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SINGLE & READY TO MINGLE // longing for the vocation of marriage
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- Опубликовано: 13 авг 2024
- For all those who are single and longing for their vocation of marriage, wondering where the heck God is hiding their future husband.. this is for you! I asked over on Instagram what questions/topics you'd like to hear about regarding the season of singleness and WOW y'all send me ALL the questions! I hope that this helps if you are currently in this season! All questions & resources are linked below!
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QUESTIONS ANSWERED //
:53 What do you do with the season of singleness?
2:30 What should you do while single?
3:56 How to be patient and not get frustrated?
7:05 How to trust God that He knows the desires in your heart & has a future spouse picked out for you?
9:20 How important is it to find complete satisfaction in Jesus before marriage?
11:38 How did I personally know my vocation?
13:00 Should you discern multiple vocations at the same time? (dating & discerning religious life at the same time?)
21:50 Specific resources, prayers, books, etc. for single season?
16:24 What to do if you are seeing every guy as a potential husband? How to avoid this?
17:34 Is it too harsh to turn someone down if you aren’t attracted to them?
18:08 Should I make the first move or wait for him?
19:15 Thoughts on online dating?
RESOURCES //
- 54 Day Novena
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- Pray More Novenas
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- Jackie & Bobby
• Aching to Find a Spouse?
- Leah Darrow
• Leah Darrow - Women's ...
- Emily Wilson
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- Emotional Virtue
www.amazon.com...
- Dating Fast
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MY TESTIMONY VIDEO //
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Oh my gosh I've had baby fever for a YEAR and I'm 20 and single LOL. But not looking for a relationship yet, I'm still strengthening my relationship with Jesus
That's a great mindset! It's okay to have babyfever even when you know you aren't ready yet! haha love it!
Only God can satisfy the longings of our hearts & can fulfill our deepest desires.
We'll never go wrong if we want God above all.
You have such great advice! Thank you for this video!! I was so excited when I found your channel. It’s so great to know there are catholic RUclipsrs out there too to spread the word of God and to lead & help others to live a life of happiness and virtue💕
So sweet, thank you!
As Christians, we are called to grow in the likeness and spirit of Christ. Whether single or married, this is our ultimate goal and purpose because it brings glory to God. Spiritual growth is not a means to an end, a quest for a reward, or a trade for what you desire. Rather, it is the living sacrifice of love, obedience, and thankfulness to our Lord for His amazing grace. This is why I am often wary of the assertion that earthly blessings are necessarily attached to spiritual maturity.
Singles often hear the assertion that if they simply focus on their relationship with God, grow in righteousness, and trust in God's timing, a spouse will assuredly appear. I have heard this on more than one occasion and it always rings hollow. This is not because growing in grace and truth is unsound advice, but rather because it is unscriptural to assert that realizing our earthly desires necessarily hinges on that kind of spiritual maturity. As stated above, the point of spiritual growth is to become more like Christ, not to get what we want on earth.
Now, of course it is true that living in obedience and righteousness and conforming ourselves to the image of Christ can and will bring about blessings. Psalm 1 demonstrates this principle. Correspondingly, a life of sinfulness and disobedience will not bring about the blessings and peace found in a life renewed and regenerated by the redemptive work of Christ. However, there is no guarantee that we will be given what we desire while on earth even if we are walking in faith and truth. Spiritual maturity will not guarantee a spouse or health or earthly happiness. I know spiritually mature Christians who have remained painfully unmarried for years upon years (despite longing and praying for a spouse) while other, less mature, carnally-minded Christians already have spouses and are enjoying all the benefits of such a relationship. I've seen Christians who, out of obedience to God, remain virgins into their late 30's or 40's without ever being blessed with a spouse while "born again virgins" are married by 24. I've seen men who have lived lives of sexual excess, pornography addiction, drug and alcohol abuse, become saved (praise the Lord for that) and then get married to beautiful, godly Christian women .... all by age 25. Yet in the same church, their are men in their late 30's who have never had sex, have never been drunk or have done drugs, and who have strived to grow in righteousness, but who are never even given a chance at marriage. So they suffer years upon years of loneliness, a lack of intimacy and affection, the fear of never having a family of their own, and the seemingly never-ending battle for sexual purity from which their is no escape and no relief that is not categorically sinful. But the guy who lived most of his life NOT being patient gets to have the beautiful wife and all the pleasures and joys and blessings that come with it, right?
When attempting to comfort singles who are facing the trial of prolonged, unwanted singleness, people will often point to Christ's words in Matthew 6 as evidence that if a person seeks the kingdom of heaven and God's righteousness, all things will be "added to them," as if that is the formula for getting what you want. However, many Christians starve to death, many are murdered for their faith, and many will live earthly lives that are utterly lacking in certain pleasures, enjoyments, and blessings that are showered upon others who seem to be living more unfaithful lives. Does this mean that God is unfaithful? Was Christ being misleading? Not at all. Rather, it demonstrates that the ultimate fulfillment of Christ's words and God's promises are not found on earth, but rather in heaven. We are never promised a spouse, or told we will be protected from cancer, or persecution, or starvation. Quite to the contrary, we are told that we will endure suffering. Thus, as Christians we must be prepared to suffer in the flesh in loving obedience for Christ who suffered for us on the cross. And we must pray to God for the grace to be content in Him despite our suffering. And for people dealing with truly prolonged (35+), unwanted singleness, pain and frustration is all too common. Ultimately, it is like picking up a bloodstained cross and following Christ. Yet He did, after all, say that true discipleship would be like that ...
Also, Paul says that remaining unmarried is a better state in life than married. I came to truly believe that cause I see single people are often much more concerned with godly things than married people and it's very rare that a married individual gets to the point of canonization (a handful of exceptional cases cannot disprove this fact). Plus, the married state demands a certain type of exclusivity towards the family that rarely deviates to anything else. You can't concentrate on God, friendship, study, prayer, contemplation if you're being demanded food by your two kids and yet another round of the conjugal debt by an aging spouse. Of course there's some love but then again at what cost... No matter how beautiful we think it is, it's still earthly.
@@joaov.m.oliveira9903 I do believe, as Christ said, that there are those who are called to make themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of God. Yet He did also suggest that few could accept this call and sacrifice. I believe that some people are indeed called to lifelong singleness by the Lord. But it is a rare thing to be truly content in such a state. To those who are able to endure it, I pray that God continues to bless them and grant them grace.
Regardless, all Christians, whether single or married, must strive to grow in grace and truth and righteousness as we become more and more like Christ through the process of sanctification. That is what our Lord commands. That is the call for all Christians, to walk as He walked. We do it for His glory, not for earthly recognition that is little more than idolatry.
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I mean, you should be saving money prior to marriage, too. The opportunity cost of indulging in your hobbies and dreams prior to marriage compared to the cost of raising a family is pretty big in the long run
Exquisite video! LOVED IT. So so so so useful! I’m exactly in these situations, so it really comes in handy, to change my perspective🥺❤️❤️😍
Wow, what a wonderful video. Thanks!
Hi Melissa, thanks a lot for the video. It’s so important for us the singles to have some advices and guidance, and the video has been so helpful. Thanks a lot , God bless you.
God bless you!
Melissa thank you for this video! You're just so so kind! I've felt so comfortable watching this video. It made me smile :) Thank you for all the recommendation and advices, I'll definitely check them out:)
God bless you!🙏
Greetings from Slovakia🙌
Ah wow, hello to Slovakia! So awesome! I'm so glad you enjoyed it!
Hi Melissa. I really appreciate your points of view. In my case, sometimes I think that will never never I found my husband. It's sad, but it's a very powerful idea. It could be a great idea talk about those thoughts and found a good explanation. For example, if you look the people reality....there are a lot of people who wants marry but still with single life...so, sometimes I loose the hope. I think that the happiness is with God inside in our hearts. ...so, if I don't find the right person, it's not a big deal because we have to feel complete with God and with us. What do you think about that? Hugs and thanks for your ideas and advices.
Hi Natalia! It is true that we find deep joy and fulfillment in God alone in a way greater than what comes with marriage. You don't have to worry about "finding" the right person, if you are focused on your relationship with God and following His will for your life, then He will direct your path & lead you to the right person if He desires marriage for you. Trust in His great plan for your life, it's far better than anything you could dream up on your own. Xx
Wow! This touched my heart so much! Thank you! :)
It's theologically wrong
Thank you for the meaningful advice. In God's time. He will reveal the right man for me.
Absolutely!
Marriage isn't a vocation and wasn't called that until after VII, because it's a natural default that's inherent to being a human and having a sexuality. A true "vocation" is to to be called to something higher than nature aka supernatural, which is why celibacy will always be higher than non-celibacy.
Single and still looking
Love your video you give amazing advice thank you for all your effort keep it up.
Thanks for the encouragement! Glad it was helpful!
God bless you. God bless always for your apostolic life. ;)
And for single boys? 😀😁💗 Blessings 🙏
Ah I love love loved all the advice you gave in this video! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experiences!
So glad you liked it!
Stubborness and desperation came upon me so I tried online dating.... but then I realized that it's painful to not trust in God and only trust in my own power..... it's much more peaceful, easy, and fun to love being single, focus on improving yourself, and focusing on God. I'm much happier compared to where I was impatient and desperate to find a man only for it never to work out and it just made me angrier.... I know I'm not ready to be with someone or to be a mom, plus I have scrupules, and having kids will just make the anxiety worse. I've gotta work on myself.
I agree that boys should pursue however in London they don’t. Only “roadside romeos” who are trouble makers will try anything otherwise no decent boys will try to pursue and court a woman.
Great advices. Greetings from Indonesia. GBU 😇
I am Single😁
Love this video, so well said! My only disagreement is in pursuing--I believe there is nothing wrong in girls pursuing.
Oh God bless me indeed with a man of God indeed in Jesus name amen
I mean who is ready to mingle if we all are broken, but I sure to want to mingle lol
I am the one dislike
Marriage isn't a vocation lol