Falling in love is something that is very hard to control. When you got stuck with someone, it's really hard to find a way out. I tried staying away, kept myself busy... but the memories of us together are just too much to handle.
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its very understandable but its more reason to create better memories with new people and soon u will forget..maybe not forget but eventually the power of those memories will.no longer have a hold on you because u will find happiness in the present and not the past..its like playing a broken record..but u will find a way to write n whole new song and it will sound better x
having the person you love stuck in your head, the memories you have with them, the thoughts of what you should’ve done when they were in your arms, and what you could’ve done differently to take advantage of having them with you at that time, and then realizing you’ll never be with them again, is the most heartbreaking shit I’ve ever gone through, and i don’t know how I’ll heal
Why stay hung up over a married woman when I could get with any girl I want? Because that wouldn’t be love. To me that isn’t love, it’s just some fling that isn’t even worth fighting for. When I met this girl, she was literally EVERYTHING I COULD EVER ASK FOR. It’s more than just physical attraction, my love goes deeper beyond that. And when you’re THAT deep in love, you convince yourself that’s the only kind of love you want, and you won’t settle for anything less. If you’ve never felt this love, you wouldn’t understand.
"you convince yourself that’s the only kind of love you want" So convince yourself you need a different kind of love that has a happier and healthier outcome :)
@@TheLegendsAcademy no that won't be right. Like me and my crush, I only want him *NOBODY ELSE* makes me feel the way he does. It's breaks my heart that I can't have him 😭💔
I nobody should tell you to change yourself or be somebody else but work on your confidence work on your life make your life the best that it could possibly be in all aspects not just money wise and you will see you will get so much female attention and she will see that you are very confident and she will start to like you if you eventually ignore her and just a little bit and show her that you are enjoying life with other women but by that time maybe you won't want her anymore because you will realise your own worth
I disagree with the previous comment, on the sense that you shouldn't attempt to make her love you if she can't love you. Maybe there's something, maybe not. But if there's definitely nothing between you too (love-wise) then don't make your objective to make her love you. Find a way to be happy without her inside the plan. If not, learn that you can be. Also figure out if its just deep attraction or love, since both are very related and sometimes almost indistinguishable. Key factor is to seek happiness not by denying her existence or situation with you, but by acknowledging she is there, but learning to find happiness still. Be happy for her is she is doing well! One day you might discover the feeling wasn't eternal or always the same all the time. Or maybe you won't. I don't know. But don't stay inside the ureciprocated feeling chamber for too long. Only long enough for yourself to get the feeling through, and maturing out, not by reason alone, but by heart itself, the way you feel. I'm trying to get this thing through too. Call me a scientist. Cheers mate!
Exactly what I’m going through it’s sucks however she doesn’t really know I like but I feel like if I tell her she’ll find me weird and not want to be my friend
Wholickdapusspuss I think walking away is most definitely the best option but not the easiest. I’ve been married 16 yrs. never cheated but have recently fallen slightly in love with another women. I work with her and have to see her everyday. I don’t think she feels the same way toward me but enjoys my company. The scary part about the entire situation is that she told me that she doesn’t sleep with married men. (Because I tried) yet..... she kissed me, because I asked. Mainly because I bought her a gift for her b-day. I’m very discombobulated. My wife is perfect. The other women is too.
Believe it or not, if you go out and meet other people, the person you were hung up on will start to notice you moving on and finding people that are much better. It is at this point that they may react to what you're doing. If they contact you, stay civil. Don't get angry or bitter because they came back asking you how your life's been. Be positive and tell them that you've been working on yourself and meeting new an interesting people. They MAY become more attracted to you. Why? Well, they don't want to lose what they had before. It is at this point whether you want to talk to them again or not. Personally, I wouldn't. UNLESS they prove that they WANT to be with YOU and NO ONE ELSE. If they can't prove that, giving you "Oh, I don't know..." answers, tell them that you appreciate checking up on you, but you can't continue this kind of contact any further and if they ask why, be honest and tell them why. Tell them that you're looking for someone who doesn't want to give you "I don't know..." answer and they you want someone who actually want to be with you. You'd be surprised at how this kind of remark will impact their life. Overall, you must remember that they're the ones who put you in this position in the first place and that you MUST move on if they're still playing games. Be the better adult in this situation, swallow all that you have and find someone greater than this person. It's actually good for both of you because you both move on and you both end up being with someone who you WANT to be with. The only redemption they can show to you is that they need to prove that they WANT to be with YOU. Actions speak louder than words. They can talk all they want, but they need to show that they want you with their actions. Unfortunately, most people are cowards and will do nothing, but will regret what they did. Let them regret all they want. It's time you move on to someone better than this person. Good luck to all of you!!!!!
Thanks for this comment, i know what to do now in my situation. I have let myself get dragged down by someone who loves me but is in relationship and can't choose. But you just helped me with your advice. Again, thank you
I'm totally hung up on a guy who's in a relationship right now. I'm freaking out about when I'll see him again or if he suddenly disappears if I'll ever hear from him. I think about him all day and go about my business trying to keep the thoughts of him away. He's so perfect to me in every way. I just wish I had a chance to make him as happy as she does.
It's literally the hardest thing ever. My best friend married the girl that got away and now I live with them. She recently told me that she has feelings for me as well. FML
Don’t do it, you’ll lose the best friend you ever had and you’ll never trust her. If she cheats on her husband with you she could do it to you as well. And she doesn’t know what real commitment is. This is the worst thing you can do to yourself, to her and definitely to your best friend. Have faith hopefully one day you’ll meet someone who’s just right
You will have many soul mates but only one twin flame. Sometimes even if it hurts you must let them go because it is for the best interest of both parties. You can't avoid falling in love. You certainly cant avoid meeting your twin flame if you're that lucky. But when you love someone so much you just want them to be happy and not be alone even it is being with someone else .
I'm a girl who fell in love with a girl I can't be with. She says that she'll be mine one day but she's with a guy. I hate it. I love her so much but it's hard when she's whispering I love you at night to another person. It absolutely crushes me
The thing that makes it so hard is, that you can’t just stop with loving someone. You can’t just move on. I mean you can try but it’s not something you can do in a month. Moving on is hard, loving someone is hard.
It is extremely difficult to overcome. I really liked this girl. She liked me back as well. She told me how handsome I was and I tell her how beautiful she was....but she never wanted to be with me. I've made moves. We were intimate. We had a really strong mental, physical and emotional connection, but...she just didn't want to go there with me. So, we stopped talking. No need to fight for someone who doesn't want to go to that level with you, y'know? She ended up dating some other guy. But...she's still attracted to me. I can tell. Leaving me Snapchat selfies (specifically sent to me), liking my statuses and even messaging me. I had enough and just cut her off. I don't respond, make myself unavailable and just occupy my time with meeting other women and working out at the gym to better myself. I'm already good looking as it is, just a bit lean. I'm going to gain about 15 pounds of muscle to better my appearance and build even more confidence with the trainer who's training me. I also got into rock climbing and snowboarding. So much fun! I think I will be "the guy that got away" when it comes to her and at this point. She deserves someone like that that will make her regret her decisions. I really think that her and that guy won't work out. I just have that gut feeling. If it doesn't, then you can be sure she will come back my way to "check up on me" in an attempt to get my attention and validate herself to me. No. No more. I'm finding someone much better than her because I deserve better. It's time karma hit her hard and I find someone awesome.
Trust me, it still isn't easy for me. I think about her. A lot. It's only natural because I really care about her. I WANT to be with her. But at this point, it's not worth it. Why reward her with someone great like me when she lost me in the first place? It was HER actions that put us in this situation, not mine.
Right. Just like a man who wants a woman to spend time with over and over again but always says , that they don't have relationship even if they have baby or the woman like me who loves a guy who never loves me back
This is true. Very interesting how the mind works when it THINKS it's keeping you safe, but it can ACTUALLY be doing you harm...sort of... Ben Alexander
I don't think I will ever find a person like who I'm in love currently.. he was so loving, open hearted, empathetic, caring, funny and sexy.. you just have chemistry with certain people that you can't find anywhere else and I'm not that often attracted to people.. it is deeply traumatic not having them around anymore..
I've been into so many relationships but I keep on falling and falling in love with that specific guy over and over again. It just means I REALLY like that guy and I want to get him no matter what.
I’ve been through too many relationships and I’d say I have learnt a lesson from them. I’ve learnt that I am wasting my time trying to get into a relationship because it won’t work out. People say that “there are plenty of fish in the sea” and they say that “there is always someone out there for you” but I have grown to become tired of loving
No, you love the idea of being together with that person. It's fantasy. The reality is they don't love you and they're not thinking of you so why think about them?
i love this guy that i've been friends with for half a year now and we were talking for quite some time more than friends... and he'd be on and off he still every once and awhile flirt and i'd be stuck on him for even longer but after watching this video i'm came to conclusion that i have great social skills and it's time to move on and get through my head that he isn't he only guy for me that's there's many fish in the sea
I recently just fell for someone i couldn't have, we were flirty and it seemed like she was into me, even the people around me thought she was but she soon revealed she has a boyfriend so yeah I'm pretty shattered right now and she still wants to be good friends which is difficult because i don't want to say no to being her friend and let her down when she says she needs the connection we have. :/
it's really not that easy to forget someone that you felt in love with 💔 cuz even you tryin to forget by doing things that you love ex. sports , art ... or whatever there's always some memories that stuck on your head that you can't forget .. I've meet this girl who is beautiful, smart and funny I lover her so much but unfortunately she doesn't see me like that more like a brother ... 💔 now I'm trying to forget her that's why I've been searching for videos to help but nothing works
its not about "if you had the option to find someone else", because sometimes you just don't want anyone else, because the person who you love is just perfect for you.
I'm a middle schooler, which I've been told is the hardest part of all of school. I met this boy a couple of months ago and we just naturally talked to each other. Oddest thing ever since he is the hottest and most popular guy in my grade and I'm not popular at all. I had never met him before and I had just assumed that he was popular, arrogant, and good at sports. But he was really nice to me and it wasn't like he was being fake, it was so genuine. I couldn't help it, I fell for him after a single conversation in gym class. It did take a couple of days but I realized I actually like liked him. I kind of had a boyfriend at the time but not really we just hung out sometimes and I knew he liked me but I didn't really return that since he cries a lot and if I was with him I would be really embarrassed. I immediately told all of my friends, screw that boy that liked me he wasn't very popular anyway, drop everything, I like Mr. Hotshot now. The problem was that about half of the girls in my grade were also crushing on him, I knew I didn't have a chance with this boy but I lied to myself that I did. One day in December I was tired of waiting and lying to myself. Me and this boy hadn't talked in person for quite a while. I foolishly asked one of my friends to message the boy that I liked him. I was naive and I still am. He is the first crush I've ever had. And dO yOU kNOw WhaT tHAt BOy sAId? He said: ok I was pretty triggered and I messaged him, kinda tried to argue but he wouldn't because he is really nice. I just said sorry about the whole thing and he was like its ok, its fine. He never actually regected me but I'm not that dumb, I know I should give up and move on but for some reason I can't. Its like I'm addicted to him. If I see him I get that fluttery feeling in my stomach and I can't help but to stare at him EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. I get constantly teased by my friends about it and this other boy that literally told the boy we were talking about him in class yesterday. I'm not sure why he has to make me look worse to the kid anyway he already doesn't like me back. Basically, I'm madly in love with the most popular boy in my grade, I know I can't have him but I an addicted to him and I can't get over it. I have no idea what to do. Please help.
I actually have a chance with multiple girls already and i know that i can get anyone of them if i want to but this one girl is so damn special that it makes me go crazy. The irony is that she has a bf and i don't know what to do, i could choose to move on and get any other girl with my skill but i am so deeply into her and i know that she is my half in this world for sure
Crazy thing is alot of the things you said in this video are you 100% true and it honestly made me feel so much better knowing others feel the same way I do and you have the key to relieve this feeling! Thankyou.
I have prospects. I've dated. There's just this one - so much in common. We enjoy each other's company, but she's been in her own relationship with someone she can't have. I became the "weekend warrior." I had to walk away. I still don't stop thinking of her. I still date, and even try to invest in those potential relationships, but none of them are as satisfying as the prospect of being with...her. I know I can't change her mind, and frankly I closed the door politely but hard. It's insane that despite focusing on my life, my job, and other women, I can't escape the ghost of her.
Honestly nobody I liked has ever liked me back so falling and love and having it work out and having the person you really really like actually feel the same seems so impractical and far from my standards
What I am learning is that sometimes you have to let go you'll do greater harm to the friendship by trying to force the pieces to the puzzle together when they don't fit there is such a thing as acceptable losses properly categorizing how people fit in your life and putting them in those positions will make life much simpler
I been liking this person for three years I finally had the courage to tell him that I liked him but I found out he is dating but he likes me he confuses me a lot by his actions I haven’t talked to him because I don’t want to ruined his relationship but I feel it’s time to move with someone who likes me and I like them
I can't stop liking this guy. Didn't even like him AT ALL when I first met him. He already has a gf and is quite respectful of her. He was the first one to understand me and make me feel safe. This emotional attachment has made me fall for him and I can't get out. It makes me sad and jealous when he's with his gf I want to cry. It messes up my day. Why can't I get over him. Why do I keep thinking its only him? I'm stupid and can't even express these feeling to him. I feel so lonely.
That sounds romantic...and would be great in a movie...but I'm not sure how much it's gonna help you in real life It's kinda like if you saw a car you really liked, but someone bought it before you could, and you say "If I can't have that car, I'm not going to have any car at all..." All it means is you end up walking, biking, taking a bus, cab etc...but it just makes it a lot harder to get on with your life... So you can make that decision if you want...and you might feel that way for now...but chances are, if you are prepared to put in the work, you can find someone who is even more suitable for you so both you and the person you can't have can be happy and no one has to lose...make sense? Ben Alexander
It truly rips me apart not being able to be with the girl I love. Shes my bestfriend and and she has no idea Ive fallen madly in love with her. It tears my heart apart everyday I breathe. I often feel like leaving this life so I dont have to deal with the pain. My mind mocks me with thoughts and images of her with other guys, its terrible! I have breakdowns most days. I have bad dreams and I become isolated alot. I just want her to appear in front of me. I love her intensely and I would do anything for her love back.
The difficulty lies in knowing if the person really is unavailable to you. I have this mad, deeply emotional connection with a married man, and while nothing has happened physically it seems like he realizes that I'm actually the woman of his dreams. He might divorce her, and we really do belong together. It's not like these things don't ever happen?
Andrea Koch if you are the woman of his dreams he will divorce her and he will be with you but if he didn't do it then that's your answer honey.... if you are married to somebody how you feel that they have strong emotional connection with another woman... . you will feel hurt.... so if he can do it to her and he will do it to you... move on with your life be happy find someone else if you supposed to be together then God will make it happen but to continue to talk to him may cause more problems
i know she's not the only option i know i can end up really liking and caring and wanting to be with another person i know i can live a life with somebody else and everything but the thing is you can tell when that person you can't have brings up the best of you and makes you feel the strongest feeling you have ever felt and you just don't want to keep searching for that in somebody else because you know you won't find it
I saw this girl from a tournament, I searched her up because she looked amazing on social media. Now I can’t get over her. She came from overseas to play and she lives in a completely different country. I can’t get over her. I felt a connection even tho I didn’t even talk to her. I feel like she is the only girl that I will ever like and the crush from my school just faded away because I was so into this girl. We’ve never talked at all. We don’t even know eachother and I just need help 😪
I liked a person that lived far away from me and when we met we found out that we were cousins. We kept it secret relationship and it got closer and closer and I started to fall in love, but we both realized that could never go to far because we were related
i don't think anyone can be irreplaceable, i just couldn't handle it if i lose him and never be able to talk to him again, i just don't want to look for a better someone
No ones liked me since the kindergarten and now I’m in 9th grade. So to all you people saying that it’s “embarrassing” to have your crush like you back, look at me. I can’t even have a crush because I don’t have a chance with them at all. Heck, one of my crushes actually turned out to like my best friend. It hit me hard, I was depressed because of this and I still am. Even though I’m a straight A student, I’m lonely. And that’s probably even worse. I always turn over to look at the boys who can catch the best girls in no time. So just be happy that your crush likes you back no matter what, because I’ve never experienced that feeling before.
Job Beckys well my crush is straight and I have no chance either, but how would you know that there is no one crushing on you, maybe there is but it doesn’t seem like you notice it because you just focus on things you like and not the people around you
I fell in love with someone thousands of miles away it started as a friendship over the internet. We both were obsessed with each other... there were so many ups and downs and we made promises that we will always stick together face every storm we were addicted to each other and then lot of things happened that shouldn’t have happened and I blame myself for it...Now we’re both strangers to each other but you can’t replace someone you love you can never forget that person that feeling that memories... He used to say “together till 2057”
Yes it happen to me lately. I met this woman and i really loved her and she was so right for me plus we got on ever so well untill she told me about her boyfriend? It was like my heart was torn out of my chest. It really hurt. She liked me but not the same way i liked her. She is happy with her boyfriend. So yes i have been there....many times.
I'm inlove with someone since our childhood days. I've had the opportunity to talk to her because of my bestfriend that has connection to her. Up until now, i carried that same feeling i had for her until i realized that she already have someone else. Hearing those words made my world shattered. She is the only girl i've had feelings since childhood up until now. Now, i don't know how to cope with my situation. Every time i think of her, every time i'm seeing her picture, made me cry everyday. Made me realized that i can't have her. Even if i confess my love for her, still doesn't change everything. She's still my childhood love.
She puts hearts on my coffees, and constantly puts me in a situation where I make her day just by coming in and seeing her but has a boyfriend and probably won’t chose me over her mans
I fell in love with a person that was on the other side of the world. We liked each other, but it was getting to painful for me because we knew we wouldn’t end up together. I told him that we should stop talking to each other, but he kept trying to be my friend because he didn’t want to lose our relationship. We still couldn’t say I love you as friends. One day we were talking about our past and he was laughing and I was trying to laugh. I started crying and he kept on asking me why do I like him again. I couldn’t say that I fell in love with him and I couldn’t say we should stop being friends. So I told him I had to go do something and ended the call. That happened today and I don’t know if this is the end of us
My situation is a little different. I'm falling in love with someone I fell for when we actually did date 20 years ago. This girl was perfect, in literally, almost every way, and there are things about the two of us that are things I've never found in anyone else, that are so random, it's almost impossible to believe. So, we dated for a short time, and it was perfect. The only problem was, I'm an atheist and she was a Mormon at the time, and she felt she had to stop communicating with me so she could go off and marry a Mormon dude, which she did a few months later. I was heavily into this girl and decided that instead of trying to fight, I needed to let her go and live a little. She needed the time to do what she felt she needed to do, because I always knew she wouldn't be in this mindset forever. So, after a little while of not talking to her, I started to try and find her (this is when the internet started becoming a usable tool). Over the next 20 years, I was never able to find her. I tried EVERYTHING. I never stopped thinking about her, and never let my feelings go, but had them shoved away, in the back of my mind, while I had 3 major relationships. I had two serious girlfriends, one with whom I had a kid, and got married 10 years ago, which is now ending. The end of last year, I finally was able to contact this girl, who has been married the last 20 years, and is also now trying to end her marriage. She's no longer a Mormon and her marriage is not healthy for a few big reasons. So, we've been talking the last year, and have once again become really close, but she's having a really hard time with her situation because she's been with that guy for so long and they have kids, etc. So, while we have feelings for each other, and I could very well be with this person under different circumstances, she doesn't know what's going to happen with her marriage, and if she does end it, she doesn't want to jump into anything for a while, anyway -- which is understandable. And on top of that, I now live in another country, but would move back for this girl, immediately. So, I feel like I'm an idiot if I don't wait a while to see what happens, but also feel like an idiot if I do wait, because her marriage might not end (which, for her, I really hope it does, despite what that means for me), and who the hell knows how much time she'd need to want to see me. It's such a fucked up situation, but there's honestly nothing else I'd want other than to be with this girl.
I've fallen inlove with him for almost 3 years now,,, he's talented, he's funny, he's everything... He's being way too social for anyone, I don't know what to do...I started to hurt myself...But thanks to you, I let my pain go
Here’s the thing, I’m still in love with him and I stopped chasing him but I’m gonna live with the fact that the love of my life is gone and he’s not coming back and I’m stuck with his kid I can’t just move on. I started a family with him thinking he loved me just as much but he couldn’t handle it and he broke my heart into a million pieces that will never be fixed, I know he’s not my only option I’m dating someone else but that boy, I will forever love him.
I know a girl who was in my high school for several months and at the end of the year she moved back to Latvia that happened 3 years ago and I still love her to this day
I've liked her for like 2 years now her personality is amazing she makes me feel happy just by seeing her smile but she can do 100000000% better than me so im going to just let her go she will be happier than being with me 😔
I'm currently in this situation. Except this person doesn't know I feel this way and I barely talk to her. I have severe depression but let me tell you, whenever I see this person my heart is on the floor. I won't even try or give myself the chance. So I guess I'll never know what she would say if I just said how I felt. And that's messed up. God help me.
Genesis Angulo why stay in this toxic situation? you could either confront her about it because she may not realize it or just leave don’t keep hurting yourself like that
I'm very reserved and have high standards. I met a man who pursued me relentlessly, until he became my best friend. I let my guard down for him and started to fall in love with him like no one else before. It was overwhelming so I finally told him, he was flattered but he chose to be with another girl. I don't even understand what happened. It's like he likes the thrill of the chase. It's so hard trying to forget him especially that we have friends in common.
I wouldn't mind, except it seems to have dominated the last 17 years of my life, lol... And yes I have moved on in life. I have a good life. My heart just made its mind up, or maybe it's me being obsessive...
I fell in love a couple of times before, but never had the courage to tell them how I truly feel about them. They never hinted on being in a relationship; we do some things together, and over time, I develop strong feelings for them although I never did tell them. When I finally get the chance and courage to tell them how I truly feel about them at the next time we hang out, they drop the bombshell that they're already in a relationship. It hurts like hell to tell someone your true feelings for them and they don't feel the same way, but the most painful feeling that I've felt a couple of times is having these feelings for them and never get the chance to tell them in which it will be too late. I guess this is what it means to fall in love with someone that you can't have.
I'm really gay for my friend... she's never been in love, so there's still a chance but she's falling for an older guy and I hurts so much to know I will never have her.
she will never like you back quit wasting your time
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I can’t understand why I can’t get over this person. It’s been 5 years, I have met other people, loved other people but at the end I find myself loving this person all over again, or maybe I have never stopped. I have liked other people that don’t like me back and I get over it quickly. But this person, this damn person has a power over me that I can’t explain. Am I never gonna stop loving this person?
It happened with me... I have been feeling as if I’m bisexual lately. I fell in love with my best friend in another country. But sadly... she already has a girlfriend who is one of my best friends. It hurts so much knowing I can’t have her. I’ve always been heterosexual... ever since her. I just don’t know what to do and I can’t talk to anyone. She was the only one I talked to about my problems and now I have nothing. I can’t talk to my parents as they think I am heterosexual and I am scared. I thought commenting would help me...
I’ve fell in love with this one girl, the best personality... but she has a boyfriend and they have been together for over 3 years. We have a really close relationship but I don’t want to ruin it by telling her how I feel
but I... I still love him😢 he used to love me but I didn’t love him when he did, I missed my chance and now he has a girlfriend who I can’t stand. He’s moving across the country this summer and idk what to do. I want to be with him forever ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😭😭😭😭😍😍😍😘😘😘
This has to be one of the most heartbreaking thing anyone can go through. Not only the he/she doesn't like him/her back, but also knowing that other people like me, who constantly hate themselves and obsess over someone exist. I always feel pathetic. Pathetic cos I can't find love and pathetic cos I bring myself down for being the way I am
I like someone a lot. From the start I tried not to pursue that person, because I was really depressed and a bit bitter. I didn’t want to use him as a crutch to make me happy. I wanted to fix myself first, so if we did date I could support him and him supporting me. We had the same job and every time I saw or spoke to him I would just melt. I ended up liking him more and more. I can’t recall liking a guy like this in years. I didn’t know I had that feeling anymore. I ended up having to quit that job. Life got a bit harder. I wrestled with my roommate/best friend trying to stop her from swallowing pills and I was dating someone who was mentally abusive for both of us. Months later, my roommate and I are happy. The only thing is, I wish I could have perused him when I could and when he liked me back. I think about him almost everyday. It’s innocent thoughts. I try so hard to forget about him and move on or think of reasons why I shouldn’t be with him. I can’t though and it’s frustrating.
Thank you so much. You made me go from crying hardly to thinking rationally. I mean its for a reason it isnt working out, may be it seems perfect but it isnt. You have someone much better looking out for you. ♥️🤗
I like someone who lives so far away and is famous. Im not having a fan love anymore. I srsly inlove in him. And i cant help cause this is the 1st time ever felt, a heart beat and this feelings of not being able to get over or move on or just let go
You got nothing to lose, Jahki. But you can be sure that if you don't go talk to them, you could regret it for many years. This video might help: ruclips.net/video/RKPieTEeu94/видео.html
This has happend to me, I can’t get over this girl. She is 3 years younger than me and her dad claims”she’s too young to date”. And I love her, we have talked all together for about 6 months now. But I recently ended it telling her to unadd me on Snapchat so I couldn’t keep up with her or message her, and she did and I miss her so much...
I think I’m in love with this one girl I don’t think it’s a crush because I don’t like her bc of her looks I like her bc she’s smart and nice but I’m pretty sure she doesn’t wanna be in a relationship and I know for a fact I don’t have the balls to ask her I’m not asking for help I just needed to tell someone.
I think two things are involved in getting fixated with somebody unattainable ordinarily,one thing is challenge and the other thing is the unattainable person may be special in quality that is not available in usual circle. After all ease of availability is not the criterion, quality is the king.
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Some say "the greatest tragedy in life is when you meet the right person at the wrong time."
well its actually tru.
sometimes life just want to fuck you up
its bloody true =(
That is me...
Fuck am there!! Then what happens next?
Bloody true and I hate the feeling..
It's killing me every moment.
How I wish I never get close to her.
Falling in love is something that is very hard to control. When you got stuck with someone, it's really hard to find a way out. I tried staying away, kept myself busy... but the memories of us together are just too much to handle.
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Ben Alexander :)
its very understandable but its more reason to create better memories with new people and soon u will forget..maybe not forget but eventually the power of those memories will.no longer have a hold on you because u will find happiness in the present and not the past..its like playing a broken record..but u will find a way to write n whole new song and it will sound better x
yea it is very hard to let go of your true love but it has to be donr
Rolly Valdez true.
The Legends Academy 7
I remember my professor saying that, the worst feeling in the world is when you both love each other, but you can't be together
Really this is the worst feeling ever 😞
Yes my situation right now
It’s true
Lol I hate the way I think is like this:
“there’s plenty of fish in the sea so forget them” but then I think “I want this one specific fish tho”🤷🏽♀️😂
Just try other fish, you never know they might surprise you! Lol literally
Looool same here
Yes!
Bro I start to think ,that theres so much fish in the sea and I love this one so mutch
There is 7 billion “fish” in our sea but she is my ocean
The problem is that I don’t have the time and money to travel around the whole world to find another person like him.
Terrance Mak Exactly...I don’t even travel how am I going to meet anyone if it took me 22years to mert him.
Me too
Believe me, there's so many boys, like him o better than him.
That's your problem...you're comparing others to him. Everyone is unique.
Agree
No matter how many people you meet, you will always be drawn to that one person and most of the times you can never tell why.
i’ve fallen in love with someone i can’t have..
I think at some point in life we’re all gonna have to go through that.
Falling in love is nothing, someone falling in love with you is something, falling in love with the person in love with you is everything
having the person you love stuck in your head, the memories you have with them, the thoughts of what you should’ve done when they were in your arms, and what you could’ve done differently to take advantage of having them with you at that time, and then realizing you’ll never be with them again, is the most heartbreaking shit I’ve ever gone through, and i don’t know how I’ll heal
Why stay hung up over a married woman when I could get with any girl I want?
Because that wouldn’t be love. To me that isn’t love, it’s just some fling that isn’t even worth fighting for. When I met this girl, she was literally EVERYTHING I COULD EVER ASK FOR. It’s more than just physical attraction, my love goes deeper beyond that. And when you’re THAT deep in love, you convince yourself that’s the only kind of love you want, and you won’t settle for anything less.
If you’ve never felt this love, you wouldn’t understand.
"you convince yourself that’s the only kind of love you want"
So convince yourself you need a different kind of love that has a happier and healthier outcome :)
@@TheLegendsAcademy no that won't be right. Like me and my crush, I only want him *NOBODY ELSE* makes me feel the way he does. It's breaks my heart that I can't have him 😭💔
Tracey Raymundo no totally understandable because i dont love him that much but i know that i only chose him
Chloe its not nobody else find things that youll be proud of i do understand that but just try
I know a girl which is everything I could ever ask for. She is not interested....
I fell in Love with my Best Friend. She is amazing. but doesn't see me in the same light. I need help moving on.
I nobody should tell you to change yourself or be somebody else but work on your confidence work on your life make your life the best that it could possibly be in all aspects not just money wise and you will see you will get so much female attention and she will see that you are very confident and she will start to like you if you eventually ignore her and just a little bit and show her that you are enjoying life with other women but by that time maybe you won't want her anymore because you will realise your own worth
I disagree with the previous comment, on the sense that you shouldn't attempt to make her love you if she can't love you. Maybe there's something, maybe not. But if there's definitely nothing between you too (love-wise) then don't make your objective to make her love you. Find a way to be happy without her inside the plan. If not, learn that you can be. Also figure out if its just deep attraction or love, since both are very related and sometimes almost indistinguishable.
Key factor is to seek happiness not by denying her existence or situation with you, but by acknowledging she is there, but learning to find happiness still.
Be happy for her is she is doing well! One day you might discover the feeling wasn't eternal or always the same all the time. Or maybe you won't. I don't know.
But don't stay inside the ureciprocated feeling chamber for too long. Only long enough for yourself to get the feeling through, and maturing out, not by reason alone, but by heart itself, the way you feel.
I'm trying to get this thing through too. Call me a scientist. Cheers mate!
Exactly what I’m going through it’s sucks however she doesn’t really know I like but I feel like if I tell her she’ll find me weird and not want to be my friend
Don’t give up but don’t be vulnerable
Wholickdapusspuss I think walking away is most definitely the best option but not the easiest. I’ve been married 16 yrs. never cheated but have recently fallen slightly in love with another women. I work with her and have to see her everyday. I don’t think she feels the same way toward me but enjoys my company. The scary part about the entire situation is that she told me that she doesn’t sleep with married men. (Because I tried) yet..... she kissed me, because I asked. Mainly because I bought her a gift for her b-day. I’m very discombobulated. My wife is perfect. The other women is too.
Believe it or not, if you go out and meet other people, the person you were hung up on will start to notice you moving on and finding people that are much better. It is at this point that they may react to what you're doing. If they contact you, stay civil. Don't get angry or bitter because they came back asking you how your life's been. Be positive and tell them that you've been working on yourself and meeting new an interesting people. They MAY become more attracted to you. Why? Well, they don't want to lose what they had before.
It is at this point whether you want to talk to them again or not. Personally, I wouldn't. UNLESS they prove that they WANT to be with YOU and NO ONE ELSE. If they can't prove that, giving you "Oh, I don't know..." answers, tell them that you appreciate checking up on you, but you can't continue this kind of contact any further and if they ask why, be honest and tell them why. Tell them that you're looking for someone who doesn't want to give you "I don't know..." answer and they you want someone who actually want to be with you. You'd be surprised at how this kind of remark will impact their life.
Overall, you must remember that they're the ones who put you in this position in the first place and that you MUST move on if they're still playing games. Be the better adult in this situation, swallow all that you have and find someone greater than this person. It's actually good for both of you because you both move on and you both end up being with someone who you WANT to be with.
The only redemption they can show to you is that they need to prove that they WANT to be with YOU. Actions speak louder than words. They can talk all they want, but they need to show that they want you with their actions.
Unfortunately, most people are cowards and will do nothing, but will regret what they did. Let them regret all they want. It's time you move on to someone better than this person.
Good luck to all of you!!!!!
Thanks for this comment, i know what to do now in my situation.
I have let myself get dragged down by someone who loves me but is in relationship and can't choose.
But you just helped me with your advice.
Again, thank you
@@jonnoM1 this comment is everything I need to hear right now.
conkervertex thanks mert
Conkervertex thanks mate..you help me a lot with this comment..a really pieces of advise that i need for myself 😊
Everything I needed to hear
I'm totally hung up on a guy who's in a relationship right now. I'm freaking out about when I'll see him again or if he suddenly disappears if I'll ever hear from him. I think about him all day and go about my business trying to keep the thoughts of him away. He's so perfect to me in every way. I just wish I had a chance to make him as happy as she does.
Hi Kris
An update please
If you did get over him, what did you do?
It's literally the hardest thing ever. My best friend married the girl that got away and now I live with them. She recently told me that she has feelings for me as well. FML
Don’t do it, you’ll lose the best friend you ever had and you’ll never trust her. If she cheats on her husband with you she could do it to you as well. And she doesn’t know what real commitment is. This is the worst thing you can do to yourself, to her and definitely to your best friend. Have faith hopefully one day you’ll meet someone who’s just right
Dinosaur94 hope but in a tricky situation
Fuck - you better get out of there - this was a year ago so I wonder what happened - you probably fucked
@@BananaNutCream omg bro on fire
@@BananaNutCream 🤣
I was in this situation, it sucked. I had to reflect on it and it was a whole week of feeling crappy. Sometimes it still hurts to think about it lol
Crecencio V hey hey I’m in this position right now, want to pop in some words of wisdom?
A week? I’ve been there for 2 years.
Grace Lambrecht you feel better man?
A week? You lucky sob
Lucky you. I was in love with someone I couldn’t have for years.
You will have many soul mates but only one twin flame. Sometimes even if it hurts you must let them go because it is for the best interest of both parties. You can't avoid falling in love. You certainly cant avoid meeting your twin flame if you're that lucky. But when you love someone so much you just want them to be happy and not be alone even it is being with someone else .
I like what you are saying, it makes so much sense..... But is it that easy.....? I am battling
😭.....💔
I'm a girl who fell in love with a girl I can't be with. She says that she'll be mine one day but she's with a guy. I hate it. I love her so much but it's hard when she's whispering I love you at night to another person. It absolutely crushes me
That one thing called HOPE, is a nasty lil thing
Life goes on without the feeling of deep love and passion for someone. It’s better when someone loves you more than you love them
The thing that makes it so hard is, that you can’t just stop with loving someone. You can’t just move on. I mean you can try but it’s not something you can do in a month. Moving on is hard, loving someone is hard.
It is extremely difficult to overcome. I really liked this girl. She liked me back as well. She told me how handsome I was and I tell her how beautiful she was....but she never wanted to be with me.
I've made moves. We were intimate. We had a really strong mental, physical and emotional connection, but...she just didn't want to go there with me. So, we stopped talking. No need to fight for someone who doesn't want to go to that level with you, y'know?
She ended up dating some other guy. But...she's still attracted to me. I can tell. Leaving me Snapchat selfies (specifically sent to me), liking my statuses and even messaging me. I had enough and just cut her off. I don't respond, make myself unavailable and just occupy my time with meeting other women and working out at the gym to better myself. I'm already good looking as it is, just a bit lean. I'm going to gain about 15 pounds of muscle to better my appearance and build even more confidence with the trainer who's training me. I also got into rock climbing and snowboarding. So much fun!
I think I will be "the guy that got away" when it comes to her and at this point. She deserves someone like that that will make her regret her decisions. I really think that her and that guy won't work out. I just have that gut feeling. If it doesn't, then you can be sure she will come back my way to "check up on me" in an attempt to get my attention and validate herself to me.
No. No more.
I'm finding someone much better than her because I deserve better. It's time karma hit her hard and I find someone awesome.
Very inspiring! Wish more of the replies were like this :)
Trust me, it still isn't easy for me. I think about her. A lot. It's only natural because I really care about her. I WANT to be with her. But at this point, it's not worth it. Why reward her with someone great like me when she lost me in the first place? It was HER actions that put us in this situation, not mine.
Right. Just like a man who wants a woman to spend time with over and over again but always says , that they don't have relationship even if they have baby or the woman like me who loves a guy who never loves me back
Confused woman I am
i love my bestfriend he likes some else
I found the self-sabotage piece interesting because it’s a harmful protection mechanism that goes unnoticed unless exposed.
This is true. Very interesting how the mind works when it THINKS it's keeping you safe, but it can ACTUALLY be doing you harm...sort of...
Ben Alexander
I don't think I will ever find a person like who I'm in love currently.. he was so loving, open hearted, empathetic, caring, funny and sexy.. you just have chemistry with certain people that you can't find anywhere else and I'm not that often attracted to people.. it is deeply traumatic not having them around anymore..
I've been into so many relationships but I keep on falling and falling in love with that specific guy over and over again. It just means I REALLY like that guy and I want to get him no matter what.
Wish I saw this video 15 years ago.
Be glad you saw it now and not in another 15 years :)
Felix Thecat lol same
lol my crush have the same name as u i'm ded
But you survived. As we all do. :)
15 years?😭😭😭
I’ve been through too many relationships and I’d say I have learnt a lesson from them. I’ve learnt that I am wasting my time trying to get into a relationship because it won’t work out. People say that “there are plenty of fish in the sea” and they say that “there is always someone out there for you” but I have grown to become tired of loving
You don't waste your time and energy. When you love somebody. It's never a waste.
well I’ve loved someone for 2 years and they never loved me back but the problem is I still love them
No, you love the idea of being together with that person. It's fantasy. The reality is they don't love you and they're not thinking of you so why think about them?
i love this guy that i've been friends with for half a year now and we were talking for quite some time more than friends... and he'd be on and off he still every once and awhile flirt and i'd be stuck on him for even longer but after watching this video i'm came to conclusion that i have great social skills and it's time to move on and get through my head that he isn't he only guy for me that's there's many fish in the sea
Awesome news Lauren and good luck finding the right guy who appreciates you :)
Bravooo
lauren felton have you asked him out?
If you want my advice never love someone that you can't have otherwise you will be like me crying every night.
Same
It's really hard to let go. Until now i am in the process... So help me God🙏
I wish I knew this sooner.
I recently just fell for someone i couldn't have, we were flirty and it seemed like she was into me, even the people around me thought she was but she soon revealed she has a boyfriend so yeah I'm pretty shattered right now and she still wants to be good friends which is difficult because i don't want to say no to being her friend and let her down when she says she needs the connection we have. :/
Or just don’t bother with dating at all. It’s not worth all the hassle and pain.
How do you do that?
it's really not that easy to forget someone that you felt in love with 💔
cuz even you tryin to forget by doing things that you love ex. sports , art ... or whatever there's always some memories that stuck on your head that you can't forget ..
I've meet this girl who is beautiful, smart and funny I lover her so much but unfortunately she doesn't see me like that more like a brother ... 💔
now I'm trying to forget her that's why I've been searching for videos to help but nothing works
its not about "if you had the option to find someone else", because sometimes you just don't want anyone else, because the person who you love is just perfect for you.
I'm a middle schooler, which I've been told is the hardest part of all of school. I met this boy a couple of months ago and we just naturally talked to each other. Oddest thing ever since he is the hottest and most popular guy in my grade and I'm not popular at all. I had never met him before and I had just assumed that he was popular, arrogant, and good at sports. But he was really nice to me and it wasn't like he was being fake, it was so genuine. I couldn't help it, I fell for him after a single conversation in gym class. It did take a couple of days but I realized I actually like liked him. I kind of had a boyfriend at the time but not really we just hung out sometimes and I knew he liked me but I didn't really return that since he cries a lot and if I was with him I would be really embarrassed. I immediately told all of my friends, screw that boy that liked me he wasn't very popular anyway, drop everything, I like Mr. Hotshot now. The problem was that about half of the girls in my grade were also crushing on him, I knew I didn't have a chance with this boy but I lied to myself that I did. One day in December I was tired of waiting and lying to myself. Me and this boy hadn't talked in person for quite a while. I foolishly asked one of my friends to message the boy that I liked him. I was naive and I still am. He is the first crush I've ever had. And dO yOU kNOw WhaT tHAt BOy sAId?
He said: ok
I was pretty triggered and I messaged him, kinda tried to argue but he wouldn't because he is really nice. I just said sorry about the whole thing and he was like its ok, its fine. He never actually regected me but I'm not that dumb, I know I should give up and move on but for some reason I can't. Its like I'm addicted to him. If I see him I get that fluttery feeling in my stomach and I can't help but to stare at him EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. I get constantly teased by my friends about it and this other boy that literally told the boy we were talking about him in class yesterday. I'm not sure why he has to make me look worse to the kid anyway he already doesn't like me back.
Basically, I'm madly in love with the most popular boy in my grade, I know I can't have him but I an addicted to him and I can't get over it. I have no idea what to do. Please help.
It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
I actually have a chance with multiple girls already and i know that i can get anyone of them if i want to but this one girl is so damn special that it makes me go crazy. The irony is that she has a bf and i don't know what to do, i could choose to move on and get any other girl with my skill but i am so deeply into her and i know that she is my half in this world for sure
Crazy thing is alot of the things you said in this video are you 100% true and it honestly made me feel so much better knowing others feel the same way I do and you have the key to relieve this feeling! Thankyou.
I have prospects. I've dated. There's just this one - so much in common. We enjoy each other's company, but she's been in her own relationship with someone she can't have. I became the "weekend warrior." I had to walk away. I still don't stop thinking of her. I still date, and even try to invest in those potential relationships, but none of them are as satisfying as the prospect of being with...her. I know I can't change her mind, and frankly I closed the door politely but hard. It's insane that despite focusing on my life, my job, and other women, I can't escape the ghost of her.
Honestly nobody I liked has ever liked me back so falling and love and having it work out and having the person you really really like actually feel the same seems so impractical and far from my standards
What I am learning is that sometimes you have to let go you'll do greater harm to the friendship by trying to force the pieces to the puzzle together when they don't fit there is such a thing as acceptable losses properly categorizing how people fit in your life and putting them in those positions will make life much simpler
I fell for him before he was taken... I just backed out of telling him I liked him, my heart hurts
It hurts when I see him... I actually PHYSICALLY hurt. Please make it stop...
Falling in love is not a choice . But just keep trying , keep on loving , maybe it will be better the next time around
I been liking this person for three years I finally had the courage to tell him that I liked him but I found out he is dating but he likes me he confuses me a lot by his actions I haven’t talked to him because I don’t want to ruined his relationship but I feel it’s time to move with someone who likes me and I like them
I can't stop liking this guy. Didn't even like him AT ALL when I first met him. He already has a gf and is quite respectful of her. He was the first one to understand me and make me feel safe. This emotional attachment has made me fall for him and I can't get out. It makes me sad and jealous when he's with his gf I want to cry. It messes up my day. Why can't I get over him. Why do I keep thinking its only him? I'm stupid and can't even express these feeling to him. I feel so lonely.
I like someone I can't have but I have decided that's she's the only one for me and if I can't have her then I won't have anyone else
That sounds romantic...and would be great in a movie...but I'm not sure how much it's gonna help you in real life
It's kinda like if you saw a car you really liked, but someone bought it before you could, and you say "If I can't have that car, I'm not going to have any car at all..."
All it means is you end up walking, biking, taking a bus, cab etc...but it just makes it a lot harder to get on with your life...
So you can make that decision if you want...and you might feel that way for now...but chances are, if you are prepared to put in the work, you can find someone who is even more suitable for you so both you and the person you can't have can be happy and no one has to lose...make sense?
Ben Alexander
Perfect response!
that's how I feel if I can't have the one I will stay by myself
Lisbon 67 me too
It truly rips me apart not being able to be with the girl I love. Shes my bestfriend and and she has no idea Ive fallen madly in love with her. It tears my heart apart everyday I breathe. I often feel like leaving this life so I dont have to deal with the pain. My mind mocks me with thoughts and images of her with other guys, its terrible! I have breakdowns most days. I have bad dreams and I become isolated alot. I just want her to appear in front of me. I love her intensely and I would do anything for her love back.
That's always me. Love someone so deeply. You can't have.
The difficulty lies in knowing if the person really is unavailable to you. I have this mad, deeply emotional connection with a married man, and while nothing has happened physically it seems like he realizes that I'm actually the woman of his dreams. He might divorce her, and we really do belong together. It's not like these things don't ever happen?
Andrea Koch
I am in a similar boat, but are both women and she is the married one.
Andrea Koch if you are the woman of his dreams he will divorce her and he will be with you but if he didn't do it then that's your answer honey.... if you are married to somebody how you feel that they have strong emotional connection with another woman...
. you will feel hurt.... so if he can do it to her and he will do it to you... move on with your life be happy find someone else if you supposed to be together then God will make it happen but to continue to talk to him may cause more problems
i know she's not the only option
i know i can end up really liking and caring and wanting to be with another person
i know i can live a life with somebody else and everything
but the thing is
you can tell when that person you can't have brings up the best of you and makes you feel the strongest feeling you have ever felt and you just don't want to keep searching for that in somebody else because you know you won't find it
If I have infatuation with someone, I’m going back with this video
I saw this girl from a tournament, I searched her up because she looked amazing on social media. Now I can’t get over her. She came from overseas to play and she lives in a completely different country. I can’t get over her. I felt a connection even tho I didn’t even talk to her. I feel like she is the only girl that I will ever like and the crush from my school just faded away because I was so into this girl. We’ve never talked at all. We don’t even know eachother and I just need help 😪
So true! Believe in yourself first.
I'm glad i clicked on this video. Encourage me to move forward
I liked a person that lived far away from me and when we met we found out that we were cousins. We kept it secret relationship and it got closer and closer and I started to fall in love, but we both realized that could never go to far because we were related
i don't think anyone can be irreplaceable, i just couldn't handle it if i lose him and never be able to talk to him again, i just don't want to look for a better someone
You are so right! I am getting out of a situation like this! Far distance relationships , sometimes, are too far! Thank you for the video!
Sometimes when you love someone very bad very deep you cannot forget it that easy you cannot jump from one to one and the easy way
No ones liked me since the kindergarten and now I’m in 9th grade. So to all you people saying that it’s “embarrassing” to have your crush like you back, look at me. I can’t even have a crush because I don’t have a chance with them at all. Heck, one of my crushes actually turned out to like my best friend. It hit me hard, I was depressed because of this and I still am. Even though I’m a straight A student, I’m lonely. And that’s probably even worse. I always turn over to look at the boys who can catch the best girls in no time. So just be happy that your crush likes you back no matter what, because I’ve never experienced that feeling before.
Job Beckys well my crush is straight and I have no chance either, but how would you know that there is no one crushing on you, maybe there is but it doesn’t seem like you notice it because you just focus on things you like and not the people around you
I fell in love with someone thousands of miles away it started as a friendship over the internet. We both were obsessed with each other... there were so many ups and downs and we made promises that we will always stick together face every storm we were addicted to each other and then lot of things happened that shouldn’t have happened and I blame myself for it...Now we’re both strangers to each other but you can’t replace someone you love you can never forget that person that feeling that memories... He used to say “together till 2057”
Yes it happen to me lately. I met this woman and i really loved her and she was so right for me plus we got on ever so well untill she told me about her boyfriend? It was like my heart was torn out of my chest. It really hurt. She liked me but not the same way i liked her. She is happy with her boyfriend. So yes i have been there....many times.
I’m pretty much dealing with the same thing
I have a friend she likes me I like her she has a bf
We have actually the same situation
the king same
Murk him
I'm inlove with someone since our childhood days. I've had the opportunity to talk to her because of my bestfriend that has connection to her. Up until now, i carried that same feeling i had for her until i realized that she already have someone else. Hearing those words made my world shattered. She is the only girl i've had feelings since childhood up until now. Now, i don't know how to cope with my situation. Every time i think of her, every time i'm seeing her picture, made me cry everyday. Made me realized that i can't have her. Even if i confess my love for her, still doesn't change everything. She's still my childhood love.
Was dating someone, going well and then when I started getting feelings, she suddenly ended things. Goddamit.
She puts hearts on my coffees, and constantly puts me in a situation where I make her day just by coming in and seeing her but has a boyfriend and probably won’t chose me over her mans
I bet mostly everyone experience this kind of situation. And one-sided love is really awful. By the way, good advice man. :)
I fell in love with a person that was on the other side of the world. We liked each other, but it was getting to painful for me because we knew we wouldn’t end up together. I told him that we should stop talking to each other, but he kept trying to be my friend because he didn’t want to lose our relationship. We still couldn’t say I love you as friends. One day we were talking about our past and he was laughing and I was trying to laugh. I started crying and he kept on asking me why do I like him again. I couldn’t say that I fell in love with him and I couldn’t say we should stop being friends. So I told him I had to go do something and ended the call. That happened today and I don’t know if this is the end of us
My situation is a little different. I'm falling in love with someone I fell for when we actually did date 20 years ago. This girl was perfect, in literally, almost every way, and there are things about the two of us that are things I've never found in anyone else, that are so random, it's almost impossible to believe. So, we dated for a short time, and it was perfect. The only problem was, I'm an atheist and she was a Mormon at the time, and she felt she had to stop communicating with me so she could go off and marry a Mormon dude, which she did a few months later.
I was heavily into this girl and decided that instead of trying to fight, I needed to let her go and live a little. She needed the time to do what she felt she needed to do, because I always knew she wouldn't be in this mindset forever. So, after a little while of not talking to her, I started to try and find her (this is when the internet started becoming a usable tool). Over the next 20 years, I was never able to find her. I tried EVERYTHING. I never stopped thinking about her, and never let my feelings go, but had them shoved away, in the back of my mind, while I had 3 major relationships. I had two serious girlfriends, one with whom I had a kid, and got married 10 years ago, which is now ending. The end of last year, I finally was able to contact this girl, who has been married the last 20 years, and is also now trying to end her marriage. She's no longer a Mormon and her marriage is not healthy for a few big reasons.
So, we've been talking the last year, and have once again become really close, but she's having a really hard time with her situation because she's been with that guy for so long and they have kids, etc. So, while we have feelings for each other, and I could very well be with this person under different circumstances, she doesn't know what's going to happen with her marriage, and if she does end it, she doesn't want to jump into anything for a while, anyway -- which is understandable. And on top of that, I now live in another country, but would move back for this girl, immediately. So, I feel like I'm an idiot if I don't wait a while to see what happens, but also feel like an idiot if I do wait, because her marriage might not end (which, for her, I really hope it does, despite what that means for me), and who the hell knows how much time she'd need to want to see me. It's such a fucked up situation, but there's honestly nothing else I'd want other than to be with this girl.
I've fallen inlove with him for almost 3 years now,,, he's talented, he's funny, he's everything... He's being way too social for anyone, I don't know what to do...I started to hurt myself...But thanks to you, I let my pain go
Alternative 4: Being gay/bisexual and falling in love with a straight person.😥
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Oh shit that must be hard.
Here’s the thing, I’m still in love with him and I stopped chasing him but I’m gonna live with the fact that the love of my life is gone and he’s not coming back and I’m stuck with his kid I can’t just move on. I started a family with him thinking he loved me just as much but he couldn’t handle it and he broke my heart into a million pieces that will never be fixed, I know he’s not my only option I’m dating someone else but that boy, I will forever love him.
I had a crush On a Girl for 2years Than she got married,
My hearth is brok
I’m in the same situation right now.
@@Losteternityx same here
I know a girl who was in my high school for several months and at the end of the year she moved back to Latvia that happened 3 years ago and I still love her to this day
I've liked her for like 2 years now her personality is amazing she makes me feel happy just by seeing her smile but she can do 100000000% better than me so im going to just let her go she will be happier than being with me 😔
I'm currently in this situation. Except this person doesn't know I feel this way and I barely talk to her. I have severe depression but let me tell you, whenever I see this person my heart is on the floor. I won't even try or give myself the chance. So I guess I'll never know what she would say if I just said how I felt. And that's messed up. God help me.
She gives me signals but then she pushes me away and then she does the same thing over and over again. I need help
Genesis Angulo why stay in this toxic situation? you could either confront her about it because she may not realize it or just leave don’t keep hurting yourself like that
that's very typical. she's insecure. be patient, nice and mature
Walk away
I HAD THE SAME ISSUE. He’s overall a good person but he was just playing w my feelings bc he was insecure so I said BYE
Im in the same situation
I'm very reserved and have high standards. I met a man who pursued me relentlessly, until he became my best friend. I let my guard down for him and started to fall in love with him like no one else before. It was overwhelming so I finally told him, he was flattered but he chose to be with another girl. I don't even understand what happened. It's like he likes the thrill of the chase. It's so hard trying to forget him especially that we have friends in common.
I wouldn't mind, except it seems to have dominated the last 17 years of my life, lol... And yes I have moved on in life. I have a good life. My heart just made its mind up, or maybe it's me being obsessive...
Falling in love with my friend... Only to find out she has someone else....
And she left me heartbroken, on that rainy tuesday
im on a situation where i cant see myself falling in love again, i just dont know why 😂
I fell in love a couple of times before, but never had the courage to tell them how I truly feel about them. They never hinted on being in a relationship; we do some things together, and over time, I develop strong feelings for them although I never did tell them. When I finally get the chance and courage to tell them how I truly feel about them at the next time we hang out, they drop the bombshell that they're already in a relationship. It hurts like hell to tell someone your true feelings for them and they don't feel the same way, but the most painful feeling that I've felt a couple of times is having these feelings for them and never get the chance to tell them in which it will be too late. I guess this is what it means to fall in love with someone that you can't have.
I'm really gay for my friend... she's never been in love, so there's still a chance but she's falling for an older guy and I hurts so much to know I will never have her.
I feel like I will never have the same feelings to anybody. Like she is the only person I will ever want to be. Like I can only be happy with her.
I fell in love with a coworker who is taken and I have a feeling she would never like me back
she will never like you back quit wasting your time
I can’t understand why I can’t get over this person. It’s been 5 years, I have met other people, loved other people but at the end I find myself loving this person all over again, or maybe I have never stopped. I have liked other people that don’t like me back and I get over it quickly. But this person, this damn person has a power over me that I can’t explain. Am I never gonna stop loving this person?
They have no power over you that you don't give to them. It might be time for you to take the power back, and your happiness too :)
It happened with me... I have been feeling as if I’m bisexual lately. I fell in love with my best friend in another country. But sadly... she already has a girlfriend who is one of my best friends. It hurts so much knowing I can’t have her. I’ve always been heterosexual... ever since her. I just don’t know what to do and I can’t talk to anyone. She was the only one I talked to about my problems and now I have nothing. I can’t talk to my parents as they think I am heterosexual and I am scared. I thought commenting would help me...
I’ve fell in love with this one girl, the best personality... but she has a boyfriend and they have been together for over 3 years. We have a really close relationship but I don’t want to ruin it by telling her how I feel
but I... I still love him😢 he used to love me but I didn’t love him when he did, I missed my chance and now he has a girlfriend who I can’t stand. He’s moving across the country this summer and idk what to do. I want to be with him forever ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😭😭😭😭😍😍😍😘😘😘
This has to be one of the most heartbreaking thing anyone can go through. Not only the he/she doesn't like him/her back, but also knowing that other people like me, who constantly hate themselves and obsess over someone exist. I always feel pathetic. Pathetic cos I can't find love and pathetic cos I bring myself down for being the way I am
"Have you ever fallen in love with someone you cant have?" Thats just what being gay is called hun.
Yep, i just got over my crush, and now im crying for another guy, it sucks, i was so releaved that i got over him, and now this....
I like someone a lot. From the start I tried not to pursue that person, because I was really depressed and a bit bitter. I didn’t want to use him as a crutch to make me happy. I wanted to fix myself first, so if we did date I could support him and him supporting me. We had the same job and every time I saw or spoke to him I would just melt. I ended up liking him more and more. I can’t recall liking a guy like this in years. I didn’t know I had that feeling anymore. I ended up having to quit that job. Life got a bit harder. I wrestled with my roommate/best friend trying to stop her from swallowing pills and I was dating someone who was mentally abusive for both of us. Months later, my roommate and I are happy. The only thing is, I wish I could have perused him when I could and when he liked me back. I think about him almost everyday. It’s innocent thoughts. I try so hard to forget about him and move on or think of reasons why I shouldn’t be with him. I can’t though and it’s frustrating.
Thank you so much. You made me go from crying hardly to thinking rationally. I mean its for a reason it isnt working out, may be it seems perfect but it isnt. You have someone much better looking out for you. ♥️🤗
It's not 'rejection', it's 're-direction'
I like someone who lives so far away and is famous. Im not having a fan love anymore. I srsly inlove in him. And i cant help cause this is the 1st time ever felt, a heart beat and this feelings of not being able to get over or move on or just let go
She lives in front of my house.I really don’t know what to do 😢
Broo I like this girl so much I keep thinking of her all the time and when I do my heart warms
This one girl I been liking for a year in one of my classes but I’m really scared to ask her out or even talk to her😔
You got nothing to lose, Jahki. But you can be sure that if you don't go talk to them, you could regret it for many years. This video might help: ruclips.net/video/RKPieTEeu94/видео.html
This has happend to me, I can’t get over this girl. She is 3 years younger than me and her dad claims”she’s too young to date”. And I love her, we have talked all together for about 6 months now. But I recently ended it telling her to unadd me on Snapchat so I couldn’t keep up with her or message her, and she did and I miss her so much...
I want a girl I really like but I already know she would reject me in a heartbeat but I just can't stop looking at her
If your using alot of energi on Chasing a person you cant get. But getting to the goal was never a waste, but a gift.
I think I’m in love with this one girl I don’t think it’s a crush because I don’t like her bc of her looks I like her bc she’s smart and nice but I’m pretty sure she doesn’t wanna be in a relationship and I know for a fact I don’t have the balls to ask her I’m not asking for help I just needed to tell someone.
I think two things are involved in getting fixated with somebody unattainable ordinarily,one thing is challenge and the other thing is the unattainable person may be special in quality that is not available in usual circle. After all ease of availability is not the criterion, quality is the king.