I always love your seasonal trees and super fun unique seasonal decor! it makes me happy and brings us all some joy in really dark places ❤ the back to school is super nostalgic and makes me feel safe
You can have the most beautifully wrapped gift and inside there's a rotten apple. On the other hand, you can have an average wrapped gift and what's inside is priceless. ❤ Xxx
Ooh yes. This is so true. When you’ve been bullied for what you look like, it’s hard to believe that no one cares about your weight or anything else. My grandma took multiple shots at my weight until my dad finally told her when she was 90 that she was being rude. “I won’t be around much longer to tell the truth.” she replied. “It’s not truthful. It’s just frickin’ rude!” and he left the room. She completely stopped after that and we could’ve shut that down a long time ago instead of putting up with it. Not that it would’ve changed her thinking. I’m at an age where I don’t care much about people’s opinions anymore. I went to a 4th of July party with my neighbors and a chubby little girl asked her mom, “Why is she so fat?” 🤣🤣🤣 Her mom quietly said, “That’s not nice!” and took her inside for a chat. It’s natural that a small child would wonder about differences in people’s bodies. Did I love hearing that after working out faithfully for six months? Not especially.
wow that’s brutal, I’m so sorry about your grandmas comments. that would really tear a kid down. I’m really glad your dad stood up for you though, but sorry it took so long.
@@AnnikasASMR Thank you! I wasn’t overweight until I was an adult due to health problems and meds, so I think i would be a huge mess if I had grown up hearing those comments.
Awe, Shanny, I don't know how you have haters. People don't have anything better to do with their time, I suppose because it's clear to me that you are so sweet and genuine. Honestly, the world needs more people like you. You are absolutely correct, we are all unique and beautiful in our own way, despite the pressure society puts on us to look a certain way. For most of us those standards are impossible because those people have trainers, great lighting, make up, Photoshop, etc that hides all of their "imperfections."
Ma'am I love that you made a video on this I have been discriminated from jobs because of my weight. I have made myself miserable for the majority of my life because of other people's opinions on my body. It's so sad and it does need to change. I wish and hope that it will.
Im 53 snd had an ed for 30 years, however everyone thinks im 'so much younger' which is obviously a huge compliment and I'm skinny so i get complimented for that too (altho I'm so underweight)... Why cant i just look my age and why do people think its okay to comment on my weight?? Alrho my ed is born out of trauma etc..i still feel ashamed to concede to the fact that i feel i have to keep looking 'much younger' and thin..thus this can contribute to stopping me from healing myself 😔❤ I so want to let go of this ed and just be my authentic self no matter what i look like...
That is such a hard nut to crack, but we need to go back in time i think where people mattered more. We need to realize that we are all one in this crazy world and we need each other 🥰
Oh shoot! I'm just sitting down to watch this now, shanny. I didn't get a chance earlier! I wasn't calling you out! I just had to get that off my chest! 😂 I knew you'd experienced objectification from a really young age- I did too. And by kids and adults! It's so gross. I loved your insights, btw. Thanks so much for responding. Yer a doll. Much love to you, girl. You can call me Sam, btw. ❤️🙏
My girlfriend and I always watch your videos and love you for what you do and say. And, you are SOOOO funny! Really, nearly always have to laugh out loud for what you do and tell us. About what you said in this video, it's so true. My girlfriend has the same issues, she is so worried about looking good. And she thinks she is really ugly, while she really isn't. And she always worries about what people think of her clothes, her hair, her make up. And I always tell her, nobody cares! But she then always answers; but I care! She loves watching Instagram and makeup videos and I guess that is part of the problem. I guess this is clearly a girl problem although there are ofcourse men who also struggle with this. People just don't care how you look, most important is that you love yourself. When you love yourself you don't need that validation anymore from other people! And there is not ONE beautiful! Some men love girls with big breast for instance, while others really dislike that. Others like big woman, others don't. What is loved by some is disliked by others. So, just love yourself ! And who cares what other people think, those who love you will love you for how you are, a beautiful person! fans from the Netherlands, Europe. LOVE YOU! Judith and Leon
My issue I know but I feel worried about you and you know “hermits” work so says a lot for me to comment. In addition, you are free to do what you need absolutely ♥️ Thinking of you and I SO apologise I’ve barely been in a condition to comment, I care so much about you I can’t put into words. I hope you can make a video soon or a short live or sweet Danny too. If not I still respect your space as at 51, I know what life can be about with Severe trauma and mental illness and don’t want to shame you IN THE LEAST. I just want YOU you know I’m thinking of you, praying for you and hoping and having faith you are okay, just in a strength gaining space. So much love, to you sweetheart. You’re a couple yrs younger than my youngest sister and I feel sister care and love towards you as I have for over 5+ yrs and I will see this to wherever and whenever I can; not due to you, but due to me as life’s really cutthroat currently, facing homelessness etc. I simply love you and I understand the emotional part of you as much as one can not being you exactly, and the a***** part etc. I know I’m also far away but as long as I’m alive I’m here. Sincerely, Kimberly 💜
"Money makes the world go around" Insecurety sells, mor then se*. Its clothes, diet pills, excercise stuff, makeup. We can all look a little better, cos you are never good enough. Sucks! We are always for the hunt after a diet, a piece of clothing, a new hairdo, new makeup, new perfume. New, better, improved self. Does it matter much in the end, no. But its what media tells us. Its then what people around you tell us, commercial. Its a nevending, vicius cycle, that is almost impossble to stop.
That persons comment was amazing!! I always felt super invalidated when my mom said “no one cares what you look like” (grew up in the 90s and early 2000s when Paris Hiltons body was the ideal)
Something I try to do is take lots of opportunities to complement people whenever I can. I enjoy seeing people’s reactions knowing a kind word from me made them feel good. Question for you ~ is there a reason you name your birds after food? Just curious ❤ love you and your videos!
Write to our congressmen. Lolllllll. That’s the last place I would start. But I get it. You crack me up. You keep being you and the kind of love you have with Danny is the real kind. Regarding living in our world, “This world is stupid!” Yup. There’s a concept of seeing beauty but it’s been transformed into a business and molding people to think they need a set of aspects about them to be beautiful and the concept of herd mentality we all follow of joining whatever is put out there by people in power. The herd follows and rejects those who don’t. It’s stupid and annoying bc we are raised not to honor our own feelings of what is beautiful bc there are so many aspects of beauty in people that aren’t just media based sets of conscripted visual traits/size traits and stupid shiz like now if you use skincare and a Stanley cup. There’s always something. To teach critical thinking and how to be an individual is one way to start to teach the next generation. It’s very hard in group settings like schools, churches/places of common beliefs. Everyone has to follow the herd and not have an individual idea. It’s why we joke about the craziest ones being the most progressive thinkers in history.
That was such a good video! You took accountability, did self-reflection and admitted that you do not see a solution to this dilemma yourself. It’s okay to not always educate your audience on matters that you struggle with yourself. You’re involving the community now so we can explore together. Here’s my take on it: people are going to judge you for how you look, simply because NOT all of us are super gorgeous beautiful and it’s okay to admit that. It’s fine to not be the most beautiful person in the room. We need to learn to get comfortable with that. That does not mean that you have to bother with anyone else’s opinion though. It comes down to whose love and attention you want.
HI Shanny, I watch often but don't comment much. I don't have an ED but I've always been very thin. Too thin honestly, no matter how much I eat. Anyway, for the sake of this comment that doesn't really matter. I just wanted to say that I think you are truly beautiful , inside and out. However. When you're struggling to find the right thoughts/words to express what you mean, I think you are absolutely adorable! I wish there was a way for me to prove to you that you ARE all you need to be. Kind and pure souls like yours are so very few and far between. When you're having a hard day please try to focus on this; there may be things about yourself that you get angry at and don't fully understand, but there are more parts of you that make you the beautiful soul that you are! If you can accept yourself where you are, and know you are further ahead than a lot of others, it might make it a little easier to forgive and therefore 'phase out'' the parts of you that you perceive as flaws. I won't even pretend to understand why people develope EDs, so if I said anything wrong I apologize. I just want you to stop fighting with your wonderful self, and don't ever think you're not enough or broken in any way. Be kind to yourself and practice seeing what it is in you that makes others love you so much 🤔 Easier said than done, I KNOW, JUST MY 2cents worth ❤️
"The people that matter don't mind, and the people that mind don't matter." Sure, sometimes our well-meaning family say dumb things about our looks, but for the most part, the people that care to judge us by our looks don't matter in regards to their opinion.
I wanted to really think of what I feel about body dysmorphia. There are body parts we do judge ourselves on. On thing is right us we don't look at someone and think look at those leg arm face breast. We see a fellow person. We have no judgment. Honestly we don't look Tha close most don't look that close at us. What would be nice if all of us say something we like about ours that has nothing to do with looks. Flood the chat with glow up about ourselves. We are so much more then appearance. Our body are to give use life and we in turn feed it and give it energy. I think we should spam a chat with glow up about ourselves. I well start I like about myself my ability to listen Let do this every day . Only if Shanny likes the idea it I'd her channel
Shanny YOU are perfect the way you are! Your videos has helped me a lot. Big higs from Italy
I genuinely adore your content shanny thank you for being kind and positive and uplifting and i appreciate you alot, thank you for being a person:)
I always love your seasonal trees and super fun unique seasonal decor! it makes me happy and brings us all some joy in really dark places ❤ the back to school is super nostalgic and makes me feel safe
You can have the most beautifully wrapped gift and inside there's a rotten apple. On the other hand, you can have an average wrapped gift and what's inside is priceless. ❤ Xxx
Ooh yes. This is so true. When you’ve been bullied for what you look like, it’s hard to believe that no one cares about your weight or anything else. My grandma took multiple shots at my weight until my dad finally told her when she was 90 that she was being rude.
“I won’t be around much longer to tell the truth.” she replied.
“It’s not truthful. It’s just frickin’ rude!” and he left the room.
She completely stopped after that and we could’ve shut that down a long time ago instead of putting up with it. Not that it would’ve changed her thinking.
I’m at an age where I don’t care much about people’s opinions anymore. I went to a 4th of July party with my neighbors and a chubby little girl asked her mom, “Why is she so fat?” 🤣🤣🤣 Her mom quietly said, “That’s not nice!” and took her inside for a chat. It’s natural that a small child would wonder about differences in people’s bodies. Did I love hearing that after working out faithfully for six months? Not especially.
wow that’s brutal, I’m so sorry about your grandmas comments. that would really tear a kid down. I’m really glad your dad stood up for you though, but sorry it took so long.
@@AnnikasASMR Thank you! I wasn’t overweight until I was an adult due to health problems and meds, so I think i would be a huge mess if I had grown up hearing those comments.
@@MusicIsARainbow oh ok sorry I’m not sure why I thought you had been a kid
Thankyou for this Shanny❤And thankyou for being a thoroughly decent & kind person. Love you Shanny...you've brightened my day🌻💕
Awe, Shanny, I don't know how you have haters. People don't have anything better to do with their time, I suppose because it's clear to me that you are so sweet and genuine. Honestly, the world needs more people like you. You are absolutely correct, we are all unique and beautiful in our own way, despite the pressure society puts on us to look a certain way. For most of us those standards are impossible because those people have trainers, great lighting, make up, Photoshop, etc that hides all of their "imperfections."
Ma'am I love that you made a video on this
I have been discriminated from jobs because of my weight. I have made myself miserable for the majority of my life because of other people's opinions on my body. It's so sad and it does need to change. I wish and hope that it will.
I love what you did with your seasonal tree, as well as what you did in the beginning of this video.
Im 53 snd had an ed for 30 years, however everyone thinks im 'so much younger' which is obviously a huge compliment and I'm skinny so i get complimented for that too (altho I'm so underweight)...
Why cant i just look my age and why do people think its okay to comment on my weight?? Alrho my ed is born out of trauma etc..i still feel ashamed to concede to the fact that i feel i have to keep looking 'much younger' and thin..thus this can contribute to stopping me from healing myself 😔❤
I so want to let go of this ed and just be my authentic self no matter what i look like...
That is such a hard nut to crack, but we need to go back in time i think where people mattered more. We need to realize that we are all one in this crazy world and we need each other 🥰
Miss ya Shanzers, hope you are doing good! ❤
Oh shoot! I'm just sitting down to watch this now, shanny. I didn't get a chance earlier! I wasn't calling you out! I just had to get that off my chest! 😂 I knew you'd experienced objectification from a really young age- I did too. And by kids and adults! It's so gross. I loved your insights, btw. Thanks so much for responding. Yer a doll.
Much love to you, girl. You can call me Sam, btw. ❤️🙏
It was a good comment, I remember reading it!
Was last night’s live deleted?
Well, with all due respect - Danny is objectively very handsome.
He's the best 😭 They both are ❤
I totally agree Shanny ❤ I personally just try & be a good positive person EVERY DAY !!! ✌️❤️🙂 btw.....U R beautiful 😍
That title gave me so much anxiety!
My girlfriend and I always watch your videos and love you for what you do and say. And, you are SOOOO funny!
Really, nearly always have to laugh out loud for what you do and tell us. About what you said in this video, it's so true. My girlfriend has the
same issues, she is so worried about looking good. And she thinks she is really ugly, while she really isn't. And she always worries about what
people think of her clothes, her hair, her make up. And I always tell her, nobody cares! But she then always answers; but I care!
She loves watching Instagram and makeup videos and I guess that is part of the problem. I guess this is clearly a girl problem although
there are ofcourse men who also struggle with this. People just don't care how you look, most important is that you love yourself. When
you love yourself you don't need that validation anymore from other people! And there is not ONE beautiful! Some men love girls with
big breast for instance, while others really dislike that. Others like big woman, others don't. What is loved by some is disliked by others.
So, just love yourself ! And who cares what other people think, those who love you will love you for how you are, a beautiful person!
fans from the Netherlands, Europe.
LOVE YOU!
Judith and Leon
you helped me heal my eating disorder and i am now 3 years clean :) (or however you say it lol) but thank you for what you do🫶🏻
My issue I know but I feel worried about you and you know “hermits” work so says a lot for me to comment. In addition, you are free to do what you need absolutely ♥️
Thinking of you and I SO apologise I’ve barely been in a condition to comment, I care so much about you I can’t put into words.
I hope you can make a video soon or a short live or sweet Danny too. If not I still respect your space as at 51, I know what life can be about with Severe trauma and mental illness and don’t want to shame you IN THE LEAST. I just want YOU you know I’m thinking of you, praying for you and hoping and having faith you are okay, just in a strength gaining space.
So much love, to you sweetheart. You’re a couple yrs younger than my youngest sister and I feel sister care and love towards you as I have for over 5+ yrs and I will see this to wherever and whenever I can; not due to you, but due to me as life’s really cutthroat currently, facing homelessness etc.
I simply love you and I understand the emotional part of you as much as one can not being you exactly, and the a***** part etc.
I know I’m also far away but as long as I’m alive I’m here.
Sincerely,
Kimberly 💜
"Money makes the world go around" Insecurety sells, mor then se*. Its clothes, diet pills, excercise stuff, makeup. We can all look a little better, cos you are never good enough. Sucks! We are always for the hunt after a diet, a piece of clothing, a new hairdo, new makeup, new perfume. New, better, improved self. Does it matter much in the end, no. But its what media tells us. Its then what people around you tell us, commercial. Its a nevending, vicius cycle, that is almost impossble to stop.
That persons comment was amazing!! I always felt super invalidated when my mom said “no one cares what you look like” (grew up in the 90s and early 2000s when Paris Hiltons body was the ideal)
Something I try to do is take lots of opportunities to complement people whenever I can. I enjoy seeing people’s reactions knowing a kind word from me made them feel good. Question for you ~ is there a reason you name your birds after food? Just curious ❤ love you and your videos!
Write to our congressmen. Lolllllll. That’s the last place I would start. But I get it. You crack me up.
You keep being you and the kind of love you have with Danny is the real kind.
Regarding living in our world,
“This world is stupid!”
Yup.
There’s a concept of seeing beauty but it’s been transformed into a business and molding people to think they need a set of aspects about them to be beautiful and the concept of herd mentality we all follow of joining whatever is put out there by people in power. The herd follows and rejects those who don’t. It’s stupid and annoying bc we are raised not to honor our own feelings of what is beautiful bc there are so many aspects of beauty in people that aren’t just media based sets of conscripted visual traits/size traits and stupid shiz like now if you use skincare and a Stanley cup. There’s always something. To teach critical thinking and how to be an individual is one way to start to teach the next generation. It’s very hard in group settings like schools, churches/places of common beliefs. Everyone has to follow the herd and not have an individual idea. It’s why we joke about the craziest ones being the most progressive thinkers in history.
That was such a good video! You took accountability, did self-reflection and admitted that you do not see a solution to this dilemma yourself. It’s okay to not always educate your audience on matters that you struggle with yourself.
You’re involving the community now so we can explore together.
Here’s my take on it: people are going to judge you for how you look, simply because NOT all of us are super gorgeous beautiful and it’s okay to admit that. It’s fine to not be the most beautiful person in the room. We need to learn to get comfortable with that. That does not mean that you have to bother with anyone else’s opinion though. It comes down to whose love and attention you want.
HI Shanny, I watch often but don't comment much. I don't have an ED but I've always been very thin. Too thin honestly, no matter how much I eat. Anyway, for the sake of this comment that doesn't really matter.
I just wanted to say that I think you are truly beautiful , inside and out. However. When you're struggling to find the right thoughts/words to express what you mean, I think you are absolutely adorable!
I wish there was a way for me to prove to you that you ARE all you need to be. Kind and pure souls like yours are so very few and far between.
When you're having a hard day please try to focus on this; there may be things about yourself that you get angry at and don't fully understand, but there are more parts of you that make you the beautiful soul that you are!
If you can accept yourself where you are, and know you are further ahead than a lot of others, it might make it a little easier to forgive and therefore 'phase out'' the parts of you that you perceive as flaws.
I won't even pretend to understand why people develope EDs, so if I said anything wrong I apologize.
I just want you to stop fighting with your wonderful self, and don't ever think you're not enough or broken in any way.
Be kind to yourself and practice seeing what it is in you that makes others love you so much 🤔
Easier said than done, I KNOW, JUST MY 2cents worth ❤️
"The people that matter don't mind, and the people that mind don't matter."
Sure, sometimes our well-meaning family say dumb things about our looks, but for the most part, the people that care to judge us by our looks don't matter in regards to their opinion.
I wanted to really think of what I feel about body dysmorphia. There are body parts we do judge ourselves on. On thing is right us we don't look at someone and think look at those leg arm face breast. We see a fellow person. We have no judgment. Honestly we don't look Tha close most don't look that close at us.
What would be nice if all of us say something we like about ours that has nothing to do with looks.
Flood the chat with glow up about ourselves.
We are so much more then appearance. Our body are to give use life and we in turn feed it and give it energy.
I think we should spam a chat with glow up about ourselves.
I well start I like about myself my ability to listen
Let do this every day . Only if Shanny likes the idea it I'd her channel
You’re awesome Shanny ❤❤❤❤