Chivalry isn’t something that men inflict on women. Most women EXPECT it. There is this infuriating attitude and assumption that men are not also victims of these social bullshit codes of ethics. Men have their own stupid, annoying, insulting, degrading expectations pushed on them based on their gender. Talking down to anyone based on their gender is non-productive and hypocritical. And that goes for many who class themselves as ‘feminists.’ So many ‘feminists’ are as derogatory and condescending as the very conventions they claim to hate. Equality is equality. Blanketing ‘men’ with cheap, patronising labels, brushing off their contributions to this conversation, and mocking their insights as tantrums of ‘meninism’ just seems petty. I’m not denying that sexism or inequality don’t exist. Of course they do. But for true equality to come about, men have to be valued as part of the solution- not just the problem. I simply don’t recognise the picture that most feminists paint of men as a gender. That is stereotyping. That is derogatory. No, we don’t have to hold a door for you. But we also hold doors for people who aren’t women. We do it to be considerate of other human beings-at least I do, anyway. And labelling me as being trapped by the conventions of social rules is insulting. Do you choose to wear make up? If you do, does that make you a victim? Of course not. That would be a ridiculous argument. There’s so much misrepresentation of the truth these days. Yes, conventions should be evaluated and challenged. But blaming people based on factors like their gender will never yield the results that social movements like feminism say they desire. Blame is counterproductive. It will not garner sympathy effectively. It will however recruit more backlash towards such proposed ideologies. No, it isn’t always fair. But that is human nature. You have to work within it’s limitations. Turning away potential allies is stupidity. Again, equality is equality. I want equality. But true equality. As do most men.
Erin you are the absolute best! I love all of your work. I live in Georgia and as you can imagine EVERYTHING is based around racism and sexism in my small town and having a break to watch your videos and listen to your poetry really gives me hope.
Thank you for putting a disclaimer at the beginner of the video i appreciate it because a lot of people including me feel excluded when people just say men and woman like yes im a man (im a transboy) but i am in the lgbtq+ community and it hurts a bit when people dont say about gender non-conforming people in videos when they talk about men and woman thank you
@@happymaskedguy1943 The idea behind chivalry is specifically that women are the "fairer" or "weaker" sex though, and that men have a duty to treat them as such, hence the practice of men opening of doors, pulling out chairs, giving up their seats for able bodied women, etc. If people give and receive these small kind gestures back and forth, there's nothing wrong with that, that's just being a considerate person, not chivalry. The annoying part is when a woman tries to do one of these gestures for a man, regardless of whether they're a stranger or not, and they refuse the gesture because they're a man and the woman is a "lady" who apparently can't take care of herself. I know not a whole lot of people realize this, but that happens a lot, especially with men in older generations, I've experienced this many times when opening doors for men walking into stores behind me and I stop to open the door and let them go ahead of me, and they take the door from me and insist that I go in first. This type of situation is more what I was eluding to in my comment.
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Chivalry isn’t something that men inflict on women. Most women EXPECT it.
There is this infuriating attitude and assumption that men are not also victims of these social bullshit codes of ethics.
Men have their own stupid, annoying, insulting, degrading expectations pushed on them based on their gender.
Talking down to anyone based on their gender is non-productive and hypocritical. And that goes for many who class themselves as ‘feminists.’
So many ‘feminists’ are as derogatory and condescending as the very conventions they claim to hate.
Equality is equality. Blanketing ‘men’ with cheap, patronising labels, brushing off their contributions to this conversation, and mocking their insights as tantrums of ‘meninism’ just seems petty.
I’m not denying that sexism or inequality don’t exist. Of course they do. But for true equality to come about, men have to be valued as part of the solution- not just the problem.
I simply don’t recognise the picture that most feminists paint of men as a gender. That is stereotyping. That is derogatory.
No, we don’t have to hold a door for you. But we also hold doors for people who aren’t women. We do it to be considerate of other human beings-at least I do, anyway. And labelling me as being trapped by the conventions of social rules is insulting. Do you choose to wear make up? If you do, does that make you a victim? Of course not. That would be a ridiculous argument.
There’s so much misrepresentation of the truth these days. Yes, conventions should be evaluated and challenged. But blaming people based on factors like their gender will never yield the results that social movements like feminism say they desire.
Blame is counterproductive. It will not garner sympathy effectively. It will however recruit more backlash towards such proposed ideologies. No, it isn’t always fair. But that is human nature. You have to work within it’s limitations. Turning away potential allies is stupidity.
Again, equality is equality. I want equality. But true equality. As do most men.
erin, you are a QUEEN
Magical Molly 💕😊
Erin you are the absolute best! I love all of your work. I live in Georgia and as you can imagine EVERYTHING is based around racism and sexism in my small town and having a break to watch your videos and listen to your poetry really gives me hope.
Katie Funderburk so sorry to hear about your hometown. I come from a small town as well and can somewhat relate. I’m glad you liked the video 🙂💕
Thank you for putting a disclaimer at the beginner of the video i appreciate it because a lot of people including me feel excluded when people just say men and woman like yes im a man (im a transboy) but i am in the lgbtq+ community and it hurts a bit when people dont say about gender non-conforming people in videos when they talk about men and woman thank you
Bless your heart for the intro disclaimer
Sincerely, this enby right here :)
Yaaas! Chivalry is just sugar coated sexism.
You're a mess
Or you know, being considerate of other people.
@@happymaskedguy1943 The idea behind chivalry is specifically that women are the "fairer" or "weaker" sex though, and that men have a duty to treat them as such, hence the practice of men opening of doors, pulling out chairs, giving up their seats for able bodied women, etc. If people give and receive these small kind gestures back and forth, there's nothing wrong with that, that's just being a considerate person, not chivalry. The annoying part is when a woman tries to do one of these gestures for a man, regardless of whether they're a stranger or not, and they refuse the gesture because they're a man and the woman is a "lady" who apparently can't take care of herself. I know not a whole lot of people realize this, but that happens a lot, especially with men in older generations, I've experienced this many times when opening doors for men walking into stores behind me and I stop to open the door and let them go ahead of me, and they take the door from me and insist that I go in first. This type of situation is more what I was eluding to in my comment.