@@jimh527 you can show interest and the ball is in their court. If you think it's like the movies where you try to convince them of or awaken a hidden love...then your desperate & will get a restraining order. Women with genuine desire make it obvious.
@@chrisclayton584 Yeah, I know.. I'm a 6'0 tall, 60 year old married multi-millionaire. You got any advice on how to discourage gold diggers? 😅 That's ok. I know how to do it. They chase me, I do nothing. They get pissed off and go away.
One thing (big mistake) I used to make as a young man was THINKING about that person too much. Imagining holidays, days out, walks ,eating and drinking with them. Stupid and weakening thoughts! Don't think further than THIS WEEK. Don't pre-empt a relationship!
Over-analysis kills spontaneity, as you are training your brain for certain expectations. And when reality takes a different turn, you end up confused and frustrated. Taking the approach of "Let's see where this goes" is much more flexible, motivating and leads to more positive outcomes.
My mind always betrays me on that one, if I tell myself the girl I like is not special, just like any other girl, to avoid being needy, I simply dont't make any moves cause I don't like her anymore. So, it's very hard to find a balance.
Thanks to what I learned from you and the other trainers a while back I am now in the "long game strategy" you talk about. I'm very interested in a woman who lives in my hometown (not the city where I currently live). I have kept busy where I live, continue to have dates, etc. I have avoided the mistakes I was making every time before my training. It feels uncomfortable at times but I stick with it and she's more attracted to me than she was five months ago. The best part is the freedom I feel, because now I know that the "worst" that can happen is that nothing develops and I date some of the attractive women here who are interested. Your training is some of the best money I've ever spent.
Damn, I can't look at that intro if I want to type. Soo have been reading yours and Marc's Approach and Anxiety book. And theeen I got to the Risk/Reward topic. Mooma Mia, thanks. It's hitting home. Let Marc know too.
Great advice Kezia. Women can be rough terrain covered in dense forest and fatal drop offs. You are our navigator and guide and you look spectacular doing it!
I guess I'm just kind of weird that way. I don't get the being attracted to someone not interested but not attracted to someone interested. I'm just not interested in someone who is not expressing interest and I'm, not going to waste my time. I'll move on to someone who is expressing interest. And I find someone less attractive but interested to be more attractive than someone more attractive but not interested. That being said, I get the importance of NOT acting too interested as I have seen women be interested when I'm not doing anything to encourage it and I've seen women lose interest if I express interest.
"It's a horrible ugly contrast." (5:11) Oh shit I've been there. Wish I knew this when I was 20 rather than 50 but oh well- so much of this "woo-woo" talk does truly, even painfully hit the mark.
This woman is an 8/10 without a doubt. As a 31 yr old single man I couldn't believe when she said she was 45 ish she looks wayyy younger. What an absolute beautiful specimen of a woman. Simply gorgeous. She's basically everything I ever dreamt about in a perfect woman.
Very thorough analysis, Kezia! I'd have to watch this again a few times, but completely agree. As far as the effort is concerned, I would say a man should always look and act his best regardless of the situation, that way it won't come across as going out of the way for a woman he fancies. Also, speaking of your sister, it would be so cool to see the two of you in a video again, a Q and A live stream perhaps?
@@Kezianobledatingexpert - Kezia....regarding attraction (kind off topic of this particular video).....I had a longtime on-line female friend tell me some years ago, that while immediate attraction is nice for a woman, as she gets to know a man, her attraction builds from there. Also...it's not my style (and never has been and never will be, I'm not the type to pursue it) but my friend from Texas that I mentioned on a video here awhile back...she told me once back in 2011 that sometimes a married woman is easier to pick up than a single one. My jaw dropped when I heard that. Sad thing is, Kezia...my mom agreed with that statement and I've had more than one woman agree with it too.
@@bravesrule384 Yes I can see an element of truth in the married woman thing. Most just enjoy the attention though (who can blame them) However they're not looking to 'jump ship' everybody likes to flirt and be found attractive. That never changes!
Well Kezia, I might say that you told very interesting things there. I can add that rejection can be also done when playing these hot / cold games (or rather I would call them Yes / No games). I remember one thing what my mom told me long time ago when I was wondering when will I ever find a girlfriend. She told me this: "Son, when you solve all your obligations, only then will girls want to be with you." The makeup goes well with the color of your hair and also with the design of the tank top 👏👏👏👏👏👏. La perfection mademoiselle 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰😍😍😍😍😍😍😘😘😘❤❤❤💋💋💋.
This seems to work on women, men acting as though they don't care. But when a woman does it to a man then for most men it's a turn off. I know it is for me. If a woman acts cold or disinterested I'll drop her like a hot potato.
I liked the video, Kenzia. Thank you. However, I may've missed it, but I don't think you defined what long game is. I think I get the idea, but in a future video, would you please define that? Thank you
Dating is a silly game, and it's a silly game because women want it to be a silly game. This is the main reason why I removed myself from the dating scene and went my own way. It can never be a direct thing, where you say you're interested in them and as a man expect success. It has to be this elaborate chase, because reasons. None of this is out of malice. I am capable of getting dates but the juice just isn't worth the squeeze. 45% of women will be single by 2030, and they have absolutely nobody to blame but themselves and their silly game. Be a high value man, work on yourself and enjoy the extra free time with none of the baggage that comes with trying to walk the unnecessarily convoluted dating scene.
I give up figuring 'it' all out. But trying as hard as the Olympics...sabotages mostly.i got it: throw away the date mode! Do some thing else. For ex.; I asked a woman out last Fall, she said Yes. But kept putting it off so much that I gave up after a couple mos. Then, overnight, a snowstorm fell on us! For 2 days we hung out out of necessity, shoveling each other out ( we live close by) and it was so low key and pleasant and outdoors I even caught her smiling out of the blue. It was wonderful and unplanned. Mind you were not together but it was way better than a nerve-wracking date.
Quite right. I’ve discovered that the best way to act as though you don’t give a s*^t is to actually not give a s^*t. And the best way to do that is to adopt an “abundance” mentality - if I miss out on her, someone just as hot will come along. And here’s the weird thing - if you adopt an abundance mentality, then abundance comes your way for real. I’m not sure why - perhaps it’s a subconscious vibe that women pick up - but since I adopted that mindset I am now literally spoilt for choice. I’m now being chased by women that I’d have been slobbering over a couple of years ago
I posted this comment after only a few mins before you’d mentioned the abundance mentality, so it’s a little redundant. Main point however is that you’ve got to change your attitude yourself, for real. You can’t fake it.
People are going to be attracted to whom ever. Whether the attraction is mutual is always going to be the issue. Sometimes going to fast is a problem as well as going to slow! Communication is best but that is scary as well.
Didn't you hear, Kezia ? *Judgement* is the new thing now sohhhh approaching a woman from thr back (partner or not) is a no-no other wise we be judged so i guess no more of men 'wrapping the arms around the waist of their woman from behind'
I'm curious to learn how men respond when they learn you are a single mother. Does their interest level remain the same, or do they regard kids as a deal breaker and bolt?
Most don't care and presume because of my age that I must have kids. My issue is that I don't want anymore kids but like to date younger men, and because they want children, the relationship can't flourish. I must start dating older men or men who already have kids I guess.
14:03 - Personally, I absolutely abhor lukewarm interest. I'm genuinely interesting, and know I'm attractive, therefore my posture is neutral but I make sure a woman I'm interested in knows that I like her. If she doesn't like me, or isn't grounded in good lady game to know how to communicate her interest, "Well... That's too bad..." My previous life is jam packed with me fixing enough women to get into heaven. Been there, done that... My understanding is, there are women nearby who would fist fight to be in her place if they knew me... No exaggeration... Sales taught me the importance of understanding that certain things are concept sales. Either a person gets your concept or not. If you're in front of them, it's usually because they're in the market for what you have. You want to match the best customer with the best product/service, or else you will be punished for the resulting lack of congruence.
Yeah! I don't like the energy, vibration and chemistry talk. Not because I don't understand the concept how women using them. I don't like it because already too much astrology and karma talk present when I talk to women. It is hard when you a scientifically minded person. The so called "Law of Attraction" which is a hugely misunderstood topic. You can only achieve or even notice in life what you focus on. There is no magical powers which alter the universe by thinking about it... as far as i know.. :D
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s. It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others. But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm. Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend. So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel. I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life. And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction. Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not? Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't. I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long. Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction. Guys, men, have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk and stand a certain way, breathe a certain way, have a certain lifestyle, because leading or taking the lead is something that is behavior based, skill based, think a certain way, and many more things, that i either don't know or forgot. Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating. One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard. So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
This is why we'll all end up alone, but we'll be happy with our high self worth, abundant mind set, knowing we're of high value and our confident, busy lifestyles. Like Narcissus, all I need is to lead a complete, fulfilling life is myself. Kezia, you're not a ditz so it will be interesting to see what you're like if you ever grow beyond the border of the culture of narcissism and get serious about love and life.
so wait a minute... good honest men need to sacrifice themselves to fit into a severely dysfunctional woman's wants and needs to develop a relationship with her? waaaaa? Why are you not mentoring these horrible dysfunctional women? How come there are not good role models for struggling women out there?
This is partly true. you need to bombard her with compliments shower her with attention to let her know you are interested. Then ease off, back up some and she will miss that you! This depends on the woman of course and if she doesn't contact you or reach out, or remember certain things that you like. Then she is probably not worth your time. Seriously move on. The woman must be able to admit she is afraid of losing you. If she is not the interest is not there and she will never give you an equal portion of the relationship.
Hi Kezia, struggling to move on from a woman I fell for a number of months back ending badly. Keen on insight into it from a female perspective. I'm quite picky with girls tbh, only ever been broken up about a woman once before and not to this level. Basically she was an old pal from uni I always had a small thing for, and I suspected she did for me too, but I moved away, we lost contact. Anyway, fast forward to last year and we reconnected on tinder... she seemed really keen, only for her to start pulling away with mixed signals after a few dates. I think I let my ego and overthinking get in the way when i should have been more confident, but I tried to push through the mixed signals and be direct. On a phone call I said I did really like her and that I wanted to make sure we weren't missing out on something. She said "I do like you, but I'm not sure about you", cited me going out a lot (I was 30, she was a few years older). Anyway, we get back to texting, I arrange a gig date, she seems pretty keen only for her to pull out day before with cryptic excuse, saying she needed to clear her head. I tried being positive, but she was still vague, so I didn't read her last message about it immediately, went to the gig, had a great time. Day or two later I go to check in and figure I'd have to end things, discovered i was blocked. Never experienced it before, took it quite personally. Fretted for like a week, then figured it must be over. I saw she unblocked me after 10 days or so. I didn't react. Next day I was heading off to a gig with my mates, got a message from her "Hey, whats up?" I decided not to respond as I wanted to enjoy the gig. Got laid that night and my ego was pretty big next day, decided to wait. By the evening, figured I better hash out an ending, only to realise she had messaged again "...all the best...". Went to reply only to realise she had blocked me again. This really irked me more as I felt patronised not being able to say my own goodbye and wish her well. Blocking games really got to me and bruised my ego totally. I regret I tried texting her but I can't know if she ever saw it, probably could be seen as passive aggressive and needy. Can't stop thinking about her and how it went down all this time later. Realise I've been quite lucky in flings and dating up to now to miss out on drama like this. I have this girl's old email, wrote a letter getting it all straight in my head and have toyed with idea of sending it for my own closure. Pretty much want to learn the lessons of where it went wrong...my head tells me I confessed feelings too soon with her pulling away and it just killed the attraction and she likely took up with an ex or someone else. Its the blocking business I couldn't understand and honestly just heartbroken as we were pals before all this, can't understand why it had to be this messy. Honestly don't know what's heartbreak and what's ego attachment at this point, just really fell for hard. Sorry its a lot, do you do coaching or advice on this sort of thing?
People do not like desperate people. It's really creepy. They think you're up to something if you try too hard.
It is anti game. As I mentioned in my video xx
They head the other way if you don't try hard enough, too.
@@jimh527 you can show interest and the ball is in their court. If you think it's like the movies where you try to convince them of or awaken a hidden love...then your desperate & will get a restraining order. Women with genuine desire make it obvious.
@@chrisclayton584 Yeah, I know..
I'm a 6'0 tall, 60 year old married multi-millionaire.
You got any advice on how to discourage gold diggers? 😅
That's ok. I know how to do it.
They chase me, I do nothing. They get pissed off and go away.
One thing (big mistake) I used to make as a young man was THINKING about that person too much. Imagining holidays, days out, walks ,eating and drinking with them.
Stupid and weakening thoughts!
Don't think further than THIS WEEK. Don't pre-empt a relationship!
I agree. I have done the same thing many times too xx
Over-analysis kills spontaneity, as you are training your brain for certain expectations. And when reality takes a different turn, you end up confused and frustrated. Taking the approach of "Let's see where this goes" is much more flexible, motivating and leads to more positive outcomes.
My mind always betrays me on that one, if I tell myself the girl I like is not special, just like any other girl, to avoid being needy, I simply dont't make any moves cause I don't like her anymore. So, it's very hard to find a balance.
Whenever we need something, it is repelled. Wanting without needing is entirely different.
I WANT a Ferrari but i dont NEED 1.
Wonderfully put xx
Thanks to what I learned from you and the other trainers a while back I am now in the "long game strategy" you talk about. I'm very interested in a woman who lives in my hometown (not the city where I currently live). I have kept busy where I live, continue to have dates, etc. I have avoided the mistakes I was making every time before my training. It feels uncomfortable at times but I stick with it and she's more attracted to me than she was five months ago. The best part is the freedom I feel, because now I know that the "worst" that can happen is that nothing develops and I date some of the attractive women here who are interested. Your training is some of the best money I've ever spent.
Wonderful to hear! Thank you for the video testimonial again by the way xx
This is the video I needed on this very day. I have rewatched it 3 times today.
This is very good advice, but easier said than done when you are really into someone
I agree xx
Damn, I can't look at that intro if I want to type. Soo have been reading yours and Marc's Approach and Anxiety book. And theeen I got to the Risk/Reward topic. Mooma Mia, thanks. It's hitting home. Let Marc know too.
Great advice Kezia. Women can be rough terrain covered in dense forest and fatal drop offs. You are our navigator and guide and you look spectacular doing it!
Wonderful comment. Thank you for this xx
Thanks for the explanation. It also explains why nice guys finish last; they make all these mistakes.
NEVER be the "nice guy"
Thanks xx
Long game has worked and continues to work for me. Spot on! Cheers 🍷
I guess I'm just kind of weird that way. I don't get the being attracted to someone not interested but not attracted to someone interested. I'm just not interested in someone who is not expressing interest and I'm, not going to waste my time. I'll move on to someone who is expressing interest. And I find someone less attractive but interested to be more attractive than someone more attractive but not interested.
That being said, I get the importance of NOT acting too interested as I have seen women be interested when I'm not doing anything to encourage it and I've seen women lose interest if I express interest.
Being as indifferent to you as hard as i can ! lol
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"It's a horrible ugly contrast." (5:11) Oh shit I've been there. Wish I knew this when I was 20 rather than 50 but oh well- so much of this "woo-woo" talk does truly, even painfully hit the mark.
Thank you Kezia❤ This one really has real value. Simple yet profound. More power to you and your team🙏
This woman is an 8/10 without a doubt. As a 31 yr old single man I couldn't believe when she said she was 45 ish she looks wayyy younger. What an absolute beautiful specimen of a woman. Simply gorgeous. She's basically everything I ever dreamt about in a perfect woman.
42 But thank you xx
@@Kezianobledatingexpert The answer to life, the universe, and everything 😂
.... Great video Kezia! A much-needed review for many. Thanks. Grazie!
You're welcome xx
Confidence , directness , indifference and willing to walk away , just take it or leave it is about manly personality traits rather than game
Excellent video. Thank you for this one.
You're welcome xx
Very thorough analysis, Kezia! I'd have to watch this again a few times, but completely agree. As far as the effort is concerned, I would say a man should always look and act his best regardless of the situation, that way it won't come across as going out of the way for a woman he fancies. Also, speaking of your sister, it would be so cool to see the two of you in a video again, a Q and A live stream perhaps?
Yeah I might do a live stream again at some point, and thanks xx
@@Kezianobledatingexpert - Kezia....regarding attraction (kind off topic of this particular video).....I had a longtime on-line female friend tell me some years ago, that while immediate attraction is nice for a woman, as she gets to know a man, her attraction builds from there. Also...it's not my style (and never has been and never will be, I'm not the type to pursue it) but my friend from Texas that I mentioned on a video here awhile back...she told me once back in 2011 that sometimes a married woman is easier to pick up than a single one. My jaw dropped when I heard that. Sad thing is, Kezia...my mom agreed with that statement and I've had more than one woman agree with it too.
@@bravesrule384 Yes I can see an element of truth in the married woman thing. Most just enjoy the attention though (who can blame them) However they're not looking to 'jump ship' everybody likes to flirt and be found attractive. That never changes!
It is a paradox that a man has to take the initiative while making himself the prize
I think I need to save this video. Too much tips! Thank you
Wonderful comment xx
Very substantive. Good details on important distinctions.
Thank you xx
I like the idea of keeping your options open
Always xx
The most profound female dating coach out there! The others just scratch the surface...
Massive thanks Kezia, I will put the last tip into practice.
Yes, unrequited love or feelings. Seems to happen to everyone at least once.
At least once for most xx
Or many times ….
Well Kezia, I might say that you told very interesting things there.
I can add that rejection can be also done when playing these hot / cold games (or rather I would call them Yes / No games).
I remember one thing what my mom told me long time ago when I was wondering when will I ever find a girlfriend. She told me this: "Son, when you solve all your obligations, only then will girls want to be with you."
The makeup goes well with the color of your hair and also with the design of the tank top 👏👏👏👏👏👏.
La perfection mademoiselle 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰😍😍😍😍😍😍😘😘😘❤❤❤💋💋💋.
Thanks for this xx
@@Kezianobledatingexpert You're welcome pretty lady
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Can stand a girl that doesn't try.
This seems to work on women, men acting as though they don't care. But when a woman does it to a man then for most men it's a turn off. I know it is for me. If a woman acts cold or disinterested I'll drop her like a hot potato.
Kezia looks ready to feed the kids 😂
I liked the video, Kenzia. Thank you. However, I may've missed it, but I don't think you defined what long game is. I think I get the idea, but in a future video, would you please define that? Thank you
That might work. Thanks xx
.........oohh damn! Kezia d oesnt like me!! Hey, who's next?? Love it!
lol xx
Dating is a silly game, and it's a silly game because women want it to be a silly game.
This is the main reason why I removed myself from the dating scene and went my own way.
It can never be a direct thing, where you say you're interested in them and as a man expect success. It has to be this elaborate chase, because reasons.
None of this is out of malice. I am capable of getting dates but the juice just isn't worth the squeeze.
45% of women will be single by 2030, and they have absolutely nobody to blame but themselves and their silly game.
Be a high value man, work on yourself and enjoy the extra free time with none of the baggage that comes with trying to walk the unnecessarily convoluted dating scene.
excellent
At 5:58 you mention income dependency, did you mean outcome dependency?
Yes lol xx
When You Least Expect it... Love 💕 Happens! But You Have to Ask Yourself... is it One Lightening Bolt ⚡ or is it Two! ⚡⚡
This lady might sound British, but she's actually from CLEVELAND!
I think you are thinking of Courtney Ryan
Awsome content, congratulations!
Thank you so much xx
@@Kezianobledatingexpert You're welcome xx
Cheers kezia
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Thank you so much for this video!
These little exercises slay
When I see a woman who I am attracted to, I become absolutely obsessed with her. I do not see how to achieve "outcome independence".
Kezia. You're amazing.
❤️
I agree with u and long game tactics work
I give up figuring 'it' all out. But trying as hard as the Olympics...sabotages mostly.i got it: throw away the date mode! Do some thing else. For ex.; I asked a woman out last Fall, she said Yes. But kept putting it off so much that I gave up after a couple mos. Then, overnight, a snowstorm fell on us! For 2 days we hung out out of necessity, shoveling each other out ( we live close by) and it was so low key and pleasant and outdoors I even caught her smiling out of the blue. It was wonderful and unplanned. Mind you were not together but it was way better than a nerve-wracking date.
If a guy is more interested when you ignore him then there's something wrong with him so run a mile
I have no problem listening to the woo-woo.
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I really like your top. Your sense of dress is really cool.
Thanks xx
Just wear a bra one size too small and you have the look
@@rebirthofthecool5619Plastic boobs etc.
Quite right. I’ve discovered that the best way to act as though you don’t give a s*^t is to actually not give a s^*t. And the best way to do that is to adopt an “abundance” mentality - if I miss out on her, someone just as hot will come along.
And here’s the weird thing - if you adopt an abundance mentality, then abundance comes your way for real. I’m not sure why - perhaps it’s a subconscious vibe that women pick up - but since I adopted that mindset I am now literally spoilt for choice. I’m now being chased by women that I’d have been slobbering over a couple of years ago
I posted this comment after only a few mins before you’d mentioned the abundance mentality, so it’s a little redundant. Main point however is that you’ve got to change your attitude yourself, for real. You can’t fake it.
why are the guys you show wearing antennas on the back of their heads ?
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Treat all women the same ❤
People are going to be attracted to whom ever. Whether the attraction is mutual is always going to be the issue. Sometimes going to fast is a problem as well as going to slow! Communication is best but that is scary as well.
Nonsense. A girl will not accept you because of your nationality, but she will reject you because of it.
Didn't you hear, Kezia ? *Judgement* is the new thing now sohhhh approaching a woman from thr back (partner or not) is a no-no other wise we be judged so i guess no more of men 'wrapping the arms around the waist of their woman from behind'
Love the belt.
I hope healthy people won't fall into this manipulation 😢 Love and respect yourself 🙏
In your top there is no scarcity
Ethnicity/ race is a main reason for rejection. Everything else is secondary.
Victim mentality?
I'm curious to learn how men respond when they learn you are a single mother. Does their interest level remain the same, or do they regard kids as a deal breaker and bolt?
Most don't care and presume because of my age that I must have kids. My issue is that I don't want anymore kids but like to date younger men, and because they want children, the relationship can't flourish. I must start dating older men or men who already have kids I guess.
@@Kezianobledatingexpert This reply is enlightening and appreciated.
14:03 - Personally, I absolutely abhor lukewarm interest. I'm genuinely interesting, and know I'm attractive, therefore my posture is neutral but I make sure a woman I'm interested in knows that I like her. If she doesn't like me, or isn't grounded in good lady game to know how to communicate her interest, "Well... That's too bad..."
My previous life is jam packed with me fixing enough women to get into heaven. Been there, done that... My understanding is, there are women nearby who would fist fight to be in her place if they knew me... No exaggeration...
Sales taught me the importance of understanding that certain things are concept sales. Either a person gets your concept or not. If you're in front of them, it's usually because they're in the market for what you have. You want to match the best customer with the best product/service, or else you will be punished for the resulting lack of congruence.
Even if the women are making fun of the men’s deal breakers, Kezia?
Wow ❤❤❤
Audio quality is somewhat off
Yeah! I don't like the energy, vibration and chemistry talk. Not because I don't understand the concept how women using them. I don't like it because already too much astrology and karma talk present when I talk to women. It is hard when you a scientifically minded person.
The so called "Law of Attraction" which is a hugely misunderstood topic. You can only achieve or even notice in life what you focus on. There is no magical powers which alter the universe by thinking about it... as far as i know.. :D
Hi Kezia you wanna go on a date
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s.
It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others.
But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm.
Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend.
So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel.
I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life.
And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction.
Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not?
Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't.
I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long.
Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction.
Guys, men, have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk and stand a certain way, breathe a certain way, have a certain lifestyle, because leading or taking the lead is something that is behavior based, skill based, think a certain way, and many more things, that i either don't know or forgot.
Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating.
One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard.
So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
Hmmm. I think Miss Kezia still has a little crush on a former trainer. Hope it works out.
First of all,who goes on a date with a girl you don't like?😅
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This is why we'll all end up alone, but we'll be happy with our high self worth, abundant mind set, knowing we're of high value and our confident, busy lifestyles. Like Narcissus, all I need is to lead a complete, fulfilling life is myself. Kezia, you're not a ditz so it will be interesting to see what you're like if you ever grow beyond the border of the culture of narcissism and get serious about love and life.
Couldn't agree more.
The happiest men decide to go their own way.
so wait a minute... good honest men need to sacrifice themselves to fit into a severely dysfunctional woman's wants and needs to develop a relationship with her? waaaaa? Why are you not mentoring these horrible dysfunctional women? How come there are not good role models for struggling women out there?
Always be prepared, just in case.
This is partly true. you need to bombard her with compliments shower her with attention to let her know you are interested. Then ease off, back up some and she will miss that you! This depends on the woman of course and if she doesn't contact you or reach out, or remember certain things that you like. Then she is probably not worth your time. Seriously move on. The woman must be able to admit she is afraid of losing you. If she is not the interest is not there and she will never give you an equal portion of the relationship.
Alfa males are gorillas. We dont over think anything we just 😅😂hit that like boss and say exactly what were thinking everywhere we go. Lol
Hi Kezia, struggling to move on from a woman I fell for a number of months back ending badly. Keen on insight into it from a female perspective. I'm quite picky with girls tbh, only ever been broken up about a woman once before and not to this level.
Basically she was an old pal from uni I always had a small thing for, and I suspected she did for me too, but I moved away, we lost contact. Anyway, fast forward to last year and we reconnected on tinder... she seemed really keen, only for her to start pulling away with mixed signals after a few dates. I think I let my ego and overthinking get in the way when i should have been more confident, but I tried to push through the mixed signals and be direct. On a phone call I said I did really like her and that I wanted to make sure we weren't missing out on something. She said "I do like you, but I'm not sure about you", cited me going out a lot (I was 30, she was a few years older).
Anyway, we get back to texting, I arrange a gig date, she seems pretty keen only for her to pull out day before with cryptic excuse, saying she needed to clear her head. I tried being positive, but she was still vague, so I didn't read her last message about it immediately, went to the gig, had a great time. Day or two later I go to check in and figure I'd have to end things, discovered i was blocked. Never experienced it before, took it quite personally. Fretted for like a week, then figured it must be over. I saw she unblocked me after 10 days or so. I didn't react. Next day I was heading off to a gig with my mates, got a message from her "Hey, whats up?" I decided not to respond as I wanted to enjoy the gig. Got laid that night and my ego was pretty big next day, decided to wait. By the evening, figured I better hash out an ending, only to realise she had messaged again "...all the best...". Went to reply only to realise she had blocked me again. This really irked me more as I felt patronised not being able to say my own goodbye and wish her well. Blocking games really got to me and bruised my ego totally. I regret I tried texting her but I can't know if she ever saw it, probably could be seen as passive aggressive and needy.
Can't stop thinking about her and how it went down all this time later. Realise I've been quite lucky in flings and dating up to now to miss out on drama like this. I have this girl's old email, wrote a letter getting it all straight in my head and have toyed with idea of sending it for my own closure. Pretty much want to learn the lessons of where it went wrong...my head tells me I confessed feelings too soon with her pulling away and it just killed the attraction and she likely took up with an ex or someone else. Its the blocking business I couldn't understand and honestly just heartbroken as we were pals before all this, can't understand why it had to be this messy. Honestly don't know what's heartbreak and what's ego attachment at this point, just really fell for hard.
Sorry its a lot, do you do coaching or advice on this sort of thing?
When Kezia is in the video it is always going to be good just because of her presence
Thank you xx
You ain't gonna get a date via the comments section bro 😂
Date sum weird man instead....