just a note regarding the "bring your own food" thing since most of the comments on this video are about that - my choice of words was quite poor and i don't think i conveyed the point how i intended to. I think i made it sound like it is always the case but it is most certainly not the case that every time you should bring your own food BUT there have been times where I have been in situations where it is agreed that "everyone brings something" and my assumption is "everyone bring something to share" but it has ended up being the case of "everyone bring something for themselves". Generally I find Swedes to be very generous and caring/thoughtful as well when it comes to dietary requirements - this is not a dig at swedish people at all, just an observation of how something can be interpreted differently. I also by no means take offence to it, for me as someone with dietary requirements i am very happy to sort myself out with food if it will make it easier for others (but i will always bring more than i need so that i can share with others) :)
1:11 You forgot no one will steal your package from your porch. I can choose my pickup point from several different ones. And many shops will offer different delivery companies which will increase the optional pickup points even further. Pickup points can be storage boxes outside (similar to the ones you see at airports, gyms etc), storage boxes inside supermarkets, small stores, gas stations and so on. Or it can be over the desk pickups in previous mentioned facilities. 7:10 The only times I can recall where we bring food and not really share is for big barbeque get-togethers and for "kräft-skiva" (crawfish party?). I guess it may be different depending on where you are in Sweden.
Yesss!! Definitely knowing that my parcels aren’t going to be stolen is a relief 😅 Ooo okay, yea makes sense in these contexts considering meat is expensive too and I can totally get behind that. Could be the type of gathering and as I said in response to someone else’s comment I’m very open to the fact that it could be my communication skills/ need more clarification of what the expectations are
@@AmaliaTh In the far north of Sweden it would be very frowned upon if you don't allow some persons to eat if you have made dinner. Lets say you make dinner for your family and then your kids unexpectedly bring home a friend or two, you don't tell them they can't eat, you simply cook more for dinner even if it takes longer or offer them something that you can cook fast if you want to eat right now.
Definitely and I haven’t experienced it in such a way that I’d be refused to eat. Judging based on all the comments I am getting I feel like I didn’t explain it that well in the video what I meant or maybe I should’ve given better examples. The way that I have experienced it is that when i attend a dinner party with friends (or if i host) and we agree for everyone to bring something, unless it is explicitly stated that everyone will share whatever they bring, i have friends that will bring exactly enough for themselves. Whereas I would always make extra for everyone (even if for arguments sake we had agreed everyone brings food for themselves I would still make enough to share my food). This is also why i am wondering if it’s just a poor communication thing but also I feel everyone’s interpretation is related to their upbringing and culture a little bit at least😆
@@AmaliaTh Ah yes, the "... will bring exactly enough for themselves." I recognize this from my years in southern Sweden, where I would be the only one bringing more than I could eat and drink myself if I had been invited somewhere or to someone, which is customary in the high north. It's a shame some people in Sweden behaves like this. You'd probably see some change in this behavior if you go to more rural places. A good host should know these nuances though and clearly state that people only bring food for themselves specifically to avoid misunderstandings. It's sad too that your friends do this when you host gatherings, if they cheap out on basic things like food it makes you wonder what other things they'd do if push comes to shove.
@Bragosso haha I’m glad someone else has experienced this - was starting to think it was just me 😅 in all honesty it doesn’t bother me much but it did take me a while to get used to, especially since sharing/giving is a big part of my culture (Greek)
Bringing your own food to a dinner party is not normal in Sweden. I have almost lived half a century without encountering that phenomenon. When I have invited a vegan to dinner, she offered to bring something for herself, although of course I said that I could make some vegan food. Have you possibly gotten to know many people with special diets? On the other hand, it is Swedish to bring your own alcohol to a party, because alcohol is expensive and few would be able to afford a party otherwise, but we usually don't bring our own food with us. It sounds as strange to me as it does to you.
@@Haxkarl If it was due to inflation, the logical thing would be to add up everyones pennies for the food, or alternatively to have a knytkalas = that everyone brings something with them and puts on a common buffet table
Bring your own drink is definitely a more common phenomenon I’ve encountered and I can totally understand that (especially with alcohol). As for food it’s not always the case but I guess my experience is influenced a lot by the fact that most people my age that I have met are students so of course I don’t expect them to provide food for everyone (also I myself have dietary requirements but I always bring enough to share) I really like this concept of a shared buffet and I have seen it for sure but also I have had cases where people bring just enough for themselves. Perhaps it’s more about communication of the expectations 🤷♀️
I am born in sweden and during my 63 years i have maybe been at an "knytkalas" 1 or 2 times. So.. no it's not that common to bring your own food to a party..
I have responded to all the comments saying the same thing, i can accept i am wrong on this - it was not meant to offend anyone it was just my experience. I also havent experienced this in a negative manner, its been more of a convenience thing to be honest in the cases where i have experienced it. Ive also been welcomed and been treated very generously by many swedes, this is not me saying anything negative about the generosity of swedes.
@@tomeng9520 Hör knytkalas till vanligheterna? I videon låter det som det är vanligt att vi i Sverige kör knytkalas för jämnan. Jag påstår att det är ovanligt och inte typisk svenskt.
just a note regarding the "bring your own food" thing since most of the comments on this video are about that - my choice of words was quite poor and i don't think i conveyed the point how i intended to. I think i made it sound like it is always the case but it is most certainly not the case that every time you should bring your own food BUT there have been times where I have been in situations where it is agreed that "everyone brings something" and my assumption is "everyone bring something to share" but it has ended up being the case of "everyone bring something for themselves".
Generally I find Swedes to be very generous and caring/thoughtful as well when it comes to dietary requirements - this is not a dig at swedish people at all, just an observation of how something can be interpreted differently. I also by no means take offence to it, for me as someone with dietary requirements i am very happy to sort myself out with food if it will make it easier for others (but i will always bring more than i need so that i can share with others) :)
About the parcel pick-up, it's also a way to prevent porch pirates
1:11 You forgot no one will steal your package from your porch. I can choose my pickup point from several different ones. And many shops will offer different delivery companies which will increase the optional pickup points even further. Pickup points can be storage boxes outside (similar to the ones you see at airports, gyms etc), storage boxes inside supermarkets, small stores, gas stations and so on. Or it can be over the desk pickups in previous mentioned facilities.
7:10 The only times I can recall where we bring food and not really share is for big barbeque get-togethers and for "kräft-skiva" (crawfish party?). I guess it may be different depending on where you are in Sweden.
Yesss!! Definitely knowing that my parcels aren’t going to be stolen is a relief 😅
Ooo okay, yea makes sense in these contexts considering meat is expensive too and I can totally get behind that. Could be the type of gathering and as I said in response to someone else’s comment I’m very open to the fact that it could be my communication skills/ need more clarification of what the expectations are
@@AmaliaTh In the far north of Sweden it would be very frowned upon if you don't allow some persons to eat if you have made dinner. Lets say you make dinner for your family and then your kids unexpectedly bring home a friend or two, you don't tell them they can't eat, you simply cook more for dinner even if it takes longer or offer them something that you can cook fast if you want to eat right now.
Definitely and I haven’t experienced it in such a way that I’d be refused to eat. Judging based on all the comments I am getting I feel like I didn’t explain it that well in the video what I meant or maybe I should’ve given better examples.
The way that I have experienced it is that when i attend a dinner party with friends (or if i host) and we agree for everyone to bring something, unless it is explicitly stated that everyone will share whatever they bring, i have friends that will bring exactly enough for themselves. Whereas I would always make extra for everyone (even if for arguments sake we had agreed everyone brings food for themselves I would still make enough to share my food). This is also why i am wondering if it’s just a poor communication thing but also I feel everyone’s interpretation is related to their upbringing and culture a little bit at least😆
@@AmaliaTh Ah yes, the "... will bring exactly enough for themselves."
I recognize this from my years in southern Sweden, where I would be the only one bringing more than I could eat and drink myself if I had been invited somewhere or to someone, which is customary in the high north. It's a shame some people in Sweden behaves like this. You'd probably see some change in this behavior if you go to more rural places.
A good host should know these nuances though and clearly state that people only bring food for themselves specifically to avoid misunderstandings. It's sad too that your friends do this when you host gatherings, if they cheap out on basic things like food it makes you wonder what other things they'd do if push comes to shove.
@Bragosso haha I’m glad someone else has experienced this - was starting to think it was just me 😅 in all honesty it doesn’t bother me much but it did take me a while to get used to, especially since sharing/giving is a big part of my culture (Greek)
Bringing your own food to a dinner party is not normal in Sweden. I have almost lived half a century without encountering that phenomenon. When I have invited a vegan to dinner, she offered to bring something for herself, although of course I said that I could make some vegan food. Have you possibly gotten to know many people with special diets?
On the other hand, it is Swedish to bring your own alcohol to a party, because alcohol is expensive and few would be able to afford a party otherwise, but we usually don't bring our own food with us. It sounds as strange to me as it does to you.
Yup as a Swede i havent heard about this either. Must be cuz of inflation? But yeah bringing your own alcohol was always normal
@@Haxkarl If it was due to inflation, the logical thing would be to add up everyones pennies for the food, or alternatively to have a knytkalas = that everyone brings something with them and puts on a common buffet table
@@olsa76 That would really depend on the people how to do things. Never heard of that before though, and i live in Västra Götaland.
Bring your own drink is definitely a more common phenomenon I’ve encountered and I can totally understand that (especially with alcohol). As for food it’s not always the case but I guess my experience is influenced a lot by the fact that most people my age that I have met are students so of course I don’t expect them to provide food for everyone (also I myself have dietary requirements but I always bring enough to share) I really like this concept of a shared buffet and I have seen it for sure but also I have had cases where people bring just enough for themselves. Perhaps it’s more about communication of the expectations 🤷♀️
@@Haxkarl Tjena gosse! Att du inte hört om knytkalas betyder ingenting. Man lär sig så länge man lever.
I am born in sweden and during my 63 years i have maybe been at an "knytkalas" 1 or 2 times.
So.. no it's not that common to bring your own food to a party..
Yes based on all the comments saying similar to you, it seem like it has been my experience but actually not that common overall 😄
About number 5.
Beware the nice ones. Its a Saying for a reason.
The flowers of the courgettes are the best thing agreed 💯
I’m craving them so much recently
People never there own food to a party and if they do they will tell you in advance if it is a "knytkalas"😉
7:32 never seen that in my life. Im 45 and swedish
Such a sweet and pretty young lady you are.
Thank you 😅
So.. no it's not that common to bring your own food to a party..It is not common at all, I feel offended of that you say as a swede!!
I have responded to all the comments saying the same thing, i can accept i am wrong on this - it was not meant to offend anyone it was just my experience. I also havent experienced this in a negative manner, its been more of a convenience thing to be honest in the cases where i have experienced it. Ive also been welcomed and been treated very generously by many swedes, this is not me saying anything negative about the generosity of swedes.
Who made you believe that Swedes bring their own food to dinner?
Att du inte hört om knytkalas betyder ingenting. Man lär sig så länge man lever.
@@pauleriksson3147 Att du inte hört om knytkalas betyder ingenting. Man lär sig så länge man lever.
@@tomeng9520
Hör knytkalas till vanligheterna?
I videon låter det som det är vanligt att vi i Sverige kör knytkalas för jämnan.
Jag påstår att det är ovanligt och inte typisk svenskt.