Developing Your Self-Worth - Therapist Explains!
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- Опубликовано: 4 май 2022
- Psychotherapist Georgia Dow explains how you can develop your feelings of self-worth and how important it is for your levels of stress.
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Tip: when I'm feeling really unhappy with my physical appearance my negative voice says "you're a disgusting monster" and I've learned to counter that with a positive voice that says "no, we are unhappy with how we look but we are working on it". It changes it from "I hate myself" to "I an aspect of myself in this point in time in which I can still work on changing". It really helps to still make changes but also prevents me from taking it out on myself.
I feel that because I put on alot of weight about 5 years ago. But when I feel my feelings of ugliness overwhelming me I just say something like, 'I am too heavy, it's dragging me down on several levels but I am trying to get healthier and lose weight'.
This could literally not be more well timed of a video. This is exactly what we talked about in my last therapy session. I've always struggled severely with low self worth. It would seem weird why, I have had really supportive parents, and majority of kind and supportive people in my life (at least past middle school). Yet I've always been exceptionally cruel to and hard on myself. Me and my therapist have discussed it most likely being very related to my ADHD. It's a disorder that causes a lot of disappointment and failure due to its traits, and I've always held those things against myself. Despite knowing I had it from a young age, I never really got explained what it means (I taught it to myself as an adult), so I blamed all that stuff on myself the majority of my life. I mean, all I saw was that I was struggling with things that people around me found easy, what other conclusions would I come to than the fact that I'm simply worth less? Not as good as everyone else.
My journey to not hold my ADHD traits/struggles against myself, and learning to love myself in general, has been a long journey. One that feels like it hasn't had much progress. I finally decided to make my last session fully dedicated to talking about my severe lack of self worth. Because I realised it's the root of most of my struggles in life, and that unless I can change it, it'll keep holding me back from being happy or satisfied with myself or anything I do. It'll keep making relationships and friendships hard, as I keep being unable to accept/believe others kindness, and avoid standing up for myself or communicate what hurts or bothers me.
I guess the only thing I'm struggling with right now, since I already was getting the same advice in this video from my therapist, and know it'll help me. Is that I just can't do it... I can't write something positive about myself, and when I try it just makes my negative thoughts spiral instead. Not to mention it's hard to consistently do something every day when you have ADHD. I'm starting to be a little worried if I'll ever manage to build up my self worth. If this is the only technique I can use. I can't be defeatist though, I need to keep trying. But if I keep being unable to do it, I don't know what else I can try.
A lot of what you've written out here is very similar to the struggles I've faced throughout my 20's as I have ADD (it was more hyperactive when I was a kid) and a learning disability. These days with me being 29, I don't think much about my disabilities until they cause problems for me in different social situations. Overthinking, ruminating, negative self-talk or just stewing on my emotions for too long.... Journaling for me has been a difficult task, but out of the times I've tried it, there have been moments where it was helpful. Sometimes what helps me when getting over a period of "I can'ts" is to think less about why it's hard, and to only do it when it feels right to you and the words come naturally. Otherwise, talking about it to someone else or even just finding little hobbies that help take away those feelings of resistance can be really helpful.
im so happy to hear this !! Dont give up
Working on my self worth is something I'm trying real hard at. Especially how I talk to myself. Your videos help so much you have no idea. Thank you Georgia
You say all these things yet how do you even try when your parents keep making you go back and forth with yourself where at one point they want you to live your life I mean why should I be nice to myself all it's ever done has ended with me equal horrible events everytime I'm positive and go lucky I end up getting screwed over honestly why should I beleive on myself or anything everytime I did in the 0pp ast it ends badly for me
It has been a difficult journey for me leading up to this point where I need to convince myself that I am a capable person. There is still a lot of frustration not being able to accomplish my goals, so I am trying to remind myself that every step, regardless of how small, is a step in the right direction.
You're doing a great job, keep going, believe in the me that believes in you.
Clicked on this as soon as I saw it, because I definitely need this. After being severely bullied at age 10 and 11, it really took a toll on my psyche. After they called me ugly for so long, to this day I still don't like pictures, and I'm 25. And I *know* now that I am anything bit conventionally ugly, but I still hesitate to take pictures. I hate it.
In 2020 my dad told me I haven't believed in myself since I was 10 years old, and to hear it said so plainly really got to me (My dad has Grog's bluntness but only a 5th of his empathy, lmao).
I internalised all the negative things I was told in secondary school and they weigh me down to this day. My mom recently said it shouldn't bother me now that I know when and where it came from. Before I went to that awful school, I was confident to the point of arrogance. I thought I was the best.
But I told her it's not that easy. It's like words etched in stone, not just something that can be wiped off.
Thank you for sharing.
It helps keep things in perspective for me-even with my current therapist validating my K-8/10-12 bullying+ isolation (that was actively perpetuated by two so-called Male “Friends”) as trauma and bluntly saying I show symptoms of CPTSD from it, I still have a hard time accepting it/not being hard on myself for Delayed Adulthood from mental illness/physical disability + Familial Judgement
A LOT of the Negative Self-Talk is definitely learned from my parents (and former teachers and schoolmates.) And it is a DOOZY to unlearn as I try to heal.
But yeah. If perpetual bullying changed you after a year or two of it, and I definitely believe you that it did (digressing but: the atmosphere me and my schoolmates were in definitely fucked them up as well-even though! they could either get out of it FAR sooner than I did (I was kept in it until graduation) or they weren’t a perpetual target like I was (no matter WHAT I did. “Ignoring” does NOT work, fuck anyone who gives that “advice”)) then…why wouldn’t it also affect me.
Bullying is trauma, and it is abuse, no matter HOW long it “lasted.”
I was badly bullied when 11 years old; I self-isolated and hid from the world by immersing myself in books of fiction, I learned that friends aren’t people I can trust to be there for me. It stunted my development growth and I didn’t start dating until I was 28 years old. Now I’m 34 years old and I’m grieving that I allowed depression and isolation take so much from my life. I feel like I don’t have enough time to heal, to be with wants me/ loves me/ accepts me (just as I do him)…. Because every time I try, they are not interested, which brings my self worth even lower when I’m trying to connect with people and romantic interests
Be realistic on your strengths and weaknesses. Compliment yourself. know when you've done good things for others. understand self accountability. show humility when you've done wrong. your self esteem can be unlocked over time with your own validation. Remember don't worry what others think about you. focus on being better person than you were yesterday. don't ever compare to others. compare to your former self.
very nice overview thank you =)
Low self worth has been a struggle my whole life. It's lead to more frequent and intense durations of anxiety and depression. It's a core belief that takes time and energy to change. Your video is really well stated. After multiple years of REBT, I'm starting to realize I'm worthy of life, love, and the pursuit of my own happiness. Thank you for the video.
I hope you keep on remembering your value =) welcome
I found my self worth truly about a year ago, when I decided I wanted to pursue my interests directly as a profession. I am fortunate enough to do this, I am now studying to be a game designer and I love it. I've had a love for games for years and I decided to pursue not a related career I assume to be profitable out of some sense of obligation to make lots of safe money, but to directly pursue making them myself. And I am now the happiest, most fulfilled I have ever been in my whole life. I have come to finally love myself.
I believe action, meaningful action, hopeful action that you truly believe in your heart will lead to a brighter future of creating things you feel proud of, that you can feel a personal sense of ownership over, is the way to develop true self-worth. This sadly is not within everyone's grasp, our world isn't fair like that. Some people may only be able to pursue their interests as a hobby, and I'm sad that we live in such a world, but until we can see the world allow those at the bottom to do what makes them happy rather what they need to survive (my deep respect towards those trying to make that world a reality), we need to make the best out of the hand we're dealt. Not best as in making more money than others, best in so that you spend as many days as POSSIBLE in your finite life doing what makes you feel fulfilled, whatever that means for you.
I'm training to become a writer and I have to fight every day against my negative emotions and self-worth. I think this video can be a stepping stone in my journey. Thank you for making content to help the people around you.
i wish you the best in becoming a writer
Georgia! You gunna be so proud of meeee! I started doing a list-journal-type-thing, every day I write down all the things I've done that day and what I ate and how much soda I drank. I've gone from answering the question of what I've done lately from 'I slept a lot' to 'I done all these things!' and it's making me feel more accomplished and better about myself and it's like I have proof that I'm not so lazy as I keep telling myself I am, I am doing things during the day :D I also mustered enough courage to get a different living assistant that helps reinforce those feelings :3 I still have doubts, but I feel like I can battle them a little easier. Though the last few days I've struggled with keeping the journal up, but I'm going to power through that too, I'm determined! Georgia is the bestest Georgia!
I am SO PROUD of YOU !!!! this is wonderful. You did it YAY and I am so excited that this may inspire others to do the same thing. You made my day !!! thanks so much this is what I hope to do for others. Thank you SO MUCH
I try to clean my house, which makes me feel accomplished and feels like a fresh start
The thing I struggle with is coming up with a good thing I've done each day.
Man, this is something I've struggled with since I was like 8 years old. I used to run and hide in the closet to cry and break myself down after my mother would yell at me. I would stay there until my siblings found me and calmed me down. I've been working on this for about a year now. I think I'll try the Journaling. Thank you!
I uses to have really low self esteem and had really cruel self talk. It took years to get to where I am. Now I encourage myself and am a lot more compassionate. Journaling helped a lot
That is wonderful and I hope it inspires others to know they can also
@@GeorgiaDow Thank you. And I hope so too:)
I'm Actually Thrilled when THIS Georgia returns. For reasons completely unknown I'm the one person on Earth who has Zero interest in Cartoon Characters or Super Heroes so when You return to Matters of the Mind as you have here,, you have No Larger Fan than Me. 💜 All the Best to You M'Lady. Rich.
Aww thanks Rich for the constant support =)
This is what I need. This is how I need it to be explained. Nobody's ever really explained this to me this way. Thanks!
Great video always love your approach with how you tackle these subjects I'm curious though if you're gonna take a look at the characters of the owl house as there are a lot of characters in that show with a lot of deep issues and seeing a professional examination on these characters would quite interesting.
Writing accomplishments down definitely helps! Highly reccomend!
yay keep at it
I just wanted to say that you are really helpful!!! Tks a lot 🌺🌺🌺
You are so welcome!
I appreciate your tips and thoughts on this critically important topic. Blessings on your day.
Love your vids
You have great energy
I really needed to hear this, thank you. I used to have more confidence and a more stable sense of self, but childhood traumx caught up with me and completely shattered my view of myself and my capabilities. Now I feel like I'm rebuilding that healthier relationship I used to have with myself. It's really hard, because I can tell how different my behavior and thought patterns are now, but it can be hard to come up with ways to challenge or alter or even cope with them. I appreciate this lil' tip, though, and will definitely be trying it out!
very informative, ty.
You released this the day I needed it, thank you.
wonderful I hope it helps
thank you so much
Thanks for this video, it's really helpful I have always had issues involving this topic.
I'm so glad!
I'm on the journey of developing a more positive inner voice and being less hard and critical on myself. I think this is a very helpful video.Thank you, Georgia. I might be starting a acknowledgment diary, to write down my self-compliments in.
love how you explain things♡
thanks so much Jessica < 3
Hi Georgia! Great video! This video spoke to me. Not believing in myself has led me to hold myself back and fear failure (I think that might be why I tend to give up easily with puzzles). It's also contributed to imposter syndrome and doubts that I've felt with my creative writing - as well as fears of not doing good enough. Self-compliments (especially specific compliments) are going to be tough, but will definitely help me. I also want to write down one thing good that I've done each day. I've spoken with someone recently who notes several good things that happen each day. I can do the same with my day :).
You're absolutely spot on that it's so easy to depend on external validation/affirmation. It definitely is more sustainable and long-lasting with intrinsic worth. It's important to me because I have a negative voice. I'm way more positive to others than myself. But, paying attention to them has helped. I definitely will do that more. You're right - we're not being realistic and are often being cruel to ourselves when we are so hard on ourselves. I love this video and it has gotten me thinking. I'll keep working on this. You make awesome videos, Georgia!
PS. Is your cosplay from the Legends of Vox Machina? :) I started watching the show after I saw that you began making reactions to it. I hope to finish it soon! Excited to see your reactions and learn more! :) Keep up the great work. Take care. :D :) :).
I just want to add, it's also good to surround and talk to people who will give you honest, constructive criticism, that'll push and encourage you to improve, etc.
that is true
Thank you for your content.
My pleasure!
Thank you for sharing your knowledge Georgia! I’m currently learning how to believe in myself and your video helps. Thanks a ton 💕
Great I hope you keep working at it
This video is incredible and quite timely. Your videos are truly inspiring and I hoped to apply this advice to help build me up a bit.
Thanks Georgia!
youre welcome thanks for being a part of my channel
All your videos are amazing keep it up!!!
thanks ; )
This is so so so great!! I was very anxious about a meeting i would have today to talk about doing a new work project. My head was so filled with thoughts like "why this person wants to hire me?", "even if it's a nice project i dont wanna do it", "i not good enough to do this, i think i'll just quit it"... And today when the meeting happened it was actually so good and chill haha. And seeing this video i actually realized that i was very professional. I knew how to talk about my work to this person, and understand how i could do this job. This kinda anti self-worth thoughts were filing my head with things that arent even true, like i couldnt do my own job haha. I can definetly see the importance of estimulating this self-worth thoughts.
These help so much
im very happy to hear that
I have a saying for days I get down on myself. It doesnt always work, but it does often enough that i try to keep using it. “I’m awesome, but there will always be someone that doesn’t believe that. Sometimes that someone is me, but that won’t last forever.”
Nicely said
Enlightening content.
Looking for affirmation from an outside source … the bane of social media these days.
Vey well said and yes
I have to admit, your voice, the way you talk, it's just so sweet and I love listening to you. Your voice can be prescribed as a cure for depression
Aww that is the kindest thing to say thank you = )
I’ve been thinking about this since TURNING RED. I watched the little moments when Mei is thinking of her friends saying supporting, loving things, using that to help her control her mood swings, and thinking “lucky kid. I don’t have that.” How do I cultivate that? I’m gonna try sticky notes. It does feel a little stupid right now, but I don’t care. I’m hoping I will see a colorful mess of things I’m glad I did, rather than feeling stuck and doing so very little.
post it notes and noticing the wonderful things you do each day and saying them to yourself. You need to practice this kindness to yourself
I find self-complements a struggle not because I don't see it as "not worth my time" - instead, I view it as dishonesty. I've been told to say "I like me; I really like me" before... when I really, genuinely don't. I'm complemented on skills I haven't practiced in years, tasks I completed a long time ago, but when I think about who I am or what I do at present, I completely blank. Why lie to myself or pump up old achievements as if they're present truths?
I'm able to keep a lot of the overt negativity at bay - notice the early warning signs, refuse to acknowledge or dwell on negative thought patterns when they arrive, diverting my mind off negativity when feeling down, etc. - but as for building myself up with positivity, I'm genuinely not proud of myself in the present and would feel ashamed about complementing myself with what feels like self-gaslighting.
I agree it has to be genuine your brain knows when you dont believe it. Start with a smaller part and work your way up. Start with something you do believe and work your way from that. Then let it grow.
I was abused as a child and didn’t have a lot of money so people looked down on me because of that. I also have a chronic pain disorder so I’m not able to do what other people my age do and it separates me from them. Realizing that I was different made me feel better about myself but I didn’t try anymore to be good at something my body isn’t made for. I’ll never be physically strong and people will judge me based on my appearance but I can be useful in different ways
Thanks for your vid. Today i will write down: "Today i watched a video in full english and undestand that". I study English by myself and i can very stricted with me about my level but i dont make any course or have any teacher to help-me studying.
YAY =)) congrats
I like this alot, I wish I would have seen it at 15 not 35 when bad habits have already formed
I've been working really hard grinding to save money and had to step back and say ok time to spend on me and actually reward myself for it, otherwise I'm going to feel more and more run down. I've really been feeling THAT more than anything. Just run down. Not depressed I mean, I'm in a fine mood. I'm just sick of my life and changing it is obviously a step by step process and I think I'm just stuck
Thanks for the tips! We are basically all Powder here with self esteem issues and you are our Vi (read somewhere you won Jujitsu championships which makes it even more fitting).
very well said
Thanks & good job. If we self validate (self esteem) why would we push when things get hard? If you are in touch with your feelings and you self validate why would you keep doing things that aren't fun? I read once that in theory a happy person wouldn't be motivated to do anything because they are already happy. Sounds reasonable. Maybe a little external validation (worth) is good (healthy).
You're the best 😺🌼
Aww thanks =)
Oh yeah I thought I was doing kinda okay with self worth thing, then I realized how I always thought that no one can hate me as much as I already hate myself. Sounds pretty contradictory, not gonna lie. But at least I am aware of it and it's not sth that can't be overcome, so it's okay I guess. Everytime I find myself judging myself too hard I just think that would I criticize someone very close to my the same way or would I excuse them and try to make them feel better? The answer is always the latter, so I think, then, why don't I do the same for myself? I should. I know, I should. However, easier said than done. But I'll get there one day.
little steps =) and closer
I've tried to practice gratitude everyday byt writing down a few things I am thankful for twice a week - it's very hard for me because my mind is stuck in a "Go-go-go" mentality but the more I do it the more self-wroth I feel :)
That is great keep at it and let us know how it goes please. I hope others follow your lead
I like to develop my self worth by loathing myself just slightly less than everyone else. I like to practice things like reminding myself I'm a terrible person first thing in the morning when I look in the mirror. I also like to put other people on pedestals so that I can fail to live up to my expectations of them until they let me down and I resent them for failing and myself for idolizing them! I gotta say, it's definitely making me less stable as I'm reaffirmed day-in and day-out that the world is indeed getting worse and I'm not helping 🙃
Great lets flip that and see how it works =) Let me know how it goes
Interesting vid, Georgia. I have a few friends it could probably help. I'll try to spread the good word, given the opportunity.
Though I don't have any issue with self-worth (I'm kinda self sufficient that way ^^), I have problems with others respecting my worth and my limits, in the context of work. I believe in doing, not tooting my own horn., and I hate confrontation, it requires too much energy. I use humor to try to explain things but deaf is the ear that don't want to hear... It's getting tiring that people count on what you do well, great even, as a matter of course, and only see what you lack, or ask you even more since you're doing so well (Encanto's Surface pressure spoke to me A LOT)... I'm most probably on the autism spectrum - some things are excruciating for me but alas very banal for the majority so they don't understand the huuuuuuuge impact they have. I worked very hard to become socially apt, I think I have done as good an adjustment as I'm capable of, but I feel I'm regressing since I'm frustrated. Covid didn't help this trend. Anyways, so many people aren't satisfied by their work environment, I dont think you've dealt with these kind of subjects before... I'd appreciate any advice if you have the time. What would you recommend?
I actually clicked on this by accident but I'm glad I did. Thank you :)
Happy you did !
Doing a happy dance! THREE Georgia videos in a row!!!!! Just hearing you speak is a balm to wounds...combined with the words you speak...which are filled with import and impact and meaning, care, consideration and love. On this topic, I have the experiences...but not the problem...of a great many people making the effort to denigrate me and attempting to eradicate my self-worth. I say I have the experience in this...but it is not a problem. Because I know they are liars. Mostly, it is insecure racist people. So I don't give their words any credibility. To me, their words have less weight than a nerf dart that has lost momentum before it reaches me...and thus falls short of its target.
=)) thank you I am happy you believe in you CL =)))
@@GeorgiaDow Well, I know I'm not the best, but I also know I''m not the worst. Just a guy who is trying to improve! I worked on a movie that Robert Redford produced, AFTER doing over 70 stage plays in university. Then I came back to Canada, and people in the industry assumed I wasn't any good because of my aboriginal blood.
My therapist is working on this with me.
I’ll have to try writing out “I’m proud of myself for [task]. It shows I am [responsible/other trait.]
Right now…okay sure I do have posivitve/supportive things I say to my friends/loved ones but f* me if I can ever recall them. Especially “when asked” or my lid’s flipped (again…)
This sounds a lot more actionable than:
-what do you say to your friends (idk?? I’m limbic!)
-you wouldn’t say this to your friends. Why are you saying this to yourself (true. Easier. Self-taught. But not always useful. Can easily turn Negative again.)
-what’s the evidence against that? (Therapist’s. But again, limbic. I can’t always /do/ this.)
-disassociating/Just Not Giving It Voice/saying it allowed to ignore it easier (not exactly The Best but often the best I can do. And often I’m so gd tired that even This is difficult and I just want to sleep. Or let the Negative-Self/Invasive thoughts off the leesh…except they don’t simply Drift In, Drift Out. IF I have thoughts vs Limbic Fatigue, they spiral.)
-“you’re an imature infantile loser and failure”/“yeah but I’m working on it/working not to be/I’m trying.” (There’s just. More evidence in favor of Negativity vs Counter it. Even tho it’s not helpful. Not something I’d Ever say to someone else. But this counter is also Difficult depending on the severity of the episode-why disassociating is so much “easier” even if it’s not exactly Great. It at least keeps me from suicide ideation…?)
Keep at it and remember to call out the bully inside yourself and see the good that is you
I was hoping for more tips in the comment as suggested but I don't seem to find much. I really struggle with this and most days I barely remember what happened for the most part.
Funny how I just learned the first part before just watching this video, I learned to self compliment just 3 days ago after battling severe depression and suicidal ideation after going through quite a bit of uncertainty and personal loss over the course of just 3 years alone.
Im happy you are working on it. Dont give up hope
@@GeorgiaDow honestly pretty hard still, 3 years ago, a woman disappeared and still no trace of her, her fate to this day is still uncertain which still eats me up inside, cause she’s the very first woman to make me feel like a person, when she knew I had a problem while I was oblivious to it cause I was in my own world and didn’t think there was anything wrong, 2nd year I lost my stepdad whom was a genuine father figure with my maternal grandfather being in close second, my biological donor was mostly absent and if he was interested in me and it was purely for selfish reasons.
3rd year has been a ringer; I accidentally killed my mother by infecting her with Covid, and just two months after a friend(with benefits) accidentally committed suicide by taking a pill and passing out in the middle of winter, and she was carrying twins whom everyone believed was mine. Me included.
I make way way way too many comparisons with everyone else, and while most of them are true, I really need to stop comparing my experiences and abilities with those of other people. It makes me feel entirely less than other people and that there might actually be something wrong with me. But I do feel like I will eventually get through it and stop caring about everyone else's world (hopefully) over time. In the meantime, I guess I just handle it and work on it.
it is hard to stop comparing its practice and to know that your journey is yours and it isn't fair to compare to another persons life experience
@@GeorgiaDow yeah for me it’s mostly a matter of being okay with missing out on a plethora of normal experiences. I will try reminding myself that it is my journey and it’s uniqueness is what makes it important, but if I’m being honest it usually just feels like I’m trying to cope when I do that.
Is there any additional advice for dealing with negative voices that are actual voices from psychosis?
Does anyone have tips on how to better handle the days where you have nothing to be proud of? Not in the sense that "nothing counts" (subjectively) but more as in, literally doing nothing (i.e. indulging in media all day for example or sleeping through most of it)?
Idk if stuff like "I ate something" (assuming it's not self-cooked here) counts as something that defines me as a person nor is anything that derives accomplishment, eating is pretty universal and doing it is just going after your basic needs.
Again though, if it's self-cooked, I would count that because something was done for it.
hey! i just watched moon knight serie and want to know more about his DID disorder, maybe you can consider to make a video about this?
I want to make a promot for nightly Journaling. This will inspire one of the questions
it is so healthy for us
*eh*, sounds like work, Imma just remain a non-believer lol
honestly though - thank you for this video Georgia, guess I will need to pick up some or all of the habits to get things going at last.
You can do it but yes hahaha it is work =P
The problem is I'm not proud of anything. I feel like all I do ends up in a failure. Sometimes self sabotage is to blame but not always
You need to be proud of the little things. The things someone who cares for you would be proud of. Start thinking would I be proud if a friend did this instead of yourself. See if that helps
i have no self-worth ,i have no self-esteem its evolved over the decades from being bullied and more so by being ignored by the opposite sex. and until I'm magically discovered by the opposite sex, and they like me for me (being able to live with my "appearance ", which they obviously don't like)...ill always be this way
Please dont bully yourself though. Know your value and appreciate you. I hope you keep working on it
💯💯💯
My inner and outer voice hate my guts we take turns beating myself down🤣🤣
Welp, fist, it seems that I need this.
Second, most of my 'accomplisments' are about competetive stuff. I was proud that I managed to throw higher belt guy in Judo... but I don't know what else there is to be proud of. It's mostly humdrum, so not much happens. That I did four hours of school stuff?
Wow that is impressive. Judo is a hard sport to throw a better person takes some skill.
@@GeorgiaDow Thanks.
Is self worth rooted in accomplishing something, anything? Is it delusional to have a high sense of self worth without a credible belief in having done something slightly above average or more. In my mind, self worth requires a self love of what makes you unique. One can get most of the way by having an odd collection of seemly unconnected interests/likes but also having a few accomplishments feel needed. Finding a thing or two to get good at may improve ones inner dialog to build a base.
I think that our western society spends so much time on unique and special that we are always having to perform for acceptance and worth. I dont think that is fair. I think we need to be proud and appreciative of the little things as we should be proud of who we are internally. people often fear that will make them a narcissist but that is untrue it will just make you more appreciative of yourself and the little things. And happier
I don't disagree with you but I do think we are simultaneously playing here. Too much unique and special can be toxic but most skill seeking is a form of self improvement. I see a ton of black pill ideology among the millennial males and younger in other youtube channels. As nothing gets more views than the battle of the sexes. I spend a couple hours a day practicing my typing and use some of that time trying to encourage males to compete and seek to self improve. Society is better when men are more equal in status then not. Men who are not able to attract a mate are being judged and do need tangible skills and accomplishment. Men in particular do need to learn to seek constant improvement and cant just accept themselves for who they are if they are in physiological pain for not meeting their biological needs to find a partner. The more men who can more closely support a family on one income the less physiological pain for status seeking females who are not meeting their biological needs to find a monogamous partner. Female vs Female competition decides which women, men will want as their wives. Male vs Male competition decides which men, women will decide are viable mates. The starting move on a more positive cycle is to encourage males to compete and to oppose inflationary policies and rent seeking friendly laws.
Are you gonna do another Moon Knight video?
perhaps we will see
The problem with every write stuff down idea: It only works for those who are largely fine and optimistic, but have a warped self-perception.
For the rest of us poor sods it just highlights how worthless we truly are.
That isn't true Bob please dont feel that way a bout yourself.
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HOW does one develop any "self-worth' and 'self-love" if one has neither? I have no discernable worth,and I hate myself--always have.I am trash. I have been made to feel like trash all my life.Even though I have never done any harm to anyone.Yet,STILL,coming from SO MANY people,it must be true.You know,the "if ten people call you an A$$-get a saddle" kind of thing.I feel no connection with people at all,and avoid them.And DON'T EVEN bring up the subject of women--They all avoid and hate me too,which is fine because I'm a loner anyway. So,what does sub-human trash like me do--pull "self-love and self-worth" outta my back pocket or something? You tell me--if you can.......
can u analyze amber heard?? lol
Probably not I am probably going to stick to fictional we will see
Writing accomplishments down definitely helps! Highly reccomend!