I resonated with the “not close enough” grief thing. When my cousin passed, just a few hours after I learned, I was told not to overdo my grief cos “if you’re acting this way, how do you expect the siblings to react”. I was also expected to take care of others who were more related. No one considered that she was the closest person I had to a sibling. That was like losing my only sibling. The one person who had my back like a sibling would. I think I cried everyday for a year, in isolation of course. The actual siblings moved on faster than I did.
Thank you for talking about grief earlier in the conversation and helping me understand that my grief is valid and that it’s okay that I have not moved on. I lost my best friend a few months ago and it feels like everybody expects me to be okay by now, so I really needed to hear this ❤️
As someone in the know, I would advise y'all to listen to the full podcast episode🤭 I enjoyed this so much ❤ And for the sister, send him, his allowance next month. Next time, he will know not to use it in 2 days and on vans no less😩 no really... I can't imagine finishing my allowance (before the month ends) and going back to meet my dad, Lol. Don't worry, he figured he didn't need it for the next 28 days, so let him be😊
The grief thing is just… poof!!!! I lost a good friend back in 2022. She died in a fire accident and I didn’t know that I’d grieve that way. The fact that we never met but the 7 years relationship was held strong via social media and it still drove me mad!!!! Was just unexplainable. And really after like 3 days of crying so hard I started hearing cmon it’s fine. Move on. She has died there’s nothing you can do. Mhen she died in a fire accident and got burnt. I can’t just move on!
That girl is being financially abused. I pray she sees this and frees herself from this foolishness. Your brother is NOT your responsibility. Don’t allow your family to destroy your future.
It's crazy. My dad died at 43 and i remember so well how there was so many people in our house and we were serving them food. It makes me angry thinking about it now. We didnt even have time to properly just grieve without people telling you it's okay
I get the part of grieving. A dear friend of my mine died in Oct 2021 while playing football. It's been a bit of a struggle after almost 2 years... Crazy though
This episode really hit home for me. I lost my mom at a very tender age and every time I feel or exhibit some sort of grief towards her passing, I have people make all sorts of insensitive comments most of which are centred around me not knowing her and having no reason to mourn her.
Someone literally told me, “it’s been 8 years, you should get over it.” Right after I shared how upset I was about my dad’s death. On a date! Safe to say, I ended it and went home.
@@bolanleadisapeople really have audacity ohhh 🙄🙄. I just lost my only brother (younger), to an armed robbery attack in Lagos Nigeria (it’s funny how I’m typing this now, mhhhhhh it’s well) ; and even if I’m directly not with my immediate family, I’ve made it clear to anyone who want Ms to give me/us yeye condolence, that NO ONE WILL OR SHOULD tell us how to mourn , especially my Mum. LET US MOURN, PERIOD! We’ll definitely find out balance! Mtcheeeeww.
This episode really made me think of the years of grief i have experienced. I lost my best friend in 2011, and i was broken to the point that people around me said i was doing too much, so i dealt with it quietly, then i lost my mum in 2013(she was 38) and was a single parent of 3kids, i couldn't cope with the loss so i developed insomnia and slipped into depression (which am still dealing with), thought i was getting better then my older sister died in 2018 and my older brother also died in 2020, and now i don't think i have to strength to fight to live anymore, so i will say i am too familiar with death and loss and doubt if i will ever recover from all that has happened to me. People really don't understand the meaning of letting people deal with grief.
A woman lost her husband and months after that her husband's relatives fought her because they were not well fed during the mourning period they stayed with her. This man was not 'old' per se o.
I listened the whole episode and I’m just here to comment 🤭 I loved the segment on grief, we don’t talk about it enough. I also loved when you guys got a big vulnerable. It was lovely to listen to you guys and relate 🫶🏾 Also, Jola I’m the same; when I find a guy very attractive looking him in the eye is a struggle 🫣
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Nobody:
Jola and Fk: I don't even like talking to you
*does 5 seasons of a podcast together*
Okayyy😂❤
I resonated with the “not close enough” grief thing. When my cousin passed, just a few hours after I learned, I was told not to overdo my grief cos “if you’re acting this way, how do you expect the siblings to react”. I was also expected to take care of others who were more related.
No one considered that she was the closest person I had to a sibling. That was like losing my only sibling. The one person who had my back like a sibling would. I think I cried everyday for a year, in isolation of course. The actual siblings moved on faster than I did.
I feel you 🫂
Jola is pained o, in the know apostles ooo 😂😂😂😂
I’m loving this unsafe space segment 😂😂
“Moses you have reached your goshen” 😂😂😂 Jola please
It’s how you guys can switch from talking about grief to talking about amebo 😂
Love it
Thank you for talking about grief earlier in the conversation and helping me understand that my grief is valid and that it’s okay that I have not moved on.
I lost my best friend a few months ago and it feels like everybody expects me to be okay by now, so I really needed to hear this ❤️
“Leather is ponmo” I fell off my bed
Jolaoluwa- what is Moses you have reached your Goshen!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂
It's the " moses has finally reached his Goshen"😂😂😂
As someone in the know, I would advise y'all to listen to the full podcast episode🤭
I enjoyed this so much ❤
And for the sister, send him, his allowance next month. Next time, he will know not to use it in 2 days and on vans no less😩 no really... I can't imagine finishing my allowance (before the month ends) and going back to meet my dad, Lol. Don't worry, he figured he didn't need it for the next 28 days, so let him be😊
The grief thing is just… poof!!!!
I lost a good friend back in 2022. She died in a fire accident and I didn’t know that I’d grieve that way. The fact that we never met but the 7 years relationship was held strong via social media and it still drove me mad!!!! Was just unexplainable.
And really after like 3 days of crying so hard I started hearing cmon it’s fine. Move on. She has died there’s nothing you can do. Mhen she died in a fire accident and got burnt. I can’t just move on!
Jola's hatred for 'in the know ' is shinning through 🤣🤣🤣
Have been waiting for this video like my life depend on it
Just finished another episode and I said let me check the comments on the video only to see this upload. It’s definitely a good day😚
That girl is being financially abused. I pray she sees this and frees herself from this foolishness. Your brother is NOT your responsibility. Don’t allow your family to destroy your future.
I'm crying, the unsafe spaces this week ehn😭😂😂
It's crazy. My dad died at 43 and i remember so well how there was so many people in our house and we were serving them food. It makes me angry thinking about it now. We didnt even have time to properly just grieve without people telling you it's okay
Just more than half way through 'Someday Maybe'. Deep!
jollz please share details of the jumpsuit... i love it.
Jola said Leather is Ponmo 😂🤣
I get the part of grieving.
A dear friend of my mine died in Oct 2021 while playing football. It's been a bit of a struggle after almost 2 years...
Crazy though
"leather is kpomo" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Jola please give us a Happy Noisemaker podcast❤
This episode really hit home for me. I lost my mom at a very tender age and every time I feel or exhibit some sort of grief towards her passing, I have people make all sorts of insensitive comments most of which are centred around me not knowing her and having no reason to mourn her.
Someone literally told me, “it’s been 8 years, you should get over it.” Right after I shared how upset I was about my dad’s death. On a date! Safe to say, I ended it and went home.
@@bolanleadisapeople really have audacity ohhh 🙄🙄. I just lost my only brother (younger), to an armed robbery attack in Lagos Nigeria (it’s funny how I’m typing this now, mhhhhhh it’s well) ; and even if I’m directly not with my immediate family, I’ve made it clear to anyone who want Ms to give me/us yeye condolence, that NO ONE WILL OR SHOULD tell us how to mourn , especially my Mum. LET US MOURN, PERIOD! We’ll definitely find out balance! Mtcheeeeww.
You guys deserve more viewsss
F.K just couldn't drink that coffee 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Really enjoying this episode. So thoughtful
I’m sorry but did I just hear leather is pomo 😂😭😭😭
"the-in-the-know" 😂😂
This episode really made me think of the years of grief i have experienced. I lost my best friend in 2011, and i was broken to the point that people around me said i was doing too much, so i dealt with it quietly, then i lost my mum in 2013(she was 38) and was a single parent of 3kids, i couldn't cope with the loss so i developed insomnia and slipped into depression (which am still dealing with), thought i was getting better then my older sister died in 2018 and my older brother also died in 2020, and now i don't think i have to strength to fight to live anymore, so i will say i am too familiar with death and loss and doubt if i will ever recover from all that has happened to me. People really don't understand the meaning of letting people deal with grief.
God is your strength ❤️ Please still find reason to live,you're so strong!🥺❤️
@@amyherself thank you
I am so sorry.... sending you lots of hugsss and kissess❤❤
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Awon style icons! 🙌🏾
That unsafe space but had me laughing so hard haha
What the heck is "Moses you've reached your Goshen"?😂😂😂😂
"Finally, my peoppleeeee" Jola, you need help 😂😂😂
Jola is a menace 😂
Jola is so damn funny😩😩😩
A woman lost her husband and months after that her husband's relatives fought her because they were not well fed during the mourning period they stayed with her. This man was not 'old' per se o.
Ghosen bawo 😂😂😂😂
❤❤❤😂😂🎉🎉
😊
😂😂😂😂😂
Jola is a dedicated hater
😂😂😂something is wrong with Jola
🤍🫶🏾💕🤍🫶🏾💕🤍🫶🏾💕🤍
I listened the whole episode and I’m just here to comment 🤭
I loved the segment on grief, we don’t talk about it enough. I also loved when you guys got a big vulnerable. It was lovely to listen to you guys and relate 🫶🏾
Also, Jola I’m the same; when I find a guy very attractive looking him in the eye is a struggle 🫣