Why Handsome Men Struggle
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- Опубликовано: 28 ноя 2024
- A lot of us handsome men started out as average or below average and thanks to puberty our physical appearance was improved which is great. BUT, there’s no hormone that’s going to change your perception of yourself. So although you mind have a handsome face your mind is still ugly.
Easy. Handsome guys are intimidating. people think they'll never messure up so they take the easy way out and ignore you. You have to be extra friendly and welcoming. Smile and intiate a lot or people will be scared of you.
Human beings are VERY sensitive to rejection. It's a very strong deterrent, even stronger than death itself. That's why a lot of teen off themselves b/c they feel like they been rejected by peers/society
Definitely true!
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In my case, I was always a pretty boy literally since birth. In high school, girls made it clear they liked me, but I didn't take advantage because I was insecure about being poor. In college, I struggled because the choosing signals were more subtle and I was too socially retarded to see them. I wasn't insecure about my looks, I was more insecure about my financial situation and personality. I thought I was boring and weird, and those thoughts manifested in my behavior.
Now I'm more nonchalant even when cold approaching. You're right about being patient and just acting how I would normally act instead of deploying techniques.
Yeah that’s true I can see how being poor would affect you as well, good point. And yeah patience is the corner stone of handsome men’s game!
you perfectly described what im going through right now. much love brotha
I began getting validation from girls early on in grade school, but I've always been picky. Even now in my 60's, that's still the case. Being tall and trim with a flair for style has been the key for my continued appeal.
So I had it from the age of 5 but that was a curse because I really had no talk game I didn’t need it girls didn’t even test me. until I hit around 28 then I needed to be able to talk and I couldn’t it took me 4 years to learn.
I get that I have a friend that’s like that. Everything comes with it’s good and it’s bad. But everyone has to learn to talk at some point to widen your options. I am curious though why did it take 4 years? Was there a particular problem holding you back?
That's where I am now
Definitely describes me. Had various good and bad phases when it comes to looks. Being ignored while chubby with glasses in middle school screwed up my mind up even when I got a growth spurt and contacts in HS. What happens now is I usually ignore girls, because mentally I'm thinking their ignoring me anyway like back then... but friends are always telling me how girls are looking at me. Missed out on countless opportunities, even with girls I actually wanted... all because I couldn't wrap my head around it.
Trust me bro I get it! But if people are telling you that then it’s TRUE! So you’re going to have to just be open to seeing it. Watch my how to talk to girls video it’s my first one ever. It’ll teach you what to expect and how the flow of conversation goes. Then watch my “Why You MUST Cold Approach Video” to give you some further perspective. You got it bro, the grapevines tryna let you know. Just believe it, you have NOTHING to lose! 💯
i remember having two girlfriends at the same time in kindergarten. i always knew i had it in me to attract the most pretty girls at a young age. now that im older and had a “glow up”, i realized when it all started when i never felt worthy and couldn’t see my potential. meditation works fellas, uncover that trama and unlock the life and beautiful woman you ever wanted
It’s called “the ugly duckling syndrome”. That’s the scientific term. You go through your adolescence and teens as average or below average, or at least you’ve perceived yourself to be this. Then later in life you grow into this beautiful swan, but it’s sadly an imagine you won’t see. Everyone else will think you’re more attractive than them, but in your mind you’re still that average boy/girl that struggled to make connections.. it’s a serious syndrome that requires extensive therapy…
i have the exact same problem, even if every single time I go out I get compliments and girls deep down I don't believe it and its so weird
Yeah it’s tough bro. And there’s a comment above where a guy is saying I don’t look like a model so I’m average. Idk what you look like but you might be comparing yourself to these models. But handsomeness/attractiveness starts way before that. There’s levels to it. And as a guy you will only think that another guy (or yourself) is attractive to women if he looks like another guy you already know women find attractive. Thats why trusting your experience is the answer, reality won’t lie to you but your mind will.
@@MarvOverMatter you’re rigth bro also with the presence of social media we are just comparing ourselves To other people with unrealistic standards and all that ruins our mindset
Bro, I'm too handsome, so sad 😔😭
Lmao. It’s a thing. What’s the issue you been having?
Should handsome men pay for dinners etc.. without being perceived by the woman that she's better than you.
Personally I don’t think you should pay on the first date. Now if she’s super feminine and pleasant to be around and you feel like you want to then do it. My opinion on the matter is I’m not paying for a stranger. We both don’t know each other and we’re both interested in getting to know each other so why would I pay for the fact that we are both interested in getting to know each other and she isn’t interested in getting to know me to cover just her half, then she’s not interested enough for me.
@@MarvOverMatter You're correct, paying for everything has always been my downfall. Some are shocked when they see me paying for dinners. like they were not expecting it
@MrSivram28 Yeah man keep your money to yourself. If you want to pay for your girl or your wife sure that makes sense she’s yours and hopefully she’s shown you she’s of value to your life. But don’t pay for a stranger who is more than likely entertaining other men while getting to know you.
That concept made sense back when women felt ashamed of dating multiple men and avoided it. But those days are over.
me when i have ugly both 💀💀
😂😂 chill
12:55 It's funny that society a lot works nowadays like that. We don't believe in X but it is enough that someone believes on behalf of us. Like we don't believe sincerely in things anymore because we know god is dead or there isn't any master narrative.
Gotta believe for yourself
No offense, but hard to take an average man seriously when he is sitting there talking like he’s a model, when he’s objectively not.
None taken. But this will be great inspiration for another video. You don’t have to look like a model to be handsome. Attraction/Handsomeness starts way before that, there’s levels. It doesn’t just go ugly - average - model.
Men judging another dudes attractiveness is crazy.
Maybe some men are bisexual!