45:00 I barely use money, i don't pay rent, need to buy food, water etc Now, it comes as no surprise the ancestors of SOME may had been under certain circumstances in which their descendants currently are being lied to into thinking money matters, and i dare to say SOME stands for 90% of world Population. Yet, knowledge is absolutely crucial in order for you to let go of such attachments
No one has the duty to tolerate you at your worst. No one owes you anything, including tolerance, understanding, etc. When you're at your lowest, you're on your own, and please do not drag a woman down with you.
*Dating when you’re broke forces you to focus on connection and personality over flashy displays of wealth. It’s a real test of compatibility and shows you which women value character over material possessions.*
It's easier to date as a broke guy oppose to the guy who is in serious debt. At the moment that is me. I've already made up my mind to avoid all forms of relationships until my debt is repaid and restored. I came into adulthood being very naive, beknownce to the corruption of my world. I'm currently still working on cleaning up my mess.
@ModernDatingMastery it makes a lot of sense, but my question is, will the girls be up to the challenge? Are there any girls who stopped being shallow?
Because it's not about testing her. It's about your "opportunity" to build authentic high value skills thanks to the hard reality of brokenness. Then when you'll become rich, you find yslf being a 100% developed and successful man⚡ ( actually rare nowadays)
Buying too early or trying to prove a point can make some women change their goals and they might not connect with you. They won't smash😂. To fullfil women you need to have an l don't care attitude whether rich or broke. This makes women care for you because you are asking them to do it emotionally.
I found a girl that loves me for me, without money, and she's shown me so much growth and taught me so many things. About myself about life about how to handle situations, about how to pray. Everyday I want to give her a lifestyle she deserves for showing a side of me that I never thought I could see and being a person I never thought I could become. I'm working on it just so that I can give her a care free life, free of stress and it's very much worth it gents !
Being rejected for being broke, is like being rejected for anything else. Some see it as a problem, some don't. But if You don't try to find Someone and shut Yourself off, then You're 100% not going to get anyone.
Being broke and go for dating It's like driving twin turbo Corvette without knowing how to drive it and without driving license Don't do it if you're not ready Don't listen to her advice I have no idea if she have other good advice but this is terrible actually when you're strong enough you will know dating is just for weak When you're really ready and have your things together you will look for something precious like a virgin girl that's good enough to be house wife But going out for dating when you're broke will bring you nothing good Dating is also easy as there's ton of dating apps but looking for woman that can build family with that's another task
Great video. Unfortunately, many women are impatient and want ready-made men. Fortunately, you can easily filter them and find a solid woman who's ready to build and support your growth.
This podcast has changed my life. I so love how you inspire us as men and we have a safe place to learn and empower ourselves. Thank you thank you thank you
This video and the book Celestial Soulmate by Lentlish have been a game-changer for me. I’ve already started talking to more people, and I can feel my confidence growing every day. Thanks for sharing such great advice!
I remember asking a lady out and she was like she can't date me because I won't be able to care for her I was broke by her words I decided I was going to stay away from relationship and focus on making money But with this video I have been able to learn something
Also let me add that you as a man should look at women who reject you as doing you a major favour in life as they could of easily led you on for a long long time thinking that they genuinely liked you only use you up mentally and THEN dump you. Women like that are not worth it. There will however always be one out there that will want you for you, but the messed up thing is we tend to pass on those ones because she ain't a "Baddie" or a 8 to 9 outta 10.
@@SayberV1 I was about ask to him the same thing Lol, the opinion of one women should not hinder you from getting other women, it’s like the some men nowadays can’t handle rejection GOT DAMN 😂😂😂
Bro…….as broke as I am, I found the most amazing connection when I wasn’t even looking. She’s the most amazing woman I’ve ever communicated with; going to meet her in Switzerland for the first time in January 2025 after months of bonding and constant communication. Everything Jess said is 💯 true!
I don't know if I can agree with most of this. In theory, people getting together and building together sounds good, but the second you suggest to most women that they should consider dating men that aren't finished products, all hell breaks loose. Most of them hear "build with a man" and think you're telling them to go date lazy, broke, stagnant men who will never amount to anything. They immediately say things like, "I'm not building a man, that was his parents' job" or the all-time classic, "I don't do struggle love". I wish things were different, but in this world, it almost feels like men damn near have to be perfect finished products before trying to date.
this woman is wise. had a three girl rotation while sleeping on my brother’s couch. before that had two girls traveling to see me while staying in my sister’s attic. women don’t care about your money when they really like you
I appreciate Jessica’s take on this. I’m one of those guys that told myself I’m not an eligible bachelor because I don’t have all what I want yet. Due to past experiences it caved me into thinking this way. I must admit even though Jessica articulated her self well on this video We have to admit that men dating while broke is on a “Shot clock.” There’s some examples out there that women stick with their men through thick and thin but there’s an abundance of women that’ll leave you if you are not elevating at a certain time frame. You better believe that
@@Amani-j4k it’s weird i got social anxiety but whenever i’m on a date it just goes away like i’m a different person 😂 now approaching girls is a different story id shit my pants before that
This would be great advice if we lived in an ideal world where all women are virtuous and willing to "go on a journey with you" through life. Unfortunately the real world is much harsher than that. Due to dating apps opening up the dating pool, women are getting pickier and pickier and having money is one of those things that you get measured on. I agree that the "good ones" won't fall into this trap, but lets face it, being broke reduces your chances of success overall and you will have less choice in the dating market because of it. A lot of women aren't willing to run the race with you. They wait at the finish line and pick the winners, or pick the ones that look like they're going to win soon, and try and get in there just before the winner gets all the attention. If you don't have money, you better have something else REALLY good (like being tall, funny, having muscles or being just very good looking).
6:10 she’s giving destructive advice. Trust me fellas, NEVER be open to any woman about your financial struggles unless she’s a relative or your mother. EVER.
yea, was wondering, it could be the incision point where they pry on you being broke, and financially dominate and control you, turning you into their pet and trump over you in other ways, makign you dependent on them
I think you made this video for me. Everything is on point. This is all i need thank you so much for your effort, time, energy and all the sacrifice you made to bring this nugget for us. I really love the knowledge your pouring for us for free...
People like Andrew Tate want others to believe this, because that's the only game they can have an easy win in. This might be true for the majority of people. Do you really think the majority of humans possess knowledge? Why would you care what small minded people think?
The problem of dating when you're broke is it has a greater chance of breaking up. You can have all of games and characters but if you're not financial stable, you'll be surely replaced. And it's very hard, near impossible to find a woman of your preference in this day and age if you're not financially stable. For me the feelings of being replaced while you're in relationship is much crazier than a break up itself. Also frequent break up can sabotage your brain emotionally and physiologically. Especially when you know it's always the same financial reasons lead you to break up. And being broke is not the only way to test a woman if she's a gold digger. There's a thousand ways to test a woman's royalty while you're financially stable.
In my world, I've seen the corruption which kills humanity. I've suffered the price being truly honest with anyone else apart from my grandmother. So in my own way, I'm sort of done with relationships. My instincts keeps telling me to avoid people because of crucial differences that exists among us.
For us flirting men, this is the video of the year for anyone of you planning to date a woman. The truths in this video are so striking that I'm left with my mouth open. Even my dad said, "If he knew all this, he wouldn't have taken him so many years of work to woo my mom.😂😂😂😂😂 Thank you, Jessica Os 😊
Dating when your bank account is a ghost town means just not dating. I like your reasons, they are sensible. But I don’t know ANY adult female that will go on a date with a guy who is unemployed. The broke dude has to lie or deceive to get into one. The kinda guy who is so attractive and charismatic to pull this off with little money doesn’t need this video
The thing is everyone is broke right Now especially being broke if you can’t pay all of your bills by working 1 job and only 40 hours a week You’re broke by definition If you have to stress yourself out by working multiple jobs in order to pay your bills on time that’s broke Women will probably never be broke because they don’t have to work as much because other guys are paying for them or paying for their lifestyle no matter what
Dear Jessica I really love your podcast and advice cos it' has helped me on several occasions. I was trying to build a life with someone and I realized she has been secretly dating rich guys and acting like she is doing me a favor cos she doesn't wanna stress me with anything but I know it's a lie so I ve made my decision about her
I agree with most points especially about skills development and learning to live together. This is why we should date when we're young then build and grow together. It also confirms the idea that once we're out of University/College (for men) and into the working world, we never know if the person we are with is genuinely attracted to us or just settling. That said, good luck finding a woman over 25 who will be okay and patient enough with "dating when you're broke" For the guys in their late teens and early-mid 20s, this is the time to find a girl who you can build with and grow together.
Remember, money changes everything, dating a woman while being broke will bring out dropped boundaries, desperate actions, and emotions you need to learn to get over. Shes always looking for a connection that benefits her and a man without Money, is a man off guard. Women desire men who are broke because they're easier to control. Id take advice from a tree before a woman about dating women 😂😂😂
I'm not broke, I'm living in my own house and work with middle income while my gf is from rich parents and owning a business before she even in her 20. I'm feeling insecure because she made a lot than me, but yeah she has golden heart just for me, she said I gave her love that money can't buy, so i quit my middle income job and working with her. Now i live with her and rented my house so i gain from that and start investing money on many things, we're a happy couple now
This is spot on. I've noticed that homeless guy in the Walmart parking lot with the sign, dog, and guitar, is always catching the women. It's because he's being authentic. Yea Yea money means nothing to women. Tall, handsome, muscular, with the appearance of wealth and status get the women's attention. Any other advice is not in the real world of dating for men.
basically if you can narrate your own life (past, present, future) like a good story, then you are on the right path personally I used this format in my last job interview and I'm still working there
I agree with you, dear Jessica. I don't know why you don't have the title Doctor yet!? I almost rebut the Theme because the degree of brokeness does matter until I watched the entire Video. You drove the point home leaving no room for argument, I enjoyed every single bit of it, thank you and God bless your efforts!
This message to all men in Africa 🌍 we watched the Nollywood movie which always emphasize get money before dating that why most men are avoiding relationship ❤😂🎉 i noticed is all about confidence
I think there is a big difference between not dating while broke and not dating while financially unstable. Being broke generally just means not having excess spending money while financially unstable would be not having enough for rent and other necessities.
When I'm in a financial rut, my top priority is to get out of it. In such a situation I need assets and a girlfriend can only be a liability. Women are not a necessity, they are an extra.
It’s absolutely mind boggling what you men are falling for! So you’re willing to date broke instead of making more money? Second I’m not going to ask the fish how to hunt, I would go to other hunters for the best results. 5.9k likes is egregious
Wow, this video really flips the script on traditional dating narratives! Jessica's take on dating while broke is refreshingly honest and empowering. It’s a reminder that your value as a person isn’t tied to your wallet but to your character, creativity, and confidence. I love how she emphasizes authenticity and emotional connection over materialism-such an important message in today’s world. The rules she shared, like being honest, creative, and focusing on personal growth, are pure gold. Plus, the ultimate confidence hack? Spot on! This video is a must-watch for anyone feeling hesitant to put themselves out there because of financial stress. Jessica, keep these gems coming! 🙂
I dated broke for 20+ years but got told I need to either be taller or make more money 🤷 at 45 I just gave up, prefer to put my money on stocks than spend it on dates
That's what I wanted to hear; mutual respect, honesty understanding, and not materialism.. And making each other laugh during hard times is a bonus too.. Those contacts of yours Jessica always get my attention.. Super Sharp
I am not a regular viewer, not even a subscriber but I love this episode more, more than all the episodes I've watched and haven't and ones I'll potentially watch. 💯
The truth about modern dating is: Yes, you can date if you are broke, as long as you look like a Chad. 😂😂 First I was laughing when I saw the video title, but at least I have to say, you pointed out some useful thoughts. But.... it is also important to point out that 30+ women are more materialistic than below 30 women, as their biological clock is ticking. If you date young women and got the Chad-factor plus the Alpha-factor, it can work.
So far you are one of the best dating coaches I've seen on RUclips. You actually have good advice and reasons to back it up. And it's so good to see a black woman giving much needed advice. Also you have beautiful eyes.😊
Thanks Jessica, I've been your fan over the years in fact since when you were making your videos from Ghana up until now. I must admit, this is the one of the most informative video for me personally.
Ya'll this woman is a blessing 😌, this came for me at the right time. I really like a girl that comes from a good family and has a interesting life. My life is not bad but I am not where I want to be in life so I have hesitated, even though she constantly proves that she likes me for me. And having her in my life has helped me work in other areas of my life and becoming a better version of myself. And I have goals that am focusing on to be reach where I would like to be. And this journey has been fun and I feel alive again. So gents there is hope!! Just believe in yourself and heal if your have healing to do.
VERY GOOD ADVICE from a cultured woman. Fellow broke guys Your actions or inaction either rewards or punish you. Men be mysterious about your finances. When you’re broke work on yourself always strive to put the best version of yourself out there. Careful who you let in when you’re most vulnerable , they’ll try to pull you back when you’re at your strongest.
This vid reminded me of the ancient greek myth on how Zeus made an approach on Hera, disguised as an eagle owl at first, and then transforming to his godlike all shining persona. She said yes!
I'm 29 now going on 30, and I kid you not, nobody told me that I can date while being broke. I mean, I do pay my bills, have a roof over my head and food on the table. But for years I would put off dating cause I wasn't "good" enough and didn't have enough money. Then I find myself saying but what if when you get money and attract the wrongs ones ? Wouldn't it be better to find someone who found you at your lowest and stuck it with you through thick and thin ? The type that you know you'll give your everything to ? I'm slowly building my confidence no matter how I look, no matter my age nor the amount of money I make and even no matter where I live.
Some men want to date even when they are broke, but will be woman you want to date want to date you? Dating in 2024 isn't the same as dating in 1984. Then, relationships are about finding love and starting a family. Today, it's based on the ability to provide. The women you desire would tell you upfront, "I can't take care of a man." See, the odds?
I loved the emphasis she placed on "right woman" several times during the video, because she knows how most women think for real about broke dudes. Will have to re-watch this several times.
Yes, no one talks about this. I'd like to date a particular calibre of women, but the bank account is a ghost town for now. Women who are willing to take me as I am I just don't want. I'd rather be single
the only reason women want authenticity is to be able to reject you for being a loser rather than getting tricked into falling in love when it is too late.
When you have resources you also weed out the women with bad intention. Also if you have resources everything you can do as a man who is broke, you can multiply by 10x
I have been to the psychologists for this reason. But even they did not tell me the things and realities that you are telling here. Hats Off Jessica. 🎩 🎩 🎩 🎩
Wow wow I don’t come here regularly but I so much respect this woman among both of all the people I follow in RUclips she’s my top 3 you are doing well aunty Jessica I respect u
I work a blue collar job but I what never tell women is that I actually come from a pretty wealthy family. The reason why I don't tell them this is because I'm also testing them. If they were willing to give me a shot after seeing me living a very blue collar and modest life style working in a grocery store, then they're the cool women who I know are dating me for the right reasons. If they reject me for that reason then I just avoided a greedy gold digger who would've made me miserable in the long run.
Absolutely spot on with this topic, most especially in this time where money seems to be the centre of having a good relationship God bless you Jess! Hitting the nail on the head In the end,
This is why I'm happy I married my wife. We meet in college and she's known me since I was 22 and she was 18. We've grown together over 2 decades. I can't imagine doing for another woman what I'd do for her. She's earned the benefit of my care and attention because we were in the trenches together, in love and happy.
Just came here to say that I used to think the same thing. Then I realized that the best time to date is when a man has his mind right and sets standards. Finding a quality woman no matter where you are in life is what matters most. Because a quality woman will be there for you whether rich or poor. You just need to know how to tell the difference. Putting sex and superficial standards up the priority list is what will leave you truly poor.
I didn’t watch the video yet but just came here to say. I have met gorgeous women while I was very broke and I genuinely decided not to push further with them due to how broke I was. The 3 of them were lovely but I wasnt at a point in my life to where I would have a future with these women. Ladies stop letting these bums smash. But do what yall want to do lol
Great video now we just have to teach the women to start focusing on the confident men and not just the ones who have things. Many men developed this belief through what the public taught them, and many women doubled down on that message which reinforced this belief in men. Your message breaks that pattern and mindset. And now you need to make another video reteaching it to the enablers.
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I barely use money, i don't pay rent, need to buy food, water etc
Now, it comes as no surprise the ancestors of SOME may had been under certain circumstances in which their descendants currently are being lied to into thinking money matters, and i dare to say SOME stands for 90% of world Population.
Yet, knowledge is absolutely crucial in order for you to let go of such attachments
@@JessicaOS you have a gift, you talking like you it
Why? I can just ask chatgpt. It'll also read every video you ever made and summarize it for me. Your bad advice is no longer needed😂😂
A true representation of the term “ if you can’t tolerate me at my worst, then you don’t deserve me at best”.
No one has the duty to tolerate you at your worst. No one owes you anything, including tolerance, understanding, etc. When you're at your lowest, you're on your own, and please do not drag a woman down with you.
@@stoicaandrei3965yes which is exactly the reason why no one should jump in shamelessly and act like they been there the whole time.
@@stoicaandrei3965when you level up
@@emmanueltoku7237 "If you can't handle me at my dusty, you don't deserve me at my dapper"
It won't work...however a woman can put up with a lot depending on your perceived value and her level of mental health.
*Dating when you’re broke forces you to focus on connection and personality over flashy displays of wealth. It’s a real test of compatibility and shows you which women value character over material possessions.*
@@ModernDatingMastery true
It's easier to date as a broke guy oppose to the guy who is in serious debt. At the moment that is me.
I've already made up my mind to avoid all forms of relationships until my debt is repaid and restored.
I came into adulthood being very naive, beknownce to the corruption of my world.
I'm currently still working on cleaning up my mess.
You nailed it you nailed it
@ModernDatingMastery it makes a lot of sense, but my question is, will the girls be up to the challenge? Are there any girls who stopped being shallow?
@@ModernDatingMastery I can def understand this pov. Not many women is like that nowadays unfortunately so it makes it rlly hard.
Why not make alot of money, then pretend to be broke.
Then you’re not authentic
She could change her change her mind later.
Because it's not about testing her. It's about your "opportunity" to build authentic high value skills thanks to the hard reality of brokenness.
Then when you'll become rich, you find yslf being a 100% developed and successful man⚡ ( actually rare nowadays)
How about make a lot of money, be mysterious about it and let her figure it out slowly
Buying too early or trying to prove a point can make some women change their goals and they might not connect with you. They won't smash😂. To fullfil women you need to have an l don't care attitude whether rich or broke. This makes women care for you because you are asking them to do it emotionally.
I found a girl that loves me for me, without money, and she's shown me so much growth and taught me so many things. About myself about life about how to handle situations, about how to pray. Everyday I want to give her a lifestyle she deserves for showing a side of me that I never thought I could see and being a person I never thought I could become. I'm working on it just so that I can give her a care free life, free of stress and it's very much worth it gents !
We all deserve such a girl
Being rejected for being broke, is like being rejected for anything else. Some see it as a problem, some don't. But if You don't try to find Someone and shut Yourself off, then You're 100% not going to get anyone.
true, many rich men are not great socially. Confidence is very useful in interacting with women
Being broke and go for dating
It's like driving twin turbo Corvette without knowing how to drive it and without driving license
Don't do it if you're not ready
Don't listen to her advice I have no idea if she have other good advice but this is terrible actually when you're strong enough you will know dating is just for weak
When you're really ready and have your things together you will look for something precious like a virgin girl that's good enough to be house wife
But going out for dating when you're broke will bring you nothing good
Dating is also easy as there's ton of dating apps but looking for woman that can build family with that's another task
Still not worth dating while broke
Wonderfully said. It's not about the size of your wallet, but the size of your will. Your heart. Your resilience.
lol
Capping lol
Been dating while broke all my life. Character points are through the roof!
Great video. Unfortunately, many women are impatient and want ready-made men. Fortunately, you can easily filter them and find a solid woman who's ready to build and support your growth.
This is true.
why waitand take risk if they have plenty of simps available at the finish line?
This podcast has changed my life. I so love how you inspire us as men and we have a safe place to learn and empower ourselves. Thank you thank you thank you
I'm here for you guys! 💪
This video and the book Celestial Soulmate by Lentlish have been a game-changer for me. I’ve already started talking to more people, and I can feel my confidence growing every day. Thanks for sharing such great advice!
I remember asking a lady out and she was like she can't date me because I won't be able to care for her I was broke by her words I decided I was going to stay away from relationship and focus on making money
But with this video I have been able to learn something
@@humbleinah So you let the opinion of just ONE female stop you from dating altogether? Smh
Also let me add that you as a man should look at women who reject you as doing you a major favour in life as they could of easily led you on for a long long time thinking that they genuinely liked you only use you up mentally and THEN dump you. Women like that are not worth it. There will however always be one out there that will want you for you, but the messed up thing is we tend to pass on those ones because she ain't a "Baddie" or a 8 to 9 outta 10.
Did you have a work?
@@SayberV1 I was about ask to him the same thing Lol, the opinion of one women should not hinder you from getting other women, it’s like the some men nowadays can’t handle rejection GOT DAMN 😂😂😂
@@SayberV1 90% of women nowadays are like her
Bro…….as broke as I am, I found the most amazing connection when I wasn’t even looking. She’s the most amazing woman I’ve ever communicated with; going to meet her in Switzerland for the first time in January 2025 after months of bonding and constant communication. Everything Jess said is 💯 true!
Exactly, it happens when you aren't even trying. Such irony 😂
The best women are really men in another country 😂
@@eclektric trust me bro? I’m not dying on the hill that is African women!!🤭🤣🤣🤣
Wonderful
I don't know if I can agree with most of this. In theory, people getting together and building together sounds good, but the second you suggest to most women that they should consider dating men that aren't finished products, all hell breaks loose. Most of them hear "build with a man" and think you're telling them to go date lazy, broke, stagnant men who will never amount to anything. They immediately say things like, "I'm not building a man, that was his parents' job" or the all-time classic, "I don't do struggle love".
I wish things were different, but in this world, it almost feels like men damn near have to be perfect finished products before trying to date.
yes but most women are not the right woman
this woman is wise. had a three girl rotation while sleeping on my brother’s couch. before that had two girls traveling to see me while staying in my sister’s attic. women don’t care about your money when they really like you
how to make women like you tho?
They didn't like you because they didn't know you. If they'd known you were the type of man who rotates women would they have stayed?
@@jayak8217 nah
@@jayak8217they do it too so who cares what they think
Where are they now?
I appreciate Jessica’s take on this. I’m one of those guys that told myself I’m not an eligible bachelor because I don’t have all what I want yet. Due to past experiences it caved me into thinking this way. I must admit even though Jessica articulated her self well on this video We have to admit that men dating while broke is on a “Shot clock.” There’s some examples out there that women stick with their men through thick and thin but there’s an abundance of women that’ll leave you if you are not elevating at a certain time frame. You better believe that
Just be open tho and go for women who truly love you
Sis Jess you really teaching us a lot. This generation might not recognise the great work you doing but you'll be rewarded hugely in the near future.
I appreciate the support, I'm in it for the long haul! 😊
My last date cost me $1100 , then she told me she was married!.
After that, I gave up and joined the majority of men who will never date again.
Just the video I needed most. I'm almost 31 and have never dated, financial instability being probably the second main reason after social anxiety.
@@Amani-j4k I’m in the same boat…
I’m in that boat as well man. Crazy bro
@@Amani-j4k it’s weird i got social anxiety but whenever i’m on a date it just goes away like i’m a different person 😂 now approaching girls is a different story id shit my pants before that
Definitely a yes. If you wait, you may miss an opportunity that probably won't come back. Keep things going even if you're (temporarily) behind.
This would be great advice if we lived in an ideal world where all women are virtuous and willing to "go on a journey with you" through life. Unfortunately the real world is much harsher than that. Due to dating apps opening up the dating pool, women are getting pickier and pickier and having money is one of those things that you get measured on. I agree that the "good ones" won't fall into this trap, but lets face it, being broke reduces your chances of success overall and you will have less choice in the dating market because of it. A lot of women aren't willing to run the race with you. They wait at the finish line and pick the winners, or pick the ones that look like they're going to win soon, and try and get in there just before the winner gets all the attention. If you don't have money, you better have something else REALLY good (like being tall, funny, having muscles or being just very good looking).
"When you date broke, you weed out the wrong women"
6:10 she’s giving destructive advice. Trust me fellas, NEVER be open to any woman about your financial struggles unless she’s a relative or your mother. EVER.
@@renlaiq3020
True..
You can't hide being broke, a woman will notice you're not financially stable. You might as well let her know in advance than lie.
yea, was wondering, it could be the incision point where they pry on you being broke, and financially dominate and control you, turning you into their pet and trump over you in other ways, makign you dependent on them
I think you made this video for me. Everything is on point. This is all i need thank you so much for your effort, time, energy and all the sacrifice you made to bring this nugget for us. I really love the knowledge your pouring for us for free...
Glad it resonated with you!
I can listen to Jess all day. This is a different dimension to this particular subject.
Sadly in today's society, your worth is measured by your wealth. Sad reality 😔
Depends which circles you are in
go after the nerdy anime girls 😂
😂@@__Shun
People like Andrew Tate want others to believe this, because that's the only game they can have an easy win in.
This might be true for the majority of people. Do you really think the majority of humans possess knowledge? Why would you care what small minded people think?
the message of the video is to avoid the mainstream narrative. go against the stream.
The problem of dating when you're broke is it has a greater chance of breaking up.
You can have all of games and characters but if you're not financial stable, you'll be surely replaced.
And it's very hard, near impossible to find a woman of your preference in this day and age if you're not financially stable.
For me the feelings of being replaced while you're in relationship is much crazier than a break up itself.
Also frequent break up can sabotage your brain emotionally and physiologically. Especially when you know it's always the same financial reasons lead you to break up.
And being broke is not the only way to test a woman if she's a gold digger.
There's a thousand ways to test a woman's royalty while you're financially stable.
In my world, I've seen the corruption which kills humanity.
I've suffered the price being truly honest with anyone else apart from my grandmother.
So in my own way, I'm sort of done with relationships.
My instincts keeps telling me to avoid people because of crucial differences that exists among us.
Yeah she's giving bad advice on this one.
@treysince21 she's not wrong but yeah this doesn't fit well in modern society
For us flirting men, this is the video of the year for anyone of you planning to date a woman.
The truths in this video are so striking that I'm left with my mouth open.
Even my dad said, "If he knew all this, he wouldn't have taken him so many years of work to woo my mom.😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you, Jessica Os 😊
This will only work on movies not in this reality we live under.
I don’t think any of this applies to dating while you’re cheap. Even when your broke, you still have to spend a lot of money.
Anyone who dated in high school and college understands this. Cause we sure are broke during those years
But some maybe even most people had the best relationships those days.
Broke at 25 and broke at 45 are not the same
@@ryananthony407 LOL.. I love and appreciate your cynicism 😆
I like the keyword to all the suggestions "the right kind of woman". It's everything.
Creativity is your best friend when you're Broke😅
@@amaadomaatv you have said it all
Wonderfully said
I swear 😂
Dating when your bank account is a ghost town means just not dating. I like your reasons, they are sensible. But I don’t know ANY adult female that will go on a date with a guy who is unemployed. The broke dude has to lie or deceive to get into one. The kinda guy who is so attractive and charismatic to pull this off with little money doesn’t need this video
The thing is everyone is broke right
Now especially
being broke if you can’t pay all of your bills by working 1 job and only 40 hours a week
You’re broke by definition
If you have to stress yourself out by working multiple jobs in order to pay your bills on time that’s broke
Women will probably never be broke because they don’t have to work as much because other guys are paying for them or paying for their lifestyle no matter what
Dear Jessica I really love your podcast and advice cos it' has helped me on several occasions. I was trying to build a life with someone and I realized she has been secretly dating rich guys and acting like she is doing me a favor cos she doesn't wanna stress me with anything but I know it's a lie so I ve made my decision about her
WOW 😮 this smacked me right in the mouth..... All this time it's been me sabotaging myself.
Facts me too
I agree with most points especially about skills development and learning to live together.
This is why we should date when we're young then build and grow together. It also confirms the idea that once we're out of University/College (for men) and into the working world, we never know if the person we are with is genuinely attracted to us or just settling.
That said, good luck finding a woman over 25 who will be okay and patient enough with "dating when you're broke"
For the guys in their late teens and early-mid 20s, this is the time to find a girl who you can build with and grow together.
Remember, money changes everything, dating a woman while being broke will bring out dropped boundaries, desperate actions, and emotions you need to learn to get over. Shes always looking for a connection that benefits her and a man without Money, is a man off guard. Women desire men who are broke because they're easier to control. Id take advice from a tree before a woman about dating women 😂😂😂
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@Foxarocious am I wrong though 🤣
This video is the reason why i don't date because I'm not making alot it's like she was thinking what I'm thinking right now right on time
I'm not broke, I'm living in my own house and work with middle income while my gf is from rich parents and owning a business before she even in her 20. I'm feeling insecure because she made a lot than me, but yeah she has golden heart just for me, she said I gave her love that money can't buy, so i quit my middle income job and working with her. Now i live with her and rented my house so i gain from that and start investing money on many things, we're a happy couple now
This is spot on. I've noticed that homeless guy in the Walmart parking lot with the sign, dog, and guitar, is always catching the women. It's because he's being authentic. Yea Yea money means nothing to women. Tall, handsome, muscular, with the appearance of wealth and status get the women's attention. Any other advice is not in the real world of dating for men.
basically if you can narrate your own life (past, present, future) like a good story, then you are on the right path
personally I used this format in my last job interview and I'm still working there
Real Talk... Timing is everything when dating, no matter if your situation is up or down.
Ooh!!! Jessica that’s really funny “Share it with another broke guy"😂
She does not know what alady tells you for a small conflict coming from her mistake she aint gonna be responsible when you are block
I agree with you, dear Jessica. I don't know why you don't have the title Doctor yet!?
I almost rebut the Theme because the degree of brokeness does matter until I watched the entire Video. You drove the point home leaving no room for argument, I enjoyed every single bit of it, thank you and God bless your efforts!
This message to all men in Africa 🌍 we watched the Nollywood movie which always emphasize get money before dating that why most men are avoiding relationship ❤😂🎉 i noticed is all about confidence
You're right. But Pssh. Please, most men don't have the luxury of being broke and dating. Unfortunately, 99% of women dont want to build WITH the guy.
I think there is a big difference between not dating while broke and not dating while financially unstable. Being broke generally just means not having excess spending money while financially unstable would be not having enough for rent and other necessities.
We all know why lol, we get broke women when we have money who are just looking for upgrade.
We get genuine women when we dont have much money .
When I'm in a financial rut, my top priority is to get out of it. In such a situation I need assets and a girlfriend can only be a liability. Women are not a necessity, they are an extra.
This is insane. When I was broke I was at home and Obstructed from dating.
You can't date when broke. You are insane.
It’s absolutely mind boggling what you men are falling for!
So you’re willing to date broke instead of making more money?
Second I’m not going to ask the fish how to hunt, I would go to other hunters for the best results.
5.9k likes is egregious
This phenomenon can never work in Nigeria, there is Hunger in the land
Wow, this video really flips the script on traditional dating narratives! Jessica's take on dating while broke is refreshingly honest and empowering. It’s a reminder that your value as a person isn’t tied to your wallet but to your character, creativity, and confidence. I love how she emphasizes authenticity and emotional connection over materialism-such an important message in today’s world. The rules she shared, like being honest, creative, and focusing on personal growth, are pure gold. Plus, the ultimate confidence hack? Spot on! This video is a must-watch for anyone feeling hesitant to put themselves out there because of financial stress. Jessica, keep these gems coming! 🙂
The realest content on the internet by far. Thank you for sharing this sister ❤
Thanks for so much positivity Jessie,I'm not broke but I would feel like it if I couldn't watch your vids anymore,love you too 😍
I dated broke for 20+ years but got told I need to either be taller or make more money 🤷 at 45 I just gave up, prefer to put my money on stocks than spend it on dates
That's what I wanted to hear;
mutual respect, honesty understanding, and not materialism..
And making each other laugh during hard times is a bonus too..
Those contacts of yours Jessica always get my attention.. Super Sharp
I am not a regular viewer, not even a subscriber but I love this episode more, more than all the episodes I've watched and haven't and ones I'll potentially watch. 💯
The truth about modern dating is: Yes, you can date if you are broke, as long as you look like a Chad. 😂😂 First I was laughing when I saw the video title, but at least I have to say, you pointed out some useful thoughts.
But.... it is also important to point out that 30+ women are more materialistic than below 30 women, as their biological clock is ticking. If you date young women and got the Chad-factor plus the Alpha-factor, it can work.
So far you are one of the best dating coaches I've seen on RUclips. You actually have good advice and reasons to back it up. And it's so good to see a black woman giving much needed advice. Also you have beautiful eyes.😊
Thinking about it now, I think you are right 👍
It's definitely a different perspective, right?
@JessicaOS Yes, and this video came in the right time when I needed it . Thank you
Thanks Jessica, I've been your fan over the years in fact since when you were making your videos from Ghana up until now. I must admit, this is the one of the most informative video for me personally.
@jessica, this your content had been one of the best I've listened to. This mindset saved me from wasting time with the wrong partners....
Too true. Couldn't get'em off me when i was broke, but now that i'm wayyy UP, they're more intimidated - & rightly so 😎
*winnin!*
Ya'll this woman is a blessing 😌, this came for me at the right time. I really like a girl that comes from a good family and has a interesting life. My life is not bad but I am not where I want to be in life so I have hesitated, even though she constantly proves that she likes me for me. And having her in my life has helped me work in other areas of my life and becoming a better version of myself. And I have goals that am focusing on to be reach where I would like to be. And this journey has been fun and I feel alive again. So gents there is hope!! Just believe in yourself and heal if your have healing to do.
VERY GOOD ADVICE from a cultured woman. Fellow broke guys Your actions or inaction either rewards or punish you. Men be mysterious about your finances. When you’re broke work on yourself always strive to put the best version of yourself out there. Careful who you let in when you’re most vulnerable , they’ll try to pull you back when you’re at your strongest.
never ask a fish how to fish.
That last statement " share with another broke guy" wasn't necessary at all🤣🤣. But yeah you are right. Thanks for the insights.
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This vid reminded me of the ancient greek myth on how Zeus made an approach on Hera, disguised as an eagle owl at first, and then transforming to his godlike all shining persona.
She said yes!
I'm 29 now going on 30, and I kid you not, nobody told me that I can date while being broke. I mean, I do pay my bills, have a roof over my head and food on the table. But for years I would put off dating cause I wasn't "good" enough and didn't have enough money. Then I find myself saying but what if when you get money and attract the wrongs ones ? Wouldn't it be better to find someone who found you at your lowest and stuck it with you through thick and thin ? The type that you know you'll give your everything to ? I'm slowly building my confidence no matter how I look, no matter my age nor the amount of money I make and even no matter where I live.
The thing is dating as a broke man gets into the way of getting rich sometimes bcos of certain emotional attachments
Some men want to date even when they are broke, but will be woman you want to date want to date you? Dating in 2024 isn't the same as dating in 1984. Then, relationships are about finding love and starting a family. Today, it's based on the ability to provide. The women you desire would tell you upfront, "I can't take care of a man." See, the odds?
I loved the emphasis she placed on "right woman" several times during the video, because she knows how most women think for real about broke dudes. Will have to re-watch this several times.
The eloquence 😭😭
@@thankgodjudah6553 swears .. so good 🔥🔥🔥😫
Yes, no one talks about this. I'd like to date a particular calibre of women, but the bank account is a ghost town for now. Women who are willing to take me as I am I just don't want. I'd rather be single
You're speaking to me. Been single for over 7 years now😢
@@Jayevergreen11 it's been 2 years for me. Hope the right one will come along.
@@Gladwin92 I believe
ARE U GOING ON DATES AT LEAST?@@Jayevergreen11
It's time to grow
Dont wait brother approach them you might get lucky😊
Since have been watching all your videos about relationships have learnt a lot from you ❤
I’m so happy to hear that!
Thank you for your empowerment and knowledgeable content Jessica this was very useful for our mindsets💯💯
You're so welcome!
the only reason women want authenticity is to be able to reject you for being a loser rather than getting tricked into falling in love when it is too late.
THIS IS THE BEST, JESS❤
Focus on learning general relationship skills. Romantic relationships are a very small subset of all relationship types.
When you have resources you also weed out the women with bad intention. Also if you have resources everything you can do as a man who is broke, you can multiply by 10x
Just by reading the video title alone, it's too bad no woman wants a broke man...
Content worth watching every minute
I have been to the psychologists for this reason. But even they did not tell me the things and realities that you are telling here.
Hats Off Jessica. 🎩 🎩 🎩 🎩
Wow wow I don’t come here regularly but I so much respect this woman among both of all the people I follow in RUclips she’s my top 3 you are doing well aunty Jessica I respect u
appreciate you
'The right woman' is so rare it isn't worth the search. But thanks for the content.
It's difficult to grow financially while you want to start a new relationship ..
I tell you from experience bro, a good woman will help you grow financially. She'll help you cut down on the spending
I work a blue collar job but I what never tell women is that I actually come from a pretty wealthy family.
The reason why I don't tell them this is because I'm also testing them. If they were willing to give me a shot after seeing me living a very blue collar and modest life style working in a grocery store, then they're the cool women who I know are dating me for the right reasons.
If they reject me for that reason then I just avoided a greedy gold digger who would've made me miserable in the long run.
Absolutely spot on with this topic, most especially in this time where money seems to be the centre of having a good relationship
God bless you Jess!
Hitting the nail on the head
In the end,
This is why I'm happy I married my wife. We meet in college and she's known me since I was 22 and she was 18. We've grown together over 2 decades. I can't imagine doing for another woman what I'd do for her. She's earned the benefit of my care and attention because we were in the trenches together, in love and happy.
Ambition is attractive 💎
I love it, life doesn’t wait for you to be perfect.
Just came here to say that I used to think the same thing. Then I realized that the best time to date is when a man has his mind right and sets standards.
Finding a quality woman no matter where you are in life is what matters most. Because a quality woman will be there for you whether rich or poor. You just need to know how to tell the difference.
Putting sex and superficial standards up the priority list is what will leave you truly poor.
I didn’t watch the video yet but just came here to say. I have met gorgeous women while I was very broke and I genuinely decided not to push further with them due to how broke I was. The 3 of them were lovely but I wasnt at a point in my life to where I would have a future with these women. Ladies stop letting these bums smash. But do what yall want to do lol
After every episode, I feel elevated and resilient. God bless you... good job
This video is incredible TIMELESS.
Great video now we just have to teach the women to start focusing on the confident men and not just the ones who have things. Many men developed this belief through what the public taught them, and many women doubled down on that message which reinforced this belief in men. Your message breaks that pattern and mindset. And now you need to make another video reteaching it to the enablers.
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