if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help.
Sometimes but sometimes it's okay to reach out to strangers or non family members too they sometimes don't know how to react just like the people from this video . I love you all and I'm sorry to you and everyone else like us who lost someone to suicide. My dad's 2nd year anniversary will be July 9th 2024 in a few days. 😞🍺
Reach out to those who understand, call a crisis line. Do we tell someone who's dying from cancer to man up! Mental illness is a physical problem with the brain. Manning up can't fix it. If you think manning up is a good answer, then you need to run and educate yourself on the workings of the brain!!! Saying man up to someone who reaches out for help, it's like your saying you don't care! And it could be a death sentence, given from unintentional ignorance, just repeating what your elders told you. Go find out how to help or, at the very least, quit saying man up! Become a part of the solution, please, we need everyone! Stop the stigma!!! Just let them know you care. Help them find & get to those that know how to help solve their issues. I know what I'm fixing to say is wrong, but I'm going to say it anyways, mainly in a joking manner, because I think laughter is healing!!! So... Man up is a Pussy's answer! 😜
worst part is when you tell your family about what's happening with you and they just told you to not be so dramatic or even turning mad at you because they think you're ungrateful for what you have right now.
Zenith, I understand and I care. You aren’t crazy. You’re not an obligation people “ have “ to talk to because you’re a non person burden. You’re human and lovable. Possibly if you get past it, write off the people who don’t care, are cold indifferent, act like you’re flawed or contagious. You’re worth more to us and if you believe a God ..
Oh yeah, rn going through this with my own family. Event after 7 years since a living nightmare has ended for me they still can't understand what I was going through all the time at kindergarten, at school, after school... They've always been thinking I just need to be more "positive", stay "positive" whatever happens. Even now mom's thinking I'm not doing enough. And only after almost 5 years of therapy, 7 suicide attempts (after one of which I woked up after death), tons of meds and going through radical separation from this destructive abusive family I can have a unique chance to live normally. I appreciate this opportunity.
Currently going through this experience. Having no support but ridicule and be humiliated for being over dramatic, disappointment, and weak just fuels my desire to quit life. They make me feel as if I'm just a product to be used and not as a family.
ive been dead since 2013. i honestly dont know how much longer i can do this. i really dont want my family to be heartbroken though. i fell off my bike, got a concussion, and im in permanent brain fog. the worst part is it is completely invisible so no one understands.
I'm 22, feel numb and empty everyday. I can't see my future anymore, I've been a burden to my family for years now. I don't wanna die but I think I'm already close to it. Everyday thinking about dying and being worthless is not worth living anymore.
I've been feeling the same way for months now. Suicidal thoughts every day. Going to see a psychiatrist in 5 days. It was so hard for me to seek help, but thats the first and most difficult step and I encourage you to do the same. My family also dont understand it, although I lost my father to suicide and my bro had a suicide attempt. Please seek help, I know how hard it is but YOU ARE WORTH LIVING! lots of love from a stranger xoxo
@@teanonkovic860 - it hurts. it hurts so bad to see that you feel this way. i just found out my friend was suicidal and i don't know what to do with myself. I've been watching videos looking at comments like these, i started taking notes, but i don't think it'll matter. i just wanna help. ever since i found out my friend has been suicidal i've been trying to help anyone who might feel this way. i don't wanna throw cliche's at you, you don't need that. i just want you to feel loved. about you and your family: to be honest, it really depends how your family is (i mean like loving and caring or abusive and negative stuff), but you are not a burden. and if anyone has ever told you that, they're either ignorant or hurting too. i want to understand, i know it's not likely that i'll grasp it all completely, but i want to help. i really, genuinely do. i know it probably doesn't help hearing this from some random lady on a youtube comments section, but i love you. put your hand over your heart. when you hear that heart beating, that is called value and worth. i want you to stay, as long as you can. you're alive, don't ever give up. there's no amount of words that can heal something like this, and i understand that. i love u.
I'm same situation mate 26 and still rely on mom and dad for everything but live alone it's so embarrassing the shame, my dad hates Im gay, I outta drop off the face of the earth
These people don’t understand suicide Nothing helps Being open makes you an outcast No one can help you They know they are leaving people behind It’s more like leaping from a burning building I think of it daily I’ve tried to get help Nothing works
exactly! they say to open up, when open ourselves up itself is a struggle, then we end up being judged and mocked. thank you.. opening up just pushes us nearer toward the cliff
@Shirley Jackson I know.. but hold on.. We never know what tommorow brings.. I am still hoping. I am still holding on. Idk what really to say. But as someone who's going through a lot too, I am just gonna say I am here for you always. You can always come and talk to me when things go low. I support you💪💞
It's easy to say these things when you're not the one struggling with not jumping. Unless you feel suicidal, how can you help someone who is? I've been suicidal for so long and I always try to find a reason to keep pushing forward. But this weight is breaking my body and crushing my will to keep trying. In my honest, broken opinion...only the broken can help the broke. Depressed, suicidal, mentally broken, people who suffer like this, we need each other more than we need anyone or anything else. I believe only we can get each other out of the darkness.
As we draw closer to the end at the last days of the church. As Satan is about to set up his kingdom. It's very important to ask yourself that if you die today are you 100% SURE that you're going to heaven. The bible says that we can either go to heaven or hell and it says we have to be sure that we are saved. If you're not sure you're going to heaven when you die. First you have to understand that God is a holy perfect God and he won't allow a single sin into heaven. That's why he needs to judge your sin and bring you to HELL. That's how serious your sin is and you must repent. Now Jesus is God who loved you so much that he came here and died for your sins so you can get saved! All you have to do is put your trust on what he did on that cross. It's that simple my friend! Doing good deeds won't save you. Water baptism won't save you. Only Jesus Christ because he paid all the sins for you. God bless you. ruclips.net/video/OnsKT6ra3qs/видео.html
"Nothing is that bad." That dismissiveness shows why they don't understand. What you feel, left behind is only a fraction of what we feel trying to stay.
Nancy my friend it's like a line of dominoes when one falls the whole lot falls down and time is nothing time only makes things worse I lost my daughter seven yrs ago through drink the kindest girl to walk god's earth etc less than yr half apart I lost my youngest son from drink he kept everything to himself he missed his big sis the ironic thing is we were all ways together I'm nearly 71 I don't live I just exist
@@brendadrumm9708 I am so sad for you! I am not sure where you live, I live in Australia. Not too far from me, there have been in the past 4 weeks 4 teenagers (that I know of) that have suicided.I know too many friends who ended their life. May they Rest In Peace. Thinking of you Brenda!
Not everyone will treat your feelings as unworthy or as overreactions. There are people who react incorrectly, but there are also people who truly care and are willing to help and understand what/how you think/feel. You shouldn't give up on having a life worth living, you should keep seeking help, because we are here and we care. It may seem like there are no routes, no solution, no way out, but that's an illusion...
@@nurbeauty2033 Hang in there Beauty, you have more than enough strength to overcome any obstacle in your path, you'll always be enough. Keep seeking God, he'll help renew your strengths to keep fighting, but don't give up so early! Seek a psychologist as well, they'll be more than happy and willing to help you through it all. There's always a way, death is not the solution or the end. "Sometimes Darkness can show you The LIght" Disturbed - The Light
2:20 See, that's exactly the problem with people who don't have depression or deal with suicidal thoughts. "Nothing's ever that bad." But to us suicidal people, it is. Whatever we are dealing with making us feel this way does feel like the only escape is death. Saying that is just so dismissive. If someone tries to confide in you saying they're feeling suicidal, for whatever reason, DO NOT say this to them. It will just push them further into it and make them feel worse.
But we could rephrase that to "Nothings so bad that *you* can't handle it. You are stronger than you know and I can see that in you, and I know that you can do this".
It proves that it really IS that bad- he doesn’t quite understand. That moment is the feeling of ground zero within yourself. I’ve attempted three times. Currently fighting a fourth.
Only thing: people shouldn't say that "they weren't thinking about who they left behind." A very common theme to the logic behind the choice to die by suicide is people thinking the world, especially the people closest to them, will be better off without them. People who are that blinded by emotional pain aren't capable of thinking logically about it. It's never a desire to die or not giving a damn about other people. It's simply a last resort effort to escape from a life that feels unlivable. It becomes the solution when there appears to be no solution.
As someone who has been living with depression and dark times, it genuinely angers me when people say to think of your loved ones or suicide is selfish. How long does someone need to suffer for the sake of others happiness, is that not selfish of them? Why put more guilt onto someone who is already in so much pain. But maybe that's just me idk
I absolutely agree with you. Especially, when the loved ones are the only reason why I am trying to keep on going, despite of truly wanting to be dead.
I have been in a bad place for over a year now. People are geting tired of me. They have become frustrated. I have been driven by the police to the mental clinic, they locked me in for 24 hours because I stood at the railroad. I have been there 4 more times since. There is no help out there. I am eating medicine. I work out almost everyday at the gym. I eat well. Sleep well. But this depression is killing me. I feel so lonely and low status. So weird and so different. I have one family member left, my dad. That's it. 4 friends. 1 of them I consider a good friend, the others are just what you call a friend but are not really. Everyone says "reach out", "talk to someone", "tell a doctor", "talk to everyone you know". I say f off. I have tried that. I speak open about my suicide ideation, but no one understand or can help me. I don't even know what help I need. But I have tried and still trying. I feel lonely. I want to belong somewhere. I want to feel welcome and safe. I don't want to die, I just don't want to live.
I'm so sorry for your pain and suffering. I'm here to tell you there is a 100% solution and His Name is Jesus Christ❤ He can and will help your mind that lives in darkness. He will make the darkness run and fill you mind body and soul with joy and peace that you can not understand. He is waiting for you and praying to our God moves mountains. Ask Him constantly for help and imbed yourself in our Lords Soul. Keep the Bible near you and read The Lords healing Words everyday. He is your only hope and He was mine too. He healed my mental issues but I prayed like 5 times a day. I'd put my hand on my head and say Lord please help my head. Within months I noticed it was getting better and 6 months later I was free. That what Jesus does is free us. Seek Him and you will know and find Him. He loves you so much and wants you healed by His Hand🎉 Google " Fathers love Letter "
For some reason I've read your comment over and over...I feel very close to you...I'm sorry for what you are having to endure in this life. I to have been institutionalized more times than I care to count. Lost both of my older brothers to suicide . One when I was just 14..the other this past year as I turned 32. My mother attempted, but before ever succeeding a twist of irony stole the show..i mean soul. Ultimately she indirectly prompted fate to step in(on her heart)..pherhaps on behalf of her many failed escapes...Fate must've thought .."Well, What's the harm of rushing this particular individuals door of eternity, when their on the other side attempting to pry it open with a crow bar? Or a handful of pills. So let's set her heart attack and untimely death at 50. That should work right. Yep guess it did. Now all I have is my dad as well. And one friend...only two people left in this world who know who I really am...and all my personal peckidillows. My dads 72...Hes my world. I live in fear of the day I lose him. I pray that day I dont lose what's left of me. Thanks for listening. God be with you.
Your life, your problems MATTER!!! Please let them help!!! Crises lines are staffed by trained volunteers!!! They are there for you because they care & want to help. It's not someone doing a job for the money. It's people who care enough to give their time in hopes that they can make a difference. Many may have experienced the loss of a loved one to suicide. They want and need to be there for you!!! Please go ahead and reach out, you matter!!!
Feeling burdensome is a common feeling among people who are hurting, You are not alone with this feeling and you are not a burden, please call the hotline, People there want to help, are trained to help and I bet a lot of them have been in your shoes. Good luck with this. Herman
@Tyler Anthony Tyler try calling social services, maybe they can help you to get help at your local hospital. Or go to an Emergency room if you can, since it's the weekend. Good like Tyler In california if you call 211 it's 24 hour help from social svs. If you're from somewhere else maybe the people manning the phones can give you guidance
You are never a burden, you are loved and never how big or small you think your challenge is you need to feel safe enough to share it so that you can move forward
These people have some nerve to say that "its never that bad" or to say that the reason you souldnt kill yourself is because you need to think about the people that you leave behind. Fucking incredible
We should respect their choice .we can never understand someone's pain ,their horrors life is only worth when it is meaningful to oneself .at the end of the road you have only yourself. Don't forget we are not omnipotent beings so we can't help someone beyond a certain limit life is lonely journey at its core everyone is just passerby like a car in a highway.
There's plenty of videos and programs directed to those who are currently suffering alone. In this particular video though, the focus is on the aftermath of suicide. Perhaps calling who commits suicide "selfish" is "bad" and "evil", but saying that those left behind with their pains are "selfish", is just as bad.
My dad took his life nearly 50 years ago, he left behind three kids, 16,12 and 6 and our mum dying of cancer who passed a year later.....it still hurts every day.
When I open up all I get is people trying to fix me. They say suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Well why won’t the problem fucking go away. I have been waiting years for it to go. It hurts more each year that passes.😭
Yeeees that's how i think sometimes.I hear people saying that every problem is temporary especially in heavy/severe situations but i dont see anything(Im not blind). So why it doesn't go away despite your efforts is the non understandable thing.WHYYYYYYY?????!!!!!
I know, right. ketamine and cannabis and heroin and shrooms are illegal for recreational use. we get locked up in a cage just for selling those medicines. no wonder the suicide rate is so high.
It bothers me when people say crap like nothing is so painful that suicide is the only option you don't know what a person is going through to say that
everyone says the same thing after we are gone...... you should talk about what your feeling ''''' ask for help.!!!!! it doesn't work like that. no one can grasp what we are feeling or understand at the moment we feel death is are only hope what we feel or how overwhelmed we are until we are gone. then they see only the good in us. what they have lost,,, but they still don't see us/me
Reaching out doesn't work out every time we do it but reaching out and allowing ourselves to be cared for is the first step on your journey to a clearer path. Awareness, Acknowledge, Action!
It's honestly more like "I couldn't see the signs and they should have asked for help" meanwhile they shut said person down or judge them harshly leading to that path.
Some people simply don't wish to deal with certain things so they pretend everything is fine when it isn't, and when they lose someone they love, they realize what they've done. Reaching out is very important, even when the reaction is negative. You matter, and your thoughts and emotions matter. There are people who care, and they're willing to help you, but you also need to help yourself.
Yesterday, I lost my brother to suicide. I cannot believe it nor can anybody else, there were no signs, no indications that he was battling with suicidal thoughts. He left a letter for his wife that said after years of chronic pain, he couldn't cope anymore so he went into his garage and hung himself. We are beside ourselves with grief, questions, guilt, anger and so much more, I just wish he was here to give him a hug. He wrote, 'I hope nobody thinks less of me.' No Pete, we just love you and miss you so much.
My older brother took his life in the garage if I was there I would of saved the bro's life rest in peace bro I will always remember you bro when you use to bring my lunch to primary school thankyou my brother Love you bro Memory of Paul Snowden 1975 - 2000 Daughter Memory of Louisa Cooper 1997 - 2012
why does it matter to ask for help if no one helps you? i've asked to go to therapy, i said i'm not well, i said i feel anxious, anyone can see i'm not okay, why don't they give me the help i need? i can't keep going like this
I have tried talking. But I have nobody left that really shares a bond beyond something past with me. My friends all got kids now. They can't relate to my career struggles. They can't relate to my loneliness, because they are never alone. They can't relate to me feeling left behind as the only single. And things like fighting cancer in my family... Some people can't even listen to me talking about it when I try. They get up and leave. I'm not a guy who is always complaining. But when people ask, they never follow through and listen. The thing that drives me insane is that people started complaining I'm not talking anymore. Yes. Because the attempts broke me beyond repair.
A suicidal person wont tell you because if they are serious about it then would have already done it. I know from experience that people to talk to are hard to find. In my opinion, the 'help' is just having cliches thrown in your face.
I don‘t think that it fixes to everyone. I was and am suicidal for a long time now but it comes and goes in waves. I have really dark days and days that a kind of okay and sometimes I‘m brave enough at a good day to open up to someone what’s going on in my head und reach out for help for the next possible bad day. That doesn’t mean I‘m not serious about it
I think the best help is for someone to actually reach out and ask if you're ok and care about the answer. Not enough people are like that though and personally I have no friends that have ever asked how I'm doing
Suicide is always talked about from the family's/friend's perspective. It's really sad that the person who opted out is not able to talk about how relieved they are.
I remember feeling this dark and hopeless. You start to think that somehow the people who love you they might be better off without you. That they would understand. This rational is not real. You feel this dark reach out. Teach your children how to be open and honest with their feelings. Normalize asking for help. Talk to them. Ask them if they love themselves. Be there.
It is presumptive the the person who chose to self transition is happy. In almost all circumstances no one knows what someone is thinking on this level, regardless of intimacy level.
Stay with us man better days are here to come she would have wanted you to continue to live your life she was just hurting so much that she didn't see any other way out you'll realise that time goes by fast and we're only here once for an unknown amount of time and then its onto the afterlife you will be with her eventually but right now is not the time fate will decide that for you just go about things one day at a time and treat yourself and do those things you enjoy and eat that favorite food all of the little things will help some i promise and if you'd ever like to talk my E.mail is ryandavison56@gmail.com
Life can really be that bad for a lot of people but never bad enough when we fully analyze the situation to take your life! There is always a way forward, no one ever says it will be easy but together we will get through this!
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@@lovemeloveyoufoundation5875 you too are ignorant and don't understand the effect of panic attacks and severe anxiety disorders and physical pain some people live in that is so bad and there's no help for them.
As someone whose tried to take their own life- there was nothing my family could have done different. They tried to talk to me and I just lied and said I was tired! Had I not survived it I wouldn’t be able to let them know there was absolutely nothing they could have done different. Over a year later and I still can’t think of what they could have done differently. I cannot put into words what that level of depression does to your mind, regardless of whose in your life or how good it is!!! The hopelessness and sadness has a pull like I’ve NEVER seen, there are no accurate words! You have to be at that point yourself to even begin to understand- and I pray to God every person reading this doesn’t and won’t understand from that position.
Don’t your DARE blame yourself Tanners dad. You are a great person and we’re and incredible father. Tanner made a decision and no one could change it. Love you buddy and be nice to yourself
This hurts so deeply... no matter how I've reached out no one is listening, no one is there for me. They keep saying it's my problem, I'm creating it all the problems. They don't want me here, and it's taken me too long to realize that. I don't want to be here anymore, all I am is a ball of problems and struggles, and it's entirely up to me to get through this. I don't think I'm strong to get through it. I'm so sorry
Celeste, I hope u r still here. I know how depression can rob a person of any desire to live. And I know how sad feeling worthless is. If u want to talk, I'm here, I will listen.
As someone whose lost 2 older brothers to suicide this hurts my ❤️. My heart goes out to all of you . I know your pain and I'm sorry you've had to experience this 🥺😭😢💔
being a guy depressed is not easy. fighting it alone because your scared what others would think.. feeling sad, lonely and worthless , its unbearable you would wish you've never existed...
@@girl81spain EASY SAID THAN DONE. Still important and we all are going through this one day with out any excape , not Just the cursed or Mentally ill or Suffering from abuse.
Hi Ande feel terrible for what your going through. Hopefully better cause your message was 3 yrs ago. I just wanted to tell you about a precious being that healed my messed up mind and His Name is Jesus Christ ❤ He can and will heal you and replace your sadness and emptiness with overflowing joy and peace and love. Run to Him. He loves you so so much. Ask Him to reveal Himself and He will 🎉
To be absolutely honest, these people that are left behind, telling others to "get help", to "talk about it"...let me tell you from experience; many, many people ultimately resort to suicide because they HAVE tried to get help, but the help didn't help. They HAVE tried to talk about it, but nobody cared enough to help, everybody wanted to just live their own lives. So in the end you are left with utter loneliness, yourself and your thoughts. It is an unbearable place. I'm not saying that none of these people who took their lives didn't get help or didn't talk about it, I'm saying, it is absolutely, 100% possible that they DID, but it FAILED them. Try not to look at why the person took their lives and what these people should've done instead. Try to look at why these people that are left behind, why did they not reach out or cared just a little bit more, just helped a little more, when they could've.
Exactly! Ive been depressed since 8 years old and now Im 31, and everyday Im battling the same reason, I tried to tell to my family about what I feel most of the time about my life,but its like they didnt hear me. Now I feel Im close enough to end my life. But I dont blame anyone. Its just me my choice.
Hope your still with us bud. If you ever need someone to talk to I think I speak for everyone here when I say that we got you. Keep trying man, as painful and hard as it is, I'm sorry to say that it doesn't just magically get better.. I've been waiting 6 months now of feeling like this, with no change. So I started micro-dosing LSD and psilocybin (not together, just whatever I can find, however psilocybin mushrooms have become a proven method for treating depression, after just one dose. LSD still good too tho) and since then I've realized that we all have the ability to change our life at any given moment. It's all about your mindset. And as much as I hate to say this, because I KNOW what it's like being depressed and feeling utterly helpless to change it, when all you do is feel pain.. but we have to CHOOSE to not live like that, make changes. Start doing more for others. Even though it is a CHORE to get out of bed and go to work, and on my days off I don't even leave home, but when I DO go out in public I started looking for opportunities to do nice things for people, and noticed how good it makes you feel. There's something healing about being a positive influence for others. And then bring that good energy back home with you. Because I noticed on days that I don't even leave the house, those are my worst days. I sit and bask in a house full of negative energy and feel like I could just die and nobody would even notice or care. Even though, I know that's not true. So go out, think of something nice you can go out of your way to do for somebody. Maybe just try it once, or twice and see how it feels. All this to say, don't give up. If you're reading this I pray you find strength, and use it to pick yourself up. I know everyones situation is diff on why they're depressed or suicidal, but since for me I just feel like I'm wasting my life, living a life without meaning, nobody to love nobody to talk to even friends, and the friends that I have I don't even wanna get up and go see because all I wanna do is sleep. For me, if I just force myself to make a few changes I know it would change everything, and I'm finally just now starting to take action. And noticed an increase in attitude and happiness in just 3 days. I pray it be as easy for you reading this, and I hope that this helps. Well I've said enough I'll wrap this up, just please don't give up. At the very least, live another day so you CAN get better. And to one day pick others up who can't help themselves. If there's one reason to keep living, it's so we can help those around us who are struggling as well. If we'd all pitch in and help each other to lighten the load, imagine the difference that would make, through the entire world. Stay strong, have faith, be brave. We love you ❤️ 🙏✨🌈🌎👽👁️ Thank you for reading 🙂
@@shannonclaro934 hope you guys are doing alright.. just wanted to let you guys know you're all loved by somebody. And if you're not, you can still live on to love those around you, and give the WORLD the love you never received... In doing this, your pain will come full circle and you can close that neverending cycle of pain with an everlasting loop of love 🙂 I know it's hard. I know from experience. It's so hard to pick yourself up when the hole that you're in just gets deeper and darker and colder. I know what it's like.... But if you have no one to love you, you have no other choice, unfortunately... you have to love yourself. It's up to you, to change your mindset. To pick yourself up, or at least TRY making changes. Making conscious decisions to live a different life. For me, I've been unable to do this for the last 10 years feeling depressed. Suicidal the last 6 months. And psychedelics were the only thing that was able to change my point of view, change my mindset, and clear up all those negative thoughts and energy. Just a thought. Please research first tho psychedelics may not be for everyone! But everyone should try them at least once even if it's just microdosing. Just my opinion. And no, I'm not a Dr. So take that and do what you will with it. But mushrooms and LSD are the reason I'm still here today. I'll leave you all with this. You're not alone no matter how alone you may feel. If you need someone to listen, I'm here for all of you. I mean it. Please keep living, and spread love whenever possible. Things will change before you know it. Please just stay strong. And let us know how you're doing! Thanks 🙂
It's easy to say "talk about it" or "there is help out there" but when you are in the loneliest deepest most hurt mindset nothing can pull you through. I'm going through the worst seperation with my wife, we have 3 kids, twice already I have attempted to take my own life because I want the pain to stop. Not even the images and thoughts of my 3 kids could pull me from the depth of my despair. You can call me selfish or whatever but when that mindset takes hold it is a very dark, scary and lonely place to be and all you want to do is die no matter what. I fight to survive everyday but I know I'm loosing the battle internally and that this seperation will be my downfall
I don’t know how to help with this issue, I am 44 years old and because my parents were severely traumatized at the time of my conception due to a death I have been almost depressed since birth. Dysthymia and severe depression, but suicide was never an option for me, because for whatever reason this option doesn’t exist in my case. What can I say, I try to see the positive in everything and the positive is that without this pain I would never have been able to gather the insights I have now. This pain has been described and continues to be described for millennia, but always in different words, with a different method, but with the same goal. Trying to explain, trying to change it. Anyway, my path only led to this realization a few days ago and I hope it’s worth something. I copy the text I left on Jordan B. Peterson’s channel, or I’d better copy the link to it right away. There are only a few commentary there, so you’ll find it fast. ruclips.net/video/tm2BnaGuJdE/видео.html&lc=UgzjK_4Nf4yhCw_OnDV4AaABAg.9REebyKE5NC9RIgaIEYhvI However, the pain was described with the scourging and crucifixion, only for the resurrection one must not commit suicide, but must continue until the heart breaks. I think the pain must be, if you want to reach the new consciousness demanded by Einstein, it also leads to the realization of J. G. Jung that the individual is the life carrier who carries the whole existing life, each individual for himself and that is hard. Either way, hold on. I think everything would not be so bad if we all lived like noah and allowed maximum diversity in the smallest possible space, instead of maximum simplicity in the largest possible space. The planet dies because of our behavior and we die with it.
I'm so sorry for your hurt. I hope your still alive. Please you need Jesus to heal you. I was so messed up and I prayed many times a day for healing and within 6 months my mind was ok. Jesus will give you peace, joy, and strength that you need. Imbed yourself into the Soul of our Precious God❤ He loves you and is waiting for you with open arms and give your life to Jesus and your darkness will run from you and you will be filled with light instead🎉
I'm crying as I watch this! I lost my beautiful grandson on Nov 26, 2023, to suicide! Please, if you have thoughts of suicide,seek help immediately! We sought help and were turned away! 2 weeks later, he died! Unbearable pain and sadness!
I feel so alone. My fiance committed suicide on May the 29th and it's literally killing me. I just want to hold him one more time, I feel like I can feel his energy at times and that's when the hardest painful moments are. I have to keep going and fighting for my children. Life is so painful but I can still see all the Beauty of the ultimate gift LIFE I still haven't explored. I love you Jay.💔❤💔
I'm sorry for you pain. I lost my sister to suicide on May 15th. I've never felt sorrow like this in my life. I hope you will be ok. Please stay around for you children because they need you right now.
Someone I know killed herself 2 days ago. She was 24. The hardest thing is knowing she was in so much pain that she thought this the best option. I wish she knew what a beautiful person she was....
I really needed this right now. Thank you. I survived an attempt in 2012, and lately I’ve seen the signs of it slowly creeping back in. Stay strong friends. I’m gonna use every bit of strength I have to keep fighting.
Run to Jesus before taking your own life. In Jesus lives happiness, joy, fullness, peace, healing for you. Dive into the Soul of our God. Prayer will heal your broken mind. Jesus Christ is The Answer to all of our problems in No matter how horrific it is. He loves and adores all of you and is waiting for you all to come to Him and be with Him forever
i pray God can help you. it does hurt so bad. not like having something physical. so silently painful and difficult to carry on in normal life and genuinely be overly nice to everyone because you have a pure heart and are treated even worse because of it. i hope it helps to know you are not alone.
As we draw closer to the end at the last days of the church. As Satan is about to set up his kingdom. It's very important to ask yourself that if you die today are you 100% SURE that you're going to heaven. The bible says that we can either go to heaven or hell and it says we have to be sure that we are saved. If you're not sure you're going to heaven when you die. First you have to understand that God is a holy perfect God and he won't allow a single sin into heaven. That's why he needs to judge your sin and bring you to HELL. That's how serious your sin is and you must repent. Now Jesus is God who loved you so much that he came here and died for your sins so you can get saved! All you have to do is put your trust on what he did on that cross. It's that simple my friend! Doing good deeds won't save you. Water baptism won't save you. Only Jesus Christ because he paid all the sins for you. God bless you. ruclips.net/video/OnsKT6ra3qs/видео.html
how the hell should I open up to my family when I made hints for years that I'm not okay and I need help and all they do is change topics or say your problems are minuscule because you are young
I just saw your comment. I'm praying you were able to open up and get your parents to help you!!! As a parent who lost her 15.5 year old daughter to suicide, I beg you to please be direct & brutally honest with your parents. Even though my daughter & I had been seeking all the help available for almost a year, I didn't catch her hints that day!!! I failed my precious child when she needed my help the most!!! You & your problems are just as real & important as their "grown up" ones. Please reach out to a crisis center, by phone, text or online. They can help you & your parents.
As a survivor, my parents really weren't hurt, just angry. So years later, after the Navy, I tried again. I'm here to tell you that there are not always signs. It is not always easy to reach out, especially when you have no siblings and hard hearted parents. What you can do is spread awareness, be kind, even to strangers, and if you are one contemplating, please do call the hotline. Not all of us are survivors.
When are we going to realise that we all play a role in suicide prevention. Reach out works both ways. I'm doing a project about this topic, and if I see one more guilt trip disguised as awareness, I might throw up. Suicide is rarely a fast thing. Most people do think about their families and loved ones, which is why they've stuck around for so long. The shame around having thoughts like that is so overwhelming. Nobody wants to hurt the people they care for in this way, and it's gross that so much of prevention awareness content plays off of that sense of shame and guilt instead of offering support and education.
My friends think I am strong enough to fight my sucidial thoughts bcoz I appear as a strong headed person but let do they know I tried to die . They just don't take my sucidial thoughts seriously
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help
Maybe if we treated suicidality the same way we treated the flu...bringing them chicken soup in bed, calling to check in, get well soon cards and messages, days off, extra love.
Ive told the people i love im hurting, im in pain. I need to end it. They didnt care. So i AM ending my life. Im tired. I want to sleep. Got no friends no support. No family connects. My dad just tells me to shut up. My mom.. Emotionless. People around me just have words. Stupid text. No action. I dont want help. I want to be free of everything.
My friend spoke to everyone. Knocked on the door of every service. Went to A&E, etc etc etc. she took her own life a few weeks ago because the help just wasn’t there. From anywhere. I hope other people might have a different experience. Plus some people feel suicidal for years and years. Most the time. And their friends and family don’t know what to do when they have no money and there are so few mental health services until after you’ve ‘attempted’ suicide. Only real prophylactic is to think of the never ending pain you’re passing on to all the people who love you.
Some days I severely struggle with suicidal thoughts one day I say “ok this is the day I do it” but then I fall asleep and a new day starts and I’m kinda scared the day that I actually do it
People think being suicidal is a joke... I tried to open up to my friends and end up making fun of me🥺🥺🥺 now I’m here trying my best to find inspiration not to do it... I think I’m losing it🥺
There’s hope. ♥️🙏 I am a Catholic person. My depression ended when I started praying the holy Rosary…(thanks be to God). Now I am in peace. Depression is the most horrible feeling.
As we draw closer to the end at the last days of the church. As Satan is about to set up his kingdom. It's very important to ask yourself that if you die today are you 100% SURE that you're going to heaven. The bible says that we can either go to heaven or hell and it says we have to be sure that we are saved. If you're not sure you're going to heaven when you die. First you have to understand that God is a holy perfect God and he won't allow a single sin into heaven. That's why he needs to judge your sin and bring you to HELL. That's how serious your sin is and you must repent. Now Jesus is God who loved you so much that he came here and died for your sins so you can get saved! All you have to do is put your trust on what he did on that cross. It's that simple my friend! Doing good deeds won't save you. Water baptism won't save you. Only Jesus Christ because he paid all the sins for you. God bless you. ruclips.net/video/OnsKT6ra3qs/видео.html
My sister committed suicide 3 months back. All I feel is anger. Everyone is grieving and sad and here i am just really pissed at her. I can't tell anyone it sounds terrible to say.
I'm sorry you're going through a rough time, Luke. Anger is natural, and the way you deal with it is always going to be unique. Perhaps over the last 7 months your feelings have changed. Maybe not. This document by the British National Health Service helped me put some things into perspective. Sorry for your loss. www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Suicide/Documents/Help%20is%20at%20Hand.pdf
I lost my dad July 10th 2022, killed himself at place we both worked at for 2 yrs together as his apprentice. I miss him alot and I wish he knew that we all love him and just wish he was here.
Well that’s me crying now, I lost my grandad to suicide last year. Knowing he was alone and didn’t feel like he could reach out to anyone was the most heartbreaking thing ever. I always looked up to him and would have done anything to help him through the pain he was going through 🥺😭
EVERYTIME I tell my family and friends that I don't feel well (reached out basically) it always turns to debate and ends in an argument! It only makes me feel worst. All these people did not take care of their ill loved ones and I guess illness won and so they bare the loss. Deal with the consequences of your ignorance. They expect people to live in endless pain so they can feel okay, that's selfish. Suicide is not selfish, we'd rather go than be reminded of the burden we seem to be to them.
These people in the comment section saying the people on the video don't understand suicide really gets me, ´cause maybe they do, they´re just not suicidal, and that's a very important difference. As someone who have lost a loved one to suicide and who has also attempted to kill myself I can really say I understand both sides. When you're suicidal you're absolutely sure that nothing will help, or that it won't get better, or even if it does get better that's just no point to it, and when you're about to try suicide other people don't even exist in your mind (and if they do, is always in a bad way like you'll make their life easier by dying). But that's all just heavy terrible unberable depression and pain lying to you. Just one of the biggest lies you get to believe when ure rly bad is that people won't miss you, or even if they do that's something that eventually they'll get over and that's it. It's not, these people in the video are showing just about 1 minute of so much suffering, and the struggle of being drastically changed forever through so much pain, to lose someone to suicide is, I dare to say, the most painful way possible. ´Cause even if you've been suicidal, when you're not anymore you know in SO MANY WAYS that that didn't actually have to happen, that person didn't have to die. And I KNOW that for the suicidal one he needs to die and there's just no other option, and I understand, I think it's simply horrible the cruelty of mental disease, but there's it, that's a mental disease in the worst possible way. Afterall, I don't even know where I want to get with this but if there's one thing worth saying, 2day, 4 years since my loved one died and 3 years since I attempted suicide is that if you can get past today, you have everything. Actually, if you can hold on for just another 1 hour, and then other hour, and then another, that matters, because it WILL come a point where you realise it's good you didn't do it. Now I won't beg you to stay because I know this doesn't do it, I'm just being sincere. The pain of surviving to a loved one suicide never goes away, we just learn to live with it, but it will never be a normal thing, or just another thing that happened in our lives, no. It will aways be this enourmous gigantic breaking point, whre everything shifts and then it's just never the same, something will always be missing and you gotta learn to live with it or you'll try to go with them. I tried, didn't work out, and then I just didn't want to try again if it weren't work out, so I took the time to plan it better and this time, yes the time to plan a sucessful suicide, it was what I needed to convince myself to try again to do this horrible, batshit insane living thing. Well, it wasn't easy, I still struggled and I wanted to kill myself many times later but, today I can say I'm finally happy I'm here with people who loves me, but most importantly, I can finally feel their love. (and you will to if you can hold on, only for today.)
Good for you. Sadly is not the same with everyone, people do dissmiss you...my brother insulted in my bday, someone i knew said empty platitudes, strangers online try ro sell you coaching programs or they are doing a personal project with you without saying ( no joke)..etc
I lost my 12 yrs old cousin. The last time I chat with him was walking at the park. This hit big in our family community because no ever committed suicide especially a young kid like that.
Must be very rare, but when it does happen to someone that young, it often makes the news. Hard to believe someone that young is capable. Sorry for your loss.
I know someone who attempted a few days back and has been depressed for almost all their life. It's horrible. For me, I feel all that guilt building up inside me and it never goes away. Every time I think of that person I break down into tears and the demons in my head go crazy. It's scary.
Funny they say open up, talk to your loved ones about how you’re feeling but every time I am to talk to my mother as a man about how I’m feeling, how useless I feel, and unbeknownst to her that I’m on the brink of just wanting to end it all she tells me things that I have already fkn tried, or otherwise just storms away when I tell her that these things haven’t and do not work. And honestly when your own family won’t even listen to you instead resort to just storming out when you calmly rebuke or tell them that you’ve tried what they’ve suggested and that it doesn’t work it feels like they’ve just handed you the tools to want to end your own life because they just don’t want to do what they can to help you or support you in anyway and that drives people like myself and these victims further to suicide. If we can’t even talk to our own families without being judged or having these so called family storm out when we calmly rebuke their suggestions that haven’t worked for us all while they say prior to “talk to us” or we can’t even talk to friends without knowing who is and isn’t going to backstab us and use our depression or the things affecting us now to their advantage and hurt you later on then who are we supposed to talk to?? And although I look at these families and the grief they’re going through and wonder the same for myself what would happen if I left, who would remember me what impact would my demise have on those who know me I can’t help but wonder how many of these people who committed suicide went through exactly what I‘m going through and did what I and many others have done and opened up to family only to be shut down and walked away from when telling them what hasn’t worked or even been betrayed by the friends who encouraged us to open up to them only for them to take advantage of our vulnerabilities and gossip to others about our struggles How is one meant to have hope of things getting better when the very people you depend on (even your own blood) refuse to listen or understand where you’re coming from and how low you’re feeling
I think you need to find new friends because if your "friends" are going to do that to you, then they are not worth your time. I don't know how old your are but if you can, find a therapist that is right for you. If you can't do that, then try to get out of the house as much as you can because it seems like your family is too toxic to you. If you can't do that, then try to express your feelings in a creative way, like art or writing. That is always a great coping mechanism other than suicide.
Watching these kinds of interviews has for some reason usually made my darker thoughts worse. But this video actually made me consider holding on to life for a while more.
Emma, I hope that you are still with us. I am sorry that you feel that way. Life is a gift from GOD. I was suicidal myself and I am happy that I lived. I put my trust in JESUS and everything changed. It was many years ago. Life is still challenging but JESUS is my anchor. Live! Trust GOD and you will see. 🌺🌺🌺🍃🍃🍃
Jesus is waiting for you. He wants to heal your mind and take the darkness away and bring light back into your life. God has healed my mind and will do the same for you. Prayer will move mountains in your life by the Hand of Jesus. Read the Bible and your will see all that you want come to life but imbed yourself fully into Him. That's where the miracles will happen. Talk to Him daily. He is sitting next to you every second. Google " Fathers love Letter " made from Bible verses to show Gods love for you
Dear mason up in heaven I miss you best friend he was only 17 suicide was not the way out November 22 you decided to take ur life and it’s been hard since best friend u was my everything bro I miss u mason hope to see u one day bro
People don't want to know how you feel. If they are asking it is usually just a curtesy. If you tell them how you feel instead of saying great or fine they look at you like you just pissed down their leg.
It’s not just the depression, it’s the crippling anxiety that stops you in your tracks making you unable to function and breathe. Your mind thinks about ending everything cause you can’t function like a normal human being anyway and you keep standing in everyone’s way. I wonder what’s the most painless efficient way to do it.
It helped me when I started seeing myself as a person. Not as me,but rather as a person. I still get bad days, but they arent as bad as they used to be. People might not care for you the way you want, but they care for you in the way they know how. That is also a lesson I had to learn.... life is suffering. But life is also love. Key is to find the balance between the two..... you need to make peace with the worst version of yourself and have respect for it. But not give into it. If you put effort in it, you are already better than your worst version. Effort over time eventually adds up.... I have had good living conditions and some decent friendships, so my suicidal thoughts were never due to me not being able to handle life's unfairness, but rather always feeling horribly unworthy. These lessons helped me with my perticular problem... maybe someone with different reasons for suicidal thoughts would like to share their experience. I would love to hear it!
My reason is living in this sick society. Sure there are good people but sadly most are greedy and utter ignorant. Like i am but at least i am aware and try to change. But most people, even if they have a good heart, are greedy and egoistical. I do not want to play the game of capitalism where everybody competes for every little shit. It distracts us from very important topics. I have so much hate build inside of me.
I lost my childhood best friend to suicide last week. To anyone contemplating on ending their life, please don’t. There is someone out there that cares so much about you and you have no idea how much pain that person will have to go through and hold on to for the rest of their life without you.
When I try to talk about it people get so upset and want me to swear to them that I'll never hurt myself, so in the end I have to assure them that I'll be fine even though I don't believe it. I know they care about me, but it doesn't help. I wish they could listen and try to support me. Just be calm
I think it's hard talking about suicide when I know it's because I don't want people to stop me from doing it. We would only tell someone if we knew we wanted them to stop us. At least if any of us go to a mental institution, we wouldn't be locked up there for too long. We would eventually get out and if we wanted, we could still commit to ending it. The whole Mental Health system is broken.
Months ago I was watching videos like this and I thought then, getting professional help could work... I did and tried, so hard, I swear but here I am again. I asked for help thinking I had a chance but no. I was wrong again, as soon as I talked about it no one cared a f*** . Now I am hurted and frustraded again... this video far for giving me a hope for living gets me so angry...
People say that they care. Friends try and care, family tries and cares. And you know maybe for a little while they do and they want to help you. But after a certain point shen it is inconvenient for them or they get annoyed they stop caring. when you can’t explain to them that no matter what you do or how much you talk or pretend that you’re okay you feel an overwhelming amount of sadness like someone holding you underwater while you drown. You want to come up for air but you can’t. No one I’ve met has continued to care they only do it because they feel like they have to if you open up to them about your struggles
You know it’s gotten bad again when you have to watch these videos to not jump off a building right now
I hope you're doing well. Take care of yourself and keep reaching out.
You're Comment Really Hits Hard mate 💔I was watching for the same reason 😢
Take care of yousrlf bruddah in quarantin e if your feeling that way during the pandemic stay stafe
Same bro, people just don’t understand bro
Yeah brother.I feel you. Going through the same phase
People always say to "open up" and "reach out", but when you do, nobody pays attention.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help.
True... Dead people gets more flowers than the living one. Open up thing happens after death of a person
This is not true ! If you reach out you can always find someone who will pay attention. I might not necessarily feel like it, but you can.
They just distance themselves even more and kick you when youre down.
Sometimes but sometimes it's okay to reach out to strangers or non family members too they sometimes don't know how to react just like the people from this video . I love you all and I'm sorry to you and everyone else like us who lost someone to suicide. My dad's 2nd year anniversary will be July 9th 2024 in a few days. 😞🍺
Depression is like living in a body that fights to SURVIVE with a mind that tries to DIE...
Stop copying every quotes
@@5006valin What's you're problem?
@@koguchipower4816 I was in bad mood
and saw this same comments everywhere
I guess something is wrong with me
Sorry brother 🙏
@@koguchipower4816 Everyone's trying hard to survive
Sorry for being selfish
@@5006valin no worries, we all have our problems. ever wanna chat get shit off you're chest I'm all ears.....
The woman who coached me out of my depression and taught me how to beat it; lost her own battle with it two days ago. She was amazing.
I’m sorry, she sounds like a nice woman.
@@OH-vh6vi she was. Thank you for you condolences. Happy new year. ❤️
In sorry to hear that brother, stay strong
@@starpaladinnelaj I really appreciate that. I hope you have a wonderful year. Thank you.
She seems like a angel,to help people out is something not many choose to do.May her soul rest in peace
Its funny when I try to talk how I feel people get mad and tell me to man up.
It's called STIGMA
Reach out to those who understand, call a crisis line. Do we tell someone who's dying from cancer to man up! Mental illness is a physical problem with the brain. Manning up can't fix it. If you think manning up is a good answer, then you need to run and educate yourself on the workings of the brain!!! Saying man up to someone who reaches out for help, it's like your saying you don't care! And it could be a death sentence, given from unintentional ignorance, just repeating what your elders told you. Go find out how to help or, at the very least, quit saying man up! Become a part of the solution, please, we need everyone! Stop the stigma!!! Just let them know you care. Help them find & get to those that know how to help solve their issues.
I know what I'm fixing to say is wrong, but I'm going to say it anyways, mainly in a joking manner, because I think laughter is healing!!! So... Man up is a Pussy's answer! 😜
@@killahill88 exactly its shat on to feel suicidal, but not stigma to be upset that you did it.
Hi Craig our you doing kid thinking of you sending love from UK reach out dont suffer on own x
same for me man its like im screaming help to a brick wall ive all ready serviced 3 attempts ... i hope your still fighting
Unless you’ve been to the dark place, none of you will ever fully understand why we do it.
What’s that dark place?
@@deeprest1621 you'd know if.youve been
@@deeprest1621 I know it well
The dark place is completely personal to the individual. No one will know
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worst part is when you tell your family about what's happening with you and they just told you to not be so dramatic or even turning mad at you because they think you're ungrateful for what you have right now.
Currently going through this. My family and friends think I just need to relax but after a few attempts I’m losing
Zenith,
I understand and I care. You aren’t crazy. You’re not an obligation people “ have “ to talk to because you’re a non person burden.
You’re human and lovable.
Possibly if you get past it, write off the people who don’t care, are cold indifferent, act like you’re flawed or contagious.
You’re worth more to us and if you believe a God ..
Oh yeah, rn going through this with my own family. Event after 7 years since a living nightmare has ended for me they still can't understand what I was going through all the time at kindergarten, at school, after school...
They've always been thinking I just need to be more "positive", stay "positive" whatever happens. Even now mom's thinking I'm not doing enough.
And only after almost 5 years of therapy, 7 suicide attempts (after one of which I woked up after death), tons of meds and going through radical separation from this destructive abusive family I can have a unique chance to live normally. I appreciate this opportunity.
Currently going through this experience. Having no support but ridicule and be humiliated for being over dramatic, disappointment, and weak just fuels my desire to quit life. They make me feel as if I'm just a product to be used and not as a family.
When I told my mother, she mocked me & said I have nothing to feel bad over & if people would know the reasons for the way I feel, they'd laugh at me.
The pain is beyond belief. It never goes away. I know how they feel
Bless keep fighting the devil sending you love your not alone speak out dont suffer in silence I suffer 2 sending luck and love from UK x
Exactly it is beyond description . It never fades away ...
It does go away..I’m living proof! Trust in God!!! If God Can do it for Me he can do it for you!!! Have faith!!! Rooting for you!!!
@@QueenChastity You should go pray in hospitals where kids have cancer so God can heal them.
True that I feel like that ever day 😪
People don't seem to realize the people who took their own lives were already dead before they committed the act. Dead inside at least.
Beautiful said!
This is how I feel honestly.
ive been dead since 2013. i honestly dont know how much longer i can do this. i really dont want my family to be heartbroken though. i fell off my bike, got a concussion, and im in permanent brain fog. the worst part is it is completely invisible so no one understands.
@@doodlebob2023I’m sorry, I hope you’re doing okay 💙.
I'm 22, feel numb and empty everyday. I can't see my future anymore, I've been a burden to my family for years now. I don't wanna die but I think I'm already close to it. Everyday thinking about dying and being worthless is not worth living anymore.
I've been feeling the same way for months now. Suicidal thoughts every day. Going to see a psychiatrist in 5 days. It was so hard for me to seek help, but thats the first and most difficult step and I encourage you to do the same. My family also dont understand it, although I lost my father to suicide and my bro had a suicide attempt. Please seek help, I know how hard it is but YOU ARE WORTH LIVING! lots of love from a stranger xoxo
@@teanonkovic860 - it hurts. it hurts so bad to see that you feel this way. i just found out my friend was suicidal and i don't know what to do with myself. I've been watching videos looking at comments like these, i started taking notes, but i don't think it'll matter. i just wanna help. ever since i found out my friend has been suicidal i've been trying to help anyone who might feel this way. i don't wanna throw cliche's at you, you don't need that. i just want you to feel loved. about you and your family: to be honest, it really depends how your family is (i mean like loving and caring or abusive and negative stuff), but you are not a burden. and if anyone has ever told you that, they're either ignorant or hurting too. i want to understand, i know it's not likely that i'll grasp it all completely, but i want to help. i really, genuinely do. i know it probably doesn't help hearing this from some random lady on a youtube comments section, but i love you. put your hand over your heart. when you hear that heart beating, that is called value and worth. i want you to stay, as long as you can. you're alive, don't ever give up. there's no amount of words that can heal something like this, and i understand that. i love u.
@@lks6248 I am sorry, you are in my prayers 🕯️🙏🏻
I feel this everyday, and im only 21, i dont really see myself at age 30.
I'm same situation mate 26 and still rely on mom and dad for everything but live alone it's so embarrassing the shame, my dad hates Im gay, I outta drop off the face of the earth
These people don’t understand suicide
Nothing helps
Being open makes you an outcast
No one can help you
They know they are leaving people behind
It’s more like leaping from a burning building
I think of it daily
I’ve tried to get help
Nothing works
Yeah that is how it works. Let us just kill each other
Exactly. They dont understand. And that's ok. Dying means you're in a better place and no more pain. That's all they need to know
Are you guys still alive? Count me in
exactly! they say to open up, when open ourselves up itself is a struggle, then we end up being judged and mocked. thank you.. opening up just pushes us nearer toward the cliff
@Shirley Jackson I know.. but hold on.. We never know what tommorow brings.. I am still hoping. I am still holding on. Idk what really to say. But as someone who's going through a lot too, I am just gonna say I am here for you always. You can always come and talk to me when things go low. I support you💪💞
People will preach mental health but see the signs of depression and do nothing
Exactly. I feel bad for these people, but nobody fuckin cares until someone is gone. I fight it daily.
It's easy to say these things when you're not the one struggling with not jumping. Unless you feel suicidal, how can you help someone who is? I've been suicidal for so long and I always try to find a reason to keep pushing forward. But this weight is breaking my body and crushing my will to keep trying. In my honest, broken opinion...only the broken can help the broke.
Depressed, suicidal, mentally broken, people who suffer like this, we need each other more than we need anyone or anything else. I believe only we can get each other out of the darkness.
I agree , hurting people help the most because they understand. Check out this guy on you tube.
Marshall Wisecup
Hello are you still with us?
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William we hope that your fine do look to God in prayer and He will strengthen and comfort you 🙏
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"Nothing is that bad."
That dismissiveness shows why they don't understand. What you feel, left behind is only a fraction of what we feel trying to stay.
My mum is 79. Her dad suicided when she was 14. She has never got over it. I never knew him, that makes me sad.
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you two are doing okay.
Nancy my friend it's like a line of dominoes when one falls the whole lot falls down and time is nothing time only makes things worse I lost my daughter seven yrs ago through drink the kindest girl to walk god's earth etc less than yr half apart I lost my youngest son from drink he kept everything to himself he missed his big sis the ironic thing is we were all ways together I'm nearly 71 I don't live I just exist
@@brendadrumm9708 I am so sad for you! I am not sure where you live, I live in Australia. Not too far from me, there have been in the past 4 weeks 4 teenagers (that I know of) that have suicided.I know too many friends who ended their life. May they Rest In Peace. Thinking of you Brenda!
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Why don't you call him your grandpa
It's funny when you open up and they tell you to stop being a drama queen
Not everyone will treat your feelings as unworthy or as overreactions.
There are people who react incorrectly, but there are also people who truly care and are willing to help and understand what/how you think/feel.
You shouldn't give up on having a life worth living, you should keep seeking help, because we are here and we care.
It may seem like there are no routes, no solution, no way out, but that's an illusion...
@@Gabrilos505 yes right agree
@@nurbeauty2033 Hang in there Beauty, you have more than enough strength to overcome any obstacle in your path, you'll always be enough. Keep seeking God, he'll help renew your strengths to keep fighting, but don't give up so early! Seek a psychologist as well, they'll be more than happy and willing to help you through it all.
There's always a way, death is not the solution or the end.
"Sometimes Darkness can show you The LIght" Disturbed - The Light
@Nur Beauty I wish you the best! :D
This
2:20 See, that's exactly the problem with people who don't have depression or deal with suicidal thoughts. "Nothing's ever that bad." But to us suicidal people, it is. Whatever we are dealing with making us feel this way does feel like the only escape is death. Saying that is just so dismissive. If someone tries to confide in you saying they're feeling suicidal, for whatever reason, DO NOT say this to them. It will just push them further into it and make them feel worse.
I thought I was the only one who was turned off by that comment.
100% correct!
But we could rephrase that to "Nothings so bad that *you* can't handle it. You are stronger than you know and I can see that in you, and I know that you can do this".
Hate how he said that so much. Good call out this is not the way to help people cope.
It proves that it really IS that bad- he doesn’t quite understand.
That moment is the feeling of ground zero within yourself. I’ve attempted three times. Currently fighting a fourth.
Only thing: people shouldn't say that "they weren't thinking about who they left behind." A very common theme to the logic behind the choice to die by suicide is people thinking the world, especially the people closest to them, will be better off without them. People who are that blinded by emotional pain aren't capable of thinking logically about it. It's never a desire to die or not giving a damn about other people. It's simply a last resort effort to escape from a life that feels unlivable. It becomes the solution when there appears to be no solution.
Very true
As someone who has been living with depression and dark times, it genuinely angers me when people say to think of your loved ones or suicide is selfish. How long does someone need to suffer for the sake of others happiness, is that not selfish of them? Why put more guilt onto someone who is already in so much pain. But maybe that's just me idk
@@xsinful_angel THIS
I absolutely agree with you. Especially, when the loved ones are the only reason why I am trying to keep on going, despite of truly wanting to be dead.
@xsinful_angel I was asking my wife the other day. Why can we put down animals if they are suffering but we won't do the same for humans.
"No one travels their journey alone" We start this alone. Go through it alone. We die alone.
It's true. It's hard to swallow.
I have been in a bad place for over a year now. People are geting tired of me. They have become frustrated.
I have been driven by the police to the mental clinic, they locked me in for 24 hours because I stood at the railroad. I have been there 4 more times since.
There is no help out there. I am eating medicine. I work out almost everyday at the gym. I eat well. Sleep well. But this depression is killing me. I feel so lonely and low status. So weird and so different. I have one family member left, my dad. That's it. 4 friends. 1 of them I consider a good friend, the others are just what you call a friend but are not really.
Everyone says "reach out", "talk to someone", "tell a doctor", "talk to everyone you know". I say f off. I have tried that. I speak open about my suicide ideation, but no one understand or can help me. I don't even know what help I need. But I have tried and still trying.
I feel lonely. I want to belong somewhere. I want to feel welcome and safe. I don't want to die, I just don't want to live.
I feel you
Similar story.. the void never fade away
Wish you to find someone or something that will makes you happy to wake up every morning
I'm so sorry for your pain and suffering. I'm here to tell you there is a 100% solution and His Name is Jesus Christ❤ He can and will help your mind that lives in darkness. He will make the darkness run and fill you mind body and soul with joy and peace that you can not understand. He is waiting for you and praying to our God moves mountains. Ask Him constantly for help and imbed yourself in our Lords Soul. Keep the Bible near you and read The Lords healing Words everyday. He is your only hope and He was mine too. He healed my mental issues but I prayed like 5 times a day. I'd put my hand on my head and say Lord please help my head. Within months I noticed it was getting better and 6 months later I was free. That what Jesus does is free us. Seek Him and you will know and find Him. He loves you so much and wants you healed by His Hand🎉 Google " Fathers love Letter "
For some reason I've read your comment over and over...I feel very close to you...I'm sorry for what you are having to endure in this life. I to have been institutionalized more times than I care to count. Lost both of my older brothers to suicide . One when I was just 14..the other this past year as I turned 32. My mother attempted, but before ever succeeding a twist of irony stole the show..i mean soul. Ultimately she indirectly prompted fate to step in(on her heart)..pherhaps on behalf of her many failed escapes...Fate must've thought .."Well, What's the harm of rushing this particular individuals door of eternity, when their on the other side attempting to pry it open with a crow bar? Or a handful of pills. So let's set her heart attack and untimely death at 50. That should work right. Yep guess it did. Now all I have is my dad as well. And one friend...only two people left in this world who know who I really am...and all my personal peckidillows. My dads 72...Hes my world. I live in fear of the day I lose him. I pray that day I dont lose what's left of me.
Thanks for listening. God be with you.
Every time I need to text the hotline, I end up not texting them because I feel like I do not want to waste there time with my nonsense 😞
Your life, your problems MATTER!!! Please let them help!!! Crises lines are staffed by trained volunteers!!! They are there for you because they care & want to help. It's not someone doing a job for the money. It's people who care enough to give their time in hopes that they can make a difference. Many may have experienced the loss of a loved one to suicide. They want and need to be there for you!!! Please go ahead and reach out, you matter!!!
I texted the hotline a few days ago and it really helped out
Feeling burdensome is a common feeling among people who are hurting, You are not alone with this feeling and you are not a burden, please call the hotline, People there want to help, are trained to help and I bet a lot of them have been in your shoes. Good luck with this. Herman
@Tyler Anthony Tyler try calling social services, maybe they can help you to get help at your local hospital. Or go to an Emergency room if you can, since it's the weekend. Good like Tyler
In california if you call 211 it's 24 hour help from social svs. If you're from somewhere else maybe the people manning the phones can give you guidance
You are never a burden, you are loved and never how big or small you think your challenge is you need to feel safe enough to share it so that you can move forward
These people have some nerve to say that "its never that bad" or to say that the reason you souldnt kill yourself is because you need to think about the people that you leave behind. Fucking incredible
They are probably the same fuckers that ignored them when they tried to reach out.
They won't understand unless they go through what we are facing
"Everone needs a house to live in, but a supportive family is what builds a home."
It's always about the ones left behind. It's never about the ones that are suffering alone.
Who's more selfish?
We should respect their choice .we can never understand someone's pain ,their horrors life is only worth when it is meaningful to oneself .at the end of the road you have only yourself. Don't forget we are not omnipotent beings so we can't help someone beyond a certain limit life is lonely journey at its core everyone is just passerby like a car in a highway.
There's plenty of videos and programs directed to those who are currently suffering alone. In this particular video though, the focus is on the aftermath of suicide. Perhaps calling who commits suicide "selfish" is "bad" and "evil", but saying that those left behind with their pains are "selfish", is just as bad.
Agreed
@@Gabrilos505 yeah exactly
@@Gabrilos505 what they did to prevent it?
My dad took his life nearly 50 years ago, he left behind three kids, 16,12 and 6 and our mum dying of cancer who passed a year later.....it still hurts every day.
Feeling your pain sir , stay strong
I am so glad you made it this far
When I open up all I get is people trying to fix me. They say suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Well why won’t the problem fucking go away. I have been waiting years for it to go. It hurts more each year that passes.😭
Waiting in silence for the end of lonliness... People dont understand the mindspace
Yeeees that's how i think sometimes.I hear people saying that every problem is temporary especially in heavy/severe situations but i dont see anything(Im not blind). So why it doesn't go away despite your efforts is the non understandable thing.WHYYYYYYY?????!!!!!
In this disgusting world no wonder people choose to leave this world instead of continuing living in it.
I know, right. ketamine and cannabis and heroin and shrooms are illegal for recreational use. we get locked up in a cage just for selling those medicines.
no wonder the suicide rate is so high.
@@based_mediumchungus1788 Trill
@@A55455In47I0n what does Trill mean?
If you meant to say "Troll", well you are wrong. I am dead serious.
@@based_mediumchungus1788 True and real, TriiiLLLL
You are absolutely right
It bothers me when people say crap like nothing is so painful that suicide is the only option you don't know what a person is going through to say that
everyone says the same thing after we are gone...... you should talk about what your feeling ''''' ask for help.!!!!! it doesn't work like that. no one can grasp what we are feeling or understand at the moment we feel death is are only hope what we feel or how overwhelmed we are until we are gone. then they see only the good in us. what they have lost,,, but they still don't see us/me
Reaching out doesn't work out every time we do it but reaching out and allowing ourselves to be cared for is the first step on your journey to a clearer path. Awareness, Acknowledge, Action!
It's honestly more like "I couldn't see the signs and they should have asked for help" meanwhile they shut said person down or judge them harshly leading to that path.
Some people simply don't wish to deal with certain things so they pretend everything is fine when it isn't, and when they lose someone they love, they realize what they've done. Reaching out is very important, even when the reaction is negative. You matter, and your thoughts and emotions matter. There are people who care, and they're willing to help you, but you also need to help yourself.
They don't want to die...they want the pain to stop!!
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If it’s hard for the people who was left behind, they have no idea how hard it was for a person to end his/her life… Obviously they didn’t feel heard!
Yesterday, I lost my brother to suicide. I cannot believe it nor can anybody else, there were no signs, no indications that he was battling with suicidal thoughts. He left a letter for his wife that said after years of chronic pain, he couldn't cope anymore so he went into his garage and hung himself. We are beside ourselves with grief, questions, guilt, anger and so much more, I just wish he was here to give him a hug. He wrote, 'I hope nobody thinks less of me.' No Pete, we just love you and miss you so much.
Leaving this note to the future me who will invevitably watch this video again. Hoping for better times again.
an instance of needing it, part 1.
I hope you're doing better, lad.
Where there is life there is hope. Please don't give up. There IS a purpose for your life.🙏💓✝️🕊
My older brother took his life in the garage if I was there I would of saved the bro's life rest in peace bro
I will always remember you bro when you use to bring my lunch to primary school thankyou my brother
Love you bro
Memory of Paul Snowden 1975 - 2000
Daughter
Memory of Louisa Cooper 1997 - 2012
you broke my heart. love and peace for you, your brother and all your loved ones.
damn
@Shirley Jackson You're so rude. There's no need
@Shirley Jackson Shirley, I know you are sad, but there is no need to be so rude to somebody who has lost a loved one.
Much love to you
why does it matter to ask for help if no one helps you? i've asked to go to therapy, i said i'm not well, i said i feel anxious, anyone can see i'm not okay, why don't they give me the help i need? i can't keep going like this
I have tried talking. But I have nobody left that really shares a bond beyond something past with me. My friends all got kids now. They can't relate to my career struggles. They can't relate to my loneliness, because they are never alone. They can't relate to me feeling left behind as the only single. And things like fighting cancer in my family... Some people can't even listen to me talking about it when I try. They get up and leave. I'm not a guy who is always complaining. But when people ask, they never follow through and listen. The thing that drives me insane is that people started complaining I'm not talking anymore. Yes. Because the attempts broke me beyond repair.
A suicidal person wont tell you because if they are serious about it then would have already done it. I know from experience that people to talk to are hard to find. In my opinion, the 'help' is just having cliches thrown in your face.
sad af, but true
I don‘t think that it fixes to everyone. I was and am suicidal for a long time now but it comes and goes in waves. I have really dark days and days that a kind of okay and sometimes I‘m brave enough at a good day to open up to someone what’s going on in my head und reach out for help for the next possible bad day. That doesn’t mean I‘m not serious about it
I think the best help is for someone to actually reach out and ask if you're ok and care about the answer. Not enough people are like that though and personally I have no friends that have ever asked how I'm doing
That's a myth which can be found on websites. My best friend killed himself 6 weeks later after telling me how he felt (he did receive support)
Some people do ask for help but it's not heard
Suicide is always talked about from the family's/friend's perspective. It's really sad that the person who opted out is not able to talk about how relieved they are.
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I remember feeling this dark and hopeless. You start to think that somehow the people who love you they might be better off without you. That they would understand. This rational is not real. You feel this dark reach out. Teach your children how to be open and honest with their feelings. Normalize asking for help. Talk to them. Ask them if they love themselves. Be there.
It is presumptive the the person who chose to self transition is happy. In almost all circumstances no one knows what someone is thinking on this level, regardless of intimacy level.
I’ve only opened up to my two close friends rather than my family. My friends only know how I truly feel.
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Hey, saying hi to tell you to say hi if it helps.
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Lost my mom to suicide. Suffer major depression now :( Its heartbreaking. God bless us all.
Stay with us man better days are here to come she would have wanted you to continue to live your life she was just hurting so much that she didn't see any other way out you'll realise that time goes by fast and we're only here once for an unknown amount of time and then its onto the afterlife you will be with her eventually but right now is not the time fate will decide that for you just go about things one day at a time and treat yourself and do those things you enjoy and eat that favorite food all of the little things will help some i promise and if you'd ever like to talk my E.mail is ryandavison56@gmail.com
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I'm with you.
i don't want to die, but i just can't live in this pain any more. Im getting so close...
Please, never give up. There is help. Where there is help there is hope!
Same here
@@stevo6891 a year passed and I’m so much better ! Please hang in there ! It will be ok !
"Nothings that bad" he's ignorant. I was suicidal. The pain and fear I lived in was beyond description.
Life can really be that bad for a lot of people but never bad enough when we fully analyze the situation to take your life! There is always a way forward, no one ever says it will be easy but together we will get through this!
@@lovemeloveyoufoundation5875 you too are ignorant and don't understand the effect of panic attacks and severe anxiety disorders and physical pain some people live in that is so bad and there's no help for them.
As someone whose tried to take their own life- there was nothing my family could have done different. They tried to talk to me and I just lied and said I was tired! Had I not survived it I wouldn’t be able to let them know there was absolutely nothing they could have done different. Over a year later and I still can’t think of what they could have done differently. I cannot put into words what that level of depression does to your mind, regardless of whose in your life or how good it is!!! The hopelessness and sadness has a pull like I’ve NEVER seen, there are no accurate words! You have to be at that point yourself to even begin to understand- and I pray to God every person reading this doesn’t and won’t understand from that position.
Don’t your DARE blame yourself Tanners dad. You are a great person and we’re and incredible father. Tanner made a decision and no one could change it. Love you buddy and be nice to yourself
Suicide is never a blame game although we keep taking that on as we always think we could have done more. Belly you are a champion of life
This hurts so deeply... no matter how I've reached out no one is listening, no one is there for me. They keep saying it's my problem, I'm creating it all the problems. They don't want me here, and it's taken me too long to realize that. I don't want to be here anymore, all I am is a ball of problems and struggles, and it's entirely up to me to get through this. I don't think I'm strong to get through it. I'm so sorry
Celeste, I hope u r still here. I know how depression can rob a person of any desire to live. And I know how sad feeling worthless is. If u want to talk, I'm here, I will listen.
I’m actually jealous of people who managed to escape this cruel game. I’m not normal 🙈
What the fk is normal?
Pray to Jesus, my brother. ♥️🌹
As someone whose lost 2 older brothers to suicide this hurts my ❤️. My heart goes out to all of you . I know your pain and I'm sorry you've had to experience this 🥺😭😢💔
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being a guy depressed is not easy. fighting it alone because your scared what others would think.. feeling sad, lonely and worthless , its unbearable you would wish you've never existed...
Hello Ande. Please, talk to someone, don't fight alone and don't care about others. Your life is more important than all that stuff. You are unique 💙
@@girl81spain EASY SAID THAN DONE. Still important and we all are going through this one day with out any excape , not Just the cursed or Mentally ill or Suffering from abuse.
I recommend watching this video ❤️🕊ruclips.net/video/fIEJCGylrkQ/видео.html
Hi Ande feel terrible for what your going through. Hopefully better cause your message was 3 yrs ago. I just wanted to tell you about a precious being that healed my messed up mind and His Name is Jesus Christ ❤ He can and will heal you and replace your sadness and emptiness with overflowing joy and peace and love. Run to Him. He loves you so so much. Ask Him to reveal Himself and He will 🎉
To be absolutely honest, these people that are left behind, telling others to "get help", to "talk about it"...let me tell you from experience; many, many people ultimately resort to suicide because they HAVE tried to get help, but the help didn't help. They HAVE tried to talk about it, but nobody cared enough to help, everybody wanted to just live their own lives. So in the end you are left with utter loneliness, yourself and your thoughts. It is an unbearable place. I'm not saying that none of these people who took their lives didn't get help or didn't talk about it, I'm saying, it is absolutely, 100% possible that they DID, but it FAILED them. Try not to look at why the person took their lives and what these people should've done instead. Try to look at why these people that are left behind, why did they not reach out or cared just a little bit more, just helped a little more, when they could've.
Exactly! Ive been depressed since 8 years old and now Im 31, and everyday Im battling the same reason, I tried to tell to my family about what I feel most of the time about my life,but its like they didnt hear me. Now I feel Im close enough to end my life. But I dont blame anyone. Its just me my choice.
Hope your still with us bud. If you ever need someone to talk to I think I speak for everyone here when I say that we got you.
Keep trying man, as painful and hard as it is, I'm sorry to say that it doesn't just magically get better.. I've been waiting 6 months now of feeling like this, with no change. So I started micro-dosing LSD and psilocybin (not together, just whatever I can find, however psilocybin mushrooms have become a proven method for treating depression, after just one dose. LSD still good too tho) and since then I've realized that we all have the ability to change our life at any given moment. It's all about your mindset. And as much as I hate to say this, because I KNOW what it's like being depressed and feeling utterly helpless to change it, when all you do is feel pain.. but we have to CHOOSE to not live like that, make changes. Start doing more for others.
Even though it is a CHORE to get out of bed and go to work, and on my days off I don't even leave home, but when I DO go out in public I started looking for opportunities to do nice things for people, and noticed how good it makes you feel. There's something healing about being a positive influence for others. And then bring that good energy back home with you. Because I noticed on days that I don't even leave the house, those are my worst days. I sit and bask in a house full of negative energy and feel like I could just die and nobody would even notice or care. Even though, I know that's not true. So go out, think of something nice you can go out of your way to do for somebody. Maybe just try it once, or twice and see how it feels.
All this to say, don't give up. If you're reading this I pray you find strength, and use it to pick yourself up. I know everyones situation is diff on why they're depressed or suicidal, but since for me I just feel like I'm wasting my life, living a life without meaning, nobody to love nobody to talk to even friends, and the friends that I have I don't even wanna get up and go see because all I wanna do is sleep. For me, if I just force myself to make a few changes I know it would change everything, and I'm finally just now starting to take action. And noticed an increase in attitude and happiness in just 3 days. I pray it be as easy for you reading this, and I hope that this helps.
Well I've said enough I'll wrap this up, just please don't give up. At the very least, live another day so you CAN get better. And to one day pick others up who can't help themselves. If there's one reason to keep living, it's so we can help those around us who are struggling as well. If we'd all pitch in and help each other to lighten the load, imagine the difference that would make, through the entire world.
Stay strong, have faith, be brave.
We love you ❤️
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Thank you for reading 🙂
Yes yes yes! Exactly 💯
I hope you have been coping OK by the way
@@shannonclaro934 hope you guys are doing alright.. just wanted to let you guys know you're all loved by somebody. And if you're not, you can still live on to love those around you, and give the WORLD the love you never received... In doing this, your pain will come full circle and you can close that neverending cycle of pain with an everlasting loop of love 🙂
I know it's hard. I know from experience. It's so hard to pick yourself up when the hole that you're in just gets deeper and darker and colder. I know what it's like.... But if you have no one to love you, you have no other choice, unfortunately... you have to love yourself. It's up to you, to change your mindset. To pick yourself up, or at least TRY making changes. Making conscious decisions to live a different life.
For me, I've been unable to do this for the last 10 years feeling depressed. Suicidal the last 6 months. And psychedelics were the only thing that was able to change my point of view, change my mindset, and clear up all those negative thoughts and energy.
Just a thought. Please research first tho psychedelics may not be for everyone! But everyone should try them at least once even if it's just microdosing. Just my opinion. And no, I'm not a Dr. So take that and do what you will with it. But mushrooms and LSD are the reason I'm still here today.
I'll leave you all with this. You're not alone no matter how alone you may feel. If you need someone to listen, I'm here for all of you. I mean it. Please keep living, and spread love whenever possible. Things will change before you know it. Please just stay strong. And let us know how you're doing!
Thanks 🙂
then when someone tries to help them in that lonely state, it doesn't work. early discovery is key. I would listen. but he wont tell me.
It's easy to say "talk about it" or "there is help out there" but when you are in the loneliest deepest most hurt mindset nothing can pull you through. I'm going through the worst seperation with my wife, we have 3 kids, twice already I have attempted to take my own life because I want the pain to stop. Not even the images and thoughts of my 3 kids could pull me from the depth of my despair. You can call me selfish or whatever but when that mindset takes hold it is a very dark, scary and lonely place to be and all you want to do is die no matter what. I fight to survive everyday but I know I'm loosing the battle internally and that this seperation will be my downfall
I don’t know how to help with this issue, I am 44 years old and because my parents were severely traumatized at the time of my conception due to a death I have been almost depressed since birth.
Dysthymia and severe depression, but suicide was never an option for me, because for whatever reason this option doesn’t exist in my case.
What can I say, I try to see the positive in everything and the positive is that without this pain I would never have been able to gather the insights I have now.
This pain has been described and continues to be described for millennia, but always in different words, with a different method, but with the same goal. Trying to explain, trying to change it.
Anyway, my path only led to this realization a few days ago and I hope it’s worth something.
I copy the text I left on Jordan B. Peterson’s channel, or I’d better copy the link to it right away.
There are only a few commentary there, so you’ll find it fast.
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However, the pain was described with the scourging and crucifixion, only for the resurrection one must not commit suicide, but must continue until the heart breaks.
I think the pain must be, if you want to reach the new consciousness demanded by Einstein, it also leads to the realization of J. G. Jung that the individual is the life carrier who carries the whole existing life, each individual for himself and that is hard.
Either way, hold on.
I think everything would not be so bad if we all lived like noah and allowed maximum diversity in the smallest possible space, instead of maximum simplicity in the largest possible space.
The planet dies because of our behavior and we die with it.
I'm so sorry for your hurt. I hope your still alive. Please you need Jesus to heal you. I was so messed up and I prayed many times a day for healing and within 6 months my mind was ok. Jesus will give you peace, joy, and strength that you need. Imbed yourself into the Soul of our Precious God❤ He loves you and is waiting for you with open arms and give your life to Jesus and your darkness will run from you and you will be filled with light instead🎉
I really, really hope you're okay, Hollowpoint. ❤
I'm crying as I watch this! I lost my beautiful grandson on Nov 26, 2023, to suicide! Please, if you have thoughts of suicide,seek help immediately! We sought help and were turned away! 2 weeks later, he died! Unbearable pain and sadness!
I feel so alone. My fiance committed suicide on May the 29th and it's literally killing me. I just want to hold him one more time, I feel like I can feel his energy at times and that's when the hardest painful moments are. I have to keep going and fighting for my children. Life is so painful but I can still see all the Beauty of the ultimate gift LIFE I still haven't explored. I love you Jay.💔❤💔
I'm sorry for you pain. I lost my sister to suicide on May 15th. I've never felt sorrow like this in my life. I hope you will be ok. Please stay around for you children because they need you right now.
And here I am, wanting a partner.
Someone I know killed herself 2 days ago. She was 24. The hardest thing is knowing she was in so much pain that she thought this the best option. I wish she knew what a beautiful person she was....
I really needed this right now. Thank you. I survived an attempt in 2012, and lately I’ve seen the signs of it slowly creeping back in. Stay strong friends. I’m gonna use every bit of strength I have to keep fighting.
Keep fighting love you man
thank you. sending you so, so much love.
Please try praying to Jesus. He will hear you. 🙏♥️
Saying hi....💛
Run to Jesus before taking your own life. In Jesus lives happiness, joy, fullness, peace, healing for you. Dive into the Soul of our God. Prayer will heal your broken mind. Jesus Christ is The Answer to all of our problems in No matter how horrific it is. He loves and adores all of you and is waiting for you all to come to Him and be with Him forever
I had to watch this as lately I have been thinking a lot of ending everything. The only thing stopping me is hurting my family. Thanks for this video.
Same here can’t handle the pain
Feeling the pain. It hurts.
i pray God can help you. it does hurt so bad. not like having something physical. so silently painful and difficult to carry on in normal life and genuinely be overly nice to everyone because you have a pure heart and are treated even worse because of it. i hope it helps to know you are not alone.
Tamara Long thank you. 🙏🏾
Yea...it really does
I hope things have gotten better for you Mari, I know you're capable of doing great things in this life and you'll be okay!
As we draw closer to the end at the last days of the church. As Satan is about to set up his kingdom. It's very important to ask yourself that if you die today are you 100% SURE that you're going to heaven. The bible says that we can either go to heaven or hell and it says we have to be sure that we are saved. If you're not sure you're going to heaven when you die. First you have to understand that God is a holy perfect God and he won't allow a single sin into heaven. That's why he needs to judge your sin and bring you to HELL. That's how serious your sin is and you must repent. Now Jesus is God who loved you so much that he came here and died for your sins so you can get saved! All you have to do is put your trust on what he did on that cross. It's that simple my friend! Doing good deeds won't save you. Water baptism won't save you. Only Jesus Christ because he paid all the sins for you. God bless you. ruclips.net/video/OnsKT6ra3qs/видео.html
No medication can make you feel loved. I've never been so heart broken than I am now and nobody wants to listen.
Do you wish to share?
how the hell should I open up to my family when I made hints for years that I'm not okay and I need help and all they do is change topics or say your problems are minuscule because you are young
Oh no this is soo sad please look to God in prayer s and you will be comforted 🙏
I just saw your comment. I'm praying you were able to open up and get your parents to help you!!!
As a parent who lost her 15.5 year old daughter to suicide, I beg you to please be direct & brutally honest with your parents. Even though my daughter & I had been seeking all the help available for almost a year, I didn't catch her hints that day!!! I failed my precious child when she needed my help the most!!!
You & your problems are just as real & important as their "grown up" ones.
Please reach out to a crisis center, by phone, text or online. They can help you & your parents.
As a survivor, my parents really weren't hurt, just angry. So years later, after the Navy, I tried again. I'm here to tell you that there are not always signs. It is not always easy to reach out, especially when you have no siblings and hard hearted parents. What you can do is spread awareness, be kind, even to strangers, and if you are one contemplating, please do call the hotline. Not all of us are survivors.
I just want them to know it’ll be okay and hopefully I will be a happier in a better place. This place isn’t for me
Nina? Still here?
When are we going to realise that we all play a role in suicide prevention. Reach out works both ways. I'm doing a project about this topic, and if I see one more guilt trip disguised as awareness, I might throw up. Suicide is rarely a fast thing. Most people do think about their families and loved ones, which is why they've stuck around for so long. The shame around having thoughts like that is so overwhelming. Nobody wants to hurt the people they care for in this way, and it's gross that so much of prevention awareness content plays off of that sense of shame and guilt instead of offering support and education.
Yes. You nail it
My friends think I am strong enough to fight my sucidial thoughts bcoz I appear as a strong headed person but let do they know I tried to die . They just don't take my sucidial thoughts seriously
How are you today? I hope this message finds you well. ❤
It is not that something is that bad. It is that there is a total lack of anything good enough.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help
Often, it's _both..._
Maybe if we treated suicidality the same way we treated the flu...bringing them chicken soup in bed, calling to check in, get well soon cards and messages, days off, extra love.
Great idea! I am going to put in practice 🧡
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"Reach out" easier said than done. People only care when its already over. When its already too late.
I lost my Mum to Suicide in November 2018 Life has not been the same since to be honest,
miss you heaps Mum. ❤🙏🙏
Ive told the people i love im hurting, im in pain. I need to end it. They didnt care. So i AM ending my life. Im tired. I want to sleep. Got no friends no support. No family connects. My dad just tells me to shut up. My mom.. Emotionless. People around me just have words. Stupid text. No action. I dont want help. I want to be free of everything.
How are you doing?
My friend spoke to everyone. Knocked on the door of every service. Went to A&E, etc etc etc. she took her own life a few weeks ago because the help just wasn’t there. From anywhere. I hope other people might have a different experience. Plus some people feel suicidal for years and years. Most the time. And their friends and family don’t know what to do when they have no money and there are so few mental health services until after you’ve ‘attempted’ suicide. Only real prophylactic is to think of the never ending pain you’re passing on to all the people who love you.
Some days I severely struggle with suicidal thoughts one day I say “ok this is the day I do it” but then I fall asleep and a new day starts and I’m kinda scared the day that I actually do it
Matt, please don't.
People only care or realise after the person is gone. No one attempts to see the pain one Is going through.
People think being suicidal is a joke... I tried to open up to my friends and end up making fun of me🥺🥺🥺 now I’m here trying my best to find inspiration not to do it... I think I’m losing it🥺
I'll listen.
There’s hope. ♥️🙏
I am a Catholic person.
My depression ended when I started praying the holy Rosary…(thanks be to God). Now I am in peace. Depression is the most horrible feeling.
people say this but you cant understand sometimes you cant even to your family
As we draw closer to the end at the last days of the church. As Satan is about to set up his kingdom. It's very important to ask yourself that if you die today are you 100% SURE that you're going to heaven. The bible says that we can either go to heaven or hell and it says we have to be sure that we are saved. If you're not sure you're going to heaven when you die. First you have to understand that God is a holy perfect God and he won't allow a single sin into heaven. That's why he needs to judge your sin and bring you to HELL. That's how serious your sin is and you must repent. Now Jesus is God who loved you so much that he came here and died for your sins so you can get saved! All you have to do is put your trust on what he did on that cross. It's that simple my friend! Doing good deeds won't save you. Water baptism won't save you. Only Jesus Christ because he paid all the sins for you. God bless you. ruclips.net/video/OnsKT6ra3qs/видео.html
My sister committed suicide 3 months back. All I feel is anger. Everyone is grieving and sad and here i am just really pissed at her. I can't tell anyone it sounds terrible to say.
I'm sorry you're going through a rough time, Luke. Anger is natural, and the way you deal with it is always going to be unique. Perhaps over the last 7 months your feelings have changed. Maybe not. This document by the British National Health Service helped me put some things into perspective. Sorry for your loss. www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Suicide/Documents/Help%20is%20at%20Hand.pdf
It's so hard to Stay here.. I'm trying and I'm fighting. But I'm exhausted 😢.
Hi MrsBeBe, I hope you're still fighting and in a better place in your life. I feel your exhaustion. Please just reply and let me know. ❤
I lost my dad July 10th 2022, killed himself at place we both worked at for 2 yrs together as his apprentice. I miss him alot and I wish he knew that we all love him and just wish he was here.
Well that’s me crying now, I lost my grandad to suicide last year. Knowing he was alone and didn’t feel like he could reach out to anyone was the most heartbreaking thing ever. I always looked up to him and would have done anything to help him through the pain he was going through 🥺😭
EVERYTIME I tell my family and friends that I don't feel well (reached out basically) it always turns to debate and ends in an argument! It only makes me feel worst. All these people did not take care of their ill loved ones and I guess illness won and so they bare the loss. Deal with the consequences of your ignorance. They expect people to live in endless pain so they can feel okay, that's selfish. Suicide is not selfish, we'd rather go than be reminded of the burden we seem to be to them.
These people in the comment section saying the people on the video don't understand suicide really gets me, ´cause maybe they do, they´re just not suicidal, and that's a very important difference. As someone who have lost a loved one to suicide and who has also attempted to kill myself I can really say I understand both sides. When you're suicidal you're absolutely sure that nothing will help, or that it won't get better, or even if it does get better that's just no point to it, and when you're about to try suicide other people don't even exist in your mind (and if they do, is always in a bad way like you'll make their life easier by dying). But that's all just heavy terrible unberable depression and pain lying to you.
Just one of the biggest lies you get to believe when ure rly bad is that people won't miss you, or even if they do that's something that eventually they'll get over and that's it. It's not, these people in the video are showing just about 1 minute of so much suffering, and the struggle of being drastically changed forever through so much pain, to lose someone to suicide is, I dare to say, the most painful way possible. ´Cause even if you've been suicidal, when you're not anymore you know in SO MANY WAYS that that didn't actually have to happen, that person didn't have to die. And I KNOW that for the suicidal one he needs to die and there's just no other option, and I understand, I think it's simply horrible the cruelty of mental disease, but there's it, that's a mental disease in the worst possible way. Afterall, I don't even know where I want to get with this but if there's one thing worth saying, 2day, 4 years since my loved one died and 3 years since I attempted suicide is that if you can get past today, you have everything. Actually, if you can hold on for just another 1 hour, and then other hour, and then another, that matters, because it WILL come a point where you realise it's good you didn't do it. Now I won't beg you to stay because I know this doesn't do it, I'm just being sincere. The pain of surviving to a loved one suicide never goes away, we just learn to live with it, but it will never be a normal thing, or just another thing that happened in our lives, no. It will aways be this enourmous gigantic breaking point, whre everything shifts and then it's just never the same, something will always be missing and you gotta learn to live with it or you'll try to go with them. I tried, didn't work out, and then I just didn't want to try again if it weren't work out, so I took the time to plan it better and this time, yes the time to plan a sucessful suicide, it was what I needed to convince myself to try again to do this horrible, batshit insane living thing. Well, it wasn't easy, I still struggled and I wanted to kill myself many times later but, today I can say I'm finally happy I'm here with people who loves me, but most importantly, I can finally feel their love. (and you will to if you can hold on, only for today.)
Good for you.
Sadly is not the same with everyone, people do dissmiss you...my brother insulted in my bday, someone i knew said empty platitudes, strangers online try ro sell you coaching programs or they are doing a personal project with you without saying ( no joke)..etc
this is the content i watch when i am on the edge, it doesnt really help but it lays on enough guilt that i dont do it
My friend took her life last week 😖😖💔 she was only 17 I’m am absolutely devastated
There's no more love left in the world
Yeah it is sad
Come on people all over the world
No more fighting
Too many tears
Time to heal now
WAKE UP !!!
Karma Cuzzy I’d rather not
Yeah no more bad stuff anymore!ONCE AND FOR ALL!!!!!!!😞😞
I lost my 12 yrs old cousin. The last time I chat with him was walking at the park. This hit big in our family community because no ever committed suicide especially a young kid like that.
Rip 🕊💔
Must be very rare, but when it does happen to someone that young, it often makes the news. Hard to believe someone that young is capable. Sorry for your loss.
I know someone who attempted a few days back and has been depressed for almost all their life. It's horrible. For me, I feel all that guilt building up inside me and it never goes away. Every time I think of that person I break down into tears and the demons in my head go crazy. It's scary.
Funny they say open up, talk to your loved ones about how you’re feeling but every time I am to talk to my mother as a man about how I’m feeling, how useless I feel, and unbeknownst to her that I’m on the brink of just wanting to end it all she tells me things that I have already fkn tried, or otherwise just storms away when I tell her that these things haven’t and do not work. And honestly when your own family won’t even listen to you instead resort to just storming out when you calmly rebuke or tell them that you’ve tried what they’ve suggested and that it doesn’t work it feels like they’ve just handed you the tools to want to end your own life because they just don’t want to do what they can to help you or support you in anyway and that drives people like myself and these victims further to suicide. If we can’t even talk to our own families without being judged or having these so called family storm out when we calmly rebuke their suggestions that haven’t worked for us all while they say prior to “talk to us” or we can’t even talk to friends without knowing who is and isn’t going to backstab us and use our depression or the things affecting us now to their advantage and hurt you later on then who are we supposed to talk to??
And although I look at these families and the grief they’re going through and wonder the same for myself what would happen if I left, who would remember me what impact would my demise have on those who know me I can’t help but wonder how many of these people who committed suicide went through exactly what I‘m going through and did what I and many others have done and opened up to family only to be shut down and walked away from when telling them what hasn’t worked or even been betrayed by the friends who encouraged us to open up to them only for them to take advantage of our vulnerabilities and gossip to others about our struggles
How is one meant to have hope of things getting better when the very people you depend on (even your own blood) refuse to listen or understand where you’re coming from and how low you’re feeling
I think you need to find new friends because if your "friends" are going to do that to you, then they are not worth your time. I don't know how old your are but if you can, find a therapist that is right for you. If you can't do that, then try to get out of the house as much as you can because it seems like your family is too toxic to you. If you can't do that, then try to express your feelings in a creative way, like art or writing. That is always a great coping mechanism other than suicide.
Yes you're right.
Everytime you try to talk,you end up being ignored,misunderstood or an argument happens.JUST LISTEN TO THE FULL STORY CYKAS!!!!!!!
Definitely one of the hardest things to live with, it gets me all the time. I miss you dad.
I lost my beloved dad in 2007 .. it’s broken me . God bless to all of you who are struggling x
I lost my mom little over 10 months ago and it hasn’t gotten any easier. There are days my heart aches It broke me. I feel your pain
God bless you
Watching these kinds of interviews has for some reason usually made my darker thoughts worse. But this video actually made me consider holding on to life for a while more.
Emma, I hope that you are still with us. I am sorry that you feel that way. Life is a gift from GOD. I was suicidal myself and I am happy that I lived. I put my trust in JESUS and everything changed. It was many years ago. Life is still challenging but JESUS is my anchor. Live! Trust GOD and you will see. 🌺🌺🌺🍃🍃🍃
hold on, i'm holding on too, we can do it together because i need someone too, will someone hold my hand or give me a hug, no one is ever there
Jesus is waiting for you. He wants to heal your mind and take the darkness away and bring light back into your life. God has healed my mind and will do the same for you. Prayer will move mountains in your life by the Hand of Jesus. Read the Bible and your will see all that you want come to life but imbed yourself fully into Him. That's where the miracles will happen. Talk to Him daily. He is sitting next to you every second. Google " Fathers love Letter " made from Bible verses to show Gods love for you
Dear mason up in heaven
I miss you best friend he was only 17 suicide was not the way out November 22 you decided to take ur life and it’s been hard since best friend u was my everything bro I miss u mason hope to see u one day bro
Well, here we are again guys.
This video always seems to save me
Glad we have you here❤️
People don't want to know how you feel. If they are asking it is usually just a curtesy. If you tell them how you feel instead of saying great or fine they look at you like you just pissed down their leg.
That's not true. I care. I try to help.
I take it back. It is true for the most part, you're right. But, there ARE people who will listen and care. They're just hard to find.
It’s not just the depression, it’s the crippling anxiety that stops you in your tracks making you unable to function and breathe. Your mind thinks about ending everything cause you can’t function like a normal human being anyway and you keep standing in everyone’s way. I wonder what’s the most painless efficient way to do it.
Please don’t go… how are you feeling now?
It helped me when I started seeing myself as a person. Not as me,but rather as a person. I still get bad days, but they arent as bad as they used to be. People might not care for you the way you want, but they care for you in the way they know how. That is also a lesson I had to learn.... life is suffering. But life is also love. Key is to find the balance between the two..... you need to make peace with the worst version of yourself and have respect for it. But not give into it. If you put effort in it, you are already better than your worst version. Effort over time eventually adds up.... I have had good living conditions and some decent friendships, so my suicidal thoughts were never due to me not being able to handle life's unfairness, but rather always feeling horribly unworthy. These lessons helped me with my perticular problem... maybe someone with different reasons for suicidal thoughts would like to share their experience. I would love to hear it!
My reason is living in this sick society. Sure there are good people but sadly most are greedy and utter ignorant. Like i am but at least i am aware and try to change. But most people, even if they have a good heart, are greedy and egoistical. I do not want to play the game of capitalism where everybody competes for every little shit. It distracts us from very important topics. I have so much hate build inside of me.
@@LoveIXTC yeaaa brah
I lost my childhood best friend to suicide last week.
To anyone contemplating on ending their life, please don’t. There is someone out there that cares so much about you and you have no idea how much pain that person will have to go through and hold on to for the rest of their life without you.
Then why do they care once we're gone?
When I try to talk about it people get so upset and want me to swear to them that I'll never hurt myself, so in the end I have to assure them that I'll be fine even though I don't believe it. I know they care about me, but it doesn't help. I wish they could listen and try to support me. Just be calm
I get that. Im here to listen
I completely understand why anyone would do it and i dont blame them and at the end the pain that it causes others will never be felt by them
My “friends” asked me how someone could talk so much about suicide and never do it.
it's hard to talk about my feelings when I start feeling this way without the fear of being put In a mental Institution.
I think it's hard talking about suicide when I know it's because I don't want people to stop me from doing it. We would only tell someone if we knew we wanted them to stop us. At least if any of us go to a mental institution, we wouldn't be locked up there for too long. We would eventually get out and if we wanted, we could still commit to ending it. The whole Mental Health system is broken.
Months ago I was watching videos like this and I thought then, getting professional help could work... I did and tried, so hard, I swear but here I am again. I asked for help thinking I had a chance but no. I was wrong again, as soon as I talked about it no one cared a f*** . Now I am hurted and frustraded again... this video far for giving me a hope for living gets me so angry...
People say that they care. Friends try and care, family tries and cares. And you know maybe for a little while they do and they want to help you. But after a certain point shen it is inconvenient for them or they get annoyed they stop caring. when you can’t explain to them that no matter what you do or how much you talk or pretend that you’re okay you feel an overwhelming amount of sadness like someone holding you underwater while you drown. You want to come up for air but you can’t. No one I’ve met has continued to care they only do it because they feel like they have to if you open up to them about your struggles
I lost my mom to sucide. My heart goes out to you all. I love you all
I would hug you, too. I am sorry 🙏🏻
Sorry but I can almost guarantee that your mom believed she was doing you a favor.
@@ross_ulbright7779 correct.... Its always this way
@@ross_ulbright7779 Yes, that's the saddest part of all.