Officially Adopting Our Son & What the Court Process Is Like | F Word S2Ep5
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- Опубликовано: 23 май 2019
- If you missed season 1, watch here: • Queer Couple's Journey... The F Word follows the heartwarming story of one queer couple fostering a child in Oakland, CA. Nicole and Kristan head to court to become J's legal parents!
CREDITS
Directed by
Nicole Opper
Produced by
Kristan Cassady
Nicole Opper
Written by
Kristan Cassady
Laura Green
Nicole Opper
Co-Producer
Natalie Teter
Director of Photography
Mario Furloni
Tijana Petrovic
Mike Seely
Additional Camera
Alix Blair
Jen Gilomen
Lou Nakasako
Nicole Opper
Sound
Lauretta Molitor
Emile Bokaer
Additional Sound
Anton Herbert
Max Hirtenstein
Editor
Laura Green
Composer
Diana Sailer
Animation
Sam Berliner
Laura Green
Production Assistants
Eden Polich
Michelle Yau
Adoption and Foster Care Consultants
Nia Clark
Angela Tucker
Legal
Justine Jacobs
Additional Funding Provided by
Dave Thomas Foundation
Chicken & Egg Pictures
Seed & Spark Supporters
Special Thanks
Dependency Advocacy Center
First Place for Youth
Foster America
Thanks
Santa Clara University
Tim Rose
Mike Whalen
Preeti Mishra
AnnaLisa Chung
Claudia Miller
Carrie Lozano
Elizabeth Lo
Karim Ahmad
Kristina Motwani
Nels Bangerter
Rodrigo Reyes
Eugene Yi
Emily Cohen Ibañez
David Feliz Sutcliffe
Débora Souza Silva
Contessa Gayles
Jen Bradwell
Kate McLean
Rhonda Roorda
Daniel Chien
Claire Weissbluth
Katie Patterson
Samantha Cooper
Thank you to our participants:
Noel Anaya
Elisha Mitchell
Katarina Kabick
Lawrence Newsome
Sherry Lachman
Angela Tucker
Avery Klein-Cloud
Artrese Morrison, Alice Jordan, and DJ
Mike and Betty Opper
Ann Poppe and Richard Opper
The Cassady Family
Collier Meyerson
Sharon Anderson
Jaclene Camacho
David Shuster
Victoria Ruiz
Linda Jordan
Ellie DeJong
Mario Montemayor
Judge Elizabeth Lee
Melissa Kertz
Sandy DeLeon
Emilio Perdomo
Zoe Pappis
Marguerite Mackenzie
Rabbi Dev Noily
Shulamit Wise Fairman
Hiba Ahmed
Tracy Hanna & Family
Don Romesburg, David Jon Mould & Family
Sheena Haskin & Family
Additional Music
The Peacock
Writer and composer: Abdelrahman Elrayah
Additional Photos courtesy of
Kyle Glenn
Debbie Lee
Additional Footage courtesy of
Ben Fee
Footage from “Off and Running” courtesy of
Nicole Opper
Based on the Series, THE F WORD, a Co-Production of NICOLE OPPER PRODUCTIONS, LLC and INDEPENDENT TELEVISION SERVICE (ITVS), with funding provided by CORPORATION FOR PUBLIC BROADCASTING
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Congratulations! My boyfriend and I just got licensed to be foster parents in AZ. We will choose to adopt if the situation presents itself. I’m so happy for you two!
Your journey touches me so much, especially as an adopted person (now 56 yrs old). I teach in a Behavioral Health curriculum at a community college and I am having my students in our Family/Relationship Counseling course watch your entire series as part of a discussion forum. And I am BLOWN away to see Avery as the godparent, as I used to show her story for this very same course! I am weeping with joy!
These women have more love and regard for his well being than many do with their biological children. I have no doubt that he will grow to be a cherished member of the community and a wonderful man.
Damn baby you fine. Lemme buy you a drink 🥃
Tawny Still wow he is calling you baby, he obviously goes just for you look and asks you the cheapest question ”lemme buy a drink” and you are calling handsome?🤦♀️
What an exciting day for your family. Congratulations!
I didn't start crying until the naming ceremony! HA! GOT EM!
Seriously, it's like my heart is breaking and mending every few seconds because of the overarching situation that goes on around fostering and adopting, at the same time being happy for you and everyone else that successfully gets the child out of the system and into a loving home.
but the system could obviously stand to do better about keeping families together. fostering and adoption should be the last resort, and there are a lot of states that are way too quick to snatch children up out of their situation. as if the system isn't saturated with need, and not enough people wanting to take on that need.
Today is the day of celebration! Let us also a great all of the children that are in loving, happy, healthy homes!
Fukurouyoujo we went through this, took us two years to get our children back home. I do believe the system does good things however you are correct, not all cases warrant kids being removed or removed as long as they are.
My Sister adopted a baby boy from Guam. He's beautiful. My sister passed away when he was 13. He belongs to the universe and Me. I adopted him two years later. He's the most magnificent unique, well adjusted and loved, beyond measure, human being. We respect and nurture him and his community. He still sees his Father and Paternal Grandparents with no conflict. We all are so lucky! Be well my dear friends.
dea784 that’s so lovely that you adopted your sisters son I know she’s looking down at you so grateful you’re taking such good care of him 😇 your story made me smile :)
That is so beautiful. He is a very lucky young man. I wish you a life of love.
Bless your heart❤️ That's beautiful
I cried the entire video. It was so beautiful.
*Soulpancake always comes up with the best contenent about human kindness, togetherness, compassion and love*
Congratz!! We are meeting our son in a month!!
wish you guys all the best
Congratulations guys 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Congratulations!! I’m sure you will be wonderful fathers💓
Thank you everyone
Oh my gosh, I’m really excited for you guys! This series has me 😭 and i hope you have a wonderful journey as well.
Noel’s story is heartbreaking and makes me more determined than ever to adopt a kid like him.
Liz Merket I pray that you spark someone else to share that same determination to giving a deserving child a loving, supportive life. I pray blessings to you sweetie 🙏🏽 you are making the most meaningful sacrifice to a child ❤️❤️
This so beautiful 😭. This is adoption done right. You know these parents will put their heart and soul into raising the baby boy.
I'm happy for the child. I was able to adopt one of my grandson with kinship. I'm still trying to adopt my other grandson. It's a wonderful feeling.
I love this! I love how everything is handled and how much love and compassion these women have. This is just so moving and one of the most beautiful stories I have seen in a long time. Congratulations to the new family!
I was in foster care then adopted at the age of two. My mum a drug addict his made me cry in the most beautiful way. Thank you
I have cried and laughed with this beautiful family since the beginning and I just couldn't be happier for these lovely souls. This series is often the highlight of my week
Ive been watching this story, along with those brought through this couple! If there were ever a manual,on how to foster & adopt into wholesome, blended, respectful, community & family connected, and supported family, this is the one; I'm sure there are other great things examples! However, the lengths & depths this couple have gone through to help protect the integrity of this child's wellbeing is phenomenal! There truly are good people out here!
I cried the entire naming ceremony 😭❤️ You’re amazing humans.
I’m not crying, YOU’RE CRYING!
Honestly a beautiful video and very informative series. Thank you for sharing your beautiful family with us. ❤️
Congratulations. You both are such amazing people, fantastic parents and beautiful souls.
You are the most complete, soulful + humble family. Jay will be raised with so much love and compassion.
Thank you for opening my eyes to this world of adoption, the children in the system + both sides. This is so incredibly unbiased. Its seldom to see something with this much honesty.
You both are fantastic people. Continue to be you.
💕👍
I promise I didn't cry... no I did 😭😭😭💙💙💙
I bawled.
That baby is a cutie pie 😊
There speech and racial awareness is outstanding, congratulations to the couple.
You guys are so awesome, thank you for sharing your journey. My husband and I have taken our first steps to becoming licensed foster parents in NY state. This series taught me to consider using foster AND adopt when speaking of our intention instead of foster TO adopt. We want to shower children with love, hope, security, and stability and I personally can't wait. I wish you and your sweet prince J a lifetime of joy🙏🏾
To the pair of you from the bottom of my heart thank you! You are clearly doing an amazing Job with litttle Jay, He is thriving and is a happy socialble bundle of joy!
omg this is beautiful, congratulations! that judge is so nice and kind, im glad you got the opportunity to make it official.
Everything about this episode made me feel all the feels. I'm so excited for your little family to 'official'. The way you included baby J's naming ceremony was amazing and all the thought from song, music, God Parent...that was put into it too was incredible! He is one lucky boy to have you two as his parents... as well as your family and friends! I am really hoping that one day his Grandmother responds to you. When the time is right for her, I truly feel she will. Sending hugs from Chicago!❤
I can't stop crying. the whole thing was so well thought through and beautiful
I cried ! 😭 I appreciate stuff like this so much. My heart is full ❤️
Congratulations!!! The long wait was so worth it. I love you all!
Thank you for sharing such a beautiful day with us. All the best to your family
This warms my heart so much.... thank you for sharing ❤️
You guys are awesome!!! You have thought of everything! That little boy is so blessed to have you two!
I am literally bawling. I am 4 classes into becoming a foster parent. I’ve suffered with years of infertility and after dealing with the trauma of that I realize that my path all along was foster care. Obviously I hope that leads to adoption, but I am all in when it comes to unification.
I have no idea what this path looks like that I’m about to embark on, I am just reaching out for any information and stumbled upon your documentary.
At the end of the day I think we’re all the same. We just want to be loving parents, understand our fellow human and provide compassion. I truly worry about adopting a biracial child. I would never want anyone to think I was part of the problem. I always want to be part of the solution. I love how aware you were through this entire process. I also love that you admit that you don’t have the answers but you’re searching.
Thank you so much for taking the time to open yourself up to us. I wish you all the love and happiness in the world. Angie from Vegas ❤️❤️
Soooo excited for you guys!!! Love him hard, hold him close. They grow soooo fast...he is one blessed little boy
I am so happy for you all! Congrats!! This journey has most certainly touched my heart. ❤️
I'm in love with your story. My husband and I had to say goodbye to two little boys we hoped to adopt who lived with us for 1 year and a half. They are 6 and 4 now. Our hearts are broken and we are grieving to be without them. While your foster and adoption story is beautiful, there are other stories who end in pain. We are split down the middle because on the one hand we are happy they get to return to their biofam, on the other hand we have so much hope for our own family and the loss is too big. We are considering closing our home and just being child-free in the future because we couldn't take another blow. Thank you so much for bringing light on this story and I saw many points of view.
I love watching this journey♡ thank you so much for sharing
The guy at the start story is so heartbreaking. Why am I crying? I am so happy for you guys. You will make phenomenal parents. Love it.
YAY CONGRATULATIONS!!! I'm crying my face off. I'm so happy for your beautiful wonderful family. Mazel tov.
Ladies, thank you so much for give him a family. Please continue this journey for all of us. I want to continue on your this adventure of your life. 🇨🇦♥️
Honestly I just want to hug every foster child and make them feel happy even if it’s just for a moment. I am becoming a foster parent (in the process) I pray I can make a difference ... that’s all I want for these innocent children. That poor kid who didn’t get adopted... so sad... why? I would adopt in a heart beat.
this is wild! what a beautiful ceremony for your beautiful family, I had such a huge smile splattered on my face watching this episode, all the best to ya'll
This is so inspirational. The love is boundless and plenty. Wishing you the best of life - full of adventures and belly laughs!
So overwhelmed with joy, tears of happiness and emotion for you guys ! You rock girls and J seems to be a very happy chappy, all that counts, beautiful family ^^!
Thank you for including us in his naming. Mazel tov! May he live to one hundred and eighty. May he make beautiful memories and live life in good health. You are such a beautiful family, I cry at every episode. Mazel tov again.
I would love to see an episode on reunification and the joy and loss in that ,and the toll it takes on the child and both sets of parents. We foster the whole family and with this placement through joint family dinners and get togethers we have grown close...and it is such an interesting dynamic with the ups and downs of the system ....
CONGRATULATIONS!!! I'm so happy for your family- I wish nothing but happiness and health for the three of you
Omg so beautiful, Congratulations!!!
It's official! YAY!
Such a powerful journey and story. Thank you for sharing this. I hope there are lots of new families created from this.
I can from the Facebook video of you first meeting him so I'm a in happy tears right now . Congratulations ladies you are wonderful parents 💖
Thank you for doing this!. You will receive more
Noel's story breaks my heart. I would adopt him now! If he wants parents, i may only be 10 years older than him, but he deserves a family just like everyone. 😭
So, so beautiful!! And I love how supportive your families are of your relationship and the adoption.
Wow . The journey is long and an emotional roller coaster . The story of that young man is so common. The children left on their own , are the most tragic casualty of the broken system , and often their children end up in the foster care . I am sure if we adopt I will be full of joyful tears the whole time lol Congrats on your Beautiful family .
Congratulations! J's bow tie - suspenders combo made my whole WEEK! You're going to be amazing parents.
the baby is like "am gonna participate whether u want me or not"
what's that? ur gonna poo?
well me too ... " LOL..
This made me cry.
YASSSS SO HAPPY FOR YALL❤️❤️😭👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
awww!! omg my heart can't deal
Aaaaw i'm thrilled...congratulations from the UK. 💙
So.... you have me crying like a lunatic on the train. But they are tears of joy
This is such a wonderful series!!!!
Own! Congratulations to you guys!!! May God bless your family with endless joy and good fortune!
“You’re not invisible” lmao 😂 ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Very inspiring story. Thanks for sharing.
Watching this gave me every feeling imaginable.
I'm mixed race (though I pass as White). I'm Jewish (though judging by the terrible things folks say about Jews to me I again pass for White). I'm genderqueer, married to a male human and gender nonconforming - though most folks see me as a Cisgender Straight White man.
I got adopted really late.
So, this pretty much hit every button I had, hard. It was everything in my power not to just sob loudly while watching it. (Instead I sobbed very, very quietly.)
Thank you for this series.
I had hoped to adopt, but it is too late for me. I'm hitting a milestone birthday in a week and nobody would think about letting me adopt a kid.
But good on you for opening your hearts and home to this wonderful little person.
I appreciate your intentions. I especially appreciate how hard it has been for you because of who you are and how the world still works by punishing folks like you and me.
Take great care. You deserve the best.
Mazel Tov ! I'm so happy for your whole family, that child is so deeply loved !
You’ve been on such an amazing journey
I am HERE for this including a piece of his biological parents religion in the ceremony and not going to keep his history a secret and giving him a multi-diverse family, friends, and mentors who will understand him! these are the types of people we need to be adopting kids. This positivity is going to help him soar into a wonderful young person. Congratulations!
Tears from start to finish! This is a beautiful journey
Congratulations to both of you. From Mauritius. Happy mother's day
So happy for your beautiful family!!
You guys are amazing. You guys are wonderful parents.
How sweet. Loved the speech the parents gave acknowledging race.💕 I really wish there were more foster and adoptive parents. There's so many kids without permanent homes and families, and some never get to experience a stable home before they age out 😢
So happy for you guys. That was the most thoughtful baby ceremony I've ever seen. 💕💕💕 May the Lord bless your family
You guys truly amazing ❤️
Those grandparents are so cute!
crying! congrats!!
The fact that they took the time to acknowledge their privilege and vow to make sure he understands his culture a culture they don’t have any experience in, says so much about what kind of amazing parents they’re.
this is so lovely
What a beautiful
Family I'm so proud that we as gay people have the same rights now as straight couples too marry and too adopt your son is beautiful I hope you find a lifetime of love and happiness with your family 💟
This was just beautiful! He is just the cutest little boy.
What a blessed and loved little boy. 🥰
Your journey begins .....you also have a village of support. Congrats
You guys work very good. You all seem to be good videos of people....
This is gorgeous on so many levels.
💜💜💜
Wow. This was just *Beautiful*
Wonderful news! What a lucky lil fella! 😊💖
Congratulations to this beautiful family!!! Wishing everyone only the best wishes and certainly lots of LOVE!!! xo
I look forward to this show every week! Thank you so much for making it! Thank you for shining a light on transracial adoption and how white foster parents can work for racial justice.
Beautiful story!
Congratulations!!
I love this
This is so beautiful 🌹
What an inspiring film
❤️❤️❤️I gave my son up with no legal Mention of staying in his life i was young he was my 2nd son I had no one to guide me through this. They only sent 1pic of him cuz it was agreed 1per yr. plus he has severe chrones disease they promised a pic and letter 1x yr so I’d know he was happy and healthy they only kept their side of the bargain for 6months until adoption was final. He never even received the 17 pg letter I sent with family tree and health issues and my reasons I wanted adoption for him. My 1st born son graduated with his gfriend so I messaged her and him. He knew nothing his parents still say there was no letter so he chooses not to have any contact with us it’s heartbreaking. But I do stalk his social media profile pics lol. I pray 1day he’ll reach out, I don’t wanna intrude on the choice he has made. After all I’m only birth parent not his mother and I understand that
Respect
Beautiful speech
So, so lovely.
Proud of you guys.
so happy for you both.. J is such a lucky man! and you have grateful grandparents! :) happy pride month