I think I’ve watched every episode of sound advice and this is the first time I’ve actively yelled at the screen in disagreement about what they said about the case of the cheating! I do agree it’s not wisest decision to insert yourself in other people’s relationships, but… If there’s infidelity involved, I would be heartbroken to find out my friend knew my significant other was cheating on me and didn’t say something. That they had this awful secret about my relationship and didn’t tell me. Depending on the friendship we could get past it, but it would be difficult. 😔
Sorry but if my best friend knew my partner was cheating especially with my sister and didn’t tell me then I would be pissed. Yes there are times it’s ok to be selfish but a time like this is not one of them.
I gotta agree with Abhi on the first one. I'd want to know, so I'd be inclined to tell my friend. I spent too many years of my child-bearing years with the wrong guy and didn't realize until it was largely too late for me. I wouldn't feel right hiding that sort of information. The caller already warned her friend though, so she's done her job. Now it's okay to just back off and let things simmer. And from that point I agree with Beba and Jair's advice to just butt out and let her figure out how to handle things with all the info.
That advice for the first call was nuts. Friends are supposed to have each other’s back. We use friends to help us make life decisions, cause sometimes we have blinders on, or don’t have the full picture - like, your partner is cheating on you! As a friend, anytime you have information you think someone may want to know, here’s what you say: “I love you, so I’m going to tell you something. I want you to have the information, but what you do with the information is your choice. I’m not going to judge, and I’ll be here to support you no matter what. You don’t owe me an explanation, but as your friend, I would never forgive myself if you got hurt because you didn’t have this information and I could have given it to you to keep you from getting hurt. Here it is…” And if they react like this friend, then you leave it alone (the one thing Beba said I agreed with). You said your piece, now just be there to help and support if they need it. And caller, try not to take it personally. It sounds like your friend lashed out at you, but she was in an emotional mindset. Chances are, she’ll realize what’s happening, and eventually thank you for helping her. If she doesn’t, if she weirdly tries to make her boyfriend’s cheating about you telling her, then I’m sorry, she’s just not emotionally mature enough to be your friend.
I understand why Bebe and Jair wouldn't tell their friends but I agree with Abhi. It's selfish to hide that from them. It depends on the situation but regardless you need to come with receipts
The guy from the second story is treating his current girlfriend terribly, he shouldn't be in a relationship with someone if he's 'in love' with someone else! Glad Jair helped Beba realise why he should be upfront with the current girlfriend instead of hiding things. He really needs to see a therapist to unpack why he is still so attached to an ex from 24 years ago. You guys are right, that ex is a completely different person now
BFFs are a dime a dozen. They're can be very hard to find in life, My BFF I confide in when I feel I need to, we've never had a fight, and we've known each other since high school (for over 20 years now). I hope that the girl who called in doesn't loose her BFF status because of this whole ordeal. This is a very slippery slope she's dealing with. If I were the girl's BFF, I would drop kick the boyfriend out the door. It's like, "See you never again." I feel very strongly about people who cheat on their significant other, regardless whether it's the significant other's sibling or not that your cheating on with.
I've kept things to myself and had it blow back in my face.I understand it's not my place, but when she realized I knew and didn't say anything, it was a betrayal.
The girl on the phone has to decide if her friendship is worth pushing the issue. From her friend's reaction, she knows. Maybe she doesn't want to admit it to herself or maybe she thinks that allowing it is the only way she can keep him. Or who knows? Maybe there's some kind of agreement or acceptance. Either way I say you informed her once, the ball's in her court. Your part is done.
Can't lie I don't think I'd ever trust you ladies as my friend if you wouldn't tell me something that major. I don't think I would trust or get over my bestie knowing that and not telling me. How you going to lie in my face just like the partner and sister. A real friend would tell you and help you get through it. Their logic is sooooo weird to me. Sent my bestie the whole situation and she agrees you're not a girls girl or a good friend if you decide to keep his secret for him. This is why I'd trust her with my life lol.
When there's a breakup there's a certain time where there's always regret and missing the person. Dude, there comes a time when you just gotta let it go. You're never gonna have another healthy relationship if you keep your "forever girl" in your heart or in your mind, even to the point of writing a screen play. Twenty four years is more than enough time to go through the five stages of grief. You should definitely have reached acceptance by now. Sounds like you could benefit from some counseling. And still (yes, I'm gonna say the word) ... obsessed after twenty four years kind of comes off a little creepy. I've seen a lot of crime drama and horror movies start off this way.
I vehemently disagree w/advice on #1, with a caveat. If the friend has proof of the guy cheating, she tells her bestie. What the bestie does w/the info is on them, I'm out at that point. Not bringing it up again, not going any further. Because if I was with someone who cheated on me w/my sibling, I'm done with her AND my sibling is cut out of my life (most likely forever) No excuse for cheating. Ever. You want someone else you end the current relationship. You want the current relationship to last you do not cheat.
I'm here for the title. It's crazy how people can have a 'relationship' with someone they've been with, their close friend/family. IF it's so called "serious" Crazy work to me
I'm so glad that Beba brought up that the relationship might be open ... it's still something that we polyamorous folk need to carefully dance around, and thus can lead to some difficult situations.
It's definitely a good perspective, but if they are poly, or navigating an open relationship, honesty is even more important because you're willingly entering into a relationship with complicated dynamics. The friend freaking out on her sounds like they aren't being open and honest. :| If they were poly/open, it'd be a simple answer.
This is hands down my favourite episode. Jair, I love your growth, your maturity and your advice. Continue on this path and always remember to breathe. I thought Abhi was going to say he learned finger in the butt from Beba 😂😂😂
Nah i would rather to tell my b bff that her boyfriend is sleeping at my sister's room and they gonna talk about their self and I don't wanna involved on a problem that they make cuz it's not mine hehe 🤔🥰😅
This guy sounds sad about still loving his ex, but at the same time he sounds overattached about it. I mean, he wrote a screenplay about the whole thing. Clearly, it's a relationship he'll never get back, and he can't duplicate it. It's been 24 years now. His "forever girl" is married to another man. He needs to learn to let it go. Also, he needs to let his wife read the screenplay and find out how she feels about it. If nothing else, doing that may be therapeutic for him. It could help him. That relationship and his feelings about it.... his wife may be understanding about it. It happened so long ago now. But he won't know unless he lets her read it.
When Beba early on said she was slightly drunk, I though, well that happened fast, you drinking on an empty stomach or something? Then I though, what if more time has passed than it appears and this leads to my question: How long is the actual recording time for this episode? (As in the raw footage.)
L take on the first story. Friends should come first, but I also believe in brutal honesty because people deserve to know the truth even if it hurts🤷🏼♀️
I thought forever girl guy said they broke up in 2000? That's before 9/11. Plus that's a pretty stupid reason to break up. I think the best advice would be telling his ex to get a restraining order and his current gf to run and not look back.
Personally, I would LOVE to see that screenplay about the guy with the Forever Girl, get made into a movie. I would be there day 1 of the release!!!!! You guys should help him get it done. Jair should take away the shame.she gave b4 she heard about it being from 9/11.
L take on the first story. Friends should come first, but I also believe in brutal honesty because people deserve to know the truth even if it hurts🤷🏼♀️
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I think I’ve watched every episode of sound advice and this is the first time I’ve actively yelled at the screen in disagreement about what they said about the case of the cheating! I do agree it’s not wisest decision to insert yourself in other people’s relationships, but… If there’s infidelity involved, I would be heartbroken to find out my friend knew my significant other was cheating on me and didn’t say something. That they had this awful secret about my relationship and didn’t tell me. Depending on the friendship we could get past it, but it would be difficult. 😔
Abi is very good at being a devil's advocate. he challenges Beba and Jair so good it's funny.
Happy New Year! New Year, new Sound Advice and Jair shows up, looking elegant!
Annnd then, 1:40 😂😂😂
Sorry but if my best friend knew my partner was cheating especially with my sister and didn’t tell me then I would be pissed. Yes there are times it’s ok to be selfish but a time like this is not one of them.
I gotta agree with Abhi on the first one. I'd want to know, so I'd be inclined to tell my friend. I spent too many years of my child-bearing years with the wrong guy and didn't realize until it was largely too late for me. I wouldn't feel right hiding that sort of information. The caller already warned her friend though, so she's done her job. Now it's okay to just back off and let things simmer. And from that point I agree with Beba and Jair's advice to just butt out and let her figure out how to handle things with all the info.
That advice for the first call was nuts. Friends are supposed to have each other’s back. We use friends to help us make life decisions, cause sometimes we have blinders on, or don’t have the full picture - like, your partner is cheating on you!
As a friend, anytime you have information you think someone may want to know, here’s what you say: “I love you, so I’m going to tell you something. I want you to have the information, but what you do with the information is your choice. I’m not going to judge, and I’ll be here to support you no matter what. You don’t owe me an explanation, but as your friend, I would never forgive myself if you got hurt because you didn’t have this information and I could have given it to you to keep you from getting hurt. Here it is…”
And if they react like this friend, then you leave it alone (the one thing Beba said I agreed with). You said your piece, now just be there to help and support if they need it. And caller, try not to take it personally. It sounds like your friend lashed out at you, but she was in an emotional mindset. Chances are, she’ll realize what’s happening, and eventually thank you for helping her. If she doesn’t, if she weirdly tries to make her boyfriend’s cheating about you telling her, then I’m sorry, she’s just not emotionally mature enough to be your friend.
Nah. You HAVE TO tell. It's your best friend. Both of y'all have an out-of-pocket take.
I understand why Bebe and Jair wouldn't tell their friends but I agree with Abhi. It's selfish to hide that from them. It depends on the situation but regardless you need to come with receipts
The guy from the second story is treating his current girlfriend terribly, he shouldn't be in a relationship with someone if he's 'in love' with someone else! Glad Jair helped Beba realise why he should be upfront with the current girlfriend instead of hiding things. He really needs to see a therapist to unpack why he is still so attached to an ex from 24 years ago. You guys are right, that ex is a completely different person now
BFFs are a dime a dozen. They're can be very hard to find in life, My BFF I confide in when I feel I need to, we've never had a fight, and we've known each other since high school (for over 20 years now). I hope that the girl who called in doesn't loose her BFF status because of this whole ordeal. This is a very slippery slope she's dealing with. If I were the girl's BFF, I would drop kick the boyfriend out the door. It's like, "See you never again." I feel very strongly about people who cheat on their significant other, regardless whether it's the significant other's sibling or not that your cheating on with.
I've kept things to myself and had it blow back in my face.I understand it's not my place, but when she realized I knew and didn't say anything, it was a betrayal.
I had a hard week. This podcast is my favorite. It made me smile. Beba, your hair is 10/10. Jair, I love your personality. Have a great week,
My fav question to Dear Deidre was " Both my boyfriends are cheating on me? "
This was a great combo of people!!!
Is it just me or does the girl calling in about the boyfriend sleeping with the sister sound awfully young. She sounds like she's a preteen to me.
I thought the same thing
The girl on the phone has to decide if her friendship is worth pushing the issue. From her friend's reaction, she knows. Maybe she doesn't want to admit it to herself or maybe she thinks that allowing it is the only way she can keep him. Or who knows? Maybe there's some kind of agreement or acceptance. Either way I say you informed her once, the ball's in her court. Your part is done.
Can't lie I don't think I'd ever trust you ladies as my friend if you wouldn't tell me something that major. I don't think I would trust or get over my bestie knowing that and not telling me. How you going to lie in my face just like the partner and sister. A real friend would tell you and help you get through it. Their logic is sooooo weird to me. Sent my bestie the whole situation and she agrees you're not a girls girl or a good friend if you decide to keep his secret for him. This is why I'd trust her with my life lol.
When there's a breakup there's a certain time where there's always regret and missing the person. Dude, there comes a time when you just gotta let it go. You're never gonna have another healthy relationship if you keep your "forever girl" in your heart or in your mind, even to the point of writing a screen play. Twenty four years is more than enough time to go through the five stages of grief. You should definitely have reached acceptance by now. Sounds like you could benefit from some counseling. And still (yes, I'm gonna say the word) ... obsessed after twenty four years kind of comes off a little creepy. I've seen a lot of crime drama and horror movies start off this way.
Another rendition in the bag where Beba Talk Tuah straight & keeps it real. respect
This is my favorite episode so far. The combination of all three personalities just clicked.
Plachy, we love you!
I feel people should only tell if they themselves would want to know if it was happening to them.
Awesome advice react team
I need an episode with multiple guests. Like Jayka and Carter.
I vehemently disagree w/advice on #1, with a caveat. If the friend has proof of the guy cheating, she tells her bestie. What the bestie does w/the info is on them, I'm out at that point. Not bringing it up again, not going any further. Because if I was with someone who cheated on me w/my sibling, I'm done with her AND my sibling is cut out of my life (most likely forever)
No excuse for cheating. Ever. You want someone else you end the current relationship. You want the current relationship to last you do not cheat.
I'm here for the title. It's crazy how people can have a 'relationship' with someone they've been with, their close friend/family. IF it's so called "serious" Crazy work to me
I'm so glad that Beba brought up that the relationship might be open ... it's still something that we polyamorous folk need to carefully dance around, and thus can lead to some difficult situations.
It's definitely a good perspective, but if they are poly, or navigating an open relationship, honesty is even more important because you're willingly entering into a relationship with complicated dynamics. The friend freaking out on her sounds like they aren't being open and honest. :| If they were poly/open, it'd be a simple answer.
I hope Plachy comes back, but if he decides not to, it would be awesome if you brought Kimmy back to produce this. I miss her at React.
Yes, the gf knows for sure. Just because she got so angry... Now I'm gone
This is hands down my favourite episode. Jair, I love your growth, your maturity and your advice. Continue on this path and always remember to breathe. I thought Abhi was going to say he learned finger in the butt from Beba 😂😂😂
loved the episode abhi [avi?] and bebe
so good to see jair she's been missed in react and the 3 of you were great
happy new year
Abhi, but it did sound like she said Avi.
He's a producer/host from the main REACT (and sometimes PVF & Bullseye) channel.
@@timisme8360 that i knew but thanks
@yomogami4561 😊👍
you should do a sound advice with Paulina Rezende
BEBA IS WILD
Yall seriously used Kyle as a example? Yall dirty 😂😂😂
I NEED A JAIR PT. 2 tbh
I'm the same way Jay! Also a Virgo! I have ❤❤❤s for you
Is Kevin Plachy ok?
I’ve been wondering the same thing for a month now, I hope so.
Nah i would rather to tell my b bff that her boyfriend is sleeping at my sister's room and they gonna talk about their self and I don't wanna involved on a problem that they make cuz it's not mine hehe 🤔🥰😅
Jair should be on every episode!!! her dynamic with Beba is chef's kiss
This guy sounds sad about still loving his ex, but at the same time he sounds overattached about it. I mean, he wrote a screenplay about the whole thing. Clearly, it's a relationship he'll never get back, and he can't duplicate it. It's been 24 years now. His "forever girl" is married to another man. He needs to learn to let it go. Also, he needs to let his wife read the screenplay and find out how she feels about it. If nothing else, doing that may be therapeutic for him. It could help him. That relationship and his feelings about it.... his wife may be understanding about it. It happened so long ago now. But he won't know unless he lets her read it.
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Ahbi, as a fellow male. The thing is that your thinking like a man, men tend to be straight forward. Your logic doesn’t apply to them.
When Beba early on said she was slightly drunk, I though, well that happened fast, you drinking on an empty stomach or something? Then I though, what if more time has passed than it appears and this leads to my question: How long is the actual recording time for this episode? (As in the raw footage.)
L take on the first story. Friends should come first, but I also believe in brutal honesty because people deserve to know the truth even if it hurts🤷🏼♀️
U tell ur friend
I thought forever girl guy said they broke up in 2000? That's before 9/11. Plus that's a pretty stupid reason to break up. I think the best advice would be telling his ex to get a restraining order and his current gf to run and not look back.
36:25 Soaked DEFINITELY happens. I dated a girl that made the other side of the matter wet.
Personally, I would LOVE to see that screenplay about the guy with the Forever Girl, get made into a movie. I would be there day 1 of the release!!!!! You guys should help him get it done.
Jair should take away the shame.she gave b4 she heard about it being from 9/11.
Forever girl guy sounds a little creepy.
When Beba asked Jair " if she can be trusted ? " I was so angry... Just ask Sharon... No , the back stabber can't be !
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Generations lyric breakdown of the Cats in the Cradle by Harry Chapin
that was the worse advice ever this why woman cant be real friends
Why isn’t the woman on the right barefoot?
Get your foot fetish videos elsewhere.
L take on the first story. Friends should come first, but I also believe in brutal honesty because people deserve to know the truth even if it hurts🤷🏼♀️