Children Who Abuse Their Parents - ITV News (Ben Hunte)
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- Aired as the top story on ITV News (London) on 30th November 2017.
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Story: An ITV News investigation has found that the number of parents being abused by their children has nearly doubled over the last five years. Ben Hunte investigates.
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There is an overwhelming lack of awareness and academic literature on children who abuse adults (not just parents). I tried to research the issue after years of putting up with one of my nieces being very abusive toward me (mostly psychological and verbal abuse, but occasionally physical abuse too). She learned this behaviour from my "father", who continues to encourage it. He himself is abusive toward me and other family members. Their tag-team of abuse affects my mental health, but I can't do anything about it since she's "not my kid", and since I have to live at home for the time being, due to financial circumstances, I just have to take it.
Thank you for at least putting this video out there to help raise awareness on an issue that sorely needs it.
chapachuu currently experiencing this for the first time as a nanny/ babysitter. It’s insane, and I don’t know what else to do but to quit. It’s too much, I’ve tried reading articles and being patient. I try being as thoughtful and caring as I can. In the end “I’m just a nanny”. I’ve experienced verbal and physical abuse since I started the job. I tried being understanding. I’m just shocked! Out of the two that I take care of it’s only the older one I can’t seem to get it right with.
@Nickij71 Robo Hello from India....I being a brother of that abusive elder sister could easily relate to your explanation....and instead of repeatedly asking my parents to ignore her,they can't keep themselves away from her....She used to hit them.....abuse them....slap them..cut them with knives,.....break down utensils.....demand money and what not......I am truly helpless....I wish,I could help her stop fighting with parents,but,then she becomes more aggressive and hit parents again just out of revenge......and .....plz help....Is there a law,where I can go and report it to local officials to seek help...?thnk u in advance
If you dont mind can i ask how old are you?
I've been consistently abused by my daughter. She used to run to her father with such outlandish lies, but he'd believe her and reprimanded me. She told her Pre-K teacher stories and thank goodness the teacher knew her enough to question her and her story didn't match, but our daughter loved the attention. She continued telling lies to teachers and peers about us. Sometimes she said we were FBI agents who'd come in and taze everyone. Sometimes it was way worse. I asked my husband to back off so we could both observe what was happening. She started targeting both of us. Trying to play us against each other. When that didn't work she poisoned us and started hurting my cat. We caught on quickly and I filed a police complaint. I took her down to the precinct with photos, but the chief didn't want to arrest a sped kid. We made her pay for the damages, but she didn't care. She turned off her empathy and continued gaslighting me and passively aggressively sabotaging anything good.
She was already diagnosed with ODD, autism, ADHD, depression, anxiety, trauma and PTSD.
I figured it was all of this working against her and us so we found the perfect therapy, but she started to control them and not actually fix herself. I pulled her out after she got as good as she could get and I put her into dbt. By this time her ODD turned into borderline personality disorder.
We had no idea what to do with her.
Putting her into a group home would mean we pay for it and if she wanted to leave she could check herself out, because she was 18.
Putting her into college meant we pay until she drops out and then we stop paying.
Having her arrested for various crimes, would mean community service and mandatory work to pay back the petty crimes.
There were no good options that would lead to permanent removal without her bouncing back here.
We sent her off to college as a commuter. I drove her back and forth until she decided to leave home on her own and live on campus.
She bunked with a friend until she left campus and possibly moved in with some guys. This is where it ends. No idea what's next. She's used all her friends and she lost every good friend group she's ever had. She wants to hang with people who condone, which leads to enabling her decisions until they get sick of her and tell her to leave. She thinks couch surfing is better than living at home with rules.
She will become homeless and cry, whoa is me, like every other homeless teen who got "kicked out". We didn't kick her out and we can only have her back when she straightens out.
There are no support groups that help parents with abusive kids. We suffer silently.
@@amangoman3848 if she leaves physical marks by hitting or punching. If there is bruising or open cuts, bring photos with you to the police. They may or may not care, but it's a start. Sometimes, dcf can be contacted. Be warned, your sister can turn around and say the problem is you, and that's why physical evidence is important.
We had the abuse documented with our daughters therapists when she was younger so there is a history of her hurting herself and others.
Sad thing is parents have had their hands tied by CPS and DCFS
So very true. Being a parent on search to find how deal with it,they turn it around and every search engine is only talking about children being abused.
Tied in what way? They can discipline the child.
No mother EVER imagines their children taking the place of the abusive man you left💔
@::::::::: or maybe none of the other 3 children abused her and their siblings because they don't also have bipolar with mania. Its actually damn sad.The ex husband has the same.
True.. I am dealing with this now , my two daughters have began abusing me like their fathers have..
It happens a lot more than people realise
My 12 years old boy is taking his abusive father's place now. The abuse never ends when you have a child with abuser.😢😢you can't escape from it.
My sister is very abusive towards our mom, she verbally abuses her so much and controls her so much she is 21 years old and she screams at her when she doesn't get anything tasty to eat or just some random shit, my mom has been dealing with this for so many years I can see sadness in her eyes.
@@usidididdkkdkdkd7114 I understand you
i’m dealing with the same thing with my brother and grandma
@@cutiepiesky ☹️ I'm so sad to hear that ur dealing with same thing as me, hope it gets better for you 💕
Even I'm in a similar situation,it's hard to see my mom's situation
My dad and I could only do much to control but my sister has become an egoistic monster who would attack and abuse anyone around
Finally! I lived this for over 30 years. Its like no one had ever heard of abusive children!
it’s a child, how can a child be abusive? especially the child in the video who was 11. abuse much like r*pe is based on power. a child does not have power over a parent, especially one who is not even a teenager.
also, people aren’t just born inherently abusive. usually abusers were themselves abused as children. it doesn’t excuse their actions, as many people are able to break the cycle of their trauma. but even if it were a matter of nature, those are your genes you passed on. it’s unbelievable, it seems like these people don’t know how to parent & would rather just shanghai their kid off to some “program” where they will be mistreated even more & likely come to resent their parents even more. it’s really messed up, they hire multiple men who are like 6’5” to break into the child’s home in the middle of the night, restrain them & carry them off against their will. it’s got to be traumatizing.
children aren’t mature enough to be held accountable for things like this. whose responsibility is it if not the parents? & if it lasted 30 years, 12 of those years they were not a child but an adult.
@@trashketchum9782 the problem is that no one acknowledges children are born wired like this - they keep blaming the parents... I worked in Social services - they couldn't wait to get their hands on these kids and destroy the mother. Fake dossier started in family courts a decades ago... Looks like you don't have kids?
outstanding parents have been shocked and stunned at the behavior of their children - additionally, if your child has asthma, you have no say over the protocol - States put millions of kids on allergy drugs like singulair which caused abusive violent and suicidal behaviors... Putting children on antidepressants causes the same -60 minutes did a show on singulair and a wealthy family whose kid got out of control and committed suicide - but the rest of the world got nothing and that story disappeared quick. Parents were forced to feed those kids that poison or get custody threats
I think you read one developmental psychology chapter and think you know it all
I'm guessing you don't even have kids nor raise them
I'm so sorry you went through that - I went through the same thing with a 200 lb minor kid... He ended up taking his own life in the end.
@@TheFoolintherainn omg that's awful. Not related to you I assume?
@@kbanghart unfortunately, I don't go around telling people how to walk in their moccasins, unless I've already walked in those shoes...
you might be able to tell I'm a little frustrated by the sarcasm in my comment.. I was a little hard.
That comes from the gut.
So heartbreaking. This is happening way to much. The parent is usually loving and empathic. The hardest thing to do is to call the police on your child.
that’s false. abuse is most often a vicious cycle, as children who are abused come to normalize the behavior.
often, a child is abused when they are small & easily manhandled. then the child grows up, & usually if it’s a boy he will become bigger than his mom at some point. so now, it’s harder for the parent to beat the kid & the child is big enough to fight back. then they play the victim, saying an 11 year old is abusing them. pathetic.
@@trashketchum9782 stop defending abuse whether its from parents or kids its an abuse! If you truly believe in your words just go to a shelter for old people. Many of their kids abandon them. Youll feel pity. It happens a lot in my country and when i start to earn im going to try to donate those charities first.
@@trashketchum9782 this happened to me kind of. my mon abused me all my life, and i started having to defending myself years ago when i only turned EIGHT years old. many years now im still being abused, when i defend myself i get demonized.
AMEN 🙏
My daughter abuses me and she’s only ten. We are trying to get her diagnosed with bipolar but there is no mental health help for children near me. It’s so depressing. Currently suffering from a big sore lump on my head from her pulling my hair out.
Thank for making that Problem more public. It will help the victims to report when they know there are not alone
I really hope it helps people!
Yes bc when I typed in kids that abuse their parents I just get the opposite I had to google it.. then go to videos.. from my understanding it’s one of the most unreported crimes... narcissistic children are a nightmare 😔✝️🙏
@@kimlangston251 yep I get one google article and then it's flipped to parents abusing their children everywhere. It's always about the child, this society has created a door for these kids to abuse and destroy everyone and everything in it's path without consequences or jail.
@@Amanda-cj2ui sams thoughts. Internet just hates em. And in both ways whoever is going through abuse may their problem be solved
This should of been on national news...but well done for exposing this otherwise little known or recognised problem...yes I've personally experienced this myself
@Amanda Rose make sure you learn self-care and self- love. Seeing a really good therapist who understands Personality Disorders, Trauma, CPTSD, Addiction, and Co- Dependency is the best thing I've ever done for myself. Please dont think what I've been through can't happen to you. I was a loving kind mother who adored my children. I would walk on water for them. I taught them love and kindness. Gratitude and how to pay it forward. They didn't play violent video games and grew up watching veggie tales. Morals were instilled in them. My exspouse is a manipulative abusive con artist. I have been strangled, bitten, stiched, taken to the hospital, thrown across the room & had my head slammed against the wall. Barricaded in my home & held hostage, attacked by jumping me and had butchers knives held in my abdomen. Verbally abused and berated daily. Told I was going to be murdered and should die. For the 1st time in 25years I feel in my soul and I truly know this is not my fault. It is not ok and I never deserved to be treated this way. I do not
feel guilty and I do not need to know why any longer. It doesnt matter why.... I am free from my own thoughts of being responsible for the hell I've been living in. Please save yourself. It doesnt get better. I am working with a great therapist. The reality is heartbreaking but you can get to the point of accepting what you can't change and also thrive. I see my son differently, he is a manipulator. He wants control over me. He treats me as if I am a moron. He is relentlessly, berates me on hour-long tangents outside of my bedroom door. I bought ear buds to block the toxicity out. I am sick & awaiting surgery to remove cancer. This doesn't stop him. He could care less. It use to hurt me to the point of me feeling as if i was dieing inside. I could not except him not caring how devastated I was. I felt as if I was pleading with him to acknowledge my feelings, I wanted him to know that I cared, I wanted him to know I loved him, I wanted him to be happy, I felt sad and hurt, I felt pain and I wanted so desperately to understand him so I could fix his pain. I was a door mat. I felt broken. I was in despair. Exactly what they want & it's Very hard for a parent to except, forget about understand. This is the heartbreaking reality. You can not cry or show weakness in front of your son. My son will be sweet when he wants something from me. It makes me nauseas now. I don't see him the same way anymore. It's very sad but I am accepting reality. This is a child whos father i divorced after 17 years of lies and manipulation. My life was like the movie Wall Street. The only difference is I remained teaching my kids to be positive and thankful. To be kind and give to less fortunate. They all sponsored a child from other countries. My exspouse was on a mission to destroy me after divorce Still is 10 years later we are back in court because of fraud. Please take care of yourself. This will eat you alive. You will become sick. Your body can only handle so much. Make sure you have people you can talk to that are not toxic. Do not isolate, which happens to so many of us. You did the best you could as a Mother. You must be strong and set boundaries. You do not deserve to be treated this way. These children will consume your life. You must make sure you have a separate life from the drama. DO NOT ALLOW HIS BEHAVIOR TO CONSUME YOUR LIFE. The 2 things you do control is how you react to his behavior and what you absolutely will NOT tolerate. Set Boundaries. You must show him he is not running your home. This behavior is unacceptable in the real world. His consequences are "not" your fault.
Don't wait until chaos strikes or something traumatic happens to set boundaries He needs to see you have self respect. If he's not in counseling he should be. You are the boss. Do it now before he is old enough to say no. My son was already to old when I started to stop feeling so bad for him and started to think about me.
I never deserved to be abused. I deserve to be respected. I pray for your strength to stand your ground and for your self awareness to really feel in your soul that you are not responsible for your sons behavior. You owe it to yourself to be kind and caring to YOU. Setting an example.Take control of the 2 things you can control. Make sure to Choose yourself first. That's how we teach people to treat us. Too often words have no meaning and become confusing when we don't act on our words. You deserve to live in a PEACEFUL home!! Sending you positive thoughts. You are worthy!!!
@ Tricia Medora thank you for your comment. Dealing with this now. I have been considered a bad parent by friends. My child has been diagnosed in the spectrum. I am dealing with this right now. He is an adult and I have a new baby. I didn’t raise him in an abusive home, but his father and I separated when he was 3. His father married someone else but his family treated my son like he didn’t belong. It has been ugly. However, your words. About the Cancer, stood out. I believe the pain causes it. So I will be praying for you. I am going to start working on my self love. I loved myself but my son makes me hate myself. I don’t want my baby girl to see this behavior.
Same :(
what about mental abuse from an adult child who is her early 40's
@Nicolq Roberts I was not abused.???
@Nicolq Roberts however I am having to remove her for a while ..but I keep communication open...so she will be able to contact me in an emergency... Or decides to show respect. I have been going through this abuse from her for years and have had enough. She makes me feel unimportant now.
@Nicolq Roberts I had a great upbringing....and when I was raising her I did all I could as a single mom..
I worked hard. I had her at a young age so I'm thinking the age difference is the problem?
@Nicolq Roberts and the lies..lies ...but she's very intelligent and runs her own business....she now feels I should be as successful as her. She sent me a book on how to get rich... I thanked her but I haven't read it. Now she's saying many lies about her childhood and about how I don't support her now. I am so proud of her and her accomplishments I don't know what more to say to her. I have suffered depression over this for the past years. I don't let her know this.
Over 20 yes ago l went into a refuge because of verbal and emotional abuse from my son. It seems there is still no real help for parents who experience this.
that's just sad we have to suffer alone and in silence because of a screwed up system
My teenage daughter has been abusing me and I had a full mental breakdown from her malicious put downs and killing of my spirit, she lied about me and tries to get me in trouble , she attacked me and she had everyone convinced i am the abuser.! Its been unbelievable
Even if I were to accidentally bump or hit my mom I would feel so guilty
My daughter hurts me .
There needs to be more parents coming out about this because it’s more common than anyone realises
I'm a parent who is dealing with an out of control child. I feel completely alone and broken inside. He has destroyed me . I worry about his future.
Great reporting, Ben! It's sad to see that young children would turn against the ones who have given them life and everything they've always ever wanted. I just feel so, so sorry for the mother of the child you interviewed. Things like this happen in America sometimes. I am just out of words right now.
It's so awful! Hoping she gets the help she deserves.
So kind of you to express your compassion. It speaks volumes. I wish there were more people like yourself to support and understand the people who are in such a devastating situation.
It happens in America more than you think. Relationships have deteriorated to open violence in families because of the MAGA Republican administration.
grateful for this report. it's wildly difficult to find anything about this.
I’m so glad this subject was brought out into the open.
My Son was only 10 when he started to punch me and as the years went on it only got worse, to the point I ended up having to flee to a women’s Refuge for a year. I had to try to stay strong and teach him its unacceptable and can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve had to ring the police ( which is really hard when it’s your own child)He’s now 23 and still abusing me mentally and emotionally because I’ve had to put strong boundaries in place and love him from a distance. He can’t come home it’s too dangerous. Believe me my husband and I have tried absolutely everything to help him but he’s really defiant. I’m actually at the point now I’m being referred to adult mental health because I’ve been feeling suicidal about it. Sending all my love and empathy to all those other parents living this nightmare 💜
Sorry to hear your story. I hope things get better for you.
I’m dealing with a very defiant 17year old my self. It ended up getting a little out of hand last night. I stopped him after he came home for work and I told him I needed to talk to him. He just gave me a pissy look and walked off, so I grabbed his back pack and stopped him and told him again I need to talk to him then he raised his skateboard as to strike me and that’s when I lost my mind. I have a very strong reaction to threats of physical violence. One thing led to another I had him pinned down and yelled at him “all I wanted to tell you was we are looking for cars for you on Sunday”. It’s just been getting worse over the years.
Wow....😢
@eminem2996Absolutely.
There should make more videos about this across the world of children abusing parents
Hi From the U.S. It's here too! CPS accuses the parent for the reason, But at the same time will tell you to your face in front of your child that we as parents can't make them do anything they don't want to do chuckles and say isn't that what adults have rights to? They are telling the child right there that they are our equals and they have supreme power over everything as well.
Exactly what I have seen child services get involved and prevent the parent from being properly able to discipline the child. The parent then is abused
My sister and her husband sleep with their doors locked because of their daughter’s threats! Those police officers who refused to help this lady should be fired!
I agree. Abuse is wrong regardless of age and gender. #abuseisnotlove #abuseiswrong #abuseisanogo #abusehasnoage #abusehasnogender #agedoesntmatter #genderdoesntmatter
Great reporting Ben. Sad how the tables have turned, it used to parents (not all a chosen few) that abused their children. Seems to me with all the child protection laws, the kids take advantage of that and put fear in the parents saying that they will get locked up not the child, and they get away with murder. Something needs to be changed.
Really really sad stuff!
abuse is a vicious cycle. most abusers were themselves abused at some point. it doesn’t excuse their actions, but the idea that not abusing your child will make *the child* abusive is such a crock of shit.
most often, parents who beat their kids will use the excuse “I was hit as a child & I turned out ok”.
My sister knows i’m pregnant and has hit me and pulled my hair, her social worker is completely enabling her and saying it’s because of her autism. People with autism are not violent or aggressive by nature. There’s an argument in the household everyday because she’s always looking for an argument, she damages property and verbally abuses my mum and me, when we try to tell her social worker she denies it even though there’s evidence and the social worker believes her. She knows when my mum and I gets paid and on the days we get paid she demands for things and when told no she persists. The amount of things we’ve bought for her and she’s purposely damaged because it’s not good enough is astronomical at this point, she even demands we buy her something better and more expensive. I’m not someone who shows my emotions but i’m full of sadness and anger because of her and because of my hormones i’ve lashed out when she’s yelling at me, i’ve never hit her, just shouted at her, which she goes and tells her social worker and I get reprimanded for it. I’m personally reaching breaking point even though i’m the families strong one. None of my family, exs or friends want anything to do with her, after witnessing her aggression towards us. She’s 15.
Has anything improved? My 10 year old daughter is abusive towards me and her little sister. I don’t know where to go for help.
I understand I do really ( hugs)
cs are useless at this type of behaviour and its their lack of awareness and education around it that makes you live in feel. .xxx
No, no, we have been trying for YEARS and NO ONE WILL LISTEN! Our son is now 15 almost 16, and starting in drugs, alcohol and we just got him back from running away for 4 days missing. Had a missing childs report out state wide and everything. Seized his phone, had everything on there about how he was selling drugs, in a gang, threating to murder people etc. All the police said was it was all talk because when they were called to pick him up he had nothing in his possession. He verbally abuses all of us in the home constantly. He has yet to get physically abusive, that is because of my husband by me and our 8 year old daughter. We were told there is nothing we can do but deal w it. He just accused us of being into child pornagraphy the other day, because we placed a camera at the door in his bedroom to be sure he doesn't try to sneak out anymore. We desperately need help, but no one will help us. I just hope one day he doesn't murder all of us. I wish I being dramatic here, but I no longer feel safe in my home.
This is heartbreaking, I'm so sorry! :( We're holding a webinar on this topic on the 11th of June which might be really helpful, and if you're in the UK we provide a number of different support options for families in this situation. You are not being dramatic - you are totally valid and not alone. 💛
@SunshineSupportUK Thank you. Since posting this. He assaulted me, ran away again, missing 7 days this time. The State and CPS has now been involved. It is so heart breaking it has come to this to have someone help us. Now our only option is to sign our rights to the state, and pay child support to the state until he is aged out of the system, because we can not provide a safe and stable home due to him refusing to stay at home. It's not right, but if it will keep our son safe we are willing to do and pay whatever necessary. Our only hope is he grows out of this.
@@kristalmartin6601 Our hearts go out to you, we can't even begin to imagine how difficult this is - it sounds like you're possibly in the USA from the terminology, you sound like absolutely AMAZING parents doing your absolute best. Clearly awareness and support for PDA is lacking globally and this needs to change! :(
I got to vent.
Not to discount the hurt of anyone else but it's not always physical abuse from your growing child to adolescent to teen to young adult. The older they get the worse it's gotten with... my friends situation. After being ignored off and on for so many years-just over and over and over - never knowing what her oldest kids mood today might be for that day, always on pins and needles, afraid to speak, so as not to offend or give her yet another reason to pull another multi-month cold shoulder treatment, she's stuck and idk if there is any hope.
My friend grew up getting beat - but she stopped that cycle and she used to take pride in that, i think well deserved pride. She isn't proud of anything anymore. It's been about 25 years now, she's never been violent with her kids, spanked the 25 year old, emmmm less than 5 times in her whole life and I really never saw cause for punishment with the younger ones. But that changed. Too late. Seems like overnight everything just changed. Probably not that quick I'm outside looking in and there had to be signs.
My friend has been a great mom, I wish my own mom was as fun and cool, she was for sure better than her own mother- HANDS DOWN! I won't even go there. Hell no her maniacal maniac still scares the bejesus Out of me.
There is such a thing as parental abuse. I've studied a little about this, experts agree the most hurtful and damaging form of abuse is that good old cold shoulder treatment. I believe it wholeheartedly. I've seen my friend go so far downhill I almost feel like just a matter of time, I pray for her always. It's upsetting to know how many sacrifices she made for her- precious lil babies- always so proud of them- always the doting mom. Now the older one will go MONTHS AND MONTHS without answering a call, text anything, she'll be so worriesd about their safety like most parents. But they just ignore her, she's a lot of fun but they rarely include her in anything. She works 2 jobs and the rest of her time she sits in her apt just WAITING WAITING WAITING...I'm like they're not coming to suprise visit you and they probably never will.
I don't tell her they're spoiled rotten jerks who are completely self absorbed, selfish and greedy little brats.
Yea (comment turned novel.. again ) oh my gosh On Mother's day, I was thrilled she was finally getting a chance to see them(always at their dad's since her apartment is "embarrassing" to the kid kids, wth it is not bad she has it fixed up nicely. My impeccable timing, when I got there they were talking like... shit to their mother . They were irritated because SHE didn't get GIFTS FOR THEM ON MOTHER'S DAY.
YES you read that right. The older young adult jess the audacity to tell her if it "weren't FOR US then you wouldn't even be a mother, since you can't appreciate us more then, idgaf about Jace & Cayse, yall can decide there-but I don't want to talk to you anymore. DADDY I'M leaving, I can't stand being around her, call me when she's GONE DADDY I'll be at Corey's, BYYYYYE" FLIPPED her mom off and she drove away. Whaaaatt the phauk?!
OMG I wanted to chase that shhithead down, pull her out of that car (courtesy her parents, she doesn't even pay for her own fuel) I wanted to choke her royal ass and ask her WHAT IN TF DO YOU THINK YOU'RE DOING you superficial, glib, thoughtless, spoiled BITCH, WHAT THE HELL IS YOUR PROBLEM?!"
Oh AND the card mom ("Jane") got was so touching. Recycled card mom got for one of the kids last mother's day, complete with her sweet nothing and name written in the card.
True story.
But i can't lie, I was impressed that one of her kids actually kept a card she got for one of them for 2018 MOTHER'S DAY. But othr than that, I want to say-
"Hey kiddos-
THANKS FOR MAKING my best friend a mom, but I sometimes wish you wouldn't have you
Mean & nasty little people."
Maybe I'm being hard on them but I don't think so. Dad is a bump on a pickle good man but he should disciple his kids.
It'll hurt more than help them down the road.
Heartbroken
“maybe if you hit your child they won’t hit you first”
-an idiot
Wow I feel her pain and yours for having to witness that, a parent raises and gratifies child on THEIR own birthday and Christmas, the parent should never have to buy anything on the one day a year they get recognized i.e. mother's day or father's day, that's when a child makes it all about the parent because let's face it, if the parent didn't have your disrespectful asses in the first place YOU WOULDN"T EXIST so it goes both ways, MY SS is a shit too about that he tells me all the time it's EXPECTED of me to lavishly dote upon him on father's day, mothers' day HIS birthday and All three of his siblings BIRTHDAY as well, He thinks that if he buys a gift for someone else on their day he should be allowed to buy something he would be interested in, if I tell him no it's not about you today it's about me or siblings or father go put that back he cops a huge attitude and causes a scene like his is something so special to the world that we should bow in awe about his godlike wonder psshhh get real. She has every right just like every parent and sibling involved it problem Childs life to have something that they are not included in WTF! I'm also real tired of hearing this new mantra going around by entitled adults too. A ISN"T SUPPOSED TO BE GRATEFUL!! WHT is that what are we supposed to raise a bunch of self absorbed entitled brats and believe through our actions of gratitude that they magically at 18 yrs old wake up grateful for everything they have?? That's purely insane. A Child never magically gets up at 18yr old and know how to do everything you taught them, you have to enforce that or else they don't get it.
So glad I never had kids. I did everything for my stepkids but they still spat on me.I love my peaceful childfree life.
Lucky
Of course your profile pic is a dog. With a comment like this, what else would it be? 🙄
Great reporting Ben , so sad on people abusing others, Thanks for putting a light on this issue
Thank you!
I'm going through this with my twelve year daughter She hits me destroys my property and yells at me
I need help. They are right! My oldest is a complete nightmare. Ever since he was 8mo. Old. Nobody believed me, now he is 24. And I'm completely destroyed.
I'm the same. My son was born angry. Now 25 ..2 jail terms for gbh and he's very cruel to me. I don't recognise myself anymore. Always living in fear of constant bullying and manipulation..tild every day it's all my fault. I live in fear and I need to get out.
Narcissism is a maladaptive personality temperament. Meaning it destroys others and themselves. It does not benefit. They Inherit it or it's a CPTSD response from child neglect, overt abuse, coddling, or religiosity. Children need to self sooth. The babies that can't stop crying that's them. It's not even a disorder the system is building them. We have a system built on an attention economy and a gr33d for resources. Narcissism is a parasitic desire for resources and attention, its about constant supply, not about mommy or even the tit it's about mommy's milk the attention f33dback loop/fix; nothing else. That process was disturbed. So they cant be individuals and destroy to feel whole. They have psychotic breaks as babies and their hearts collapse Into black holes. Since they never get satiated they become nothjng. Its a black hole without empathy.A narcissit needs to devalu3 ppl around them to be an Individual. They have to drain to become whole. Check out richard grannon and the dual mothership model. We are birthing and building more narcissts because of the neglect lack or resources broken families et. That's why the revolution isn't happening. It's the grandiose trumps of the world and your poor children. Whoever are the maglo narcs with no empathy. I'm so sorry. Sometimes it is not the parents fault. Notice how stealing money and attention to material things a part of the system. The system the matrix is breeding monster ppl. My mom was a narcissist, and I became an empath cause she beat me to serve her you guys are having the opposite experience. I'm so so sorry. That's why I'm on a procreation strike like the 4b movement in korea I'm not taking the chance. Ther3s a high likelihood if I have a kid in this climate they'll probably be psychopaths. Stay strong and leave if you must. I'm so sorry
Ever since he was 8 months old? Totally not you
Thank you for highlighting this problem, My son started hitting me after his DaD passed away when he was eight years old... he is now 14 much stronger and has been diagnosed with ASD, I live in Dublin and there are lots of services to help although I am finding a bit overwhelming at the moment. as they insist I call the Police on him but I just cannot bring myself to do it. it is a heartbreaking situation as I have no family here they are all in the UK So it's just us two dealing with it.. I am worried about his future if he continues this way.
Nicolq Roberts. Great response and advice.
It is a very sad and taboo subject. Children who abuse their parents physically or psychologically/emotionally or both. It's a terrible thing for where do you turn to especially when surrounded by polarising thinkers.
This is more common than realised. The programming is that it is only parents who abuse. Each person has to take responsibility for behaviour/words towards others no matter what their age and status is. There is programming and disturbing practises that perpetuate polarising of children against seniors for specific outcomes (a whole other topic).
Nicolq Roberts you give (in my opinion) very good advice and elucidation on how a parent can end up getting abused and become helpless. It is absolutely urgent that the traumatised individual does not become isolated and increases his/her social circle for support. Any effective help that can be got for the child must also be attempted (without medication and unhelpful labels where possible).
I strongly recommend the book "The Empathy Trap: Understanding Antisocial Personalities" by Dr Jane McGregor and Tim McGregor.
(I always suggest trying to read a book objectively so that, as you meditate on the contents, you receive your own insights and suggestions that will work for you and may help others as not all the contents of a book will resonate personally).
I've been dealing with so much hurt and pain from my son. I always believed him when he apologized and said he would change because I loved him. I wouldn't think twice. Over and over, when he would apologize for calling me fat bitches, whores, saying he would hit me, etc. I would never question it I would believe it was a new start only to be abused again. I was always worried about his well being because he didn't make good choices and he refused to treat his mental illness. I was deathly afraid that if I died he would be left here with no family and homeless living like people who roam around unclean talking to themselves. I kept offering help, giving him money, etc. I always believed he would get better stop treating me like shit but it got worst to the point where I was afraid of him. I was always scared he would kill me and his siblings. Nothing I did to motivate him worked. I would sit and dream with him talking about starting his clothing business only to be disappointed and caught off guard when he lashed out because he couldn't get his way. Last week my son was murdered and I believe that God is giving him rest. It's been a life of constant drama and worry being his mom. He's my 1st born, my best friend and I saw him respect his girlfriend(s) and actually turn her against me and she was even disrespecting me. I believe God is just and I'm remaining patient and asking Him to forgive my son and continue to give me ease. My mind is at rest and as crazy as it sounds I feel relief because I don't worry 24/7 that somethings going to happen to him terrible. It was tiring, he's 28. Would've been 29 on October 30. If you happen to read this forgive yourself and put yourself 1st because they will definitely put you last and in the gutter.
This topic is something that we need to be speaking about more - so many parents we work with feel ashamed, embarrassed, unsupported and completely lost when they're subjected to this. Our online webinar on the 11th of June could be so helpful for anyone in this awful situation. Lots of gentle hugs to anyone reading this who is struggling. 💛
The Bible says this will happen before Jesus returns .a generation so wicked they will curse thier parents . Lord be with all these mothers bring these children to repentance
Where’s is it written please tell me
I'm going through this now , I am in nz and I had to send my two daughters away , I have been single parenting and doing my absolute best ! They turned against me so badly , I have been raising my autistic son who is 5 and very very high needs , I had a nervous break down in January this year , my oldest was the worst and the master mind behind it all. She was out to destroy me , and I mean in every way.. unbelievable
Their father was abusive and an absolute tragic disgrace to society , and unfortunately they have turned out the same. Its been heart breaking , grieving the loss of my kids
Don't bring Jesus into this
Your child wasn't made out of God's cloudy hands
This is not talked about. Kids literally are not obeying simple rules and parents are trying different things out of desperation
I heard my granny told me a neighbor goes through this after witnessing his father doing it. This is after the father's death. Makes me cringe.
I've met a mom like this before. Her 18 year old son pushed her out of a moving car. She was heavily religious and joked about it.
I have a 17yo son who has been doing this. My family blames me for not being able to control him.
Disown your son by getting him arrested, charged as an adult, and incarcerated in prison forever. There’s no age and gender in abuse anymore. Any kind of abuse is not tolerated here in the U.S. and other countries. #abuseisnotlove #abuseiswrong #abusehasnoage #abusehasnogender #agedoesntmatter #genderdoesntmatter #prisonforunderagechildren #prisonforteenagers #childtoparentabuse #parentabuse #parentabuseiswrong #underagechildrenareabuserstoo #teenagersareabuserstoo
Why didn’t her midwife raise a safeguarding concern? Yes he was a minor but the mum and baby have to be prioritised. He can go into a facility for juvenile delinquency
Better juvenile prison
I'm going through this myself, Just today my son attempted to strangle me, suffocate me. Pull my hair out, Kick me everywhere and in my private parts. Hitting me with a broom stick, Punch me, Bite me. I did nothing but just take it. Normally when he kicks off and giving problem we tend to shout at each other but tonight nope! Whilst he was trying to suffocate or strangle me i said, "It's ok and I forgive you" Said "The lords prayer" because you never know and plus my depression makes me not want to live anyway! And kind of hoped it would work as a reverse psychology because you never know and it's odd for me or anyone to say that in that situation. However understanding that this is actually pretty common and because social services are involved for like the billionth time! I can only hope he gets the help to control his behaviour - It's definitely not ADHD for sure. All i know I have tried everything to teach him right from wrong! Nothing has worked, Kept on believing i was a failure but I know im not. I like you all commenting with similar experiences, Were all warriors carrying the scars from an enemy within loved and cared for kids that keeps on defeating us.
I'm so sorry you are going through this, have you tried taking him to a psychologist or a psychiatrist?
@@baldwin5510 No but hopefully with the help of social services I can try and get him some sort of help. It's heart-breaking, Doing everything you can as a parent and the only thanks you get is having to put up with the abuse they give.
@@toastedroast it's heartbreaking to hear but I'm sure will get assistance. It's usually a mental and mood problems that causes such behaviors. And drug use is also something to look at.
My cousin hit his mother badly yesterday. His mom is shook and very sad she has many scars but she didn’t call the police yet. She should right :(?
Yes. She should call the police
@@Markothunder also my grandma just died I don’t know if your catholic or believe in Jesus but please pray for her to go to god :( I’m currently grieving im praying a lot this is so sad :(
@@Im_michi I’m sorry about your loss. I am a Christian
@@Markothunder thanks :,) I just wanted someone else to also pray for my grandma. We are currently grieving right now my family has all come to my house. May you be blessed 🙏
@@Im_michi No problem. I lost my father, my 3 uncles (my father’s 3 brothers), and my grandparents (from both of my father’s side and my mother’s side). Is your cousin still a minor or a teen when he abused his mother (your aunt)?
I haven’t really gotten context on our own story yet, but I do relate so much to what this lady said. Just want to say your not a bad mom for seeing your kid only a few times a year after that. I am in the same situation where my daughter now stays with her dad. I relate, and I hope this gets better
A record? When a guy gets big and starts hurting people, something needs to be done. Not all moms can defend themselves against their own kids or spouses or even parents. My mother in law once broke my glasses when I tried to get her to take a shower after six days of no bathing. My mother couldn't do much but was much heavier so even getting her off the floor was a challenge and she was known for biting at some point. I'm just glad I didn't end up caring for my much heavier Dad. My daughter was always smaller than me but she once kicked me in the stomach when we were sitting down and nearly broke my ribs and once pummeled me with her fists when it was time to leave a friend's house and she was only four at the time. My used to scratch and bite people too and since he was always a big guy, he was able to do a lot of damage if he really wanted to.
My mom abuses me a lot and I also abuses her by repeating her words whenever I'm angry, but after that I feel very sad...
After being abused for so long you are going to end up reacting, specially if you are young and nobody ever showed you how to regularte yourself or set boundries, if you are a child, it's almost imposible you are even capable to do so in those situations.
This is rarely addressed, but almost all adoptive families struggle with this. There is almost NO help for parents. And the parents are usually blamed for children’s bad behavior. But what can you actually do to defend yourself from an abuser who is a minor?? Especially when police will usually release them back into the parents’ custody, even if they arrest the kid/teen.
This is all because they made it a crime to spank or punish our kids. Now they know they can get away with what ever they want. Spanking for children is like jail for adults. Why are their consequences as an adult but not a kid? What is this teach them? We are untouchable.
“maybe your children wouldn’t beat you if you beat them first”
do you not see the irony? lol
hitting your child teaches them that you get what you want by force
I agree but sadly even if you never swat your kid you still can't discipline them I was told I have to allow them to learn for themselves and not impede their actions. WTF! What's the point of even being a parent if you can't tell them no, or don't run in the street etc, you're grounded no phone no friends no dessert, That's not abuse and we are told we can't even do that..
Some kids are like that because of one abuse parents do. Paremts spoiling their children
I don't spoil mine, so what else you got? I teach my kids to earn things because that's what life's all about you do get anything for free...
My parents abused me
So it must be the parents fault and never the kid right?????SMH
It’s not the parents’ fault their kid abuse them. Abuse is wrong regardless of age and gender #abusehasnoage #abusehasnogender #abuseisnotlove
I'm here after having my nose broken and orbital socket fractured .. it's hard .
Lots of love to you Julie - if you ever need any support and advocacy, get in touch. 💛
Child Protective Services is the blame for giving children so much power to get away with whatever they want and that's a fact
And children know they can use CPS as a weapon to punish their parents for not letting them have their way.
I understand the feeling of loving but being terrified. It sux the life completely out of you.
Where is the Dad?
If children are on psychiatric drugs this may be exacerbating aggression in some as a side effect.
Hello from India....I being a brother of that abusive elder sister could easily relate to your explanation....and instead of repeatedly asking my parents to ignore her,they can't keep themselves away from her....She used to hit them.....abuse them....slap them..cut them with knives,.....break down utensils.....demand money and what not......I am truly helpless....I wish,I could help her stop fighting with parents,but,then she becomes more aggressive and hit parents again just out of revenge......and .....plz help....Is there a law,where I can go and report it to local officials to seek help...?
The same situation happening to me right now. Dealing with a abusive sister . Wht you have told here is the same thing my sister does and I'm from India too. And i can't even say to someone as it is so embrassinggg and even I'm even looking for a law which helps me , I'm literally depressed because of her. What's your situation there ?
It's not bad parenting, it's a factor of other kids influencing each other to "stand up" to their parents when in fact, they are plain disobeying and doing things they shouldn't. I hear so many people saying, "Where are the parents to make these unruly kids behave and be accountable?" The parents were standing at the door, telling their son or daughter to stop misbehaving and stay home while being shoved away or swung at by the fist of their own child. It's the young people that are teaching other kids that they don't have to listen and they can do what they want. If the parent calls emergency services, they are accused of doing something wrong to the son or daughter. So, we don't want to hear where are the parents because making sons and daughters behave these days, would get the attention of first responders who cater to the children. I was at a loss as what to do. I pray that she takes steps to keep herself safe. I don't know everything that happened to her because she would take off and not tell us where she was but I pray that it has stopped. When things go this way, all parents can do is pray for their childrens' lives. Emergency services should open their eyes and help.
misbehavior isn’t abuse wtf
what exactly is misbehavior also Adults make dumber decisions than Children usually do just look at the world and all the stupid wars and CULTural nonsensical practices that are allowed like Male Genital mutilation over three genocidal "religions" which hate all of Humanity over simply existing
do you think Children are property of parents hmmmm
Is this a new phenomenon or has this been happening for years and just no one talked about it no one reported it? How do these parents allow themselves to get bullied and beat up by their kids??
It started in the middle 90's I fell victim to it, it was taught in schools that if your parent grounds you it's abuse, if they stop you from leaving the house without permission it's abuse and they are holding you against your will that same thing applies today, I was told by my neighbor last year when her kid decide to walk out, she tried to stop him and the police were in her face telling her she has no right to stop her child she has to let them leave and call a cop and report it as a runaway, then she got investigated to rule out her being abusive, it was sad her son got his way and she got told where her place was and she is a wonderful mother to both her boys.
@@Amanda-cj2ui oh wow I was in School in the '90s I was never taught that, I experienced the opposite abusive controlling parents that's why I can't understand a parent being afraid of a child because all I saw was children being afraid of the parents even my friends and cousins when they came over were terrified of my mom, I guess that's why I can't wrap my head around this
This is totally true exactly what is happening, and kids are laughing. Everything is called abuse and if your kids don't hait you yet they soon will because they will be brainwashed that it abuse. It use to be up to mum and dad, now everything is up to a child when they come in what they want for tea when they go to school, and if you try to make them go school your abusing them, but I blaim social services for twisting everything and everyone the world has gone mad
@@newlin83 I do agree with that at the end of the day children are human beings and they shouldn't get a free pass just because their children, everyone wants to believe that children are sweet and innocent but they're people just like everybody else capable of anything even murder, it's been a while since I posted this comment since then I realized that if you have a violent abusive child it's not an easy thing to deal with, if a parent fights back they'll get charged with child abuse it seems the only solution is kicking the child out, if it's a small child who will take that violent child? Having an abusive destructive child will ruin a person's life no doubt, it builds up lots of stress hormones cortisol it affects your health it's like being in an abusive relationship or abusive marriage like you said eventually it will destroy you, sometimes kids might become violent because the parents are violent or the kids are acting out because they were assaulted or molested but in the cases where the child is just born a horrible human being I really don't know what to do in those cases kicking the child out really is the only solution but sometimes to where who would want that child?
Dang! This is scary and sad to hear this is a huge problem. It was a very informative story and I hope something changes. I am sure it happens here in the United States.
Really scary, especially because of the lack of support for victims!
Yes it is happening in the US hell is happening to me my son is very violent against me when I did put him out the police just brought him back and told me that I would face charges if I dropped him off somewhere and I told them if I come up and dead then I hope you remember my face😡
“boo hoo I can’t just abandon my child”
maybe that’s why he’s like that
@@divaell821 yep it's a damn shame I can't just let mine go either, we as adults are being forced against our will to submit willingly to our children and not buck the system or we will lose everything we have that includes our other children if we are raising more than the problem child at hand, I have no choice but to continue allowing the abuse because they are under age and counseling didn't help it just gave him more go ahead because the counselor started coddling him and even my daughter in private and telling them ways to go around me as a parent to get what they want, when I found out I stopped counseling immediately my daughter told me everything and I was OMG! if anything were to happen I wouldn't of known and couldn't stop or save them from irreparable damage.
@@trashketchum9782 That's wrong to say she doesn't want to abandon her child at all but she doesn't want to be abused either, why does the child have the right to put her over a barrel and have no way to fix the issue? We can't even put them in military school or behavioral places to help our kids, we have to allow the abuse to continue go through several years of counseling, them by themselves and family counseling and exhaust all resources and have the counselor determine that the abuse has become more severe before signing them into these institutions??? When all they are doing is prolonging irreparable damage and allowing the child to grow to damn near adulthood before doing anything, by then the kid gets up and moves out and never suffers their actions. People like you always assume parents are at fault. The whole system is rigged against the parent and the parent doesn't have and is not provided a choice except what the mental health and authorities say they can have, They are putting into action to take power away from the parent then scolding the parent for how their child turns out. Parents are never supposed to be a child's friend, Once the child is an adult then the parent takes position of the friend circle and gives suggestions but it is the adults decision.
I am scared to be around my son and daughter. They continuously blamed me for everything curse me threatens me etc.
Well, disown them by getting them arrested by the police, charged as adults, and incarcerated in prison for abusing you. #abuseiswrong #abusehasnoage #abusehasnogender #agedoesntmatter #genderdoesntmatter #abuseisnotlove #abuseisanogo #stopdomesticabuse
Thank you Ben Hunte!
Great job, Ben!! Wondering if you pick your own stories?? Love from Canada
I'm only really uploading my original stories & investigations here, because they're the most interesting! I became a journalist for the juicy stuff
❤️
I would also feel guilty as he'll, and would not be able to live with myself if I hit my mother, it's just beyond me it'd a line I'd never cross or ever think of crossing. And I was a abused chid myself. So it's utter rubish that if you were abused you grow up and hit your parents. For one you wouldn't want to hurt your own mother and utter rubish that you see your mum abused, so you copy that abuse, youv either got morals or you haven't. What kind of monster would you be, to watch a mother be hit and you grow up and think oh ots my turn now I'll hit mum, no its discusting, it's wrong, they know exactly what they are doing exactly and it's a choice.
hitting children is bad but not in this case
I'm in this situation for years now and don't have a sister to take him
The parnet got to press charges an have child removed permanently
Here in the states 2, but why America says nothing. Shame!
To be honest, I was always curious if this actually happened. Now I know it does.
They are talking mostly about mental abuse when this topic gets light. A child can still make an adult bleed too. 99 % of the time this is done by teeagers 16-18 and the adult kids . And this is coming from a teenager
it can happen at any age, it only amps up when they reach teenhood
@@Amanda-cj2ui yeah
All children are born innocent. Its how parents train them up , Some will win and some will lose. No matter give and train up to you pat to God your Best, Always give your best, I did and I lost and thats okay because I know what I gave and God knows too.
exactly. people aren’t just born inherently abusive, it’s a learned behavior. often if a child is beaten, they learn to get what they want through force. then when they grow to be bigger, the table flip. I’m sure if this mom abused her child she wouldn’t disclose that bc we are hearing only her narrative & she wants to be seen as a victim.
Damn that's tough bro
I must respectfully disagree based on personal experience. Some children are born with neurological anomalies or with mental illnesses that good parenting and therapy cannot effectively help. I know a little boy who was an absolute hellion from the beginning, very impulsive and destructive and dangerous - but he was a sweet little boy with a heart of gold. Something was simply wrong with his brain. When he hit puberty, the rush of hormones made him violent. His parents didn’t cause that in him, but they have suffered so much.
so what is the option for families in this situation?
We're holding a webinar on the 11th of June on this topic, it might be really helpful if this is something you're personally struggling with.
I'd love the details, please!
found it and registered!
@@user-he7nh7re5c So sorry, didn't spot this notification! Glad you managed to find it, let us know if you need anything else! :)
This is so messed up
I know. Right? #AbuseIsNotLove #AbuseIsWrong #AbuseHasNoAge #AbuseHasNoGender #AgeDoesntMatter #GenderDoesntMatter
apparently refusing to go to school is Abuse???
How can I report parent abuse.
I am going thru this! So sad.
Wow. You know, this is sad. Children who are entitled put their parents through hell. This woman is literally living in despair. Kids like this do not care. They do not want to see their parents happy. They will do whatever it takes to stop their parents from evolving. They feel as if you owe them. They will be determined to crush their parents heart. Ridiculous.
My brother is diabetic and autistic always calls my mum stupid and idiot and psychically abuses her . I want him to go badly .
This sounds like a way to scapegoat blame onto the child. If a child acts out and causes harm to a parent, it it important to determine what kind of environment the child is raise in. If the child is being raised in a dysfunctional setting, engaging in behavior observed from their parents, the child is a victim. If a parent physically abuses a child on a regular basis, and the child grows into a violent teen, you can't punish the child without holding the parents accountable as well.
Sometimes this may be the case but often it's not. My own stepson now 20 has had really good parenting, boundaries (no violence or spanking) but he is a really aggressive person who repeatedly lies, steals and manipulates. If you challenge him about it he becomes threatening and aggressive. He has had counselling and all the efforts to turn him around have failed. The police will be called if he does anything more now and we are in the process of eviction. My personal take on this is that personality disorders account for a large proportion.
You don't understand mental health or cognitive and neurological disorders. Please don't be so ignorant. There is a wealth of I formation at your fingertips. Use it before making such daft remarks.
If a child is physically abused does it makes sense that the parent would be beaten by that child???
The Child learns to be submissive. An abusive adult would NEVER tolerate a child that acts inappropriately. They abuse children because they can. The Child is powerless. This makes no sense at all. I have never heard of a child who is abused suddenly becoming the abuser of the abuser. Yes, they can grow up to be abusive adults like there parent was. An abuser is not going to let this happen.
She probably had an abusive boyfriend that showed him this behavior.
@@triciamedora9274 and sometimes the parents just tell said child hey this is my house I pay for it and you need to follow the rules, you don't have the right to call the shots and you don't have the right to threaten or intimidate anyone under this roof because you demand your way in everything including having all control of the house either. I don't think people realize that kids can be just as abusive as adults and so on, and no it's not always a learned response either, I have 4 kids and three follow the rules and one has decided to tell me what for and if I don't give him what he wants he will continue until he is 18. How in the world can you as a parent enforce the rules that apply to three kids and allow one to do whatever because you fear what will happen if you don't?? I was raised in a world where if it applies to one it applies to all in raising a family. It's called treating your children equally and we do but he is really pushing it all beyond the natural boundaries and counseling isn't working because he is so nice and charming to strangers he had our family counselor believing him and his crap.
I think that i do this but i hope i can improve bc i love my mum
It is so embarrassing. It is one thing to be abused by your partner, but so deflating when they scream in your face, poke their fingers at you, and threaten to punch you.
I have called the police but dropped the charges on the hopes he gets into counselling.
It feels hopeless, he’s not doing what he needs to do to become self sufficient. But if he tries to lay a hand on me again, I will follow through with charges.
Stfu and stop with the counseling fetish. It's doesn't do shit. Just stop it.
Great job Ben!
Thanks Adrian!
Good parents deserved that because back in the 60s parents did the same thing to their own kids now The tables are turned on them
i'm so tired.
Good parents deserve to be abused? We don't deserve that at all! My parents were born in the 5o's and grew up in the 60's all my grandparents worked hard and treated them right growing up WTH are you talking about? if anything it was because of all those older generations that help my generation be conscious of others work hard for what I wanted love and be loved, respect and be respected etc, It was because of them I'm the last generation that was raised to give respect and have common sense thinking.
My sons brother is definitely an abusive kid and he’s only 4
my brother slap me mom twice becase she slap him as he was shouting at her and asking for money.... i..i ..dont know what to do my mother is soo broken and i can see her like that.. 😢
Sometimes, it's not clear who is the abusive one.
Id say get security camera in the house if u have this problem with your kids
How???? How does it get to that???,
Children needed protection from some parents, it's gone the other way now too far where a parent's hands are tied.
This is exactly what my 42 year old son did to me he put his hands around my throat
Abuse is not one way and not always one visible. It can have so many hidden health and psychological effects that don't even show up in scans.
How do I know this? Because I am a victim,who fleed,told police, went to a refuge,lived alone in a dilapidated council flat, and had to come back home where its all got worse and I have no support.
Every day is hell. I get nothing done. I'm nearly 24 and I am not allowed to do anything and I am not able to do anything.I am really undeveloped and damaged and they especially she continues to viciously attack me daily. The non stop loud horrible voiced ethnic language screaming at me is worst of all because it is do demeaning,dirty,disgusting,tasty,belittling. They are benefit reliant. I am top because im.out of work because of her and she financially abuses by taking my money too and saying awful things. I hate tbis life but I am not weak or stupid enough to commit suicide.
Its so much worse when you have chronic yet invisible symptoms including pain and then all of this happening as well. Its torture.
@@zv54 - Are you a man or a woman? I can't tell by your name.
My father would’ve tore my back up with the belt , glad I was never like this
how is this abuse but a father beating their child with a belt somehow *not* abuse?
we live in backwards bizarro world
That’s why you need both parents at home. Most women are brainwashed and think they can do it on their own.
@@trashketchum9782 but my dad took good care of me, always supportive on my decisions, loving, may his soul rip #FuckCancer
@@Malingerer1505 you dont need both parents, you need good adult reference to be able to develop correctly, create bonds and get your need meet. This is how humans develop. And women are not brainwashed, they have been raising childs by their own for a long time, they know better than you. Not everychild is like that because they where raised by their mother. We are speaking about development and psychology in this cases. Poor and bad intentioned statment.
Hello Ben, so the son is specifically abusive toward his mother, but not the aunt he now lives with? Seems he has strong resentment toward his mother, who he then must feel is responsible for something. It would also be interesting if fathers face the same abuses from their young children.
Because the female parent cops all the blame from society and their children. The male parent can do whatever they like.
This child blamed the mother and had been doing it for so long it became a habit. ASD children have more melt downs and lash out when they are with the people they feel most comfortable with.stopvictim blaming. Maybe the aunt let's the kid do whatever they like with no healthy boundaries, or maybe the aunt doesn't talk about the abuse on this doco but it is still occuring.
The mothers who raised him and has always been there and that's the thanks she gets from her son, How do you know the father did not walk out on them, He is not being violent because to his aunt because he knows he wouldn't get away with it, Pre teens at that age know what is right and wrong, Just a spoilt inconsiderate little brat. You would know a man wrote this comment!
if the mother was abusive to the child, I’m sure she wouldn’t say so. we are hearing her narrative only.
abuse is often a vicious cycle, because when children are hit they believe it’s normal & they learn to get what they want through force- because that’s what their parents do to them. the idea that not beating your child will make them beat *you* is a crock.
What happened to her now?
what about the criminal emotional abuse of mothers by their adult children ? The bullying, the incessant torment, the mental sadism? I know a man who is 40 years old and is trying to make his elderly mother to commit suicide by tormenting her mentally. For 20 years this only child, has tried to destroy psychologically his poor mother. Just because he's evil, she's a very kind person. He belittles his poor mother because she's disabled, poor, while he has properties, a real estate business, he's well-off. The evil of this man is so frightening, he has a bully since he was 12 years old, at that age he bullied his teachers. When he grew up and got a job he bullied a Muslim woman at work. The next victim was his mother, for 20 years.
It's because children have more rights than adults this day and age
So we should just not give them rights? Bullshit and evil
No excuse for abuse ss this happened to you hope you get some peace in your life you deserve it xx god bless
I fear this is a growing problem
True in my case
And I thought Cartman was a sick bastard!
I am glad that I have never abused any of my parents I don’t believe in physically hurting my parents and never will🤴🏽🕉🔺➕
An ongoing excuse from police. So terrible the lack of training. 💔
WHAT HELP?
Back in the 80s one slap from mum factory rest me ,
This doesn't happen in ethic homes, Puerto Rican Mama's, Black Mama's, Chinese Mama's, etc.? It would turn back into child abuse... real quick.
I always grew up believing if you got momma that day you die...idk about else?
why are you making it sound like child abuse is a good thing?
funny, when a child hits their parent it’s abuse and the parent is a victim. but when a parent hits their child people excuse it as regular discipline
That’s not child abuse. It’s self-defense.
Def not true
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So if parent abuse by children is a new concept, WHAT are we doing wrong, as parents? Discipline your children!
Must be so easy to judge. What's it like to be perfect?
Must be nice to see life in such simple black and white. Personally I’ve seen in my younger brother who was very abusive with my mother that it comes from a place of a sense of entitlement and false sense of hierarchy stemming from racism on his part. These situations stem from many different reasons and are not caused by a lack of discipline.
It isn't a new concept. It is underreported as it is now seen as being politically incorrect. and so completely ignored. In our modern society the child is never to blame,although they are humans just like us. Their behaviour is viewed as being "learned behaviour" Whilst I endorse this safety net for child protection, (as they may not be able to communicate or respond to their situation), when things go wrong and the child is creating the abuse, it is very difficult to prove or manage. Despite repeated attempts on behalf of the parent to correct behaviours of verbal and emotional abuse,stealing,setting premises on fire,lying and leaving home for no reason.Very few mental health professionals would admit that these behaviours were not learned,and so the parent is tainted. You may as well say-if your child is good, you are a good parent,but if your child is bad, it's your fault. Generally, good nurturing can change a wilful young person, but there are unfortunately always exceptions to any rule. Anyone disputing this has probably successfully raised well adjusted offspring and has no experience of the hatred levelled toward the unsuspecting adult by their beloved children. Best kept secret of our time.
siege j feels good to be a parent who disciplined my child. He has respect for both me and his dad. I have no regrets doing right by my kid.
You are so right, in what you said about the child coppying, and joining forces with all the others, especially if your child sees you have no surport, or family that realy give a dam, and sees the family being two faced and actually just yousing the parents, this is what's happend with myn, and you then become a target, and I wished I'd never cryd, in front ofy son never showed my hurt because of unserporting family and friends, because they learn and sort of join in on the abusing, and start feeling very powerful, loving you feeling totally betrayed, and used and abused by another family member, and your so right about the grandchildren would become abusers to you to, very sad, and copy there parents. As for the other thing you said about a child who was abused, I was and you don't hit your parents would not want to would not dare, you are like a subservient to them or you cut your looses, iv learned a lot. And iv not been the perfect parent who is. Bit you try your best. The problem is that there are a lot of not so got d people around, and trying to keep your child away from me get I've people who are abusive. Is the best, but dosnt always work, kids will rebel go looking for theses family members and join forces, and sadly nothing you can do expect, sadly exept it and moove on pick up the peices and try to mend your broken heart, and live in hope, as that's all any of us have, and would say to people be careful who you decide to have children with. Such a shame that is the reality, and also anyone who has got brothers and sisters seeing mum be attacked, by your brother or sister, they do copy this behaviour, years after hpw do I know it happened to me. Sadly my son came running in to see this at 5 and he's now doing it himself
bro that an ass whoopin