Your video is really helping me right now. I'm very much in the same spot of fighting transition. My main concerns have been my age and finances, among others. I hope I can find your confidence.
I silently came out to myself as trans at 18, but at the time I thought of it as a crossroads situation where I had a 50/50 choice, and at the time I chose not to transition and knew nobody could take away my hidden identity as a trans person, but funny enough after accepting myself as who I am, I started to enjoy being a guy for the first time in my life and I eventually forgot I even had those kinds of thoughts about transition in the first place, but then my twin sister came out to me as trans and I started to question myself again, but this time I wondered if I was trans enough to even be allowed to claim that kind of identity for myself... I ended up deciding that I really wasn't trans after all because of how comfortable I had become with myself, but after deciding that, I ended up contradicting myself again because I started to feel jeleous of my twin, and feeling more confused about who I really am, but instead of thinking about it I kept myself busy and remained confused for another 3 years... Eventually I got around to do some soul searching, and worked out why I didn't want to transition, and it was because I wanted to have kids of my own some day, and I also realized that the reason I never wanted to date anyone was because I was uncomfortable with myself and that I wasn't really living my life, so I realized that if I don't transition I'll be alone basically forever, but if I do transition I might start to feel better about myself and actually meet someone, but I won't be able to have kids with them... I ended up realizing that what was holding me back didn't even matter in the first place and I felt free to transition without any more doubts about whether or not I was trans enough or not... And I broke down crying for the first time in a long time... Tears of sadness because I won't have kids, tears of joy because I can be myself, and the fear of change and wondering how people would react. At this point I started doing research on the topic, and learned a lot about transition, learned that I can save sperm, and learned non-binery is a thing and felt more comfortable with the idea of transition in general... I wish I had done research on this years ago and that I was more educated early on, because upon reflection all the signs were there that I was trans even at an early age. So now I'm living on my own with my twin and we are working towards transition, but even after all that... I still have doubts every now and then and I wonder if I might eventually detransition someday... I'm not sure, but I don't want to wonder anymore. So even if I do eventually detransition, I want to do it without any regrets, and hearing you say you could easily detransition if you wanted to makes me feel better about my transition journey. I'm going to keep on going without any regrets and actually live my life for once. ^^
Jamie - your statement that you were never 100% sure that you could live your life as a woman until you had GCS, really hit home with me. I have spent many years presenting as a male, living successfully as a male, but increasingly and persistently dysphoric. I finally recognised that I was internally transphobic. I also started to view my life journey as a search for authenticity and full expression of my soul in this life time. So GCS , BA and VFS are scheduled for later this year. My children are grown and my wife has asked for a divorce so I no longer have excuses, I am unable to further distract myself and know that I need to progress. Support groups and community with trans, cis and sexually diverse groups all helped me find my tribe and my true north. Jamie thank you for this series. These videos are an amazing gift and a great act of generosity.
Jaime - thank you so much for this and your ability to share your experiences - two years ago I was lost and wondering who I was and being incredibly unhappy - I found your channel on RUclips and seeing your two years on hormones video cemented myself as being trans and pushed me to begin medically transitioning - seeing the wonders of HRT gave me the confidence to be able to accept myself and know that I could be ok after beginning to transition - after two years and GCS, I am incredibly happy with who I am, so, thank you :)
I would like you to know that I have seen several of your videos here on yt, but this one brought tears to my eyes. You are such a down to earth and helpful person that I wish I could just sit and talk to you all day long. If I can find a mentor similar to you I will be a very lucky person. I will probably never see or meet you in person but I want you to know how much you mean to me. You have helped me more than you will ever know.
Thank you for this. I've been having these doubts and idk if it's just fear or whatever. This gives me ease knowing that other transpeople are having the same thoughts and doubts
Jamie thank you for sharing. Jamie I will keep you in my prayers for your recovery. Jamie your video's help a lot of people. Stay strong. Personally I have been on hrt for over twenty one years. I get to meet Dr Christine McGinn on May 14th 2018. Your videos has helped me organized my thoughts. Thanks for making a difference in a lot of people's lives. God bless David Herbert.
Jami you hit everything right on the nose I do identify with a lot with some of what you said but want to comes down to it you just have to step out and be who you are I agree
Hi Jamie , thank you for make this video , I am now a fan . I truly can`t believe you have transitioned , may I say you are truly beautiful inside and out , thanks again , take care , G.
If it helps, I didn't feel relief at 'coming out' either. I guess it didn't help that I still wasn't sure at the time that I even wanted to transition. I really decided to come out because I couldn't stand hiding such a large part of myself from my loved ones anymore.
First of all, I think you're amazing for making this video and just found out about you today after you popped up in my RUclips feed. This is both amazing advice and you definitely seem like at least someone's who's mtf would strive for. I'll definitely try to watch some more of your videos later when it's not 1am. 😄 My two cents to add on to your suggestions (some via a trans friend of mine): One thing I've heard from friends who have dealt with transitioning, if you worry that much about how others see you, find people who you know will support you, then anyone else's opinion is obsolete. Also, if you have a trans friend or just an amazing friend who's comdortable going with you, have them COME WITH YOU to a support group so at least you're with someone familiar and can rely on for an emotional support. Hope this is useful, thank you for the video and everyone have an amazing day, week, year, you name it! 😊❤😊
As a trans fluid Male and female at the age 75 today. Therefore I'll never be female or male 100%. I came out to my wife first and so far I have told mine children and have there support. I like the female more than I do the male part.
Hi Jamie! Thanks for the video. I’m just starting to explore how I’m feeling (44 y/o, never too late I guess) I like the idea of a support group and mentor, any suggestions on how to find one?
My body starts itself, to become a bit female, because of my crazy hormones. And my disability and problems of my body, to make male hormones. I have done nothing. But I like the changings. I don´t want to loose or miss it, for the rest of my life. No matter, what people think about me. It´s my choice. Before, I was more as "between." - Not male enough, but also not female. I got rejected mostly. Even I lost many jobs. It was very bad. Because I confuse or scare people, of to be not exactly gender ? Don´t harm, what other people think about you. You must find your personal best way in life. But you must be shure about your choices.
I knew since I was small I was different Very doing Trans But I don't know if I would still be happy if I change Afraid to lose my job I don't know if I will ever be happy I am on medicine for depression I have always Tried to kill myself many a times people think Trans is Fake I don't get that because I know which true
Your video is really helping me right now. I'm very much in the same spot of fighting transition. My main concerns have been my age and finances, among others. I hope I can find your confidence.
I silently came out to myself as trans at 18, but at the time I thought of it as a crossroads situation where I had a 50/50 choice, and at the time I chose not to transition and knew nobody could take away my hidden identity as a trans person, but funny enough after accepting myself as who I am, I started to enjoy being a guy for the first time in my life and I eventually forgot I even had those kinds of thoughts about transition in the first place, but then my twin sister came out to me as trans and I started to question myself again, but this time I wondered if I was trans enough to even be allowed to claim that kind of identity for myself...
I ended up deciding that I really wasn't trans after all because of how comfortable I had become with myself, but after deciding that, I ended up contradicting myself again because I started to feel jeleous of my twin, and feeling more confused about who I really am, but instead of thinking about it I kept myself busy and remained confused for another 3 years...
Eventually I got around to do some soul searching, and worked out why I didn't want to transition, and it was because I wanted to have kids of my own some day, and I also realized that the reason I never wanted to date anyone was because I was uncomfortable with myself and that I wasn't really living my life, so I realized that if I don't transition I'll be alone basically forever, but if I do transition I might start to feel better about myself and actually meet someone, but I won't be able to have kids with them...
I ended up realizing that what was holding me back didn't even matter in the first place and I felt free to transition without any more doubts about whether or not I was trans enough or not... And I broke down crying for the first time in a long time... Tears of sadness because I won't have kids, tears of joy because I can be myself, and the fear of change and wondering how people would react.
At this point I started doing research on the topic, and learned a lot about transition, learned that I can save sperm, and learned non-binery is a thing and felt more comfortable with the idea of transition in general... I wish I had done research on this years ago and that I was more educated early on, because upon reflection all the signs were there that I was trans even at an early age.
So now I'm living on my own with my twin and we are working towards transition, but even after all that... I still have doubts every now and then and I wonder if I might eventually detransition someday... I'm not sure, but I don't want to wonder anymore. So even if I do eventually detransition, I want to do it without any regrets, and hearing you say you could easily detransition if you wanted to makes me feel better about my transition journey. I'm going to keep on going without any regrets and actually live my life for once. ^^
Jamie - your statement that you were never 100% sure that you could live your life as a woman until you had GCS, really hit home with me. I have spent many years presenting as a male, living successfully as a male, but increasingly and persistently dysphoric. I finally recognised that I was internally transphobic. I also started to view my life journey as a search for authenticity and full expression of my soul in this life time. So GCS , BA and VFS are scheduled for later this year. My children are grown and my wife has asked for a divorce so I no longer have excuses, I am unable to further distract myself and know that I need to progress. Support groups and community with trans, cis and sexually diverse groups all helped me find my tribe and my true north. Jamie thank you for this series. These videos are an amazing gift and a great act of generosity.
The first step is stop to try, to fullfill to be a man. If you cannot, you cannot.
I´m so happy every morning, that I can say:"I must not be a man."
Jaime - thank you so much for this and your ability to share your experiences - two years ago I was lost and wondering who I was and being incredibly unhappy - I found your channel on RUclips and seeing your two years on hormones video cemented myself as being trans and pushed me to begin medically transitioning - seeing the wonders of HRT gave me the confidence to be able to accept myself and know that I could be ok after beginning to transition - after two years and GCS, I am incredibly happy with who I am, so, thank you :)
I would like you to know that I have seen several of your videos here on yt, but this one brought tears to my eyes. You are such a down to earth and helpful person that I wish I could just sit and talk to you all day long. If I can find a mentor similar to you I will be a very lucky person. I will probably never see or meet you in person but I want you to know how much you mean to me. You have helped me more than you will ever know.
Thank you for the kind reply!! Best of luck in your upcoming endeavors!
I just want to say "Thank you". For all of the videos that you've made.
Its so good to see you again,thankyou for all you do
Thank you for this. I've been having these doubts and idk if it's just fear or whatever. This gives me ease knowing that other transpeople are having the same thoughts and doubts
Jamie thank you for sharing. Jamie I will keep you in my prayers for your recovery. Jamie your video's help a lot of people. Stay strong. Personally I have been on hrt for over twenty one years. I get to meet Dr Christine McGinn on May 14th 2018. Your videos has helped me organized my thoughts. Thanks for making a difference in a lot of people's lives. God bless David Herbert.
Jamie - Thanks! Your words of wisdom are greatly appreciated!
Love the way you talk thoughtfully, caringly...comforting, encouraging...thanks, so much
Jami you hit everything right on the nose I do identify with a lot with some of what you said but want to comes down to it you just have to step out and be who you are I agree
Hi Jamie , thank you for make this video , I am now a fan . I truly can`t believe you have transitioned , may I say you are truly beautiful inside and out , thanks again , take care , G.
Thank you. I awakened about a week ago and this really helps. You're very pretty BTW.
If it helps, I didn't feel relief at 'coming out' either. I guess it didn't help that I still wasn't sure at the time that I even wanted to transition. I really decided to come out because I couldn't stand hiding such a large part of myself from my loved ones anymore.
You are such an inspiration ❤❤
Jamie your a Hero to me.
First of all, I think you're amazing for making this video and just found out about you today after you popped up in my RUclips feed. This is both amazing advice and you definitely seem like at least someone's who's mtf would strive for. I'll definitely try to watch some more of your videos later when it's not 1am. 😄
My two cents to add on to your suggestions (some via a trans friend of mine):
One thing I've heard from friends who have dealt with transitioning, if you worry that much about how others see you, find people who you know will support you, then anyone else's opinion is obsolete. Also, if you have a trans friend or just an amazing friend who's comdortable going with you, have them COME WITH YOU to a support group so at least you're with someone familiar and can rely on for an emotional support.
Hope this is useful, thank you for the video and everyone have an amazing day, week, year, you name it! 😊❤😊
Alaric Doering great advice! Thanks for watching 😁
Thank you for this
As a trans fluid Male and female at the age 75 today. Therefore I'll never be female or male 100%. I came out to my wife first and so far I have told mine children and have there support. I like the female more than I do the male part.
Hi Jamie! Thanks for the video. I’m just starting to explore how I’m feeling (44 y/o, never too late I guess) I like the idea of a support group and mentor, any suggestions on how to find one?
You are a wonderful person, beautiful and amazing 💕😍💕😍💕😍😙😚😗😗
that was such a great video Jamie
your video helped so much
How did you move out of the part time living a boy and part a girl cause I am stuck at that point and work being part of the part time boy
I can't make the surgery decision yet bc I am scared of surgery but I am going to do hormones bc I am ready for that
Hey girl. Im a begin of my trans
Thankyou for a great vid
^
My body starts itself, to become a bit female, because of my crazy hormones.
And my disability and problems of my body, to make male hormones.
I have done nothing.
But I like the changings. I don´t want to loose or miss it, for the rest of my life.
No matter, what people think about me. It´s my choice.
Before, I was more as "between." - Not male enough, but also not female.
I got rejected mostly. Even I lost many jobs. It was very bad.
Because I confuse or scare people, of to be not exactly gender ?
Don´t harm, what other people think about you.
You must find your personal best way in life. But you must be shure about your choices.
Being a woman that night I didn't have the flamboyance like transgender women. I was groomed to be in the female role with my mannerisms
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I'm stuck
I knew since I was small I was different Very doing Trans But I don't know if I would still be happy if I change Afraid to lose my job I don't know if I will ever be happy I am on medicine for depression I have always Tried to kill myself many a times people think Trans is Fake I don't get that because I know which true
Dysphoria is murdering me
How are you doingtoday
James Senik your mom
@@cumbonnimoto2453 no ur mum gæ
I'm afraid to get my ass beat
Coming out is a relief? Not my experience.
Thankyou for a great vid