When is it okay for Christians to Divorce? | Ask Pastor Mark
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Pls pray for my spouse to be soften her heart and restore our marriage thank you.
Praying for you brother, I’m in the same situation. My wife hearts been so hardened since Ive been following Christ .
I’m also in the same situation. I pray we openly get the love from God and the love from our spouse. In jesus name our marriage will be restored.
I'm also in the same situation. Thanks God because he use that situation and change me and I become a better man and father. When we are far from Jesus, our heart become so hard.
Hang on, your not alone. Praying God keeps your marriage together .
I pray for whatever is best for the both of you according to God.
Love the answer. God cannot be mocked or fooled. The intent of the heart is what matters most.
Ok, so basically I am just going to have to give it to God and do the best I can under my circumstances. I don't want a divorce, even though in the past and in my anger I did say I did. I know I have hurt my wife emotionally and physically due to my hard heart. Even though I was trying to have a relationship with God the whole time. So God, I give my marriage into your hands, please help me be patient and to follow your will.
You need a deliverance and truly look for God.
What you are saying is what my husband did and i want divorce. I just don't know rockk😅
Hi everyone, I also want to make this point. The Bible says to honor God in your marriage. The man has a role and the woman has a role and if you’re separated, you are not doing your role or spouse leaves another spouse. They’re not doing their role forgiven, you got a repent And get back with your spouse and stop being separated you don’t wanna die in that state of not doing your role in the marriage because you’re not honoring God folks people are turning and twisting this Bible just like Jesus said they would you are a true believer, and your spouse is a true believer Then you are bound to one another and if you divorced your spouse for a non-biblical reason just because you’re done you don’t love no more that person that divorces Their spouse will go to hell and it forces the other spouse to commit adultery, but they’re not in trouble that doesn’t give you grounds to get remarried. Do not get remarried. We are not under the Moses law. Jesus was reading a letter read it you can tell Jesus is reading a letter to his followers and then Jesus tells you, but I tell you anyone who divorces their wife or spouse, commits adultery, read your Bible people, please
My dad and stepmom were happily married for eighteen years. What ended the marriage is that she passed away. They never stepped for in a church. They also lived together four years before they got married. My aunt and uncle have been married 40+ years and have never stepped foot into a church. They also lived together before marriage. What these people have in common good conflict resolution. My mother left my dad and has never been able to hold a marriage together. She cannot resolve conflict.
“When people want to sin they get very creative“ So true.
Thank you, mark.
It's interesting to me how most men seem to try to keep their marriage together, and women look for reasons to get divorced. There seems to be a genuine denial of the authority of God in the hearts of men; and in women, a genuine denial of the authority of their husbands. This I see as the core issue that causes most of the trouble in marriage today.
Maybe the woman was getting abused and wanted to leave.
That is totally opposite of what I have seen as a pastor for nearly 20 years. I saw significantly more men wanting to leave the marriage and the women devastated.
A lot of women seek divorce due to the husband's unrepentant use of pornography and husbands expecting them to "just get over it". All that comes with the lacking physical intamacy or man's inability to be physically intimate with his wife as she is no longer enough to arouse him due to the variety and depravity he pursues, she is leftovers or tossed in the backseat of her own marriage. He can't support her through betrayal trauma as he doesnt comprehend and he is the source of her betrayal and all mental and sometimes physical/sexual abuse that stems from it.
My parents divorced. Let me tell you. It wounded me greatly. My father left. Father God never left me. Don't ever do this to your kids. If there is abuse, leave and get a restraining order.
Through infidelity and neglect of spouse, yes you can. Abuse is not love.
Good answer. Mark is right to look to the heart instead of attempting to distill a question like "When is it ok to divorce?" into some neat and tidy legal code. Clauses, loopholes, and technicalities are for the Tax Code, not the written Word of God.
When my marriage was in jeopardy and I was ready to walk out, I didn't seek an excuse or justification to get a divorce. I already had all the justification I needed. Instead, I sought to exhaust every reasonable avenue to save the marriage and to make divorce unnecessary. I didn't want to walk away from my marriage and regret it for the rest of my life.
I also made it clear that if there is no way to save my marriage, then I will regretfully dissolve the marriage. If it comes to that, I will recognize no doctrine that claims I am somehow condemned to celibacy for the rest of my life. It is the abuse of divorce and remarriage that Jesus condemned as adultery, not these things per se.
You are allowed to divorce for whatever reason however, you must remain unmarried or reconcile to your prodigal spouse. This is my current situation and I have been convicted to leave my spouse but remain unmarried. It is the road less traveled but I know God will give me the strength to endure ❤️
To summarize:
What God has put together, no one is allowed to break.
Problem is God is not putting some of these marriages together, man is.
@@tresfielder3148 MANY of them , He's not.
His first few sentences in this video are wrong. You are right that a covenant marriage is only ended by GOD, and any never married man who marries a never married woman is in covenant one flesh.
Fornication is not the same word as adultery in Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19. And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for FORNICATION, and shall marry another, committeth ADULTERY: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit ADULTERY. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Matthew 19:4-12 KJV
So nothing ends the one flesh covenant except for the death of the spouse. In those days the Jewish betrothal began the marriage, so divorce for fornication only applies to Jews like Joseph was going to DIVORCE Mary though she was really still a virgin- Thank you Father for sending your Son, Jesus Christ.
But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth ADULTERY against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth ADULTERY.
Mark 10:6-12 KJV (no exception)
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 KJV
Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; ADULTERY, FORNICATION, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
Galatians 5:19-21 KJV
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and ADULTERERS God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4 KJV
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: that no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 KJV
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
1 Corinthians 7:2, 10-11, 39 KJV
And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God. The law and the prophets were until John: since that time the kingdom of God is preached, and every man presseth into it. And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to fail. Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth ADULTERY: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth ADULTERY.
Luke 16:15-18 KJV
Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be DEAD, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an ADULTERESS: but if her husband be DEAD, she is free from that law; so that she is no ADULTERESS, though she be married to another man.
Romans 7:1-3 KJV
@@tresfielder3148 every one is God ordained.....that is why you are stuck...
@@philipbuckley759 Two satanists get married. Two men get married...ok. You said "every one." It appears you're stuck if you believe these marriages are ordained by God.
It’s ironic that we first fail as individuals, and that failure cascades into negative, disaster implications for the entire family.
What’s missing in Church teaching today is a clear understanding of Biblical marriage and God’s design for the man, woman and offspring. The Church and society should make it very difficult to get married (Bootcamp for wanna be spouses) and even more difficult to part ways.
Depends upon the circumstances
The state allows it
Even Jesus never condemned
The woman of samaria for
Having five husbands and
The sixth one in the unmarried
State!
Everyone uses this scripture passage to continue a lifestyle of sin. On the other parts of the gospel, when the woman who was caught in adultery was about to be stone, after addressing the judgmental crowd, she was brought to GOD JESUS and she told her go and sin no more.
The woman from Samaria though the scriptures never say any further conversation between her and GOD JESUS, got the hint, as GOD JESUS said firmly that she’s had five and the one she has at that moment, she was just living with. I’m pretty sure she got the hint..
Lastly, culture and or secular governments that is so anti Biblical does not dictatete the lifestyle of a true believer.
Personally being single the situation doesn't exist
However God has given us
Freewill
However in the case of Jesus
There is a time to lay down the law and a time not to as the
Situation dictates!
Thank you for the Message mark. I appreciate it.
probably the most discerning answer I have heard, rather than the legalistic parroting of scriptures that you often hear from teachers, with no regard for the trauma the rest of the family is sufffering from
Excellent answer 👏! ❤
I have been struggling so much about this. I actually called your church Pastor Mark, to talk with you or someone which I'd still like to.
You speak truth & that is what most pastors won't say or don't know. A hardened heart is something only God can changed. It's been a rough road. We hurt eachother, our children, our grandchildren & I am in so much pain about this 💔😢
Corinthians 7:10-11
10 But for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord. A wife must not leave her husband. 11 But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife.
**ONLY TWO OPTIONS...REMAIN SINGLE OR BE RECONCLED.
@@Glory.To.God.In.The.Highest So what is a man supposed to do if his wife abandons him and his sex drive is well above zero? Pray for a repentance or reconciliation that may never come? What if he isn't the patient kind? (See 1 Cor 7:9)
@@dh605x Hi Daniel...I totally understand this concern. However, God is able to help us ...we must not deny His power and trust Him.
Galatians 5 says:
16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.
18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.
19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,
21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
24 And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit
Brother, I am praying for you. And understand this if you are watching for Christ's return....He will not tarry... It wont be long... Keep strong in the Lord!
🙏Matthew 25
23 His lord said unto him, Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.
@@dh605x 1 Corinthians 7:8-11
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
***Remember, From the beginning God regards the married as "ONE FLESH"...let no man separate.***
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
Vs 9 is referring to the never married (Otherwise, there is contradictions to vs 10 & 11 or Luke 16:18, etc) and widows, who are allowed to remarry after death of spouse.
@@dh605x what would you say to a same sex couple....after all, nowhere, in the Bible is this sanctioned....
Amen
It all starts in the heart ❤️ 🙏
Rocking Sir !!!!!
My hubby left me after 28 years and now over 30 for a MAN. He won't divorce me and I can't afford one. I'm 71.
Sister stay strong. There will be no more pain in the presence of Jesus Christ. Stay read up on your scriptures to pull you through and having a loving relationship with him 24/7 and don’t let the past stray you from your future in heaven. It’s tough but your willpower and love for Christ will pay off you will have fulfillment here and most certainly in the Kingdom of God. Go in peace!
Yes you can, go to the library. There's forms you can fill out & file at the courthouse. The forms won't cost you a penny.
@@ginachasteen3615 that only works for two people who have no pot to piss in. If theres any assests to be divided you better get an attorney - which is lily why the guy won't divorce here cuz he doesn't want to divide their assets in half
What about when the spouse abandons the marriage, says the right things to suggest they don’t want to divorce but does absolutely nothing to build bridges and remains separated and this goes on month after after month? I’m approaching 9 months in a few days separated and it was not my will.
You are 100% right Pastor Mark. The mother of my children took everything in the house with the kids and refused to come back. She ultimately hardened her heart towards me because as you said, she hardened her heart towards God.
What did you do? Were you accountable?
Deny physical intimacy to hopefully encourage your spouse to divorce you or cheat on you. Not honor your marriage vows to drive your spouse crazy .
I assume this is a joke... haha good one! 😂
@@user-gn6iz7cf6s No, I've seen it.
Happen. There's never just one person that is evil and the other person's good.
I’m standing here for what I wish was the first time in my short marriage..scrolling through RUclips and now the Bible as well trying to find a fix for us. Trying to find a way to will myself to try for a little longer, truly feeling in my heart and 100% believing that he doesn’t want me to and thinking all the terrible things that have happened and been happening to me are efforts from him to get me to leave. I don’t understand why I don’t deserve to just be told if that’s what he wants. I don’t know why he’s not in love with me like I am him. Please pray for us.
Male here
Been there
I know what I have mishandled and done wrong
Phone calls not returned
Text messages unanswered
Paper written letters not acknowledged
Wish I could tell You more
Prayers for You ... 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Praying for you. My situation is opposite. The marriage was not from God. I did it anyway. He is financially irresponsible he is disrespectful to me and my parents. He hates that we are close he doesn’t take care of his kids and he hates that I help mine out. He has told me he wish I were dead and he hates me and he never wants to spend time with me But he doesn’t want to divorce. I pay all the bills and take care of everything and now I’m so torn because this subject is so divided that I can never be certain of the right thing to do. And my heart is hardened. I pray if you want your marriage to work that you aren’t going thru half the stuff I am. Praying for restoration for you and your spouse.
Some very interesting cases about manipulating circumstances to "look" innocent, or achieve corrupt objectives . However you never answered one single question here about if divorce and remarriage is permitted in Christian to Christian marriage, Christian to non Christian, or two non Christians, and for truly guilty and truly innocent parties. Not one question.
He only got it right that Christians argue, but he didn't preach the truth.
Fornication is not the same word as adultery in Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19. And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for FORNICATION, and shall marry another, committeth ADULTERY: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit ADULTERY. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Matthew 19:4-12 KJV
So nothing ends the one flesh covenant except for the death of the spouse. In those days the Jewish betrothal began the marriage, so divorce for fornication only applies to Jews like Joseph was going to DIVORCE Mary though she was really still a virgin- Thank you Father for sending your Son, Jesus Christ.
But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth ADULTERY against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth ADULTERY.
Mark 10:6-12 KJV (no exception)
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 KJV
Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; ADULTERY, FORNICATION, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
Galatians 5:19-21 KJV
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and ADULTERERS God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4 KJV
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: that no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 KJV
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
1 Corinthians 7:2, 10-11, 39 KJV
And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God. The law and the prophets were until John: since that time the kingdom of God is preached, and every man presseth into it. And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to fail. Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth ADULTERY: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth ADULTERY.
Luke 16:15-18 KJV
Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be DEAD, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an ADULTERESS: but if her husband be DEAD, she is free from that law; so that she is no ADULTERESS, though she be married to another man.
Romans 7:1-3 KJV
Thank you Pastor
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Thanks you Pastor. It's help me a lot. Still now I'm battling with my heart to divorce since 5 year ago for knowing my husband married with another woman, have a kid but still come every night to our bed. It's hurt me a lot and i don't know if I can still in this married. But, yes thank you for your answer.
I don't know what? Are you asking if polygamy is allowed? If so, polygamy is against the Word of God. You can't stay married with a man who married another women. Your husband comitted adultery against you. Whether you can remarry or not, I don't know.
I was married for 17 years and we have two teenage children. My wife is an alcoholic we didn’t vet each other thoroughly enough prior to marriage. When I confronted her about the alcoholism she/we did nothing although we both had full-time jobs. It was my responsibility to do the housework And pay the bills and do the laundry. I also had to pack lunches for the kids and take them to school. She would pick the kids up some of the time and make dinner most of the time when I confronted her about this she did nothing. In addition to the aforementioned mentioned things, She withheld sex, then any physical touch. Then she stopped asking how I was doing other than the very superficial inquiry. After 17 years I gave up. My finances are a wreck. The kids live with their mother because they don’t want to live with me. It seems they just went on without me and that I’m not needed. Of course, I’m angry at my wife from many things for the longest time, I thought that eventually she would come around now I have to face the consequences of my actions. I still struggle with whether I did the right thing.
Are you kidding? If your story is true go in peace! The enemy is the accuser & oppressor & twists the word of God for his benefits. Read Ephesians 6:12 to find out who you wrestle with.
Repent, forgive & move on! Many people don't fully understand what adultery or even death or forever means in scripture. They don't understand what is to become one flesh either. Also not every marriage is God's will but human's will. They said He hates divorce & of course who loves it? But it doesn't mean you are supposed to stay in it with the abusive and cruel behavior of your partner. Even Jesus taught on Matt 10:23 When you are persecuted in one place, flee to another...Also do not want them back after they slept with another man which says in Jeremiah as well.
Deuteronomy 24:2-4
and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man,...
then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD. Do not bring sin upon the land the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance.
Proverbs 6:16-19
Easy-to-Read Version
What the Lord Hates
16 The Lord hates these seven things:
17 eyes that show pride,
tongues that tell lies,
hands that kill innocent people,
18 hearts that plan evil things to do,
feet that run to do evil,
19 witnesses in court who tell lies,
and anyone who causes family members to fight.
If it is a consensus divorce, go in peace. There is nothing unrighteous about it.
Yall been married 17 years theb u say yall did not properly vet each other out prior to marriage. Thats not a good excuse.
Divorce stay single or reconcile with your wife and remarry her
@@user-fi7yh3qz4k yep. We were both dumb. I
Same for me almost except we don’t have kids together. They are grown. But I am you and he is your wife. Except I’m still stuck. He doesn’t want to divorce and I do. I’m tired of taking care of him and he not doing anything. On top of him being disrespectful to my parents and me and just pure mean to me for no reason other than he has issues with his mom he won’t fix. So he takes it out on me.
What if you was married at 18 and didnt know GOD ? Got divorced and remarried and found JESUS 25-30 years later and now know that divorce is not a option ever ! Are you still in sin even tho u didnt know JESUS until you got older in life
one you are saved and repent the bible says old thiings pass away and all thing are new.
Someone once said it is fine to divorce if your dealing with one of the three As- adultery, abuse, or addiction. Biblically though I think abuse or adultery are sound reasons.
May I ask this - is it mentioned biblically or implied in christian marriage vow that married couples should "stay for the children"? I'm not looking for qualifiers to divorce, I just want to question the above mentioned reason to stay in a marriage, if it is biblical. Christians like to throw that at me instead of addressing the issues.
If a women divorced because a man was controlling them remarried a Christian man, then is the adultery permanent or does it break the bind?
I had a contract a few years ago that was getting government assistance and such from the Affirmative action people and basically I was assigned to work under a woman as part of my eternal punishment in this life for being a white Caucasian male. The woman started investigating my habits and was concerned if I was doing something that might have been "non christian". She was investigating me to see if I was obeying religious standards and all. But this woman was not only divorced and remarried but by her own words she claimed to be an adulterer and if I am to be honest working under this sinful, disgusting woman was far worse than anything I was doing. I don't know the full details of the company but it was not only a religious investigation but at times it was harassment from the people and from this woman. And eventually they came up with something and cancelled the contract. But it is incredibly difficult, frustrating and aggravating to have to report to some woman who was violating core principles of religion and yet had power over me and then pushed me out - apparently on religious technicalities. Even though she and the company were harassing me continuously, I never said a word. It was just amazing to have company personnel treating me like scum. I might have filed a Lawsuit but I was under contract and the contract was up for renewal anyway. And I'm very happy it was over.... except for the money which I always need. Religious persecution is horrible. In part because you don't expect it.
Yes if the person was unfaithful according to scripture 💯
Adultery & abandonment
I’m dealing with this now. My husband & I have been separated since last year. We have a two year old and one child on the way. When we separated it was because my husband was being unfaithful. He now lives with another women and refuses to see our son. He hasn’t filed for divorce but I wonder if I should file because he’s already started a new life still being married to me. I continue to ask the lord what to do because ultimately I want to do what he has called me to do. However it’s difficult to be in this position especially because his mistress is on social media boasting about there happiness. I’m tired of being dragged all over the place.
You can leave but have to remain single while he is alive. Romans 7:2-3, 1 Cor 7:10-11. Marriage is to death do you part not divorce do you part.
Divorce and if you ever meet someone new, go for it. Why should you remain single forever because your husband is adulterous ? Why would God punish you to be lonely when it's not your fault!!
Go head get your divorce. He left and committed adultery . Live your life and move on the best way you can. You don’t have to beg someone to do right. He broke the covenant, not you.
@@darthjedi99he already parted ways. Makes no sense. You can’t stay married to someone not married to you. the covenant has been broken already. She can remarry
@@darthjedi99 yea that's incorrect, he committed adultery, that's it, she is free from the covenant of marriage. what your talking about is if two believers just decide to separate, then if they remarry it becomes adultery. Please dont ever say this to anyone. Its incorrect biblical doctrine and how horrible it would be for someone to live a life alone because they were the victim and took your advice
No!
Was married 8 years and as a husband I loved being just that but unfortunately covid came time got hard and my darling wife had an affair through some online guy she met some how and it's been 3 years apart now but honestly I still grieve that loss of my marriage
Wow that is very good.
The question I don't really think is about divorce...it's a question of re-marriage. Thoughts?
Hey I lost contact with my spouse because she wants a divorce. There is almost nothing I can do about it to stop her. I have not seen or heard from her for 6 months. Sometimes I feel tempted when I see another lovely women but I try to remain faithful to God and not action it nor do I take any photos with them as much as possible. Does that mean I am still committing adultery at heart even if I try not to action my feelings after not having contact with my spouse for so long.
Male here
We are wired as men to look, see, touch
You cannot deny or stop that DNA
However You can not look the second or third time ... ________
Paul says to renew your mind
Have a New Mindset
Practice """casting""" out lustful thoughts thru prayer
Speak against Satan in prayer when these thoughts and women cross your path
Practice speaking and praying that these women don't belong to you
Whether they are single, dating, married
Hope this helps
Blessings to You on Your Journey ✡️ 🙏 ✨️
Adultery is not always about sex. Adultery also includes lying, betrayal, deception, manipulation, coercion, selfishness and abuse.
Is that really other reasons or did u just make this up to get divorced
You better look up the definition of adultery. Then look it up in the Bible. I really don't care what the Westminster definition is otherwise, show me the person and I will show you the crime.
.... wow
My ex-wife literally became a lesbian and got remarried to a lesbian woman. I had to divorce her due to the fact that there really was no repentance.
Your other points that you mentioned is definitely NOT a cause for divorce.
GOD JESUS in Matthew 5:32,19:9, He mentioned sexual immorality due to the fact that a married person can get involved in the physical act of homosexuality/lesbianism,sexual act with the opposite that’s either married or not married. And also during a betrothal period before consummation act of the marriage, one can divorce him/her if there was already sexual immorality behind the scene that was found out.
All the above , my soon to be EX-WIFE
My spouse has hardened her heart to try and work on our marriage and is filing for divorce. What should I do as a Christian man. I’ve tried everything and offered counseling and she refuses to do it all.
🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I feel you brother, mine is the exact Same,she even Swears at me now if I so much as bring it up or ask her for help finding work since I only have a seasonal job,we have 2 kids as well,now I will say a lot of it is my own fault,and it feels like I'm being punished by god,I'm facing Homelessness as well,I even considered Suicide,but I'm terrified of going to Hell since it's murder of your own Self. So I've no idea what to do,so I definitely feel where you are at,shame we couldn't connect as I'm on Vancouver Island BC here
I feel for you buddy, I went through something similar. Today it's been 6 years since my wife left and filed for divorce, we were married for over 20 years with 3 kids. It takes a lot of time, but things get easier. Don't rush things, take steps to leave the door open for her to return, but in the mean time take care of yourself. If she doesn't come back then assume that God removed her from your life for a reason. Go and seek out his plan for you...
Why do people keep asking that question when they already know what the answer is. God cannot and will not change his mind.
I still don’t know the answer. Honestly. Some say financial and adultery others say only adultery then others say abuse as well. How do we really know the answer. I honestly don’t know the answer and I try not to let my emotions guide my decision. But after trying to figure this out my emotions might get the win
My husband did adultry after one week of my marriage and I found so many girlfriends. Should I have him divorce.he spoke a lie so many times he broke my heart . M too much depressed
What do u do when the spouse leaves & comes out bi?
If it is adulterous to marry a divorcee is such a marriage even recognized as a true covenant? If you leave that relationship, then, are you now considered a divorcee too and unable to marry? Please help me understand, this is not clear in scripture.
Please advise me,
I was guilted and manipulated into a civil wedding of signing papers after only 2 weeks of meeting a woman...
I was told that I would embrass her to her expecting family if I didn't marry her, and guilted that I didn't want to marry her because she was garbage because she's from a poor family, which that statement made me feel horrible, I expressed multiple times before that I didn't want to marry and that I wasn't ready and we needed to wait and that it it was God's will that one day we would...
She was impatient and said she wanted to die when I tried to back out and caused me to feel guilty,
The day of the paper signing in The mayor's office I felt deep sorrow and regret, and I cried tears of sarrow and regret not happiness while I said vows...
That night at the hotel we had sex and it felt so Empty no romance, no connection (she was not a virgin and neither was I due to past relationship before submitting to Christ).
What followed was a lack of love and affection given from her , she refuses to submit to me or let me lead but claimed to be a Christian, she belittled me with words daily, hit me in the face and body out of anger at times and threatend divorce weekly over every small disagreement and she always spoke of regrets...
I knew from the beginning she didn't truly love me or didn't know how too, when I prayed to God for a sign if I should marry her I felt deep sadness. Which I Now Realize was a sign that it wasn't God's will.
We are now seperated after 4 years of verbal abuse and constant battles ...I plead with her to not say divorce as christian for years but she never stopped expressing her desire for divorce and regret....and so finally I gave up resisting her remarks for divorce. ....
Am I bound to that marriage in God's eye's... Would being decieved and guilted into signing civil paperwork count as a valid covenant in God's eye's...
Will I go to hell if I find true Love and remarry???
Not if they never marry. So I choose not to marry.
Me too. 55 and never married. I would not want to be trapped in a bad situation.
How do you reconcile with someone who disgusts you. Her feminism has destroyed this house. Children pulled away from God.
what if your hardness of heart stems from the behavior of your spouse?
I literally was growing cold just to not react anymore. Had a good sit down with an advisor from my church who helped me see, there are obligations by both husbands and wives.... My take away was my hard heart was stemming from emotional and other abandonment... So maybe look into what exactly is causing you to grow cold and go from there with a trusted biblical perspective.
God bless and good luck to you
@@MrsSmith-yy1nt my husband has narcissistic personality disorder. Gray rocking him is a way to buffer narcissistic rage. I feel nothing for my spouse emotionally except exhaustion.
@@lisabehrens6758 I prayed for wisdom and strength and have myself permission to talk about separating. Hopefully you find whatever you need to give yourself permission to stay or go.
Blame jacket is out of fashion loooong time ago fear for Hod and repentance is key
I firmly believe that spouses who do horrible things to the other is because their heart is not in the right place. This was exactly my ex-husband. He was a dutiful husband and father YET was very secretive when it came to our finances. Then he molested our daughter.
I am sorry. Hopefully you separated and will remain unmarried, forgive as you are forgiven by the Lord and not get into any other relationship. If your first marriage was his first marriage, it is only ended by death of one of the spouses or the rapture since there is no marriage in heaven.
why did you not seek a devout Christian man?
@@seawater1322 What makes you think that question is appropriate? It's not her fault her ex-husband violated the terms of the marital covenant.
@@dh605x No, it’s not her fault that her ex husband is an evildoer. But we also reap what we sow. What choices in our free will we make get us to these situations in the first place. While she has no control over his evil-doing, she always had control of her own decision-making that which lead to the cleaving to an evil-doer.
@@Momofukudoodoowindu If your assertion is that she is stuck with him no matter how he behaves, then you are dead wrong. Marriage is not a suicide pact, and divorce exists for this very reason. This woman does not need any condemnation from you people simply because that scoundrel she married did an excellent job of hiding his true nature.
Marriage is to death do you part not divorce do you part. Romans 7:2-3, 1 Cor 7:10-11, Mark 10:10-11, Luke 16:18, MAtt 5:32,Matt 19:9.
It is the intention but not the reality. There are scriptural reasons for divorce: Abandonment by a non believing spouse and Adultery by the other spouse.
Stuff like the things said in this comment section are why a lot of young people today don’t want to get married.
Matthew 19-9
The term Christ Jesus used was "fornication."
He was referring to the Jewish custom of the betrothal or engagement period.
He didn't use the term adultery because He was not speaking about marriage.
There's no justification for divorce.
You can not remarry another.
Be reconciled or stay single praying for your ex spouse salvation if they divorced or walked out.
A pastor must be the husband of one wife.
All Glory to Almighty God in Christ Jesus' name through the Power of His Holy Spirit Amen
Hi, I’m 19 years old and I’m a virgin. I grew up in an physically abusive household to which I hold no contact to my parents and I pray for them from afar.
I don’t want to end up in a abusive marriage like them. I’m scared that the future husband I submit too might hurt me no matter what, and God will be mad at me if I don’t do everything he says. What do I do?
I am surprised that you are already thinking about this question at a young age.
We obey our husband as to the Lord. I did not realize that and for years suffered physical and emotional abuse. Like you, I did not want to repeat my parents' mistakes. Even thought I should not ever marry. You are wise to look to the future and maybe even get counseling from a pastor who knows you. Blessings to you.
God did Not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and a sound mind. Trust in the Lord and He will guide your steps. Have a strong relationship with God. He will never lead you wrong. He is a good Father. God Bless you ❤
A good source to help other than the Bible, No Greater Joy ministry they have great teachings on what you're looking for 😊
Amen created a situation and that is also their choice they choose to do bad things all by themselves the blame jacket is so lame
I don't believe that our loving God would ever want any of us, His children, to be in a marriage with someone who hurts us. He feels what we feel. If you are being abused, if you are suffering, getting that divorce is probably a saving grace... but you have to know that divorce is a sacrament. God is not bound by his sacraments, but he is bound to them, and no matter what your legal status is regarding your spouse, that sacrament does not go away. It's the same for any sacrament. Divorce and live separately, but carry your cross and understand that your legal status does not override your vows that you made before God. You cannot place man's law on the same throne as God's law. You married your spouse, and though you have every right to leave them, to remarry (unless the reason for the divorce is death or fornication) would be a sin.
I think people divorce too easily.
I watched a brief video in which you mentioned that single individuals are perceived as selfish for not choosing marriage. Nevertheless, it's worth noting that approximately 80% of divorces are instigated by women, and divorce rates exceed 50%. Given the significant social stigma attached to divorce in some cases, one might question the rationale behind pursuing marriage at all.
What is adultery though... my ex decided it all and she was the truly unfaithful party in our relationship multiple times over..... I guarantee I'm not blameless, nor am I even close to being worthy of anything I have been blessed with, let alone even the hurt I've gone through (it should have been so much worse), but I guess I just don't know how it's fitting or makes sense since I didn't initiate it I never wanted it, but I am glad it happened because the woman I'm with now and going to marry is very good and it's amazing it's like night and day to see what it's like when somebody actually cares about you..... I mean they were married in a courthouse and reset in the name of God but it wasn't in church.... I guess most of all I just struggling with that and the fact that my son suffers because of it...... sorry this wasn't meant to get this deep and in-depth and everything but it's something I've been fighting with myself about for quite a while, you don't have to answer I don't really expect one but if you do it'll be appreciated if not I won't never would because well let's just say your sermons and teaching and stuff have done me more good than I could ever tell you... Thank you! Ahhh so I'm not as bad as I think since it wasn't me.... not that I'm blameless, but I'm not the evil and sinner I thought I was....
@Daniel Welch huh well I'll be, thank you, much appreciated!!
"I'm not the evil and sinner I thought I was..." Dude you are right, because you are worse than you think. Be humble and just own it. Jesus forgives you anyhow. Pray for your ex.
It doesn't matter if you get married in a church or not. God makes a marriage one flesh whether or not both are believers in Jesus Christ or not. God forgives us of our adultery or fornication when we confess and forsake it to go and sin no more. One man + one woman = marriage covenant until death do you part. Sometimes people are able to reconcile after years of being divorced even, but you can't remarry or you become an adulterer yourself.
Fornication is not the same word as adultery in Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19. And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for FORNICATION, and shall marry another, committeth ADULTERY: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit ADULTERY. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Matthew 19:4-12 KJV
So nothing ends the one flesh covenant except for the death of the spouse. In those days the Jewish betrothal began the marriage, so divorce for fornication only applies to Jews like Joseph was going to DIVORCE Mary though she was really still a virgin- Thank you Father for sending your Son, Jesus Christ.
But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth ADULTERY against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth ADULTERY.
Mark 10:6-12 KJV (no exception)
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 KJV
Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; ADULTERY, FORNICATION, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
Galatians 5:19-21 KJV
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and ADULTERERS God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4 KJV
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: that no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 KJV
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
1 Corinthians 7:2, 10-11, 39 KJV
And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God. The law and the prophets were until John: since that time the kingdom of God is preached, and every man presseth into it. And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to fail. Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth ADULTERY: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth ADULTERY.
Luke 16:15-18 KJV
Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be DEAD, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an ADULTERESS: but if her husband be DEAD, she is free from that law; so that she is no ADULTERESS, though she be married to another man.
Romans 7:1-3 KJV
God hates divorce. God requires forgiveness and returning agape love for hate. This is Christianity 101. Consider this.... if an enemy does something against im commanded by Christ to forgive like God forgives me. I pray that when you teach last days worldly doctrine that you consider teaching with it that a christian spouse who is dealing with a hard hearted spouse that you show them them many scriptures that teach we have power over the principalities and powers that want to destroy what God has put together until death. Maybe start with memorizing 1 Corinthians 13...then Ephesians 5 and 6. Then meditate on these lights from God on how to do battle. Then to break those strongholds which were created by giving place to the devil... you fast and pray that God will deliver you from those oppression. Then you confess to the church the sins that Satan holds over you... giving no details but that the body can come together to bring true spiritual freedom into your life. Meanwhile, if the spouse is still bitter and angry enough to continue the divorce you let God take over knowing that His will is to restore and bless. As you focus on pleasing the Lord, and as you continue covering your divorced spouse with fasting and praying... just like God changed me... an adulterous angry drinking man to see the love of God through my beautiful woman of God wife who faithful prayed for me. God changes hearts. That's how people come to Christ. We are told that prayer allows God's forces to intervine in those battles Malichi 2 tells us what God thinks about His holy institution.. why did He make them one... He seeks Godly offspring. When the heresy of divorce is taught by church leaders they cause God's holy institution to be profaned. They cause the children to be cursed Malichi 2. This is why divorce is over 50% in the church and the children seeing the unchristian actions of the professing Christian parents walk away from the bride of Christ. Romans 7... till death... to show we don't come to christ unless we die to this world and our desires. If someone becomes a Christian and still walks in the flesh they haven't died to this world and the flesh. If a couple gets married and says the vows of to dealth do us part then has the meal...they have just made a vow to every one and God thus creating a blood covenant vow. As a pastor i know you know the consequences for breaking that vow. Ecclesiastes 5. Please don't dismiss these important truths. If you think God has changed His mind and that He'll understand then just look at the results of this false teaching has caused. I hope you do some research on the wird poenia. So that scripture doesn't get violated and Jesus command to the pharasees who were also finding legal ways to live like the world... the command is he says let no one separate.... maybe poenia is what is spelled out in Leviticus... no homosexual marriages and no incestuous marriages. Now it makes sense. Dealth in marriage is the only way another can remarry. Otherwise is adultery. When a pastor has built his ministry on this teaching for so long it usually means he is compromised in this area. Sorry about the book long text. Just want to testify to the power and promises of what God's Word and did for me, and i didnt deserve His mercy. My church showed my wife how to battle for the heart of her husband. I am saved my children and coworkers saw the miracle. She left me three years ago in divorce. Now I see... Satan hates what God loves. God is allowing me to grow in faith like my wife and trust Him. And... that even a great woman of God or a great preacher can fall. Thank God for His grace and mercies. She will come home to me and we will tell others that God is most glorified when we tell of His power to change heats and restore marriages... the model of Christ fullness.
It says fornication not adultery and a married person cannot commit fornication
divorce is not the issue, the options are to reconcile or remain unmarried....and if one can not reconcile, one can remain unmarried...
Or marry again if the divorce was the other spouse abandoning a believer or committing adultery.
@@sfs1167 neither one constitutes a Biblical reason, for remarriage....
Read matthew 19 together hub and wifes
There is no way the Holy Spirit would lead us to remarry an live in adultery. To often we do what is in our hearts and say it was of God when it is of us living in the flesh. Whether married to a believer or not, if separated or divorce we are to remain so. Many divorcees wrestle with this thought because they know it is wrong. We can't try to justify ourselves.
So if I divorce my second husband, then that will be my get out of hell card? Why isn’t this taught in church? I’m done with church😡
Hi need help I didn't no when to do....my husband fell in love with my daughter... I had 2 girls be for we got married he fall in love with the older one when they built our home together people started to see things she was 16yr old he told me on mother's day then he told me ( I was put away) I have never understood this year's go on , me and my 5 kids moved out off the house oldest daughter move away ( we had 5 kids together) now our middle girl is getting married and he ( husband) want to bring her to the wedding....be we are still married we don't live together but I still love him so much and I don't no what to do , she will be at the wedding and I so don't want to be there. And I don't understand about divorce, I do not want a divorce...please can I get some help.
I don't mean he want to bring my daughter to the wedding he wants to bring his girl friend and I'm not happy about it.. we are still married.
PLEASE HELP
Was he sleeping with your daughter? Or did he hit him at all? If so, then adultery and abuse caused by the spouse is a valid reason for divorce
Hi he did not sleep with her he told me on a mother day he was in love with her , we have be separated for years .
Guys I sense strongly God wants me to divorce but I’m told otherwise
Can you please the Lords Perfect Will be done?
Thanks so much
same God kept telling me he would get me out of Egypt i would advise to seek God personally cause everybody will say something God created the law and the bible is the lae only him can advocate and give u a freedom letter depending on your situation
If you are currently married to a divorced person whose first spouse is still alive, you have been committing adultery against God. God hates divorce- Malachi 2 of the first marriage for both people, so if this IS your covenant marriage, God does not want you to divorce. The devil does. What does God say?
Fornication is not the same word as adultery in Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19. And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for FORNICATION, and shall marry another, committeth ADULTERY: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit ADULTERY. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Matthew 19:4-12 KJV
So nothing ends the one flesh covenant except for the death of the spouse. In those days the Jewish betrothal began the marriage, so divorce for fornication only applies to Jews like Joseph was going to DIVORCE Mary though she was really still a virgin- Thank you Father for sending your Son, Jesus Christ.
But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth ADULTERY against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth ADULTERY.
Mark 10:6-12 KJV (no exception)
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 KJV
Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; ADULTERY, FORNICATION, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
Galatians 5:19-21 KJV
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and ADULTERERS God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4 KJV
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: that no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 KJV
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
1 Corinthians 7:2, 10-11, 39 KJV
And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God. The law and the prophets were until John: since that time the kingdom of God is preached, and every man presseth into it. And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to fail. Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth ADULTERY: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth ADULTERY.
Luke 16:15-18 KJV
Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be DEAD, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an ADULTERESS: but if her husband be DEAD, she is free from that law; so that she is no ADULTERESS, though she be married to another man.
Romans 7:1-3 KJV
If either of you have divorced and remarried, and either of the 'ex' spouses are living, then you are in adultery. This is a sin that leads to death.
(1 Corinthians 6:9-10) You must repent which means to stop the sin and ask for forgiveness. I was remarried for 32 years before I learned that I had been in adultery. I have repented and am legally divorced from the second "marriage". Please feel free to ask any questions.
You can only divorce if you have biblical grounds. If you are doing it because you want to trade spouses, God is not OK with that. What is going on in your marriage and are you trying to work on it at all? God will not tell you to divorce if your spouse is honoring your marriage. My ex was deceived and thought God told him to divorce me even though I was faithful and never did him wrong. He also had sexual immorality going on in his life for many years and thought I wasn't good enough for him...
@@em77775 There are no "biblical grounds" for divorce found in the bible. God's Word does allow separation...
1 Corinthians 7:10-11
10 But for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord. A wife must not leave her husband. 11 But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife.
**ONLY TWO OPTIONS...REMAIN SINGLE OR BE RECONCILED.
Mark 10:10-12
10 Later, when he was alone with his disciples in the house, they brought up the subject again. 11 He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits ADULTERY against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits ADULTERY.”
Luke 16:18
18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth ADULTERY: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth ADULTERY.
Romans 7:1-3
7 Now, dear brothers and sisters-you who are familiar with the law-don’t you know that the law applies only while a person is living? 2 For example, when a woman marries, the law binds her to her husband as long as he is alive. But if he dies, the laws of marriage no longer apply to her. 3 So while her husband is alive, she would be committing ADULTERY if she married another man. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law and does not commit adultery when she remarries.
***ONLY DEATH ENDS THE MARRIAGE COVENANT
Third:
WHAT THE LORD SAYS IS THE CONSEQUENCE OF REMARRIAGE
( with still living spouse)
Proverbs 14:12
12 There is a path before each person that seems right, but it ends in death.
Revelation 21:8
8 “But cowards, unbelievers, the corrupt, murderers, the immoral, those who practice witchcraft, idol worshipers, and all liars-their fate is in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.”
James 2:19
19 Thou believest that there is one God; thou doest well: the devils also believe, and tremble.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10
9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
Divorce is a golden ticket 🎫 for remarriage. It’s never just about leaving, it’s about opening new doors, and like Mark said, some people get creative so as to pass the blame onto their spouse so they feel justified when they start sleeping with their new partner.
Remarriage IS adultery when one’s spouse is still living.
Luke 16:18
Mark 10:11-12
Romans 7:3
1 Cor. 6:9-10
The exception clause in Matt. 19:9 is regarding divorce only, NOT remarriage. The pharisees question was regarding divorce, not remarriage.
Further, Jesus was answering their question in response to Moses’s law, not God’s law. Moses made the law because of hard hearts. God never approved that, and it was not so from the beginning.
Mark and Luke specifically state remarriage is adultery. The apostle Paul confirms this in. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11.
Remarriage is the opposite of what God wanted in the case of the Israelites and Hosea and Gomer.
The church teaches that remarriage is justified after infidelity but that is not so. Remarriage is pursued in order to appease one’s own desires. Itching ears twist the scripture (Matt. 19:9) in order to serve self.
Paul was not speaking for himself when he stated that one is bound until death 1 Cor. 7:39.
Reconciliation is what God desires. That is what true forgiveness is.
I adultery breaks the marriage covenant as some pastors suggest using Matt. 5 and Matt. 9 as such, then why did the Scriptures say to Herod that its unlawful for you to have your brother Phillip wife. Divorce remarriage adultery and incest was committed. I know that I wouldn't want Herodias back if I was Phillip but sex outside of the covenant marriage doesn't break the one flesh covenant. Jesus said, what God has joined together man isn't to separate... meaning divorce. If God said it then man can do nothing. Death only desolves the covenant union. Jesus would never agree with the opinion of mankind, meaning to two schools of thought on divorce and remarriage according to Jewish law. Jesus took marriage back to the Father's original design because Jesus only says what He has heard His Father say. This sin alone has sent millions upon millions of souls to hell because no one can be saved and live in sin 24 hrs. 7 days a week.
Correction...If adultery breaks the marriage covenant....
@@when943 adultery does not break the marriage covenant. Only death does. Herod and Herodias were living in a state of adultery. They needed to dissolve their adulterous union.
Remarriage, while your first spouse lives is adultery.
No! God never ordained divorce. Jesus said that Moses gave you divorce because of the hardness of your hearts.
Read that scriptute agsin it says fornication not adultry.
i divorced we went our seperate ways i remmaried got a good family she does to now to divorce again is not the answer i just made my remmariage dedicated to God its all i can do to divorce woulld destroy the family i love
You living in continous sin. People that remarry will always deny the truth of Scripture.
@@grant2149 can you provide scriptures in the Bible where it say you in a continuous sin?
@@Ghost88831 First of all anything in the 10 caommandments is sin.
Adultery is one of them Exodus 20.
Repentence means Stop the sin every sexual act outside "Divorve" is a continous sin NO REPENTENCE THERE.
IF you steal you repent you dont go stealing next Day. Repentence.
No Fornicator or Adulterer will Inherit the kingdom of God. Do you think God will condemn someone if it was Not continous sin.Once Again Repentence means stop the sin.1 Corint. 6 vers 9 to 11.
More Scripture Hebrews 13: 4
Romans 7 vers 2,3
Says clearly if you live with another man shall be adultery. Unless spouse dead. That is basic continous NOT Repenting every sexual Act.
If you need much more clarity
Listen yo Dr Joseph Webb,Dr Mike Gorrie ,Stephen Wilcox,David Pawson,
Pastor Login Baptist Church,Gino Jennigs and many more.
Thry break down ALL the scriptures why it is CONTINOUS SIN. I cant even remember all.
From these people have 50 plus years knowing studying Scripture. They prob 70's already already. As you see from them have doctorates in Scripture highest knowing of Scripture.
So more than likely you in continued adultery for proof. Believe it or Not.
Cant debate if you deny Scripture
Go watch vids.
I rest my case.
@@Ghost88831 One continues in sin only if they divorced for none biblical reasons like the other cheated or abandoned by an unbelieving spouse I think
@@grant2149You are right Grant. Both of them going on to remarry after divorce is ongoing adultery for both of them. God does not forgive those who won't stop committing adultery.
Fornication is not the same word as adultery in Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19. And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for FORNICATION, and shall marry another, committeth ADULTERY: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit ADULTERY. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Matthew 19:4-12 KJV
So nothing ends the one flesh covenant except for the death of the spouse. In those days the Jewish betrothal began the marriage, so divorce for fornication only applies to Jews like Joseph was going to DIVORCE Mary though she was really still a virgin- Thank you Father for sending your Son, Jesus Christ.
But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth ADULTERY against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth ADULTERY.
Mark 10:6-12 KJV (no exception)
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 KJV
Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; ADULTERY, FORNICATION, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
Galatians 5:19-21 KJV
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and ADULTERERS God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4 KJV
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: that no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 KJV
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
1 Corinthians 7:2, 10-11, 39 KJV
And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God. The law and the prophets were until John: since that time the kingdom of God is preached, and every man presseth into it. And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to fail. Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth ADULTERY: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth ADULTERY.
Luke 16:15-18 KJV
Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be DEAD, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an ADULTERESS: but if her husband be DEAD, she is free from that law; so that she is no ADULTERESS, though she be married to another man.
Romans 7:1-3 KJV
Thank God I'm not a Christian or Catholic so that I would need you to validate whether I can get divorced or not.
What about remarriage after divorce for the christian?
the Bible does not provide, for this...
@@philipbuckley759 It doesn't need to as it was already happening. If a person was scripturally divorced, remarriage was assumed to take place.
Divorce? 1 Corinthians 7.
Remarry? NEVER.
How does God feel about ending a relationship before your married ?
God approves of ending a relationship before you are married especially if you are fornicating (premarital sex) so that you can confess your sins to God and ask to be forgiven by Jesus Christ. Once you are born again, God only wants you to marry a true believer, but if you read 1 Corinthians 7, in the present times (end times) it's best not to get married.
Adultery does not end the one flesh covenant only death. Separation is biblical but not divorce and remarriage. Fornication is not the same word as adultery in Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19. And he (JESUS) answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for FORNICATION, and shall marry another, committeth ADULTERY: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit ADULTERY. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Matthew 19:4-12 KJV
So nothing ends the one flesh covenant except for the death of the spouse. In those days the Jewish betrothal began the marriage, so divorce for fornication only applies to Jews like Joseph was going to DIVORCE Mary though she was really still a virgin- Thank you Father for sending your Son, Jesus Christ.
But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth ADULTERY against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth ADULTERY.
Mark 10:6-12 KJV (no exception)
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 KJV
Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; ADULTERY, FORNICATION, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
Galatians 5:19-21 KJV
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and ADULTERERS God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4 KJV
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: that no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 KJV
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
1 Corinthians 7:2, 10-11, 39 KJV
And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God. The law and the prophets were until John: since that time the kingdom of God is preached, and every man presseth into it. And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to fail. Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth ADULTERY: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth ADULTERY.
Luke 16:15-18 KJV
Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be DEAD, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an ADULTERESS: but if her husband be DEAD, she is free from that law; so that she is no ADULTERESS, though she be married to another man.
Romans 7:1-3 KJV
100% correct! Study this and ask the Lord for understanding! It is a Salvation issue.
God bless you my sister/brother in Christ, may He see your witness as pleasing and bless you with energy and longevity to continue to spread the gospel in bold righteousness. Amen
So half the world is being taught the wrong thing. This is so confusing. Was taught adultery is grounds for divorce and also able to remarry. So now I go to hell because of what I was taught and misunderstanding/misinterpreting the passages????? I feel like what’s the purpose at this point cuz everyone teaches something different that they say is from the same bible. But yet all these bibles word it differently. I’m so lost
God hates divorce. If I read scripture correctly if your marriage ended in adultry, you should not remarry and thus become a bride of Christ. I lefft my husband at 23, but we both were guilty of infedility. He remmarried, I never did. WHat is interesting is I hadnt read the bible at 19 when I married. I just knew deep seeded in my heart, this was a one time deal. I took vows in his house under his word, I never forgot that. But then In ROmans chapter 8 God wants me to forgive myself of things he has forgiven. You just asked to to climb mt everest barefooted. I don't even have friendships or relationships of any kind anymoree because of my shame. I just humble myself repent and cry and wait for my judgement
We are bound to our covenant spouse until death (1 Cor. 7:39).
NOTHING breaks the covenant but DEATH.
Remarriage is adultery while our covenant spouse lives (Luke 16:18, Mark 10:11-12).
The Matthew “clause” refers strictly to divorce, not remarriage.
There is no such thing as remarriage for the “innocent party.”
The “innocent party” view does not harmonize with 1 Cor. 7:39
Jesus did not permit divorce, because God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and because it was not so from the beginning (Matt. 19:8; Mark 10:6).
We cannot separate what God has joined together (Matt. 19:6; Mark 10:9).
The linchpin to understanding the “exception clause” is understanding the AUDIENCE of Matthew. Matthew’s audience was Jewish. We are Christians. The exception clause does not apply to Christians. The old law has been done away with.
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. However, the wife, in the above scriptures, is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews (that Jesus was speaking to) were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39.
Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel.
The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death.
The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. Christ's death on the cross caused the Jews to become dead to the law of Moses, so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the ordinances of law of Moses as justification, over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the ordinances of the law is no longer possible, for Israel, and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15.
Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife.
Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned, by an unbelieving spouse, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving those who are abandoned permission to remarry, do not understand the command that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh, due to one's unbelief, puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, and himself, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command to verses 10-14 in verse 15.
Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16.
The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions.
The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24.
Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans, and likewise Luke to evangelize the Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
I think if there is Abuse then yess you can leave. Especially if it’s hurting kids!!!
To bad Jesus disagrees.
So far I believe there’s nothing in the Bible saying you can leave because of abuse moving away yes so said person don’t harm you yes. I don’t know I have to look into it more abuse might be a form of abandonment I don’t know
@@lukemadasz1186 he doesn’t…. Read your Bible please.
"I think..." "I feel..."
No you "Think" wrong. Your opinion is based on emotion. Yes SEPERATION get to safety call cops
and stay seperated if it has to be so. But Nowhere in Scripture is it biblical for divorce.
Hi everyone once again we are not under Moses law once again Jesus was reading a letter to his followers. Please listen Romans, chapter 7 Brothers and sisters all of you Under understand the law of Moses so surely you know what the law rules only while they are alive for example, a woman must stay married to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is free from that law of marriage, but if she marries another man while her husband is still alive. The law says she is guilty of adultery, but if her husband dies, she is free from that marriage. Then, if she marries another man, she is not guilty of adultery. We are not Moses Jesus was reading a letter. The only grounds for divorce. is sexual relations and if you get divorced for that reason, then the Bible says for you and your spouse to stay unmarried or seek to reconcile the only way you can marry somebody else is if your spouse dies or if your spouse is a unbeliever and then you let them leave you and divorce you so this preacher here is absolutely wrong when he’s talking about Moses
Let me ask you this picture, what if hes never cheated on her but is Abusive to her? Just uses her as a Sex toy, Maid and a Punching Bag? And his Drunk Way To Vent and Take out His terrible day on her??. Would you think that God would want her to Stay with this Animal just because he's never Cheated?
separate or divorce, but reconcile or remain unmarried...
Male here
Especially physical abuse to You and Your Family
Separate and state terms and boundaries
Counseling for You and him separately
Sounds like a good year of time to see if he truly changes
Whether man or woman, if you seperate ... work on yourself for healing
Do not look for a new partner unless or until you are divorced
Whether the opposing party does or not
My wife was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia she's not willing to take medications she's getting worse our kids noticed that she's doing weird things most of the time it causes a lot of stress are in my family. Logic and reasoning does not work with her at all. What should I do? She's not willing to continue to go to a psychiatrist or marriage counseling, the only sign I see from God which seems odd to my understanding of the Bible. This has been going on for like 13 years and I've had enough let's toxic for our kids to hear us getting mad so mad we throw the f-bomb all the time. I'm trying to hold on to my Faith, but I feel that it's fading away.
Speak with an attorney about what you can do to get her the care she needs.
Corinthians 7:10-11
10 But for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord. A wife must not leave her husband. 11 But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife.
**ONLY TWO OPTIONS...REMAIN SINGLE OR BE RECONCILED.
U can’t get a divorce but u can live away from her with the kids
Marriage counseling isn’t going to work. I would recommend separation. She probably needs a legal guardian because of her mental state. I wouldn’t divorce her because she’s crazy. Maybe with some Invega Sustenna she might be more stable. It is a shot that she can get monthly for condition.
What does the Bible say about a husband who does not leave his family and become one with his wife & his family he created?
I want my husband to leave. So yeah, i guess i have a heart problem.
Male here
Thank You for being Honest with Yourself and us
I never wanted this divorce
It happened anyway
She did alot of small and large """things""" to get me to leave I believe
One day, driving down the road ... out of the blue the word HARDHEARTED came to me
I immediately thought of her
I also later on thought about it and prayed and asked God to show me if I might be as well
The only justification provided by GOD for divorce, in the words of Jesus, in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9 is "sexual immorality", which in the original Biblical text was translated from the Greek "porneia", or "fornication" in English. Fornication is illicit sex committed by non-married people. Adultery ("moicheia" in Greek) on the other hand is Illicit sex involving married people. So how could fornication be a violation of the marriage covenant seeing that the sin of fornication does not involve married people? This is because in ancient Jewish culture a bride had to be a virgin before marrying and so if she was found guilty of having committed premarital sex after the consummation of matrimony this would constitute a violation of the marriage covenant and provide grounds for a divorce by the newly wed husband, and he would have to provide evidence of his accusation.
This exception (grounds for divorce) is interestingly only mentioned in the Gospel of Matthew, because the same passages found in Mark 10:11-12 and in Luke 16:18 do not mention this exception clause. Matthew was therefore not referring to unfaithfulness as a justification for divorce because he would then have used the word adultery, and not fornication. This is because the marriage covenant which GOD created is between a man and a woman for life. This is why when a divorced person remarries while the former spouse is still alive, he/she commits adultery because in GOD's eyes the former marriage covenant is still in effect. This is why Jesus told the Pharisees regarding this matter in Matthew 19:8-9 that "...“Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, BUT FROM THE BEGINNING IT WAS NOT SO. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
Yes it's okay if the spouse cheats on you, it's called adultery, another law which has to do with fornication that you could also divorce over is committing any of the forbidden sexual sins in the book of the law, whoredom, incest, man on man, animal sex, probably going to be hard to get them on these those, as far as following Jesus it's not a sin to leave the person but it is a sin to remarry another person, in that case I can only help you if you have no children because you would need to understand the difference in these two words, to marry and be given in marriage, Paul said, Unto the married I give this command yet not I but the Lord, to the MARRIED, let not the wife depart from her husband but if she does let her stay unmarried or reconcile to her husband, leaving the husband is not the sin, remarrying is the sin, in this you got to understand, who are the MARRIED? this is easy going by what Jesus taught, although something not everyone could except but nevertheless the truth, it won't be anyone coming up with a excuse to divorce other than sexual unfaithfulness, sorry, there are many excuses people can come up with for divorce that sound good but it's that sound good scenario that can cause you to sin, divorce is NOT the sin, remarrying is the sin, in this God has made a way out for you for there is no temptation known to man that God has not made him a way out, finding that way out of marriage when it's not some sexual sin forbidden in the law is impossible to do unless you believe that person you married don't believe in God and follow His law, of course if you are a Jew married to a gentile that worships other Gods, not a problem, however, looking for an excuse if that person does believe in God and does obey His laws, well that becomes a problem, divorce and remarriage is a sin according to Jesus other than sexual unfaithfulness, going against what Jesus taught makes you the unbeliever which will free up the other person your divorcing allowing them to remarry and you becoming the person or the cause of him or her committing adultery, lol, what a mess
some....yeah, one...except, fornication, and that is before the covenant has become established, and after, none...
Fornication is sexual activity between two people who aren't married to each other and adultery could fall into the "Porneia" definition (cue your debunked response about Erasmus). A person who is married can fornicate.
another false teaching as πορνεία is different than μοιχεία
Maybe don't get married, given that people do not like to be together forever.
Repent and submit to Rome 🇻🇦
This explanation is not quite right. Moses allowed divorce but God didn't. Matthew 5:32 except for fornication is referring to a betrothed wife not a married woman. This is Jewish law NOT God's law. God never never never allows divorce.
If he abuses her, there is also grounds for divorce!
***The Bible teaches that the only event that separates the marriage of a woman & man is death. God made them ONE FLESH.
Romans 7:1-3
7 Now, dear brothers and sisters-you who are familiar with the law-don’t you know that the law applies only while a person is living? 2 For example, when a woman marries, the law binds her to her husband as long as he is alive. But if he dies, the laws of marriage no longer apply to her. 3 So while her husband is alive, she would be committing ADULTERY if she married another man. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law and does not commit adultery when she remarries.
Regarding Matthew 19:9..it says 'fornication'...not adultery.
Matthew 19:9 "exception" only found in Matthew because it was written to the Jews.
This is not an "exception" to allow divorce ...it says "except for fornication" Remember...this is speaking to the Jewish custom of being betrothed....the Lord gives Joseph and Mary as the example....when Joseph was going to grant Mary a 'secret' divorce from their engagement ...(BEFORE the wedding ceremony/consumation) ...when he thought she had been unfaithful, the Word 'fornication' (porneia) was used. And this agrees with what we know ... FORNICATION is of the unmarried ....adultery is regarding the married. This is an important distinction as it refutes this single scripture which others point to as a reason to divorce. God's Word never permits divorce once married to Covenant spouse.
1 Corinthians 7:39
39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
*** The Bible says nothing about allowing for divorce. For the unbelieving spouse in 1 Corinthians 7:15:
But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
***Where does it say divorce? They are not under 'bondage' to hold the marriage together as promised in their vows...they are called to peace...let them go.... otherwise, if this meant remarriage was allowed it would contradict all other scriptures ...
1 Corinthians 7:10-11
10 But for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord. A wife must not leave her husband. 11 But if she does leave him, let her REMAIN SINGLE or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife.
*** GOD DOES PROVIDE A WAY FOR THE ABUSED....ONLY TWO OPTIONS...REMAIN SINGLE OR BE RECONCLED.
Mark 10:10-12
10 Later, when he was alone with his disciples in the house, they brought up the subject again. 11 He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits ADULTERY.”
Luke 16:18
18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth ADULTERY.
LASTLY, If you are not sure after reading these scriptures, please seek the Lord for understanding. The following scripture clearly states that the sin of ADULTERY (unrepentant) will send us to hell.
1 Corinthians 6:9&10
9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God
A divorce person who has divorced for biblical reasons has no spouse, so 1 Cor 7 and Romans 7 wouldn't apply in those cases. As for Mark, Matthew, and Luke, Matthew has the adultery exception which isn't cancelled out due to it not being in Luke or Mark; it's still valid. As for abandonment by a non-believer, this is mentioned in 1 Cor 7:15 as the believer is not under bondage.
For 1 Cor 6, thank you for bringing that up. You (as do I) fall under that category, also. You'll be there in hell, too, as you have done these things (either physically or in your heart). Jesus pointed this out so I would avoid using this argument for your works- based theology. If you have grace through faith, you are forgiven. Someone who has been married before and who may be in a marriage now isn't in an adulterous relationship necessarily. If they fall under abandonment or adultery by the other spouse, it isn't adulterous. If they married for other reasons, yes, it was a sin at that point but it doesn't mean that they cannot be forgiven and that it is perpetual adultery. Some people are unbelievers when they marry and then speak to someone such as yourself who incorrectly tells them that they are in an adulterous relationship. They are not to divorce as that would be breaking a vow. Remain as you are called and hold the permanence view to that relationship. Jesus pointed to the woman at the well and noted that she had been married five times. He didn't say one husband and five other men (six counting the one she was with now). No where in the Bible do you read Paul or Jesus saying, "If you have been married before and you're married to another person who is still living, you need to divorce or you are in perpetual adultery and no longer have salvation." If this were the case, that would be a pretty important thing for them to discuss.
“For better or for worse, TILL DEATH DO WE PART!” If anyone departs from that covenant it’ll make you a LIAR in the eyes of men and GOD. In humbleness read MATT 5:32 KJV; “ But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of FORNICATION, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.” IN LOVE my family I reveal this truth in hopes to cease the spreading of the lie an exception to divorce. Why would GOD allow something that he hates?? Jesus said that not everyone will except this truth of marriage; bc he allows stated to LOVE our enemies and “ he who sins is of the devil,” (in that moment, lest they repent). Paul doesn’t include any exceptions for divorce but to reconcile!!
Amen.