! Us hijabis, specifically those like me who don't wear makeup and wear baggy clothes that are more modest, we get treated differently! The disrespect is realllllll. Some ppl they don't treat u like human! Like dang I don't need u to kiss the ground I walk on just treat me like a human being! Why are u looking disgusted
Samee here giirl like why are they mad it's my body
I'm non Muslim but whenever I see a women wearing burkha i feel so much respect for her. Love you guys 💗
The Hijab is also a manifestation of oversexuality.
I agree women need to cover up but unfortunately if not for muslim women covering up the muslim men would be just as bad. The ideal would be women dressing normal and men seeing women as people and valuable without her being naked OR having to cover her hair and ankles
so glad to see someone talking about this. It's a conversation I've mainly had amongst kpop fans and the results are usually me getting called a prude and religious conservative. I'm not religious, not even american, I just don't want every piece of media I consume to be about sex. It's what drew me into kpop in the first place, but now even kpop is becoming overrun with it with the recent push for westernisation from international fans and companies wanting to follow the money.
Some Kpop idols from the start of the 1st generation were literally embroiled in prostitution,scams etc....idols were and are seen below artists. In asia cute concepts are still sexualized (lolita, young and pure) and idols sell sex by faking being cute and single...kpop industry is just like any other industry and even worse because they keep on working to the bone minors.
YES!! i was viewing this video also with the perspective of seeing oversexualisation in kpop. not only the hypersexualisation of young girls in girl groups but also the boys in boy groups, that as soon as they turn 18, there's an expectation from them to start revealing their bodies more (its worse for girl groups as they could be minors but you cant tell because of the way their dressed/portrayed) and it's just so upsetting to see.
😢true America and UK and australia and new Zealand are losing they're boybands like one direction,backstreetboys etc but kpop is becoming popular because of boy bands and girl bands to the point they are getting westernized to gain bad attention and that is why I quit kpop genre, 1. The fans are toxic, I could not make 1 friend with them unless they make me as a gossip thrower 2. Kpop idols only care about the money and the companies don't care about fans getting broke 3.kpop idols are not as nice as people think, 1 said he will not marry his "fans" because he is a idol aka he is a cash grabber not fans therapist like bang Chan and its sad to say, kpop idols don't really care about they're fans they are just like Hollywood stars Like Kylie Jenner and Hailey beiber that's why I quit Kpop it has gotten worse music is also to repetitive as I got older its not even meaningiful to listen to.
@@EdonaComadahoutieI agree with everything. Not to mention how idols from small companies have to perform for private VIP parties and "cater" to clients to pay off their agencies. There was an ex kpop idol who opened up about these very sketchy private parties when the idols are minors.
Missy Elliot, Whitney, Mc Lyte, Monica just to name a few who solely relied on their tal3nt.
I am so embarrased to have forgotten the queen that is Lauryn Hill😢
Whitney, my beloved. She was always so beautiful, graceful, elegant and feminine, and NEVER needed to show off her body to let you know how gorgeous her voice was and how gorgeous SHE was. Ain't nobody of today reaching her level, never.
Queen Lafina too
missy was very sexual lyrically
Aaannnd That’s why Nobody knows them nowadays, very sad
That’s part of why R&B is losing its appeal, too.
i remember some girls in high school shaming me for looking ''to childish'' because i wasn't very sexual. All I did was not showing my body on insta and using more closed clothes. Im barely 19 years old. It's not that I look childish, I just (and WANT to) look my age
In part 3, ur points are so real. I’ve seen way too many adults justify sexualizing minors by saying “oh they’re physically mature how was I supposed to know?!” when the ‘maturity’ in question was just developing quicker than their peers
I hate oversexualisation… I mean I feel like not only the pop industry is getting sexualised, but the kpop industry as well for example LE SSERAFIM (Smart. They have a minor doing the smart dance (Eunchae)) or NewJeans…
Maybe it’s just me coming from a different culture but what exactly is sexual about the dance and also hasn’t the K-pop world been sexualized from like the early 2000s
@@gabriellehughes1788 Idk if the kpop world has been sexualised since the 2000s, because I just came a kpop fan 2022. I think the sexual think about LE SSERAFIM’s smart is their choreography, not just in Smart, but in Perfect Night aswell. In both choreographies they are twerking and that’s controversial, because they have a minor (Eunchae), and sexualising (in my opinion)
@@txr4lovesu I understand the minor part however when comes to K-pop and dancing overrall in my opinion they are not doing in a sexual manner or form I think it’s more of them doing it as trendy thing like following the water dance which I also think is not sexual it’s more about how ppl look at them I feel like it’s very easy for Americans cause how they look at twerking however personally it’s not even like traditional twerking cause they’re not bend over with their hands on their knees they literally just moving their hips in a circle nothing sexual about it
I think these days a lot of ppl tend to look at things in a sexual way because how sexual our media has been these past few years however that has now translated into ppl thinking the most innocent have sexual meanings or is sexual
@@gabriellehughes1788 I agree on both of your comments :)
Thanks for speaking on this! I don’t listen to a lot of the music these days because of the explicit lyrics and innuendos. Tyla’s “water” song always made me cringe lmao… because little kids were singing it with their parents, and absolutely NO ONE understood what the lyrics were about. This whole era of women being more overtly seggsual/sensual is disappointing to me. I wish we could all be our beautiful unique selves without conforming to this one hyper sexual identity.
Yes we should keep it away from the kids but also women should have the right to be sexual
humans no longer have a purpose to exist without sex as society has become increasingly depressing, disturbed, and obsessed.
But I think this has always been a thing in the entertainment industry because even when I was younger the songs used to be explicit for example Ego by Beyonce I didn't know what it meant then but I do now so I think it's always been an issue but it's increasing at a higher rate these days which is sad because if you try to speak on it the public views u as a bad person
@@JoJo-fc2ol I think the difference is 10-20 years ago, there was a variety of mainstream artists to listen to. Young girls had so many women in the industry to look up to with music that was not explicit. Destiny’s Child, Alicia Keys, JoJo, Kesha, Pink, Nelly Furtado, Ashanti, even Beyoncé and Rihanna back in 2004-2010 had many popular songs that weren’t explicit. Now MOST mainstream female artists present as hyper sexual with explicit lyrics. There’s not much variety outside of Taylor Swift.
SAME!!!!!
Ironically, I was missing Ella Mai the other day. I wonder if her being less visible as of late stems from a refusal to become more sexual in her appearance or just the standard cycle of the music industry.
same thing with HER
omg i was thinking about ella mai!
Ooh, Ella Mai! I discovered her song "This Is," and immediately fell in love with it. She's got a lovely voice and the lyrics are also solid. Lyrics are such a big thing for me, especially as a writer, ha. And it's refreshing to find love songs that actually have a real sense of substance to them.
hmmmmm.. coincidence?
I'm so glad, I deleted Instagram, Facebook,tiktok. I always felt insecure and shamed myself instead of embracing that I'm beautiful the way i am
28:37 I remember my older white high-school English teacher telling me in 9th grade how I had baby birthing hips and how one day he could help me do a home birth if I needed. I hated that so much because as a child who was SA I hated my developed body cuz I was scared I would get abused again. So to hear those words made me want to saw off my thighs and legs.
That’s disgusting. He’s definitely a predator. Did you tell anyone or report him to the school??
@@anyaaa2801Unfortunately, I didn't. One thing I did not have back then was a voice. But as an adult who's now a teacher myself, I'll be damned if I allow something like that to be said to my students.
Oh my goodness.... I'm so sorry you had to go through that, hopefully you told someone . NO ONE should ever make such a stupid comment like that to you ever
Please stay safe, stay away from that POS and tell someone ❤
that’s disgusting, I’m so sorry you had to go through that :( I hope you’ve healed now, and I wish you nothing but the best in the future
That's nasty. He had no business saying that to you.
It is crazy how much people expect their women to be sexy and sexualized at all times. Look at the actress Amewudah-Rivers, who is getting called ugly for not being a feminine stereotype. She's not ugly at all, she's just not traditionally feminine and the way that people are used to seeing over and over and over again. I have seen so many men say "let's just be for real, let's be honest, she's ugly" Not being attracted to someone doesn't make them ugly, obviously.
I'm so glad that i grew up in an era where at 13, i was still basically a baby, dressed as such and was not aware of the beauty standards, no pressure, didn't think make up was a necessity even in my early 20s, looking back now at 27, I'm so glad that i was allowed to grow up, like truly grow up slowly at a great pace. Its so sad to see very young girls nowadays stress about how they look, the body, the aesthetic etc they can't even go outside without putting makeup on, a pimple is enough to send them spiraling, and with all these idols they have now who are selling really high and unattainable beauty standards. While we had idols that were childlike and age appropriate for us. I honestly wish we all heal and find peace in every path we seek.
Yes this whole statement 💯same
there was a girl that made fun of me for covering up. she was i think 13...im 15. she literally tries to go to school in those shorts you go tk the gym in