It's Been A Weird Few Months.... Let's Catch Up
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- Опубликовано: 31 авг 2023
- Today's video is a chatty catch up - several said you'd love to hear what I've been up to whilst gone from Social Media so here we are. Hope you have a great day!
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Relatability in a world that seems to be “over-filtered” and glamourised is exactly what I’m looking for. Thank you 🙏
That ‘filter’ that is placed over social media can be so problematic. Most people don’t live perfect twee lives, yet even though we know this, it can be hard not to let comparisons creep in and make us feel almost inadequate. Many people are sick of the ‘highlight reels’ though, so I’m hopeful we might see a swing towards more realism.
I forgot to mention I sometimes hear the gentleman next door singing in the kitchen, but I sing in my kitchen sometimes too so they likely hear me!
Ooh I also forgot that back in October I said I was going to try and do a body re-composition - yeah well that didn't happen ha ha - I actually gained weight by allowing convenience food to creep in when working long hours. Never mind, such is life!
I am going to give you my two cents from experience. If you do not have a bathroom down stairs I would not take out the bathroom. As you get older the first thing that goes are your knees. I had a friend who became ill a few years ago and had no bedroom or bathroom downstairs. He could not manage the stairs, and after a while he had to go and live with a relative. If you are going to move no problem. I am sorry about the loss of your pet. I guess it is like the loss of a relative or friend it will get better eventually. Have a great weekend. Do not beat yourself up you are doing great.
Yes an estate agent was saying although on the whole downstairs bathrooms are largely unpopular in recent years they have been seen more favourably due to people needing to stay in their homes longer than planned due to the difficulties moving home these days. One of the issues is it’s cold in there without being heated all year round and if I had a bathroom upstairs I would never use the downstairs one (although I would keep a downstairs toilet). Yes grief does get better in time, never really goes away, just gets easier to live with x
Only now I could continue watching...and...wow...my admiration for you just skyrocketed!!! You too truly love animals.
I have a cat and can not put into words how this angel has helped me and taught me so many things.
The day he goes, I'll go...
Oh yes he was very much loved and was desperately upset when he passed. I would have risked my life to save him if there was a fire, very much a member of the family, not just a pet. Your cat sounds lucky to have you :) x
My dog is almost 14 and I totally understand your feelings 😢😢😢😢😢. Deep down I know that soon is going to happen and 😢😢life won't be the same
Oh I know that feeling. I’d thought many times that his time would be coming soon and would get upset at just the thought. Xx
This video actually made me subscribe. Thank you for sharing your views and staying true to yourself. And those are just the thing that also makes you relateable and interesting to hear. Would like that you post more, even when it's not so pretty or nice.
Also, your story about your puppy Charlie and what he means and how it is hard ... There are a lot of people that don't understand, but it's always so nice to see that there are equaly as many who do understand ... I've lost my dog suddenly when she was 11.5 years, and it broke me to pieces, she was my absolute soul dog, once in a lifetime, and it was in October 22, but I still have so much pain and saddness daily because of it ,,,,
Sending you so much love and hugs ❤ - I still have heartbreak over the sudden passing of my one fur baby many years ago, she was my everything. I went through overwhelming sadness plus I had sudden anxiety/panic attacks that I had never experienced before then.
Oh I'm sorry to hear that, they really are family members. Its horrible isn't it? I've had a lovely relaxing day reading in the garden today and yet still found myself shedding a tear as it was the type of day where Charlie would have seemed really content, chilling with me outside.
So lovely to have you back on the tube. I could listen to your life stories all day xx
Oh thank you! :)
Hello Kirsty! It’s nice to see you back and congratulations on your new job.Edit: really sorry about the loss of your pet.
Thank you! 😊 I'm really looking forward to this next chapter!
Hi Kirsty, so sorry to hear Charlie passed away 😢 sending lots of hugs your way. Good to see/hear you again, glad you’re doing okay 😊✨🤗🌷
Thank you, he was very much loved and will be missed for a long time x
I'm so sorry about your loss, Kirsty. And thanks for the update. I hope you're doing well in your new job and in your life in general.
Thank you for such a lovely comment, the job is going brilliantly so far I’m really enjoying it. It’s quite full on and still finding my feet, but feel very grateful 😊
This was lovely, like a catch-up with a dear friend. ❤ So sorry to hear about your loss. I have a cat, who’s 15 years old and cannot imagine life without her in it. 😢 I look forward to future videos - one can always tell you do this because you truly enjoy it and not because you have to.
Oh bless you, it's horrible isn't it? They get old before your eyes and you know they can't be with you forever but it never feels long enough x
Thank you for the update. You have certainly had a lot going on. All the best with your new job.
Thank you! I'm looking forward to this next chapter :)
You take care of yourself and thank you for all you have shared with us
Kirsty, thanks for such an honest and helpful video. Congrats on the new job. Condolences also on the loss of Charlie. I know you said you feel a little guilty about your long work hours but it seems to me like you gave him a lifetime of affection and happy memories and that shines through.❤❤
Thank you! I know you are right, I often didn't go anywhere on the days off I had, not least as I was struggling financially at the time, but also as I wanted to spend time with the dogs. They had the best of everything, nicer things than I have - le chameau beds for goodness sake lol. He was very much loved. xx
Thanks for the update! 😊
Thanks for watching!
Hi Kirsty, I lam glad to see you back and I could listen to you forever... your voice is so calming, you are very kind and honest and I can definitely relate to what you are saying. Im sorry for the loss of your furry friend and I can understand your state of sadness - losing friend/family member is never easy and yes thats what dogs are in my opinion!
*Would be so lovely to hear you saying slightly more about your style, its evolution as well as what is your direction in this matter now post decluttering. What is on your wish list if you have such or generally what items you feel you need or need to upgrade etc - shortly saying and putting it in your words a wardrobe plan... if that makes sense. As always warmest regards from CY!
Oh that's very kind of you to say, I agree they are definitely part of the family, much more than 'just a pet'. Yes I will give that some thought as to how I can put those things together in a useful format :)
Hi Kirsty. It was nice to catch up and I am so very sorry to hear about your sweet pup. Best of luck with your new job and new adventures!
Thank you, he really was so sweet bless him. I love my other dog too but he’s such a brute in comparison lol. X
It's so nice to see you back Kirsty.
I totally understand your pain over the loss of your pet. I have been there. I know how awful it can be.
I hope your new job works out well for you and look forward to hearing more from you.
Thank you, I started yesterday and so far I think it’s going to be fabulous. 😊
Lovely catch up thank you. Oh my goodness I hear you re the loss of your lovely dog, they stay in our hearts forever. You take care x
They really do! I think this one hit hard as he was the first pet that was solely mine if that makes sense, and he went through so many life events with me. It seems like he should have been here forever x
Great to see you back and that you got a new job in a field you want to be in. I am so sorry about the passing of your pet. I wish you the best moving forward.
Thank you so much!
love and healing vibes regarding your fur friend i know that loss my baz died at home too
It’s horrible when we lose them isn’t it? 🥲
So sorry Kirsty to hear about your wee dog…I have an elderly dog and am trying to enjoy her as much as possible, it’s heartbreaking losing a pet 😢 good luck in your new job and look forward to your next video x
Awww yes do just that with her, I knew he hadn't got long left really so he was spoilt rotten when I was with him. It just never feels long enough I think x
@@KirstyKirbyThe time flies from they’re a puppy it really does xx
Lovely to see you back again. Like others have said I’m really sorry for the loss of your dog. I have been through many times and it doesn’t get any easier. I understand your grief very much. As for your house, forgive me for saying but although I’m sure you’re enjoying living there, you’ve never seemed completely settled. I don’t do Instagram so obviously don’t see your content on there. I do enjoy your videos though, not so much the renovations or make up. So please if at all possible keep going on here. Congratulations on your new job I’m sure you’ll be great as you seem to put your heart and soul into all that you do. x
A large part of me not being settled here I believe is because it's not really the house I imagined I would buy in some ways (I didn't want a semi, or a conservatory or a downstairs bathroom but the market got so insane choices became more limited - it was the nicest house I viewed by some way though), and I absolutely did not imagine having to do major renovations as it was 'turn key' when I bought it. That said you have to do the best you can with wherever you find yourself, and there's no guarantee I'd have liked a different house better, but also having a lack of funds has meant I've not really been able to change anything so 'stuck' being unhappy yet unable to make even the simplest of changes.
You are such a warm, kind and smart person, Kirsty! So glad I found your channel! Regarding the house updates, similarly to buying clothes, which is often emotional, as opposed to looking for creating a “perfect home”, look into the updates that increase the value of the house the most, you will not regret it in any case!
That’s incredibly kind of you to say, glad to have you here.
On house things, I have to say I somewhat disagree. The house wasn’t bought as an investment particularly, my decision making was based on if I liked it not if I thought it would make me money. The most cost effective thing to do would be to leave it as is, but it makes me miserable. It’s a real shame because I liked it at viewing and is still the best house I viewed in my then budget by far. It’s just the compromises i made that I thought I’d be ok with, I’m absolutely not. Plus energy costs have rocketed so where the vendors just heated certain areas, it’s not actually very feasible any more. If I had been solely interested in ROI I would have purchased a cheap place to live in in a less desirable area, then another cheap one to rent out. Value increases are subjective as they are often based more on the market conditions at time of sale and renovations rarely provide a good return unless you stay in your home long term. It’s why so many flippers are so horrible - cheap finishes everywhere. I do agree there’s no such thing as a perfect home though, there’s always compromises even at super high budgets.
Hi Kirsty, I totally enjoyed this catch up. So sorry to hear about Charlie, my Tess was 16 1/2 when I lost her and she left a massive hole in my life. Good luck with your new job and I'm really glad you're back x
Awww sorry to hear about Tess. It doesn’t seem to matter how old they are, even when you know you are luckier than most to have them for so long, it never seems long enough xx
I’m so sorry for your loss, I can only imagine how hard it must be. His last moments were spent with his beloved mom 😔. I have a 16 yo beagle Maya, she’s in good health but I know she’s getting old and it could happen anytime. Take good care of you, focus on your exciting new job, and I hope we’ll get to hear from you occasionally. 😊
Its so sad isn't, Charlie was in good health overall just a bit more doddery than he used to be, like an old gentleman bless him. I read something that said something along the lines of the moment you bring home that dog is a tragedy as you are setting yourself up for the greatest heartbreak as their lives just aren't as long as ours.
Kirsty, I just discovered your channel today and wanted to say how much I appreciated this video. What I love is how you talk about the way you think about both the everyday and bigger stuff. There's a lot of integrity here as well as relatability!
Hi Laura, thank you so much for your lovely comment! I really appreciate the comments around integrity, I struggle at times as I know I could earn more by saying yes to random sponsorships, but it just feels wrong to me - stuff I like and buy, sure why not, buy stuff I’d never buy? I just can’t. Hope you have a lovely Christmas! Xx
Sorry to hear re Charlie. I have a cat 16.5 i have had since 4 months' old and she has done the same for me. Dreading her going. Lovely he went at home with you safe and loved . You gave him a beautiful life. I can so relate to you. I leave my cat long hours. X
It’s really awfully sad when they go, even though you knows it’s inevitable.
It’s good to see you again! I am so sorry to hear about Charlie. I lost my cat 6 months ago and still cry about it sometimes, he was my best bud. And I completely agree with you on the youtuber’s suggesting work or interview outfits, lol. I remember one where a woman, who works in the high fashion industry, recommended a hot pink mini skirt suit for your first interview 😂 made it really apparent how out of touch she was
Thank you, they become so very special don't they? I need to get myself settled in the new job but think I'll end up looking out for another at a rescue perhaps. Oh I know what you mean, I saw one recently and she was showing a see through shirt with nothing but a bra underneath. I can think of some work settings where this might actually be fine but she was talking about an office and 'corporate'. Another outfit with a short white tennis skirt. I could only assume she hadn't ever stepped foot in an office or understood what corporate actually meant. She seemed lovely but it was absolutely not appropriate for the vast majority of work environments.
So nice to listen to you again! ❤️
Thank you!
Glad you are ok. It’s so good to see you on again. Sorry for your loss. Looking forward to new videos.
Thank you, he was a sweetheart and very missed x
Yes...blessings on you and Charlie.
Thank you :)
I’m so sorry for the loss of your little dog 😢❤️ We lost our little fluff ball female dog (Maltese shih tzu) about 2 years ago to cancer, she was 10 years old, I remember the heartbreak. We now have a silly and funny rescue cat lol. I hope your other little dog is doing okay. If you’re staying in the house for at least another 3 years and can afford it I’d definitely put in a bathroom upstairs. Interest rates have finally settled here in Australia, they haven’t gone down but not gone up for the past 2 months. Hopefully they start to come down next year.
Congratulations on the new job!
Aww I'm sorry to hear about your dog, its absolutely gut wrenching when they go isnt it? I always knew the day would come as they live such short lives in comparison to us, but I don't think anything could have prepared me for just how blindsided I felt by the grief.
Its definitely on the cards if I find my feet again financially, in the meantime I'll do a few bits to make it a bit easier to live with, perhaps a really luxurious fluffy robe, some spa style towelling slippers and so on whilst also sorting out a few other rooms where it's just furniture and so on.
Nice you see you back... All the best to you!!!
Thanks! You too!
I can definitely relate with most of this, especially losing your poor dog 😢 It's the hardest thing. I'm a new subscriber and I've seen a few of your videos now, keep doing what you're doing. They're just.....normal everyday, problems I guess and I think it's ( without meaning to sound horrible ) nice to hear someone talk about these problems that so many of us can relate to.
It really is, I miss him most days, he really was the sweetest little thing.
No don’t worry I know what you mean, in some ways the normal things we all struggle with is part of what made RUclips great and a breath of fresh air. It’s a funny one relatability - my income level would likely be unrelatable to some now, either those who earn less or more, or for example one of the things I like to spend on is clothing, yet others perhaps value travel, but ultimately the vast majority of us at all income levels can’t really relate to someone who lives a life with a large income with little constraints on their time. I just got to thinking that someone even earning a 6 figure salary is somewhat more relatable to most than someone not working (in the traditional sense, content creation is most definitely still work) at all.
@@KirstyKirby Well, like you, I've had a pretty un-settled time with regards to career moves. Currently in a job that pays quite well, but I'm really not enjoying, hoping for a breakthrough soon into a career that really intrigues me. Also torn between doing up my house, or not bothering and just moving on. But then, tidying the house would help sell it, and potentially add value. We'll see. Keep doing what you're doing anyway, I look forward to your next video
@@benking9593 I’m not sure I believe in the whole ‘job I love’ thing we are all promised. I’ve done some of what were my dream jobs and after a while they were jobs, with many days I didn’t want to do it. Not offering career advice of any description and think everyone should strive for happiness, but I think we are often lied to when it comes to the find a job you love / is fulfilling / you’re excited to wake up for trope. If you’ve got a well paid job that’s not making life utterly miserable you are probably better off than most. That said I wish you the very best in your endeavour to find something you enjoy more!
@@KirstyKirby It's a bit of a long story, it's a place I've worked at before, albeit briefly, but I was enjoying it. I was then headhunted I guess and it turned my attention and I jumped ship. Rather quickly regretted it though, I've since jumped ship again to my current job, but I've now got the chance to go back where I was before. They were a good group of people and they seem pretty keen to have me back there. It's a very long winded process, but I'm thinking that if I do go back then I'll appreciate it more and hopefully make it a career I can stick with.
@@benking9593 Best of luck with it all 😊
You’ve got this girl! Sorry for your loss ❤
Thank you! X
I send you a big hug Kirsty. I’m just so very very sorry about Charlie passing. 😢😭😭
This video was very entertaining, loved it :)
Glad you enjoyed it!
One suggestion: transform the downstairs cold bathroom into a cellar, keep a bedroom and transform the smaller room into a bathroom!
Thank you so much for the suggestion, but I don’t want a cellar. Its not cold enough as cold storage either. It’s on ground floor level and would essentially just be a huge storage room off the utility. It would devalue the property as most people in the U.K. wouldn’t want that, it would be really unusual. Not sure what you mean about the smaller room, the smaller room I was referring to in the video is a bedroom. Thanks though.
Hehehe!!! I can understand what you list your cool about the snoring keeping you awake!! I’m glad it worked out for you. I have been wondering about that wall as well lol
I am VERY pleased to not hear that at night anymore, a lot of the time I don't even hear them at all at night now.
@@KirstyKirby yayayayay!!!!
Glad to see you back Kirsty! Much success to you moving forward💗
Thank you so much!!
Hello Kirsty! So nice to see you back! I've really enjoyed your budgeting/no buy content.
I'm sorry to hear about your pet passing away. I think of pets as part of family. So I wouldn't underestimate the amount of grief that one can have because of them.
When it comes to the renovation, I think you're doing the right thing by waiting it out. Perhaps, if I were you, I would try to find a cheap effective solution (e.g. a radiator or heater for the bathroom) and make do with what I have until I decide on what to do. However, I'm not a home owner. The good thing about being one is that you can change anything for it to suit your needs better! :) And the great thing about renting is that those kinds of options are sort of discarded, so I have to adapt to what I have now. And that means I have more money to spend on other things and I have the opportunity to find contentment.
Sending you lots of love and support on your journey!
Hi! They really are part of the family for sure. The bathroom is an odd one, it is one of the toastiest places in the house when the heating is on, but I don't really want to have the heating on in summer, not least since energy has become so insanely expensive. There are a few things we are going to do shortly, for example there is a ceiling extraction fan (which I never use) and it doesn't have any baffles on so its a bit like having a window cracked open all the time. I'm blocking that up in the coming weeks. Theres also the option of a washable rug to help the floor not being so chilly. I'm big in the camp of doing small alterations until you work out what to do. It's funny I rented for over a decade and couldn't wait for the day I could actually fix the annoying things, yet now I own this house I don't know what to do (in my defence though period properties tend to come with special weird things you have to work around lol)
@@KirstyKirby thanks for replying! Good luck with everything 🙌
I’m so glad you’re back! I actually stopped following you for a while because I wanted to be more abundance minded as you’ve been focused on budgeting but I kept on checking back in to see if you’ve posted precisely because you’re just so darn RELATABLE! Looking forward to following the rest of your journey!
Hi there, that’s really interesting to hear to be honest. For a while I felt like the only thing I could ever post was around strict budgeting or being ultra frugal (in part because when I didn’t I’d be attacked in the comments for not being ‘frugal enough’, ‘minimalist enough’ or so on) but my intention from now on is to just be completely myself 😊 Do I like being sensible with money and making decisions my future self will thank me for? Yes. Do I like spending money on quality items that matter to me and enrich my life (things that sometimes are not remotely considered frugal)? Also yes. It’s a balance for me. So hopefully that will be super relatable and offer a balance in the future. Thanks so much for watching x
@@KirstyKirby Wow! I didn’t know people could be like that… lol people surprise me every day! The opinions of people who don’t have what I want or aren’t at where I want to be are irrelevant. These people are generating what? 10 cents per view? Fuck the 10 cent opinions! Let them come out of the woodworks so you know exactly who to block and delete (I block and delete the first time someone shows me who they are so I don’t accidentally later invest energy in them or worse yet, consider their opinion because I tend to forget people’s trespasses).
I really relate to your difficulties of decluttering clothes from your younger days/previous “identities” (especially when some of the fashions are coming back!). I also resonate with the drawbacks in your current home and how the decision to stay or go affects what your current quality of life through renovation decisions.
You’re very reflective and are one of the rare few not only on the Internet but in life to speak the truth that only those who lived the experience can, most currently, with the reality of taking a lower paying job in hopes of doing more content at the side.
I know you’ll have an amazing life by being exactly who you are, not just from the “audience” you attract but most importantly from how you cultivate your everyday life (posting irregularly in contradiction to the algorithm so you can live your real life passions). Welcome back and keep goin’!
You have been missed, Kirsty. Your authenticity is very refreshing and shines through.
Thank you that’s very kind x
I love all animals but dogs are my 'favourite' animal. The unconditional love, the lack of judgement and they're always so happy! I honestly don't understand people who don't think dog's are the best thing ever!
Kirsty, so happy to see you back on RUclips. Congratulations on your new job and I’m very sorry Charlie passed away.
Thank you xx
I can totally relate to losing a pet. I lost the youngest of my two yorkies last week. She was fine in the morning when I left for work. My son left for work at 11.30 am, I came home a little after 5pm, she was so sick, vomiting, anxious... I have been beating myself up for going to the gym before coming home, and to pick up pizzas, as it was my sons Birthday. That night/early hours of the next day, we had to have an emergency euthanasia at the Vet Hospital in Oslo. It was horrible, the little dog went into medical chock. So sorry about your dog. He had a long and happy life with you!❤
Oh I'm so so sorry to hear that, bless her little heart. I went though a lot of beating myself up too, going through countless scenarios thinking it might have been my fault or that there might have been a different outcome if I'd done something differently. It does tend to lift after a while I've found. Try not to be too hard on yourself, you weren't to know, it was a normal day when you went to work I'm sure. I'm sorry to hear the end wasn't what you would have wished either. Best Wishes xxx
@@KirstyKirby Thank you 💕 It has eased now, and the other dog is healthy and happy. She has never gotten so much attention from us all before 😅
It is so nice to see you're back 😍
Thank you!
So sorry to hear about your dog! It's like losing a friend or family member.
Congratulations on the new job!
I also cannot relate to these bigger YTs, their life is nothing like mine (their problems, their everyday life, their opportunities), it's more like that of a rich celebrity. I am happy for them, but I do not want to spend my time with them. I don't like that on social media everything has to be happy, because it is not very realistic. But I completely understand if creators don't want to share the hard and ugly stuff.
They really are a family member aren't they? I miss him terribly. I agree, I think it's fabulous they have been so successful, and I do understand why they quit their jobs as content creation does take a lot lot longer than most people think (for example one video, filming, editing, uploading and so on takes the best part of an entire day), but it does sadly take away a little of the relatability aspect.
Hello again, I had a house for 7 years with this really odd room at the front of the house that I never knew what to do with it. I did heaps of work on the rest of the house but this one room did my head in, it was way too big, had too many windows and was just odd. Previous owner had it as a painting room for her art. I ended up leaving it as a random TV room, kids play room etc, always thought I was wasting the space and the outlook it had, but I could never decide what to do with it. I sold the house 4 years ago so no longer a problem, I have wondered what the new owners did with the room.
There are a few options for that space - it could be a multi function space - an office/garden room/gym whatever really, but I like things to flow if that makes sense. If I did some bigger building work I could create a large kitchen/living space which estate agents think would add a lot of value, but obviously that's not free in cash or stress. Will see, I'll focus on getting some of the other rooms right first.
So good to see you back and congratulations on your new job! It always turn to the positive. So sorry to hear that you lost you doggieboy. He is in doggieheaven playing around.
I think you should do everything that you want to do instead of focusing entirely on RUclips. Of course we want to see your ideas come to live but your own aspirations come first. Love from the Netherlands
Thank you, he is very much missed. I agree, its easy to get sucked into social media, both as a creator and as a consumer. Whilst its a great source of information and inspiration sometimes we should look to spend a little more time on our goals that may even bring us more long time happiness. Hope the Netherlands is treating you well! x
My new fav yt chanel these days!
Thank you so much!
I love area where i live but not my house. My house needs doing up but it will not add value. May have to move area. I think you should move, maybe downsize to a newer 2 bed? Or you could put a bathroom upstairs in smaller room and make the kitchen anothet bedroom with just a toilet?
There’s already a toilet upstairs (I wouldn’t have even considered purchasing the property if there wasn’t) I just don’t like the shower and bath being downstairs. I’m not too bothered about having a downstairs ‘bedroom’ as I would never use it plus it seems crazy to me to pay for square footage you shut the door on and don’t utilise. Seems daft that so many of us renovate and decorate houses for what a fictional future buyer might want really.
I don’t really like new houses lol, I’ve just moved from one. New estates are very noisy as they are built with young children in mind. The room sizes are very small with low ceilings which I actively disliked. A two bed new build would be so incredibly small downstairs as they are built small mainly to keep costs low as they are typically for first time buyers with small budgets and no children, I know some people like that, but it’s really not for me. If I moved I’d be looking to upgrade, either in area, size or type of house rather than downsize particularly. The reason that is an option to consider carefully is more to do with that type of property being probably 100k more in cost.
Hallo dear Kirsty I listen to you all my day. You help me a lot, so I would like to help you with the renovation. Send me the ground floors plans and I would try to help you, if you like it too. Wish you a lot of happynes for your days. Best regards, Anna. Currently lived in Vienna.l
Hi Anna that’s incredibly sweet of you to offer - we have an architect in the family so I’ve got ideas - I’m just not sure what I want to do, I’m deciding between moving or renovations at the moment. Merry Christmas, hope Vienna is treating you well. 😊
I juat discovered your channel today, thank you for all the no-buy content!
I have a beloved 14 year old cat whose every day is precious to me, so I understand your grief. 😢😢
Have you looked into adding floor heat in the cold bathroom? Its not heated with gas so maybe it would be a little more affordable and a bit less miserable.
Hi there, so glad you enjoyed the content.
It’s not so much the cold that’s the main issue, it’s toasty in there when the heating is on, but cold when it isn’t and loses the heat quickly. I could put additional on demand blown air heating in, underfloor would potentially be very expensive though as I find gas is still cheaper than electric for heating. I have friends that have underfloor heating in their kitchen and never use it as it’s so costly to run. I just hate that it’s downstairs and not near the bedrooms. It’s not really miserable as such - most people gasp when they see it as it’s also huge which sounds nice but it’s such a waste of space.
Hey Kirsty I loved this video! And I think you amazing on RUclips but I totally get the job thing.
Anyways keep doing what your doing whenever it feels right as your authentic and lovely! Xxx hope the new job goes well!❤
Thank you! I really enjoy making RUclips content and I would never say never in regards to doing it more full time (content creation takes a lot lot longer than most people think) but I do think when someone has a typical job (I recognise content creating is still a job for many) they are somewhat more relatable. I started my new job on Monday and so far I’m loving it, very busy and full on but think it’s going to be great. X
I’m just so very sorry about your sweet baby Charlie passing
Thank you, he really was a sweetheart x
@@KirstyKirby you’re so so welcome.
Sorry for your loss. I completely understand.
Give us a floor plan and I bet I could work out a low cost solution. Your right it’s really easy for someone else’s house. The reason being your not paying. When your paying, and money is tight your too scared to make decisions. Keep going your doing great xxx
Thank you for the kind offer, but honestly there isn’t a way for a bathroom to be placed without either a horrible squished teeny ensuite style situation (which I really don’t want, I like period property in a large part due to the proportions) or to use the smallest bedroom. A family member is an architect and my family in general have been in property for a number of years so it’s not for a lack of knowledge necessarily. Not even particularly about money, although that has to be a consideration in a falling market, as multiple estate agents feel if I made this house a 2 bedroom with a huge kitchen/living space onto the incredibly private garden they estimated an increase in value of around 50k (and it wouldn’t cost that much to do even with nice finishes). Good point when looking at other properties, you don’t really think of the cost because it’s not actually a real consideration.
theres a saying if you dont know what to do do nothing just wait and no harm is done in waiting
I agree a charming lady with an initial (J) is so rich and loves herself so much in an unreal world i can no longer watch. It is not jealousy i think she is now insensitivr. Good on you for sticking to your pronciples x
It’s a shame isn’t it? I really love seeing people do well and have nice things/lives etc, but at the same time it does mean they can lose that relatability.
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Totally agree re relatability. I had to stop watching a couple of youtubers who got too showy, and it seemed very wasteful & self indulgent too, with little real contributions to society or community and just gross tbh...
Your style of video is so refreshing and valuable! P.s. I'm so sorry for your furry companion loss... they are true unconditional love 😔
I understand that being that way brings views and is also good for brands in many ways, but you can start to feel like your life is less than when they have so much wealth, or super expensive items that have been gifted to them. I don’t begrudge any of them, content creation isn’t as easy as it looks from afar and they often work hard, but there seems to be a fine line between aspirational and distasteful
I would love you to do a week on week maybe every Friday for budget week so we can all get together every Friday to check how well we have done to budget or save and let us know if you have found good subs for swaps like food or clothes. Could be motivational?
Hi Sarah, lovely idea but I don’t really budget that way I’m afraid so it would be a bit disingenuous. Clothes is a funny one too, I happily spend a large portion of budget on clothes as it’s something I value, yet someone else perhaps values travel where I don’t, so whilst I recognise it could be valuable to some, it would likely alienate others.
I am here from the beauty days 😁
Hi Mercedes! Long time no speak, I hope you are well lovely xxx
Hi Kirsty good to see you back and glad you are once again gainfully employed.
On the home front will you be doing an update on your kitchen ? Couldn't seem to find your Instagram ?
Hi the only update I have at this point is what's discussed in this video. Unfortunately the footage I had of the work was corrupted.
@@KirstyKirby So sorry to hear that.
I talked about it in the video, sorry you missed it, one of those things unfortunately.
I'll start watching this video now, but would like to say that you are a good person, intelligent, talented, your views and values are rare.
I don't want to bother/annoy you with a long comment...just stay here with us, sharing your life experiences, thoughts, health problems (yes!! it might help someone going through the same and still not diagnosed or correctly treated - you know a lot of doctors are🤬), ANYTHING!
May I ask where that top you're wearing is from? I ask because its sleeves are "long"...I hate when they make it V-neck and the sleeves too short, like a stump🤣
Thats incredibly kind of you to say. It's just a Zara knitted top - I needed something not too expensive before and whilst I try not to buy too much fast fashion its been a good purchase. I think they will be bringing the longer sleeved versions into store now but in case they still stock it the style no is 885/017/800
I would wait. Build back up your emergency fund then a house fund. By that time, you will know an idea of interest rates and more information down the road which will help you know what you want to do.
Oh as I say in the video, no immediate plans for that reason, my initial priority is saving and also living - three years of being locked in our houses, then essentially being locked in due to no money took it’s toll on my mental health. I don’t think I’ll wait a full three years before making a decision one way or another though, it’s quite a long time to be unhappy, we live today and live in the here and now, and the interest rates are highly unlikely to return to the lows we’ve seen in the last decade or so.(I also suffer with raynauds which is a problem every time I shower/bath in the winter in the bathroom as it is) They will drop if inflationary pressure allows but not to the 1 & 2% so many have gotten used to (one of the reasons I didn’t over extend when purchasing, I was confident rates would rise) I’m more of a let’s see how things pan out whilst living than a ‘I’ll wait three years to see how many more crazy decisions the government make’ if you see what i mean, and I’ve had valuers suggest the improvements I could undertake would add in the region of 50k to the property. In fact it’s not so much interest rates that I’m concerned with more that the market hasn’t yet fully responded to them in terms of house prices, it can take months for the raising of interest rates to filter through to the market-also there are so many pressures that may mean that the market doesn’t respond how it has in the past - not remotely enough housing for the current population, huge net migration figures, low unemployment levels, missing of new home building targets for years, lack of social housing, all things that could keep prices propped up (or falling less than predicted) in wake of interest rates. The type of house I would look to move to is probably 100k more than this one so it’s not all that straightforward to simply move, although a larger mortgage would be possible.
@@KirstyKirbyall this is well thought out and sensible. My instincts mirrored yours on a slightly different timeline. I saved a lot during COVID, took care of my family's mental health and studied everywhere my mind took me all of that was delaying the now for future benefit. I am also in the here and now self care recovery phase. I am honestly still having a hard time finding things I value to spend money on. There is so much risk still in the air and decisions still being made as you mentioned. So I balance here and now with self care for mental health with instincts about the future as it happens. I am in the US and there has been so much going on at here too similar to what you alluded to. Our culture here has been decimated and so much of our population short circuited in therapy with meds. Also, heard 60% of our population are paycheck to paycheck. Much different than social media shows. It is interesting how we are not alone in our instincts. Congrats on the new job and rooting for you.
@@kimberlyfink1032 I agree that social media in so many ways is a façade. I ended up down a strange rabbit hole a few weeks ago (cant recall how I got there), and it was 'Home Instagrammers' all sharing how they were struggling with their mortgage payments now interest rates have risen and several of them were saying how they were looking to sell their beautiful large homes for something much smaller with smaller bills because of the cost of living crisis here. And yet these people have legions of followers dreaming they could own such a home, likely feeling bad they they currently don't.
I agree - the fact so few people save and so many are only one missed pay check away from financial ruin is depressing.
@@KirstyKirby same. I saw an Instagramer in the UK a few weeks ago downsizing. They were planning an expansion and now are downsizing. The comments were littered that they had already sold or also downsizing. On one hand, social media is an illusion of what really can be afforded. On the other, there is so much I never hear anywhere but social media. Our media swears the economy is great and chugging along. I went through 2001 and 2008. It feels the same to me.
If it is not your forever house do not spend too much unless adds value 😊
I don’t really believe in the ‘forever house’ thing. No house is truly a forever home as so many things change, illness, disability, old age interferes with looking after the large garden you desired in your 40s for example. I also view houses primarily as a home and not an investment so the cost isn’t too much of a concern personally
@@KirstyKirby that is good Kirsty. I am older 56 so my next house has to be manageable for retirement . Need to do up my little house now but will take a lot of savings and I will not get the money back.
I find when a creator has too many sponsorships and it is clear they are trying so hard to sell the product and promote it, i switch off. If it is now and again okay but if twice in a programme content then i go off them. They go from being relateable and nice to being a sales petson
I know what you mean, most people understand the time and effort put into creating content and don’t mind seeing brand content where you know the creator uses/likes the products. But inauthenticity is a huge turn off. I stopped watching one person as she is more of a luxury fashion creator but promoted Vivaia shoes (who I actually turned down) - there’s no chance she actually wears these shoes anywhere but in a segment in her video!
Are you in marketing or PR?
Neither. I work in the pharmaceutical industry
I have definitely wondered how you are from time to time 🫶🏽
I'm so sorry for your loss Kirsty. 💔
I feel you on the renovation decisions ... I'm putting off lots of improvements/changes for similar reasons and also I'm so used to saving money that it's hard to think about spending it now.
I'm not on Instagram ... hope you will consider sharing some of what you do here too.
Yessss, this is actually something I've been struggling with myself. I got so used to being ridiculously frugal and not letting myself have anything at all through my no buy year (and having a period of time where I wasn't earning enough to save) that things that I wouldn't have thought twice about now seem overly expensive when they aren't at all really, and are likely detrimental to my life by saying no (for example spending on a meal out with friends is an investment in my friendship and will be positive from a mental health perspective - once a fortnight/month isn't a big deal in the grand scheme of things). I'm a big believer in saving, but considering I am not part of the FIRE movement and want to find a balance between living today and making decisions my future self will thank me for, I'm working on letting the reins go a little.
@@KirstyKirby I agree! I'm not a fan of hustle culture. Rather than aim for retiring early I would rather enjoy living a balanced life, that includes satisfying/rewarding employment, relationships, holistic wellbeing and home comforts. I do want to live within my means so it's all about balance for me. It's not automatic to loosen those reins though!
I loved this whole video. 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
I totally understand your perspective on content creating. You enjoy it being a true outlet for expression and creative.
Thank you so much!!