I remember them begging a bunch on RUclips back in the day. I told them go back to uk if they can not manage. Amazing once she left her husband she never had to beg again😂 some men will embarrass you.
She's helping others by BOLDLY sharing her story. No woman will leave a man after 19 years and 4 children UNLESS she's pushed to do so. It's her story and she's here to share so others can learn from it.
Base on the importance of the story She was the one who was driven and become overwhelmed, Her husband was too much of a follower.yet some people donot allowed the woman with the ideas or strength to lead The husband appeared to be supportive, but that wasnot enough for her. Her husband just sat home is the impression but then she mentioned his dream of construction obviously thaf wasnot enough. Complex story of people having too different visions of the future or family.
Wrong her husband was not supportive. Dela mentioned, there were people wanting help with construction works.Her husband did not want to work.He had plenty of opportunity to support his family. But he chose not too.And to leave it all down to his wife.How can that be right.He had responsibilities. @mavisburke495.
@@mavisburke495 This is exactly what happens when men refuse to fulfil their God given duties and responsibilities as the head of the household. The husband was all talk, he wasn't willing to put in the work and do the heavy lifting to make his dream come true. His now ex-wife had to step in and take on the role of the head, a role that was not meant for her and she found herself overwhelmed and out of her depth.
@@evertonporter7887 My view is different, her husband said he was tired of working for years which meant he once financially headed his family. Possibly later he thought his wife was suited best for You Tube and it brought an income. She taught he was missing the opportunity to be a consultant or help in the construction for viewers ,who were his wife fans who constantly were asking questions because he was previously in construction. Eventually it appeared her husband wanted to focus on his own business in construction which wasnot fast or possibly profitable enough for her. At least, the husband didnot join You tube and competited with her for viewers. My point they had different goals, possible ideas of how to achieve financial mobility, not everyone have the same skill sets.Remember Dela said she never wanted to be a regular worker , maybe her husband was different.
Bullshit... Typical western and westernized woman who thinks although they can pop out 4 kids for the man and also expect the perfect life, husband, riches although 4 kids and herself and think they can go relive youth and find a "better" man . Which one of you men want to step up and mind her and 4 kids and deal with the mentality and attitude? Any takers
She is doing the best thing for young women by sharing this story. Our Ghanaian elders have failed us. Encouraging marriage too early without having a sense of self dependency, and enduring humiliation and neglect for the sake of “ staying in marriage”. Good for her for being free!!!
Indeed. Hopefully, there are more people, especially fellow Africans who will start respecting women who are choosing to stay single and childless. Kudos to those who married well...
Any woman claiming that she loves the person she married but divorce in Christianity perspective is just telling a story where she was making a mistake in her love life. This woman here is just telling us what she wanted.
I am Tanzanian in America and I have experienced the same issues. People are Jealous and intimidated by your intelligence, independence, your kindness, and your work ethic. People made me feel like I am worthless. I had to learn to be tough and stop helping ungrateful people. I have become selfish in that way. You are very pretty and smart. do listen to haters.
The harsh judgement and insensitive comments (mostly from men) are a real eye opener! Dela, inasmuch as I understand you're giving these interviews to help other women in similar situations - and that's a very honourable thing to do - I think you need to rethink this. Now people are talking like you owe them an explanation for the decisions you made for your life and your kids' life, or you have to convince them of your innocence or Kwame's guilt. You don't owe anyone Jack. The life you have is yours and you don't have to explain your decisions or get validation for your decisions from anyone... especially not some strangers on the internet. You wore the shoe, and only you knew where and how it pinched. I said a prayer for while watching this cos I sincerely wish you success on this journey and I know how mean and outright evil some Ghanaians can be when a woman tries to assert herself and not accept whatever toxicity our patriarchal culture throws at her. Godspeed!
I hear women complain about how unfair the patriarchal system is, but I observe how disrespectful and inconsiderate women are towards their children and husbands in the West. The West is a perfect example of why women should not be given rights earned by men. What has resulted in the West due to poor decisions by women is most families broken up. Women generally are all about their feelings not the millions of babies they murder each year nor their families in the West. I have state facts not my opinions just research these facts
Sadly a lot of the men are operating from low functioning level unfortunately. They have been babied my their mothers and sisters. They marry the women to continue from where their parents left off. A lot of these men cannot do basic household chores .
When your father leaves in those early teenage years it is devastating to a girls development...one minute they are there in the house all the time, then suddenly they are taking things from the house and they are gone. It's hard for the children to understand and no-one bothers to explain.
This interview is amazing, Hayford. I cried with Dela; I can relate to so many things she said. It was such a deep conversation with a beautiful and brave woman. You both touched on such uncomfortable and "dirty" issues and did it gracefully. Thank you both.
Hayford, You did a great job with your listening skills. Which allowed her to open up. Empath feed on people energy. If you have a positive and good spirit we will feel comfortable and safe. You made her feel safe! Great interview
I remember seeing Dela in a supermarket, in Ghana i was so shocked she seemed so tense and hunched up, looking down, a few years ago. Her info helped me buy a car, and she connected me with a house viewing. Watching this I can't say I'm suprised, When I saw her clearly something wasn't right. When I started watching this i was thinking oh no Dela dont spread your business so many haters out here we know how our people are so judgemental about Marriage. After watching the whole video, Good luck to her..Being single and sad in a marriage is no joke....been there..The interviewer was really good he asked the key questions allowed her to speak. Well done Dela
@@sammylong3704yeah by keeping a side peace 😂😂 Us women are loyal to their own detriment. We stay in unfulfilling and unhappy marriages until our kids are grown and independent.
A father's work is never over. He is responsible for raising and supporting his family / instilling the right moral values in his children until they can stand on their own two feet. YOU CANNOT BE TIRED OF WORK WHEN YOU HAVE YOUNG CHILDREN.
Good interview. I don't understand the nasty comments. She admits she's not perfect and must have done somethings wrong. Her experience is her experience. You have to be mature to marry and maturity isn't age related. They were both not mature enough.
Both have to be mature. You don't expect one person to be carrying that maturity. If she's the only one being mature, you'd get tired too and you'll want out. It takes 2 to tango
Befor our Mothers souferd in silice and traind thier Girls to indure in thier mariage very bad good it time we as ghanien have to talk about sach issues thank .Dela ❤❤❤
Great interview! I know that her story will help many women who suffer in their marriages and are feeling that they are all alone in what they are going through.
I am at that point right now. You all won't understand. You can assist ur husband but not for that long. You will become burnt out when you hzve to carry responsibility for that long.
@multyz1 That's the role of a man. Women are helpers. No matter what the woman is, you can't leave even half the family responsibility on her. Especially after given birth to four kids. Do you know how much pregnancy drains a woman?
@@multyz1does a man have a monthly menstrual cycle, does he give birth or go through menopause ?? Does he have a patriarchal structure that silences him and relegates him to Only certain roles? Some of you are so out of touch with your female counterparts, that it’s scary. I feel awful for your daughters
So much for the traditional male/female role in a marriage. A lot of the male subscribers were criticizing Dela for getting a divorce when she was living both roles in the marriage and taking care of a full grown "man". Shameful He wasn't a good role model for his sons. Dela wants her sons to be responsible men in life. Hopefully her male friends, her brothers and other male relatives can assist. I am sure their grandfather instilled some of those traits in them before passing.
They were married for perhaps 18 years or more. You want to tell me that all that time she was feeding him? The guy was struggling to find his feet in Ghana , that is when he needed her the most. You do not abandon a faithful husband the moment he is down.
Traditional Marriage Vow:"I, [Partner's Name], take you, kwesi, to be my lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part." This explains it all. People better not say these words if they don't mean it. Current Marriage Vow for today:"I, [Partner's Name], take you, kwame, to be my lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, not for worse, for richer, not for poorer, not in sickness, only in health, to love and to cherish, until I decide when you are boring me or don't live up to my standards anymore, that's when I part."
@@Burobee What about him supporting her emotionally? Why has it always got to be the woman supporting the male? This attidute is very typical of some African men that I know! Some need an emotional adjustment!
So you have just heard one side of the story and now you have condemned the ex husband. What makes me laugh there are some people with such minds who will condemn others without hearing the full story yet claim they are Christians go church and read about how jesus said condemn no one and never apply that in their lives especially when it's only a one sided story.. can you imagine if the judicial system was like that, they only listened to one side of the story and that's it you are found guilty. Smh
As a man listening to this from a woman,first of all thank you Dela for coming out pour out what most women hide in secret and ie within,sometimes we think we know and we are in control not realizing how much the other person feels,this is a person we fell in love with where we felt like we were flying,money -communication and sex indeed,Dela ..arms are open ,take a warm hug,you are open minded young lady and i know you would find someone who would see you how you see yourself and love you,thanks alot for sharing i have taken my part to sharp me into a better man.
It does not take two. My ex abandoned me and our infant children. I was very young and naive at 17. He turned me into a traumatised zombie. Women, jail.. drugs, he just never wanted me no matter how hard i tried
This is why women should only date men who show that they want you. Women should never chase boys or men. Remember, at the most basic level of science, it is the sperm that chases the egg, it’s not the other way around.
I agree, sometimes it takes one person to make or break a relationship. Sometimes its one person trying and carrying the relationship, sometimes, it's one person doing all they can to destroy a relationship. Sorry that happened to you!
Beautiful and wonderfully made you are, 18 is the number of bondage, black woman im proud of you, only you know the torture you have been thru Ghanaians l8ke to put on a show but you lived in your truth.😊😊😊
I feel for this young lady, having heard your story now, I would never have imagined. My heart broke, listening to her hardships. Marriage can be tough , to have someone that is not doing something to produce a better situation for you both makes it even harder. She was also very relatable in talking about her insecurities, I would've never believed you were in that dark place. Bless her🙏
If you start looking and doing better after you've walked away from a relationship, that is a major sign that things were not right in that relationship.
I don’t know one female elder who has tried to shame me for being unmarried who is married to a good and loyal man. Their men are usually ogling young attractive women or cheating in private. I don’t want your sad life, lady
Subhanallah her story really resonated with me. I shared it for others to learn from me. I learned a lot through her story. May The Almighty Allah give you all goodness in this world and in the hereafter. Ameen❤
Women will always continue to make the same mistakes when it comes to dating and relationships. Men who are genuinely good are not appealing to women in general.
Great video and interview! I can relate to Dela regarding some of the issues she had to overcome 😊 she’s stronger today and I admire her tenacity 😊💜💜💜💜🇺🇸
Dela you are truly a phenomenal woman! Thank you for choosing yourself, thank you for doing this for your kids esp the girl, thank you for reminding us that it is okay to choose ourselves. Thank you.
She mentioned key points that I find touching. Thanks for sharing your story; it’s a lesson learned. My few words to the unmarried: IT IS ONLY JESUS who knows the heart of every man. So, trust him to lead you to your marriage partner. Not you, the church, or anyone else will know a true character of someone but Jesus. You may discover a few here and there, but not all. Give your life to Jesus and start trusting him to lead and guard your life. You won’t regret it.
Sorry for your marriage, I also had the courage to leave after almost 30 years - trying to fix it. Thanks for sharing, it is educational, powerful and inspiring. May God richly bless you both. 😍
Congratulations on saving your self. I’m 20 years in and I can’t wait to walk away. Who feels it knows. I just turned 40 and I will not live the rest of my life in suffering. Is women tolerating much to get along but peace is vital
My mother and other family members will try to tell me I should be miserable because I don't have a husband with kids at 41 then I hear stories like this. For real, I don't need anyone to tell me I'm not happy when I am so content with my single life. It's better than be single and content than married and miserable. For you all that find happiiness in marriage and kids, good for you. I'm going to do me though. If a person cannot add to my life positively, I don't want it at all.
@moretodela, this is my first time “meeting” you. I’ve subscribed to your channel because your story resonates so much with me! Thank you for the voice you’re lending to some many people’s stories. You are full of wisdom, and I love your self-awareness. Great interviewer!!!❤
I could definitely relate with Dela regarding the dynamic relationship between mother and daughter. I'm still dealing with years of trauma by overcoming and letting go since I uprooted my life 8 months ago to get far away from the toxicity. My mom is just suppress, oppress and depress from her own past that she simply doesn't want to let go. If I stayed around in that space, she would have broke me down to cry insanity. My mom is carrying a heavy laden and I believe it haunts her every day. She was born and raised into a Haitian culture that she's seen too much of the dark side. IYKTYK.
😭😭😭😭😭Hummmm God have mercy on us all Amen. My husband said if I really love him I would have let him stay home to look after the kids as he looks after the kids while I was in nursing school same time Woking and my son was 4 weeks old and he repeat that when I finish university. I told his brother he said o but he gave you profession.
Dela, beautiful from the first time i saw u on RUclips. I love u this big ❤❤❤❤because u could have easily gone back to 🇬🇧 You stood your grounds. More love.
She was more driven economically than her husband. He saw her ability and foolishly said" I was one who did everything now I am tired" after awhile they both thought each was doing too much in the relationship.
Your videos are good, but too many commercials or advats will stop people from watching your videos to the end. It's too much to give people time to watch the video more.
I don't believe the content creators can control the adverts RUclips places. I also think it depends on your geographic location, I got hardly any ads.
@@Flourish_today for years I never saw adverts on youtube until I changed my internet to Fiber. 2 years ago... I was so annoyed...but this is in the Virgin Islands, and may depend on how you are getting your internet, I am not sure.
Wowwwww you see why one shouldn’t be quick to judge? Here people were asking why would she divorce. She should stay to work it out. SMH what a sad predicament. May the Lord bless her with the strength needed to press on.
There are many rich Ghanaian women from rich families who will gladly take care of a man, especially a returnee man just to be able to say they're married...
Re-watching this interview and I just have to chime in and say women who go through stuff like that for real. Don’t normally say anything until they’re tired and done. It’s not a matter of hiding or anything else it’s a matter of being in a marriage and working on it not wanting to down Your spouse. I’ve known several women in the same situations. It’s extremely hard for them to go back and explain themselves. Normally the spouse goes around, telling lies as well, and the women have to come behind that and defend themselves and I have seen it become extremely tiring. Sometimes the best thing women can do is to put it behind and not try to go justify themselves to everybody. I absolutely love this video and I have been following Dela since she was pregnant with her fourth child. At that time I was watching content about Ghana and she was one of the first ones that Ifound
this is why i never idolize people who are married, esp. those who are presenting as perfect or healthy or happy on social media. you don't know what's truly going on in people's lives.
Well done sis, you're strong all the best to you and your children, great success to you. Great interview, well done brother you really are good at drawing people out, great skill❤
Hahaha I love fragrance too. Very cool book will definitely buy it, thanks for everything Ms Della, God bless your children and your entire family and you.
Most African women do not agree to move back to Africa with their husbands after tasting life abroad for several years. They don’t care abandoning their husbands at the stage that their husbands need them most in their advanced age. There are many men living in Africa alone now after sending their wives abroad. The woman will simply not come back with you.
The men who don't help you while you are abroad? I see so many women single in marriage. I am horrified by what I see here. If that is marriage I recommend women remain single.
I remember them begging a bunch on RUclips back in the day. I told them go back to uk if they can not manage. Amazing once she left her husband she never had to beg again😂 some men will embarrass you.
Hmmmm
She's helping others by BOLDLY sharing her story. No woman will leave a man after 19 years and 4 children UNLESS she's pushed to do so. It's her story and she's here to share so others can learn from it.
Base on the importance of the story She was the one who was driven and become overwhelmed, Her husband was too much of a follower.yet some people donot allowed the woman with the ideas or strength to lead The husband appeared to be supportive, but that wasnot enough for her. Her husband just sat home is the impression but then she mentioned his dream of construction obviously thaf wasnot enough. Complex story of people having too different visions of the future or family.
Wrong her husband was not supportive. Dela mentioned, there were people wanting help with construction works.Her husband did not want to work.He had plenty of opportunity to support his family. But he chose not too.And to leave it all down to his wife.How can that be right.He had responsibilities. @mavisburke495.
@@mavisburke495 This is exactly what happens when men refuse to fulfil their God given duties and responsibilities as the head of the household. The husband was all talk, he wasn't willing to put in the work and do the heavy lifting to make his dream come true. His now ex-wife had to step in and take on the role of the head, a role that was not meant for her and she found herself overwhelmed and out of her depth.
@@evertonporter7887 My view is different, her husband said he was tired of working for years which meant he once financially headed his family. Possibly later he thought his wife was suited best for You Tube and it brought an income. She taught he was missing the opportunity to be a consultant or help in the construction for viewers ,who were his wife fans who constantly were asking questions because he was previously in construction. Eventually it appeared her husband wanted to focus on his own business in construction which wasnot fast or possibly profitable enough for her. At least, the husband didnot join You tube and competited with her for viewers. My point they had different goals, possible ideas of how to achieve financial mobility, not everyone have the same skill sets.Remember Dela said she never wanted to be a regular worker , maybe her husband was different.
Bullshit... Typical western and westernized woman who thinks although they can pop out 4 kids for the man and also expect the perfect life, husband, riches although 4 kids and herself and think they can go relive youth and find a "better" man . Which one of you men want to step up and mind her and 4 kids and deal with the mentality and attitude? Any takers
It's is sad when the marries women is lonely. It is better to be single and happy than married and suffering in silence
True she is free now and enjoy life
@@angelntotetv2128you think so
You think so
She is doing the best thing for young women by sharing this story. Our Ghanaian elders have failed us. Encouraging marriage too early without having a sense of self dependency, and enduring humiliation and neglect for the sake of “ staying in marriage”. Good for her for being free!!!
Africans in general unfortunately
There are a lot of low functioning individuals. There are many people suffering in silent…ashamed and embarrassed to speak up.
@@Zazezoo The worst marriages are in the Western World - 70 percent divorce rates.
She is doing the right thing by sharing. Millions of men and women are in hopeless relationships. Her story is our story
Indeed. Hopefully, there are more people, especially fellow Africans who will start respecting women who are choosing to stay single and childless. Kudos to those who married well...
You are wrong here. You lack knowledge of wisdom. Women of substance is define by how she can deal with a man who claims she loves.
Any woman claiming that she loves the person she married but divorce in Christianity perspective is just telling a story where she was making a mistake in her love life. This woman here is just telling us what she wanted.
This is why he wanted to move to Ghana so he could rest and she never realized it. Wow, I hope the children are ok.
I am Tanzanian in America and I have experienced the same issues. People are Jealous and intimidated by your intelligence, independence, your kindness, and your work ethic. People made me feel like I am worthless. I had to learn to be tough and stop helping ungrateful people. I have become selfish in that way. You are very pretty and smart. do listen to haters.
No you didn’t become selfish, you became bold and hard to manipulate, well done to you sister
Yet here you are in the US and not TZ. Go figure
@@Faridkhalid-z3pTHIS is it!💯💯💖
As my mother always said ‘one hand can’t clap’. How could she build her life while carrying his dead weight?
The harsh judgement and insensitive comments (mostly from men) are a real eye opener! Dela, inasmuch as I understand you're giving these interviews to help other women in similar situations - and that's a very honourable thing to do - I think you need to rethink this. Now people are talking like you owe them an explanation for the decisions you made for your life and your kids' life, or you have to convince them of your innocence or Kwame's guilt. You don't owe anyone Jack. The life you have is yours and you don't have to explain your decisions or get validation for your decisions from anyone... especially not some strangers on the internet. You wore the shoe, and only you knew where and how it pinched. I said a prayer for while watching this cos I sincerely wish you success on this journey and I know how mean and outright evil some Ghanaians can be when a woman tries to assert herself and not accept whatever toxicity our patriarchal culture throws at her. Godspeed!
Everyone story is different so NO why turn it into competition among the sexes.
I hear women complain about how unfair the patriarchal system is, but I observe how disrespectful and inconsiderate women are towards their children and husbands in the West. The West is a perfect example of why women should not be given rights earned by men. What has resulted in the West due to poor decisions by women is most families broken up. Women generally are all about their feelings not the millions of babies they murder each year nor their families in the West. I have state facts not my opinions just research these facts
That’s because some of these men are guilty of exactly what she is saying
Sadly a lot of the men are operating from low functioning level unfortunately. They have been babied my their mothers and sisters. They marry the women to continue from where their parents left off. A lot of these men cannot do basic household chores .
@@shaunfay22💯
When your father leaves in those early teenage years it is devastating to a girls development...one minute they are there in the house all the time, then suddenly they are taking things from the house and they are gone. It's hard for the children to understand and no-one bothers to explain.
That's why men should do better
Yes 💯 her father failed her and left her vulnerable
This interview is amazing, Hayford. I cried with Dela; I can relate to so many things she said. It was such a deep conversation with a beautiful and brave woman. You both touched on such uncomfortable and "dirty" issues and did it gracefully. Thank you both.
Hayford, You did a great job with your listening skills. Which allowed her to open up. Empath feed on people energy. If you have a positive and good spirit we will feel comfortable and safe. You made her feel safe! Great interview
Medaase
I agree
I completely agree…good job Hayford
I remember seeing Dela in a supermarket, in Ghana i was so shocked she seemed so tense and hunched up, looking down, a few years ago. Her info helped me buy a car, and she connected me with a house viewing. Watching this I
can't say I'm suprised, When I saw her clearly something wasn't right. When I started watching this i was thinking oh no Dela dont spread your business so many haters out here we know how our people are so judgemental about Marriage. After watching the whole video, Good luck to her..Being single and sad in a marriage is no joke....been there..The interviewer was really good he asked the key questions allowed her to speak. Well done Dela
Hayford, a 4+ minute episode intro is far too long!
I have to agree, it should be a small snipet , they are too long
I trying to locate the start it is at 4.56
I also agree. At some point, I was wondering when the interview would start, if at all.
Agreed!
lol same thing I was thinking
A lot of women are unhappy in their marriage but they sacrifices their peace and happiness
Same with men but men just have a thicker skin and moan less about their unhappiness.
@@sammylong3704abusive and useless men, yes.
@@sammylong3704yeah by keeping a side peace 😂😂
Us women are loyal to their own detriment. We stay in unfulfilling and unhappy marriages until our kids are grown and independent.
I love Dela, she’s AWESOME!
This guy is excellent at getting personable in his interviews! I think he’s one of the best in Ghana. Top! 🙌
I agree. On the other hand, the other guy who interviewed her on the podcast seemed to appear intimidating.
The joy after finding yourself after divorce. It won't be easy.
I love how she addresses it. Africans have to become really much more open
We want to hear the husband side
A father's work is never over.
He is responsible for raising and supporting his family / instilling the right moral values in his children until they can stand on their own two feet.
YOU CANNOT BE TIRED OF WORK WHEN YOU HAVE YOUNG CHILDREN.
Good interview. I don't understand the nasty comments. She admits she's not perfect and must have done somethings wrong.
Her experience is her experience. You have to be mature to marry and maturity isn't age related. They were both not mature enough.
Both have to be mature. You don't expect one person to be carrying that maturity. If she's the only one being mature, you'd get tired too and you'll want out. It takes 2 to tango
Befor our Mothers souferd in silice and traind thier Girls to indure in thier mariage very bad good it time we as ghanien have to talk about sach issues thank .Dela ❤❤❤
Dela great interview, I'm crying watching and I understood the mom situation relationship etc.
Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for listening
This was wonderful interview, Della was honest and open to the many probing questions. Della you are a very beautiful black woman, stay strong.🌹
Great interview! I know that her story will help many women who suffer in their marriages and are feeling that they are all alone in what they are going through.
I am at that point right now. You all won't understand. You can assist ur husband but not for that long. You will become burnt out when you hzve to carry responsibility for that long.
I agree 100% because I went through it. Lost all respect for him.
Men have been doing that for centuries without complaining.
@multyz1 That's the role of a man. Women are helpers. No matter what the woman is, you can't leave even half the family responsibility on her. Especially after given birth to four kids. Do you know how much pregnancy drains a woman?
A husband in 21st century pmsl.
@@multyz1does a man have a monthly menstrual cycle, does he give birth or go through menopause ?? Does he have a patriarchal structure that silences him and relegates him to
Only certain roles? Some of you are so out of touch with your female counterparts, that it’s scary. I feel awful for your daughters
So much for the traditional male/female role in a marriage. A lot of the male subscribers were criticizing Dela for getting a divorce when she was living both roles in the marriage and taking care of a full grown "man". Shameful
He wasn't a good role model for his sons. Dela wants her sons to be responsible men in life. Hopefully her male friends, her brothers and other male relatives can assist. I am sure their grandfather instilled some of those traits in them before passing.
They were married for perhaps 18 years or more. You want to tell me that all that time she was feeding him? The guy was struggling to find his feet in Ghana , that is when he needed her the most. You do not abandon a faithful husband the moment he is down.
@@bhat_ysrael In Ghana her options was wide open spreading her legs around,trust me no man will keep her
Traditional Marriage Vow:"I, [Partner's Name], take you, kwesi, to be my lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part." This explains it all. People better not say these words if they don't mean it.
Current Marriage Vow for today:"I, [Partner's Name], take you, kwame, to be my lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, not for worse, for richer, not for poorer, not in sickness, only in health, to love and to cherish, until I decide when you are boring me or don't live up to my standards anymore, that's when I part."
@@Burobee What about him supporting her emotionally? Why has it always got to be the woman supporting the male? This attidute is very typical of some African men that I know! Some need an emotional adjustment!
So you have just heard one side of the story and now you have condemned the ex husband. What makes me laugh there are some people with such minds who will condemn others without hearing the full story yet claim they are Christians go church and read about how jesus said condemn no one and never apply that in their lives especially when it's only a one sided story.. can you imagine if the judicial system was like that, they only listened to one side of the story and that's it you are found guilty. Smh
I hear you daughter. No descent woman just uproot and leave a marriage. 19 years trying you did the honorable thing. Fly high and shine❤❤
As a man listening to this from a woman,first of all thank you Dela for coming out pour out what most women hide in secret and ie within,sometimes we think we know and we are in control not realizing how much the other person feels,this is a person we fell in love with where we felt like we were flying,money -communication and sex indeed,Dela ..arms are open ,take a warm hug,you are open minded young lady and i know you would find someone who would see you how you see yourself and love you,thanks alot for sharing i have taken my part to sharp me into a better man.
Sir, your interviews are getting better. I enjoyed this one.
Glad you like them!
Very intelligent
This was such a pointed, professional, and well-done interview.
It does not take two. My ex abandoned me and our infant children. I was very young and naive at 17. He turned me into a traumatised zombie. Women, jail.. drugs, he just never wanted me no matter how hard i tried
This is why women should only date men who show that they want you. Women should never chase boys or men. Remember, at the most basic level of science, it is the sperm that chases the egg, it’s not the other way around.
I agree, sometimes it takes one person to make or break a relationship. Sometimes its one person trying and carrying the relationship, sometimes, it's one person doing all they can to destroy a relationship. Sorry that happened to you!
May the great God heal you sis and help you to be a good mother to your children. Big love and hugs ❤
Such a brave lady. Thank you Dela for sharing and for doing the right thing for yourself and your children ❤
It’s incredibly inspiring to see you share such a difficult part of your life and experiences. Really bold Dela, thank you for sharing.
Beautiful and wonderfully made you are, 18 is the number of bondage, black woman im proud of you, only you know the torture you have been thru Ghanaians l8ke to put on a show but you lived in your truth.😊😊😊
Aren't Ghanians majority black? She was in a black country so obviously she is black
I feel for this young lady, having heard your story now, I would never have imagined. My heart broke, listening to her hardships. Marriage can be tough , to have someone that is not doing something to produce a better situation for you both makes it even harder. She was also very relatable in talking about her insecurities, I would've never believed you were in that dark place. Bless her🙏
If you start looking and doing better after you've walked away from a relationship, that is a major sign that things were not right in that relationship.
I don’t know one female elder who has tried to shame me for being unmarried who is married to a good and loyal man. Their men are usually ogling young attractive women or cheating in private. I don’t want your sad life, lady
Capt Hayford , great interview , to Dela : I wish you and the children , the best...!!!🌹🧔🏿.
Subhanallah her story really resonated with me. I shared it for others to learn from me. I learned a lot through her story. May The Almighty Allah give you all goodness in this world and in the hereafter. Ameen❤
Great interview Dela. An important message for women to hear so we don’t make the same mistakes.
Please stop being naive her story is hers why project hero or compion for relationship or women status?
@@mavisburke495 A lot of modern women go through this.
Women will always continue to make the same mistakes when it comes to dating and relationships. Men who are genuinely good are not appealing to women in general.
A father of 4 kids wanting to rest when there are mouths to feed and a family to take care of?! This guy lacks vision and is very lazy!
If he is lazy then what about her? Is she not lazy too?
@@benbo7042was she the one doing it ???
😂😂😂😂😂😂
YOU are Right. ..Fathers have to fight to keep family together..more Blessings AMEN
Genuinely wanting to know 🙏🏾
In what way should they fight to keep their families together?
Congratulations to Dela for sharing her story...I relate so much to her story. My marriage also ended up in divorce following rellocation to Ghana.
Great video and interview! I can relate to Dela regarding some of the issues she had to overcome 😊 she’s stronger today and I admire her tenacity 😊💜💜💜💜🇺🇸
Oh Dela sweet soul thanks for telling your story.
Enjoy your new you and let your healing journey remain true and real...
Dela you are truly a phenomenal woman! Thank you for choosing yourself, thank you for doing this for your kids esp the girl, thank you for reminding us that it is okay to choose ourselves. Thank you.
She mentioned key points that I find touching. Thanks for sharing your story; it’s a lesson learned.
My few words to the unmarried: IT IS ONLY JESUS who knows the heart of every man. So, trust him to lead you to your marriage partner. Not you, the church, or anyone else will know a true character of someone but Jesus. You may discover a few here and there, but not all.
Give your life to Jesus and start trusting him to lead and guard your life. You won’t regret it.
It’s only Jesus who knows the heart of everyone indeed.
I really admire you Dela keep on speaking your truth 🙌🏽
Thank you for this open and deep conversation. As a woman and a Christian Mother I related to Dellas story at most levels🙏🙏
And she’s so beautiful. I wish her the best.
Your guess has a lump on the liftside of her neck near her thyroid. She should see a doctor to evaluate her thyroid,
It may be stress related.
True
This lady s so pretty. Too bad for her marriage tho
Sorry for your marriage, I also had the courage to leave after almost 30 years - trying to fix it. Thanks for sharing, it is educational, powerful and inspiring. May God richly bless you both. 😍
Congratulations on saving your self. I’m 20 years in and I can’t wait to walk away. Who feels it knows. I just turned 40 and I will not live the rest of my life in suffering. Is women tolerating much to get along but peace is vital
...Dela, what a great chat. You've done the work, and it shows!
I luv ur hair; thx for sharing ur story…🌹
Too many unhappy African women are stuck in rubbish marriage. Life should not be sad every day.
Many African men are stuck on rubbish marriages too.
Wonderful interview. She will help so many with her book and openness about her experiences.
Marriage is not for everyone
Or it is for people who are willing to look down and ignore abuse of any kind to please family and friends aka struggle love.
Shes so beautiful and the hair is gorgeous.
Speak your truth Dela, speak!!!
My mother and other family members will try to tell me I should be miserable because I don't have a husband with kids at 41 then I hear stories like this. For real, I don't need anyone to tell me I'm not happy when I am so content with my single life. It's better than be single and content than married and miserable. For you all that find happiiness in marriage and kids, good for you. I'm going to do me though. If a person cannot add to my life positively, I don't want it at all.
Fantastic interview, open , sincere , honest and insightful . Scene set , brilliant interviewer. Bring on the ex
@moretodela, this is my first time “meeting” you. I’ve subscribed to your channel because your story resonates so much with me! Thank you for the voice you’re lending to some many people’s stories. You are full of wisdom, and I love your self-awareness.
Great interviewer!!!❤
I could definitely relate with Dela regarding the dynamic relationship between mother and daughter. I'm still dealing with years of trauma by overcoming and letting go since I uprooted my life 8 months ago to get far away from the toxicity. My mom is just suppress, oppress and depress from her own past that she simply doesn't want to let go. If I stayed around in that space, she would have broke me down to cry insanity. My mom is carrying a heavy laden and I believe it haunts her every day. She was born and raised into a Haitian culture that she's seen too much of the dark side. IYKTYK.
I think I remember she had a youtube channel where she and her husband were posting videos of building their home?
Or.....
Dela, you've been through it, come through it and have done very well. Be very proud of yourself!
Watching from the USA 🇺🇸! UK 🇬🇧 life experiences are quite similar! We have to deal with a lot! But God always take care of us 💜💜💜
This is very good and thank you for being honest about your relationship. Has helped alot. Happy you found happiness
Wow respect my sister
She speaks truthful...
😭😭😭😭😭Hummmm God have mercy on us all Amen. My husband said if I really love him I would have let him stay home to look after the kids as he looks after the kids while I was in nursing school same time Woking and my son was 4 weeks old and he repeat that when I finish university. I told his brother he said o but he gave you profession.
Great interview. Very empowering.
Dela, beautiful from the first time i saw u on RUclips. I love u this big ❤❤❤❤because u could have easily gone back to 🇬🇧
You stood your grounds. More love.
Guys choosing a good partner is everything.
Web Nation your interviewing skills are truly excellent..love your depth
So inspiring story...I can relate...Keep going Dela...You are blessed!
You did ask the right questions Hayford
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I had the same feeling. She said she dropped out of school and you didn’t ask why but suggesting reasons to her for why she dropped out of school
It's about commhnication, dont underestimate communication, truthful communication
She was more driven economically than her husband. He saw her ability and foolishly said" I was one who did everything now I am tired" after awhile they both thought each was doing too much in the relationship.
Your videos are good, but too many commercials or advats will stop people from watching your videos to the end. It's too much to give people time to watch the video more.
I totally agree. It is way too much advertisement, therefore, you can't get the full story properly, and you are forced to move on to another channel.
I don't believe the content creators can control the adverts RUclips places. I also think it depends on your geographic location, I got hardly any ads.
@@tashmatazz They can chose placement of their ads and how many.
How come I never see adverts?
@@Flourish_today for years I never saw adverts on youtube until I changed my internet to Fiber. 2 years ago... I was so annoyed...but this is in the Virgin Islands, and may depend on how you are getting your internet, I am not sure.
Wowwwww you see why one shouldn’t be quick to judge? Here people were asking why would she divorce. She should stay to work it out. SMH what a sad predicament. May the Lord bless her with the strength needed to press on.
Her skin is beautiful
She is look much better and beautiful
Yes always blaming women for the downfall of their marriages. Very telling. Hmmmm.
Ghana has a lot of toxic patriarchy and women are forced to comply.
If her ex husband wanted to be taken care of he should have married a man.
EVIL.
😂😂😂😂
@@nanagladys582 the truth is not evil, men are treating women like guys and get angry when the outcome isn't in their favor.
There are many rich Ghanaian women from rich families who will gladly take care of a man, especially a returnee man just to be able to say they're married...
Re-watching this interview and I just have to chime in and say women who go through stuff like that for real. Don’t normally say anything until they’re tired and done. It’s not a matter of hiding or anything else it’s a matter of being in a marriage and working on it not wanting to down Your spouse. I’ve known several women in the same situations. It’s extremely hard for them to go back and explain themselves. Normally the spouse goes around, telling lies as well, and the women have to come behind that and defend themselves and I have seen it become extremely tiring. Sometimes the best thing women can do is to put it behind and not try to go justify themselves to everybody. I absolutely love this video and I have been following Dela since she was pregnant with her fourth child. At that time I was watching content about Ghana and she was one of the first ones that Ifound
this is why i never idolize people who are married, esp. those who are presenting as perfect or healthy or happy on social media. you don't know what's truly going on in people's lives.
Thank you my sister and thank you my brother for an amazing video vlog , I'm going to get the book🙏🏽❤️☮️🇹🇹🇺🇸👍
Well done sis, you're strong all the best to you and your children, great success to you. Great interview, well done brother you really are good at drawing people out, great skill❤
I can relate so much to her, a few parallels here and there
Beautiful interview! Keep going, Chalé
DELA..Sister..you are Strong..May the Good LORD keep you SAFE and your children, Parents..friends. SAD but stii LIFE ..AMEN..
Marriage is not a flex and its good people are clear
Dela, make a retreat for healing. A sista network maybe. Just a suggestion. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
Great interview ❤Lots of women In dead relationships..GET OUT!!!!
The truth really hurts, but it build positive character if you accept it
Hahaha I love fragrance too. Very cool book will definitely buy it, thanks for everything Ms Della, God bless your children and your entire family and you.
It is sad what people go through in marriage. Male and female alike. It's painful.
I can relate... You have to have the courage to choose yourself!
When does this interview start
4.56 interview introduction begins
Most African women do not agree to move back to Africa with their husbands after tasting life abroad for several years. They don’t care abandoning their husbands at the stage that their husbands need them most in their advanced age. There are many men living in Africa alone now after sending their wives abroad. The woman will simply not come back with you.
Dont make assumptions. Did I say that she refused?
The men who don't help you while you are abroad? I see so many women single in marriage.
I am horrified by what I see here. If that is marriage I recommend women remain single.