The term "trauma bond" hits the nail right on the head. I thank God every day that I finally broke free of toxic relationships and now have a husband who is the kindest, most gentle soul on the planet! I think that the key to our success is he is always is looking to improve himself in all areas of his life, and he actually likes and respects me....he had a very difficult childhood and has worked tirelessly to overcome his trauma. Life is so lovely when you are living in peace and quiet....thank you for sharing and wishing you all the best!💕
I knew my relationship with my ex was toxic when he said I was "just a nurse." Well funny he didn't say that when I was just a nurse working 2 jobs to put his butt through private MBA school when he lost his job. He always said how much smarter he was bc he was so highly educated. I found out later my college gpa and my SAT scores were higher than his lol! I continue to let him tell whoever he wants how smart he is while I laugh inside.
Bless you, Amy. Your words here clearly show how well evolved your outlook has become. It’s tuff being the strong one but thats what self love feels like. Celebrating you today❣️
I broke away from my toxic family 18 months ago. It’s been a journey. Luckily I have a very supportive husband and an excellent therapist helping me. The first year was the most difficult but now I finally feel free. Dr. Ramani is also amazing at helping to understand these relationships. Her channel is wonderful. Thanks Heather❤
Oh Heather it’s so good to have an influencer that’s calls it what it is, a toxic relationship! You didn’t blame him, you accept your part if making this a toxic relationship and you shared how you decided not to contribute to the toxicity by walking away. I have been that person. That’s part of how I found you 3 years ago. I wanted to be as you say in every video, “the best version of me.” I found meditation and hypnosis and I put in some really hard work that continues to this day. Thank you for this video
Great video. What is the guilt thing when they have been so horrible. I don,t understand it? The charm gets me everytime also. It's like I have learning disabilities. It embarrasses me.😢
Thank you for opening up and sharing what you’ve gone through. I think it is very brave and gives me hope. I appreciate that you addressed the feelings of rage and anger we feel after years of being in a tumultuous and toxic environment. Love these suggestions 🙏🏼🌻💕
Thiyis very useful. I'm no longer in a toxic relationship, it ended many years ago. This is a good reminder, since it's important to steer clear of the same in the future.
You’re doing so much good sharing this information. Unfortunately it took me too long to leave. I was injured so severely I underwent emergency lifesaving surgery. Literally lucky to be here. Hope women listening have strength to leave before they end up in my position. Btw…..last 10 yrs single have been best years of my life.
Thank you, Heather! I’m going through a divorce right now and I feel exactly how you feel. I went to Choice Center in Las Vegas last March that started my journey on uncovering my toxic family relationship.
Thank you for these two videos. I appreciate you sharing your story and the things you learned from your therapist. It’s a great help to us. Thank you again. All the best to you ❤
Thank you for the great advice. Dr. Ramani also helped me break free from my narcissistic spouse. I'm so proud of your strength, courage and determination to take your life back. Stay strong beautiful lady!
I love your relationship videos and really enjoyed the last one you made on leaving a toxic marriage (since I'm in the trenches right now). Hopefully my divorce will be finalized next month. I've been reading a lot about codependency and toxic relationships. Yes, very helpful to know we are not alone and we CAN change these patters or just be happy alone! 🎉
This was great information, I have been in an unhealthy attachment with my ex husband in the past. I did go to counseling, I did use to write and my best friend told me writing was my therapy! He was an alcoholic and he hurt me and my 2 kids they are adults now and my son is now trying to heal from the trauma, we all are but me and my daughter are a little further in our healing than my son but he is trying and we're here to help him! This is very helpful
This was such an informative, excellently done video. Your tips r extremely helpful. I’m so grateful that I found your channel. Thank u so much for sharing your tips, knowledge & wisdom with all of us.
Yep. another Doc (Crappy Childhood Fairy) on youtube talks about this exact thing. Hers has to do with Limerence where you're addicted to a person who doesn't love you back (also toxic and addictive).
I wish you all the best! I also understand how you have felt and is hard to do but it will get better when you have the right tools and people around you.
Thank you for this great video. So much information on a topic that is often not discussed and often dismissed with a lack of understanding. I wish you continued strength and power on your further journey. More of this with pleasure
Thank you Heather for your courage, vulnerability and transparency for sharing! You inspire women everywhere and every day with your videos. Dr. Ramani is truly amazing so thank you for the encouragement. Continued blessings in your new chapter of life! ❤🙏🏻
Hi Heather I follow you for your fashion and makeup tips but live a similar dynamic. I want to say not everyone finds their abusive relationship is an addiction but it still may be hard to leave. That’s my situation. I appreciate you mentioning go no contact emotionally. I have being doing that recently as I can’t go directly no contact because of my situation 4 children together! I certainly will look into the recommended detachment meditations. I use cord cutting and removal myself which do help. This is an excellent video to bring to light for many women. I always got those vibes when you said wear what makes you feel happy. Also I’m going to try Al anon online in a few minutes! Would I do this if I loved myself? Excellent! Self love to me is healing my inner child and doing for myself what I want. Following my heart when it is connected to my brain. I absolutely agree journaling helps and have being doing so for years. Also agree whatever we dwell on becomes more. May I suggest hypoponomo (spelling?) meditation!!!❤
Heather is there a larger size silver metallic handbag that you can recommend that is larger than the Stuart Weitzman, mini moda tote. I love that Stuart Weitzman bag that you recommended but I need a larger one to go with the Larroude silver metallic heels that you recommended I have both pairs that you recommended the high heels and the low heels. Thank you kindly. XO Amy
I’m a HUGE believer in no contact!!
The term "trauma bond" hits the nail right on the head. I thank God every day that I finally broke free of toxic relationships and now have a husband who is the kindest, most gentle soul on the planet! I think that the key to our success is he is always is looking to improve himself in all areas of his life, and he actually likes and respects me....he had a very difficult childhood and has worked tirelessly to overcome his trauma. Life is so lovely when you are living in peace and quiet....thank you for sharing and wishing you all the best!💕
I knew my relationship with my ex was toxic when he said I was "just a nurse." Well funny he didn't say that when I was just a nurse working 2 jobs to put his butt through private MBA school when he lost his job. He always said how much smarter he was bc he was so highly educated. I found out later my college gpa and my SAT scores were higher than his lol! I continue to let him tell whoever he wants how smart he is while I laugh inside.
Lol I Love that! Thanks for watching~xoxo
Bless you, Amy. Your words here clearly show how well evolved your outlook has become. It’s tuff being the strong one but thats what self love feels like. Celebrating you today❣️
I love your advice to disconnect emotionally when you can’t disconnect another way. And your advice to love yourself.
This can be a Romantic partner or family members, hopefully not friends, but recognition is the key to change.
I broke away from my toxic family 18 months ago. It’s been a journey. Luckily I have a very supportive husband and an excellent therapist helping me. The first year was the most difficult but now I finally feel free. Dr. Ramani is also amazing at helping to understand these relationships. Her channel is wonderful. Thanks Heather❤
That is amazing! Good for you!!
Oh Heather it’s so good to have an influencer that’s calls it what it is, a toxic relationship! You didn’t blame him, you accept your part if making this a toxic relationship and you shared how you decided not to contribute to the toxicity by walking away. I have been that person. That’s part of how I found you 3 years ago. I wanted to be as you say in every video, “the best version of me.” I found meditation and hypnosis and I put in some really hard work that continues to this day. Thank you for this video
Oh I love that! Thank you for your kind words and support!!
Great video. What is the guilt thing when they have been so horrible. I don,t understand it? The charm gets me everytime also. It's like I have learning disabilities. It embarrasses me.😢
Thank you for opening up and sharing what you’ve gone through. I think it is very brave and gives me hope. I appreciate that you addressed the feelings of rage and anger we feel after years of being in a tumultuous and toxic environment. Love these suggestions 🙏🏼🌻💕
Thank you for raising awareness.
Absolutely love yourself first!! Should be the first question we ever ask ourselves!
I think these videos are so good Heather!!!! Proud of you!!❤️
Thank you Claire!!
Thiyis very useful. I'm no longer in a toxic relationship, it ended many years ago. This is a good reminder, since it's important to steer clear of the same in the future.
You’re doing so much good sharing this information. Unfortunately it took me too long to leave. I was injured so severely I underwent emergency lifesaving surgery. Literally lucky to be here. Hope women listening have strength to leave before they end up in my position. Btw…..last 10 yrs single have been best years of my life.
Wow thank you so much sharing that! So glad that these last 10 years have been so good for you!! ❤️
Thank you Heather I keep the ick list in my mind I appreciate your help thank you so much yes do more videos people need to hear this
Heather, I loved this authentic soft way you approached this
Thank you, Heather! I’m going through a divorce right now and I feel exactly how you feel. I went to Choice Center in Las Vegas last March that started my journey on uncovering my toxic family relationship.
Oh that is amazing! So happy you are doing the work!
Thank you for these two videos. I appreciate you sharing your story and the things you learned from your therapist. It’s a great help to us. Thank you again. All the best to you ❤
Thanks so much for sharing your experience and the knowledge gained. To be sure it will impact more people than you will ever know!
Thank you for the great advice. Dr. Ramani also helped me break free from my narcissistic spouse. I'm so proud of your strength, courage and determination to take your life back. Stay strong beautiful lady!
Thank you so much!!
I love your relationship videos and really enjoyed the last one you made on leaving a toxic marriage (since I'm in the trenches right now). Hopefully my divorce will be finalized next month. I've been reading a lot about codependency and toxic relationships. Yes, very helpful to know we are not alone and we CAN change these patters or just be happy alone! 🎉
Wow Heather…this video was outstanding!
This was great information, I have been in an unhealthy attachment with my ex husband in the past. I did go to counseling, I did use to write and my best friend told me writing was my therapy! He was an alcoholic and he hurt me and my 2 kids they are adults now and my son is now trying to heal from the trauma, we all are but me and my daughter are a little further in our healing than my son but he is trying and we're here to help him! This is very helpful
This was such an informative, excellently done video. Your tips r extremely helpful. I’m so grateful that I found your channel. Thank u so much for sharing your tips, knowledge & wisdom with all of us.
Heather this talk is🔥Thank you for offering these encouraging tips from your life lessons. Sharing ❣️
Thank you for sharing and I hope you won’t be silenced ❤
Richard Grannon’s videos helped me so much. Highly recommend. Stay strong, Heather! ❤
Love you and your realness ❤
It is good to have these tips, I am currently trying to break my bond
Yep. another Doc (Crappy Childhood Fairy) on youtube talks about this exact thing. Hers has to do with Limerence where you're addicted to a person who doesn't love you back (also toxic and addictive).
I wish you all the best! I also understand how you have felt and is hard to do but it will get better when you have the right tools and people around you.
Yes, thank you so much!!
Thank you for this great video. So much information on a topic that is often not discussed and often dismissed with a lack of understanding. I wish you continued strength and power on your further journey. More of this with pleasure
Thank you so much!!
This is so good and sooo brave!!! Your second ex husband sounds absolutely abusive and horrible! So glad you are divorcing!!❤️
Thank you Heather for your courage, vulnerability and transparency for sharing! You inspire women everywhere and every day with your videos. Dr. Ramani is truly amazing so thank you for the encouragement. Continued blessings in your new chapter of life! ❤🙏🏻
Love from Ireland to you in healing x
Hi Heather I follow you for your fashion and makeup tips but live a similar dynamic. I want to say not everyone finds their abusive relationship is an addiction but it still may be hard to leave. That’s my situation. I appreciate you mentioning go no contact emotionally. I have being doing that recently as I can’t go directly no contact because of my situation 4 children together! I certainly will look into the recommended detachment meditations. I use cord cutting and removal myself which do help. This is an excellent video to bring to light for many women. I always got those vibes when you said wear what makes you feel happy. Also I’m going to try Al anon online in a few minutes! Would I do this if I loved myself? Excellent! Self love to me is healing my inner child and doing for myself what I want. Following my heart when it is connected to my brain. I absolutely agree journaling helps and have being doing so for years. Also agree whatever we dwell on becomes more. May I suggest hypoponomo (spelling?) meditation!!!❤
Wow all so beautifully said!! Yes I want to try that mediation you mentioned at the end for sure!!
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Trauma bond is real 🙈🙈 great video 🌸
Thank you for the suggestion of the codependency support group. I didn't know they existed!
Thank you, Heather! ❤
Thank you Heather💕. Such a great video & so true & helpful
Hugs. Jana - Texas. New follower
Thank you so, so much for those good advices!!!🤗❤💋
Thank you so much, sweet, beautiful lady❤️
Nice insights, thanks for sharing
Excellent advice
Thank You ❤
Thank you❤
I hope this topic doesn’t take over. I love your lifestyle and fashion content for us older ladies. Maybe consider making another channel.
Heather is there a larger size silver metallic handbag that you can recommend that is larger than the Stuart Weitzman, mini moda tote. I love that Stuart Weitzman bag that you recommended but I need a larger one to go with the Larroude silver metallic heels that you recommended I have both pairs that you recommended the high heels and the low heels. Thank you kindly.
XO Amy
Let me look and get back to you ❤️❤️
Heather which eyeshadow palette is your favorite
Hi Amy - I love this one >> rstyle.me/+9ANCT3MiqBmeOsusSxKI-g
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Hi❤ can you share the breeder that you got your puppy from. I’m in austin:) thanks…
Sure his name is Dan and his number is 214-538-8669
Omg. I was just at dans house last week. It did not go as planned. I would love to chat with you. I drove to his house.
The Dr. Armani link says it’s not found.
Thanks for letting me know! I'll change it.
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