The reason my husband lost his first guide dog (so sad!)
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- Опубликовано: 1 авг 2024
- Matthew and Paul continue their discussion about Paul’s guide dog journey. This week, Paul describes arriving at the Guide Dog campus, meeting his dog for the first time, and the moment he realized something wasn’t right…
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What you said about how she was an intelligent dog, but not the right service dog for you, is so important. I had two service dogs before my Clifford, who is now retired. They were both VERY fast, and HIGH energy. Just not right for me with anxiety; Clifford actually forced me to slow down, be present, and enjoy the life around us. We were perfect matches, and still are, just now he is older and it was time for him to spend more time at home and enjoy his retirement :). I do miss him a lot at times when I'm out.
It’s not about Maple y’all- read the description. Don’t worry, Mr. Maple is just fine 💖💖💖
Thanks for reading the description!! Nope, not about Maple but an important (and sad) part of Paul's guide dog journey.
OH THANK GOD!!!!! ALL I SAW WAS THE TITLE FROM MY NOTIFICATIONS AND MY HEART DROPPED! Thanks for clarifying this because I haven't watched it yet! Excited to watch it!
Don't mind me just having a quick panic attack thinking it was maple till I saw the description
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As a Guide Dog puppy raiser in Australia it is great to hear some of your stories that remind me of why we do the basic training with our pups before they enter formal training
Thank you for being a puppy raiser.
Do you have a whole wall of dog photos? I'll bet you loved them all individually and collectively. God bless you for your hard work!
I just love Matthew’s love for Paul. How much he cares about him, and what is right for him. You can just hear it in their voices, and the way they interact how much they really were made for each other.
Yep! Totally get where you're coming from! My first assistance dog was a "fail" too. Gorgeous boy, but couldn't handle the crowds and nearly being stepped on by an 'unaware' public. I'm currently training assistance dog #2. I don't think the majority of people realise the work (and tears) that go into forging a successful 'team' that can function in a world that's still largely unaware of the challenges some of us face....but things are changing slowly. Also, that anxiety is an underlying emotion that goes with disability for many.
This is the "heads" side of the social media coin. They can be used for horrible things, like organizing the Jan. 6, 2020 lunacy, but can also be used to educate millions (1.28 just for these guys alone, in fact). Previously, you'd only learn anything if you happened to become acquainted with a blind person. Word of mouth is slow. Electrons are very, _very_ fast.
Having watched Molly Burke's experience with the Mira foundation where they do not prematch dogs, I do think it is a better system for the team/bonding (I understand prematching saves wasted journeys if someone can't find the right dog that time). My friend got a dog from Guide Dogs UK. His first dog was like a poster child, when he retured he got a second dog who is very similar to how you described the female; walks very fast and is easily distracted.
Also, sounds like she was maybe not ready to work just yet and needed a little more training/time to mature.
Not Matthew ordering all that cute stuff and then coming down to get you immeditely. I cant even make a smoothie after gym lol. What a freakin guy.
I had a blind friend who lived up the street from me, she was blinded because of an accident when she was very young, Dot never had a guide dog, they might have tried, but I'm not sure. I know Dot attended a school for the blind for a few years but lived with her Mother for most of her life. I would sometimes take Dot to appointments and to the store, lovely lady. But Dot had a giant cat named Attila, and he would walk behind her, it was really cute, Dot did quite well when she walked to my house for a visit and Attila was always with her! I'm so glad Paul and Maple found each other, and Matthew you are a wonderful support system for Paul.
Dot didn't have a guide dog, but she sure had a guard cat! You were a good friend to Dot. If I could, I'd give you a nice pat on the back. Well done.
Hopefully this is a story about the other guide dogs they've had to go through. It would be so sad if his time with Maple is already up. That or Paul left him in the elevator again...
They can have first choice to adopt Maple and he would then become a family "pet" dog, then the new guide dog would then have ADA protection for access, etc.
Not the elevator again!! Haha - nope, this was about Paul's FIRST guide dog. He was absolutely gutted. I was heartbroken for him, but it ultimately led him to Mr Maple (almost a year later). Everything happens for a reason!
@@MatthewandPaulOfficialoh wow, I didn't know it took that long to get him matched with Maple. Good things come to those who wait. From one Canadian to another, I do love the fact that he got a pup named Maple and in the Short I saw that they even mentioned it. Maple is such a kind soul. I can't go into much detail for legal purposes, but I worked with guide dogs for years and they really do have varied temperaments and energy levels (like any dog) despite them all needing to be able to ultimately do their job and not get distracted by other dogs and people around them. Love watching your adventures, so I joined Patreon. Be seeing more of you guys there! 🇨🇦
Mr Maple is cute
I was afraid something happened to Maple too 😱 luckily that wasn't the case.
Paul, I truly hope you recognise how brave and honest with yourself you were. This would have been a brutal decision, but you persevered and look ! Success for you, Mr. Maple, the lovely first pup that wasn't a match for you but perfect for another. All because you were brave and honest. You are, unquestionably, a star.
I have a beautiful Golden/Yellow Lab Service Dog. I remember the two weeks of training and how rigorous it was. We were matched during the training. You absolutely know when the dog at your side is not the match for you. A perfect dog for another but not a fit personally. My dog ended up being this HUGE male named Rigs. He is a gift from heaven. As you know the fuzzy partner you match with is so in tune with you that you can read each others minds. I love watching Maple interact with you guys. He has the same bright sunshine-y personality. You can see how perfectly he leads Paul through the streets with the utmost confidence. A fantastic team for sure. Thank you for sharing!!
This is so interesting. I always thought blind people could just order a seeing eye dog and one would be sent to them. It sounds like such a longer and more beneficial process. Thank you for sharing this.
I live more rural than them and go hiking a lot as someone going blind slowly there is so much to adjust to. I have to get shoes that bend better. An automatic situation doesn't seem to work for anyone.
In response to your comment about blind people being able to just order a guide dog, no, that is not at all possible because dogs are living beings, and so when you are putting a human and a dog together, you are matching two living beings. They must learn to communicate with each other and work together. (Also just so you are aware, the term seeing eye is correctly written as Seeing Eye, which is a school in Morristown New Jersey, and only dogs bred and trained there can be properly called Seeing Eye dogs. This is important for donation purposes, so I am not trying to be overly picky. All of the guide dog schools in the United States are independent of one another and they respect their names.)
The most critical part of a guide dog instructor's job is making the correct match. A dog that can bring one person freedom may be a complete disaster and nightmare for someone else. Example: my current guy dog is a 27 inch tall male German Shepherd. He walks incredibly fast, at around 4 mph. He also has a really hard pole, his signals are abrupt, and he requires a handler who has experience. He gets bored easily if not given enough challenges, and his favorite places to work are in crowded areas and huge cities where he hast to constantly make decisions.
If he had been matched with someone who is less active, lives in a very quiet environment and is not able to give him enough challenge on a regular basis, it would be a disaster for both human and dog. The human would be dragged everywhere, and the dog would find ways to get into all kinds of inappropriate work that the human would not agree with.
So matching is incredibly important.
I knew about Guide dog training because I have seen documentaries on it, and I had a friend that was blind. The handler and dog have to go through a lot of training and bonding time before they can graduate from whatever program they are working with.
My sister, Elizabeth, always gave to Guide Dogs for the blind. Nice to meet someone who benefited from her donations. ❤️🐝
I'm sorry your first dog didn't work out, but very glad that you and Maple are a good match!
Even as a puppy raiser, learning the names of the pups is so fun! A lot of people think that raisers get to name their puppies, but we don't, for a couple reasons. First, GDB doesn't want the dogs to have super common names (like Buddy), so when they're working, they don't hear someone saying their name and get confused. Another reason is that GDB follows all their dogs their whole lives, even career-changed dogs (who don't make it through the program), so they don't want multiple dogs with the same name. Finally, each litter of puppies is given a letter and all the pups from that litter have a name that starts with that letter. When we get dogs, we only know the letter their name starts with beforehand, so it's always very special to learn their name as you meet them! Mr. Maple has a great name and his siblings all have M names too!
I am sad those other dogs didn't work out. But also happy that you got Mr.Maple because he is just amazing and is such a good dog and a good listener
I don't think you could have picked better partners for each other. You really look out for each other. I love that about your relationship!
I live in Gresham and I see the guides dogs practicing all the time when I go for walks. They are an amazing group and so are the dogs!!!
🥰🥺🥲 Paul, I'm sorry thing's didn't work out with your first guide dog, but I'm happy she found someone who could handle all that energy.
If I may offer a few kind words... Everything happens for a reason, and if you didn't give the whole experience another chance, you might not have found a handsome fella like Mr. Maple!!! 🥰🦮🐾🦴❤
👋 WE LUV U, Mr. Maple!!! 😁
You two are adorable. You are both so energetic and positive.
Thank you so much!
My big brother had a puppy Labrador to bring him up before he went on to eye dog training. Leo was amazing , everyone loved him, the local paper even reported on Leo weekly. ❤
This process is very similar to Canine Companions for Independence (CCI). A 2 wk training, on campus, with staff, working all day, staff stay overnight for help and observation of the team. Many people don't understand, you can have an amazing dog, with so much training, but ones they're "on-the-job", in real life, the dog just isn't able to carry out their duties, for many different reasons. My son's dog was rejected from her first placement, went back for another year of training, and ended up being the perfect dog for my son. She wasn't the best dog for many people, but she was the best for our situation. She was lower energy, very patient and calming. If you were a person with a full time job, going all day long, athletic, she wouldn't have worked for that person. However, she was strong when we needed her to be. The staff really do know so much about putting together a winning team, they're looking for long term success. Maple is so perfect for Paul, and Paul is perfect for Maple. She loves her job and is committed to Paul.
Awe Paul! Watching you get choked up talking about the experience was so hard to watch. We love our furry friends for a reason. And it lead you to your lovely Mr. Maple ❤️
I just found your channel about 3/4 weeks ago and I absolutely am in love with your relationship. It’s so refreshing to see such pure love for each other.
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Thank you so much!!
@@MatthewandPaulOfficial it looks like you both have SO MUCH FUN every day with each other.
Ofc I know there are daily stressors, but do you guys usually have this much fun everyday? I just smile from
Start to finish of every one of your videos Matthew!! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
(Btw- Matthew is my most favorite name in the world for a boy, my oldest son is Matthew 😬)
Aren't they adorable. It really is refreshing to see a happy couple. I'm getting old; I'm starting to forget what it felt like to be young and in love. Gawd that was the best feeling! There are plenty of great things about love in later years. But young love is just so special. Throwing your hand in with another person, taking that chance, is among the most exciting, romantic, and courageous things we ever do as human beings. But reality tv has changed the landscape of love. We no longer see snippets of happy young couples at the beginnings of long journeys the way we used to. Today, over and over again, we witness machinery leave the station, on its way to a train wreck. Watching these two is a wonderful reminder that young ppl are still finding real love. Nothing has changed; the world is still full of young ppl ready to take that plunge. That is a great comfort to me. The family unit helps to give stability and structure to our communities. But love is how we create lasting and worthwhile structures. This couple, and the life they are building, is a solid foundation on which society can build. They are solid. We can rest futures on them.
Dogs really are a match for certain people. I did work with scent detection dogs, and my dog worked well with me the other person who tried them was too harsh for them.
Paul I can’t imagine how difficult that was for you😢 , to bond with such an important part of your life only it didn’t work out , Such a loving thing for Mathew to come and get you right away when you needed him so badly. But im so glad you have Mr Maple 🍁 as part of your beautiful family ❤ Love to you Paul, Mathew and of course Mr maple 🍁 x
Oh thank goodness Mr. Maple is ok
I’m sure too that the other dogs you had to part with have found their perfect match and are living the best guide doggy life! Take care!
I am sure they ALL went on to find their perfect matches!
I keep praying Paul won’t lose anymore sight. He is so talented and gifted. An amazing visual artist. Much love❤❤🤗🤗
Thank you for this story,I think we were all so concerned that something was wrong with Mr.Maples I am relieved he is just fine,I can't wait for next part take care❤❤❤❤
Mr Maple will enter the story in Part 3!! And that's a very HAPPY story!
That's so sad, but I'm glad that it worked out with you and your perfect match, Mr. Maple! You talking about how fast she was made me laugh a little, though, because the GDB puppy I am raising right now LOVES to "fly" down the street and he walks so much faster than I can. I am all short people half-jogging to keep up at that speed, but he is just SO proud and happy doing it, so I try to give him stretches of our walks where he can go at his own pace.
Thank you, Matthew and Paul, for storytime. The video was excellent. Matthew, you are very supportive to Paul.
The dog in there photo is a golden retriever so I'm going with Maple is perfectly fine and it's the journey to eventually getting Maple. Plus Maple was in a short today.
He was? I must've missed that one
@@unvaryingpoison Paul was opening an advanced copy of his book and let Maple see it.
I hope your right.
And his first dog was female, not male.
I love watching you guys so much. It warms my heart and the support that you have for one another every one should take notes. And Matthew your laugh is contagious! Hi Mr. Maple you are also amazing ❤🥹🤗🫶🏼
Yeah! I'm sorry to hear, again.(I was in the live stream complaining your New-Ish sweater) Wishing that u find the BEST guard dog ever!❤
What I'm learning from these comments is that people react to thumbnails rather than the video.
Beautiful story. And Matthew, you look absolutely handsome and gorgeous wearing glasses.
Take care until next time.
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You two and Maple are the cutest little family!!! Glad a stumbled upon you incredible people!!! 🥰
i love u guys! when feeling a bit down watching you two perks me back up!
If it’s maple I’m gonna cry maple is the best!! 🥺😭
Me to
I hate When dogs are going to go away
Me to 😢
Same
Yes, when I was looking through new videos and it said the title I was gonna cry thinking it was Mr. Maple 😢 so glad to hear it wasn't Mr. Maple. I watch Molly and sometimes thgere are delays on hers so I wasn't sure if that was the same as I just found this channel. Molly said that the sore arm is in general with a guide dog but from extra pulling sounds a bit more than that.
I love hearing the different guide dog journeys and the experiences that others have. Can not wait to hear how you came home with Mr. Maple
Yes I'm excited to tell that part of the story!!
Oooohhh I can't wait to hear about the rest of this story. And im so glad the other dog found a good partner!
To matt and paul I just quickly have a hilarious story to tell you that happened to me when I was with a blind friend in which I hope, gives use a laugh and makes pauls embarrassing moments a little better but in 2004 I was invited to one of my friends birthdays who was blind and him and his sister owned a scooter. The ones with the metal piece in between two foam handles and as I used to ride them a lot without a helmet. I felt pretty confident on the one I was on at his birthday and sadly enough. I was absolutely incorrect as I face planted into his driveway, hitting my nose on the middle bit of the scooter and his driveway and broke my nose to the side and My nose was pouring out blood and I blacked out completely and as he was clearly blind everyone was worried about me asking if I’m okay and poor, Sam was standing there on the driveway, asking everyone what happened I not only felt embarrassed for myself but also for the birthday boy because I don’t think anyone told him till after I left looking back on it now these days I can absolutely lose it laughing, and if someone ever says, have you broken a bone before I’m always laughing about saying that. Yeah I broke my nose at a blind boys party 😂😂😂😂 so don’t worry. Paul are sighted people have embarrassing moments in front of people who are blind, also ❤
And side note I really love hearing the stories and that but it’s sad that the rest of the story is put on Patreon because not, a lot of people can afford that type of stuff, especially on disability payments like myself
OMG!!
Oh ... you two are just so beautiful, thank you for your sharing.
I'm happy you found Maple. I hope you guys have great days.
Thank you guys for these stories that many of us might not know how blind people experience certain things in life. Blessings for you :)
Thanks for listening !!
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I hope he found him!
Maple is so sweeeeet! Finding a loving home ❤
So very touching story and ❤❤❤😊😂 😮 the whole stories y'all do Tell keep shining 😜 and telling More about y'all's self's
About 20+ yrs. ago, a friend came over with his blind friend who I didn't know. F's bf sat on my couch next to my aquarium. After a few moments he asked if it was an aquarium and what was in it. I told him it was a large, orange parrot cichlid. He lifted the lid and stuck his fingers in the water and fish came up to nibble them. They played for several minutes. He told me he had never felt a live fish before! He had enough sight to see the fishes bright color. I have no idea what this story has to do with your remarkable Mr. Maple!!! 😁
Only caught the end of the live 😢 I remember how heartbroken you were Paul when it didn’t work out but take a positive out of this you wouldn’t have precious Mr Maple if it had. You are the perfect pairing as are you and Matthew, just the way he looks at you is pure love ❤
Thank you!! Were you following us when Paul first when to GDB? Yeah, it was such a difficult experience for him. Lots of tears, but he learned a ton. Thank you for your support!!
@@MatthewandPaulOfficial I’ve been following you since way before your wedding!
You are starting to be my favorite couple on youtube, such positive vibes and ok..both very handsome :)
I don't wanna live without Mr. Maple
I need the part 3 to this story! The cliffhanger is real!
I hope you found him
That's my favourite RUclips channel ❤ you are so sweet, guys
My late uncle and his family, lived in Boring Oregon when I was a kid. We used to visit them several times a year. He moved closer to us in Utah when I was a teen.
Omg I thought it was maple for a sec and I almost started to cry then I saw the dog was a golden retriever. Can’t wait for the premier Sadly I can’t watch because I will be at work but I will watch it when i get home. I also love watching your videos and you two are so funny ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Oh my gosh 😂🤗🤗🤗🥲🥲. Love you Paul and Matthew. Is Mr. Maple ok?
I love your videos and very amazing stories about you guys and the amazing stuff. You guys are special & the your dog is cute.
You are so kind
So glad maple is ok I was really worried ❤
What!?? Not Maple 😭😭😭
My first thought! NOT MAPLE
I so enjoy you both telling your accomplishment and your downfalls your very good at telling them. I would love to get to know you. Love yay🎉
Think its worth people reading the description, before jumping to conclusions! , its not about mr . Maple 🍁 looking forward to hearing about what Paul & Mathew have described ❤❤❤❤
This would make me so sad too 😢 how hard of a circumstance!
Lovely One Maple!!!! Always!!!! With Lovely Ones!!!! Always!!!!
OMG. Matthew looks so nerdy with that pair of spectacles 😍
Hahaha!
I am blessed to still have sight, thus hav not used guide dogs, but our fam has had many guard dogs who have died in the line of duty, poisoned, shot, etc. so our fam totally get's it, Godspeed and God Bless.
I feel lucky that I know enough about service dog training to have figured out that you were matched with a dog that didn't work with you 😭 What a hard time that must have been, as your first experience
I love you guys! That includes Maple!❤
I so do enjoy the both of you sharing your life with us, Maple is a sweet member of the family.
You are an amazing couple, great you found each other, you seem like old souls that have reconnected from past life.💗💗
Loving these videos so much 💙❤️🩵 I feel like some videos are kind of quiet when I’m not listening with headphones. Thank you for your journey I’ve been following since before your channel started here!
I hope Maple is alright.
OMG if Maple is gone I am going to cry!!😢😭
I have the most difficult time of not gregariously greeting canines, to the point i avoid greeting at all. I am a blind person avoider, even if i know & just love the person. Have you had a chance to experience or discuss tips for ppl like me? (I'm the opposite of the Karen).
What a relief to hear Mr. Maple is still working out wonderfully.
Sharing your story of the disappointment you experienced in your 1st trial dog, was really helpful. It's good to hear she found her perfect match later.
All time favorite
I like to think, even though these animals did not work out staying in our home. They still gave love and some valuable lessons to us. I know they found their forever homes and it's ok it wasn't mine. That is just a difference in lives and not the fault of one or the other.
This video was very interesting. You are a very sweet couple!
I hope that maple is okay and she did not pass away Maple is a wonderful wonderful and I am so sorry bat 💔 you or go in through that pain be cuz I know what it feels like from Lou 2 of my cats😢
we are from oregon this is a awesome place to raise and train puppies and dogs to help others my friend works at canine angels.
PAUL I FEEL SO BAD BECAUSE UR MY FAVORITE
You're a kind soul Paul. Even soul-searvhing that you could have made a mistake of giving up your 1st guide dog. But what you decide on was correct, it's difficult to be always stressed out when stepping out of your place, stressed due to her fast pace tugging at your arm (could even result to injury), and easily gets distracted, you were anxious if she would make No. 2 because she spread out her doing it. Ok not to proceed with her, because your guide dog is supposed to give you convenience, assistance, and not to be stressed.
I love how when Matthew smiles (with glasses) he looks so much like Steve carell
that's pretty hard😕
But I'm glad that in the end you got Mr. Maple and it all worked out❤ :)
MAPLEEEEEE WE LOVE UUUU
Really interesting to hear about your experience and a shame it didn’t work out with the first dog 😢 I’ve watched Molly Burke’s videos from guide dog school and it’s clear how strong that bond gets and how tiring the training is. I’m glad you ended up with Maple ❤
Lovely Cute One!!!! First Guide Dog !!!! Always!!!!
A guide dogs working life is normally 10 yrs. Then you get to have anew dog. But you get to train with a new dog when it’s needed.
To anyone freaking out, check the description! Pretty positive Maple is A-Okay! I think they are talking about past guide dogs.
Thank you guys for your content!
Update: Yes! Maple is FINE!
Mr maples is wonderful great dog
Is Maple okay?!?! Maple always looked the nicest and the sweetest dog!!! What are yall going to do, I'm going to cry about Maple is I don't figure out!
That can be sad. But you know these are the things that can happen. Maybe for the best. Now you have Mr Maple!!! YEAH!!!
Yesss I was curious on what happened with the mismatched guide dog
Just preordered a sign copy of your book.
I have horrible anxiety too plus autism and my poodle girl was sick and we didn’t know it when I first got her but the company i used you train at home I had a similar we almost broke my team because she wa so sick so I feel for you
HUGS!!
You're so Canadian, so polite
I posted that before I had your heart broken. I'm so sorry
Oh you poor thing. I know dog-their person bond. Oh. My. Goodness
Oh no. I'm so sorry.
I am so sorry that this happened with your very first gmatch. Dog switches or matches not working out in class does happen, and I won't write a huge novel about the multitude of factors and why this can happen.
It is not uncommon for most people to bond very quickly to their dogs, and then it becomes incredibly devastating when the match does not work out.
When I went and got my second dog from Seeing Eye in 2002, I was originally matched with a gorgeous female black lab who was completely different from my first dog. I loved her immediately because she was aloof, completely uninterested in me, and had a very different energy from my first dog, also a female black lab.
Unfortunately Candie did not have the super fast pace that I needed in a guide, so they had to do a switch after five days. I have been very fortunate in that I have never had to leave the school without a dog, but I know others who have gone through it, and it is really hard.
Matching dog and handler is an art with an element of luck, too. This is something that many people do not understand.
I hope all the dogs that you got to try out went to handlers and have successful careers now. I always tell people that what may bring one person freedom and is the perfect match may be a complete disaster and nightmare for someone else.
Although I'm sure the experience was devastating, it would've been much harder had you gone home with her, bonded even more, and something unsafe happened in your home environment. I've seen that happen, too.
I am glad that Maple is a much more suitable match for you. There is nothing like having that first guide dog, the one who works with you for years and witnesses all of your life experiences with you.
What but he's so sweet
I was confused when I first saw the thumbnail because it was so out of context but I get it now. Ignorance is not always bliss.
I could have sworn the title yesterday before this video went live did NOT include the word "first" before guide dog, so that is why everyone was accusing of click-baity title.
I can’t wait to hear the story of how he met mr maple im so excited I love your guys videos I can’t wait til your next video comes out!!