I don't think it's a bad idea depends on who you're talking to, I'm 56 my wife and I are having issues and I talked to my 85 year old mother, her wisdom help pull me through, I talked my brother who went through a divorce he had good sound advice for me. On the other hand my wife will not talk to anyone, family members nor professionals, personally I don't think that's a good idea to keep everything bottled up and deal with internally totally by yourself, it all depends on who you're talking to the reason you're talking to them and make sure that it is fall in confidence, I hope my children come to me if they ever have issues in their marriage.
Also...talking to friends & family instead of seeking out a trained professional, can alter that friend or family members opinion of our partner possibly causing ANOTHER division in a relationship. What happens when we start truly working on ourselves & our marriages & we work hard & make it work...staying together & thriving? More times than not, nobody is there to see that take place. They're usually still left with an unpleasant view of our partner. I've seen it cause division within families. It's very sad & often the spouse which was discussed is treated differently by the individuals who were let in on such a sacred relationship & it's intimate details. I feel very strongly in the fact that discussing your personal, intimate marital issues with anyone other than your partner (with the exception of counsel/advice: marital counselor/therapist...pastor...relationship specialist/coach...trained professional) is a betrayal to the spouse & the marriage itself. That may sound like too strong of a description for some, however those who have lived through this may agree especially if those other relationships change because of it. This is just my opinion. I admit I don't know EVERYTHING!!! lol
I love I had the advice and essentially teachings from childhood onwards really. I wish I was brought up with it … unfortunately by now I am 40 with second struggling marriage… I have never been wealthy or my partners so get professional help is difficult ( essentially I would love to use your services but do not have financial background for it, never had) … self help is difficult as my brain gets too easily overwhelmed and confused, counselling has never lead to moving forward progress ( that is the only option I barely could effort and I have to be the one to organise and pay for it) … what are my other options if not other people?
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I don't think it's a bad idea depends on who you're talking to, I'm 56 my wife and I are having issues and I talked to my 85 year old mother, her wisdom help pull me through, I talked my brother who went through a divorce he had good sound advice for me. On the other hand my wife will not talk to anyone, family members nor professionals, personally I don't think that's a good idea to keep everything bottled up and deal with internally totally by yourself, it all depends on who you're talking to the reason you're talking to them and make sure that it is fall in confidence, I hope my children come to me if they ever have issues in their marriage.
Also...talking to friends & family instead of seeking out a trained professional, can alter that friend or family members opinion of our partner possibly causing ANOTHER division in a relationship. What happens when we start truly working on ourselves & our marriages & we work hard & make it work...staying together & thriving? More times than not, nobody is there to see that take place. They're usually still left with an unpleasant view of our partner. I've seen it cause division within families. It's very sad & often the spouse which was discussed is treated differently by the individuals who were let in on such a sacred relationship & it's intimate details. I feel very strongly in the fact that discussing your personal, intimate marital issues with anyone other than your partner (with the exception of counsel/advice: marital counselor/therapist...pastor...relationship specialist/coach...trained professional) is a betrayal to the spouse & the marriage itself. That may sound like too strong of a description for some, however those who have lived through this may agree especially if those other relationships change because of it. This is just my opinion. I admit I don't know EVERYTHING!!! lol
I love I had the advice and essentially teachings from childhood onwards really. I wish I was brought up with it … unfortunately by now I am 40 with second struggling marriage… I have never been wealthy or my partners so get professional help is difficult ( essentially I would love to use your services but do not have financial background for it, never had) … self help is difficult as my brain gets too easily overwhelmed and confused, counselling has never lead to moving forward progress ( that is the only option I barely could effort and I have to be the one to organise and pay for it) … what are my other options if not other people?