Why Guys Act Distant All Of A Sudden (and What To Do About It) 🤔😢
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- Опубликовано: 2 авг 2024
- This video covers exactly why guys act distant suddenly and what you can do to bring him back and get things back on track.
So you’ve been seeing a guy for a while, all seemed to be going well, but now he seems to be acting distant all of a sudden and you have no idea why.
He’s still there, he’s still around, but there has been a definite and subtle shift. Maybe he doesn’t seem as excited by your existence, maybe he isn’t as attentive, maybe he seems distracted, maybe he’s a lot more quiet, sullen, and moody.
It’s a gut-twisting feeling. You desperately want to get the relationship back on track but you don’t know how. Every time you try things seem to get worse.
Don’t worry, I’ll explain everything to you.
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A New Mode how can you tell which one he is?
Thank you so much it's help me now .. im suffering for my man i felt he really distant and ignoring me
I want u to whisper in my ear with that hot voice
Can you help me with this?
My crush knows I like him, I told him few weeks ago, idk if he still thinks I do, but I do. We were so close, and then my "bestfriend" asked him for a relationship, they broke up, he broke up with her, and now he is acting distant. He ignores me, but when im leaving to home, he still wants to hug me and say goodbye.. what do I do? Almost everyday I ask him if he is angry, but he says he isnt, and still repeats the same, ignoring 🥺
Such useful advises ! Thank you very much Sabrina you are so right ! I must back away if I want him back ! So this means no opening up to him and no telling him it’s bothering me ??
Men need to understand it is not "neediness". It is a need to connect through time and attention. Emotional connection to a woman is like sexual connection to a man.
Lol no, men don't feel connected during sex. This is what women get wrong. Men are sexually non intimate. Women however become emotionally connected by sex, men do not. It is why women have to be careful who they have sex with. Men do not care, they can have sex and leave. Why do you think so many women have problems having g relationships?
Women need to understand your actions also play into this. Treat us like shit, we pull back. Your words are powerful, especially when you show a lack of respect towards us or our concerns. It's self protection from narcissism coming from you.
For #1, guys should respect women enough to at LEAST explain that stress is the reason, so that the woman isn't sitting there even beginning to think it's her fault. He doesn't even have to explain the actual stress, but basic communication can easily solve most of these issues. Telling the girl "Listen, I love you, and I'm so happy to know that you will always be there for me, it's just my job is stressing me out and I need some space to figure out my next move." Simple. Just pushing away and shutting down isn't sometbing that should happen in a healthy relationship
Very true....what if that guy is just using that to emotionally manipulate a lady. Girls I personally think we all deserve someone who can communicate well with you explaining his feelings. If he ain't doing that then he's not for you.💯
Well said
So true…
Agreed!!
Absolutely
“emotional maturity is giving someone what they need even if that’s counter to what you want” - so true! This is being selfless!
Agree 100%. That was pretty epic, Sabrina.
Right and it should go both ways
I think a better way to put it is giving yourself what you need, not so much what you want. If you’re constantly chasing him, that’s what you want to do. Stop and do the opposite. Whatever the opposite is is what you need to do for yourself. Stop trying to make the guy happy and start doing what you need to do to make yourself happy. Sometimes women need space too. When you are feeling too needy or attached, then take space from him
Number 4 he just wasn't that interested in the first place.
Or maybe you were to easy to get. Make them work for your love.
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@@CrystalDatingCoach Nah. A man can tell very fast if he is attracted to you enough to invest. The average woman is not worth investing into.
You missed one.... HIS SEEING AND SCREWING soneone else!!
Right!
For real
Best advice is... If he pulls away, pull away❌.. Am done with that dude.. 💯
Darn right - go no contact, don't look back and say "NEXT"...
Only way out of that is pull away. If they want to see you they will. They have time for what they decided was important. I blocked a guy for being silent for 3 days. I dont like flaky, inconsistent breadcrumbing bs. Didnt say anything just kept his silence going.
Bye
He pulls away... You pull away even further. No contact...for a week!
That’s a mistake. She was right in the video that we man have sometimes something stressful in our life that is not related to a girl. But we still want the girl.
Why do we always have to think about how they feel?, a guy who is interested in a girl isn't supposed to know that that kind of behavior could hurt her feelings?
I think is not fair that we are the ones who always have to be simpatethic and not allowing ourselves to feel upset and hurt, it's not about feeling needy, because when you care about someone and he pulls away it feels bad, we are human beings with feelings, that doesn't mean we are needy.
That's what I exactly need to understand!!
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Yes, she has very good advice but after awhile it doesn't sit well that we have to figure out and cater to the guys. Where are the videos for how guys can treat us better so we don't have to question things to begin with. Be a good guy who is ready for a relationship, or get lost.
Right?! That’s what I’m always thinking when I watch these videos!🤦♀️ why do we have to play games??😩😭
Ohmygod yes i whole heartedly agree with you
Thank you and so true... He was distant. So I gave him the space, then he came back and told me, he is unemployed and his parents just divorced... I didn't have idea... And I was thinking It was my fault...
Yes, Love finds a way... Ladies let's thrive, it's not the end of the world, stay happy... Wait for your match, someone who value and respect you
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I did all those things before (chasing after him, initiating conversation) when he pulled away. Fortunately, I am getting myself back, doing things I love, and feeling so good with myself now.
Meaya zee never chase a men i was Just like you i learnn a lot and when you act like you dont care then hé cam after you Just play cool
I pulled away cs she ghosted me for 5 months left me hanging when I needed her the most we been together 7 yrs, now idek nomo she’s still ghosting me & also I accidentally dropped a blunt gmfu
Men will continue this behavior as long as you make excuses for them.
Exactly, my god, looks like we need to work so much for this to work and all they need to do is feel good about themselves lol. This advices are sooooo sexist
@@marisamorais3150 the best advice come from urself. Just believe in what u want to do, think it with a cold head about the pro and cons everything u do and be happy.
Yup. F that bull
Thank you for always being the voice of reason, and for dishing out the truth in a kind, supportive way.
Ladies, leave the man alone.
Thank you for posting this. There is a shift right now - he’s still here, but I have no idea whats up. You reminded me that I should waste time worrying, panicking and stressing. I’m going to take this as a time to focus on me, which as you said is a great, healthy thing in any relationship. Thank for for reminding me to not let me emotions run the show. Much appreciated.
Happy to hear it!
I know all of this but hearing it again and again helps so much. Thank you
Thank you so much for this! I was literally blaming myself for everything! Thank you
i needed this , the boy i was serious witj before lockdown he brought me home to meet his parents and treated me so well and were in lockdown his really distant
This really gives me peace of mind and I'm so thankful I found this channel!! Thank you!
Once again. A true gem of a video. Thank you!!!
He’s had the loving and now he’s off to find another flower to alight on
Jerks
My thoughts and knowing also...
Men who use a woman's body and then discard her will one day bow down before her from hell
I've been sharing the Gospel in a loving positive way, and he has backed off - it' fine, because he has heard the message for eternal life.
We just might not be a match even though we enjoy each other a lot... he is kind and caring and we laugh a lot too.
I nearly single handedly ruined my relationship. I've been needy when I instinctively know he is going through something. I haven't been in a relationship in so long so I'm really trying make things work out and that desperation nearly ruined my relationship. Thank you so much for calming me down. 💕
#newsubbie
Thank you so much for uploading this video at the right time, I really needed something like this
The content in this video is spot on! Great advice!👍❤
I am ready now.
Thank you for this useful advice.
Finding your advice so incredibly helpful, Sabrina. Thanks so much for the generous share without a massive paywall :)
Thank you!!
I'll give him his space!!
I just give him space because as she said he try to work things out by himself
Thank you for this important info!! I will not act needy anymore 😘
I’ve been friends with this guy for about two years now. Our friendship started because he played basketball with people I was already friends. I always stay after games to see my friends he started off coming up and giving be a high five or a fist bump. As our friendship progressed to a one arm hug I think I initiated first I can’t remember. I started attending tennis matches since he plays tennis too and our friendship I thought was growing. I got to know his family by accident, I’m a dog lover his mom came down and brought their dog with her. Anyway, I noticed after one of his tournaments in the fall he gave me a very long tight hug. This wasn’t the first hug he gave me that day. He had me in a position where his chin was resting on the top of my head and he asked me if I was coming back the next day to see him play in the finals. I went back the next day with my ex-friend Sam and he acted totally different. He was never a big texter but always gave acknowledged me when I walked into somewhere where he was whether it was the gym or the bar. Last time I saw him he said hi but he usually reaches out to hug me so naturally I reached out when he didn’t he put his hand up and stopped me. I saw him kissing someone at the bar a week before but he seemed willing to give me attention when I walked up beside him when I saw them making out. He could have easily ignored me but he made a point to make sure I was on his good side (the arm on the side I walked up to him on was in a brace). It’s worth noting that all I did was stand next to him I didn’t touch him in anyway, he noticed me on his own
Thanks for this helpful and encouraging video - " the things he disliked about you will be the things the next guy loves about you! " : o)
Exactly
This was really helpful,thank you so much!
Did anyone else see an orb at 3:30 between her shoulder and the pillow on the couch? Great advice btw! Love your videos 💜
This video gave me a lot of clarity
You’re making a lot of sense feel like you talking about exactly us
Lovely 🤩 Thank you soo much, this is of great help 😘
Thank you 💓 You made me feel so much better 💓
Easier said then done with the fear part and this is what I need to work on and it’s hard!
Thank you. You explained neediness in a man's eyes, better than anyone else ever has. Maybe I've blown a third attempt with him, but the bigger truth is that I have more of me that needs to be seen by me. He is good for this mirroring but we also have a language barrier and communication gets blurry. When he Makes horrible faces at some of my ideas and not gentle , like " don't write me anymore cards (he called them childish, but they were actually funny) I felt hurt . I was usin them to write ways of appreciating him, but culturally I think he didn't get it and that makes him feel uncomfortable and then twists the problem on me by saying don't write cards anymore. And then made a bad joke about what men really want. 2x has said he didn't see me as a future. It's time to start working harder on being more gentle to myself. Not everything in life should be so much work. my next 6 months will be a huge turning point . It's time to get excited about everything a bit more and less fearful. Step by step. Maybe I'm not as needy as I think,. anxious vs fearful/ dismissive attachments. Stop fearing being 51.5 is on the agenda.
Thank you Sabrina! I really find it helpful
I really needed this, to understand why he behaves that ways
Seems am too needy,let me love myself period
Superb ...really loved your explanation....its so true.
You are amaaaazing. Everything you say is so true
thank you so much. very grateful.
Very Helpful. Am glad am here
Love this video. The solution is self-love. ❤️❤️❤️🤗
I think you should take attachment styles more into consideration when making these. This sounds dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant behavior. When you get push/pull behaviors like these it’s because they want intimacy in their life but sometimes they feel like you’re too close and push you away. Too much intimacy, like you’re smothering them.
Thank you this hurt but i need it. I met a guy online with all the things i like and we started off good bit slowly he has been backing off. This will take time but i will be alright.
Me too
Update?
I'm where you are right now , we met online 3 months ago things were great and he is distancing himself saying to me . I'm fast 😂 and I'm ok with that . Now I told myself that I'm going to let him go bcz I can see that I don't have any future with him.
this was really helpful
I am ready to learn... It really helps me to handle this long distance relationship.. I am just new to your channel
What about the guy’s emotional maturity and what they need to give to us? Why is it always us that should be taking the high road? Doing this type of approach is setting you up for misery
I love you and your advice. Blessings🙏..
You are very helpful. I have learned alot from you esp with issues and situation I'm facing now. Thank you ♥️🙂 new subscriber here
Thank you! Happy to hear it!
i actually neeeded this so much cux i think its mainly my fault for constantly telling him about that he ignores me for hours and that i dont like that and mmy constant negativity too thats what pushing him away
Thank you Sabrina God bless you
I’m ready!
This is the truth!!
Omg this is what i was looking for i relate to the first 2 ones . My boyfriend is busy with work lately and also I m acting needy i depend on him a lot in everything so i guess he feels pressured and he can t breath so i need to provide him with some space and try to work on myself then .
Best video yet 🥂🎉👍🏻
Super video!
Yep, for mine it's no1. He's stressed( family issues)
I stepped back and gave him space
No. 1 stressed about serious health problems. I also stepped back and giving him all the space he needs. How did it work out for you Enas Majeed?
Thank u for this video
Wow you nailed it. Thank you 🙏!!!!
Most likely because they are meeting new people
I'm ready!!!
I definitely agree!
At 243 ladies, please take her advice extremely seriously. Fight the urge to pursue/chase after anyone as this will only lead them to want to flee for fear of being smothered (again)as I was by a Super Co-dependent Mother.
I'm readyyyyy
You never feel to spread goodness !!❤️
Thanku you really helped💕
Finally someone is saying sensible words wow.
Good advice
Its timely that i stumbled upon this video. I was dating this guy for 2 months and he's becoming distant. He's been going through alot and he's open to me abt it. Its just that sometimes when we are used to talking to our guys all the time we go crazy ang overthink everything. 😅😅😅 I know what he feels about me but i just cant help it. This video helps me calm down and try to be more understanding😁😁😁
Great thanks
Thank you so much really
Very helpful but I always thought I shud be there for him n shud tell me wat s bothering him than just ignore
I’m ready to learn
Really helpful vedio😊
I’m ready
best video on the subject
I am ready to learn
I'm so ready...
Sabrina i noticed the guy i like went back to his old job and he asks me for space a lot so i haven't called him in awhile and that maybe i should let him pursue me when he's ready and out of Space Mode
I'm ready right now
I’m about to just walk away from the guy I’m talking to he’s an alcoholic, told me he doesn’t know if he should fall in love with me and he has his walls up and I about just walked out! I should of
Another thing is when the man goes out of his way to text a girl when he wakes up and in the middle of the day and then girl avoids him and say she's just too busy to text back nobody's too busy to find one minute to text someone back to say hello or drop emoji and if you're dating your girl for a month and she tells you she wants to get married and have a baby and a family well there's another reason to run!!!
Am ready to learn
Am ready
Hi Sabrina! LOVE you and Eric - I loved the book - now I have a question - I am seeing a great man -it's still pretty new - 9 weeks - but I want to start asking questions about his goals but don't want it to come off like I'm rushing him into a relationship- How do you ask "is marriage in your plan?" or ask him about is values and goals so I can assess if we are aligned without sounding scary/pushy?
Hello Sabrina new subscriber here..can you also advise more about on LDR ..much love
I'm ready
I'm.ready to learn
Everybody need somebody compatible.
i'm ready
Thank you very much Sabrina ! I need to know definitely why he pulled away ! I’m in long distant relation of 3 months ! He pulled away and stopped texting ! Shal I tell him what’s bothering me ? He does call though but is it enough or texting is important too ?
Apparently I’m confuse my husband dose this sometimes , we living in different country I’m 7 months pregnant , get depress cry ! He mostly say it’s nothing and he get moody cuz we not living together ! Don’t know what to do
Conclusion of the video: men never do mistakes. They’re always right.
Im ready
Here to learn why but that's the guy's problem -- not my job to fix it for him. If someone chooses to walk away without an explanation, they're no longer important. Stop being anxious about avoidant people -- just work on your own anxiety.