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You seemed to neglect mentioning loyalty. As an ENFP-A, I will remind you that once somebody does me wrong or dirty, For that moment forward until the end of time, I wouldn't piss on 'em if they are on fire. Done, fin, kaput, No hope. EVER.
Omg,.....my head just swims, and swims, and swims, ALL day long, every single day, (except when I'm down hurt or sick) then it's only 3/4 of the swimming or half of the time.... But I'm sooo stuck between knowing wheather or not if I'm infp, or enfp.. I've taken the Myers Briggs with Carl Jung and it would appear I am infp, but I so have a lot of traits that enfp has.. ...
Same! Haha. I'm trying to wright one now. But it's like one letter, then a few weeks nothing, untill there's a new idea and i'm willing to fit it in my existing story. If that doesn't work, i'm getting frustrated and start something new haha. Life is a b*tch xD
I dont know if this is an ENFP thing but being willing to talk about feelings or ideas is important. I couldn't have a partner that sweeps everything under the rug and doesnt want to deal with issues. I like people who are comfortable being open and vulnerable.
Enfps also cherish partners that are playful with them and humour them when they (ENFP) know they're being silly. Enfps I find also use those qualities to test a person to see if that person is good enough to win their hearts over. Cause enfps are so selfless, they need to guard their hearts from getting burnt (or taken advantage of) because of their good nature... so even if Enfps have a huge friend circle, only a very people have won their hearts over... at all if any. (I'm ENFP, just sayin :p)
very true....we have msny friends but very few deep ones...we get lonely at times and we can be taken advantage of by others. humor/playfulnes and practicality does us well.
Is it weird for an ENFP like me to self evaluate myself at the end of each day by talking to yourself randomly?? And everything you mention is THE TOTAL TRUTH! YAS!
For someone who's about to date an ENFP it sucks whenever they cut their story short thinking I'll be bored with them. As an INFP, I love and appreciate your stories :)
As someone who's also an ENFP..do you find when you get to know an INFJ that the are interesting and wonderfully, mysteriously enchanting, or are they more, what you see is what you get? I keep thinking they might be a bit boring, like Mr. Rogers, whom I believe was a wonderful soul. Kind, understanding, but seemingly boring. I would love a partner that make our love an adventure.
There are the concepts of compatibility and chemistry. Great compatibility means you got the same values, interests etc. Chemistry is how you fit together emotionally. Like, a relationship that got compatibility, but no chemistry, would be boring as hell. Kids, laundry, work, responsibilties. A relationship that only got chemistry but no compatibilty is one of those highly dramatic, romantic, impossible love stories, but usually without a happy end. Affairs, taboo unions (like teacher-student) and so. A recipe for major heart break. Or me with my tendency to inadvertantly attract cute guys in their early 20s (I'm 40!), who usually turn out to be drug dealers or lead another kind of high risk life (mind, my Descendant is in Aries, so that might not be such an ENFP thing.) However, my last long term relationship started online, chatting for a whole year before we met. I'm also quite comfy with being Friends with Benefits. And it's true, I need to see someone as a friend first - otherwise, he's just not attractive to me in any way.
I had no idea, but once i discovered MBTI, i am SURROUNDED by so many naive or immature NF's and am especiially drawn to INFJ's but never had any idea, i am like, in love with my best friend so badly because he's a complete mirror image of me but, he's really immature and lacks wisdom and isn't willing to meet me in the middle, yet, but im gonna stick it out hahah, we fighting at the moment cause i called him out for being selfish and a bratty little sugar baby and he couldn't handle that shit, went instantly silent and dissolved into his mushroom and dissapeared off the face of the earth before coming back and went "umm sorry but i do not agree with absolutely anything you have said and i will never forget it either, if you want to talk again come fly up and see me *BLOCKED ME*" - infj's are the fucking death of me and i hate the little pricks so much but they complete my fucking soul and i need them so much hahahaha
Oh my goodness - Get out of my head!!! I thought I knew my ENFP ways but you just blew my mind, on every single detail! From the super long spider web-story telling & communication styles and the types of support I need.. Thanks so much for posting this!
Wow I’m so glad I watched this! My husband is an ENFP and he used to talk to me a lot but he doesn’t talk to me much anymore. But watching this I realized maybe I’m too critical and impatient with his words. I’m an INFJ & I like to keep words simple and to the point so I tend to get impatient with his wordy “arguments.” So I think I know why he pulled away. I will take your advice ❤️ thanks
My boyfriend kills all my enthusiasm for life. Because I'm friendly I'm accused daily of infidelity, he criticises everything I say, he feels uncomfortable about my spontaneous nature and has told me to grow up when I want to dance around the house, thinking about it being with him makes me sad :-( but being a ENFP makes it difficult to break up with people. For example it took me three to four years to break up with my ex husband. It's really difficult to make the decision to leave. I think in the future I'll really want to get to know someone for quite a while before choosing to enter a relationship with them and even then I think I won't want to be entangled up too much with their life's such as both our names being on the house etc or married to them unless I can really trust them. These relationship tips are very useful.
You deserve someone who will let you dance, anywhere, anytime, for any reason. Period. That goes for all people. And, yes being really tangled up with someone can be hard, but knowing things are not right and trusting your gut is very important, if things can't be worked through. I always like to see people as they are, not as I'd like them to be, if I can.
ENFP here...That sounds too familiar. :-| I've found all my past partners put a damper on my spirit and eventually were just harsh, critical, boring... I wonder if I should be with another ENFP since we seem to be the only ones who can understand each other and cheer each other up. OR just continue on with my imaginary relationship, that one is going really well. :-P
Hahaha! ;D I keep hearing that INTJ is perfect for ENFP, but when I read about INTJs it sounds like they are the opposite of everything an ENFP needs? It's confusing. :-S
ENFP here, my husband is an INTJ, He kinda feels like a vulcan sometimes, you know like I am married to Spock, but a Spock with a great sense of humor. He listens so well, he analyses the word/idea-vomit that comes out of me and helps me channel it and together we make great things. The best things we "made" are our two girls
I used to be in therapy because of depression (burn out, long story), and at first, my therapist thought there might be ADHS as well, because I was all over the place when talking, spinning a web, but I got always nervous about sharing my thoughts, constantly adapting to the reaction of my audience instead of simply stating what's on my mind. Of course this gets confusing. Turns out that this was an effect of being both gifted and anxious to win people's approval. Given how talkative, creative and social ENFPs are, I wouldn't be surprised if that were a common issue. It takes strong self-esteem to share that weird part of you with "normal" people whose brains work in a more linear way and who might just get overwhelmed. In the end, I always win them over, the co-workers, customers etc, but it always starts with "geez, you talk too much".
Point number one is so important for me (I'm ENFP). I just realised this as I am newly single and am looking back on my relationship and seeing what qualities I would like in future. My ex was not charitable in a "people" way. I always daydreamed about us maybe volunteering with old people together or being Big Brother Big Sisters to kids who need mentors but it was never something he was interested in. In my next relationship I want to be with someone who, like me, loves doing things to make others' lives better. Someone who wants to make a meal for their friend who is going through a hard time, or will volunteer to help their mum put together some furniture. Caring for others is such an attractive quality to me.
I'm an XNTJ and one of the main attractive traits about my partner that was actually on my list is her generosity. She loves helping people in such a compassionate, unconditional and genuine way. I can't stand selfish women at all.
As an INFJ male I started to question my sexuality for a moment. Lol. Granted I was trying to imagine my gf while watching the video. Sadly its currently long distance, but well worth the wait to make arrangements for our future. My gf is an EFNP.
I need to create a dating app for personality types finding each other. I didn't know about this when I got married lol. As an infj, being with an enfp sounds like a beautiful, exciting life. I would love to connect other couples through personality. I will put this business idea on my long list of ideas. LOL
Dont get me wrong it does sound fun and i like MBTI and all, but id say is a little insulting to be judged or create expectations specialy looking for a partner, based on this, people are not fictional characters that act like they are supossed to all the time, and i seen couples of "unmatched" types that work so good together 😌
Love the ENFP personality! I feel like they exude in a more enhanced way who I am inside (I'm an INFP). I love to connect with people, this is different than to just socialize. I want to know others' insights and thoughts on anything - this is how I come to learn of and bond with another being. I don't need sameness, I just need vulnerability and honesty and courage. But, so few people, especially sensors, are willing to be open with you. Meanwhile, I seem not open because I want to open my inside to you and connect, not just have chats where you won't be open or dismiss me for being different in my way of connecting. Talking about ideas and abstract things it what gets my energy going in a social setting. Otherwise, I seem like a bore i think... lol
"A partner of ENFP should be charitable." Me, an INTJ : I'll see myself out. Edit : Jokes aside, after some research and introspection, I actually am charitable only when it is necessary. I'd rather let someone learn to stand on their own and jump in when necessary than to guide them step by step for the sake of the process. Just feel like doing justice for other INTJs who feel wronged for being accused as a non-charitable person.
Thank you, Fay 💛✨ Fellow INTJ here 😊 People who don’t know us, have probably only read about us, or are not perceptive enough have a lot of NONSENSE to say about us 😉 Many forget that we are also human beings who feel just as deeply as everyone else, but they choose to think what they want to think and see what they want to see. Our job is to be charitable to those who matter. If we are not charitable, it means you don’t matter...or maybe you wrongly perceived us as uncharitable, because you refused to give us the benefit of the doubt. That’s all.
I'm an INFP, and I have an INTJ friend. He's amazing. I just needed more time to know him, but he's worth the effort. And charitable? I know INTJ would do anything for the people they love, right? As long as it's logical of course, hahaha
This is so accurate! I am very communication focused and it’s so important to me that the person I’m with is communicative with me. My last relationship was with an ISTJ and wow... he would become very closed off when I had unknowingly done something that upset or annoyed him. And instead of telling me so we could resolve it he would pretty much ignore me until he was over it. He would never discuss it afterwards which drove me mad because I like to resolve things so that I can make sure they don’t happen again. Another problem that I had in that particular relationship was that he mistook my friendliness and extroverted qualities as me flirting with other people, which is ridiculous because I’m a very loyal person and would never intentionally do that or try to make someone jealous. Contrary to how it sounds there were also a lot of good things about the relationship, and I did love him a lot, but I’ve definitely learned that I need to be with someone who understands me more!
I'm an ENFP friends with an ISTJ and lemme tell u sis.. love him, but communication is barley there. But other than that, he understands me pretty well and he's great at helping me see things in a more logical way. While I help him come out of his shell and teach him to loosen up. As friends, it's a pre great balance 😊
Thanks for making this video! As a fellow ENFP, a lot you shared made me laugh. It's so funny when you said you wanted to go the military, be a firefighter and policeman at the same time. Ha! Priceless ENFP thinking :) Pointing out finding the charitability quality in another partner is HUGE for a relationship. I had never thought of it that way but it's an essential value we need in our lives and cannot do without. Not having this quality in a partner would be a huge disconnect in the relationship. Also, the other quality you mention, for an ENFP partner to be able to see things from a different perspective and engage/challenge our perspective/ideas in a positive way is like being given a drink of water to our ENFP soul. Lastly, having a partner who is practical helps remind us to stay in line when we begin floating away into our own analysis paralysis.
I’m part of a trio where I am an ENFP, and the others are an ENFP and INFJ. Read about the theory in these particular types, and i think it’s so fascinating that it’s actually true! I love this!
Awesome video. Love enfps, they're both great speakers and attentive listeners with lots of points of views to contribute to someone who may need it - and they have tact, generally! Great communicators! -INFP
Enfp's are beautiful, fascinating people. I can spend hours listening to enfp stories and ideas. Coming from an infj, you enfp's have beautiful minds 😊 thank you for sharing.
Hi! my daughter is a 10 year old enfp, and I'm an infj, and we feel like we're a dream team!! We're constantly looking for new ways to improve our already sweet life together, and this video is very helpful. I've been encouraging her more to PRACTICE making decisions, which she tends to find laborious. But if you don't get the experience as a child...harder as an adult! We've noticed that there is a little infj in her, and a little enfp in me, so we can sometimes see from each other's perspectives. I feel like I'm the luckiest parent on earth, to have an enthusiastic, insightful, kind, creative and absolutely delightful enfp for a kid!!!!!
Kristanne Stone Kristanne Stone Awwww I'm really happy.. and your daughter must be indeed to lucky for having a mother who is able to embrace her uniqueness and her impractical nature. 😍😍 I can say.. I have been always attracted to infjs..and by a coincidence when I made 2 of my closest and best friends ever do the mbti test..they got infj😍
I think you’re one of the first ENFP guys I’ve found talking on youtube. Yeah.. You’re like definitely an ENFP. (So am I, no worries ;) Like for example, you jump from one thing to another and you’re also reading your audience a little even though you can’t see them. When you’re talking about ENFP habits, you cut yourself off because you’re worried it’s incorrect or looks bad to the audience. You’re much more open about self-doubt, and have much more flexibility and suddenly witching the conversation to address that. I’m totally going to be a psyche major, but it was very fascinating to study you. (I use my Te a lot because of my INTJ dad and ISTJ sis)
I'm an Infj mom of a enfp, he's nearly 10 yrs old. I love how sensitive and compassionate he is, but wearing your heart on your sleeve has its drawbacks. I'm constantly praying that he will find a girl who's a great listener, as compassionate as he is, and level headed enough to balance, but not kill, his mercurial nature. And that he will know and value himself enough not to settle for anything less. Thanks for sharing your insight.
ENFPs don't wear their hearts on their sleeve. We may appear that way, but we're the complete opposite. It can take years to uncover a flake of the ENFPs heart.
Wow that’s really good. We do need that. Having someone who will listen to us and help us when we over think, need another perspective and when we just need to be silly. Orderly is very important as well as practical. You hit it on the mark.
Yo! Haha. We're out there. Just keep a weather eye out for someone who likes introducing new ideas to you while still respecting your point of view. Does he love hearing your opinion as much as sharing his own? Is he practiced or self educated in many different things but not quite a master of any of them? Just some signs to keep an eye out for. Good luck 😊
Omg I can relate. I also have high functioning Autism and I love that I’m able to see all sides to a story and I’m looking for someone with a good heart that can understand all my highs and lows. My mind is always thinking I could right a book. This was a good vid:) I do love helping people this vid was awesome
It’s so funny the way you talk, because I can really find myself in it 😅 The train of thought and the way you express yourself! ENFPs for the win 💪 I agree with you on most points, but I would also add the fact that we are the most introverted extraverts... and that our partners need to understand that sometimes we just need time to ourselves. It might actually be really confusing for people who get to know this side; going from constant communication and excitement to closing ourselves up and distancing ourselves. I noticed that dating someone that is really needy and clingy just doesn’t work for me. I need the other person to be independent, be in the relationship but also be their own person ♥️ Nice video though, I really enjoyed it and hope to see some more on the topic of ENFPs 🔥🔥🔥😁
Married to an ESFJ for 20 years! I don't hear that combo mentioned often but it does fit the bill nicely for those willing to work at communication and live and let live.
As en ENFP who’s been trying to launch a RUclips channel for years, I have to compliment you on this video, you speak really well and your ideas/explanations are really interesting. Inspiring me to get off my ass and out of my head. Thanks dude.
Had that with an INTP. The most fulfilling intellectual connect and chemistry. Except he lacked empathy and didnt like ppl. Also he went back with his Ex. Maybe my emotions played into it. But it was a real connection. He made me see myself in a different light. It changed me.
2:50 I thought I was the only one who did this when I started dating someone 😭 I haven't even finished the video but you really have been spot on!! I'm shook!
ENFPs always want to write a book but they never can because they want ALL of their ideas fit into ONE BOOK, but they have too many ideas. (Patrick Lencioni is a great ENFP - I'm like THANK YOU for giving me seven books in this one, Mr. Lencioni!)
Thanks for sharing! Your comment on "buying a pair of pants" made me laugh because, when I go shopping, I check over 10 stores haha. I am 31 now and make very quick buying decisions by the way. So, it goes kind of away and you keep your crazy thought processing skills :)
as an enfp starting a channel it feels like my channdl might be all over the place but im ok with that because you seem to just do what you wanna do. Inspirational stuff man keep on making videos
I’m an ENFP, and yes lord whatever you just said is beyond perfect and it gave a thought about what i actually should be looking for! Plus, i am practical and super logical but being that been hard.
I am 100℅ enfp. I give out everything of mine to the ones I pay attention for. I don't care how much stuff to do I have, how important my own stuff are, I just forget about all and can give my time, life, heart, support in any form. I had experience of being used. I just have too much of humanity. I don't know what should I do.
Great video! As an INTJ I’ve been looking a lot into dating an ENFP girl. Your video certainly makes me think there would be a good chance. Seems like ENFP guys would make good friends too. You seem like a pretty cool relatable dude.
I must have busted out laughing at least half a dozen times at how relatable all the side comments and inner dialogues were! Lol Thank you for sharing! As an ENFP as well, it was fun to hear my thoughts and truths about myself articulated on a video. Take care!
Somehow I can relate to this.. I'm INFJ-T 5w4. I joke a lot when I try to communicate and get to know people, even within the serious stuff. I think that could lead to misunderstandings, but i also think the right kind of people will see and understand that. I'm the kind of person who loves Anime and I have that kind of humour. I can't describe how hard I laugh at the trap-scenes in Angel Beats. Angel Beats are my favorite because the struggles were real, things were unfair, we got in deep touch with the characters and because it was about appreciation of life. When it comes to ideas, dreams and goals.. This is how I see it: It doesn't matter how much time we have, but its about how we use our time to reach all the things we want in life. When I'm at my most introverted-state, then I'm more useful and proactive with my time to get things done. It includes personal development, strength training, jobs, projects ++ The list goes on. I wish to travel, but not alone... Feels like I'm waiting for someone who wants to travel with me around the world. The one thing I don't get about my life is that... How is it possible that I've lived my life for 27 years and haven't met an single ENFP guy yet....(maybe ENFPs are rare in Norway.....I don't know, but they're hard to find .) It almost seems like I have to experience all the wrong and bad things.. and before I know it the right one would probably stand right in front of me. It would be so typical. x)
You are so cute, omg. I can say with certainty that AURORA (my favorite singer ever) is an INFP, so the ENFP is kind of like that, just a little different. More extroverted. We're like puppies. INFPs are like kittens. You'll find the difference between us. Angel Beats is so sad.
Hello, dude. I am an INTJ dating an ENFP since 2015 and there are so many things I would like to figure out... like... what should I do when he closes himself in a cold behaviour. I don't know if ENFP's need space like INTJ people does. Or if actually, he wants me to break the walls so he will fell important... Another thing... Apparently, I don't show love as I should... I don't say I love you all the time because I fear it may lose the meaning... What I feel for him can't fit in a simple '' I love you''... but I have no words for that, so I keep it to special moments. I am not good at translating feelings like a Feeler does... how can a improve this, fellow ENFP? Greetings from Brazil.
So. I would say that for starters it seems you really care about him since you are putting so much thought into it. Hopefully he will notice the effort you put in. On the other hand, I would say ENFPs need space just as much as anyone. Sometimes when I get cold or mean it usually means I am tired or there is something else I'd rather be doing and something is stopping me from doing it. Giving space without prying too much will allow the ENFP to go straight for what he/she wants. There is no need to help them figure out what they want, (trust me) they know but they may not be able to voice what they want if they are not mature enough at introspective stuff. Secondly, about the saying "I love you" it really matters. I know you may feel it is not enough, but if it works for your ENFP just DO IT. I don't care if I hear "I love you" 100x in one day. I still take it with as much value as anything and it still really feels good. ENFPs are turbulent. and its nice to have something constant day after day, like a lovers feelings being voiced. So I"d say make an honest effort at it, and then also say what you said to me. Be honest with them and say that saying "I love you" for you, doesn't really capture what you want to say. That's beautiful tbh and shows you care alot which may not be something your ENFP can read unless you speak it. So I would say, speak up. An ENFP will talk it out, but not always take the initiative, if you are worried, speak up. It wil always be better than guessing, but remember to not press to hard. If you try and they seem distant. Give some space for maybe a day or two.
Lol. yes spider web story telling with jokes. I'm with an INTJ and I find he really balances me out....sometimes he looks at me like I'm nuts. ha ha. I feel he really keeps me grounded because sometimes I get really emotional and confused about things and he's so logical so he gives me that new perspective always which is awesome.
as an enfp who probably shouldnt be dating another enfp i cant help but think youre like the dream guy! the thing you said about "then lets talk about all our favorite things and then lets down 12 bottles of wine and then go to africa!!" like that right there sounds like the BEST! i swear you are the biggest sweetheart! i really, really hope for you that whatever woman youre with adores you for being you! cuz youre like a rare gem! with those eyes too it cant go too wrong with you!
We are SO much apike! I just discovered the Briggs personality types a few months ago. I am clearly an ENFP. My ex-wife (24 years) didn't have any patience, didn't like my stories, unless I could keep them to a minute or two, and was not a communicator or inteospective! Doh!! She sure was a wonderful person with a big heart and sexy cute. I will take your advice on the next one.....having a little trouble finding someone with those qualities... 🤔
Spot on. Common values are really important. Similar communication style. Never thought of introspection, my best friends offer me that. As for practicality I need to ponder that.
You are adorable!! 😍 I am an ENFP and I so relate with what you have said. Also, being understood is suuupper important to me so I feel that definitely relates to being generous with listening to us.
I remember a past relationship. Always when I told a story, about something that I was very passionate or enthusiastic about, at the end of the story, she would say: "Ok babe, well that's nice." and would hop over to her own story. No questions whatsoever. I felt like I just did my little school presentation and that was that. I really missed being appreciated and sharing stories where we both would dive into a deeper level of connection, showing sincere interest in one another. Although I tend to talk a lot, which I am aware of, at least ask some questions in which you show interest on what your partner is telling. Apart from that, I'm an easy guy I think.
I just really feel good watching this bcs whatever I relate to everything said here as ENFP but you know today’s generation all depressed and etc made me feel whatever I do is all bcs I’m being an old school girly but listening from a guy that they feel the same way makes me feel better in so many ways
Wanted to get an understanding of whether it's true about ENFP personality and INFJ compatibility! Now I'm digging into this 😄🙃wow! Where they at?? Divine timing🤔
My partner is more practical and organized than I, and I try harder to be these things for him so we can be more balanced and bc I know it's good for my mental health too honestly, for things to be less of a mess. :') My partner is patient! But I also had to learn to be patient bc he is much less patient right before bedtime when he is as sleepy as a baby, and I sometimes have this massive anxious urge to talk and say all the things I couldn't say earlier in the day... We're a work in progress, always, but I like it! Most importantly, we're both givers. He is a nurse and researcher, very interested in public health from the personal to the wide scope of things, and I work as a teacher or in social work or anything cool that funds marginalized groups of ppl. Fundamentally, we both like and care about ppl and the world... though we tend to find magic in different places. This is an interesting relationship I find myself in, but it's healthy and I'm totally in love with him and I don't want it to stop. :) ...Even though sometimes I wish he were much chattier and liked dancing with ppl and cuddling with ppl as much as I xD
Interestingly enough, since I have this innate curse of attracting only narcissistic men and many friends that are narcissistic as well, I have been able to evolve to the point where I do the omniscient point of view thinking from the get go in most every situation to make sure I’m taking everyone’s perspective and side into consideration…this isn’t because I’m so amazing or so enlightened or anything like that-it’s just simply from a lack of being able to find that companionship with a partner or friend at this point where I can bounce things off of them that I go through and debate on throughout the day. It seems like no one ever listens to me at all, and that is such a sad thing to go through, especially when you take on and listen 110% to everyone you care about all day long and the favor is never returned. It’s purely an evolution of selfishness based on needs I have that are rarely, if ever, met. This has made me exceedingly patient though. I will say that. When I lose my cool now it’s like-something epic that is going on or a situation I’ve tolerated for weeks or months too long and I finally lose my cool and demand that respect happen immediately… It is hard being an ENFP. People just don’t get how someone can be so full of life and the life of the party and the idea generator machines we are then fall into self introspection, reset, over stimulation mode like we need for our self care and mental health. I’ve lost a lot of people along the way simply because they take that shit personal when it isn’t at all, it’s something I have to have or I unwind and start to fray until I break down completely with too much of the E portion and not enough of the N portion. It’s hard to finely tune the balance of it all…
Enfp here. All we need is someone who can listen, who's intuitive, good morals honesty etc and will clean up behind us and remember bdays so we don't let down our friends and family.
checking it out in the year 2020 during the Covid-19 pandemic #GCQ as an ENFP and learning more of it now... this is totally true and thankful I'm not the only one who wish this type of partner exists... that will be a blessing, especially right now. 💖 plus other inputs here also in the comment section. 💜 tnx for this vid. 😌
This was great, Thanks! :) I also find my older [sister, in my case] is able to give me the introspection that I need to balance my ideas and fears out. Great video ✌
AREN'T WE ENFP'S JUST ABSOLUTELY FUCKIN' RIDICULOUS WITH BEING COMPLETELY OFF THE CUFF FROM THE REST OF SOCIETY BUT COMPLETELY ON THE SAME PAGE WITH EACH OTHER?!?!?!?! - YELLING IN FULL CAPS WHEN SOMETHING FINALLY RESONATES WITH US IS A CLEAR EXAMPLE OF THAT hahah - as i sit here GAGGED at how incredibly insightful this entire video was, THANK YOU SO MUCH
Mine look different... 1. giving me the freedom to explore/not trying to control my life 2. Affectionte and able to handle my emotions 3. Loyal and idealistic
due to the importance of communication, i always tell my parents about my worries and troubles so they'd help me figure something out. but due to my situations being mostly negative (although i was the one being wronged), my parents almost always shut me out. they'd tell me to just stop making enemies, stop being too close to people, stop this, stop that. it's been such a struggle for me to actually bond with my parents. now that it's covid 19 and i've been stuck at home for 6 months, my parents and have been much closer. they try to understand me much better with better approach cz I've been their most troubled child my whole life. and they were struggling to understand me when the communication was really low. i tend to only share my troubles and struggles to my friends and cousins instead cz my family would always brush me out.
I’m an INFP and I personally love ENFP’s. They push me past my comfort zone and we always have the best discussions. Idk how I’d do dating one though because I get exhausted easily emotionally and need alone time and silence to recoup, specifically on new situations.
LOL! You won my like and sub with your comment about not being able to buy pants. I feel you bud. Totally been there over socks. I would rather go home and sleep the whole day away than make a decision.
I am a very joyful person. If I'm in a relationship, I will want to take them to do fun things that we will both enjoy. I also get excited for our firsts or things we accomplished in life. I can be like "omg this is so exciting!" And my ex would get annoyed that I have high expectations for certain things. He thinks that being too excited for something will lead to disappointment. Then I just kinda get bummed and feel like a burden, so I stopped trying to show my excitement. I don't think that being excited for certain things is me having high expectations..it just means that I'm excited to experience the unknown. Even if it's bad, at least I experienced it, but some people think otherwise lol
SPOT ON. Literally laughing because what you are saying is so true. Having so many ideas, going to Africa haha. One of major reasons I ended my last relationship was because I needed a partner with a stronger love of other people. He was a great guy but I was turned off with his negative view about people... which is cool, but I need someone who matches my love of life. My best friend was also that practical mindset surface value type of person, she translated what was on my mind into more simpler terms
Hey man these videos are awesome! I know you went to a different route for your content which I love too but I think these gems shouldn't be hidden lol. As an ENFP I need all the help I can get
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Loved the video!! Helpful and we'll articulated!
You seemed to neglect mentioning loyalty. As an ENFP-A, I will remind you that once somebody does me wrong or dirty, For that moment forward until the end of time, I wouldn't piss on 'em if they are on fire. Done, fin, kaput, No hope. EVER.
"long story short."
ENFPs: "Short story Long. "
😂😂😂
OMFG YESSSS
Omg,.....my head just swims, and swims, and swims, ALL day long, every single day, (except when I'm down hurt or sick) then it's only 3/4 of the swimming or half of the time....
But I'm sooo stuck between knowing wheather or not if I'm infp, or enfp..
I've taken the Myers Briggs with Carl Jung and it would appear I am infp, but I so have a lot of traits that enfp has..
...
😅😅😅
SOOOOO TRUE! LMAOOOOO
3 traits an ENFP needs in their partner.
1. Charitable
2. Introspective
3. Practical
INTJ here. You saved me 8 minutes. Thanks :-)
ENFP here. The second trait from 2:20 is missing :)
1. Charitable
2. Patient
3. Introspective
4. Practical
Sounds like an INFP would be a good match
That's literally my Fiancé! 😍
Yorick Germs Just as I thought, just have to be yourself as an Infj and strong.
"I have so any ideas throughout the day I could probably write a book, if I had the motivation." HA! totally relate there...
and discipline ...same
I instantly liked the video once he said that😂😂 definitely relatable AF
Same! Haha. I'm trying to wright one now. But it's like one letter, then a few weeks nothing, untill there's a new idea and i'm willing to fit it in my existing story. If that doesn't work, i'm getting frustrated and start something new haha. Life is a b*tch xD
turaab maybe I have schizophrenia 😂
I just said this to someone 2 days back 😂
I dont know if this is an ENFP thing but being willing to talk about feelings or ideas is important. I couldn't have a partner that sweeps everything under the rug and doesnt want to deal with issues. I like people who are comfortable being open and vulnerable.
Yes. My word for it is transparency :)
This is very important for me. Conflict resolution, not conflict avoidance
yessss sameee
Very true
Enfps also cherish partners that are playful with them and humour them when they (ENFP) know they're being silly.
Enfps I find also use those qualities to test a person to see if that person is good enough to win their hearts over.
Cause enfps are so selfless, they need to guard their hearts from getting burnt (or taken advantage of) because of their good nature... so even if Enfps have a huge friend circle, only a very people have won their hearts over... at all if any.
(I'm ENFP, just sayin :p)
That's really deep. I like it.
Sweeneytv awwwhhhhhhh u repliedddddd 😙😙😙😙😙😙😙
Intrinsically Me Tru
Wow this is so true! Thanks 🙏🏼
very true....we have msny friends but very few deep ones...we get lonely at times and we can be taken advantage of by others.
humor/playfulnes and practicality does us well.
Is it weird for an ENFP like me to self evaluate myself at the end of each day by talking to yourself randomly?? And everything you mention is THE TOTAL TRUTH! YAS!
Jovita Tanuwidjaja Lool this is so me too! Not weird at all ;)
@@sionnabahaya6276 YES I ALWAYS DO THAT ESPECIALLY IN THE SHOWER HOLY SHIT
Normal. And that thing you did where you said "myself" and then "yourself"... if I proof my writing I catch myself doing that all the time. 😄
Yes and I speak sometimes so much that I record myself.
I talk to myself alot and my family think i talk to ghosts (;
" I could probably write a book, if I had the motivation" 😭😭😭😭
How many times have I uttered those verysame words lol
Oh god...same!!!
Those words scream at me when ever I think about it. Lolol
I laughed after hearing this 😂 and remember my story drafts in my old notebooks 😂
I just wanna stop overthinking. I broke my own heart by making scenarios in my head
SAMEE OMG
felt that one..😅
THIS
Can relate
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I’m an ENFP. When he said they’re “long winded”. 😂😂😂😂 my personal phrase is “short story long”. 😝
I am going to start using this!
I'm gonna use this now!
ENFP here- trying to develop a filter so that I don't say every thought that comes to mind
Damn i swear to god this is so me
I've tried, I always fail
Always think before you speak. Have an unbiased friend to bounce your ideas off
I heard my ex on the phone with her mom once say " no you don't understand he tells me every conversation he has everyday!" 😅
Don’t ever filter your thoughts !
For someone who's about to date an ENFP it sucks whenever they cut their story short thinking I'll be bored with them. As an INFP, I love and appreciate your stories :)
So, basically an INFJ :) I'm an ENFP and have been with an INFJ for 17 years. All those qualities are their strengths!
Aggiemcdee yay...
As someone who's also an ENFP..do you find when you get to know an INFJ that the are interesting and wonderfully, mysteriously enchanting, or are they more, what you see is what you get? I keep thinking they might be a bit boring, like Mr. Rogers, whom I believe was a wonderful soul. Kind, understanding, but seemingly boring.
I would love a partner that make our love an adventure.
Moonchild I'm an infj and can't find an enfp anywhere. 🤷♀️
Aggiemcdee 😍😍😍 YEAAH ID SAY INFJs
Good to know. If I ever try online dating, I'm gonna ask guys to do the MBTI first. :)
ENFPs start relationships with friendship. :-P take a while to move into next step.
I think it depends on the other person to much when it comes to ENFPs.
There are the concepts of compatibility and chemistry. Great compatibility means you got the same values, interests etc. Chemistry is how you fit together emotionally. Like, a relationship that got compatibility, but no chemistry, would be boring as hell. Kids, laundry, work, responsibilties. A relationship that only got chemistry but no compatibilty is one of those highly dramatic, romantic, impossible love stories, but usually without a happy end. Affairs, taboo unions (like teacher-student) and so. A recipe for major heart break. Or me with my tendency to inadvertantly attract cute guys in their early 20s (I'm 40!), who usually turn out to be drug dealers or lead another kind of high risk life (mind, my Descendant is in Aries, so that might not be such an ENFP thing.)
However, my last long term relationship started online, chatting for a whole year before we met. I'm also quite comfy with being Friends with Benefits. And it's true, I need to see someone as a friend first - otherwise, he's just not attractive to me in any way.
I had no idea, but once i discovered MBTI, i am SURROUNDED by so many naive or immature NF's and am especiially drawn to INFJ's but never had any idea, i am like, in love with my best friend so badly because he's a complete mirror image of me but, he's really immature and lacks wisdom and isn't willing to meet me in the middle, yet, but im gonna stick it out hahah, we fighting at the moment cause i called him out for being selfish and a bratty little sugar baby and he couldn't handle that shit, went instantly silent and dissolved into his mushroom and dissapeared off the face of the earth before coming back and went "umm sorry but i do not agree with absolutely anything you have said and i will never forget it either, if you want to talk again come fly up and see me *BLOCKED ME*" - infj's are the fucking death of me and i hate the little pricks so much but they complete my fucking soul and i need them so much hahahaha
I never did.
sarang arang this sounds so like me
Oh my goodness - Get out of my head!!!
I thought I knew my ENFP ways but you just blew my mind, on every single detail! From the super long spider web-story telling & communication styles and the types of support I need.. Thanks so much for posting this!
💯💯💯💯💯
I'm an INTJ, and I just learned my friend is an ENFP. She loves me for all the things you've said. We just connected immediately.
Wow I’m so glad I watched this! My husband is an ENFP and he used to talk to me a lot but he doesn’t talk to me much anymore. But watching this I realized maybe I’m too critical and impatient with his words. I’m an INFJ & I like to keep words simple and to the point so I tend to get impatient with his wordy “arguments.” So I think I know why he pulled away. I will take your advice ❤️ thanks
Good insight. I wish you the best.
Plus, do not get fat.
Criticism is a huge turn offs for ENFPs. It feels like daggers. I can take constructive feedback, but constant criticism is not cool.
@@tanyatanya891 We’re now divorced 😅 I tried
My boyfriend kills all my enthusiasm for life. Because I'm friendly I'm accused daily of infidelity, he criticises everything I say, he feels uncomfortable about my spontaneous nature and has told me to grow up when I want to dance around the house, thinking about it being with him makes me sad :-( but being a ENFP makes it difficult to break up with people. For example it took me three to four years to break up with my ex husband. It's really difficult to make the decision to leave. I think in the future I'll really want to get to know someone for quite a while before choosing to enter a relationship with them and even then I think I won't want to be entangled up too much with their life's such as both our names being on the house etc or married to them unless I can really trust them.
These relationship tips are very useful.
You deserve someone who will let you dance, anywhere, anytime, for any reason. Period. That goes for all people. And, yes being really tangled up with someone can be hard, but knowing things are not right and trusting your gut is very important, if things can't be worked through. I always like to see people as they are, not as I'd like them to be, if I can.
ENFP here...That sounds too familiar. :-| I've found all my past partners put a damper on my spirit and eventually were just harsh, critical, boring... I wonder if I should be with another ENFP since we seem to be the only ones who can understand each other and cheer each other up. OR just continue on with my imaginary relationship, that one is going really well. :-P
Imaginary relationships FTW
Hahaha! ;D I keep hearing that INTJ is perfect for ENFP, but when I read about INTJs it sounds like they are the opposite of everything an ENFP needs? It's confusing. :-S
Maybe a hybrid INTJ.... Idk
1.infj /introspection.
2.infj/ charitable attaintive, patients.. yes we r givers.. yes crazy spontaneous plans
3.infj/practical
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Omg making decisions can be exhausting. Sometimes I literally ask others to make up my mind for me, lol.
SAAAAAME
"I have so many ideas throughout the day that I could probably write a book.. IF I had the motivation"
Truer words have never been spoken
ENFP here, my husband is an INTJ, He kinda feels like a vulcan sometimes, you know like I am married to Spock, but a Spock with a great sense of humor. He listens so well, he analyses the word/idea-vomit that comes out of me and helps me channel it and together we make great things. The best things we "made" are our two girls
I used to be in therapy because of depression (burn out, long story), and at first, my therapist thought there might be ADHS as well, because I was all over the place when talking, spinning a web, but I got always nervous about sharing my thoughts, constantly adapting to the reaction of my audience instead of simply stating what's on my mind. Of course this gets confusing.
Turns out that this was an effect of being both gifted and anxious to win people's approval. Given how talkative, creative and social ENFPs are, I wouldn't be surprised if that were a common issue. It takes strong self-esteem to share that weird part of you with "normal" people whose brains work in a more linear way and who might just get overwhelmed. In the end, I always win them over, the co-workers, customers etc, but it always starts with "geez, you talk too much".
This very relatable.
Nadine Rick Soooooo relatable, every bit of it. ❤️💥
I just love ENFP's. . . my first love @ 18 years old was an ENFP and I've been looking for someone like him since! (I'm an INFJ) Interesting video! :)
my ENFP brother, who was depressed since he met his first real love at the age of 30: she is INFJ!
Point number one is so important for me (I'm ENFP). I just realised this as I am newly single and am looking back on my relationship and seeing what qualities I would like in future. My ex was not charitable in a "people" way. I always daydreamed about us maybe volunteering with old people together or being Big Brother Big Sisters to kids who need mentors but it was never something he was interested in. In my next relationship I want to be with someone who, like me, loves doing things to make others' lives better. Someone who wants to make a meal for their friend who is going through a hard time, or will volunteer to help their mum put together some furniture. Caring for others is such an attractive quality to me.
I'm an XNTJ and one of the main attractive traits about my partner that was actually on my list is her generosity. She loves helping people in such a compassionate, unconditional and genuine way. I can't stand selfish women at all.
Any ENFP's think he's really attractive? xD
I’m an INFJ, and I too, find him very attractive. :)
Actually....yeah!!!💓
As an INFJ male I started to question my sexuality for a moment. Lol. Granted I was trying to imagine my gf while watching the video. Sadly its currently long distance, but well worth the wait to make arrangements for our future.
My gf is an EFNP.
Michele Desfontaine He's quite charming, I think!
Dan Law 😂😂😁
I need to create a dating app for personality types finding each other. I didn't know about this when I got married lol. As an infj, being with an enfp sounds like a beautiful, exciting life. I would love to connect other couples through personality. I will put this business idea on my long list of ideas. LOL
So Syncd.
This is a great idea, good luck with the execution 😁
So.... hows the app going? Asking for a friend
Dont get me wrong it does sound fun and i like MBTI and all, but id say is a little insulting to be judged or create expectations specialy looking for a partner, based on this, people are not fictional characters that act like they are supossed to all the time, and i seen couples of "unmatched" types that work so good together 😌
“We don’t really have 30 years to buy a pair of pants Austin” same
Your explanation of the ENFP storytelling hahaha I am totally the same way 😆
Yes same!
🎯🎯🎯
Love the ENFP personality! I feel like they exude in a more enhanced way who I am inside (I'm an INFP). I love to connect with people, this is different than to just socialize. I want to know others' insights and thoughts on anything - this is how I come to learn of and bond with another being. I don't need sameness, I just need vulnerability and honesty and courage. But, so few people, especially sensors, are willing to be open with you. Meanwhile, I seem not open because I want to open my inside to you and connect, not just have chats where you won't be open or dismiss me for being different in my way of connecting. Talking about ideas and abstract things it what gets my energy going in a social setting. Otherwise, I seem like a bore i think... lol
"A partner of ENFP should be charitable."
Me, an INTJ : I'll see myself out.
Edit : Jokes aside, after some research and introspection, I actually am charitable only when it is necessary. I'd rather let someone learn to stand on their own and jump in when necessary than to guide them step by step for the sake of the process. Just feel like doing justice for other INTJs who feel wronged for being accused as a non-charitable person.
Thank you, Fay 💛✨ Fellow INTJ here 😊 People who don’t know us, have probably only read about us, or are not perceptive enough have a lot of NONSENSE to say about us 😉 Many forget that we are also human beings who feel just as deeply as everyone else, but they choose to think what they want to think and see what they want to see. Our job is to be charitable to those who matter. If we are not charitable, it means you don’t matter...or maybe you wrongly perceived us as uncharitable, because you refused to give us the benefit of the doubt. That’s all.
I'm an INFP, and I have an INTJ friend. He's amazing. I just needed more time to know him, but he's worth the effort. And charitable? I know INTJ would do anything for the people they love, right? As long as it's logical of course, hahaha
This is so accurate! I am very communication focused and it’s so important to me that the person I’m with is communicative with me. My last relationship was with an ISTJ and wow... he would become very closed off when I had unknowingly done something that upset or annoyed him. And instead of telling me so we could resolve it he would pretty much ignore me until he was over it. He would never discuss it afterwards which drove me mad because I like to resolve things so that I can make sure they don’t happen again. Another problem that I had in that particular relationship was that he mistook my friendliness and extroverted qualities as me flirting with other people, which is ridiculous because I’m a very loyal person and would never intentionally do that or try to make someone jealous. Contrary to how it sounds there were also a lot of good things about the relationship, and I did love him a lot, but I’ve definitely learned that I need to be with someone who understands me more!
wao...here iam with an estj and its hard...i feel you
try an infj or an intj next time
I'm an ENFP friends with an ISTJ and lemme tell u sis.. love him, but communication is barley there. But other than that, he understands me pretty well and he's great at helping me see things in a more logical way. While I help him come out of his shell and teach him to loosen up. As friends, it's a pre great balance 😊
Thanks for making this video! As a fellow ENFP, a lot you shared made me laugh. It's so funny when you said you wanted to go the military, be a firefighter and policeman at the same time. Ha! Priceless ENFP thinking :) Pointing out finding the charitability quality in another partner is HUGE for a relationship. I had never thought of it that way but it's an essential value we need in our lives and cannot do without. Not having this quality in a partner would be a huge disconnect in the relationship. Also, the other quality you mention, for an ENFP partner to be able to see things from a different perspective and engage/challenge our perspective/ideas in a positive way is like being given a drink of water to our ENFP soul. Lastly, having a partner who is practical helps remind us to stay in line when we begin floating away into our own analysis paralysis.
I’m part of a trio where I am an ENFP, and the others are an ENFP and INFJ. Read about the theory in these particular types, and i think it’s so fascinating that it’s actually true! I love this!
Awesome video. Love enfps, they're both great speakers and attentive listeners with lots of points of views to contribute to someone who may need it - and they have tact, generally! Great communicators!
-INFP
Enfp's are beautiful, fascinating people. I can spend hours listening to enfp stories and ideas. Coming from an infj, you enfp's have beautiful minds 😊 thank you for sharing.
Hi! my daughter is a 10 year old enfp, and I'm an infj, and we feel like we're a dream team!! We're constantly looking for new ways to improve our already sweet life together, and this video is very helpful. I've been encouraging her more to PRACTICE making decisions, which she tends to find laborious. But if you don't get the experience as a child...harder as an adult! We've noticed that there is a little infj in her, and a little enfp in me, so we can sometimes see from each other's perspectives. I feel like I'm the luckiest parent on earth, to have an enthusiastic, insightful, kind, creative and absolutely delightful enfp for a kid!!!!!
Kristanne Stone Kristanne Stone Awwww I'm really happy.. and your daughter must be indeed to lucky for having a mother who is able to embrace her uniqueness and her impractical nature. 😍😍 I can say.. I have been always attracted to infjs..and by a coincidence when I made 2 of my closest and best friends ever do the mbti test..they got infj😍
I think you’re one of the first ENFP guys I’ve found talking on youtube. Yeah..
You’re like definitely an ENFP. (So am I, no worries ;)
Like for example, you jump from one thing to another and you’re also reading your audience a little even though you can’t see them. When you’re talking about ENFP habits, you cut yourself off because you’re worried it’s incorrect or looks bad to the audience. You’re much more open about self-doubt, and have much more flexibility and suddenly witching the conversation to address that.
I’m totally going to be a psyche major, but it was very fascinating to study you.
(I use my Te a lot because of my INTJ dad and ISTJ sis)
As an INFJ, I love the ENFP style of communication. I find them absolutely fascinating.
I'm an Infj mom of a enfp, he's nearly 10 yrs old. I love how sensitive and compassionate he is, but wearing your heart on your sleeve has its drawbacks. I'm constantly praying that he will find a girl who's a great listener, as compassionate as he is, and level headed enough to balance, but not kill, his mercurial nature. And that he will know and value himself enough not to settle for anything less.
Thanks for sharing your insight.
ENFPs don't wear their hearts on their sleeve. We may appear that way, but we're the complete opposite. It can take years to uncover a flake of the ENFPs heart.
Wow that’s really good. We do need that. Having someone who will listen to us and help us when we over think, need another perspective and when we just need to be silly. Orderly is very important as well as practical. You hit it on the mark.
ENFPs are the most awesome people ever!!! Where does one find an ENFP guy?
here is one😊
Yo! Haha. We're out there. Just keep a weather eye out for someone who likes introducing new ideas to you while still respecting your point of view. Does he love hearing your opinion as much as sharing his own? Is he practiced or self educated in many different things but not quite a master of any of them? Just some signs to keep an eye out for. Good luck 😊
Basically, it's a Steven Universe.
I'm an ENFP. Watch for people who come up with stupid big-brain ideas; we're usually at their core.
Enfj is great for an enfp, I married one!!!
Ha ha ha! Your description at the beginning is so me in my communication style. Just had to laugh!
Same, I was laughing hard
Omg I can relate. I also have high functioning Autism and I love that I’m able to see all sides to a story and I’m looking for someone with a good heart that can understand all my highs and lows. My mind is always thinking I could right a book. This was a good vid:) I do love helping people this vid was awesome
Now I get why us INTJs get along with you guys :)
yeah
It’s so funny the way you talk, because I can really find myself in it 😅 The train of thought and the way you express yourself! ENFPs for the win 💪
I agree with you on most points, but I would also add the fact that we are the most introverted extraverts... and that our partners need to understand that sometimes we just need time to ourselves. It might actually be really confusing for people who get to know this side; going from constant communication and excitement to closing ourselves up and distancing ourselves. I noticed that dating someone that is really needy and clingy just doesn’t work for me. I need the other person to be independent, be in the relationship but also be their own person ♥️
Nice video though, I really enjoyed it and hope to see some more on the topic of ENFPs 🔥🔥🔥😁
Yeah. Super independent people who are grounded are always attractive to me.
Married to an ESFJ for 20 years! I don't hear that combo mentioned often but it does fit the bill nicely for those willing to work at communication and live and let live.
As en ENFP who’s been trying to launch a RUclips channel for years, I have to compliment you on this video, you speak really well and your ideas/explanations are really interesting. Inspiring me to get off my ass and out of my head. Thanks dude.
That’s what I’m here for!
COMPLETELY unrelated. Your eyes are so beautiful. 😶
thank you
Maybe completely
Had that with an INTP. The most fulfilling intellectual connect and chemistry.
Except he lacked empathy and didnt like ppl.
Also he went back with his Ex.
Maybe my emotions played into it. But it was a real connection. He made me see myself in a different light. It changed me.
I am an INFP and can relate to this "having lots of ideas and don't really act on them" thing very well, too :D
When you're trying to pay attention but all you can think about is the fact that this guy really looks like Captain America
2:50 I thought I was the only one who did this when I started dating someone 😭 I haven't even finished the video but you really have been spot on!! I'm shook!
You just described my partner....I am an ENFP and knew I had a good one ;) Thank you!
ENFPs always want to write a book but they never can because they want ALL of their ideas fit into ONE BOOK, but they have too many ideas. (Patrick Lencioni is a great ENFP - I'm like THANK YOU for giving me seven books in this one, Mr. Lencioni!)
Thanks for this. My husband is an ENFP and I'm an INTJ, so you can see why this helps a lot LOL
THANK you for your videos... I just discovered them, and i love them.. They are REALLY helping me... Best regards from Norway.
Thanks for sharing! Your comment on "buying a pair of pants" made me laugh because, when I go shopping, I check over 10 stores haha. I am 31 now and make very quick buying decisions by the way. So, it goes kind of away and you keep your crazy thought processing skills :)
I don’t think you will ever know what this video did to me. Thank you! Bless you
as an enfp starting a channel it feels like my channdl might be all over the place but im ok with that because you seem to just do what you wanna do. Inspirational stuff man keep on making videos
I’m an ENFP, and yes lord whatever you just said is beyond perfect and it gave a thought about what i actually should be looking for! Plus, i am practical and super logical but being that been hard.
I am 100℅ enfp. I give out everything of mine to the ones I pay attention for. I don't care how much stuff to do I have, how important my own stuff are, I just forget about all and can give my time, life, heart, support in any form. I had experience of being used. I just have too much of humanity. I don't know what should I do.
Great video! As an INTJ I’ve been looking a lot into dating an ENFP girl. Your video certainly makes me think there would be a good chance. Seems like ENFP guys would make good friends too. You seem like a pretty cool relatable dude.
I must have busted out laughing at least half a dozen times at how relatable all the side comments and inner dialogues were! Lol Thank you for sharing! As an ENFP as well, it was fun to hear my thoughts and truths about myself articulated on a video. Take care!
Im an infj and the last 4 guys in my life have been enfp. I love you guys 😭 and could listen to you talk for hooours hahaha
Somehow I can relate to this.. I'm INFJ-T 5w4. I joke a lot when I try to communicate and get to know people, even within the serious stuff. I think that could lead to misunderstandings, but i also think the right kind of people will see and understand that. I'm the kind of person who loves Anime and I have that kind of humour. I can't describe how hard I laugh at the trap-scenes in Angel Beats. Angel Beats are my favorite because the struggles were real, things were unfair, we got in deep touch with the characters and because it was about appreciation of life.
When it comes to ideas, dreams and goals.. This is how I see it: It doesn't matter how much time we have, but its about how we use our time to reach all the things we want in life. When I'm at my most introverted-state, then I'm more useful and proactive with my time to get things done. It includes personal development, strength training, jobs, projects ++ The list goes on. I wish to travel, but not alone... Feels like I'm waiting for someone who wants to travel with me around the world.
The one thing I don't get about my life is that... How is it possible that I've lived my life for 27 years and haven't met an single ENFP guy yet....(maybe ENFPs are rare in Norway.....I don't know, but they're hard to find .) It almost seems like I have to experience all the wrong and bad things.. and before I know it the right one would probably stand right in front of me. It would be so typical. x)
You are so cute, omg. I can say with certainty that AURORA (my favorite singer ever) is an INFP, so the ENFP is kind of like that, just a little different. More extroverted. We're like puppies. INFPs are like kittens. You'll find the difference between us.
Angel Beats is so sad.
Hello, dude.
I am an INTJ dating an ENFP since 2015 and there are so many things I would like to figure out... like... what should I do when he closes himself in a cold behaviour. I don't know if ENFP's need space like INTJ people does. Or if actually, he wants me to break the walls so he will fell important...
Another thing... Apparently, I don't show love as I should... I don't say I love you all the time because I fear it may lose the meaning... What I feel for him can't fit in a simple '' I love you''... but I have no words for that, so I keep it to special moments. I am not good at translating feelings like a Feeler does... how can a improve this, fellow ENFP?
Greetings from Brazil.
So. I would say that for starters it seems you really care about him since you are putting so much thought into it. Hopefully he will notice the effort you put in. On the other hand, I would say ENFPs need space just as much as anyone. Sometimes when I get cold or mean it usually means I am tired or there is something else I'd rather be doing and something is stopping me from doing it. Giving space without prying too much will allow the ENFP to go straight for what he/she wants. There is no need to help them figure out what they want, (trust me) they know but they may not be able to voice what they want if they are not mature enough at introspective stuff. Secondly, about the saying "I love you" it really matters. I know you may feel it is not enough, but if it works for your ENFP just DO IT. I don't care if I hear "I love you" 100x in one day. I still take it with as much value as anything and it still really feels good. ENFPs are turbulent. and its nice to have something constant day after day, like a lovers feelings being voiced. So I"d say make an honest effort at it, and then also say what you said to me. Be honest with them and say that saying "I love you" for you, doesn't really capture what you want to say. That's beautiful tbh and shows you care alot which may not be something your ENFP can read unless you speak it. So I would say, speak up. An ENFP will talk it out, but not always take the initiative, if you are worried, speak up. It wil always be better than guessing, but remember to not press to hard. If you try and they seem distant. Give some space for maybe a day or two.
HOPEFULLY that helps, best o luck. :)
Thank you so much, buddy... It makes things clear.
you are welcome
give him constant feedback, allow him to introvert, brainstorm with him and above all cuddle up😊 im one of them
Lol. yes spider web story telling with jokes. I'm with an INTJ and I find he really balances me out....sometimes he looks at me like I'm nuts. ha ha. I feel he really keeps me grounded because sometimes I get really emotional and confused about things and he's so logical so he gives me that new perspective always which is awesome.
as an enfp who probably shouldnt be dating another enfp i cant help but think youre like the dream guy! the thing you said about "then lets talk about all our favorite things and then lets down 12 bottles of wine and then go to africa!!" like that right there sounds like the BEST! i swear you are the biggest sweetheart! i really, really hope for you that whatever woman youre with adores you for being you! cuz youre like a rare gem! with those eyes too it cant go too wrong with you!
We are SO much apike! I just discovered the Briggs personality types a few months ago. I am clearly an ENFP. My ex-wife (24 years) didn't have any patience, didn't like my stories, unless I could keep them to a minute or two, and was not a communicator or inteospective! Doh!! She sure was a wonderful person with a big heart and sexy cute. I will take your advice on the next one.....having a little trouble finding someone with those qualities... 🤔
As an ENFP I think I'm in love with you. 😂
Oh my gosh! I just stopped at 59 seconds to tell you that I was just laughing so hard because I can relate so closely!
Spot on. Common values are really important. Similar communication style. Never thought of introspection, my best friends offer me that. As for practicality I need to ponder that.
You are adorable!! 😍 I am an ENFP and I so relate with what you have said. Also, being understood is suuupper important to me so I feel that definitely relates to being generous with listening to us.
Thanks for the summary ! I am also an ENFP and those points are true to me!
I remember a past relationship. Always when I told a story, about something that I was very passionate or enthusiastic about, at the end of the story, she would say: "Ok babe, well that's nice." and would hop over to her own story. No questions whatsoever. I felt like I just did my little school presentation and that was that. I really missed being appreciated and sharing stories where we both would dive into a deeper level of connection, showing sincere interest in one another. Although I tend to talk a lot, which I am aware of, at least ask some questions in which you show interest on what your partner is telling. Apart from that, I'm an easy guy I think.
I just really feel good watching this bcs whatever I relate to everything said here as ENFP but you know today’s generation all depressed and etc made me feel whatever I do is all bcs I’m being an old school girly but listening from a guy that they feel the same way makes me feel better in so many ways
I love these videos about ENFPs because I feel like someone finally understands me
Wanted to get an understanding of whether it's true about ENFP personality and INFJ compatibility! Now I'm digging into this 😄🙃wow! Where they at?? Divine timing🤔
Yes! God bless you.
My partner is more practical and organized than I, and I try harder to be these things for him so we can be more balanced and bc I know it's good for my mental health too honestly, for things to be less of a mess. :') My partner is patient! But I also had to learn to be patient bc he is much less patient right before bedtime when he is as sleepy as a baby, and I sometimes have this massive anxious urge to talk and say all the things I couldn't say earlier in the day... We're a work in progress, always, but I like it! Most importantly, we're both givers. He is a nurse and researcher, very interested in public health from the personal to the wide scope of things, and I work as a teacher or in social work or anything cool that funds marginalized groups of ppl. Fundamentally, we both like and care about ppl and the world... though we tend to find magic in different places. This is an interesting relationship I find myself in, but it's healthy and I'm totally in love with him and I don't want it to stop. :) ...Even though sometimes I wish he were much chattier and liked dancing with ppl and cuddling with ppl as much as I xD
And of course INFJ's are the rarest personality type, especially females. Here's to fighting the odds!
I am an female INFJ
:))
It's the opposite. Male INFJ's are 'rarer' than female INFJ's.
Interestingly enough, since I have this innate curse of attracting only narcissistic men and many friends that are narcissistic as well, I have been able to evolve to the point where I do the omniscient point of view thinking from the get go in most every situation to make sure I’m taking everyone’s perspective and side into consideration…this isn’t because I’m so amazing or so enlightened or anything like that-it’s just simply from a lack of being able to find that companionship with a partner or friend at this point where I can bounce things off of them that I go through and debate on throughout the day. It seems like no one ever listens to me at all, and that is such a sad thing to go through, especially when you take on and listen 110% to everyone you care about all day long and the favor is never returned. It’s purely an evolution of selfishness based on needs I have that are rarely, if ever, met.
This has made me exceedingly patient though. I will say that. When I lose my cool now it’s like-something epic that is going on or a situation I’ve tolerated for weeks or months too long and I finally lose my cool and demand that respect happen immediately…
It is hard being an ENFP. People just don’t get how someone can be so full of life and the life of the party and the idea generator machines we are then fall into self introspection, reset, over stimulation mode like we need for our self care and mental health. I’ve lost a lot of people along the way simply because they take that shit personal when it isn’t at all, it’s something I have to have or I unwind and start to fray until I break down completely with too much of the E portion and not enough of the N portion.
It’s hard to finely tune the balance of it all…
Wow this was freakishly relatable
I can't believe how incredibly relatable this all is at 3:36 😂
You are very attractive btw 😉
Thank god I (ENFP) had an INTJ older brother. You need some sort of direction that you trust. Intjs provide that.
yes they do and it's nice.
Enfp here. All we need is someone who can listen, who's intuitive, good morals honesty etc and will clean up behind us and remember bdays so we don't let down our friends and family.
checking it out in the year 2020 during the Covid-19 pandemic #GCQ as an ENFP and learning more of it now... this is totally true and thankful I'm not the only one who wish this type of partner exists... that will be a blessing, especially right now. 💖 plus other inputs here also in the comment section. 💜 tnx for this vid. 😌
SPOT ON!! literally me with my family and friends listen to my story.
If you want to experience the worst relationship, get with an istp. Had 2 of those. Never again.
This was great, Thanks! :) I also find my older [sister, in my case] is able to give me the introspection that I need to balance my ideas and fears out. Great video ✌
AREN'T WE ENFP'S JUST ABSOLUTELY FUCKIN' RIDICULOUS WITH BEING COMPLETELY OFF THE CUFF FROM THE REST OF SOCIETY BUT COMPLETELY ON THE SAME PAGE WITH EACH OTHER?!?!?!?! - YELLING IN FULL CAPS WHEN SOMETHING FINALLY RESONATES WITH US IS A CLEAR EXAMPLE OF THAT hahah - as i sit here GAGGED at how incredibly insightful this entire video was, THANK YOU SO MUCH
Mine look different... 1. giving me the freedom to explore/not trying to control my life 2. Affectionte and able to handle my emotions 3. Loyal and idealistic
Have always enjoyed rabbit trails in a discussion. Have always thought dreamy ideas have value.
due to the importance of communication, i always tell my parents about my worries and troubles so they'd help me figure something out. but due to my situations being mostly negative (although i was the one being wronged), my parents almost always shut me out. they'd tell me to just stop making enemies, stop being too close to people, stop this, stop that. it's been such a struggle for me to actually bond with my parents. now that it's covid 19 and i've been stuck at home for 6 months, my parents and have been much closer. they try to understand me much better with better approach cz I've been their most troubled child my whole life. and they were struggling to understand me when the communication was really low. i tend to only share my troubles and struggles to my friends and cousins instead cz my family would always brush me out.
I’m an INFP and I personally love ENFP’s. They push me past my comfort zone and we always have the best discussions. Idk how I’d do dating one though because I get exhausted easily emotionally and need alone time and silence to recoup, specifically on new situations.
LOL! You won my like and sub with your comment about not being able to buy pants. I feel you bud. Totally been there over socks. I would rather go home and sleep the whole day away than make a decision.
I am a very joyful person. If I'm in a relationship, I will want to take them to do fun things that we will both enjoy. I also get excited for our firsts or things we accomplished in life. I can be like "omg this is so exciting!" And my ex would get annoyed that I have high expectations for certain things. He thinks that being too excited for something will lead to disappointment. Then I just kinda get bummed and feel like a burden, so I stopped trying to show my excitement. I don't think that being excited for certain things is me having high expectations..it just means that I'm excited to experience the unknown. Even if it's bad, at least I experienced it, but some people think otherwise lol
SPOT ON. Literally laughing because what you are saying is so true. Having so many ideas, going to Africa haha. One of major reasons I ended my last relationship was because I needed a partner with a stronger love of other people. He was a great guy but I was turned off with his negative view about people... which is cool, but I need someone who matches my love of life. My best friend was also that practical mindset surface value type of person, she translated what was on my mind into more simpler terms
I'm an Sagittarius, and enfp. Im very blunt and very loyal and very very very social! Everything he said is so true
Hey man these videos are awesome! I know you went to a different route for your content which I love too but I think these gems shouldn't be hidden lol. As an ENFP I need all the help I can get