It’s hard communicating with people who have hidden agendas towards you. No matter where , when, or how you voice your opinion they will not receive what your saying regardless.
No No No Babygirl, something about your truth triggered them. Everyone gets to choose. If they don't agree with you why do they listen. You have a gift sweetheart, your gift is being a mirror... and people don't always like what they see looking back them so, they attack the mirror. You deserve to be respected. Period.
Babygirl...I'm almost 60. Brother Gary below, expressed. We are in a time, where people, especially our brothers & sisters...struggle with communication, understanding, humility, accountability. I also I agree with other, walk, speak thought, awareness. But if you feel & believe strongly...like Martin & Malcom, speak freely. You're blessed🙏🏾💜.
These are str8 FACTZ✅✅ Ppl get offended if you try to communicate the issue to them they don’t wanna hear it . They basically listening but not listening. It’s like they have their guards up and be on the fence & wanna snap and try to make you seem like you’re the problem or you’re to “aggressive “ for keeping it real & being the bigger person to speak about addressing the elephant in the room instead of being mad. Ppl be mad w/you for no reason or mad because of their actions of how they treated you, but somehow they’ll try to turn it around and tell everyone you the one that’s acting funny or weird when in reality it’s them not you. I ve experienced this too many times & ive come to the realization “IM OVER IT!!!!” It is what it is now, To much wasted energy to keep going back and forth running into a brick wall especially when ppl, (family, friends,etc) don’t wanna take accountability for ANYTHING PERIOD!!!!
Usually when this type of shit happens...it's probably because you're dealing wit a Narcissist!! I learned this the hard way...the bottom line is if a person is dismissive of your feelings for ANY reason, run far as fuck away from that person 🏃♂️💨...they DO NOT LOVE you, nor do they even know what it is...Acknowledgement is not Agreement...you don't have to AGREE with my feelings to ACKNOWLEDGE that they fucking exist!! 🤦🏽♂️ Just acknowledge them, so that we can address what needs to be addressed & move on...but acknowledgement doesn't work without ACCOUNTABILITY...and these "Cluster B" individuals are always dodging that most of all...they don't want to acknowledge what they don't want to be accountable for!! Go fuckin' figure...🤷🏽♂️ Thank You for speakin on this...🤞🏽
I found out along time ago that communication is key but now a days you can't even communicate period because everyone takes things to personal and I'm not for trying to explain myself to anyone.
But that doesn’t solve anything. You should communicate about certain things just be mindful of how it may come across. Otherwise it will eat you alive and you can develop resentment
Whenever you bring something to a person’s attention you automatically are being judgmental and criticizing , no you aren’t but that’s only because no one wants to hear when they’re out of order and that’s when you feel like you have to pacify or sensor your conversation AINT NOBODY GOT TIME FOR DAT!!!
O M G!!! Thank u, Yes yes u expressed that retarded ish completely!!! I agree 💯. I KNOW that is the truth. Yeah I do NOT 🚫 have time for the self-centered narcissistic self-absorbed person/people. Lol🙅♀️
Damn OG, My wife just explained this to me, at 1st I didn't get . But after watching this video I get it now more than ever. I appreciate you and keep doing what ur doing
It is Narcissism and controlling - period! Another blatant form of "bullying." Of course, they will not see it that way. I can guarantee you that they can say whatever they want and in the most offensive manner; even ghost you, dismiss you and ignore your feeling but it will always be YOU who's wrong!! Any relationship where you can not as an adult "agree to disagree" is FAKE!"- PERIOD. For your own mental well being --you need to monitor this....
👍 thanks for the new insight. Cause as a men when we hurt y'all on purpose or not on purpose we immediately try to fix it and expect you guys to be all right cuz we said sorry
🗣🗣🗣🗣 Very wise woman that gets it. Very few do. It becomes exhausting and you just shut down and stop talking. They get so defensive to even effectively and respectfully listen and communicate. They listen to respond instead of listen to understand. They don’t want to be called out for their bad behavior. We all are flawed and not perfect but lack of self-awareness is immature and dangerous.
Just avoid it all. Some are gonna understand because of relating to pain and conflict and some just won't. Infliction can be on both sides, but understanding is not always met.
OG NewNew you got my vote! Lady this is what I have been saying. I just stop speaking with ignorant grow folk. I love this video, and yes!!! I did subscribe. She is so 100.
Y’all need to check yourself before presenting these feelings because half the time they stem from overthinking. Feelings aren’t facts. And often misappropriated. No one is responsible for how you feel or why you chose to focus on minuscule things(idle thoughts. But it’s a time and place for everything. Don’t come with allat right after having a good ass day together
Yes … I agree with you . May I add , if you are dealing with a partner who has exhibited high emotional intelligence. Throughout various scenarios /situations good/bad , or indifferent in life…and are dealing with a partner who truly cares about me. My feelings are still my feelings and are validated 100% on that basis alone . In my experience as long as , I communicate my thoughts/feelings responsibly and respectfully. And sometimes after extra careful thought- presented with good intentions. Feelings, excitement, concerns, joys, fears, ups , downs etc. are all ok , to communicate (at least in my home). I have a good feeling that’s what she’s communicated so eloquently here in this video.. A least that’s what I’m hearing. Your thoughts?
My 👇 SOUL SISTER 🌹 I TOTALLY AGREE 👍 YOU ARE 👉 💯%👌 KEEP BEING YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE ALWAYS ON POINT 👏 GOD BLESS 🙏 👉 YOU AND YOUR FAMILY 🙌 PEACE ✌️ AND STAY WELL 😷 AMEN! 🙏 😇 👊
Yasss let me process my feelings instead I get blamed accused xyz because I want to sleep in my own bed not theirs tf god is good I needed to hear this
I totally see what you are saying. I had to watch it 2-3 more times. So to make sure I hear it very well… and I don’t allow it to sit in my brain “unused” and “idyll by”😂. Thank you for this reminder beautiful!
🙆🏽♂️ WOW, big big ups to you!! on that note. I just went through that and I'm so glad I let that person have time to himself/herself to really think about it, their response was exactly the way you said it, but I did just sit back and let them go through it. Amazing
“Not in a space to take accountability…” that’s it!!! I just let people who are mad that I attempted to express my feelings be mad. I cannot MK someone be mature.
You can express yourself anyway you want to me. I would treat you like the beautiful Queen you are. You are soo fine. I love your hair and your ascent.
@2:23 you have no plans idea how often I’ve had women come home with an attitude with me because they willingly did something they knew I wouldn’t like, so they walk in with an argument so they won’t have to “hear my mouth” about what they did.
This lil girl that thinks she is a woman men stay away from is so miserable its not even funny. Sound like she still bitter especially by her babydaddy
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It’s hard communicating with people who have hidden agendas towards you. No matter where , when, or how you voice your opinion they will not receive what your saying regardless.
Yesss.....
Facts!
🎯
We going to church now.. I remove myself since you can’t listen wow this is profound 😢
Folks don't like being held accountable for their actions.
@ 2:22 OG- "It's very immature, to be mad because somebody else is mad, at something you did, to them."
Me- 😳🙌🏽
No No No Babygirl, something about your truth triggered them. Everyone gets to choose. If they don't agree with you why do they listen. You have a gift sweetheart, your gift is being a mirror... and people don't always like what they see looking back them so, they attack the mirror. You deserve to be respected. Period.
Babygirl...I'm almost 60. Brother Gary below, expressed. We are in a time, where people, especially our brothers & sisters...struggle with communication, understanding, humility, accountability. I also I agree with other, walk, speak thought, awareness. But if you feel & believe strongly...like Martin & Malcom, speak freely. You're blessed🙏🏾💜.
There's go come a time when black men and women will listen to each other again
These are str8 FACTZ✅✅ Ppl get offended if you try to communicate the issue to them they don’t wanna hear it . They basically listening but not listening. It’s like they have their guards up and be on the fence & wanna snap and try to make you seem like you’re the problem or you’re to “aggressive “ for keeping it real & being the bigger person to speak about addressing the elephant in the room instead of being mad. Ppl be mad w/you for no reason or mad because of their actions of how they treated you, but somehow they’ll try to turn it around and tell everyone you the one that’s acting funny or weird when in reality it’s them not you. I ve experienced this too many times & ive come to the realization “IM OVER IT!!!!” It is what it is now, To much wasted energy to keep going back and forth running into a brick wall especially when ppl, (family, friends,etc) don’t wanna take accountability for ANYTHING PERIOD!!!!
Usually when this type of shit happens...it's probably because you're dealing wit a Narcissist!! I learned this the hard way...the bottom line is if a person is dismissive of your feelings for ANY reason, run far as fuck away from that person 🏃♂️💨...they DO NOT LOVE you, nor do they even know what it is...Acknowledgement is not Agreement...you don't have to AGREE with my feelings to ACKNOWLEDGE that they fucking exist!! 🤦🏽♂️ Just acknowledge them, so that we can address what needs to be addressed & move on...but acknowledgement doesn't work without ACCOUNTABILITY...and these "Cluster B" individuals are always dodging that most of all...they don't want to acknowledge what they don't want to be accountable for!! Go fuckin' figure...🤷🏽♂️ Thank You for speakin on this...🤞🏽
I found out along time ago that communication is key but now a days you can't even communicate period because everyone takes things to personal and I'm not for trying to explain myself to anyone.
I can completely relate that's why I keep my mouth shut when talking about certain things
But that doesn’t solve anything. You should communicate about certain things just be mindful of how it may come across. Otherwise it will eat you alive and you can develop resentment
@@mogetit5999 I'd rather let it eat my alive than talk to someone that will tell my business
@@JGregory757 I get that but if you can’t trust the person to keep things between y’all then it’s time to move on
@@mogetit5999 I'm single but it's hard for me to trust
@@JGregory757 I totally understand! Blessings to you!
Whenever you bring something to a person’s attention you automatically are being judgmental and criticizing , no you aren’t but that’s only because no one wants to hear when they’re out of order and that’s when you feel like you have to pacify or sensor your conversation AINT NOBODY GOT TIME FOR DAT!!!
O M G!!! Thank u, Yes yes u expressed that retarded ish completely!!! I agree 💯. I KNOW that is the truth. Yeah I do NOT 🚫 have time for the self-centered narcissistic self-absorbed person/people. Lol🙅♀️
Alot of them r so self-justifying..SMH 🙅♀️ 🤦♀️
Damn OG,
My wife just explained this to me, at 1st I didn't get . But after watching this video I get it now more than ever. I appreciate you and keep doing what ur doing
Righteous thoughts!
People will project their own guilt on you and rob you of your own voice,feelings and thoughts!
I stay clear from these types!
It is Narcissism and controlling - period! Another blatant form of "bullying." Of course, they will not see it that way. I can guarantee you that they can say whatever they want and in the most offensive manner; even ghost you, dismiss you and ignore your feeling but it will always be YOU who's wrong!! Any relationship where you can not as an adult "agree to disagree" is FAKE!"- PERIOD. For your own mental well being --you need to monitor this....
I love New Orleans women accent. New New could cuss me out,and I wouldn't even get mad. Peace from Michigun Ms.NewNew
OK
Narcissistic behavior.... red flag..👀👀👀👀👀
👍 thanks for the new insight. Cause as a men when we hurt y'all on purpose or not on purpose we immediately try to fix it and expect you guys to be all right cuz we said sorry
Very important message! Spirit to spirit i love you sister ❤😘
I love that shit cuzz..💙💙💙 appreciate you standing on that one
I PROMISE I WAS JUST SAYING THIS VERY SAME THING!!!! Thanks for addressing this issue love💯💯💯
The delivery is very important.
Yes ma'am and this is why I'm learning to move on from someone in this season
🗣🗣🗣🗣 Very wise woman that gets it. Very few do. It becomes exhausting and you just shut down and stop talking. They get so defensive to even effectively and respectfully listen and communicate. They listen to respond instead of listen to understand. They don’t want to be called out for their bad behavior. We all are flawed and not perfect but lack of self-awareness is immature and dangerous.
I finally found you ...
I wasn't getting no notification for months,
Love you .... my woman ❤️
Just avoid it all. Some are gonna understand because of relating to pain and conflict and some just won't. Infliction can be on both sides, but understanding is not always met.
🤦♀️It is so redundant & ridiculous. Unacceptable of our feelings 🙅♀️
OG NewNew you got my vote! Lady this is what I have been saying. I just stop speaking with ignorant grow folk. I love this video, and yes!!! I did subscribe. She is so 100.
I totally agree... different people feel different ways about different situations.
We miss u New New your videos get me through ❤️
Y’all need to check yourself before presenting these feelings because half the time they stem from overthinking. Feelings aren’t facts. And often misappropriated. No one is responsible for how you feel or why you chose to focus on minuscule things(idle thoughts. But it’s a time and place for everything. Don’t come with allat right after having a good ass day together
Yes … I agree with you . May I add , if you are dealing with a partner who has exhibited high emotional intelligence. Throughout various scenarios /situations good/bad , or indifferent in life…and are dealing with a partner who truly cares about me. My feelings are still my feelings and are validated 100% on that basis alone . In my experience as long as , I communicate my thoughts/feelings responsibly and respectfully. And sometimes after extra careful thought- presented with good intentions. Feelings, excitement, concerns, joys, fears, ups , downs etc. are all ok , to communicate (at least in my home). I have a good feeling that’s what she’s communicated so eloquently here in this video.. A least that’s what I’m hearing. Your thoughts?
I live you so much OG NUNU ain't noting weak about you ...good lord that accent
Whew Chile this I agree with you wholeheartedly and felt this in my spirit.
So glad u pointed this shit out Frfr💯 OG NEW NEW🥰
I just had this conversation yesterday!!!!.
I JUST LOVE YOU CHIC YOU KEEP DOING YA BIG ONE YOU ALWAYS BE ON POINT 💯💪🏾
My 👇
SOUL SISTER 🌹
I TOTALLY AGREE 👍
YOU ARE 👉 💯%👌
KEEP BEING YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE ALWAYS ON POINT 👏
GOD BLESS 🙏
👉 YOU AND YOUR FAMILY 🙌
PEACE ✌️
AND
STAY WELL 😷
AMEN! 🙏 😇 👊
Yasss let me process my feelings instead I get blamed accused xyz because I want to sleep in my own bed not theirs tf god is good I needed to hear this
2023 I had to run this bk cuz I be thinking I’m tripping at times.. but it ain’t me folks don’t believe in Accountability!!!!!
And just like that in my favorite OG NewNew style she managed to sum up what I be trying to tell people….thank you boo I appreciate this video 🙏🏽🥰
I know she’s from New Orleans. I live there too. Your makeup is so pretty 🤩
I totally see what you are saying. I had to watch it 2-3 more times. So to make sure I hear it very well… and I don’t allow it to sit in my brain “unused” and “idyll by”😂. Thank you for this reminder beautiful!
That is what I attempt to express.. Exactly!!! This is what I say. Thank u
🙆🏽♂️ WOW, big big ups to you!! on that note. I just went through that and I'm so glad I let that person have time to himself/herself to really think about it, their response was exactly the way you said it, but I did just sit back and let them go through it. Amazing
Merry Christmas 🎅 🎄 OG New New
I like the way you think an feel keep it up cuz u made a change in me... Thank you that from the top to the bottom of my heart...🌹💐🌺
“Not in a space to take accountability…” that’s it!!! I just let people who are mad that I attempted to express my feelings be mad. I cannot MK someone be mature.
I FEEEELT ALL THIS..TY💛
Girrrrrrl THIS!! I need to send this to my sister
That's mean you're doing something right.
I’m glad I clicked play… I just now understood this … I be like damn I said I’m sorry 😂
She is so beautiful 💜
Real shit. I couldn't have said it betta
Where you been? Good to see and hear your voice?🤣🌹❤️
Your makeup looks gorgeous 🌺🎁💅🏾
You know New New.Black Men and Woman don't know how to talk y each other no more.we don't care Black people say.Black Luv stand up.
Gary...yes.
Love your accent and message lady love from uk
You can express yourself anyway you want to me. I would treat you like the beautiful Queen you are. You are soo fine. I love your hair and your ascent.
I don't know about everyone else, but I truly and entirely miss your content.
💯💯💯💯
Im been waiting for u to drop sum "nunu" 😂😂😂😂 ❤da drop
Hello beautiful Sister hope your holidays are enjoyable. Keep spitting the real
All I can say is WOW. (I can't remember a word you said in this video).😘
I plucking love you!!!!
You are so right !!💕💕💯!
@2:23 you have no plans idea how often I’ve had women come home with an attitude with me because they willingly did something they knew I wouldn’t like, so they walk in with an argument so they won’t have to “hear my mouth” about what they did.
I’m going through this right now as we speak
You look great!
Hey you, do you know when ever I buy a new phone, I have to reconnect with my favorite utubers. I have re-subscribe.
Happy Holidays my sister.
I agree with you 💯 Facts
So beautiful
Society is very sensitive these days.
U gotta watch WHO u saying it to nowadays...
Where did you disappear to beautiful woman?
FrFr OG...💯
Yes God
💯Stay up OG
Don't take it personal. Keep it moving. N s will be N s. Wite peps can be n s too.
Yes ma’am face beat to the God’s…🤩🤩🤩
Speak Goddess 🔥🔥🔥🔥
O.g the new
You look so beautiful.
You can hear the Creole 🤤🤤
I wish I could have you yo Baltimore y'all all
You’re a mind reader I swear
I'm in love
It’s called invalidation
Deep
This lil girl that thinks she is a woman men stay away from is so miserable its not even funny. Sound like she still bitter especially by her babydaddy
Go take care of ya kids lil nigga
Where have you been?
❤️..🙏🏾
You look very beautiful
Hey my New New
Hello....
Please get her a man
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
My Baby NEW Love me some U 😘😘😍😍🥰🥰😎😎
I can relate to this
😍
Wat happened to her anyone know???
🌹😘
Girl