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I think this is kinda obvious but I’ll drop it here just in case. Some people want to experiment with their gender expression/identity. That could mean experimenting with different pronouns, names, labels, clothing, etc. the best thing you can do as an ally is support them through this experimentation. Use their chosen pronouns or name regardless of how many times they change it. Don’t judge them for changing their gender expression. Anyway, to all the allies in the crowd, y’all are awesome
Wait omg i forgot this channel existed. I found them on my old account back when they had like 30 subs :0 im so glad to see theyve grown. Congrats for coming such a long way !! :D
Thank you so much! And I’m glad you found us again. We’ve grown quite a bit since then, not just in subscribers but now doing 150 episodes a year so you have a lot to enjoy and catch up on lol. Thank you again!
My sister came out yesterday to my family and I as a bisexual. Of course I supported her and I'm even gonna help her hang up her pride flag in her room. She thinks I'm a straight ally, but I'm a closeted asexual. With my family accepting my sister as being a part of the LGBTQ+ community, I know now that they will support me as well. Happy pride month everyone! ❤
Update: I came out to my sister, and she accepted me. Not out to my parents yet, but it's a step in the right direction. Later on, I learned I was boyishgender, and I told my sister, but this didn't go too well. She started assuming things about me and calling me things I didn't want to be called.
I feel like accidentally assuming something shouldn't be an immediate shutoff, it should be a learning experience. as long as they didn't do it on purpose and learn better, they can still be an ally
I would like to add that the BEST way to be an ALLY ( and this fits for most of these things as well).. . To ASK the person/ group whom you are supporting, how THEY WANT TO BE SUPPORTED! Otherwise the Ally is just "taking over." ( ie. In relationships, what can be discussed; in community does the individual want the Ally to speak; how to hold info without " outing" others etc.)🏳️🌈
In my experience, I've bounced between identifying as a straight ally and asexual for a while now, and I've realized it's just really cool to be supportive and proactive about progress, regardless of identity as LGBTQ+ or not. Thank you so much for the informative videos, and remember to stay safe, beautiful people!
As a demiromantic asexual myself, I too bounced around the line before deciding on what I am. This is okay to do, no matter which side you end up identifying with! 🖤🤍💜
I have one (I’m an Ally btw): Consider ways to share your pronouns while at work. I have been wearing a pronoun badge below my name tag which, I did of my own accord. I did this to help show my support for my transgender sister-in-law who has told me that it can feel alienating for her to be the only person in a room sharing their pronouns. I also did this because I’m in the healthcare field and I wanted to show our LGTBQ+ patients that I will not assume their gender or orientation. I want to make the health care experiences, a much better experience, for our LGBTQ+ patients.
Tomorrow I’m gonna tell my crush (who is a girl and I’m a girl) I like them wish me luck I’m really REALLY nervous but I hope it goes well! Edit: I couldn’t find this comment for a while but now we’re dating :D thanks everyone for the support
PBR team, this is amazing! I will send this to people in order to let them know things better in order to be a good ally. Now i don't need to explain everything! 😁
Thank you for these videos. My children are apart of the lgbtqia+ community and these videos help me support them better. I love them and will fight for their right to have love and happiness without ignorance and pedjudice. I just hope one day it happens.
#9 is a pretty bad tip in my opinion. I've had tons of people assume I'm straight and I don't hold ill-will against them and assume they're not allies.
I am such a good ally, I will transition in all possible ways, to confuse ph*bes, not to fight my crippling gender dysphoria..... And such a good feminist, I am a trans girl and use she/they pronouns I am a super cishet-ally....
I have a question and would love some advice: I have a friend who I have known for a while and who once identified as a girl, but recently they have changed their name to a gender-neutral one. I believe they may be LGBTQ but I don’t know for sure, because I’ve never been told outright. I want to ask them for their pronouns so I know how to address them correctly but I also don’t want to upset them or make them think I am taking it for granted that they are not cisgender. What do you think is the best thing to do in this situation? I’m sorry if anything in this comment is disrespectful, if it is, it was completely unintentional. Thank you so much for this video, I really want to do what’s best and be a good ally for the LGBTQ community and found these tips really helpful :) 🌈
uh hi, @@amelia1507! i know it’s been a year and you may have forgotten about this and most likely will not reply, however i would love to know how it went!
@@notsofiasworld Hi! I talked to them about it, and they said they now go by a more gender-neutral name, and they/them pronouns. They told me only people at school knew, and not to mention it to my parents (our parents are vaguely friends). Since them, they have come out to their parents as non-binary and ace, and have even got their name changed on the register! I’m very happy for them.
1. Not only have I been doing my best to stay informed for the past two weeks, I've been seeking out and joining SEVERAL LGBT groups on Facebook. This is so I can learn more about the Community and with luck, gain some new friends. 2. I'm a pretty good listener...but due to my special needs, I may need to have something be explained to me in a way I can best understand. This can either be done through visual aids, a lecture or simply offering me a piece to study on LGBTQ matters. 3. It's against my nature to lie to ANYONE; be they my friends, my family or anyone else beyond that. Thus, you will see/hear nothing but the honest truth from me. Of course, whenever I speak the truth towards certain people (like some Christian thinkers;) I'm worried that they might end up hating me or telling me I'm going to "burn in Hell for my 'evil' ways." 4. Even though I'm straight, I've tried to have calm conversations about LGBTQ rights with my parents (my mother, mostly.) But their immediate response is almost always "the Bible says it's wrong" or "it's not my place to judge anybody but I was raised to believe love is meant to be specifically between a man and a woman" or something along those lines. While I applaud my mother's statement on it's not hers or anyone else's place to judge how we should live. Something about how she was raised (religiously-speaking) slightly concerns me and I'm worried about how she might react to seeing the behavior of LGBTQ people up close (from individuals besides Ellen Degeneres.) As for my father...I'm not sure WHAT he believes in. Most of the time, he insults gays in front of me just to be "funny." But then, my mother tells me he supposedly lost a friend in his teenage years to Aides who turned out to be gay. I'm not sure if this story is 100% legit but even if it is, it's still no reason to hate gays. 5. I'm open-minded on loads of things; not just about matters regarding the LGBT but also about spiritual knowledge, art, literature and friendships. So, I'm all good there; in terms of being an ally. 6. Unfortunately for me; due to my inability to drive, I'm unable to go out and meet people in person. But thanks to social media outlets like Facebook, I'm shown my allegiance to the community by seeking out groups themed after the LGBT and offering the hand of friendship to those within them (so to speak.) Would if I could, I would certainly try to introduce my LGBT friend(s) to my family...but I often worry they might push both of us out of the house or hurt one of us due to their possible disdain towards the group. 7. When meeting LGBT people via Facebook, I either address them as Friend (insert name here) or ask "how would you prefer me to address you?" 8. At the moment, the two places I've been doing my best to stop Anti-LGBT behavior are RUclips comments and Facebook comments. I've also tried to change a little bit of my family's perspectives on the matter...but it seldom ever comes up. 9. If I heard someone use the F word amongst their friends, I'd simply ignore them and go about my business. However, if I were to see them viciously calling a member of the LGBT that term in front of me; I'd immediately rush to their defense and help them however possible. One such method is doing a sort of "playful reversal" by telling the assailant "so...you're saying this person's a bundle of sticks, you must be drunk because all I see is a human." For those unaware, Faggot was originally used to describe either a bundle of sticks or in places like the U.K., it was another term for cigarette. Either way, I'd try to make an attempt at outwitting the assailant. 10. I've never said ANY slurs or offensive jokes about the LGBT...or anyone for that matter and if I did, I do the right thing and immediately apologize. If anything; the only people I feel any biases towards (be they great or small) are politicians, Christian extremists and my own people (white folk.) For the most part, those three groups are the main reasons the LGBT have been suffering for so long and it shames me to see that it hasn't stopped yet. 11. As someone who takes pride in having a chivalrous soul, I strive to uphold one of the most important ideals of knighthood; safeguard the helpless and do no wrong. This especially applies to groups like the LGBTQ, racial minorities and "nerds" like me. 12. I'd love to attend such events but just like with MEETING LGBTQ people in person, I'm unable to do so on my own. I would need to have someone drive me to such gatherings, whenever they might happen. But part of me worries that my driver, whoever they might be, might refuse my request to go to them; especially if that driver turns out to be a family member. 13. I've openly confessed that I'm an ally to my family loads of times and while my father continues to make jokes, saying things like "you're way too liberal;" I just ignore them
I mean white people aren't really just in racially speaking the cause due to black people being pretty religious useally and east Asians useally being more strict and less accepting it's overall older generations who are against lgbtq
@@TinNguyen-rl2xr I know they aren't helpless, trust me but in some ways; they are outnumbered. The strict religious people and uneducated masses have slightly bigger numbers than the Community has. They refuse to accept that gays, bisexuals, transgenders and so on are becoming part of the new "social norm." It is for that reason that I feel concerned
So what if a supposed straight “ally” within my family said that she doesn’t “approve/agree” with my bisexuality and she isn’t even willing to do research on the LGBT+ when I told her how she could support me when she asked? I don’t trust her as much because of it.
@@skibposting Man I can’t stand performative allies! They’re even worse than the overtly LGBTphobic people, because at least the ones being more honest about their discrimination against me on top of other people aren’t being snakes about it.
this person is part of your family. if she doesn't want to do research on the LGBT+ community, it just means she's not ready for it. she doesn't want to talk about sexual orientation, and that's ok. she doesn't have to, she loves you (i just assume you both care for each other, being from the same family). whenever she feels ready for it, she'll do the researches, she'll look for information, etc... for some people, it just takes a little more time, we've got to accept that
@@caro2233 As of late my mom is seemingly accepting, but my sister is much worse about it than even my mom when I came out to her. At least my mom didn’t invalidate me with “How are you bi when you never had a gf?” and didn’t use the “Who will take care of you when your parents are gone?” bs. I can just live with one of my aunts from my dad’s side of the family because she did not invalidate or use religion against me when I came out to her. And considering recent events, as much as I still love them, I’m more motivated to move away to Cali after I get my Bachelors, driver’s license, and getting money from a job via temporarily staying in Illinois until I can afford to move to Cali (more practical than wasting money on gas and motels/hotels) so I don’t have to worry about whether I’ll get a job or not because of *one* aspect of my identity.
My parents are homophobic Christians and just don’t understand that what they are saying is wrong and I always feel like I can’t stand up to them about anything. What do I do???
@Evelyn SanMartin thanks it does help to know I’m not the only Christian lol, my friends just tell me I’m not a proper Christian but I always thought it was about loving others no matter what, like Jesus.
Even if you're already a part of the lgbtqia+ crowd, you can be an ally to others! A gay man can be an ally to a trans straight woman by learning about her struggles.
Thank you for putting together such a great video. I recently escaped a cult that indoctrinated me to be homophobic for 30+ years. Changing my viewpoint has been hard. I actually began to think there was nothing wrong with it for a couple years before leaving, but kept thinking I was just spiritually weak, sounds dumb I know but that’s what cults do. Time and again I’d find myself thinking, this doesn’t seem all that harmful, most of them just seem to want to love and be loved. And I’d imagine what if I, as a straight person, was told being gay was the only option and that feeling this way was a wicked sin. It broke my heart. But we were taught to twist our natural empathy. So constantly again and again I’d have to try to convince myself it was wrong. I’m so glad I escaped but I still have a lot of deprogramming to do. Watching videos has really helped me. I can only hope with the patience and kindness of lovely people like you I can eventually root out every last bit of bigotry inside me
So on tip 4(informing other people around you about the LGBTQ+ community), what if the person who came out to you doesn't want ANYONE else to know? Then do you still inform others around you to support the community and just not mention the fact that person A is LGBTQ+? I'm an ally btw
You can come out as an ally of the community without outing your friend as LGBTQ. Sure. Outing someone else is always wrong but saying you support LGBTQ won’t put them unless you mention them by name as a reason why you’re speaking up.
Hi Matt. Question. I have lived as a Cis male, my entire life. However when I was growing up as a child, I was always hanging out with "girls" and did "traditionally" girl things. Ie: makeup, dolls as apposed to action figures, and feminine clothing, accessories and jewelry. I have never been attracted men in a sexual or romantic way, however, I can acknowledge a good looking man, when I see them. No matter who is around. I have always been attracted to muscular women and find myself becoming more and more attracted to trans women, as long as they are feminine. I am confused and have no one to talk to. You do awesome work for the LGBTQ community, and I have the greatest respect for you. I really wish this kind of support was around 30+ years ago. Thanks for all you do.....
Well our staff is always here to chat if you’d like. No matter what age you are, it seems like everything you’re doing is perfectly healthy. I’m happy you’re able to live as you feel is right deep down inside. But we’re here to answer any specific questions if you’d like too. We’re here for the community and it’s more than just videos. Much love ❤️ and rainbows 🏳️🌈, Professor Pride
I had a garage sale and a neighbor of my inlaws stopped by.. not a friend by any means but she said a few derogatory things of her neighbors who are gay… it happened so quickly and i didnt say anything… before i knew it she left and i was like grr i got so mad at myself i should have said something… im still very upset with myself that my first thought was get angry and quiet. Not tell her what she was saying was wrong.
I'm trying to become a better ally and this video is really helpful for that so thank you Edit: what's the best/most respectful way to ask what pronouns someone is using?
I guess just ask them? But if you're asking in a crowd, maybe ask more than one person so the person you asked doesn't feel excluded Sorry if this doesn't make sense. Im tired lol
@@kittylover8599 Yeah, probably just ask any new person you meet what their pronouns are and also offer your own. It should be a pretty casual exchange I think. As casual as giving a person your name.
i am an ally to the lgbtq+ comunity and my friends who are queer. however i am living with my family who are competly agaisnt and will not support me as an ally. this is hard on me because i have to be secret about me being an ally. i want to know what to do.
Your family doesn't need to know, all that matters is that you support the lgbtq+ community. As allies we are the support, and while im not saying we need support its important to help the people facing actual discriminaiton. I would suggest trying to educate your family on lgbtq+ issues.
Thanks for the video ^^ But i want to ask something: If most people in my country is still ignorant and lgbtq-ph0bic, mostly because the society still religion and tradition based. Even come out as an ally for lgbtq+ community is still considered strange. What can i do to support the community?
Me (I'm also gay) and my best friend who's bi couldn't be more allies don't care about making light hearted gay jokes to eachother. There's a lot to factor in there. Him asking me to tone down that gay is just him being playful. Always makes me laugh as it shows I'm happily being myself and he's playfully acknowledging it. Now, this doesn't mean all jokes are good. I'm just saying there's a lot to factor in before confronting random people.
For some time now I have worked on learning what I can do to be a better Ally, I'm going to process this information, but I know it will surely help. Thank you 🙏.
I actually had to do #10 a couple of weeks ago. (Or at least attempt to) Long story short, I basically ended up having to shout "Stop saying tr*nny!" (and therefore having to say it myself, I know...) across a room to some arsehole at work. -.-; Unfortunately, I don't think there's much chance of educating this particular guy, though... :c
I'm in the same situation! LGBTQ+ support has been *decreasing* when it's supposed to be moving forward. We're literally evolving backwards. You're not alone in this, keep fighting! We're going to get there one day!
Sooooo I always thought I were straight until I had a crush on this person that I thought was male it later turned out they were non-binary what does that make me?
LGBTQI I am an ally of than I realize that the A was a part of it and I am like CRAP. this explains things and I was like I guess I am a community member after all.
1: don't just stop 2: lose hope in both republicans and the democrats 3: idk breath 4 : sleep 5 : drink water 6 : eat meat 7 : have a argument on RUclips 8 : EXIST 9 : go hunting or something 10 : don't celebrate pride month 11:reject humanity 12 : return to monkey 13 : monkey 14 : yes 15 : bottom text
@@PoweredByRainbows yes these are tips for any human being ( that can read English due to me being to lazy to Google translate this in every language )
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I think this is kinda obvious but I’ll drop it here just in case. Some people want to experiment with their gender expression/identity. That could mean experimenting with different pronouns, names, labels, clothing, etc. the best thing you can do as an ally is support them through this experimentation. Use their chosen pronouns or name regardless of how many times they change it. Don’t judge them for changing their gender expression.
Anyway, to all the allies in the crowd, y’all are awesome
Not as amazing as u are m8 ❤
my friend experimented with her gender and stuff. she found out that she was cis and straight.
Wait omg i forgot this channel existed. I found them on my old account back when they had like 30 subs :0 im so glad to see theyve grown. Congrats for coming such a long way !! :D
Thank you so much! And I’m glad you found us again. We’ve grown quite a bit since then, not just in subscribers but now doing 150 episodes a year so you have a lot to enjoy and catch up on lol. Thank you again!
My sister came out yesterday to my family and I as a bisexual. Of course I supported her and I'm even gonna help her hang up her pride flag in her room. She thinks I'm a straight ally, but I'm a closeted asexual. With my family accepting my sister as being a part of the LGBTQ+ community, I know now that they will support me as well. Happy pride month everyone! ❤
Happy pride month mate if you come out then best of luck
Thank you 👍
Update: I came out to my sister, and she accepted me. Not out to my parents yet, but it's a step in the right direction. Later on, I learned I was boyishgender, and I told my sister, but this didn't go too well. She started assuming things about me and calling me things I didn't want to be called.
I feel super honored by my friends because they legitimately don’t care about who I am
I feel like accidentally assuming something shouldn't be an immediate shutoff, it should be a learning experience. as long as they didn't do it on purpose and learn better, they can still be an ally
I would like to add that the BEST way to be an ALLY ( and this fits for most of these things as well).. .
To ASK the person/ group whom you are supporting, how THEY WANT TO BE SUPPORTED! Otherwise the Ally is just "taking over."
( ie. In relationships, what can be discussed; in community does the individual want the Ally to speak; how to hold info without " outing" others etc.)🏳️🌈
This is the only genuine channel I found for lgbtq+ community and allys
In my experience, I've bounced between identifying as a straight ally and asexual for a while now, and I've realized it's just really cool to be supportive and proactive about progress, regardless of identity as LGBTQ+ or not.
Thank you so much for the informative videos, and remember to stay safe, beautiful people!
As a demiromantic asexual myself, I too bounced around the line before deciding on what I am. This is okay to do, no matter which side you end up identifying with! 🖤🤍💜
When you realize you have figured out your sexuality and pronouns..but not your gender
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Witty refrence
@@imkingnoobuwu4326 oh lol
same...
@@tomvaqs I’m not going to name all the reasons why you are wrong
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I have one (I’m an Ally btw): Consider ways to share your pronouns while at work.
I have been wearing a pronoun badge below my name tag which, I did of my own accord. I did this to help show my support for my transgender sister-in-law who has told me that it can feel alienating for her to be the only person in a room sharing their pronouns. I also did this because I’m in the healthcare field and I wanted to show our LGTBQ+ patients that I will not assume their gender or orientation. I want to make the health care experiences, a much better experience, for our LGBTQ+ patients.
Tomorrow I’m gonna tell my crush (who is a girl and I’m a girl) I like them wish me luck I’m really REALLY nervous but I hope it goes well!
Edit: I couldn’t find this comment for a while but now we’re dating :D thanks everyone for the support
Good luck!
Good luck if you haven't done it yet!
@@aaaaaa8406 I’ve posted it- but I’ll do it on Monday and I’ll get a friend to help
Good luck to you!
Good luck!
PBR team, this is amazing! I will send this to people in order to let them know things better in order to be a good ally. Now i don't need to explain everything! 😁
Thank you for these videos. My children are apart of the lgbtqia+ community and these videos help me support them better. I love them and will fight for their right to have love and happiness without ignorance and pedjudice. I just hope one day it happens.
this day can’t get any better, it’s my birthday and there’s a PBR video!
Happy Birthday!!!! 🎉🎁🎂🎊🎈
:D have a nice b-day ♡
@@usee3 thanks!
I am so glad my best friend is an ally
#9 is a pretty bad tip in my opinion. I've had tons of people assume I'm straight and I don't hold ill-will against them and assume they're not allies.
Me, a part of LGBTQ+ community: why am I here
Because why not?
Me who has no support for the LGBTQ community: why TF was this in my recommendations
@@TinNguyen-rl2xr ok but at least respect us :>
@@ket6135 in terms of basic right to live yes but talking trans athletes and economics no
@@TinNguyen-rl2xr What do you even mean by economics?
I am such a good ally, I will transition in all possible ways, to confuse ph*bes, not to fight my crippling gender dysphoria.....
And such a good feminist, I am a trans girl and use she/they pronouns
I am a super cishet-ally....
Me being gay and not knowing why I’m watching this
You can be an ally to other people in the community. I'm not transgender, but I am a trans ally even though I am a part of the LGBTQ community
I have a question and would love some advice:
I have a friend who I have known for a while and who once identified as a girl, but recently they have changed their name to a gender-neutral one. I believe they may be LGBTQ but I don’t know for sure, because I’ve never been told outright. I want to ask them for their pronouns so I know how to address them correctly but I also don’t want to upset them or make them think I am taking it for granted that they are not cisgender. What do you think is the best thing to do in this situation?
I’m sorry if anything in this comment is disrespectful, if it is, it was completely unintentional.
Thank you so much for this video, I really want to do what’s best and be a good ally for the LGBTQ community and found these tips really helpful :) 🌈
I think you should ask them their pronouns when someone asks me I feel respected
@@phoenixc7245 Thank you for the advice, I will ask them :)
uh hi, @@amelia1507! i know it’s been a year and you may have forgotten about this and most likely will not reply, however i would love to know how it went!
@@notsofiasworld Hi! I talked to them about it, and they said they now go by a more gender-neutral name, and they/them pronouns. They told me only people at school knew, and not to mention it to my parents (our parents are vaguely friends). Since them, they have come out to their parents as non-binary and ace, and have even got their name changed on the register! I’m very happy for them.
[@@amelia1507] im so happy for them too, and im sure they are glad to have a friend who supports them! :)
Me who is Aro Ace: So why exactly am I here?
1. Not only have I been doing my best to stay informed for the past two weeks, I've been seeking out and joining SEVERAL LGBT groups on Facebook. This is so I can learn more about the Community and with luck, gain some new friends.
2. I'm a pretty good listener...but due to my special needs, I may need to have something be explained to me in a way I can best understand. This can either be done through visual aids, a lecture or simply offering me a piece to study on LGBTQ matters.
3. It's against my nature to lie to ANYONE; be they my friends, my family or anyone else beyond that. Thus, you will see/hear nothing but the honest truth from me. Of course, whenever I speak the truth towards certain people (like some Christian thinkers;) I'm worried that they might end up hating me or telling me I'm going to "burn in Hell for my 'evil' ways."
4. Even though I'm straight, I've tried to have calm conversations about LGBTQ rights with my parents (my mother, mostly.) But their immediate response is almost always "the Bible says it's wrong" or "it's not my place to judge anybody but I was raised to believe love is meant to be specifically between a man and a woman" or something along those lines.
While I applaud my mother's statement on it's not hers or anyone else's place to judge how we should live. Something about how she was raised (religiously-speaking) slightly concerns me and I'm worried about how she might react to seeing the behavior of LGBTQ people up close (from individuals besides Ellen Degeneres.) As for my father...I'm not sure WHAT he believes in.
Most of the time, he insults gays in front of me just to be "funny." But then, my mother tells me he supposedly lost a friend in his teenage years to Aides who turned out to be gay. I'm not sure if this story is 100% legit but even if it is, it's still no reason to hate gays.
5. I'm open-minded on loads of things; not just about matters regarding the LGBT but also about spiritual knowledge, art, literature and friendships. So, I'm all good there; in terms of being an ally.
6. Unfortunately for me; due to my inability to drive, I'm unable to go out and meet people in person. But thanks to social media outlets like Facebook, I'm shown my allegiance to the community by seeking out groups themed after the LGBT and offering the hand of friendship to those within them (so to speak.)
Would if I could, I would certainly try to introduce my LGBT friend(s) to my family...but I often worry they might push both of us out of the house or hurt one of us due to their possible disdain towards the group.
7. When meeting LGBT people via Facebook, I either address them as Friend (insert name here) or ask "how would you prefer me to address you?"
8. At the moment, the two places I've been doing my best to stop Anti-LGBT behavior are RUclips comments and Facebook comments. I've also tried to change a little bit of my family's perspectives on the matter...but it seldom ever comes up.
9. If I heard someone use the F word amongst their friends, I'd simply ignore them and go about my business. However, if I were to see them viciously calling a member of the LGBT that term in front of me; I'd immediately rush to their defense and help them however possible.
One such method is doing a sort of "playful reversal" by telling the assailant "so...you're saying this person's a bundle of sticks, you must be drunk because all I see is a human." For those unaware, Faggot was originally used to describe either a bundle of sticks or in places like the U.K., it was another term for cigarette.
Either way, I'd try to make an attempt at outwitting the assailant.
10. I've never said ANY slurs or offensive jokes about the LGBT...or anyone for that matter and if I did, I do the right thing and immediately apologize. If anything; the only people I feel any biases towards (be they great or small) are politicians, Christian extremists and my own people (white folk.) For the most part, those three groups are the main reasons the LGBT have been suffering for so long and it shames me to see that it hasn't stopped yet.
11. As someone who takes pride in having a chivalrous soul, I strive to uphold one of the most important ideals of knighthood; safeguard the helpless and do no wrong. This especially applies to groups like the LGBTQ, racial minorities and "nerds" like me.
12. I'd love to attend such events but just like with MEETING LGBTQ people in person, I'm unable to do so on my own. I would need to have someone drive me to such gatherings, whenever they might happen. But part of me worries that my driver, whoever they might be, might refuse my request to go to them; especially if that driver turns out to be a family member.
13. I've openly confessed that I'm an ally to my family loads of times and while my father continues to make jokes, saying things like "you're way too liberal;" I just ignore them
you spent too much time writing that to be ignored.
I mean white people aren't really just in racially speaking the cause due to black people being pretty religious useally and east Asians useally being more strict and less accepting it's overall older generations who are against lgbtq
Also I never heard someone call someone a bundle of sticks
Racial minorities and lgbtqs are not helpless helpless we have particularly the same rights if not sometimes more then the norm
@@TinNguyen-rl2xr I know they aren't helpless, trust me but in some ways; they are outnumbered.
The strict religious people and uneducated masses have slightly bigger numbers than the Community has. They refuse to accept that gays, bisexuals, transgenders and so on are becoming part of the new "social norm."
It is for that reason that I feel concerned
Me who’s literally apart of the community: interesting
So what if a supposed straight “ally” within my family said that she doesn’t “approve/agree” with my bisexuality and she isn’t even willing to do research on the LGBT+ when I told her how she could support me when she asked? I don’t trust her as much because of it.
She’s probably not an ally then bud.
@@skibposting Man I can’t stand performative allies! They’re even worse than the overtly LGBTphobic people, because at least the ones being more honest about their discrimination against me on top of other people aren’t being snakes about it.
this person is part of your family. if she doesn't want to do research on the LGBT+ community, it just means she's not ready for it.
she doesn't want to talk about sexual orientation, and that's ok. she doesn't have to, she loves you (i just assume you both care for each other, being from the same family).
whenever she feels ready for it, she'll do the researches, she'll look for information, etc...
for some people, it just takes a little more time, we've got to accept that
@@caro2233 As of late my mom is seemingly accepting, but my sister is much worse about it than even my mom when I came out to her. At least my mom didn’t invalidate me with “How are you bi when you never had a gf?” and didn’t use the “Who will take care of you when your parents are gone?” bs.
I can just live with one of my aunts from my dad’s side of the family because she did not invalidate or use religion against me when I came out to her.
And considering recent events, as much as I still love them, I’m more motivated to move away to Cali after I get my Bachelors, driver’s license, and getting money from a job via temporarily staying in Illinois until I can afford to move to Cali (more practical than wasting money on gas and motels/hotels) so I don’t have to worry about whether I’ll get a job or not because of *one* aspect of my identity.
My parents are homophobic Christians and just don’t understand that what they are saying is wrong and I always feel like I can’t stand up to them about anything. What do I do???
Accept there opinions nobody's already correct listen to your parents point of view
@Evelyn SanMartin thanks it does help to know I’m not the only Christian lol, my friends just tell me I’m not a proper Christian but I always thought it was about loving others no matter what, like Jesus.
@Evelyn SanMartin aww thanks so much!!! You are a great person and don’t know how much you have helped me x
Even if you're already a part of the lgbtqia+ crowd, you can be an ally to others! A gay man can be an ally to a trans straight woman by learning about her struggles.
Thank you for sharing this video. I will now know how to become a better Ally. For my friends and family.
Thank you for putting together such a great video. I recently escaped a cult that indoctrinated me to be homophobic for 30+ years. Changing my viewpoint has been hard. I actually began to think there was nothing wrong with it for a couple years before leaving, but kept thinking I was just spiritually weak, sounds dumb I know but that’s what cults do. Time and again I’d find myself thinking, this doesn’t seem all that harmful, most of them just seem to want to love and be loved. And I’d imagine what if I, as a straight person, was told being gay was the only option and that feeling this way was a wicked sin. It broke my heart. But we were taught to twist our natural empathy. So constantly again and again I’d have to try to convince myself it was wrong.
I’m so glad I escaped but I still have a lot of deprogramming to do. Watching videos has really helped me. I can only hope with the patience and kindness of lovely people like you I can eventually root out every last bit of bigotry inside me
So on tip 4(informing other people around you about the LGBTQ+ community), what if the person who came out to you doesn't want ANYONE else to know? Then do you still inform others around you to support the community and just not mention the fact that person A is LGBTQ+?
I'm an ally btw
You can come out as an ally of the community without outing your friend as LGBTQ. Sure. Outing someone else is always wrong but saying you support LGBTQ won’t put them unless you mention them by name as a reason why you’re speaking up.
Yeah.... I started out wanting to be an ally for my son, and... well, whaddya know! Turns out I'm a lil bit 💙💜💗 💜🤍🖤💅🏽
Hi Matt.
Question.
I have lived as a Cis male, my entire life.
However when I was growing up as a child, I was always hanging out with "girls" and did "traditionally" girl things.
Ie: makeup, dolls as apposed to action figures, and feminine clothing, accessories and jewelry.
I have never been attracted men in a sexual or romantic way, however, I can acknowledge a good looking man, when I see them. No matter who is around.
I have always been attracted to muscular women and find myself becoming more and more attracted to trans women, as long as they are feminine.
I am confused and have no one to talk to.
You do awesome work for the LGBTQ community, and I have the greatest respect for you.
I really wish this kind of support was around 30+ years ago.
Thanks for all you do.....
Well our staff is always here to chat if you’d like. No matter what age you are, it seems like everything you’re doing is perfectly healthy. I’m happy you’re able to live as you feel is right deep down inside. But we’re here to answer any specific questions if you’d like too. We’re here for the community and it’s more than just videos. Much love ❤️ and rainbows 🏳️🌈, Professor Pride
you can be a friend or supportative of lgbtq.
I had a garage sale and a neighbor of my inlaws stopped by.. not a friend by any means but she said a few derogatory things of her neighbors who are gay… it happened so quickly and i didnt say anything… before i knew it she left and i was like grr i got so mad at myself i should have said something… im still very upset with myself that my first thought was get angry and quiet. Not tell her what she was saying was wrong.
I was gonna come out with my friend
She just told me she was strait
Im dead
I'm trying to become a better ally and this video is really helpful for that so thank you
Edit: what's the best/most respectful way to ask what pronouns someone is using?
I guess just ask them? But if you're asking in a crowd, maybe ask more than one person so the person you asked doesn't feel excluded
Sorry if this doesn't make sense. Im tired lol
@@kittylover8599 Yeah, probably just ask any new person you meet what their pronouns are and also offer your own. It should be a pretty casual exchange I think. As casual as giving a person your name.
i am an ally to the lgbtq+ comunity and my friends who are queer. however i am living with my family who are competly agaisnt and will not support me as an ally. this is hard on me because i have to be secret about me being an ally. i want to know what to do.
Your family doesn't need to know, all that matters is that you support the lgbtq+ community. As allies we are the support, and while im not saying we need support its important to help the people facing actual discriminaiton. I would suggest trying to educate your family on lgbtq+ issues.
You are so amazing!!! Thank you for this!!
Thanks for the video ^^
But i want to ask something: If most people in my country is still ignorant and lgbtq-ph0bic, mostly because the society still religion and tradition based. Even come out as an ally for lgbtq+ community is still considered strange. What can i do to support the community?
Me (I'm also gay) and my best friend who's bi couldn't be more allies don't care about making light hearted gay jokes to eachother. There's a lot to factor in there. Him asking me to tone down that gay is just him being playful. Always makes me laugh as it shows I'm happily being myself and he's playfully acknowledging it. Now, this doesn't mean all jokes are good. I'm just saying there's a lot to factor in before confronting random people.
For some time now I have worked on learning what I can do to be a better Ally, I'm going to process this information, but I know it will surely help. Thank you 🙏.
Brilliant advice Matt, I agreed with every one with them!
I can't decide...Am I just a really hard-core ally or pan??
in the same boat dude.
I was a former ally before realizing I'm pan. It takes a while to figure out but either way, I support you. Give it time.
dam people sure questioning if there either human or something used for cooking
@@TinNguyen-rl2xr Tbh, I wanna open a cafe or restaurant one day because I like cooking. Lol 💖💛💙🍳
@@CitrusCardboard I can obviously see that by your multiple teas
Thank you I didn’t know much about being an lgbtq Ally but now this video has made me better as an ally thank you
I'm not cis or het but I will be writing down everything to tell my friends who I am newly out to :)
I actually had to do #10 a couple of weeks ago. (Or at least attempt to) Long story short, I basically ended up having to shout "Stop saying tr*nny!" (and therefore having to say it myself, I know...) across a room to some arsehole at work. -.-;
Unfortunately, I don't think there's much chance of educating this particular guy, though... :c
I’m just soo exhausted acting straight and being from a country that doesn’t accept lgbtq+ people doesn’t help🥺
I'm in the same situation! LGBTQ+ support has been *decreasing* when it's supposed to be moving forward. We're literally evolving backwards. You're not alone in this, keep fighting! We're going to get there one day!
@@aaaaaa8406 Thank you this means alot!
Is it me or north Korea is sounding better every day
@@TinNguyen-rl2xr North Korea is depression still
@@ket6135 but slightly less
Sooooo I always thought I were straight until I had a crush on this person that I thought was male it later turned out they were non-binary what does that make me?
If you're still crushing on them despite them being non-binary, I'd guess you would be bisexual or heterosexual biromantic!
@Bored human Yes
This channel is lit 🔥
Me and my friend have decided to make stickers with LGBTQ+ flags and we'll be putting them all over our city in the next june
Thanks man resently my frend came out as trans to me i want to support her and this video is greatly appreciated
I truly believe that before you have an opinion on something you need to educate yourself on the topic first
How do you feel about queer people using slurs? I regularly refer to myself as a “tranny” to my other queer friends.
So my parents think im bi which they dont accept but really im pansexual and a demi girl but idk what to do
LGBTQI I am an ally of than I realize that the A was a part of it and I am like CRAP. this explains things and I was like I guess I am a community member after all.
Some people are allies till they figure out their letter which is okay. Or at least I think
Lmao the a in lgbtqia+ doesn't mean ally. It means asexual/aromantic
@@phoenixc7245 I am aspec and arospectrm so that's my point
@@Rebellious_Pastry oh nice me too but I'm only acespec
How do I make my home a safe space for folks in the LGBTIQ+ community?
Thanks bro
The best tip: be like my sister!
Good friend will be nice to you and just kind a great friend will make jokes about you in front of you and you all have a good time
Thanks, one of my best friends are trans (i think)
Maybe I'm missing a long-time running joke but why do you pronounce LGBTQ like that?
I think he's just saying it quickly to save time, usually we just spell it out like we would any other acronym
1: don't just stop
2: lose hope in both republicans and the democrats
3: idk breath
4 : sleep
5 : drink water
6 : eat meat
7 : have a argument on RUclips
8 : EXIST
9 : go hunting or something
10 : don't celebrate pride month
11:reject humanity
12 : return to monkey
13 : monkey
14 : yes
15 : bottom text
What? Are these genuine tips you want to add? I’m confused sorry
@@PoweredByRainbows yes these are tips for any human being ( that can read English due to me being to lazy to Google translate this in every language )
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@@mapletooth SPORTS